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@lindabaker1782

2 жыл бұрын

I love this message because I I am praying that God showed me I trust him too much so I know Jesus would show me and that's the thing I need to start talking to Jesus more about this guy thank you so much stepan for giving me this message

@yingvang1276

2 жыл бұрын

Would you give examples of connections? I can't seem to tell the difference between connection, chemistry, etc. SOS

@carrielegg5480

2 жыл бұрын

I would like to know what to do when a friend that I trusted and shared personal information with. She is flirting a man that dated for 2yrs and we still see each other too...I am shocked she is willing to flirt right in front of me. Any thoughts?

@user-ro1hw5tr7u

Жыл бұрын

@@yingvang1276 1. platonic ONLY friendship no romantic feelings on either side, you don't want to date each other at all. 2. Situationship (there's chemistry but no one Is committed. There's lots of gray, it's often a mutual crush that's fun at first and the main aspect here is friendship, no titles such as Girlfriend) 3. Relationship-yiu both commit and establish you are committed and exclusive. Titles of official boyfriend, girlfriend are firmly established 4. Marriage *****Anything other than these four be CAREFUL you might be with a narcissist covert or malignant and you should feel very concerned and if possible end this relationship.

@elvashakstaroracle3994

Жыл бұрын

😏🦁

MORAL OF THE STORY : ...NEVER GIVE ANYONE A 2ND CHANCE TO SAY THEY DON'T WANT YOU...A MAN WILL NEVER LEAVE A WOMAN HE WANTS.....!!!!

@wandabrown396

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with that!

@redpillqueen8888

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@jens8223

2 жыл бұрын

Facts

@jeaninewing3042

2 жыл бұрын

Im realizing this

@VonettaB

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. That is evidence of a man who isn't serious and is exploring his options . Lucky you ...dodge that bullet

These guys disappeared because they already involved with other people. Sometimes guys are dating two people at the same time.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, it definitely isn't an easy situation!

@realtruth3762

3 жыл бұрын

Or more than 2. But yes bc even a guy who doesn't like a woman would almost always still deal/mess w her if there was no other woman he was already involved with. So if he ghost you/the woman he def is 'involved' w at least one or more other women. I've seen it with all the women I knew it was always the case but those guys denied when the women asked them if there was someone else

@missindie4199

3 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💯

@anitamhlongo4443

3 жыл бұрын

The only reason he leaves...

@beefaye6861

3 жыл бұрын

Right.....

He comes back, because he is bored and want to see if he still have access to you. Its all a game. Don't even respond to the, "Hey Beautiful lady", text. Its a game

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@debmccafferty1007

Жыл бұрын

Some will send a mass text, fishing for a response.

FOR ME I DECIDED TO PRAY, FAST, GET CLOSER TO GOD, MAKE ME HAPPY AND LET GOD GUIDE ME, BECAUSE HE KNOWS BEST FOR ALL OF US.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Getting closer to God really helps thank you for sharing!

@kinshonrichards9359

3 жыл бұрын

Amen.

@erikacain5707

3 жыл бұрын

ABSOLUTELY 💗

@jennifermwangi3541

3 жыл бұрын

AMEN 🙏

@elizabethbabilonia7046

3 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks your welcome 😁

He leaves and comes back because we don't shut the door on his face.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@IEVAKambarovaite

3 жыл бұрын

I think there can be so many reasons why someone keeps playing these appearing disappearing games, but it's all about what we do with that. We teach others how we want to be treated. And it's also important to judge his actions and not just his words. Some can sweet talk you into anything..

@beefaye6861

3 жыл бұрын

You know.....boy bye

@lyndapeoples8127

3 жыл бұрын

@@beefaye6861 ...lol 🤣 you'd better know it!!

@lyndapeoples8127

3 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I love your sense of humor, especially when you forget what you were going to say or you say, "why the h**l are you with him, anyway?" OR my personal favorite, "why the h**l aren't you gone?"

It is NOT difficult at all to tell someone you’re no longer interested in them. I don’t know why some men act like it’s so hard. If hurting my feelings was the issue, you wouldn’t ghost us either, because that hurts worst. There’s lots of uncomfortable conversations you’ll need to have in life. You push through those, so what’s the difference? If you struggle to articulate it just say exactly what you feel. Whatever that something is you can identify it in your mind. Now let it come out of your mouth. 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ Despite popular belief you DO owe people the curtesy of saying you’re no longer interested and explaining why.

@grownfolksperspectives

3 жыл бұрын

I agree! However, we can’t change others just us and how we respond to them. We mustn’t go in with blinders on, and we mustn’t get intimate to soon. That’s the carrot dangling. Once they get that...... you’d much rather they ghost you and you haven’t been intimate, over being ghosted when you have. Can’t make a square fit in a triangle.

@kimberly329

3 жыл бұрын

@@grownfolksperspectives Oh I’m definitely a fan of closing your legs until you feel confident and comfortable about a man’s intentions. I’m just speaking to the people that ghost. Man or woman, it’s not hard to tell someone you’re not interested and why. You deal with varying levels of uncomfortable conversations almost every single day. So what’s the excuse here?

