Btw I’m willing to share my husband with my girlfriends especially when they r single mothers who can’t get married or find someone who can give them halal relationship

@dcfootball1

Жыл бұрын

​@@webnovelsatu1455 SubhannAllah

@mk-ld8ih

Жыл бұрын

You're a real one!

@Ahmed-vw3iw

Жыл бұрын

Queen....its alright for muslim woman to not be ok for their husband's to have a 2nd wife. It's better for the wife to be clear on her preference on that so it doesn't affect their spousal relationship and that the Husband makes a responsible decision

@truebeliever369

Жыл бұрын

Ooo u got a point Sister.

@alia-wm8ug

Жыл бұрын

@@Ahmed-vw3iw don't worry about her emotions, she understands men.

If a man wants a second wife, you discuss that before marriage. When they have secret, it means his wife is against it. He knew, he married her and now has changed his mind. Marry someone who is open to it from the beginning. Nothing wrong with it, but it’s wrong to force people who do not want to live that lifestyle. Not everyone wants to live like that.

@alphauno6614

10 ай бұрын

Polygyny is a right given as a default by the Creator of all creation. There is no need for him to discuss something only 1, 2 or 3% of men do. If you want to discuss it then by all means. Please don’t bend Allah’s religion. You cause nothing but confusion. I ask Allah to guide us all and to remain steadfast on the truth.

@almara90

10 ай бұрын

@@alphauno6614 It’s not compulsory. Most men that practice do not fit that criteria needed to practice. It’s fine if a man wants to do it. But do that with women who also want that. The ones that don’t are not obligated or forced by religion to do it. Which is why I stated to discuss this like you would discuss children, finances etc. it it will lead to a lot of chaos.

@alphauno6614

10 ай бұрын

@@almara90 “Most men that practice do not fit that criteria needed to practice.” You made a claim here so prove it. What study are you referring to? If it’s just an opinion then it is my opinion that the overwhelming majority of men and women in polygynous marriages love it soooo much that they have better marriages than their monogamous counterparts.

@KH-hc6sy

9 ай бұрын

​@@alphauno6614it is true, most Muslim men use this to fill their selfish desires and it doesn't come from a selfless place.

@AdnanKhan-jn8dz

9 ай бұрын

If we were to keep our deen first instead of emotions and our western ideology (which has for sure infiltrated our mind) women wouldn't have that much of an issue when it comes to second wife

Brothers can't make 5 daily fard prayers but wants 4 wives because its a sunnah 😅

@Kingmasculinity21

Жыл бұрын

That's true.

@ankit-sq6oh

Жыл бұрын

What is sunnah

@snrecipes7590

Жыл бұрын

💯💯

@mohdworthy8260

Жыл бұрын

Wut about sin and desire

@mohdworthy8260

Жыл бұрын

@@Firstlastfirst you can have 4 at most in 1 time.

SubhanAllah, im struggling to find 1 wife let alone 2. Social media isnt just destroying homes, its destroying the ability to make one.

@muhamadbikwesi4397

10 ай бұрын

If you can’t take care of two you have to take one ☝️

@mard7880

10 ай бұрын

lol

@shanaz3

10 ай бұрын

May Allah bless you with a pious wife Insha’Allah

@seekknowledge2643

8 ай бұрын

@@shanaz3 ameen

@MomAndKittingsJourney

7 ай бұрын

Now u have wife...?

As a muslim woman, ı prefer live single rather than live with some lie..

@TheNiceOne_

8 ай бұрын

I wonder what would happen if all Muslim women just stopped marrying 😂 Muslim men can still marry non Muslim women but they woudnt take this disrespect either 🤣

@_1Solo

5 ай бұрын

*as a modern western woman*

@TheNiceOne_

5 ай бұрын

@@_1Solo no she said “as a Muslim woman” you can’t tell her who and what she is. She already knows. Not every Muslim woman who stands up for herself is “modern western Muslim woman” and being western isn’t a reason to look down on someone. That’s racist.

@_1Solo

5 ай бұрын

@@TheNiceOne_ you’re right😂

@mk-19memelauncher65

5 ай бұрын

That's your choice, but you can't say it's Haram for a man to do that anyway.

99% of brothers struggle to make ends meet and talk about wanting a second wife 😂

@Ak-wv2gw

Жыл бұрын

Desires are strong I guess

@theandalusianproject5268

Жыл бұрын

@@shimmer4771 i wish the best for that 1% and its the right Allah has given. But in all honesty, in the western context where women can have any guy they want, youre probably only gonna pull that off if you get ur second wife from overseas. No way that western muslim women, who probably have a higher education than you as a man, are going to go along with that. Im not saying its not the right of the man, but in reality in the western context, this just aint gonna fly. Good luck convincing them that they just have to accept it and put their emotions aside, its easier for you to move a mountain in all seriousness

@mk-ld8ih

Жыл бұрын

​@@shimmer4771and so they should have the right to marry a second without being looked down on.

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

@@mk-ld8ih Agreed. But, don't expect for the sisters to welcome it with open arms. It's a test.

@RR-om3zx

Жыл бұрын

Lmao what a weird take. You ask Allah that you need more rizq for a second wife, I strongly believe he will give you those means if you uphold the rest of your deen. Let's not mock the poorer brothers, for one day the supposed richer ones can end up poor.

Marriage is something that should be openly declared, not hidden. This is part of the Sunnah. If a man is too fearful of his first wife's potential reaction, he isn't mature enough to be taking on the responsibility of a second wife.

@thenewcamelot8873

Жыл бұрын

In uk they should follow uk law only one wife is allowed they are scare to tell ther truth because our law will protect and back upo the wife

@thelogicalx

Жыл бұрын

🙌🏼

@thealifexablecreed9811

Жыл бұрын

Then why did your prophet lie to his wives?

@marisakennedy777

Жыл бұрын

Following Ali Dawah's logic, if the Prophet had allowed 9 wives, wouldn't men want 9? The Prophet wanted 9.

@forestsprite30

Жыл бұрын

@@marisakennedy777 There was a reason for each of the Prophet pbuh's marriages. Read the biography of his life. The Quran limits men to up to 4 but doesn't advise them to marry multiple women. Ali Dawah's logic is irrelevant here

Ali, when you ask a fellow brother “Do you ever wish to have a second wife?” and he says, “No”, don’t immediately object/become cynical. Understand the nuance of your own question. As a young man myself, I completely agree with you that all men have the desire to have multiple sexual/romantic partners, but that doesn’t mean that all Muslim men want multiple wives. While there are plenty of Muslim men out there who would deny wanting multiple wives in fear of upsetting their current wife, there are also plenty of men out there who deny this because they do not want to take on the religious, emotional, and financial responsibilities that come with marrying more than one woman. So when the brother to the right of MH or the husband of sister Amira says that they are not interested in a second wife, they’re not lying. The sister in the white hijab made a good point at 56:57 when she said that you don’t let anyone say no to your question. I’m sure you already understand all this, but please understand the nuance of the question your asking.

@malakelgendy2580

10 ай бұрын

Idk why but he always pushes polygamy so hard . It’s halal so i HAVE to accept it but dont push it like that it’s not mandatory its sunna

@skiiiuup

10 ай бұрын

@@malakelgendy2580 I don’t think he’s pushing for men to choose polygamy, I think he’s trying to eliminate the stigmatization surrounding polygamy, which is a good thing.

@malakelgendy2580

10 ай бұрын

@@skiiiuup then that’s good ! In my country which is an islamic country (egypt) polygamy is rare it is sadly looked down at .. They view the man as lustful and the first wife as (not good enough) so i hope they change the way they see it

@shimmer4771

7 ай бұрын

@@malakelgendy2580 That's sad. A Muslim country should gladly accept this. It's a bit disappointing.

@yasminea7149

7 ай бұрын

might be good reasons even Islamic countries don't want to encourage all men to practice polygamy. This will lead to wealthy men monopolizing the majority of women, up to 4 each as there will be no negative stigma and womren are told there's nothing you can do about it and can't ask for divorce for this reason. Long-term, more and more men will remain single. More and more children will be related to each other and cannot marry each other, so this will lead to a reduction in population for that country. The LDS Mormons are routinely kicking out young men from their society bc there are not enough women and the polygynous men want to protect their multiple wives and not share with the young men. Thus, instead of telling women they're selfish for not wanting to share their one husband, men are actually selfish for demanding multiple wives at times where such a drastic measure is not required, i.e., wars and not enough men, etc.

Calls women emotional but, everytime someone says something bad about polygamy hes about to burst into tears. 😂

@NullNull-cw1vi

2 ай бұрын

They call men emotional but, everything men says about polygyny they burst into tears 😂

@oftheuchihaclan8325

2 ай бұрын

He doesn't seem to understand the weight of the question. The question he wants to ask is, 'if your wife was happy would marry a woman just for sex' but obvs can't ask that. Majority of men don't want a headache and know having a second wife is a recipe for a headache. He has to work more, earn more, spend more, more responsibility, two people to protect, two sets of kids. It's long

@sadawski

Ай бұрын

God in Al baqarah says along the lines of azwajun mutahara in heaven that’s for all that go to heaven. 2:25 so what is he talking about?

@lisettecamejo4243

Ай бұрын

yeah the guy. in tje grey shirt has a mean streaK in him

@lisettecamejo4243

Ай бұрын

Muhammad's wife were seperate not together

If you can’t handle it don’t do it! DONT lie! Secret marriage is a recipe for disaster PERIOD. Have a conversation!

@yosephyermaiah2148

Жыл бұрын

False religion, come out of it guys. Just lies and deception. Jesus Christ is the only way.

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

I would be very hurt if I found out my husband took a second wife in secret.

@butterjupitar

Жыл бұрын

God made 1 man and 1 woman to be together. God never commanded men to have 4 wives, but allowed it for the sake of protecting women who couldn't support themselves. Jesus is the Truth and the only way to the Father, no one comes to the Father except through Jesus

@LivelyFig

Жыл бұрын

@@butterjupitar You quite literally don't know what you're talking about. How many wives did the Prophet Soloman have?

