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  • @coolbreeze5683
    @coolbreeze5683 Жыл бұрын

    Audrey is right. Love is more about feelings and emotions a person evokes rather than their looks. There comes a point in good, loving relationships where you just feel eachother's vibes and you don't really notice how the other person looks. The other person becomes perpetually beautiful to you if you love them.

  • @amorepsyche808

    @amorepsyche808

    Жыл бұрын

    Not true, you just get content with what you have. I assure you if a model passes by the man will drool instantly

  • @caty2ful

    @caty2ful

    Жыл бұрын

    @@amorepsyche808 Exactly. Women are not so much about the looks but men...

  • @amorepsyche808

    @amorepsyche808

    Жыл бұрын

    @@caty2ful well yes, but nobody will deny that a fit body and not bold male has more chances to have s*x than a overweight bold man..I mean would be more enjoyable in bed, the eyes want their part too! But women forget about s*x and they are ok with a man who is financially well off and can contribute to the family (all very valuable attributes)but attractiveness is not there anymore we all know that

  • @caty2ful

    @caty2ful

    Жыл бұрын

    @@amorepsyche808 Exactly!

  • @coolbreeze5683

    @coolbreeze5683

    Жыл бұрын

    ​​@@amorepsyche808 I'm talking about actual love not lust. There are men who are capable of that. Everyone is different.

  • @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow
    @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow Жыл бұрын

    Here’s the rub: if they participate in porn or mention not liking your features or compare you to others. It’s not you, it’s them, they won’t be satisfied with reality, move on, they’re the problem 😊 find someone that is attracted to you as your unique self, not a set of features

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Take a few loads,make o few sandwiches. Do a little dance, make a little love. Get down tonight.

  • @hortensejones4050

    @hortensejones4050

    Жыл бұрын

    Oh so very much agree you saved me having to write exact thing👍👍👍🌿💕

  • @jadegreen1554

    @jadegreen1554

    Жыл бұрын

    Worse is those guys who watch, claim they put no value on it or what they see, say all the “right things” to give the impression they’re reasonable, and then judge you and your appearance secretly but will never say it bc they’re coward and not honest about what they really think. You’ll *never* know these men bc they don’t speak about your appearance or make the comments. Covert narcissist.

  • @SimoneJY
    @SimoneJY Жыл бұрын

    Let’s be honest and admit that external beauty is important to everyone. BUT it can be a short-lived phase which can easily turn unattractive by someone’s behaviour. I, for one, believe that a person’s beauty radiates from within. No matter how gorgeous he or she might be, their actions will make them more beautiful or turn them “ugly”. Whoever you choose to be your life partner for all the right reasons will always be the most beautiful human being to you.

  • @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow

    @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow

    Жыл бұрын

    It’s not important to me, just be a vaguely square shaped dude and be nice, lmao I still don’t fathom how humans are so shallow while claiming to not be 🤭

  • @isabellavansmoorenburg6232

    @isabellavansmoorenburg6232

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes external beauty is just initial attraction, when you are truly attracted to someone its because of who they are.

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    And if he doesn't make you wet right away make him work for it.

  • @Dionysus_Athena

    @Dionysus_Athena

    8 ай бұрын

    Every good looking western woman I’ve met seems to be trash. They all have been used and abused the. You have to deal with their bs mistakes and trauma caused by all the guys they smashed.

  • @Laflaqua-hg5yx
    @Laflaqua-hg5yx Жыл бұрын

    I’m loving the new female element in your content and how Audrey is bringing the female perpective and questions into this ❤

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes,she is hot and tells the truth.

  • @valerielove9837

    @valerielove9837

    Жыл бұрын

    Who is this lady?? Is she Matt's fiancé???

  • @Paula-fd6lj
    @Paula-fd6lj Жыл бұрын

    Let's be real, if you are sleeping too soon with someone, the love they can start developing n the compassion lens they'd use to judge you, is not there. You are just a physical body standing there with all of its flaws. The caveat to that as Jameson mentioned is, everyone is ready to be fooled by your uniqueness but only if you believe in it, yourself. No one can tear you down unless you let them. So even if your body is not perfect, you have to find the self love in you to remember you are not just a physical body to be reduced to, you are an entire package to be discovered 📦 😉💛

  • @heyjenknee

    @heyjenknee

    Жыл бұрын

    There ya go!!

  • @78beckyboo
    @78beckyboo Жыл бұрын

    As a curvy girl I've worked on my self for years: worth, development, loving my skin...I can tell you that confidence is everything! Own that shit, be grateful for your body 🙏🏼 and sexiness will ooze out of you. And just because someone is good looking doesn't automatically make them good in bed anyway 😅 It's LOA...what you believe about yourself and put out to others is what you'll receive

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    If it doesn't ooze out let it drip from your lips while looking at him. Moaning also works, while looking at him screwing you,

  • @lawoman608
    @lawoman608 Жыл бұрын

    I agree with Audrey. When we are in that moment of being completely vulnerable in front of each other, we do not judge each other.

