WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

@texuztweety

Жыл бұрын

Good to know! You may want to repeat this comment on all your videos, the predators and endless and target women particularly

@louiseelizabeth9613

Жыл бұрын

Please please please don't ever have this guy on your show again!

@patricetrotter

Жыл бұрын

@@louiseelizabeth9613 he good I follow him on KZread for a year now

@umsrum

Жыл бұрын

I think for women masturbation affects us differently than men. I also know that a lot of women can simply use their imagination instead of porn. Masturbation doesn't lead to women needing less sex .

@queenfudge9171

Жыл бұрын

Me

My father told me,"You show a man how to treat you. If you want love and respect, give those things to yourself first."

@javireyes7333

Жыл бұрын

This is what I hate about most men. You need to teach them how to behave and respect women and boundaries. Which they already know how to deal with a round other men.

@cathyjennings5580

Жыл бұрын

Men show are SHALLOW in general. Joking & Teasing, boasting about his grand achievements, experiences that generally are not impressive to her or to girls . Men whom boast Proud he had a great deal of money 💰 he inherited from his dad's side of the family. He did NOT MAKE, EARN IT. He blows it at casinos, , lottery tickets to 🏆 win. Not WORK FOR THE MONEY. NOT marriage materials, skills, behaviors, etc. He is a man whore character. He is easy. He is obsessed with the idea of getting sympathy to get cuddling leading to sex. Sneaky. Sleazoid, trickster, devious, jokester, mean, unkind fun. He tries to convince the woman he wants to dress her in sleazy degrading sexy clothing. He offers to buy her Clothes, he wants to SEE her wear for his eyes, & get her to display, flaunt her body parts. She s uncomfortable. Knows it is degrading her as a GOOD RIGHTEOUS, DECENT, Modest, SENSIBLE MINDED Christian minded woman. Jesus christ would not approve. Keep sensibly COVERED for COMFORT, & SELF-RESPECTING VALUE. PROTECTION. SEE the woman as a high VALUES PERSON, HUMAN BEING.! She is NOT INTERESTED in romance with a man She is NOT ATTRACTED TO Physically. He is too Egomaniac Egotiscal , Stuck on himself, about himself, boasting, & crying for sympathy: his back & knees hurt. He wants back massages. He offers to pay for things for her & other people. Then, he cries about spending that money. Or putting or using his credit card. He has a credit debt.(That's NOT the Woman's problem.) He offers. He ought to shut UP. 🙄. He's trying to BUY her loving attention, affection for his gifts. No NO NO kissing or hugs. Shakehands is safest. Yet, sometimes a woman does NOT desire to touch his SKIN. Too Risky. He thinks she likes me!! He tells himself LIES. SeX is off the table. Big STOP. BACK OFF!!! DISRESPECTING her wishes. BACK OFF, BACK DOWN USER. COMMUNICATION. ASK HER. BE PREPARED TO BE TURNED DOWN, rejected. Get over it. Act like a SENSIBLE MATURE REAL MAN . SERIOUSLY. Get real. She is NOT Interested in fluff sex. No fun irresponsible harmful sex. She s NOT putting OUT for his DOPAMINE, OXYTOCIN HIGH RUSH for orgasmas 30 seconds High. Not healthy. Not desired. She wants a PLATONIC FRIENDS , buddy, pals,. Safest relationships. Stop pursuing her with intentions to get & take what HE wants to do to her body. For his advantage. Rude behavior. Crude thinking & planning fantasizing. Is harmful to her. & other girls, & women. Back Off man.

@cathyjennings5580

Жыл бұрын

Smooth talking charmer. Red Flag. She must say back off !! She is NOT Willing, NOT interested .

@kaybase6967

Жыл бұрын

@@javireyes7333this is biology. Men and women are different. Life is about learning and how to relate to people. Sorry but the cold hard truth and REALITY is that people need to stop with the “poor me” mentality. Get with the program because SUCH IS LIFE. You either sink or swim. It might be hard to believe but this is the way it has been since time immemorial. People can either take the advice or just continue doing things the opposite way that doesn’t work. Again, men and women are completely different. Men do not think and feel like women do and vice versa. Sadly, women have been guided to expect men to be a certain way and if men don’t meet those expectations, they are the ones in the wrong. Women think giving sex will make a man fall in love, when that just isn’t the case. On the same note, not many women would like a man to be soft and sensitive like they are. Most women want a MAN, whether they will admit it or not, but to be in a relationship you have to earn respect and have respect for yourself. I hope I made sense 😅.

@kaybase6967

Жыл бұрын

@denisedean2446 your father was completely right.

So Ive taken a few notes of this vid: 1. Trust yourself, trust your intuition, if it screams no, dont ignore it. 2. Dont have sex if youre one to wait, dont let yourself be pushed around. If he hooks off on that, its not your fault. You know what he wanted and its not you. 3. Keep expectations low, preferably none. Just enjoy the date(s)/time with each other. 4. Keep the (first) dates cheap so that you can focus on each other instead of what they can bring to the table. Youll avoiding falling for the wrong thing. 5. Women need that connection to be able to have sex. Men need sex to have that connection. 6. Difference between men who are interested in you and men who are only out for sex is mainly effort, respect and time. 7. Just be yourself, the right guy will find you and wrong one will flip off faster than a lightning bolt. 8. Date the guy before you, not his potential. Hope these notes will help someone :) Edit: added nr 8. Yes, its kinda messy now but theyre notes not a summary (it kinda turned out like a summary though lol)

@alomalashley1185

Жыл бұрын

Thank you⚘

@PrakaidaoManoratsakul

Жыл бұрын

Thanks

@69yellowcorvette

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! 😊 many blessings

@judyo7

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! ❤

@hawaiigirl8089

Жыл бұрын

What in the world is “hooking off” never heard of such

My father always told me. Don’t worry to much about if the man has no money. Focus and pay attention that he likes to work because live alone won’t pay the bills. Also let the man make 75% of initiative. Let him move the relationship forward. Don’t give him free sex to a man who’s not committed to you. A man can’t come and enjoy free sex when he’s not committed or is not husband. Always value yourself and respect yourself so that he can respect you back. A man will fall in love with your good morals. Thank You Dad for all your great advice ❤️❤️

@Truu5StarLifeDriver

2 ай бұрын

🙏🏾Great Advice Dad

@ghostth3whip244

26 күн бұрын

This is why I only seriously date women with good relationships with their dads.

My first husband ( who died when we were married) kissed me on the forehead on our first date. We had a great time prior to that and that chaste kiss was about the coolest thing he could do. He waited till the next day to leave a silly note at my door to ask for another date. We had a good marriage till the day he died, 9 years 9 months later. On that date, I kissed him on the cheek .