@butterjupitar

Жыл бұрын

​@@LivelyFig 700 wives and 300 concubines, but did God command Solomon to have that many wives? No and did God say it was okay to have that many wives? Also no, What you are saying is that "If God allows all those things to happen then that means He definitely commanded it", Do you know what was also allowed but not commanded? P3dophillia, homosexuality, murd3r, torture, abuse, but did God command it or said it was okay? no, and unlike these which basically ruin mankind, polygamy wasn't negative for a specific purpose: to protect women, it was allowed in order to protect women because they couldn't support themselves, and when a man marries that many wives, he should take care of them, and did you know what happens to Solomon for having that much wife? I don't think you do, they led him away from God, it's just that issue. God kept silent about it because telling them that it wasn't His will at THAT time, will cause women to live in worst situations especially when it doesn't have a better outcome. The will of God is *one* man and *one* woman, if God wanted men to be polygamous, then Adam would have other wives beside Eve.

Marriage is a partnership that involves trust, honesty, and communication. When one partner cannot share information it can seriously damage the foundation of the relationship, imagine hearing it from the outside world that your partner is married to someone else, that is the biggest betrayal. i feel like people need to voice their wants from a relationship before they get into the relationship.

@Think_pls

Жыл бұрын

But what can you do when allah himself allows this That's what the scholars say

@7Kazi7

Жыл бұрын

Or how about acceptance of each others flaws? It's hypocritical for you te expect a man to accept that you have desires, like going for a nice dinner, or just giving you money, but then not accept his desires. Men and women are meant to work with eachother, not against eachother.

@user-74856

Жыл бұрын

@@Think_pls exactly......these feminists think they are bigger than scholars of Islam.......well ......news flash..... YOU ARE NOT!

@GODOURSALVATION.

Жыл бұрын

That's why Islam is a satanic sex cult.

@SoldierOfGod22631

Жыл бұрын

@@susanna9831 If you hate men so much, why bother even concerning yourself with us? Don't get married. 🤷🏻 I pity your mahrem mn (if you have any).

Saying “well she’s not going to be okay with so that is why I lied” is ridiculous. If a woman lied to you about having children because you wouldn’t accept it would you be okay with that?

@shabs2134

3 ай бұрын

It is halal for Muslim men to lie to their wives, especially when it comes to marrying a second secret wife. That is why they do it. And as a Muslim woman, there's nothing you can really do about it.

@nami20622

2 ай бұрын

@@shabs2134So can the woman also lie to you?

I think it’s the secrecy that bothers me more than anything. I would want my husband to love and trust me enough to speak to me about anything. A second wife and a secret wife are two very different things in my mind.

@shabs2134

9 ай бұрын

So you're okay with your husband marrying and sleeping with extra women as long as he discusses this beforehand with you? The things that Islam does to women...sad.

@idrissrm3297

9 ай бұрын

Would you allow it ?

@shimmer4771

8 ай бұрын

@@shabs2134 It's not sad. It's to protect society. Many men cheat on their wives simply because one woman wasn't enough. You shouldn't speak on this if you know nothing.

@Hahahaha-7

8 ай бұрын

@@shabs2134and……. It’s halal and nothing wrong with it even when done with consent from first wife. You marry first then sleep btw-

@user-bh7ml9ls6c

7 ай бұрын

​@@shabs2134it's men who do it regardless of opinion of the woman she wouldn't want her husband falling into zenith

And to add this discussion about secret wives will make women suspicious, insecure paranoid about their husbands. Nobody wants to be around someone they don't trust. You don't feel emotionally safe.

@vtee549

Жыл бұрын

Then they should stop being jealous and disrespectful to the permission of God

@roosworld4910

Жыл бұрын

@@vtee549 men are the reason for wars lol precisely for this reason. Lack of understanding. Women deserve to feel secure and loved. There are men who do not want more than 1 wife. They don't entertain it because they are content. You may refuse to believe that because that's what you want. What you focus on grows. Just because its allowed in Islam does not mean its suitable for everyone. Like someone here said, your intentions will be judged on the day of judgement so quit vilifying women who don't want it in their life. Choose women who do.

@reyhantimmons-cetin6860

Жыл бұрын

@@vtee549 Wow don’t feel a feeling that Allah SWT has put in all of us! Women are allowed and are naturally jealous, jealously isn’t always a bad thing! BUT if we allow our jealousy to take over and drive out decisions then yes that could be dangerous!

@EeLyos

Жыл бұрын

@@vtee549 you are absolutely delusional, this person makes a good point and you are being an idiot bringing in “permission” into the occasion just to dismiss someone making a good point. The women could say the same about men, “stop being so horny” problem solved right? Not so easy. Be fair bro.

@Freedom_for_Palestina

Жыл бұрын

​@@vtee549 being jealous is a sin?

The first time I'm realising that Ali Dawah lacks wisdom and maturity. He shouldn't be propagating the idea that the wife is to blame for men who are adulterous. A sincere, God fearing man, won't make such a flimsy excuse.. 'God made us men weak'.!! 🤦 An adulterer will still be an adulterer, even if he takes two, three or four wives. Men should stop looking at women as trophies, but as responsibilities. And stop blaming women for their own flaws and weakness.

@MariaPerez-sb1xp

9 ай бұрын

Getting another wife because he's no longer attracted to the first one is also a dead end. All women lose their cute spark after birthing children due to weight gain and aging. You can't just divorce all four after aging and weight gain.

@musicplug1730

Ай бұрын

Keep that same energy when it comes to women being emotional and going through there hormonal issues

@Trueneutron

Ай бұрын

I kind of agree 👍🏼

@sadawski

Ай бұрын

When the man isn’t there and his wife is lustful, should she cheat? By this logic she’s entitled to. When his libido drops, when he’s sick, when he is tired, while he’s a work, you know the men work long hours. 😂

@Itzvnessa.

3 күн бұрын

Funny how a man’s natural jealousy is always right and catered for but a woman’s natural jealousy of her husband bringing another woman into the marriage is wrong, evil and too emotional. No one seems to admit that men needing to have multiple women they rotate around constitutes to having a lust problem and that covering that up by getting multiple women and calling it “marriage’s” will not fix your lust problem. The bible says to deny your flesh and follow the Lord but in Islam it seems that your flesh and human desires should be honoured 🤷🏾‍♀️. We can all see how having multiple women wrecks marriages and affects children aswell as the family unit but it’s all ok as long as the man is sexually satisfied because a man’s sexual satisfaction is put above all else apparently.

What I don't understand is why the man doesn't tell the woman before marriage that he wants a second wife? At least that way, it reduces future problems in the marriage. I think it's already clear that a lot of women dislike the concept of you having a second wife, so how the hell do you expect her to react especially when your telling her in the middle of your relationship??

@iman7j887

7 ай бұрын

This guys are wrong for any one reason in my opinion, the day and age is changed, this ruling are not a must in Islam that muslims have to get 4 wives and marry the wife of their own soldiers who died in battle and support their childrens. Also in old times ppl really didn't had a chance to really know their wifes, they couldn't even see the women's face in most cases, and many were traditionally marriage meaning the families would choose the men and women so in this case polygamy is really not that bad and can be good. But in today's age ppl are engaging they know eachother they know anything about eachother and THEY MARRY WITH LOVE, REAL LOVE !!! so they better keep their mouth shut and don't break their families and ruin their childrens.

@shimmer4771

7 ай бұрын

@@iman7j887 But, it's still allowed. A woman shouldn't object to her husband taking a second wife. That's his right, even though he has a responsibility for both of them, the thing is, it's not her place to say he can't.

@iman7j887

7 ай бұрын

@@shimmer4771 it's not that marrying 4 wife is amongst the 5 pillars of Islam lol, for example I tell my wife before marriage i dont want you to eat garlic and she say yes, she doing this for the sake of me and our marriage but it's not that I'm taking her rights from her or anything it's just an agreement, but in this case marrying another wife is much more big deal, it can create fight between families it can destroy the childrens it can cause fight between siblings over inheritance it can destroy marriage which is most important, in this day and age polygamy is not wanted for a good reason, we not live in the time of war or famine so polygamy make no sense spacially when there is an agreement

@shimmer4771

7 ай бұрын

@@iman7j887 I haven't even read it all, and I wouldn't accept if I got married to someone who said no to some food, that's extreme. Forbidding him to take a second wife in the marriage contract is acceptable, but I would let him take another wife if he wanted to if I did not stipulate it in the marriage contract. I am not allowed to object it. No matter what time we live in, polygamy is still allowed because Allah gave men permission to do it.

@cloudberry7241

Ай бұрын

@@shimmer4771 YOU HAVE RUGHT TO OBJECT. WOMAN CAN REJECT A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL. WOMEN CAN DIVORCE. WOMEN CAN GET A PROMISE BEFORE. HZ MUHAMMED SAV HIMSELF DIDNT LET HIS DAUGHTER S HUSBAND TO MARRY MORE

The 4 wife permission was actually a limit as much as I have learned. Because before that, man could have as many women as they wanted. In times of war, it made sense to have multiple wifes because of lack of man and widowed women. It also made sense to have multiple wifes for leaders and such from other nations, tribes etc to establish peace between the two nations etc. but its adviced, suggested to have one wife. Also because having multiple wifes is extremely hard, not just financially but also in means of equal treatment of each wife is very hard. In the future if there are such cases of war or relative reasons go for it maybe. But it is crucial to be fair amongs them 😊. May Allah guide us all and increase our wisdom and understanding.

@22Szz

7 ай бұрын

Well explained ❤

@komolhuq8752

7 ай бұрын

These are mostly excuses paving the way for normalizing a 1 wife society like the west. A women is better provided for being the 2nd wife of a good Muslim and strong provider than the only wife of a left over man. Women are hypergamous. It is not only for war and no where is that specified. "Musy treat them fairly" is also true of 1 wife and yet we do not constantly cite it as a deterent to the first marriage. Muslims around the world are deeply engaged in Zina which is haram 100% and yet Muslims create barriers and discourage a part of marriage polygyny that is totally halal and fairness would only be known by those in yhe marriage, no outsider could even have such knowledge. Those who have made marriage harder, have made Zina easier. And we see the results both in the west and the foolish Muslims who follow them.

