Hardest thing was realizing everyone wasn't like me I had no idea that most people are more comfortable living the LIE

@elizabethd.2398

3 жыл бұрын

And then it makes you realize just how strong you truly are.....even though you were made to feel like you were the weakest one.✊

@nellyismotivated7839

3 жыл бұрын

Yup it’s soooo much easier to be a Simpleton. Accountability...?!?! Nope!

@MediaEnslavedNation

3 жыл бұрын

IKR?

@honieethesolarpunk4895

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@SamuelOrjiM

3 жыл бұрын

@@elizabethd.2398 right in the feels😭

“No one is more hated than he who speaks the truth.” - Plato

@Edith.G.G.

2 жыл бұрын

Uh, me at my sick family of origin. I'm the most hated and rejected of all, just for being honest and live the most ethical life I can live.

@flyingeaglewoman8682

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@sergeikhripun

2 жыл бұрын

@@Edith.G.G. Sounds like you need a hug. LOL! A Brazilian friend of mine told me once :”Friends are the family you choose.” It may be an expression or maybe something he came up with himself.

@beemonique8466

2 жыл бұрын

Same here.

@flyingeaglewoman8682

2 жыл бұрын

@@beemonique8466 likewise here too. Done with that bs.

They isolate the truth teller…talk badly about you to everyone behind your back, triangulate others in the family against you, they leave you out of family events, including holiday events or they relegate you to the corner and ignore you..,rolling their eyes at you and behind your back, out and out yelling at you, humiliating you, try to influence your boss, people in the church and in the neighborhood against you, etc.

@ebnykween

4 ай бұрын

I remember the family gatherings I found out about only after the events. I don't miss that pettiness.

@evat514

4 ай бұрын

100%

@JennyLynn-sr9jv

3 ай бұрын

YES ‼️

@leefossett5777

3 ай бұрын

Totally true. We’re not victims; we’re survivors.

@emmsue1053

3 ай бұрын

Gaslighting! Very true. LOL

It's so hard to keep friends when you can not lie, and see "too much".

@socalautisticman1975

4 ай бұрын

Honesty means you can trust them(honest person)telling the truth because there are times the truth *needs* to be told and if you were too "coward" or "untalented" or both to lie or "white lie" you will be trusted. I remember a school bully turned in my favor after him having a problem with someone,the person lying and me telling the truth about the situation since I was a witness to the dilemma: he( ex bully) said ....bla bla "& you know (my name) doesn't lie" *He, like others* knew I wasn't a type to lie plus,*if you've nothing to hide, you've nothing to lie about*

@Anunes7777

3 ай бұрын

Yup...that's why I dont have friends😢

@dobleuxyz

3 ай бұрын

Even real friends can be seen doubting and getting tired of this obsessive way of chasing an objective truth for everything, and I don't judge them. It is not like we enjoy it either. Sometimes it can be devastating when someone you love turns out to be just another liar.

@CrackheadHuntersDopeDealer

3 ай бұрын

Yep! Suks, don't it.😌

@Drexmarksthespot

3 ай бұрын

@@Anunes7777@ladyedraven all three of us i guess

People love my honesty, UNTIL I'm honest with them.

@summydots

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂 😂😂

@katharinamonch4223

3 жыл бұрын

Risque Rabbit The Home spa That sums it up! But when they hear something they don t like they don t even listen anymore to the nice things I have to say.😔

@clarkkent3730

3 жыл бұрын

yeah they like the true telling gun pointed at other people but they don't like it pointed at them

@bigred4379

3 жыл бұрын

Clark Kent “ain’t no fun when the rabbit’s got the gun” lol

@christykozak3906

3 жыл бұрын

SAME

I’m a truth teller, a lonely existence but a rich one in spiritually.

@tacotestimonytuesday5930

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Hugs.

@self-care3852

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. You can't be lonely if you enjoy your own company.

@rickybobby8879

3 жыл бұрын

Hello fellow truth teller... We are often alone but not lonely.

@johnbergamini3567

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. Eventually, I had to abandon all but one of my immediate family as a result. Also, being a truth-teller becomes a political "problem" in this evil era if your conscience demands your diligence wrt exposing some of our civilization's most egregious lies. Suffice, their are many, many serious lies in the "law", as people understand it. Naturally, you get targeted by narcissists for your truth-telling...

@user-np6tf8zx1u

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

My dad always used to say "bad people always do well". He was right. Truth tellers have a tough time all through life.

@SassySoul777

4 ай бұрын

I definitely will succeed as a truth teller. When I go into the world, I'm very compassionate. I won so many awards at school, but at home they didn't even care.. so tough. Didn't realise family could be a place of testing

@stupensardi2783

4 ай бұрын

@@SassySoul777 You can do this my darling. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Stay kind at heart always and don't accept nonsense from anyone. Most of all stay true to yourself. I believe in you ❣️

@KingHeroKinnie

4 ай бұрын

@@SassySoul777 I will tell you this, do not live life as a truth teller, live life as the good doer, for you are already better than them for being strong and compassionate. Live life with the truth that YOU are the GOOD sheep out of the bad, because however you were tested, you passed.

@YasminMahnaz

4 ай бұрын

Are you OK? Kind hearted?? Serially m.... is he a pet?? A dog? Obedient to be good...u need help.. he's not black sheep or good sheep. He's great person not obedience to power for free​@kingexplosivemurder2477

@undergearedpodcast9039

4 ай бұрын

@@KingHeroKinnieI think it is important to note that if this idea crosses into the territory of people-pleasing or high-roading, it is also detrimental. I've recently been in positions in the workplace where good-doing and saying "yes" gets me taken advantage of, and places with an extra dose of condemnation if I do something to take care of myself because the act of doing so was inconvenient. You get higher standards placed on you for that and pay thenconsequences of others' poor behavior.

I’ve been a truth teller for over 73 years. It can be very lonely and isolating but I’d rather see how I see and keep my integrity.

@turnbacktime65

Ай бұрын

I agree. ❤

@lizaphelps

23 күн бұрын

Seeing truth is a superpower that makes us whole, not fractured like the others.

@deepikasihag2394

3 күн бұрын

I agree…but it’s painful too

To the narcissist, a truth teller is their greatest enemy.

@mint910

3 жыл бұрын

That is why they love using gaslighting.

@gabrielahimsa4387

3 жыл бұрын

my fatehr ahte my love more than my truth xD id say greatest enemy to narcism is compasion cause he dosent know what it is

@Acetyl53

3 жыл бұрын

To EVERYONE a truth teller is the greatest enemy. There are very few exceptions.

@nasirisrarhussain4477

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. that is true. many people make enemy with truth tellers.

@paulclinton6414

3 жыл бұрын

@@Acetyl53 No, I am ok with it.

Proud to carry the scars of being the family truth teller, scapegoat and black sheep of my family. Stay strong everyone 🙌🏼🙏🏼

@olunicholas4362

Жыл бұрын

Same story with me too many scars all over my body

@satori2071

Жыл бұрын

Staying strong 💪 Is the hardest thing ever 😪 I'm not keeping it together it's a living hell

@FM-em4nm

Жыл бұрын

Hi dear. U r not alone. ✋️

@lgx22

Жыл бұрын

Be strong!

@nawaspj7122

Жыл бұрын

Being the truth teller can be costly sometimes but the way I see it the truth costs so much because of its irreplaceable value.

I'm COMPLETELY ESTRANGED from my family. I couldn't PRETEND the way they wanted me to!

@lulumoon6942

2 ай бұрын

Enjoy your freedom. You deserve joy and truth in your life, sorry about the cards you were dealt. 👍❤️🙏💞

@riggedsportsnetwork6554

2 ай бұрын

Living a Lie isn't living.

@ernessamiller1017

23 күн бұрын

Man, I felt this comment so much! Same here….always felt like I had to pretend with my family. Moved 3 hours away after my father died, and been living my truth ever since! So much happier!!!!!

I’m a truth teller and one of the things I appreciate about it is having a strong moral code, which for me means: having compassion and empathy for others, not tolerating bullies, standing up for people and animals who don’t have a voice. And being a truth teller gives me strong boundaries. So I have zero friends who are narcissists.

@geoffreybeuzeville6192

14 күн бұрын

So well said, l feel we are kindred spirits , take care and be safe Geoffrey

My mom always said I was happiest being alone, coloring, playing with my dolls, singing along with my records. And when I got older I read everything I could get my hands on. I wasn't happy being alone, I was surviving.

@robynsimon566

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate !!

