*I'm a S.M. by choice as well. The dating scene for black women is SO HARD. I'm 41 & my L.O. is 7yrs old. Marriage, relationships & lifetime partnership wasn't happening so I adopted my baby girl when she was 1 1/2. NO REGRETS ‼️🥰 Time waits for no one and my baby is the best thing that's happened to my life*

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

💕

@jones2277

Жыл бұрын

what is LO?

@JessicaBeee

Жыл бұрын

@@jones2277 Little One

@user-vy4nr9ci2e

Жыл бұрын

Little one

@harolynnbarker6154

Жыл бұрын

yes

I wish I had seen videos like this 20 years ago. I'm 60 and for me it's too late and I've wanted to be a mom since childhood. All the best lady.

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

Appreciate you so much, thank you! 🖤

@ophelia_n1514

Жыл бұрын

it’s not too late, you can adopt! if you’re worried about your child growing without you you can adopt other kids out of the foster system. those kids needs a consistent adult figure in their life more than you know

@Yola1980nuff

Жыл бұрын

It's not too late there are so many young people who need love and support ❤️ even if they have a mother but they don't have the emotional connection.. you could be that for someone even in your neighbourhood or family

18 weeks single mom by choice IVF and donor sperm! And I am comfortable and happy!! Can’t wait to meet my miracle baby!! My IVF process has been amazing! 1 cycle, no morning sickness… Create your own happiness!! ❤

@Malikadionne

Жыл бұрын

Awesome

@dyamondcrawford2162

10 ай бұрын

You had no morning sickness? Wowww that's great 😃

Hi I'm a single mother by choice also. I have a 20month old daughter and currently 34wks pregnant with baby girl #2 via sperm donor. Best decision ever. I have 5wks left and then I'll have 2 daughters 21months apart. will be following you

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

That's so incredible friend! Congratulations mama 🎊 I am so looking forward to my next transfer 🤞🏽

@jovonnareynolds7778

2 жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice when is your next transfer.? I am trying for baby #3 in Aug 2022.

@dolcesweet5173

2 жыл бұрын

Congrats! I am on my journey as well! Definitely plan on popping out another within 2 years as well. I feel I started at the perfect time, I'll be turning 30 end of this year.

@coolrunnings1936

2 жыл бұрын

Jovonna, did you not need your father in your life?

@jovonnareynolds7778

2 жыл бұрын

@@coolrunnings1936 @@coolrunnings1936 no I did not. I think I would've been RUIN if he was in my life any longer then he was. 7yrs old was long enough. My mother was also smbc but used a known donor and he was "different and made me feel uncomfortable" so since I told my mom I've never seen him again and I'm actually happy my mother listened to me and trusted what I said.. He caused a lot of damage in that short amount of time. I overcame my trauma and now a single mother to two beautiful girls. A 2yr old and 2mon old. I work full time 3days a week as a Paramedic in NYC but live in Connecticut where it's cheaper. I work night shift so I can spend the morning and day with my children and when it's their bedtime and they are safe at home sleeping I'm a work while my children is a home being taken care of by my mother. So no I definitely didn't need/want him in my life. But my daughters have access to their donor. I have a known donor. I talk to him every other day and my daughter's facetime him whenever they want or whenever he calls. They know and will know their other side of their family. Only difference is that he signed all his rights to me, that's it. But thanks for being concerned. 💋

41 trying to figure this out & crying...yall don't wait

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Sending all the positive vibes and love your way.

@dolcesweet5173

2 жыл бұрын

Sending prayers!

@Evettecord

2 жыл бұрын

Yep, I’m 40 w/ fibroids. I’m gonna have surgery then start the process to have a kid

@AZ-sh2zx

Жыл бұрын

I heard of another woman in this position she was 43 in the end she used donor eggs and a surrogate to carry. You can do that or use your own eggs and a surrogate. Just some options

@sunshineblueskyys

Жыл бұрын

@@Evettecord same situation

I'm 32 and have known I wanted to be a mom my whole life. I have tried dating without success and the older I get the more pressure I feel there is going to be on the relationship because I'm a woman and my window for child bearing is getting smaller. I am doing more and more research on home IUI. Thank you for sharing. I found your story encouraging.

@jones2277

Жыл бұрын

you should at least freeze your eggs now, especially if your insurance will cover it.

@dyamondcrawford2162

10 ай бұрын

They got this home insemination kit called Mosie Baby. You could try and do some research on it and check it out

@Sacredmysticz

10 ай бұрын

Hi how’s everything going so far ? update ?

I just got off the phone with my OBGYN and she referred me to a fertility clinic to begin this journey (: I can’t wait!

