There are still men who are in their 50’s and still FBOYS, have not done the inner work/healings. It’s sad that they still exist in this age group still not knowing who they are.

@freshclean7036

3 жыл бұрын

Not only in their 50's. I work with one who is 66. He takes two shots and have a beer every night before he goes to bed. Men are always talking about women hitting the wall. Men have their issues, but come down on women. There just no end, or so it seems.

@gatoking616

3 жыл бұрын

Got to dump those guys. I dated one of those for about 3 months and broke it off. You can really see who they are by the third month.

@RC-cl2cf

3 жыл бұрын

Ok

@trulaallen5590

3 жыл бұрын

Yep.... LOTS of F'BOYS out there for sure ,ALL AGES!

@sunnyson2503

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

If you allow to be around men who pursue only sex. Exactly the reason why women are single for extended chunks of time. I'd rather be single and independent than with a guy who just wants "to hangout" or "Netflix and chill" idiots who just don't want to make an effort to go out, pay, or even think of places to go. No dating sites, I'll swipe no, Alex for $500.

@jfuriouse1234

5 жыл бұрын

Carie Balberg, men don’t want to “pay” for your time, when they know somebody else is most likely not. No women should settle for a guy who only wants sex, but no man should settle for a women that only has sex to offer. Specially if that’s all she has to offer and she wants to make you earn it, while giving it away for free elsewhere.

@MariaMedina-lj4kt

3 жыл бұрын

@@jfuriouse1234 I think that by "pay", Carrie means when you go out you have to spend money, not necessarily with the woman, but with yourself. Your own dinner, your own ticket for the movies, whatever. And it's true, many men prefer the "Netflix and chill", because going out implies a bigger investment of time and money. If a woman is not worth that investment, then leave us alone altogether. I hate wasting money and time too.

@SomewhataMystery

3 жыл бұрын

Being off the market not looking women just doing things for themself being sexy for themself.

@skyehagenstein7883

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve been noticing the same. They don’t plan dates ! They expect you to plan everything and they don’t want to “court” a Woman! Yawn 🥱

Dating can be boring especially if the guy has no personality and asking the same question over and over. Lol🤣🤣🤣 Thanks Jonathan for another great video❤

Here's the problem with everything that you just said. Men are predominantly looking for sex before a certain age, women are looking for a relationship and especially nowadays you have that dynamic. Women are tired of investing in men only to find out over and over and over again that the guy just wants sex with no committment.So by the time we get to around your age and we have tried and tried and tried to get a man to want to commit, at that point we don't care anymore. At that point we've already learned how to be self-sufficient and fulfill our own emotional physical and spiritual needs. Now obviously this doesn't apply to all women but it's very frustrating to hear that yeah men basically just want sex until they hit their 50s then they're ready to go. 🙄

@Sarah-es2qf

4 жыл бұрын

Julia Isabella. I totally agree. By the time woman catch up with our sexual freedom and total desire (after raising kids, working in the house) etc etc. Men are more interested in finding someone to take care of them as they age. So now they just want to be home bodies. I believe Sex is the only entity in which men mature faster and stronger than women. Sad....

@karenmassey8354

4 жыл бұрын

THIS.

@MariaMedina-lj4kt

4 жыл бұрын

I'm 40 and I quit love (if you can call it that) relationships before I was 30. I was done with men not wanting to commit, not being emotionally available, and just being plain selfish. I've been self sufficient since then.

@weekendnomad5038

3 жыл бұрын

Yesss this is how I feel with online dating I’m starting to get discouraged

@helenellsworth9556

3 жыл бұрын

Then you haven't met a vegan Scorpio or virgo 🤔

After a life of regular dating I decided to abstain from sex until marriage. Talk about dividing the wheat from tare and fast! Wish I had started this way earlier. If you are serious about marriage this keeps you from wasting a lot of time.

@bevballentine8390

3 жыл бұрын

I think I would love to try this approach. Thankyou

@Rigoletta53

Жыл бұрын

Seriously?

I took a risk last year and texted a guy first and I was so nervous and scared of rejection especially since I thought guys should always come to a girl and I was with my ex husband from 17 to 34. So I didn’t know anything about dating. LoL I was terrified of rejection but I thought, I really like this guys profile and I need to grow a pair and just try, if not, I’ll regret it and could miss out on something good...and you know what.... we’ve been together a year now and I’m thankful everyday I took that chance.

