Yo, I appreciate you guys sharing some extra tips in the comments too. Also I forgot to mention in the video but I'm currently doing a sale for my Ultimate Self Mastery Course. If you use the code "NEWYEARS" at checkout you get 10% off, and the discount is only available until the end of the month. You can find the course here: cole-hastings.com/selfmastery Hope to see you in the community.

@nickwallenda768

9 ай бұрын

I REALLY want to trust you Cole, but please please please you HAVE to stop fapping. Its ruining your ability to think rationally and i fear that your content will be affected (even more). I understand addiction and I can see you struggle, please know we're here for you. Just looking out for ya, buddy

@ColeHastings

9 ай бұрын

😂@@nickwallenda768

As a woman is refreshing to see a normal and actually useful take on dating. I'm just so tired of radicalization, either from one side or another, all it does is put us against each other and end up achieving nothing.

@br4nd0nx_x

10 ай бұрын

Exactly.

@nickwallenda768

9 ай бұрын

I'm Nick Wallenda and I think its fairly obvious that Mr. Hastings is using this video topic as a desperate attempt to lure in possible sexual partners. Be careful, there's a snake in the grass and he's hungry for indiscretion.

@kmstirpitz4285

8 ай бұрын

I agree. Both men and women need to step up to solve our issues together. This can be only solved united. This gender war thing gets quite old NGL.

@br4nd0nx_x

8 ай бұрын

@@kmstirpitz4285 real talk. Women this, men that, I'm tired of it

@LilXancheX

5 ай бұрын

@@br4nd0nx_xthey both hate each other, it’s nature 🤷🏽‍♂️

Going my own way has given me power. I always put myself first and don't let women distract me. Sure, I'll go on dates, but I'll never let getting a woman become my main motive in life. You'll be surprised how many women this mindset brings as opposed to just being hung up on one woman. I also don't make moves if my gut feeling is telling me it isn't right to do so.

@skumnightshyamalan

Жыл бұрын

Same here. Just keep your head down and work on yourself for a few years. Eventually everything just clicks and you get options. Jacked and stacked talks about this in a lot in his videos

@SirJoelsuf1

Жыл бұрын

Agree with all of that except the last line. I don't trust my gut when I make a move, I just do it and deal with the consequences later. I mean if the chick isn't having it I'll back off but when it comes to making move that "gut" feeling is just more propaganda brought on by the new alliance of fake tradcons and bra burning Karens who still think monogamous marriage is a good idea for society lol

@isabella6075

Жыл бұрын

Good keep moving on 💯💯

@AnPrimWrestler

Жыл бұрын

Based

@fuzzypanda1684

Жыл бұрын

I went my own way...but only because every girl I had any interest in wanted nothing to do with me. I figured saying I went my own way was less depressing than saying I can't get a date.

I met my girlfriend in person and trust me it’s a way better method to have long term relationship then say online we’re you got to sort of fake your self

@ColeHastings

Жыл бұрын

it definitely leads to a higher success rate

@dedasalmeida9047

Жыл бұрын

Lucky

@nobodysperfect06

4 ай бұрын

I assume you had to ask her out

See this is why I love this channel, it explains all the nuances, explores the topics in depth and don't push you into a cult

@minabotieso6944

Жыл бұрын

But one of his points was buy my fing course. Every single advice video he does has a piece of advice that is just buy this product

@redricblue8790

Жыл бұрын

@@minabotieso6944 I see that can be annoying, but if not for him I wouldn't have learned about some useful apps like betterhelp

@minabotieso6944

Жыл бұрын

@@redricblue8790 I tried betterhelp and I found it too expensive and not very good. He used it as advice not because it was good but because they paid him. Nothing advertised on social media is good for you. All these apps are scams. The group sessions on betterhelp are not worth going to a second time. They present the same info every week. It’s very difficult to find a good individual therapists. All the ones I tried on there were garbage. The app only gives you 30 mins to talk with them and the therapists move really fast then push you out the door

I want to add another thing: It's important to discuss non-negotiables early-on in the relationship. I had long-term relationships {2+ years) end, because I was scared to discuss kids, marriage, where will we live/settle down, careerbuilding, etc. I wanted completly different things and it's sad when a good relationship ends, because you don't see eye to eye on the big things.