@shelkhatun4837

5 ай бұрын

Yes absolutely right, and people misuse this for the lust, distressing the first wife causing havic at home too desperate to have a second wife evn 3rd getting mad with their own children because they are desperate to fulfil their lust amd feed their sex desperation idiotic men, i repeat idiotic stupid low life of a half a man who has no self control no decipline, thinks about a secomd wife or even 3/4th. With no care in the world that he is destroying his peaceful life, messing up his wifes mental state, messing around with her head, and how that has an adverse effect on the children too. Pathetic and selfish idiotic lusty men. END OF. BUNCH OR IDIOTS AND LOWLIFES

@rpgixhdh8045

5 ай бұрын

Bro no. Just no. If you see pretty gyal and you want her you can Talk her you don’t have search a reason I want to Make world peace with my marriage like you crippin tho? Beautiness and fear of zina is reason enough as a men to Marry another one.

@KH-hc6sy

5 ай бұрын

@@rpgixhdh8045 you will never make your wives happy. Unless they all equally agree and accept. Even the God told the prophet he will NEVER be able to deal with them equally. The prophets heart cried out to Allah about this.

Just marry someone who is open minded about polygamy, you can never convince someone who doesn’t want to share her husband to share her husband

@ilhanali1645

Жыл бұрын

Exactly what I was thinking! Why force someone to accept your beliefs, if you could just find someone that has the same beliefs as you

@Beyonder1987

Жыл бұрын

Women have a western outlook these days that its extremely rare to find that kind of open minded women

@alphauno6614

Жыл бұрын

Would you say that about women’s rights? Should a wife have to make clear that her job is for herself and the money is for her personal use rather than the family? Should a wife have to make clear that it is her right to have children?

@erzascarlet5078

8 ай бұрын

@@Beyonder1987then don’t marry TILL you find a woman who’s “open minded”, kalas.

@bunnysnakesin

3 ай бұрын

@@Beyonder1987it’s not a western standard lmfaooo…… no woman wants to share her husband. Some women become okay with it but that doesn’t mean that’s our nature…cause it’s not at all. Just like men protect, women are PROTECTORS in way a man will never be. And some men don’t understand this. We protect EVERYTHING of ours. Including our men. That’s our nature. Y’all trying to go against a woman’s natural biological ways. If a woman desires this okay. Also the in west, u will find many open minded women with polygamy because we know men are dogs and they are for the streets. This video literally proved that point. At the end they said it’s all about desire….. 🤦🏽‍♀️

To the men who try to convince woman that they should allow their husbands to have second wife's etc. Have any of you approached your mothers to convince her to allow your fathers to bring home another wife?

@Locamaniaca

Жыл бұрын

​@@shimmer4771 what do you mean with nature angry or jealous???

@generalsaaab

Жыл бұрын

Would you say that to prophet pbuh

@MISSYF27

Жыл бұрын

@Ayyub Vernon what was your mothers reaction? Did you convince her to let your father bring home a 2nd wife?

@lillyg4095

Жыл бұрын

@@generalsaaab you're not a prophet so relax. I bet you can barley please one woman let alone multiple wives

@soulz4793

Жыл бұрын

@@shimmer4771 "Most of them wouldn't. 😂 The thing is, women being jealous or angry is our nature. We're supposed to be" females being insecure, jealous, angry and fragile are not considered to be "nature" it is just their narcissism.

A brother proposed to me, but didn't want to tell his first wife. I reminded him about the offspring being siblings, and that if he passed no one would be able to notify me. Also that if the Mirathi was not done properly he would suffer, so he must tell her or stick with just one.

@KH-hc6sy

9 ай бұрын

The 10 Commandments is VERY clear. Always be faithful to your husband and wife. Always tell the truth. What is the blasphemy on this page?

@kephers

5 ай бұрын

obviously his 1st wife objected...so should he ask permission from her? That wouldn't make him a man. This is a tough decision by men! They love their wife, but they also love another woman whom they want to take as a wife/concubine. There is no simple answer. But the obvious answer for a wife or woman is, that they must love God and his laws and trust that just because their husband wants another wife, doesn't mean that he loves them any less or differently. In this case who would be able to counsel a wife on this matter? We can thank the Western Christian worlds influence on society for determining in the first place that a man can only have 1 wife! It's influence has permeated the whole world and influenced Islam, Buddaism, Judaism, Hindu, etc...

@baya785

5 ай бұрын

@@kephersit’s not about permission it’s just to tell her because no matter what she will end up finding out. And if she finds out 10 years from now when you have multiple children with the other wife I think it will absolutely destroyed her and you children with her. Plus the kids could have been friends if they got the chance to grow up together but you took that away from them and they most likely will not like each other or even hate each other.

@chinny_reckon

3 ай бұрын

Masha Allah sister - you behaved in a beautiful way, may Allah reward you.

@user-bp9jc5fj6t

2 ай бұрын

you are going to destroy that woman if you accept the offer, you're stabbing her femininity and ego plzz don't

MH said:"I'm not gonna follow the religion of women's feelings." Is islam not also the religion of children's feelings, when they are affected by their mother's heart ache? How are these men honorable for their own selfish desires, while they cosigned to monogamy at first to even find a wife?

@mishmash7776

11 ай бұрын

They don’t care about anyone but themselves, if they did they’d think and stop for a second.

@shabs2134

11 ай бұрын

Because Islam gives men such rights. If Allah allows Muslim men to indulge in their fetishs (having extra women), then that should tell you that Islam *does not* respect women.

@B0ss_Editz

11 ай бұрын

@@shabs2134 It's not a fetish, it's a natural desire. Men are polygamous by nature. Why do you think Rich men cheat with multiple women? Why do you think Men had concubines as spoils of war in the past? It's what they want. That's why Allah allowed polygamy for men through marriage. So that they won't be dead beats and will be responsible for their women. Marriage keeps the family unit intact. Keep coping.

@shabs2134

10 ай бұрын

@@B0ss_Editz Humans are a pair bonding species, most men throughout human history have only ever had *one* wife or no wife at all. You obviously have to defend this sexual degeneracy because this is what your degenerate prophet taught and practiced. Some powerful men throughout history have had concubines and sex slaves, that doesn't make it right. Morality is objective, what is wrong today will always be wrong whether in the past or in the future. Enslaving and raping women will always be wrong. It seems you are the one who is coping hard because you're the one trying to defend the indefensible. So I say - *keep coping* 🤙

@dame6584

2 ай бұрын

​@@B0ss_Editzso slaves are acceptable? You just want lust? Think about your moral compass and self control.

The more I see these conversations the more I turn away from marriage and pray for a spouse in Jannah instead. May Allah help us all especially those who are married.

@OnePunchMuslim

Жыл бұрын

Are you female. Lol. Cos your spouse in heaven would have 2 wives minimum. Sooooo 🤷🏻‍♂️

@reyhantimmons-cetin6860

Жыл бұрын

But by the same token we won’t feel jealous, envious or hurt in Jannah by the will of Allah SWT.

@HabiburRahman-zo5ot

Жыл бұрын

Sad times. I don't even understand why this is even a discussion. Times have changed, it's very difficult to maintain even one marriage nowadays let alone multiple. If you can then good for you but almost every guy I know is fine with just one wife.

@moonwalkerr87

Жыл бұрын

@@HabiburRahman-zo5ot What is sad is that we live in a time where zina is widespread everywhere. THAT IS SAD. What is also sad is that Muslims going against what is halal and speaking negative about it. THAT IS SAD. The solution for fighting zina is marriage! Ecourage halal, don’t criticize what is halal. Rather speak against evil.

@EeLyos

Жыл бұрын

This is a test from Allah SWT because Zina is a horrible fitna this Ummah has to deal with.

When I look at the comments by men below this video, I can see the current moral level and it’s alarming. They say, "As long as Allah allows it, it's okay, secret or not." They use religion to fulfill their worldly desires. May Allah give these men akhlaq.

@shabs2134

Жыл бұрын

The problem is both men and Islam. Many men have these degenerate desires and Islam gives them permission to act on it. Christianity doesn't have this problem as Jesus Christ said that marriage is only between one man and one woman. Why would you continue to defend a religion which treats you like an object?

@Arguvandal

Жыл бұрын

One of the reasons to believe Allah was mohammed's invention to satisfy his lust for power and sex. Its all TOO convenient

@bethere7862

10 ай бұрын

like women abusing the concept of mahr, men should defend thier rights

@irisdanagher

8 ай бұрын

Amen!

@redpanther9380

5 ай бұрын

Oh the women will do anything but not accept rights of men remain single sister please don't destroy our lives

It is so disappointing to see that there is really no difference between Muslim men and non-Muslim men. A married man who is comfortable taking on another wife, without even informing his first wife, is not a man of good character.

@JH-zs3bs

3 ай бұрын

I guarantee you, nonmuslim men are more respectful than that by faaar.

@L-Lawliet14

2 ай бұрын

I assume you arent Muslim. Because there is no comparison. A muslim is better than a kafir. Why? Because he worships the only true God.

@sherwood9917

2 ай бұрын

@@L-Lawliet14 Sing yourself whatever lullaby helps you sleep.

@JH-zs3bs

2 ай бұрын

@@L-Lawliet14A Kafir is much better than a Muslim! Why? Because he uses his brain and rejects false religions like Islam. And he also doesn't say its okay to marry 6 years old because his prophet did so, nor does he beat his wife saying its ok because his holy book said so.

@Naimedclaiming

2 ай бұрын

I can’t believe you just said that You see a Muslim man the same as a disbeliever You need help then, you could’ve said some not just Muslim men as a whole

In this cost of living crisis, you want to take financial responsibility of a second wife...good luck bro

What I find concerning about this debate is that basic Islamic principles of kindness compassion and empathy and honesty just don't seem to matter in these people's marriages.....these men know this will hurt their wives but because they're technically allowed it becomes, my desires matter more than my responsibility to be just, kind and compassionate to my original wife. My desires as a man are worth the risk of causing future family problems when I have two sets of families secret from each other. The selfishness here is boundless.

@SoldierOfGod22631

Жыл бұрын

Cry about it. As our brother Mohammed hijab said, we aren't slaves to your feelings!

@kayshaa24h

Жыл бұрын

Beautiful demonstration of missing the point and proving it at the same time. Good job.

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

I dislike the brothers getting defensive about the women's jealousy. That's natural.