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    You bet cha

  • @arushasmusic8523
    @arushasmusic8523 Жыл бұрын

    For me, what makes a person beautiful physically is precisely everything that makes them unique. Their own particular shape, skintone, the scars they have, the myriads of ways their sensuality shines through in the way they move or do something, the tone of their voice etc etc...

  • @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow

    @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow

    Жыл бұрын

    Right??? The things that make them, them.

  • @amorepsyche808

    @amorepsyche808

    Жыл бұрын

    Sure and a big belly🤦‍♀️

  • @Ljounieh

    @Ljounieh

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@amorepsyche808 you just don't get it do you

  • @carriepadgett2743
    @carriepadgett2743 Жыл бұрын

    I just started seeing someone a few weeks ago and we really hit it off. It's been 5 years since "the first time" with someone and I swear, it gets harder every time because I'm getting older (I've been in several long term relationships). I'm 42 and he's 51, both of us are in great athletic shape and look 10 years younger than we actually are, yet I am STILL a nervous wreck because this weekend is going to be THE weekend. It's like you guys said in the video and in chat, you have to own it and have self pride. There's beauty and power in that. And try not to be nervous because your partner is probably just as nervous as you. So just have fun, laugh, give each other confidence and radiate what you want to receive.

  • @sandra4equifino52

    @sandra4equifino52

    Жыл бұрын

    I get your being nervous and all, but what a lovely place to be in - where all the excitement and promise and adventure is part of your days and nights. Enjoy and have a great time! X

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Of course he wants you to screw him the make him some food. Pancakes if your poor. Treat him like a king. Make him be in charge stay safe and be a human.

  • @northofyou33

    @northofyou33

    Жыл бұрын

    I am considerably older than you and still playing this game, since I am divorced. Carrie, enjoy your youth. You are STILL young, and you're 10 years younger than him. Own that!

  • @SSpitz16

    @SSpitz16

    Жыл бұрын

    How did it go? 😅

  • @carriepadgett2743

    @carriepadgett2743

    Жыл бұрын

    @@SSpitz16 lol it went AWESOME. We were both nervous at first, but that was ok. The rest of the weekend was smooth sailing and we are so excited to see each other again in a few days ♡

  • @SophieLovesSunsets
    @SophieLovesSunsets Жыл бұрын

    I 100% agree with Audrey. If you sleep with someone solely based on their looks ... the relationship or sex will never actually be that good. Maybe it will be great in the early stages of the relationship, when dopamine and hormones are running high, but in the long term you need a real connection and chemistry with someone.

  • @lucindalaree9265
    @lucindalaree9265 Жыл бұрын

    “Ah God Damn it!” That totally cracked me up! Audrey your female perspective is the best!

  • @yorkshirelassdiaries4841
    @yorkshirelassdiaries4841 Жыл бұрын

    If I’m attracted to someone’s soul, it affects how I see them ❤

  • @terrylasin3709

    @terrylasin3709

    Жыл бұрын

    Why does it affect the way you see them ?

  • @yorkshirelassdiaries4841

    @yorkshirelassdiaries4841

    Жыл бұрын

    @@terrylasin3709 if they have a beautiful heart and soul, it makes them more beautiful to me. If they have an ugly heart and soul and they’re not a nice person, I no longer see them as attractive

  • @terrylasin3709

    @terrylasin3709

    Жыл бұрын

    @@yorkshirelassdiaries4841 we all still in the same game and am really looking for a good soul with a good heart .

  • @Taraquin83

    @Taraquin83

    Жыл бұрын

    The 'Shallow Hal' effect 😉

  • @elizabethmccaul2223
    @elizabethmccaul2223 Жыл бұрын

    I'm 79 and men of all ages tell me I'm attractive. I thank them

  • @annamanna3
    @annamanna3 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your voice Audrey. Your point about our looks not defining whether we are worthy of a relationship really resonated. Glad you are part of these videos.

  • @Jo-Dublin
    @Jo-Dublin Жыл бұрын

    There it is. The key word. "Chemistry" ...and it doesn't necessarily primarily means sexual attraction. To me "chemistry" is a constant hunger and interest in learning more about the other person, wanting more of the communication and this personal contact and presence Even in silence. In fact silence in presence of the other person tells me volumes about the connection between us.

  • @TheKrispyfort
    @TheKrispyfort Жыл бұрын

    If he's making unhelpful comments about your naked body, why are you naked with this bloke? If you're making unhelpful comments about your naked body, why are you naked with this bloke? I'm pretty certain they've already figured out what my body looks like under the clothes by the time we've gotten to the bedroom naked

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Kitty 🐈 is the same anywhere. As long as it's hot and wet you are at the top of your game. Yes his hands aren't down your pants because you vote similar to him.

