I’m 58. I’ve been living alone for over 15 years - I LOVE it. No drama. No bullshit. The freedom is mind blowing.

@soulflower181

Жыл бұрын

Thanks. Your words give me hope.

@Canadian_Eh_I

Жыл бұрын

Im going to be 40 in 3 months and I'm a little bit concerned that I like living alone too much. People ask me, dont you get lonely? I'm like nope! But I was worreid how I would feel when I get to your age, great to know that you have no regrets!!

@thomaswillisstudios2198

Жыл бұрын

I have been living alone for a year now 3 bedroom house with plenty of yard space. I love the echoes and empty space! I can put things down and not worry about them being moved. It's so easy to keep the house clean because I never mess things up. I only use one bedroom so the others are always clean. The bills are always paid up, one to three months in advance.

@litedawg

Жыл бұрын

I’m not gonna lie , I love living alone too but I need some sexy time too.

@noulafrantz8589

Жыл бұрын

​@@thomaswillisstudios2198 don't feel alone sometimes

You failed to mention widowers like myself. Living alone after sleeping in the same bed for 41 years with my beloved wife. I was confronted in the peak of my grief that I could shutter myself in or start living life on my own terms. The transition from “we” to “I” is painful but I have been to movies, hockey games, concerts, walks, drives, sitting by the lake, baseball games, restaurants, church, etc by myself and it is therapeutic.

@joer8273

2 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry for your loss, BG. I’m glad to hear you are forcing yourself to be active. So important. I also encourage you, if you haven’t already, to spend time with a grief counselor. It’s a healthy step because a man who clearly loved as hard as you will hurt hard, too. But I’m really proud of you for staying active. Keep it up, friend.

@Clarke16

2 жыл бұрын

@@joer8273 thank you for the advice and encouragement. I have attended, “Grief Share” a series of 12 weekly meetings and have gained both strength and healing through the experience. I believe this is not our home and one day we will be reunited.

@joer8273

2 жыл бұрын

@@Clarke16 really proud you joined a support group. We grow in community. And yes I believe wholeheartedly you will reunite in heaven. Jesus went before us to prepare that place (John 14). God bless, my friend.

@mthomps0

2 жыл бұрын

Yes he did fail to mention widowers. I suddenly loss my wife/high school sweetheart after 21 years of marriage. On top of that the kids are now grown and out of the house. So I am an empty nester as well. It’s been a very difficult time living alone but I am adjusting. This is a great topic. I appreciate and enjoy this channel.

@gary-pv8vz

2 жыл бұрын

@@mthomps0 I am in a similar situation. My Sweetness of 23 years died suddenly. Suddenly everything seems pointless, the shock of being alone is traumatic. I’m trying to figure out what my purpose is. Some days and hours are better than others. My wife liked me to dress well. Ela felt how I dressed was a reflection on her and woe betide me whenever I looked scruffy. This channel helped me lift my appearance and now, when I wear certain clothes I sort of feel she is with me. This gives me a bit of comfort.

Im in my early 50s and live alone for 20 years. I ended up that cooking is great fun! I started slow and easy, and now I can do many things. Another option guys is what I do, I cook every Saturday after shopping for the whole week, while I dance listening to my favorite music! Put the food in the fridge and eat my own food. More healthy guys, my medical exams went to normal like I'm 25 years old!!! Thank you for the video! Great, as always!!!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Love that! Thanks for commenting!

@EE-ie9gm

2 жыл бұрын

U must be a very lonely man

@benjaminslife9424

2 жыл бұрын

I do that as well and I am excited to hear that you have lived by yourself for 20 years. Society makes it seem as if men can't live on their own. That we need a woman to do everything for us. Or we have to do everything for a woman and or children and it's good to see men being able to live and do for themselves.

@gordonpi8674

2 жыл бұрын

Similar story here,

@benjaminslife9424

2 жыл бұрын

@@EE-ie9gm Cohabitation or lack of it does not lead to loneliness. Sometimes men are better living alone.

I'm 59 and living alone for the first time in decades, and loving it. Your time becomes your own, it's a beautiful thing.

I found myself living alone in my early forties. It took some time getting used to, but now I have the opposite problem. I don’t want to share my space with anyone else. When I date, I have to make sure she has the same mindset.

@lostbutfound3404

2 жыл бұрын

I have the same mindset.. Unfortunately in my experience, it seems women around my age (50's) are all looking for their next ex-husband. After two failed marriages, I finally know what it is to live in peace and quiet. Like yourself, I can't go back to the way it used to be. My only regret is I didn't learn this sooner. Well done mate, do you!

@StariYTube1

2 жыл бұрын

Spot on here here..woof

@theone7216

2 жыл бұрын

I'm in that same boat

@warringtonfaust1088

Жыл бұрын

I realized it had gone too far when a GF picked up the remote to the TV and found myself thinking "that's my TV".

@tricky92x

Жыл бұрын

@@warringtonfaust1088 LOL

After divorcing after 20 years, i after getting over it ,love living alone. No placating people, no eating at a place i didnt want to eat at. No doing stupid things because someone obligated me etc. Spending my money how when and where i want. The list goes on, i cant believe the compromises i used to make just to be in a relationship. NEVER AGAIN

@eds73100

2 жыл бұрын

totally agree!!