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

How exciting! Super thrilled for you! Know I am an open book and cheering you on 🤍

What's messed up is, I'm married. And I do love my husband, buuuut we've been through things that may lead to divorce. He wants to stay married and I do to. But I developed a thought during our time of feuding and I can't drop it! I just picture myself by myself & getting a donor and raising my baby alone. I now think of it daily. It just seems easier. Even tho I hear that it won't be, super torn.

"Not when I am going to become a mom, but *how* am I going to become a mom." Wow, hearing that makes me feel so much less anxious. It's not totally out of my control....

Very inspirational. I’m 25 and no dating experience whatsoever. I already told myself that if I don’t have a partner by 30, I’ll just create a child by myself. I just want to wait for a few more years to advance in my career. The reasons you chose to be a SMBC are the EXACT same reasons for me.

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

That's the SAME approach I had taken! You got this and totally can do it! You have an entire community behind you, cheering you on and here to support you! 🤍

@khaleemaalkainaat8178

2 жыл бұрын

I’m 24 myself and planning on doing this too! I want to wait until i fulfill my career milestones and travel a bit, but I know I want to be a mom. I dont want to wait for mr right either knowing how terrible the fish in the sea are 😆

@SarahBevElizabeth

Жыл бұрын

This is my plan too! I’ll be 25 this summer and I want a 2024 baby so bad but I know it’s better if I wait a few years. I want to pay off my student loans first and buy a house.

I have been binging your channel because you make me feel so understood and welcome into this community! Your honesty, openness, encouragement, and genuine warmth is so refreshing. I just turned 25, and have my first appointment with a fertility doctor next week, in the hopes of starting to try to conceive in January 2023. I had an engagement with a childhood friend end about two years ago, and have tried to date since, but have come to the conclusion that THAT kind of love just isn't meant to happen for me right now, and that my real "great love" is meant to be my child. I am 100% at peace with that, and beyond ready to give that child all I have to give, but there definitely was a grieving process of letting go of the "ideal" that you & I both shared prior to going this route of "first comes love, marriage, then a baby." At the end of the day, no matter the backstory, I think we all come to the decision to stop waiting on someone who might or might not come into the picture, and who may or may not even be healthy to have in the picture. All of your points in this video are so valid and important, as always! Thank you for providing a safe space for everyone in this community.

Alicia, I’m so happy to see you back posting videos. I loved this video! So inspiring! I’m also on this same journey. I hope to be holding a little one someday soon just like you. Your little boy is absolutely precious. What a blessing! Thank you for being strong and a voice for so many women pursuing this same journey! 💜

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Hi friend, I am so happy to be back! Thank you for watching and happy you enjoyed it. Your little bundle of joy is ALREADY YOURS! Sending you positive vibes and baby dust! ✨

I really appreciate this. I'm still in my early 30s in a HCOL area, and am incredibly put off by dating. I've met a lot of great people, but romantic relationships bring just as much baggage as they bring joy. At least kids are fun and an automatic part of your family. Good luck and thanks for the inspo!

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

You're not alone on those feelings, I totally agree. You got this! 🤍

Welcome back 💜🥳 I have loved following your journey! I’m so happy that you able to share more of your story. I identify with you when it comes to dating for wanting to have a child. I have had to do a lot of unlearning. 💜

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!! I am beyond happy to be back. Self-identifying that was something I was doing was the biggest learning curve for me to unlearn and to understand that I could do this by myself! :)

You look great!!! Glad you’re back. I follow you on IG. I felt every bit of your message. Starting my own IVF journey soon. I can’t wait. Looking forward to my bundle of happiness!! 💕

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching friend! YOU GOT THIS 🤍 I am super excited for you to start your journey and please do not hesitate to reach out to me if you have any questions or just need some encouragement.

Kudos to her. A few things to keep in mind… Just bc you have a spouse when you have a child, does not mean you will have one for the duration of their childhood. The majority of single mothers aren’t even those who had children out of wedlock, they’re divorced mothers, lol. On top of that, this child was actually planned and wanted by someone who is established and capable of providing. If you are a woman who is this well off (i.e., highly educated, white collar professional with financial and residential stability, etc.), you are already in a situation where you can provide much more than what the average man can to a two-parent household. So when you weigh what her child would be getting under these specific circumstances vs what the child would be getting had this she waited, this is more than likely the superior circumstance anyway. I feel like as long as a woman has the resources and lifestyle to provide, then it’s fine.

People who write that having such a child is selfishness and women think only about themselves. Do you think that all children were born on this earth because of what their parents thought of them? More often than not, people just wanted sex, not children. Mom gave birth to me after 40, although my father did not want to and thought that it was too late and they broke up. But she did it because she really wanted me. It was her choice, and I am grateful to her for having this life! And I grew up with this feeling that I was very much expected and I am very welcome in this world. If the child has at least one person who was waiting for him, then this is already enough. I want to support all women who give birth to children in this world. You give a person life! It is most important. Do not listen to anyone who criticizes! Your love is enough!