@grownfolksperspectives

3 жыл бұрын

@@kimberly329 Agreed! Easy for mature individuals. Too many deal with people below their frequency and sadly to them it’s hard. Additionally there is the layer of keeping a stable. I’ll get into that on here or IG @DishwTish007

@grownfolksperspectives

3 жыл бұрын

@@JamaicaLove876 I’ve never been ghosted but I’ve seen a pattern in the women that have. That’s why I created a YT and IG platform. I want to help these ladies build their self esteem, raise their frequency level and find, marry and keep the love they deserve!

@grownfolksperspectives

3 жыл бұрын

@@JamaicaLove876 I definitely don’t want to look like I’m spamming or advertising. My passion is to help women much like Brother Stephen. I’ve had several women follow saying my encouragement from discussions in the thread brought them to follow me for more. I’m blessed you’ve found your husband. I want to encourage those that seek to find a husband but don’t want to rock the boat. They get a higher propensity of being ghosted. Men can tell when you are tip toeing to keep the around! I apologize to you and Brother Stephen if I appear to be here to advertise. I love listening to positive speakers. There are men that totally degrade women and just maybe he’ll leave them with a similar message. Here, you get the real like it or not but with respect. #IBringingClassyBack I speak man LOL! Hung around them all my life. I want women to NEVER be ghosted again. Some really don’t see how they contribute to being a candidate ghosting; only seeing his rude and selfish act. Again, I just want to help! Bless you. Great chatting!

Honestly, I don't take anyone serious until they specifically say. I want a relationship.

@ericaharris8602

2 жыл бұрын

They still disappear even after that so it's not foolproof.

The guy who ghosted me tried to come back and I cut him off completely which made him very angry and upset . I guess he thought I would be waiting around for him to change his mind . Once you ghost me I move on..

@joyfitzgerald9878

Жыл бұрын

💯

@nulu4048

Жыл бұрын

well done, i wish i also had cut him off the second time, i didn’t and he ghosted me again

I believe that when a man ghosts you and keeps you hanging, is because he's exploring other options but wants to keep the door open with you just in case nothing else plays out like he'd like it to. If it doesn't play out as he was hoping it would with the other person, he can always come back to you with every excuse in the book why he was gone. And the worst part of it all is that he already knows that you'll buy into his excuses and take him back.

@taminorman1673

2 жыл бұрын

It's a choice to go back and a choice to accept being ghosted. I loved your response. I just went through this lately....but decided to agree with the guy and support his ghosting actions by blocking him completely. I felt so free and i believe i won't be unblocking him again. It has given me alot of time to think and re evaluate our "situationship" and its time to let that nonsense go.

He’s trying to look into all his options. If a man feels he needs to do that therefore you’re not the one…🤷🏽‍♀️just let him go…

@irlandaise5631

3 жыл бұрын

yeah and they look without even getting to know you!! makes no sense

@realtruth3762

3 жыл бұрын

Or you're just one out of many bc he think can get away with that so he'll play you and string you along. That's why no woman should never be intimate w a guy unless she knows for sure they're in an exclusive relationship. Of course he can still cheat on you in that case but if you/the woman doesn't! even set that basic standard in the beginning it's already guaranteed he'll just treat her like an option

@irlandaise5631

3 жыл бұрын

@@realtruth3762 yeah he kind of led me on..but would meet other women and not me..to eventually meet me once after a year! anyway I was honest to him in the end and told him how I felt about him and asked if he felt the same but anyway wouldn't go with any man unless it leads to marriage..he never replied back..now he simply looks at me on the street with his gf ..last time he gave me a nasty look..my legs and home are closed until marriage..but then again as you say its no guarantee..but I have a friend that is pro marriage and would be silent if I talked about values such as loyalty ..this would be a red flag..I couldnt be intimate with any man that doesn't say its bad and he wouldnt cheat

@malo3002

3 жыл бұрын

@@realtruth3762 as soon as you feel someone is not honest or Sincere towards you Move on. Men don’t waist time therefore why waisting your time on anyone who think it’s okay to keep you as an option or “string you along”. Nop.. life is too short.

@deva190

3 жыл бұрын

@@malo3002 Right. At the first sign of dishonesty leave.

I hate when a man uses the line "I didn't want to hurt you". Let me be the judge of that.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@IEVAKambarovaite

3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate it hurts, but I believe that most of the time a guy has no intentions of causing any pain or hurt whatsoever. That's why ghosting is so common. For some, it's easier to just disappear than to confront and give an explanation.

@stefanieleavitt5224

3 жыл бұрын

Right so sending 1 text replying "I'm not ghosting" then ghosting isn't hurtful and is almost worse.

@heathermcclain657

2 жыл бұрын

Right but u still end up hurt so what's the difference 😕

He was never serious to begin with, that's what I believe! 🙌❤️

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

Dismissive avoidant’s are very good at this. They just cut you off with no explanation. Very hurtful and disrespectful!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@stefanieleavitt5224

3 жыл бұрын

Dealing with this now! 😔

@lisaariottiart

3 жыл бұрын

Attachment Style is Everything

@akuasalaam490

2 жыл бұрын

Accurate! Need to go somewhere and HEAL!

