I’ve always thought I’ve had BPD but anytime I bring it up i feel like im self diagnosing or something, and therapists end up telling me that anxiety can mimic the symptoms of BPD. While I most definitely have severe anxiety, it just goes deeper than that…I don’t know the difference between the two and it’s frustrating because anxiety medicine doesn’t even behind to touch the root problem. I think it’s BPD. I haven’t been reassured of that yet tho so I feel lost.
@JeffreyBezeau5 сағат бұрын
Lived it once. Sex was amazing, but god damn was it a rollercoaster of "wtf is going on" at any point of the relationship. Never again in my own case. Her having a Bpd and me being a very solitary guy normaly, having a mild adhd and forgetting lot of things, it was chaotic to a point where it was impossible to navigate through it. The "self deletion threats" when i was just going out to breath, calm down and try to take time to rationalize the situation. The constant need of attention and validation on her part, plus the 0 to 100% emotions recktrain was draining me so much, and me forgetting random little things constantly (closing the lights when i leave a room) would drive her NUTS to the point that she would become verbally agressive....which doesn't work at all for me as i tend to laugh situations off when i find them ridiculous and say out loud "can't you see how ridiculius it is to get completly mad over such small thing like closing a god damn light when i leave a room." Then she'd start throwing anything at hand to me. Tomatoes basket on the counter, glasses etc etc. Kydos for you (whoever is readin if you can manage this kind of relationship. But i couldn't. I really don't have that patience.
@Abigdummy4life5 сағат бұрын
I saw clips of this on Technicals' video "The Victims of Leffen" Jisu was revealed to also have worked with Stephen Kasmir AND Leffen to screw over her former boyfriend, Hax, by ripping off his BOXX controller design to make the never-delivered-on-time Frame1. Jisu, you're such a fucking hypocrite, in spite of Dr. K's respected objectivity in dealing with actual convicts.
@Rantir5 сағат бұрын
I watched until 31:47 and I've had this Idea that I wanted to share... now I am no entrepreneur nor a psychotherapist I'm just a lucky loser, but hear me out regardless cuz I think I have a very obvoius solution that you might just have overlooked... Mizkif said he is stressed all the time cuz he is thinking he could be doing this and that so he is driven by his own efficiency, BUTT here comes the but. 'tis quite inefficient to not be able to relax and release some stress cuz you might underperform while you are stressed... as he himself said it he isnt as funny when he is stressed (good observation/awarness) I know some people excell when they are under stress but boi you gotta take a break someday eventually you know. So here is the deal... you wanna be as efficient as possible? learn how to take a break buddy so you can recharge. I feel like looking at a wall for 12 hours straight is a little bit overkill but 20 mins of meditation twice a day could be very helpful to calm the mind.
@theDegausser5 сағат бұрын
Love how Dr. K explains the saying “Do as I say, not as I do” perfectly, without even saying that phrase.
@procrastinathor45945 сағат бұрын
2:02:34 Thank you dr. K. Glad to hear it from someone else.
@PARKER66625 сағат бұрын
All the development but no connections
@EzeOnYoutube5 сағат бұрын
No wonder why when im feeling like that post, but i decide to sit on my bed and give myself a time to cry and to just let all emotions come to me I can later continue and do anything i was supposed to do, which is completely different compared to when i feel like the post, i just keep telling myself i have to get things done and try to use sytems and tools to keep me going, but i either dont move at all, or the task get done poorly
@GAB-vq7re5 сағат бұрын
9mm, extra clip, pepper spray, Leatherman and sometimes a flashlight 😂 yuup im turning into that guy
@omrtheater72445 сағат бұрын
How can I see which video this short is taken from?
@unbreakablepatchesgr5 сағат бұрын
Reason change over time, but overall, whoever stayed consistent wanted better mental health. When you cross the dificult first period and realize how much easier life gets when you're in shape, you just dont stop
@XxdoublekillxX25 сағат бұрын
True, they use to tell us practice how you play
@kleanse5 сағат бұрын
47:52
@JustItisWhatItis5 сағат бұрын
Man sometimes you're just bored of your workout routine, and the prospect of doing something you enjoy more seems obvious, but then feel guilty for not doing the thing you're supposed to do because. This is the thing with everything in life nothing is exciting long term, al can become a grind or an automatic habit, even gaming or watching shows, and specially working out or hanging with people. Young people are so much propensity to pressure themselves and feel bad because subconsciously "I'll be a looser" hence no sex and reproduction for me... No lot's of money and eventual easy living/survival. Memento mori dudes, just do what you enjoy when you enjoy it and take care of yourself with a long term view, and stop pathologizing everything and taking life so seriously.