@SoldierOfGod22631

Жыл бұрын

@@shimmer4771 What do you mean?

@yacined4882

Жыл бұрын

basic Islamic LAWS of ALLAH that has established polygyny are rejected so stop playing religious!!!

Why should a women be tested with another wife, why can’t the man be tested in controlling his desires???

@meriamsaad

Жыл бұрын

wellah the best comment thank you !

@itsmichaelakin5421

Жыл бұрын

Because your religion says so. Meanwhile Jesus calls polygamy a sin and calls a husband to love his wife as he loved the church and sacrificed himself for her. Polygamy is adultery. Trust in Jesus, he loves you and died on the cross as a sacrifice for your sins. If you trust him he will raise you up on the last day and you will spend eternity with him. May God guide you to Jesus.

@Blakky-vm7ng

10 ай бұрын

@@itsmichaelakin5421shut up

@MAbs-ny7xi

7 ай бұрын

@@itsmichaelakin5421 can a Christian woman divorce her violent Christian husband?

@TheVisualante

7 ай бұрын

@@itsmichaelakin5421right…that’s why Jesus said he came to confirm the law that came before him, and the law that came before him in your own Bible shows the prophets of God all being polygamous but you pick and choose what you follow in your religion. Pork btw is also banned in your Bible just a fyi. May God guide you to the actual teachings of Christ who said “why do you call me good, only God is good”.

As a new Muslim who used to be in polyam relationships before I converted, I'd say there's no question deceiving your wife and marrying another without her knowledge is simply not conductive to a healthy loving relationship regardless if it's allowed or not. I'd also say from my experience many people (men and women) are simply not equipped to be just, fair and equally emotionally present in poly relationships (that in no way means there aren't people who can't have fair, honest and loving poly marriages tho). With that being said, there needs to be an open conversation and we should acknowledge most men would jump at a chance to not be limited by a monogamous marriage and should not be demonized for it. Expecting one's partner to feel unfulfilled in a mono relationship and suppressing their nature only for one's own benefit is also hardly love.

Don't tell ur wife about ur 2nd wife, so the children of the 2 wives can end up marrying each other (marrying siblings). Yes, that had happened more than once!

@Biekoe

10 ай бұрын

They cant, bcs in islam you need to approach the father of the girl to marry. So the father will always know😂😂😂

@fidemingenium5906

5 ай бұрын

​@@Biekoewhat if he died, what if he divorced the second wife and didn't have contact with his kids... If lying is allowed and he only married in mosque, no papers and he used different name liying to the second wife... It could happen . Some have second wifes in different countries, what if one of the kids migrate and end up marrying

@Biekoe

5 ай бұрын

@@fidemingenium5906 well that why i always think a man shouldnt hide it. He should be a man and tell his first wife honestly about his second wife. I wouldn’t hide it either if i would ever even marry a second wife

ali is very good at limiting the womens speaking time but not the men’s.. :/

@CD-123

Жыл бұрын

Women have half brains ......that's why

@CD-123

Жыл бұрын

Sahih al-Bukhari 2658 Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Isn't the witness of a woman equal to half of that of a man?" The women said, "Yes." He said, "This is because of the deficiency of a woman's mind."

@maywewonder

2 ай бұрын

​@@CD-123this talks about their ability to recall from memory what they witnessed. It does not mean that what they have to say on other matters is equal half of what a man has to say. Intellectual discussions are for both men and women.

@CD-123

2 ай бұрын

@@maywewonder are you a ba$tard?

@Jubajourney

Ай бұрын

Because each time the girls came in based off ego the guys have to rebuttal with Quran 😅

The whole point of the walima is to announce the marriage and not keep it secret

I have to say that this perception we have of men being evil horndogs or women being manipulative or emotionally insecure is ridiculous in real life. It is never that simple. Being in a wonderful marriage myself, I understand that most men want an emotionally and physically satisfying marriage just as much as women do, and they’re perfectly happy to have one partner in a mutually loving relationship so long as it’s just that: a mutually loving relationship. If two people have fulfilling each other’s needs and wants and just love one another deeply and complete one another where the other falls short, it’s very rare to see this sort of dilemma occur. Hawa completed this for Adam - Allah didn’t create a hundred wives for Adam to populate the earth or exercise his human desire, rather he created a loving comfort of a spouse for him to find repose in. When such an emotional and mental gap is fulfilled, one finds satisfaction and contentment in the spouse they have. Islam recognizes that not all marriages work like this. Islam recognizes that we come from various cultures where the concept of loveless and emotionally void marriages are commonplace. Islam recognizes that some marriages are political, or some spouses are just fine being emotionally unconnected and share a family. Islam recognizes that for some men, their upbringing and past experiences can create a desire for infidelity and no satisfaction in just one spouse. Had they been kafir, they would have been chronic cheaters. Islam recognizes this diversity in environment and culture and offers a legal limitation to men, but it also offers us a glimpse into the love lives of our Prophets and the men of the Quran and Sunnah, and gives us the opportunity to choose our stories for ourselves.

@Btraain

11 ай бұрын

A man can be in a fulfilling relationship and still want more wives. Does it mean he is an evil hell dog? No. All you have summarized and mentioned is correct and beautifuly stated. But let's not undermine the fact that men have these desires and they are perfectly normal. The key here is to control our desires by lowering our gaze and fulfill our desires in a halal manner with our spouse. Sometimes though, the desire can't be matched by the wife, which can lead to a void and at some point maybe even to divorce. There are enough muslim men who fear Allah and fulfill their obligations towards there women, loving and caring for them and still find themselves with the desire unmet and therefore frustrated. Those men are villified for the exact reason that women just can't understand why someone that is emotionally satisfied with their women and have intercourse regularly can't be fully satisfied with just that. It's hard to explain, but still it is a reality hitting many men. I hope that the discussion turns away from villifying something that is halal to understanding the good men, the men with taqwa and not villify them for what is natural.

@shimmer4771

11 ай бұрын

If anyone attacks men, for polygamy, they are simply going off emotions. Try to understand both sides. That's how you do it.

@nilox2823

11 ай бұрын

@@Btraain Polyamory is purely a cultural and personality-based behavior, and not entirely biologically as we believe it to be, and like I said, Islam recognizes that and gives way to fulfill that in a halal manner. But I have yet to find an example of a deeply emotionally connected couple with great intimacy where the man is still sexually unfulfilled. And maybe what you are talking about is not love. When you love someone, truly and sincerely, you would never do anything to hurt them. And like it or not, polygamy hurts women. Perhaps not all women, but many women, and everyone knows that. Let’s not play dumb. It will change your marriage forever and perhaps never be the same again, so the “love” you started out with wither into something like a transactional survival marriage or eventually break up. When my husband passes away, I likely won’t remarry, even though its 100% my right to Islamically. Why? Because I love and adore him, even when he’s gone, and because I know that he wouldn’t want me to, even though I can. My sex drive is higher than my husband’s, slightly, maybe because I’m younger. I have a right to divorce him based on my desire not being constantly met. Absolutely. But will I do it? No. Why? Because I love him. And it’s not big enough a deal for me to hurt him. It’s dunya, it’s temporary. Love changes everything. And marriage, a good marriage, is a compromise. So we should use the word “love” sparingly in this conversation. And I would need more than one example to really believe that is the case. Merely stating it as fact without evidence is not sufficient, and the As’hab were reverts with a very different culture and background, so it was a totally different experience for them. But the examples of many Prophets who had one partner, as well our first, Adam (as), is an example of the fact it is entirely possible to be satisfied and happy with one spouse. It simply depends on you - who you are, where you come from, your past, your preferences, your personality. And that’s why when getting married it is essential to consider all of those aspects for a mutually fulfilling marriage.

@JewelsRoyale

11 ай бұрын

👏 👏 👏 👏 Adam & Hawa Prophet Muhammad ﷺ & Khadija Prophet Zakariya & his wife & Even Ibrahim ‏عليه السلام & his first wife (He only married Hagar because Sarah didn’t have any kids until that time). All of those were happy successful marriages. Look at the beautiful story of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and Khadija. Look at what Allah says about Zakariya ‏ ‏عليه السلامand his wife.

@KD400_

11 ай бұрын

​@@nilox2823 no I don't believe that about ur sex drive lol. Men still have a higher sex drive

Just the fact he is hiding something from his wife, it means he is not correct in the God’s eyes.

The problem with marrying other women secretly is that if a scenario arises where the father passes away without telling the wives and children about the others, there is a chance that some of them may get married to eachother without knowing that the other is a half sibling. Wouldn’t that be a problem?

@husnainshahzad2165

Жыл бұрын

clearly u havent watched. this was mentioned...

@moonwalkerr87

Жыл бұрын

They should have same last name. And naturally ask «Who is your father?» or «Are we related?»

@husnainshahzad2165

Жыл бұрын

@@moonwalkerr87 100%. people find out they are from the same caste ( talking about my ethnicity ) just because of a surename and find out their grandparents/ great grandparents were cousin... if they can find this out so easily after speaking two times... surely they will know if theyre step siblings soon enough

@alia-wm8ug

Жыл бұрын

A big secret like a second marriage won't stay secret longer than the second wife having a baby

@roosworld4910

Жыл бұрын

So many people who are unrelated have the same last name. Lying, creates fitna. Avoid lying. Be honest to people you love. The basics have become a luxury to have in today's world. A father who lies raises children who thinks it's ok to lie. You build a community with a lot of sickness in it. Don't lie.

The thing is, if you get married in secret, then by definition, you'd have to lie to the first wife. Where will you say you are going for half the week? Why do you suddenly have half the money you had available? What if your second wife dies? How will you explain why you now have custody of these children? Lying in these circumstances is not permissible in Islam. So how would you navigate these situations?

@serbaserbi38

Жыл бұрын

Lie after lie ...

@Amynity

7 ай бұрын

those lies usually don't last long.

@026_arhmarehman8

6 ай бұрын

and they are justifying lying.

as a muslim man who loves the idea of having more than 1 wife, I do not think it's okay to just go marry another woman without even discussing with your current wife, that's just very messed up. imagine if your father brought along another woman home and said she's also your mother. wtf? these "men" should have some shame.