@heathermcclain657

2 жыл бұрын

My current situation....I cut things off 2 days ago...can't force a grown man to do or feel something he doesn't....red flags all over the place...as he calls it, silent observer....that's been me for the past 6 months. Enough is enough no 3rd time is not the charm.

Take it as a blessing from God. When dude goes ghost on you, and your not on the same frequency . Do the happy dance and keep it moving Sis. Save your time and energy and invest in You. Blessings and Happy Friday .

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing 🙌 blessings and happy Friday to you as well!

@freedom123-j8j

3 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@hawaiigirl8089

2 жыл бұрын

I won’t slews with a man until its a commitment. just me but, it weeds out the Jerks

A LOT OF CHAPTERS IN OUR LIFE NEED TO BE CLOSED PERMANENTLY.

@IEVAKambarovaite

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! If you keep a closet full of beautiful dresses but you can't see any of them, how are you going to wear them? Same with relationships. Sometimes need to do a thorough audit to make some space for the ones we truly want to attract :)

@SNHGroup.Stephanie

3 жыл бұрын

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@SNHGroup.Stephanie

3 жыл бұрын

@@IEVAKambarovaite t TT

@SNHGroup.Stephanie

3 жыл бұрын

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@SNHGroup.Stephanie

3 жыл бұрын

@@IEVAKambarovaite w

These kind of men who start something then leave was never about anything.

@stefanieleavitt5224

3 жыл бұрын

And silly me thought this one was...😑

@tanyatanya9492

3 жыл бұрын

@@stefanieleavitt5224 You're not silly,you just believed

6 out of 7 times it’s another woman or someone else is on rotation.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@Tlittau3944

2 жыл бұрын

This is FACTS! In Aug my world was ROCKED! I happened to be leaving my bfriends house when ironically another female was turning onto his block and instantly we both knew... something was about to go down. After she came back around the block and turned her headlights off as she turned into the alley... I said to myself "oh hell no!" As she pulled up under the carport (normally where I ALWAYS PARKED) I hadn't realized Or wondered why I didn't until that moment. I hop out of my truck and round the garage demanding to know wth she was. 3xs I demanded to know but she said NOTHING & didn't even look up. Then it clicks IF SHES HERE TO SEE HIM THEN HE'LL have unlocked the door for her to go in. Sure enough IT WAS. When I walked in asking who she was that was so comfortable being there she just pulled Into MY SPOT & having seen me there. He was sleeping and talk about confused!! Im sure thinking why does "she" sound like "Me?!?" The shock them realization of what was unfolding was something he clearly hadn't prepared for!! Long story short she knew All about me but I had no clue about her!!! I was in shock and went numb im sure as a coping mechanism. He'd played us both but her having known about me ... made me livid and disgusted!! 10 yrs thrown away for ?? Nothing. The damage done and then suddenly understanding his same argument over & over randomly before going silent for days or a week or so... hit me like a brick wall!! 20 yrs we was good friends almost 10 together at that point and I couldn't wrap my mind around how he could do that to me! Im still not the same and we've tried to work things out but I just cant forget what he did and the pain & humiliation I endured... the lies and thinking just because Id never find out unless he decided he wanted to be with her instead of me... THAT LEVEL OF DISRESPECTFUL HAS TURNED OUT TO BE TOO MUCH FOR ME. We had such a strong attraction and bond that I never imagined there would be anything we couldn't work thru... I was wrong. The fact he was able to carry on a sexual relationship with her and me... is something I just can't forget. If he did it so easily as he did... that meant what we had WAS NOT AS SPECIAL AS ID ALWAYS FELT IT WAS... learning and feeling that we had "great but no longer special sex..." literally changed EVERYTHING & I couldn't get it back and we'd NEVER had average sex... until he chose to lay down with another female. It makes ME AS UPSET AS IT DOES HIM. We've tried to make it work but as of 2 days ago... I realized I don't want to waste anymore time even though I can't imagine being with anybody else.. EVER. Im better off alone and I have no problem being alone ... I will miss him (what we had) im sure for a very long time but he did this... not me. He played games, lied & even ghosted me for the 1st time ever... That has done SO MUCH DAMAGE TO ME MENTALLY I DO NOT KNOW HOW ILL EVER HEAL FROM IT. The damage to my self esteem has left me feeling empty and not enough... LESS THAN NOT ENOUGH EVEN THOUGH I KNOW BETTER... He didn't deserve me and knowing this and actually feeling that are 2 different things. If I can't trust and respect him I now know I will never feel comfortable with him ever again.. I just can't understand WHY and never will at this point... If I could make everyone know the 1 most damaging thing that happened was ALL FROM HIM GHOSTING ME... Its CRUEL AND CAN AFFECT SOMEONE IN WAYS I NEVER IMAGINED POSSIBLE. If someone EVER does that... Run and never look back!! I wish I knew how to help myself get past the damage done... but absolutely NOTHING Im trying is helping. Something inside me feels broken. Its THE WORST feeling Ive ever had to struggle with 😔 im sorry for the rant... I guess I finally had to get this out of my mind and body... be happy... lifes too short NOT to be or to put up with anything that affects who you truly are ❤️

@Imprettyinpink

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tlittau3944 wow… smfh … I hope you are ok

@ahb3296

Жыл бұрын

@@Tlittau3944 wow, 20 years and no marriage... move on and be thankful.

