If you are bisexual woman people think you are straight and pretending for attention. If you are a bisexual man people think you are gay and afraid to fully come out. It's frustrating.

@AsafeFialho

Жыл бұрын

@Zeke Rannulfsson 🪓 Which confusion? It's a certainty. They know they like both sexes and that's it.

@bonelessvegetal818

8 ай бұрын

pls abuse the , key next time, I was confused

@jeanams07

6 ай бұрын

It is so incredibly frustrating! It would have saved me so much heartache if even my best friends' growing up hadn't accused me of liking girls just for attention. Despite the fact that my attraction for girls actually started before boys. And while being fetishized by every single one of my boyfriends (until my partner I have now been with for 10 years) was extremely gross, I have such an incredible amount of sympathy for Bi men who struggle so much to just find a women who will give them the time of day if they are honest from the beginning.

@bloxyton

5 ай бұрын

Ikr

@alicem2103

5 ай бұрын

Yep. We have misogyny to thank for that 😢

Ah, yes, the bi experience: you're attracted to everyone and no one is attracted to you.

@sciamachy9838

Жыл бұрын

Relatable

@lazo3251

Жыл бұрын

That's only a problem if you're fat or have a very recessed/broken jaw. I'm not even muscular and I get lots of male matches on Tinder with ease. Like hundreds per day. And I can get matches with women too but they tend to be way uglier. My problem is not that people aren't attracted to me but that I am not attracted to them. I find some guys hot and some women hot but not all of them.

@taytaywinchester8214

Жыл бұрын

@@lazo3251 Damn, I'm not fat, I don't have a broken jaw, and I'm *still* single? Wow, it's almost as if looks aren't the only the only deciding factor on whether you're attractive or not! You get hundreds of matches per day, but have you had an actual successful relationship with any of them? I mean, I can't say for sure, but if you matched with *me* I definitely would lose interest very quickly. You may be physically attractive, but openly insulting other people's looks is a huge turn-off :)

@lazo3251

Жыл бұрын

@@taytaywinchester8214 😂😂😂 Do you even know why people use pseudonyms? Because it's the only way they can discuss taboo subjects and be completely honest without doxxing themselves. And yes, I have always been single but that is because I have never been interested in relationships, I am aromantic, but not asexual, that is why. I have never felt romantic love for anyone and never will because I am not capable of it. As for sex, I have had sex with 4 men so far but the situation was never on point. The first 2 times, I was too drunk to get an orgasm and the last 2 times, the medication I was taking for mg ADHD was giving me a severe lack of sleep and I was undereating so I had a very low libido. Also, for a long time, I had no idea that I was bisexual and I only realized later on.

@NN-mo6xw

Жыл бұрын

@@taytaywinchester8214 hes just being honest w regards to online dating its 100% built on superficial attraction. You decide on their 'personality' and whether or not u want them in two seconds thats what makes it so dystopian.

Remember: if a person cheats in you, it isn’t because they are straight or bi.

@asdfghyter

4 ай бұрын

there’s only one way to guarantee that your partner can’t cheat on you: being polyamorous. good luck breaking promises of monogamy when no such promises were made nor expected 😁

@phyrr2

4 ай бұрын

@@asdfghyter I appreciate the attempt at a joke but no, that's not true either. You can cheat just as easily in a poly relationship just the same. They aren't just magical free for alls. If anything they have A LOT more rules than monogamous relationships do and are often quite complicated. Requires high levels of communication and no self-esteem issues resulting in any jealousy.

@asdfghyter

4 ай бұрын

@@phyrr2 yeah, i agree, there are still plenty of rules and risks for heartbreak. but i wouldn’t really say there’s necessarily anything that corresponds to cheating, at least not for me and my partner.

@youtubestudiosucks978

3 ай бұрын

​@@phyrr2dude, everybody has some self-esteem issues. It's how you learn to handle them that defines you. I'm short, cringy, dont know when to shutup and got no filter but i'm not letting that stop me

@Luke-ep7zk

3 ай бұрын

in you?

I had a gf that came out to me as bisexual. We have been together for a few months and i was really glad that I can finally come out to her, too. It didn't went as expected. She looked at me totally shocked and told me that she has to split up. The reason? In her opinion bisexual men are always cheating. Yes, a bisexual girl told me that she can't be with a bisexual man because bisexual men always cheat.

@HibiTeamQueso

Жыл бұрын

This is as ironic as it is infuriating. You deserve better bro

@BluffMello

Жыл бұрын

Bro you deserve so much better then that

@freshmozzarello

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, most people seem to think being a bi woman is cute but being a bi man is disgusting for some reason

@Emoitsme

Жыл бұрын

This has happened to me too many times now and Im just now sad of ever deciding of embracing my sexuality and I consider this more of a curse than anything else because everyone pushes you to come out until you realize that Is something People say to be correct but no one actually thinks

@ginthemaid112

Жыл бұрын

People like that are the reason why we have it so fucking hard. 😢

It's absolutely ridiculous to assume that being bi means you've been with both men and women. I mean, I'm a straight man, but that sure as heck doesn't mean I've been with any women.

@FBI-wn2qo

2 жыл бұрын

Damn bro that’s rough lmao

@littleredruri

2 жыл бұрын

@@FBI-wn2qo thanks fbi

@violetsynthesis8322

2 жыл бұрын

O O F

@stansmith7445

2 жыл бұрын

Rough 😂😂

@ddnava96

Жыл бұрын

That's rough, buddy

as a bi man, something i also hate abt male biphobia is how ppl think of women who date bi men as ignorant: “who’s gonna tell her he’s gay.” no, both him and her know he’s attracted to her. there’s no “telling” that needs to be done here.

@pamelap.7141

3 жыл бұрын

I will 100% (being bi myself) answer thrn who is gonna tell him I'm gay? I get the frustration though, why do people have to butt their heads in were they are nor needed nor welcomed.

@danieldini8685

3 жыл бұрын

@@Introvertsan it’s not “concern” if i’m talking specifically abt bisexual men who’s girlfriend’s friends claim is gay and not actually attracted to her. and besides, even if he didn’t tell his gf he’s bi, it wouldn’t matter. he’s still attracted to her nonetheless.

@Someone-or8tp

3 жыл бұрын

@@Introvertsan it's still nobody else's business though.

@vuivraalbastra

3 жыл бұрын

@@Introvertsan Concerned about what again? I still don't understand what the concern is. My relationship with my ex was the same before and after I came out to him as a bi woman after over a year together. Why would it go differently for bi men? Also stop treating bi men differently and they won't be so nervous about saying they are bi. Mindblowing, right?

@drts6955

3 жыл бұрын

If you're bi the best strategy is to tell men you're bi and don't tell women. Then again if you want a serious relationship it's a way to weed out unsuitable people. No women were chatting to me on tinder and a friend told me to take down the bi bit. And guess what...

I'm very proud of being bisexual, now i can be rejected by both genders instead of just girls.

@MAGNUM05

Жыл бұрын

You don't know me and I don't know you, but I'm here to tell you that I'm proud of you. Don't ever give up on yourself. Love is love. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

@jokybones

Жыл бұрын

It doesn't matter what gender youre attracted too... Imo people get caught up with that. It just matters if you feel safe and happy around that person. So find someone who choses you despite double the competition....

@spookyghost2772

Жыл бұрын

Same

@noyes9984

Жыл бұрын

Kind of an L

@ahistoryofviolence4902

Жыл бұрын

Same here! Go got it, bro!

As a trans male, I look for bi men. I feel like they won't be let down by the fact that I have nothing in my pants, but still see me as the man I am.

@joshuabalboa1713

9 ай бұрын

You're not a man.

@Ivy-dd8bf

8 ай бұрын

@@joshuabalboa1713 Nah, he’s a guy.

@joshuabalboa1713

8 ай бұрын

@@Ivy-dd8bf Nope

@teamkilled1227

5 ай бұрын

@@NicolasCabral-tr1dn i'm glad you're validating him but you did NOT need to word that shit like that

@nathaneden.

5 ай бұрын

Same, but that’s because the cis gay space is full of transphobia :(

The worst thing about being a bi man's girlfriend is when you can't talk to friends about any problems in the relationship because they're all sure he's gay, and they openly pity you for being too dumb to know it, and they think that explains any issues you might be having, like... Aaaaaaaaaaaagggghhhhh

@ruined_carpet9630

3 жыл бұрын

sounds like you need a bunch of new friends tbh

@DiamantisHell

3 жыл бұрын

@@ruined_carpet9630 you're right, or at least help them be more educated and civilized

@saggguy7

3 жыл бұрын

@@ruined_carpet9630 lol i agree. it sounds like your friends are biphobes.

@sarahbayla

3 жыл бұрын

total "straight passing privilege" 🙄 /s

@Soundwave._

3 жыл бұрын

Get better friends darling.

"Some women believe they can recognize bisexual men" Oh, of course they can, no bi person goes out of their house without them mangeta, purple and blue turtleneck shirt, leather jacket, moon necklace, statchel bag and large cuffed jeans

@oscallibur5597

3 жыл бұрын

Okay you make a joke but I never actually leave my house without my leather jacket-

@len5630

3 жыл бұрын

@@oscallibur5597 Same but for me it's my satchel bag. I just feel more comfy with it by my side. I also have a lot of stuff that may be needed so I always carry it

@oscallibur5597

3 жыл бұрын

@@len5630 that’s the exact same reason I take my jacket C: It has a lot of pockets so i can carry a lot of stuff in it. And it’s cool

@honeycomblord9384

3 жыл бұрын

@@oscallibur5597 I don't blame you. Leather jackets look great on practically anyone, regardless of sexuality.

@SavageGreywolf

3 жыл бұрын

ngl that outfit sounds fire

When I was 15, like 20 years ago, my first ever boyfriend was bisexual. We’d been dating for a while when a few of my girlfriends came up to me and said, “did you know Kyle is gay!?!” To which I responded, “no, he’s bisexual.” They couldn’t understand why I was so calm and didn’t seem to care. I had to explain to them that he was dating ME and that if he kiss someone else, man or woman, I would be pissed because he was dating ME! Who he’s attracted to had no baring on our relationship.

@Freak80MC

5 ай бұрын

I'm surprised nobody ever replied to this comment. But good on you! It really seems like women's hangups dating bi men stem from societal bs. That somehow a man is less masculine if he is even slightly into other men. And how that's supposedly a bad thing because being in any way feminine, which being attracted to men is seen as, is seen as inherently a negative, which it isn't.

@crazycarnivore6132

3 ай бұрын

That is wild. The reaction should reasonably be not too more than “oh, neat” or maybe the classic “I like x too” joke or smth like that

“If he looks in another man’s eyes for even A MICROSECOND LONGER than it takes to make socially acceptable eye contact, beware!” Ladies, don’t marry that ophthalmologist!!

@Itchy__

4 ай бұрын

Sounded like a copy pasta when I heard it he-he

@AnonymousPsych

2 ай бұрын

Oh but here's the kicker; bisexuality is incredibly common in autistic people, who often, famously, struggle to gauge the appropriate amount of eye contact. FML.