I’m a girl and I love how this video was actual genuine advise for *real* relationships. I’ve had so many times where I started off liking a guy but because I was subtly pressured for sex early on it fizzled. And it wasn’t like they were doing it on purpose (some) but in my experience a girl can feel when u don’t have genuine intentions and that negatively impacts trust early on. Genuinely being interested and wanting to actually learn about each other as people is when I felt comfortable enough to actually get physical with my partner because I didn’t feel like being physical is the goal. And I’m not even talking sex in this case- I’m talking just kissing and holding hands felt uncomfortable because the more I touched them they more they would subtly or not so subtly push me to get even more physical with them. When they weren’t focusing on the strictly physical aspect I found myself actively initiating and actually liking touch with them a LOT more. On a side note I heard this quote some time ago that said “girls get physical when they’re emotionally bonded and guys get physical TO emotionally bond” don’t think it’s entirely accurate but it is interesting to think about

So refreshing to hear some advice that isn't all "alpha male" red pill crap

the hardest thing is actually to find a girl who will be ok with having a conversations you have shown as an examples. Most of the times the you realise that conversations on dating apps and real life are not the ones you are really enjoy having. Dont be frustrated by that fact, just keep on going

@dd07871

Жыл бұрын

Learn small talk. However even after practising this, if you can't keep a conversation while dating, it won't work. It's a good sign she's not into you. Find someone else.

@fuzzypanda1684

Жыл бұрын

Wait...you actually get replies on dating apps??

Part of my problem is that very few people have SEO parity with me, which is a big part of empathizing with my life.

@DuderMcDudenstein

Жыл бұрын

lmao WUT

@toihin5500

Жыл бұрын

☠️

@innocentrage1

Жыл бұрын

Chocolate rain!

@Kryptdegen

Жыл бұрын

Legend!

@nerdeater27

Жыл бұрын

If even this legend can't find someone who he can truly connect with, then God help us all lol.

Feel like your vids always come in at the right time, yesterday I was on a date, went to the bathroom, came back and she had left. So I thank you for this video Cole!

@ColeHastings

Жыл бұрын

Oof, well rejection = growth. Hope you enjoy the vid

@dismayingmist7868

Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry Hopfully you we’ll find someone who cares

@jazzy2188

Жыл бұрын

Ugh that’s terrible!! You dodged a bullet

@imdazed6158

Жыл бұрын

Dam dawg that’s really sad like f I felt u on datt one

@Gh0stGaminginc

Жыл бұрын

Ouch, that's rough.

I give your vedios like befor even wach you help my alot while I am in addiction thank you love from sudan

@itzYonko

Жыл бұрын

Sending love to my brothers out in Sudan!

@imdazed6158

Жыл бұрын

@@itzYonko lmao 😂

@itzYonko

Жыл бұрын

@@imdazed6158 What's funny?

@imdazed6158

Жыл бұрын

@@itzYonkocuz u already know what’s funny don’t trynaa fool me lol

@TruthShaIIWin

Жыл бұрын

@@imdazed6158 ?

I’m a woman but I love your videos. Such a genuine soul. I think you’re helping a lot of men become the best versions of themselves.

This dating advice feels so much more comforting to listen to compared to other dating channels

I'm 32 and never been in a relationship. Looks like this guy broke the process down perfectly. Going to apply these tips

@pauldirc..

7 ай бұрын

Still virgin ?

@DrAngelKins

Ай бұрын

​@@pauldirc..bruh

You’ve restored some of my faith in women thanks

So happy for Cole 💜 He finally found a girlfriend Congrats brother

@nobodysperfect06

Жыл бұрын

He no doubt had plenty of girlfriends before he found his current one

@levernis5753

Жыл бұрын

He did!? (reading this comment while the video is just starting). I'm happy he found someone.

