Hello you savages. Watch the full episode with Goggins here - kzread.info/dash/bejne/oJuqsduck7jgqrw.html

The trauma cycle of my family ends with me. Period

@JFox4587

Жыл бұрын

Is that because you’ve aborted the mission, or you’ve completed it? There is no glory in giving up. There is no pride in failure. You still have to live with your own company, your own thoughts. The only way to change them is to make yourself proud of who you are!

@darraghkelly1744

Жыл бұрын

I think he means he’s not going to hit his kids

@CONEHEADDK

Жыл бұрын

@@darraghkelly1744 Or doesn't have any, or creates victims in other ways.

@JFox4587

Жыл бұрын

@@darraghkelly1744 ya I was genuinely asking if he was planning on having kids, lol. Cuz a lot of ppl are doing this whole “the whole world is too fucked up so I’m not gonna have kids” bullshit, and that’s a lame ass cop out so that you don’t have to step up to being a better version of yourself

@baddielad4449

Жыл бұрын

@@JFox4587 You can be a better person and be childfree. Its like saying you can't tell good from bad or be a good human being if aren't a theist. Hardest and Lamest cop out there is when preach having kids since they matter so much , put out rallies with slogans like "Don't abort kids! They have a right! Adopt a child and save a life" yet when you ask them how many have you adopted, they all say " i have MY own".

"Don't be ashamed of anything in your life. Change it, make it better."

@rosahacketts1668

11 ай бұрын

Feeling shame is a good thing the difference it are we going to allow it keep us in a negative pattern or are we going to change it to make it better.

"Face it, fix it, make it better" - David Goggins

@veippa

3 ай бұрын

ok. so why is he not talking with his daughter?

I was beaten and vebally abused by my mother as a child. For years as an adult i couldnt work out what was wrong with me, having anger issues, couldnt keep my emotions in check, terrible self esteem, drug abuse.I was a mess for years. I stopped talking to my Mother 5 years ago and ive never felt better. It makes no difference what she went through as a child. I have a son and wouldnt dare to lay a hand on him. Anyone reading this, remember you dont have to keep bad people in your life just because they are family.

@JCrashB

Жыл бұрын

Same here. 24 years I was under her fist, so to speak. Then I abandoned her. It's now been 26 years without contact. Good riddance.

@PI1901

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. I haven't seen my abusive mother who beat me with extension cords and called me horrible names as a child in 30+ years. Today, I have two adult children + 3 grands. I'm proud to say that I broke that generational cycle of abuse in my family.

@ManicMindTrick

Жыл бұрын

Good for you. My mother wasn't perfect but I'm so grateful there wasn't any type of abuse during my childhood.

@ethan.wroblewski

Жыл бұрын

When I was 18 I quit talking to my dad, he made my life a living hell, and we had it hard so that didn’t make it no better, he was a piece of sh** of a person I don’t regret it at all he gave me PTSD for all the abuse, and every time I was around him I just felt scared, and nervous you should never feel that way about you own dad/mom, but anyways it changed my life for the better I promised myself when I have kids eventually I won’t be anything like him💯

@BE-jf7ke

Жыл бұрын

My abusive narcisistic mother doesn't care for anyone but herself, I have terrible self-esteem and I learned to shut up and freeze when in any social situation. I am moving on now with a firy passion.

He is on the next level. I have listened to more than 400 audiobooks and I have learnt more from David than anyone.

@hatersgotohell627

Жыл бұрын

Damn that's a lot of books to say that. I'm reading it now and while I do like the story I find the lessons a bit motivational speech rather than something that is deep and insightful or gives good strategies. It makes me pumped and motivated but those are all feelings. When I hear Jordan peterson or someone more philosophical I think I'm more primed to become better. So idk I just don't see it yet.. I'm on chapter 4 so far.