@nomvuyothembykobus7867

10 ай бұрын

May he rest in peace.

@ritatolbert6395

10 ай бұрын

I had a man kiss on forehead

@annajustice7620

10 ай бұрын

so sorry for your loss.

@cheryljohnson380

10 ай бұрын

Beautiful story. So sorry for your loss. 😢

@Leeohlin89

9 ай бұрын

You got to experience a love most won’t. It’s a blessing you did and he as well. 💙

The gem for me was:Don't stay in situations that you know have no future. Being alone is not ideal. However, being/staying in a bad relationship is much worse.

@hawaiigirl8089

Жыл бұрын

Being alone is Peaceful bliss

@alicia_nicole

Жыл бұрын

💎

@donnaagar5491

10 ай бұрын

So true 👍

@hershekissed

10 ай бұрын

Being alone is ideal? Tf? I haven’t watched yet, but alone is the best! If you have your own money and life of course😂

@trinitygillings5380

9 ай бұрын

Amen to this......

Once women stop worrying and thinking about what men want, and concentrate on what they want, the things will start to fall into their place. Till then, it will be a constant war

@dama_shares

Жыл бұрын

Right on!

@MariusFarstad-gz3mh

11 ай бұрын

So true

@MariusFarstad-gz3mh

11 ай бұрын

But instinctively a man whould want sex instantly, but There should be a middle ground then Mutually assured destruction

@samgraham7705

9 ай бұрын

Totally agree

@jelizabethpetrie6656

8 ай бұрын

@@MariusFarstad-gz3mh To me, a great ‘vetting’ first date is visiting a farmer’s market & a coffee or lunch is a low key no pressure first date. Don’t think a girl needs to be razzled dazzled first off. It’s more authentic 🎉

Under no circumstance should you have sex on the first date. You don’t know him and he doesn’t know you. Think of your body as a literal sacred place (because it is) not just anyone should be allowed to enter. Self love ladies ❤

@Faith459

Жыл бұрын

💗

@venessawalker8431

Жыл бұрын

🥰

@mc-eo1wh

11 ай бұрын

Never have sex before marriage. Period. I'm telling you this as a man myself. The moment you give us men husband benefits outside wedlock you become our play toy ! So ladies carry yourself with dignity and keep yourself sacred and focus on self growth financially and personality wise gracefully with maturity and sensibility. Don't be vain and don't be filled with vanity and flashy with anything about you.

@thinahlishaka6924

10 ай бұрын

ll

@estherbosbach377

10 ай бұрын

@@mc-eo1wh such nonsense. men use 'virgin' woman as much as a plaything, bc she cannot compare and men can hide they are lacking care. ladies, your temple can have a little fun before it gets more serious. loosen up, that's more healthy for everyone's emotional system instead of living in de 19 hunderds.

Gem: If a man is truly interested, he is cautious regarding sexual activity.

It's crazy that a man would judge a woman for having sex on the 1st date when hes doing the exact same thing

@thepurplequeen256

Жыл бұрын

But in his head he is a man and it doesnt apply to him. You see how patriarchy makes them dumb? 🙄

@KaliPuppies

Жыл бұрын

Stephan just explained clearly in this video how men and women are viewed differently as regards their sexual behaviour.

@mcdowellt34

Жыл бұрын

@@KaliPuppies whats your point?

@lexxie225

Жыл бұрын

@@mcdowellt34 it’s crazy because we as woman don’t view it the same. Though I do not agree with it, as you probably know It’s much more difficult for a man to have one sexual encounter casually let alone multiple. It’s like getting rich, you usually redirect someone more who’s worked for it. This is why many women can see past a man’s high body count but men cannot do the same. It takes effort for most men to get which means they did something “right”, a woman can be a bitch and still get sex no problem (but that’s men’s fault since they’ll fuck anything) and that’s due to their brain. The more she’s know to sleep around the less respects she’ll because she’s not restraining herself, she’s not viewed as valuing, protecting her own temple so why should he? I’m not saying I agree but that’s essentially how they view it

@mcdowellt34

Жыл бұрын

@@lexxie225 I'm not going for that anymore I'm holding men accountable! They lack self control and that's pathetic! Men get away with way to much. They suppose to be leaders but lack everything it takes to be a leader.

If you know she's not The one but can't communicate that, then ...be nice enough not to have sex.

@auroraxxfacekilla49

Жыл бұрын

EXACTLY!!! THANK YOU 🙌🙌🙌🙌

@stephanie_allen

Жыл бұрын

🤣 you would think!!

@smeadows6286

Жыл бұрын

I couldn't agree more. That's so heartless to just use someone up like a rag.

@LoriJSykes

Жыл бұрын

He makes wayyy too many excuses for these grown a**, degenerate boy men.

@hawaiigirl8089

Жыл бұрын

He is giving excuses for men. All these scenarios are lose lose

A guy would really be patient and respectful when he's serious in pursuing you.

I can attest to what he said “the thought of her crying makes him hestiant” and each time my ex husband broke up with my in DATING he changed his mind and stayed with me and ended up divorcing me because he “never loved me the way a husband should love a wife” So this is very true! When he tells you something hurtful or hard please believe him & save yourself heartache.

@ivonned32

Ай бұрын

Exactly. Men usually dont use double meanings on their sentences. Specially when it cones to not wanting to be with you anymore. Believe them!

My story: I was with in a serious relationship with a guy that agreed to wait. AFTER over a year, I began to understand why he was so comfortable and quickly accepted waiting on having sex. He was a gentleman and chivalrous. He said I love you and I'm in love with you but I began noticing different things in his behavior. I asked him different questions about his sexuality to which he denied, but then said the burden of proof is not on him. I found out later that he was sleeping with men, DL and I was a cover girl for him. I'm so glad we never had sex. We women now have to really watch and be so careful on top of everything else. It has left me so shaken, doubtful and fearful.

@jumokeonifade85

Жыл бұрын

This has always been my biggest fear, God help and protect us all

@susanparker9877

Жыл бұрын

You were on the ball to catch that woman!

@LarennPBel

Жыл бұрын

I’m glad u figured it out n ur safe.

