Socially awkward people go into a situation thinking everyone hates them. I know it can be hard to overcome, but it's rarely if ever true.

I find that keeping my mouth shut when on the presence of normal humans is always a good way to avoid awkward encounters.

Sometimes no matter how you try to talk with a certain group. You may never get much more than generic neutrality in dynamic. Youre not always every groups cup of tea or personality match. Thats okay. And not an issue or flaw of either of you. Move on and try again. And dont resent yourself or them for it not working out. Friendships/work friendships are still relationships. And relationships cant be built between everyone. And each one that does or doesnt work is a learning experience. Dont cling to the ones you go through hell just to be okay with. As the ones you naturally fit in will have minor bumps but not walls. And will feel much better. That being said. Dont isolate yourself or settle. You can always gain more connections from everything such as acquaintance to close friends. Keep your mind open and keep going.

PEAK-END RULE. Don't focus too hard of having great 100% of interaction. Most of it can be mid, but you have better shot at being remembered fondly, as long as you do those two things; 1. Have some REALLY good moment in it. 2. Leave on a good note.

Finally a helpful video that is not soul crushing. This is more my fault. I have a harder time with happier videos.

socially awkward people dont recognize dialogue tree that open up. example scenario, lets say person mentions they just bought a house, then say congratulations and praise their achievement, and ask where it is, how many rooms, dont just say oh nice, and almost skip right over it. or they say im leaving town tomorrow, dont just say have a nice trip, say oh nice where are you going? Norway, oh have you been before, do you like it there, do you have friends their etc etc

Although I've gotten better, I think my biggest problem is that most social cues are assumptions and not directly communicated. I.E. The person you're talking to could be uncomfortable because of what you're saying, or something else could be on their mind, and although you could ask a lot of times people just lie and brush it off

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Yes this is what body language analysis people do!! They train people to just ASSUME that someone is uncomfortable or guilty of a crime based on body language. Which is very dangerous and quite frankly it is rude to be that judgmental of someone! I think it’s better to just be direct but polite if a conversation is getting too much. I don’t understand why people suck at being direct but polite, it’s not hard!

I'm 51 and i have finally realized that I am actually a very charismatic and witty person who has no reason to be socially awkward because I actually have all the skills to be socially awesome. This after decades of having Avoidant Personality Syndrome. I have some catching up to do.

Also its okay to agree to disagree. Or drop a subject while tense. And come back to discuss later when clear headed. Also its okay to fuck up. Admit it. Own up to it. Either joking at your own fuck up or authentically apologizing and moving on. And dont dwell on it or make a woe is me. Just a quick apology snd move on

As an Autistic person, interrupting, volume control and eye/face contact

14:19 bro visited his friend

If you're from the South and moved somewhere else, you need to know that just because you can join any conversation that's being loud enough to be overheard in the South that rule doesn't apply anywhere else. This is more a "culture shock" thing than anything else, but just know that outside the South that if you're not part of the initial conversation then you're not allowed to join in, no matter how loud the conversation is.

The thing i really hate about this subject is that it doesn't take into consideration autistic people. A lot of us have a hard time with social cues and body language. Looking at people in the eyes can actually be painful, and there is nothing we can do about it. Telling us to be like everyone else, is like telling a diabetic, that if they think hard enough they wont be diabetic anymore. It just wont work. Maybe try to be more understanding of people that are different from you. Oh, and BTW, if you want to get us to understand you 23:16 dont beat around the bush. Just tell us exactly what you want. And you dont have to talk to us like we are a child when you do.

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