@nova5stars729

5 күн бұрын

No, it's not against the Sunnah so it's completely okay

@samisnowman2931

3 күн бұрын

@@nova5stars729 you know that men are tested in their rights? meaning that just because ur allowed to have more than 1 doesn’t mean u have the right? if ur motived are not of the sunnah it would end up in a disaster anyways but it needs wisdom to actually understand that men are TESTED in their rights. and if it causes fitna between u and ur wife, fine do it. but then don’t cry if u bear witness in front of allah for causing fitna between u and ur wife

Adding the "completely equally and fulfilling all responsibilities equally to all wives" to the topic of polygamy is unbelievably important and also constantly left out. Many men do not understand how difficult this task is. If you cannot do this, which most men would not be able to do so 100% without error, it becomes haram. Do not forget that. Personally as a man in my late 20s who still isnt married, I dont see it being possible for me unless, InshaAllah, Allah makes me super successful and rich in life. To take care of myself and one wife in this economy alone is difficult, hence why I am still not married. Add a child to that, its exponentially more difficult. My ego and pride are not so big and filled with delusion that I would think, "Yes I can easily take care of 2 wives and multiple children without bias or 100% equity". Also I agree with the brother who is on there with his wife, it dont feel the need to have a second wife. That goes to a different topic, you must choose your wife very carefully. If you do, there should be no deficiency in the relationship in which you would then need to seek another, unless you simply have very active hormones, to which Allah knows best and has created us all differently, so I will not judge you. But the average person should strive to find a woman they can be completely content with, and women should strive to satisfy their husbands so they do not feel the need for another woman.

@javidgt8

8 ай бұрын

@@shimmer4771 I didn't mention love at any point. Also, someone thinking they can do something that clearly isn't feasible isn't them having inflated ego or being delusional? At best I'd call that very overconfident, which is an understatement when talking about taking on 2 or more wives and treating them equally. I'm not saying people who can do it are egotistical or delusional, I'm referring to myself(if I thought I could pull it off successfully as I am now) and/or men who do try it but don't do it correctly.

PART 2 DEFS NEEDED... SOOOOOO MUCH TO UNPACK IN THIS TOPIC, GOOD JOB TO THE PANELIST 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

the audacity of Ali Dawah putting the word hashtag "sidechick" under the video 🤮

Allah created Adam and Eve, if it were so dire for a man to have more than one wife, He would have made two women. It is a capability of man to have more than one wife, NOT a neccessity. Big difference.

@imadgc6785

Ай бұрын

Why are men allowedto be polygamous then ?

@Adam-bc2ov

10 күн бұрын

Maybe because eve was always avaible for Adam (as) and they were always together and BTW Adam(as) cant marry his own children. stop saying nonsense

MashaAllah wal Humdulillah! Thank you for having this conversation that is necessary to have within our communities

Part 2 should include guests who are involved or have been involved in these types of situations. Would be very helpful to get insight from first hand experience

@jewelweed6880

Жыл бұрын

Yes! Without speaking to them, this topic feels like the discussion is just to rile people up for views. Conflict is good for that.

@ishmammuhammad2989

Жыл бұрын

e.g Mahdi Tidjani

@NiceGuy88

Жыл бұрын

@@ishmammuhammad2989 Red pill guy found in the comments section😅🤣🤣🤣.

@benafz

Жыл бұрын

​@@NiceGuy88 Idiot found, who cant comprehend nuances, and who puts everybody into certain boxes, based on his assumptions,

@rambovercetti8079

Жыл бұрын

@@NiceGuy88 I mean it’s true tho he had 3 wives at one point he should have been on this podcast 😊

Ali asked one of the guys if he would get a second wife, he said no. He did not like the answer, so he accuses him of lying, and says a lie detective test will change your answer to yes lol then he goes on a rant and answers on behalf of the other guy

@shimmer4771

8 ай бұрын

Ali Dawah needs to address polygamy properly. I didn't even watch the video. If he doesn't handle it the right way, he may turn sisters away from marriage. Js.

The efficiency of this *usespy online is next level.* To juggle walk throughs of various angles on devices delivered to-camera, differnet content per app from various folks underneath the umbrella of the track list of the larger big band concert itself is engaging and refined access. To make a dense non tracable like this so digestible is really something. Awesome work !!!

Im so thankful for this i was able to understand men a little better and i have never been able to wrap my head around second wives, though i get it more and am more willing to understand.

I can't help but notice that Ali just doesn't allow anyone contradicting his opinion. Even if the man in the middle clearly said : NO I would NOT get a second wife, even if she was okay with it, he goes on to say 'we have to be brutally honest'. Well, maybe he's being brutally honest and that's the end of your argument

@hanzo7616

Жыл бұрын

Well to be fair the guy was lying. They digged deeper into that question and the guy agreed men are polygynous by nature including himself.

@93boxing81

Жыл бұрын

Ali allowed these women to contradict his opinion and even gave a sister a pass for standing a man on camera and called him a liar while he wasnt there.

@user-ym6we4bx7k

Жыл бұрын

He did that, because if you noticed, the brother's wife kept warning him before he started speaking. So how can we know if he was being honest, or he was being careful of what he was saying, as she told him to?

@sumatrakitchen

Жыл бұрын

He is not unwise host..

@yosephyermaiah2148

Жыл бұрын

False religion, come out of it guys. Just lies and deception.

You know it's not right when it has to be kept a secret . The least you can do in a marriage is to be transparent, good or bad

@CatGuy969

Жыл бұрын

You cannot say something is not right, when Islamically it is okay.

@maryam_4437

Жыл бұрын

@@CatGuy969 just because it’s permissible doesn’t mean you have to do it

@CatGuy969

Жыл бұрын

@@maryam_4437 that's got nothing to do with what i said

@afraas8637

Жыл бұрын

​@@CatGuy969 "And confound not truth with falsehood nor hide the truth knowingly . " Qur'an (2:43)

@SoldierOfGod22631

Жыл бұрын

So it's wrong? Bring your evidence from the Quran and the Sunnah.

This is the most comprehensive, understandable, well-presented historical spy site overview I have heard from any online agency. I have subscribed to and shared your channel with friends around the world. Whoever created *usespy online* that particular spy site deserves the highest of journalistic accolades. Bravo!

We definitely need a part 2

Salaam alaikum. I love that we have young men and women discussing the issues here. But I wish there was an elderly scholarly moderator in the presence who is patient in listening and wiser in responding. I felt that a lot of times our brothers and sisters are quick to wanting to respond with loaded arguments. Still a very useful discussion, jazakAllah Khair.

@gahyeon2f5

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, we need a sheykh or mufti

@Fortifier1021

Жыл бұрын

@@gahyeon2f5 Not a fake one though that changes the deen to please the people. We need a real scholar to judge.

@WASABINIQABII

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@WASABINIQABII

Жыл бұрын

Very disturbing content

@emmaschmidt4774

Жыл бұрын

Son of God does not mean that God has a child in Christianity! *what a mistake in the Qur'an!* Son of God is a title referring to the Word of God!

We also need to talk about the stories of 2nd wives being used, abused and discarded, especially revert sisters. May Allah swt keep us on the straight path. 2nd wives are not an outlet, they are WIVES as well to be provided for and protected. Brothers need to focus on the reality of plural marriage and the actually responsibilities and consequences. Sisters need to understand that him taking a second wife does not mean you are any less. May Allah swt make it easy for all the marriages. Ameen.

@AliDawah

Жыл бұрын

We discuss this issue on future episodes, it’s a real problem.

@shahidabdoullakhanzorovr1564

Жыл бұрын

Some of these revert sisters have an Arab/Paki "Prince Ali Ababwa" fetish, and aren't prepared for their new in-laws basically turning into the mafia once the marriage happens. Sad stuff.

@micro-uhgresh-uhnn

Жыл бұрын

I have seen this type of abuse towards revert sisters an embarrassing number of times. Sisters flock to Islam and the light of this deen and lose all good judgment when dealing with sometimes selfish and self serving guys with zero intention to do right and uphold her rights. They abuse the fact that she is often ignorant to what he is responsible for by Allah’s guidance. It’s not right.

@micro-uhgresh-uhnn

Жыл бұрын

@@mimo4856 Sister, you sound extremely jaded and it takes a blackened heart to say such things. Why would anyone wish harm or hurt upon a fellow sister in Islam? It was the husband that made the decision. This kind of attitude is toxic and un-Islamic. Allah is the most just. If a woman is unable to maintain herself spiritually under such circumstances, she can divorce. But if she is content and he is living up to his duties and/or children are involved she should definitely consider her children and the difficulties of single parenthood. Single parenthood is bad for children and society. Anas ibn Malik reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “None of you will have faith until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 13, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 45

@bogumilaskowron2680

Жыл бұрын

Why this second wife came between husband and wife?

Marrying a second wife should be done with extreme caution because if he can't do justice between the wives the punishment for him is severe. So I hope these brothers are thinking about that before they take this step. Anyway who can afford to have 2 wives. Not normal people.

@fatemad4012

8 ай бұрын

They think about their se xual desires they don't care about punishment how do you know they are actuall Muslim and not atheists who taking advantage of Islam?

@kitty5872

Ай бұрын

There are some crazy selfish men who thinks they can marry four wives and put them in one small house, to be stuck there fighting all day with too many children , no peace or privacy, but just putting them under one roof is sufficent and providing barely basic food and clothing. To them that’s fair.

@sk3440

Ай бұрын

@@kitty5872 May Allah guide them They need to fear Allah. And any woman who is in that situation should get out of the marriage. She has good reasons to.

It’s men like this that make me question Islam sometimes..why do they not read the full ayah? What about the orphans that god mentions they should take second wives for? It’s literally the same verse, why do they read the second part only??

@kinglaw1882

2 ай бұрын

Because the first part has nothing to do with condition to marry more, ALLAH said if you fear to be unjust with orphans, To marry others women than them, 2 or 3 or 4 that is the limit. Because men's back days wanted orphans withlut be just in mehr, or their wealth, read the tafseer

@HA67823

Ай бұрын

God says يتامى which inlcudes males and females if He meant to fear not being just with female orphans He would have said female orphans

Why does he not accept any man saying he don't want another wife 😂

@yazuka2023

Жыл бұрын

exactly he thinks polygamy is fard its only permissable not all men want a second wife they are free let them be

@shimmer4771

8 ай бұрын

It's permitted to take a second wife. Not sure why Ali has an issue with a brother only taking 1. 🤨

@lawunmibalogun2971

14 күн бұрын

Projection Needs a shield to justify glutinous lustful desires. With our consequence. It’s politics guised as “supernatural law”

@Itzvnessa.