@biancacherry7059

Жыл бұрын

MJ Harris has always said it’s a sign of a DL guy if he says he’ll wait for marriage and not marry you in six months. I have a male friend so scary how many ‘straight men’ he’s been with that have girlfriends (live in as well). Stay safe ladies

@gingerhoney4031

Жыл бұрын

Omg

Thank God for these conversations now for young women. I’m 58 and lived through a lot of sexual trauma and poor boundaries. It wasn’t until 6-7 years ago that I realized my worth and now have a man that respects me. I wish discussions like this had been available when I was much younger and feeling worthless. Thank you for helping women to realize their worth ♥️🙏

@nolamitchell3882

Жыл бұрын

I agree with all the ladies' input/comments above. Men should check why Iadies often mistrust men and why, why we women get involved in used relationships while men are take the lead in using us ladies for selfish gains sexually and/phommie love. I beg to enquire if a man found out that his own daughter was dating just for sex, would he not feel insulted or bitter against any man who used say.. his Daughter's body for his part-time sex craving. Some men are simply eithrr insane or totally abusive/disgustin

@Wonderwoman79G

Жыл бұрын

I am sorry for what happened to you.I hope you got support and therapy for your trauma.

@justjules6975

Жыл бұрын

@@Wonderwoman79G Thank you I have over the years but there’s still a lot to unpack and mental health care has become a joke these past few years. Thank you so much for caring xx♥️♥️♥️

@Wandertheworldwithme

Жыл бұрын

♥️💕 🙏

@glamgodess9643

Жыл бұрын

Don’t be too hard on yourself, someone says the teacher arrives when the student is ready. I also realised that when I was not gonna listen to his advice this time last year, but now, we are ready!

I asked God to increase spiritual discernment in my life...and this is how he answered through this message Thank you. The blessings of God on your ministry in Jesus name 🙏🏿 🙌🏾

@jewelniles4041

8 ай бұрын

Did you thank God for being able to or wanting to SIN???🤨 Men are supposed to be the HEAD(his head is THE MOST HIGH) if you have to tell a man to hold out for marriage because FORNICATION IS A SIN!! (APOCALYPSE OF PAUL: fornicator was hung by their loins in that place of FIRE) WHAT TYPE OF LEADER IS THAT.. HE SHOULD BE MAINTAINING RIGHTEOUSNESS!!! celibacy IS RIGHTEOUS as The Most High says to do...

@BagznBirdz

Ай бұрын

@@jewelniles4041 aawww a bit of fornication might get you in a better mood, too.

I'm SO GLAD I listened to this entire thing INSTEAD of reading the comments of people who "took notes" or "made key bullet points". I received SO many answers in this video that those comments don't even touch on.

Thank you Lisa for having this topic discussed. My opinion is that women have more to lose after a sex experience. Before I found my husband, I went on so many dates with men who just wanted sex. Some men even tried to get me to drink more so that I could go home with them. I’m not a play toy, I’m a woman with dignity and self respect. I’ve had men call me a prude because I didn’t want to have sex. Shockingly, a couple men even wanted to pimp me out on 2 separate occasions. I experienced so much manipulation and trauma from dating. I was naive and didn’t have a mother who taught me things and my dad died when I was a kid, I was a lost puppy and men took advantage of that. I went to therapy and changed my vibration and started attracting high value men and found my husband who I have been with for 8 years. I’m so glad this is talked about.

@Magicisreal66

Жыл бұрын

Hey girl you keep on saying men- I'm not sure why you're saying man the patriarchal taught them to be as far away from being a real man is f****** possible, that's why there's hardly any real man out there- no if this truth is told the way it should be a real woman that wouldn't have a problem trying to understand you just keep away from giant maggots with appendages because that's exactly what they are at the end of the day nothing more nothing less- I mean if you're trying to get their wallet that's fine just manipulate them to give you all the goodies and give them nothing back in return except for the wishful thinking that they had in the beginning- in other words we play them since that's all there is to do with an indoctrinated human male.

@vickih1982

Жыл бұрын

I have had a man try that pimping me out to his friends and asked him if he and his buddies had a bet goin on about me?? Of course, he lied and said no, he was just joking around! I would like to see a good teaching on why men try this game on women. I never understood why they do that

@Magicisreal66

Жыл бұрын

@@vickih1982 because they were indoctrinated to be depraved in almost every form and fashion in the realm of life- and they've gotten loopholes a plethora of them for whatever bad behavior that they would exhibit, that's why- the patriarchical Regine should have been burned alive on the day of their induction, and this world would have looked completely -it would have been peaceful and Harmony would ensued- instead of the human cesspool/ septic tank it has become- and they are MOST DEFINITELY responsible for every single bit of it!. And b t w, hiding this comment is the only way anybody can see my post. They don't like when I speak the truth about the patriarchal run world "IS AND EVERYTHING ITS RESPONSIBLE FOR "

@kimberly0717

Жыл бұрын

Wow! It sounds like they recognized your naïveté and weaknesses and preyed on them . The GREAT thing is you recognized your value even before working it all out in therapy and was smart enough to not go against your values and that’s to be congratulated!!!

@heide-raquelfuss5580

Жыл бұрын

@@vickih1982 It is like a man hunts an animal down and shares his hunt with the other comrads!

I think a lot of men just like the thrill of the chase. Full stop. Then once he’s “got it” he’s off. It’s just confirming and feeding his ego that he can get anything he wants.

@elisa.r.

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@redleeks6253

Жыл бұрын

He described a cycle of abuse so casually and even made men like the rational ones who came forward with everything and then changed their mind. How's the woman suppose to know if the guy is pursuing her ,declaring his love, doing everything and then...he changes his mind. Then he says the man starts pulling away because he realizes you're not a match. Wow he didn't realize you're not a match during the dating period? Or he just started to evaluate if you were a right fit after having sex and the novelty isn't there anymore? Sam Vaknin says that narcissists take a "snapshot" of their romantic interest and get stuck to it. When the person shows to be someone be more than the snapshot the narcissist feels conflicted and the devaluation starts. I know men putting end to relationships in the first month (before sex). Or sex was just what they wanted and didnt feel like keep on waiting or realized that the relationship didnt have future and decided to end it (with words) before putting the woman to sleep with him. We're talking abou men, not teenagers. They know what they want and the "wife material" will be decided according to his first level of attraction. She could be totally unfit but he will still marry her because hes getting a lot of validation for being with that woman

@karenlindley.9756

Жыл бұрын

@@redleeks6253 wow spot on!! Exactly. See you e dated some of the guys I did! Haha. As Freud said….men want a woman who will be like a mother to them….wash their clothes, get their meals ready etc…..,but have sex with them. It’s their ego. It constantly needs massaging!