@guacgirl

11 ай бұрын

​@@Tlittau3944just wow

What I believe is confusing to women is the fact that men can be sexually intimate with you and still be attracted to you but not want to be with you for whatever teir reason is. And that's where it's important for women to define boundaries, know themselves and be completely and without hesitation - willing to walk away. Don't let the sexual intimacy confuse the reality of what the situation is. Sex will not change the man. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@jens8223

2 жыл бұрын

Yes !

@chukwuemekaeze7086

2 жыл бұрын

A lot of women play these games as well.

@frangipanivine

2 жыл бұрын

@@chukwuemekaeze7086 sure. But that's not what this video is about.

@latricemcdonald2730

2 жыл бұрын

So true

@ektaanturkar806

2 жыл бұрын

@@chukwuemekaeze7086 whatever, very rareee. Why to hurt innocent women then!!!What have we done, supported, cared and at the end got ghosted

What do you do if he disappears? Nothing. Let them go. When someone gives you an out- take it!!!

A man won’t fully close the door when someone else comes on the scene because he doesn’t want to completely cut all of his chances.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to do what is truly best!

@stefanieleavitt5224

3 жыл бұрын

Ghost cuts off his chances though. 🤷‍♀️

In the past I never gave second chances. But with the last one, I let him come back. I tried to be fair, thinking everyone deserves a second chance. Well he screwed that chance up too. Definitely not getting a third, though he tried hard to get one. Life goes on.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through! 🙏

@thisismystone9658

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry dear.. regardless we meuve (move). We don't give up repeating the whole process.

I can not accept ghosting...I didn't know what it was until I did research lol and it's evil and painful it's a tool to control the other person. So if a man leave I'm going to have a goodbye party to celebrate and he better not ever step to me again💜 All Love❤️

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@thisismystone9658

3 жыл бұрын

Hihi.. I wish it was as direct as you say it. It is really another thing to love and want someone and then they ghost you. You get angry, say you won't bring him in and then he comes and you forget it all and start over. It has to hurt you enough for you to actually accept and let go of what isn't good for you but you want so much.

@chosenvessels87

3 жыл бұрын

@@thisismystone9658 My cut off game is serious...when I'm done key word " I'm" it's over! God will help me through it and anyone else.💜 Don't allow people to short change you on your worth! Men know your worth too.

@thisismystone9658

3 жыл бұрын

@@chosenvessels87 lucky you.

@chosenvessels87

3 жыл бұрын

@@thisismystone9658 I meet people where they are and love everyone. But should we stay broken bc we want love? I thought love heals and empowers you💜 If something hurts that's an indication we need to see God who is love to heal us. If we stay hurt then we choose incorrectly. But this is only my opinion. God bless❤️

Stephan that is cold and hurts. This kind of action is frightening. This makes real good women afraid and withdraw. Some women give up and go into hiding. Pain in the heart is truly excruciating.

We need to grow up. Difficult conversations are a part of life. If we don't practice and get used to having them while single, then how will we have them when married? How one behaves when single is the same way one will behave when married.

COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY 🗝️ TO EVERYTHING, BECAUSE PEOPLE CAN'T READ MINDS.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Communication is definitely key thank you for sharing ❤

RELEASE, REJOICE AND REBUILD YOURSELF.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

It's really good when they text you and you reply "who's this?" 😁

@Novideville

2 жыл бұрын

Meeee 😂

@leggoddess2181

2 жыл бұрын

Lol

@nichaphats6591

2 ай бұрын

😂

Cause he's gone to fully pursue the supply he's been grooming discreetly behind your back and it didn't work out, so now, he needs someone to pass his time with till he gets another supply. And you're it. It's really not that hard.

WHEN THEY CAN'T COMMUNICATE WITH YOU AND ITS DIFFICULT TO TELL SOMEONE THAT THERE NOT INTRRSTED. SO THEY SEND A MESSAGE,BUT FOR ME I PREFER FOR THE INDIVIDUAL TO TELL ME. EVEN THOUGH ITS GOING TO HURT. RECOGNIZING OUR EMOTIONS AND ADDRESSING THEM IN A PEACEFUL AND LOVING MANNER.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@elizabethbabilonia7046

3 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks your welcome 😁

@grownfolksperspectives

3 жыл бұрын

A maturity level unmatched results in needing to say co fronting an issue DOES NOT mean we have to be confrontational! It has to do with respect. When you respect someone you move differently! When you don’t....... A man that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor from the Lord” You are closer to being found than you think Sis if he hasn’t found you already! All of God’s blessings! Please follow here and IG for more Godly principles and encouragement. @DishwTish007 Make no mistake, this Brotha here ~ 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

@grownfolksperspectives

3 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Is 215 and 267 familiar to you?

"Be open-minded and discuss (not argue!) all your concerns!" That's good advice for many situations.

