"Love may be blind, but Marriage is an EYE OPENER"

@sannacoy1973

3 жыл бұрын

Sure?

@khadijaniazi57

3 жыл бұрын

Legendary

@tanghelen4130

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

@user-eb5gd4gm2w

2 жыл бұрын

Relationship**

@ukulkarni

2 жыл бұрын

Too late though

As someone who has been unhappily married for a long time and has been happily married for a long time (I'm old) I have one thing to say. You can be far happier single than married to the wrong person. I stayed in a bad marriage for way too long because I didn't know that. While being married can bring love, companionship and purpose into your life it can also bring dread, isolation and hopelessness. There is no virtue in staying in a bad marriage. If your marriage is bad, fix it or end it. Staying unhappy the rest of your life is an awful choice.

@meggyg8089

7 жыл бұрын

You should've given this TED talk...

@littlestbroccoli

7 жыл бұрын

Al Dente And adding insult to those who've had to go through something like that by laughing at their single life helps no one.

@dorianncrespo

7 жыл бұрын

OMG, you made me cry.

@sparkleevenmore9638

7 жыл бұрын

Al Dente - you are right. I'm now single after having been unhappily married for many years. I highly doubt I will ever marry again.

@wendylcs4283

7 жыл бұрын

Marriage Lectures like this one point to all the trivial reasons that people get divorced as if they are the only reasons, and then laugh and say "how dumb! how dumb!'" Please People -- stop pretending there aren't valid reasons for divorce beyond Physical Violence. And by the way I'd rather have gone through that than what I did go through.

The secret to being happily married is not needing to be happily married. I.e. you should be a 'complete person' all on your own, happy with yourself and with your life. If you happen to meet someone else who is a complete person, and you find that you are happier when they are around than when they are not - then you get married, and that marriage will last. Yesterday was my 24th wedding anniversary, and I adore my wife just as much as the day I married her. I get the impression she still adores me as well. If you are just getting married to check the box off your list of things you think you should do, your marriage will most likely fail. If you are just getting married because you feel incomplete as a person, your marriage will most likely fail. If you are just getting married to have kids, your marriage will most likely fail.

@jenius9164

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for saying this! All the other comments are so negative

@gloomydaysunshine8656

3 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏

@xaviconde

3 жыл бұрын

But there in lies a paradox. If a person is "complete" or autonomous, why marrying? It is unnecessary.

@bikebudha01

3 жыл бұрын

@@xaviconde Marriage is unnecessary. But so is ice cream. I enjoy both. Committing to one person for life is about as big a compliment as you can give someone. It's a nice thing to do for the person you love.

@Annsu2017

2 жыл бұрын

@@xavicondeyes...marriage is unnecessary but getting out of a marriage is much difficult than breaking up with the boyfriend/girlfriend...so society constructed this business transaction to keep people in control.

Next up on TED talks: "What you don't know about the family court system" Edit: thanks to everyone who helped get this to 1K likes 👍

@platonicforms562

4 жыл бұрын

Just go MGTOW.

@Ikaros23

4 жыл бұрын

@Daniel Roberts who are " they?". the men who get fucked over are telling this to the disney brainwashed betas AND alphas of the world all the time still 98% wont listen because they are brainwashed. Still they hope that " my girl is not like the rest". I have been talking to men about this for years, they just look at me like im satan. Now i dont talk about it because im tired of playing " the bad guy". People are fools, and even the gods cant change that. And we all want to be happy and belive in the fairy tale. Its all about hard work/introspection/luck and the skill to see if your girl/boyfriend is a nutter/psycho ( redflags).

@hairymotter5455

4 жыл бұрын

@James Curry tell us how you really feel lol you're not wrong though

@TTLBALLER

4 жыл бұрын

James Curry so true! You got it 100%

@moyshekapoyre

4 жыл бұрын

@James Curry nothing is yours, good point

Marriage is the process of two people coming together to solve problems they didn't have before they were married.

@manuelfelipe884

4 жыл бұрын

jajajajajaja

@frederickhoward5598

4 жыл бұрын

Booboobear2388 oh no they had, just turned a “blind eye” to them!

@FUNNYMANERICWHITE

4 жыл бұрын

😆

@Me-np8fb

4 жыл бұрын

Put that on a Bumper sticker!

@4everu984

4 жыл бұрын

😹😹

the comments are way more interesting than the video..seriously...

@galbro480261

5 жыл бұрын

i agree, i bet that women speaking watching the princess diaries every day 3 times a day over and over.

@catholiccrusader5328

5 жыл бұрын

I agree fully; also her outfit is sexy but the woman is too damn thin. I'm black and we like ham on 'dem bones.

@QuartzIsAnOxide

4 жыл бұрын

And funny...

@castirondude

4 жыл бұрын

She jumps around so much , it's hard to even figure out what she's trying to say. "There's a lot that sucks about it but you should still do it" or something like that. It may be true but it's not a logical argument that people can follow.

@sergelauzon7763

4 жыл бұрын

@@catholiccrusader5328 I'm not black, but if I eat a rib steat, I want more than the ribs. I'm a Québécois from Montréal and I dont mind the skin color(my ex is a pure Innu Native woman) but no woman who dont speak french anymore for me.(but thn again, it would be different if I lived in the USA ou England.

I am 84 yes old and my father said this any times, love is blind, marriage is an eye opener. So true!!!

Marriage is a business relationship ...ask any judge or "honest lawyer" "Whats love got to do with it" Tina Turner

This is where comments makes much more sense than the video

@rosalindmartin4469

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe that was Intentional😂

I can't tell if this video is encouraging people to get married, or discouraging it.

@filipazacarias8828

8 жыл бұрын

+Ethan Swords it's ecouraging women to be thin&sexy and never dare to be more successful than their spouses :)

@SonoTom

8 жыл бұрын

+Filipa Zacarias the first is a favor to her man's satisfaction, and the second is a favor to the woman - after all, if she is the more successful, it is only a matter of time until she has only contempt for him, and destroys the relationship. that is the effect of a woman's desire.

@rosestar1324

5 жыл бұрын

Both?

@backtothebooks9201

5 жыл бұрын

I think the point ultimately is that marriage is a toss up. You don't know if the person you love and adore today will be someone you can love and adore after ten years of life. All these stats show that there is no secret really. There are fat wives with thin husbands where both are super happy, and there are teetotal couples who split up.

@morganlowe3353

5 жыл бұрын

Sono Tom I’m so pissed at you for hitting this nail right on the head. Truth hurts. 😪

My brother-in-law has been married to my sister for 43 years. And he is legitimately borderline insane right now.

@pamurishikesh324

4 жыл бұрын

He is dominating or being dominated?

@EdMcCornhole

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah hopefully you don't side with your sister just because she's your sister!?

@kshitijmaurya9477

4 жыл бұрын

@leafonabreeze About the stats... Can you please share a few? Thanks!

@gojohngo106

3 жыл бұрын

@@EdMcCornhole I haven't spoken to her in years. I hear of his insanity/suicidal ideation through other family.

@roskcity

2 жыл бұрын

I thought it said my brother was married to my sister for 43 years 😂

I'm married, if I had to do it all over again I would bc im 90% happy in my marriage. It all depends who you marry it's not always going to be easy but it's definitely not impossible. Choose wisely. It is certainly NOT a game.

I divorced my wife because I couldn't get along with her boyfriend.

@chrisvoss4499

4 жыл бұрын

im1who84u. ha ha! funny but not funny. I know whatcha mean

@mylifethrivingincanada7643

4 жыл бұрын

im1who84u or her girlfriend...