I definitely fall into the category of man that doesn't set boundaries early on and gets walked over and manipulated. My most recent relationship showed me this about myself. Now I'm working on improving that aspect about myself

I struggle with dating. This helps and boosted my morale a lot actually thank you.

@betterhappensdaily

Жыл бұрын

@@kas1843 damn i never thought of that

@betterhappensdaily

Жыл бұрын

@@kas1843 im sold

@rokometer8

Жыл бұрын

What are your struggles exactly?

Thank you Cole. I had recently realized that being direct is far better than beating around the bush, and your thoughts confirmed it!

Just wanted to thank you for going in depth and emphasizing on a deep relationship.

Love the overall positive vibes from your videos man

It’s super interesting watching these relationship advice videos as someone who’s been in a serious relationship for almost half a year now. I just like to see if anything you talk about matches with my personal journey. Keep up the great work Cole!

Keep it going Cole your doing great

Congratulations on getting in a relationship. Wishing you both all the best ☺️

Awesome video. Love the in depth and open minded guide, it aligns quite well with what I have learned myself dating. Glad you pointed out that you need to choose what is important yourself, instead of the red-pill standard advice.

Much appreciated it feel like you read my comment because you touched on a lot of stuff really needed lots of good information keep up the amazing work 2023 let's go😎👍🏼🔥💯

Exactly what I needed, thanks cole!

This is super self comprehensive. It's long, but rather reduces the amount of confusion. Thanks very much

This video is great and really helpful. A lot to digest and absorb. I've had a lousy year of dating so I told myself to work on myself for the next 6 months or longer until I feel ready and got my stuff together. I find this very informative and a breath of fresh air. I feel confident when I'm ready again by simply watching and the knowledge you shared. Thank you.

You do a great job with the editing. I really enjoyed this video

Hats up to you man putting out a 38 minute video and hooking the audience till the end.

Cole, been here since the beginning. And i just wanted to tune in again. U helped me through alot the past 2 years, and im happy to see the growth of your channel. Thanks for helping everybody, including me with the mental aspect of life. Thanks alot mate. I wish u a great 2023! :)

@ColeHastings

Жыл бұрын

Good to still see you here. Thanks for the love

Thank you, I usually don't wanna see a romantic relationship as something that will make me happy, though I think is an experience worth having, being a happy and helathy person and sharing that with another significat one seems very cool to me, and this video helped me better understand and put into words how to get to that point of sharing your happiness with another person, after building self-esteem for so long, I feel like I should build more love for those around me, and be a light for them, and maybe possibly find a partner.

What if you don't have your own place? And can't afford one even working on a relatively good fulltime job, because housing prices are just unbelievable? )

The one about red flags is so accurate, my gf was n alchoholic, smoked and partied. Was self destructive with bad economy, SHE wanted to change for me. She stopped drinking, smoking and partying, i helped her with learning economy and insurance, i feel these big obstavles have bonded us like nothing could, i will do anything for her and her for me, we had hardships but if we can survive that we survive anything ❤️👌 thanks for a great video, thankfully i found my soon to be wifey 😍

@jons4934

Жыл бұрын

You found a homeless woman?

@Gspook19

Жыл бұрын

@@jons4934 naah, just a woman on a bad road in life

@SirJoelsuf1

Жыл бұрын

@@jons4934 Why would she be homeless because she drank, smoked, and partied? My last gf was a travel nurse who made $125k a year and she drank, smoked, and partied. Responsibly, but she still did that stuff. Like AT LEAST 90% of any given western chick over 16 drinks, smokes, and parties...often well into their 60s.

