The only channel which do real talk........not like other self improvement channels who do clickbait but provide nothing

I was actually thinking about this lately , that we use addictions to numb the pain and unresolved issues from childhood (traumas , neglect , bullying) etc.. that is not the cause but a symptom.

@nikolaizalosko

7 ай бұрын

Yes, you're right.

@Jerome_111

2 ай бұрын

Yeah ur right

cole is such a great youtuber like a breath of fresh air

@ColeHastings

7 ай бұрын

Much appreciated

@potapotapotapotapotapota

7 ай бұрын

@@ColeHastings just make sure not to get caught up in your head bro

@Rasmey_

7 ай бұрын

@@ColeHastingsCole I Have A Question

@patricakbatmen5654

6 ай бұрын

​@@ColeHastingsit is funny that an idiot give me advice do you think that pietfull youtube channel and intelligence and make anything useful

@nickwallenda768

6 ай бұрын

@@ColeHastings yeah but i think the message is false...breaking bad habits is both possible and attainable

Bad habits are usually a way to cope with life's stress. Bad habits are easy, instantly gratifying and worse is that they feed the process itself of doing them again. Plus, I think the people around you greatly influence your habits. If you have people who got their shit together almost all the time and are mentally strong and organized, you're less likely to fall a victim to your impulses again, and it is very strong when they're your "accountability partners". I used to sit with my brother who slept 12 hours a day, played video games all day long and watched anime until he's at work, at 4pm specifically, where he works in a bar, and perhaps gets wasted when coming back home. I decided to leave because I didn't want him to drag me along, so I quit and it worked.

@dwex8596

7 ай бұрын

im a loser a complete failure i schould kill myself im trapped in a room and no friends no job basically just worthless browing twitter all day and youtube addicted. Its a wrap!

@quenty_

6 ай бұрын

Looks like your brother just enjoying his life ngl

@wrath231

6 ай бұрын

​@@quenty_i don't think his liver would agree.

@JC-ji1hp

19 күн бұрын

Don’t compare yourself to others but it’s good you got away from bad associations.

For those who feels like they cannot change their lives for the better, let tell you YOU CAN, it doesn’t matter what people has told, it doesn’t matter what internet shows you, whenever you want, eventually you will start doing stuff for the better

I think the root cause for my addictive behavior is that I always need to fulfill my urges, if I want an iPad so badly I go buy it, if I open up a bag of m&ms I will not stop eating until I finish the whole pack etc

The loss of life plus the break up followed by a dui recently caused me to ramp up my drinking anymore but this video really clears up addressing the bigger issues and valuing myself as a human with emotions again. I almost picked up a bottle today but I’m glad I didn’t and found this video waiting on me. Happy thanksgiving everyone stay positive

@juiceboyjordy

6 ай бұрын

Idk you but I’m proud of you bro keep pushing on and stay disciplined! Amazing things are on their way.

@thebrainwash

6 ай бұрын

How much does the Dui cost

Cole Hasting is like the comforting and informative cousin I appreciate seeing once a month.

Thank you, I finally understand what my therapist tried to tell me when she said quitting weed shouldn't be my focus

One major weapon I've deployed over the years is a simple act of delay /procrastination of the negative habit. Just like "I'll workout later" when a negative urge presents itself, telling myself I'll do it later, or after I finish this. It's all Mental Warfare, and the better able I am to hack the issues, the better I'm able to resolve them in time.

This video can be used on top of the videos which tell self-improvers to increase the “friction” between them doing the bad them. Because… it’s not just that but, also using the pull factor to stop doing the bad stuff even more by focusing on the “positive” habits that deter you from the bad ones. Nice, it’s very introspective :)

@---js3wz

7 ай бұрын

Typo: “them doing the bad thing*”

This is very true, bad habits can originate from stressful and dark times in life. Whether, you are working a job you hate, you lost your job, living at home etc, bad habits form to cope with your life. At the end your still unfulfilled because these temporary fixes such as weed, adult content, alcohol, hard drugs are used as copes.

