Why Don't You Want To Do Anything After Binging 4 Hours of YouTube Videos...

At times, we find ourselves caught in a loop where, instead of tending to our priorities, we gravitate towards platforms like KZread or other distractions. It's essential not to castigate yourself for this tendency; after all, social media is strategically crafted to engage our attention in precisely this manner.
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Join me in an insightful exploration as I delve into the mechanisms behind this behavior-why we often veer away from tasks we need to accomplish towards these captivating digital escapes. Let's unravel the reasons, the psychology behind it, and the triggers that lead us down these distraction-filled paths.
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▼ Timestamps ▼
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00:00 - Intro
00:12 - Reddit post
01:00 - Overview
02:45 - Research Papers
06:04 - Finding ways to make us less aware
08:51 - Why do we start using technology?
11:23 - Why do we continue to use technology?
14:17 - So what do you do?
18:23 - Acknowledge your sacrifices
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  • @HealthyGamerGG
    @HealthyGamerGG Жыл бұрын

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  • @QuandaleDingle-ji2tj

    @QuandaleDingle-ji2tj

    Жыл бұрын

    i dont only watch videos on videos only for 4 hours much more infact certain days i can use my phone for 16 hours or 17 (in a day) which was the most xD ....

  • @sarahfromtheneverland9001

    @sarahfromtheneverland9001

    Жыл бұрын

    Hey I'm a new viewer of this channel you won't probably read this but I really appreciate this video. For months I tired to do what I want but I could never achieve my goals and used to resent myself but from now on I will try my very best to do better. Thank you again. May god bless you and your loved ones. Thanks once again ❤

  • @amanda.collaud

    @amanda.collaud

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@sarahfromtheneverland9001 his coaching is so good it can end your life misery immediatly ... by suicide! He´s not Jesus, don´t trust his methods too much.

  • @11Chabi11

    @11Chabi11

    Жыл бұрын

    I tried clicking on the subsidy fund link on the webpage and it wouldn’t work. Can you please share the link with us here for that?

  • @kerolokerokerolo

    @kerolokerokerolo

    Жыл бұрын

    I hope you can see this message: I think that the way you communicate is often too pasinate and it can be percieved as aggressive or even sound like an admonishment. I think I'm probably not the only one how feels this way. My point is, you are so passionate about what you are talking about that you communicate very delicate things this way and sometimes this pasion can be percieved as aggression or as a admonishment ( a reprimand). I don't know if you get my point. I tell you this because I'm a high school teacher and I'm very passionate about what I teach and I could see myself in the mirror seeing you talking with such enthusiasm, nontheless this enthusiasm you feel can be percieved in other ways by your audience. Conclusion: I feel the message you try to deliver might mot be well sent because of too much enthusiasm. I agree with the message but not totally with the way it is delivered.

  • @jadyladymr23
    @jadyladymr23 Жыл бұрын

    When the algorithm gives you the solution to itself…

  • @Bob-qz5yj

    @Bob-qz5yj

    Жыл бұрын

    Fortunately it can't do more complex analyses it and figure people who watch this video have less engagement in the future.

  • @anonanon7553

    @anonanon7553

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Bob-qz5yj shhhh don’t let it know 🤫😅

  • @williamrosenbloom215

    @williamrosenbloom215

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Bob-qz5yj unless maybe people are helpless to use the advice and it only engages them more.

  • @brunocp87

    @brunocp87

    Жыл бұрын

    Who do we want to fool... Tomorrow we'll be here again binge watching dozens of other 'interesting' videos just like this one. Otherwise how did we get here?? God I wish I was wrong this time... But this is not the first nor the second time I bump into a video like this. And here we meet again on the conveyor belt...

  • @Bob-qz5yj

    @Bob-qz5yj

    Жыл бұрын

    @@brunocp87 Don't give up hope bro. Be kind to yourself and keep taking small steps, even if it seems futile.

  • @GenuineBassBooster
    @GenuineBassBooster Жыл бұрын

    I have never felt so attacked by a KZread title, period.

  • @XBeastModeXEPIC

    @XBeastModeXEPIC

    Жыл бұрын

    Same lol

  • @quitetheordinaryguy1195

    @quitetheordinaryguy1195

    Жыл бұрын

    Bet.

  • @mrcutkut

    @mrcutkut

    Жыл бұрын

    Can't tell if I even feel the attack I'm so unconscious/s

  • @life4god14

    @life4god14

    Жыл бұрын

    He always have the best thumbails on yt ever you can't stop yourself from clicking

  • @RaaynML

    @RaaynML

    Жыл бұрын

    tbh feel attacked by most of these

  • @saikoloji
    @saikoloji5 ай бұрын

    I was addicted to TikTok but soon realised that I began having short attention span. So then I trained myself to consume longer contents, and that’s KZread videos. Now I easily waste a lot of hours here.

  • @Ayanokouzi

    @Ayanokouzi

    4 ай бұрын

    Same here, But hopefully today is the last of that kind of day.

  • @JMBBrasil

    @JMBBrasil

    4 ай бұрын

    Same…

  • @jbmusic4095

    @jbmusic4095

    4 ай бұрын

    great job!!

  • @Taima

    @Taima

    4 ай бұрын

    Lol trading one for the other eh? Well, if you had to have one or the other, it's far worse to be able to sit and watch longform content than to be zombified by TikToks to the point that you need to watch godawful side by side videos because your brain is so fucked. Not just because TikTok itself is awful, but because this is harmful to us outside of these two places. A person who struggles with TikTok is often going to have a harder time with focus on irl interactions, or maybe reading if that's something they either like, want or have to do sometimes. So now that you made one improvement, just try your best to moderate this new little vice and you'll be in an even better place.

  • @ilv839

    @ilv839

    4 ай бұрын

    think positive 😂do nothing

  • @dreamlifter2701
    @dreamlifter27016 ай бұрын

    To anyone reading this, I hope you break out of this endless cycle of binge watching and accomplish everything you know you can do. You’ve got this!

  • @mmkhperson2

    @mmkhperson2

    5 ай бұрын

    thank you. I mean it. This reddit post relates to me exactly. I spend hours each day going back and watching for 6-7 hours, into the night. Im a 16 year old kid. Its an adiction. Last time i tride to cut it out I got depresed. What ive noticed being this adicted to watching youtube is rare, so there isnt a lot of resorses out there for this. I feel like im wasting my life. Its right now 12:30 am. I got home from school, and did no homework and ended up here. This hapens every day. Sorry for the rant and misspellings. Im only 5 mins in the video and will watch it. Thank you for encuragement.

  • @shud1at927

    @shud1at927

    4 ай бұрын

    ⁠@@mmkhperson2I’m in the same situation. I’m 15 and writing this at 2:30 in the morning on a KZread binge like always. I think I gradually got into this addiction and stopped noticing how much time I spend on this app every day. It is very sad because I use this app as a tool, not just for entertainment. I want to try and only use it as a tool because it can be very useful, but I have tried one time and got depressed. I hope you can get out of this addiction too.

  • @Elhastezy888

    @Elhastezy888

    4 ай бұрын

    @dreamlifter2701 thank you - many blessings 🤍

  • @crazyfriend50

    @crazyfriend50

    4 ай бұрын

    @@mmkhperson2 im 16 I watch about the same as you 32 hours a week pretty much every week and im fine I have above average grades for my entire country. Do minimal revision/studying and do whatever homework im given pretty much immediately This is a you problem

  • @dreamlifter2701

    @dreamlifter2701

    4 ай бұрын

    ⁠@@mmkhperson2where all in the same boat together man! I guess my advice would be to hang out with friends more, join a club or a sports team, try a new hobby even. Basically something that is going to distract you from binge watching. The reason why KZread is such a problem for people like us is because the reward feeling or rather the dopamine hit requires basically zero effort. Once you start participating in activities that genuinely require at least some effort to complete, your mental stability will slowly increase making you less dependent on KZread for that quick hit of pleasure. At least this is what I believe to be true.

  • @GeorgeJFW
    @GeorgeJFW Жыл бұрын

    The tech addiction has been a real struggle. These dark and cold winters definitely don’t help things.

  • @Rony542

    @Rony542

    Жыл бұрын

    ive got an addon wich removes random suggestions in youtube on the side, also it cuts out shorts. There are loads of addons avalible for this.

  • @milanatarasova3090

    @milanatarasova3090

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Rony542 what's the name?

  • @GrimoireZero

    @GrimoireZero

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Rony542 That sounds great, what's the name of the extension you use?

  • @VambraceMusic

    @VambraceMusic

    Жыл бұрын

    @@milanatarasova3090 Could be Unhook, its what i use

  • @jakejason4333

    @jakejason4333

    Жыл бұрын

    there wer "dark" and "cold" winters since the dawn of humanity. Thats doesnt change anything.

  • @commentbot9510
    @commentbot9510 Жыл бұрын

    You actually just described so much of why I am depressed. I never draw anymore because I just am too tired or unmotivated. I'm passionate about it but can never get myself to do it anymore. I do the bare minimum to get by and struggle with basic daily tasks and chores.

  • @Mandaxx25

    @Mandaxx25

    Жыл бұрын

    Same!

  • @user-tq8vt8jn8e

    @user-tq8vt8jn8e

    Жыл бұрын

    So what is the reason for that? (Pls I literally have no moivation to watch this video to the end)

  • @kirasigncomics

    @kirasigncomics

    Жыл бұрын

    @@user-tq8vt8jn8e because u don't deal with your negative emotions. U supress them. Say "who cares how i feel?" and then not deal with it, but then the feeling ends up dealing with u anyway.

  • @0000song0000

    @0000song0000

    Жыл бұрын

    i think it is that our "cavemen brain" wants just to survive, not to revolutionize a field. So it rathers do stuff where there is "nothing at stake" like watching YT, or playing games rather than do the work we need ... because a part of us is like "if i do the thing (drawing/painting/music...) it may not work out, my reputation will be worse if i release it or people may make fun of me. And if I am successful,it may carry too much unwanted attention." That way doing the thing we actually want seems like a loose/loose 😅 ... so watching Netflix seems safe

  • @ansh8688

    @ansh8688

    Жыл бұрын

    @@kirasigncomics But Then How Do I Deal with the Negative emotions?

  • @jayfromspaceee
    @jayfromspaceee4 ай бұрын

    to anyone that’s ALREADY working on themselves and just randomly stumbled on this video, let’s keep going! it’s so worth it

  • @TheHadMatters

    @TheHadMatters

    14 сағат бұрын

    Still working? =) (And if not, no worries, here's a decent opportunity to recognise the distraction and learn from it to refocus. Remember if you go back to productivity, you're not starting from scratch, you're continuing your streak where you left off, even if it's been a week or a month or years.)