@coolrunnings1936

2 жыл бұрын

🤔 I see y'all enjoy creating the gang bangers of this world and the messed up individuals! It's a vicious cycle of self hate that y'all infect your kids with. Setting the example of broken homes to be normal, is a clear sign of mental illness. My children will never face that! I've learnt to never inflict the pain I endured of not growing up with my father, onto my kids.

@sweetlachok

2 жыл бұрын

@@coolrunnings1936 Do you live in some kind of ideal world? There is a different world around me, and this is not a perfect picture. I work at the Red Cross with people in crisis situations and I have enough psychological resources for this. Every day I see that there are situations a million times harder than life without a father. Millions of people are forced to leave their homes to save their lives. Our planet is not heaven. Every person has their own trials in life and growing up without a father is not the worst thing that can happen to a person. You are not immortal, at any moment you can die and your children will be left without you. It's just life with its pain and joy. The main cause of most mental problems is the meaninglessness of existence, all other causes are secondary

@coolrunnings1936

2 жыл бұрын

@@sweetlachok you cater to weak people through you job so that should be enough inspiration to want and do better for your life. I couldn't give af about weak minded people! I certainly don't live in a perfect world but I'll damn sure make a perfect environment for my children to live in, whether I'm here or not! My mother had all 4 of my grandparents, plus 8 aunts and uncles and alot of cousins to help raise me. But I still would rather be in a household with both of my parents. It obvious I'm talking to someone who has given up and will except anything! I strife for the best and will never stop until I achieve my version of greatness.

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! But again, you will have others with their thoughts/opinions THAT DON'T MATTER! Do what's best for you unapologetically. 🤍

I LOVE how you say we live in a world where things do not always go as planned, eventhough my story is a little different than yours, we have similar journeys I always thought when it was time it would just happen, but it has not happened yet. My husband and I got together at 30 I’m now 38 and refuse to give up… I like how YOU decided to make it happen because you were ready and put yourself first… I’m so proud of you… You cannot always assume but people always do…I’m inspired ❤❤

I love love how you did what you wanted to do! Not that you need any stamp of approval, I just had to tell you you're awesome👸🏿

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Oh thank you friend!

This video was so insightful. I’m 25 and planning out the next few years of my life. The points you brought up are my beliefs as well. I also have the support of my mom who separated from my dad.

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

So glad it was helpful, you got this friend! 🤍

I'm so Happy for you, I really respect your optimistism and Courage.

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much friend! 🤍

Im 25 and i decided to become SMBC. my big reason is i was a child of a terrible divorce and custody battle. I don't wanna do that to my child. I feel like im dodging all that by doing it by myself. I know i don wanna do that to my child like my parents did. If someone wants to come into my life after i have my kid thats fine, but they have to know they can't adopt my kid till my kid is old enough to decide that for themselves

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

Preach friend! Thank you for sharing! I agree with you entirely 💕

@Sigmaasphere

Жыл бұрын

I can assure you men don't want to be parents of the child of other man.

Thank you so much for posting this I’ve been searching for content since I decided to become a single mom.

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! Stay tuned for more and know I am here to support you

This is inspiring 🙌 If you know youre ready to be a parent you should do it! People can be so negative we they see your doing what they were too scared to do.

Congratulations on your baby! Also, thank you for sharing your journey. I am also going to be a single mother by choice (hopefully in the next two years) and I really appreciate your honesty on what you experienced.

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Hi friend! Thank you so much for tuning in - You can do it! Please keep me informed along the way, I would love to cheer you on and support in any way that I can

I love this so much 💗💓❤️💛 I'm so happy for you! & I FEEL YOU! 100% Also, you owe no one any type of explanation (I know you know that, a strong woman knows that) but I truly appreciate this video. ❤️

Enjoyed the video!!! Congratulations on your bundle of joy!!!!

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Appreciate you for tuning in friend 🤍

I can’t wait to start my own journey 🥰 so happy for you.

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

You got this! I am rooting for you and always a message away

I'm 27 and have been thinking of this since early 20's I am looking forward to conceiving in the next two years

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

You got this friend! I started the process when I was 28 and had my son at the age 29. Do what's best for you!!

@raeganbutterfly08

2 жыл бұрын

25, and I’m giving myself 3 years. After that, I’m choosing SMBC. 🤷🏽‍♀️

@alhassanfirrdous7292

2 жыл бұрын

Have you thought of the future of your children?