3 күн бұрын

@@lawunmibalogun2971 Funny how a man’s natural jealousy is always right and catered for but a woman’s natural jealousy of her husband bringing another woman into the marriage is wrong, evil and too emotional. No one seems to admit that men needing to have multiple women they rotate around constitutes to having a lust problem and that covering that up by getting multiple women and calling it “marriage’s” will not fix your lust problem. The bible says to deny your flesh and follow the Lord but in Islam it seems that your flesh and human desires should be honoured 🤷🏾‍♀️. We can all see how having multiple women wrecks marriages and affects children aswell as the family unit but it’s all ok as long as the man is sexually satisfied because a man’s sexual satisfaction is put above all else apparently.

MH needs to be on every show.

@bogumilaskowron2680

Жыл бұрын

Is he scholar?

@SupermanOG

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. The only one who objectively and sensibly gives responses based on Quran and Sunnah rather than personal opinion or feelings.

@adamk6292

Жыл бұрын

@@bogumilaskowron2680 So only a scholar should come on? How many scholars are available (or even willing) to come on to these shows?

@muhammadislam4640

Жыл бұрын

@@bogumilaskowron2680 by your logic none of these guests should be on the show as none of them are scholars... Hijab was the only one to cite his sources and base everything on Quran and Sunnah

@bogumilaskowron2680

Жыл бұрын

@@muhammadislam4640 is in Quran written lie to your wife and take secretly second wife ?

Yeah but the difference is that when the sahaba returned to their first wife. They did tell them about it. They didn’t hide it like modern men do

Shukran for highlighting the mental cause. May Allah heal them and protect our learned Imams.

If having a secret marriage is justifiable, I don’t know what to say.. we need to respect the wife too, let her know and give her the choice to leave or stay. Anyone needs to hear the truth, because truth will come sooner or later

@999legend8

Жыл бұрын

A secret marriage is justifiable. If you listened properly, you would have known. If you don't want to accept the truth, there's nothing wrong with the truth, it's a problem with yourself.

@abdulmalik-sm5uf

Жыл бұрын

​@@999legend8 then what abt this hadth of ibn majah 1896 It was narrated from Muhammad bin Hatib that the Messenger of Allah said: “What differentiates between the lawful and the unlawful is the Daff and raising the voices at the time of marriage

@desertrat2320

Жыл бұрын

I now advocate women own guns, and have secret husbands. That if one turns violent, we’ll then.

@drakness1520

Жыл бұрын

A lot of Wives will demand divorce and take the children and the family will be destroyed and the kids life will shatter into pieces with broken homes, Even If the man or the woman get married it's not guaranteed that the new wife/Husband are willing to take care of the children so a lot of the time it's better to keep it a secret from the wife because she can't control her emotions and will act up radically and will regret her decision.

@mensahkwaku6506

Жыл бұрын

It says lying is allowed 😅 So Allah expected you to lie to her

The only reason why these young men want a second wife is because of their sexual desires, not the charity. Each of our Prophet's (pbuh) marriages had a purpose and they were not for sexual purposes. The Qur'an also states that one wife is better. Allah says in the Quran, "And you will never be able to be equal [in feeling] between wives, even if you should strive [to do so].” (Surah An-Nisa, Ayat 129) Nevertheless, if these men want to satisfy their worldly desires by risking their hereafter, they can do so.

@shabs2134

Жыл бұрын

Most of Muhammad's marriages were for sex. To claim otherwise is laughable (Bukhari 5215).

@user-li6ql7gj3l

10 ай бұрын

factsssss

@user-yh3pn1he2w

10 ай бұрын

Don't worry that's the reason we got hoor ul ayn The beautiful creation of Allah

@QashMaz

10 ай бұрын

I think you forget, the main purpose of marriage is to protect the private parts. So what if they want to get married for sexual desire. If the desire is not fulfilled with one then if he is able to, then it is actually advised to marry again.

@QashMaz

10 ай бұрын

The Qur'an also makes no such statement that "one wife is better". What nonsense. If anything, the Qur'an encourages polygyny as Allah mentioned the man to marry in 2s' 3s and 4s FIRST, and ONLY if he is unable to be just should he settle for one. The verse you quoted clearly refers to a man not being able to be equal in "feelings", he is not held accountable for feeling more for one than the other. He is only held accountable for being just in TREATMENT. There is a hadith where the Prophet said, calling out to Allah: I have distributed the war booty equally to all my wives, so do not hold me accountable for what is in my heart. (General translation) So having a favourite doesn't matter, treating them all fairly is what matters.

I can't believe they make guys who won't get a second wife out of respect for their wife just as praiseworthy as someone who secretly gets a second wife. If he dies in a car accident, siblings of the second and first wife might marry each other by mistake. How can you just disregard the sabr of a monogamous man like that? Our prophet (saw) was also monogamous for a very long time with Khadija.

If a sister is a believer and you trust her then I believe she deserves to know so she can make her own decision because regardless she will have to go through a process a man can change if he has a new relationship so it can still cause an effect

This is so disturbing. No wonder why our ummah is the way it is.

@shabs2134

Жыл бұрын

This is the reality of Islam. Polygamy and other such degeneracy is forbidden in Christianity.

@Itzvnessa.

3 күн бұрын

@@shabs2134 Funny how a man’s natural jealousy is always right and catered for but a woman’s natural jealousy of her husband bringing another woman into the marriage is wrong, evil and too emotional. No one seems to admit that men needing to have multiple women they rotate around constitutes to having a lust problem and that covering that up by getting multiple women and calling it “marriage’s” will not fix your lust problem. The bible says to deny your flesh and follow the Lord but in Islam it seems that your flesh and human desires should be honoured 🤷🏾‍♀️. We can all see how having multiple women wrecks marriages and affects children aswell as the family unit but it’s all ok as long as the man is sexually satisfied because a man’s sexual satisfaction is put above all else apparently.

@Itzvnessa.

3 күн бұрын

Funny how a man’s natural jealousy is always right and catered for but a woman’s natural jealousy of her husband bringing another woman into the marriage is wrong, evil and too emotional. No one seems to admit that men needing to have multiple women they rotate around constitutes to having a lust problem and that covering that up by getting multiple women and calling it “marriage’s” will not fix your lust problem. The bible says to deny your flesh and follow the Lord but in Islam it seems that your flesh and human desires should be honoured 🤷🏾‍♀️. We can all see how having multiple women wrecks marriages and affects children aswell as the family unit but it’s all ok as long as the man is sexually satisfied because a man’s sexual satisfaction is put above all else apparently.

The summary of the debate: emotions and feelings are fine as long as it's the men's Their desire for intimacy with a second wife Their fear of how their wives will react. Desire and fear are still emotions and feelings.

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

I think it's just normal to be jealous. One sister told me she wasn't jealous of him taking a second wife, which is what shocked me. It would be hard.

@chasna4546

Жыл бұрын

@@shimmer4771 Jealousy comes from love. Of knowing your partner will be intimate and in love with someone else, while he forgets about your love in those moments. Women who are OK with this don't love their husbands and have other things they focus on. Same with women who married a man they didn't love from the start. They would rather have him away from them as long as possible. Even find him other wives themselves to not have to deal with him for too long.

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

@@chasna4546 I agree. I just wish the brothers would understand where our jealousy comes from and why we feel this way.

@SoldierOfGod22631

Жыл бұрын

@@shimmer4771 Some of us brothers do though...

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

@@SoldierOfGod22631 I would not like it if he enjoyed my jealousy. Remember: we shouldn't pit each other against one another.

Everytime someone disagrees with Ali, someone replies interrupting that person and does not get the full time. Whereas his timer starts when they agree with him. As if our whole deen is based upon four marriages! You talk about about good men who pray and do their but yet most of the men asking for these four marriages are in my experience are deficient in giving even food on the table. Then the bums take this and use it against women. If your going to debate then at least be fair.

It’s not obligatory to tell fist wife about second. Then don’t ask a woman to take care of ur old mother when she needs it. It’s not obligation on her either. If u remove love and respect from islam this is what happens

Props to these brothers and sisters for addressing such a touchy subject in this manner. Mashallah

Just because something is permissible, doesn’t mean it’s recommended. People really need to learn the difference. I don’t see enough people making that distinction

@Dukeyunuz

Жыл бұрын

Polygyny was literally recommended by the Quran

@muhammadislam4640

Жыл бұрын

Only if you can’t fulfil the rights of both wives equally. If you can do that then there is nothing to suggest that it is disliked or not recommended.

@amala5099

Жыл бұрын

@@Dukeyunuz where’s your evidence to suggest that it is recommended? There are multiple verses in the Quran that tell us how polygamy was born out of a need i.e. to support widows, spread the teachings of Islam etc. Allah swt also tells us how it is impossible to love all wives the same and so it is even more incumbent on the man to ensure he marries multiple wives for good reason as opposed to just pleasure.

@Dukeyunuz

Жыл бұрын

@@amala5099 I’m really sorry but who is your exegete, these are mostly add ons by western media to cater for western audience to make a case for polygyny. And just so you know pleasure is just as important a reason for polygyny as any so if one isn’t satisfied with his wife then he should just commit zina?

@Dukeyunuz

Жыл бұрын

@@amala5099 there’s nothing about loving equal, the prophet pbuh did not love all his wives equal unless if you haven’t heard of the Hadith where he clearly mentioned loving Aisha more than anyone else in the world the requirements is fair treatment, so reread your fiqh sister!

Is getting another wife just about sex? Is intimacy just about sex? Is the secrecy about stopping the trials we have to face in life? Are we truly critical of ourselves where we can admit insecurities take accountability and change? Asking for a friend.

@mk-19memelauncher65

5 ай бұрын

It's a legitimate reason, condemning that is an innovation .