@lueyes22

Жыл бұрын

This was so sweet. She has no idea how much of a blessing it is to find someone who cares enough to help her transition her life. I hope she doesn’t screw this up lol. Sending you both a love & blessings ❤

@Gspook19

Жыл бұрын

@@lueyes22 Thank you, nå she does not screw it up :D still going strong and improving each others life :D thank you for the love and blessings sending it back

Thanks for the tips, excellent video.

Thank you for making this video. I was clueless until now. I’m aware it’s sad asf but I grew up with a mother that hated me and I’ve been discovering so much and healing so much. I searched why I falling love so easily and here I am….limerence. I’m built for this and I will def work on this.

Shoutout to you and your Girl for being Berserk fans. This Manga is really something else and had a major impact on my life philosophy.

Really good points, wish I knew a lot of it earlier. I'm too exhausted to get anything going anymore tbh, it's a lot of giving a man has to do.

I'll save this for later. I got other things going on in life and I've tried a large ways of the last decade to get a date but I'll come back to this once it dies down.

Hey Bro, I just wanted to thank you for this awesome video, I enjoyed every minute of it and it helped me alot. Very underrated.

After being single for a LONG while, I've just started considering dating again. You seem to upload just at the right time for what ever thought process I'm going through lol

I love this cover image for so many reasons~ ✨️💗✨️ Excellent video & advice! Going to share this with my younger cousin who always tells me he's struggling in the dating world. My perspectives & advice has been very similar to yours, but maybe it'll hit different for him to hear it from another- happily dating- male nerd. 😄🙏 Much love!

Wow. I don't usually comment on videos, but this has answered so many of my thoughts and problems. Even though I can't really explain it, I can understand why this video makes sense for me.

Hey Cole, I really appreciate what you are doing here. I was in a 6-year relationship and got broke up with in the beginning of 2022. A lot of the stuff you talked about on why a relationship doesn't work is true and you don't realize it until you go through it. I have learned a lot through my breakup, as much as it sucked. Dating has been extremely draining for me but your videos give me hope. There is a lot of BS on youtube about dating and lifestyle but your videos are more in line with the man that I want to be so I just wanted to thank you for your work.

keep doing this kind of content cole, info like this is very important

@ColeHastings

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching

I keep thinking dating got so bad cause I’m surrounded by a few negative folks that I do hang out with and they all say dating in (NYC, which is a huge generalization) sucks but after watching this video, it’s not all that grim in the dating world there’s always a positive to look at. After my short break up last year I discovered this channel and I have been watching your videos since man. Amazing work and thank you.

@gankdalfthedank9855

Жыл бұрын

I'm 30 so I've been around long enough to tell you that objectively dating has gotten significantly worse. Particularly as people disconnect from the real world via social media etc. It'd be delusional to ignore this fact, HOWEVER it's also a trap to lean into a perception of resentment and utter hopelessness on the flip side

Cole dropping a banger as always

Here's my tip for using tinder/hinge. Send ur opening message, build the convo with 3 or 4 more flirty messages, then ask for their number and gtfo off the app. When u get their number, text them sometime later that day I normally say some shit like "see isn't this much more personal..." or something random. Have 2-3 more texts then ask her to go out. Don't text to get to know a stranger, text to meet up and get to know her in person

I never subscribe on the first videos from a channel but this feels good subscribing and liking your art work thank you.

Thanks for the info Cole. 😉

I would say as a man you need financial stability to be able to have a relationship. You can attract with your character and your body, but in the long run they are gone if the money doesn't come in. It was not for nothing that so many people got vaccinated when they were threatened with losing their jobs. Most know that without their work/money, the woman would be gone very quickly. Only pets and babies get unconditional love ;) Greetings and great video as always!