@candeeseholland-richmond5129

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! She used to yell at me "you always have your head stuck in a book" I just wanted to exist in another world

@JNA-rs3qp

2 жыл бұрын

Me too I was never away from my books LOL

@angelapastorius2377

2 жыл бұрын

@@JNA-rs3qp Yup. I was in every before and after-school activity I could be in. And was always riding my 10-speed all over the county......or reading a book! Interestingly, when I told a counselor that my 12 y/o refused to go to school (and claimed I abused her), he stopped me and said, "In all my 20+ years of counseling families and children, I have never heard of an abused child that refused to leave the house". Wow.

@jodipaterson6668

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! My happiest memories are of reading all the time to try to imagine what a happy childhood would be like

I’d argue that existing as the truth teller in a narcissistic system is a type of parentification - it’s undue, adult-level responsibility placed on a child to navigate an adult’s emotions, and that’s abusive. Thank you as always, Dr. Ramani

@evat514

4 ай бұрын

🔥 💯

@wenifred2770

3 ай бұрын

Yessssssss

@alittlesewing

2 ай бұрын

wow, never thought of it that way, but YES. It was an awful position to be in as a child.

@sameenrizvi9224

Ай бұрын

Bonus points if you're also the eldest daughter lol

@bubbles.stu26

Ай бұрын

Yes! And they will infantilize you when not making you be their parent, therapist, or best friend.

The truth-teller is often labeled a liar by the sick family who would rather put up a facade of perfection/righteousness. If the truth-teller doesn't get away then they risk having the narcissist mentally and emotionally break them.

@lizaphelps

23 күн бұрын

I've been labeled the sick one-- weak of mind, twisting good people into bad bc of my distorted perceptions--all conveyed to me subtly--but being cast the unhealthy one, I see, is pure projection.

@susanmercurio1060

20 күн бұрын

My mother's favorite come-back was, "Oh, Susan, you're always making things up."

@susanmercurio1060

20 күн бұрын

​@@lizaphelpsIt's called "the identified patient."

@lizaphelps

20 күн бұрын

@@susanmercurio1060 that is a new term for me. Thank you. I will look it up.

"There's a 'lonlieness' to the Truth Teller" and there's my childhood summed up in one word.

@JessicaFreda62

3 жыл бұрын

💙❤️

@nahmastay7497

3 жыл бұрын

You said so much in so little words!

@EagleZtoTheGrave

3 жыл бұрын

Indeed... Missed out on a lot.

@adam-bailey

3 жыл бұрын

Your not alone Love to you

@paulclinton6414

3 жыл бұрын

Satan hurts the honest as he plays his games.

If you're a truth teller, I love you deeply. Always know that! You're not alone.

@pixiedust0874

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks:)))

@user-fu1nw7kh2h

3 жыл бұрын

I have married into a narcissistic family , they enable bad behaviour in each other and play the victim card, easier to play victim to the circumstances they have actively created, gets them attention and sympathy. Masters of creating a false narrative.

@williearchibald2884

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-fu1nw7kh2h welcome the the club, friend. Good luck!

@krystalleigh6904

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Willie! Your message made me feel so much better. Sending love back to you!! Thank you for being a truth teller. And thank you to every truth teller out there. Stay strong! 💪🏻 Don't ever let the darkness dampen your light. 💛✨

@Tara-hi3nm

3 жыл бұрын

Thankyou, you too 🙂, it's so good to have people who understand this complicated and often lonely position in life x

I have never heard my experience put into words before. This hit me like a ton of bricks and validates so many of my feelings as a child and as an adult. The loneliness and grief are real but I also wouldn't want it any other way.

@MeettheCreatives

4 ай бұрын

sameeeeee!!!!

@marilynschmidt6400

4 ай бұрын

Truth tellers are creative. My family couldn't make anything special in the kitchen or in a scrapbook

@1111sage

3 ай бұрын

Eye opening isn't it .

@hilariecuevas8572

2 ай бұрын

@@1111sage Very!

@MissK711

Ай бұрын

I feel the same way!

Truthteller and scapegoat. Still alive 🙏🏻🌺

@tanzinatazulrenesa3264

5 күн бұрын

We will not only survive but we will thrive.

I’m a truth teller, a scapegoat, an empath and the invisible child. I finally have words for the loneliness and sadness I’ve felt since I was 6, I’m not crazy and I’m not wrong. I’m not weird for disassociating as a young child into a world of my own creations

@Lion-1.

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing . I appreciate your comments about your journey .

@MyCheriAnolani

3 жыл бұрын

Aweee.....sweetie. When I listened to Brene Browns TED TALK about the "Power of Vulnerability" she literally saved my life, cause she put language to my feelings. But still why do liars get away with everything? I just give up and go.

@Brumbasse22

3 жыл бұрын

You are not alone

@agiegovender5666

3 жыл бұрын

Such a wonderful feeling. Same for me

@innerpeace5913

3 жыл бұрын

You are you and that's a wonderful thing. That those around you were unable to appreciate you is so sad. The craziness is the narcissists, not yours. They project it onto you, making you feel all the insecurity and discomfort they are unable to own as their own. I so hope your awakening continues and that your belief in you grows.

I am a 70 year old truth teller living in solitude with 2 dogs. This information is validating, empowering and healing. Thank you Dr. Ramani and truth tellers everywhere.

@frankwhite2959

3 жыл бұрын

I’m 45 and see this is where my life is heading.

@bereal6590

3 жыл бұрын

Same and I'm 56.... wish there was a community us and our pets could all live on a separate island.... its very comforting to see someone who is 70 and 45 also feeling the same way. ... thank you 🐹🐶

@cherylfrance9865

3 жыл бұрын

Me to I'm 55 same thing 2 dogs and living alone. I'm a Empath and IMJF too. So I know the feeling

@pissuakki

3 жыл бұрын

I’m 46, I live on an island and have 3 dogs 🐶

@graniamurray7722

3 жыл бұрын

I have always had dogs. They are spiritual truth tellers too. My Blake passed away a few years ago and the void is too large. Will be getting another as soon as possible. Wonderful company and unconditional love.

Truth tellers get called liars when a narcissist realizes they know the truth.

Truth Teller. Wow. I was calling out my parent's BS from as long as I can remember. I became the black sheep in my family, then the scapegoat. I tried following the rules and became totally depressed and felt like I was losing my mind. I am so glad I've been through therapy and learned that I wasn't crazy. I was the most sane of all. LOL. I moved away from my family and live just far enough away that I can get my own space to heal and grow and follow my own dreams and ambitions without my family trying to dictate how I live and breathe. It is so nice to have found your channel Dr. Ramini. I've been a fan for many years. I have learned so much from you and have grown so much in that time because of your amazing wisdom and support. Thank you for all you do.

@1111sage

3 ай бұрын

Same as that .

@susanmercurio1060

20 күн бұрын

Gosh, you sound like you are narrating my life story. There are people out here who get how you feel.

I didn't know there was a name for this. My parents always just called me "difficult". Thank you for creating this space for truth-tellers.

@zachpoffenbarger4188

2 жыл бұрын

Same. I had a single narcissistic parent and my siblings would call me “stubborn” and “too emotional”. I always felt like it was the right thing to do. I couldn’t even begin to pretend the abuse wasn’t happening I HAD to say something.

@elizabethshannon24

2 жыл бұрын

Richelle, Hello my dear, happy to meet up with you...I also was told that I was difficult! You know why they said that...because they knew we were aware of what they were doing. Typical, they put the blame on us! Dr. Ramini is sooo good.

@earthboundangel2926

2 жыл бұрын

Ditto.

@abbasomarov760

2 жыл бұрын

I was told by my parents that I had a mental disorder and that I have be put in a clinic 😃

@BronzeDragon133

2 жыл бұрын

@@abbasomarov760 I just got dragged to a flying monkey therapist. 😃 I don't think she was too thrilled when the truth-telling just didn't stop...

Narcissistic parents tell you to never lie, always tell the truth and then they beat you for telling the truth (when it concerns THEM).

@SisterUnity

3 жыл бұрын

well THAT hit home!!!!!! yeah, I was taught to never lie; it was the BIG sin. And then screamed at for disagreeing with BS.

@thirstonhowellthebirdandfriend

3 жыл бұрын

Omg EXACTLY Reese!

@BienAimee868

3 жыл бұрын

Reminding you not to tell the family secret when you go out ugh

@Ifailedeverything

3 жыл бұрын

I went to a funeral where everyone was talking about how “He taught me always to tell the truth no matter what.’ And I was like, interesting seeing how he lied like a f’ing rug all the time. I didn’t think it was necessary to point that out right then.

@sheshotjfk8375

3 жыл бұрын

Wow! This is spot on. That was totally my experience.

All I can say is WOW! I ran away at age 15 three times. Family is not everything! Another lie they like to tell you all the while destroying you. I made it out but not unharmed. I'm 66 now and normal friendships are difficult. I don't trust anyone anymore. Thank you for the work you do!💜

@matt3024

3 ай бұрын

I'm 63 with 4 older siblings and I can definitely relate. I' ve maintained contact with My mom,but often go years at a time not seeing the others and that has been for over 30 years now. I also have problems with trust and friendships.