@emstevesocials594

4 жыл бұрын

Melissa Brown Good for u my son is really shy like I was I wish he would try like that Best wishes to you

@n-emeanzdavis122

3 жыл бұрын

In the beginning of you 2 dating did he ever pull back?

@melissabrown5104

3 жыл бұрын

n-e meanz davis Umm.... not immediately per say. He did pull back about 5 months in but it was mainly because he was going through a lot of stressful issues he didn’t really want me worrying about like family, a business deal, then Covid, where he got stuck in the country where his fam is, so he pulled back. He didn’t want to stress me out or seem weak in front of me when he was not in a good head space. From what he told me and from what I’ve seen on vids, A lot of “masculine” guys want to be the strong one who can fix all problems and be the rock even when they are stressed. They want to be alone to handle/solve the issues they’re going through and not put that on their girl. He said I was his peace so he didn’t want to not be mine. It was def frustrating and sometimes hurtful cause I wanted to be there for him cause I love him but he wouldn’t let me. But at the same time, I get where he was coming from cause I do the same thing myself,. So that was hard to deal with at time however, he still didn’t go more than 2-4 days without checking in with me in some way either by a quick call or text to make sure I was ok.

Preach it! Men have a much, much higher sex drive. They are chasing sex, not a loving and healthy relationship. I want a mature man who will be friends first.

@Amateur_Pianist_472

3 жыл бұрын

Or maybe men are just more desperate?

@SomewhataMystery

3 жыл бұрын

If you want mature be the same reflection and respect you deserve pass it in the universe. Get rid of the I want what you reflect in yourself.

@zayanhiin8950

2 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, there is no such type of men that became extinct with dinosaurs

@sherriflemming3218

5 ай бұрын

They are often sexually needier

Even though I’m a woman, I’ve totally been experiencing the same thing! Going from sex driven to suddenly being bored by dating...thank you for vocalizing this.

I found it attractive when men ask me a question:)

This vid was good for dating tips, but not getting the answer to the title of whether a guy is just interested in sex or wanting a relationship 🤔

@TheSharronW

4 жыл бұрын

I thought that too. The video was an interesting insight into the male psyche though.

@gigi9301

3 жыл бұрын

I thought the same thing...doesn't deliver information as advertised. You can pretty much tell, though, if he loses interest and isn't as eager after second or third date without sex, even though you seem to have a lot in common and have had good conversations. That's not he wanted; he was hoping to charm your pants off; when that didn't happen, he decided to keep fishing.

You are exactly correct! The one word that scares men to death is commitment..heaven forbid they consider someone else’s feelings..sex is but the icing on the cake! It is NOT the cake! If you don’t taste the cake itself first, then you miss the icing..it’s that simple!

People need love/validations. Sex should be due to love not just lust. A guy can have lust for many women. A woman wants a guy to love only her and want only her. Sex is cheap. Touch/hugs are needed and communication and praise etc. Guys wanting sex only is not ok. Guys wanting sex first and relationship later may pick the wrong woman. Testosterone may increase sex drive. Zn may increase testosterone and no gluten may help more nutrients absorb in intestines. Who wants sex with a guy they don't know or someone you don't enjoy or a guy who bothers you? Dating should be getting to know the person since you have nothing in common in reality or not be compatible. I don't want to "date" from the internet since it is too scary. If I dress up the guy may help with a door etc..but I want a guy who wants my personality.

This is so clever! Really appreciating the authentic mindset that has gone into making this video. Starting to get a much more realistic understanding of the dating world I've never ventured into.

Wow!!! I watch so many relationship videos and your material is so helpful!!!!

Dating isn’t boring, online dating is boring.

"I want a relationship/ I want a relationship " 🤣🤣🤣🤣 oh my God, I just loved this part of the video!!! perfect!!! love you so much!!!

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

👍

@olive6373

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha

Love the ACE acronym!! Good stuff as always. 🙃

Love to hug you too Jonathon! You have a great smile, energy, and fantastic advice.