It's because they want to go "explore their options" 🙄🙄🙄

Before taking him back, consider the following: 1. What problems and conflicts caused the breakup in the first place? 2. Have both of you changed to resolve the conflicts and problems? 3. Why does he want to come back? If the answer to number 2 above is no, and the answer to number 1 and 3 is not satisfactory don’t take him back!

It's so refreshing to hear you say to talk to God and pray about our situations. Too often speakers or anybody giving advice say to just do anything we feel like doing and not to give up, when the truth is that nothing will be fruitful or blessed without the Lord's help. Keep telling the truth!!

The worst thing to do to a person who cares for you is to disappear w/o explanation. It's hurtful & damaging. I've never disappeared on a man w/o explanation. I owed it to them. I cared about their feelings. Stephan says it's hard to tell a person it's not going to work out so he's moving on. It's not that hard, really. I've done it. Just say it with kindness & compassion. It's chicken and cruel to disappear. If he does that, he didn't care for you to begin with, IMO.

We were having a similar convo at work because one of my coworkers are going through 'ghosting'... I just forwarded your video to her... She needs to hear this!

Some men are just down right crazy. I always pray to God that I don’t want a relationship with any man that is going to make me lost my walk with him. Am praying for a God fearing man that knows what he wants and he will asked himself in any difficult situation (what would Jesus do). Just saying. Truth be told

He came back but the door is closed permanently. The things that will never go away is our memories😊 In the past,when things right and happy i ghosted him.I just left him hanging.Thats a punishment for a man who played games hot and cold back and forth😁👋

The guy I was with, he didn't know how to let his guard down to tell me he his struggles, even when he's sick and what he's going through. Really can't have a healthy relationship when one person can't lean on the other person / be vulnerable. The best relationships and depth of connection is when you heal first. Then you can really form a deep form of trust, connection and feel like that person is everything to you. Learnt so much from relationships and breakups!

@teea8328

2 жыл бұрын

I was in a relationship that was similar to this. I really cared for him and loved him, but I finally woke up after he ghosted me a couple of times. I told him that I couldn’t be with him because he hasn’t healed from his failed marriage and relationships

Men who display these types of actions indicate cowardice or immaturity. Sadly, I unknowingly (at first) endured that type of behavior for 2months. Then after implementing (my personal 3knock rule), I resolved it was over and went my own way. The moment he got wind of it, he to come back. Most men who exhibit such behaviors do it because we allow it. Those same types of men can't handle what they dish. Thata what I did and enjoyed every bit of it! Lol! 4years of back and forth, I finally said enough. Cut ties and never looked back. New Motto: Dust settles. I don't.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@van182

3 жыл бұрын

I love your motto..

I have had Men claim to be in Love at first sight ?? This blows my mind. These men can't have a normal conversation or be vulnerable but they can literally fall in Love at first glance. 🤦🏼‍♀️All this work we do on ourselves emotionally and psychologically and it can come down to --you just happen to be his "type".

@guacgirl

11 ай бұрын

Its all about their sexual stimulation and ego *eyeroll*

The truth...men want three things, nothing more, and when we learn that, we will be better off... 1... Sex...anytime he wants it... 2... Food...someone who cooks for him...making him feel like a man 3...No conflicts or nagging/ jealousy...they don't like problematic relationship...focus on him, if it doesn't affect him, don't bring it up.... Another reason he didn't mention for ghosting, is abandonment issues...it's easier for him to leave you than to be left...

@SeductivelyIntuitive

3 жыл бұрын

FACTS

@lisaariottiart

3 жыл бұрын

Truth- women however want reciprocal partners in this day and age --- we are heading into an age of massive imbalances between the sexes.

I learned my lesson. I had lowered my standards, didn't follow my intuition to give them the benefit of the doubt. He told me I was making a mistake breaking up with him. Been healing. Appreciate all your advice. It's good to hear out loud what goes on in our minds. You're confirming our intuition. Know you're not bashing men. 😊

I was in this same situation. It was like hot and cold. But, I've done something that allowed him to do that. Until, I said let's ghost each other. I'm not stressing you and you not stressing me out on where we are; where this is going. One, he was player saw the flag on that choose to ignore. Two, he was three years younger than me. Three, was has gotten over an relationship or was hoping to get back to it. And it was becoming too much and he was immature emotionally and mentally. Had some growing up to do. It took me awhile to understand that we're not the one for each other. Because, I was still working on self, still growing spiritual, emotionally, physically and mentally on self. Just like he is in his life. But, how the men and women are right nowadays most of them to busy looking what they get out of you or just looking to balling out.

VERY TRUE, IT CAN HAPPEN WHEN YOUR LONELY, BORED OR HORY. RECOGNIZE THESE EMOTIONS,BUT DON'T ACT ON THEM.

ALL GOOD ADVICE presented in a down-to-earth manner for men and women. When a man disappears, DO NOT WASTE TIME trying to figure it out, just realize that he was not Mr. Right. If he comes back, take time to evaluate whether both of you are ready and willing to do what it takes to make it better the second time around. Always listen to your instinct - it is ALWAYS right!