The sheer irony of the Cosmopolitan calling fashion, beauty, design, and fitness "narcissistic".

@johnlondonbimeetup7961

3 жыл бұрын

Calling out themselves, unironically, without realising it.

@LucianCorrvinus

3 жыл бұрын

None of those things are themselves narcissistic nor has an interest in them. Or in one's appearance or in the standards of beauty. These are part of the human condition these are part of our cultures and our expressions of self. It becomes narcissistic when it is pushed to a pathological limit and it begins to affect us in negative manner. And there are other things went to be narcissistic about like intelligence or social awareness or virtues we display on the whole.... And I'm afraid once you cast all things with one of my brush making them you either are or you aren't leads to a place of complete misunderstanding of the real world expression of what you're talking about. That's a rare pie place that is all in ones mind and doesn't affect reality much in the slightest.

@platinumdragon3007

3 жыл бұрын

@@LucianCorrvinus I agree. One could even say its a form of misogyny, characterizing interests traditionally viewed as feminine as "narcissistic" (which is another layer of irony for the Cosmopolitan to be saying this, given that it presents itself as a magazine for women). It's just another example of how misogyny and anti-LGBTQ+ bigotry often overlap.

@kylestark7409

2 жыл бұрын

Holy shit same pfp gang

@platinumdragon3007

2 жыл бұрын

@@kylestark7409 Bahamut ftw!

38 year old bi dude here - people have always told me it's just a phase. I came out at 16. It has apparently been a 22 year phase, lol.

@xSaraxMxNeffx

2 жыл бұрын

i mean life is a phase, so

@overhauledunderpaid6469

2 жыл бұрын

@@xSaraxMxNeffx out here proving homophobes right on a technicality

@plantagominor722

2 жыл бұрын

Bi cis male here, I've been told this way too many goddamn times. People always want to assume that I'm *really* attracted to one gender, and that the other is some kind of experiment or confusion on my part. To the point of saying it to my face, and it's gross.

@talynsawdon9945

2 жыл бұрын

Thats great lol i needed that

@mediumchungus9662

2 жыл бұрын

@@pippoppa8497 yes now all we have to do is wait for the Christian scientists to prove bisexuality isn't real 🤣

I lost my first social circle at university over coming out as a bi man. A friend in our group decided to tell us she was bi and everyone perked up: I thought I'd share too. Everyone at the table seemed to pull away from me uncomfortable. And none of the group would engage with me like they did despite us all sharing lockers in the same short hallway.

@HibiTeamQueso

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. You deserve better. I hope you can find better friends. Society acts as if men's problems don't exist. I've never been homophobic or smt like that and I still feel like I'm bad just for being straight. No wonder straight people only want to interact with straight people. I feel like humans are just affraid of what's different and that's sad. Everybody discriminating each other. Don't get me wrong, I've never experienced harassment for my sexuality and I don't want to take attention out of more serious problems. But that doesn't mean I can't feel bad if everyone tells me I'm bad just for existing

@dimigonidou

Жыл бұрын

That's really fucked up... I am so sorry. Those were not real friends, I hope you find better ones. As a bisexual woman I'd gladly have a little talk with them...

@penelopekitson8060

Жыл бұрын

i hope you have surrounded urself w ppl who care abut you now. those weren't real friends.

@kappadarwin9476

Жыл бұрын

I think media has a lot to do with it. In movies the Bi woman is often seen as trophy, something to be obtained by the hero. This is seen in some rom-coms of the 2000s which basically reduce bi woman to a fetishization. Bi men on the other hand were often viewed with suspicion. "Wife finds out her husband is having an affair with men" Or as a joke in some rom-com. This really hurts bi people but bi men are hit especially hard by this.

@gmikes5184

Жыл бұрын

eh. it happens. they werent ur true friends to begin w. hurts now but in long run they did u a favor tbh. i came out in hs back when it _definitely_ wasnt ok to say u were *any* of the lgbt back in barely 00s but ESP in the rural south. did anyways. my 2 friends i cared about stayed by my side. everyone else including my teachers just targeted me more for not conforming. those 2 are still my best friends and were mid 30s now.

i had an older male teacher who thought being bi means being in a relationship with a man and a woman at the same time. he listened intently when i did a presentation on sexuality and gender and thanked me for sharing my own experience as well. i hope hes doing well bc everyone should have teachers like him 😭💕

@macmcleod1188

4 ай бұрын

That's a combination of bisexuality and polyamory.

You know what? I miss Emos. It felt like a golden Era of bi male visibility and then suddenly... They vanished?

@skellagyook

3 жыл бұрын

I know what you mean. A lot of them were cute too.

@aliceche714

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! I was kinda in the subculture and I was really glad to see bi guys there

@kandiboi8802

3 жыл бұрын

thats why Im trying to bring it back lmao

@nienkehuijbens301

3 жыл бұрын

But when the world needed them most...

@kevinmartin93

3 жыл бұрын

Golden Era of bi male is Ancient Greece xD

My husband is bi, and we've been happily married for twenty five years. He's amazing, and it will always be a source of pride to me that I managed to win him despite having twice the competition.

@albaniaalban

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations! Wish you both twenty five years and more happy years to come! 💐

@hatake5587

2 жыл бұрын

That’s so beautiful

@robertwalker-smith2739

2 жыл бұрын

@@Defender78 , it's not 'that side of him'. He's all bisexual, all the time. It's not like a passport he needs to renew periodically.

@grubblyplank2373

2 жыл бұрын

@@robertwalker-smith2739 haha as a bisexual I can confirm I must 'explore this part of myself' and have sex with both a woman and a man every week or my passport expires and I get assigned either straight or gay

@thatb1h855

2 жыл бұрын

@@Defender78 that’s such a weird question to ask

When women are bisexual, people them them they’re straight. When men are bisexual, people say they’re gay. I feel like there’s something wrong with always assuming people like men and only men even when it’s possible to like women too. As a bi man myself I just think there’s a lot of misogyny accompanied with biphobia.

@m_nico_

Жыл бұрын

@some people deserve to be humbled 4 good fair, though i feel like it’s overly fetishized by straight men

@isaacthomas6544

Жыл бұрын

There was a good Tumblr post from yeaaaaaaaaaaaars ago that pointed out that this phenomenon is very male-centric in that it assumes that being attracted to men is like the default and correct position because men are innately more desirable than women. It was an interesting post.

@isaacthomas6544

Жыл бұрын

@some people deserve to be humbled I'm discussing a post written by bi people about bi people. I'm literally gay, chill.

@Imaniconnie

Жыл бұрын

🙌🏾👏🏾🙌🏾👏🏾🙌🏾

@snoopy4554

Жыл бұрын

@ANTI-STRAIGHT MALE & KAREN FBI DEPARTMENT it becomes no longer acceptable when we don't allow them to fetishize us, tho i really wish it was real acceptance

Not gonna lie, as someone who’s started to question their own sexuality, I feel like a fake bisexual. Like I’m not gay enough or that I’m too straight, wondering if I’m really attracted to both genders or if I’m just confused. This video feels somewhat comforting knowing that I’m not the only one who’s felt this way, so thank you for shedding some light to this issue.

@zahra9890

Жыл бұрын

I just want to remind you there's no such thing as being to gay or too straight. society may make that seem hard, but in the end the only thing that matters is who you're attracted to and how you want to label (or not label) your attraction

@Luci_lanterne836

Жыл бұрын

@@zahra9890 sorry for the late reply but thank you for that, it means something being validated :)

@zahra9890

Жыл бұрын

@@Luci_lanterne836

@yol_n

Жыл бұрын

It's because you probably feel more attracted to one gender then the other. That's common for bi's they mostly like the opposite gender

@zahra9890

Жыл бұрын

@@yol_n bisexual people can feel more attracted to one gender, but it could also be the same gender they're more attracted to. I'm generally a little bit more attracted to women as a woman

Bisexual men are kings. My boyfriend is one of the most thoughtful, kindhearted men I've ever met. He has an amazing sense of humor, he's an amazing cook, and he eats ass like he's trying to win a pie eating contest. What's not to love?

@johnlondonbimeetup7961

3 жыл бұрын

Straight men tend not to be ok eating ass.

@noemi9985

3 жыл бұрын

I love this

@drghdrgh1140

3 жыл бұрын

@@johnlondonbimeetup7961 haha

@dc9067

3 жыл бұрын

@@johnlondonbimeetup7961 how sad, we don't care about them :)

@violetsparkles5453

3 жыл бұрын

@@johnlondonbimeetup7961 not in my case :^) but you are correct, i think straight men should be more in tune with their own and their partners butts.

Being bi really has just ended up with me being functionally heterosexual out of fear/lack of positive representation. All historic bi men are just retconned to be confused gay men.

@LsDiablo

3 жыл бұрын

You clearly have never heard of Alexander the Great

@MissPoplarLeaf

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah bi erasure is rampant, people tend to assume that someone who showed attraction to both sexes was either straight and only experimenting, or gay and formerly in denial.

@neuralmute

3 жыл бұрын

See: Freddie Mercury. The most amazing bicon of all time, and people are *still* attempting to erase the fact that he was obviously bi! And shame on everyone who just turns his brilliant career into an AIDS era cautionary tale.

@wiseforcommonsense

3 жыл бұрын

@@neuralmute God yes, I remember reading reviews for the Queen movie and people not liking that they had his ex-fiancé in the movie cause it made it look like if he would have just stayed straight he would have been fine. Or the people who thought it took away from his boyfriend. Like, both people were important. he liked them both. why can't we just accept that?

@moonlight-hm4bh

2 жыл бұрын

Thats it.

I think the most frustrating thing about being bisexual is people constantly doubting your bisexuality because you haven't dated people from both sides (forgive the gender binarity just making it simple), whereas nobody asks a straight or a gay person proof of their sexuality. Not actively doing something does not cancel your love for it.

@untitleduntitled6257

9 ай бұрын

I mean they do ask gays and lesbians too, just not to the automatic degree everyone does for bi people.

@naejimba

9 ай бұрын

Plus you can be sexually attracted to something but not romantically attracted, so of course you wouldn't have dated one.

@Shtickyaight

6 ай бұрын

"Are you sure you're straight? Have you ever dated anyone of the opposite gender?"

a girl broke up with me when I came out to her because in her opinion being bi meant I was twice as likely to cheat because there are more people for me to cheat with. love being treated like a walking dick and balls with no moral compass.

@tbotalpha8133

3 ай бұрын

You dodged a bullet there.

@lindaburks1457

2 ай бұрын

Thats what most act like so that how you get treated...stop acting stupid

@SillySunday0

Ай бұрын

She doesn't deserve you, king. Being bi doesn't make you a cheater.

@sylodui

Ай бұрын

They don't sew how messed up that thinking is until a man uses the same thinking for a woman who have had several partners, then it clicks.