Actually all men want sex and wish to get sex on the first date even if the want a relationship

@Miko-yw5xt

4 жыл бұрын

the problem isn't that they want sex but in my experience it makes them think with the wrong head. my love language is quality time, I like a guy who's playful and fun outside the bedroom to but the guys I was referring to in my original comment made it obvious they think with the wrong head...x

@Miko-yw5xt

3 жыл бұрын

@A. A. Maybe not, ha ha...x

@SashaSamara

3 жыл бұрын

Not all men. My date doesn't think sex without true love is good.

@Miko-yw5xt

3 жыл бұрын

@@SashaSamara a man in a million...x

I love this. Enthusiasm is very important. Strangely enough, I don't get guys to appreciate the compliments. I always use them in opening messages. But I'll get nothing back but a weak "Thank you" in return. You're brilliant about the perfect strangers and the leaning back crap.

@klickingkayasmr7585

4 жыл бұрын

Yup! Agreed

Love your channel I'm dating an older guy. Such a gentleman caring all that. Corrects me gently but I give him hell when need to. He doesn't get upset he is a protector I like all that.

I love you're acronyms and how you tie them into your videos and advice

I just turned 50 and I understand what your saying but I still find myself in situations where even the guys my age are only interested in sex and in most cases I wasn't even on a date with them. they pounce or lunge so i can't engage in the fun of the process. at the moment i feel self conscious if a guy looks my way and my first instinct is to step aside so he can check out who's behind me...x

@cheryallenjenkins9800

3 жыл бұрын

I hear you.

Hi Jonathan. Think it is good to hear from a maturer guy as lots of podcasts I've come across I think there for the younger bunch. I've just turned 50 and have been hearing that lean back info....and I have.. so wondered if I come off as too laid back to be honest 🤔🤔 now???

I really appreciate your videos, i love the poster behind you, about Love. I am enthusiastically sharing your knowledge with my daughter.

You are so honest and straight up. Thanks.

I can't believe I didn't find this before today as long as I've been watching you. Hearing about meeting a man at the 50-yard line and that as man becoming more mature leads them to look for more than just sex is not only refreshing, it takes some of the fear away, at least for me of dating. So by watching this it made me feel more at ease. Your videos are always great yet I can see from this one how you've changed and grown by coming more at ease in doing videos over the past couple of years. Great job Jonathan and so happy to find this little piece of your video history with more of the good advice that you always give to your audience. It's also nice to see how your subscriber numbers are rising, 37.1K, and growing. Well deserved. BIG HUGS to you.

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

Awe... thank you for noticing 🙏

I meet men at 50 yard line... I use the word appreciation...a lot.. Hopefully my one and only will come to me.. Thanks for special, powerful words and advice...

I like the idea of investment! Use “appreciate”. Thanks for that! I appreciate your candor Jonathan.

Perfect, as usual, great info, Yeah. don't put put in more effort, than he does . ..ACE . .so easy to temember Thanks Jonathon

Omg I watched this again!!! This is really good advice. You just helped me out tremendously. I was in that leaning back space and it's not even me. I was literally giving myself anxiety. Omg he was at the 50 yard line waiting for me 🤦🏽‍♀️ After watching I decided to be myself and if it's ment to be it will be if not I'm good and I will move on. THANK YOU so much for sharing your views.....starting at 6:40

Appreciation( thank you) Compliments ( great energy in the picture) Enthousiasme ( positive energy)

Thank you so much for your amazing video. Have your blessed day and good night from me here.

I appreciate your honesty about men’s sex drive in their mid years. I honestly just treat the date as a new friend and I have to say. In the first 15mins, we are full convo and laughing. I then let my flirty feminine wiles come out a little which now makes us to open up to learning each other. I did this when I got back to dating after 25yr relationship out of my own anxiety about dating. It resulted in breaking down the walls enough to share. I want laughter and a new friend mentality on the first few dates.

Love your videos. So refreshing and real. I do all the ACE things yet don't meet the same ... there's no meeting in the middle. They make no effort. Plus they avoid commitment these days. I notice they don't ant to make room in their life for a relationship. It's so disheartening. Would like to meet someone like you lol

Thank you thank you thank you Johnathon! 🙏This is so important for people in your/our age group to know and none of the other coach's address it because they are talking to a 25-35 demographic. We are being constantly told that's all men want, or think that we are still 20, 39, even forty whereas you are right! In our age group it's not the sex, the drive for constant sex isn't even there anymore due to age.

When I first met my now boyfriend, we waited three months to have sex , we are both over 45.

