God it makes me sad to see young kids say that they are ugly

@somb8434

3 жыл бұрын

Especially over such a silly and irrelevant thing as skin colour. It's heart-breaking.

@lilenwasnothere6867

3 жыл бұрын

i'll never forget about my friend's little brother (think he was 7 or 8 at the time) finding his classmate crying in the bathroom because kids bullied him for his skin. it was such a heartbreaking story to hear.

@P.a.u.l.ii.n.a

3 жыл бұрын

I know.... I used to be 9 and be depressed because I was "useless" and "ugly" but you know I changed and now I love myself and actually my confidence is really big so if anyone tries to call me ugly or fat then you better watch out, you better not cry, I'm not going to get sad over a stupid commenttttttt.

@chelsea1931

3 жыл бұрын

@@cyllaa.5485 happy for you !!

@uannn___n

3 жыл бұрын

@@lilenwasnothere6867 OMG I HOPE HIS FRIEND IS OK NOW THAT IS HEARTBREAKING 😭😭😭💔

Skin is an organ. Treat it like you would any other organ in your body.

@the0tanr

3 жыл бұрын

Like smoking a pack of cigarettes a day and getting drunk each weekend?

@cpsment

3 жыл бұрын

@@the0tanr well wouldn't know can't relate. Non drinker and non smoker.

@cpsment

3 жыл бұрын

@tired af ahh McDonald's our forbidden love ahahah

@JadetheGoober

3 жыл бұрын

Im a smoker and people will make fun of you for having “weak lungs”

@JadetheGoober

3 жыл бұрын

People also make fun of others for mental disorders, just a difference in the brain.

The clips of little black kids hating themselves still breaks my heart.

@eduardochavacano

2 жыл бұрын

If your nose is nice you can be dark as night and you’d still be called beautiful.

@poisond0ll

2 жыл бұрын

@@eduardochavacanoLiterally not true there’s darkskin people with big noses who are gorgeous. That goes for anyone, especially since big noses are seen as ugly, it just depends on the rest of your features that make that beautiful big nose beautiful.

@ms.valdez5633

2 жыл бұрын

@@poisond0ll that is true what he said, idk where you been at but what he is talking about is called featurism.

@Tyler-bd7ih

2 жыл бұрын

@@ms.valdez5633 featurism literally stems from eurocentric ideals……..just as colorism does. its the same premise

@hmmm9220

2 жыл бұрын

@@eduardochavacano I have a nice nose but still dark and I still get made fun of

“All shades are beautiful including yours, don’t you dare let the world tell you otherwise.” -My grandmother

@Katerinoulagamw

2 жыл бұрын

Not intending to kill the vibe but holy christ . This is such a basic quote and you are implying that your grandma is a genius , anyone can say that . Stop making basic knowledge quotes .

@shriyasharma2138

2 жыл бұрын

your grandma is epic.

@kdjoshi726

2 жыл бұрын

Give her a hug from me

@cupidhitme

2 жыл бұрын

@@Katerinoulagamw so mean but so true

@emcash7042

2 жыл бұрын

@@Katerinoulagamw sometimes the most basic truths are the hardest to realize and can sometimes be taken for granted. Sometimes things that are very true are not as obvious. ‘Basic knowledge’ can often be overlooked.

Malay parents love saying “by the end of the day, we’re all the same” but yet they still look down on people who have a darker skin tone than them.

@nurainamani4226

3 жыл бұрын

factss

@hazelfy9264

3 жыл бұрын

i remember when we go to weddings ppl be like "the bride is so pretty, so fair" dhsjdshj

@truehappiness4U

3 жыл бұрын

Asian culture find reputation of your family very important. You look pale: you are considered rich as you proof you have a job indoors and not outdoors(farm, street food vendor,...). So looking rich is better than looking poor there, that is why they prefer more pale skin. It will be hard to change that mindset of ‘rich is better than poor’.

@kekwa5409

3 жыл бұрын

exactlyyy. i don't understand how my malay mom routinely asks my siblings who have darker skin tones "why are you so dark ah" like maam??? you married a dark skinned chindian man(my dad) and had his babies 😭😭😭 what exactly do you expect??

@kelljA

3 жыл бұрын

This amazes me as a "white" person, it seems that there is more racist issues to do with skin tone, within darker skin cultures than it is a wholely "white" person issue. So why is it only "white' people who have to change their way of thinking.... its a cross race issue.

As a South Indian and mixed Asian I know this all too well...

@pretty948

3 жыл бұрын

I feel ya. I used to genuinely think I was dirty because of my darker skin. Elders and even my friends would tell me that. Is was pretty messed up

@enigma8893

3 жыл бұрын

...correct me if I'm worng but isn't being Indian Asian? And I'm so sorry than happens to u our media too makes people think that only white is beautiful it's messed up. I'm brown too and I've come to love my skin, every skin color is beautiful 💕💕✨

@maazinriyas4170

3 жыл бұрын

@@enigma8893 ikr lmao

@ruhayazeed663

3 жыл бұрын

Um Indians are south East Asian

@jasminethegrayknight

3 жыл бұрын

Yes i know india is in asia, i only wrote it like that because being South Indian specifically is very different complexion wise than the rest of Southern or east asia. We are wayyyyy darker normally than North Indians even though to the rest of the world there is no visual difference which makes them hold us to the same white skin beauty standard.

I am so happy my Black Caribbean family never practiced colorism while I was growing up. Dark skin has so many benefits, including optimal protection from the sun. I can't understand why it is so deamonized when it is literally the best tone you can have for survival on Earth.

@michaelamrazova4760

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I’m “very white” and sometimes I look sick or tired just because of the skin. When I go out while it’s sunny, I’ll immidiately get burned looking like a tomato instead of catching a pretty bronze. Ironically to all the colorism, I always wanted to be darker and not having to deal with such a sensitive skin (for the sun). Also all of my girlfriends are getting tanned like crazy because darker skin just looks healthier for some reason. The only negative that I see in my country with darker skin is that they don’t provided much makeup for it… my hobby is photomodeling and I know few black girls from the brange here. They have a big trouble finding makeup and usually end up with mixing other products like eyeshadows to light makeup to create their shade. I don’t know if that problem is just here because we have mostly white (or light skinned asian) people in our country or if that’s a issue everywhere.

@cookie22100

2 жыл бұрын

@@michaelamrazova4760 that was totally an issue here in the United States too, right up until maybe the last 10 years or so. now we have makeup brands like fenty which offer a rich and luxurious array of different pigments of foundation for different types of brown skin complexions. I'm sure you look absolutely stunning just the way You are. Thanks for sharing your story with me. 🤗

@kat3ph0bic61

2 жыл бұрын

It really depends on where you are. If you live far north, like in Sweden or somewhere, it is an advantage to be able to have light skin and soak up the sun. A disadvantage to having dark skin in more northern climates is a vitamin D deficiency. 76% of Black Americans have a deficiency, which leads to more fragile bones and fatigue. I'm not trying to argue with you, but I'm simply pointing out that it is not "the best tone you can have"

@cookie22100

2 жыл бұрын

@@kat3ph0bic61 it is the best skin tone you can have because with dark skin I can survive in the cold without much of an issue. Increasing the intake of vitimin D rich foods could easily improve that. While vitamin d deficiency exists, it still beats being literally burnt to a crisp in the simplest of sunlight. Skin cancer is way more of a frequent health issue than brittle bones due to vitamin d deficiency. Not to mention, but most Americans in general have terrible diets, probably not the best group to use as proof for your argument. But "I'm not trying to argue with you."

@kat3ph0bic61

2 жыл бұрын

​@@cookie22100 Everything you said was a truth except for "I can survive in the cold without much of an issue" Why would skin get lighter as the Earth gets colder for any other reason except being able to soak up the sun more? (By this I mean in northern climates, skin evolved to be lighter) I also used America as an example because you said "here in the United States", implying you live in America. Again I'm not disagreeing with you. Black skin is beautiful. Just saying that it depends on where you are. If dark skin was the best skin color for every climate, why does it not dominate everywhere on Earth?