I was born a left handed, introverted, kind, animal loving kid. My sister, mom, dad were right handed extroverts. They smoked and drank like fish. My sister (at 64) remains an alcoholic narcissist. I used to crawl under the kitchen table to get away from the noise and smoke. If I left the room the verbal abuse started. I thought I was the weirdo. I was in my thirties before I saw a healthy family relationship. The peace that emanated from this couple was amazing. There was no peace in my family. Ever. I left home at 20. Happily have stayed away. It’s easier to grey rock. I had no idea that you guys…..all of you writing comments here…..were out there. People like me. I like kids because they are honest. I prefer that honesty. I love animals, they love me. So do kids. lol. It was validating to know you guys feel much like me. Thanks for your honest😊 comments.

I'm a truth teller... also known as an Empath. I can see straight through people like glass, and it makes friendship, and relationships difficult.

@tiffanychallacombe

3 жыл бұрын

I always found myself with limited friendships and relationships because of this, to the point I and others questioned why. I now know why. It wasn’t a bad reason, it was a great one. The loneliness I feel it’s manageable compared to the confusion you get when you’re entangled in the cycle with no escape blaming yourself wondering what you could of changed and done “better”... nothing is worth that confusion. I’ll take clarity with a little loneliness somedays, any day.

@fullcircleessentials

3 жыл бұрын

I am the same. All my life I could not understand. As I got older it got stronger and stronger like the early 80s movie SCANNERS. There are people out there that just don't get it (in relationships) and will never get it in general. There are times when it really sucks. You don't ask to be alone, but it forces you to be alone. It makes you anti social. I have learned to live with it. Being a truth teller also cuts off your support, making you feel like your the crazy one. The down side of being a Truth Teller is that some despise you because of what u are capable of doing and deep down wish you were put or taken away.😔

@bearlyphased

3 жыл бұрын

@@fullcircleessentials Dude.. totally. Everything you said I have experienced

@alexandremarus

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you and i can relate

@DrShittyBottomHammer

3 жыл бұрын

Doubt if you'll pick out a psychopath

I remember clearly being told by my mother, "If you tell anyone I will kill your sisters and tell everyone you did it." I said " No, you are our mother and are supposed to love and protect us." Only worked once. She cried and hugged me. The next week when the same thing happened she punched out two of my teeth and locked me in the basement for three days. I called out for help. Sadly the Letter Carrier was a close family friend and did nothing but tell my mother I was calling for help. I was beaten so badly I was unconscious for a few days. I was 7. Haven't stopped calling out people for toxic behaviors or malicious intentions. I know most people are horrified by my life and would rather dismiss me as a liar rather than face the darkness in the world. Be the light. Expose the evil deeds that only survive while we ignore them.

@ariloves10

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry 😞

@Emperess

3 жыл бұрын

Parent your inner child.... give him so much love, tell him you are protecting him now. Make him feel safe and love. Ask him what he wish for... you are an old soul... love light and blessings to you.❤❤❤

@xxxvcvv

3 жыл бұрын

I hate to say I understand. We are Survivors. This is what courage looks like. I will never surrender. Big hugs & love brother.

@gettingstronger2436

3 жыл бұрын

I believe you. I am sorry that happened to you. No one should have to endure that.

@Cade805

3 жыл бұрын

I heart goes out to you and I hope you NEVER STOP CALLING THEM OUT! I find that FASTER E.F.T.(normal E.F.T is very different and doesn't help much) can be used to completely change the way you feel about yourself by using Neurolinguist (Re)programming to change for you feel about those memories when you think about them. It is WAYY better than traditional therapy in my experience, and you don't even need to pay anyone for it! Its very easy, look up how to do it on youtube if you'd like. Therapy plus (faster)EFT has turned me into a different person, I hope you give it a try :)

40 years old - first time hearing about the consept of truth tellers - now I sit here crying - feels like you just explaned my life to me - thank you so much for bringing this topic up.

@ginam8505

4 ай бұрын

Me too 😢

@dobleuxyz

3 ай бұрын

Same! I recently had a traumatic experience that got me thinking about why I got there. Ended up labeling myself as a "truth seeker", searched the term and found this. Feels good to know I'm not the only one.

@monika88535

3 ай бұрын

@@dobleuxyz

@monika88535

3 ай бұрын

@@ginam8505

@colepuleo6809

2 ай бұрын

Agreed!!! I love these videos!!!

I get it. I'm the truth teller. My bs meter runs, I can't leave it alone, and I lead a very lonely life. I once had a "friend " shame me for having integrity. "Everybody is not an open book like you, Suzy!" I speak from the heart, often so careful not to say the "wrong" thing. Being real is exhausting when I'm dealing with the narcissists in my life. I honestly contemplate being a hermit.

@danielleciribassi4199

3 ай бұрын

I am the same way girlfriend❤

@turnbacktime65

Ай бұрын

It really pisses me off when people try to shame me for integrity. I look them in the eye and hold firm. I’m proud of myself for doing the right things. You know what I mean.😊

Being a truth teller is hard. Depression, loneliness, and insane frustrations of all the dysfunction and no support.

@FullPsycho

2 жыл бұрын

I have to stay mostly isolated from people.

@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690

2 жыл бұрын

That's definitely what happened to my husband and his brother

@alexandersutjiadi1482

2 жыл бұрын

@@AxllsFly yeah, don’t give up... as one day you will meet a friend who is truth teller and you will make a good team work to make the world in a better place. It happens to me. So being a truth teller is being a bait to find another truth teller in you life. Because truth teller friends not much in this world.

@crystalnavarro8012

2 жыл бұрын

@@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690 I'm struggling with my husband and his brother as well. It is so frustrating because the brother has his mom in the palm of his hand and has been trying to drag my husband down for years despite us keeping distance for over 3 years.

@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690

2 жыл бұрын

@@crystalnavarro8012 thats horrible. Staying away will fo you good. Mil will never change. Sounds like your in laws are much the same stay away as much as possible

Truthteller, scapegoat, and invisible child. Life's tough, man

@nyk0l3tt3

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you so hard.

@jenster29

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, glad to finally be able understand myself and others better though. It's quite freeing knowing being 'a loner' is a good thing.

@EagleZtoTheGrave

3 жыл бұрын

Found my people lol

@adam-bailey

3 жыл бұрын

Then COVID to finish us off

@harmonyhope1709

3 жыл бұрын

Same roles exactly

What's difficult as a truth teller for me is the self doubt and the self gas lighting. Every year I feel like I allow myself trust my instincts more and not be afraid of the fallout and loneliness that can come with that. The best part are the people who do stick around are amazing people.

Truth teller gets the message that they do not deserve love and respect. Love and respect is all you need from parents. They never will get it.

“It is painful to watch how the truth-telling child slowly learns to silence themselves.”

@samoyed2582

3 жыл бұрын

I think it's self preservation. They are just trying to survive long enough to get away.

@KiLLED5639

3 жыл бұрын

@@samoyed2582 If they can get away.

@gracegorman3306

3 жыл бұрын

Not all of us did.

@annebonnyssister

3 жыл бұрын

@@samoyed2582 The TERRORIST will do ANYTHING to prevent you escaping. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SELF DEFENSE. Draw your own conclusion what THAT means.

@deborahhoffman7394

3 жыл бұрын

OR BECOME VERY DISCERNING AND OBSERVANT.

The loneliness you mentioned is so real. My gosh. “A permanent sense of grief”… “feeling like you don’t really have a family”… goodness. I was this child and have definitely silenced myself. Now I’m an anxiety ridden adult working on finding my authenticity.

@happyme3556

Жыл бұрын

OMG your words describe me. If only we see our own strength. Something I am working on.

@kimparke6653

Жыл бұрын

Keep going, real people will love and appreciate you.

@mutiaraalia1635

Жыл бұрын

Yeah... I knew how it feels..

@life-rethought

Жыл бұрын

healing is possible for I feel it in me. prayers for you.

@TheSoftestGirlYouKnow

Жыл бұрын

Me too! We can do it together~

The truth teller learning to slowly silence themselves... spot on. Silence may be the best way for a truth-teller to survive the narcissistic family dynamic. However, once they learn that this dynamic does not have to affect the rest of their life, they are well-equipped to engage in healthy, authentic relationships. These are relationships where they can finally express their feelings without fear of invalidation, ultimately reconnecting with their sense of integrity and self-worth.

@chriscunningham8807

19 күн бұрын

Silence might be a safer option with certain people, especially if they are potentially dangerous or have power over you and the capacity to seek revenge or cause real harm.