I want a Bi male partner. I’m Bi but I tend to be attracted to men more. I want a partner that I don’t have to explain myself to.

@pamelap.7141

3 жыл бұрын

Ough amen, I haven't been in a relationship since I came out to myself, but I would surely feel way more comfortable with a bi men than a straight one, I fell that ge would understand better. Actually I feel the same for girls, but lessened, lesbians could potentially understand better than straight men.

@randyohm3445

3 жыл бұрын

Reading this comment makes my day a little brighter. :)

@barrybarry7159

3 жыл бұрын

I feel exactly the same way

@watchingthebees

3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way!

@sallysoniclover

3 жыл бұрын

im bi and im talking to a bi guy rn!! im hoping we end up together. dating another bi person is literally one of the best things ever

“If he makes eye contact longer than is socially acceptable” Me, a bisexual autistic who avoids eye contact at all costs: S T E L F

@brennenkowtko9809

2 жыл бұрын

🤝

@autiemartian7324

2 жыл бұрын

Finally, a fellow bi autie.

@maldon3659

2 жыл бұрын

@@autiemartian7324 you can count me in there too

@maddiestayshydrated5335

2 жыл бұрын

@@maldon3659 me too

@orbismworldbuilding8428

2 жыл бұрын

Bi autistic here :) (Though I'm transgirl/enby not a dude)

I’m in a weird spot where I’m openly bisexual in a very homophobic catholic school, but I make the lads laugh so nobody shits on me for it.

@zahra9890

Жыл бұрын

good for you tho

@yourehereforthatarentyou

Жыл бұрын

make the homies laugh and you get away with anything, everybody knows that

@tunguskalumberjack9987

Жыл бұрын

I’m glad to hear that- just stay safe and always be aware of your surroundings. Sometimes danger presents itself when you least expect it, and you sound like a great person- I’d hate for something bad to happen to you. ❤️

@Shtickyaight

6 ай бұрын

​@@yourehereforthatarentyouas long as you're a funny guy you can get away with anything 🤷

@felix30471

4 ай бұрын

Oh, yeah, congrats in being one of the "good bisexuals", and not one of the "others"... It's amazing how intolerant groups/people are sometimes so capable of holding up stereotypes they have against a group despite of counterexamples, how they can include some while still excluding the rest... :(

A transman here, honestly I think for me bisexuality works out between me and my boyfriend since he’s is bisexual and his sexuality lies for either one. he’s very supportive on my own identity and my transition since he doesn’t have to have a learning curve (like a lot of straight or gay people do when dating me) on whether dating me is “gay” or “straight” and is just fine with who I am as a person

@connaeris8230

Жыл бұрын

That's amazing. As an external observer I've been pleasantly surprised by how accepting many bi guys are of their transitioning partners, in both directions of the spectrum. You get so used to seeing people reject others for dumb reasons that examples of the contrary are a welcome reminder that not all humans are superficial.

As a bi man, I feel angry a lot about people saying to my face "You're actually just gay." Family and friends. I've been told off by gay men and straight women. I don't want to feel like a victim, but I never feel accepted in any space. Then, I get to be a white passing latino and it feels like I'm invisible and never get to be angry about my mistreatment cuz I can pass as a straight white guy, so nothing that hurts me is ever seen as valid. Just frustrating, that's all. I get to be gay to the straights and straight to the gays. I get to be white to my family and then the other side of my family, I'm not white enough. And family wonders why I just opt to live alone with animals and am bitter towards everyone in my life. Don't even get me started on the worthless shitbags that say "men and women can't be friends because of sexual attraction." Where does that leave me? Do I not get to have any friends?

@johnlondonbimeetup7961

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, partners disallowing people to be friends with anyone of a gender they might find attractive (or even friends saying I can't be friends with you if you might ever fancy someone of my gender), is so fucked up. Just shouts insecurities. You deserve someone better. I'm sorry that filters out so many people, but the people it leaves, are way more awesome and aware; it's a nice early red flag as opposed to finding out much later on, that's how I try to reframe it for myself/others. Everyone I ever dated/planned hookup with, and came out to, at least questioned whether I was really gay instead (wait: except the two trans people I've been with). Some more aggressively, and felt like they didn't quite believe me, others more curiously, and I always felt I had to justify that I was there because I liked them/wanted to do whatever it was with them, that I am actually attracted to people of their gender and added mention I'd dated/had experiences with others of their gender if that felt needed (though it should never be; still bi even if never kissed/been with anyone).

@xzonia1

3 жыл бұрын

As an asexual, watching this video made me glad that the mainstream ignores us generally speaking. I'm sorry for the struggles you go through as bi. I'd be your friend.

@tonycampbell1424

3 жыл бұрын

Mood. One would think gay bars would be a good space, but . . . Mostly they're just a good space to get called either a tourist or a gay man who refuses to just come out. Hate that shit.

@eothamec2427

3 жыл бұрын

I feel that so hard. I’m a mestizo too and can pass as a straight white guy. I’m a pan trans man who’s just a light skinned Mexican. So many of the dynamics of public life are very fragile because it’s easy for strangers to make assumptions about me. Also my parents also spouted that “men and women can’t be friends” bs. Like we can actually. There are people who I just feel platonic friendship toward of both genders.

@jessicacarron8117

3 жыл бұрын

I am sorry that you are experiencing that. I see you, you are valid.

As a bi woman, i'm sending all my love to bi men💙💜💗

@juliethomas377

3 жыл бұрын

Thank u 🙏

@magnoliasilcox904

3 жыл бұрын

As a bi woman I am happily in love with a bi man.

@POWER-oc7sk

2 жыл бұрын

♥️

@machoinyournacho6569

2 жыл бұрын

thank you

@abhijithnair767

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you from the bottom of our hearts,sending love to y'all too!Everyone gets wuw uwu

I was so envious of my dad, bisexual during the sexual revolution in the 60s and 70s, being the playboy before herpes and AIDS. He had no trouble finding partners, they threw themselves at him everywhere. A single father with a child, impeccably dressed, very masculine, a veteran -- he charmed everyone, men, women, couples. By the time I was a young adult, the AIDS epidemic was in full swing, and being a playboy wasn't safe anymore. Being an adult has been a disappointment in many ways, that's just one lol

@Khunark

3 ай бұрын

seethe, bro

@mokasaam1819

2 ай бұрын

Lucky man you father is

@lindaburks1457

2 ай бұрын

"I hate adulthood cause I not getting laid as much as my dad"

I'm only JUST coming out now as a Bisexual man and I'm 43yo. I've known since I was a young teen. It sucks how scary it seems for me and it seems almost stupid at times but Ive never met an openly bisexual man in my life so there's obviously a reason 😢

@ScoundrelDaysSon

5 ай бұрын

I'm 37, nearly 38, I was bullied at school (I was ill, clever, and clearly not just straight). I made a conscious decision at college, and later UNI to be overtly bi, and I surrounded myself with the emos, and greebos, and rockers - the others because, for the most part, they accepted another other. And I was half decent looking so seemingly attracted a good chunk of folk. The biggest pain post-school was at a sci-fi convention that had a high gay contingent - where I felt my geekiness allowed me to be my best me - I was told, 'nope, you're just gay & you need to accept it'. Repeatedly. Which hurt way more than it being used as a pejorative by a bully funnily enough. Genuinely frustrating that experience. But I knew I wasn't, and stubbornly kept at my guns. Anyway. Many years since: gay men tend to avoid dating bi men, women less so (in my experience anyway). That said the number of 'just greedy' and comments like then are honestly wild. Awful times. I would hope it is better now. Anyway - all to say - you've met me now. Openly so from the age of 16/17. Hi. And good for you.

I know a Bisexual man in his 90's, he is a naughty ray of sunshine and I love him, I've adopted him as my grandpa, and we've had wonderful deep conversations about all sorts of things. He calls himself an old poof, and he accepts trans people, and he is remarkably progressive for someone who was raised catholic and fully believed he was going to hell for being himself.

@user-dg3ug7ny5d

2 жыл бұрын

This is really similar to someone I know; "a naughty ray of sunshine" is just a perfect description! He is also in his 90s, born and raised Catholic, and used to be homophobic and biphobic. During the initial AIDS outbreak, his daughter who worked as a nurse at the time took him to meet slightly older aged bi men that were receiving care. He never realised how much they suffered and apparently spent hours talking with them, and he's still really open to this day. His wife is Christian and after having a stroke, just lost her marbles completely and now won't let him have a Catholic service if he dies before her and other things. She provides nothing to this story, though. Some men of this generation have amazing life stories, especially when describing what life was like before the world came to what it is now. Hell, he grew up as a "cowboy," taking care of sheep in our Australian outback. He even speaks the language of our Nation's Indigenous group and passes it on to those he meets, which is just unheard of back then, even to this day. He's an awesome soul, just wound up with a family who doesn't show him the love he deserves. But I guess that's what a lot of, especially religious-based, marriages of that time were - merely of convenience, despite their opposing views.

@temincloudmot3696

2 жыл бұрын

"adopted him as my grandpa" is such a wholesome phrase

@spookyho5994

2 жыл бұрын

He sounds lovely!

@GalaxyGal-

Жыл бұрын

What a sweetheart. Glad you're spending time with this wonderful old man

@PrettyinGreenn

Жыл бұрын

That’s the thing about self-hatred… u can actively seek out and appreciate things in others that u “hate” about yourself. For example; I have always actively sought-out and appreciated friendship with loud humor driven women… but when I hear myself being loud and funny it makes me want to hide in a hole. We really do love these parts of ourselves; we just don’t have the permission from those around us and society to love them sometimes.

As a bi woman dating a bi man, I remember having a few seconds of pause in my mind when he told me early on. Then I thought "Wait I'm bi too. What problem could I possibly have? That's totally hypocritical." And I'm so glad I got over it so fast because he's the most loving, fun person I've been with. There's zero doubt he's attracted to me, and it's nice having someone who truly "gets" bisexuality, unlike one of my exes who told me I couldn't be bi because everyone has to "choose" one or the other. People's attitudes toward bisexuals are sooo prejudiced even in a time when homophobia is really going away and more and more people are realizing they're bi and coming out as such. It's wack.

@flabbergast_se

2 жыл бұрын

Uhm... if your ex thought you need to choose... doesn't that mean that he once made that choice? And... that kind of implies that he was bi himself? Except in denial of course.

@Merilirem

2 жыл бұрын

@@flabbergast_se I have come across that exact thing multiple times. People saying they are straight or gay when i know damn well they ain't. In reality they just chose to lock away part of themselves and they think thats normal. Excuses range from phases, not really to choices but its all the same stupid shit.

@Lanoira13

2 жыл бұрын

Exaaaactly. It can be so easy to deprogram those kinds of biases, it's so frustrating when people don't even seem to try or even question those biases.