As a white person I've never thought of that. In my mind I thought only white (and shitty) people were racist...but there is racism everywhere, even amongst people of colour. We MUST celebrate every skin tone, from the paler white to the darker brown skin: every single one of them deserves valorization. Thank you for spreading awareness! You should have more subscribers!

@hillarysudeikis2264

2 жыл бұрын

Lord Jesus Christ is coming back everyone, please don’t worship celebrities and entertainment, focus on Him alone. I promise there’s more to life than money, partying, homosexuality and music. Hell is real, repent from sinning confess your sins and ask God to forgive you, I know He will if you’re sincere. Anyone who thinks the Name of Lord Jesus Christ is a joke, boldly mocks and scorns Him or takes pleasure in people who do is in for a big unpleasant surprise on judgement day IF they don’t repent and follow Lord Jesus Christ. Hell is very hot, people please repent! In the mighty name of Lord Jesus Christ, Amen 🙏💪✝️💜❤️✝️! Idolatry such as, Islam, Catholicism, Sangomaism, Buddhism, Hinduism, Santa Clausism, Confucianism, New Age, Science, Evolution, halloweenism, Harry Potterism, Politics, Donald Trumpism, Easter Bunnyism and other religions/faiths that are outside Biblical Christianity lead to hell! Don’t believe them, believe the Almighty God the Father of Lord Jesus Christ, who begot Him. Our Creator, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is mighty, He doesn’t need a woman to beget a son, He is God. I choose to put my faith in a God who can do anything and everything, a God who has unlimited and infinite power to beget! So, it’s time to confess that Lord Jesus Christ is the Lord and to believe that He died and rose from the grave after three days and you shall be saved if you only obey Him by praying, worshipping, praising, reading the Bible and living holy and righteously according to the Bible. You have to endure until the end, carry your cross daily and build your relationship with God by following Lord Jesus daily until the end. You must never renounce your faith in The Lord Jesus Christ, there’s hell awaiting those who reject/deny Lord Jesus Christ and those who continue living sinfully, even the Christians who don’t want to repent will face the same fate, so please repent beloved people, in Lord Jesus Christ’s mighty and precious Name, Amen.

@wheresthelambsauce8273

2 жыл бұрын

The west influences the world

@ludwigwittgenstein1280

Жыл бұрын

A poc can’t be racist. Because the dominant culture is white.

@kearshsas3844

Жыл бұрын

@@ludwigwittgenstein1280 wherever you go, people can become racist. If you think about Asian countries, like Korea, yeah they are pretty racist towards black people and caucasian ones. Also in Africa, there's racism between Egyptians and Southern Africans as well as Africans towards other people who are not African, also Caucasians. Let's not extremise the white supremacy. Yeah sure, white people can be racist, can't argue with that. However we have to admit that people of color as well (depending on where you live, of course not in the US) and this video is the proof

@CATNAPREAL1188

Жыл бұрын

You must be pretty young if you haven't encountered reverse racism. Look around and LISTEN ! Racists are Everywhere and come in Every Color ! IJS

As a Filipino, I grew up being made fun of by family members because of me being dark. Moving to another continent made me realize that I'm just beautiful as I am and I do not need to change my colour to be enough. Accept me or leave.

@RNvideosedits

3 жыл бұрын

In Brazil you would be considered beautiful

@jadesarchives

3 жыл бұрын

@@RNvideosedits oh wow, interesting

@hazeeqrazak

3 жыл бұрын

@@jadesarchives brown and black people had at least 100% melanin on the skin. It would give a shine effects to their darker complexion when the sun hit their face and body.

@19nope

3 жыл бұрын

True, i’m filipino too and i don’t understand why people should be colorist if the Filipino’s natural skin color is typically tan or dark. Probably because of colonization by Europeans and a majority of Filipino celebrities are mixed mestizo/mestiza, non-mixed Filipinos in the industry is quite rare ://

@jadesarchives

3 жыл бұрын

@@19nope YEP even our languages are so mixed up our culture is fucked

I did speak out against my family for being racist and discriminating others with darker skin. But all they did was laugh at me for being too sensitive and caring too much. Following that whenever they talk about other races they'll jokingly insert in comments like 'im not being racist' or they'll look at me to see if I'll get upset for what they say - and one of them will even purposely make more racist comments just to irritate me. I don't think I can ever change their minds, unless they really talk to someone so hurt by discrimination and racism and somehow have some empathy for them.

@yiting7456

3 жыл бұрын

Ok :)

@holocene2164

3 жыл бұрын

You are not them though, you're better. And we need more people like you in this World. It takes courage to do what you did and even if they treat this as a joke, they know, at least subconsciously, that it's an issue, hence their reaction trying to gaslight you into thinking that you are the problem... You're not.They are, and they are acting like bullies. It makes them uncomfortable to be challenged, and it should! They are in the wrong, but don't want to even entertain that thought. Maybe one day... But you did the right thing speaking up against racism and I commend you for it. Keep fighting the good fight. All the best!

@yeti6601

3 жыл бұрын

@@holocene2164 that's a really good comment you made there

@user-si3et2ig9x

3 жыл бұрын

Or better yet have someone be racist to them so they feel what is it like to degrade people, screw empathy, experiencing the thing is better

@yiting7456

3 жыл бұрын

@Mae hahah I would but they don't really face discrimination on a daily basis so it wouldn't be effective if a racist remark came from someone in their race lol

I would never understand why people hate on other people for the way God make them. That's a level of evil i will never understand.

@lightasmr6623

3 жыл бұрын

We tend to hate in others what we hate in ourselves / would hate in ourselves. If a dark skined person hate on another dark skinned person, it's simply because they project their own insecurities on them Have you ever heard an actually confident person hating on others ? Nope. You uplift ppl when you actually feel good abt yourself

@blossom86branche70

3 жыл бұрын

@@lightasmr6623 love your comment☺

@lightasmr6623

3 жыл бұрын

@@blossom86branche70 😊

@eduardochavacano

2 жыл бұрын

Just accept some people are more beautiful than others. Bring liars or delussional is a greater sin that makes us less huge. Humans are lovers of beauty. We love beautiful things and this include pretty people. There is nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is when we punish people for being pretty. We call them sluts or bitches, because we are jealous and afraid. Truth is, in the case of men, the looking men are all kind and mostly intelligent.

@frog6054

2 жыл бұрын

@@eduardochavacano Uh, yes, we are aware beautiful people exists, but I think the point of this comment is that we shouldn't insult people for the way they are. Just like how you said we shouldn't insult beautiful people just because they born beautiful.

I'm a dark skinned woman, and I'm proud of it! Anyone who has a problem with it, talk to God about it 👏🏾👏🏾

I wish people didn't look at others and immediately judge them based on their appearance whether it's clothing, skin color, attractiveness, etc. Instead of being a degrading individual who brings others down they should just mind their business and accept the ultimate fact that everyone is beautiful. Doesn't matter if they were raised in a generation when colorism was excepted they need to grow up, because they obviously haven't, and treat people with some respect.

@jbirdjiggly6149

3 жыл бұрын

@ABDUL WAFIZ ABDUL KARIM it isn't reality though. that is just an excuse to follow the social norms. -_-

@kieyouniebutler5598

3 жыл бұрын

PERIODTT

@kimmyakaurmom337

3 жыл бұрын

@Hi My Name Is exaactly. i like the way you think and im so grateful their are others like you who just get it

@kimmyakaurmom337

3 жыл бұрын

@ABDUL WAFIZ ABDUL KARIM thank you! and yes it is a very harsh reality :/

@user-bear27

3 жыл бұрын

@Cheeto Licker *and not everyone is ugly.