Thanks for the transparency. keep going you are doing great ! congrats on the new home.

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

You’re too kind. Thank you so much 🫶🏽

God bless you. I’m just learning about this because my SIL is going through this and I’m interested to know ppls reasoning. 29 seems young but so many ppl put it off and can’t have kids anymore either! There’s no right decision only trade offs. Admire your forthrightness

Congrats! Super happy for You!

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much friend!

I've always wanted to do this and I get you girly🤱🏾✨💫 about relationships and how men just wasting our time to having a family . Your not alone . Build your family girly . Your doing great 👍

Hey hun, I just subscribed to your channel. I love your energy and personality. So excited for you and your journey 💗

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

Welcome friend 🫶🏽 you’re way too kind, thank you!

Thanks for sharing your story so inspiring and courageous. I am trying to calm my worries around finances and knowing I'd have no help from family and friends as they all have older kids and past the baby stage.

Yay! I’m glad you’re back! You’re one of the women that inspired me to pull the trigger on this. You’re doing great and Gio is THRIVING. One of the most wonderful things about this set up is now you can focus on bringing up Giovanni to be the kind of man you want to see in the world and NO BAGGAGE to hold you back from any of those decisions. Thank you for living your truth boldly and showing other women that they CAN DO THIS. You right, you a Boss Bitch. ❤️😍❤️

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Hi friend! Thank you so much, I am truly happy to be back. I am so darn proud of you making the best decision for YOU!! You're totally supported and dont allow naysayers nor anyone deter you from your journey to motherhood. WE GOT THIS! 🔥

@BlameItOnMercury

Жыл бұрын

You don't bring children in this world to teach them to be what YOU want them to. They are their own individuals. Teach them respect for themselves and others, discipline, how to contribute in society, etc. But not "what you want them to be." That almost NEVER works, and if it does, you're a shit parent.

I am planning on doing this when I turn 35 whether I find a partner by then or not. So just going to hustle pay off my house and get a good savings account going between now and then. I want to only have to work part time the first few years which is why I am putting it off until then for financial stability during that time.

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

That's such a great plan - super excited for you friend! Cheering you on!

@alhassanfirrdous7292

2 жыл бұрын

Don't ever say these words, Every child deserves a father! Age 35 is not a dead age!

@BlameItOnMercury

Жыл бұрын

Don't.

@deesdees324

Жыл бұрын

@@alhassanfirrdous7292 children deserve a GOOD father/parent. Thats a big difference

I support you for being honest❤️

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

🤍

You have a good channel! Thanks for your efforts on it!

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

I truly appreciate that, thank you so much friend 🤍

@PUPYSHEV

Жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice

I’m a SMBC through adoption. Research is key. Do you have resources: financial, emotional and logistics. Can you pay for daycare, a babysitter when child is out of school because they’re sick, afterschool care for school aged kids, winter and summer camps. Do you travel for work and need someone to stay overnight? Do you have emotional support and a plan b if they disappear? I decided I could do it. My child is joyous. We talk about different families all the time. I’m happy and not stressed. If it works for you and your family, all are happy and well cared for, no one else should pipe in

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

Amen!! Well said friend! I couldn’t agree with you more. Your entire message is spot on. 👏🏽

This is such a random comment but I’ve been contemplating on becoming a single mom by choice and if it’s possible to be a single mom by choice and turns out that it is, I came to the conclusion that I prefer not to get myself into a relationship ever again because of my past relationships, and I’ve always to this day wanted a family to myself it seem selfish but at least I’m able to watch other moms reasons to it and to know that it’s not just me either, I hope this is understandable and sorry it’s damn near a paragraph

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

You're not alone in this journey or the decision to embark this journey alone. You will have others with their thoughts/opinions THAT DON'T MATTER! Do what's best for you unapologetically. 🤍 Our life's path are ALL unique different. You got this friend!

I loved your story! :)

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

You're too kind, thank you 🤞🏽

Great video mama! Your story is inspiring and it’s awesome to see how far you’ve come on your journey to motherhood! Much love, Your fellow IVF sister ♥️♥️♥️

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much sis! This is just the beginning for us ♥️ Your bundle of joy is so precious :)

@rebeccajean-baptiste6836

2 жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice Ignore the hate momma! Love ya girl ♥️♥️♥️

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Love you more friend :)

So happy for you. Your body, your life, your choice. His life was already ordained.