@im1who84u

4 жыл бұрын

@@mylifethrivingincanada7643 Good one. Had that been the case, I might have stayed on and made it three.

@Ryan-ut3cg

4 жыл бұрын

Hahaha.. this isn't funny...but it is funny in a way!

@jakebarrett2339

4 жыл бұрын

You selfish s.o.b!!!!!!

The number one cause of divorce is marriage. Treat your spouse like they are married you get one result. Treat your spouse as if they are single the marriage will last much longer. A little advice from Grandpa

@wyvern132

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you grandpa, you give good advice. Choose your partner afresh every day!

@mallutu811

2 жыл бұрын

What does this meannnn

@meowmeowmuscle3035

2 жыл бұрын

That’s some very good advice

@priusa8113

2 жыл бұрын

Lol

@jellybelly0963

2 жыл бұрын

@@mallutu811 essentially what it means is: when you're pursuing a single person you treat them better and you're happier as a result of them being happy 💛 P.S. I'm never getting married.. the concept alone frightens me

three big mistakes in marriage : 1) Not knowing the person you are marrying and jumping into marriage too soon( it happens in my country India where marriages are arranged in 1-2 meetings) .2) not budgeting the marriage each occasion,event has a cost factor not including that in marriage is expensive( the country I belong to the cost is shared with parents which puts dent to self respect of the married couple and quality of their life) 3) Not having prenuptial agreement in place almost all legal structures in various countries go against break the marriage but you are two individuals who can exercise your right to go in different directions anytime. It is more important for males because most of the laws are pro-women.

Was married for 32 years. She divorced me and left me broke. Took my children, my life’s work and my self worth. It’s been 7 years, I rebuilt my life, I’m worth more today than I was when she bankrupted me, I have zero stress, wake up happy every morning. Bottom line, I’ve never been happier as I am right now. 2 people living on top of each other 24/7 is just not natural, hence divorces galore across the world. Life is too short and it should belong to you alone and nobody else. Stay single, prosper and stay happy. This is coming from a 65 year old man who has been there, done that and now doing it differently in a happier way.

@atturnec360

4 жыл бұрын

Best comment. From your 25yr non married friend. Great advice!

@PineappledoesnotbelongonPizza2

4 жыл бұрын

Best comment. From a 23 year old non-married friend. Thanks for your advice.

@Ferrari85241

4 жыл бұрын

Robert Cleft . You are most welcome my young friend. Enjoy life. If you want to have kids, then just have kids with someone and only pay child support. it’s cheaper to pay child support than to marry and then loose it all. Just have kids without tying yourself. Marriage is a trap for failure and it will fail in this modern world. Stay safe. Excel & progress and be successful. God bless you ..

@socrabate

4 жыл бұрын

You should understand that not all women are such egoistic to not want to be married from a man's perspective. But the legislation system favors women towards some issues and lets them put their own interest before children's needs (need for the biological father), let alone caring about their husbands and so. This is a flaw of society by not addressing well the trajectory towards equality...

I used to work ( in my trade job ) with all males. i think one female in the office ( that we never saw ) i remember one guy asked me " Why aren't you married, Why should you be the happy one" Those words stuck with me & happy to say, i'm still single & very happy indeed.

Wow...twice divorced , and you have hit on what I've been searching for...I always said to myself "how can you love someone when you don't love yourself?" You're saying the same thing only in a way to really resolve it within ourselves. Thank you

A couple married for 75 years once said, the secret to a long and healthy marriage can be summed up in one word. Compromise!

@2bituser569

Жыл бұрын

We all know today who is doing all the compromising it’s mostly men.

Before becoming red pilled i was convinced by my friends and family members that i was missing out unlike them who are all married and now i realize that it's quite the opposite. Almost all married men are living in quiet desperation and they unconsciously try to put marriage and women on a pedestal and when they have convinced others that they are missing out it makes them feel better about there marriages. When you become red pilled and those same men can see how happy you are and that you do not envy them at all they start to become jealous of your lifestyle.

@slowrunn3r88

2 жыл бұрын

I just left a comment on this video about how many therapists of mine would relentlessly pressure me to find a woman and marry her, even if I wasn’t attracted or excited by her. I think your comment hits it spot on - they wanted to make themselves feel better because they grew up in a time where marriage was “the thing you do,” so now they envy independence of happily single men (and happily single people in general)

For me, marriage is learning how to be patient and compromising, and doing it with someone I can't see my life without. Nothing more and nothing less.

@5000MikeMaster

5 жыл бұрын

I will definitely have kids but still internally debating if the whole marriage thing is worth it. I just know I’m going to be with her one day and walk by a hotter girl that I’m going to want to bring in bed

@bt7846

5 жыл бұрын

@@5000MikeMaster Maybe... You think, you are getting younger?! You think, the hot and fresh will always like you?

@5000MikeMaster

5 жыл бұрын

Blue TeaTree younger women always will want older men: also I workout hard and consistently and girls also love that so I always feel like I have options

@bt7846

5 жыл бұрын

@@5000MikeMaster Maybe. For how long? Is it all about bodies to you? What about connection? To have your own things? To have a past that you can lough at or cry over for that matter? Don't you have standa4ds that a women should meet other then physical? Aren't funny, smart, caring... sexy to you?

@SasquatchActualFitness

5 жыл бұрын

Compromising? 😂

Marriage is a garden. If you are both lazy and not proactive to consciously weed and plant seeds, the garden will fester. The four downfalls of marriage are 1) defensiveness 2) criticism 3) stonewalling 4) contempt The four supports are the opposite: 1) openness/flexibility (release of fear/pride) 2) being encouraging 3) not being cold 4) compassion

@ljose007

4 жыл бұрын

People these days do not possess those positive qualities.

@jimmski9908

4 жыл бұрын

to your point, marriage can be a lot of work, going into marriage thinking that it will be endless bliss is naïve to say the least, lots of challenges and if you are unable or unwilling to face them head on (with the approval and active participation from you spouse) you will likely have a very unhappy marriage.

@a.a.1245

2 жыл бұрын

Thats it. Ill never be married.

I'll never get married again. I'd much rather find a person I don't like and give them my house and children.

@makoma_lotus8116

4 жыл бұрын

Lol I see what you did😅

@AllHandlesRTaken

4 жыл бұрын

Chris W-J Rather find someone you like, and she like you, but don’t get married. Why bring law enforcement into your love life? They are the ones that win when the marriage ends; he’ll, they probably insinuated it. Think twice before you sign?

@sicario_paintball

4 жыл бұрын

LMFAOOOO

@sandranoisewater6093

4 жыл бұрын

We all say that, lol I stayed single for 7 years. And then remarried.

@superasper

4 жыл бұрын

Why don't you find: 1) a person you can trust and 2) a person you would like to sleep with. Then you would not have to give away anything. The problem is most people put 2) in front of 1). Big mistake.

