I am 33, no job, no relationship, still at my parents and yet I am still hopeful something will give 😊

@danielkuttel7867

12 күн бұрын

But there is no magic or god that will you give something. You have still have to try to get somewhere. Get up and you will see, if you invest time and energy in a theme, than good things will happen. Dont be afraid to failure, its a learning for doing it better.

@elizabethmullins198

12 күн бұрын

I hope something really great happens for you. ❤

@A_W2016_love

11 күн бұрын

I am 36, good job, married, and I will tell you there’s no use in chasing things do what makes you happy and if you want something go for it. But you’ll always be chasing the next thing. The things I have are just foundations they don’t bring constant happiness, they bring security which helps but happiness is in little things that are free.

@koolme666

11 күн бұрын

I want your optimism 😢

@faithmwinzi6324

11 күн бұрын

@@koolme666 I even wonder how I am doing

Judge Judy said it best, if you don't make it in your 20s, you can make it in your 30s. If you don't make it in your 30s, you can make it in your 40s and so on. Your life is not just your 20s. I have felt this unfulfilled and underachieved feeling. I think it is a very human feeling and it is necessary for growth. I just try and make decisions from where I am currently and not based on some distant expectation of what I should be.

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

Great mentality and I couldn't agree more

@MMD-ed6do

3 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, your life is based on what did you in your 20s 😢.

@StrawberryJamJam29

3 ай бұрын

@@MMD-ed6do There’s a ton of successful people who didn’t figure it out until 40+ years old. No one is talking about how much they failed in their 20s.

@frankwolftown

3 ай бұрын

​@MMD-ed6do I'm in Amy 40's and safely say that's bulshit that can be overcome. Keep working at it! Keep fighting!

@pocahontas4583

3 ай бұрын

@@MMD-ed6doyour 30s might be based on what you did in your 20s but 20s is not the sole factor in how your life turns out. I take it you’re really young because 20s is the very beginning of adulthood.

If you’re 30 and you still got your soul, congratulations. That’s a big win. Don’t let the world think haven’t done anything major.

@lauramuller523

3 ай бұрын

Wow this is a great comment!!!!! ❤️

@Icon_5000

3 ай бұрын

@@lauramuller523 🤍

@jeggzzzz

3 ай бұрын

agreed. Soul still at 2% integrity.

@Icon_5000

2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂@@jeggzzzz

@mikediaz7206

2 ай бұрын

The world doesn’t treats the same way women and men. For men is harder in their 30’s if didn’t build nothing

I’m 35, have been with my partner for 17 years, we have 2 kids together. We have the nice house. My husband has a good paying job and I am a stay at home mom. It would appear we have it all figured out, but I am very insecure because my life skills have diminished, I have 0 friends, my husband hates his career, and my kids make me psychotic most days. The stress is unbearable. Why is this the goal? Enjoy life no matter where you are. There may be a person who wishes they were in your shoes.

@kagwinjeri

Ай бұрын

I love this. 'Enjoy life no matter where you are.'

@shannah6920

Ай бұрын

@makaila would you consider re entering the work place so you can find some inspiration and socialize or perhaps a side hustle?

@sarahthornhill1825

Ай бұрын

Same here I’m 27 though

@user-nx1ks8ig8x

Ай бұрын

Why do I feel this so deeply? I'm 42, married 16 years with a lovely daughter, comfortable home, and "good" job as a nurse x 17 years. I've achieved the American dream, but I often feel exhausted, burnt out, and lonely.

@thementalvixen

Ай бұрын

You guys should start new things and you should look into part time remote work

I just turned 35, and I feel so lost. No relationship prospects and I hate my job. Thanks for the encouragement.

@rocio292

3 ай бұрын

35 here, lost a long term relationship about 2 yrs ago, its gonna be okay 😢❤

@mbank3832

3 ай бұрын

If it’s lost, then it’s not as good as you think. Years later and look back, you are glad it was over. A fellow 35er here

@rocio292

3 ай бұрын

@@mbank3832 Thank you for your words, I'm still grieving even after two yrs but I try to remind myself that it's comes with the package of growth and I'm growing wiser and stronger than before. I would still have waves of moments where I would feel sad and longing but each time, those episodes in it's duration becomes less and less and more faint, it's a slow painful goodbye to the old self and in with the new.