This video just made feel like iam finally breaking out of the red pill bubble you mentioned in the other video about dating i definitely need to stick to your advice this time by all means thank you Cole Hastings🙏

@soldatintelectual6544

Жыл бұрын

Well let me know when you go back to the red pill

@Squiddy3633

Жыл бұрын

Don't listen to the above comment I believe in you don't look back keep going we'll all make it out man just keep moving forward

@justaguy7590

Жыл бұрын

​@@soldatintelectual6544 not everyone is a fatherless loser like your npc ass. 😂

Man, dating scares the crap out of me. I was living my best life and a relationship just kinda happened. All the stuff you said in the video just kinda happened naturally as I navigated the space as it unravelled in front of me, I've always had a balanced social circle around me, so I just treat men/women as people, I'm kind and show a genuine interest as thats just who I am. So I've never had social anxiety in that sense, I'm pretty confident in myself and people tend to naturally like having me around. Anyway, me and a work collegue would go on lunch walks, just talk about random stuff, our lives, and we'd message about what each of us are getting up to or send each other music and stuff. That kept getting stronger and we hung out more outside of work, then after about 6 months we both caught feels, I said I was interested but she wasn't ready yet, a month or so later and she asked me out. We were practically already in a relationship anyway and both admitted that later down the line. That relationship lasted 5 years, the happiest 5 years of my life and it ended out of knowhere a month ago. I'm still devastated and working on moving on, the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life as its like fighting against your own heart and soul, against my own happiness. For only being a month on my family/friends have said my progress is remarkable, but I don't feel it. I feel awful. I'm so scared that all this is ahead of me again, although its way to early to be thinking about that stuff, I gave everything I could to that relationship and supporting her through so much trauma and self discovery with all the unconditional love I had in me - which now feels all thrown back in my face, which is horrible. We always worked on ourselves and met the others feelings with openness and a willingness to work on oneself. We always had eachothers best interests at heart. We played like kids and let our hair down, lived in our own little bubble. We retained active private lives and time for ourselves. When stuff got serious we went into that mode, then when silly times rolled around again we'd relax into that. Urgh, it was heaven, but its over now. Therapy and processing this all healthily with lots of journalling and KZreadr's like Cole have really helped ease the mind and work through things. I refuse to ever entertain certain ideologies people go down at this time (redpillers/incels) for this isolated heartbreak. Call me naive, but I just see the good and happiness in people, be kind to people, and that's how I've always lived my life and intend to always do so. Just turned 30 as well (which just adds to the mental pressure). I'm just lost and scared at finding that deep connection again, that vulnerability, that trust. Having it all happen so naturally in the past means I've never had to face this reality of modern dating. I'm not a cynic, and refuse to ever let the world turn me into one. I've seen too much good and good in people I've met to believe otherwise. But I'll be damned if that journey doesn't scare me again. I'm not going to be ready to start that path for many months yet, but I hope when I do I don't let the world crush me. I want to retain my character, continue to build and grow as I always have and who I am regardless of what others think. But right now, I'm still at the phase of 'we had it so good, I can't believe its all over'. Because we genuinely did.

@bro918

6 ай бұрын

I dont get it... why did it end?

@angedusoleil

6 ай бұрын

I appreciate you sharing yourself so authentically here. One way to look at it is this: you have firsthand understanding now that this kind of fun, comforting and fulfilling relationship is possible for you. You know how it works and can easily replicate it again with the next right person. From age 25-30 is a time of really becoming yourself and it sounds like you were able to do this within a relationship that was supportive and enriching of the best parts of you. This other soul healed and grew to the point that she needed to be able to understand self reliance or to further heal things that her comfort with you would never challenge or evoke. The same goes for you now. “Every new beginning is some other beginnings end.” When something significant happens like this, look for something equally significant that’s trying to get you to make space in your life. Only this time it will be next level, as long as you don’t let fear keep you from being your authentic self. ❤

i am also berserk fan and that 371th chapter hits like a ' no not with you ' in a cold approach

Cole, I’ve been watching your videos since the lockdown, and very happy you finally connected with a beautiful woman. 👍

@nickwallenda768

9 ай бұрын

Sometimes I think Cole might be a serial killer. (Just kidding Cole you're very human)

Okay. I got rejected. Swiftly, by some girl I've liked for months. It still hurts to this day. However, I have found your channel, and this video. I think this video will be my goal from now on. Succeed and complete every part of this video. I will struggle, suffer, cry, and be jealous of others....... But I know I will figure this out. I don't know when to quit. To stop loving. Thanks Cole.