@jerryjohnsonong5138

2 жыл бұрын

Loved this content John! It’s what I have been looking for. :) I can personally relate to this coming from a relationship (past life) which started off great, then turned not so good when it ended (fell apart actually), got into a state of depression like 3 years ago but I just like you, I learned to focus on myself, priorities, goals, positive outlook, prayers, re-discovering that ‘zest’ in your self, etc. It does not have to be great to start but to be great, one just needs to start. It could any small thing which makes you smile, satisfied with your day (productivity, etc., helping out a friend or a stranger, etc.) Anyways, enough of me but more of you John. I felt relieved and a renewed sense of purpose in life once again after watching this video. Sending you warm greetings from a world away somewhere in The Philippines! Keep up the Good Work! (Ituloy mo lang ang Magandang Gawa!) - From a Filipino in Cebu, Philippines. Cheers!

@benjaminslife9424

2 жыл бұрын

We don’t realize how many compromises we make to keep a woman. When I tell all my friends I will never get married again I don’t say stuff like that to be funny or jokingly. After years of being married I’m a battle hardened veteran.

@benjaminslife9424

2 жыл бұрын

@Dave Crazy part is we are taught the exact opposite. That we should have a wife. That we should get married and follow that road so we can live happily ever after and that men can’t survive or thrive on their own.

@noName-kn1lx

2 жыл бұрын

@@benjaminslife9424 Men have been conditioned to make those compromises, women havent. The balance of power shifts dramatically when you get married. She now can get fat, not have sex w you, be bitchy etc and your recourse is divorce where you may lose more than half your hard earned money and access to your kids. In this day and age men are much better off dating a woman and keeping the playing field level. Get fat? eject, dont want to have sex ? eject, act terrible? eject.. with no hit to your pocketbook

Being in a LTR has many ups and downs.; What goes UP? My blood pressure, body weight, cholesterol, drama, stress from in-laws, character flaws, monthly bills, purchases of items I will never wear or use and the anxiety of saying the wrong things. What goes DOWN? My bank account, masculinity, years left to live on this earth, contact with friends, participation in favorite hobbies, intelligence level, frequency of sex, admiring other women's beauty and the memory of whom I used to be prior to meeting them. What NEVER goes down? Your spouse after 1-2 years or when the ring is placed upon her finger.

@santoshch7445

3 ай бұрын

True

@derrick8224

2 ай бұрын

That is excellent. Thanks for the smile

@StuJones-gn7te

2 ай бұрын

What never goes down? Spouses weight and nagging. When I left my ex wife, I missed her so much, I thought of hiring someone to nag me and cuss me out a few times a week.

Living alone is awesome. You never realize how bad of a distraction a woman is to live with until you don't. You can date. They can have their place and you can have your place. You can see each other when it works for both of you.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for commenting Ted!

@19241119

2 жыл бұрын

@ Ted Newkirk Love your comment : "You never realize how bad of a distraction a woman is to live with until you don't." 👍🤣😂🙏🏻

@skywatcher7777

2 жыл бұрын

She’s so good to me but I want her out so bad lol

@KARENboomboomROXX

2 жыл бұрын

Visa versa Ted 💪😎🔥💯

@joecoffee7750

2 жыл бұрын

Millennials and Gen Z men aren’t dating…. Get used to it, this is a huge generational change

Hey man, great video, im 48, here in UK, single from long term relationship since last oct and living in a village in 450 yr old house found you a week ago and my life has improved so much, i have decluttered, added plants , gone through wardrobe and re-looked at my life in general, thanks so much for all you do....

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching!

@martinrea8548

2 жыл бұрын

@radio hitman Just get rid of the cats and you'll be ok when you're dead. (joke)

I am flying solo at 50. Divorced and my daughter is 19. The advice that you gave will help so many men. I am enjoying my time exploring life as an independent individual. I have been alone for over 10 years. Women come and go. It is a healthy, fun life. I may or may not remarry, but I am well aware of my beautiful freedom while I have it. The grass is green in my lawn!😃

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Love it! Thanks for commenting!

@marianmoses9604

Жыл бұрын

As the “World’s Most Interesting Man” once said: “STAY THIRSTY, MY FRIEND!” Damn good advice. You can look, but it’s best not to buy.

Being alone(Bachelor) is a wonderful path to peace, wealth, and freedom. Men, don't let society/women shame you into thinking living as a bachelor a sad existence. The alternative is to get back into making someone else's dreams and lifestyle dreams come true. DO YOU!!!!!!!!

@parky5329

Жыл бұрын

Mate..... "Making someone else's dreams". How right you are! Seriously 🙏

@jasonking6892

Жыл бұрын

Spot on I'm 60 live in Colombia 🇨🇴on 1400 a month great life

@Eubanksproductions

9 ай бұрын

Very Well Said....!

All men learn it one way or the other way. Living alone is peace, quiet, and freedom. I'm 41, never married with no kids, and I would never trade this life to end up with a ran-through 304.

@lostbutfound3404

2 жыл бұрын

100% Well said and done!