@bonganikato3016

3 ай бұрын

There is so much more to life than a relationship.

@mbank3832

3 ай бұрын

@@bonganikato3016 true. they are just one of the sauces that make your food taste better

35 single, no friends, no career no goal still figuring out what to do. Key to hope is "trying"

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

That's so true! Keep trying and things will unfold eventually.

@timsherrell2870

2 ай бұрын

I’m 41 now and I’m retraining for a better paying career. I just started last year and honestly it’s draining to do this and work full time. I wish I had started doing this at 35. or any earlier stage honestly. But I don’t want five years more to pass ending with me looking back and saying I wish I had started at 41. That is my motivation.

@katherinechant7606

2 ай бұрын

❤

@betawolfhd

Ай бұрын

​@@timsherrell2870that's how I'm feeling about figuring it all out at 30. Just starting the changes.

@betawolfhd

Ай бұрын

What are you stuck on? I may be able to offer a way to use some tools to help you figure out how to gain momentum.

I'm 43, divorced single mom. I have no job, no skills, no idea what to do. I was a stay at home mom for almost 2 decades. I feel really lost. Thank you for this video. I guess it's never too late.

@foodsta6

Ай бұрын

Man i used to think that i was the only one who was lost in life, I'm 27 and i literally have no skills i don't know where to go or who to turn to, life feel a lit lost right now😢 I hope everything changes for you one day, indeed it's never to late at 43 you can still make a big and positive change to your life and people around you, goodluck 😢❤

@missj2045

Ай бұрын

@foodsta6 Thank you so much! You're definitely not alone. There are soo many people feeling stuck and not knowing what to do right now. Please just know you're not alone and we can overcome this. 27 is still very young, and you have lots of time to find your path. I've been looking into it. There's training, volunteer work, apprenticeships.. even finding one job can lead to another. I went to community college, and there were people from 18 all the way to their 50s in my class. Also I find that my church community is really helpful when I'm feeling down. Please don't give up. There is always a way, and we're definitely not the only ones feeling this way. I think the saying "where there's a will, there's a way" applies here. We just need to be hopeful and creative and willing to give any opportunity a try. We'll get there. Lots of love and best of luck.

@claribelleprice

25 күн бұрын

I’m 44 and a single Mom to 2 kids (one is on the autism spectrum) and I’m grateful to have my job but it’s not my passion. I ask God to help me and He surrounds me with my parents and brothers to help me along the way. It’s tough getting used to this normal but I am trying to focus on what I have and to be thankful versus grieving and staying stuck in the past. God bless us all!

People overhype our 20s way too much. Our society has a very weird obsession with it that is not healthy or normal. Why would you want to peak in your 20s and then plateau for the rest of your life? Just because you “make it” in your 20s it doesn’t mean life is always going to be like that for the next 60 years.

@dodji582

3 ай бұрын

You can't fight nature

@lauragaka8384

3 ай бұрын

🙌🙌🙌

@TheCoralie87

3 ай бұрын

👏

@matthewsmith2362

2 ай бұрын

I was super reckless in my 20s Selling dope Gambling all hrs of the night I got married to my high school girlfriend, made a million bucks, bought 3 houses on and on, then in my 30s the drinking and drugging start running its course Now I’m 40 and still married to same woman we have an 8 year old I made it thru those years with one house that we live in and we own the building we do business out of But I’m working harder than I ever have in life for the least money. 2 1/2 years off of alcohol, gambling and drugs other than weed

@JayyeMusic

2 ай бұрын

This

Reading some of the comments below is sobering. It reminds me that we are all just human and doing the best we can.

@Lalabaster

Ай бұрын

❤ 😊 🙏

Social media makes everyone think they need to be the ultimate success in life. I hate the pressure.