  • @jessicaroma9631
    @jessicaroma9631 Жыл бұрын

    I love that we have Audrey’s perspective too really makes it balanced♥️

  • @annaseimova576
    @annaseimova576 Жыл бұрын

    This is exactly why confidence is so key! 👏

  • @YAWEHPrincess_

    @YAWEHPrincess_

    Жыл бұрын

    True 🙌🏻

  • @coolbreeze5683

    @coolbreeze5683

    Жыл бұрын

    My body is far from what the media would consider perfect but I've always been confident about it. I don't know where the confidence comes from but I found that I've always been more body confident than some of the guys I've been with. When I started getting intimate with my current partner, he'd joke about his "dad bod". I think he's handsome. He says he thinks I'm beautiful. I think when you're in love with someone, your bodies can look any type of way and you'll still be attracted to one another.

  • @annaseimova576

    @annaseimova576

    Жыл бұрын

    @@coolbreeze5683 I can relate with my current partner also joking about his "dad bod". One time he forcibly pushed out his stomach, so I pushed out my already bloated stomach and said "I still think we look great". A quote from Euphoria that stuck with me, is 90% of life is about confidence, and the thing about confidence, is that no one can tell when you're faking it!

  • @coolbreeze5683

    @coolbreeze5683

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@annaseimova576 that goes along with what Matthew says in the video. Confidence contributes to a lot. If you believe what you're offering is high quality then others believe it to.

  • @valerielove9837

    @valerielove9837

    Жыл бұрын

    How true!!

  • @amorepsyche808
    @amorepsyche808 Жыл бұрын

    Let’s face it attractiveness is Very important but character will make people stay

  • @valerielove9837

    @valerielove9837

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen!!

  • @genevievemaurano6155
    @genevievemaurano6155 Жыл бұрын

    Audrey is awesome! She really adds to the video and Matthew seems so happy! He is really lucky to have found her. She is beautiful and authentic.

  • @honeystorlie1778
    @honeystorlie1778 Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely brilliant articulation of identity and personhood showing up strong inside of vulnerability Matt! You bring so much covering of vulnerability within the thought as well. Awesome! I love it when you support each other’s thoughts and sharing… This was a very wonderful description of exuding confidence through what we believe about ourselves. 💫💫💫

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Making girls wet since 1968

  • @enelrahcreivaj
    @enelrahcreivaj Жыл бұрын

    Huhu Matt and Audrey! Love these two!

  • @cindyjean3208
    @cindyjean3208 Жыл бұрын

    Love your channel… Real… Thought provoking … Inspiring … Thank you for all you do😊😍

  • @samanthab9297
    @samanthab9297 Жыл бұрын

    This will be interesting, always is! Love your work ♥️

  • @Gez-C
    @Gez-C Жыл бұрын

    Think they are all right, that you go with the person that you have that chemistry with, makes you laugh, etc and you dont want to point out the bad things in you and just be yourself!

  • @Evermore2017
    @Evermore2017 Жыл бұрын

    “I don’t know if I love you because you’re beautiful, or if you’re beautiful because I love you”. That’s the place you want to be.

  • @jsav9979

    @jsav9979

    2 ай бұрын

    That’s beautiful in itself ❤

  • @ladonawyatt
    @ladonawyatt Жыл бұрын

    After coming out of a 30 year marriage, my self-esteem was so low that I never thought I could ever be found to be attractive. I have really found since then, that self confidence is apparently very attractive. 😅 All those years I wasted feeling bad about how I looked!

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    As men we see you at the top of your game. Be a freak in the sheets and be desired by all men. You are desired by all and you screw us we are blessed.

  • @ladonawyatt

    @ladonawyatt

    Жыл бұрын

    @@MCarrick-ss7xc yes sir! The sexy hot acrewing will continue 🤣

  • @krissyk354
    @krissyk354 Жыл бұрын

    this is exactly what i needed to hear. thanks guys ❤

  • @rebclout
    @rebclout Жыл бұрын

    Such an amazing episode!!

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    And you have a amazing little 👄.

  • @How.Dare.You.
    @How.Dare.You. Жыл бұрын

    Audrey made a great point!! 12.50 so totally true!!!

  • @haleyscomet8356
    @haleyscomet8356 Жыл бұрын

    Reject ourselves even before others do...😢 Let’s not do it!!

  • @elizabethboznango571
    @elizabethboznango571 Жыл бұрын

    My mom always told me, pretty is…”is” pretty does! You can be pretty but what you do is what matters. That could be showing kindness, empathy or being honest.

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Don't forget the oral while it's dripping 💦 from your lips 👄. Kitty 🐈 is good for getting food and drink.