To the women who are single and are opposed to the husband marrying again... you are allowed to add conditions to your nikkah where you can state "I will only get married if he does not marry anyone else after this marriage (during our marriage).

Islam allowed polygamy but also it is extremely hard to meet the condition of being fair to all wives. If you end up being unfair, you are resurrected with a paralyzed half. Let that sink in before you get a second wife brothers.

@naimam8212

Жыл бұрын

They don’t even consider this threat bc they think with their you know what the moment they hear a possibility of having multiple women.

@mursalr.2335

Жыл бұрын

@@SamirSiraj8542 it’s not about being practicing or not. It’s the practical things. Women have a lot of emotional needs and require a lot of attention when they go through pregnancy etc. In this day and age, it’s already so hard to work and spend time with your wife and children. Unknowingly, a man might end up being unjust. And there were Sahaba who feared this 1400 years ago. Allah made this permissible but the men should consider all factors.

@mursalr.2335

Жыл бұрын

@@SamirSiraj8542 Yes, you are right in a way. But I’m sure you have other qualities like empathy and perhaps you are knowledgeable about women’s psychology. But trust me, most men have no idea how to handle even one wife, let alone 2 or 4.

I want part 2 I have learned so much in this episode

what’s especially sad is many people believe that getting more then one wife is for pleasure or solely about intimacy, but it’s not mentioned once in any hadith that men are told to marry for benefit of pleasure, the prophet had 11 wifes, for pleasure ? no because to spread islam, some were divorced or widows. now in our time we believe it’s because of the men’s desire, no if your willing to damage your healthy marriage and family with your first wife because of your desires which your wife can fulfill then there is something seriously wrong with you. may Allah protect us and give us a good husband with common sense . Ameen

This is so sad, these poor women should feel honoured, not ashamed of their feelings and labelling themselves as disobedient 🤦‍♀️ so so sad to watch

Great video, so thank you for it! But, the audio needs to be A LOT better for those that are in the back ground as they can barely be heard without breaking of the audio coming through. Insha'Allah better audio for the next video

You will be judged on your intentions. Your intentions are not defined by what you claim aloud. They are defined by what you actually seek within your heart. No ruling in Islam is given for you to take as a green light to do what you desire just because you desire it. Are you allowed to drink water? Obviously, yes. But let's say you are standing next to a thirsty orphan while you are holding a jug of water. You yourself are not thirsty. You notice that the orphan is thirsty but you do not give any water to the orphan. Instead, you drink your water and walk away. There are Muslims who think they would be spared punishment for denying water on the basis that drinking their own water is not haram. But that isn't how it works. You will be asked on the day of judgement about why you withheld the water from the orphan. As well you will be asked about why you took a second wife and why you hid her from your first. It being halal is not a reason why. It is only a justification. You will be asked about your intention in doing so.

@theBakinNoob

Жыл бұрын

Beautiful comment barakAllahu feek

@rehemachan3270

Жыл бұрын

Well written comment mashallah ❤

@aarfeenanees9147

Жыл бұрын

And hijab precisely said that. He gave an example of sugar. Sugar in and of itself is halal to eat but for a diabetic person it might be harmful enough to be declared haram for them. Likewise, getting a secret second wife isn't prohibited in the religion of Islam, but we need to look into the outcome of implementing this ruling. And taking this into consideration, Hijab adviced against a secret second wife. And i personally do agree with him. It's very likely to lead to unequal treatment of both wives to maintain the secret.

@AC-iw5mv

Жыл бұрын

MashaAllah subhanallah! Thank you for your insight

@lordsneed9418

Жыл бұрын

If you had said this on the panel I get the feeling that Ali Dawah and Muhammad Hijab would have accused you of speaking from emotions.

The discussion got more intenese towards the end and i just wished it carried on and never ended Kudos to everyone and Barakallahu fikum.

May I also remind us of the famous Quaranic verse "and we created you in pairs".. it doesnt say we created you as pairs with the same man

Very informative video brother Ali❤ I really appreciate your determination of establishing the Masjid, may Allah(SWT) reward you greatly❤

@gloriouschessgamer1587

Жыл бұрын

*Informative

@muslimninja9017

Жыл бұрын

@@gloriouschessgamer1587 ye

Best episode so far. Great choice of panellist. Nice contributions by the team backstage. Definitely need a PART 2 with the SAME PANEL. Barakallahu feekum.

I rather be single or un alive, then be pressured by a man who picks and chooses (conveniently) his “rights” in religion, and marries another women. Especially in secrecy.

@yourdaddy3571

17 күн бұрын

Then stay at your dads home then, we don’t care! You will have competition, get used to it Cinderella!

@Ani_0922

16 күн бұрын

@@yourdaddy3571 LOL I’m married, have children, 1 on the way, we own a business together and I don’t need my “daddy”, as you say. I have fully adapted to my husband’s family. Sorry, your wife couldn’t do the same with you. 😂 Be careful what you say.

@Ani_0922

16 күн бұрын

@@yourdaddy3571 Additionally, I don’t have competition. I’ll not compete - at all. If I ever felt the sense to compete - game over. My husband nor I would be in the positions we are if it wasn’t for one another’s support and actions together. Stay blinded by appearance only, I have that as well. My husband scored, as so did I.

@yourdaddy3571

16 күн бұрын

@@Ani_0922 you mean wives 😂😂 See, as you relegated your husband, no one can relegate me! I’m a strong personality type sweetie, you’ll be doing dishes all day if you tired horsing around at my house! 😂🤣

@yourdaddy3571

16 күн бұрын

@@Ani_0922 scored?! If zero was the goal then I’m sure he did 😂 you have a obedient husband, and nothing wrong with that, poor guy!

A much needed discussion. Nice episode

Definitely need a part 2. And need MH on it to keep with Quran/sunnah and not go round circles debating emotions/feelings

@bogumilaskowron2680

Жыл бұрын

Who is MH? Is he scholar or just some man without wisdom who dare give advise others?

@bigsteve1894

Жыл бұрын

@@bogumilaskowron2680Mohammed Hijab. ( The guy sat next to Ali )

@profs2981

Жыл бұрын

@@bogumilaskowron2680 what wisdom you have? Clown

@abumusab7060

Жыл бұрын

So your understanding is that the whole set-up of men sitting with other women discussing these matters is in accordance with the Qur'an and Sunnah?

@profs2981

Жыл бұрын

@@abumusab7060 the men are sitting separate to the women and the women are covered, and they’re talking about a purposeful topic, bring me a Hadith or verse from the Quran that forbids this if you’re so righteous

I feel like these discussions shouldn't be limited to an hour, 2 hours would have been fine to tackle most of the points the brothers and sisters were making that couldn't be fully explored or cut short. I guess a part 2 is needed.

28:04 I’m a Muslim mum in uk. State Backing - please listen brothers - a hurting sister can easily follow to do this. Don’t hurt her with your secrecy. It’s hurtful

@realist1641

7 ай бұрын

He has every right to marry if he can afford to. Even if it hurts the first wife.

@AKAK-hr7ug

7 ай бұрын

Please can you explain, as most couples are contributing financially to the marriage (looking after children is unpaid nanny, teacher to your children, house cleaner). It is teamwork. Secret marriage is irresponsible outright.

I would love for you to bring both brother's and sister's who are in polygamy marriage's. They've lived it and can most likely give advice on polygamy and how they deal with their emotions and each other. It can be beneficial to the viewer's. Thank you for the lovely video.

Great and very informative episode, may Allah bless you all. Special shoutout to Br. Hijab his knowledge is a great asset to the show

@omarkhalid4713

Жыл бұрын

need a part 2 please

I don’t understand this point of view that Ali will not stop about where a man’s wish or desire is all important/ all encompassing and out of his own control. There are plenty desires/ temptations that Allah placed within a human being which we have to manage and control. Just because most men would want more than one woman is not the start and end of the discussion.

They can’t even provide a home for their first wife how are they going provide two 😅

I'm so glad you guys are covering this, the WEST is going to love this!!! 😍❤❤❤

@ritaluzayadio8087

10 ай бұрын

We're actually happy to be Christians and no need to endure this pain your Abdools agree on.

Like the French sister said, I wish you would have talked about the practical details of a secret second wife. It is one thing in theory, but another thing in practice. Like, I cant see it staying a secret for too long. And is it halal to not let your kids see their half siblings or even know that they exist? That's a crucial question. That being said, Hijabs fiqh contribution is a great part of the discussion.

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

Not only that, but a secret marriage isn't being completely honest with your first wife. When you're gone, she'll question where you are when you keep lying. Secrets can't be kept forever. I just think a man should be honest enough to tell the truth. It saves a lot of heartache. Besides, many brothers are just thinking about their desires and women.

@Nasserist1969

Жыл бұрын

They didn't give her enough time to speak. Everyone should get equal time in my opinion.

I'm terrified to get married. The more I look at how much I'll be sacrificing to him as a woman, literally rearranging my organs to give us children...I cannot imagine a worse thing than having him turn around and marry someone else. I don't think our human nature is the end all be all. The element which separates us from animals is that we are able to have second layer decision making skills/free will outside of our basic instincts. If a man isn't intelligent enough to have a brain beyond an animal instinct, that is super unattractive to me. It's just not my preference :/ There are men who love their wives and would rather not be with another woman. Why? Because of emotional connection. I believe the polygamous nature of males is majority sexual, you can't go around falling in love with everyone with the same quality of feeling. I really have a hard time believing there will be equal love between all wives, at the end of the day someone will always have less no matter what. I also don't want his attention to be divided leading to less overall involvement in me and my children. Seeing how much I'll give, I expect someone to give their all to me also. I'll make it clear to any potentials that if he wants multiple wives to look elsewhere. End

@j86485

Жыл бұрын

Men can fall in love with many women and not just based on sexual needs too. Men and women are different biologically, the more you understand the easier it would be for you. Majority of men don't even have multiple wives so you got nothing to worry about. But if you are worried then put a clause in the contract that says you can divorce if he marries another woman. Marriage works when both husband and wife agrees with what they want

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

I understand your point. However, it is impossible for him to love them equally. He has to spend his nights and money fairly on them. The wives don't have to live together if they don't want to. The Prophet peace be upon him said, "Allah has decreed jihad on men and jealousy on women. Whoever bears that with patience seeking the reward will receive it without reckoning." Besides, Allah tells us, "Humans are swayed by greed." This is also our nature. Jealousy and women being greedy is also expected. Just talk to him before getting married.