Why doesn’t anyone talk about glorifying small noses and big lips and colored eyes tho? 😭

@blu3j00Ls

3 жыл бұрын

Correction: Big, coloured eyes

@user-si3et2ig9x

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah people should talk about that too!

@scottgriffiths7651

3 жыл бұрын

And the bullshit filters on social media that give us amplified big lips, tiny little button noses, big eyes and smooth skin. Like walking Bratz dolls. It's so messed up, can't imagine the affect it's having on younger generations when it's bad enough to deal with at 33 years old!

@user-si3et2ig9x

3 жыл бұрын

@@scottgriffiths7651 you're absolutely correct! I honestly find them so cringy 😬

@angelashinner

3 жыл бұрын

@@scottgriffiths7651 ugh god exactly 🤦🏻‍♀️ also I’ve always had this question. We connect skin color to race and make a big deal out of it and when a black person changes their skin color they are cancelled and a disgrace to humanity called a racist. But e.g. black people have a special type of hair and nose and lips too. How isn’t that racist to change those? 😒🤦🏻‍♀️

One day I looked in the mirror and thought, “can you name one, just _one_ thing intrinsically wrong with dark skin.” And I genuinely couldn’t. I was done letting colorist propaganda poison my mind.

I find it so bizarre that people are told they need to be paler when I grew up an Irish redhead and was bullied relentlessly for being fair skinned - I grew up thinking darker was better - the world is a messed up place

As a very, very white woman, I really struggle to put myself in the shoes of a non-white person. I find horrifying and disgusting the way many people are treated here, discriminating only by skin color; I work in a supermarket and what I try to do, in my small way, is to always be kind and respectful towards everyone, especially if they are of different nationalities. Because I want them to feel accepted and understood at least for that time. Thank you for all your work and for your videos that help me to understand new points of view every time. Kiss from Italy ☺️

@shumob4901

3 жыл бұрын

Hello and thank you uma. 😄from America.

@emmajulian6029

3 жыл бұрын

I have similai issues.Im a super fair skined person.Almost compeltley white,And when ever i see things where people discriminate someone for something they cant control,I always find it completley disgusting and serverly inapropriate. Ever time i meet someone skin color or not im always kind to them,bc thats having human decenty.I have alwasy thought people of different color was just as beautiful as people who were white.

@Lisa-lz5oi

3 жыл бұрын

@@emmajulian6029 But there are many pale people that are bullied for being too pale :)

@richardmangelmann4975

3 жыл бұрын

I’m from Europe too but where I’m from I often get told I’m too white, ya can get that for any skin color

@blackmamba5593

3 жыл бұрын

@@richardmangelmann4975 omg same for my entire childhood I've been told I am white as a death, I look like a ghost and unhealthy, every summer kids came back from holidays and started comparing their tan whoever was the darkest probably had the best holiday and I was always the whitest meaning I stayed at home all the time. This is Russia....white freaking people judging me for being too white! When I came to Australia all I did was spending as much time at the beach to get darker until I got burned which is also extremely unhealthy for your skin Lucky I found fake tans. I like the darker skin myself but I feel without bullying I would feel more comfortable without wearing a fake tan, but I have to add that I did feel 'priveleged" in Australia for being white, even tho I was foreigher who didn't speak english well locals treated me much better than fellow Indians

As an African I can relate too. I used to compare my dark skin to all the fake models with fair skin.

@Carolinaloveschrist

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, most of the time they photoshop and use filters to make themselves appear more ‘attractive.’

@stanfromis_9forgoodgrades990

3 жыл бұрын

@@Carolinaloveschrist I KNOW RGHT! They look so fake tbh.

@Joseph-zd7kg

3 жыл бұрын

Why do blacks always have to interject themselves in these issues? Everyone and their grandmother knows that blacks experience colorism. Lol

@Angela-sv9nw

3 жыл бұрын

@@Joseph-zd7kg there's nothing wrong with sharing your experience if she wants to tell what she been through she can.

@agentp821

3 жыл бұрын

so just because models have fair skin they’re fake?

It's not called blackness it's called melanin god's gift to us , protects you from harmful rays and keeps you looking younger and full of life . .super proud of my skin

@patriciairwin9491

3 жыл бұрын

Girl, you should be. You're beautiful.

let's not forget the good old "I'm not racist! it's just a preference" Edit: to expand on why saying that it's just a "preference" is still very much racist is because you are literally classifying people's desirablities based on their *race*... Racism doesnt always have to come in the form of being explicitly discriminatory towards a racial group-- Saying that it is a "preference" is just a nicer way of saying u just think that certain races are just better than others 🤦‍♀️

@meowsquarade

3 жыл бұрын

this may or may not be relevant but hear me out. I think it's funny when a man says "I don't like this race, I like that one etc etc" it's called a preference but when a woman does it, she's a racist? I saw it happen so many times it's so ironic

@serenajiang3406

3 жыл бұрын

I feel like everyone has preferences no matter what in their head but what makes it an issue is when they let their preferences affect their decisions

@neelak.3639

3 жыл бұрын

Preference is "I like x better, but I would totally date y". Racism/colorism is when skin color or race is mandatory.

@sakiyoshida1788

3 жыл бұрын

why is ok to prefer tan/dark skin but not okay to prefer pale skin???

@neelak.3639

3 жыл бұрын

​@@sakiyoshida1788 because of the oppressive history behind preferring pale skin. If you prefer dark skin, it's most likely a preference, but it's not certain with pale skin. I've seen people use "preferring pale skin" as an excuse for blatant racism or colorism.

A few days ago,I spoke up against my relatives for being racist.They were like"Why are you so offended?We're not talking about you anyways."Seriously,I was so angry at them but had to control myself because my grandma was glaring at me from across the room for being disrespectful towards elders.

@wavehotspot9414

3 жыл бұрын

honestly that has to be one of the most frustrating things ever

@armystaymoaengeneatiny1266

3 жыл бұрын

@@wavehotspot9414 I know right

@hassle_passle2970

3 жыл бұрын

A good clap for you for standing up for yourself!! 👍👍👍

@felmargego2534

3 жыл бұрын

That sucks. Like they don't realize what they are doing is disrespectful too. I would have told them they were hypocrites for expecting to be respected when they can't even respect people themselves.

@sidrahashraf3677

2 жыл бұрын

omgg the same happened to me its so frustrating, and now i kinda stopped bcs they're so annoying smh

I'm not south Asian but I am Mexican, and the Latino community has similar views on dark skin. I myself am dark skinned while my cousins are lighter. You can see the difference from the way my grandparents,uncles, and aunts treat me versus them. Even my family used to urge to whiten my skin. It really is sad.

@strawberrynat165

3 жыл бұрын

As a Mexican who has fair skin I'm so sorry that's awful. It just really shows the privilege lighter skinned people have. I bet your skin is beautiful!

@tegan5549

3 жыл бұрын

@@strawberrynat165 awe thank you! Thank you for seeing the problem, things have gotten better now and I'm a lot more confident in myself now that I've separated myself from them.

@anne12876

3 жыл бұрын

I’m not Mexican (I’m Canadian) but I noticed this trend when I was watching Mexican TV and shows. Light skin (mostly on the “white” side of the spectrum) actors with European features are casted in leading roles while darker skin actors with more indigenous features are casted as side characters, the maids, the drug dealers, the bad guys, etc. Why?? Mexico is a diverse country. A darker skin actor can’t be casted to play a young educated professional ? Because they do exist for sure. Sorry for my rant. As a foreigner, I can see the difference between the presentation of the different skin tones in the latino community. I can’t imagine how it is to live with this every day, especially if it comes from your own family. Sorry to hear that and I just want you to know that you are beautiful as you are.

@felmargego2534

3 жыл бұрын

Please don't do that! Let them know it's not okay for them to just say nasty things like that to you!