It’s better to wait until marriage. Like that both can grow together and discover each other’s body 😁 if he is not willing to wait then ask Stephan what to do. If the man really loves you he will wait; don’t be afraid if he says he is going to leave you. He will leave you anyways after having sex.

@tammycarter6184

3 жыл бұрын

Omg so true

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

Most of the time when either left each other (ghosting), their value as potential to be a partner just drop 80% and moves on.

KNOW YOUR WORTH!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right!

It's probably not right but I did the same thing to mirror his actions so he can see how it feels lol but I hate playing mind games. That energy can be used to find a cure for something not engaging an intolerable person's negativity.❤️

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, the energy can be used elsewhere thank you for sharing!

@grownfolksperspectives

3 жыл бұрын

I just told someone women, after being hurt can take the position I can show you better than I can tell you.’ I did this is the past after being cheated on, and my dude didn’t care to hear me talk through the hurt. However, me doing that took me out of character so ultimately there were no winners!

@chosenvessels87

3 жыл бұрын

@@grownfolksperspectives exactly! Just move on💜

@grownfolksperspectives

3 жыл бұрын

@@chosenvessels87 Oh that was definitely Tish of yesteryear. THIS Tish almost 21 years in with my husband and he knows I don’t play no games. I perfected my fall back game before marriage. I changed my mindset and stopped attracting that which wasn’t on the same frequency. I had to work on me first though. @DishwTish007

@chosenvessels87

3 жыл бұрын

@@grownfolksperspectives Amen! Im happy for you. All Love💜

I really enjoy your videos. I think the major problem with this scenario is the lack of communicating and ghosting instead, leaving women confused and hurt. I think this is why it's important to pace the relationship, knowing that this is a possibility. And if he can't communicate this even if it will hurt her then you dodged a long term pain.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

❤🙂 Thank you very much I appreciate your feedback!

Thank you for this message! I can admit that up until now I was that woman racking her brain wanting to know why a man did any of the things he did, looking to get closure, etc. It was helpful that a few of the guys I dated did offer feedback and it helped me to grow. I say this Stephan because in this video you mentioned that if the reason is something we the woman did, him leaving is an opportunity to work on our self. I agree and the question I propose to you - maybe you can make a video on this - is if we are not aware of what our part is that contributed to the ghosting, leaving, etc. how can we work and improve on ourselves? Because I was able to have the conversations, one guy told me that the way I was at work (in my masculine energy) is not how I should handle my intimate relationships. Without that conversation, I would have been clueless to how my energy came across and not have taken the time to work on being more vulnerable and work on shifting more into my feminine.

This so hard yet shocking to hear ! It’s ridiculous why guys can’t be honest with their feels with you even if it hurts are feelings

Thank you. Love that you share these things. I understand people do things and it’s not for us to understand but to grow and learn. I needed this in my life 💕

Whew!!!! This was a whole mouthful plus the meal and dessert! Im going through exactly this right now so I definitely needed to hear this. Me and my guy are taking a break and I think he needs to heal and work on some things before we can get back together. I definitely plan to do some healing work myself in the meantime.

My goodness. I know I’m not alone in saying this, but I would love to get to know YOU ! ☺️ You are so in tune and real. A man of God and a genuine interest in being a better person and create real bonds. I have learned a lot from listening to you, sometimes watching your videos more than once to truly comprehend and understand. Thank you for being you 🙏

I have NO clue why everytime I’m going through something I see a video from you in my recommendations lol

After listening to many of your videos and dealing with life experience, I’ve concluded that relationships require lots of skill to be successful.

Number 2 a lot of women do ignore the situation and move towards a relationship me included been-there-done-that but once burned twice learned won't do it again prayerfully

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing and I pray that you heal from ll that you have been through!

Exactly what I needed to hear today. Thanks for the video. Stay blessed Stephan🙏🙏

Thanks for this video. My brain has been in overload trying to figure out what happened. Never really been ghosted before. Even after prayer and devotions, I still felt weird about the situation but this video is bringing me peace and clarity and I did question my worth. Anyway, I feel better . Thanks 😊

This was amazing and very thorough! You literally address almost every scenario that I Could think of and give practical steps on how to navigate through it. This is one of my favorites messages you’ve done to date! Thanks as always your gifts and ministry and pouring into us! 🌟🌟🌟

I am glad you come on here. At first, I was so concerned about why we split. But now, I just needed to work on my relationship that will last beyond the grave. God never let me down and never will. I don't give up, but I just no longer care. Being alone is so much easier. The worry's are over. Sometimes, it is just a blessing to be single.

I glad I looked at this video I’m going through this rite now I didn’t understand he doesn’t communicate well at all you cleared a lot things up, Thank You be Blessed

Yes. I've met someone recently, wrong time I believe very strong bond, drawn to eachother in a special non sexual way. Internal way. very interesting bond... he pulled away. I have accept that. Let him go. If he comes back... he does, my life goes on and I have continue on with my personal life without him. Thank u StephanXxx...

In my last relationship, the guy failed his final year doing medicine. He got devastate and was diagnosed with depression, this caused him to self-isolate and we ended up growing apart. He called the following year after he graduated, but unfortunately at that time I had given up since I could not be there for someone who didn't want me around.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from that 🙏

@lesego5718

3 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you

@51844mj

3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes people with depression don’t want to talk to people. You can’t blame it on a person with mental health. I was the same way... mental health is way important. Than putting other priorities above it. I rather save myself and my mental sake. than deal with other people.