@KanohiVahi6 сағат бұрын
I used to be exactly this way. I would get really uncomfortable if there was silence, especially in a group of people and I felt this weird need, almost an obligation, to break it. Even though nobody else was saying anything either. Over the years I've been challenging that habit and found out just how relaxing and freeing it can be to not feel the need to talk all the time. It also opens you up to listening to other people and just generally being more natural in social interactions.
@jackmaitland84966 сағат бұрын
Real
@kashemvai50256 сағат бұрын
This is why NSDR is sooo powerful during the day, you can add whim-hoff breathing to it, 10 minutes two times, will help you fall asleep easier at night
@toomuchinformation6 сағат бұрын
19:40 Dr K says that “The World is objective”. This suggests that the world is static and fixed, like a machine, except that it isn’t.
@happyguy51656 сағат бұрын
I do not know much about this channel. However, from what I’ve seen, more people need to find you instead of Jordan Peterson. For their own sakes.
@ThatOneGuy001826 сағат бұрын
Bro I love my grades and myself like fuck everybody
@Rueian6 сағат бұрын
Where is the good in failure when there is no guaranteed success? I am sick of chasing an eventuality that never comes.
@ShokkuKyushu6 сағат бұрын
Antisocial≠asocial
@ForeverJack696 сағат бұрын
1:06:04
@bethanienaylor6 сағат бұрын
This is GOLD. Thank you so much
@David-ub7vm6 сағат бұрын
You have to humble yourself to adapt somethimes i struggle with adapting but i find myself comprimising more can relate to this a lot
@christianfaux7366 сағат бұрын
Lud's description and definition of "gooning" was so clear and elegant that it IMMEDIATELY made me want to mail him a dictionary.
@muneebafarrukh70346 сағат бұрын
I honestly love it when two people have a close bond even tho they're sitting in comfortable silence. This should be our goal. Being so close to someone that the silence doesn't end the relationship
@kimberlyk14376 сағат бұрын
I’m way late but Paul needs to trust the therapy process
@anonymous54056 сағат бұрын
Thanks dr k :)
@Iloveyou-ts1xb6 сағат бұрын
The idea is to do something that you like. The artist, the manager and the investor are 3 different personality types in business know which one you are.
@Valllefor7 сағат бұрын
At this point, developing a vision is much harder than the other two.
@dago64107 сағат бұрын
Where does he get those viewers for interview from? Id it some kind of high timer Patreon supproters, or like somexkind of random lottery where you csn win this, or some other donation system
@sanbe33287 сағат бұрын
dr k is such a pleb. he acts according to his stereotypes and assumptions. every good therapist knows that you don't treat people you don't know well enough. but he thinks gamer guys on twitch are like THIS and in that case you do THAT. go back to school
@Germanloverfromchina7 сағат бұрын
Yes but shouldn’t you also improve yourself?
@makefutur7 сағат бұрын
It sucks but the truth is you have to replace addictions with healthier addictions
@VictorIsSaved7 сағат бұрын
This guy telepathically read my mind 30 days later
@hakami62997 сағат бұрын
My problem is I'm painfully aware of the cost of changing but can't really find the reason why I should want to change. The supposed benefits don't speak to me. I know there would be benefits on paper, but I can't make myself care. They don't matter to me. I don't wan't to live the way I live but the alternative, which seems unapealling, would come at a big cost. I really don't know what to do...
@shpalman77 сағат бұрын
I thought that one of the features of BPD was the person adapting themselves to what they think their partner wants them to be?
@natatatm7 сағат бұрын
Here to say that I agree with the second plan of action to a point, but I'm wary that ppl who actually *have* had the issue explained to them over and over again using the second point to gain the upper hand when they've really just worn down the other person to the point where they don't have the energy to explain anymore. I would spend hours trying to talk through issues with my ex just for them to say "I don't know why you're upset" the next time the same issue came up (the issue was verbal abuse and gaslighting). At that point I absolutely do feel it's justified to say "if you still don't understand why I'm upset then I don't have the energy to explain this to you again. You should know what the issue is if you'd actually been listening to me for the hours of dialogue we've already had about this."