@dlr_rosa254

3 жыл бұрын

@@anne12876 You're right! Looking back on all the telenovelas my mother would watch, they always casted the "poor simple workers" as dark skinned, meanwhile all the main characters where beautiful, rich, smart, and most importantly fair skinned. What's sad is that you could tell that these actors would get surgery in order to look more Americanized

During my teens I was bullied for being a very pale redhead. I was called casper, ghost, corpse or “is it Halloween”?!Others said I should try tanning but I like my pale skin, I don’t want to change. Beauty is personal, I’m not changing for a standard others want me to be.

@ginasort7011

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you didn’t let the insults get to u ☺️

@joaquingomezbelastegui3056

3 жыл бұрын

Redheads are hot, they was jealous

@9keykey

3 жыл бұрын

Red hair, freckles, and pale skin. I thought that was the trifecta.

@yudelkapaniagua2692

3 жыл бұрын

They have this thing too, bullying people for being redheaded. Like whyyyyyy. I get so frustrated for anyone being bullied for any reason. Why not treat everyone with kindness. That orange tinged hair is so beautiful to me. ❤️

@syasyaishavingfun

3 жыл бұрын

For sure the colonization of England on Ireland and Scotland cause this.

I think representation of dark skinned in media and beauty could be the game changer.

And then there’s a bunch of really fair people who damage their skin with tanning beds or just using spray tans. Everyone should be happy with their given skin tone, all skin tones are beautiful 💖

@radhika2516

3 жыл бұрын

For example : Ariana grande , some kardashians and Jenner's

@Tennababy

3 жыл бұрын

I live in a nordic country and don't tan + burn easily. All my life people have told me I'm too white (this is the natural skin color without tanning here), I should go outside and it's ugly. There's just no winning, I feel it's getting better at least

@radhika2516

3 жыл бұрын

@@Tennababy yep today's toxic beauty standards

@nikashae575

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah seriously. I was made fun of a lot for how white I am in school while all the other white girls would spend a ton of time tanning...like who tf has time for that??

@rigveddesai5843

3 жыл бұрын

@@Tennababy m8 if you come to India, people will worship you 😂

I live in Switzerland and if you are very white there, people quickly say that you should go to the solarium or lie in the sun. I think it's good that products that make you brighter are criticized in western countries, but that's a contradiction in terms. We also risk our health for darker skin and many people get sunburned while on vacation, just to be darker, which is very dangerous. You should accept skin color as it is, because every skin color is beautiful.

@Churros1616

3 жыл бұрын

Companies want us to be unhappy with how we look so we buy their products. Light skin or dark skin, they make money on our insecurities.

@botnet7175

3 жыл бұрын

this happens where I'm from too (unsurprisingly, a european country) I've been legit bullied so many years for being more pale than my classmates, and we used to compare our wrists to see who was the most tan, the most tan person would then "win" for being the prettiest

@EmiLikesGaming

3 жыл бұрын

@@botnet7175 I can relate to that so much. I was also always made fun of for being so light. Like calling me sick-looking and looking like someone who never leaves the house. Also I'm super insecure because you can see pimples really easily on pale skin and dark circles under my eyes stand out alot. For the longest time there was no makeup for me, even tho I live in a primarily white, european country, because everyone wanted to look tanned. (Which was a problem for me because of the acne/pimple being visible issue). I also think people should just be greatfull for the skin they have. Every color is beautiful. How could it be not?

@N4chtigall

3 жыл бұрын

@Powerful Oprah Bullshit. In my country (where majority of people are white) people back in the days were always saying things like "you are so pale is everything all right?". Why? Because back in the days it was more common to associate being pale with being ill. I think it worked like that in many european places.

@katitadeb

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, BUT tanning is more about aesthetics, you're still white and still have your white privileges, no one is going to neglect you a job just because you're not tan nor think you're a dangerous low class delinquent that when you get in to a store to buy something even if you got some deep tan... In Asia, Latin America and countries with native brown people darker skin tone is seen as inferior not just aesthetically but as a human as well, you must be fair to be happy and successful since they don't have those privileges Not to mention that most of the pale/tan problems occur in high school and once adults you kinda get over it, but the brown/fair skin problem is for life sadly (literally parents don't let their osns and daughters get marry with someone just because of their darker skin) It's not for invalidate pale's people problems, but the problem is far deeper in the rest of the world you have no idea how fucked up it is

I'm brown and i have vitiligo, meaning my skin loses pigment in some areas giving me white spots. So I was buying a shaurma not so long ago and this cashier lady was so fascinated by the spots. First she was complimenting me but then she asked "Is the brown you actual color" and i said yes. And she told me "oh yeah, the white is better" 💀 And then she asked "do the spots grow over time, so is your body gonna be fully white?" And i said that's possible if i spend too much time in the sun AND SHE REPLIED TO ME WITH "INSHALLAH" WHILE SMILING 😭😭😭 I realized how ignorant it was but i literally died laughing inside 💀

@twistedsufiwanker

2 жыл бұрын

😭😭

@junkoenoshima4043

2 жыл бұрын

💀 💀

@tenthousand6488

Жыл бұрын

Nothing can be funny yet ignorant at the same time-

@tenthousand6488

Жыл бұрын

Oh.

@shxbrang

Жыл бұрын

@@tenthousand6488 lmaooo

My mom is from the Philippines, but I was born in America. The first couple of times she tried make up on me I suggested to her that we buy a different kind of foundation because she was a darker shade than I was. I wasn’t expecting for her to be so offended because I didn’t say it like an insult, I just said it as an observation. I learned later why she reacted the way she did, and why she would scold me for staying in the sun too long, why my Tita’s and Tito’s retouched their photos to appear lighter, etc. She’s gotten much better since then in recognizing there’s nothing ugly about darker skin tones, but it really scares me whenever I go to the local Filipino market and I still see an array of whitening products.

As an Indian the comments for the first 30 seconds I have heard it all, so thanks toxic aunties

@user-vq2rc3td7d

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it's our own parents as well

@shinchannohara5621

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-vq2rc3td7d they're also brainwashed by the ads and glorification of white skin done in the society

As an average indian consumer with not a stellar budget, it is extremely difficult to buy any beauty products that dont have 'fairness' , 'glow', 'whitening', 'tan removal' written on them. Like, there even a 'whitening' lip balm.

@metis9692

3 жыл бұрын

How does whitening lip balm work? 0.o

@Haru-nee

3 жыл бұрын

Actually: Dettol Skincare/cool Dettol liquid (to dab on pimples) Boroline cream (for chapped lips) Vaseline (for shiny lips/cheekbones) Aloe vera gel (for face / hair) Water (minimum 1.5L) Stole / scarf/veil for outside dirt. ln your face! Seriously though. I haven't had pimples in weeks. And I don't even wash my face everyday (now I do, cz humidity, but still not everyday).

@Haru-nee

3 жыл бұрын

@@metis9692 Probably bleach. Don't do it!

@ephemeris9432

3 жыл бұрын

@@Haru-nee this was unnecessarily condescending.

@ephemeris9432

3 жыл бұрын

@Personal Jesus it would actually be scarier if these claims were actually true

I am black and i sometimes used to cry because i was dark and ugly i knew this too wel😔

As a light-skinned black person: Let me tell you it took me nearly 30 years to stop wishing I was white and straight-haired. Looking in any reflective surface would begin with “I’d be pretty only if…” To say nothing about body image. I spent my entire childhood and youth mentally forcing myself into the bodies of my white female friends and counterparts, only to feel increasingly…subpar, subhuman. It took 3 fucking decades y’all, but I’m just now beginning to see myself as *human* and, God help me, deserving…of anything. Life, love, friends, opportunities, self-worth. The baby girl candidly explaining that the brown doll was ugly because brown skin “looks really nasty for some reason, but I don’t know why”- subconsciously realizing she was talking about herself, touching her own little brown arms while she was saying those words. Fuck off I’m not crying.