@clubgel

2 жыл бұрын

facts peace of mind over everything

@mikeprice8307

2 жыл бұрын

What do you do for sex?

@MVProfits

2 жыл бұрын

I agree except that having kids is AWESOME.

@Coolman6564

2 жыл бұрын

Same. This probably wont be as much of a problem for the next generation(s) (sadly, or otherwise)... most men will live by themselves for the majority of their early life and by the time they become attractive to women (age 32-37-ish), they will already be set in their ways and not NEED (or want) to live with someone who will most likely just end up taking half their stuff eventually. Thanks modern society! Overall though, some great tidbits of advice in here.

I was surprised to discover how many people (mainly ladies) equate being alone with being lonely. Two different things. Being alone is usually peaceful, hassle-free, & relaxing. You focus on YOU.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Well said!

@Theliquidmonkey

2 жыл бұрын

For men, solitude is a blessing. For women, a curse.

@morgan97475

2 жыл бұрын

@@Theliquidmonkey Correct. That's why we like having a "Man-Cave" or "Man-Room"...preferably with a beer fridge in it!

@billieford9683

2 жыл бұрын

@@Theliquidmonkey Sorry darling, but not all women feel this way. I am a widow since 2006 and not looking for another husband. True, I would like a man in my life, BUT, I have my life and he should have his. I have come to the conclusion that I will most likely live the rest of my life alone and that doesn’t bother me in the least.

@Theliquidmonkey

2 жыл бұрын

@@billieford9683 enduring it with dignity, still a curse.

I live alone and I've never been happier. When I wake up in the morning I have a blank canvass. I go where I want to, eat whatever I'm in the mood for. I love it!!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely Edward! Thanks for commenting!

@ronburgandy7571

2 жыл бұрын

Also you can bang random woman.

@mikeprice8307

2 жыл бұрын

What you do about sex?

@eds73100

2 жыл бұрын

@@mikeprice8307 I never said I didn't date

I found that to get on a path towards my best self, I needed to be by myself. I’m 58 and feeling and doing great. Love your content, stay safe✊🏽.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much Kennedy!

@kennethdavis9732

2 жыл бұрын

I'm 60, feels like 40 and doing the same. Good to know your not alone

@kennedyrice1517

2 жыл бұрын

@@Jones607 You make a good point, but part of becoming my best self is knowing how to cook. I can make my own chicken soup, and I positioned myself to be able to retire in about 3 yrs if I choose. Also, I have a tight, dependable circle that will be there for me in the event I need a shoulder to lean on, just as I will be there for them. As you said sir, the pros outweigh the cons.🙂

@jcam783

2 жыл бұрын

Just turned 58 myself Kennedy ,and can definitely relate .

Great video John! I am 47 and have lived alone most of my adult life - minus a brief marriage. It has never been easy. After moving to a new state after my divorce, I lost much of network and friends. I have recently took your advice to grab dinner even if it is just me and put myself out there more. I’m hopeful of good thing ahead!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Chris!

42 and single for four years. It’s been absolutely fantastic compared to before - being unhappily married. During the divorce, it was difficult to adjust. But, as I got back to being me - doing what I like, going when I want, staying in when I want, socializing when I want. Reconnecting with old friends, hanging out with different people, and dating different people helped me to find myself again. I reconnected with my own thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs, and motivations. I feel like the best version of myself now. There are some lonely moments, but that’s to be expected when I’m alone. The biggest difference, though, is I can do something about it without checking in with someone. Again, compared to before, now is so much better. The other piece to all of this that makes my current situation better than before was all the shit I had to go through to get where I am now. ‘Now’ would not be as sweet if the divorce or transition was easy. I faced all the bad/negative feelings head on, which was hard, but it made me better in the end. The personal growth is what makes ‘now’ so sweet. Once again, great content and I agree with your points in the video. Thanks for what you’ve created, for what you do, and what you provide. Keep up the good work. #legend

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome! Thank you for your comment! It’s appreciated!

@Canadian_Eh_I

Жыл бұрын

So if you met someone else would you ever cohabitate again?

@chrialivest

Жыл бұрын

@@Canadian_Eh_I She would have to be a unicorn.

@Sona77.

Жыл бұрын

Now you can connect with yourself and be your own soulmate.

63 retired and don’t have to consult with anyone about anything, visit friends and family when I want, LOVING LIFE!

I am 59 and single ..while I have many friends ,it is always a bit of a mission getting people to come out with me ...so,I mainly tend to go out by myself ,and generally tend to have a blast ,so much so that I am starting to prefer it that way...

I love going out by myself. Always end up meeting quality people. You attract what you are.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

100%! Thank you for commenting!

I am now over 50 & embrace living alone. Living alone doesn't mean I am alone all the time. I have extended family, a few good friends & occasional female company. Sure, I go out alone a lot & this sounds sad. But, I pay attention to those around me & engage them in conversation about their week & their lives. I take interest in others & generally find they take some interest in me. Foolproof? No! I leave alone an awful lot, too. That's okay, because I enjoy the company of others when I can, but take care to keep my home life quiet, uncluttered & drama free!

@GoldKingsMan

2 жыл бұрын

I only have one friend I see on occasions,rest of my friends just tend to be orbiters and want me at some function but never come round my place so that got old.