@Funnyg00se

6 күн бұрын

​@chriscunningham8807 This really.

I am such an honest, extremely straightforward, and blunt highly powerful empath that sees EVERYTHING ppl do. Like I am that way to a fault. People always say they want honesty and no lies but they cant handle the truth when given to them. Everyone is always calling me mean too. I’m not trying to be mean. I just state facts. I do that completely 100% free of judgement. But you can be sure I’m going to call everyone on their bullshit REAL QUICK.

“Feeling like you don’t really have a family..” 😗👍💞

@cashflodigitalsportsnetwork

3 жыл бұрын

whomever is doing God’s will is your family.

@javanjunkindahouse6625

3 жыл бұрын

And every Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and trying to find a card...impossible.

@donnawoodford6641

3 жыл бұрын

Physically there is a family, but there may be so much neglect from parents to nurture their kids that it would be easy to say "no family" support, encouragement, love, quality time, etc.

@stephenierussell5279

3 жыл бұрын

I understand

@BetterOff735

3 жыл бұрын

Wow YES... Been years. Didn't fit in when,I was younger.. Erected a False Self to survive...kept my true self tucked away..only to reveal to those I felt good around.

I am a truth teller - and this means, I can hardly keep a job and are always on the radar of narcissists - and they are everywhere !!!

@gypsymoonwolf4916

3 жыл бұрын

I know exactly what you mean...turned in an intoxicated nurse while working in a rehab...and I was fired.

@jenfries6417

3 жыл бұрын

I've had this experience, too.

@WhaleCommunicators

3 жыл бұрын

They have kept this dysfunction around all of us because they knew who we are and what we are capable in God's world.

@chrisgorski1656

3 жыл бұрын

Yup. I have lost several good jobs from this.

@icherishcrochetandknit309

3 жыл бұрын

I am a truth teller as well and seem to attract narcissistic abuse on the job. I don't even have to say anything!

I am a truth teller.After all those gaslighting that my toxic parents made them, I used to be a truth teller in the school,university and then at work. I live in Iran. Here, telling truth causes pain and terrible costs but I am proud of this shape of my charector

@dean8705

Ай бұрын

My gf is from Iran and says the same thing. :/

Yep! That's me. I can spot unhealthy energy without trying. I used to despise being a seer because of all the punishing abuse and jealousy that came from my parents. I've learned through much effort, to appreciate who I am. Your videos are deeply affirming, Dr. Romani. Please know how much we need to hear the witness of all that has been blatantly denied by our families. Thank you from my grateful 58 year young heart.🙏🏽❤️‍🩹💜💜

"If you want to upset someone tell them a lie. If you want to infuriate them, tell the truth."

@elizabethd.2398

3 жыл бұрын

Oh, that's a good one!😊👌

@venusrising6554

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed !

@nellyismotivated7839

3 жыл бұрын

😆💯

@donnawirth3039

3 жыл бұрын

Especially with a narcissist!!!

@danilaroche1156

3 жыл бұрын

Are you related to Win Boriack?

I love it when 4 wrong people play the "you're out numbered" card. 4 wrong people override 1 truth teller and they collectively think you're crazy, which becomes their truth.

@walden5859

3 жыл бұрын

They know they can't convince you, so they try to convince everyone around you. Then you must be wrong, wrong and pig-headed.

@missfitz2998

3 жыл бұрын

I’m literally living through this right now! It’s been awful and confusing and often times I’m wondering if I’M the sick one.

@charlenewallace6720

3 жыл бұрын

He makes me belive im crazy

@gregorywynn3244

3 жыл бұрын

They usually say, " well what if other people say the same thing. I've heard this many times. But consider the source.

@gregorywynn3244

3 жыл бұрын

@@missfitz2998 I thought the same. What is wrong with me. An old lady saw how sad I was, and she said to me, " don't concern yourself with them, they are just jealous of you."

I'm THE truth telling scapegoat of my family. Every word of this is me. And because of it, I paid dearly. I was beaten bloody, abused mentally, physically, sexually. I have so many issues, been in therapy over 40 years. I speak to no one in my family of origin. Only way I'm safe.

This is the first time I've heard anything that so perfectly describes what comes with this role. It isn't a choice, it's just who you are and what you see. But the price is alienation at times within the family. And it's isolating. It's also absolutely true that people feel that you see them. Narcassistic rage will often be directed your way even when you are staying silent. I never understood why that was. This was clarity for me. Thank you.

Plato said ''The one society hates the most is the one that tells the truth''

@404errorcodeV

Жыл бұрын

😭😭💔💔

@kimcapri9178

Жыл бұрын

Or they are branded as crazy or relegated to a nuthouse or worse- lobotomized.

@sitori663

Жыл бұрын

So true.

@mday3821

Жыл бұрын

Yup! So true. People don't like us.

@jodizellmer994

Жыл бұрын

They do everything they can to destroy your life.

Truth teller. The loneliness is real. It’s like, I’m supposed to just keep my mouth shut or go along with the lies, but I can’t. And then I feel rejected because when I speak the truth, it upsets them.

@skate7847

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@helLroknyc

3 жыл бұрын

Even as a child I was a truth teller. The adults in my family didn’t like it. But it was what protected us from the child molesters that we were forced to engage with. At 7 yrs old, I was sexually abused by a big scary man who I once called uncle. I had the strength to speak up and I learned that nobody supported my decision. Charges were dropped and the monster was set free. I’m 39 now. It wasn’t until my fathers passing in 2020 to that I truly understood how it work. The truths being twisted. The expressions and reactions from my mother and her side. I think I put up with it all these years because I loved my father. He was my only reason for engaging with the craziness.

@vikkiweigel2504

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

@lynnebarnes3840

3 жыл бұрын

@@helLroknyc I'm sure it's why I was never molested, they would have had to kill me to shut me up.

@lynnebarnes3840

3 жыл бұрын

@@helLroknyc your love was misplaced.

I’m a truth teller in a family full of liars. Family scapegoat, no contact, and better off for it. I appreciate your videos. They’ve helped me get through some of my toughest times. Thank you.

Who would’ve thought people like this still exist. Saving the world one video at a time…Modest, Raw & real. Not to mention she has normalized introverts…bonus !! A huge heartfelt “Thank you” to Dr Ramani.

I am the truth teller, invisible child and scapegoat. I found safety in solitude.

@sonjawilliams989

3 жыл бұрын

I actually love being by myself now. I can't handle too many people around. I love my own company.

@lynnmarieanderson1744

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. I like being alone a lot of the time and hate family get togethers where my narc dad takes center stage.

@yeswing10

3 жыл бұрын

Safety in Solitude. Amen. That sums it up. Trusting in God, and being your own best friend.

@cheralyse1352

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. I found love and companionship and safety with my dogs (border collies) who are compassionate creatures who "get" me at a glance and comfort me when I need to cry. The first time I said "I love you" was to my dog. And I meant it.

@nahmastay7497

3 жыл бұрын

I always hope ppl like us could find one another...not to traumabond but just for company.

Before watching: they invalidate them, gaslight them, then launch a campaign to undermine their reputation amongst the other family members. After watching: Ayup.

@andreabrunkow9314

3 жыл бұрын

YES! Truth tellers are scapegoated.

@andreabrunkow9314

3 жыл бұрын

@Adam Alexander absolutely. And our schools are going to be powder kegs when they open. Exactly what the Marxists want. They'll use our children to goad us into the civil war that they want so badly.

@danielkaiser8971

3 жыл бұрын

@Adam Alexander I am in full agreement.

@onacourtright-goheen2036

3 жыл бұрын

@Adam Alexander This comment is a prime example of exactly what I'm talking about

@danielkaiser8971

3 жыл бұрын

@@andreabrunkow9314 They want to pit good people, even friends, against each other, for example, by wearing thin the patience of the good people with lies, gaslighting, false accusations, etc. So that they can cause dissension and a wasteland to feel superior to. Pure narcissism.

I'm a truth-teller and I definitely needed your channel because it finally gave me the words to concisely describe what I used to be verbose about. Future-faking, bait and switch, gaslighting, and many other terms are things I used to take paragraphs to describe.

Am in the process of shifting from Truthteller to the Silent One. Few appreciate it and tired of giving what I desire alone. 😮‍💨

The truth teller is also an adult child that says “NO MORE” to the narcissistic parent(s).

@mdb22464

3 жыл бұрын

I did that!