@calla8060

3 жыл бұрын

no because this comment made me sob even more. fuck society omg

@Wakeupgrandowl

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly, it's refreshing to hear someone say exactly how I felt when I was younger. For some reason when I looked in the mirror I didn't see a person, an actual human being, because I didn't look like a white person. Somehow I looked completely other. I had actual dysmorphia regarding my status as a human being because I couldn't relate the way I looked to the things I saw or admired around me. This is why representation matters.

@commandery3574

3 жыл бұрын

and the wild, absolutely insane part of this is, if a light-skinned black person can feel this way, imagine and deep-skinned black person feels. this issue is deeper and more painful than most people care to acknowledge or talk about..

@paigewhitfield3624

3 жыл бұрын

@@commandery3574 I've gotten the story that light skinned black people can't feel or ever experience something like this because of being light skinned (by a lot of people). They're story is also diminished into nothing, and they're grouped up in an essence of being snobby and colorist just because they're light. We should ALL treat each other with respect and be open to everyone's experience. I had the same issue as the original comment when I was a child, I wanted to be white with blonde hair and blue eyes.

@first-classkiki4eva

3 жыл бұрын

You're beautiful sis, God doesn't make mistakes. Glad you finally came to the realization, it was brainwashing and conditioning but you broke through!

As an Indian girl born to Indian parents , my mom is really fair, but my dad is in the darker side , I’m mixed in colour

@jackavery9424

3 жыл бұрын

Same and my mom had the audacity to compliment my skin now that I have no tan staying inside for 1 year

@yourmom6318

3 жыл бұрын

@@jackavery9424 same for me I have a mixed skin but more closer to white because of covid , I used to always do stupid methods so that I could be lighter and I was just 9 and everyone were like yayyyyyy u are becoming whiter and blah blah but now as I’m older ik how wrong it was and I kinda want to have darker skin just like Cindy Kimberly lol

@anteater9408

3 жыл бұрын

"but" my dad is dark. Bruh. This... This is why we always will have colourism

@marytc2714

3 жыл бұрын

@@anteater9408 I didn’t know any other way to say this How’s “brown” instead ?

@nehadhurwey503

3 жыл бұрын

@@marytc2714 have more melanin pigment in skin than my mother.

We have this bad Colorism in North *Africa* too and lots of people don't even see it as an issue.

@JadetheGoober

3 жыл бұрын

Because the governments in the area approve and reward it

@peteadenuga

3 жыл бұрын

The whole African continent is colorist AF. Especially West Africa!

@user-si3et2ig9x

3 жыл бұрын

Yes we do! Especially against dark/tanned women

@Nico.Robin7

3 жыл бұрын

@@peteadenuga The East too tbh

@Churros1616

3 жыл бұрын

It’s a global pandemic sadly enough.

Fair is not equal to pretty. People really need to understand it🦋

why the hell do humans still do this? Idk but I was bullied for being too pale, so I guess people will never stop.

@science3816

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@pahoellyyy

2 жыл бұрын

Because we are just stupid biological organisms at the end of the day. Most of our ideologies are still based on bullshit that has been said by oppressors centuries ago, and as long as the descendants of those oppressors still remain in power, then we are never going to change.

@ahsanurr4219

Жыл бұрын

Smh! We are the same humans no matter who we are :( I am proud to have my natural skin without being whitened

honestly, I thought this was just society, and it's so saddening to see this happen, personally as an Asian, and having Chinese-Indonesian family members, I have seen and heard this so much

@modderbad

3 жыл бұрын

as a european, me too. Been told many times I look sick because of how pale I am.

@ATMAL0K4

3 жыл бұрын

im so sorry you went through that:( im indo as well and while my family never make any direct comments towards my skintone, thats not the case with others. people r always so surprised when my mom introduced me as her child bc my skintone is closer to my dads (dark skintone) as opposed to her kuning langsat complexion. its so insidious and harmful for young people in general

As an Indonesian girl who got called "item" (dark-skinned) since I was a baby (yes this is true), thank you so much for making this video! I used to be very insecure about my complexion when I was younger but, after finding videos like this, I changed my perception of this topic and started to embrace and love my skin tone. So thank you once again!

@flowgelato9133

3 жыл бұрын

Bruh do not do that to yourself. Your skin is needed to be darker because of the harsher sun you got in tropical countries, the uv light will damage your skin more if your skin is lighter. Which means if you are of light skin, you need to use sun cream to prevent the skin cancer, which I hope you would not want to have. Think of it this way, if lighter skin people need spf sun cream to protect themselves from the sun because of the skin cancer, why do the industry pushing the idea of lighter skin beauty to a tropical country which inadvertently to protect their skin, the skin become dark skin? The short answer is money.

@duitbansos

3 жыл бұрын

@@flowgelato9133 i agree, im an indonesian with pale ass skin, while im aware of the privilege here, my skin is so fkin sensitive lmao i can't survive 5 minutes under the hot sun here bruh😭 people here wanna be light skin so bad they don't understand the risk of literally having so little melanin to live in this tropical country where the sun shines 365 days, -sorry for my bad english btw

@annisapratiwi7066

3 жыл бұрын

@@duitbansos i feel u girl. I am Indonesian girl who have a bit lighter skin. And before corona happen, I am playing at the beach with my friends. It is all good and happy day up until the beach sunlight burn my skin up to the point they are peeling off! Even after using sun screen. Wish there will be higher spf or something sun screen and sun block.

@duitbansos

3 жыл бұрын

@@annisapratiwi7066 i always use spf 50 or 75, it's hella expensive but worth it, my skin peels off like a snake too lmao😭😂 i can't tan my skin just burn lol i've met white people with tanner skin than me which is so fkin ironic lmao😭😭

@annisapratiwi7066

3 жыл бұрын

@@duitbansos always wanted trying the 50 one first, but with this corona condition money always tight 😭😭😭😭 i feel u girll i mean dude how did u tan ur skin when mine is burned and peeled off like a snake??? 😭😭😭😭😭😭

This video is so true. I'm the darkest person in my family I'm indigenous and Puerto Rican and my family has always treated me as if I were dirt. They always told me that lighter skin will always be successful and have a good marriage and is way more attractive than darker skin. So I can relate to this video

@Peterson555

3 жыл бұрын

It seems like to me older people mostly are uneducated

I'm a biracial black person whose more on the darker side, more caramel, and one of my family members used to constantly call me "brownie". It took me years for me to truly appreciate my skin color and to love it 💖

@SOMETHINGTOSLOW

Жыл бұрын

I can relate 100% to this especially as a 'darker' mixed-race person!

I've had experience with colorism. I remember in school when I was younger I used to get bullied because I was darker than everyone else . But thankfully I've learned to love and embrace my dark skin

@michaelamrazova4760

2 жыл бұрын

You are so pretty and your skin looks flawless.

@muersy6919

2 жыл бұрын

Your skin looks so glowing and beautifully rich!

@dancingmango143

2 жыл бұрын

I've experienced colourism but from the other side (I'm light skinned fully black). I was told I wasn't black enough and the other girls would make reference to my complexion assuming I thought I was better than them, so they bullied me before they thought I would "bully" them. Made my life hell in school. It honestly can get all of us.

This is more of racism but one time my best friend asked me to go get her water after we had just finished a laughing fit and then she said “go pick me cotton” to be funny and I laughed with her, but I felt rlly hurt and uneasy. It’s so sad because she’s not a racist person. She just doesn’t understand how saying those kinds of things hurts others who aren’t white. And same for others. This guy in my class asked if my hair was real in front of the entire class even tho it clearly was. Another time, this guy said he thought I was rlly sun tanned/burnt and not black.