Dear god thank you for giving men actual good advice 🙏 bless you sir

We appreciate content like this. Keep up the good work.

What you said to that girl, I made up my own version of it, and I'll use this one from now on, thanks

This vid just made me realize the internal conflict I have when it comes to dating. I realized I do want to settle down, but not in a "normal people" kind of way. I do want a family of my own, but probably not in the U.S. And if it had to be here, than not in the south, and definitely not California. All that is stuff I have to get sorted before I even consider a long term relationship.

Cole will be much bigger than Hamza and Sneako one day

@minabotieso6944

Жыл бұрын

Him getting bigger is just a sign this lonely male issue keeps getting worse

@PCLHH

Жыл бұрын

Cole is already way bigger than Sneako. In all ways.

this is the sort of video that internet needs

I have been with a girl on and off for 6 months, ive been debating leaving since shes became a totally different person for the worst, everything you mentioned here that is in a bad relationship... she does, thank you man!

Your channel is awesome. I really believe you somewhat fail to do most of the things you teach, just like you did with test. But still, your advices are correct

Wow! Cole, the way this video has been made. There's an underlying meaning with all those smirks. Nonetheless, it still a great video learning to find a partner in life.

Your mrs is fire, Cole. Good job bro

Love that Guts/Eclipse wallpaper.

This is proberly the best dating video I've seen. Be confident and go other friends.

hey man, I've been out of the game for a while after a shitty relationship but this video really inspired me to get back into it. I wanna try out hinge because I've only used tinder in the past, but I also wanna try out that 5 second rule you mentioned. cheers and good luck comrades.

My eyes also lit up when you mentioned that she mentioned the beserk wallpaper

The biggest problem with dating theese days is the lack of honesty.

I’m 26, reasonably good looking guy, good shape too, who’s trying his best to self improve daily because of my failure to launch. I’ve never been in any real relationship before, mostly hookups that never went anywhere. Despite a longing to be in some form of a relationship for years, my biggest hurdle is the insecurity of my place of residence. I still live with my relatives, and it’s the only thing that stops me from actually continuing a relationship in fear of feeling judged. I intend to change that, hopefully sooner rather than later, but it has made an impact on my dating life. At the very least, I’ve still been practicing my social skills with women, and hopefully it will pay off in the future.

Damn. I am a business owner and know that my standards are really high but this is the first video I've ever seen where the philosophy makes so much sense to me. I'm going to let some of this s*** go and go into the dating game. Appreciate this video. Giving it alike. My KZread algorithm is undefeated.

Hi! I'm 21 yo male traumatized with my first love experiences (I stopped school because of this) and the 2 videos are the perfect guide to know how to act with girls. Thanks from France

Hello, loved this video

Thanks 🙏🏾

I am not entirelly sure if a relationship is specifically what i am looking for at the moment, due to me not really carring much about others, but i really like the way you explain everything and how something that could be complicated could get o ve managed in a better and healthier way, not only for the girl, but for ourself

@Blaisexx

Жыл бұрын

What made you not care about others, if I may ask? Are you in a nihilistic state?

@es_au28

Жыл бұрын

@@Blaisexx well, not really sure, maybe is due to some personal issues currently in my life, but, i feel that maybe because i havent been feeling like anything exiting is happening in my life

@jakariwright1170

Жыл бұрын

Same idk romance has always been at the bottom of the list for me

this timing is insane

I feel so lucky I was using online dating back when it was new. I didn't even have a profile pic up and somehow made a connection with my partner based on needy interests and now it's been 12 years. If I had to do it now, I'd meet people locally by going to activity clubs because the online dating scene seems very depressing.

Hi Cole! I love your videos. Thank you for motivating me to start my own KZread account.