@gordonalameida183

Жыл бұрын

It is the best thing that ever happened to me no high blood pressure now it's back to normal and now I can focus more on my happiness and health and move forward.

Living alone really is not as bad as what many people think it might be. The biggest advantage is the amount of freedom a person has and you only have to answer to yourself. With that said, we are all social creatures and we thrive on having a connection with other people, so it is also very important to have some close friends to socialize with.

Hi mate, another great vid! 👏🏻 I'm 50 and I've lived alone for 16 years since I got divorced. You just get used to it, enjoying your own company and doing your own thing, for a majority of the time. Loneliness does tend to creep in occasionally though! Thing is, I'm so conditioned to living by myself that I can't imagine ever changing now! Legend 👍🏻

Hey John, you are pretty much telling my story. I've been alone for about 3 years now and it was definitely a big transition. with that, I must say I'm very independent so it wasn't that hard to adapt. Advice to everyone going through the same phase, believe in yourself and enjoy me time. It will make you more confident and stronger with fewer regrets. Great video buddy thanks!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@peterredit9556

2 жыл бұрын

Well said my friend, me time is so important. This is a difficult stage to go through.

My GF of 20 years just passed away and now at 53 I find myself living alone for the 1st time in my life. What makes it especially hard is that we moved out of state to a smaller town and I don't know anyone in this town or state. I'm literally all alone now! I don't know a soul to go and hang out with let alone talk to & because I live in a smaller town compared to where I moved from in Southern California there isn't a lot to do here compared to California.

I’m turning 50 soon. I’ve been with my partner of 10 years and we lived together for a few years in that time. I moved out 4 years ago, but made the mistake of staying involved in the relationship. It is hard to live alone at first and the loneliness and negative self talk can wear you down. Take it easy, acknowledge that your life has permanently changed from what is was before. Start making small changes to improve your mental health. For me it was making my bed every morning, buying a smart watch to track my fat percentages,etc, stopping to eat at drive thru windows. I plan to start traveling internationally solo as my partner and I would either go together or with her kid. The reality is even though we are together, we have been living separate lives for years now and it’s time to end the relationship. Just wasted time holding on to a life that no longer exist or never existed.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Wow! Thank you very much for commenting!

@baldeagle4710

2 жыл бұрын

be strong! you don't need women for anything.

@georgemcfly3482

2 жыл бұрын

Partner sounds so stupid, say boyfriend or girlfriend.

@childfreesingleandatheist8899

2 жыл бұрын

Despite living separate lives, can you still see her once in a while? If I were in your position, it looks like a good deal, man. Some companionship and sex once in a while doesn't hurt anyone. But that's just me.

@GUITARTIME2024

2 жыл бұрын

You owe it to that person to end the relationship. Do it with love.

I give you credit John. You rarely if ever mention having been married. The credit is for not being bitter, but BETTER. You never spend a second on your platform maligning anyone, throwing some passive-aggressive shade, etc. it’s just all about growth and personal progress. Love that. So you might make a number of videos on looking classy, but implicit in your videos is also constant messaging on BEING classy. Thank you, Legend.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much Joe! So glad you recognize that!

@mowtivatedmechanic1172

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah bro I just found this John guy. It is refreshing getting a dose of non RP content. Just stuff I can use and operate on.

Been divorced for 3 years and in my early 50s as you are. It was rough financially at first, but with some goals in place I made it through after the first year of paying everything off. I live debt free as I only owe on my mortgage and household overhead. The freedom is truly amazing and would never go back to any situationship as long as I live. Thanks for sharing your insight. It's definitely my way or the highway 👍

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks James!

@GUITARTIME2024

2 жыл бұрын

Im 50, married now 25 yrs, and miserable.

Hey John, thanks for sharing your story. Your experiences, definitely resonates with my own. It’s easy to get in a rut and stay isolated. So making yourself get out and do things is a must. Cheers!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! Thanks for watching!

I lived on my own till about 45. 80% of the time I had no problem, and the other 20% you miss company, support when you take a major knock from life. Primary task you must master is self discipline, as a example the dishes in the sink will not wash themselves ! If you lack the above you will fail to make the best out of your single life.

@PerryPapanier

2 жыл бұрын

I got a simple rule that I follow, I never go to bed with dishes in the sink.

I have been living alone for over 3 years. Being self reliant, knowing basic handyman work, a couple of hobbies, being comfortable with solitude, and most importantly making your health and sleep as non-negotiables, are the five skills that helped me a lot. As I have grown old I realized that my peace and well being are more important than being a man of value for someone else or being right.

OMG, Living alone was so great, finally committed myself 4 years ago. There's this thing called dust that i never noticed before, now i get reminded every week 🤣

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Haha!

I feel the same way. Ever since I got separated, I have traveled to so many countries alone enjoying the freedom and fun time. Made alot of friends from different countries that I can visit anytime.