@aaronjohnstone2800

Жыл бұрын

@@hatersgotohell627 yeah Jordan is good. If you like philosophy listen to Emerson's Self-reliance. Disability to be true to yourself above all is the main digestion between great and merely average people, at the same time this is not an easy task when your faced with brout forces with indignation of masses (brute force that lies at the bottom of society rises up against you) Ralph Walan Emson Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life's cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another you have only an extemporaneous half possession. That which each can do best, none but his Maker can teach him. - Ralph Walan Emson

@Drforeverok

Жыл бұрын

@@hatersgotohell627there is no good strategy lol. The reason ur not finding success is because ur lazy. There are no shortcuts

@Drforeverok

Жыл бұрын

@@hatersgotohell627success= hardwork to a point where everything hurts every single damn day

@gamerdude4465

5 ай бұрын

Jordon is a parrot 🦜​@@hatersgotohell627

4:55 to 5:12 is the most valuable thing Goggins has ever said imo. Theres layers to it

This is the first time I heard him talk about his daughter.

I love goggins the man is a inspiration, I'm 45 5 momths ago got diagnosed with prostate cancer, I suffer with back problems due to being abused as a kid , 2 weeks of finding out I had cancer I find out I've got osteoporosis, my brother is 10 years older than me , I've had to battle so many demons , my brother wouldn't fuck with me now , I'm raising my son whos autistic on my own , he watches me how I deal with things, my dad saved my life at 7 , he stopped to abuse, now I'm loosing him to dementia, after45 years of being his son he doesn't know me anymore, my mum taught me everything what not to be , my father taught me everything what to be , I will beat cancer for sure , but one day I will end up crippled I need major spine surgery , but until tgat day I will look for the good in every day I will train every day life let's me , David goggins thank-you my friend, I only wish I could shake your hand and look you in the eyes and say thank-you, my prayers and strength to Everyone fighting there battles

@jonpicojones4032

11 сағат бұрын

Much love you my friend, I hope you are doing well and remember there are many supporting and wishing you well. Keep going bro, you got this!!

@mattcollier1263

5 сағат бұрын

@jonpicojones4032 thank-you brother I'm fighting ill never give in , thank-you for your kind inspiring words , really means alot ❤️

When I was 18 I quit talking to my dad, he made my life a living hell, and we had it hard so that didn’t make it no better, he was a piece of sh** of a person I don’t regret it at all he gave me PTSD for all the abuse, and every time I was around him I just felt scared, and nervous you should never feel that way about you own dad/mom, but anyways it changed my life for the better I promised myself when I have kids eventually I won’t be anything like him💯 I’m doing really awesome for myself, but I never once let what I went though define me, or let it stop me.

@doggoeatjaytaay1134

Жыл бұрын

I’m 16 1/2 and stop talking to my dad this week and so on after he beat me and cut me up by hitting me with stuff and I had to sleep outside cuz I ran away cuz he would manipulate stuff with cops but either way I learned that i need to sleep inside wit this cold weather in LA rn 😂 I’m already on the right track all I do is hard work, I’m focused, but any advice that be good to know?

@israelsolos

2 ай бұрын

How are you now brother

@israelsolos

2 ай бұрын

@@doggoeatjaytaay1134 stay positive brother i know the feeling I'm facing this till now im 22 i got a job when i was 19 but then my father torture made me quit my job it was not a good decision tbh hope you guys are doing fine now

It’s good he realized what his dad went through. It doesn’t make it ok but it helps him to help himself and maybe release some of his anger towards his father. I think it’s important to forgive if possible. It can take a lot of effort but I think it makes a huge difference in recovering from such childhood trauma. Forgiveness doesn’t mean it was ok. It releases you from ruminating about it. I personally think forgiveness helps to heal you. Pinned up anger can destroy you, your health and eventually everything. Forgiveness lets it go even though you will always remember you won’t have the resentment. I try to apply this to every wrong that comes against me. It works for me even though that forgiveness sometimes is long in coming. I’m not a young person so I’ve had a lot of forgiveness to give and to ask for because of my own imperfections. The more I forgive the easier it gets. I live a much more peaceful life now. To anyone suffering I wish you peace.

@CONEHEADDK

Жыл бұрын

I might foregive, IF the person says "Sorry" - and means it. If not, they can go to h*ll....

@jaydrich8115

Жыл бұрын

I'm thinking about going to my father today haven't spoken in 10 years goggins got me fired up but nervous as all hell

@kermitandmisspiggyb

Жыл бұрын

@@jaydrich8115 Good luck if you do go through with it. I realize sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn’t. I hope the best for you. Whatever you need to find peace, I hope it happens. If it doesn’t go well remember you gave him a chance to make it right. You may even want to meet him with a counselor present for both of your sakes. You never know what emotions might get fired up on your end or his. I truly wish only the best for you.