@michaelmemory69387 сағат бұрын
Sometimes, I wonder how many people (with a bit on introspection) look at relationships not as effortful commitments, but as social milestones to signal to others they “made it”. Especially if you grew with a habit of trying to save face, or “fear of failure” perfectionism. Something to think about if you’re unsure what value you might provide to a relationship, and if that’s really why you want it.
@Sarah-nw7xl7 сағат бұрын
Wait, say that again: "I start to make things work for me".... I think I've just realised that I never fully understood what that means. (Check me out becoming more mentally flexible, lol). Please, someone give me a really detailed example.
@MatthewMasterson-pk2su7 сағат бұрын
It is tempting to think I have an addiction to KZread, but the fact is, I just have it on because I’m lonely. It’s talking, noise in the background. If it’s not KZread, it’s the TV. I know it’s not an addiction because when I have a guest here for a few days I hardly ever watch it. I am engaged in a real life social situation and I don’t even miss it.
@raytabinterahman58547 сағат бұрын
17:30
@crystalfire66777 сағат бұрын
Didn't realise this was an HG short until I clicked
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I’ve always thought I’ve had BPD but anytime I bring it up i feel like im self diagnosing or something, and therapists end up telling me that anxiety can mimic the symptoms of BPD. While I most definitely have severe anxiety, it just goes deeper than that…I don’t know the difference between the two and it’s frustrating because anxiety medicine doesn’t even behind to touch the root problem. I think it’s BPD. I haven’t been reassured of that yet tho so I feel lost.
Lived it once. Sex was amazing, but god damn was it a rollercoaster of "wtf is going on" at any point of the relationship. Never again in my own case. Her having a Bpd and me being a very solitary guy normaly, having a mild adhd and forgetting lot of things, it was chaotic to a point where it was impossible to navigate through it. The "self deletion threats" when i was just going out to breath, calm down and try to take time to rationalize the situation. The constant need of attention and validation on her part, plus the 0 to 100% emotions recktrain was draining me so much, and me forgetting random little things constantly (closing the lights when i leave a room) would drive her NUTS to the point that she would become verbally agressive....which doesn't work at all for me as i tend to laugh situations off when i find them ridiculous and say out loud "can't you see how ridiculius it is to get completly mad over such small thing like closing a god damn light when i leave a room." Then she'd start throwing anything at hand to me. Tomatoes basket on the counter, glasses etc etc. Kydos for you (whoever is readin if you can manage this kind of relationship. But i couldn't. I really don't have that patience.
I saw clips of this on Technicals' video "The Victims of Leffen" Jisu was revealed to also have worked with Stephen Kasmir AND Leffen to screw over her former boyfriend, Hax, by ripping off his BOXX controller design to make the never-delivered-on-time Frame1. Jisu, you're such a fucking hypocrite, in spite of Dr. K's respected objectivity in dealing with actual convicts.
I watched until 31:47 and I've had this Idea that I wanted to share... now I am no entrepreneur nor a psychotherapist I'm just a lucky loser, but hear me out regardless cuz I think I have a very obvoius solution that you might just have overlooked... Mizkif said he is stressed all the time cuz he is thinking he could be doing this and that so he is driven by his own efficiency, BUTT here comes the but. 'tis quite inefficient to not be able to relax and release some stress cuz you might underperform while you are stressed... as he himself said it he isnt as funny when he is stressed (good observation/awarness) I know some people excell when they are under stress but boi you gotta take a break someday eventually you know. So here is the deal... you wanna be as efficient as possible? learn how to take a break buddy so you can recharge. I feel like looking at a wall for 12 hours straight is a little bit overkill but 20 mins of meditation twice a day could be very helpful to calm the mind.
Love how Dr. K explains the saying “Do as I say, not as I do” perfectly, without even saying that phrase.
2:02:34 Thank you dr. K. Glad to hear it from someone else.
All the development but no connections
No wonder why when im feeling like that post, but i decide to sit on my bed and give myself a time to cry and to just let all emotions come to me I can later continue and do anything i was supposed to do, which is completely different compared to when i feel like the post, i just keep telling myself i have to get things done and try to use sytems and tools to keep me going, but i either dont move at all, or the task get done poorly
9mm, extra clip, pepper spray, Leatherman and sometimes a flashlight 😂 yuup im turning into that guy
How can I see which video this short is taken from?