And yet I had three therapists in a row who heard me say “I don’t want to get married,” and we’d spend multiple sessions arguing back-and-forth I’d explain how much I value my freedom and not being tied down. They relentlessly said “yeah, but you don’t wanna be fifty and look back with regrets of not getting married.” To which I’d say “…and I don’t wanna be fifty and look back and regret marrying the wrong person” To which THEY said “but you’ll never find somebody who’s perfect. Companionship is the main thing to look for” To which **I** said “if nobody’s gonna be perfect, then why should I sacrifice my time, space, breathing space, money, energy, possibly even health for somebody who I’m not happy with?” 🙄 and they’d say “you’re only unhappy because you’re focusing on superficial things that fade anyways. You’re focused on attraction. You need to focus on kindness and companionship” Needless to say I stopped seeing them, but let me tell you it was draining and disheartening that it took me years to find a therapist who wants me to live MY LIFE and not the life he sets out for me

@slowrunn3r88

2 жыл бұрын

Oh, and I appreciate her mentioning “boredom” as a JUSTIFIED reason for ending a marriage (or it failing). Those same three therapists (and lord knows how many “friends”) made me feel so ashamed of myself for wanting passion and excitement with a woman. If I felt bored and drained when hanging out with a woman, apparently it was my fault for “not appreciating her enough” 🙃

@daniellerae1716

Жыл бұрын

Nobody effing perfect

@2bituser569

Жыл бұрын

@@slowrunn3r88 were the 3 TheRapists women?

@slowrunn3r88

Жыл бұрын

@@2bituser569 nope, they were all older men

Now talk about the stats on: no fault divorce, infidelity, paternity fraud, sexless marriages, alimony, child support, division of assets, and lawyer fees.

@janebaker4912

4 жыл бұрын

Have you divorced or been married? Do you have first hand experience?

@kandycid100

4 жыл бұрын

Jane Baker statistics work just as well as experience. It’s good to learn from mistakes but they don’t have to be your own.

@essentialoilsme

4 жыл бұрын

kandycid100 exactly

@essentialoilsme

4 жыл бұрын

Jane Baker never married, no kids because I’ve reviewed the dire national stats and my mom is on her 5th marriage and my dad had 5 kids, 4 different women, and was divorced twice.

@tammygronskei1993

4 жыл бұрын

Right all those problems come with marriage.

I offered to renew our bond in 2009 through a program of intimacy building exercises and games, she declined. I tried to make the best of it for another seven years but finally left in 2016. It was wrenching, but now I am happy and peaceful.

@whisperingsage

3 жыл бұрын

Awwww

I am truly blessed I know nothing about marriage. For me one of my best decisions.

My sister was complaining about how bad appliances were now. "It used to be you would get a toaster for a wedding gift and it would last the whole marriage. Now its broken in three years." I said, "Yeah, that's about a whole marriage now also."

I'm married, if I had to do it all over again I would totally stay single.

@johnarmenta2199

4 жыл бұрын

This comment should have 1700 thumbs-up too!

@christopher6082

4 жыл бұрын

Amen!! At least until into my 30’s and established

@blazn0

4 жыл бұрын

Dont know if joking or is for real 🤔

@phil5569

4 жыл бұрын

@@christopher6082 no-no, just STAY SINGLE. I'm telling you, no matter what you think your life might be missing, marriage won't solve that problem. Sure you might be less lonely then you were, but now you have a whole bunch of NEW problems to deal with that in my opinion are far worse.

@phil5569

4 жыл бұрын

@@blazn0 ABSOLUTELY serious.

This talk is to make unhappy married people and divorced people feel better. In my opinion it had no strategies on how to achieve a successful marriage.

@keojin2208

9 жыл бұрын

Ted is becoming mainstream for having bad speakers now a days.

@scottab140

9 жыл бұрын

Amber1999 Take out the marriage part, what do you think are strategies for a successful relationship?

@chottopakhi

9 жыл бұрын

Keo Jin right, since quantity matters to quality....

@tovsteh

9 жыл бұрын

Amber1999 Because there are no strategies. Either it works or it doesn't. For 2 people, with 2 different personalities and backgrounds to be able to live and function together for decades is extremely rare, and getting married won't help that at all. A marriage is nothing but a celebration and a title. It has literally no effect on your overall relationship, and its about time men, but perhaps women especially, started realizing this.

@scottab140

9 жыл бұрын

toasteh Very good analysis. One thing you forgot is marriage is just a financial contract and financial insurance if divorce occurs. Governments want it by providing tax credits incentives, but the breadwinner still financially support the other after divorce unless a prenup is sign. People cheat in marriages so it's not a promise commitment that are kept, and you don't need a marriage to make a long term commitment either. ;)

Not really sure about the point of this one...

@tb3atz719

3 жыл бұрын

That how felt good to know it’s not just me

@sinisternightmare

3 жыл бұрын

I was wondering the same. xD

@mr.coffee5220

3 жыл бұрын

I think her point is “Don’t marry”, because a lot of people regret it. Though being married has worked out great for other people. Edit: Never mind, I just didn’t watch the entire video, so.....yeah.

@tanviohol6807

3 жыл бұрын

@@mr.coffee5220 so what do you think is the point?

@mr.coffee5220

3 жыл бұрын

BTS'S NEW ALBUM IS GONNA BE RELEASED ON MY BIRTHDAY, honestly her presentation was so confusing, so I don’t even fuckin’ know.

Marriage never lasts, loyalty no longer exists, there is no shame in cheating, and that is sad.

@harleyashwood7965

4 жыл бұрын

Women are encouraged to work on their careers before getting married, so you'd have to find a needle in haystack virgin over 23 who never gave in since she hit puberty.

@feliciadawnauthor

3 жыл бұрын

Harley Ashwood exactly.

@southafricangirl1698

3 жыл бұрын

Not true

@whisperingsage

3 жыл бұрын

@@harleyashwood7965 I actually wish i HAD gotten my RN before marrying him because now we fight about money, and he is not motivated enough to work overtime like I did when I bought my own land at age 20. And I have a house kit here, that I need help putting up (a dome kit, failry simple). But everything is a burden to him because it's work he didn't want. I could have paid some reliable worker friends to help me but I didn't finish that RN. RN's get paid well. He had joked at first 16 years ago that I would be working while he would be sitting home taking care of the church needs. But he pulled me out of school (one more semester, I would have been done) and made me go to work as an LPN, which limited where I could work (100+ miles away). and limited my earnings. And now we are stuck because he was never responsible with money. SO yes I should have gotten my RN> We would both have been in a better position. ( no children, We married in our 40's). I love him very much. So no divorce here.

@keidmaster

3 жыл бұрын

@@whisperingsage Why didn't you fight harder on the Rn? I'd imagine making more to be a very good point

This talk was all over the place. Couldn't find a clear point or goal.

@TreesAndLadders

9 жыл бұрын

it was pretty much a girl telling you what causes her and other women to break up with their better halves. shes just saying if you both dont give up on the sexual attraction which initiated your "acquaintance" via going to the gym and try to make your life about the commonality of it (like your kids,pets, house, whatever) you will have a longer and healthier relationship. she also says that chicks dig it when you help them out so fucking do it. its not worth her starting an argument over. however, this was all said with a bias opinion from someone whose relationship worked out because both parties seemed to have pursued it. there is no telling what will happen if the relationship was started for ill reasons like money, strictly physical appeal & what not. then all this "advice" doesn't apply.

@letsgetcancer7265

6 жыл бұрын

RickyTomatoes, don't get married. Was that simple enough.

@MsCatholicforever

5 жыл бұрын

Because she was practicing her 'stand up" routine.

@baybydilly742

5 жыл бұрын

She's a comedian that spouts scientific findings.

@GtMcGee

5 жыл бұрын

i spent most of it trying to figure out if this is jenny mccarthys daughter or something, the topic of the talk would fit

If you wanted happiness you came to the wrong place.