@Lanoira13

2 жыл бұрын

@@Merilirem Honestly, I love hitting people who do the whole "everyone feels that way" shit with the deadpan "No, they really don't." I always knew I was multisexual, I did think everyone was when I was a kid, but went the complete opposite direction with "WAIT, SOME PEOPLE ONLY DATE ONE GENDER?? WHY WOULD ANYONE LIMIT THEMSELVES TO ONE?" But I did have a big "well, everyone feels that way!" thing about gender and not _always_ feeling like my AGAB. I straight up only realized I was genderfluid by seeing a post online be like "For anyone who thinks 'everyone experiences x y z l m n o p examples of gender incongruence', NO, not everyone feels that way, cis people do not feel that way, there's a 99.9% probability you're not cis." And I was just like *"Oh. Oh No."* I can not overstate how hard "No, not everyone feels that way. Straight/Cis/Neurotypical people do NOT feel that way. They do not experience those feelings, if you have, you are probably not that thing." hits people who are in the "Everyone feels that way!" mindset. Change a motherfucker's life, hit em with the "No, not everyone feels that way."

@plantagominor722

2 жыл бұрын

"As a bi woman dating a bi man, I remember having a few seconds of pause in my mind when he told me early on." My heart breaks in those few seconds. Especially when it's coming from a bi woman - y'all should understand that our orientation does not make us creeps, but somehow this doesn't happen unless - like you seem to have - serious effort is put into it.

I'm bisexual, and it hurts knowing that we are seen as undesirables.

@ameliasellers6396

Жыл бұрын

We're not undesirable to each other, and that's why we need to stick together! Also you are not bad for being bi, you are a lovely human and deserving of love and compassion.

@Cynical_Socialist

9 ай бұрын

If there’s a silver lining, its that we’re the largest demographic in the queer community. Additionally I have a preference towards androgynous bi women and men anyway so I guess that kinda works out for myself anyway.

@ninab.4540

5 ай бұрын

*laughs in trans men and ace spectrum* No cap, you guys are on a bigger boat. But it's hard to not note how the men above either are regarded as not real or get ignored in society. Ace men still have Todd from Bojack to look for on television media.

@DeusGamez

4 ай бұрын

if it helps i dont view bi as undesirable (an i am mostly attracted towards men) some of the nicest and coolest people i have ever met are bisexual an they know how to have alot of fun lol

I actually prefer bi men over straight men. As a bi lady, I feel like it means that my partner gets it. Love a guy who 1) is attracted to me and 2) still understands the queer experience.

I had lesbian parents growing up and when I finally figured out I wasn’t entirely straight I was afraid to tell my parents because of an off hand comment from my mother. That bi people need to make a choice. She said that so young yet I remembered it for so many years. When I finally came out my mother cried and told me she was sorry that something she said like that could have done that.

@indigogirl5172

2 жыл бұрын

Your mother truly loves you. She admitted how she hurt you and it hurt her too that she did so

@georgehuerta1990

2 жыл бұрын

At least she understood what she said and she still loves you no matter what and she’s still on your side and will always be on your side

@workworkangelica

Жыл бұрын

im sorry they said u had to make it a choice they should know that loveisnt even a choice >:( and im glad she appolized but its still wrong to ever think that way >:(

@workworkangelica

Жыл бұрын

@@ThePharaoho if ur saying many bi guys have tried to have one partner per relationship that you have knew of but haven't then i would say its not nice to sterotype all bi men or shall i say bisexuals. just because the ones u knew didnt kep their word doesnt mean all bisexuals in the world dont.

@coldstrike3434

Жыл бұрын

Imagine a lesbian parent hating on a bi kid...ew

After dealing with depression and denial for years, during this pandemic I've finally accepted the fact that I'm a bisexual man. While I'm happy and relieved to have figured out who I've been, it also feels like discovering a new way to be hated by society 😳

@pamelap.7141

3 жыл бұрын

Same, I am a women, but I discovered I was bi at the end of last year and was it was at the same time liberating and a little bit terrifying. I think I will probably not tell my parents until I have the need to (meaning if I end up in a relationship with a women). It was really hard to come to terms with this, but hey! Here I am and here you are.

@tonycampbell1424

3 жыл бұрын

Good luck, man. Just . . . Godspeed, brother.

@prettyfish6747

3 жыл бұрын

Dont worry about society. You do you man 🤚✨

@Niniminns

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy that you've accepted yourself! I haven't faced a lot of hate about my sexuality in real life so I'm only reminded of how mean people can be from videos like this one and it's sad to think about. If you ever get hate I hope you have some nice friends or family or a therapist you can talk to. Following bisexual people online makes me feel like I'm not alone.

@illbeyoursupergirl

3 жыл бұрын

You rock. Stick by those who love you for you (like seriously why does sexual preference affect how great of a so/friend/family member you are??). You'll find you people, I'm so happy you can feel confident in yourself!

When my mother discovered I was bi, she absolutely lost her shit. She basically called me evil, and even threatened to kick me out or send me to "therapy to fix me". I started dating my current partner, and he's bi too, and when mentioning his ex, I accidentally used masculine pronouns. She was horrified when she discovered he was bisexual too, and screamed about how he was disgusting and diseased. So diseased in fact, that my mere dating him was equally as unsafe as "having unprotected sex with five guys at once". She insisted he was a carrier of some venereal disease. Now after watching this video I understand why she might have thought that way. To her, growing up, bi men were a threat, bi people were dangerous fakers. Does that mean I will ever forgive her for anything she has ever done? No. But do I understand her a bit better now? Yes.

@SoldierofGod121

4 ай бұрын

You have shamed your mother. Shame on you

@SoldierofGod121

4 ай бұрын

Your mother was right

@EndoTheBear

4 ай бұрын

@@SoldierofGod121 Bait used to be believable

@jablue4329

4 ай бұрын

​@@SoldierofGod121do better

@MaxOakland

3 ай бұрын

Your mom is insane

As a bisexual individual, i have considered coming out to my mom who i trust very deeply and have given her hints. But the reason I haven't just fully told her was because of what happened with my dad. My dad is bisexual, which when him and my mom were engaged, his family used it as a attempt to scare my mom off, and surprisingly she ignored it and accepted him, not caring about his sexuality and proceeding to get married, even if she felt sort of uncomfortable. (which was probably because the only purpose of their marriage was to have me and only me, no love). Everything was fine, they fell in love over the years bla bla bla. Well surprise, surprise! he cheated on my mom with my godfather and did not try to hide it when my mom found out and instead of what a normal person would do once they get caught cheating AKA dump their lover, he decided to chose the lover instead and focus on liying and hiding the situation from me.(my mom did offer to ignore what he did and stay with him if he cutted ties with my godfather and start over which he ingored) This affected my mom alot and she became seccretly homophobic for a while, feeling kind of betrayed as she had accepted him just for him to fall perfectly into the "bisexual men are cheaters". And after months explaining and informing her about the lgbtq community, she came on somewhat terms with it. I despise my dad, not just because of what he did, but because his selfish actions not only affect my mom, they affect the image of all bi men to people around him. Because of guys like him , people see bisexual men as some "diseased infected non-caring selfish cheaters" which i know for a fact is far from the truth. Tbh bi men deserve WAY BETTER than how they have been treated since decades, bisexual women need to stop assuming how a person is just because of "what the media\people say", it may be true in some casa, but it sure as hell does not mean it applies to every-single-person.

@uk9383

Жыл бұрын

Dude what are you talking about? First of all what does your dads sexuality have to do with him cheating? There are plenty of straight men who cheat with women. He is bi so he happened to cheat wih a man. And secondly - you despizing your dad for cheating on your mom is the stupidest thing ive ever heard. You are the son and shouldnt be involved in your parents business. This is a huge mistake you are making. You should only judge him based on your relationship with him. For example is he a good father? Thats the important thing.

@thenetherbaddie9760

Жыл бұрын

@@uk9383how did you misunderstand this post so badly? for one, they only mentioned the "correlation" between their dad's bixexuality and his unfaithfullness as something that was assumed by others. they literally say at the end that correlation obviously doesn't equal causation for bisexual cheaters. Also, why wouldn't they be upset at their father for hurting someone they love and inadvertently making it harder for them to come out to their family and friends. Either way, you don't really get to tell them how to feel.

@Shupandi_The_killadi

5 ай бұрын

​@@uk9383 are you nuts? His father cheated on his mother, you idiot!!

@peachesandcream22

5 ай бұрын

@@uk9383 You treat infidelity as nothing serious, when it's one of the worst things you can do to your partner and it's a fact that parent's infidelity psychologically traumatises their child. My mother was a cheater for 2 years and it affected me very bad. I cried, blamed myself for this for many years until I understood it wasn't my fault. And I will never forgive my mother for breaking our family. It's not "a personal business" anymore when you HAVE A FAMILY and ANY action you do can affect them in positive or negative way. If you think otherwise, then you're just an egoist and you don't care your closed ones, like my mother did.

I'm a bisexual man and I've been dumped before when my gf found out I had a prior relationship with a man.

@DiamantisHell

3 жыл бұрын

@@danyg1400 preach

@laurakirwan999

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry your ex was a twat.

@bgoodnow

3 жыл бұрын

That sucks, I was just about done with straight guys myself, because of all the weird fetish stuff, but that’s nothing compared to what bi guys go through when dealing with straight girls! Sorry for the sh*t you have to put up with!!

@rowanhutchison3378

3 жыл бұрын

She didn’t deserve you anyway. You’ll find someone that will except you

@feveraeroelder

3 жыл бұрын

I had this girlfriend who didn't know, but I always wanted to come clean, just didn't know how. One night we were watching "Brokeback Mountain" and she questioned "why did he get married if he likes guys", and I answered "well, he could be bisexual". Silence. I saw the chance and went "if I was bi, would you keep dating me?", she answered "no, because you would want to take me to an orgy." Then I learnt that I would never tell her.

After 13 years of faithful marriage, I came out to my wife as Bi... she never looked at me the same. Intimacy went out the window. It's as if I wasn't the same person -- like I was suddenly a complete stranger. Her health started to fail her shortly thereafter, due to out of control diabetes. I took care of her for the rest of her life, but her attitude toward me never changed.

@dc9067

3 жыл бұрын

That sucks

@mschrisfrank2420

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry that happened to you.