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much beauty 😘

@aguy9071

2 жыл бұрын

Stops being your body and your life after 9 months. So why make that decision

Thanks for been back

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

So freaking happy to be back ♥️

@janeponi

2 жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice I have missed you , sorry I don't know you but I have been patiently waiting for update ..I'm just a loyal fan

Honestly I’ll be 25 in a few months and have been thinking about having a child by myself, I do not believe it’s selfish I feel it is selfish to not hear anyone‘a feelings out if you are in a relationship and you want kids the more you wait the harder it is going to be for you as a woman I feel that if SHE was ready for a child then she was ready everybody in these comments are annoying people in America is corny and may keep their comments and opinions to yourself. If anyone is watching if you want to be a SMBC by all means take matters into your own hands and make sure your finances are together and please don’t listen to negative people :)

@coolrunnings1936

2 жыл бұрын

🤣 when you put your business out there and leave the comment section on, then be prepared for criticism. You're 25 in your prime and can't find a husband to marry you and have children the proper way? Instead you'd rather have you child half complete! Me personally, if I found out that my mom's used a donner to have me... when I reach a certain age I'll leave and she'll never see me again. My absent father let me down once when I was 15 and now I'm 30+ I couldn't care less if he died tomorrow, he means nothing to me. My mom on the other hand I'm buying her a house next year so her life would be easier! But hey you best hope you don't have a child like me! 😁

@coolrunnings1936

2 жыл бұрын

@Jaimee Hendrix yes she did but I know for a fact had my father been in my life I would be much further in my career choices. Even though he never grew me! we are extremely similar, in attitude, temperament, work ethics so he would have pushed me... where my mom just allowed me to figure it out. Meaning... my mom's can't teach me how to be a man. Nor can my uncles, mom's bf (step dads) or grandfather's! they can only show examples! They could never install discipline.

@coolrunnings1936

2 жыл бұрын

@Jaimee Hendrix it's all good Jaimee.. it just shows me that I'll never make my future kids feel how I did and ill show them an example of a functioning family structure. But I'm glad you understand 😊 stay bless Ms Hendrix 😉

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! But again, you will have others with their thoughts/opinions THAT DON'T MATTER! Do what's best for you unapologetically. 🤍 I can care less about what they have to say or think as they're trolling behind a screen and don't know me or my story 🤷🏽‍♀️

Thank you for sharing your story.

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

Always and forever 🫶🏽

I'm 31, my career is great, I own my own house, financially stable however no kids or marriage. Lots of disappointing relationships in the past etc I've booked an appointment with the fertility dr because I am thinking about going down the sperm donor route. It has been an emotional process because all I have ever wanted was to get married and have kids in that order but life has not turned out that way. Thanks for your vid, I feel more confident and inspired to go through with my decision. x

Let me start by first saying congratulations. I literally was in tears watching this because I felt like you understood. I’ll be 34 next month and don’t have any children. I have a couple health conditions that would put myself and my child at risk if I were to attempt to carry a baby to term so I have decided on surrogacy. My immediate family is very supportive and lives within a twenty minute drive. Im single and I feel like the only thing missing is my baby. I have a great job, and house and car are paid off. Like you I was always in long term relationships but always seemed to get played. I had that same talk with myself and decided I wasn’t waiting to meet mr. Perfect to have my baby. Who knows when that is going to happen and I don’t want to be 45/50 taking my baby to preschool. My extended family ask when I’m going to have a baby(people seriously don’t ask anyone this question, you don’t know what someone is going through) but at the same time when I tell them my plans they say oh no you should wait you will find someone. They have even asked what if it’s a boy and he needs male advice, I laugh at that because first of all I have 4 brothers and second what does a women with an absentee baby daddy do when her male child needs advice. Of course my mom is my everything she says do what I feel is best and she will be by my side. I’m glad you did what was best for you. So happy for you.

I asked God for a sign. Been researching and praying about this for 2 years and every one tells me I’m crazy. Can you speak more about the process? The center you chose, donor qualities? Tysm. You’re a badass ❤️

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

You're NOT crazy, life doesnt always happen as we'd always wish it would. Do what's best for YOU! You got this!! I tracked my entire journey from every step in the IVF process, sperm donors, etc. Feel free to message and connect with me on IG as well.

@dominiquewyatt6704

2 жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice Do you think 37 and 38 is to late?

I’m planning on doing this but I hope life is kind to me to allow me. I get hate for it but this whole find someone, get married and have babies. These people aren’t realistic about real life. My belief is if you want something and you’re ready, you should go for it and never allow someone to rob you of wanting to be a mother.

@fieryblaze1737

11 ай бұрын

And my twisted mind, I could care less if I ever talked to guys again as long as I had my little family.