@tess2082

3 жыл бұрын

I did that yesterday :)

@rohand9061

3 жыл бұрын

That sounds like me, iv had it enough is enough

@husher5142

3 жыл бұрын

I dont think they even know they are doing it. When I was 17 I was in cadets, on the rifle team, part of colour guard, on the drill team, I was working full time, plus school as correspondence. At the time I was paying ~half the rent of the house to my mother, and i wasnt home for the most part I usually ate at work. So, I'd get home at like midnight or so from work and then yelled at for not washing dishes. Every-time the rhetoric would be the same. You dont care, you arent trying, you dont contribute, you dont respect me, I work all day and I expect to come home to a clean house. So, here I am, washing dishes at 1 am .. washing cereal bowls thinking not a single one of these dishes was mine, I had just worked 8 hours, i worked on school for another 8 hours prior to that and then had polished my boots and other stuff (for cadets) for at least another 1-2 hours - And I thought - what the f* am i doing. I moved out before my 18th birthday a few months later, and the whole family was like "oh you'll move back in a few weeks" .. insert w.e other non-supportive BS - see ya, never looked back.

@MediaEnslavedNation

3 жыл бұрын

What kills me is how many liars there really are and how vicerally they hate us for knowing the truth.

I was that child. And made to pay a big price for it. My parents turned everyone against me to invalidate me. I was labelled a liar with a great imagination. You are absolutely right about trying to get out in the mind, Dr Ramani. I drowned myself in books and dance and became a writer/editor and a dancer. I learnt to enjoy my own company because I literally grew up alone with no one to turn to. When I ended up marrying a Narc, the isolation imposed on me by him did not affect me as much because I had already conditioned myself to be self reliant.

@dawnrobbins5877

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. I joined the military, just as Doc stated.

@NiquazWorld

3 жыл бұрын

Nelumbo Nucifera good for you queen! I truly empathize and I hope you continue to be resilient. 🙏🏽

@edgarjones6878

3 жыл бұрын

Looking back, I joinef every after school program, sport , activity to not be home. Id find activities to join on weekends and started working at 14.. And now I see why anything to escape being escaped goated.

@Kim-vs4vb

3 жыл бұрын

I became my own best friend and my family consists of me, I was always mocked for my skills and abilities, I love learning, trying new things, I cook really well, smart, highly educated, well traveled, kind , funny, that inner light, how they all hate these things about me.... never supported in anything I did, always had to fight for my rights to anything... but I'm no victim anymore, Iv healed, I'm a survivor and a thriver, a force, they try but can't dim the light in me, oh how they have tried but god is taking care of me, I'm healing well, NO CONTACT with them for 2.5 yrs n counting, each day is another win, baby steps got me to 2.5 yrs strong....

@jenster29

3 жыл бұрын

@@edgarjones6878 I left the country. Got followed so left that one too.

My son came up to me when he was 3yrs old and said "I think I know why Daddy is the way he is." I said "why?" and my toddler said "Because he's lazy."

I love how "superiors" will say things like "thats life, you need to accept it" but when it comes down to it being life and them needing accepting something they dont. They get out of it by trampling other people. Theyre just trying to stomp out peoples dreams because there is really only a finite amount of dreams thay can be supported on this plane. Its just that their dreams are more important than yours enough that "cheating" or being a cheating soul is ok.

better to be a truthteller comfortable in your own company than surrounded by fake bullies, narcs & psychos, guess who handles lockdown the easiest?

@alzabeesww

2 жыл бұрын

I think of myself as a truth-teller, but the lockdown has been wretched for me. I think it’s because I actually did not wind up with enough time alone.

@awakeningEmpath

2 жыл бұрын

@@alzabeesww when we think of all the abusive narcs in our past: abusive partners, neglectful unloving parents; disloyal gaslighting friends; treacherous colleagues & sadistic bosses; spying gossiping neighbours.... then the thought of being alone aint so daunting cos we know we aint missing anything, this is why some spiritual journeys involve isolation / solitude, its also why they say of the deceased, they've had a blessed release; they went to a better place, because people generally treat each other like sheet

@jsmith1909

2 жыл бұрын

@@blisssing8449 check out Teal Swans video about narcissism and covid. Your intuition is spot on and she says exactly the same thing

@theswanpodcast8521

2 жыл бұрын

This brought me to tears, this was so on point, I’m across the country from my family. This is so freeing

@helenrothberg9182

2 жыл бұрын

@@theswanpodcast8521 exactly

I learned from a young age to silence myself. Now I'm trying to find my voice again.

@lapreciousmarcus8793

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@elizabethd.2398

3 жыл бұрын

Oh, you poor thing. That was me 7 years ago until I went NC with my narcissistic family. I have reconnected to myself and found my voice once again. But unfortunately, my throat chakra was affected by the "muting" and I developed thyroid disease. I will now have to take medication for the rest of my life. For those of you who are still young and recognize that you have a narcissistic family, GET OUT NOW before you develop all kinds of autoimmune diseases.

@elaynepallist572

3 жыл бұрын

It's still there... maybe a little scratchy, but it will come back to you. Never stop trying!!!

@IevaPoriete

3 жыл бұрын

Just by sharing it here now you already demonstrate a strong voice!

@KSouthworth

3 жыл бұрын

That’s wonderful. I hope you find it.

I find it interesting that people will come to me, when someone needs to be told something uncomfortable, such as you smell, need a bath, etc, yet otherwise do not want the truth. I see it all. I don’t say anything unless asked. It’s hard.

You are spot on. Isolation, bad mouthing, demeaning, mocking, ignoring,...anything and everything was done to "keep me in my place". I didn't even have to say anything. Simply choosing to not participate in the toxic behaviors was enough of a threat to them to place me in their cross hairs. Still working through the crazy making of my childhood and I'm almost 60 years old. Thanks for what you do to help people see and deal with this sooner than I did!

Like sunlight burns a vampire, the truth burns a narcissist.

@trinleywangmo

3 жыл бұрын

All I hear when I read this, is Trump calling female journalists "nasty", because they poke holes in his lies.

@SiliconBong

3 жыл бұрын

That's good.

@arnonuhm4022

3 жыл бұрын

Truth is such a powerful concept and it's misused as often as "God" and "Love".

@sylviacarter7971

3 жыл бұрын

Please join FB group called "Truth Tellers" . It is new . and it is for truth tellers in this context. Cover photo is blue green , lavender .

@sylviacarter7971

3 жыл бұрын

Please join FB group called "Truth Tellers" . It is new . and it is for truth tellers in this context. Cover photo is blue green , lavender .

My mom is a narcissist. I was the golden child, then I realized I was being manipulated and became the truth teller and now I’m the scapegoat.

@danalyvers5769

3 жыл бұрын

Daisy Brown that is a painful, confusing, disorienting journey. It is also my story. I am just becoming me at 61. You survived and can continue to not only survive but grow and flourish. I send you healing thoughts and energy!

@margyrowland

3 жыл бұрын

Same thing happened to me. I’m 20 years no contact. Love from Australia 🇦🇺

@lonjemariesfashions5117

3 жыл бұрын

You’re better off now

@judywright5901

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@judywright5901

3 жыл бұрын

@@margyrowland sorry, I understand. My father hasn't spoken to me in 20 yrs. Mom speaks to me after many years cuz she needs me now. You not alone and I feel your pain and I'm sending a hug...

Realizing now that this entire time I’ve been the truth teller but was being gaslighted that I was crazy, selfish, lazy, ungrateful, etc. Now I truly know.

@life-rethought

Жыл бұрын

every statement here is another a hah moment. thank you for your words.

@life-rethought

Жыл бұрын

and yes your string of labels.... been there ..... what a gift your words are to me.

@jonbaker476

Жыл бұрын

Same

@pbird1638

Жыл бұрын

Same.

@wednesdayschild3627

Жыл бұрын

I was always called "sensitive"

When you’re a “Truth Teller!” You naturally hold yourself accountable to the things you say and do!!!

@dobleuxyz

3 ай бұрын

This is our super-power. Nobody can call BS on us because we don't play that game. We know what we want and we go for it.

I got beat weather i lied or told the truth, so i told the truth. I became the scape goat bastard. I blocked out my childhood, until my 30s when memories came back. In my 40s im a mess, i hate myself, live alone and have no friends. Ppl arent worth the pain.

@matt3024

3 ай бұрын

You've got to remember-and I mean by reminding yourself- VERBALLY at first if necessary since for some reason that has a major impact on how effectively you hear it. If you notice you're feeling that way do it and replace with a memory of something you're proud of. A million songs have told us-they can't take that away Don't beat up on yourself because that's something that people who have been put in that position indulge themselves in. Give yourself credit for being smart enough to cut that toxic tie . I live alone as well but there are a couple of things I do a week that are very important to me I found pointing my righteous rage in the direction of things I firmly believe are important politically,will always keep me conscious of how important it is to be a truth-teller and that there are indeed people who will thank you for it Have faith that you know what's best for yourself and then you will definitely arrive. Going back is the biggest mistake you can make I can tell you because I made the mistake once too. They will never change and that has to be the single most important thing to understand.

