This is no further than the real truth. I was in a similar situation, l tried to hold on to my former husband because we had been married for over 15 years but l later realised that my marriage was over and he had actually moved on by moving out of our house to stay with the other woman. Trust me, it's not an easy situation, it tears you apart mentally and emotionally. It drains you and stresses you and you start having health issues, you lose focus on a lot of things, it becomes hard to pray, you start having a heavy heart but praise be to God, by His grace l have recovered and have in my heart forgiven all of them for betraying me and l feel free and at peace, waiting on God as l finally walk in the path of my God given destiny. My life with my kids is in the safe hands of God.🙏

@nellykamankura9256

2 жыл бұрын

Am sorry Abt this.You are strong,you are beautiful.You will definitely make it.

@therealone8628

2 жыл бұрын

My sister. It's really hard but God dey

@lizmuhia2415

Жыл бұрын

It really hurts

@mercykimiti1684

Жыл бұрын

It's really painful

@carolkami.671

Жыл бұрын

Wow Gloria, this sounds just like my case... time is a healer and with God all things are possible...we need to link up and share our experiences.

If am not your primary goal let it be...i was not born to be someone's second option, I wasn't born to destroy another woman's marriage or build a home on other woman's tears...am a woman enough to have my own "omuhusband "..i only need three things from a man that's love, trust and loyalty and I don't think if I can find them in someone's husband👌

@aminaa1115

2 жыл бұрын

You said it my dia thanks alot for this comment repeat again my ex married another woman after he chassed me out of his house with a one week baby l felt like hunging my self but my friend and family advised me alot it's 11yrs ago .l am single until know l can't take somebody's husband

@celebrityupdatezone2390

2 жыл бұрын

@@aminaa1115 what!!and what hapend to that husband

@patrachep4284

Жыл бұрын

By this you have said it all

It's better to remain single than to be married as a second wife. Mtaka yote hukosa yote .Msiba wa kujitakia hauna kilio..Choose wisely 😌 😉 👌 😏 💯

People who married for love will never be ok with sharing their spouse. Those that remain ok probably married for other reasons eg if you married him for his money and he brings in a second wife, you will still be ok as long as he is still giving you money. However, equating your worth to money is sickness in itself...you need help and you are not mentally well.

@emmaatieno7057

3 жыл бұрын

Funny how everything is wrong with the woman and not the man who went and fornicated outside then bringing in the second wife

@celebrityupdatezone2390

2 жыл бұрын

True love is jelous

@nomfundomasuku2443

Жыл бұрын

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤

Thanks Benjamin! Most of the ladies are suffering cause they don’t know their rights!

Who is he to deserve 2 women👏👏👏thankyou zulu

@janekagure8807

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@paulinewairimu2770

2 жыл бұрын

Thankyu

He married a second wife and now am single mother of 2 hiyo stress siwezani

@shirokiarie5187

3 жыл бұрын

hugs.

@likunda1967

3 жыл бұрын

Tuko pamoja

@rispathequeen

3 жыл бұрын

Kweli kabisa

@tinachristine4573

3 жыл бұрын

Your wisdom is unparalleled.

@paulinengundo3582

3 жыл бұрын

Hugs darling. You're better of happy

It's never too late to change any situation.. things become clear and you become wiser.. wooow

Amira should come here and make a wise step good for her though

Thank you Benjamin. I wish knew this before. You are the wisest man of this time. I'm encouraged

Benjamin you're God sent! May the Good Lord protect you and shower 🚿 your destiny abundant blessings 🙌

This rubbish being a second wife please ladies use your common sense

@innimonitiki9946

3 жыл бұрын

@@nancyschmeer124 unfortunately!🤔

@sheilavienna9417

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely,,,they are just homewrekers

This man oozes wisdom

@yollotreats

4 ай бұрын

The best part is he does it with humor!

Just because polygamy has been endorsed by traditional cultures, and some religions doesn't make it right! Majority of women just settle but inside they are dying because of the betrayal. Any thing that violates one's dignity and rights is wrong. Its about time we evolve, change our mind set and drop cultures which are Deming.

@homesteadingwiththeangafam2158

3 жыл бұрын

True, change those disgusting cultures. Maybe women should also rise and fight oppressive cultures that were put in place by selfish, uncivilised men. We women should set the standard on how to be treated. It's a new era.

@MeniezMziki

3 жыл бұрын

Amen!! You have spoken well.

@innimonitiki9946

3 жыл бұрын

@@homesteadingwiththeangafam2158 like deciding not to be a second wife come what may. My dignity, my choice!

@losetheweightwithme.3234

3 жыл бұрын

🙌🙌🙌

Benjamin you are the most blessed man on Earth. You are a brilliant human being . May God continue to give you more knowledge so you continue to share it out . I once knew of a beautiful single lady who approached married men with aim of destroying their marriages but ended miserable- 😖

@mercynjeri8415

2 жыл бұрын

A balanced conversation full of reality. Benjamin you are impacting us in a great way. May you be blessed with more Wisdom.