@truehappiness4U

3 жыл бұрын

Your female friend will keep making those jokes because nobody tells her it is hurtful. So stop laughing dude, mention that you do not see it as a joke. Or else she will keep continuing making those ‘jokes’ to you AND OTHERS. You better stop her and tell her.

@user-gu5xx5le2j

3 жыл бұрын

Why do people say this 💩 to us growing up?? Honestly this is a lot of our experiences especially if you’re going to a predominantly white school, and holy crap is it brutal. The group dynamics suck, you’re often demeaned all on a name of a stupid joke, by peers you wouldn’t even consider that close while your “friends” don’t stick up do you.

@Churros1616

3 жыл бұрын

Call racists out. These jokes are not funny. I actually ended a few friendships in my teenage years, because to them it was just jokes, to me it was insulting. I go where I am loved and respected, not ridiculed or laughed at. You don’t need them, check them or dump them.

@Crunk9

3 жыл бұрын

Oof my friend literally called me slave and I have tanned skin

@Hi-xd5ox

3 жыл бұрын

That's not your friend. Those are people who will use those statements or worse to hurt you in the "right" situation. Get wise.

I get pretty dark skinned during summer but I still don't consider myself darker skin toned, my home country is pretty colorist but the worst I ever felt about my skin tone was when I moved to America to a mainly white town and I HATED how I look I mean I would listen to subliminals to make me "white", put honey in my eyes to make them lighter(it literally felt like needles), put lemon juice on my face to like bleach it naturally?? lol I clearly has issues. But I think it was becauase I wanted to look less Indian and pass as white becauase there's so many racial steriotypes of us in the media my lord even now people blatantly say racist shit on tiktok and make whole trends bashing Indians yet no one bats an eye wether its making fun of our accents, "to take away Indias wifi", to "creepy INDIAN man in my dms" ahhhh wish people had enough braincells about how reinforcing racial steriotypes is not okay. Internalized colorism is soooo hard to get rid of I still struggle with it even today but im glad we are having convos over it but we still got a long way to go

@randompanda2391

2 жыл бұрын

Omg so true. There is this casual racism that's thrown at desis. And as a result, they have a massive inferiority complex.

The fact darker colours themself, regardless of relation to skin tones, are considered "bad" or "evil" compared to lighter colours...

I told my mom that I was uncomfortable because my family keeps making jokes about my skin and looks and they but all she told me is that they say that because they care, the things is she has lighter skin than me, she doesn't know how much it hurts me

@shanasakai2238

3 жыл бұрын

I feel bad for you Hanako. I know my advice is hard to follow but I will still say this to you, ignore them. Always think positive and be happy with your skin. Show them how confident you are after a few years they will stop insulting your skin color. Self-love is all we need. ❤

@INKY-ONI

3 жыл бұрын

@@shanasakai2238 thank you

@magnolia2

3 жыл бұрын

Dang that’s low key abusive and gaslighting. Never EVER think someone saying mean things to you means they care or love you. Idk how old you are but assuming you’re still living at home, once you move out please consider going to therapy and healing from all of this. I don’t want you to end up in toxic situations or even relationships due to feeling unworthy and accepting abusive and toxicity from a partner because you think that means they care. That’s not care or love. It’s harmful. Honor your feelings! They’re valid.

@INKY-ONI

3 жыл бұрын

@@magnolia2 thank you for the advice I never really thought of it that way I would surely consider that

@felmargego2534

3 жыл бұрын

Please don't listen to them. Live your life and own your skin! It would be boring if we were all the same shade/color, so embrace your diversity!

The issue is that when we talk about colorism to our aunties l, they can't understand how it's wrong! It's just what they're taught and they refuse to acknowledge that the whole thing is messed up.

@nikashae575

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah. My motherinlaw is mexican and lives in a super white community and I was expressing my concern about raising future kids here since they wont be white and could be bullied and her response...oh they probably will be white because of your skin so lets hope thats the case...like, my kids should feel safe and respected no matter what their skin color is. Like its super messed up for her to hope her own grandkids dont look mexican. Ill have to raise them somewhere more diverse and accepting

@user-si3et2ig9x

3 жыл бұрын

@@nikashae575 yes you do that!

@teenshii

3 жыл бұрын

You probably can’t change their mindset. I already tried it the last few years. So instead educate your future kids about colorism if you want some of course. :)

@user-si3et2ig9x

3 жыл бұрын

@@teenshii i changed the midset of my little sisters and mother, so that's good

@pupersonunknown5260

3 жыл бұрын

some of My aunties are very Pro-Males that even if a wife is being abused by her husband she is told to not annul him 4 the sake of the children When I was a child, 1 auntie of me used to Greet me with mentioning my weight saying things like "No Man will Marry U if U are Fat" I was 7-9yrs OLD THAT TIME. They don't tease me about my Weight bcoz I might be obese/unhealthy. They do it bcoz of MEN. they said that to a child not even 10 yrs of age

I worked in a preschool & one of my favorite children who was four at the time said that he wished he was “milk chocolate colored, not dark chocolate.” It broke my heart. I had a talk with him about how beautiful he was & how he looks just like mommy & he loves mommy so much & thinks she’s beautiful (he was a momma’s boy & adored her to no end).

India hits different when it comes to colour skin. Not only women but men also has to face colour discrimination. I was called KALU means black many times by people

@diamondlawson9508

3 жыл бұрын

There’s nothing wrong with being black

I have a sister whose skin is darker than mine and growing up it was painfully obvious that some people would treat me better than her. Still makes my blood boil

when I was little my family would call me a gypsy every summer because I got darker for playing all day in the sun at the beach

@jadesarchives

3 жыл бұрын

Same!!!

@user-si3et2ig9x

3 жыл бұрын

Let me guess, spanish/portuguese?

@Nina-pj8wo

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-si3et2ig9x nope , Romanian

@rinnieunchanged

3 жыл бұрын

@@Nina-pj8wo I thought you were Turkish

@Nina-pj8wo

3 жыл бұрын

@@rinnieunchanged Guess its a popular thing 😂.

I loveeee my dark skin. Been made fun all my life, for being dark. It brings my beauty out way more. And I love all shades of black. But there’s just something about someone with a darker complexion.

If media promoted dark skin, this problem would decrease.

The Obsession with Flesh is real.

When we were little, my cousin was self-conscious about her skin tone. I asked her why and she said, "Because it's the colour of poop". Until she said it, I never thought that someone would see their own skin as something other than their skin. Her dad (when he was a kid) was the only black person in the town. He was adopted into the family, just like my mom was. He got the full racist treatment, even to the point where cops were on his ass regularly. Though he did get himself into legitimate trouble several times. If it weren't for my grandparents putting their foot down when people started their shit, there's a chance that my uncle would have grown up hating himself because of other people's racism.

As a brown skin woman, I’ve always liked my skin color growing up, however, I never saw a lot of representation and never understood why other people had/have a problem with brown skin. I honestly feel that every skin tone has a unique beauty of it’s own. We need more representation and we need to embrace each other’s beauty as individuals. A lot of colorist viewpoints like this can really ruin someone’s self esteem… as it sometimes hurts that the world is like this, I have to keep my strength and confidence… 🤎

People like you make me feel good about myself!

@jessica.rachna

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️

when i first moved into my university dormitory, my roommate took these whitening pills so casually and it really shocked me. she said she's taken other products before too and happy of how fair she's become over the years. i honestly feel bad for us all for having these mindset ingrained so deep that we feel the need to harm and change ourselves :( skin of any color is beautiful. tell that to yourself everyday until it displaces the mindset society has drilled into you.

The video of the little black girl talking about how much she didn't like brown skin was hard to watch. I really hope she has some people in her life who'll build her confidence up.