@lynlinglang2981

Жыл бұрын

That part

@destinixshakur

Жыл бұрын

Yep

The great connection he talks about is for people who grew up in healthy, loving families and have secure attachment style. For those, who haven't - they feel the connection to the wrong thing. We should be aware of that

I agree with you guys!! Love can happen really fast!! Just like when you’re shopping for a home!! When you step into that home or area, it just feels like home!! Everything falls into place!! You may eventually discover flaws and imperfections, but it’s usually something that you can deal with. It just feels right!!!❤❤❤

@eclecticd9953

10 ай бұрын

I like this

@gypsywoman9140

4 ай бұрын

Yes! A few months ago I was going through a bit of midlife crisis. It wasn't as bad as it had been around my 40th birthday and the months following, but I was still going through it, though, and was beginning to heal by deciding to lean into my femininity (something I hadn't realized I'd sort of lost until my midlife crisis. Nearly a decade of being a single parent with the father pulling "That kid ain't mine!" So I'm doing it all solo and had to provide the masculine energy as well.) At any rate, around this point of learning to be more selfish and feminine, a ridiculously handsome single dad friend of mine started coming around more with his adorable daughter. I had Friend Zoned myself with this dude as I'd met him shortly before my 40th birthday and thought he was 24-26 years old. Too young! For over a year I thought this until he confided that he, too, has struggled with getting older and revealed he's actually in his 30's. (He'd also told me "Age is just a number" when I talked about my own midlife crisis. 40, single mom, too many cats...living trope.) He also commented on my decor the first time he entered my home "So you like pink, huh?" (It's only gotten more pink since) and said he could use a woman's touch around his home and with his daughter; her mom is barely in the picture by her own choice. That little girl has had a hold on me from through moment I first set eyes on her. One of those toddlers where most women stop dead in their tracks "Oh. My. God!" when you first see her. Just wanna dress her up like a little princess and spoil the crap out of. The feeling has only grown since getting to know her and watching her grow from a 2 year old into a tiny little person who expresses herself over the past year and a bit. Hearing that she's in need of a more maternal figure broke my heart; she's so precious. Then he asked for my help around the place, saying he could use some help painting and stuff. He offered to pay, but I don't want to take his money when I know he's not much better off financially than I am. I'm just happy to help with things that I'm good at and also it's more rewarding doing these things for a friend than it is to clean my own home that I clean all the time. Initially, he was going to just paint his walls white, but the more time I spent with him in his home cleaning and talking, I noticed he is not a white walls guy and told him so. One day while cleaning his kitchen, a comment he made while holding something he'd foraged from the woods made me realize he needs the outdoors brought indoors "That's it! An enchanted fairy forest vibe is just perfect for you and Daughter!" As we've been spending more time together painting his walls forest green, I didn't notice myself doing something with someone I haven't done in a long time...actually letting my guards down and letting them in. I don't let too many people get close; my closest friends are people I've known for 20+ years and we never would have thought we'd be friends forever when we met. (Maybe the one did. She was a co-worker who seemed to instantly decide I was her new best friend whether I liked it or not not.) Other people seemed to know something before I did, given comments like "happy little family" "I think there's Something there." My mom pointed out "He wanted to spend Halloween with you. He came over on Christmas day. He's spending New Years Day with you. Its you he's coming to for help with his place and daughter." I brushed it all off, especially my mom since she reacted exactly as I did upon first laying eyes on his daughter: stopped dead in tracks "Oh. My. God!" And then told me to marry the dad upon learning he's single. "I'm not his type. He's a total hippy and I only dressed the part until getting to know him and realizing I'm just a hippy by city standards, but I'm too much of a city girl to be a true hippy." But then one day while we were working together (really well, as we always do) I realized "He feels like Home." I've never had that before. While I was visiting relatives, I looked at the time and thought "He'll be picking Daughter up from daycare about now and I wish I was there to hear about her day and to find out if That Boy was bullying her again. The thought of anyone picking on her!" And I realized "I want that life. He's my future husband and she's my other daughter, even if I'm not really her mom and I don't feel like I'm a good enough mom to my own daughter sometimes. I already love her like she's my own. I want to mom the crap out of her and spoil her and give her a pretty princess room and give her everything I give to Own Daughter." But ofc he needs to agree to this and want this with me himself 😅 We're not quite There or even Official yet. He doesn't try to Get Any from me, but it's not because he doesn't desire me. We had a talk, he knows how I feel (it all came tumbling out the other day) and he's said he's had those thought about me, too, but he doesn't want to just jump into things like he did with Daughter's Mom and that while he likes everything he's seen so far, we haven't seen eachothers worst sides yet and so we don't know if we can handle eachothers bad sides yet. So for the time being, we're still just doing things together but not doing eachother (or anyone else!) and vibing real well, everyone else seems to see us as being in a relationship and it feels very much like one but he's holding back on things but not in a using or stringing me along way. (Lmao ❤ he called while I was wrapping this up 💖🥰) I love him and I'm pretty sure he's feeling the same but not quite ready to say it.

People need to be upfront and honest throughout the relationship.

@jasminemiller4636

Жыл бұрын

Thats it!

@hawaiigirl8089

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Mary Poppins

@zionsrants

Жыл бұрын

Facts but unfortunately a lot people are cowards

@queenbee5175

9 ай бұрын

Men say they can handle upfront, but not always.

@ivanklimovich6656

6 ай бұрын

@@queenbee5175 Can women handle it? In hookup culture prevailing today women need to be told comfortable lies, not men. Men know what is going on and for the most part are happy about it.

Energy is everything. Energy doesn't lie.

@ReenaBINA

Жыл бұрын

💯

@rubys7937

Жыл бұрын

Very true..

@livefromtheground7274

Ай бұрын

Facts!

#4 there’s a difference between fun sex and intimate sex. Intimatacy connects the souls which requires love.

@JC-sw6qn

11 ай бұрын

If you are a child of God, there's no such a thing as fun sex. Leave the fun to the funny guys. You are a serious woman that needs to be taken seriously. Remember that😊

@lucilletabbutt6703

Ай бұрын

​@@JC-sw6qnOf course there is lots of fun sex! Within marriage

@movingforward789

Ай бұрын

@@JC-sw6qnExactly! ALL sex connects the souls, it’s called a SOUL TIE!!!

I went on a coffee date with a guy. He had suggested a coffee date b/c it allowed us to not have have to spend a lot of money on a date that might not lead to more dates. “If it doesn’t work out, it was just coffee”. I actually respected that logic and ever since then those types of dates I don’t think, wow, this guy’s not really trying.

@e.zwegat7130

10 ай бұрын

He should be really trying though. The getting to know compatibility part shouldn’t be the first date. Like I’m about to have a first date with a gentleman and he’s going all out. We talked on the phone for two hours last night and prior to that we’d been flirting online for months. Can’t ever redo a first date. That’s why I have phone conversations first.

@Aerie925

10 ай бұрын

@@e.zwegat7130 if the coffee date goes well, you can continue the date elsewhere, but I don’t need a complete stranger to pull out all the bells and whistles on the first date. I don’t really like talking on the phone, especially to a stranger, so there aren’t going to be any 2hr phone conversations before I’ve met someone. But everyone’s different in how they approach dating and what they expect.