@FreeSpiritMom

3 ай бұрын

Nope they aren’t because you can get married and that man leaves or dies and you’ll still be a single mother so I say we go for what we want to just make sure we’re open minded to growing and learning

The thing I worry about is if I will ever regret not having a baby with a partner to share in the sweet moments. I’ve talked to several women about this that had a baby by themselves and women that had a baby with their partner and they’ve all said that those moments are few and far between and that they really don’t make a difference in the big picture. My mom was a single mother by choice and I have a friend who had a baby by herself and they both have said that they preferred it that way because they didn’t have anyone else that they had to compromise with and when it came to their babies what they said went which is a good point I think lol.

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Trust, its a decision I did not make lightly. However, it was the best damn decision I've ever made! I live in the moments making incredible memories with my child and the entire supportive village behind us so I never once think about missing out because of a partner. So many women have that partner and they arent interested or a part of those moments. What makes those moments special is YOU!

@fifi19ism

2 жыл бұрын

please think carefully being a mum is a lot and doing it all on your own is a massive task. my mum had a sperm donor to have me and although she was a great mum i would of given anything to have a father now im married and 6 months pregnant i would not have it any other way. not having a dad really leaves a whole in your heart i would not wish that on any child.

@jessiejay947

2 жыл бұрын

@@fifi19ism I know you're lying. You just cook up this story to seem relatable 🤣🤣🤣

@jessiejay947

2 жыл бұрын

@@fifi19ism which happily married woman and pregnant, would be looking up single mom by choice videos?!

@Evettecord

2 жыл бұрын

@@fifi19ism many of us didn’t grow up w/ a father and are fine. But I feel for you having a hole in your heart (figuratively, of course).

I was looking for black smbc and I found you. I was thinking about doing this and/or adoption. Maybe in the next few years. Yes, race shouldn't matter. Pick the best donor. When I do it I want to do girl gender selection. 😊

Sometimes it’s easier to find a partner when you’re not trying to make them be everything. The pressure is off and you can keep things separate. Why the heck not?

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Totally agree and have been using that approach in dating now and days.

Well said! I knew it…Virgo! That’s definitely how we are. 9/20 💫

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

🤍🤍🤍🤍

I'm 32 and looking in having a kid or two through a donor. I feel as i should've looked into and done this sooner. But my situation is better now.

I’m proud of you 💗 I’ve thought of doing this but I ended up getting pregnant by someone. My pregnancy was tuff and unfair because I had to deal with abuse and abandonment. So fuck what everyone else think . You did good 👍 your happiness come first .

@Ej-p

Жыл бұрын

I found out I’m pregnant and then left my abusive boyfriend and escaped the country and came home, I’d love to hear about your experience if you’re comfortable talking about it

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear that mama, thank you so much for sharing with us. You are not alone as unfortunately many woman experience similar experiences during their pregnancies from partners. You got this friend🤍

@jamesmoon3844

Жыл бұрын

Did you call the police?

Same here. Every person I have dated never wanted marriage ➡️ WITH ME⬅️ . Most of them tell me they want to get married and start a family. But its just not with me. But they are constantly wondering why I'm single.

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@Sigmaasphere

Жыл бұрын

Babe, maybe choose men who are good and educated: Like: Engineers, P.H.D holders,Professors....They might be boring nerds but they are good father...

@msve3730

Жыл бұрын

@@Sigmaasphere Thank you 💜. I'm goin to go in that route then.

Definitely about to take this journey. I already have one and really want another one but finding a man to have a baby with is a headache like I’m over trying to date and find a man when all I really want is the baby 😂 men get on my nerves

@fieryblaze1737

11 ай бұрын

Never depend on a partner to make your dreams happen. You got this!

When you said “I’m a Virgo” giiiiiiirl fellow Virgo here 😂

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

😂😂 so you get it lol 🫶🏽

I’m so proud for you!!❤❤ I have a few questions. Do you respond??😊

You’re a better mommy than half the moms out here who have husbands! You’re doing the damn thing!!

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

You're too kind, thank you sis! Rocking proudly this thing called SMBC 🔥

@michaele5588

2 жыл бұрын

If someone not gonna tell her the truth… I will… she’s just another babe mama. That’s it, in 5 to 10 years from now she’s will be singing different tone. Lol 😂

@eleganteyes2516

2 жыл бұрын

Your child needs a father! #period

@Evettecord

2 жыл бұрын

@@michaele5588 no one cares. Too many men just want to pump and dump. It’s ok if women see that and move on

@mariasimone4141

2 жыл бұрын

@@michaele5588 and how’s being an unappreciated cheated on wife any better ?