@jaydrich8115

Жыл бұрын

@@kermitandmisspiggyb were actually back in good graces I accepted that my biological mother will never admit to the mental damage she caused in making me a weak male subconsciously in my child to spite my father because she couldn't control him so I was left to pay for his sins through her child rearing that left me a Naive male I'm no longer that same person but it hurts all the time you can't get back because the person that carried you took you through another unnecessary generation of poverty due to their emotional hubris of believing they were right "I won't apologize for doing what I thought was right" Her stupid saying of basically I'm not apologizing for knowingly making bad decisions because my emotions Told me I was right by doing so Never mind the mental breakage it cause in the psyche of my sons I'm cool with my mom but I no longer see her as the same person.

@JulieSevelson-nb9nj

Жыл бұрын

Forgiving isn't allowing an abuser to stay in your life. It just means you won't retaliate in kind, like beat or kill THEM. You are free to cut them out of your life and move on. Reconciliation and forgiving are two different things !

This is profound. I've known people who's whole lives would have been better if they'd had this lesson.

Goggins has taught me a lot of things, but being a father isn't one of them. I hope and pray he can someday have a meaningful relationship with his daughter. I'm not trying to put him down, not my intentions. I just feel he isn't stopping the generational trauma. He just put it to the side. I hope he continues his savage ways, but he also comes to healing with his child.

@rosahacketts1668

11 ай бұрын

There is a difference between trauma and discontentment. From what we've heard distance relationship between him and his daughter isn't trauma related but they don't agree. He said when you are trying to go one way but the person wants to go another!

@kingdaleclarke

6 ай бұрын

Ive noticed David rarely talks about his daughter if ever ..which isnt the way he preaches..hes all about being an independent fighter if you like in life yet he never talks abour his own child

Compassion heals your spirit.

Goggins is a modern day philospher, completely well-rounded

“The World doesn’t care about fair” - Kevin Samuels

Wise words... Inspiring! His words help a lot. Thank you 😊💚

This had to have been the hardest thing Goggins has done - harder than his 100miles in 24 hours, harder than his 3700 pull ups in 24 hours, because emotional scars cut deeper, WAY deeper. So healing them also takes longer. But it just goes to show how much of a role model Goggins is for us, on EVERY level. Hats off to this man.

@mohamm3d312

Жыл бұрын

So true man

@abreakfromscrolling7312

Жыл бұрын

I reckon 100 miles was harder hahaha

@abreakfromscrolling7312

Жыл бұрын

@@mohamm3d312 nah cap

@changein2365

Жыл бұрын

well said man, we all have to start our healing from the core

@changein2365

Жыл бұрын

@@abreakfromscrolling7312 don't be immature like that man

How can the cycle of abuse stop when society forces you to subsidize the abusers by staying in relationships with them? Sure, abusive fathers have been held accountable, but why is there no attention on abusive women? It's an extremely taboo topic, and leads to the continuing of the cycle. I'm not saying use it as an excuse in life, but how can you face those demons if people refuse to admit they exist??

@FancyFudge24

Жыл бұрын

It is very taboo. I’m assuming it has something to do with the feminine and masculine nature between male and female relationships in terms of their societal roles.

@johnhenry4844

Жыл бұрын

Wtf is it when people take about abusive men, MEN in the comments start crying about women, it’s so reactionary and pathetic

@afalz06

7 ай бұрын

Trust me many abusive fathers have not been held accountable and vice versa towards woman.

@knives5964

4 ай бұрын

​@johnhenry4844 its men who have been abused, and feel like no one sheds a light or care when they talk about it.