I am 38, and still finding my way 😢

@YzaRielandKyle

3 ай бұрын

Same 🥲You're not alone

@azikiel1286

3 ай бұрын

@@YzaRielandKyle 😊

@ihsuFM89

3 ай бұрын

Same here! I’ve been trying to get my mental and personal health in order. I have some sort of idea on how I’m going to take my next step in life, just feel stuck and afraid on doing it.

@DK1MM

3 ай бұрын

I'm 39 with nothing but family and my amazing son😢

@azikiel1286

3 ай бұрын

@@DK1MM sending love

I thought when I graduated college after serving 4 years in the military, I had my path laid out in front of me. Little did I know that wasn’t the case. COVID happened and I was living in my car while maintaining a job flipping burgers because I had no prospects. Eventually, I ended up homeless and addicted to drugs and alcohol. Today, I am happy to say that I am close to 4 years sober. I got my masters degree. I make 6 figures. I married my beautiful wife and I couldn’t be more grateful. The universe is a weird and unpredictable place, but if you work hard and keep smiling, you will be blessed.

@JustChristianThings

3 ай бұрын

Wow that’s amazing! This comment made me so happy 😀 I almost committed suicide because I was an alcoholic/addict for 14 years, felt hopeless, ended up in a mental hospital where I finally got sober, now I’m over 2 years sober and working on my Masters degree to become a mental health counselor. I’m 31 and have been feeling bad that I’m still living with parents, no job, not married no kids.. I have a nice car but lost my drivers license because of a second dui, but this gives me hope and encouragement that I’m on the right path and it’s never too late to turn my life around!

@TheCoralie87

3 ай бұрын

❤

@muhammadilhammaulana4153

29 күн бұрын

"work hard and keep smiling"

@apex3821

26 күн бұрын

What did you study? I just got out this January. I did 8 years and figured getting a good job would be easy with the skills I got out with in the navy. I did end up getting a solid job with boeing but with little civilian skills I ended up signing a contract for a year that pays about 800 less then what I was making in the military and to top it off no benefits or PTO. I legit am dipping into the savings from military just to pay my bills so basically I spend more then I make.

@cjsmith8319

26 күн бұрын

@@apex3821 I studied accounting and finance. I’m a tax accountant.

It's never too late to reinvent yourself. I've seen it happen for people in their 50's and 60's.

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

Yessssss!!!

@lolitazavala1879

2 ай бұрын

@kamw73, you seem like a sweet sensitive person ❤

@Peppita_

20 күн бұрын

even in their 70's

@GOEL_podcast

18 күн бұрын

Absolutely! Love this.

Hi. I am 35, jobless, single, broke, on rent, lost both my parents. Feeling hopeless scared unstable unmotivated drained. Lost my strength and motivation. All my friends have their life settled and me... NOTHING

@ross9503

3 ай бұрын

💪💪💪❤❤

@boogalooloo

3 ай бұрын

I have the same issues I am so scared as well and just don't know what to do anymore

@kayelle202

3 ай бұрын

I can relate

@kayred5846

3 ай бұрын

you got this! don't give up. 35 is still so young, you have so much time

@iCeleste7

2 ай бұрын

I’m sorry friend. There is still plenty of time to get back on your feet. I will be praying for you!

I'm 32 years old, and I would like to believe that everyday I'm closer to where I need to be.

@user-ir8bq1bu3j

3 ай бұрын

3K subscribers. Obviously we cared about the fake relationship

@virtuaguyverify

3 ай бұрын

You mean "want" to be

When you’re around 30, you go through Saturn Return. Life as you know it is supposed to fall apart, so a new and more authentic identity can be built from the ground up. If you’re around 28-32, welcome to Saturn Return. It will pass♥️

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

Ha love that.

@KomaganProPowerKomaganProPower

2 ай бұрын

haa that something to think about

@VmakesItEasy

Күн бұрын

I hope so cause it’s painful here.