@susanbates9649

4 жыл бұрын

Yes 50 /50

@karenwilliams2068

Жыл бұрын

Amen

I appreciate these heart warming and direct videos!

Wow I really love ur videos!..so informative!thanks a lot❤️

The only time I want a guy around is when I need to get the air conditioner out of the window for fall/winter.

@ilenek.5428

3 жыл бұрын

Aieeee, yie, yieeeey.

@Beautytrends77

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂🤣🤣😂😂

@sherryyancosek1347

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@cynthiacrawford1573

3 жыл бұрын

I can do that without a man.If I have a man around it's because I'm seeing where its going.

@heide-raquelfuss5580

3 жыл бұрын

The only time i want a guy around is, when i want to have sex. It is honest..., is it not? Hihihi! I never had a dream about a having a relationship. I never had a dream about getting married. I never had a dream, about being a full time cleaner, cooker, nurser, psycholog, momy, sex worker, gardener, mechanic, carpenter, trashman, callgirl, handyman, doing 24 h surveillance, do the laundry, ioroning, secretary, giving bank loans, moneymaker, all round attendant, the constant listener, punchingbag, pornstar, loan payer, cash payer, a silent doll, trip advisor & stewardess, parents in law maid. And a mother, who had to protect her eggs allone anyway and feed/nurture, teach 24h to get them started anyway! My dream was not going under, collapsing 24/7 from the start of meeting a man or dozens of serial men, and discovering men are not providers, not safe, not there for you, not cooperating, not having you back, not there fir your wellbeing. There is no mutual benefit fir a woman to even consider being with a man. Unless you are using him, like he is using you. But i realize, that is a scam. Because a woman has an uterus. So, she is basically fucked literally and figuratively anyways in any sircumstance. Nature fools women all the time. Why women want love and commitment/marry with a man? Why men want not love and commitment/marry, with a woman? Guess what? Men want to fuck every single female, young or old, to spread uncontrolably into the world every single DNA cell of theirs..and...run!!! Run, run, to next uterus!!! Women dream about a bond, commitment, love...and so on, because after the sexual uncontrolable sex act, there 99% chance, that in 9 months a real DNA human little creature comes out. The safty a woman craves all her life is because she 'depence for survival' on a male partner, who conceived her a baby. Even with anti- conception this instinct and wanting do not go away! Why woman crave so much love? Because a love seeking woman, will hopefully seek a man, who can love. That also has to do with her higher survival rates in many ways... A man in love, loving her..., will less likely=====>> Kill her. Rape her. Wound her. Leave her. Be mean to her. Cheat on her. Punching her. Do her harm in any way. Use her. Taken her for granted. Leaving her with all the work with daily life, children etc. Molest sexualy their offsoring. Lying to her. Manipulate her. Leaving her unprotected. To abuse the children. Haras her. This man will rather===> Protect her, his or their children, her family with no ill intentions behind it for ever. Because he loves her. He will be loyal and allways there for her, for the DNA babies of theirs, havibg her back. Protect & nurture, feed the offspring!!! She, the woman feels not all allone. Not allone with the DNA offsoring from a male. Not allone in this big god damn hard world, with a constant struggle to survive. Nature is hard. Remember that. But for a man, it is not important to look for a relationship, love, commitmant & marriage. Men do not get pregnant. Do you see here the problem and solution? I could go on... Bless you and i hope this helps.

Men want what they can't have or ones that are difficult to get.

It’s funny you mentioned using the word appreciation. I’ve been big on using that word even more lately in relationships and really with everyone in my life. You’re right that people really enjoy knowing they are appreciated. :)

Right on. I am learning so much from your video.

~ Love & Gratitude for your efforts on assisting people, who are not sure of who they are, in the world. But sometimes, it seems like there is way too much "game playing" strategies, being taught to people, that may actually inhibit their true, beautiful nature. ~ Our unique qualities are our true value & if we all adopt similar strategies, it seems we can become quite superficial. ~ So the people I would choose to establish a meaningful relationship with, are only those who do not follow text book responses & are able to stand in recognition of their own unique & individual beauty. ~ ~ Some of the most memorable people I have encountered, are not pre-programmed, but respond from the heart, in beautiful, individual ways, in the moment. ~ ~ Wishing everyone well, as you find your own true path, to happiness. ~

Jonathon - Thanks for this video. It was helpful.