@thisismystone9658

3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it's actually good to give him another opportunity for as long as that will never happen again. If he is ready to work on it.

@lesego5718

3 жыл бұрын

@Dr. Alia Dixon, Nurse Practitioner Thank you, this happened 5 years ago. I have healed from it though and when he called me the year after graduating it was actually to apologize about how he handled things. So I'm good now 😆

Great video! I was anxious at the start of this video but now I've calmed down. Thank you💯💯

Fact is the world is loud and its blatant distractions often our welcome "here-and-now-solace-candy"! We would be wise to not give in right away to all that comes at us, but take our due time, sit back, consider, listen to our inner voice and ask God for guidance and clarity. It's good to learn our lessons so we can heal and do better. Great, differentiated teaching as always, big thanks, Stephan! Be blessed and have a good one!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

❤🙂 Thank you very much and may you be blessed as well!

This guy explains well. I admire your wisdom. Thanks a lot. You helped many people blinded with love.

I definetly have to do this group when i go back to work (was in an accident and rehabilitating for now). I know in myself that i don't have the right attitude in relationships due to needing to do alot of internal healing and growing up around a dysfunctional family. I am some what detached in relationships and find it hard to express my feelings and pull away often and am also a loner and need more space from people more than the average person i believe unless they are my pet dog or cat. Labelled a playa from untrusting men and women that constantly accuse me. I am not a playa but i am definetly single now and staying that way until i am healed. Such an amazing relationship coach. Thank you Stephan. I am feeling alot better and understanding very clearly in your teachings.

If he doesn’t feel the connection HE OWES YOU AN EXPLANATION! Period ! Blunt, tactful what ever HE OWES A WOMAN THAT . DO NOT PUT IT ON US

@shhhkapowww

Жыл бұрын

Some people playing games even knowing they dont love the girl. Just too have her where he wants her... Fucked up. Did that for 8 years.. He says he loves me, has feelings for me, then he ghost me. Then coming back.. Says i have been more important that his family. Always send me love songs about peoole who are scared of love. Then says he can't be with me. Ask me to go sleep with someone else. I do that, then he is hurts. Its just.. Games/ real! I dont know... But he is acting he have done nothing wrong..but he owes me a good explanation.. But i will never get it.

Truth is not always pain-free! So, tell us the truth that we NEED to hear!

You're like the brother that I always needed! Thanks for this! 😊

Thank you, Stephan, for bringing all the time so much light into my life w all you discern! God bless you! 🙏🏻❤️‍🩹

Your videos are amazing and I am so glad that I didn't skip this one because of the length and my busy life. You gave examples on what to say and I love it!!

@tanyatanya9492

3 жыл бұрын

Suscribe and then browse through the videos when it's convinient for you

Stephan I just want to say that you impart understanding, you explain the different sides of the matter and suggest solutions on dealing with each side. Few others do this as well as you plus you make me laugh at how precisely you always find your place and continue where you left off after digressing to explain an important concept, I just love listening to you. Lastly instead of speaking at a slow snail pace you keep it moving at a really nice clip.😊, in my humble opinion.

This guy is my favorite relationship coach😎👍🏻 💯 Spot on always

You should create your own dating service. Your insights can bring the right people together. Thank you for your advice. It helps the healing and the spiritual openess for God to work. Too often we lose sight of the God factor, prayer and the Holy Spirit’s guidance. Be blessed and keep being a blessing! 🙏🏼

After my daughters Graduation party on july 11th I will be signing up! I am convinced that I should. I asked God for you to touch up on a subject that I need addressed , I prayed and fasted about it and you did today so hopefully the offer still stands at that time.... i just wanted to make sure that the advice I received from you would be good for my soul... its fragile, lol

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!

All the powerful wise was amazing need to be heard thank you Stephan Speaks.💋❤️🤗😊

This message really hit me hard. I was recently ghosted (2 months ago), by a good friend who I've known for about 17 years. Always been friends, never dated. I'm going through life minding my business, he decides to confess his feelings for me, I'm reluctant because we're friends, but I think why not go on a date. We're both single, why not. Finally agree. I didn't even get to go on a date because he disappeared. We talked just about everyday, were both really excited to hang out with each other... BOOM! GONE! Just annoying because I didn't ask for any of it. I'm just tired of finally giving someone a chance and being let down every. single. time. That's why I keep to myself - ugh! Thank you for this message 🙏🏽. It gave me some great insight and made a lot of sense!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

@kendrabradley1264

2 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you 🙏🏾

@ STEPHAN I LOVE ALL YOUR VIDEOS. MEN AND WOMEN, BECAUSE YOU'RE VERY TRANSPARENT AND KEEP IT REAL. THANK YOU FOR YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND ALL YOU DO FOR MEN AND WOMEN. GBY ALWAYS BROTHER.