  • @omar.mahmoud.ahmed10
    @omar.mahmoud.ahmed1010 ай бұрын

    that's insane, Whenever I watch videos even if it is just a 10-minute video, I feel like I become unaware of my surroundings, I feel like I'm disconnected from the world, and the act of doing that everyday for a lot of time made me feel like if I'm on drugs 24/7 to the extent that my life was falling apart and I'm not even noticing it like everything was fine. I'm trying to overcome this addiction and it is really hard, these technologies are stealing our lives

  • @SFayeLewis

    @SFayeLewis

    6 ай бұрын

    You'd be justified if you fold clothes while watching

  • @jeric8692

    @jeric8692

    Ай бұрын

    Tip bro. Don't watch informative videos. Just listen and do something productive

  • @tw8464

    @tw8464

    4 күн бұрын

    Truth

  • @M24071

    @M24071

    2 күн бұрын

    It's the effect of self awareness the more self aware you become the more miserable you get so my advice is give yourself a schedule and just don't be on your phone or computer at all times take a walk read a book or just take a nap

  • @johenderson3742

    @johenderson3742

    Күн бұрын

    ​@@M24071Ahhh, so that's why I'm miserable, I'm too self aware. Better get on Utube!😂

  • @juliana.x0x0
    @juliana.x0x0 Жыл бұрын

    I tell myself "at least it's educational", because I love to learn, but I am so aware of the fact that I'm actually just avoiding feeling my feelings and facing real life responsibilities. So reading that title just flash froze all the blood in my body...I suddenly felt naked and exposed in front of a classroom of people. Yikes, this isn't fun anymore lol

  • @georgeadams9653

    @georgeadams9653

    Жыл бұрын

    I thought i was the only one thinking that way. Guess it’s time do something about it

  • @TeodorLojewski

    @TeodorLojewski

    Жыл бұрын

    KZread is escapism in its final form. Edit: or maybe TikTok. Both of them.

  • @BrazenRain

    @BrazenRain

    Жыл бұрын

    This video's title is truly educational

  • @naughtyleopard21

    @naughtyleopard21

    Жыл бұрын

    "Atleast it's educational" is my constant excuse to bengewatch youtube. Also there's some fear of missing out but probably nothing horrible wouldn't really happen I'd I would watch it 🙃 most likely it would have a good effect on my life. 🤔

  • @evryatis9231

    @evryatis9231

    Жыл бұрын

    @@TeodorLojewski Yeah its tiktok. People would have killed back then for youtube, but tiktok?

  • @Space_Princess
    @Space_Princess Жыл бұрын

    I spend about 8-12 hours per day on KZread trying to learn about everything because I haven't got a clear sense of purpose yet but the way to get a clear sense of purpose is to venture out of your comfort zone and get curious. Staying online all day isn't doing that. So i am going to make that effort within my limitations as a disabled individual to get out of my comfort zone.

  • @rochreech3173

    @rochreech3173

    Жыл бұрын

    Honey 💗

  • @thisdoodo5957

    @thisdoodo5957

    Жыл бұрын

    We can do this together!💪🏼💪🏼 Edit: how is everyone doing? Things are still hard for me but im trying (:

  • @Space_Princess

    @Space_Princess

    Жыл бұрын

    @@thisdoodo5957 Hell yes!

  • @Space_Princess

    @Space_Princess

    Жыл бұрын

    @@rochreech3173

  • @TheMichelex20

    @TheMichelex20

    Жыл бұрын

    This! Same.

  • @zhanerkeassetova132
    @zhanerkeassetova1326 ай бұрын

    I’m doing it right now. Instead of getting things done I’m watching this video 😢

  • @SOULarLioness

    @SOULarLioness

    6 ай бұрын

    I don't mean to laugh but.... 🤭

  • @VolcanoHotTub

    @VolcanoHotTub

    4 ай бұрын

    Same, but it hits different. I think I'm signing off for a while. Too much to do, too little time. Even without the internet.

  • @DL-nb9hp

    @DL-nb9hp

    Ай бұрын

    Doesn’t mean you can’t watch KZread. Just calm down and ask yourself what you want to do first.

  • @valeriansteele
    @valeriansteele4 ай бұрын

    KZread is the final sm app that I need to let go of. I’ve deleted every other app, but yt feels like I’m being productive because I’m always learning something on it. For me it’s not homework, it’s doing the dishes. I HATE doing them… and live alone and can go days once I get too busy, tired, or emotionally distressed from life…Thank you!

  • @jinger_m

    @jinger_m

    3 ай бұрын

    Get diagnosed to see if tou have ADHD. Seriously

  • @lauraloolovelight

    @lauraloolovelight

    2 ай бұрын

    Something that’s been a game changer for me is wearing rubber gloves when washing dishes, I didn’t realize how much my reluctance related to sensory issues. Also I put on a YT video with a length of time I think it’ll take to do the dishes

  • @jamiedoesthings
    @jamiedoesthings Жыл бұрын

    Well. After watching this yesterday, today I did it. Changed my attitude from "no matter how you feel, you have to do it" to checking in with myself, addressing my needs first, taking breaks, encouraging myself. Taking the compassionate approach worked. I finished and submitted two assignments I've been trying to finish for ages. This feeling is so much better than the high from scrolling. I also treated myself to two giant marshmallows. Thanks, Dr K

  • @confusedturtle183

    @confusedturtle183

    Жыл бұрын

    That sounds liberating! Happy to see you exploring self-compassion and taking your emotions into account as well, wish you all the best

  • @jamiedoesthings

    @jamiedoesthings

    Жыл бұрын

    @@confusedturtle183 thanks!! Update to this: I passed the assignments and the course, and also finished my first art commission today :D

  • @Pingalu2

    @Pingalu2

    Жыл бұрын

    I need to do this. I don't know how though

  • @confusedturtle183

    @confusedturtle183

    Жыл бұрын

    @@jamiedoesthings That's insane dude! You're crushing! I wanna share a little bit with you about me as well, cause I've been experimenting with a similar kind of approach/attitude change the past ~3 months and I gotta say - after struggling with staying afloat for the past 6 years in school and even failing two of my classes this may and having to change schools - I'm doing better than ever in the new school with a ~4.0-4.5 GPA and I don't feel the burnout coming even though I'm studying more than I ever have in my past 12 years of education, soo. I'm happy to rise together!

  • @hornox4life

    @hornox4life

    Жыл бұрын

    It doesnt matter what u do, as long as you do it with love

  • @NEPtune-fy1ug
    @NEPtune-fy1ug Жыл бұрын

    i am genuinely convinced every single one of my problems can be solved if i stop using the god damn internet and social media so much. fuck.

  • @joevaghn457

    @joevaghn457

    Жыл бұрын

    Same

  • @radioactivecrayon7194

    @radioactivecrayon7194

    Жыл бұрын

    Bruh I'm on year 3 of social media detox and I'm finally getting my shit together. It was muserable grtting here but i am so much happier for it

  • @Peayou...

    @Peayou...

    Жыл бұрын

    @@radioactivecrayon7194 I just want to use it for good reasons. Not needless scrolling.

  • @koenv.i.9188

    @koenv.i.9188

    Жыл бұрын

    do away with your smartphone. it's a world of difference

  • @justanothercomment

    @justanothercomment

    Жыл бұрын

    Interestingly I used to feel the same, but turns out constant internet use was more a symptom of the problem, than the problem itself. Maybe think about _why_ you use the internet so much. And if there's anything you can do to help with that. (Like for me, I needed heckin therapy not just less screen time lol)

  • @noe.jaguarcub
    @noe.jaguarcub6 ай бұрын

    I see people complaining that his videos are long but people are not realizing that we have developed such short attention spans I feel your videos give the space for us to think for ourselves while listening to you and I think that space is what is important to get us out of these loops. It prevents us from binging fast paced contents passively

  • @SOULarLioness

    @SOULarLioness

    6 ай бұрын

    22 minutes isn't even long, omg... TikTok/Microwave media culture really fried everybody's brains....

  • @Anneliese210

    @Anneliese210

    4 ай бұрын

    It has a nice length ❤

  • @sylth4103

    @sylth4103

    4 ай бұрын

    @@SOULarLioness fr im 15 minutes in and don’t think it’s long at all. very informative and helpful.

  • @soulsearcher7077

    @soulsearcher7077

    4 ай бұрын

    @@SOULarLioness he used to upload 1hr+ videos

  • @CGPepper

    @CGPepper

    4 күн бұрын

    Those people don't complain here, they are already 10 videos deep somewhere else

  • @iammichan
    @iammichan4 ай бұрын

    For me binging social media or TV shows is a symptom of lack of motivation or fear for things I need to do, which stem from deeper issue like unhealthy perfectionism or self doubt. Not the other way around.

  • @weirdchamp4601
    @weirdchamp4601 Жыл бұрын

    So basically be nicer to myself and become more emotionally aware to stop myself from procrastinating and experience more negative emotions

  • @aroangeI

    @aroangeI

    Жыл бұрын

    @foamier so fucking true foamier

  • @yoyonis6840

    @yoyonis6840

    Жыл бұрын

    @Penguin Economics Absolutely. First do the work then reward yourself, many people do the opposite.

  • @yoyonis6840

    @yoyonis6840

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@mrteco4236 Yeah of course it would be a "cherry on top" if the work also happens to be fun, but personally, sometimes it's really hard to convince yourself that work is entertaining. Especially if it is a boring office 9 to 5 work grind. And for me only a thought of reward at the end makes the work itself not exactly fun, but tolerable. Besides, I can't lie to myself, it doesn't work for me. Lying to yourself usually becomes a habit that then spreads to other aspects of life.

  • @clem2023

    @clem2023

    Жыл бұрын

    ahaha seems really easy said like that, but to actually do ... good luck to us !

  • @LuciaBrezianska
    @LuciaBrezianska Жыл бұрын

    Not having to face our emotions through technology...Hm it sounds a lot like using drugs or alcohol. Its all about suppressing reality, emotions and problems. Just imagine how many of us are addicted to technology like this without even realizing it. its actually scary. Thank You for absolutely amazing video!

  • @inconnu4961

    @inconnu4961

    Жыл бұрын

    ESPECIALLY when we are trying to do something productive & beneficial by learning! LOL

  • @Rikapaprika

    @Rikapaprika

    11 ай бұрын

    Yeah and another important thing is that addiction to drugs and alcohol is something very visible (and stimgatized, I'm not going to judge if it's rightfully so or not, but that's the fact) meanwhile technology addiction is so overlooked...

  • @krox477

    @krox477

    11 ай бұрын

    Yeah because we have created world full of contradictions

  • @Atlas-tp8dw

    @Atlas-tp8dw

    6 ай бұрын

    👏

  • @Aerochalklate

    @Aerochalklate

    4 ай бұрын

    i realized it and i realize how i keep resorting to scrolling my phone when i re-realize it over and over again it’s really an addiction

  • @worldofandrew8685
    @worldofandrew86857 ай бұрын

    This is really concerning and frightening. As a digital native, I'd throw away entire days on KZread or other social media. I would always blame myself. I still believe it's my fault, but it's validating seeing how the system is maliciously curated to do this.

