My main reason why I don’t pursue Christian women as a Christian man is because of rejection. 22 Years old spent most of my life getting rejected by women. I just gave up on pursuing and try to focus on other things in life.

@kenwilliamson7715

6 жыл бұрын

Hey Ant! ......Narcisstic parents will make u fail with women..you need a life coach.

@spark300c

5 жыл бұрын

that makes sense for men the rejection rate can as high as 80 percent.

@Dilley_G45

4 жыл бұрын

Don't give up yet. I haven't given up and I'm older...I wish I was your age where there are actually single Christian ladies

@eduardoortiz6417

3 жыл бұрын

Literally ask out 20 women most likely 5 will say yes

@bobbybero7452

2 жыл бұрын

@@eduardoortiz6417 Maybe in the 50s that would be true

Also, some of these Pastors, want all the women, for himself, and his clique, so he presses the misunderstandings, and misinterpretations, of scriptures as well!

Reason men don't approach women at church is same as for school and work. You make any kind of mistake it gets spread all over the church! Then you might have to stop going cause it's too shameful and embarrassing!💯 Also the embarrassment would be more extreme for a guy who has hair loss problems cause you're not supposed to have a hat on at church. Women might say "you mean this balding man REALLY thought he was good enough for you?"

@mscottster444

2 жыл бұрын

Speaking facts here man. The woman that said “he thought he was good enough for you” is sinning and commuting slander. And it never gets called out in church ever. I hate it.

We lack the elder men and women to teach young men and women how to live in life and in the word of God. Because there pressured by a lack of knowledge of the word of God.

this brother knows whatsup!!

When I saw someone I liked I didn't have any counseling. I just stepped to them and let things just happened. If they was't the right one then I moved on. Plain and simple. Keep waiting to do it the way someone tell me how they did it might not work for me.

The problem with the church I go to is people kind of have cliques and don't mingle. Everyone goes to straight to their cars as soon as it's over. It's an awesome church don't get me wrong but that's a problem I see

You are SOOOOOO right. This is dead on, hit the nails on the head -- all of them

Your expansion on this issue was excellent.

I hated my experience at a church I was attending when it came to courting a woman there. It was uncomfortable, people didn't like me speaking to her, felt like a endless mind game of guessing when was the appropriate time to ask her out. It was emotionally draining and when I finally did, I approached it as a friend date and it was all for nothing as I was rejected. Going forward it was awkward, I continued to talk to her normally to make the situation normal but I was embarrassed so I ended up leaving awhile after. My experience in Church is just not it, for finding your spouse.

@mscottster444

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you man! It’s really not. Your name gets slandered by every female that knows her and God forbid you break up with her. Almost every woman that knows her pretty much hates you if you ended it. It is exactly why guys do not ask girls out knowing their values are most likely the same. Very very high pressure.

@tannerroberts1114

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, i hear ya. Super difficult to meet someone at church.

@ironmatto3

2 жыл бұрын

@@tannerroberts1114 For sure, feels impossible and discouraging...

@tannerroberts1114

2 жыл бұрын

I think the 2 hour thing on Sundays is kinda silly to meet someone. I there should be more tight nit groups throughout the week. Going up to someone after the worship songs are over is too forced. Lol

@ironmatto3

2 жыл бұрын

@@tannerroberts1114 My experience was in a bible study with that individual, even then it wasn't natural.

My brother, this is a fantastic video. I tell you that you broke it down so well. I totally agree with you that the he that findeth a wife verse is totally misused. Here are my reasons: 1.) the verse simply means that a man that finds or has a PRUDENT WIFE, has a gift. It is not good to find a wife and it won't be from the Lord if she is an odious woman (Proverbs 30:21-23), if she is a brawling woman( Proverbs 21:9, Proverbs 25:24). It is always the virtuous woman that is a crown to her husband (proverbs 12:4). Proverbs tells the difference between the wise and the foolish and wisdom is valuable and the principal thing(Proverbs 4:7). 2.) As you have stated, the Bible does not state anything about dating. It does talk about friendship and marriage. Dating is more of a modern concept that can be sex driven. 3.) People that use the he that findeth a wife verse forget that the Jews had a completely different custom in regards to marriage. There were arranged marriages where the parents and families orchestrated the union. One example would be Moses getting married to Zipporah (Exodus 2:16-21). Abraham gets his servant to find a wife for Isaac (Genesis 24). Mothers did the same arranging as fathers (Genesis 21:21). There were levirate marriages as the example of Boaz and Ruth. The law for that is in Deuteronomy 25:5-10. 3.) To find and pursue are totally different. Finding something can be intentional or non intentionally. You can find something without looking for it. Great video

this was a great video that touched on exactly what alot of issues I have been thinking about in terms of approaching women at church.

@rodericklong1535

6 жыл бұрын

Keep it real!! It don't need to be scientific or have counseling to meet someone. Just let them know, plain and simple. If they are not the one move on. We expect so much. Don't set your standards so high. GOD haven't made that kind of person yet for some of us.

I've known some men quit going to church because the whole church found out sister so and so rejected brother so and so

@victherican4208

3 жыл бұрын

Underrated Comment.

Omgosh! Thanks! Someone understands! I’m in the middle of creating a singles ministry because it’s sooo hard to get women to understand this concept and men too.

This is one the best breakdowns of this specific topic I've heard thus far👍

Wow this was really a good topic and video.