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

My mom said it's worth it. She was not in a polygamous marriage, but she said wife and motherhood were beyond worth it.

@johnnyjoestar7143

Жыл бұрын

@@j86485 yeah that’s what I’ll do inshallah, it’s better to get this topic out of the way BEFORE marriage. I also believe women can love multiple times, I think it depends on the person not the gender. I’d prefer someone who wants to focus all their love on one because I’ll also do that for him

@SoldierOfGod22631

Жыл бұрын

Don't worry, most mn are monogamous.

Polygamy in Islam isn't permitted over lust or desire, in fact, what Islam did about this issue is put a limit to the number of women a man can marry. If there is not material need for it, then do not do it, don't even think about doing it behind your wife's back, its a huge disrespect towards her. Islam obviously discourages polygamy. If you do not care about your wife's feelings, why should she care about your desires???

@JH-zs3bs

3 ай бұрын

Because if she doesn't, Angles will curse her all night, a wife in islam owes her husband her body, she will go to hell if she refuses. Read sahih bukhari you will see.

@kinglaw1882

2 ай бұрын

Marriage is for lust and desire, get married mean that you want to stay with a woman in pleasure in the way that ALLAH give you

@nami20622

2 ай бұрын

@@kinglaw1882 Thats wrong otherwise the prophet wouldn't have married 8 wives who were all widows and divorcees! A man usually doesn't lust over divorcees so you are lying against the prophet!

@Maha_The_Army

2 ай бұрын

@@JH-zs3bs same goes for the man lol if he doesnt fulfill her and breaks her and hurts her hes cursed by angels too i guess u haven't read the full hadith

@JH-zs3bs

2 ай бұрын

@@Maha_The_Army Feel free to post it.

If someone is happy with his current wife, why would he want to get married with another one! Realistically, it's very difficult to maintain two households.

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

It may work out. Some are happy. Besides, the reward the woman gets makes it worth the while.

@babyline595

3 ай бұрын

​​@@shimmer4771 what's t reward? Apart from emotional and psychological torture? Polygamy is cruelty towards women.

@shimmer4771

3 ай бұрын

@@babyline595 the reward is Paradise. This world is just a short stay.

@babyline595

3 ай бұрын

@@shimmer4771 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@nami20622

2 ай бұрын

@@shimmer4771 She can also get the same reward by staying single🤣

I can't suffer the trauma of my husband marrying a second wife. I think it's better to go through life alone and not get married than deal with all this.

@amd.8839

Жыл бұрын

But it’s halal tho sister what’s wrong he still loves, sisters have to understand if he marries a second he still loves his wife so much

@raulrahaman9863

Жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that, what would be so traumatising about this if you don’t mind me asking?

@moonwalkerr87

Жыл бұрын

If you can keep your chastity staying single, that's fine. What is not okay is starting to look at haram and fantasizing etc, then it's time to get married. Chastity is priority number one.

@EeLyos

Жыл бұрын

I understand your feelings, but marriage protects you from doing zina.

@MohammadQasim

Жыл бұрын

Its her choice to be celibate as long as she can control her desires for the rest of her life

Well in my community when a man marries a second wife he abandons the first wife and her children and that is the reality. Wallah I am not lying but that’s what the most of them do.

@Itzvnessa.

3 күн бұрын

Funny how a man’s natural jealousy is always right and catered for but a woman’s natural jealousy of her husband bringing another woman into the marriage is wrong, evil and too emotional. No one seems to admit that men needing to have multiple women they rotate around constitutes to having a lust problem and that covering that up by getting multiple women and calling it “marriage’s” will not fix your lust problem. The bible says to deny your flesh and follow the Lord but in Islam it seems that your flesh and human desires should be honoured 🤷🏾‍♀️. We can all see how having multiple women wrecks marriages and affects children aswell as the family unit but it’s all ok as long as the man is sexually satisfied because a man’s sexual satisfaction is put above all else apparently.

I am a secret second wife. The repercussions of my husband’s wife and family finding out will be catastrophic. My husband saw that there were men in the Muslim community who were taking advantage of me because I am a revert. He did everything including having us meet with the sheikh to ask questions and to ensure we were doing the right thing. Do I like sharing my husband - no but do I accept it - yes. I have a halal relationship with a God fearing Muslim who prays fard and practices sunnah and helps me grow closer to الله and he benefits in his own relationship with الله because my need to learn helps him increase his knowledge. If we are not getting closer to الله then our marriage is a waste of time. I do have to forgo some things given it is secret from his other wife (there is not first second third etc - there are wives, we are co wives I am not lower than the other wife) I was divorced from a Christian husband and came to Islam on my own and then met my husband. Humdulillah May الله bless my husband and my sister and their marriage in this life and the hereafter.

@user-st2ck6ho5h

3 ай бұрын

He took advantage of you himself, he didn’t save you, you will realise that one day, ur selfish too for doing that to another woman, you could have found another husband.

@nami20622

2 ай бұрын

“do I like sharing my husband” mate you are the second wife 😂 stop acting like he forcefully married you, you knew that he had another wife and now you are trying to act like the jealous one! Subhanallah

When a sister speaks about what is good for a woman it is seen as feminism , Please grow up

Anything for clout. NOTHING beneficial in this shows at all. ONLY for hype and controversy. Nice one Ali

@hidayah840

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Are you a muslim? Did you just accuse your brother in faith to do "anything for clout"? Will you stand before Allah and tell Him that you know Ali Dawahs heart and intention to say these things? Or is Allah the Judge, the Witness and the All-Knowing? Brother, you can say I dislike XYZ in your video. XYZ is wrong, you should change XYZ because of XYZ but this is not it. But to dismiss your brother, discourage him and his effort to make islamic content is not the islamic way of giving advices. I hope you are a young boy who is a little careless in his youth, please overthink your comment.

Adultery exists in islam, but cheating does not exist in Islam because cheating is defined as keeping secret an intimate relationship with another woman from your wife knowing the truth. Men can secretly sleep with a second woman(just make a halal excuse of declaring marriage, no need to marry slave woman though). It is halal for men to keep secret that he has slept with another woman. In reality, the truth is that it is cheating, but in Islam, they don't call this cheating. The first wife doesn't know about her husband being in bed with another woman, leading to sexually transmitted diseases. This happened to my friend. Also, when discussing the inheritance after the father passes away, with all the children from multiple wives, there are issues determining the real children which causes many problems and lack of family peace. This is not the way of love of Jesus. Jesus has new commandment of love. "do unto others as you would want them do unto you" Jesus is the final judge at end times.

NB- As a teacher in the community please note and be mindful of these discussions and whom can access them. A genuine fear is beginning to rise in young females of marriageable age because of this topic. And many are turning away from marriage because they are SCARED! This is not a joke and I am not exaggerating. It is happening right now. When feelings are disregarded, you alienate so many women especially the young and they feel like commodities rather than human beings. If Allah displays feelings of compassion and love and mercy and kindness and can get angry and so on, why therefore do feelings not matter? I read a comment in a similar chat along the lines of this: “Get wives first for your fathers and tell your mothers to suppress her feelings and get on with it, get wives for your brother in laws first and tell your sisters to be quiet, shut up and put up. Then think of more wives.” If it pains you for the sake of your mother then is this really fair? Is this really the Islam Allah sent? Is this really the Islam we are sharing to the whole world??! Shouldn’t it be, those that can, do and those that can’t, refrain? Isn’t that the actual rule? Not everyone can do this! It is not a set standard for everyone so why push it to be inclusive of every single Muslim? Some can, some can’t. Alhumdulilah for both. (It’s funny how the Sunnah is setting a standard in the same category with things that are Fardh like war…mmm)

@cynops3885

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Instead of hiding the teachings, why not promulgate them for honesty? If you examine Islam with critical thinking, you will quickly realize it is mechanism for rationalizing male instincts within religious framework. (For example, the marriage issues, the idea of heaven as a male paradise (many hoor al ayn and wine), in addition to sanctioning of religious war and the slavery.

@alphauno6614

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Can I ask you a question Cindy? If there was a town with 100 single men and 300 single women, how do you recommend all of them get married? No one is willing to leave town or come to town either.

@user-ko9tc1go3h

11 ай бұрын

@@alphauno6614 That’s a hypothetical that won’t happen. The ratio of male to female in the word is equal. However, there are slightly more males. I can turn this on you and reverse it. How about a town with 100 women and 300 men? No one is willing to leave and no one is permitted to enter the town. That’s an absurd hypothetical and won’t happen ever.

@alphauno6614

11 ай бұрын

@@user-ko9tc1go3h Great comment! Islam is a religion for all time and places. If men and women of a particular town are equal then they will engage in only monogamy. However, imagine if some of the men pass away due to their tough conditions, who will look after the women then? Even in this situation, polygyny is a useful tool to protect the well-being of women. Regarding your unlikely scenario, men will have to be patient and wait until the new generation is born and grows up and they can marry them. Women can’t do this because by then their fertile years would be over but men can. Also the men don’t require the same level of safeguards that women need.

@user-ko9tc1go3h

11 ай бұрын

@@alphauno6614 You’re missing the point. In the hypothetical we both assumed there won’t be anyone leaving or entering the town. So does that mean that the women should engage in polyandry? Disease affects women as well. Maybe more women die off from the disease that the men do. Would polyandry be ok in this case? You changed the hypothetical to suit your ideals. You first made a condition that no one would be entering or leaving the town, but when I reversed your hypothetical, now this condition goes away? It doesn’t work like that. You either admit that this doesn’t prove a point or that polyandry would be ok under these circumstances. I agree monogamous relationship are most likely to be beneficial since the ratio of men to women are equal, slightly favoring the males though. Regardless, I have no problem with polygyny or polygamy, when all parties consent. The issue is when it’s done dishonesty and without the approval of their spouse. Edit: reading your comment once more, you said that the older generation will compensate by marrying the upcoming generation. That simply would not work since the ratio of the genders will stay constant. If the older males take the younger females, the younger males would be left alone and we’re back at the same issue.