This is me. 29, single, unemployed, broke, lost in life. I don't know what to do.

@Pandaeyedninja

Ай бұрын

I’m 29 too, single, unemployed, broke and lost too

@Ana-xk6qe

Ай бұрын

Me! Suicidal too, don't know what to do

@enniechisha6149

Ай бұрын

@@Ana-xk6qe Hang in there just a little longer, just a little longer..❤️❤️❤️

@brianpendez5340

28 күн бұрын

@@Ana-xk6qe Never an option, so many stories of survivors instantly regretting their decision. Please don't make the same mistake.

@sexymary

23 күн бұрын

​@@Ana-xk6qe just do something. Don't think too much of the consequences.. Just do something useful like learning a skill

I’m 35. I work a terrible job, I’m in a toxic relationship & I’m in the middle of family drama. I might not get my shit together until I’m in my 40s but I’m DETERMINED to accomplish my goals, the only thing stopping it is me.

the amount of pressure that comes with aging is crazy but we need to count our blessings so we can not fall to that trap of depression

@enniechisha6149

2 ай бұрын

You are so right. While it may seem like people are progressing and doing way better than we are, we are also better than some people out there, who desperately wish they could live our lives and experience our problems. Life is funny, better to count our blessings, make the most of our processes, work smart & hard, and not forget to take a break and smell the roses.

@zakaria093

2 ай бұрын

i like dat🙏

Girl, I am 39 and still feel lost with no real purpose in life. Not married, no children and just feel I am existing to die...

@jodycartwright8439

Ай бұрын

Same here 💯 but we're trying Now! My life is not over none of ours is this is just a new beginning

@Nancy-oz6ne

Ай бұрын

Lies from the enemy. You have purpose on life. Know God and he will help you! You got this girl! God loves you! Keep going. Living and breathing on earth is a gift from God❤

@oaklandsoldier8520

28 күн бұрын

Me 2

37 here with, not to brag about it, lots of potential and yet I find myself after years of jumping from one job to another trying to establish a more stable career. No stability, didn’t own a house or car or got married or any of these so-called happiness line of ducks. Still loving myself and knowing full well that I am so close to finding my true purpose and I’m working on it. Matter of fact, I can see it happening. Thanks for the video ❤

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

Love it, well done you and hoping you'll come back and share with us when you're at the point where you're living to your true purpose

@Lisziomania

2 ай бұрын

Amen it will definitely happen darling ♥ God's timing is always the best

@carolinemohoto991

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for your motivation 😢I'm 37, and I'm so stuck

I just turned 40 and I feel like a lot of my 20s and 30s was just trying to figure myself out. I was trying to live society's definition of success, but just felt lost. I had to think real hard about what my personal version of success looks like. I'm sure at 60 I'll think I didn't know anything still at this stage, but finally feel like I have a path forward

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

Same as me until I realised I was trying to be someone else all along. Wishing you the best of luck in figuring, living and being YOU!

@iyasugames

3 ай бұрын

@@reinventingpoppy Thank you!!

I completely skipped my 20s. From 15 to 19 I partied and had friends, boyfriends, always straight A+ student. At 20 suddenly stopped existing. Cancelled all socials, stopped going out of my house, dropped college. From when I was 21 I keep repeating “next year is gonna be my year” but it never comes the time I get access to my potential again. I know I was talented and charismatic and pretty and now I am none of those anymore, I feel like I lost everything I was and every passing second I’ve less and less opportunities. Thank you for this video, I’ll stop waiting for “the right year” and start with this day God blessed me with.

@JingYuans_sparrow

3 ай бұрын

@@create306 thank you so much for sharing your experience and for your advice, you’re right and I’ll do my best to remember your words🤍 I’m glad you found your happiness 🤍

@JingYuans_sparrow

3 ай бұрын

@@create306 thank you so much for sharing your experience and for your advice🤍 I’m glad you found your happiness 🌷

@iiCounted-op5jx

Ай бұрын

crazy how its gonna basically be the opposite for me lol I stopped existing at like 13 and my teen years were completely spent in online schooling and isolation, I haven't interacted with anybody my age in years, never been to a party etc. but I plan on making up for it in my 20's but I gotta figure it out fast because my 20's are right on the horizon

Hi. I am 35, single, currently jobless, having social anxiety, broke, lost my father. But I still have hope that I could change my life back to my normal days. Thanks for this encouraging video.