@dc9067

3 жыл бұрын

@@missfefeloves don't be a bigot You know very well the stigma surrounding LGBTQ+ people and coming out to your partner He didn't lie to her, he was literally attracted to her. It's not like he's gay (that I would have understood) Figuring out your sexuality can take a lot of time for some people. If she truly loved him as he is, she wouldn't shut him out after so many years of marriage, especially since he obviously still loved her

@dc9067

3 жыл бұрын

@@missfefeloves i understand that, but 13 years of marriage tho... idk, imagine throwing your whole relationship in the trash just because your partner is also attracted to dudes Anyway, to each their own I guess

@Murasakinoyame

3 жыл бұрын

@@missfefeloves why is there a need to know though? it doesn't actually affect you in any way, they are not bringing other people into a relationship and nothing actually changes so....you are just biphobic then? nobody owns anyone a coming out, even their closest people because things might be tough to talk about edit: actually not coming out to your close people might be more hurtful for you than for them

I'm dating a bi man after 2 terrible relations with macho men... He is so comforting, so soft he managed to heal me after all that ❤

@ufinc

4 ай бұрын

Ok sure but does he actually make you wet like the others did?

the double standards are absolutely crazy, there's no way a guy could think like this about a bisexual woman without people getting angry

@guilhermeviegas6139

Жыл бұрын

watch the video, she likes bissexual man

@owenbowen2222

Жыл бұрын

@@guilhermeviegas6139 I'm talking to the other people in the video

@guilhermeviegas6139

Жыл бұрын

@@owenbowen2222 ah bom, não havia compreendido

@nathanmccoy9188

Жыл бұрын

people are angry at both attitudes. are you unaware of the fact that bi women also get treated like theyre shallow cheaters who just like sleeping around?

Some of the coolest, kindest people I've met are bi men. I hope the stigma starts to change, but I know it's a long road ahead for all of us

@satya4234

3 жыл бұрын

Same! Some of the coolest people I know are bi and gay men. It's a pity that they're so stigmatized.

@lea-sega

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah bi men are the best

@shellyg824

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@crunchyflakepusssuk

3 жыл бұрын

Best lovers.

@Miikhiel

3 жыл бұрын

Glad someone thinks of us as such. Thank ya.

Before coming out as a lesbian, I identified as bisexual, with this identity I had sex with men. I told one male partner that I was bisexual, and he told me he would identify with that term too if it was normal for men. he told me the only way he could "casually" have interactions with men without his buddies being weirded out was in MMF threesomes but even then the woman participating would also have to be ok with male bisexuality. This is just one man I've spoken to, I'm sure other men feel the same though

@jospinner1183

3 жыл бұрын

Oh, that's so sad to hear! I really hope the stigma against bisexuality in men (particularly cis bi men, I've seen) continues to decline.

@jimd8292

3 жыл бұрын

How many men live in in quiet desperation because we feel can never love others as we should

@jospinner1183

3 жыл бұрын

@@jimd8292 Toxic masculinity is so oppressive for both men and women, and I think queer men get the worst of it. I wish you the best, and remember, you're worthy of love! 😘

@MistaZULE

3 жыл бұрын

I'm 27 and just realized I was bisexual during quarantine. I had sex with a male friend to confirm it and now I'm comfortable with my sexuality, but I wrestled with self doubt and self hatred for years when I even thought of men in a sexual way. I grew up in quite a toxic masculine society in a conservative small city in Canada with a fairly religious background. I'm just happy I was able to become open enough to accept my sexuality and am infinitely happier than when I was before I had my "discovery". I'm definitely not alone in this. I just hope with more discussion about bisexuality it becomes more accepted and more young men and women can accept themselves fully and not live in self doubt or hatred. I'm just happy it finally happened. I would hate to have been 60 years old to make the realization about myself. Accceptance is so much better than hiding or hating yourself for thoughts you can't control.

@yorak6793

3 жыл бұрын

I feel like this is incredibly common. Men didn’t just suddenly become polarized, gay or straight, after Rome fell.

As a gay man I can say that I've heard a lot of phobic bs in our community about bi men. I think bi pride is very important to the acceptance of our entire queer community in society! So I am embracing every bi man and woman I meet! I think there are a lot of closeted people living between gay and straight and we need to normalize that, because it will extend our entire community's visibility and understanding

@ashoftmrw

6 ай бұрын

Comments like this mean so much to a lot of bi+ people ❤️ thank you!!

As a bi male I stop tell friends and family that I'm bi just because it makes them feel uncomfortable. I've been married to my beautiful wife for 25+ years . I've to talk to about bisexual on a number occasions but it's a topic that is not talked about in my home. She does know I'm bi and that it. I've told friends that I'm bi and once I do one they stop being friends or they start treating me definitely. So that is why I don't tell humans that I'm bisexual. Thank you for making this video

@timpullen4941

Жыл бұрын

Yes.

@robertcohen8554

Жыл бұрын

That's because openly bi and masculine men scare the crap out of closeted bi and dl bi men! They want their "secret" airtight

@MadamFancyPants

Жыл бұрын

@كاتاريه where did he say he did? Wth

@peachylady

Жыл бұрын

​@Siracheetah wtf kind of comment is this?

@sliph4169

10 ай бұрын

@@Siracheetah you don't stop being attracted to other people generally speaking when partnered, even in marriage. So there's still room for discussion in regards to sexuality as a form of personal expression. They may not even follow strict rules of monogamy, that is just an assumption.

I'm a bi woman and my date saw me looking at the woman he was looking at, asked me if I thought her beautiful (yes) told me "oh no, you're one of *those* people." got up and left. I hear so often that my sexuality means that I can't be monogamus, faithfull or reliable. Since then, I tell every potential partner my sexuality first, which annoys some people but I'd rather have that clear from the get-go. And I'm sad that bi-men can't be as open as I am. Also, I live in Germany and even here, men having sex with men are banned from donating blood.

@thetea4093

2 жыл бұрын

It’s awful. When I went to donate blood, I was asked if I ever had sex with a man who may have had sex with another man. Horrendous treatment that makes me sick.

@Tayet4Buri

2 жыл бұрын

@@thetea4093 it really is. And one might think that Blood can be tested on most STDs, so that that wouldn't be an issue anymore.

@WithYouIDisagree

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tayet4Buri the issue is that there is a "window period" between infection and when tests can identify HIV. In 2003 the median (average) window period for blood donations was 17 days. So if somebody is recently infected and they donate blood, it might not be detected. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diagnosis_of_HIV%2FAIDS?wprov=sfla1#Nucleic_acid-based_tests_(NAT) Although I agree that a lifetime ban is ridiculous, and even a year-long moratorium is too much. The conservative window period is 6 months, after 3 months 97% of people have detectable antibodies. In 2001, the risk of HIV transmission via blood donation was 1 in 2.5 million in the U.S. I'm not a doctor, but there must be a more sensible way to reduce the risk of transfusion-acquired HIV that doesn't involve banning MSM from donating blood for a whole year.

@Tayet4Buri

2 жыл бұрын

@@WithYouIDisagree As anyone can get HIV, not only gay guys, what you said is pretty much the point. If screening has to be done to prevent HIV infections why not everyone?

@averongodoffire8098

2 жыл бұрын

Okay that fucking sucks dude, I’m going to say bullet dodged but still it’s not easy going through that😢 be safe okay luv

It’s just been hard knowing they bi-women are fetishized while bi-men are erased or hated. It’s been a struggle

@murderyourlawn

9 ай бұрын

It's not exactly cool to be fetishized either. Women do experience biphobia as well.

@Solen.D

8 ай бұрын

@@murderyourlawn thats their point

@ND-nr6mx

5 ай бұрын

​@Nick_Wilde-s_Sniff_Slave "It's not about whether they enjoy having sex with each other, it's about whether *I* enjoy them having sex with each other" type beat

@maleficent3333

4 ай бұрын

@@Nick_Wilde-s_Sniff_Slave yes but lesbian porn is made for hetero men, there is nothing lesbian about that, also heterosexual porn is for hetero men, that's why it gives wrong narratives to men ab what woman like, and are like, and causes general misery.

@flamingscar5263

4 ай бұрын

​@@murderyourlawnthe fact your assuming that because they mention that bi men expirence biphobia that they are saying bi women don't is part of the problem Society as a whole needs to ditch this idea of "if your pro X then that means your anti X" Just because I want the world to know the problems men go through doesn't mean I want to silence women

One of the first men I ever had a relationship with was Bi, and when we first started (whatever the fuck that was) I had a femme friend say to me "you know he's slept with *male coworker* right?" And when I shrugged and said it wasn't a bug deal her whole attitude towards *me* changed as well. As if my willingness to sleep with a bi man (as a then bi pre-trans man) was just such a disgusting concept to her. Anyway. We as a society should treat bi men better

Well, I love BI men. They are just as masculine to me as straight men and even hotter. I know a lot of girls who feel the same way I do.

@clownchaostime3024

Жыл бұрын

I wish some of y'all would move down here to Texas, cause I have discovered that it's really difficult to find women who are cool with it.

I'm gay but I empathise so much with bi people. If you're a bi girl you'll probably be fetishized and if you're a bi guy people will just think you're gay. Most of my female friends say they'd never date a bi guy and it saddens me to hear. Just because someone is attracted to men and women does not mean that they are more likely to cheat. It frustrates me that that's so hard for some people to understand.

@everyonesfavoritegin

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly because i'm a demisexual and open about my sexuality i'm technically bi because if the connection is the right one and their personality matches what i'm looking for i would be attracted to guys or girls.

@fillerbunnyninjashark271

3 жыл бұрын

@@everyonesfavoritegin same

@allie99524

3 жыл бұрын

Let's put it this way: a lot of women who think bisexual men are only promiscuous and unfaithful and more likely to cheat, are just projecting their own mentality onto us and uses that as justification to be unfaithful themselves.

@pigeonfood420

3 жыл бұрын

@@deltaxcd ...because we have control over our actions as sentient human beings irrespective of our sexual orientation?? also its p reductive of you to say that 'every man wants sex' that sounds more like you're trying to justify cheating on your significant other by using some bs bioessentialist argument of 'my big manly sex drive made me cheat not a series of choices i made that led to me betraying the trust of someone i love'

@Eralen00

3 жыл бұрын

@@deltaxcd if every guy was like you, they would all be cheating all the time anyway, so your comment makes zero sense.

as a bi girl dating a bi man, I'm very happy to be with him ;) then again its cus we're so relatable to each other

@DiamantisHell

3 жыл бұрын

That's cute

@sarahbayla

3 жыл бұрын

I'm in a similar relationship too! I love being able to connect with my partner on this level 😊

@Guusagi

3 жыл бұрын

yay!! I'm so happy for you💕 It's fun to be able to be like "that guy/lady is hot" interchangeably ☺️ hehe

@Slibhin

3 жыл бұрын

Bi4bi goals👌💯

@bgoodnow

3 жыл бұрын

That’s awesome! I’m with a really cool guy, who supports me, but sometimes I wish we had that to share!

I started an activist org for BI people in the 90s, due to a lot of shade being thrown on my bi friends from the L&G community. Early on, the likely social outcome was to be ostracised by both straight and gay people when coming out. Cap that with all of the issues around AIDS, and it could be a very lonely existence to be out as bi then. Small wonder that some bisexuals around that time were really good at compartmentalizing their relationships.

as a bi chick dating a most wonderful and amazing bi man, i couldnt ask for a better partner; we both know what its like living as bisexuals and are open and comfortable enough to be vulnerable enough to explore our sexuality and our masculine and feminine sides respectively and its been the most beautiful thing for us to feel safe and valid together as an unapologetic queer couple (im only noting this cos this is always the first comment made about us: either of us are"straight passing" ots very obvious that we are a queer couple)

As a bi woman, dating a bi man would be a dream come true

@jimd8292

3 жыл бұрын

Same as a bi man for dating a bi women. It’s such a relief

@catalina.coanda

3 жыл бұрын

As a bi girl, this is SO accurate. 🥺

@MoonLoonie69

2 жыл бұрын

I'm bi and when my bf came out as bi, I was happier than when he proposed to me.