@fatimanoorahmad8720

4 жыл бұрын

God created this life so that our heart will break... lets work for our next everlasting lifr that we will live happily everafter inshallah 😊😊😊

@dovenwings4561

4 жыл бұрын

@@fatimanoorahmad8720 "happily ever after" doesn't exist

@MajidLink

4 жыл бұрын

@@fatimanoorahmad8720 you need to stfu

This is very well presented. Nowadays people treat marriages like work. Don't leave one until you secure another. Some people can stay single & while others can't stay married. Nobody wants to be alone all the time save for some introverts that have more than just introversion to cope with. In all, we don't know why some really make it. They say if many gave it another week, many marriages would have been saved. Nobody has time for that.

I'm married and we're very happy! Just because someone's experience didn't go well doesn't mean that will happen to you

You'll never truly know your woman, until you meet her in court!

@AllHandlesRTaken

4 жыл бұрын

art88 And she is never really yours; it’s just your turn. And keep in mind, women choose whether or not the baby lives. What baby?

@andrewconde6115

4 жыл бұрын

@@AllHandlesRTaken I see you watch Donovan my guy :)

@adamwalker2377

4 жыл бұрын

Really? You're telling me that they can be embracing lovingly while binge watching a favorite Netflix show one day and then divorced from a stranger the next?

@TTLBALLER

4 жыл бұрын

Hahaha O wait that's not funny. But it is so so very TRUE!

@wavybump

4 жыл бұрын

"You'll never know a woman until you truly know a women; and you will never truly know a women" -Blackram313

actually there is a big difference between married and happily married

@smartcatcollarproject5699

7 жыл бұрын

Yep. The surviving partner from an happy marriage will be much sadder for the rest of his life, than if he was single, once his spouse has died...

@jenniferh.7219

5 жыл бұрын

AW Crowe so few words but so deep

@leonardmiller2336

5 жыл бұрын

@@smartcatcollarproject5699 my Dad survived Mom by 25 years and still had his wedding ring on when he died Mom's pic hung over his bed and he said goodmorning and goodnight to her every day until he died I love them both.

@leonardmiller2336

5 жыл бұрын

@Alexander Jenkins thankyou i miss him like crazy

@DJninjablade22

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah happily married is code for "I surrender dear, you can have whatever u want, i'm not even gonna fight it anymore". Married is the Woman's way of saying "I got him"

I’ve been married to my wife for 12 years, and each year is better than the last. When it’s the right person it just works.

I listen to everything she had to say and still did not hear any real benefits for a man to get married.

@Moviemaniac174892

4 жыл бұрын

@rvhron08 this is true thanks for joining the party

@Moviemaniac174892

4 жыл бұрын

@Alpha Strong42 there are unicorns out there but they're a dying breed and few and far in between

@adverteasing

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@user-wu6vz6py5t

4 жыл бұрын

There is any benefit ...

@maritzachagolla

4 жыл бұрын

BOSS HOGG yess I’m still like okay 🤣

"Mind-numbing monogamy" - I can see which camp she's personally in.

@overlyfatman9722

4 жыл бұрын

Scottish Clansman ya, the cheating camp

@user-ci7vu7eo9w

4 жыл бұрын

@@overlyfatman9722 i agree with "dumb"!i saw a lot of dumb bitches

@jandersen6802

2 жыл бұрын

Yup. Married people shaming single people is nothing new. She just wants to sell more of her books by giving this talk.

A man isn't complete til he's married. Then he's finished.

@mrphyl3041

5 жыл бұрын

👌🏾👍🏾🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@jaggarcia2600

5 жыл бұрын

You meant to say... Completely finished...

@goldeneddie

5 жыл бұрын

Nice quotation from a very funny wise woman - Zsa Zsa Gabor.

@DouglasSpicer

4 жыл бұрын

@@goldeneddie False. Rodney Dangerfield said it.

@Abc-vr7tk

4 жыл бұрын

John rules

"Only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provide something.” So if for some reason you lose the ability to provide, expect the divorce papers soon.

@jandrews6254

3 жыл бұрын

Oh Pedro was your lady mean to You?

@transacumen5172

2 жыл бұрын

@@jandrews6254 wait for yours :)

The reason I want to stay married is so I can make sweet love to my woman and with her only. She knows how much she means for me and I wont act like I am more than I have to be for her. I will make her feel things she can never get from any other man because what I give her, is only for her. When we both grow old together and have seen beter years I will remind her she was the one who did it for me. She had a way of laying me down and comforting my anxieties and keeping me safe from hurting myself further. She made me the man I was supposed to be and I am incomplete without her.

@transacumen5172

2 жыл бұрын

Did she make you write this 😅

@janejohnstone5795

2 жыл бұрын

You,..Sir,..are a true romantic....you must have a loving and giving birth sign...and be compatible with your wife...amazing!!

The one thing I learned from watching this video was "Never take marriage advice from a Woman".

@eddenoy321

5 жыл бұрын

haha good one Frank

@ribeyemgtow1783

5 жыл бұрын

Never take advice from a woman. Any advice. Brrrr Meow

@marienguyen88

5 жыл бұрын

Why?

@NathansHVAC

5 жыл бұрын

@@marienguyen88 a woman cannot tell a man how to be a man.

@samslovich6594

5 жыл бұрын

Man on the internet expects random video to fix his life

she says: please waste your life on a woman and dont go mgtow or stay single.

@urbosasfurry2126

5 жыл бұрын

She does do some monogamy shaming...maybe she's a goer. Say no more.

@vincentvargo7850

4 жыл бұрын

@@urbosasfurry2126 Nod's as good as a wink to a blind bat eh? EH?

@urbosasfurry2126

4 жыл бұрын

@@vincentvargo7850 Nudge, nudge...say no more!

@guberization

4 жыл бұрын

I think she is saying, don't become a feminazi and hate on men because you will eventually regret it as you get fat and can't support yourself.

Marriage is over and men aren't going back.

@christusvictor1431

4 жыл бұрын

Then Jesus Christ is not Lord.

@sagatisbeast

4 жыл бұрын

@@christusvictor1431 oh yes, he is.

@heycheckthisout2565

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. Marriage is dying an inevitable death.

@cie-cuche3302

3 жыл бұрын

@ben starllard Jesus Christ is Lord

@Carman-qg8op

3 жыл бұрын

Feminism has killed marriage

Thank me later. Here's her point: 0:01 prelude to marriage 1:54 statistically half of marriages split within a decade - the other half, still struggle with their relationship 2:30 what makes a marriage not work (stats), disrespect, bordom, affair ... 2:41 yet, even without that, divorce can still happen 2:59 what makes a successful marriage? 3:52 wife (woman) is thinner and better looking than husband (man), yet woman don't necessarily need to diet, just need to be relatively thinner than the husband 4:38 they focus on the positive, complement than complaints and critiques 5:15 husband sharing house chore 5:47 people who smiled in childhood photos show longetivity in marriage 6:57 safeguard marriage: don't win oscar for best actress (social success & fame of woman) 7:22 watching romantic comedy (comparing life to holiwood superficial happyness) 7:57 drinking alcohol 8:10 divorce is contageous (close friend splits increases your chance's up to 75%) 8:45 benefits of marriage (social, personal, biological) outweigh the risk 10:05 use personal strengths to navigate healthy marriage/relationships personal risk(-) & strength factors(+): husband is lean than self (-) have friends who divorced (-) drink alcohol (-) have smiling childhood pictures (+) husband share house chores (+) won't see romantic comedy (+) won't win oscar (+)

I have been with my wife for 27 years and still love her and want to be with her. My secret? Be willing to admit it when you are wrong and apologize and ask her to do the same. This whole talk did NOTHING for me.