Oh I love this. I really do. Thank you so much. I highly appreciate your videos

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoy it!

Another great video Jonathan. You are so funny. I have a blast watching your videos. 😊

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you like them!

Jonathon I appreciate your efforts on this channel more than I can express. Midlife dating is a different kettle of fish for sure. Your insights tally with my intuition as a woman who wants to meet a male human halfway is so affirming. Stay juicy!

@Rigoletta53

Жыл бұрын

I hear ya sista. Gotta exercise to “stay in shape ”. … if you don’t get it once in a while you will literally dry and clamp up. Good luck!

Love listening to you. You speak plan and simple

Internet dating ( and I have done plenty of it) 58, single 6 plus years, has obviously been the massive game changer. Even when two people seemingly click so well, people, (mostly men) are so reticent to invest, because they have this massive fear of missing out on some elusive person, that never shows up. Women are guilty too, but men are now like kids at a lolly scramble.

People just need to relax and just enjoy each other

@francescalegrand6257

3 жыл бұрын

I disagree. Having sex with a man too soon makes them look down on you !!

Hate the way I let a man use me just to feel wanted. He started out taking me out only twice. He has too many issues. He loves his daughters. Great at coparenting. He is on disability. I live close by. Convenient. I have a house he lives in a small rental.

I appreciate your videos, and time.

Hi, Jonathan. I appreciate your desire to enlighten others about how things happen between men and women, and deciphering what is needed today on the dating scene. We really need these insights and discussions. I thought I would explain a little about the "Me Too" movement to you. The subject of harassment and rape, is a prevalent aspect of most women's lives; and I, along with the men, was quite surprised about this when so many women weighed in on this, initially. Because up until then, WOMEN HAVE NEVER TALKED WITH EACH OTHER ABOUT IT. From this realization, one can understand the level of secrecy that women have kept on this subject for centuries for a few good reasons, foremost of this would be retribution by men in general; yes, I am sorry to say that, but most men have no clue that women are often in danger, because they don't experience a woman's world.. I am an upper middle class American with a normal upbringing, i.e , no violence or sexual abuse. Over the years between now and then (about 30 years) I was nearly raped three times by total strangers who were looking for an opportunity to do it. I was alone each time for no particular reason; once in my own dorm room (a friend of my roommate who I didn't even know); once when I was in France visiting some friends; and once at a healthclub which wasn"t crowded because it was a Sunday. But there were other inappropriate advances by men before that when I was only 17. The farrier who used to shoe our horses and was a friend of my parents and watched me grow up, while I spent hours holding our horses when he did his work. He was married. I remember wishing I wasn't born a woman if I was going to be subjected to unwanted sexual advantages my whole life. There are more on this list but it is simply an occupational hazard of being born a woman. Me Too was important to us because now the truth is being exposed. This has nothing to do with legitimate signs of affection from a man. Please do not be hesitant or frightened because of it. Women feel angry at times, and so would you be, if the assumptions were made that you wanted sex with someone that you didn't, and never encouraged. We have to be allowed our anger so we can let it go and find solutions, part of which is justice, as in Harvey Weinstein, etc. Whenever a sexual criminal is discovered and faces consequences, we can relax a little more. I hope this has educated your view a bit more so you can continue to relate to women freely in a healthy way.

YES!!! I believe you've got a great slant on this. Will remember the tip of expressing "appreciation" also complimenting. Think it's been said that most men don't cheat just for the sex. They long for a woman to again make them feel great about themselves. We all need that mojo working. It brings a sparkle to one's eyes. It's worth letting one's personality come thru, and being enthusiastic. If the other party is flatlined, move on. If he's nothing but a horndog, one can sense so, and cut the date short.

Thank you. This have been helpful.

This 50 yard mark is a good visual for me. I definitely need this reminder.

I'm a holistic nutritionist and low vitamin D3 levels can affect your sex drive. I'm old over 60 I take 10k units a day and still have a high sex drive

@Sarah-es2qf

4 жыл бұрын

Sandra Mcleod I'm over 60 as well. No vitamins no medications, no particular diet or exercise routine. Healthy for my age and also have a healthy sex drive. Could it be hereditary?????