@ColeHastings

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. Hope you stay consistent with it

Recently got dumped by a girl I was seeing and I wish I had discovered you before meeting her, I definitely could’ve come off as more confident and assertive

title and the content is totally incongruent with each other... i rarely dislike videos but you made me do it

I’ve been feeling very lonely and frustrated for the past few months, and I think a lot of that comes from the fact that I have never been in a relationship before. I’m 17 and it’s bothering me a lot. I rarely meet girls who I take an interest in, but the girl I met a few months ago at college, who I developed a crush on over time, already has a boyfriend. It’s made me feel too many emotions, and my brain has just shut down and tried to suppress them. The whole experience made me realise how little I understand relationships, and I almost feel like I will never get into one.

@SirJoelsuf1

Жыл бұрын

You're...17. Plenty of time to do what you need to do. I can tell one mistake you made and I made the exact and I mean EXACT same one when I was a 17 year old stupid kid: You developed a crush on a chick. Gotta understand that doing that is the closest thing to being abusive (towards yourself and the chick) without actually being abusive and I actually mean that. Not cool, the earlier you learn that lesson the better. Its alright to appreciate a chick. Perfectly cool to say "you know what, you're better than the other chicks I come across" but leave it at that. Catching feelings like that and looking to a chick for validation like you want her to replace your mom or something? Bad move. Here's a goal you should set, something my dumbass should have done when I was 17: Make it a point to invite at least five to ten chicks out on a date per week. Assuming the school you go to is pretty big, this shouldn't be a problem. Get shot down? Here's a good line to react to save your embarrassment: Right on, that's cool. Sorry if that came off as weird, I made a new years resolution to get a better partner than the last one I had. So I'm just trying to get out there. You can also say something like "Gotcha. Sorry if I bothered you, I just made it a point this year to be more outgoing. Didn't mean to make you a part of that or anything haha." And damn, WTF are you doing in college at 17? I was 19 my freshman year...too early in retrospect. I should have started college at 25 lol.

@thepizzafoogle5481

Жыл бұрын

@@SirJoelsuf1 What the actual hell? I am not going to go out with a million girls a week, that's honestly the most superficial dating advice I've ever heard. I'm not going to randomly go out with a bunch of girls I don't even know, that sounds like a good way to get a bad reputation. Also, how is having a crush close to being abusive? It's a perfectly normal thing, and what do you want me to do about it? And what do you mean looking for a girl for validation and to replace my mum? Btw I live in the UK, idk what you do in America in the education system.

@thedannybseries8857

10 ай бұрын

To be honest buddy I don’t think dating is something you should be concerned about. It’s a worthless pursuit that usually ends in disappointment and regret. Wait for transhumanism to come save us.

@thepizzafoogle5481

10 ай бұрын

@@thedannybseries8857 The fuck?

Cole is the best. This is true self improvement that will last for generations. He is demonstrating what truly works vs the propaganda spewed across the authoritarian platform called Red/Black Pill

@minabotieso6944

Жыл бұрын

This guy’s point about self improvement was literally but my course. He sells a product as advice in every video

@nickwallenda768

9 ай бұрын

@@minabotieso6944 You noticed that too huh? Its very confusing.

Girl chiming in here! Not sure if every girl shares this sentiment, but I looooathe talking about work. But if you must, make sure it doesn’t turn into an interview.

@phoenixaz8431

Жыл бұрын

''So, what are your long-term goals as far as your career goes?'' I know a certain %age of the population actually are passionate about their work, but given the opportunity to have the same benefits and amount deposited in one's account every two weeks, I'm guessing most people would find more intringuing, exciting, fulfilling and fun things to do. Oh, and I love your name!

@weekend1rocks

9 ай бұрын

Same, I’m a girl and my work is not a romantic topic to me.

This would've benefitted my 14 year old self greatly.