@peacock8394

6 жыл бұрын

unspunnewz , good for you..✌

@missdiamond169

5 жыл бұрын

This is so true

@painexotic3757

5 жыл бұрын

Your comment did nothing because its completely broad and ignores other factors that not every couple can or will have.

@sandermez3856

5 жыл бұрын

young man listens to this advice, is willing to admit he is wrong. Is patient and works at relationship. goes MGTOW after 3 years of dating today's women. NEVER admit you are wrong. She WILL use it against you!

@dathula804

5 жыл бұрын

Did she ever apologise for her own mistakes ? 😂😂😂

...I wonder if there's a correlation between all the bitter comments and the rising levels of loneliness in modern society.

@jeffbridges5312

9 жыл бұрын

***** You live in the Ukraine? What's that like? I'll go to Google Earth and search around in the Ukraine cities and streets (Russia too) .. I can see why you drink so much Vodka.

@rosseryankeegirl

6 жыл бұрын

I agree...no one took this as tongue and cheek. People are literally looking for marriage advice on KZread!!! holyfuck.

@denverb585

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Lame.

@allandonald6248

5 жыл бұрын

Tross Theboss this is a really stupid comment because there is A LOT of valid advice on KZread, and it's probably 2nd best place to look for it. Tons of professionals are on here giving free advice.

“Getting married is to halve one’s rights and double one’s duties.” -A. Schopenhauer

I had never heard about Mrs McCarthy before, but this is one of the most likeable to listen to conference I have ever followed on Ted. And I'd like to complete this so funny and brilliant intervention by adding that to possess sense of humour is also a big advantage in marriage and relationships in general ! A quality that Mrs McCarthy possesses without any doubt ! :)

TED has really lowered its standards. This presentation was less about informing and more about entertaining with comic relief. I kept waiting for the "meat" of the presentation - some deeper reason to make the marriage commitment. All I heard were glib statistics - make sure your husband is fatter than you, exercise, don't hang around too many envious divorced people, don't watch romantic comedies, etc. Then she finished it by bragging about her husband. Yeah, the guy's hot, but what is that supposed to teach me about marriage?

@angelagriffin5130

6 жыл бұрын

Actually, I believe she hid one of the key reasons marriages last. Focus on the positives. But I don't mean in general like she referred to but specifically being thankful and telling them so about all the ways your spouse enriches your lives. Every. Day. When you are thankful for that special someone, all of their faults don't seem so huge, in fact, they don't seem to bother you very much at all. Not saying that you don't like them sometimes. But you like them so much more. And I think it's more important that spouses like each other and are friends, then to be "in love". Now maybe I am not an expert. This coming day before Valentine's Day is our 19th. Not very long. But I think positivity as thankfulness is a very big key.

@Vyaghrasena

6 жыл бұрын

Totally agree with you duncan

@leeplantain

6 жыл бұрын

Agree. This was more comic relief than real talk. Nasty start with the wife being thinner than the husband. Terrible talk.

@JanacMeena

6 жыл бұрын

This is exactly her point! After all this research and studies about marriages, the "secrets" to a successful marriage are actually issues that seem trivial or glib. We are often on a search for some rare and esoteric guiding truth, but in reality it's as simple as staying fit and managing expectations (by not watching romantic comedies)

@gutenbergribeiro2712

5 жыл бұрын

Gndlrbo

MARRIED men LIVE longer? IT JUST SEEMES LONGER!

@DJninjablade22

5 жыл бұрын

Married men live longer? Yeah so does a house cat. It lives long and miserable longing for the outside but the owner keeps it inside.

5 жыл бұрын

That is an old fable. There is no statistical evidence of that whatsoever.

@Endoptic

5 жыл бұрын

@ Actually it was a near lie. The stats included bachelors AND married VS divorced. Divorced men especially lived shorter lives than men still married at death AND shorter lives than men that never married. It also left out how older people were more likely to just be "separated", especially in advanced age, so you get this group of married but estranged old people skewing the numbers, if anyone was dumb enough to assume "married" indicated a continuing relationship or having any relationship at all.

5 жыл бұрын

@@Endoptic .... "IT"? What is "IT"? I don't believe any such study or survey because they are ALL biased towards marriage. It is impossible to remove bias from such a study or survey. Especially if women or government interest are involved.

@ejensen1050

5 жыл бұрын

BS

It’s been said that you don’t know what love is until you been married for about 25 years, then you have a resume you can talk about!

"People that smile in childhood photographs are less likely to get a divorce" 😂😂

@Almostyours

4 жыл бұрын

Jason Brown I agree. That’s the dumbest s..t I have never heard.

@jandersen6802

2 жыл бұрын

She is so dumb. She doesn't know the difference between causation and correlation.

“He buys a ring, she buys a dress”. Sounds fair.

@wanelly

4 жыл бұрын

Mike MakesRight: and all the stuff (ring & dress) go to the woman 🤦🏾‍♂️

@Darkstalker212

4 жыл бұрын

*He buys the ring, the house, the car, the jewelry*

@hrage5959

4 жыл бұрын

Nothing 4 the due!

@befrank4099

4 жыл бұрын

lol notice how females be defending her every where else in the comments but here...….

@ytlongbeach

4 жыл бұрын

Actually, she got the dress on credit, and the man pays it off. He buys the ring, dress, house, vacations, ... everything.

"Marriage is a great institution but who wants to live in an institution?" Graucho Marx

@peterjandros2173

4 жыл бұрын

SPELL GROUCHO'S NAME CORRECTLY, YOU IGNORAMUS.

@entertainedsheep7668

3 жыл бұрын

@@peterjandros2173 ignoramus? I bet you dont even know about joe .

@captaintomorrow6774

3 жыл бұрын

well, yeah, you can't stay in mom's womb hold forever.....that would be ridiculous...robert downey jr proved this

@negalgg5372

3 жыл бұрын

@@entertainedsheep7668 who’s joe

@entertainedsheep7668

3 жыл бұрын

@@negalgg5372 Joe mama !

Married guys do not really live longer. It just feels a lot longer for them.

@jandrews6254

3 жыл бұрын

I do encourage you to remain single and have a vasectomy

@laurencequery4334

3 жыл бұрын

yo😂😂😂😂

God, this is a pointless talk, just to brag about her marriage.

@willowsullivan6121

4 жыл бұрын

It sure did turn out that way didn’t it. She got completely off track.

@luckysahar683

4 жыл бұрын

Big Dog was Matt Damon ever married??!

@pelawi79

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, it just like you have a damned smart brainless.

@bastardhapa8238

3 жыл бұрын

@@willowsullivan6121 You would think someone would have mentioned that before she went on stage. It makes me wonder what exactly are the criteria for Ted talks, and is anyone considering continuity?

@tb3atz719

3 жыл бұрын

So true

I never felt so alone as when I was married. I felt like a stranger in my own house.

this was pointless. TED talks quality is going downhill fast.

@selfReferencinDox

8 жыл бұрын

Are you sure that you're just not hating because it says things that you don't like? I think that the wife being skinnier is true, based on my own experience. I've seen from my own parents and from their friends that marriages that don't end in divorce have a skinny wife. The husband didn't always gain a lot of weight like my dad, but the wives were usually skinny. But, it was at least 1 out of 3 where the husband got a big belly at some point in marriage. Yet, marriages with fat or obese women married to skinny men tend to end in divorce initiated by the wife. I have also seen this growing up with my uncles. It could be the fact that fat women tend to get married to poor men, or that fat women are harder to please. But, I think that there is something to learn here.

@vvolfbelorven7084

8 жыл бұрын

+Michael Adkins No, he's right. What's the point of this video? Skinny wife, fatter husband is the secret to marriage?