27 here and feel the same way! Praying this is my year 😭🙏🏼

I was never bothered because I never really cared about achievements. I just wanted a job to pay for my apartment and good food. And it never changed. I am working in system administration, which in Germany pays ok but nothing crazy. Somehow I don't have any ambition to change that. I'm now 36. I'm curious if this will change. But the good thing about this, I'm happy because I don't follow targets so I don't have any fails in not achieving them. And because I don't care much about achieving something, I cannot be unhappy not achieving something. At least it works for me A good tip is, never look at other people. Don't care about what others do or have done. Everyone is different. Some are only happy earning 100k or more while others just want as much time with themselves or with their dogs, cat or family. Only change, if you really feel unhappy. Never change because you think you must change because others did

@whitepouch0904

3 ай бұрын

I was like this. Now I felt so behind 😢

@kimF499

3 ай бұрын

Your content in life and that's not a bad thing. Some people never feel accomplished because they have a constantly moving goal post. If you can provide for yourself and are generally happy with the quality of life you have then that's an accomplishment to me

@wildfleursoul

3 ай бұрын

i love your perspective

@shay_e3563

3 ай бұрын

That's awesome. I'm currently 28 with no job no money and no partner. Honestly I just want to live a decent life where I can comfortably afford at least the basic things of life but it's looking like that might never be me. Now looking into getting into edu tech but still don't know where to start from after a lot of research, thinking about it just makes me very very sad

@aselalovesjoy7368

3 ай бұрын

great mindset!

20s were great for me but turning 30 at the very start of Covid lockdowns was a premonition of the years to come. About to turn 33 and I’m so stuck. I don’t love work, kids unlikely to be soon, anxiety isn’t great, no clear goals, friends have fizzled away. So excited for this chanel to grow.

@mariotaz

3 ай бұрын

I'm 33 turning 34. But I just take each day as I can. I actively looked for a job I would like to at least try. Now I do Japanese sake events and learn about it. No experience in that but y'never know.

@mariotaz

3 ай бұрын

I'm 33 turning 34. But I just take each day as I can. I actively looked for a job I would like to at least try. Now I do Japanese sake events and learn about it. No experience in that but y'never know.

@jazzyj6640

3 ай бұрын

It’s okay if you don’t have children. I think the concept of having children is overrated but it’s glorified and so many people regret having children when they did because they didn’t know any better.

@j69confessional

2 ай бұрын

Omg this is literally me! LITERALLY! Are we the same person? Lol

I’m 38 and not in a relationship or have kids. I still live with my parents, whom I take care of and look after since they’re very old. I also watch my nephew and take care of him as well due to my older sister being a single mom and financially burdened with 3 kids on her own. I’m pretty content with my life. I’m surrounded by family so I don’t feel lonely and I’m an introvert anyway so I enjoy my alone time reading or playing video games or just go shopping on my own. I love my job, it’s chill and relaxing, also pays good. I bought my own car and have no debt. My next goal is to buy a house so my entire family can all live together. To me, this is ”success”. You define your own success when you feel contentment.

@Jae-by3hf

Ай бұрын

This sounds lovely 🩷 Wishing you all the best with your goals 🙏🏽✨

@makaila1177

28 күн бұрын

Just curious…what job do you have? It sounds like what I need

@brianpendez5340

28 күн бұрын

You should strive for kids and a wife to keep the family going. Kids bring so much light and joy into your life and then as you grow old, hopefully they can be there with you as you are with your parents now. God bless, blessings to you and all your family.