  • @VolcanoHotTub

    @VolcanoHotTub

    4 ай бұрын

    The part that IS your fault is the part of you that doesn't check yourself and remember that the tech is vying for your attention. In this situation, knowledge is power. Don't let yourself forget that the internet is a tool, and the playground we built here is trying to suck you in. Take ownership of your decisions and don't let the tech do it for you. The part that isn't our fault is that we come stock with certain psychological mechanisms that are very well understood and manipulated. So, now that we've seen this content, let us all not be manipulated. You can only be manipulated when you are unaware. Good luck

  • @Marmalademan2
    @Marmalademan28 ай бұрын

    My biggest solution to distractions in general is to have a separate space and to add a purpose to that space example: Today I'm taking my laptop to the public library to finish writing my resume instead of sitting on my computer at home and trying to do the resume but getting distracted on youtube or something.

  • @billable1861

    @billable1861

    4 ай бұрын

    That’s genius

  • @girikkhullar4072

    @girikkhullar4072

    Ай бұрын

    It works. I have noticed that the moment I come back to my room, my desire to work on projects and assignments just plummets down because my room is kind of associated with comfort and relaxation in my mind. Whereas in library, when you see other people studying it kind of reinforces that this place is for studying and you are kind of incentivised by the environment itself to work.

  • @adamdudley2132
    @adamdudley2132 Жыл бұрын

    To all the people struggling rn, 18:30 Dr. k starts talking about something I learned very recently that lifted a lot of stress from myself. I got obsessive about trying to always feel better and be better and be healthier. But, I would never appreciate the hard work after I had done it. I would learn something new and tell myself it wasn’t enough and that I’m not healthy enough “Oh God, why is everything still painful?! Why am I still feeling bad?!?! I’ve learned so much!!” It’s because I never took the time, in my tough moments, to recognize how much closer I was to being the healthy and happy person I’ve been obsessed with becoming for so long. Don’t focus on where you want to be, aim there and focus on your every step instead because, in my experience, it did so much good to be more aware of my active efforts :). Thanks Dr.K and everyone

  • @maddog2314

    @maddog2314

    Жыл бұрын

    This is beautiful. I have become a much better/happier person (not that I wasn't before, but I felt like I entered a flow state in life) and I have recognized that, but haven't congratulated myself on that.

  • @GUYEDITINGS

    @GUYEDITINGS

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Sir

  • @scally9341

    @scally9341

    Жыл бұрын

    Be proud of the good things you do. Reflect on those good things often. Replicate that feeling. Profit.

  • @zardecil9419

    @zardecil9419

    Жыл бұрын

    People tend to do things that make them feel good. Motivation comes from your brain's ability to calculate whether or something is worth doing or not. Whether or not something is worth doing or not is most of the time defined by how good it will feel to get where you're trying to go. Therefore, it makes sense that you do need to take the time to feel good about what you're doing, or else you end up where I am: Using willpower to drag yourself through the dirt that is daily life lol.

  • @vaibhavi.singh.

    @vaibhavi.singh.

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Avery-rs9hc thank you so much for writing this!

  • @prestonlangland7611
    @prestonlangland7611 Жыл бұрын

    It feels illegal to be hearing all of this for free. Your channel is so valuable 👏

  • @auroraborealis13579

    @auroraborealis13579

    11 ай бұрын

    What a nice compliment! And, I agree! He’s such a valuable person and channel on KZread.

  • @Bruh-jw2ze

    @Bruh-jw2ze

    11 ай бұрын

    What should be illegal is publishing papers on consumer neuroscience... Like wtf Using centuries of brain research to create a. Larger divide between the haves and have nots ? Wtf are we paying taxes for then ? To dig our own graves this is messed up and definitely aggravated me to my core

  • @photoniccannon2117

    @photoniccannon2117

    10 ай бұрын

    Yea, he knows what he's talking about. Much better than some of the other self-help stuff that has become popular lately.

  • @_Ginger_Tea_

    @_Ginger_Tea_

    9 ай бұрын

    If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on studying you can study with me here. Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted. You can make youtube into something useful instead of a distraction. I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company If you're interested, feel free to study with study videos of mine Hopefully it will be useful for you...

  • @hungothanh4913

    @hungothanh4913

    9 ай бұрын

    what are you on about? good information benefiting mankind on the whole should be free and be widespread so people can be better.

  • @Boonweezy
    @Boonweezy4 ай бұрын

    5 hours on youtube/gaming? Rookie numbers

  • @ExpiditionWild

    @ExpiditionWild

    5 күн бұрын

    Buddy doesn’t even know what rock bottom is 🤣

  • @meilei8716
    @meilei87166 ай бұрын

    You saved my life today. I’m not mincing words. Thank you, sincerely.

  • @Strangedream
    @Strangedream Жыл бұрын

    It's insane to me that we are all now openly admitting to spending upwards of 5 hours straight in a day on KZread. For me, there are so many things about this in my life that, as you say at the end of the video, are simply getting out of control. That's a perfect way to put it. For me, the self loathing centers majorly around the proven (to myself) fact that I know EXACTLY what I personally need to do to be the best version of myself and to achieve or begin to achieve the goals i still manage to have somehow. It's that I'm NOT stupid or handicapped or in any way lost or unclear about what the path out of this hell looks like, where it's located and what tools i need to bring with me in order to successfully traverse it but I JUST CAN'T SEEM TO BE ABLE TO GET MYSELF TO DO LITERALLY ANYTHING some days and it is mentally EXCRUCIATING and EXHAUSTING. I am SO incredibly hyper aware of the scarcity of time and how fleeting the part of life where you are reasonably young and attractive and mobile and mentally intact is and i feel it passing by the second while at the same time i also squander so much of my time doing nothing and going nowhere and then even more time feeling like a POS because of it. I violently resisted KZread for many many years and i can't remember how i ended up finally giving in and starting to watch videos here and there but i can tell you that at this junction in my existence, i feel i cannot be without something playing in my headphones at ALL TIMES and 95% of what i listen to isn't music which has become so frustrating and cumbersome to do (but that's a topic for another comment) What worries me is how naked and anxious i feel instantly when there's nothing playing in my headphones. Like, what is that even about? Where did THAT COME FROM? So much more to say on this topic but this comment is already WAY too long!

  • @GraveRave

    @GraveRave

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm in the same boat as you

  • @prettyshortshorts

    @prettyshortshorts

    Жыл бұрын

    I am you.

  • @user-qy6tu9ip9v

    @user-qy6tu9ip9v

    Жыл бұрын

    I use KZread over 12 hours a day

  • @user-qy6tu9ip9v

    @user-qy6tu9ip9v

    Жыл бұрын

    @Jay Severely.

  • @Falcodrin

    @Falcodrin

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@Jay that actually is really good advice especially on shows or movies with plots (stay away from light novel Isekai my fav). Picking something that actively is engaging and is a single activity is good for you. Keep the phone away and focus on a single thing too.

  • @pogman7471
    @pogman7471 Жыл бұрын

    Personally, being aware of how people out there are engineering technology to make me feel this way, makes it easier to put down the phone or close youtube. Don't let them have power over you

  • @AGameSeries

    @AGameSeries

    11 ай бұрын

    That's a good thought

  • @krishniarumugam

    @krishniarumugam

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank you

  • @TylerDurden-td2yg

    @TylerDurden-td2yg

    11 ай бұрын

    Very true

  • @sana_saint

    @sana_saint

    11 ай бұрын

    Same! I think, "oh, you're not gonna profit off me today" and spite as fuel really works 😂

  • @pogman7471

    @pogman7471

    11 ай бұрын

    @@sana_saint based, exactly

  • @TheLingo56
    @TheLingo564 ай бұрын

    Find it weird but this affect is actually why I think I like watching KZread before bed with the screen off. I end up falling asleep really well because I’m not over thinking my last day and just vibing with the video in front of me.

  • @en90n

    @en90n

    3 ай бұрын

    I have been doing the same thing, i thought that I couldn’t sleep without listening to something. it effected my sleep efficiency; because for example when a music turned on suddenly after i fall asleep i wake up. I alternated this habit with reading, i read until i can’t resist sleeping. Try it i think reading is more beneficial 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @malecee

    @malecee

    Ай бұрын

    @@en90n i think it woupd be beneficial to set a sleep timer for the music to go off and not keep running, i also cant sleep when theres still something running like music or tv. reading is actually a great alternative and probably a lot better that any kind of sound or screen, youre right

  • @en90n

    @en90n

    Ай бұрын

    @@malecee I meant with music, for example when I'm listening to a podcast or a story on KZread and the presenter's voice is very calm, and suddenly there's a loud, awful music ad. Lol 🤣

  • @alexisoshea1692
    @alexisoshea16925 ай бұрын

    Omg this is so insightful and profoundly helpful. I’ve struggled with internet and technology addition and anger management issues for YEARS AND YEARS, and this feels like the “cure.” Thank you so much for making this video (I listened to it while folding laundry. Yay productivity.)

  • @ca-ke9493
    @ca-ke9493 Жыл бұрын

    This video is hits so hard it hurts. For the past 10 years of my life I have been full blown addicted to KZread. The poster says 5hours...my watch history used to be 10,12+ hours a day, everyday. I started because I really struggled to make friends and socialize in school, I had a few friends but I was always jealous of people who had vibrant cliques. So I used KZread as parasocial relationships There was no risk of having rejection when watching people online so I was making up for feeling lonely and like an outcast. I was like...13/14 when I started, I started memorizing when people would upload in the early days. I would lie in bed for the whole day just watching KZread, I used to think all I needed in life was my phone, basic human needs and my wifi connection. I remember justifying it in my uni acceptance letter since I watch science KZreadrs. The internet also warps ur brain because u compare urself to like insane prodigies and lose confidence like I wanted to do art but didn't put in effort after looking online. Now that I'm in the working world I realized I missed out on YEARS of growing and relationships and is extremely blind to all things happening. I have no sense of time, and think that things take extremely long

  • @kyomado

    @kyomado

    Жыл бұрын

    Hey! I just wanted to let you know that you definitely aren't alone in having an early internet addiction primarily stemming from a lack of social connection. I have a very similar story to yours, except that I started at a much, much earlier age (I started from 8, yikes) and mine was moreso geared towards multiplayer games and online friendships than youtube and parasocial relationships. However, one thing I discovered when going to therapy, at least in the case of myself, is that we often retreat to the internet as a coping mechanism for high irl stressors. Was there possibly any traumatic events going on in your past while growing up? Family problems, abuse of any kind, body image issues, bad experiences socially, medical issues, mental health struggles, death of a loved one, social isolation? I feel like that although we may just chalk it up to our own personal and moral failings, there were often more factors at play that influenced our behavior. We were mere children back then after all, who tend to turtle inward into their shell when the world around them seems uncertain and shaky. I know for certain that my technology addiction stemmed from several traumatic incidents across my childhood snowballing into this monstrous ball of bad memories, and it sparked frequent crying, isolation, and social dysfunction. That was when I was most vulnerable to my addiction, and I'm wondering if you were also left more vulnerable than you thought. You may have been hurt more than you give yourself credit for, and it may have had long-lasting affects on you. I had a shitton of mental health issues, traumatic early childhood experiences, family issues, generational trauma, even personally falling out with the religion I was raised into. Naturally I had a boatload of raw copium in it's purest form to deal with, and that further fueled my need for companionship and dopamine, which I sought after through games. Playing from the second I got home from school, and it wasn't uncommon for me to get 0 hours of sleep for the next school day because I was up gaming, trying to seek comfort because I truly dreaded every school day. I was terribly fucked up mentally, and even made an attempt in my teen years. Chances are that life wasn't easy for you, and you deserve compassion.