I have lived alone for about 30 years, after an almost 7 year relationship ended. When you give your "heart" to someone, and say "I LOVE YOU", and that person says they no longer feel the same... it's devastating. 😭 I still feel a lack of trust, and haven't been able to get past the past. I don't want to "set myself up again", so I pull back or keep the "wall up". Yet, I do long for another relationship, but don't do anything to pursue one?🤔🤣 But I do enjoy doing what I want, when I want and have so many interests that it would be a challenge to find someone to fit in my schedule. The biggest thing I ever did ALONE, was going to NYC for a week by myself! Didn't know a single person when I got to my B&B, but for one week, I truly felt ALIVE, and it was THE highlight of my life! It was a sense of freedom, and overpowering to my self-confidence and self-esteem. Have plans for a REBOOT trip when able. And want to go by myself! 🤗😀

@FreeSpirit47

2 жыл бұрын

You're brave! Many people can't or don't understand the peace a person can gain from remaining single by choice.

@lostbutfound3404

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sure we can all relate to your experience. It's going to take a long time to get over the heartbreak, but use that heartbreak as a blessing in your life. Without that experience, you wouldn't know the peace, quiet and freedom you have today. I'm able to dabble in hobbies that my partner wasn't into, or didn't approve of due to cost. I no longer have to ask permission to do what I want to do, no more criticisms(big self esteem boost), no more holding shopping bags. I can understand, sometimes I look a couple and think why not me, or wouldn't it be nice to share it with someone. Then I hear complaints from my married friends about their wives and that feeling quickly goes away. Everything has pros and cons, and a sacrifice. Being single allows you to grow into the person you want to become, not the person someone else wants you to be. Also, I can relate to the lack of trust feeling you have. Instead of being told that's a negative, think of it as your intuition giving you a warning message. Live free Brother.

@nicolletelangdon2694

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your comment!! Yes, men go through devastation as well when a relationship ends. I am truly sorry for what you've gone through. Unfortunately, I have gone through the same and know it's no joke to try to move on. The one thing I refused to do was go out and pretend like I didn't care. I refused to drink away my sorrows; I wanted to feel the pain rather than num it. I am single, 43, and could retire right now if I chose to. Being single and focusing on me, instead of us, is what got me here. By the way the men that I dated were older than me. One is now 56, the other 58, and the other 62. I am beyond thrilled that they cheated on me, right now I would be a nurse to them so to speak. They all still have mortgages and so forth... Car payments, or cant do things liberally because of their bills. When I was with them, I was working hard to build something together.

@Girlintheewild

2 жыл бұрын

I’m a woman but I love how self aware you are of your emotions and feelings. You are working through it and I hope that you can find a partner. It’s hard for both genders when you have a bunch of gamers in the dating pool.

I can tell you as a single woman I was very hesitant to go out by myself and now I do it all the time and love it. I find the freedom amazing. New to your channel- love your advice.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Andrea!

Thank you John as at times I fell really desperate of my loneliness.This video has greatly boosted up my moral.May God bless you dear.

OHHHHHH, that's awesome. I'm still married but separated for about 3 years and moving towards divorce. At this particular moment, I'm ENJOYING living by myself, it's awesomely great. I'm learning more about myself and how I can impact people's life. As a man of 43, soon turning 44 I'm more successful in what I do, more focused, have a great self esteem, do whatever I want without approval, became an entrepreneur, became a shareholder, working towards my financial freedom. Life has become more fun. It's true that not everyone accepts leaving in this condition, but personally after a toxic, authoritative, possessive and dangerous relationship, I'm not willing to get myself involved into a commitment, that will not contribute for the better version of myself and that will not support me in striving for my goals. With that being said, I'M ALRIGHT THE WAY I'M AT FOR THE MOMENT.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

This is awesome! Thank you very much for commenting! Cheers!

Thank you for your advice, especially the part about going out and doing things on your own. I am 43, single, and live alone. Used to have a group to hang out with, but after getting a DWI, I no longer go to bars and don't see any of them anymore. I would just go to work and then home every day for the past 6 months or so.

When my grandmother went to have a treatment at the hospital, my grandfather was barely able to cook an omelette. We really no longer have an excuse to keep relying on other people to take care of basic stuff for us. I'll gladly be the first one to invite someone for a drink, but even if I end up going alone, it's usually the only company I can fully trust to never let me down ;) Traveling alone is also a great experience since you're much more open to potential new acquaintances and organise your time the way you prefer.

Yes it's tough when you lose a really great woman. My unicorn died 5 years ago and it really hit me hard. I drowned my sorrow in whiskey for 18 months, got a bleeding ulcer and broke a vertebra when I blacked out on a stairs. That really shook me up. After a spell in hospital I started rowing and weights and went full bore keto. I hardly ever touch alcohol these days and am in good condition. I still miss her and doubt if I'll ever marry again. But I'm reasonably content, if not happy.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing John!

@theone7216

2 жыл бұрын

I know how you feel I lost my wife of 17 years 2 years ago .people just don't understand you not the same after that.

G'day John, great content as always, I do have one suggestion though. As a fellow clean freak I used to always wash my dishes by hand after every meal until a friend informed me that by using the dishwasher (once it's full of course) instead of hand-washing dishes I would save a significant amount of water over time. I researched it and apparently it's true. Food for thought anyways. Cheers Paul.