Man I needed this today. I've been making progress but I'm still struggling with this.

the fundamental action to habit change is deciding to stop ✋ the habit. The surrounding circumstances are important and will not go away on their own, but stopping the habit will offer clarity. This is the opinion of someone who gave up alcohol four years ago after 30 years of increasingly chronic abuse. Be strong.

I’ve actually been thinking about this a lot lately. I’ve realized that I deeply believe myself to be inherently undesirable, unattractive, and unlikable by women and even men in a friendship/respect sense. I’ve noticed that the presence of these beliefs makes me feel awful about myself, and when I feel that bad way I hide from life by watching KZread on the couch for endless hours and beating off. When I don’t feel that way about myself, I’m very productive and healthy. Unfortunately I’m at the point of mostly observing the bad beliefs and behavior but not yet understanding them well enough to do any differently

@torres8988

7 ай бұрын

Imagine the best version of yourself, like being fit, having a good jaw line due to not being fat, veins casually sticking out of your arms just from being sporty, you might not be able to change the physical structure of your face, but you can change your physique by going to the gym, you can change your hairstyle, and your clothes, start there and then that will put in in a feel good positive spiral in life, its like when you randomly start cleaning and get into that cleaning mood and clean the whole house for fun, do that but for your life, clean your life up to get in that mood so to speak, also have a purpose, learn boxing, crypto, investing, learn a language, be rich, sell something etc

yesterday I literally started journaling to get rid of my addiction and now you upload this video 😳 perfect timing

I hope George sees this video and gets better

Go out and do more things you enjoy, or the things you enjoy will be decided for you. Just a one line summary of what I learned while reflecting on the topic yesterday.

I wasn't thinking about my bad habits that way, thanks for changing my perspective - it's really helpful.

Out of all the videos Ive seen, this viewpoint has genuinely given me a new perspective to consider and think about moving forward. Even though Im in a place where I feel like eliminating my bad habits feels insurmountable, you’ve given me a spark of hope and excitement that it’s possible. Im excited to try this, thank you.

Heard something on a Tom Bilyeu podcast that really resonated : as an addict, we are chasing moving away from the dopamine low versus chasing the high. Solution- replace dopa surge with a healthy obsession!

I've read so many books, tried many apps and courses but none of it helped me like your vids do. So much value in those videos, I hope more and more people find you

Thank you cole I never thought of giving myself a retrospective onto my addiction through journaling and I think this video might change my life

I watch cole and other self improvement youtubers every now and again when I'm feeling down or I relapse they reset my mindset thank you cole for these videos they helped me a lot thanks

I really appreciate your content without lying we are 95%the same in your young age so you are helping me and me I am antisocial

dude you will make the million subs soon your content is superb wonderful to see young people so conscious, trying to better their lives and that of others , amazing content Cole as per usual !!

Very timely with this, thank you!

Thank you for this video it really helped me to understand how to fight a lot of these habits that im struggling with appreciate you!

Came to the video (phrasing) for the thumbnail, stayed for the amazing analysis. Thank you. And here’s hoping I can overcome my addictions.

Thank you so much for sharing!! I'll definitely be referring back to this video, I'll be asking myself those questions. Much appreciated, have a good one!! :-)

thanks for the tips George

Right on time!!!

Thank you for your content!

So much relatable. What a genuine video in todays world of fakeness. May I get to get rid of these habits too like you did. Kudos Brov!

Thank you Cole, nice video.

Thank you very much you saved my life and after 4 months i felt like a free man

This is very valuable thanks a lot brother 👍🏻💪🏻

Wow Cole! This vid came RIGHT on time!

Great vid man! Im on day 104 of nofap right now and been inside almost the whole day prcrastinating and having urges. Watching this video was procrastinating as well but imma try to get the work done and go for a walk or something now that i wathced this video.

Your vids are on another level fr 👏🏾💯

Very interesting video! It’s nice to put it in perspective of being aware of what has been causing the bad habits to occur (either that be stress, trauma, a loss, etc.) and figuring out how to deal with those habits. As well as the positive things for what makes one be productive enough to forget about it all day! Now it’s totally fine to treat yourself every once in awhile, after all we are only human. But becoming WAY too consistent with it while feeling guilty about it, that’s when it becomes a bad habit. At least in my experience/opinion.