  • @karenlewkowitz5858
    @karenlewkowitz5858 Жыл бұрын

    Our culture seems so focused on appearance - and missing out on touch, scent, connection, the list goes on...

  • @raffaellaricciardi8517
    @raffaellaricciardi8517 Жыл бұрын

    When I'm in love, I'm in love also with the little things that are not perfect about my man's body. I even see them as a plus. I cannot split a person into "areas": body, mind, voice... it's a whole lovable person.

  • @terrylasin3709

    @terrylasin3709

    Жыл бұрын

    Great !

  • @katieb8511

    @katieb8511

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes !! ❤

  • @genevievemaurano6155
    @genevievemaurano61554 ай бұрын

    Audrey is lovely and brings so much to the show!

  • @theprousteffect9717
    @theprousteffect97174 ай бұрын

    Matthew Hussey is one of the most brilliant modern thinkers and speakers on relationships that I've heard.

  • @kathrynmcnerney6490
    @kathrynmcnerney6490 Жыл бұрын

    beautifully said.

  • @PtolemyXVII
    @PtolemyXVII Жыл бұрын

    Very interesting talk, I quite enjoyed this discussion 😊

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    You look like a mummy. Well as long as you have some moisture you will do.

  • @siansroadtonirvana
    @siansroadtonirvana Жыл бұрын

    Great pod!

  • @hortensejones4050
    @hortensejones4050 Жыл бұрын

    Also agree with Audrey PLUS There’s a world of us who are overweight, who can’t/don’t work out, who are ill, handicapped, have had mastectomies etc& hey/we are just as lovable, sexual as the models Real love transcends the superficial. I know cause I was fortunate enough to be loved really loved by my husband for 45 years (and a couple of others too.!) Thank G-d ➡️Sexuality is an inside job and most of the time people don’t feel confident or great about the way we look Part of love IS embracing body mind soul, warts and all!❤

  • @sindhuchinniah4363
    @sindhuchinniah4363 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks Mathew! Love from India

  • @sarahmiller901
    @sarahmiller901 Жыл бұрын

    The old saying goes "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"

  • @terrylasin3709

    @terrylasin3709

    Жыл бұрын

    Just like you Just tell me if he mess up just give me a call 🤗

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Wetness is in-between the thighs

  • @hortensejones4050

    @hortensejones4050

    Жыл бұрын

    My husband loved the parts of me I’m most uncomfortable with! Not just to make me feel good either!

  • @karenhardie1132
    @karenhardie1132 Жыл бұрын

    Everyone's looks will be gone one day.

  • @jucxox
    @jucxox Жыл бұрын

    Good chat cheers team

  • @Clovergirl7934
    @Clovergirl7934 Жыл бұрын

    Sorry, but it’s my experience with men that they don’t care a whole lot about a woman’s body as long as they can get some! 😊. Their focus is on the act itself and not so much what’s under them. One track mind. And, it’s the way you make them feel about themselves that makes YOU sexy!

  • @caty2ful

    @caty2ful

    Жыл бұрын

    When its just about having sex I think you are right, but for having a relationship not at all.

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Men see you at the top of your game. If you are desired by all you are hot and trappable

  • @meganthebritishcatmom

    @meganthebritishcatmom

    Жыл бұрын

    For hookups yes, but not in a relationship.

  • @lynnolsen1498
    @lynnolsen1498 Жыл бұрын

    Great Talk!!

  • @analucianakoscina9870
    @analucianakoscina9870 Жыл бұрын

    What a great answer ✨️

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Just like you

  • @pariahasanpour6160
    @pariahasanpour61604 ай бұрын

    Thank you

  • @Berr3631
    @Berr3631 Жыл бұрын

    Yes i believe in not drawing attention to the parts of your body you would love to change..So just love yourself own your body tell yourself, you are fabulous.Then it flows like a river and just enjoy the moment..If your date or partner compliments you actually accept it acknowledge it with confidence..Thank you again Mr Hussey for a great video. .

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Offer all that bothers you, he doesn't mind being a man we don't care. we love you. Your body are the ecrutiment you are sexy.

  • @dianneciresi7208

    @dianneciresi7208

    Жыл бұрын

    What if they don't accept ur body flaws & get turned off by them?

  • @Berr3631

    @Berr3631

    Жыл бұрын

    @dianneciresi7208 Discernment is a beautiful gift so let us use it women will know and feel when the right person is there with them mentally and emotionally even before the intimacy begins.

  • @MariaAshworth
    @MariaAshworth Жыл бұрын

    great advice

  • @kristinapeciuliene2068
    @kristinapeciuliene2068 Жыл бұрын

    So true,agree 💯%

  • @yorkshirelassdiaries4841
    @yorkshirelassdiaries4841 Жыл бұрын

    Omg all women should watch this. I needed to hear this more than any other video that you’ve ever made ❤

  • @terrylasin3709

    @terrylasin3709

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah, his just hitting the real points.