Yes In can't wait to live on my own, after raising a family and putting others first I'm looking forward to me time.I'm planning a solo trip for next year, back to Europe where I'm from.I would love to to end up in Portugal longterm but will see.I also had enough of the Canadian winters ,a place in the sun by the ocean would be nice. It will definitely be a bid scary but I will learn as I go.I already made a big life change 26 years ago moving to Canada from Switzerland now it's time for a new adventure!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds great! Thanks for commenting!

@ahmadjamal484

2 жыл бұрын

I was in the same boat Natalie. Until earlier this year I packed up my bags, said goodbye to Toronto and moved to Istanbul. Winters here are mild(ish), the summer is fantastic and this city is magical. Go ahead take the plunge you will regret not having done so sooner

@nisbit3883

2 жыл бұрын

I have been single except for a short 5 year marriage. I love living alone and I am not lonely. I thought I would be lonely, but I was not. I have a good job a house and all the things I need. I can't see myself every getting used to having someone around ever again and I don't miss men. They are kinda like pod people to me.

@pip_rake

2 жыл бұрын

That's brave

Yes, this will be me in a few months, living alone after 22 years. I lived alone before I was married, and although this wasn’t the plan for age 50, I’m going to make the best of it. This video helps my mindset!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Frank! Glad it helps!

I really appreciate this video. I'm going through a very sad, difficult divorce, living now on my own for the first time since age 22. Your advice gave me some moral support and good practical ideas. Besides the light of intelligence it shines, the message made me feel a bit less lonely. Thank you sir

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome! Thank you for watching!

I lived for 23 years alone and it was the best years of my life. No one to answer too. And I went to the shops and bought all the things to make meals. So it made me a good cook. And I loved going to the bar that had a karaoke Saturday and Sunday nights because I am a better singer than anyone else

I lost my wife of 35 years and eventually married another woman but that relationship is ending in divorce. Sad to say I’m looking forward to living alone at 69 years old.

@patricktracy7940

2 жыл бұрын

Not sad at all. Just your reality.

@roberticolari7447

2 жыл бұрын

@@FMJP Thank you for the insight but my wife and I had a long and deep discussion. We will be staying together

@pip_rake

2 жыл бұрын

That's brave

@markg.4246

2 жыл бұрын

I sincerely wish you much peace, and happiness Robert!

I am quite the pro in doing things alone, traveled solo to over 50 countries, and I often go for meals or activities alone, I also had a lot of responsibilities growing up so I rarely socialized. It takes a while to get used to the silence and the social stigma but it pays dividends when you gain a high sense of self-awareness and can focus on your goals. The trick is to audit this and make sure you are making the effort to be social, it is very easy to fall into a pattern of doing everything alone, some experiences are more rewarding when shared.

I’m almost in my 50s and I love this video. I love to see men not just surviving but living well on their own. I also love how clean you keep your place.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Great video John. The only activity I'm not used to doing solo is vacationing. I did take a short trip to Florida recently but doing my extended trips to Hawaii solo still seems awkward. Haven't pulled the trigger. I've been solo for 7 years after being married for 28. #legend

Great advice for all older people, John. Love your videos! Blessings from Canada.🍁

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Great video! I’m 55 and after a thirty year marriage ended at 51 I’m living alone. At first I had a hard time eating out be myself but I’m ok now! Ditto on most of the other things except cooking. I found out I like to cook I’m still learning about fashion and thank you for all the great advice!

Thank you so much for this very valuable listen because im actually going through this right now

53 here my wife died in january, and the dating scene turns my stomach---thank God you're here- I just subcribed and joined-preach it brother

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Much appreciated Scott! Sorry for your loss.

Useful topic. Thanks!

Been watching your videos for a while and this one is very much spot on. A lot of great information as usual. Thanks!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

Hi, Can I first say I thoroughly enjoy your channel, relatively new to your channel. Since viewing various different content I have learned and picked up great tips and advice, and looked at my life in general. I have been alone since my divorce nearly 5 yrs ago, however I have two great young kids a boy and girl 12 and 9 respectively. So not alone but feel alone if you not what I mean. But wanted to say thank you for this video and other videos has inspired me to do things and take a chance. Going out to eat on my own, cinema, drinks etc. Building one’s confident, working on. Thank you and keep up the great work Nandu (UK)

Cool.. Appreciate the prepared meals idea. I was not aware there was such a thing. I'll give her a try. Thank you.

Dude...I love your content. I have probably seen all your videos at least twice. I am going through a divorce and living alone again after 17 years. THIS ONE hit a home run for me. More content like this for sure. Well done!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much!

Great Video John. It's all about structure and also doing something that you haven't done before to add a little excitement to every day.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! Thanks for commenting!

I've been on my own for a good few years now and I still struggle with doing some things on my own. Some things just don't seem as much fun when you do them on your own, going out to eat being one of them.

Great video, John. I can completely relate to this, as I am 51 and living on my own for the first time ever. It's been great in almost every single aspect, to be honest (except for when I caught Covid and had to self-isolate...nobody around to help, lol). Keep 'em coming!!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Much appreciated! Thanks for watching!

I completely agree with you. I live the same way you do! It's very empowering and liberating too. Congratulations!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

I moved back to my condo after 7 years of marriage. I totally agree with everything in this video. Being grounded by reality and free with confidence and ambitions.