@Falloutglitch

2 ай бұрын

@bellaluce7088 Nice. Did you ever watch Stefan Molyneux? He was pretty popular on YT and talked about childhood trauma about a decade ago before getting nuked for talking about it and some other taboo topics. He's still on Rumble and Locals tho

it's truly interesting how David understands that, despite it being his father that caused him to spiral down at first and to then make him see that he has to "go to war" everyday to beat the impulse to be stagnant... he realises too that it's not his dad that ultimately drove him to have to do it. If it wasn't this it could've just as well been something else. But because he knew he had to overcome himself he gave himself a tank armor and tank life. That he can now hopefully transfer to other people so that THEY can overcome their worst experiences and take control of their lives. Because life can throw you under the bus at ANY GIVEN POINT. David's father is just one of the many variables. One of the many struggles that life can throw at your feet. And David realises that it's not about his father. It is just the thing that made him realise that he had to overcome himself to be in control of his life. David, is maybe the most out there example of someone giving others a roadmap to become the best of what they can achieve. But his mentality is the mentality of every great person that has lived before him (take Alexander the Great and Napoleon for example). None of these people took their lives for granted. And whatever their motivation was, they gave themselves zero tolerance to be weak in the face of life.

@maxcomrie4011

7 ай бұрын

Preach

Powerful stuff.

I learned this too, you need to draw the line some where and make your stand.

David goggins is a father!! Props to him and other fathers out there, stay hard.

What a total fucking badass

"The cycle ends here. We must be better than this" - Kratos

The most real conversation ever. real life scenarios are bone chilling, need no fictional touch of horror as its horror itself.

I understand visiting an abusive father to get closure. I don’t feel like I ever need to see my father again to understand why he was how he was and probably still is. He was a product of his environment just like I am a product of mine. I’m just the lucky one that gets to break this. He always said “see what I do and do the opposite” so I listened.

He mentions he has a daughter with his first wife in his book. Poor research if you ask me for how much this was hyped. It's not a hard read either. I recommend it.

you can see the pain. He never smiles. Not to take anything away from him and his success but f you're going through life never smiling or laughing chances are you are not really winning.

Is this the first time Goggins actually admitted to having a daughter? I remember the scandal when his alleged daughter came out against him but it was never confirmed if she was actually his child or not

Powerful.

We’re molded by age five…We change….turn etc…But, We have to face things…in proverbial bright light…We do that to own and move forward…Sometimes, The biggest gifts we give ourselves sometimes is to look at hard things and let go…Letting go takes true heart…Otherwise you live as a victim…With no reason to do better…

@kermitandmisspiggyb

Жыл бұрын

Agreed

@kermitandmisspiggyb

Жыл бұрын

I like how you worded this. It does take true heart. I marinated in victimhood for more than half of my life and then I looked back and realized i robbed myself of happiness. I didn’t quite know how to get away from that way of thinking. My grown children and husband helped open my eyes to my victim mentality and that I lived everyday in the past. I’m grateful to them even though what they said hurt me in the beginning. When truth stares you in the face, it’s hard to deny. I spent over half of my life living in the past over different things that happened in my life. What a waste. Through hearing the truth and working through it and my faith in God and His ability to give me the strength to forgive I was able to move on.

Wtf I didn’t know he had a kid hahah, been following this dude for years

@1988ZER

Жыл бұрын

It's in his book bro lol

@LOL13262

Жыл бұрын

@@1988ZER the new one or the old one?

@wasserflussigkeit3239

10 ай бұрын

​@@LOL13262the old one

I wonder if that postive voice in our heads is "God within" as many religions say. Remember that Pink Floyd lyric? "Theres a voice inside my head but its not me"

Great video, although I feel like the lighting on your face could be improved. Too many shadows

Thank god for Goggins man

I won’t pass it to my kid but I feel like demons once they take hold won’t let you go. Shit gone take me one day but imma make sure my child won’t go through shit I did as a kid 💯

@rosahacketts1668

11 ай бұрын

When it's generational it is either a learnt pattern of behaviour or demons. One needs to be cast out and the other needs therapy to unlearn bad patterns.

7 Our fathers have sinned, and are not; and we have borne their iniquities. It’s generational curses, people are unaware of the spiritual side of life so they’re unaware on how to renounce it and to speak against it… You share the same blood as your ancestors, their blood lives on within you, you have to pray against these traumas to stop it.

@afalz06

7 ай бұрын

renouncing doesn’t do shit, it’s not actual demons. I tried, and nothing happened.