@thecatpersonuk9962

2 жыл бұрын

Imagine having a chance at dating or similar I’m dying inside

@mirunacristina5639

2 жыл бұрын

Honestly

Hey wait..."bisexual disaster"?? You mean that's actually a thing? Because it certainly describes me. Yet I still go around ashamed that I might be seen as hypersexual.

@chairmanJackie

3 жыл бұрын

Straight People: "I wish I was bisexual cause then I would have more options for dating." Bisexuals: *NERVOUS SWEATING*

@DiamantisHell

3 жыл бұрын

@@chairmanJackie lmao

@bgoodnow

3 жыл бұрын

I have some chaotic bisexual vibes! I fit in so well with my fellow witchy anarchist peeps! It’s nice not to be judged all the time! I live in a really Christian conservative area, and I’m the trinity of evil apparently😂

@brian_Austin27

3 жыл бұрын

@@chairmanJackie like it just goes to show that they have no knowledge of what bisexuals do through

@zarinapena5846

3 жыл бұрын

@@chairmanJackie bisexuals: *_sobbing in a corner because they can't find a partner of any gender_*

As a bi guy myself I can relate to most of the problems, I have heard "When are you gonna realize your gay, or straight" its dissgusting.

as a gay man, if my bf was bi i'd be interested to hear abt his experiences since i'm never gonna know what it's like

I was dating a girl who broke up with me when she found out i was bi, i wasn't hidding it i just didn't mention it before, she said she wanted to be with someone more "masculine". Just to be clear i'm a 1.80m tall heavyweight boxer so it's not like i didn't look masculine.

@mince1035

2 жыл бұрын

bruh thats mad wild and rough im sure youre doing better now

@ineedloveandaffection829

2 жыл бұрын

Better this way she didn't deserve u

@acandycrushsagajourney6215

2 жыл бұрын

omg a tall heavyweight boxer??? im in love 😏

@Jess-iq1bw

2 жыл бұрын

She not worth your time, man.

@lifeaftermidnight6132

2 жыл бұрын

You're too good for her. You'll find someone who's way better then her!

actually, as a bisexual woman I trend to feel more secure with bisexual men rather than straight men idk

@satan9487

2 жыл бұрын

yeah me too

@sobesmith5415

2 жыл бұрын

Male, but same feelings

@ScribblebytesWorldwide

2 жыл бұрын

That's because as bi people we have our own subcultural semiotic code. The problem is, it has been buried by a society that expects us to choose to conform to either a str8 code or gay code. Unfortunately it always makes us feel like we're masking or lying in either camp. It's only when we're with other bi people that we can truly be ourselves. My goal with Scribblebytes is to identify and flesh out our bi semiotic coding so that we can also participate in the world the same way everyone else does: Love, social responsibility and Self-Actualization.

@Utah842

2 жыл бұрын

What about males in general?

@nithi9638

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah honestly, same. But even with women. I would prefer bi women over lesbian women. Ever so slightly, but still. Lesbians being biphobic is nothing new. The bi community feels more safe for bi people, obviously

I rage clicked on this video, and then I realized that you were actually in support of bisexuality and went, "Thank god."

I've never been so chastised about being bisexual as I have been by gays and lesbians. So many of my straight friends didn't give a rats ass. Bi-erasure is so prevalent in the LGBT that I just avoid it. Straight presenting bi men are left out because we're not over the top queens that wear out sexuality on our sleeves. That's not even getting started on being 40+.

My partner who is a bi/pan man has been demonized so much even though he’s the biggest teddy bear. It infuriates me. One time I was talking to a mutual ex-friend of ours and she was scoffing at how he cried when they went to a play. It pissed me off so much. Then this same ex-friend got him kicked out of his house by fear mongering his straight cis roommates. It really wrecked him for a while because all he wants is to show others love and care but people think he has “ulterior motives” even though he’s legit just a sweetie pie. But he’s a bi man and we’re polyamorous so everyone thinks poorly of him. Well I’m an enby bi/pan poly punk that is going to protect my darling partner with every fiber of my being!

@ShinUkyo

3 жыл бұрын

Completely relate to all of this. It's based on this archaic notion that people can't be platonic friends with someone if that someone is from a gender they're sexually attracted to. It's assumed that straight men and straight women can't be platonic friends (which is sad, as it stops countless potential friendships from ever taking ground in the first place.) And needless to mention the stigma that many straight men have for becoming close friends with gay or bisexual men. And when you're bisexual: you face the issue of most everyone you meet, regardless of gender, in their back of their head wondering if there's some chance you might fall for them romantically someday. Related to the above archaic notion. So not only can it ruin romantic relationships, but potentially many close friendships you could develop. Whereas your partner sounds a lot like me: someone who is just very outgoing and kind to everyone. Without ulterior motives. I basically almost never fall for someone romantically. But I absolutely love to compliment my friends and tell them they're gorgeous, etc. No matter their gender. As it's just truthful compliments and loving to see people smile. Not trying to get in anyone's pants. Thankfully people who get to know me understand and appreciate this. But at the same time, even among my closest friends, I'd be afraid to come out as bisexual. And that shouldn't be the case. Anyway stay strong and keep supporting each other!

@unicorntomboy9736

3 жыл бұрын

That's so sad to hear. I wish I had a partner who was like that

@kenansabic2901

3 жыл бұрын

Ohmygod he sounds so sweet I wanna give him big hugs. You guys sound so cute.

@magnysvoss

3 жыл бұрын

@@Saixjacket It’s a phrase, dude. I know that I can’t 100% protect him but I love him and he appreciates that I care about him and his safety. We are primary partners and discuss our other relationships to gage if they’re healthy or not is what I mean by protecting him. We have each other’s backs. And if you’re trying to say polyamory doesn’t work then that’s your own bias. It’s how we live our truth and yeah it’s a lot of work just like monogamy is a lot of work.

@magnysvoss

3 жыл бұрын

@@Saixjacket 😂😂😂 My partner is 38 and he’s been polyamorous for 15 years. You’re making many reaches and generalizations about a lifestyle you know nothing about. It’s not that we “go through” people, it’s simply that some folks move on in life and that’s okay. Also not every romantic relationship has to end in marriage and living together, I have many friends that I just enjoy being with sexually and so does my partner. Every relationship is unique and beautiful in its own way and it doesn’t have to fit into a rigid box of societies standards of what a sexual or romantic relationship “should be”. I think you’re just forming your own opinions based on your own insecurities and that’s something you need to work on rather than telling me my lifestyle is “wrong”. Enjoy the free lesson on polyamory, but I’m done teaching you about something you’ve just decided to be bigoted about. Now sod off.

As of late as a black bi man I just feel so lonely as of late it’s like I get hatred from all sides after a while it just starts to break you down inch by inch

@DrewPeabaws

2 жыл бұрын

Stay strong man, you're not alone.

@arthurcabral8125

2 жыл бұрын

I see you, man. I feel that too

@Queenofimps.1627

2 жыл бұрын

Hello fellow black bi brother. I feel you

@classicleslie6914

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. I myself am asexual biromantic and Black American. As much as I tell other people (and from my experience it is other black people who are older 35+, not nonblack) I am asexual even though I am open to men and women, they still say "you're still gay or homosexual". They don't understand sexuality is a spectrum and not black or white. My heart goes out to you man, *hug*.

@georgehuerta1990

2 жыл бұрын

You hang in there bro you don’t let society do that to you remember there’s a lot of us out here we’re all in the same boat. I am Hispanic and like the black community it’s not really looked on very favorably. I’m just very fortunate that my wife of almost 20 years except me for who I am I did tell her on the third date that I was bisexual and she’s accepted me and we have a great marriage. Keep your chin up keep moving forward and don’t let anybody steal your joy.

I didnt grow up with the Bi-man bias and it makes me really sad. My first major introduction to bisexuality was in cute domestic fanfics growing up, with an overwheming positivity apart of that. I id as bi myself and frankly over the years I can comfrotably say I can trust to date bi and pan men so so so much more than than cishet men. I love u boys stay chaotic

My partner is a bi-sexual man and I we met on Tinder. He was actually my first Tinder date. He is an amazing partner and I had zero negative reaction that he was bi-sexual. I think it made me like him more because it probably meant he didn't vote for Trump :) (this was about 1 week after the 2016 election so it was still pretty raw). I think he listed both men and women on his profile and I wasn't sure if it was for dating or friends because he also listed he was interested in making friends. I thought the fact that he was willing to leave it as even a suggestion that he would date men made him more safe. He was at the least not homophobic and where I live that is more common in the online dating cesspool. I guess he "came out" to me on one of our first dates but it didn't register to me that him telling me that he had dated men was a big deal. I had no idea that bisexual men had a hard time finding partners. Total ignorance on my part I guess as a straight person. It made me more attractive to him, maybe for the wrong reasons? The idea of him being with a man is kinda hot to me. Is that wrong? It definitely isn't a turn off. He has a better understanding of what it's like being a typical woman dating because he dated a man who was bigger and more powerful than him and it made him really uncomfortable and he didn't want to do it again, then he realized this is just how dating is for women and how vulnerable they are and feel. He is aware of his privilege because he has the choice to not be in that position and he also has the choice to let people think he is straight. He also has to answer a multi-page sexual health form at the doctor after he disclosed that he had had sex with a man. When they thought he was straight he didn't have to discuss his sex life with his doctor. To most of the world he is a straight white man unless he goes out of his way to tell people he is bi or talks about his dating history. I had no idea that there was this much stigma against gay men. He and I talk about his sexuality and how I can support him being more open or openly identifying as bi-sexual if that is what he wants, but this has made me realize I may need to give him more space to share and discuss this if he needs to. Women being jealous and thinking they are competing with more people can't be further from the truth. It seems you are competing with a very small pool of people who will accept a partner who tells you that he is bi-sexual. I have definitely had thoughts about not being able to meet all of his needs or wants since he is attracted to both sexes, which is my insecurity, not something he is putting on me. This is just one more completely asinine thing we are putting on each other to use as an excuse to hate. WTF are we holding onto and creating more reasons to other and hate people?

As a bi trans guy, I’m simultaneously hyped and nervous for this premiere xD

@jimd8292

3 жыл бұрын

This video makes me want to cry as a cis bi guy I’m so sick of feeling like this

@radiomandelbrot5868

3 жыл бұрын

@@jimd8292 if you need support, r/BisexualMen is a good place to have a talk

@jameswyatt1726

3 жыл бұрын

@@jimd8292 I know lots of people who literally prefer to date bi men. Including myself.