Unfortunately for me I’m a very nostalgic person. I live in the past moments that gave me life, joy, and peace. I now live under the threat of having all those thing being taken away (an unwanted divorce). I have come to accept that it’s out of my control. I have done all I could to hang on to my family. I’m not a bad dad or husband, just old fashion and they are, “Woke.” That difference has throughout the years made its way into our relationship and even though I’ve made a real effort to adjust, trying for them is not enough. I feel I’m at the edge of a precipice where the anticipation of the unknown has consumed me. What awaits after I don’t know.

@Dan-rq4vt

Жыл бұрын

Hi Edward, going through the exact same thing, my wife asked to live separately, And does not want to talk about her feelings, our marriage is up in the air right now and with no direction, how’s things going for you ?

Plus one for Factor meals, I've been on those since February '21. I'm a weight loss surgery patient (vertical sleeve gastrectomy August 2020) and the structure and nutrition are critical for my health maintenance...along with regular exercise and more. My nutritional doctor is fully onboard with this. I don't have talent, time, or interest to cook. Pre-prepped meals (or kits) are a total lifesaver for bachelors. Thanks for your content, always interesting and helpful for men's style and lifestyle tips.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Daniel! Appreciate your comment!

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

I've lived on my own through choice for years - love it.

Another wonderful video. I can truly relate since I'm also a 50 plus single person, living alone and enjoying life. 😊

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching Edward!

Terrific video, John. I have always lived on my own. One of the perks of living alone is you can throw something in the trash and the next day take it out and finish it and no one will know. Lol. Thank you Elayne Boosler for that gem.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Haha! Love it Will!

I was never lonelier than when I was in a terrible marriage. Now I keep a simple house, spend less than I make, got rid of the TV, spend money on what I want, meditate, workout, have groceries delivered, have “friends” over, work my hustles… living single is great.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

Great video glad you posted keep them coming thanks

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

I’ve experienced both married and single at different times in my life, there are pros and cons. One must find and decide what works best for them. The grass is or isn’t greener on the other side.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

True story! Thanks for watching!

Great advice. I also recommend taking a solo vacation or weekend trip. Perfect way to get out of the comfort zone and make personal memories!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

@thespacesbetweenstudio3346

2 жыл бұрын

i never took solo trips before but did it earlier this year and it was amazing. I met so many friendly people and honestly, i didn't have to pay for a second person to travel as well, which meant i could splurge a bit

I was in a job interview and somebody asked what were the websites I visited first thing in the morning. One of those sites was my bank. At the time, I was watching for fraudulent charges, but later I realized it also made me hyper aware of what I was spending my money on, day to day.

Good words, Sir! I do pay the bills online manually, just because it keeps me sharp. Auto-pay is tempting. I have 3 utilities and some credit cards. I do dishes by hand, as you do. Am getting better at cooking.

Thanks John. Great tips.

As a woman in my 40’s who’s live alone for so many years and can definitely relate to this video, everything you say also applies to women that are alone and don’t sleep around. And all though I enjoy the peaceful time I don’t know if I want to dye alone 🤔

@Canadian_Eh_I

Жыл бұрын

I can relate. Turning 40 in a few months. I think that the grass will always be greener on the other side and in a sense we all are alone in our last moments. Don't let that discourage you from living the way that is right for you. Now thinking 'do I want to be alone in 10 years' is a valid concern, as I have noticed as we get older it gets harder and harder to meet new people and they have more and more baggage. All the best to you.

@deepdiver849

Жыл бұрын

What color would you want to dye? 😂

Hello John, great vid! Love your contexts. I’m 47 yrs old living with my corgi and love living alone. No stress no one to answer to. Can walk around naked. Lol….

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Ha! Absolutely! Thanks for watching!

Great tips, I live alone and now I'm just to it, it wasn't easy in the beginning but now I'm ok with it. Your Factor discount is better than what a subscriber referred me to, so I'll get it. Thanks for sharing

When my older brother divorced some two decades ago, he was crushed. At the time, the only words I had for him were, "God must have someone really special waiting for you". When he remarried, I was his best man. He is still married to someone really special. As for me, I have been single my whole life. (65 yrs) I haven't given up on being in a great relationship, but in God's time. Until then, I know his will for me is to be happy, and live to good purpose...and I do!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for commenting Mark!

Thanks for the great video! I agree with everything that you said.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

John, please address this in another video, if you can. I am 55. Been living alone all my life. Never married. While I enjoyed it during my younger days up till about age 47 or so, I am now feeling very depressed, lonely, suicidal and feel I need a partner. But I find it tough to mingle with women after being single for so long. The depression part setting in is the worst. Plus I don’t have a well paying job and not financially stable. It’s taking a toll on my physical and mental health!

@SuperSetright

2 жыл бұрын

Fix the last part and everything else will fall in place.

@davidrosenfeld5525

2 жыл бұрын

Find another job that suits you better and forces you to meet people. You can drive for Uber part-time. It doesn't matter if you're talking to a man or woman. Human contact is the key. The bottom line is to get through life.