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    This is enlightening enough for you to be sexy and hot. This is where men live at your sexyness. at the peak of your game.

  • @ishadhanda1790
    @ishadhanda17908 ай бұрын

    Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @jasminegutierrez7251
    @jasminegutierrez7251 Жыл бұрын

    This was a nice podcast session. From what I took away in this conversation is that no matter what your looks are (body type, size, and shape) is that having a deep connection and chemistry with the S/O is what makes you love them. As far as sex goes, I believe with what Adurey pointed out to that as long as you have the chemistry and connection, then men aren't judging you on your looks. They are just happy to have sex with you in that moment.

  • @gl9764
    @gl9764 Жыл бұрын

    I'm 50 in 12 days im.taking care of myself very well if you like someone lot you wouldn't think about how he or she looks about clothing. You love the heart of the person and the personality body is secondary. Getting along helps with things too

  • @carriepadgett2743
    @carriepadgett2743 Жыл бұрын

    omg the timing of this is perfect lol

  • @Ljounieh

    @Ljounieh

    Жыл бұрын

    Right??

  • @graceanneocallaghan1638
    @graceanneocallaghan1638 Жыл бұрын

    This made me think about the little mouse in The Gruffalo creating a ferocious myth about himself and saving his skin! ☺️

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Oh my God you went to college. Be vulgar and lewd and show me your kitty 🐈.

  • @brookebenton8192
    @brookebenton8192 Жыл бұрын

    I'll tell you one thing... He already knows if he wants to be with you or not!! Sleeping with him won't change anything!!

  • @sonyatbeasley
    @sonyatbeasley Жыл бұрын

    15:00 Spot on!!! 💪🏻

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    That longer than I last, we will have to work repeatedly on that response time. Try, try again until you succeed. Try roleplay or get fantasy 😇😈 going.

  • @abenafrimpong4271
    @abenafrimpong4271 Жыл бұрын

    Feel comfortable in your own skin

  • @yourtransformationgenie
    @yourtransformationgenie8 ай бұрын

    The other day I looked back over the people I was with before I met my husband. Despite the fact that I was only rarely slim and do not have a hard body type - I always had a belly and an inch or more to pinch - there was not a single one among them who looked at me as if they were judging me. They all loved being with me. This was a healing thought for me.... There is more to the human act of love-making than the human body.

  • @yesreneau
    @yesreneau Жыл бұрын

    I go in with my objective truth about the jackets 😅

  • @cassmusic39
    @cassmusic39 Жыл бұрын

    Think about this truth: We already are beautiful! We don't have to live up to these expectations of beauty. We already were and are beautiful just the way we are 😍

  • @terrylasin3709

    @terrylasin3709

    Жыл бұрын

    Still don't understand were your statement hitting ?

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Duh, get down tonight.

  • @lunamoonmoth1135
    @lunamoonmoth1135 Жыл бұрын

    100%True

  • @RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light
    @RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light Жыл бұрын

    Hi Matt, sorry off topic, I have a question....I've been in a long term relationship, it's kind of had a rough trot past 2 yrs......just wandering...... ' what questions should I ask myself wether I should stay or go from the marriage?' 🧚‍♀️thankyou

  • @barbaramorrow6725
    @barbaramorrow6725 Жыл бұрын

    I'm lusting after Cole in 'The Affair' !!

  • @amyp9010
    @amyp9010 Жыл бұрын

    I had a great loud laughter when Matt says 1st watch why he's gone,video and then enjoy your baby bear videos in Florida other shows of huge crocodiles beans or not women at the fast-food stand drive-thru... Oh my gosh handsome smart and funny

  • @Constaur
    @Constaur Жыл бұрын

    I appreciated Audrey's comments about who we end up with and how it goes beyond physical beauty. I was a little disappointed in the men here for talking so much about selling yourself as sexually attractive, rather than talking about, for example, how a man should be able to move beyond that a bit to appreciate all the wonderful (potentially) qualities of his partner. Their response felt shallow - unlike so many of your other conversations! I enjoy this wonderful podcast!!

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    If I find you sexy I'll be there for you. It's not physical. Boobs are great. And your kitty 🐈 is awesome. No worries get wet and be hot.

  • @coolbreeze5683

    @coolbreeze5683

    Жыл бұрын

    I agree, some of what the men said does push the narrative that all men care so much about conventional physical attractiveness. Many men do but there are also many who are capable of looking past the physical or falling in love with however their partner looks over time. I'm married to one of those guys and yes they do exist.

  • @jucxox

    @jucxox

    Жыл бұрын

    I think the selling analogy was missed. Please watch it again.