@mirola73

8 ай бұрын

@@Aerie925 100% A coffee date is a warm up date to see if things work out. Start small, then go bigger.

@Aerie925

8 ай бұрын

@@mirola73 it’s a good warmup to see if there’s any chemistry. If you’re enjoying each other you can continue to the date elsewhere or make plans for another date. If no chemistry, neither person has to invest a lot of time or money.

@loyduncan3728

Ай бұрын

You can meet for coffee after work, but I have had several different dates that started out that way, then ended up clubbing all evening afterward or dinner and clubbing all evening. It was fun for both I think.

"He" might want whatever but the most important is to know what I want and focus on it, and it's certainly not being someone's toy to play with. Know your value as a human, woman, soul and stick to it shamelessly, get rid off people who don't reciprocate your energy, don't respect your value.

@NotUrAverage786

Жыл бұрын

Well said 👏

@lisabilyeu6293

Жыл бұрын

Sooooo well said!!!! 🙌❤️

@vickih1982

Жыл бұрын

Well said 🙏🏾

@jamiebrumant8512

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@rosieclarke4073

Жыл бұрын

Hallelujah Jesus ✝️💟✝️ awesome advice

I love how Stephan stayed true to himself during this interview. He didn't impose his Godly views on the host, instead, he gently explained why he lives by them and why they work!

@JUST_MORELLA

Жыл бұрын

Yes, great interview. If Godly views were mentioned, it would’ve been even better.

@ceecee8757

Жыл бұрын

@@JUST_MORELLA exactly! Just like he does in his own channel. It could have been edited out. You know them atheists.

@judyo7

Жыл бұрын

@@ceecee8757True!

@Laura-Yu

Жыл бұрын

@@ceecee8757 ah, look at the stereotypical Christian hating on the atheists. And you wonder why us atheists don’t like being with your judgmental ass. I have no issues with people saying they believe in a deity, there are many atheists who don’t care if people say they believe in something ridiculous

@aprilrenaeofficial9668

Жыл бұрын

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

1:49:00 When it takes time it's not love.... but when it's taking time it's me trying to getting accustomed to his presence, it's me learning to tolerate him and grow attached to him. Whooo! That truth just set me free. I thank God for you Stephan.

@true2me366

Жыл бұрын

Wheeewww I felt that almost made me cry!!! God is amazing!

@michellecardenas6072

10 ай бұрын

Yes 💯 that one hit me like a ton of bricks. I know its true.

@annagreene195

9 ай бұрын

Wooooooowww!! 🤯💯💜Facts!!!

Listen to what the person is saying. and their behavior towards you. Don't ignore the red flags and cutting off that person quickly

Stephan has played a big part in my life’s journey! He educated me in his videos and is the reason why I stopped having sex! I understand that sex is for marriage only! I’m living to please GOD not my flesh!🔥

@gracekirrane627

Жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻

@frankbobby1930

Жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾

@frankbobby1930

Жыл бұрын

Exactly Rhonda ..I agree with u ..it hard to find the right person this days..No sex before marriage is the type of relationship am currently looking up too..

@mjohnson8206

Жыл бұрын

preach!!!

@KayciazWorld

Жыл бұрын

Amen🙏✝️

I believed that when a man truly serious, he will truly treasure/respect/woe /pursue & marry that woman.

@TSRRedRoom

Жыл бұрын

It's important to remember that everyone's experience and beliefs about relationships are different. While some people may believe that a man who is serious about a woman will pursue her and eventually marry her, others may have different perspectives. It's important to communicate your expectations and boundaries in a relationship and find someone who respects and values them.

let this video be a testimony that dating is sooo hard

@treasurebassey1833

11 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

It’s all about connection indeed. You feel free to be yourself and beyond, getting the best out of you to share with the chosen one! So lovely and powerful! Thank you

In every long term relationship I've had, the man didn't pursue sex until months into the friendship/relationships. Once I asked a man why he didn't (after he spent the night and still didn't make the move) and he replied because he really liked me and wanted it to mean more as we got to know each other. I will NOT go on cheap dates no matter what. If a man can't take me to a nice place, he needs to work on his money. Ladies, don't lower your standards. WAIT until he's ready financially as well as emotionally.

@TSRRedRoom

Жыл бұрын

It's great that you have a clear idea of what you want and are willing to stick to your standards. It's important for both partners to feel comfortable and valued in a relationship, and taking the time to get to know each other before pursuing a physical relationship can be a great way to build trust and emotional connection. However, it's also important to keep in mind that everyone's financial situation is different, and it's not always a reflection of their worth as a partner. Communication and understanding each other's needs and boundaries can help build a strong foundation for a healthy relationship.

@missgmusic

9 ай бұрын

Sleeping with someone on the 1st date or too early usually means they had the cake and ate it. It 's important to make the person fall in love with you in time,getting to know each other,have lots of fun together is the best way for the love to grow. Then sex is at its best.

I don’t understand why men are so comfortable only dating for sex. It’s like, if a woman gives you everything but wants you to make a lot of money she’s a gold digger, but if a man only tries to use you for sex that’s perfectly fine. No shameful word for him. It’s so frustrating.

@ReenaBINA

Жыл бұрын

True

@QuietlyCurious

Жыл бұрын

There really needs to be a dating coach who prioritizes women's well-being and optimizes the woman's point of view.

@deezed6478

Жыл бұрын

@@QuietlyCurious there are plenty! Matt Boggs is a good one and so is Jason Silver. That said, Matthew Hussey is good but I completely disagree with his take that women shouldn’t expect men to pay for things unless they want to listen to the man’s every command. Because women do a lot of things men don’t do and it’s perfectly rational for the person who risks pregnancy to want a reliable provider.

@jeffreyjewell75

Жыл бұрын

Women get their hole broken in and become attached and sex is totally different for them.

@deezed6478

Жыл бұрын

@@jeffreyjewell75 You didn't read what I wrote properly. Why do men feel so comfortable hurting women? We don't go around carelessly punching people in the face when we're mad, just because it feels good to us. So why do men go around carelessly hurting women just because it feels good to them?

I love the level of emotional intelligence going into these conversations. Thank you for pushing us forward and lifting us up.

Knowing right away whether a person is right for you. Every age dating men, I’ve always felt it, even blinded through attachments. The soul knows.

I had one guy that rather than reject me he set me up to catch him in bed with my best friend. Later when he cheated she came crying to me, wanting to be friends again. Later on he wanted me back. In both instances I said no, being hurt by both of them was hard. But letting either back in would have been bad for me.

@queennzingha2

Жыл бұрын

What a self centered, self gratifying street meat coward he was and probably still is! No love lost there Beloved…you dodged a bullet with that one! And you were wise to let them have each other…they probably turned on one another after…❤ you and keep it pushing you have your whole life ahead of you!