  • @Dispensationalism

    @Dispensationalism

    Жыл бұрын

    @@kyomado thanks for your comment, you were not alone with this. Many of us had to deal with that.

  • @isabellas5471

    @isabellas5471

    Жыл бұрын

    you’re not alone, i feel you 100%! we’re in this together.

  • @isabellas5471

    @isabellas5471

    Жыл бұрын

    @@kyomado you’re not alone, thank you for this comment ❤️

  • @leahsoloway3611

    @leahsoloway3611

    Жыл бұрын

    Wow I just wanna give everyone in this thread a big online hug 🫶🤗🥺

  • @totalboundlesschaos
    @totalboundlesschaos Жыл бұрын

    this is already terrifying in regards to teens and adults but imagine how detrimental this will be towards the younger generation and how the kids function when they grow up

  • @yoyonis6840

    @yoyonis6840

    Жыл бұрын

    Gen Z are already F*** up, gen alpha will be like phone zombies or VR headset zombies in the future.

  • @JaddyOG

    @JaddyOG

    Жыл бұрын

    @@yoyonis6840 literally dude. gen z are quite lucky as they weren’t shoved ipads in their hands at 6 years old, but we were still so young when iPhones were the norm so we’re still fucked. Feel really bad for the next generation who’s gonna be even worse.

  • @LuluTheCorgi

    @LuluTheCorgi

    Жыл бұрын

    Can't be any worse than knowing your society is collectively committing suicide and doing nothing about it tbh Kids of today are fucked for a vast variety of reasons

  • @yoyonis6840

    @yoyonis6840

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@JaddyOG ​ @Hansbald All we can do is when we become parents one day, is to not let our kids use the internet until at least they are 14 years old and give them books instead. So they don't end up F*** up like others. Even Steve Jobs knew this coming, he didn't let his kids use his own iPhones. I mean now days people are confused of what is a woman and that apparently men can be pregnant. In the future if we don't stop it, our kids will be brainwashed, depressed and literally be attack helicopters.

  • @totalboundlesschaos

    @totalboundlesschaos

    Жыл бұрын

    @@LuluTheCorgi wouldn’t say “your society” its a collective society as a whole everyone has responsibility. however our generation has been more open to emotional wellbeing and mental health we cant always do much about it (in terms of not being able to afford therapy or other circumstances)

  • @koturum6616
    @koturum66168 ай бұрын

    for 2 months i have been watching all of your videos and it helped me immensely Dr K. I have been diagnosed with major depression, severe anxiety disorder and late diagnosed ADHD. But your perspective about logical thinking about emotions and dealing with them, processing with them... made my traumas smaller. thank you. you will never see me and you will never know me but already you did more than anyone had been or has been in my life. I am bittersweet and it is life.

  • @hermelahailu6921
    @hermelahailu69214 ай бұрын

    I am going through this. I am alone most of the time so I use social media more. I don't have enough friends or family around me so it makes it worse because that's the only way I find comfort. But I hate living like this. I waste more time than ever and now I am depressed I don't know how to get out of this.

  • @mr.cc97

    @mr.cc97

    4 ай бұрын

    Try make schedule, what you want to do

  • @Ah-LeeSays

    @Ah-LeeSays

    4 ай бұрын

    Start with taking walks outside. You need to connect with nature. It’s not normal for us to be engaged with technology like this. It’s so bad for the brain and hormone balance. Move your body by speed walking (if physically possible) and getting sun exposure and fresh air. Touch grass…literally. Be well my friend! I was feeling like this a few months ago and I feel a ton better. Now I treat social media like a horrible drug that I’m rehabbing from😮‍💨

  • @Macalaka
    @Macalaka Жыл бұрын

    I've definitely had a lack of awareness recently, I will just refresh youtube over and over. Which is weird because its not enjoyable in the least and I rarely find good videos like that. There's this dim sense of why am I doing this, I wish I could stop. But once it starts It feels like I'm not in control anymore. The fact that I clicked on this video is a good sign that I'm getting some awareness back again. It usually goes in cycles like this for me. It really is all about awareness, certain platforms can just take advantage of a lack of awareness and highjack your attention.

  • @goldenegg7447

    @goldenegg7447

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah, I refresh and refresh. I have 30+ tabs of youtube videos I told myself I would watch that I probably won't ever look at again but yet they're there, staring at me.

  • @nathanl7221

    @nathanl7221

    Жыл бұрын

    @@goldenegg7447 I'm sure there are a lot more of us.

  • @Ryan-cb1ei

    @Ryan-cb1ei

    Жыл бұрын

    The “anterior insular activity” making us less aware is terrifying and what’s even more terrifying to me is how he mentioned how it’s involved in orgasms… I don’t know if this is actually why, but when I used to binge watch KZread terribly in college and get very anxious, I started to have to orgasm to relief these feelings, it was terrible.

  • @cunnylicious

    @cunnylicious

    Жыл бұрын

    @@marthaharding2983 its called unhook. it helped me remove all recommended videos so i only watch what i search for now which is a godsend

  • @JustHereToHear

    @JustHereToHear

    Жыл бұрын

    I would if i could but i cant uninstall it from my phone..

  • @shona5512
    @shona5512 Жыл бұрын

    This is exactly what happened to me today. I had a day off work and I spent 8:00am - 3:00pm doing nothing but watch videos.. Felt like I completely wasted my day.

  • @jayus2033

    @jayus2033

    11 ай бұрын

    Then don’t waste your day

  • @shona5512

    @shona5512

    11 ай бұрын

    @@jayus2033 Gee, why didn't I think of that.. Moron.

  • @camstanley

    @camstanley

    10 ай бұрын

    @@jayus2033 literally this whole video is about how easy it is to waste your day lol

  • @NEELZE99

    @NEELZE99

    8 ай бұрын

    Damn, that's the last 3 months for me😢

  • @lilianab4756

    @lilianab4756

    8 ай бұрын

    Me too!😢 ❤

  • @razorsharp9850
    @razorsharp985011 ай бұрын

    Just stumbled upon your channel and this video. Obviously by way of the algorithm. Man am I glad that I found this one. I have watched many “motivational” channels with little answers and I didn’t want to get sucked into that again. You’re something else. You hit the bullseye 4 times in a video and have a great way of explaining it, while you bring up angles that are quite unique. Big thumbs up.

  • @fuego2002
    @fuego200211 ай бұрын

    this was insanely helpful, thank you so much! as i was watching the video i realized that it is true, the days I feel compelled to do homework I feel more confident and sure of myself and the days I don’t i’m thinking of all the ways i fucked up in the past and try to suppress those feelings by going on youtube. during the video when you made that clear to become aware of it and acknowledge that it does matter what i want and not to say it doesn’t matter how you feel i have to do it i suddenly felt better about myself and got motivated to be productive. insane best video on productivity i have ever seen

  • @designsbyflora3708
    @designsbyflora3708 Жыл бұрын

    There’s a reason why people that work in big tech companies don’t let their kids have social media and tablets. One guy I really like to listen to speak on this is Jaron Lanier. Super fascinating stuff. He inspired me to get off social media for a year and that was really eye opening. I find myself actually having trouble being entertained by it nowadays which is a good problem.

  • @thedog5k

    @thedog5k

    Жыл бұрын

    I didn’t know that was the case, I’ll check him out. Thanks for the heads up! This video comes at a perfect time for me. Have been really trying to reduce my tech time, I have been thinking and reflecting on what a waste it has been.

  • @designsbyflora3708

    @designsbyflora3708

    Жыл бұрын

    @@thedog5k prepared to have your world rocked.

  • @user-br4to3gg9i

    @user-br4to3gg9i

    Жыл бұрын

    Wait so you…. Went cold turkey on the internet? Did you ever slip?

  • @designsbyflora3708

    @designsbyflora3708

    Жыл бұрын

    @@user-br4to3gg9i I deleted all my accounts and my apps and had the intention to be off forever. I pretty much lasted a year, I didn’t want to get back on but I’m an artist so I kind of had to. I still wish I could go off completely. I did have KZread though because I like watching art videos and book videos. I didn’t really ever have the urge to get back on because I really became informed on the damage it was doing to me and I could see how it wasn’t ACTUALLY entertaining. I made sure to keep busy and fill my time with art and reading and other hobbies. I was also working a lot so that helped and I was taking self defense classes like 3x a week. My mental health was in a relatively good place with all the exercise and good food I was getting. I imagine it would be harder for most people, my lifestyle just really was ideal. My biggest tip if you’re trying to cut back is to journal / stay present with your emotions and to keep busy with hobbies and work that better you as a whole.

  • @melvindoo2396

    @melvindoo2396

    Жыл бұрын

    just a year? do it completely

  • @namelessidiot8132
    @namelessidiot8132 Жыл бұрын

    this really made me realize something and pulled me out of a depressive state. i am absolutely unable to work in the evening or night, i’ll tell myself the entire day “yea i still have time i can start at 6. i can still start at 10. at midnight.. and so on and i just cant. ill end up doing nothing, spending my day on the internet. however, i noticed that if i start working early, i will be focused longer and easier and whenever i do take breaks i find myself bored, not wanting to do nothing, so ill continue my work, or randomly start doing chores, sort out my closet etc. im on a productive high and youtube bores me. the days i start off lazy, on youtube, i stay on youtube and everything else becomes boring, im uninspired etc. this made me realize why. ill try to work on myself, sorting out my sleep schedule and getting used to doing what has to be done FIRST before the internet catches and destroys all my attention. i had such a hard time focusing today and am once again close to dropping out of university just bc i cannot focus and dont think i can ever do this. this made me realize that im not the problem, my current lifestyle just is, and i firmly believe i have the willpower to turn this around!

  • @namelessidiot8132

    @namelessidiot8132

    Жыл бұрын

    update: pretty sure i have adhd

  • @chelseashift

    @chelseashift

    Жыл бұрын

    @@namelessidiot8132 crying at this update. but i hope u figure it out man

  • @falsemcnuggethope

    @falsemcnuggethope

    Жыл бұрын

    I did this when I was working on my thesis, but instead of not starting to work at midnight, I actually did start then or even later. I worked through the night and got in a good flow. I got a lot done and it felt great. Evening and night are the most productive time of day for me, and I've known it for a long time.

