Being "selfish" is just setting healthy boundaries for yourself , so you can attract high quality man 😊

@smokeybirdman

2 жыл бұрын

😅 No.

What I learned about my past relationship is the sex was great. These are the reasons men don't commit. Now keep in mind women don't always want or need a commitment. 1. He still wants to play the field 2. There's someone else 3. He's got other priorities 4. He's got baggage 5. He's afraid it won't work out 6. None of his friends have committed 7. He's only in it for the sex 8. He's not into you enough to commit 9. You're pressuring him too much to commit

Perfect, Thank you Jonathan. Self love, yes it takes practice. It could also mean walking away from someone you love, who is not meeting your needs. Loving yourself more than you love them..

@katarzynalanda7179

3 жыл бұрын

This is the hardest part for a woman - to leave sb, who you love and put yourself first!!! We woman were taught differently from ages and probably thanks that our human species survived and even exploded on the Earth. Nowadays there is No need for that anymore as there are too many people living on the Earth. We can then live our own live for our own purposes not for good of society!!! Good for us - women😁

But do men notice and appreciate this in women? And when I extend compassion and grace to men I'm seen as too nice. We as women have been given SOOO MANY mixed messages about how we 1. Are 'supposed to attract' a man. 2. Are not supposed to be needy. 3. Blah, blag, blah..... I have absolutely no idea how I'm supposed to be!

@shirleymartin4938

4 жыл бұрын

Sweetie just be yourself...but while you are yourself...watch out for the red flags and just know what you'll tolerate and what you wont! Take Madonnas advice...Express yourself and let them know how you feel....if they dont like it they will disappear and do you a favor. You only want someone in your life you can be honest with and will be honest with you!

@accountability1057

4 жыл бұрын

Be authentic to you. People can feel people pleaser energy and it's a turn off. Do you.

@lindalnd90

3 жыл бұрын

I love how he liked your comment but had no response to it. Goes to show how contrary all of the information out here about dating is.

I finally get it Jonathon. Don't waste any of your precious love on someone who has shunned you. Give that love to yourself instead 🙂

I just found this. It's 2 years old, but I have a suggestion. Sexy, beautiful, attractive women are seen as selfish because by the time they meet you, their sexy, beautiful, attractive selves are accustomed to being favored throughout their lives and matches have come easily for them, so they know that if they are "selfish" or engage in any other perceived to be negative behavior, another match will come along. They can be as rude, unpleasant, self-centered (in a bad way), and rejecting as they want because there will always be another partner. Thus they nearly always have the power in any situation, because rejection is rare and also because it has very little effect on the beautiful woman’s path to find love.

For too long women have put other people’s needs over our needs and wants.

@Mockduck2020

3 жыл бұрын

Well, this society was pretty much set up for that.

Nothing wrong with being selfish if it protects me from getting hurt cause I would like to keep my self love in 1 piece instead of picking up the pieces once more

I agree! I haven’t dated for years and enjoy my own company. I am ready to date that now….I am pushing myself to date actually. Your videos are helpful. Thanks a lot!

I think it's four finger pointing at us. My second grade teacher once taught me that if you point on finger toward others, you are pointing four finger toward yourself. So this made me think before I point a finger toward others and be super concious about my actions. Because I believe everything has their own meaning, which includes why I took these actions. So yeah, thank you for reminding me this again.

I know dating someone and I was fully transparent and they chose to "ghost" me, but that's ok, but I've learned a lot from that process.

Love it! Binged watched your videos. I feel inspired.

I loved this!! So true. I love that I have done the work, have self love and no longer need or HAVE to have someone to be in my life to feel complete. I no longer have the anxious attachment style. I mean I'd LIKE someone in my life and If it works, it works because it works for both of us. So much freedom and peace in this. Thank you for sharing this!

This video is amazing! Hugs, J!!! I am so glad you included treating others who are "not in a relationship" with us. I want more videos like that because I don't want estrangements with anyone. I am watching this video multiple times because the affirmations are so powerful! Thank you, Jonathon. 🤗🤗🤗

I’m keeping this video in my self love section. It’s so nice to hear this coming from you!!! You are so right , self love is. everything. 😊

Not if she has abandoned her young children cause she wanted to study psychology at a university.

I love the PASSION.... in your teachings✌🏻❤️

One of the best videos ever.. thank you Jonathan ❤

Thank you so much, Sir Jonathon. Godbless you as always. 😊👍

Thank you, Jonathon for your lovely words!

@JonathonAslay

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you... 😊

That was one powerful message.

Really appreciate you, Jonathan 🤗

I luv your videos. Your guidance are honest and I feel you are very passionate about your work.loads of self love✌️✌️

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Oh thank you!

Your kick ass thanx I appreciate the many things you say

Love your video as always.

I would only add that since my current singlehood was NOT chosen - not from divorce, but from my beloved mate's death - I AM feeling painfully lonely, even while I'm cultivating and practicing self love, everything I can do to improve my health, join a new community to be part of, serve others to feel more peace and contentment, etc. It's all helping, but damn it. We made something so sweet and I miss it terribly. Feeling "complete" alone, after all I've lost? That's going to take some serious time. Maybe years.

Thank you Jonathon! You are so correct in what you said.

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

Coach Jonathon 💪 Selfish Women's called " Bitches Winches "

I handled it well. now others are aware of creeps who are clueless on how to treat others,.

Its give and take- Invest wisely.

Good video. Thank you.

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Glad you liked it!