  • @khadijaaithmid5536
    @khadijaaithmid5536 Жыл бұрын

    Hey Matthew , hello friends with Matthew I don't know your names (sorry for that ) greetings from Morocco , u can't imagine how your efforts guys are SO USEFUL AND PRECISE TO THE POINT , I think that it's all about mastering our bodies _ as females _ because the main fundamental point of the feminine energy is taking care of her children , looking after her bro , calling her dad , wondering whether her friend is okay or not cs he or she was absent during the class session , so BASICALLY, our taking care approach is centric to many many many actions , thoughts , beliefs and so life choices, this is why I BADLY know that if she is capable enough to just be calm , easygoing , soft and positive with her bully , feet , hands , tongue or whatever , THIS WILL EXTREMELY ADD SOME SORT OF spiritual bond with her significant other ! this is my intuition, as a non-analytic person ( u can say a non-judgemental person ) I always respect my intuitions and sensations of life in general THAAAAAAAAAAAANKS AGAIN , LOVE YOU ALL TO THE MOON AND BACK 😘

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Slap him moan his name, or daddy give him the nymph you are. He is the king, and he chooses you.

  • @JamesBrantleyStyle
    @JamesBrantleyStyle5 ай бұрын

    Audrey like “God damnit” 😆

  • @TheKrispyfort
    @TheKrispyfort Жыл бұрын

    I own my body. We're a testimony to our resilience Last kiddo resulted in physical abdominal wall injury that still affects my physical health and body shape. Yeah, the flesh apron is annoying BUT this is a body that has worked, and lived, and loved before he showed up. And, if he doesn't like it, he needs to be shown the door Abdominoplasty, AKA the tummy tuck, is reconstructive surgery and NOT cosmetic surgery. Never was, never will be!

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Love the Kitty 🐈 and through workouts it will show you the love.

  • @MissLisaBowes
    @MissLisaBowes Жыл бұрын

    I am 51 years old. Had 3 kids and etc.. No man should expect me to be a super model. I have some good parts still. I know this. And if a man doesn’t like what I have…they are welcome to take a walk.

  • @amyp9010
    @amyp9010 Жыл бұрын

    So what's he not thinking when before he seethes with or what he is thinking before he seethes with me what is he thinking I didn't catch that

  • @spiderman-ej5hr
    @spiderman-ej5hr Жыл бұрын

    Hello Audrey, sweet girl. I do think men can see the woman the way you asked in your question when it is a true real love they have for the woman. I do believe it is possible, that the person and the moment you are in then are all that counts and the past isn't important anymore.

  • @ari_jean
    @ari_jean Жыл бұрын

    It's true that you should be careful about talking too much about your insecurities. My bf and I are the same height, and while I'm a bit tall for a woman, my bf feels like he's "too short" for a man lol. I used to see him as perfection of a man's body, because he's athletic plus he has beautiful facial features. But listening to comments about how he's not "tall enough" for more than 2 years now penetrated my brain and I indeed sometimes "accidentally" compare him to other men and I do realize that probably he *is* shorter than the "beauty standart" and for a minute I see him less attractive for that. But then I hate myself for those thoughts, because it is not my real perception nor *my* real taste in men.

  • @onnol917

    @onnol917

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah thats selfsabotage. He is projecting his own percieved shortcoming and now its drilled a way into your perception. If this keeps going you are going to start losing attraction

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    When seeding dought. You need reclaimed sex. This shows you who is in command, even if you fantasize Capt Jack is short. But his lust over you is commanding. Make him pancakes if your poor. Treat him like the king he is. Let his love drip from your lips. Either end.

  • @ari_jean

    @ari_jean

    Жыл бұрын

    @@MCarrick-ss7xc wtf

  • @fuzakali9083

    @fuzakali9083

    Жыл бұрын

    Stupid of him to focus on not being taller than you. Instead of seeing it as an advantage. He is the perfect size for you: against the wall with a taller guy is more complicated!

  • @danamckenzie7872
    @danamckenzie7872 Жыл бұрын

    What i would like to know is why men are exempt from bringing to the table? It appears to there is so much emphasis on what a man wants from a woman but no looking at themselves as if sex is for them only. Why is that?

  • @seniorita3287

    @seniorita3287

    Жыл бұрын

    Right. I agree.

  • @onnol917

    @onnol917

    Жыл бұрын

    Plenty of men take their responsibility in this. However if they are single without any ltr odds are they are selfish

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    AI robots should not be the only way for him to be a king. But pushed to that, ok end of civilization. No more babies. This is why men are.

  • @Ljounieh

    @Ljounieh

    Жыл бұрын

    I used to think like that but I've been noticing a lot of guys are self conscious about their own physical appearance. Just yesterday I went on a date and huged him and he said I should mind his "fat rolls" or something like that. He's tall and strong and I'm crazy attracted to him. It was shocking to hear he was concerned about that.