I HAVE TOOK YOUR ADVICE AND DEFINITELY USING IT, BECAUSE ONE TWO MANY WANT TO COME BACK AND WHEN I ASK IS IT FIXABLE AND IS IT WORTH IT. SO FAR NONE HAS BEEN FIXABLE OR WORTH IT. THANK YOU SO MUCH STEPHAN.

@elizabethbabilonia7046

3 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks your a Blessings Brother.

@lenebrantley221

3 жыл бұрын

I hear you. I know exactly what you mean. Most aren't worth the comeback.

@ysmithriley

3 жыл бұрын

There was a REASON you broke up! If nothing's changed, what's the point of getting back together?

Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart sir for all these in lightening tips & advices 🙏 A new subscriber from North Africa 🌷🌷🌷and YES we would like to see the interviews with that people who reconnect with each other..

You are just taking to me right now Sir, thank you for this.

All true. Again very insight and very honest and refreshing. Happy weekend. And GOD Bless

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌 Have a happy weekend and may God bless you as well!

14 minutes:04 seconds ....in hearing all this Wise Vital Talking and Knowledge and Voice Tone . THANK U ...Thank U for SPEAKING G Stephan about All The difficult topics and The Male P.o.v Minds The Psychology theology the right Healthy Strong Counseling Mindset it is GOLD . U Answerd my Q'S trys on WHAT and Ys Women+ YoungWomen r going through this new constant other persons Fav Strategy , and Thanks Tons i really appreciate your Bravery and Strong Emotions Strong Soul Spirit on this... i. Glad i subscribed I need healthy positive non relative s Better Males Figures n my Life talikng n my ears. This Reminds Me all Males aren't Evil neither ScumBags Trash Pathological liars neither males r NOT All abusive n any form ways and Destructive dark unhealthy Energys Aura .

Ohh God he left me when I had lost my job and I was at my last coz he had got a great job after 4 years he lost the job and wanted to come back in his mind he was thinking I will provide him with accomodations and financial support then he will figure out his life...Oh God, I shut the door in his face and it's the best relief and revenge I have ever got.

Someone from his past couldn’t hurt him as much. Wow! You nailed that one! She ended up hurting him horribly and he and I are still communicating as friends. Time will tell what happens, if anything.

I just love this guy and how he just tends to make things easy when Explaining.im I the only one that loves how he laughs? .keep up the great job that you're doing .

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

❤🙂 Thank you I'm glad you enjoyed it, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!

Some see they can't get you on you back. Then they have other options to go to👑🙏🏾📖

You are absolutely amazing! I really love ❤️ your videos! Thank you so much! 🙏😇☺️💕

I left my boyfriend who I dated for 8 months because his older brother is a married man and he's cheating on his wife. The brother wants to be around me and my ex any time I visit them in Atlanta. The first time we went out he came with his girlfriend, I was not happy about it. and I told my ex this is wrong and why he's encouraging it, the brother is married. we are deciding to get married too. My ex is also best friend with the brother's wife. Both the brother and my ex want me to be friends with the girlfriend and the wife and I said no. The short story short the wife found out. my ex asked me to come with him to visit his brother and his family I said no because there is too much drama and the brother call the girlfriend right in front of me in his house when the wife was in the other room the first time I visited. My ex said to me I dislike his family, it was too much on me. I broke up with my ex because I don't want to be part of the craziness. After all, he said his brother not doing anything wrong. The brother's wife started disliking me before I broke up with my ex because she thinks I am not friendly. I respect myself life is too short.

WOW! STEPHAN I FEEL THAT WE THINK THE SAME THING AT THE SAME TIME AND FEEL THAT GOD IS SPEAKING TO ME AND CONFIRMING WHAT I'VE BEEN PRAYING FOR.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

@elizabethbabilonia7046

3 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you and may God continue to bless you 🙏

Hit the nail right on the head. Thanks Stephan.

Thank you for these valuable lessons StephanSpeaks!

Another perfect message, every angle, intellectual I’m so speechless 🌸

@ladygrant07

3 жыл бұрын

I can appreciate how he speaks in love and is not focusing on bashing either side. It is a healthy conversation that can allow for genuine growth.

Boy do you pop up with the EXACT video I need once again. Thank you.

💫After Building A Palace(Figuratively) w/A Man Who Was Ready, It Seems Like My Willingness Not To Judge A Man Based On Where He Is In This Life Hasn't Been A Good Choice. Trying To Meet A Damaged Man Where He Is Isn't A Good Choice...So, Pray For Him At A Distance & WaiT On THE LORD For The Right Man To Find Us.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

🙏

@ChosenJudaHiTess_TheShemiTess

3 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Many More Blessings Immeasurably To You Beloved🕊. I Wish You Add MaTchMaker To Your Greater Works. I Live Here In The 'A' But I Don't Go Out Except To Exercise In My Neighborhood & To Shop(Food). Also, I Did A Small Edit..Pls Put Your🤎Back For My Comment. I'm Listening To This Again.

Placing the topics & bullet points on screen as you go thru the video would definitely help keep focus, I drive truck & end up forgetting some points from the beginning lol

@carolinanoriega3813

3 жыл бұрын

Also would be helpful to add bullet points with timestamps in the description especially for such a long video