@ColeHastings

7 ай бұрын

Also depends on what we’re talking about here. Being consistent with something doesn’t necessarily mean it’s bad

@AloneRacecar

7 ай бұрын

@@ColeHastings Ahh yes that’s totally fair enough! I guess I wasn’t sure what was the best word for it. 😅

I Like the fact that you write it down reminds me off, My Cognitive behaverial therapy ( to quit smoking, but i also had some trauma's to fix with EMDR).

This is spot on bro👌🏻

I have to say from my personal experience, when you start better habits and fall back into old habits, they feel really bad. I have that mostly with junk food. Back in the day it made me happy and it was hard to quit. But once I started to eat more and more healthy, I felt how bad junk food made me feel and it became less and less often taht I ate it. The feeling after eating it in turn became wors until I eventually completely quit it. Same as smoking cigarettes. After not smoking for a few months, I picked up one and it was disgusting so I never touched one again.

Thanks for the content

Great Video as Always 👍

You’re just awesome for everything ❤

The best video that i have watched for this problem❤

Breaking Bad habits 💪

Cole is the only KZreadr who makes video’s that actually are able to help others man. Love it !

@JaysonT1

6 ай бұрын

Check out Mark Manson. From the soul of my being (not being dramatic either), reading/watching/studying his stuff has completely changed the direction of my growth for the better. He doesn't pull punches and tell you a bunch of "feel good" horseshit. He gives you the closest thing to truth there is.

Ive been finding it hard to completly cut out video games. I work out a fuck load, good diet, practice guitar daily, practice coding (current big career shift), etc yet I still feel like im not doing enough or feel if I play any sort of games just to chill for a cpl hours im wasting time.

@ColeHastings

7 ай бұрын

I don’t think you have a bad habit problem, but more of a self acceptance problem. You should watch my videos “self improvement won’t fix you” and “how to overcome self improvement loneliness”. Should help you with that

Really, really good video!

you make great content keep inspireing

wow, 10/10 video... great concept... and ive never thought of it like that before. very helpful thanks...keep making vids :)

@ColeHastings

7 ай бұрын

Glad it helped

Early for once what up 💯 dude I can relate to this when I hit depressive phases and recently I can't stand youtube or watching it only you & sme other life improvement people I've had enough of being nothing

Love your voice, interesting content too. GJ.

Really great video man, ima have to try these methods out

@ColeHastings

7 ай бұрын

Thanks man

I will always be indebted to you. Your experience has helped me in un-imaginable ways. Thank You

@ColeHastings

2 ай бұрын

I’m grateful you took the time to watch my videos. Glad I could help.

Thank you.

Dude I did I broke the habit I feel great man I feel awesome more energy and I feel like I can do anything the only way to break habits it’s to do it for someone not something my habit of spending hours watching the hub and doing stuff I am done I’ve been sober 6 days now (day 4 is always the hardest just saying) I love it man it’s great

Your thumbnails are hilarious. I always chuckle when I see a new video.

@ColeHastings

7 ай бұрын

I appreciate that lol

Lost all of my bad habits this year. Stopped gaming, watching anime, porn, never drank, never smoked, doing all my work in time, going to the gym almost every day. AND now i am feeling the most depressed i have ever been, thinking about suicide almost everyday. WHY?

@killerkitten221

2 ай бұрын

Maybe anime and gaming wasn’t that bad if you had fun doing so. You need a hobby! You can’t “work” all day , it is obvious that you become depressed… i had the same problem. I thought if I work hard I will feel better, but I just got burnout because I had no purpose and no fun in life.

Nice thumbnail. Great advice. Thank you.

Very insightful

Something that was presented to me in CBT was that our thoughts influence our emotions and our emotions influence our actions. The easiest part of this cycle to intervene in is with one's thoughts. It takes time to change the way you think of things but if you can start to evaluate things more objectively, it can have a positive impact on the way you react.