@BlackMetalViking

3 жыл бұрын

@@Music_Engineering Not exactly original is it?

@JustAboutToEat

3 жыл бұрын

I feel like being bi is less accepted for men. What do u think?

As a bi man and I was outed by somebody I thought would keep my secret. I had girls coming up to me at school and asking me if they would want to hang out and stuff and they would talk to me about makeup and all. And when that would happen I felt very demasculated and mind you I am not saying it was the girls fault for acting that way because it was middle school when I came out, but it does tell us how women see bi men as "not as masculine as straight men" but " more masculine than gay men". Also, I had a lot of men saying "oh you probably had a crush on me then" and shit. I would also get called the "F word" in passing even though it was 2019 and it's widely known that word is awful. And when I would do on dates with a women I would ask " oh i'm bi, is that ok with you" and they would say yes and in a few months into the relationship she says she feels uncomfortable knowing iv'e been with men.

@unicorntomboy9736

3 жыл бұрын

That's awful. I hope things are better for you now

@tre-vort-ni5189

2 жыл бұрын

As a masculine bi guy, I related to this heavily

@Quetzalcoatl_86

2 жыл бұрын

@@tre-vort-ni5189 I'm bisexual but in tune with both my feminine and masculine side. But now that I'm getting older I just really trying to focus on the masculine.

@magnarcreed3801

2 жыл бұрын

Idk maybe they were trying to just include you? I’m a pretty masc woman and have been invited to those things. Also you were probably seen as safer than a straight man. Not to mention you probably (to them) had things in coming such as liking men. However being dumped after they find out is horrible. Sorry for you. Never understood why people hate bisexual men. Like two bisexuals in a relationship make sense. Just extra people watching ability! Also it would be fascinating to discuss different attractive people with them.

@Quetzalcoatl_86

2 жыл бұрын

@@magnarcreed3801 not trying to make this about me, but yeah my partner is also bisexual. I actually found out that most of my friends are bisexual. Only one of them is straight.

In my experience as a bi man, I've heard "bi guys are more likely to cheat" more times than I care to think about. I could be hitting off really well with someone, man or woman, and the second they find out I'm bi everything does a 180. It's a real blow to your perception of self especially if you've never cheated but have been cheated on by non-bi partners.

This is wild to me! I’m a femme genderqueer bisexual with a preference for (or at least more history with) men. But for the most part, I don’t seek out straight men as partners because there’s so much of who I am as a queer person that straight people don’t understand. And so most of the people I’m attracted to or look for in relationships are bisexual men. It’s so wild that there are people who refuse to date them full stop.

8:36 "does your parter have interests or a career? He's bisexual and likely a cheater!" who wrote this 😭😭😭

@TheKarret

3 жыл бұрын

Well, CLEARLY, to be a straight man, you need to have an interest in manly jobs, like lumberjacks or construction workers. /s

@ExeErdna

3 жыл бұрын

It's like bad memes online that basically make anything a man my like means they're gay. Like how did we double back to the 90s early 00s where everything was "gay"

@grizzlybear6377

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheKarret You had me "lumberjacks" and "construction workers". Oh wait- GODDAMMIT!

@TheKarret

3 жыл бұрын

@@grizzlybear6377 lmaao XD

Good timing as I've seen the discourse over the 'preference' to not date bi men all over TikTok. I think it's incredibly important to discuss how people still view bi men as tricking straight women into dating them. It feels eerily similar to the sentiment of trans women tricking straight men into dating them. Anyway, fantastic video as always, you make some of the best video essays on bisexuality on YT!

@magicalgirl4

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, that’s crazy. I have a huge preference for wanting to date a bi guy, which is mostly because I‘m queer and I also want a partner who’s from the community

@jospinner1183

3 жыл бұрын

@@magicalgirl4 Same! I can't imagine how wonderful it would feel to be able to talk about how hot various men and women are with a partner!

@xxMissKarixx

3 жыл бұрын

@@magicalgirl4 I feel this way too! My strongest relationships have been with fellow bisexuals and I can't imagine wanting to date a straight man

@Lincoln_Bio

3 жыл бұрын

Preference my ass, people wanna wake up and smell their own homophobia

@pinkneko13

3 жыл бұрын

More bi's for me then.

The best part of being a bi man is that I can make the joke, "I'm not gay, but my boyfriend is," with a straight face. Or as straight a face as I can make.

@builtinaday_2373

4 ай бұрын

Any face you make can only be half straight

My friend is a bisexual man and im a bisexual woman, we’ve both had the same experience dating both men and women, hes now with a man and happier than ever, hes still a bisexual man and im happy for him.

I already knew some of this but it's so saddening. My SO is a bisexual man and he's sweet, sensitive and deeply loyal. He's still not out to his family or most of his friends and it's because he's so afraid of judgment. He deserves better.

@kenansabic2901

3 жыл бұрын

Awwww that sounds so sweet. I bet he's an awesome dude.

@johnlondonbimeetup7961

3 жыл бұрын

I have a lot in common with your SO. Finding a woman who wasn't biphobic when I started coming out early on in dating them was almost impossible in the 2000s decade (hookups, I didn't usually tell them unless I knew they were accepting - certain scenes are better for that, like kink); the gay men I dated/hooked up with didn't get worried about it that I heard, but they still thought I was really just gay - which of course isn't a worry for them so much. Started coming out to close friends in last couple years - the ones I made before I felt comfortable being out. Most other friends I made from bi communities (e.g. my own meetup group I run). How did it go>? All good so far, one of them actually responded by coming out to me as pansexual! My wife is awesome; while she still had questions and fears, was ready to do the work and throw out what she'd heard about bi men from her gay friends (who told her to run a mile from them back in the 90s), in favour of my actual experiences and sharing who I was.

@mariebourgot4949

3 жыл бұрын

@@johnlondonbimeetup7961 So happy for you (from a bi/pan woman)! ^^ (also I see you everywhere in the comments under bi content on YT ^^)

@johnlondonbimeetup7961

2 жыл бұрын

@@mariebourgot4949 thanks! Yeah, I do watch a fair bit of bi content here and like to chime in every now and then in the comments. We/I'm on social media too if you want more! / even to join our group on Meetup :)

@caldw615

2 жыл бұрын

My parents don't know I am Bi, I don't think they are prejudiced people in particular but I still have this hesitation to tell them. I'm going to wait until my partner and I have our own place before I tell them for my own peace of mind.

This is why so many of us choose to just go bi4bi. Gay men and straight women do not always welcome us the way we deserve to be

@SamuelSamuelSamuel1

2 жыл бұрын

As a gay dude. I’m so sorry for the gay dudes who don’t accept y’all. And the lesbians who don’t accept bisexuals *Gold star shit* I wish biphobia didn’t exist. Bc there’s so many hot men 😭 the gay dudes who shrink their dating pool are just missing out. 💀

@TheYopogo

9 ай бұрын

How is that not homophobic? If a gay guy refuses to date bi guys simply because they're bi, that's clearly biphobic. How is this any different?

@asharathod8626

6 ай бұрын

Gay men reject you bi men and reason why they reject coz bi men use gay men just for pleasure and think straight relationships seriously that's why they reject you bi men and that's some gay men's experience in real life.

@HaplessOne

5 ай бұрын

This is a left over thing from the patriarchy that cis women still perpetuate. Its the idea that if youre bi, you might have bottomed before, and if you've bottomed, it means you arent as masculine and are submissive, becuase misogynists tie femininity to submission and see femininity as less than masculinity. If youre a bi woman its seen as sexy, if youre a bi man youre subconsciously viewed as less than other men. Then, since you arent fully gay, the gay community dismisses you as well.

@maxi979

5 ай бұрын

​@@asharathod8626No that's not, that's a bias

I'm bisexual, and whenever I hear someone is the same, it makes me really excited because then we can talk about our interests in all sexes together :)

This is so fucking infuriating every time I think about it. I literally remember hearing these things about bi people before I even developed sexual interest in any human at all. And the two major things that kept me from coming to terms with being bi was I. the constant shaming and misrepresentation of it and II. the idea of it being a “phase” and the fetishisation of it, especially with women (but let’s be honest men as well.) Still keeps me from coming out to my family to this day. I get nauseous every time I think about doing it and just imagine my dad say something along the lines of “oh so the liberals changed your sexuality now as well.” Like it literally doesn’t compute with some people.

As a bi nonbinary woman, sending love to bi men in the bisexual community and the lgbt community. Edit: not really sure why ppl are getting pressed ab my gender. This comment was supposed to be a bi 4 bi comment. I guess this just goes to show that not a lot of ppl have a very good grasp on lgbt history or gender. Its not my problem tho, so please stop giving me notifs. My original intent with this comment still stands, sending love to bisexual men! ☺

@zaragozamoralecione9846

3 жыл бұрын

Is that possible to be nonbinary woman?? I guess it doesn't work that way cuz to be 'nonbinary' means not to be either man or woman.. right?

@ave.9223

3 жыл бұрын

@@zaragozamoralecione9846 non binary just means out of the binary, not just "not a man and not a woman".. they might still have a connection to their womanhood or still identify as a woman partly. so yeah it is possible to be a non binary woman

@tobyhjerte6235

3 жыл бұрын

@@ave.9223 yes- thank you for explaining to the other commenter- :]] Have a very good rest of your day, m'dude 🧡

@zaragozamoralecione9846

3 жыл бұрын

@@ave.9223 so does it matter to be nonbinary then?

@ave.9223

3 жыл бұрын

@@zaragozamoralecione9846 what do you mean? in reality it's just a label - gender is confusing asf. so I guess it doesn't matter? depends how u look at it I suppose

Ironically, my legal name is Cheater but I'm not bisexual. So much for the idea that Bisexual and Cheater are the same.

@fillerbunnyninjashark271

3 жыл бұрын

F

@jimd8292

2 жыл бұрын

That’s awful, and on a side note why would someone name their son cheater? It seems like it would unnecessarily burden anyone with a stigma.

@davidcheater4239

2 жыл бұрын

@@jimd8292 It's a last name, therefore not optional. Most of my relatives had a name change to Chayter.

@jimd8292

2 жыл бұрын

@@davidcheater4239 makes sense

@morganpauls1873

2 жыл бұрын

@@fillerbunnyninjashark271 why do people put f in chat?

I think the stigma that bi men can’t be monogamous might be a huge contributor to this. My husband gets deer in the headlights from others when they learned we’ve been in a male/male monogamous relationship together for 27 years to date. He doesn’t sleep around and he masterbates to females adult material as well as men. There is a lot of stigma around bisexuals. Communication is important. People might be surprised if they actually communicate

23 year old bi male here I can confidently say throughout my time coming up in the world if I was ever open about being bisexual almost every time a girl would lose interest in me and even often times gay men would as well not gonna lie really hurt my confidence growing up then again I did grow up in the south so what did I expect

@Wishmaster787

Жыл бұрын

They think we aren't masculine enough. It really pisses me off that women can dress like guys, be covered in tattoos, have Star wars or Mcu as their favourite movies and listen to Metallica and still be seen as feminine but if a guy doesn't mirror an Arnold Schwartznegger character he's feminine.