This Zulu man is full of wisdom..ur right when they feel that ur a half of a human being,let them leave,u can't jz be too insane to build an empire for people to come and destroy it in jz a blink!!!

Oh may God bless you for being a voice to the voiceless.

8:50 hits right.. Woman love yourself and send him back to the street, that's where he belong's 💪🏾

I love your knowledge Benjamin Zulu. Kindly I will like to join your show when am back in Kenya.

Wauuu u pipo, u always make my day thax alot

Many ladies love pretending that they are so strong when it comes to this issue na usiku magizani pillow inajaa machozi daily na many Whys na bitterness. It will never be an okay thing to accomodate a second wife or to be one. Hadi wanawake ndio wanazeeka as the men flourish.

@janet5679

3 жыл бұрын

Say lt again dear

@susanjosiah1001

3 жыл бұрын

Its àll abòut pretense!!!!!the bitterness mmmmm

This is very helpful 👌👌👍👌 I have learnt alot

Perfect timing for me. Thanks so much for this

Thanks again and again #Benjah have learnt alot🙏🙏🙏🙏

Hitting the nail on the head 👏👏👏👏👏

Next time talk to us about men who have permanent relationships with other women.

Since l start following ur counselling sessions l feel strong .l wish l could learn all ur wise teaching l could not mess with my life end up living in pain ad regrets.

@ndivhuwomulaudzi4118

3 жыл бұрын

Oh how I wish, Love is a simple thing we complecate it.

@rispathequeen

3 жыл бұрын

@@ndivhuwomulaudzi4118 very true

This is true, mental health n peace of mind is important. Women your happiness matters , preserve your wellbeing!

@tabithambutha2510

2 жыл бұрын

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Thank you, this is so liberating and powerful.

Much love from Uganda 🇺🇬

Following as usual and tapping from your wisdom!

@karungineisherreyes5101

3 жыл бұрын

I wish I knew this show before I got married.

@mollymaina4973

3 жыл бұрын

@@karungineisherreyes5101 me too ☺️

I like this conversation. Thank you very much . I learned from it.

Thanks Zulu this is what I needed

Lots of wisdom,God sends us people to speak to us.

@adelynmakoni895

2 жыл бұрын

All the time

@celestineshamala1593

Жыл бұрын

Indeed

Perfect said,, powerful teachings 💕🇶🇦🇰🇪🙏🙏

Gentlemen, gentlemen, gentlemen I wish I had this 15 years ago. Am becoming wiser day by day.

Thank you benjamin & Bramwel

Thank you thank you Zulu your wisdom is on another level

Have learnt a lot from you two.Thanks

Thank you zulu , you're God sent ,this wisdom is gonna change millions of people.

@beatricenjeri8502

3 жыл бұрын

True

You nailed it! Very good!

🔥🔥🔥🔥Wish I met you before but still your on point

This a powerful message, Thank you sir

I like this. Be blessed Zulu.

This is a great fact indeed! Thanks for sharing the information

Banjamin your just perfect I love you so much you have made my day mwàaa

How many of us have learnt something

@apostlejanegracegidraph2054

3 жыл бұрын

Wow

One man one wife that's it

@janekagure8807

3 жыл бұрын

Wewee

Kwisha Zulu amemaliza🙌🙌🙌🙌💥💥

Wow,too much wisdom 💯💯

Omg this is my situation now what a timely advice 😱😱😱😱

@adelynmakoni895

2 жыл бұрын

How are you coping ☹️

@mercykimiti1684

Жыл бұрын

Cethy cherono come here we need you

@cynthialukaya2014

2 ай бұрын

My situation now 2024

Am always proud of you zulu my God bless you always

I love it. Let him walk out

Well said Zulu..a woman is complete no need another add on...either way no sharing for me period. God is jealous and I'm his child..I refuse to share..period.

I salute you Benjamin...you are really helping someone

@dorahmalemba5349

Жыл бұрын

Eee

Second wife isn't my portion

@motanyasgal2329

3 жыл бұрын

Amen

@fortisprimephysiotherapy7688

3 жыл бұрын

Amen

@binti_jannet

2 жыл бұрын

Amen

A half combined with another half to be full and enough for another one. 😂😂😂😂my night is made.

@tinachristine4573

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 but isn't that accurate? Mtu anaita two women half women and gets away with it 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Show ya Lynne ngugi with the two happily married women 🤣😅

love is whole cannot be divided in portions of different measurements of any dimensions

Thanks Mr.Zulu and Mr.Bramwel...Great message to be embraced....keep up the good Job...we will be soon at 100 subscribers#forward ever backward never!May God bless you all🙏

@atienohellen5429

3 жыл бұрын

Man Zuiu great for the wIsdom. You have awaken many.

Cool suit, mwalimu Zulu.

Benjamin you're so wise. Women should never walk out. Let the cheater go in peace.