  • @amiramahgoub
    @amiramahgoub Жыл бұрын

    I'm always nervous when it comes to the point that we going to the bed together fear of the same feeling I had before with my ex. I have been struggling and stressed out every time I meet a guy. Even I knew they look sexy and lovely but I don't think I had that wow moment. Simply bec I believe that I met the wrong one!!

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    No over thinking, were talking about guys response. There's no secret it's about reclaimed sex after your partner flirts with another. Be lewd while having sex, think of Capt Jack and be his giving Amber.

  • @MissHollieDiana
    @MissHollieDiana Жыл бұрын

    I recently asked this on a previous message and thought I’d ask it again here and would really appreciate your feedback. If you’re someone who truly suffers severely with Body Dysmorphic Disorder, do you think it is a good idea to actually try and date? I understand all of your points made and logically they make perfect sense, but when you’re someone who’s mental health can be triggered to the point where you are scared of yourself, is it wise to put yourself in situations that could exacerbate it and as a result potentially do more harm then good? Ideally you want to make those emotional and physical connections, in fact you crave that feeling of belonging with someone, that you hope can allow you to feel safe enough to share all sides of yourself. The struggle is that in order to do that you have to face some really dark demons and ultimately, is it worth it? As more than likely, many people may not be able to deal with what you experience and therefore the rejection could make you worse! Very aware that you have to work on yourself and seek profession help with such a condition, but is it wise to date whilst doing this? Your opinions on this would be greatly appreciated. Many thanks 🥰

  • @onnol917

    @onnol917

    Жыл бұрын

    The only person who can reject you is you. When it comes to anxiety and facing inner demons. Do not run from them, life is short. What do you think about dating without the physical aspect? Might be a great place to start and build from there

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Go get the love from the dirty pirates, the worst thing is that they desire you , we all like desired sexy girls, old women.

  • @hortensejones4050

    @hortensejones4050

    Жыл бұрын

    And trust yourself When you’re with someone who’s shown you they love you-the whole package, it’ll cease to be an issue

  • @Cgggg6876
    @Cgggg6876 Жыл бұрын

    JLo is 3 years older than she says she is. She had two 50th bdays in the Hamptons 3 years apart.

  • @lydiawhitting5406
    @lydiawhitting5406 Жыл бұрын

    The hardest medicine later in life is finding an old wrinkly person in the mirror, and no one to love or care about in old age. It arrives too fast. When what you've really got left is wisdom to impart to youth, but who dont value us .. because older people just appear expiry dated and dispensable somehow ?

  • @lonewolfheart1697
    @lonewolfheart16978 ай бұрын

    Leaving another comment as I'm revisiting this video. I would love and appreciate feedback/opinions please? I have skin picking scars over the top half of my body (chest/arms) from self harm. I've had loads of therapy but that doesn't erase the scars and the spots plus I'm a large lady... I'm very worried my body is a huge turn off... I feel monstrous... my body is so ugly... are there really guys out there who aren't to be horrified or concerned...?? 😢😢😢

  • @upomapodder7134
    @upomapodder7134 Жыл бұрын

    Hey🔥

  • @brownell.landrum
    @brownell.landrum Жыл бұрын

    Here's some irony: Supermodels are the most insecure people of all.

  • @user-fv2yw3kh8y
    @user-fv2yw3kh8yКүн бұрын

    What's this interviewee's name? 4:19

  • @AntarikshPasricha
    @AntarikshPasricha Жыл бұрын

    I have been in a long distance relationship since 6 months now and we have only seen each other 2 times when i went to meet her. We chilled, took scooty rides etc but haven't been intimate. I want to but she disregards it with some reason or the other. I am pretty confused right now. I get really annoyed at this. What to do? Please help me.

  • @alexganz8473

    @alexganz8473

    Жыл бұрын

    that’s not a relationship

  • @SnackAttack6
    @SnackAttack68 ай бұрын

    I recently met a guy who complimented me on my body & shape, this took me aback because I’m 62, I’ve had 3 children and my weight has gone up and down between a size 8-18 over the years, so it’s no way toned and everything has gone south. At 1st I thought he was just saying that to get sex lol, but then I thought hang on a moment, if he wants sex with me then my body must have turned him on regardless, but what he really liked most was my laughter, my smile and my kindness & all that takes more precedence than my flabby mid drift or that my breasts have gone south 😊

  • @prettyhandsasmr_
    @prettyhandsasmr_ Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this because many women are walking around trying to look sluttier than the other and copying Mikey cyrus. And I'm over here trying to survive and feeling insecure about my body. I have confidence in my youthful face but I'm at a stage in my life where I can't take care of everything so it's hard and I get angry because it there's nothing for us women why are there not men showing off more? Such a unfair world

  • @sammyandboots
    @sammyandbootsАй бұрын

    Why is it always him???