Damn as a Black woman who hated my skin as I kid I really felt this. I remember some little white boy telling us we were bad because we were black and just sobbing and my mother will never let me forget when I told her I wished I was light like her. My great grandmother didn't want to hold me because I'm just barely darker than my twin. She was Black as night and hated herself for it. She wouldn't drink coffee because she thought it would make her Blacker. Anyhoo thanks to a bunch of great children's books, a bunch of dark skinned dolls and my parents working super hard to teach us about our history I learned to love my skin and my hair so a happy ending.

black skin is beautiful, brown skin is beautiful, white skin is beautiful, mid-tone skins are beautiful. can we stop bleaching/tanning our skins, every skin color is beautiful.

i was never really insecure about my skin tone until my friends and family told me i was too dark and had yellowish skin... now i think about it on the daily, and it hurts that ill never be pale enough to be pretty

@larsswig912

3 жыл бұрын

you don't need to be pale to be pretty.

@theecologist10

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly beauty has nothing to do with skin colour, it's to do with health and taking care of yourself. Theres good looking and ugly people of all races, it just depends how well you take care of yourself and skin bleaching will only cause wrinkles and damage

@alessadolan5718

3 жыл бұрын

Your real skin is amazing, Love yourself!

@kaci-anneoubre7948

2 жыл бұрын

This hurt my heart, I’m sure you are so beautiful.

As a South Asian my friends and family look up to me like your skin is soo fair and beautiful It's just annoying because they have really beautiful skin too I've tried explaining them that skin colour doesn't define beauty but I get shunned everytime cuz they're like YoU're tOo yOuNg tO BE SpEakiNg LiKe ThIs and then blame the internet for "spoiling" me

@hotnspicy474

3 жыл бұрын

You’re ‘spoiled’ because you’re actually educated on the matter. It’s actually laughable the excuses people will use to justify colourism. It sounds as if your family want to remain ignorant, and they’ll also patronise you to defend their excuses.

@juliee593

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao You: you guys are beautiful too Them: yO WhAt tHe fUcK bITcH

@mahirasingh8505

3 жыл бұрын

@@juliee593 Exactly lol!

@yunharous14

3 жыл бұрын

i'd say "you're too old to be this dumb" if they say that to me lmaoo

@NoeBIchez

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! I am South Asian too, and I have pretty fair skin for the people of my area. because of that they (my grandparents mostly) constantly bring down my sibling/cousins, and growing up they told me to not play in the sun much as I would become "unattractive". It's disgusting.

you make such wonderfully relevant, well-informed and widely researched content. love this channel so much. and we’re beautiful no matter our skin tone!

I remember when I was little, every time I ask "Am I pretty?", "You're cute, if you have lighter skin, you're gonna be beautiful" I really reject such an opinion. finally, I actively participate in scouting activities, I like to walk in nature, and it makes my skin darker. but as I grew up, I was saddened again by the claims of people who say women shouldn't have "burnt" skin. I started using skincare, for brightening my skin (not whitening) so that my skin is looks healthy, not discolored and dull.

And here I am in the middle of Europe where my grandma is telling all the time: you should get a suntan, you look like your sick ..

@Riri333_

3 жыл бұрын

the irony...

@theemanuella9456

2 жыл бұрын

Okay? What do you gain from this comment😐

@empoisonn

2 жыл бұрын

@@theemanuella9456 She's just reporting something that happens in her life, lol

I was always praised in my home country (Morocco, North Africa) for being so fair-skinned and never really understood the concept behind it but did end up loving my skin tone, but now I understand where this preference comes from. Thank you for the amazing video, keep up the good work!

I've experienced this before 🥺 my sister have a very fair skin so I got compared to her a lot when I was young and ngl it really bring my confident level down 📉 Thank god that as I grew older, I am trying to love myself more and accepting my skin colour more Its hard to just let go of this mentality when all my life I've been battling with it

You're becoming one of my favorite channels I'm looking forward to more of your videos.

I grew up in DRC congo and I remember so many of my friends being fascinated by my skin color, just because it was lighter, then a new girl came and she much lighter than me, because her dad was white, and we were all obsessed with her and wanted to be her friend. Any time there was a white person at our school or the children of my Dad's friends that were white, I felt like they were so cool just for being white, I later moved to South Africa, I was still a kid, there are way more white people here so I really just wanted to be friends with white people. now that I think about it because of the culture of colorism which had been installed in me by the media and a culture obsessed with light skin, I also realized that I thought was special or lucky or better than for being light skin. so sad, I want to find a way that I could help counteract this in our culture

@_osame8645

3 жыл бұрын

This is so true, I'm Nigerian and it's happened in my schools too.

@paigewhitfield3624

3 жыл бұрын

Keep working on uprooting those feelings in you, but I admire your courage to share your story. Maybe try on focusing on the type of person people are, and not what they look like so much, because loyal people come in all shades 🤗

@anastasiarose4482

3 жыл бұрын

This why education on colonialism, racism and all forms of injustices needs to be taught. The view that Black Africans are inferior with no history or achievements compared to Whites needs to be challenged. In the Caribbean we are also taught to favour light skin and European / mixed features. Its all bs coz no one is better cause of their looks or genetics. That's dumb

@paigewhitfield3624

3 жыл бұрын

@@anastasiarose4482 Thank you, I whole heartedly agree. It's the heart that matters, not the looks, money, or background.

@MK-yl9uf

2 жыл бұрын

I'm African American and grew up in a black neighborhood. It is the same here. The lightest skinned girl was most popular. A mixed race girl came in 2nd grade with green eyes and blondish hair and then the light skinned black girl was knocked into 2nd place. I am medium brown ( and was darker when I was a kid). I was constantly told I was nothing special and to stay out of the sun.

I'm a lovely shade of brown, and I wouldn't change it for anything! Get that poison ☠ 💩 away from me! 😱

Thank you so much for tackling this issue head on.

Great video!

As a middle eastern girl, it's really make me insecure about my look. Thanks for this video. ♥️ We are all beautiful.

@nisss637

3 жыл бұрын

@Mariana Soarez Im from Turkey. Im half middle eastern.

@nisss637

3 жыл бұрын

@Mariana Soarez Aslında birçoğumuz esmeriz. Beyaz tenliysen bu çok güzel bir şey olarak kabul ediliyor. Yani beyaz olmak her zaman esmer olmaktan daha iyiymiş gibi bir algı var.

@cloudytron

3 жыл бұрын

@Powerful Oprah ???

@humancake115

3 жыл бұрын

@@nisss637 Ten rengini umursayan hiç görmedim. Nerede yaşıyorsun? Bence beyaz tene değil de renkli göze hayranlık var.

@nisss637

3 жыл бұрын

@@humancake115 Beyaz tenlilerin güzel oldugu dusunuluyor esmerlere göre. Cunku beyaz tenli insan sayisi az.

"I'm helping you to be pretty" that just calling someone ugly but with extra steps

this channel made me feel good about myself, thankyou.

Started crying the moment I saw the lil baby think she's ugly. This is so fucking heartbreaking.

you popped up in my recommendations one day randomly, and i'm so glad I clicked, because I love your commentary videos! you hit the nail on the head every time, and show perspectives across Asia and the world. on a sidenote -i'm south Asian, and i'm never going to forget that feeling of disappointment and dread when I realised my skin wouldn't get lighter, no matter what I tried. Nor the relief and anger of finding out we were just exposed to bs all our lives and that being darker is just as beautiful and normal. Like many ppl i'm sure, I just wish it was something i'd known as a young child/ in early teen years when you need to know it most. I thought, our generation will break the cycle, but in reality, there's still too many of our lot who believe this stuff and will perpetuate it. it's a scary future ahead and the ppl who NEED to see these videos never do.