@sandramcleod9723

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe for you but not for me. And everyone is different. What is for sure is that overall our vitamin D3 levels are low. And I'm 71 and this is a current pic of me

@freespirit3818

4 жыл бұрын

I'm 57. Been on hrt for over a year and my sex drive had been really high since starting HRT. The doc also recommend D3 vitamin. So there might be something in that?!

Thank you for your videos. Very real.

Jonathan I love you you always take your time to explain in depth. Thank you so much for your advice, I really really appreciate you.

I did every single thing u mentioned with my ex. Any thing he found to criticise I changed. I finally realized that he wasn't ever putting in the same level of effort. If I even dared to speak of his treatment of me it was turned back on me he would get mad and totally ghost me. So I began reading Psychology Today and the articles defined him as a total Narcissist. He fit into every pattern. After suffering 5 years of this I was able to break the trauma bond and move on to loving and caring for myself. It is extremely hard to break from them but I did. I feel like a weight has been lifted off me. Thank u for ur advice 💕

Thankyou for cherish your tips

I’m dating men in both categories I realize. Most them men I’m dating are in 20s-30s but I’m 40 so there are some that are in the mid 40d range, so I’ll consider this with them.

This is such an important video! Thank you!

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

My pleasure 😊

Thank you for advise really appreciate your comments

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

So, how does a woman find love if she believes in waiting for marriage before being intimate??

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

Date men who feel the same as you...

I do think a degree of the attraction element, lust, is some if the glue that gets and keeps a couple together. But love is more than lust. Seeing past the looks/shape to the personality matters. And I think being, or becoming friends helps. 🤔

Man or actually probably boy no matter his age, wanted a pic I wasn’t comfortable giving as we’d not gone on our date yet. Up until then all was great he was going nuts with excitement about us and our mutual communication, calls, texts, video chats but as soon as I said no he argued he’d sent a pic of him with no top on so there was no equality but wrote it like a joke so I laughed. I didn’t hear from him again except him stalking my social media because I wouldn’t send a stranger a sexy pic before meeting!!! So basically my self worth meant nothing??!!! Damned if you do damned if you don’t as had i sent the pic he’d think I send them out to every man but by saying no he’d not get what he wanted. 🤦‍♀️

@maryklatka5989

3 жыл бұрын

@Kylie Baby good for you for setting strong boundaries. Don't lose your own self respect.

Here is a compliment for you...nice hair and nice haircut

Now you know what we , or the majority of us, have always experienced; Dating without an overwhelming libido. That’s been our whole romantic life. Hmmmm..Just looking at the person. If leaning back is the biggest problem, you’re a lucky being.

Thank you from an older woman ♥️

There are man out there chasing woman for her financial security. Don’t forgot that.

Thank you saying this. I want to ask men out, and I do. I ask them out probably more than they do, sometimes. Then I hear my friends say I should let the guy do the work.

Thanks for this information because I will be less timid in the future. Was never very good at the whole dating thing. I would just be a nervous wreck. 😓

That was good. AcT . I have been dating a guy off and on for 5 years. I am now getting counciling. He has become distant and I am not sure how to address this

It would be over 15 years since even went on a date. 😜

Interesting, I've been single for a few years and in my 60's now , , these dating issues have been a challenge for us loyal types lol! Only to end up dissatisfied . So iam doing what I love to do and never been happier 😌🙏♥️ Yes its lonely at times I've got my kids and Grandsons to keep me buzy with stuff and my adventures. Funny thing is Iam not even interested to go down or up that path Seems I just walk up a hill alone with all the memories....breathlessly crying .....well I've got me to depend on ! Maybe the guy that's for me is around the corner , not holding my breath 😊👍 Friends are fun ,,,and light hearted, it seems relationship's are like flowers 💐 they end.... Ive been enjoying your video's and your coaching . It would of been helpful wail I was dating 👍 appreciate your help for others many Blessings 🙌 to you and everyone on the path of love It's a gamer 😎👌💐💞

Sex compatibility is EXTREMELY important to me. I married snd subsequently divorced s man who I just couldn’t get that chemistry! I even fantasized about anyone else just to get thru it. NO MORE.