@nokesyboo

27 күн бұрын

@@brianpendez5340 I’m a female lol. I would like to have at least one kid but it’s okay if I don’t because I’m already taking care of my sister’s children since she is burdened with being a single mom. Kids do bring joy to our lives and I’m experiencing that through my nieces and nephew.

@nokesyboo

27 күн бұрын

@@makaila1177 I do accounting/data entry and work from home for different small businesses and individual clients.

I'm glad this popped up in my recommended. I'm in my 30s now and often feel like a loser. But there is still time. There's always time. It's nice to not feel alone and it gave me the motivation I need. ☺

@zakaria093

3 ай бұрын

the pressure is crazy 🤪😝

@scotthearts9634

Ай бұрын

It really is​@@zakaria093

Being alive, healthy and happy is all you need. Everything else is just a want, and if you want it, go get it.

@DoyinVoice

3 ай бұрын

this is so true. like being a human there is so much about us that we are yet to discover

My life's pretty shitty too. I'll be 28 in a month reaching close to my 30s. I still don't have a bachelors degree, I am unemployed, I live in a ruined house full of mold, roofs dripping from humidity, rat and cockroach infestations, broken cooking appliances, only enough money for 1 meal a day, never had a relationship, I have an incurable UTI. I compare myself to my friends that made it in life and I feel disheartened. The future still looks bleak. I don't know why I still am hoping for some miracle instead of considering suicide. But hey, at least that's a good thing

@ruthchada6102

3 ай бұрын

You just need to work a plan. Don't say your UTI is uncurable. You just do not know how to cure it yet. You are capable. Listen to norman vincent peale.

@crissymiller

3 ай бұрын

Hi, You can make it out of whatever you are going through. If you need anyone (therapist) to speak to you can contact me. I can do so for freely. I know how it feels.

@MedievalFantasyTV

3 ай бұрын

Wow. I am at the exact same conditions, except that I am 44. My house is in exactly that same condition, and I fear my roof will collapse any moment. Rain is starting to pour in and soon there won't be a dry spot in this house anymore. I get some help, so for now I can have more than one meal a day. But the worst feeling is that I've failed my daughter. I battle suicide thoughts everyday. I told myself that this is the last year I will try to get out of this situation.

@iaprawitasari3028

3 ай бұрын

hope your life will get better and stay optimist someday it will be better @@MedievalFantasyTV

@JustChristianThings

3 ай бұрын

Hi, I just read your comment and I wanted to tell you that you should try to pray 🙏🏻 God can bring anyone out of a bad situation. Since I gave my life to Jesus he has completely turned my life around ❤ please at least try it 🙏🏻 it will give you peace, and hope, I promise God will help you, and does healing miracles! You just need to have Faith and believe.

im 31, single, no children. the struggle in adulting is real

I’m 34 and in the past couple years I discovered which direction I want to go in life. I’ve always felt so behind everyone else

My mom had my little brother at 43 years old, her pregnancy was normal with not a special treatment . He’s healthy and happy.

@reinventingpoppy

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for this lovely that's encouraging to hear 💞

I'm 23 but I'll take any tips cause thinking about the future gives me anxiety

@paige172

3 ай бұрын

same😂

I’m in my mid 30s and I’m trying hard AF to get my sh*t together. What’s helping me is realizing that I can be my authentic and creative self while doing my best to get sh*t done. Trying to live based on how society defines progress is a disaster waiting to happen. I’m doing better at avoiding people pleasing. Lastly, it’s also been helpful to realize that ALL of us are trying to get our sh*t together no matter what people post online. Thanks for this video!

Thank you for thisI I'm 38 and still dont know whats going on in my mind and in my life! 😭 feeling nothing...

@jeseka2470

2 ай бұрын

Same here girl

Why do we think we have to achieve everything by 30? It puts so much pressure on us If we should have had it all figured our by 30, what should we do with the rest of our years😅 its best to enjoy your current age and the moment. Every age has its benefits!