Reason change over time, but overall, whoever stayed consistent wanted better mental health. When you cross the dificult first period and realize how much easier life gets when you're in shape, you just dont stop
True, they use to tell us practice how you play
47:52
Man sometimes you're just bored of your workout routine, and the prospect of doing something you enjoy more seems obvious, but then feel guilty for not doing the thing you're supposed to do because. This is the thing with everything in life nothing is exciting long term, al can become a grind or an automatic habit, even gaming or watching shows, and specially working out or hanging with people. Young people are so much propensity to pressure themselves and feel bad because subconsciously "I'll be a looser" hence no sex and reproduction for me... No lot's of money and eventual easy living/survival. Memento mori dudes, just do what you enjoy when you enjoy it and take care of yourself with a long term view, and stop pathologizing everything and taking life so seriously.
I used to be exactly this way. I would get really uncomfortable if there was silence, especially in a group of people and I felt this weird need, almost an obligation, to break it. Even though nobody else was saying anything either. Over the years I've been challenging that habit and found out just how relaxing and freeing it can be to not feel the need to talk all the time. It also opens you up to listening to other people and just generally being more natural in social interactions.
Real
This is why NSDR is sooo powerful during the day, you can add whim-hoff breathing to it, 10 minutes two times, will help you fall asleep easier at night
19:40 Dr K says that “The World is objective”. This suggests that the world is static and fixed, like a machine, except that it isn’t.
I do not know much about this channel. However, from what I’ve seen, more people need to find you instead of Jordan Peterson. For their own sakes.
Bro I love my grades and myself like fuck everybody
Where is the good in failure when there is no guaranteed success? I am sick of chasing an eventuality that never comes.
Antisocial≠asocial
1:06:04
This is GOLD. Thank you so much
You have to humble yourself to adapt somethimes i struggle with adapting but i find myself comprimising more can relate to this a lot
Lud's description and definition of "gooning" was so clear and elegant that it IMMEDIATELY made me want to mail him a dictionary.
I honestly love it when two people have a close bond even tho they're sitting in comfortable silence. This should be our goal. Being so close to someone that the silence doesn't end the relationship
I’m way late but Paul needs to trust the therapy process
Thanks dr k :)
The idea is to do something that you like. The artist, the manager and the investor are 3 different personality types in business know which one you are.
At this point, developing a vision is much harder than the other two.
Where does he get those viewers for interview from? Id it some kind of high timer Patreon supproters, or like somexkind of random lottery where you csn win this, or some other donation system
dr k is such a pleb. he acts according to his stereotypes and assumptions. every good therapist knows that you don't treat people you don't know well enough. but he thinks gamer guys on twitch are like THIS and in that case you do THAT. go back to school
Yes but shouldn’t you also improve yourself?
It sucks but the truth is you have to replace addictions with healthier addictions
This guy telepathically read my mind 30 days later
My problem is I'm painfully aware of the cost of changing but can't really find the reason why I should want to change. The supposed benefits don't speak to me. I know there would be benefits on paper, but I can't make myself care. They don't matter to me. I don't wan't to live the way I live but the alternative, which seems unapealling, would come at a big cost. I really don't know what to do...
I thought that one of the features of BPD was the person adapting themselves to what they think their partner wants them to be?
Here to say that I agree with the second plan of action to a point, but I'm wary that ppl who actually *have* had the issue explained to them over and over again using the second point to gain the upper hand when they've really just worn down the other person to the point where they don't have the energy to explain anymore. I would spend hours trying to talk through issues with my ex just for them to say "I don't know why you're upset" the next time the same issue came up (the issue was verbal abuse and gaslighting). At that point I absolutely do feel it's justified to say "if you still don't understand why I'm upset then I don't have the energy to explain this to you again. You should know what the issue is if you'd actually been listening to me for the hours of dialogue we've already had about this."
Sometimes, I wonder how many people (with a bit on introspection) look at relationships not as effortful commitments, but as social milestones to signal to others they “made it”. Especially if you grew with a habit of trying to save face, or “fear of failure” perfectionism. Something to think about if you’re unsure what value you might provide to a relationship, and if that’s really why you want it.
Wait, say that again: "I start to make things work for me".... I think I've just realised that I never fully understood what that means. (Check me out becoming more mentally flexible, lol). Please, someone give me a really detailed example.
It is tempting to think I have an addiction to KZread, but the fact is, I just have it on because I’m lonely. It’s talking, noise in the background. If it’s not KZread, it’s the TV. I know it’s not an addiction because when I have a guest here for a few days I hardly ever watch it. I am engaged in a real life social situation and I don’t even miss it.
17:30
Didn't realise this was an HG short until I clicked