@hawaiigirl8089

Жыл бұрын

Omg 😳 noooo both were Scumbags. And that’s NOOOOO BEST FRIEND! More like Back stabbing Brutus

@hawaiigirl8089

Жыл бұрын

@@queennzingha2 “let them”? Ah no choice

@judithfloyd6693

Жыл бұрын

He was what I call a slug a worthles human being

@mwilliams-castillo9609

Жыл бұрын

Agree

"When we’re not right for each other people start to behave in ways that are not healthy" !!!!

I've listened to lots of relationship experts and then listened to this guy and now see he is the best. He debunks what they say. He is spot on all his videos

I think a lot of women end up getting married b/c they’re too afraid to say no. We’re often conditioned to not want to hurt people’s (especially a man’s) feelings, so women often say yes to proposals that they don’t really want either. “Dating for dinner” Is a real thing 😂 now, it’s never been my sole intention to go out with a guy simply to get a few meal, but sometimes if I’m not sure about a guy before I go out with him, I rationalize it as, “well, if things don’t work out, you got a meal out of it”-if that makes sense

@anteantic986

10 ай бұрын

you're a monster

@XGD5layer

10 ай бұрын

Honestly, rationalizing it as "at least I'll get a meal out of it" probably creates a barrier to connection.

All of this is ridiculous. I am sick of trying to deal with men. A good man doesn’t play games or put you through it. I will not allow men to invade my mental peace. The right guy brings peace and ease while dating. Walk away from all this senseless drama.

@TSRRedRoom

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that you've had negative experiences with men. It's important to prioritize your own mental peace and well-being in any relationship. However, it's also worth noting that not all men are the same, and there are many good men out there who do not play games or cause drama. It's okay to take a break from dating and focus on yourself, but don't let past experiences completely close you off to the possibility of a healthy and fulfilling relationship in the future.

@e.zwegat7130

10 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤

@OceanicPearlz1

8 ай бұрын

@@TSRRedRoomthis gave me hope

@davidsisson2026

3 ай бұрын

Yes, you should not. I've been out with a few ladies who played games it's no fun for us either. But you're young, hope you meet the right one.

@miakamei1751

2 ай бұрын

Sounds like you didn't even bother finish watching the video and jumped straight to the comments. Dumping your trauma, huh?

I always ask. Confusion for me leads to hurt feelings. For me there is no decipher I ask. My boyfriend kissed me passionately on our first date so I asked. He told me this was his last rodeo, he wanted love and commitment. I told him I wanted the same thing.. Six months later we are living together and still talk. We don't do deciphering we do direct talk.

@CanButler85

Ай бұрын

And this is how grown ups act. Kuddos 🎉

He hit the nail in the head related to reaching orgasm with women… men don’t understand no matter how we explain that we don’t feel safe or secure in the relationship enough to allow our souls to be stole. To me security is his money … a man’s money could be a key to their heart… if he’s providing for me I feel he showing where his heart is…and that makes me more secure and safe…marriage is the ultimate security and proven safety with time.

@TSRRedRoom

Жыл бұрын

It's understandable that feeling secure and safe in a relationship is important to you. Everyone has their own preferences and needs when it comes to feeling valued and appreciated. It's great to hear that you found Stephan's insights helpful. If you enjoy exploring themes of love, relationships, and intimacy, you might enjoy reading my short stories that delve into these topics. Check them out and let me know what you think!

this talk made me realise i will be forever single, thanks! turning 25 in 3 weeks

@drossaadneij

18 күн бұрын

🤣🤣lmao 💀

My husband and I call it our ZING! We have had a great energy since the first moment we met! We have a beautiful love for each other 6.5 years later.

@CanButler85

Ай бұрын

Grown up stuff ❤ Congratulations!

Stephen's integrity of character makes him a very attractive man! I think any man who builds his character this way attracts women of equal integrity, both wanting a real, genuine, honest relationship. Great interview. ❤

@TSRRedRoom

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the interview. If you want to learn more about relationships and dating, feel free to ask any questions or explore resources on the topic.

@livefromtheground7274

Ай бұрын

Facts

Stephan, your Mother brought you up right, and I bet some men hate you for giving away their secrets well done. Theres nothing scarier than a true connection and it doesnt happen often in a life time. Singledom is rarely spoken about as a life option but its better than living with a mis match.

The biggest nugget of gold is Stephan’s thoughts on how real love actually happens fast. I have so much clarity now. Thank you Stephan and Lisa ❤

I always always say” if at anytime you are no longer interested in me please tell me and it’s ok. In turn I will do the same.” I set that at the very beginning. I think it has help me to not be in something if both parties are not into it. There’s no hard feelings between either party.

@hawaiigirl8089

Жыл бұрын

That’s unrealistic! 😂 emotionally immature men CANT ! They WONT

@TSRRedRoom

Жыл бұрын

That's a great approach to communication and setting expectations from the beginning. It shows that you value honesty and respect in a relationship and are willing to be open and upfront about your feelings. This can prevent misunderstandings and hurt feelings down the line, and allows for a more mature and healthy approach to dating and relationships. Keep it up!

@whatoncewas8480

Жыл бұрын

Right on. That’s called clarity, maturity, and establishing boundaries.

@melissawiley3688

Жыл бұрын

Awesome ❤

@Liz-or5it

11 ай бұрын

Lots of men won't tell you the truth. That doesn't work. You should know for yourself if someone isn't on the same page as you.

This is a great conversation. The older I get; I don’t know if I really like someone until maybe 2nd or 3rd date. I determine potential friendship first and then romantic second. First dates should 💯 be simple if serious about dating. I judge men that sleep around. I don’t want any of that.

@lindawolfe2885

5 ай бұрын

I agree. It’s not that I judge men who sleep around, and you probably don’t really judge them either. We’re just much less likely to be interested in building a relationship and having sex with them because of the potential for contagion and the likelihood that they won’t have the self control or self discipline for monogamy. They’d be more likely to stray from any sexual relationship. I truly believe that relationships between two people who are compatible and who both desire monogamy have the greatest chance for success and happiness.

You have cleared it all up for me. Hearing the man's side of this was spot on. I wish I would have known about you 2 and a half years ago.. Thank you so much for your help. You have shown me that my relationship is a good one and on track.

This man is a genius and has really opened my eyes. Protect him at all costs

This is so good. Women we have to know ourselves and what WE want. Most times we know what box we’ve put them in as well before a date. The problem is, if they’ve put us in the sex box we can’t handle it 😂 we start doing everything to try to prove we’re worth being in the girlfriend or wife box, even if we don’t want to be (with him)!! It might be ego, it might be an identity or worth issue, but either way focus on self, and if they don’t fit that’s okay!