Happy new years Cole Thank you for your advise I been trying a few dating apps like Facebook dating which to me doesn’t seem to work , And others Since I would only get views or none or no likes , I think I only gotten two profiles to like me , but I have a difficult time and some dating apps you have to pay , Great video Cole as always

@ColeHastings

Жыл бұрын

Thanks man, best bet might be to meet them in person

@dismayingmist7868

Жыл бұрын

@@ColeHastings thank you

There is one thing that I (as a girl) can’t understand in the scenario described. So you meet a girl from a dating app who is basically a stranger to you and you’re not even sure yet if you want to see her again or if your goals match, yet you lean for a proper kiss. The same thing with the sex on the 2nd date… you’re only getting to know this person and don’t know if you want her to become ur girlfriend or not, why have sex then?? Wouldn’t it be more logical to first get to know each other, decide if you want to be in a relationship and only then have sex?? Otherwise, you could end up having random sex with lots of people from dating apps.

@KingButcher

Жыл бұрын

This seems to be what people do, yes

@baki577

Жыл бұрын

Fr, dating nowadays weird af

@rookiej5587

Жыл бұрын

This is what it is nowadays and to me it's strange that people don't find it odd 😂. Anyway it's their lives so not for me to comment but personally I will never do this.

@weekend1rocks

9 ай бұрын

Yup, as a girl I was thinking the same thing. I was like wow I would never do all that kissing and touching on a first date.

@nickwallenda768

9 ай бұрын

Yes exactly, as a female I can confirm that this is not how we all operate. I suspect that Cole got this info from another source, because he doesn't seem to know what he's saying.

Got mine from FB 3 years ago. Neither of us have social media except for YT now.

Idk why I keep watching these videos like I’m actually going to meet someone lmao. Great content and info though Cole

Like listening to ur vids at work

@ColeHastings

Жыл бұрын

Love to hear that

Something that helped me with cold approaches was if the initial contact went well and she seemed interested, instead of asking for her number I would ask if I could give her my number, leaving the ball in her court. That way if she wasn't actually interested I wouldn't waste time texting (bothering) her and feel let down eventually, and if she actually did text me then it was pretty obvious she was interested

@Cole Hastings thank you for making this video my goal of this year is maybe be in a relationship

I don’t know about talking sad shit early … but rest of the stuff here is quite valid

Focus on yourself, improve and don't look for love, it will come by itself eventually

@markro1049

Жыл бұрын

Good advice for women, terrible for men

@dd07871

Жыл бұрын

@@markro1049 No, it's great for men. Looking for love wastes precious hours. There's nothing like finding love out of the blue (just like in John Lennon's song).

@markro1049

Жыл бұрын

@@dd07871 For most young men in this day that is bad advice. Young women are overwhelmed with good options thanks to social media, if you don't put some effort you won't get anything. I agree that improving yourself will help you a lot in finding a girl, but it doesn't mean you stop trying and just wait for it to happen because for most guys, it won't happen.

@PablosPill

Жыл бұрын

@@markro1049 I agree. Men should't chase women but should rather focus on improving themselves. But part of improving yourself is putting yourself out there and initiating conversations with women. Women are very unlikely to initiate, even if they're interested.

@RelentlessRoger

Жыл бұрын

@@markro1049 I see what you mean but I'm far from being interested in women who use social medias, what I meant is that if I become good enough and reach some higher niches I'll be able to find high quality women

You give great advice though overall

Been going through a breakup where my ex didn’t communicate her feelings and it’s been very frustrating, I know she has a good side and was so close to being a good partner but she just didn’t communicate

Folks, the lie will travel the Earth 3 times before the truth takes its first step. Cole's audience is low due to the fact he's telling the truth while his peers are already in the millions with lies. Cole will be one so many look up to well into his prime. This is pure gold

@nickwallenda768

9 ай бұрын

I watched most of his videos in the last week, it seems his strategy is specifically to imitate his betters and accumulate views in the wake of the youtube algorithm. Not that that's wrong or anything but its kind of obvious. Love the content tho