I agree with you 100%.

Thank you!!!

Amen to self love 💕

In my experience men really often name a self loving, selfish woman egotistic, a drama queen, omnipotent (not the word most men use. ) and a hore, when a woman turn up self confident and satisfied with her body and soul.. I've gotten threads from men .. don't turn up to confident. It's not becoming for you ⁉️ I'm getting pretty tired by the entitlement and egoistic coldness. You get to know after a couple of dates.. fuckers

What a great video❤

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you

Love ya Jonathan ♥️

Nurture my own love cup.. 💚

I'm agree

Please Lord, let me die. This PTSD is killing me. Please, please, please, let me die. I can't bear to go on. I don't breathe. I can't breathe. I am tortured and tormented. I'm in hell with no escape. I want to die. Please please please let me die. I can't bear the pain. I'm in hell with no escape. I want to die. These panic attacks are killing me. I can no longer bear the pain and the distress I'm in. I beg to die. I could die from the pain. I'm submerged in darkness. No light at the end of the tunnel. I'm desperately alone and completely traumatized. PANIC AND TERROR ALMOST CONSTANTLY FLOOD ME. I am paralyzed and traumatized and debilitated and breathless, with almost-constant panic attacks. In February of this year (2023), the man whom I thought was my best friend... Discarded me like garbage. Replaced me for another. In doing so... He gave me SEVERE PTSD. SEVERE SEVERE SEVERE. We're in July, now... It's been almost exactly 5 months... I MUST GET OVER THIS and MOVE ON... Please, help me, God! *I command AND DEMAND, with all power and authority in me: every spirit of fear/anxiety/terror/panic/depression/loneliness to come up and out of me: NOW! To leave me now, and to never EVER come back! In Jesus' precious holy mighty name! 🙏🏻 Hallelujah!*

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

🙏

Alignment..Choose a nurturing man. A giver.

We all got beautiful issues I’m hot mess but I own it baby Shanna in Atlanta

Shouldnt say that I am selfish, but good to know, thank you.... ☺️

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

Awesomeness ❤️🙏

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks 🤗

Does Self love comes with conditions or boundaries?

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Expressing boundaries is healthy for sure... 👍

they pretended to be Alan Jackson and Mr. Michael Bolton yesterday and today. I wrote one and was told I was Hoaxed. That never mind all the things we endured in two years. Do I know love? yup. But those that do that do not know love. I just figured it needed some words politely. So we see harassment cruel been done after my spouse has died then my public told of heart attack.Here I am nice caring soul. ya . I know what love is . I know what it is not too.

You need Ferrari Red glasses Mr Jon 🤓‼️

Like to listen to you.🌞

Lmao when women explain away their selfishness with "self love."

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🌻🧡🧡💛🧡🧡🌻

Retirement is my dream job. I can't afford to love myself. I'm too high maintenance. 😂😂😂

If a woman look for happiness from her man, just find a Santa......hahahahahahha

Then how come in one of your previous video,about"independent and strong women" you contradict your self and said that selfish it was a turn off for you...how about that?:))))

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

Did you watch this video? Can you show me where I contradict myself?

@dariarosca8000

3 жыл бұрын

@@JonathonAslay I comm in that video just now,I don t know to put it here(the video)

this is selfish? then i am very selfish \^o^/

I'm becoming selfish NOW !!

Jonathon Most we knew was a Hoax. But I figured once they hit two Musicians it time to speak some. So all understand that not love. chuckles, ha? sorry sweat heart.

Yes till men marry those selfish women and soon divorce them-

americans do not talk, they shout. they´re annoyingly loud. and slow. complete turn off! a quiet norwegian

@leximallas3008

4 жыл бұрын

They are passionate..and may come from communal based cultures...I am Greek...we are honest and open and passionate! Non communal based people may simply struggle with intimate connection, sharing and honesty....inner awareness in the context of others.

@themetricsystem7967

4 жыл бұрын

@@leximallas3008 i think you confuse intimacy, connection, sharing and honesty with coming from communal societies or not. passion is also expressed in different ways in different cultures. very hard to put two cultures up against each other and measure which one is more or less passionate

@leximallas3008

4 жыл бұрын

@@themetricsystem7967 True...but it may be that when you are from a communal-based culture (for lack of a better word) it may offer a larger breadth of exposure/plethora of experiences from which to run through the received 'passion'... One from those backgrounds also may have a deeper pool of perreception in which to discern.. maybe more empathy bc of the breadth of exposure too..?? Idk...I'm open to learning...Oye...All I know is this country seems to have a tool box to turn to in challenging times that appears quite empty...I mean, it may be filled w bottles and pills and food ..lately I just can't help but think of Odysseus on his journey and all the distractions that lured the ego...especially when they stopped at the island and the men succumbed to the lotus plant... Which now could symbolize alcohol, food, drugs, convenient hate... But what do I know? 😁😷🌈

@themetricsystem7967

4 жыл бұрын

@@leximallas3008 i think you know very little about norway, norwegians, our culture and social codes. thinking people are less empathic because they show emotions more discrete, is truly far fetched. i struggle to take you seriously

@leximallas3008

4 жыл бұрын

@@themetricsystem7967 whatev yo...you had an opportunity to be kind and empathic now and you didn't choose that path...ego...no problem... We will not evolve as a consciousness until we all lift each other up out of our bilogical muck and these platforms provide that possibility and opportunity...if so taken..c'est la vie! 😊

No they’re fucking not lol