OUCH& AMEN! Such a timely video, if only i'd had this. awesome piece of advice last year or 2015..sigh LOVE this and how you were straight to the point video on so many levels. Makes perfect sense how much we can come across to deep or uninviting by our body language alone etc, when in reality we are screaming COME AT ME MAN😂 Thanks for this wake up call! Ladies its actually okay for us to speak, smile and show ourselves friendly 'in his field' 😀 Thanks again! (Applying this practical principle, effective immediately) lol

@luispujals42

2 жыл бұрын

Hey my sis. How did it work out? I hope you found someone

This was wonderful

I like this. Big truth big bro 💯👏🎯

Great answer to the question!

This is good!

Take care

You opened my mind

Good video

Yes very correct they make u go from 0 to 60 real quick this is probably why alot of christian marriage fails. We need to set a balance between life and the word of God it like the try to seperate the two and that not a reality word of God and life goes hand and hand

Went to church with parents almost every Sunday and more for 21 years, and a much lesser amount as an adult. I've NEVER seen a couple go from any dating stage to Marriage. Never heard of a marriage happening at any of my churches.

Btw divorcees are not supposed to remarry. Only widows can remarry.

I like your video

Long ago I was sort of dating someone in church. Talking. Spending time. Helping each other. We were not doing anything sexual. Then one day the female pastor preached a sermon warning and condemning dating and sex. It was obviously directed at us. And we distanced away from each other.

Pastors do not want young adult males in church. How many Pastors do you see circling around the young females? Alot.

@tannerroberts1114

2 жыл бұрын

😂... I know what you mean. The pastor acts nice but I get vibes he doesn't want me there. Lol... Maybe it's just my own insecure thoughts. Not sure

@BearingMySeoul

Жыл бұрын

@@tannerroberts1114 Well some pastors don't want ANY strong personalities around. I've had pastors low-key ice me out cuz I'm not a Yes (wo)Man. 🤷‍♀

To be honest i am intimidated by the strong church females. I think churches do promote mingling . I have no problem joking with a female. I just think you shouldn't bring drama to the church

@jamesharris30096

4 жыл бұрын

No real man is ever intimidated by a female. You need to deal with the issue of fear

@golfinguy423

4 жыл бұрын

@@jamesharris30096 Thats a real way to encourage a brother in Christ! Yeah! Ridicule him!

@mscottster444

2 жыл бұрын

@@jamesharris30096 I think he means a woman who wants to lead and relationship and will not let a man lead. If she asks you out she has a problem with letting men lead her. Let the men pursue into marriage and through marriage, etc.

Hello. I have a question. I heard you speak on the topic of it's like repeating grade school dating when going from the world to the church dating/courting, but what if a person has never been in a relationship, what advice would you give them?

@missunderstood4479

6 жыл бұрын

great question

@fbzzzy

4 жыл бұрын

@Jeffrey Stern Get behind me Satan.

can someone give that man a Bells

I've always noticed I've never seen married couples in church show affection. No hugging , kiss or peck, rubbing back. Even if in a fun off site church event. I think that needs to change and live amongst married couple needs to be shown and take away that stigma of being affectionate towards those who are married to one another. Off topic but I've always noticed it. I've never met a couple who loves and shows affection. Whether saved or not.

@BearingMySeoul

Жыл бұрын

You must not have been to church with enough white people. There's ALWAYS somebody giving back rubs the WHOLE service. 🤮

Why good videos don’t have good fame

No man wants to take the chance to be rejected by a woman he gotta see every Sunday, Better off talking to a strange woman out in the streets

@ConsidertheCrows

Жыл бұрын

It's not rejection. She just not interested. You're only supposed to be concerned about whom is interested in you. Men crushed by women saying no thanks have emotional instability and shouldn't date anyway.

@BearingMySeoul

Жыл бұрын

HAHAHA! #thisone 💯 I totally sympathize. I do. People are so messy! A lot of people are very immature and gossip all the time.

People still goto church?

Church should be a place primarily for learning not for worship. Meeting a future spouse in church is ideal.

In the Bible, Paul says it's better not to marry.

@tannerroberts1114

2 жыл бұрын

Unless you lust it is better to marry. That's what 99 percent of people?

@jvolstad

2 жыл бұрын

@@tannerroberts1114 if you are not married, you can better serve the Lord.

@watitduful

Жыл бұрын

He also clarified that this is specifically his personal conviction and a suggestion to others. Little so many know, including Paul, that a person tending to their marriage is actually a vocation and a form of glorifying Jesus. It’s for God’s glory. Peep game.

@jvolstad

Жыл бұрын

@@watitduful Sex = Glorifying Jesus? 🤪😇

Not aloud to talk in private practice,instead asked to speak in broken teller....gulf talk.

A man has to have a common interest in being married and not single thats where it starts. I would dare to say if a young man or women isnt ready because they have not experience life to its fullest. Meaning they need to see the world build a suitable life for themseleves then when he or she turn 30/35 they maybe ready to settle down. But that just my veiw

Don't pursue women at all. If you have money, height, good looks, or status, they'll pursue you..... If you don't have any of these things, then you are not gonna keep a woman anyway. Women are more superficial than men and they want it all. Catch their eye with some muscles first. Always improve yourself daily. Pursue a higher meaning. Women will notice.

too much black church...how does this happen.....we are said to be one, in Christ...

cos the women are still in the same clothes as last night at da club

We lack the elder men and women to teach young men and women how to live in life and in the word of God. Because there pressured by a lack of knowledge of the word of God.

@watitduful

Жыл бұрын

Part of that is because these same folks encourage a season of worldliness as prerequisite to finding God. What’s the point of telling them to do better when yet encouraging them to do the very things that goes against the Word?