Being alone is divine. I've been married, and had the wrath of a controlling abusive man. I like your KZread Channel, Jonathan, I like your approach to topics and I think you make a lot of sense. I too, found dating boring. My comfort zone was marriage though. After my first divorce...I didn't want to date...all I could think of is getting back as fast as I could to my little girl so I really only went on a "date" twice. So I ended up getting with a good guy from high school that had been asking one of my girlfriends from high school about me. Because I knew him from my past I agreed to see him. He did pursue me, he came on strong. I would later find out that's not necessarily a good thing. He was a master at manipulation, control, so insecure...I married this guy. Honeymoon was a nightmare. Scared to death of him...cleverly/gingerly, got away...13 years later, not wanting another failed marriage. I absolutely love being alone. Women aren't so safe in relationships anymore. The world's gone mad. Jonathan, would you address the issue of...for example Gabby Petito? Why are men not seeing us as sacred, as human? Why is there an epidemic of girlfriends and wives being ...... I can't say the word. It's heartbreaking and awful. Take care.

@EllieM_Travels

Жыл бұрын

According to men on dating sites there are also a number of crack head women out there scamming and trying to rip men off. We’re all scared. The name of the game is take it slow and get to know.

@sherriflemming3218

7 ай бұрын

Good points Victoria. Safety is essential..

Disclaimer! ;-) I´m giving compliments to man. :) Genuine, not from place of needenes or expectations. :) Looks I´m kind of lucky. Your videos are brilliant, giving clarity, confidence. Really appreciate it and thank You And yes, I´m getting to binch watching Your videos too. :-))

Hi there from Australia!! Thanks so much for this vid, I agree to do our part in this process as I totally understand how this works in our 40's etc.. I just have a question when it comes to txting, I have a thing to only txt back when they txt me like a conversation, my turn then your turn etc etc... Is this approach ok?? Cheers x

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Why wouldn't it be okay? Don't be fooled by other dating advice, men appreciate and need effort from women as well. A relationship is a two-lane street both going in the same direction at the same time.

This is powerful!

What about ifhe acts like he wants you to persue him

It has been normalized that men think that a sexually relationship will begin very soon in a relationship. ..that is the problem. ..most men expect sex too soon. The wooing stage has long gone, the effort is not put in as it was in past generations..and my experience has been that it does continue into the older age bracket too

@annconforti9294

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. These old dudes invest very little before they expect sex. I don't put up with that bs. I always had dates and relationships in my youth, but now I'd rather be alone than put up with garbage.

Thank you. Ooops. I appreciated this utube

My issue is not that men want sex that is fine but my issue is when they involve another human without considering how that affects the other person.

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

I agree...

@missmodern

3 жыл бұрын

🙌🙌🙌

Thank you God bless you

This is amazing!!

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

TY :)

I watch so many videos on meaning back in a relation and it makes me feel very withdrawn. I obviously want to feel balanced in my relation but want to feel connected too. Leaning back does not make me feel that way..

@williamsonjane6525

3 жыл бұрын

I just need some one. Wjane3086@gmail.com

Thank you soooo much!!!!

In the Bible it says He who Finds a wife....so yes men seek. And a mature man in God will want a relationship first and a man who can sustain from sex Before marriage can sustain during. If a man can wait and abstain from sex until marriage he can abstain during.

@JudgeJulieLit

4 жыл бұрын

* abstain from

Tried to purchase both your books Jon from Amazon but can't buy the kindles because it isn't available in Australia!! 😭😭😭

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

Bummer...

Did you close your FB and tic Toc account. I couldn’t find them today I was trying to find the joke you’d posted about the different floors to find a husband. I must have typed something wrong

I totally agree Jonathan 🙏

I need to step up the assertiveness

I don’t expect a man to do all the work, chase me and lean ALL the way in. But don’t expect me to have sex with some guy I barely know who hasn’t shown any interest at all in getting to know my worth as a human being. It’s give and take, meet in the middle, do your part.

So what effort would be 50 yards if you just started talking to a stranger. Who sends the most texts? Should he be messaging more at the very beginning with the women initiating every now & then ? Or when he Ask you for a date and follows through? Then the woman can up her initiation more frequently but never more than he does?

Always compliment a men love the expression in their eyes

I think your'e very handsome Jonathon, and I do appreciate your total honesty.

@karenwilliams2068

Жыл бұрын

We are all wired different. So to find a ball and MIT fit is a needle In a haystack

Lol 🤣😂😅 just got to the part on appreciating and realised what I've wrote in my previous comment. Least my mindset is in the right place, even if my mind is not always in the place 😄