  • @jacobharris5894

    @jacobharris5894

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah I I’ve noticed this as well. The thing is I’m able to sometimes study all night when i’m motivated but motivation is way too unreliable and depends on how excited I am about the task. That’s why I’m currently trying to fix my sleep schedule right now so I can give myself a structured work schedule and daily shutdown time. It’s always felt impossible for me to stick to a self imposed sleep schedule but this and a daily shutdown time are crucial I think. Especially when you work from home and make your own hours. I think having at least one non work day a week is important as well.

  • @shengki333

    @shengki333

    11 ай бұрын

    @@namelessidiot8132 hey did you get diagnosed cause don't assume their are many things we need to check before hopping into this scenario

  • @nh8444
    @nh84444 ай бұрын

    Exercise has helped me a lot with this problem. Meditation or deep breathing has helped as well.

  • @temisv8346
    @temisv834610 ай бұрын

    Dude you are amazing. I have struggled with this for years. Now i feel like i finally have gained some control in these kinds of situations! Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Keep doing what you are doing!❤️

  • @christinesuter9954
    @christinesuter9954 Жыл бұрын

    I feel like for most of this video I was like “yeah yeah I got it, I sit down and can ask myself how I feel and I feel BAD. I don’t want to do it. Then what?” And the idea of ‘acknowledging the sacrifice’ is such a revelation. Allow yourself to admit that it’s hard, and you are doing a hard thing, and thank yourself for doing that hard thing.

  • @veronicabanales5255

    @veronicabanales5255

    8 ай бұрын

    Is that the only solution

  • @goldfish544

    @goldfish544

    8 ай бұрын

    Yeah I had the same big takeaway

  • @Elijah42069

    @Elijah42069

    7 ай бұрын

    @@veronicabanales5255 nah

  • @aldofebrian5424

    @aldofebrian5424

    6 ай бұрын

    beautiful summary!

  • @amunak_

    @amunak_

    6 ай бұрын

    But then what do you do when it's stuff you want to do, but just can't get yourself to do it? I would certainly prefer to even play games which I tend to enjoy, or do whatever else that I like, and yet I end up watching KZread for 4 hours (well more like 6 usually) because it seems like it's the only thing I can do.

  • @azaleamcpeanut484
    @azaleamcpeanut484 Жыл бұрын

    I'm an adult women who is getting a diagnosis for adhd. I find myself watching youtube all day to pass the time and help numb my brain. I just don't know what to do day to day. I work full time and I need a break from it on my days off. But watching youtube can't be the only solution.

  • @aliciaredden

    @aliciaredden

    Жыл бұрын

    i relate to you exactly.

  • @samuri2011

    @samuri2011

    Жыл бұрын

    Ohhhh i felt this!!!

  • @mhenderson7673

    @mhenderson7673

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah I literally don't know what else I can do

  • @aroangeI

    @aroangeI

    Жыл бұрын

    my situation is so similar to yours

  • @strudelh

    @strudelh

    Жыл бұрын

    You’re just like me except I’ve been trying to get my first job, and since I have no car I can’t go anywhere either 🥲

  • @Michael-iw3ek
    @Michael-iw3ek11 ай бұрын

    Love it that he's just talking to us instead of reading a script.

  • @goins9612
    @goins96126 ай бұрын

    This video is just what I’ve needed right now. I’ve been off and on social media and KZread on my phone and I’ve found myself in a rut trying to get back off of it. It’s easy to be alone with my thoughts when I’m doing mentally well but when things get hard I use constant media as a crutch. I’ve been working on changing how I speak to myself but something about this video just clicked with me. Thank you and I’ll definitely be revisiting this video a lot.

  • @SlyKooper1029
    @SlyKooper1029 Жыл бұрын

    I think what I took away from this, is that you have to have balance. It’s good to push yourself, even to your limits, but don’t be so hard on yourself when you don’t reach a goal. Talk to yourself as if you’re talking to a loved one you care about but in a manner of encouraging them to do better-even if the progress is little. Thank you for this.

  • @ocean6462

    @ocean6462

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah this video was kind of dissappointing because there wasn't really any solution given or steps to take (although that's pretty common). I don't personally have the problem of watching hours of youtube at a time but I do waste a lot of time on it. But toward the end I was starting to think that in explaining the problem and its causes and the mechanism for why the problem persists, it kind of gives insight and motivation for actually getting yourself out of that cycle while having self compassion for yourself. Understanding a bit about the nerology of the changes to the anterior insula after watching a lot much youtube helps you give yourself a break and develop the self compassion required, and from there hopefully the motivaiton to get yourself out of the cycle

  • @busystuff23yearsago15

    @busystuff23yearsago15

    Жыл бұрын

    @@ocean6462 solution is within yourself; it’s a balance and I’d suggest you just take a step away from technology or starters just your phone

  • @filmpjesman1

    @filmpjesman1

    Жыл бұрын

    I think I saw another video a few days ago, it was about the inner voice that can harm yourself, where a commenter put it very beautifully (and funny): "If I overheard someone talk to someone else like my inner voice talks to me I would call the cops." I think the first step is indeed small, and indeed don't punish yourself for not being productive for a day, the road up isn't linear

  • @arcticcircle9178

    @arcticcircle9178

    Жыл бұрын

    It doesn't exactly help that in a fair few cases, being able to afford to live the next month is dependent on reaching certain goals...

  • @trappart9209

    @trappart9209

    Жыл бұрын

    Do your best and self heal. Why self heal? Because our perfectionism and self harshness stem from the poor treatment we received in the past

  • @iamthestormthatisapproaching69
    @iamthestormthatisapproaching69 Жыл бұрын

    I have to keep reminding myself to pick up the pencil and draw over youtube. My dad is retired and he, of course, have better reasons to binge it. I on the other hand am working a job and I only have 2 days of off time per week. As I'm writing this, I'm currently off. Watching this makes me realize how precious time is because the way I've been using it isn't going to help me evolve into this artist I aspire to be. Sure, I have a whole lot of other things to do, but I've always seen myself as an artist someday and I keep blinding myself with it.

  • @isabeedemski3635

    @isabeedemski3635

    Жыл бұрын

    Draw the presenters.

  • @quitetheordinaryguy1195

    @quitetheordinaryguy1195

    Жыл бұрын

    Except I only think of drawing and thinking of improving my art and making money off it - all in my mind.

  • @paulhudson6846

    @paulhudson6846

    Жыл бұрын

    Big mood, I think the only thing that helps me is finding inspiration so I know exactly what I wanna draw, finding reference ready for when I start to struggle, & making myself of music I like that also helps me focus (generally no lyrics). Sounds like procrastination honestly, but it is difficult to self-motivate.

  • @Balloonbot

    @Balloonbot

    Жыл бұрын

    @@quitetheordinaryguy1195 Not always a bad thing, especially when starting out. To be a professional in the world of entertainment, so movies and films you really need a solid technical understanding of form, colour, composition and design. It can stop you from plateauing keeping that in mind, because you have a lot of people wanting to be concept artists because they draw a lot but they havnt learned the correct things.

  • @UM2636

    @UM2636

    Жыл бұрын

    Try binge watching art yt videos grab your book and draw if u have to have an idea 💡 in mind Of what you’d what to draw try that 🤷🏾‍♂️

  • @NJC458
    @NJC4586 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this video. I'm sure there's many people who wish to decrease their screen time and your video will help them. One thing to add is how a lot of videos sell you productivity. They tap into your frustrations on your lack of achievement/ productivity by selling you how to do things. In your example of bush crafts it is how to be self sufficient killing/catching/eating. In other videos it may be this is the most successful (productive) way to play this game, or to complete this DIY project. Again, thank you for your video I'm sure it'll help a lot of people. I'm off to watch another video now...

  • @avi8terrfwg317
    @avi8terrfwg3179 ай бұрын

    Your videos are so useful. My addiction comes from the need to know everything. There are so many informative videos out there that I feel like I'm missing out if I'm not scrolling/watching. I am now listening with earbuds while I do my chores. I think this helps a little. It is easier to turn it off then, once I'm engaged in something else.

  • @peace_larva
    @peace_larva Жыл бұрын

    The suppressing uncomfortable emotions by distracting yourself with the internet is very true! Sometimes when I feel really shitty, like I'm stuck on a problem or am angry because of a disagreement with my parents, I shut myself in my room and surf the internet. And like I can physically feel myself relax by distancing my mind from those intense emotions. After I'm done with my binge, I barely even remember what caused me to feel bad. Very scary when the realisation hits.

  • @oSamiSrzo
    @oSamiSrzo Жыл бұрын

    The easiest way to stop a KZread addiction and fix your life in general is to add as many steps between yourself and what's troubling you. Make it difficult enough to where you cannot just "hop on for a sec". Make yourself not want to go through the effort of doing what you know you shouldn't be. For example, I used to have a KZread addiction a while back, and the way I fixed it was to make it so KZread never remembers my password, and then setup 2FA on the account, and then 2FA on the account that the first 2FA email gets sent to. I have to type my password, and go through two different 2FA's, logging into 3 emails every time I want to login to my KZread account. And to control my temptation to go to the website without logging in, I made it so my web browser doesn't autofill or save history. That way, I don't see KZread as an option on the quick access tab, and it won't autofill the search bar if all I do it press the letter Y. I also uninstalled KZread from all mobile devices.

  • @kayligo

    @kayligo

    Жыл бұрын

    Yup. I deleted Netflix and I’m finally going to sleep at reasonable times. Debating deleting KZread off my phone now...

  • @dovahnok

    @dovahnok

    Жыл бұрын

    I guess that's the digital version of locking the candy

  • @kayligo

    @kayligo

    Жыл бұрын

    @@dovahnok locked and put on the tall shelf lol

  • @dogeseddy5513

    @dogeseddy5513

    Жыл бұрын

    This is brilliant. I already did a version of this where I uninstalled the YT app and simply use my mobile browser if I ever I need to watch a video (didn't work, still addicted as ever).

  • @phungphuong8350

    @phungphuong8350

    Жыл бұрын

    @@dogeseddy5513 dude I had tried that too. Now im trying to block youtube through screen time, now I spend 2 hours watching youtube instead of 5 every day.

  • @firefly313
    @firefly3138 ай бұрын

    This was incredible. Came after right about 5+ hours of KZread in avoidance of my MSW coursework... And gave me an incredible amount of insight into my own (as well as a client's!) patterns. I'm going to be thinking about the importance of trying to establish a positive emotional state before trying to do work in future. Thank you.