@leanna107

11 ай бұрын

This was the best comment! Your phrasing made my perspective really shift and made me question, is this really actually coming from a woman's own truth in wanting more, a biology thing, OR is it an adopted cultural view that makes us feel women are supposed to be a certain way?

@meghan3835

8 ай бұрын

💯

@ivanklimovich6656

6 ай бұрын

Could you please list all the boxes you put men in before date?

Something I will say that helped me understand about letting go of the wrong person. We keep hoping and waiting for the person we fell in love with or we thought we were in love with to show up.. That is why women hang on for so long. Cause for us we believe they are still that person, not realizing that person is long gone or that person wasn't who we thought they were. Once you recognize they are not that person anymore .. you will find it much easier to move on.

It all comes back down to don't be giving out sex and let the guys see the value of a true relationship and commitment. Instead everyone is ready to get instant things when they honestly haven't even done any work to figure out if there's substance. This is why more men used to put in the effort and get to know the lady because there are certain perks that come with that including sex. No wonder there is no motivation to get to true connection- everyone is not even being challenged to grow!

Thank you so much to both of you for this incredibly valuable conversation! I was constantly having lightbulb moments throughout the whole session! 🙏💙

Totally true, if the Man is unwilling to provide safety and commitment I'm not opening up.

If a man has sex w you on the first date, he’s not marriage material, leave him ( if you’re interested in marriage)

Such an amazing podcast. This man really knows what he’s saying. I see eye to eye to him. Congratulations Lisa for your guest. Such a great job you did together👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Yes, especially to the last part! The worst advice I hear people giving women is to see instant connection as a red flag. They also tell them to go on multiple dates with a guy and keep pushing forward in it even if they feel no attraction, connection or chemistry. I never hear men being told this!! If a man isn't feeling it he doesn't force the issue!!

My key takeaways : -the true value should be getting to know the person - pay attention to how you feel ( be mindful that you are more likely to be lenient when you like a person ; still go in to the situation being you look for if their a right fit for YOU)

@davidlindsay131

Жыл бұрын

That's Two signs, (thank you), what's the 3rd?

@arunimalalasekera1232

Жыл бұрын

Awesome conversation. I want to see the truth and live in the truth. God bless!

I do agree with this, but also look at our own patterns. I've held back many times because things weren't right, subconsciously I knew it, but I protect myself by holding back. I can't make a guy mine who doesn't want to be there. Put in healthy boundaries that we need.

@CRFSUIGENERIS

Жыл бұрын

👏

"How they handle your feelings about it" is key. thank you

The first date should be simple and about getting to know the person in front of you, not about a fabulous experience... YES! That's the perfect date and way to start. Less stress and expectations for both of you. I don't want or need a fabulous experience clouding my judgment no more than I want or need sex clouding my judgment. Stephan is gold!

‘We don’t live life to decide and create who we want to be, we live life to discover who we actually are’. 💥💥💥

@MsAdreaL

Жыл бұрын

Right?! That was Fire!! 🔥🎤

@1hunny51

10 ай бұрын

Yesssss!!!🙏🏽🔥🙏🏽🔥

Women watching just start a fanvue and you will be sorted

I TOTALLY agree with his view on keeping the first dates simple. Because I have found it's MUCH easier to make a real connection in those situations than it is in a place with too many distractions, like a bar/club, movies, concerts, etc. A personally prefer to go fishing with my dates, because it's something we both (usually) tend to enjoy, and it's quiet and personal enough for us to really get to know each other.

This guy really explains this topic in the best and most truthful manner I’ve ever heard.

This interview was so insightful & informative. Stephan explains things so plain & simply while being very respectful of other people’s lifestyles. We need more conversations like this

It's intersting to see, as a 40-something woman divoced with children, how the dating game is different. I know what I want, I know my value and worth, I can verbalise my desires. If this pushes away a man, well better now then in 6 moths after investing so much! I guess what is at stake is different since family and nest building is no longer such an important preoccupation. Sexual promiscuity neither... I just don't care anymore what society has to say about this, weather your a man or a woman. We are so afraid to be clear... Happy I am getting past that.

@anteantic986

10 ай бұрын

No high value man wants some old chick with kids sorry to tell you that but you must lower your standards in order to find a man..

@ShandaMichelle1

10 ай бұрын

This is such a lie. Value comes with having children for some men… some men want a family and never had one. Also, some men aren’t shallow and don’t care about you being 40ish, they care about your morals, your kindness and the chemistry between the two of you. There are sexy, high value, morally sound men out there interested in someone like her!! Facts

@emiliemendoza9652

10 ай бұрын

@@anteantic986 well, didn't lower, got them up instead. Guess this «old chick» as you disrespectfully qualify a women you don't know has found a high value man. Very happy with the outcome. Don't adhere too strickly to some kind of functioning system, it closes doors for you. Instead, make the best you can from your life and aim high. Understand what are your goals in life, what are your values, become someone that has something to bring to the table but only bring it if you fell the other is up to your standards. Or else, you set yourself up for an abusive relationship. Who cares if it is not the written story society wants us to follow. You are setting yourself a glass ceiling by overthinking what «general man» want. You are setting yourself for failure. Weather you are a man or women telling derogatory untrue things hiding behind your keyboard, life has more to offer then what you portray. Good luck passing that.

I have just watched this video, was laughing and crying, so sincere and touching, especially the words"living your truth", thank you so much for the video ❤❤❤❤❤

*It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is.*

This man is incredibly! !!! He is understanding women so much!!

The sex part is so right that is why you shouldn't have it too soon especially if you have no real connection or you're not comfortable yet.

Protect this man. He is right about everythingggg

This topic is so critical and am glad stepan did justice to it,thanks stepan and thanks Lisa for having him. However a man gets to treat you,you thought him that,so accord yourself the respect and love you would expect another to shower you,it starts from within and that also includes respect and reverence for your body. Our body is the temple of the Lord,and when we picture our body as the lord's temple,then you know you don't just mess up this temple or allow someone else mistreat the sacred place of God.

What an absolutely powerful and informative discussion!!!! So much to empower one to speak transparently, notice red flag jargon and identify when the connection is there in a relationship!!!! This is fantastic and worth listening to more than once. Thank you both! Stephan, you’re incredible.

That is actually good advice - low key first date. Removes pressure of finances or sex. But it does rely on first impression processing. I think more people should use better screening before the first date, asking better questions, quick 5 min face time etc, so as to avoid wasting too much in person time. Then being hyper aware of red flags and asking the right questions rather than floating through it. Being clear before you even start dating on what you are looking for (essentials and desireables) and your own boundaries (hard and soft). It's about tactics, rather than blaming the other sex for this or that.

i met my partner after 7 years being singel. We took it slow & i did not let him into my apartment for the first 5 dates. We are enjoying every minute being together.