@stevenb7964

Жыл бұрын

Get your testosterone level checked. I've seen a lot of research that men of your age start to feel depressed and by going on testosterone replacement they feel great again

Single parent for 13 years. My girlfriend took a picture of my spice drawer! Didn't expect to see everything clean and labels lined up, house spotless. Her girlfriends told her not to expect much from a single man, since we are supposed to be slobs and always works in progress. Lol. You offer great advice on making ourselves feel and look great. Finding a best friend and lover is icing on the cake.

@40OverFashion

Жыл бұрын

Well done! Thanks for commenting!

I wouldn't want to think about living alone again, although I did for several years. My father was 16 years older than my mother. She died at 68, after 40 years of marriage, he at 98 and he took up enormous discipline. The house never was a mess, when we visited him there were no dirty dishes, nothing. He cooked for us, made sure there was something to drink. Classical music was around always. Up to 96 years old he managed it, even when almost blind. The last 2 were a struggle, because of a broken shoulder that didn't heal. He hated it needing care. So... I know it's perfectly possible to live an organized life alone. But my father never told me if he felt alone.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for commenting!

Great Video John - I fly solo myself and very comfortable with it too. Could not have seen the world if i was relying on someone to go with me. Love cooking and youtube has been a great place for tips and ideas. My small collection of cars are my kids.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

One of your better videos! Perfect info and perfect timing

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Robert!

Very good advises. Thanks. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

I agree with the positive notes on living alone. The benefits far out way the cons of being in a “toxic” relationship. I, like you, John, have a similar routine of independence. I will however make mention that as we grow older and alone we do become more selfish in our ways and develop non compromising habits. I encourage all men to have alone time and discover yourself however, do not push potentially healthy relationships away, because you have been hurt in your past. Great content as always John

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Spot on Gary! Thanks for commenting!

@baldeagle4710

2 жыл бұрын

there is no need to deal with toxic women anymore. you dont need to have a wife, 2.5 kids and a house to be happy. men will be happier if they avoid relationships with controlling and narcissistic women.

@mowtivatedmechanic1172

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry man. Western women (USA) are way too prone to be narcissist. I’ll remain solo till I fly overseas.

Legend, I am married but my wife and myself have two different personalities. I am the cozy guy while she's messy. I always have to pick things she leaves behind and we ended fighting! I go to the movies alone, I go to bars alone, and best vacation I ever had, I went alone to Thailand 🇹🇭! I like doing things alone and working on myself! Although marriage sometimes is not bad I still believe that it is for the womens! Cheers for all the men's alone! 👍

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Cheers!

Gents believe it or not getting comfortable with yourself is essential whether you are living single or seeking a relationship. Best advice I have heard!

Thanks

I have been on my own for 18 months and it’s great. I a, responsible for me and all that happens in my space. I go out by myself like you and I have travelled for work for years and have done that anyways. I have no qualms doing that. Thanks for this video.

After 26 years, I separated in June of last year. It’s a huge change but I cannot tell you how good it feels to do everything alone. Not hearing anyones mouth is absolute bliss. It’s great to focus on my well-being. Thanks on for hitting on these topics my friend.

@40OverFashion

Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome! Thank you for watching!

Man.. this resonates with me so much. I have pretty much the same routines. Funny you mentioned the dishwasher. I bought my house last year and the DW still has the plastic on the racks inside. One other thing I practice is a credit card with universal points (shopping, amazon, travel, lodging perks) and pretty much auto-pay everything on it, then pay it off lump sum each month for no interest accrual. Only pay a $100 annual fee. Divorced 4 years, married for 18 years. Im 43.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for commenting Mike!

Great video and content as usual my man. As someone who is married I would think the most “awkward” times living alone would be during the holidays, birthdays, etc.. Getting sick (knock on wood), could be a little worrisome too. Stay safe bro!

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Like always John great video!😊keep well...and thanks for sharing..

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

cleaning my house lifts my mood. a dirty house puts me in a bad mood.

I have been a wedding photographer, over 500 weddings. I don't believe in marriage anymore. Wife divorced me approximately ten years ago. They marry you in a church and divorce you in a courtroom. Doesn't make sense. Takes some time to adjust but it is ok.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you William!

@lee0utlaw769

2 жыл бұрын

I'm considering being a divorce photographer! Coupled with the wedding photos it's gonna show the end-to-end process of a man's soul being gradually stripped away. My wife left last April, my wedding photo and the photo of today show's 2 vastly different people. Battle hardened. I send my best wishes to all of us that are going through this "re-birth"!, stay strong, living alone has many benefits.

Hi John. Great video. I'm 62 and live by myself. I own my own business and am in total control of what I do and when I do it. Pretty similar to you but with a helper 3 times a week as I hate washing and ironing. 🤛🙌😄

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Ha! Totally understand Allan! Thanks for commenting!

@darrenstoddart8673

2 жыл бұрын

congrats Allan, I hope to be in a similar position as soon as possible. I like the idea of delegating activities that you dislike or the costs outweigh the payoff if you have the means to reduce your tasks then why not.

Broadening content... excellent! Triple divocrced/separated. Content living solo. Cooking is one of my favourite things, it allows you to broaden your content intellectually and benefit from the effort. Algo boost! Thanks John.

@40OverFashion

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for commenting Murray!