@patrickpatton7123

3 ай бұрын

@@matt3024 Thank you Matt, it's comforting to here from ppl who relate. I already got suckered in by demons and lost 160k and what sanity I had left. My siblings and myself have written them off for good. They sunk their teeth into my son and destroyed our relationship.....that was and is devastating. My best friend just passed away (cat) and I just feel defeated at the momont. Thanks for the encouragement Matt, it helps.

@hollybritton7255

Ай бұрын

Don't give up my friend. Jesus was also a truth teller!! ❤

@turnbacktime65

Ай бұрын

I’m sorry you had such a crappy childhood. I hope you find peace. Please do not hate yourself. As a child you were innocent. ❤

@Nothingbutlovehere369

27 күн бұрын

Specialized trauma therapy and EMDR helps. ❤

✋🏾 I’m a truth teller. It has been a lonely life. Thank you, I am seen today.

@bereal6590

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@ERICLEONESHALOM

3 жыл бұрын

AMEN......

@raiding-1569

3 жыл бұрын

Bro, the world we live in works like this " you tell the truth, they lie to you". It's sad but true

@Clemsterful

3 жыл бұрын

I hear you, its comforting to know we are not alone

@daviddecalmer654

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, I just joined a club, keep up the truth fellow truth tellers

I'm actually fighting back tears because I didn't know this had a word.

@justjen1682

3 жыл бұрын

Oh yes! There is definitely a word . Lol hope you are doing ok. Stay strong ❤️❤️❤️❤️☀️☀️🧸

@MusketeerGweneth

3 жыл бұрын

You are not alone. I cried too.

@rossipreissler4449

3 жыл бұрын

holding back the tears until I decided to type. I didn't know there was such a term. In Biblical terms, it's a gift of discernment.. a gift of discerning of spirits... mocking, haughtiness, lying, joyfulness, patience, kindness, lust, etc.. a lot of the times.. I just pray, sometimes I will confront, sometimes I will share more truth/Truth... glad there are many more of us truth tellers out there.. joyful tears now... :-)

@justjen1682

3 жыл бұрын

@@rossipreissler4449 I’m so thankful for discernment ☀️

@raminsatyahadi4642

3 жыл бұрын

You are not alone Laura🙏 It’s liberating for me to discover this. I hope it is for you as well🙏

Omg this brought me to tears! I am a 68 year old female truth teller and family scapegoat, 2nd child with 3 male siblings, but have never had this label. I have been told i scan people. It is just how i perceive. Even to this day i regularly seem to upset people with my openness and perception and do always try to be sensitive to how i say something but yes ...permanent sense of grief...O yes. I live thousands of miles away from my family in England and once again on my last visit the truth came out. It feels sometimes that i just have to give up every relationship, or attachment to the relationships so that i can function without having a permant broken heart! It always feels to me that people live behind a curtain and just refuse to see what is right there in front of them! I do have lifelong friends for 55 years, perhaps to know me is to love me! 😅😊

Just be you....life is too short to allow others to silence your truth....

"What happens in this house STAYS in this house" I'm sure truth tellers have heard some form of this growing up

@user-ui9dk4vr9b

3 жыл бұрын

Yes I did

@DianasStudioDesigns

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. All the time

@lisei.2983

3 жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes !!

@DianasStudioDesigns

3 жыл бұрын

@Deborah Ringham our life stories and mother's are unfortunately so incredibly similar. I feel so bad for you. So unfortunate. They do put a wedge by lying and triangulation, their targeted person/their scapegoat and it is miracle anyone survives it. I can't hear the things she calls me and says about me anymore. I can't live with the heart piercing abuse. ..But love does win over hatred. It's just such long and treacherous road. Maybe we'll have redemption in the form of true liberation, independence from them, love for the earth, animals, and self. Getting away from a family of origin and letting go is a most challenging thing to do, it is so hard, mothers should love us, so it's very very confusing growing up, and realizing the truth of their limited love and unlimited relentless abuse, we need to grieve over it and move forward in our own light and love. Blessings to you 💕. Thank you for sharing. It helps, yourself and others. Truly.

@CHRISTChrysalisInManhaim

3 жыл бұрын

@Deborah Ringham I was wondering if your v aware of Spiritual warfare and the Jezebel spirit..also known as a Narsissist...A Narsissist is demonically inhabited/ influenced..& probably 1 of the best examples of Satan's personality. Narcs run parallel to the same pride, hate/abuse, manipulation, and overall destruction...all covert & sugar coated lies! And this is only a testam not to what we truly are, dealing with them. " Having the light" of God...wanting Truth/ freedom.. empathic sympathy..love. we are the contrast.. paralleling Christ/ God's personality in a similar way. This world is a battle between good & evil, light & dark, God & Satan...this is Spiritual warfare...and 1 of us, who knows what they are, dealt with& survived their onslaught, doesn't come out the other side unwounded, but also empowered.. We overcome a hellish road..I pray anyone who's dealing with, or has dealt with this( that is reading)..I pray your eyes are opened, that you guard your light, get out, heal and burn even brighter because of it! I know it's hard, it hurts, but we are strong through the light of God! Thats why we're attacked this way..the demonic saw & recognized it B4 we even knew...Jesus is the light, go to Him, be saved and more empowered. He heals and replenishes our souls..His word guides us into wisdom, and the path of light, to make it into the kingdom, our souls are originally from. He is the Vine, we are the branches...Endure till the end & Never stop shining...that's what we're here for. Lights in the darkness, God's vessels in an evil world. Yah bless the body, Shalom 🙏🏾

Tears fell from my eyes when Dr. Ramani mentioned about a child who always fantasize getting out and going to farthest places just to escape, I still remember that moment when I was a kid. Thank you Dr. Ramani, you are a great help to my healing..

@angelapastorius2377

2 жыл бұрын

Me too: I remember being about 8 in the car in the mall parking lot and seeing a bird flying above the car, and thinking I wish I were a bird so I could just fly away and be free.

@immortalcereal6928

2 жыл бұрын

oof same, Doctor Who and imagining what it would be like to escape to a whole different universe was my main coping mechanism when I was a teenager. Literally going light years away from home was exactly what I wanted

@lindsey9728

2 жыл бұрын

I remember picking up those "for rent" magazines they offered for free outside the grocery store as a pre-teen. I was trying to figure out how much it would cost to leave and was really upset when I found out I had to be 18.

@maryannlumbes8

2 жыл бұрын

@@lindsey9728 Awwww 😔 I also have a similar scenario, it's like I am thinking how much will I need when I go, but I end up realizing I didn't have a job yet and have no money to do it. Sending hugs to you 🤍

@lindsey9728

2 жыл бұрын

@@maryannlumbes8 ❤️ thank you, hugs to you too!

I’m the truth teller.. as a kid I’d call out anybody in my family but sadly I learned that brought me the wrong attention.. I am now an adult and a nurse, looking to run my own business in coaching others how to remove toxicity and grow to new levels. Everything you’ve said is 1000% true, thank you!!

Truth teller/ scapegoat here. The last time I told my narcissist sister to grow up and she just laughed I blocked her and haven't spoken to her in 6 years and hopefully forever. To this day she's made several attempts to create scenarios where I would be forced to see her face to face by manipulating my other siblings. It's creepy but thank god I see through it before it even happens 😅

I am a truth teller and while it is extremely lonely and sad, I know that this is happening for me to break the cycle of narcissism and abuse that runs in my family. These videos are comforting and validating, so thank you!

@pieluvr7362

3 жыл бұрын

Keep Strong

@allysezz6420

3 жыл бұрын

Omg i feel this same way

@NiquazWorld

2 жыл бұрын

I am sorry that you are experiencing this. I am too the truth teller in my family and now I feel relief because I cut them out of my life.

@jenburkholder6541

2 жыл бұрын

No contact sometimes is the only way. I recently did this and it's really lonely and heartbreaking because you wonder what a good honest family is like and you're left longing for something you never had. We all have true family from being thru this, the people who have been thru this and support each other and love each other to make up for it.

@miguelchippsinteligente6072

2 жыл бұрын

Jesus christ referenced living waters 💎👨‍🎓👩‍🎓science described water memory 🌊🎭Tesla referenced human energy 🌬👻psalms16:24 k,j proverbs27:19 existence psychologically god bless fight the good fight existence purpose 💖👻💎💖👻💎👨‍🎓👩‍🎓🤍🗽💎⚖🚬🌪🌬

I’m a truth teller. It can be an incredibly isolating experience. On the other hand, I get along really well with other truth tellers. We tend to spot one another and that’s nice.