@FluidThinker

3 ай бұрын

​@@afalz06absolute truth. Working your way through all of the shit is the only way to get better. You can plead Jesus' name and blood each and every single fucking day and you will still not heal if you not CONFRONT the past.

Dr. Phil had the same advice for a woman one time. It sounded awful at the time, but looking back now it is so true. She was the victim of a sexual assault and wouldn’t let it go and he said “First I want to say I am so sorry for what happened to you. No person should have to go through what you went through. What he did to you was wrong, and it’s not your fault. It is your responsibility, though, to fix it.”

My abusive dad is dead but my siblings are still abusive bullies🇨🇦

Reminds me of Larry Elder's tale.

I'm curious if Goggins maintains a relationship with his father to this day.

@garinbaker_

Жыл бұрын

his father is dead.

going back to the beast

I hated my dad at times, and also the last years of his life. But I went to "visit" him on his death bed, only bcz I knew, he had some money for me, that I probably wouldn't get, if I waited. And since he had chosen, to not give me a key to his "room", unlike my sister, who had nothing to use it for, his nurses weren't allowed to let me stay with him alone. So I trolled him, by "knocking" on the metal bed, and telling him, the facts about that.. BUT - even though he was a pos, I treated him as "any dieing old man", and said to him: "Do as you feel - hanmg on, let go, as you desire. I don't know, where you are going, but wherever it is, hold a seat for me, bcz we are so alike, that I'm probably going to the same place". The nurses really didn't like my actions, but they didn't know the true him. And they really didn't know, how we usually comunicated.. My former girlfriend said, that it was like one long fight.. He was a d*ck, and I didn't go to the funeral..

@1988ZER

Жыл бұрын

Wow you gotta work on yourself Bucko

@CONEHEADDK

Жыл бұрын

@@1988ZER Wow, thank you for your wise and oooh so insightfull words - will you be my guru?

@afalz06

7 ай бұрын

@@1988ZERWe all need to work on ourselves, don’t act like your shit doesn’t stink too.

@1988ZER

7 ай бұрын

@@afalz06 I'm far from perfect, but you can't tell me after reading OP comment that he has some things to work on to heal himself

Jesus Christ broke all cycles of abuse off my life! The payment was his blood, the power is in his name and he sent us a helper to do it with us the Holy Spirit.

@Run4Ever77

8 ай бұрын

Amen. Demons can be cast out for good in the name of Jesus Christ.

I don't know. I feel for David Goggins daughter. That takes nothing away from his personal accomplishments but I hope that he is doing well by her because otherwise in a way the cycle certainly does continue in another form but the ripple effect is there.

God removed the Hatred from his heart that was the voice Goggins heard over his “own”

4:55

6:15

Wait does David ever talk about his kids?

@Wonderkid44

Жыл бұрын

I think he’s extremely private.

They don't know me son😮

Y'all need to put Goggins on Henry Louis Gates show. He'll get to bottom of his family tree. Somebody back there defied the odds bigtime and those genes came through Goggins...

If things are better than why you are divorce did you leave her or she left you I guess we wont know the truth my wife left me because I was abusive my father was abusive and beat the shit out of me so I Carry anger and drama in my life

@afalz06

7 ай бұрын

Try to make amends for what you’ve done.

With the way Trunnis Jr still kissed his dad's ass in this interview I saw, I can't help but wonder if the generational trauma might have been passed to him (Trunnis Jr).

@bellaluce7088

2 ай бұрын

If you're talking about the interview with Trunnis Jr. on Dad Talk Today, ass kissing seems extremely inaccurate, and he specifically talked about being affectionate with his kids because he didn't want to pass on the way he was raised. He also mentioned having to learn that he needed to be affectionate with romantic partners instead of assuming they knew he loved them because he bought them things (which is what his father modeled). So yeah, the trauma was definitely passed onto him, but it sounds to me like he's breaking the circuit.

@divinezenwa

2 ай бұрын

@@bellaluce7088 my bad

@bellaluce7088

2 ай бұрын

@@divinezenwa 👍

David Goggins reminds me of Absalom King David’s son. Maybe David Goggins is reincarnated.

It's called intergenerational trauma

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@metacafekid

Жыл бұрын

Molly ur killing it, but whats it got to do with the goggins?