@happyzombiikitti

Жыл бұрын

Im a non binary queer person in a female body, I love myself a bisexual man who’s open to exploring gender fluidity! Then again I’m 29 and I’m mature.

As a gay guy with a bi bf, i couldnt be happier to be in a wonderful relationship, the freedom i feel being able to express myself fully while not feeling held to gender ideals, because he likes both fem and masc things of both sexes, really allows me to feel comfortable experiencing my feelings. Bi and pan individuals are wonderful and true treasure.

@isaacthomas6544

Жыл бұрын

Same!! I'm gay bigender FTM and my 3 year anniversary with my bi boyfriend is in just under two weeks 🥳 At this point I truly think I'd only be comfortable dating bi men (we're polyamorous). I can be girl mode or boy mode around him and he loves both.

@speakersr-lyefaudio6830

Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@Grandmaster-Kush

Жыл бұрын

As a bi guy so far gay guys have been wonderful but to straight women it's a don't tell unless they ask basis, seems alot of cute guys like bi guys so I am happy.

@robertcohen8554

Жыл бұрын

@@Grandmaster-Kush I just came out as bisexual, and told the gay guy I just met that he would be my only guy and I may have a gf or fwb girl. I honestly think it wouldn't go further than a female fwb, since I'm predominantly gay 75/25% but I'm honestly attracted to women enough to know I'm bi, though it's once in a blue moon.

@DanDann

Жыл бұрын

THIS!! ALL OF THIS!!! I am WAY more interested in bi people specifically for this reason. There's this bizarre, mental, inbuilt freedom of expression (that SHOULD be present in ANY relationship but whatever). Like, I can be whatever I am that day/hour and just... not have to worry about gender norms....

As a lesbian, I'm here to make sure I give you the representation you deserve. The LGBT community fighted for my rights while I was still in denial attacking them. The least I can do is raise awareness towards others orientations and identities.

@beth7935

3 жыл бұрын

YOU ROCK! :)

@biruss

2 жыл бұрын

thnx. lesbian rights rock as well

@brennenkowtko9809

2 жыл бұрын

I do love some LGBT solidarity, thank you!

@EyeonthePrize247

2 жыл бұрын

🥺🖤

I remember the insane stress of being 13, realizing I’m a bi guy and going on a hardcore one year long journey of trying to „make a decision“ because it felt like everyone was expecting that of me. It was pure horror. I felt depressed and alienated and conflicted so much and it took so long to finally come to terms with it and gain confidence. They make it so fucking hard for us for no good reason at all I’ve internalised the concept of „passing“ so much that I still do it. All the time. Passing as i don’t even know what anymore. I wish they would stop putting so much meaning on sexual orientation, i hate it here

This is why I've never come out publicly.

Just a heads up, this is probably going to be emotionally quite intense, so be prepared!

@MidnightsGleam

3 жыл бұрын

I already feel like I’m going to really appreciate this video! When I went to bio life a few years ago, I filled out their survey and I put down that I had Sex with a bisexual man and they rejected my application on those grounds. I tried to talk to the head person there and she agreed the policy was out dated! But I still wasn’t able to participate in plasma donation! That AIDS fear is still abound.

@sweetyft

3 жыл бұрын

@@MidnightsGleam I had no idea about that kind of policies. It’s quite appalling.

@scottshaw3337

3 жыл бұрын

@@MidnightsGleam oh yeah, it's much the same here which means I'm often unable to donate blood (I have O- blood so I want to donate as much as possible) I understand some sexual acts carry a higher risk of sexual infections, but why restrict it to men who have had sex with men? Surely restricting anyone who's engaged in that sexual behaviour

@saransong5547

3 жыл бұрын

@@scottshaw3337 yes, the screening questions are absolutely ridiculous. I'm like do you want this O neg or not!

@PsychoSocialism

3 жыл бұрын

Funny enough, i just saw a random tweet that said "bisexual men, i love you" (i imagnine she was a fan of yours). That was the first time i have ever heard or seen those words. In nearly 30 years on this forsaken earth. I never understood how invisible we are and how good it feels to be seen. Then I saw this video and im crying. Thank you so much. Its good to know there are people out there who care about us.

My boyfriend and I are both bi and he went to give blood last year and they asked “have you had sex with a man in the past year?”. He answered yes and they turned him away. Shameful really that they still do this

@jorenvanderark3567

3 жыл бұрын

@@deltaxcd And the fact that you immediately searched for a bullshit reason to say that tells me that you are the kind of person who will never have a good fulfilling relationship and its all your fault.

@chickenskink1

3 жыл бұрын

@@deltaxcd ?? 1. OP might be a man (the man their boyfriend had sex with) 2. The intended blood-giving might have been before their relationship started (3. They may not be monogamous, which is entirely different from cheating)

@chickenskink1

3 жыл бұрын

@@deltaxcd excuse me, what word do most gay/bi men use to refer to their male partners? pretty sure it's "boyfriend" usually lmfao also hiv spreads just as easily with straight people, especially since condom usage is on the decline with birth control in pill form. the connotation of a "gay disease" is nothing but propaganda. so's the idea that multiple partners equals diseased. non-monogamous gay people are just as capable of safe sex as anyone else there is still no reason to assume op's partner cheated on them

@wetsocks7619

3 жыл бұрын

To the people having a feud in the comments can we just agree on the fact that the bf getting turned away was unjust? Thanks 🙃

@jonathanjoestar3068

2 жыл бұрын

@@wetsocks7619 I agree

My bisexual boyfriend is so scared to come out of the closet, and this video gave me more of an understanding on why that might be the case. He's white and straight passing, at the moment he is completely privileged. But if he comes out not only does he open himself up to homophobia but this underlying fear of bi men that never really went away. Thank you for giving me this insight to better understand his feelings! ❤

This is actually something I've noticed myself. The common answer to the question "would you prefer your partner be bi" tends to be "no, that means there's more people they could cheat on me with." After a bit of thought, if you do not even trust your partner to hang out with someone they could be attracted towards, you are an overly controlling and/or paranoid partner. Everyone deserves a degree of privacy. As an example, if your straight partner had a friend group where some people were of the opposite sex, it's absurd to expect them to cut contact just because they started dating you. If anyone is THAT threatened by their loved one just hanging out with someone "potentially attractive", they need to reevaluate how they think about relationships in general. Nobody wants their life to be severely restricted because their partner is obsessively paranoid about cheating. From a rational and healthy point of view, a bi partner is a lot of fun. Not only do they view their (possibly straight) partner as attractive, such a couple can also enjoy gay/lesbian porn together and discuss how hot the other gender is.

both of my exes are bi men, and i’m a bi woman. although i don’t miss dating either of them, it was undeniably nice to be with someone who understands my sexuality and doesn’t ask me to justify myself to them.

@austinholbrook6356

3 жыл бұрын

Is like a dropping of tension when they say their bi.

@wasabilover1293

2 жыл бұрын

@@Saixjacket 2 people? That aint much

@georgehuerta1990

Жыл бұрын

Amen

My abusive ex once told me that she "didnt like" that I was bi because "you might just fuck a man behind my back". I shouldve left her then. Massive red flag.

@holiests8715

3 жыл бұрын

i’m glad u got out

@righthere27

2 жыл бұрын

Shoulda said, "well so could you!"

@Jess-iq1bw

2 жыл бұрын

@@righthere27 good one

@billywise643

2 жыл бұрын

Friend of mine has a good saying for this: “when someone shows you who they are, believe them”

@georgehuerta1990

Жыл бұрын

She just don’t know any thing about bi men her loss

In Australia any man who has had sex with a man still has to wait a minimum of 3 months to donate blood. Doesn't apply to women tho, just a little sexism here

Biphobia pisses me off so much, the more open we are to each other the more we understand and learn. I've always felt more freedom with my bimale partners, and an understanding of my own shifting gender identity. I can't imagine the hate it takes to be so closed minded about it, among our own community it's especially painful.

I only just subbed and hadn't seen your vid on bi women so this title SCARED THE SHIT OUTTA ME 😅 I was like oh God no not another biphobe 😂

@Call-me-Al

3 жыл бұрын

Same as someone else who never has seen this channel before. I put it on my watch later playlist for later because I needed to brace myself because I thought I was going to have to argue against the video and the commenters in the comment section.

@Eralen00

3 жыл бұрын

Same, my initial reaction was like wtf? I think this video title could throw a lot of people off who aren't familiar with this channel.

@xXSpaceMexicanXx

3 жыл бұрын

As far as -phobes go, bi-phobes feel like they're not really there. I mean, I dont even think the LGBT community at large wants to acknowledge us. Fine by me tbh

@GoliathGrowler

3 жыл бұрын

@@Eralen00 The username would also be easily misconstrued as a red flag. I mean, verilybitchie sounds like a screen name picked out by a person who WANTS the world to know that they're a heartless piece of garbage who doesn't care what everyone else thinks.

@MacGuffinExMachina

2 жыл бұрын

So it wasn't just me. I'm still a little shaken or triggered by it. I hate admitting it. But this shit upsets me.

I remember when my now ex-boyfriend came out to me as bi. We were starting to hang out together a lot and by that point the sexual tension between us have started to become aparent. He said "Do you mind? That I'm bisexual?" and he sounded so scared, because... well, I already knew he'd dated men before, so if he was scared now it was because he might have thought I had a problem with bisexuality scpecifically. I remember I just laughed and said "I mean, I'm bisexual too, so... do *you* mind?" but it was said humurously because I already knew the answer to that, and it was the same answer I would have given him. But I felt bad for him because I'm sure he'd had negative experiences with coming out in the past.

@robertcohen8554

Жыл бұрын

I'm openly bi and am honest with the parties. I am only interested in a male partner and female fwb though. Just 2 people that's it.

@gmikes5184

Жыл бұрын

my ex cheated on me w a chick and why he broke up w me because he felt so guilty about cheating beyond he said he wanted to see if he may be bi. im like DAMN now i know how i woman feels. 😂 actually i was fine. he was a bit younger so i knew it was on a limited run/summer-winter affair.

@da009999

Жыл бұрын

Why did you two breakup?

@ninab.4540

5 ай бұрын

​@@da009999Maybe it just didn't work out.

Once you start a relationship with a bi man you’d never go back. 10/10 would recommend

i honestly find bi men typically more attractive because i'm bi myself and we'd probably have similar opinions and sometimes personality lol

@somerandommen

2 жыл бұрын

based and wholesomepilled

@wouldntyouliketoknowweathe19

2 жыл бұрын

Yea tru it'd be so cool just sitting around maybe spotting a beautiful las/lady and tell each other about it or just you would be able to be so relatable to each other!

@WinxMagicalHero

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@thesleepydot

2 жыл бұрын

same

@lifeaftermidnight6132

2 жыл бұрын

Aw that's so cute