@sylviaachieng7299

3 жыл бұрын

But some will throw u out

@FamousBerry139

3 жыл бұрын

The cheater will not go, it's you who's suffering to move out of toxic life

@therealone8628

2 жыл бұрын

Lol in Africa? My sister find your way out to new found peace of escaping toxicity

Thank you so much, Zulu that good advice

Just what I wanted am glad I watch this I really needed this because am in the same situation

You're right Zulu,had think of the song too as entertainment at the same time is passing/ encouraging bad behavior in the society.

Wow God bless you. Mr Benjamin. I have been married for 28year plus. My husband married another woman two years ago and kept it away from me. But I later find out He wants me out of the house 🏠 But I told him the house belongs to me and my children. He was surprised. And I told him i will never divorce him too.

@judithkamau9951

2 жыл бұрын

@Ajoke Tia good for you dear, be strong for your children

@tumubwineruthrubogo3364

Жыл бұрын

If u want divorce I give it to u. As long as he asks for it, yo no longer anybody to him, I give u peace.... N try n learn to move on n b happy

Learning alot from your video

This talk has impacted on me

Wisdom shared, Zulu and Bramwel 👏👏👏

Your an angel to save our lives

SECOND OPTION NOOO.TAKING OTHER WOMAN HUSBAND NOOO.FIND YOUR MAN NOT OTHERS MAN.

I💪💪💪💪💪💪 this man never dissapoint

Thumbs up for the wise man Mr Zulu

50/50 divorce, Women, understand common law and use it.

Thanks for sharing

Life does not go backwards

Roles of husband Vs father are not mutually exclusive. There's no way a man is a poor father and a good husband or vice versa. Being a good father/husband is a choice not a favour.

Compatability is key here

God bless you zuru

Thanks Zulu...

Wow 🥺 who his he to have 2women wiseman l love this Benjamin

Thanks Sir,

Timely advise for Alfred Mutua and Lilian

Thank you for sharing.those with ears have heard.

People who say they don't care with what the other is doing it's a lie his actions will hunt u slowly

@ndivhuwomulaudzi4118

3 жыл бұрын

My friend said she's accepted the situation and now in hospital in a mental state. There's no such ladies let's be honest 🙏

@therealone8628

2 жыл бұрын

@@ndivhuwomulaudzi4118 lol ooo

O YES! Pack Out 👍👍👍

If he Marry second wife unajitoa , unatokomea, unapotea, unakimbia, unatoroka, unamwacha for good.

@rispathequeen

3 жыл бұрын

Kabisa

@tinachristine4573

3 жыл бұрын

Unaishia kabisa. I once wet to a man's place unannounced when we were dating and met another lady there in lingerie in his sitting room. Tulisalimiana kama mabeste nikawaaga nikatoroka, nikakimbia, nikapotea, nikatokomea, nikadelete number and blocked all calls. Ain't nobody got time for such mess.

@feldonowaga9909

3 жыл бұрын

Na watoto wanaenda wapi

@FamousBerry139

3 жыл бұрын

Naenda na watoto

@beverlynemokaya8056

3 жыл бұрын

@@tinachristine4573 way to go.No time for bullshit.

Your just an object of his lust well said,Sir

Zulu is wise

More volume please Mr Zulu

His other woman told me exactly like you said 😭Ati I should get used to that 🥺🥺

Thank you

collaborating thieves hehehehe

Thank you.

Collaborating thieves🤣🤣🤣🤣

Zuchu song 🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️

🤣🤣🤣You and her are collaborating thieves, you’re United partners in crime. 🤣🤣🤣

@elizabethmlambo6765

2 жыл бұрын

That's deep sister hmmm

@nancyosaka6473

Жыл бұрын

😂😂 too deep indeed

Manythanks

Hey 👋 I am a 20 year old from 🇺🇸 I love these sit downs so my proposal is can you please also speak about religious aspects in polygamy? I know there is a lot to unpack there as well but I am curious on what thoughts are on this topic Benjamin 🥺

@TREASUREZION8

3 жыл бұрын

Bible is Clear 2 Cor.6:14 Never yoke with unbeliever " Amos.3 & Gen 2. Man shall leave his father & mother you cleave together become one. Marriage is for a Male & A female "No Polygamy" God hates Fornication 1 Cor.6:18

@elocalupdates7905

2 жыл бұрын

You are in the best country when it comes to law,,my opinion, if any one is interested in marring you,get him know your wish,,go to an attorney,Pu it in writing and bind it by law... because religious wise we differ.fir us Christians,Gid stands with you in monogamy,but with Muslims you are allowed more..he may you h religion and spark unnecessary conversation around faiths..my opinion though

Benjamin Zulu, I would like to hear a discussion on whether it is good for a spouse to have a friend of the opposite sex. What are the dangers and benefits of such relationships.

@dnwanja

3 жыл бұрын

He has discussed it with Mwikali. Full circle.

@Day537

3 жыл бұрын

Thanx. I will check it out👍👍

@jkndungu5071

Жыл бұрын

Keep of the so called close friend, you will regret later