@ColeHastings

7 ай бұрын

The reverse can also be applied. Movement often precedes motivation and other thoughts. Gotta move your body regularly if you wanna make positive thoughts come more naturally

@olympiawa

7 ай бұрын

@@ColeHastings I definitely agree with that. I find my motivation once I’m engaging in the task I need to complete. As well, staying physically active has had a huge positive impact on how I feel. For me at least, changing the way I thought about things, including myself, helped me emotionally and that helped me control my substance abuse issues.

It was helpful thankyou

Thanks buddy

Divine timing

I've been struggling with trying to quit PMO addiction for about a year now, maybe knowledge from this video will help. I've tried blocking the sites, deleting social media and so on (didnt help) but recently I decided to try a different approach. Every time I felt like giving in to the urge and opening incognito mode, I decided to do the thing but WITHOUT any unnatural stimulation like videos/pictures/etc. I hope this will help at least a bit and is just a temporary state.

@MJA5

7 ай бұрын

good luck, it’s tough, there is a lot to resist in this vein of the global information grid. Too much of most anything can be pernicious. That’s a thought to start with

@Raiden-the-Goat32

7 ай бұрын

Porn addiction is not even real and is not even recognized as a legit addiction.

thank you

You all gotta believe in yourselves! Take responsibility and don't be scared!

@bananaspilt1988

7 ай бұрын

Wdym

Great channel, bro ❤❤

@ColeHastings

7 ай бұрын

Thanks bro

Nice Video, thanks :)

A good book recommendation: Atomic Habits. Very practical as you read it, applicable to ur daily life

Thanks man

@ColeHastings

7 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching, man

Very azz bad stuff my man! Thank you

you make great videos

Cole>>>>>

Hey Cole, longtime fan. I have a question. I’ve been recently learning to take life slower and enjoy everyday as a result of me knowing I’m enough. But, there are times where I miss the thrill of chasing after a dream or a goal. How do I balance knowing I am enough along with chasing and fulfilling my goals and self improving? As humans we like to achieve things, and I can’t deny myself that as much as I have tried. If you could answer, or anyone could answer, that would be greatly appreciated.

That cool my bro

Man this hit me harder than a truck, thanks man.

As a meele fan seeing Ludwig in the youtube feed made me so happy

Outlive your addiction ❤️

3x times wendy's for this week when it's only Monday night. Sounds like it must indeed have been a ROUGH day

What should I be journaling for “where am I feeling all of this in my body?” Like how my body feels while doing the activity/habit?

I have been smoking for 15 years now, but never got attached to it, i sometimes go months no smoking without even thinking about it.

I’d like to mention that the feelings your describing about loving oneself was my exact realization too. you aren’t you’re past you’re you now. I’d like to share something that helped me I was super deficient in vitamins, and testosterone and as soon as I supplemented and begin to change my bad habits I was less moody less distracted and more of a grateful person. I hope this helps!

bro, thank you for being so honest and so real.

All the self help gurus turned out to be crap except for you fearless and coach Kyle

Negative emotion is important biological data. It's important to be introspective and analyze from a third-person view of yourself, why you are feeling the way you are instead of ignoring it.

0:16 damn Cole, if its Monday you are a golden customer for Wendy’s if its the 3rd time that week😜 Jokes aside, awesome content as always!

Hi thanks for the tips but I have a hard time to self-reflect and answering those questions and I don’t know if I have the motivation to change for the better do you have any tips or video to help

Fixing you're life will stop you're bad habits, yes definitely

One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever heard is if you don’t find the right therapist even on the eighth try just keep trying, don’t fit yourself into your therapist your therapist should fit themselves into you. If you don’t feel like they’re giving you practical applications that help & that align with you? Fire them right away. Your life is on the line, you’re paying for their service don’t feel bad for cycling through therapist until you find the right one..

@ColeHastings

6 ай бұрын

💯

Hey cole! What is your pc specs in this video? Thanks

Very relatable thumbnail

dude that thumbnail was so good

@ColeHastings

7 ай бұрын

Haha thanks dude. Just one of those ones you have in your head and it executes perfectly

Wild thumbnail bro how are you not embarrassed 😂😂

Cant help but notice Cole has really nice hair.

Me on a working day watching this video at 1 am