@benedictifye

8 жыл бұрын

The quality isn't going downhill - there are just a boat load more TED talks out there, and a ton more "TED" conferences (since you can have a TEDx that isn't only rich or famous people) so the quality is the same there's just more. And you're comparing someone no one's ever heard of to Al Gore and Ken Robinson.

@aclark141

8 жыл бұрын

+Damaso Rodriguez the point is learn to live alone.

@denverb585

5 жыл бұрын

"Are you sure that you're just not hating because it says things that you don't like?" Yes... We are sure. And no, there is nothing to learn here. Oi vey...

I am not sure what universe she lives in, but it is not the same one I am in...

I thought I was the only one who thought it was more of a "look at me and how well I'm doing" session rather than a teachable experience for both single and married people alike. Disappointing

@jandersen6802

2 жыл бұрын

Wake up! She is an author looking to get publicity to sell more books. Every TED talk is either someone who wants to sell you something, promote their company or promote their social media. It is just like watching veiled commercials.

MGTOW is growing like wildfire

@AllHandlesRTaken

4 жыл бұрын

Father No And feminism killed it!

Margaret Mead suggested a long time ago to have marriage as a short term contract. For example, a couple marries for three years which ends or continues if the couple chooses to signup for three more.

@stargazer2042

5 жыл бұрын

How about "till our youngest child graduates do we part"?

@OGLOCK69

5 жыл бұрын

This makes marriages useless for women. Something like that (even if completely reasonable) would never be feasible

@Daoistify

5 жыл бұрын

Firstname Secondname Not feasible, why not? Married couples renew their vows all the time. Both have to decide to continue being married or not after a pre agreed period of time. It takes two to Tango.

@stargazer2042

5 жыл бұрын

@@OGLOCK69 It needs to last at least 3-5 years past the youngest child graduating from high school, so the mother can get back into a career.

@ionutalex7347

4 жыл бұрын

@@stargazer2042 from your words it sounds like the mother gets custody of the child 100% of the time, why? why does the father not take the child and then the mother can be right off to her career or whatever, just mention it in the contract. say flip a coin after the 5 years for custody or something, i imagine at 5 years of age u don't need to be breastfed anymore so...

Sooooooo, she’s basically bashing men, while making the snowflakes in the audience laugh?

@sn41175

4 жыл бұрын

tampajohn I noticed that too

@nutty361

4 жыл бұрын

Kenneth Faulk source for that statistic?

@rickmorgan1441

4 жыл бұрын

and every'joke' was predictable and ho hum

@TampaJohn

4 жыл бұрын

rick morgan precisely.

@BabyAbood123

4 жыл бұрын

True

Getting married is bad for your marriage.

My wife and I agree that the toilet paper goes over the top, so we're still married

@StephenMatrese

6 жыл бұрын

benedictify Same here, both over all the way

@reneemillas270

6 жыл бұрын

benedictify c

@Weaseldog2001

6 жыл бұрын

Same and yesterday was our 25th wedding anniversary. We only change the system, when a kitten is in the house.

@sandrahernandez3668

5 жыл бұрын

Same here, going on 14.

@TheUnatuber

5 жыл бұрын

Over the top? You fucking perverts!

Some people actually have morals and live happy marriages. I mean they aren't perfect but they respect each other and actually thought out how they would spend they're lives together.

@amgjc

7 жыл бұрын

other people also have morals, only different

@Friendly_Gamer_Mom

5 жыл бұрын

When one person makes another person slowly feel like dirt, that is not a marriage to stay in. When one person purposely uses words to trigger a jealousy response from another person, that is not a marriage to stay in. Morals have their place, but staying in an abusive relationship is not a good choice. Every marriage divorce is situational.

@owenprince4823

5 жыл бұрын

You don't understand the problem. It has NOTHING to do with the people. It has everything to do with the legal system that has been changed to the point where a man has NO chance to keep the marriage because it is NOT up to him and 75 to 80% of the divorces are by the woman. For a man to get married it is like writing a blank check on a contract that he cannot change but she can change her part of the contract at any time for any reason and without explaining why. NOT a good deal for the man.

Where do I go to get the 11 minutes and 17 seconds of my life back?

People have complicated the whole marriage progam. Marriage is the legal binding of 2 people to explore without boundries themselves and each other. Very few couples actually understand this concept and thus grow stale with ingrained beliefs and traditions. Finding that life partner is a huge challenge, finding the ''she'll or he'll do'' is what mostly happens. A healthy mind explores, a sick mind is a closed operation.

so can anyone give a ted talk these days? how do i sign up to stand up there and blabber about nothing?

@ivonned32

5 жыл бұрын

Kat B exactly

@samslovich6594

5 жыл бұрын

Start a blog

@integr8er66

4 жыл бұрын

Yep, they used to be really interesting now it's just blah blah blah.

Through a bad experience I've learned that marriage is not great, especially if you are the one that has the most to lose financially. Marriage actually is a legal contract in which you co mingle your assets and debts into one. For every dollar you make the other person gets half. If the other person racks up huge credit debt on your cards you are responsible for half even if you had nothing to do with the spending. You are better off living with a person but not getting married. Just my two cents.

@kilian8327

7 жыл бұрын

1 cent if you're married

@perfectsplit5515

7 жыл бұрын

“You are better off living with a person but not getting married.” What I heard - is that you are better off hiring prostitutes on a regular basis instead of getting married. The hookers are cheaper than a wife in the long run.

@owenprince4823

5 жыл бұрын

@Drake ICN This does not work because SHE has the legal power in the marriage that you AGREED to when you got married. It is all in the family law books that the court will hit you with in the divorce.

@mrphyl3041

5 жыл бұрын

@@kilian8327 👌🏾👍🏾🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@OGLOCK69

5 жыл бұрын

Drake ICN You would have to pay a nanny? What are you? Disabled? Let's put an end to this bullshits, housewifes are USELESS. "The mother is the most difficult job in the world". This is the most ridiculous and outrageous thing ever. Most of them are not even able to do their job of raising the brats, schools and society and welfare do that. Not fat lazy entitled ex whores

I want my 11:17 minutes back!!!!

@zeenathsania2726

3 жыл бұрын

Me too😂

@jandersen6802

2 жыл бұрын

Wake up! She is an author looking to get publicity to sell more books. Every TED talk is either someone who wants to sell you something, promote their company or promote their social media. It is just like watching veiled commercials.

Anyone else kinda weirded out at all the subtle (and not so subtle) suggestions towards adultery and open relationships here?

@nadjagallardo5428

3 жыл бұрын

Jep... It's part of spreading more moral corruption among society... Our society is getting morally rotten because of people like this woman 🤦

@albertpop9243

3 жыл бұрын

Damn great to know others think the same as me

@sabah4123

3 жыл бұрын

Whether married or not, there will always be problems in relationships.

@shanelindemanmusic2650

2 жыл бұрын

Yea I can tell she's sleezy. I wonder how much she cheats on her husband.

This talk is confusing, she spends the first 9 minutes saying how bad marriage is, then the last 2 minutes says there are a couple perks and she recommends perusing marriage. This was terribly done, no helpful information or insights, unclear message, no offense to her I'm sure she is a nice lady but this was not worthy of a TED.