I’m in the process of growing my business to where I can be home and raise my child as a smbc. I’m just afraid of how hard it will be but I really want to be a mom. My mom died many yrs ago so I don’t have that support

Hi girl I been threw so much with trying to have a baby I’m going to get a donor as well and be a single mom 💕just found out today 😍happy for u

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

You can do it and best of lucky!! Sending positive vibes your way! I am always a message away

@taylorhood6049

2 жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice 👑❤️🙌🏽

Congratulations 2 u you are a strong women & u can do this & you have f9ne great 4 yourself im.a single of of three sons u keep going & God bless

Just found out I’m pregnant and the bd wants nothing to do with the baby. So I guess I have a sperm donor… such is life

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

So saddened to hear that friend, sending you all the love 🤍

@jamesmoon3844

Жыл бұрын

You shouldn't have gotten pregnant without getting married in the first place. This is why you should get married first before having a baby.

@hellomadam8021

Жыл бұрын

@@jamesmoon3844 Well I lost my son so no longer an issue.. #stillamother despite unwarranted opinions

@hellomadam8021

Жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice I appreciate the kind words love. Unfortunately I lost my son 🥹

@jamesmoon3844

Жыл бұрын

@@hellomadam8021 I'm sorry to hear that, honey. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

I am 42 years old- up in age, single and desire children, and have no partner, and this video help.

If I'm not married by 30 I will do this

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

You're the director of your life and don't let others opinions sway you if you do decide to go for it! 🤍

I wish I’d known what choice mom was 10 years ago before I married and had a child with a narcissist!

Are there any WhatsApp or general groups for SMBC and those who think about becoming one ???❤

Hi Alicia, do you know any SMBC that identify as Black and are located in NYC and be comfortable sharing their story with theGrio?

@putlydonit-lydiadesnoyers

5 ай бұрын

I am a Black SMBC and LOVE sharing my story. I'm not located in NYC though... I moved from Miami to Barbados to get pregnant and now I have my beautiful daughter.

Love and respect from India...

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Hi friend! 🤍

I lovvvveee this!! Because co-parenting is so traumatizing. To you and the child. And most people don’t realize they do most things on their own anyway! Even in a loving relationship! Whatever you decide, just do it! Don’t wait!

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

Preach friend! Agreed 💕

@BlameItOnMercury

Жыл бұрын

That made no sense. There is nothing traumatic about two parents working together to actively be in their child's life. You're lying to yourselves ..

@z7z766

Жыл бұрын

@@BlameItOnMercury no child wants to jump between two houses.

@BlameItOnMercury

Жыл бұрын

@@z7z766 No child wants to be raised by only one parent, not even knowing the other. It's unnatural and damaging, they'll always question/ wonder about Daddy.

How do you have the time (and energy) to date with an infant?? Baby G is adorable by the way.

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

I will be sharing in my next video about dating 🥰

Hello I thought I was in love but the way the cards played out I wasn’t. I have always wanted a baby I’m 31 and I want to try out the IUI having a baby is one of my happiness everybody has their different happiness good luck on your journey

I'm 13 weeks with my rainbow baby. I'm so happy. Best choice ever.

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

How incredible - so happy for you mama! Congratulations 🎊🍾🎉

@minahtheweirdo

2 жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice thank you 😊

@janeponi

2 жыл бұрын

I'm excited for U

@tom4412

2 жыл бұрын

@@minahtheweirdo hey I’m in uk, if you want another baby HMU

Do you have family to support day to day routine?

Is there support for women who want IVF but are low-income? I haven't been in a relationship in over 7 years and I also don't have close family. But i truly want to have a baby! Help me pleeease!

@mznaturallyfit

6 ай бұрын

This has got to be a trolling comment...low income ivf, wtf?!

I want to hear about dating and doing round 2. I know that may catch ppl off guard

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Yes friend! That is on the agenda :)

@minahtheweirdo

2 жыл бұрын

Same

I wished I listened to myself in 2016 and became or started my single mom by choice journey. I would have been content with just GOD and my child. These men do not love me and that affected for awhile in 2017-2023 after taking advice from a parent and having hope for marriage. I learned in 2017 that these men only wanted me to be traumatized, raped, sex trafficked, sexed out, trashed by people, mentally ill, rejected by the church, abused or used as a comedy piece. They see youre single, educated, a virgin, and in church and they just want to mess you up. They deceitfully pretended to be interested in me in order to have an open door into my life. Otherwise, they would never get the time or day. They were never interested in me or caring for me. Two of them were in church. Some men are just not trained to be faithful, are adulterous and already know their preference in a partner when they talk to you. Some are not interested in slim, "black", quiet and GOD-fearing church females. They will waste their time just for attention or to manipulate a woman for some carnal reason. I would have been content with the peacefulness of not being in a relationship and with raising a child on my own. I believe I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me and I would have loved to do the single mom by choice journey with GOD. If youre anything like me, follow your gut instinct and dont risk your time on a man, especially if they have just repeatedly wasted your time up until you're in your thirties. Seek GOD and become a single mom by choice. Continue on your single mom by choice journey👏 Waiting on a husband is not worth it and can be emotionally unhealthy for you and your child, as seen in divorced homes.