@KyLe-cp7lh

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, it's refreshing for sure 🙂

@angiebasnight4690

3 жыл бұрын

Ty for finding me intriguing

@angiebasnight4690

3 жыл бұрын

I call it my gift of mercy

@davidjones4517

3 жыл бұрын

hello fello truth teller

@NadineBent-RussellTheSupaSis

3 жыл бұрын

I have run across some truth tellers who still have narcisstic system habits... it is important to heal and unlearn those survival mechanisms for sure...

It took a broken foot for social services to take notice and they forced my family into therapy. I was 13 and thought that we were attending family councelling to get help but it was just to convince social services that we were the perfect family. When the councellor asked everyone for their opinion, everyone said that there were no problems. When he asked me, I said that the constant yelling was too much for me to handle. I was immediately rebuked by everyone while they denied it all. On the drive home; my dad turned around and smacked me across the face then dumped me on the freeway in the dark and the rain to punish me for speaking truth. I quickly learned to keep my mouth shut or else. That’s just one time. I’d be tortured anytime I ever reached out for help.

I am a truth teller. I believe I was born an extrovert but now, I’m an introvert. I definitely have issues trusting people’s authenticity and therefore have no desire to make new friends. I’m very much an “I love my own company” kind of person. Years ago, I stopped going to family functions because they were just too toxic and my truth-telling mouth called it as I saw it. My son was upset with me for not wanting to be around the family. I told him one day he will understand. After a Christmas Eve dinner, he came back and said, “I get it now. I understand why you don’t fool with your family.”

Being a truth teller is a extremely difficult position, but I like who I am

@justjen1682

3 жыл бұрын

Me too ❤️

@evee963

3 жыл бұрын

Yups... Me too

@wanwisahmc

3 жыл бұрын

I get it , this is so me

@MusketeerGweneth

3 жыл бұрын

Same here but I am often feeling very lonely. I live in my mind a lot and watch a lot of movies about people surviving the end of the world and such while I imagine I'm among them. When I try to speak to people outside the family, mom just interrupts me and I can never get a word in so I have a lot of social anxiety too. I write a lot and I can create these characters that allows me to see my own thoughts and desires in a third person view as a sort of self therapy since I really don't ever get to see anyone to talk about those true feelings. Talking to my family about my feelings just upsets them and makes them very defensive, they tell me I'm making these things up or something never happened and I have voices in my head that I need to stop listening to, because I'm wrong. I nod in agreement but inside I am crossing my fingers behind my back because I feel the way I feel and I see what I see and no one can take that away.

@simplybiking

3 жыл бұрын

@@MusketeerGweneth sorry to hear that Gweneth. Are you not able to separate from your mother? You might want to leave the abuse. I’m 54, and finally decided to go no contact two months ago. Wished I had done it 35 years ago. I just kept waiting and waiting, thinking they would stop being so critical and angry with me all the time, eventually. Nope, and I survived the last 54 years, instead of really enjoying it, free from abuse.

It’s difficult to be kids when the kids are more mature than the parents and other adults around them.

@leahg3926

2 жыл бұрын

I love that movie " Matilda". is that the name of it.... Danny DeVito and .....his real wife play the parents I'll have to look it up. I did, and it IS "Matilda"

@australopithecusss

2 жыл бұрын

@@leahg3926 I'll have to watch that movie on your recommendation! I LOVE Danny DeVito! Thank you and all manner of good fortune to you and yours, lori

@raymiejed1659

2 жыл бұрын

Well said. I told mine 'you both need to grow up.'

@eliza7511

2 жыл бұрын

i argued for my adulthood at age 5. ("i'm an adult in a child's body,") and i won. it... didn't feel good, setting my own rules, etc. i felt neglected, lonely and on my own. but i knew full well i was the sole adult in that house. and that worked, in a way.

@australopithecusss

2 жыл бұрын

@@eliza7511 Me too sister, it's so hard when the kids are more mature than the parents, they draw targets on our backs for whatever reason...God saw fit to protect us, love us, and sooth us when they were too unbalanced and emotionally unfit to do it. Thanks God, or that's what I believe... I used to wonder what I had done that was so bad for them to hate me so much...Wasn't anything that was innately bad in me, I merely served as a reflection of their own bullshit that they were projecting on us kids...made them feel shame, well earned too. They didn't hate me they loathed themselves. love and all manner of good fortune to you....I'm also grateful for the guides in my life, the one's who told me, this aint right...these folks are broken fools. I know it's not funny, but I try and alchemize the energy with humor, coping skill from childhood that still works well for me.

Thank you, Dr. Ramani. I'm so grateful for your insight!! I was/am the scapegoat/truthteller in my family. I first ran away from home at age 12 and continued running away until I becamea ward of the court and was placed in a group home my 8th grade year. My mother is the quintessential narcissist, hides behind her religion. She inflicted so much emotional/verbal abuse onto me.I was labeled the bad child and boy did I live up to it. When I finally got out and went to college I became an honor student and earned a B.A. in Theater Arts. I'm an actor. I'm 64 yrs old and just putting the pieces together and learning why I've struggled and agonized within my twisted family system. Thanks again for explaining the unfortunate role of the family scapegoat and how it affects us in adulthood. 🕊

That's me. 56 and 20yrs estranged. Set myself up half way across the world to get away from the parentals. All-in, in the scope of lives being led, I have a fantastic life! God Bless you all!!

I was a truth teller who got silenced by gaslighting as a kid, so I couldn't tell up from down and learned to distrust my instincts. It wasn't until my 40s that I could really reconnect with the level of harm that was done to me, and I am now in the process of unapologetically calling out my mother for her narcissistic behavior and setting boundaries that will either lead to a respectful relationship or no contact.

@juliespear4177

Жыл бұрын

ETA: I really resonate with it being a lonely role and feeling like I have no family.

@smsamrow

Жыл бұрын

I am in the exact same place as you Julie. It is an extremely lonely place to be.

@krystleparker6330

Жыл бұрын

Same here..I chose to have no further contact with my mom (last week) so it's pretty raw right now. Sending you love and strength

@kaizen_5091

Жыл бұрын

The cognitive dissonance that the gaslighting creates can be one of the most devastating and difficult things to overcome. I applaud your resilience and fortitude.

@cillacim

Жыл бұрын

💯❤️🙏🏻

I get sad watching other families who could rely, comfort and love each other. I was gossipped about, mocked, and gaslit when I spoke the truth. I never had a family that cared, nor I could turn to, always relied on myself.

@newmamaful

3 жыл бұрын

You might be interested in Toxic Parents and Mothers Who Can't Love by Susan Forward and It's Not Your Fault by Beverly Engel.

@VTUL92

3 жыл бұрын

Merry Christmas everyone here. 💕 im sending you love and good wishes. I hope to build a world for myself . . . Filled by truth tellers like myself. Please join me on facebook 》》 facebook.com/groups/419317772450579/?ref=share

@donalobradaigh70

3 жыл бұрын

We feel so isolated because there are mostly narcissists in this world but there are millions of us and the number us growing. We are each other's family❤️

@nikiepunt8631

3 жыл бұрын

@@donalobradaigh70 yes 👍🏻

@Capt1021

3 жыл бұрын

Same Here

I was the empathic scapegoat. I grew up to become an investigative journalist. A very productive one who brought needed change (:

This is completely me! The youngest child and the first with the guts and determination to leave home and walk away from the toxicity. The day I left I was packing my worldly belongings into a small sports bag, having been barked at with strict orders from my violent narcissistic adoptive mother: "Don't you dare take anything! None of it's yours, it's all mine!!" It was the middle of winter and I was moving into a shared house with no heating. My little room was freezing and I only had a rickety old wooden single bed with a dirty flat mattress on it. I pleaded with mother to let me take just one blanket from the hallway cupboard (so bulging with extra bedding that you had to stand with your back against the door and bang it closed with your butt). I remember clearly she actually snarled at me like a vicious rabid dog, ran to the cupboard and started pulling everything out and locking it in her bedroom, all the while screaming that if I "stole" anything she was going to the police. As I left and was walking down the path she yelled abuse at me and threw something from the doorway. I ran back to get it - it was an old ragged army blanket full of mouse holes that she'd pulled off the dog's bed. That's all I had over me for my first night of independence. She wouldn't allow me to take my pillow, snatched it out of my hand. I didn't cry. I didn't feel sorrow. I was young, but somehow it was an enormous relief. I'd been looking forward to this day ever since I was a little kid. Once I left I barely looked back. She's long dead now, but before she died she apologised to me. Not because it was the right thing to do, but because (as she said in her own words) "I would be put in jail if I belted up a kid now." Case rested. Peace for me ever since💪🏼💖

I’m a truth teller and it’s incredibly isolating. I watch these videos to validate my feelings. I check myself a lot to make sure that I’m not overthinking things or “doing too much” as I’ve been told by people that don’t like the truth. I really appreciate your work!