@JanacMeena

6 жыл бұрын

95TurboSol You totally missed the point. She's making the argument that even with those 9 minutes of bad parts, the 2 minutes of good parts makes it worth it

@SR-mv2mf

6 жыл бұрын

95TurboSol I think you don’t watch any other TED videos, I don’t think even TED is worthy of TED anymore.. 😂

@natashaschmidt6668

6 жыл бұрын

She was making the point that most people have misconceptions on what marriage actually is. People believe marriage is just happiness for ever. That it means not fighting, loving spending every moment together, that you will never have problems. The truth is, you will have all of those, but your attitude is important. If you are negative you can't be happy. Your attitude plays a huge role on how you perceive situations and thus affects your level of satisfaction. Obviously this does not apply in abusive situations as that's a bad situation no matter your attitude.

@allandonald6248

5 жыл бұрын

I was coming to write basically the exact same thing. I kept waiting, waiting, and waiting for some information. This is no different than someone telling me why the prefer a Chevy truck over Ford with no information. It just feels like it's all feelings, and no facts.

@WarrenByrdSpeak

5 жыл бұрын

95TurboSol it’s HUMOR: that’s all, class “A” irony, haute entertainment.

This woman is confused about why her marriage has lasted that long that shouldn't have, and she is confusing everyone listening to her. Bottom line is, she's rich. number 1 factor in any relationship going sour, any crime happening, any child abuse any homicide is poverty. it's easy to feel financially safe and then speculate about how your happiness is because of something you're doing right.

@G0rd0nHealth

8 жыл бұрын

+J Nielsen Tomer This sounds true

@Nathan-cw2hq

8 жыл бұрын

+J Nielsen Tomer Hindsight bias.

@kayannefernandes8245

6 жыл бұрын

best comment ever

@letsgetcancer7265

6 жыл бұрын

J Nielsen Tomer, when the money runs out, most women don't stick around.

@jigglycommi-5948

5 жыл бұрын

J Nielsen Tomer Thank you

As of this year, 45% - 50% of marriages end in divorce. So basically flip a coin on whether you and your significant other will still be together 5- 10 years after you marry. I don't like those odds. 53, never married,no kids. ME --->😁

@whisperingsage

3 жыл бұрын

It takes work. 16 years. married in our 40's. Second time around.

@huypham-wy2pn

2 жыл бұрын

wise man

Oh I love how she mixes humor to signify the fact that marriage is worthing pursuing and protecting. One of the best ted speakers.

@bH-tz6ow

4 жыл бұрын

Deng typo. I was about to sleep :p

MY girlfriend had 4 mental diagnosis. I did everything perfectly but got blamed for anything and everything. This talk is useless to me. If your partner does not appreciate and reciprocate. Nothing will save the relationship. Thanks for nothing.

@atticus319

5 жыл бұрын

Yup, no one is out there teaching men to have standards and boundaries. So men end up with quiet and desperate lives, becoming empty and apathetic

@vondahe

5 жыл бұрын

ACE Nick Well, marrying someone with a mental disorder is a bit of a gamble. Marrying someone with FOUR mental issues is a game that you can never win so don’t even try. Your life and love are not a charity.

@Rockoblocko

4 жыл бұрын

Let me guess. Anxiety, depression, bipolar and borderline personality disorder? Let me know if I'm right...

@Alex_Justified

4 жыл бұрын

@@Rockoblocko Spot on

@Bob-fz7pd

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Ace. We all make mistakes. Before you di€k your next girl make her take a psychological eval then go from there. Most guys marry a woman without so much as asking "does insanity or incest run in your family?" then get all victimey when things go bad. You wont know if you dont ask. Better luck next time.

My husband is without blemish. He's an absolute perfection and completion. He's righteous and holy. He's faithful and forgiving. He doesn't only say: "I'd die for you!", but has done it. He rose again!

@eliri412

7 жыл бұрын

How do you know he's faithful?

@Johanna040713

7 жыл бұрын

***** Yes, He's Jesus - the man of my life. Elisa Risconti, I know He's faithful because He's already done everything, including dying for me. If I fall in sin (am unfaithful to Him), He's always there to take me back if I come with a repentant heart. He's righteous and holy, He Himself is uncabable to sin.

@ligerllama

7 жыл бұрын

Could you tell your husband to stop freaking people out when they eat toast? Dude shows up everywhere.

I’m 44, never been married. Although in my 20’s I wanted to and have a family. It was how we did where I came from. Especially from a big Italian family. My parents divorced when I was a child. So I wanted to do it better then them. And grow old with someone like my great grandparents did. It was a different time then. All my friends my age woman and men are either divorced or miserable in a marriage. I also realized as I got older most of my friends parent and some of my family members were doing or feeling the same. I feel I’ve dodged a lot of headache not going down that path. I’ve had some great long term relationships and many many flings in between. For me that works best. I can’t imagine a lifelong commitment to someone now especially this day in age. If life was like the 80’s still maybe I’d give it a go.

@mattprimont6370

4 жыл бұрын

I am 45 and never married either. I am an only child and my parents been married 47 years. Older I get thr more difficult i find dating and relationships. Cannot imagine marriage.

@laylarahman11

Жыл бұрын

I am 24 and I don't even wanna think about marriage given the social media era and just how selfish and use-oriented people are.

I was incredibly surprised at how wonderful this Tedtalk was... but I had to listen to it in its entirety to appreciate the whole message.

I've been married for over 35 years. Especially after so many years, the benefits become clear, such as, breaking both my legs and he was there to care for me. I mean not only did he care for me, he lovingly cared for me.

@lawrencewiley3104

Жыл бұрын

❤️😍😊

Hey guys... Remember: Your pockets won't jingle if you don't stay single.

@Bob-fz7pd

4 жыл бұрын

My wife is responsible for our best investments during our 30 year marriage. We were talking about it the other day and she asked me 2 questions. 1) Should we sell one of the properties and 2) what kind of boat do i want. Do you guys exclusively date recent parolees?

@FlyingArtz.

4 жыл бұрын

Randy Fricke nuff said

@LOVE-of8iw

4 жыл бұрын

Stop stealing my last name.

@pablorages1241

4 жыл бұрын

it's actually the other way around .... single people are usually poorer than married people

@LikeToWatch77

4 жыл бұрын

@@pablorages1241 What is the causality behind that? Are they well off because they are married? Or are they married because they are well off? Regardless of which it is the single man is more likely to have money and time to spend on himself.

“As a pastor for over 20 years, I have come to the conclusion that most marriage problems are not really marriage problems. They are God problems. They can trace back to one or both people having a poor relationship with God or a faulty understanding of Him. An accurate picture of God is vital to a healthy marriage. It’s vital to everything.” - Francis Chan

She clearly has never been with a Narcissist

@DangerClose13E

4 жыл бұрын

She was the narcissist. Rocking those thigh high boots though!

@Almostyours

4 жыл бұрын

lemon lemon the whole presentation was for the presenter to obtain her narcissistic supply.

@Verifraudreports

3 жыл бұрын

clearly is a narcissist

We live in an over sexualized culture where partners dump each other easily for the selfish needs they have. Bad times exist but with many, they are not patient enough to endure that bad time and choose to run away instead.

@ashishtiwari1912

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly the way I feel.

@courtneykirk478

2 жыл бұрын

Reasonable statement.

@jandersen6802

2 жыл бұрын

You are a coward for bowing to societies pressure of getting married. Weak and codependent.

This has to be one of the least interesting Ted talks I've ever watched (and not because of the subject). The speaker doesn't bring any real information to bear on the subject; she merely performs a rehearsed comedy routine while walking the audience through the findings of singular, outlying studies. Real science is about verification through repetition, and the practice of holding one singular study's findings up as "science says that..." is corrosive not only to scientific endeavor but society as a whole. I think we need to make sure this type of performance finds no sure footing in the world of Ted talks.