  • @sod6405
    @sod640510 ай бұрын

    This is the best video on productivity, I’ve addressed that awareness/emotional side, a lot of it had to do with self talk, great vid

  • @MrKasenom
    @MrKasenom Жыл бұрын

    Just like to mention that i spent years addicted to technology and beating myself up for it, but instead recently I've made the conscious decision to not beat myself up when i spend all day doing nothing, and interestingly enough it leads to having more "productive" days where i really work on what matters to me m

  • @igorbolotnikov975
    @igorbolotnikov975 Жыл бұрын

    The most terrifying thing about this video is that I got it in my feed by chance. Who knows how many more days, weeks, months, years it would take if I just didn’t stumble upon it today.

  • @Rosa-sw8qp
    @Rosa-sw8qp6 ай бұрын

    Thank you. Part of me already knew this because I could see my hrs of staring at the screen was a form of escapism and self soothing to not deal with all the negative emotions that chronic pain has brought into my life, along with all the various pressures of life. But it is incredibly validating to hear all this. I hope this becomes a real key to help begin moving forward. Your delivery is also so compassionate. I liken this information, ironically found here on KZread, to someone opening the cell door for me and all of a sudden light coming into this prison. ❤️🙏

  • @arcaneshadow1275
    @arcaneshadow12756 ай бұрын

    Wow what a great video. I needed this. I’ve heard bits and pieces of this stuff but you put it together and articulated things really well. Thanks!

  • @melonowl333
    @melonowl333 Жыл бұрын

    Regarding procrastination, for me the number one factor really is the feeling that what I'm doing has to be perfect. I feel like I won't do it right and that's what keeps me from starting on something. But realizing that that's what's happening usually helps me get started. Even if it has to be in small steps at first!

  • @franhino4977

    @franhino4977

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes it happens to me in school work, I try to start but can’t because nothing seems to be perfect enough, then I tell myself: who cares if it’s perfect just do it to learn , I just do it no black and white thinking and have a lot of fun, (yeah sometimes school proyecta are fun)

  • @LuciaBrezianska

    @LuciaBrezianska

    Жыл бұрын

    Perfectionist and procrastinator here, I fell you. Its many times those small steps that help.

  • @chrysifloga

    @chrysifloga

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this. I feel the exact the same thing and i hate it

  • @krox477

    @krox477

    11 ай бұрын

    Yeah awareness leads to change we have to be aware

  • @GeneralChangOfDanang

    @GeneralChangOfDanang

    10 ай бұрын

    This happens a lot with me and home projects. I'm also a tightwad when it comes to money, so that is another reason I want it to be perfect. I know that I can learn from my mistakes but making mistakes is expensive, especially in today's economy.

  • @isaacroot5459
    @isaacroot5459 Жыл бұрын

    More psychiatrists should be like him. Too many doctors choose psychiatry because the residency is among the less-demanding in the field, and work-life balance is attainable. It leads to a lot of shitty psychiatrists who phone in everyday for a patient population that require a deep amount of empathy and special consideration.

  • @lilwaffleiron7845

    @lilwaffleiron7845

    Жыл бұрын

    This is so true. I've literally never even met my psychiatrist in person because she just video calls me every month. Also she's at least 5 minutes late every single time and never acknowledges it or apologizes for it, so right off the bat it feels like she doesn't care about me.

  • @thirdpedalnirvana

    @thirdpedalnirvana

    Жыл бұрын

    The psychiatrist I saw gaslit me and so I've never gone back to her. I'm trying to work up the courage to seek psychiatric care for my ADHD, I'm afraid of having a similar experience. I've lived my life for 30 years without medication, I want a psychiatrist that only wants me on meds that help and that is willing to help me not uproot my whole lifestyle for it

  • @erikarnesen6052

    @erikarnesen6052

    11 ай бұрын

    @@lilwaffleiron7845 Tell her then. If you don't tell her it feels disrespectful to be on time, then she will continue to do so.

  • @erikarnesen6052

    @erikarnesen6052

    11 ай бұрын

    @MiniPeen-dc3qo Good point, but not everyone has the option or time to do so. They are still people and some will be late even though they're very good at their job, unfortuneatly.

  • @jenny.izaguirre
    @jenny.izaguirre9 ай бұрын

    I can’t put into words how greatful I am to have come across your channel. I have been dealing with phone, social media and KZread addition for years and nothing seemed to work. I will have this video on my “reminders to keep my sanity” playlist.

  • @TheFisterin

    @TheFisterin

    9 ай бұрын

    Just remove yourself from tech as much as you can live a life like a boomer...

  • @bambooboobamb3335

    @bambooboobamb3335

    8 ай бұрын

    @@TheFisterin no it's actually better to use tech to keep up to date but you just need to use it in context of bettering yourself, reading books studying new things to help you in your life and your psychology like this one.. I think I already knew what he spoke about by understanding how I react to different things but people rarely think through their thought process and how they feel after doing different things which is the reason we are either motivated or not.

  • @itikboiusec2138
    @itikboiusec21384 ай бұрын

    This is really an eye opener. I literally related to each and every single point you mentioned and now suddenly it all makes sense. After seeing this it feels possible to stop this addiction. You my sir are amazing and I wish you all the best. You just earned yourself another viewer and a subscriber

  • @TaggedByTim
    @TaggedByTim Жыл бұрын

    "I want to be perfect like everybody else..." Man nobody is perfect and has their life all figured out. We're all just figuring it out day by day.

  • @charleshu6982
    @charleshu6982 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for not taking advantage of the internet attention market by cutting the short pauses between Dr K's speech. Hearing this raw version is so much more impactful.

  • @-mrws-

    @-mrws-

    Ай бұрын

    Yeap, the manipulations, that are hidden behind the "we just do the good stuff for you guyz" (entertainment etc.) is obvious for now. But "technologies" are used not only when you're in a bad mental state. That's an awfully-manipulative thesis itself, that can affect on people's conclusions, bcs the logic of it says: *_People = good. Technologies = bad._*

  • @zachstarattack7320

    @zachstarattack7320

    21 күн бұрын

    no he should cut pauses

  • @zachstarattack7320

    @zachstarattack7320

    21 күн бұрын

    no he should cut the pauses

  • @Joshsclips

    @Joshsclips

    6 күн бұрын

    @@zachstarattack7320 definitely should not. Cutting those pauses contributes directly to the issue of shorter and shorter attention spans

  • @minalb8305
    @minalb83056 ай бұрын

    I just wanted to thank you. This was so informative and incredibly useful.

  • @Kasiux
    @Kasiux5 ай бұрын

    The untethered soul - A book I can really recommend when it comes to conceptualizing "awareness" and "conciousness"

  • @trollingisasport
    @trollingisasport Жыл бұрын

    As someone who has dealt with ADHD, anxiety, and mild depression, the best thing I ever learned how to do to take action, is to learn how to do things without pushing myself to do them but falling into action. It's hard to get for the first time but once you've felt it you can repeat it again. It's almost like a numbing of the mind and a letting go. I think a good way to start is counting down from five and then acting.

  • @fliederfloh8674

    @fliederfloh8674

    Жыл бұрын

    I call this a trigger and action like scrubbing the sink as a logical next step after turning on the kettle, with the tea as a reward

  • @BloohApple
    @BloohApple Жыл бұрын

    Just want to take a minute to let you know, despite my awareness of the fact that this comment will get lost in the sea, that your amazing content has been life-changing, and that is an understatement. This year was so challenging, from a breakup to opiate withdrawal and suicidal ideation in tandem with a major depressive episode.. Therapy has helped a bit but it's really your wonderful content that has truly helped me lift myself out of hopelessness and despair. In my perception, you literally saved my life. Thank you so much.

  • @nadja4681

    @nadja4681

    Жыл бұрын

    It's good you're still here. It must have been very difficult to overcome all that or to even find the strength to try, if I was you I would be very proud of myself :)

  • @soy_boy69

    @soy_boy69

    Жыл бұрын

    Bro , you look like a gigachad

  • @BloohApple

    @BloohApple

    Жыл бұрын

    @@soy_boy69 LMAO well this picture is a quasi-meme I used here during my blunder years but hey I'll take that compliment from you for myself sir, please and thank you :)

  • @SIC647

    @SIC647

    Жыл бұрын

    I see you. Congratulations on your very hard work.

  • @techyjourney3098
    @techyjourney309817 күн бұрын

    Love your content man ! Thanks for al the help. I don't if I can lay a little note on the format, the voice tone works perfectly when it's in the other hand of a call, but I think it can be better when you are talking to us directly through your videos. *Only growth, nothing else*

  • @ShowGuPan
    @ShowGuPan8 ай бұрын

    This content is so helpful, so direct and so real to that point that I'm surprised it's not removed.

  • @LordStraightBanana
    @LordStraightBanana Жыл бұрын

    I started watching KZread when my dad was terminally ill and died in 2018. It helped me stop thinking about it all the time. The same again when my mum passed. But that has become an addiction that I didn’t realise was doing so much harm until recently. Unfortunately, it doesn’t selectively block out only the bad bits of life, it blocks out everything. Yes, you’re not thinking about the bad stuff, but all the time you should be pondering and working out what you need to do to be a functioning human is also taken up. Then your motivation is slowly sapped and that spreads through all aspects of your life.

  • @Falcodrin

    @Falcodrin

    Жыл бұрын

    Yea at least with mild altering substances the most common ones you are totally fine the next morning. No impulse to take a gummy at 7am but we sure will roll over snooze the alarm and open KZread.

  • @IndieAuthorX
    @IndieAuthorX Жыл бұрын

    Whenever I feel the need to binge on something unhealthy, when I am in a good state of mind, I remind myself that I do not need these things, I will be perfectly happy without them, and if I am wrong and do need them, they will be readily available whenever I want. I can go and do the more nourishing thing in the meantime.

  • @TravelingMooseMedia

    @TravelingMooseMedia

    Жыл бұрын

    This is a great comment. Thank you.

  • @kittycat794

    @kittycat794

    Жыл бұрын

    Lovely insight, thank you.

  • @ciaa8387

    @ciaa8387

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @victorramirez9197
    @victorramirez91978 ай бұрын

    Thank you for making this. I appreciate and respect your work. Thanks again

  • @OLskewL
    @OLskewLАй бұрын

    Thank you. I appreciate this. Note: There are beliefs that are better/right/true, even when compared to others. You can still believe this and not be so black and white in your thinking processes, because Truth is not subjective even though we push it to be. John 3:16. God bless you and the reader ❤

  • @CookieKeksChoclat
    @CookieKeksChoclat Жыл бұрын

    In my experience, the reason I do not start to do something like studying and instead watch youtube is often that I actually don't even know how to start. Like I have to study. But like, what do I even have to do for that? Planning To Do Lists have definitely helped with that, especially since I can seperate the things into small chunks that are not too overwhelming.

  • @user-br4to3gg9i

    @user-br4to3gg9i

    Жыл бұрын

    I’ve been there too 100%, we’ll still there except I’m not a student anymore

  • @paigekesslerr
    @paigekesslerr Жыл бұрын

    This is wayyy more helpful than the ducking anti procrastination videos

  • @mehakverma7043

    @mehakverma7043

    Жыл бұрын

    Actually. And the comment sections for those videos are even worse.