I wish I'd gone down that route as I'm doing it by myself anyway as the fathers turned out to be useless excuses for men.

On my journey as well. 41 y/o. Dating is not happening in a way I am satisfied with.

Amen to you x

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you friend!

I think it was a great decision. I am pretty much doing it by myself even though my child's father supports financially and watches my daughter 1-2 weekends per month. I feel like I am doing the bulk of the work.

Your right ✅

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

🤍🤍

Single by mom by choice is better than single Mom by force.

So come my 34th bday after a couple months I will then get pregnant. I will save money. Start buying pampers and wipes and milk.

@AliciaLatrice

Жыл бұрын

You got this friend 🤍

@msve3730

Жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice Tank you. 🙏🏼🙏🏼

@star_7776

10 ай бұрын

​@@msve3730Did you do it?

😊😊💕💕right Single mom by choice 😊😊

Did you go through a facility for a donor or did you just find a guy on your own and used his?

I get what you want and that you are living out your dreams. To that I will not even speak. However, in as far as the children, do you wonder how they are going to feel not knowing who they come from, and not having a dad? I have noticed that it seems that even most illegitimate children and even adopted children often long to get to know their biological parent(s) and their families. I can say that after raising 3 children myself, you will not have a more difficult job than raising a child. And to think in this generation where mental illness seems to be growing, who knows how these children will respond as they go into teen years and see other children with their "dads". With that, I do wish you the best and your children. Take care.

@tylerwasabi

Жыл бұрын

Fair question but since we don’t know how life plays out, it’s best to do what fits our situation. I had both parents and so badly wished my mom left my dad sooner. I’m 30 and STILL highly dislike this man. Had to go to therapy because I had dreams of harming him. If the child feels so strongly, that’s their choice and they can make it their point to seek what they want. I’m a solo mom by choice and know where my donor is. My child can get in contact when she wants, if she wants but I’m instilling in her that God provides her with all that she needs.

@chippope8984

Жыл бұрын

@@tylerwasabi Thank you for responding so kindly.

So when the child start to ask where/who is father , what will be your response?

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

That conversation will be held WAY before my child approaches me with those questions. He will be fully aware of the process I went through to conceive him, the donor is open to meeting him and I’ve also been in consistent touch with other families who has used the same donor and have planned play dates. 🤍

@rosenjoroge9373

2 жыл бұрын

how does it concern you Najah?

@sirbumbledd1

Жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice That’s mentally gonna disrupt your child… But for your own personal feelings and the fact you didn’t heal from trauma is gonna spawn on your own child… That’s selfish!

@joylm9108

Жыл бұрын

@@sirbumbledd1 stay mad 😂

I get why you became a single mother by choice. I would wanna become a single mother by choice too. Men are a**holes and they are childish fr 🙄 and its hard trying to find good man that'll take good care of you and give you a baby but I'm tired of sitting around waiting for the right man to come along and give me a baby and take good care of us so I'm just gonna find a sperm donor and get pregnant by my damn self and have kids on my own 😘

❤❤

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

🤍🤍

Whats up I think you very smart 🤓 .this is one of the futuristic ways to have a baby 👶 😉 😜

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

You’re too kind 🤍

im thinking about doing this because im turning 33 and i dont really find men that are interesting on dating apps. jobless or no ambition. if they have a career, then they are so cocky. LOL

i’m virgo too ..,,,,,…… i’m not a troll 😈 lol from 18 to 28 i would scream i would get an abortion if you get me pregnant. lately i’ve been thinking about having a baby

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

Hi friend! My fellow virgo 🤍🤍

I are you going to have a second child?

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

I am in the process of doing so, unfortunately two weeks ago I experienced a chemical pregnancy so waiting for another transfer this month.🤞🏽

@dominiquewyatt6704

2 жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice is 37 and 38 to late?

@melissamelissa1796

2 жыл бұрын

@@AliciaLatrice are u using the same sperm donor? Did u use a sperm bank or ask a friend to donate to u

Me too I’m 3 months and my ex fiancé and his family would just stress me out and make the experience worse than it has to be. I’m changing my number and moving away i can’t take it. I’m very happy to be single and do it alone

@z7z766

Жыл бұрын

Go for sex selection pregnancy and have a daughter

@jamesmoon3844

Жыл бұрын

In that case, you shouldn't have gotten pregnant by him in the first place. #MarryBeforeYouCarry

So true lovely story. Is it hard looking after a baby on your own.?At night

@AliciaLatrice

2 жыл бұрын

I will be posting that video soon, stay tuned :)

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