@davidcrass4717

3 жыл бұрын

@Margaret McEvoy I am happily married to an INTP. (Not that it is any of your business.)

@whisperingsage

3 жыл бұрын

I got halfway through and it wasn't funny enough to keep me interested either.

@victoryobosi4641

3 жыл бұрын

There are different types of talks. I felt like she gave the fact and stats and allowed us make whatever we want out of it. Which I feel is better than telling us what to do cos no one really knows

@rutvin8763

3 жыл бұрын

@Margaret McEvoy As if MBTI has any credibility...

@rutvin8763

3 жыл бұрын

@@victoryobosi4641 What facts and stats? None of the benefits she describes require more than a 5-second Google search to figure out. This is a lazy talk that never even considers some of the major criticisms that've been levied against marriage. This video would fit right in with the bs on PragerU.

Where do I apply to get these 11 minutes back?

So you basically want me to sleep around, stay single & one day wake up all alone & old with zero chance of finding a decent man? Thanks for the great advice 🙄

@onepom63

4 жыл бұрын

Good comment!!

@gemmahill4767

4 жыл бұрын

Cheetah 6 take marriage out of the equation & she still basic wants people to sleep around, not stay in a committed relationship & the end result is always people ending up sad & lonely x

@YoBro-np7xt

4 жыл бұрын

Women have no morals, so they need someone to tell them what to do. Today's women don't want that. The last thing women want is a good man. They want an exciting man.

@gemmahill4767

4 жыл бұрын

Cheetah 6 so how have you come to that conclusion exactly?

@YoBro-np7xt

4 жыл бұрын

No, you're too old already. Just get a good maid job for a rich guy, develop excellent character, and then maybe he'll take good care of you.

I was married so I know everything about marriage. DO NOT DO IT!!!

@heycheckthisout2565

3 жыл бұрын

There's no reason to. If you love someone and want to be with them for the rest of your life, then just continue loving them and being with them for the rest of your life. There's no good reason to involve a contract with the government with it.

@tb3atz719

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Nick! Well said

@whisperingsage

3 жыл бұрын

Because you know every person in the world and you are the ultimate authority on relationships? Look up Mark Gungor's Marriage Seminar. It was much funnier and practical than this. I'm in my second marriage. First was Ok for a year, and then he got drinking and meth using and killed himself with two strokes from meth damage. I loved him but it took me many years to accept that he probably never loved me. He was Fetal Alcohol damaged. My second hubby is sweet and funny but a child, but I love him.

@minglee9288

3 жыл бұрын

@@heycheckthisout2565 my exact thoughts

@prestonnyoni8168

3 жыл бұрын

Okay God. Everything? Everything?

Hah! What a man should know about marriage is the approximate 50% divorce rate and that women file over 70% of divorces. That seems a bit low to me though since with just about every friend or coworker I've known who divorced, the woman initiated it. To me that means if I got divorced, chances are it wouldn't have been my choice. Then I'm out and being bankrupted by child support and legal bills until I start looking around for a nice high bridge to jump off. Nope! I looked at that situation and decided (17 years ago, back in 1997) that I wouldn't marry. And without marriage I paid off my first home in 11 years, bought a nice place on a half acre and I did it all on mechanic wages. My life is ultra low stress and there isn't a single line on my forehead even though I'm a few months short of 50. Staying single is just a better, lower stress, more prosperous, more stable, more peaceful way to live.

@CanadianMGTOW

10 жыл бұрын

Funny how no one mentions the divorce rate for a 2nd marriage is 73%

@jkirk1626

10 жыл бұрын

Women are illogical thus treacherous. If their feelings change, then their promises of honor become moot and irrelevant. Feminism has spoiled them - demanding equal rights, yet expecting different treatment: taking off months for a baby without professional consequence. Demanding complete control of their reproduction, yet when choosing to have babies, demanding that fathers pay. When choosing to kill their babies, demanding that fathers have no say. Believing that sitting on their asses doing nothing and contributing nothing entitles them to 1/2 their husbands' assets.

@Vention1MGTOW

10 жыл бұрын

jkirk1626 Well said! It should be no surprise that men (especially men who have assets) are becoming less and less willing to marry.

@CanadianMGTOW

10 жыл бұрын

Vention1MGTOW The smart ones anyway. The majority of them don't have any skin in the game.

@comkaosstime

10 жыл бұрын

I couldn't agree with you more I'm a 52 year old bachelor thank the gods I never got married marriage for men is most definitely a losing game

I look into the comments and I'm proud that the MGTOW movement is alive and well. Keep it up brothers.

@befrank4099

4 жыл бұрын

@J Sev who said anything about angry ? they simply put themselves first instead of second ( how can u possibly go wrong doing that ??) and gone on there own new journey ….. trust me there's very little anger for females once they have swopped that boring pension for two and got the yacht and bike instead.

@motti5747

4 жыл бұрын

Be a man! The only solution is MGTOW

@rickmorgan1441

4 жыл бұрын

@J Sev so 2 wrongs make a right then?

@onepom63

4 жыл бұрын

MGTOW is great best move I ever made, it’s not for everyone but it works for me.

@Tony-dh

4 жыл бұрын

J Sev i think he is actually really happier single.

I like her style, and with few words she points out obstacles that most of us will face sooner or later in our relation

a lot of people on here are bashing marriage and saying it's not necessary and it's torture. we are part of a generation that is very impulsive if they can't get exactly what they want they get upset and get divorced. I know someone who is one their 3rd divorce and their 21. I think marriage is important for society and there is a right way to do it without being totally hopeless. btw im single.

@s.stevens4520

9 жыл бұрын

Good for you! I agree!

@gary_beniford

9 жыл бұрын

Marcara081 it's not involuntary if both sides say yes to a marriage. if you are heterosexual like I am mainly talking about the state has little say in your marriage. sure the state gives tax breaks but the real reason for this is the state assumes you will have children and those children if raised right could be lucrative tax payers for the state in the future. I believe one of the purposes for marriage is to provide a sense of security to children if kids know their parents can leave each other at any time they will most certainly be stressed every time their parents fight which happens in every marriage.

@s.stevens4520

9 жыл бұрын

Monique Vee I can't understand you. Literally...your writing needs some help.

@keepcreationprocess

9 жыл бұрын

Valoria SaysSo Read it again, what is it that you do not understand ? Or have you never thought or married before ? Then of course you donot know.

@s.stevens4520

9 жыл бұрын

Monique Vee You said marriage is for "brave of heart," but then right after that you said married people are materialistic, so you're saying both positive and negative things about people who are married. Then you said if you are too independent or spiritual then marriage is too hard for you? You are contradicting yourself. Are you FOR marriage or AGAINST it?? I honestly cannot tell what you're saying. What about that bit about being ugly LoL Are you saying ugly people can't get married? LOL

This is a TedTalk? facepalm.

@thej1091

5 жыл бұрын

Ted x

@morganlowe3353

5 жыл бұрын

It’s the most self centered Ted talk I have ever heard.

@JuanRamosNCWrestling

5 жыл бұрын

SUPER stupid...

@madisampi2770

5 жыл бұрын

what you expect einstein?

@madeasimmons9746

5 жыл бұрын

LiberalTalk

Do not marry someone who takes a light-hearted TED talk seriously.

@bumblebee9337

4 жыл бұрын

@bla blahblah Selflessness is a highly sought commodity, regardless of gender.

Marriage: A mixture of bad tempers during the day and evil smells during the night.

@xwinglover

3 жыл бұрын

How accurate is this hahahaha