  • @TjarpDex
    @TjarpDex10 ай бұрын

    A simple question my therapist always asked me when I went on a ramble about things I **HAVE** or **NEED** to do was: Why? Why do you have to do it? Who's forcing you? It took me a while to finally understand what she meant and it's reflected quite well in this video. I'm doing a lot better nowadays, I'm thankful I had an excellent therapist who helped me get better through **YEARS** of depression and anxiety.

  • @jbrkjferkjbekjb
    @jbrkjferkjbekjb10 ай бұрын

    i love your videos so much Dr K. You're a true gift to this world, with not only your scientific knowledge but also a certain wisdom you have. Good on you Sir, and thank you.

  • @seaofflowers.
    @seaofflowers. Жыл бұрын

    *I understand this channel isn't a substitute for therapy.* I want to thank you for your material Dr. K because your wording, demeanor, patience, and general understanding with kindness is really getting through to me on things I've ruminated over all my life, I'm 29 now. I talk about your videos to my therapist weekly. I am currently doing exactly as this video explains, and have wasted the last few hours on my phone when I need to work. There really is a great importance with how a messenger relays certain messages, I've been through a lot of mental health doctors in my personal life and you are really unique. I could go on forever, thanks again Dr. K. 🤞🏻

  • @snakejuce

    @snakejuce

    Жыл бұрын

    I still don't get how to go about this. What was advocated to do once you realize you're on the good ol' youtube/internet binge? Kinda confused tbh. Wish you the best with your journey btw.

  • @kitcat2449
    @kitcat2449 Жыл бұрын

    I barely use social media anymore. I use my phone actively by searching up stuff I actually want to do (read, learn, watch movies, listen to podcasts, play games). I feel SO much better, it's insane how much mindless scrolling can affect you.

  • @GuineaPigEveryday

    @GuineaPigEveryday

    11 ай бұрын

    Same. Mind you i still have my low points and give in. But getting rid of social media apps on my phone was the most freeing thing, because doomscrolling on tiktok or instagram feels disgusting, im lucky i never downloaded tiktok knowing how addicting it is to ppl. Becuz rlly theres no need staying on insta just for a few ppl possibly talking to you, find some texting app. Idk even if its watching movie by myself it feels 100x more enjoyable in the end, that or reading, listening to music etc. For a while I spent a lot of time every day going outside to read in the park, and while im kinda giving into tech addictions now, its definitely something i recommend to ppl. Reading might seem boring but god in the long run it can rlly make u feel a lot happier about life. and it gives u a good excuse to be outside

  • @pododododoehoh3550
    @pododododoehoh35508 күн бұрын

    this is the most important channel in my life as someone who regularly near involuntarily or at least unaware...edly binges many hours of youtube a day. Thankyou.

  • @infinitejourney...
    @infinitejourney...6 ай бұрын

    One of the best video I have found on KZread after wasting thousands of hours. Feel conflicted about whether I should thank youtube or not. Ultimately its up to us how to use technology. Thank you 🙏 Doctor.

  • @Michael_Shay
    @Michael_Shay Жыл бұрын

    I know in this video, Dr. K talks about addressing underlying emotions etc. But for those that do struggle with this and their video consumption is on desktop, I highly recommend getting an extension that blocks the KZread recommendations page, and also the sidebar on videos. It's by no means perfect, but it does help :) Edit: Yes, I am well aware that this is not a solution to the issue. Of course address the underlying emotions as Dr. K says in the video. This is simply another barrier to falling into bad habits. The process of addressing those emotions is not simply a black and white process. Maybe doing this just takes the 6 hours wasted and turns it into 4. It's still worthwhile.

  • @red_velvetcake1759

    @red_velvetcake1759

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the tip! Do you know any good extensions to do that? Would be really greatful

  • @Michael_Shay

    @Michael_Shay

    Жыл бұрын

    @@red_velvetcake1759 The one I use is called Unhook

  • @manavnayyar

    @manavnayyar

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Michael_Shay Just enabled it. Thanks for the tip. Have a great day!

  • @Hemlocker

    @Hemlocker

    Жыл бұрын

    I can recommend this too. (For Firefox users, I can recommend the extension Unhook.) I think it's similar to the advice to remove snacks from your pantry if you're going on a diet - it's not necessarily going to suddenly make it easy to eat healthy every day, but it can add one "barrier" to the negative behaviour that you're trying to stop. Ultimately though, as genuinely helpful as tips like this can be, we have to try to solve the root cause of the problem!

  • @Michael_Shay

    @Michael_Shay

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Hemlocker You're absolutely right, it's all about adding a barrier

  • @juliana.x0x0
    @juliana.x0x0 Жыл бұрын

    I go through this hole cycle every day. I start in the morning, when I'm super tired, to let myself wake up. Then, as I wake up, I let it play in the background, while I am getting ready for the day, which I always intend to do, bright and early. But the more I have to face going outside, face, my adult responsibilities, the more excuses I give myself to do stuff around the house, change my outfit, whatever. It is only as I continued to consume more caffeine, and the knowledge that there are things that I HAVE to do or my adult life will fall apart, and there will be real world consequences, do the scales tip to full-blown anxiety, when I am finally able to push myself out the door in almost a frenzy, trying to get an entire days to do list worth of stuff to accomplish in two hours. I have gotten to the point where I know I need to be able to sit with my thoughts and feelings, and process. It's just so much easier not to.

  • @sarahfromtheneverland9001

    @sarahfromtheneverland9001

    Жыл бұрын

    Me too I really resented myself for this but I won't blame myself anymore ❤

  • @juliana.x0x0

    @juliana.x0x0

    Жыл бұрын

    @@sarahfromtheneverland9001 honestly it's SO comforting to know that I'm not the only one in this cycle! Sometimes I put reminders/alarms in my phone if I know that I have a lot to do the next day, so that during that cycle I am more aware of the time and the obligations I have. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. I am trying to use it as more of a reward, for after I get my responsibilities done, but it's so hard to be alone with my thoughts and feelings, especially anxiety.

  • @Zgzgzgzgzgzgzgggggg

    @Zgzgzgzgzgzgzgggggg

    Жыл бұрын

    Thats EXACTLY the same life i live

  • @krishniarumugam
    @krishniarumugam11 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for this. My heart sank because it felt like me right now.

  • @downbntout
    @downbntout4 ай бұрын

    Very grateful. You've given us a way to get out of this hole. I will now sign off, self-reflect a few minutes, and start the work.

  • @SirFency
    @SirFency Жыл бұрын

    I know why I go down the rabbit hole. It shuts my brain off. I don't have to think when I'm watching tv or playing a game or researching something on youtube. It gives my brain a break. I used to have alcohol but since I don't drink that anymore I get zero relief from the constant anxiety, depression, and mental exhaustion that comes with everyday life. It's clear I have a disorder of some kind because normal people don't experience life like this. I eventually get to a point where I eat horrible food (for the feels) and or completely extricate myself from anything that makes me think about stuff. I usually combine these into a weekend binge of TV and bad food options but its never like I actually rested. I am still just as exhausted after that huge waste of time. Only now I have gained weight and haven't made any progress towards my goals so now I feel worse. I have a meeting set up next week. I hope I can get a proper diagnosis and some kind of solution other than meditation because there is no way I'm going to meditate.

  • @AnEnderNon

    @AnEnderNon

    4 ай бұрын

    lock yourself in a room until you don't

  • @tundranone8366

    @tundranone8366

    3 ай бұрын

    @@AnEnderNon Horrible advice

  • @noahgilbertson7530
    @noahgilbertson7530 Жыл бұрын

    this tends to be the cause of depressive episodes or comes hand in hand with it. Try start your day without screen time and its much easier to be productive. I have this problem ALL THE TIME and I’m still managing to do a pretty involved degree so don’t worry it’s ok we all get like this and it’s not ur fault ❤

  • @duevyncooke5686
    @duevyncooke56869 ай бұрын

    I deeply appreciate your message. Thank you!

  • @LeonardoGarcia-bk9pu
    @LeonardoGarcia-bk9pu4 ай бұрын

    It's amazing how valuable and on point this info is, ive been stuck in such a bad place for this exact reason constantly searching and thinking and even contemplating suicide just because i felt like such a failure, but acknowledging and taking that step towards understand standing and working with myself is something thats taken me so long to understand and thanks to this video ive pushed that process even more. Thank you so so so much Dr. K

  • @yeethot6275
    @yeethot6275 Жыл бұрын

    KZreadrs telling me to stop watching youtube is the most confusing thing

  • @kevinjohnston8341
    @kevinjohnston8341 Жыл бұрын

    There's a real meta involved watching this on KZread and being aware of it.

  • @normanclatcher

    @normanclatcher

    Жыл бұрын

    They love to tease that there's an exit to the maze. But you won't find it so long as you keep running and turning corners.

  • @LuluTheCorgi

    @LuluTheCorgi

    Жыл бұрын

    @@normanclatcher You are kinda missing the point. Nobody is saying watching half an hour of KZread a day will make your brain explode. This video is about people watching it for hours at a time Moderation is key as with everything (Which I personally suck at lol I'm definitely in the hours category)

  • @normanclatcher

    @normanclatcher

    Жыл бұрын

    @@LuluTheCorgi I'm also in the 'hours' category. My 'they' here is the algorithm, which wouldn't bother sharing something like this if it thought it posed a real danger to us continuing on as we've been.

  • @djenning90
    @djenning908 ай бұрын

    Wow this is fantastic! So enlightening and useful. Thank you! I’d like to hear more on how to change my negative thinking and replace my automatic thoughts and habits with ones that support the kind of thinking and attitude that will help me escape technology and get my willpower back.