I needed to hear this. I'm grateful I found this page, and this man was the guest. I am truly grateful. Thank you so much for doing this and teaching us.

It's all about perspective and staying true to oneself. Keeping expectations low but standards high. Loved how Stephan was brutaly genuine in this interview and also reminded us of how fundamentally different men and women think and what each gender needs in order to feel connected. Thanks Lisa and Stephan for such a real, necessary, and enlightening topic!

@ciao2315

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for pointing that out!! Expectations low and standards high ❤

I had been trying to force feelings for a man I’ve been dating for a couple of months but knew something was up with him..,turns out he was dating two other women at the same time. He was not attentive and rarely called during the week…my intuition was telling me something was off. And he was upset that I ended it! Lol. I’m kinda done with dating for awhile and am waiting for the right one to fall in my lap…I’m tired lol

We have a connection but we are not diving in deeply! That spoke to me.

It's all about the vibe for me. I know it's a no just from a text...ask questions on the very first date, boundries...Great interview! 💫✨

This is why I do drinks only for first date. I don’t want a man to spend money on dinner not knowing if we will be a good match. I don’t sleep with them early on either. It just muddies the water of whether there is real connection.

Omg, I'm listening to this podcast as I'm running errands and I'm blown away by all the truths. Thank you for sharing this conversation! 🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️

Yes ! ! ! Exactly ! When it's the " real deal ", it happens instantaneously because it has to do with our SPIRIT . . . our spirits " recognize " each other . . . and our spirit is ageless/timeless. I've read/heard countless testimonies of that being the case, where it was immediate... and they even claim to still be in love decades later !! 😲❤❤‍🔥

@gloriamariadc7757

10 ай бұрын

Thx for this reminder.

@melaniebrown4947

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for your comment. It is confirmation for me and my situation.

I’ve learned lessons with every relationship - you attract partners to grow in awareness ✨🙏💜

Disagree that men trying it on or trying to have sex isn't disrespectful. It totally is. You can express sexual interest in many ways that don't include trying to have sex. I don't think women should feel overly concerned with not hurting a guys poor ego by not staying true to herself and setting aside her own standards and values for the sake of a guys poor feelings. This idea that a guys sexuality is called into question is an issue of men's own making. Women are not responsible. Men are expecting women to sleep with them with zero investment n as if sex has absolutely no value, so why are they surprised when the same standards of relating are slapped in their face like that? If they want sex to mean something, it should start with it meaning something to them first.

@Katrica670

Жыл бұрын

@N J when the same standards of relating are slapped in their face like that?

@irinaburlova5420

Жыл бұрын

well said

@Rupali809

7 ай бұрын

Exactly why should a Women end up feeling as a piece of meat

Stephan is so smart, understanding, compassionate and realistic about both man & woman as human beings trying to figure out the complexity of dating. Lisa is always a great interviewer and keeps the conversation flows easily. I can understand/relate to both men and women in this process, hope each of us can focus on self development, self awareness, honestly to self and others and spend time to learn about conscious dating and relationship education. I appreciate your time and wisdom shared in this podcast!!! ❤ For my understanding right now, if that person is a potential good match, we don't have to try too hard; and if he/she is not the one, be honest and brave enough to accept this is not it and move on, as quickly and peacefully as we can 💖

From 17:00-20:40 just brought me the clarity I needed for having been dumped after 2 months by someone who seemed genuinely interested... 🥺🥺🥺 I can relate so much to the man who falls out with his efforts..

@TSRRedRoom

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about your recent breakup, but I'm glad that Stephan's talk was helpful in bringing you clarity. It's important to remember that sometimes things just don't work out, even if it seemed like there was a strong connection at first. My short stories also explore the complexities of relationships and the challenges that can arise, but they also offer hope and optimism for finding love in unexpected places. Give them a read and let me know what you think!

My husband waited almost 2 years. I told him no sex until marriage . He respected me. Happily married 14 years.

@TSRRedRoom

Жыл бұрын

That's great to hear! It's important to set boundaries and have mutual respect in a relationship. Congratulations on your long and happy marriage.

@kimberlyturner820

10 ай бұрын

I NEED a man like that 😭

It's called oxytocin! It's the same chemical that bonds a mother to her newborn during breastfeeding. It is meant for lasting connection. It's not a fault or weakness. If he's not the one, wait!! Don't struggle to detach from someone who was auditioning your body and never truly connected to YOU! Self-care is priority!

I slept with people on the first date , 4th date etc sometimes it doesn’t matter it depends on the individual. Some men look at us a certain way but they are just not it then. My boyfriend now we slept together on the first date and we are very happy but we communicate about everything

He sums it up. Men just need to be more honest. If they ain’t feeling a girl. Say that. But don’t stay cause you don’t have the courage to tell her or you are afraid of looking like the bad guy. That’s how you damage women. It’s like having a mosquito bite compared to a shark bite. We much rather get bit my a mosquito.

No, I will go with the guy who hangs in there with me for weeks into months until “ I “ am comfortable. We can be friends first. We both must invest time, money and feelings. Once we become involved past a friend then we will change roles from friends to being a couple.

@TSRRedRoom

Жыл бұрын

I agree that building a foundation of friendship first can be beneficial in creating a strong and healthy relationship. It's important for both partners to invest time and effort in getting to know each other, building trust and intimacy. By taking the time to establish a strong connection, you are more likely to have a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship. Keep in mind that the pace of the relationship should be determined by both partners, and it's okay to take things slow if that's what feels right.

@helenpeters2443

Ай бұрын

It's such an important aspect; patience and friends (but not in the friend zone)

I always liked simplified things especially on first few days, go to walks, get coffee and chat, do something together, makes me feel at ease so I don't feel uncomfortable at expensive first date dinners.

@susanparker9877

Жыл бұрын

Walk the dog together.👩‍🎨🐕🐾🐾🐾

It has been my experience that telling the man you would rather have the hard conversation, even if it hurts, still doesn't prompt him to call things off or have the needed conversation. The man has still chosen to walk away silently.

@TSRRedRoom

Жыл бұрын

I understand that it can be frustrating when someone chooses to walk away without having the conversation, even when you've expressed a willingness to have a difficult conversation. Unfortunately, some people are simply not ready or willing to have that conversation, and it's important to respect their boundaries even if it's not what you would prefer. That being said, it's also important to make sure that you're communicating clearly and effectively in these situations.

Stephan is great !! Truly. He’s great at what he does and ALWAYS has valid takes