  • @amyp9010
    @amyp9010 Жыл бұрын

    So is Matthew saying that guys do fantasize and think about other girls they've been with when there was somebody else even if they have good chemistry or they have or they're like oh I had better chemistry the last person are they completely comparing other women to the person they're actually currently sleeping with I can tell her guys do all the time at least my ex doesn't he was thinking about me sometimes when I was dating him

  • @DT-wh4qr
    @DT-wh4qr Жыл бұрын

    The title of this talk is misleading and didn't quite take a deeper dive. Much of it was about building self esteem and confidence. The men didn't make much sense to me. Audrey kept it simple.

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    It's not a rabbit hole it's a little,wet,hot tunnel of love. Lewd and vulgar girls work, desired by all men they become cute

  • @Ljounieh

    @Ljounieh

    Жыл бұрын

    But that is the answer - confidence is what makes you sexy

  • @annabanzon313
    @annabanzon313 Жыл бұрын

    Don't forget some people love mom bods or dad bods.

  • @kristenfromOZ
    @kristenfromOZ Жыл бұрын

    U do need sexual attraction to get someone and keep them but being perfect is a no. True love sees no wrinkles saggy boobs etc

  • @valerielove9837

    @valerielove9837

    Жыл бұрын

    Well said!!

  • @Isaiahch35vs8
    @Isaiahch35vs8 Жыл бұрын

    That confidence thing- as I’m overweight there can’t be confidence. I’m fat. That’s it. The rolls are unsightly.

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    We don't care if you do you don't know men

  • @Ljounieh

    @Ljounieh

    Жыл бұрын

    There absolutely can be confidence, but I do understand how crushingly hard it is to build it in this society

  • @yoharyscalixto1528

    @yoharyscalixto1528

    Жыл бұрын

    Im fat too but losing. Girl you are WORTHY of love. Own your self! you are beautiful! the right person will gravitate towards YOUR beauty (in and out)

  • @fuzakali9083

    @fuzakali9083

    Жыл бұрын

    M Carrick is right. From what I´ve heard from a lot of men: being overweight is highly preferred. There are plenty of men who do not find thin women sexually attractive. Who cares about the rolls if you have the booty!

  • @alexandermatthewsmusic
    @alexandermatthewsmusic Жыл бұрын

    Filter? F$#@ I've just been posting regular old pics and here I am wondering why I'm forever single!

  • @alexandermatthewsmusic

    @alexandermatthewsmusic

    Жыл бұрын

    Ps Maisie Peters should watch this after listening to her new hit "body better"

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Use the filter on your lewdness and they think you were hacked. Remember that everyone loves a little sloopie.

  • @juny1982
    @juny1982 Жыл бұрын

    Funny women's on Instagram use too!!! Much filters!!! Looks like Dolls or AI CGI

  • @RG-hf4et
    @RG-hf4et Жыл бұрын

    As a woman, I have been disappointed with a man's package more than once. Sorry, but the sex is not as good & it's disappointing when the man cannot do certain positions when he is really small. At least a guy has some idea of what the female may be like with her clothes off. We ladies don't know anything till the guys clothes are off all the way.

  • @MCarrick-ss7xc

    @MCarrick-ss7xc

    Жыл бұрын

    I've been too small. And I go elbows deep going down should be first and second requirement. Then a smaller size doesn't come up as much.

  • @Ljounieh

    @Ljounieh

    Жыл бұрын

    Size doesnt really matter to me. No point in having a huge package that will hurt if he doesn't know what he's doing

  • @valerielove9837

    @valerielove9837

    Жыл бұрын

    I have been with people that are big and small. It matters how they use it. For me the guy that was small was more enjoyable. The guys that were big were horrible.

  • @valerielove9837

    @valerielove9837

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@Ljounieh well said!!

  • @Mike_Daddy
    @Mike_Daddy Жыл бұрын

    My wife was 200 lbs on our blind date. Five years and two kids later, she lost 55 lbs and has been hit on by guys for years. Don't place so much emphasis on characteristics that will only fade over time.

  • @josephludwig1126
    @josephludwig1126 Жыл бұрын

    This girl completely hated it when he said men judge a woman when he See's her naked.

  • @brians9016
    @brians9016 Жыл бұрын

    4:17... 🤔 Honestly,almost always true I'd say. but also what he said.

  • @PrayingAttentionWithDea
    @PrayingAttentionWithDea Жыл бұрын

    The talk is always interesting you guys… but slight criticism here. Hope it’s ok to be frank. Why the heck the heavy studio layout? Lovely Audrey sitting low, low compared to the elevated men. Strange innuendo. The galactic equipment… really? Is all that really necessary to record some chit chat? Or wait. You’re really a band 😉cutting a little relational discussion before you get to the music. Is that it? 😅Thanks for your content.. interesting perspectives regardless!