@chelly2468

11 ай бұрын

Me too ❤️💔

@ollyveye

9 ай бұрын

That’s exactly why I’m here watching these videos too! I’ll listen to these videos all day long, information I already know, because it makes me feel sane. It’s unlucky we got them as parents, but it’s so relieving to know I am not alone. We will get through this :) we are better than them♥️

@sweetnsourify

9 ай бұрын

Exactly

@fay5479

9 ай бұрын

Growth is always painful and full of aches....but I didn't disclose to do it alone 😞

@nanditachakravarty5236

9 ай бұрын

My elder son has been a truth teller and my husband has been trying to prove him useless.This is taking quite a bit of toll on him.He is trying hard to clear a national exam for higher studies but my husband shows his doubt on him

The narcissist will destroy anyone who looks through them.

@bodaciouswoman4045

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, going through this exact thing right now

@deaninnocenzi1551

3 жыл бұрын

I'm dealing with a narcissistic sister she tries to tell the whole family lies about me... So i told them get her and the whole family in the same room and I'll be there to answer all questions...Will she... it's been 2 years still waiting they don't do well in crowds

@wolfgang7812

3 жыл бұрын

Or at least they will attempt to.

@Elohim07248

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, they will try to destroy. They take themselves that seriously.

@petrairene

3 жыл бұрын

@@bodaciouswoman4045 Yeah, narcissists are totally bipolar. Either you are in their fan and enabler club and then they like you or you are the enemy. I would say, run for the hills. These people are just not worth it. People who believe that it's always the others who are the problem are beyond salvation. So steer clear, there is no reason to become colateral damage in their maelstrom of shit and drama.

Damn damn damn damn… I have lost jobs friends and family members. I have always called out everything and been so shutdown and pushed out my whole life. One thing everyone knows about me is that I am honest to my core. This got me. Truly. Thank you for your content.

Yeah, I relate to this a lot, and thank you, it's validating to hear. I don't think I was that stoic about it as a child though, the injustice used to make me mad as hell. Still dealing with toxic family at 56, is very hard.

@ebnykween

4 ай бұрын

Walking away only hurts for a second. Then you run into one of them and when that "altercation" is over you will tell yourself that you made the right choice. It's a huge leap, but the freedom you are rewarded with is endless.

They discredit them and start smear campaigns about them.

@hannmatt1933

3 жыл бұрын

Yes that's is very true

@Melliebeans59

3 жыл бұрын

100% truth. I have lived this my whole life.

@craig3714

3 жыл бұрын

Narc Survivor exactly

@Melliebeans59

3 жыл бұрын

@@craig3714 Narc survivors unite. We got this! ✌👊🤟

@craig3714

3 жыл бұрын

@Adam Alexander BLM is a hate group but they get praised by mainstream media .

“ anxiety is a big part of a truth teller‘s life.” ❤️ that explains my entire life.

@elizabethlane9706

2 жыл бұрын

We have a narsis9

@elizabethlane9706

2 жыл бұрын

We have a narsistc person in our family that thinks she a the truth teller. I recently witnessed this person telling me thing about myself that weren't even true. Mind boggling was it was she needs to isolate my son from me. It's almost like she will take a small piece of information she has heard about me and put her spin on the story to fit her need. This is mind blowing. I can't talk to this person in ordinary conversation. I am an empath by nature so I knew from day one this person is going to be a lot of work so I side stepped around her as to no engaging toxic arguments. Or waste my energy. I've had to isolate from my son because of the toxicity. She helicopters him in every way so we can't communicate in peace. Finally I have stopped. Trying and got away. I can't stand mess. This segment opened up my thinking about this narsistc behavior. Me being an empath has probably made her feel I was an easy target for the rage. So I resigned.lol I love my son but she has him encoded in a bubble. So after the last confrontation recently I figured out that I needed to set boundaries and not enable toxic behavior. Thank you for your work. This is all so crazy. I'm 70 and secure that I was and am a good mother and a good person.

@therealgaragegirls

2 жыл бұрын

Same here.

@karenshaw607

2 жыл бұрын

right

@themusicgaragetmg2330

2 жыл бұрын

Stay strong no matter how much they try to suck you back in... and they WILL try

It's comforting and sad at the same time that I'm not the only one.

I’m sitting here in Greece, far away from my home in Canada, nodding along to everything you are saying. Until I watched this, I didn’t have a name for what I’ve been in my family and in my life. I still remember as a small child watching my mother when she would go off on us and there would be a stillness in me. She would look at me and get so angry. I never told her the truth, but she saw it in my eyes. I never begged her to love me like my sister would do. I didn’t want her attention. I just wanted to be left alone in peace. My entire life has been a quest for peace and I have a better understanding now why that has been. I have been a truth teller since I was a tiny child. People have hated me on sight for much of my life, while others have been obsessed with me. It’s always an all or nothing thing for some weird reason. I’m honest, but I’ve learned not to blurt out the truth because most of the time people don’t want to hear it. And even when they say they do … they really don’t. I’ve always had this almost preternatural ability to see the truth in every situation. I am super empathic so I can feel what others feel, which almost means I can read their minds. It’s unsettling for me as much as for them. I don’t really want to know so much about others. So I tend to keep to myself most of the time. I’m turning 55 in a few months and I’ve learned that being alone is much more comfortable. I have friends and a partner, but they are few as I don’t let a lot of people close to me, although I am friendly and appear open. I’m just not vulnerable to anyone until I know I can trust them. You’re so right about the vivid internal life. I am a writer and an artist. :) My website is brendagrate.com. I have been making up stories in my head (always before I sleep) for as long as I can remember. Books were my escape, so I guess it’s no wonder I became a writer. Writing also helped me to heal as I wrote out my pain. I am also a herbalist and a nature worshipper. I feel that nature, although she can often be brutal, is the only thing I can trust. She is honest in all things. I guess that’s all. I want to thank you for making this video. It has helped me more than I can say. It has taken many years for me to heal and love myself after an extremely abusive childhood. But this video helped me to understand one thing I never could. Why would so many people react violently against me without me ever doing anything but being kind? It’s usually when I first meet them and usually women. I never understood why and now I think I do when I look back on those people. Maybe they felt I was calling them out, but I didn’t mean to. I only ever wanted to be kind and friendly. They would get so angry at me and accuse me of things I never did. It still happens so I keep distant from people as much as I can. Thank you for helping me to understand it’s not me, but their fear of the truth. I love your channel. 😊

I have never felt so seen. This is exactly how my life played out. And the loneliness of often being the only one to stand up to bullies - at home and in the workplace - has had a huge impact on my mental health through the entirety of my 20s, but it also became a beacon that drew so many people of integrity and kindness into my life, fostering a sisterhood of vulnerability and compassion that evaded me until now. I have often said being a truth teller is a blessing and a curse, but to anyone reading this, the curse will eventually lift when you realize darkness will always be repelled by your light and you don’t have to dim yours to be accepted.

@lunaalex8568

2 жыл бұрын

Well said Lily. Perfect!

@christinacataldi877

2 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said Lilly ♥️💕

@lindadonoghue22

2 жыл бұрын

Amen and Bravo!

@guitarcase8562

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely... I'm in the same place especially at the workplace.. RIGHT NOW!!. someone's going to make me bad to a new supervisor as we speak... As soon as he gets there tomorrow morning.. and I don't have the time to defend myself as I'm going to see a doctor 💊...

@jillcummings8810

2 жыл бұрын

Very well said ☺️

My favorite phrase that is true in my life: "A speaker of truth has no friends."

@parajacks4

2 жыл бұрын

We are your friends Shaka, be kind to yourself

@elizaveta2407

2 жыл бұрын

I guess, the truth tellers need to unite. :)

@natalietasca2271

2 жыл бұрын

I have maybe one, I am not popular. Truth telling won't make you popular but it will scare people.

@analiza265

2 жыл бұрын

Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kiss of an enemy is deceitful.

@hazelisaacs2201

2 жыл бұрын

A speaker of truth has only *true* friends. There are plenty of the other sort, but really, who needs them?

I literally did everything this Doctor said...I got into music...went damn near everywhere I could just to get away...I actualized every dream I had in my childhood...I made everything I played with my dolls doing, a reality. I made my own talk show and everything...I did get out...I'm just feel guilty about getting out and feel pulled back in...my mother knows how to pull me back in...then act like I was never wanted in the first place... This is the worst situation because I know it's not me...

I am a truth teller. I got it so well when I was young, I left home before I was 16 just to save relationships with sibs. I went on to have a very turbulent relationship with my own narcissistic daughter who took after my mother so completely. As a therapist and healer now, I feel blessed to have lived and live with my narcissistic relationships.