  • @TiffanySoulbird
    @TiffanySoulbird4 ай бұрын

    Thanks so much. This so helpful. When you said you have to sacrifice but it doesn't mean you can't acknowledge the sacrifice, that really hit home with me. Very educational. The more you know! 💫

  • @TheSFMLG
    @TheSFMLG Жыл бұрын

    I have struggled with this a lot in my past so I'm glad it's finally being talked about. My tendencies use to suck me into watching KZread everyday... It felt so good and I enjoyed the people I watched so much that I didn't want to stop. Then, hours later, when I took a break I just felt like doing absolutely nothing. I dreaded doing every single thing(literally everything) other than watching KZread. It was a really bad vicious cycle in my life for some time. I still have problems from time to time but, for me, I've found the thing that seems to work. It seems obvious but it's an "out of sight out of mind" mentality. I just focus when I wake up in the morning on the things that I could do that aren't youtube. Not on how to avoid watching KZread(this is crucial). From time to time the thought of watching a video pops into my head, but I just refocus my energy back to what I was doing. I have go to things that are essentially "time wasters" for when I'm craving to watch my favorite KZreadrs. Things that you could spend hours doing but aren't necessarily unproductive either. I've thrown balls at the wall for hours at a time(slight exercise), meditated(peace of mind), went outside to feel the sun on my skin(I just love this haha), I even just threw a pillow around my room for like 30 minutes once(some exercise too depending on how big your room is.). Just simple and stupid things so KZread is out of sight and out of mind. I keep doing these things until I feel naturally motivated to do something that isn't watching youtube. The boredom usually takes care of that. Although I actually am quite entertained by my "time wasters" and I usually get inspired to do something while I'm doing these things. Find something that is a passive activity where you can think while doing it so you have the possibility of be inspired by thought. When I say inspired I mean any thought that has motivation backing it. In those moments I don't think, I just do those things with that little motivation boost that I got from it! I plan my day every day from the start with these time wasters! So it's not really a waste of time at all! 🙂The biggest key to all of this though is to be patient with yourself. You obviously won't be able to kick a set of tendencies and a habit immediately. Your mind will gravitate towards it over and over, do your best to refocus your attention on a time waster or something else. You will slip up every now and again. The quicker you accept this and be okay with making a mistake every now and again the sooner you can move on and do the things that you truly want to do.☺but even being able to forgive yourself takes time and patience. I hope this helps any of you who are or have been struggling with this and I wish you all the best 🙏 have a good day 🙏 Oh and take all of this with a grain of salt. I'm still learning and if you pick apart what I say and apply your own experience and knowledge then you could probably make what I do even better! I believe in you 🙂but then again if you have these issue's, like me, then your mind will probably reject that idea all together. Also this is all practical advice. When it comes to your mindset, emotional state, or any circumstantial dependent things then you need to listen to yourself and respond in a way that works for you. Like Dr. K said in this video. You need to be aware of your emotions in order to looks past them. Awareness is crucial.

  • @wplants9793

    @wplants9793

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing!!

  • @SIC647

    @SIC647

    Жыл бұрын

    You might appreciate to know that I actually screenshot your comment to save it. Thanks!

  • @TheSFMLG

    @TheSFMLG

    Жыл бұрын

    @@SIC647 Of course, I'm glad it could help :)

  • @zeidrichthorene
    @zeidrichthorene Жыл бұрын

    I have a rule. If there's anything I ever NEED to do, I have committed to not do it. This sounds pretty weird, but it actually works really well for me. The thing is, if I absolutely NEED to do something, I can't not do it. Like, I NEED to follow the rules of gravity, and I can't just float in defiance. But homework? I can end up not doing it. But that's the thing, if I end up not doing it, and the world doesn't end, hell, even if I end up not doing it and the world DOES end, I still didn't NEED to do it, I just brought about the end of the world. What this just does is forces me to engage with the idea that, no, I don't NEED to do the homework. Now it's a choice. I can choose to do the homework, or choose not to. Now another part of me is saying I SHOULD do it, and that SHOULD gets stressed into the NEED to do it. But there's another part of me that has a different take on it. Maybe it's scared, it's tired and it feels like trying to do it would be painful or so much work that's not worth the reward. Maybe it actually knows the truth, which is that if I don't do it, I'm actually pretty good at avoiding the consequences, and the biggest consequence I'm facing is actually right now where I'm letting myself feel bad about the challenges I'm having in doing it. But when I engage in that, and it does turn into a choice, I try to listen to those sides, and I make the choice. So maybe I am tired, and I know that it will be a bit painful to do, and I know that it's not going to make a big difference on my grade, and I know that playing video games is a way for me to avoid doing an uncomfortable thing. So, letting myself do that is a valid choice. But the weird thing is, as soon as letting myself do that is a valid choice, I don't actually need to play the video games to avoid doing the uncomfortable thing. A big draw of the video games is to avoid that shame and discomfort that comes from not doing the thing I NEED to do. But I can give myself permission to do that without having to try to avoid the feelings. So this has the counterintuitive result of actually making me be willing to do the hard thing. Because why not? I have another rule, and that is that I value my ability to do arbitrary things that aren't productive. I find the ability to practice choosing is more important than being super effective. Again, this means choosing to play a video game is a valuable decision. But it also means that so is doing the painful work that doesn't actually make a difference on my grade and is pointless. I practice this all the time. Tonight I'm fasting. I traveled, and where I am has few options for food. Fasting is something I do commonly, off and on. I had some options on how to deal with the dinner situation, and I chose fasting. There's pros and cons, but the main pro is that I'm going to be uncomfortable and I'll deal with it. Cons might be what it does to how I sleep or feel in the morning. Pros of getting food would be exploring something new, maybe seeing new people. Cons being that I don't get to practice that tolerating discomfort. Neither is really a good or bad decision. I'll be fine both ways, but it's a decision, and I see value in doing the uncomfortable thing when it's not important. This means, for me, when I remember these rules, I have a much higher likelihood of doing the homework. I don't do it because I have to, I don't do it because I'm motivated or because I'm confident and it's easy. I do it because I can choose not to, I do it because I can do the thing that is uncomfortable now or the thing that is comfortable now, and I choose discomfort. Rarely is anything the right choice, or the easy choice either. Doing homework can actually be the easy thing. Doing your assignments means that you maybe understand the material better, you can maybe pass with a lower mark on the final exam. Not doing the homework makes the exam harder. Not passing the exam makes graduating harder. Not graduating makes building wealth harder. If you let yourself recognize this, it's OK to not do your homework. It's OK to do your homework. It's OK to do half your homework. It's OK to do enough homework to learn some concepts but not finish it or hand it in. It's OK to learn the same material by doing other work that is not actually assigned to you and won't give you a grade. All of these things are different, they will cause different effects in the end, some are uncomfortable now and will make things uncomfortable later. Some are comfortable now but will make you uncomfortable later, and some will be comfortable now and make things comfortable later. You might think the last is what you should find, but how does that affect you? Does it mean you always seek the comfortable things? What do you do when you can't find the comfortable solution? When one doesn't exist? To me the important thing is the awareness. If you choose to take the comfortable path that leads to the comfortable outcome, that's absolutely fine. If you do that every time, that's totally fine too. But what I personally value is that when it comes to a situation where you don't see a comfortable solution that leads to a comfortable outcome, that you don't just shut off your brain and make up a fantasy. You don't go and blame the world for not giving you the comfortable path that SHOULD exist. You don't just consider yourself broken. You don't just distract yourself and avoid the reality by not confronting it. And this is why I like to choose the uncomfortable option. It reminds me that I have the choice. I don't NEED to do the right thing. I can choose to pick the good outcome. I can choose to pick the bad outcome. Because the alternate is a lie. If I have to choose the good outcome, because choosing the bad outcome is wrong, it's not a choice. It's simply something that must be done. But this isn't what actually happens, because we often don't choose the good outcome. So let's accept that. Accepting that helps to give us back our ability to choose at all, and when we can choose, we can choose the good outcome too.

  • @noodlito_

    @noodlito_

    Жыл бұрын

    Dude wrote a whole essay in the comments. This was a nice read though. 💯

  • @maxrandom569

    @maxrandom569

    Жыл бұрын

    👏

  • @mlsnd

    @mlsnd

    Жыл бұрын

    this was such a good read

  • @lorenz8051

    @lorenz8051

    Жыл бұрын

    You didnt need to write this essay. I didnt need to write this. Choose wisely.

  • @untitledtransient
    @untitledtransient9 ай бұрын

    I'm 38 years old and people consider me quite successful in life. I'm still suffering from some of the things you describe in your videos, which keeps me coming back to your channel. Every time I'm impressed with how you communicate these life-saving insights to your audience. I've worked a lot on myself, I've spent multiple years in therapy, I've great social support. It's still a struggle sometimes. What gives me hope is that resources such as your channel are now available not just to me but to everyone for free. I wish my 16 year old me had this. Keep up this important work!

  • @dizont

    @dizont

    6 ай бұрын

    Do these videos really help? Based on myself, I can say that I wont remember this video tomorrow, although I did find it interesting and insightful. I am sure the overwhelming majority will be like this as well. Just wanna know if this channel really helped someone on the long term, or it just made them feel better right after watching it. So many positive comments I see, but I assume people wrote it immediatly after watching the video, and not after 1 week or 1 months or so.

  • @user-nj4ze3gi9n

    @user-nj4ze3gi9n

    6 ай бұрын

    @@dizont It needs some effort on your part. A single video can not change your life without you implementing it. Think about it and internalize it.

  • @dizont

    @dizont

    6 ай бұрын

    @@user-nj4ze3gi9n without a doubt, and I just hope people know exactly that.

  • @lewis93156
    @lewis931564 ай бұрын

    30 years old here, 2 summers ago i really noticed the impact of phone/youtube consumption which become a habbit during the pandemic. For me i began to get brain fog, vision issues, balance problems, speech issues, it really began to deteriorate me.. im still not completely recovered..working away from my phone and going to the gym really helps to reset, i cant be sure its directly linked but my life before the smart phone useage was completely different. Anxiety worse Self esteem worse Personal relasionships affected The list goes on

  • @nelschnyder
    @nelschnyder Жыл бұрын

    This is a very interesting video, I always say my laziness, self acknowledged ADD and lack of self control regarding instant gratification are the reason I am unable to do the things in my life I know I need to do to make it better. But never am able to actually get things done unless I'm already in a bad position, it feels as if I need to be down bad to pull myself out of this mindset to get something done. The lack of self awareness is something I would've never assumed was a major factor in this character trait. Thanks Dr.K, hope you do more video on this!

  • @lolasdasdasdasdasdas

    @lolasdasdasdasdasdas

    Жыл бұрын

    You're not alone

  • @GangsterGumbo

    @GangsterGumbo

    Жыл бұрын

    You just articulated me. I have no will power to work when life is comfortable, which inevitably leads to it being uncomfortable, which inevitably leads me to work very hard to become comfortable again. Dumb and annoying describe my situation best.

  • @LightBuzzyear
    @LightBuzzyear Жыл бұрын

    This is me with online chess. I can easily spend hours on end on it and it hurts that I've been skipping my work. It's so hard to avoid it when I have to do work on my computer in the same place where I play.

  • @isabeedemski3635

    @isabeedemski3635

    Жыл бұрын

    Good obsevation. We have places fir activities.

  • @vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv99999

    @vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv99999

    Жыл бұрын

    If it's a laptop try moving it to another place when playing. That way you'll intuitively be in the zone for work or playing chess depending on the part of the apartment.

  • @Swaggless

    @Swaggless

    Жыл бұрын

    "Spaceship You" by CPG Grey is a great video you should check out. You already seem to be seeing the same problem he was.

  • @systemofadown1986

    @systemofadown1986

    Жыл бұрын

    Delete your chess account and replace it with real chess on board.

  • @LightBuzzyear

    @LightBuzzyear

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Swaggless Thank you for this! Just watched it

  • @munchkinplayss3517
    @munchkinplayss35174 ай бұрын

    i have never realized i have been neglecting my emotions. this video helps a lot, thank you, i’ll be sure to watch much more of your content!