Tots agree with you. As a white person l got shamed my friends and relatives for not tanning enough. They would say l look pasty and unwell and unglamorous - for being my natural colour. Onto a ten year fake tan daily program. Dying skin darker is also toxic. The lesson is: enjoy our own skin. We are all enough

@rorymarcel228

3 жыл бұрын

I wish the entire world could heard this message

@itsgenkigirl

3 жыл бұрын

@@rorymarcel228 thank you

@caroliner2029

3 жыл бұрын

When my self esteem was less than it is now I used self-tanning lotion, trying to find one with the least harmful chemicals, and one that didn't make me look orange. It was a hassle, stained my clothes and bedding, made me feel self-conscious because I looked orange, and deep down I really wanted to feel comfortable in my own pale skin. My problem was having a Narcissist mother who constantly scrutinised and found fault with me. She was toxic.

@itsgenkigirl

3 жыл бұрын

@@caroliner2029 sorry about your mother. Good you realise and can now be your own person🙏🏻

@paigewhitfield3624

3 жыл бұрын

Yass I agree

My Mother was a dark skin woman, she was beautiful and always told me that she wished her skin was darker and that the birds didn’t chirp till she woke in the morning! I wish more people who are dark could have known her for a moment they would have realized how beautiful they really are!

Wonderful video. Thank you for bringing light to this

Thank you for addressing colorism because it is a big problem that goes unnoticed 🖤

Colonization, it always colonization. It always boils down to Europe taking over the world. 🤦🏽‍♀️

@ab6031

3 жыл бұрын

But why though?

@MOMOHEARTS

3 жыл бұрын

The truth!

@coneyisland5843

3 жыл бұрын

@@ab6031 Because they raided different countries and continents and imposed their beauty standards on them.

@dionysus8967

3 жыл бұрын

not true though! Colorism in east Asia (china, japan and korea) is based on their own ancient culture and has nothing to do with europe

@husband-of-chinggis

3 жыл бұрын

​@@dionysus8967 in a lot of hot countries, paleness is seen as a sign of wealth: rich people stayed inside, while poor folk worked outside in the hot sun all day and got tan. but these ideas were hella magnified by european colonialism. the roots are in their cultures, but colourism continues to be prevalent because of white racism. (and don't forget my bois mongolia and taiwan LMAO, east asia isn't just the big three 😭)

This topic was covered very well! You spoke out about the often unspoken. Education is key. Thank you for educating.

As a white woman, I really appreciate this video. I was unaware of the extent to which this affected people of color. When I watched it, I was holding my hand up against my mouth like "oh my gooodddd". I would never, ever, ever, EVER, want my child, my friend, or anyone to experience feeling that inferior. I have a lot of facial hair, and am very hairy all over, but at least I can shave it off. POC can't just change the color of your skin.

Its so funny to me. I am European and very white. I know that I would never face any problems like Racism and all that. But what often would happen to me growing up is that I would get maken fun of bcs of my light skin. I am very white. If I tan I will instantly burn my skin. People (also my family members) would tell me that I looked sick. Almost every time when I didn’t wear any makeup that would make my look slightly darker. I bought fake tan, didn’t work, I tried normal tanning, didn’t work. So i just think that no matter what your Skin colour is, there will be People hating on it. Stay beautiful kings and queens 💕

@brietta

3 жыл бұрын

as a brazilian and very white girl I felt this haha, I lived in europe during winter and when came back to brasil (during summer) my family took me out to the sun in order to get some color, they said I looked too pale kkkkk

@patcallano8639

3 жыл бұрын

As a Filipino with fair skin, with the majority of people being brown, I also suffered from this. My family would say I looked sickly. Not to mention being the subject of nasty comments from people who over sexualize fair skin folks.

@brietta

3 жыл бұрын

@Erwin Lii well said

@xth3610

3 жыл бұрын

I think it's important to note that in most cases, a white person with a tan is seen as that: a white person with a tan. There might be some connotations to wealth and/or health (e.g. being able to afford to travel to warmer places or doing activities outside in the sun), but it's often not as severe when compared to the biases subjected against darker skinned non-white people (e.g. assuming them to be poor, crass, untrustworthy, or downright dirty). So while the act of tanning might seem like a "paradox" when talking about skin lightening amongst non-white communities, I personally don't think we can outright compare those two because they often don't carry the same weight. Funnily enough, while skin lightening is seemingly encouraged and sometimes even pressured upon darker skinned people, it could also carry its own shame (e.g. people who bleach might be accused of hating themselves, their ethnicity). Basically, colorism is just a whole mess in itself. Now, I'm not diminishing other people's experience of getting made fun of for their skin tone. Being made fun of for something that you were just born with hurts either way. But I'm just saying that tanning and skin lightening are just...different. They might overlap in some aspects (usually when talking about beauty), but there's just a whole lot of other stuff too. I don't see it as just "white people want to tan, but tanned people want to be fair".

@user-us7py1cy2k

3 жыл бұрын

I don’t think being called sick is comparable to colorism.

growing up filipino, i thought that this was normal, normal for me, a usually dark-tanned guy, to strive to have lighter skin since without it i’m “unattractive”. looking back now, media, especially filipino, have contributed to that mindset of mine so much. :(

As a pakistani TANNED middle schooler, I've always hated my body, eye color, and skin. I remember crying that I'm so dark and dirty and that I wished I was a white blonde with blue eyes and that my thighs are ugly (still do tho) . Thank you so much for covering these topics, Ibrahim. Much love and respect

"Try using xyz whitening cream" "You would have been pretty if your skin was a little lighter" "Ugliest cousin in the family as you are the darkest" - few gems I grew up with, sincerely, a brown girl.

I believe I can relate to this video, as a Western-born Pakistani, I was subjected to discrimination and racism during my school times, what's even worse was the people who were the same race as you can be just as worse, if not more worse than the racist children from school. An example is when I and my brother were attending our maternal cousin's wedding back in 2008 in Pakistan (at the time we use to go out in the sun a lot), my oldest cousin (who had daughters around our age), came up to my mother after the wedding and said "your son's should drink lemonade, it'll lighten their skins up", this comment show's how ignorant my cousin is along with many aunties from Pakistan, Pakistan is so ethnically diverse that one should never compare each other because it's Islam that brought unity between the Muslims together regardless of caste, race, and culture. I'm neither dark nor light, somewhere in between and I'd rather stay that way than to impress society, we were sent to this world to serve Allah SWT and this is summed up from this hadith from Muhammad PBUH "There is no superiority of an Arab over a non-Arab, or of a non-Arab over an Arab, and no superiority of a white person over a black person or of a black person over a white person, except on the basis of personal piety and righteousness.”

remember that you are beautiful no matter what! i love you

Omg, I'm from Latin America and the intro literally IS what I heard my family members say through the years about skin colour. Thanks for addressing the issue, hope you can reach to other people

Well said. Great video. Thank you

I remember in middle school, there was a kid who had very very dark skin. The other kids in my class would poke fun at him for it, and he would 'laugh' it off. I felt bad for him. I wonder how he's doing now. But people need to stop looking at people and only seeing their skin tone, and actually see them for who they are personality wise.

I just like how he uses clips from different parts of the world really makes almost everyone relate despite not being from his country

@ziolp

3 жыл бұрын

colonization and the spread of white supremacy and closeness to whiteness ( ie pale skin) was a global thing

great content as always

Nobody ever talks about colorism in Africa but it’s a huge problem

@charmdoesart9272

3 жыл бұрын

I live in Africa and Oh Boy is it a huge huge problem

Ibrahim, even if your video got 1 hour ads in the future I would watch it without complaining!

in my country(Russia), it is opposite, if you are pale you are unhealthy(people can say you look like corpse etc) and a lot of people get tanned till sunburns which is super dangerous for skin and cancer.

@bdh711

2 жыл бұрын

Same in Brazil , if someone is pale you can instantly tell they’re a foreigner

That video of that baby calling herself ugly makes me cry. Oh sweet girl, you are so precious and beautiful and perfectly made. I wanna hug her and shower her with all the love I have 🥺

Thank you for making this video...it is needed.