@TheCoralie87

3 ай бұрын

👏

Your 20s are a period of self-discovery and finding out what you want out of life, a partner, and everything. I just turned 28 and my life has been a zig-zag full of turns. Only now do I discover that my passions lie with two creative projects that I started in 2023 and 2024 and my work just pays for my bills and keeping a roof over my head. You grow as you experience life and move across countries. You grow as you meet new people and gain new perspectives. You are not meant to figure everything out by 30, and if anyone is telling you else, they are lying. Stop stressing yourself out fam if you are reading this, just focus on getting better 1% everyday.

@enniechisha6149

2 ай бұрын

You are a gem 💎

@scotthearts9634

Ай бұрын

Beautifully typed and thanks for the advice! 🥰👌

Thank you for sharing this… I am 33 and I haven’t achieved much not b/c I’m lazy or don’t appreciate my parents but b/c my whole life I felt like I was being micromanaged and sheltered to the point of not really knowing what I really wanted or not much excites me…higher education was definitely something being constantly told to do not just by my immigrant parents as well as the social community I grew up in… I always felt like a black sheep…

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

You've just perfectly described my life and how I felt!

@crissymiller

3 ай бұрын

True....being too sheltered also creates a problem.

@jaky411

3 ай бұрын

@@crissymiller yes I was being sheltered and micromanaged by my mother a lot even when I was attending a community college that was so close to home… it was nice to be away from home and stay at the campus even after class was over to maybe talk to people from my class or just get to know myself more and explore my surrounding… I would get constant phone calls from her always wanting to know where iam or if I’m talking to someone which was fine and it tells me she’s very caring but it also became too much as well. There would be times where I might forget to turn my phone off especially if I’m in class and my phone would ring and interrrupt the class or my mother always having to know everything and my whole class schedule so that she knows when I should be arriving home…

@DianaPerez-eb4ed

2 ай бұрын

I'm in the EXACT same boat as you!! I'm also 33, about to be 34 this year...and my whole life I was heavily micromanaged and sheltered by mom. It was so bad that there are still a lot of things I can't do that I should know by now. For years I've just been working as a dishwasher because I had no ability or confidence to learn or try something new. But I made a decision last year to go back to school and try to start my life by getting a career. It really isn't easy because seeing my peers who are literally a decade younger than me be more successful already has really taken a toll on my mental health. Many times I've considered ending my life because I feel like my life is pointless but I'm trying to push through and at least get my degree

@WanderingPatata

Ай бұрын

Same. I find life depressing because of the people that surrounds me. I want to be happy and know where my life should be so I keep praying but it’s still not easy. Sometimes I am so overwhelmed that I forget to pray and just kept on thinking and demoralizing myself. I hope that we will all be happy and content. Let’s cheer each other up.❤

I would argue that you shouldn't ask other people the perception of you, because their perception of you can skew how you see yourself. How others see you is in their lens (their prejudices, beliefs influence how they see you) is not your true authentic core self. If you really want to get to know yourself, go to the pure childhood experience, what you actually did as a child .

Felt the same when I turned 28. Worked on it for 2 years. In 2 months I'll be turning 30. I'm happy to declare for myself that 30 is the new 13.😊 And I was never so proud. Also, Poppy considering the number of views on this video, it's a sign that more people need this therapy from people like you. ❤

31,never had a job,girlfriend,any purpose...depression,anxiety,solitude are my constant companions.... i realize it is never too late objectively but i have no spark left,no motivation,no goal.sonit definitely feels like it is too late

@Lalabaster

Ай бұрын

You're worth it to try😊

I'm 39 this year and the 30s were never good to me,I lost everything,my career,my car,my heart got broken a couple of times in my 30s.I was so confused when it comes to my career.I feel like a looser but i hold on to the hope that this final year of my 30s will be good and pave a way for my fulfilling 40s

@CupNoodleKitty

Ай бұрын

Exactly same age and almost same situation ❤

@Jae-by3hf

Ай бұрын

Same age and feel the same!

Life is not a race. We all learn and grow at our own pace. If you feeling not accomplished, don't be too hard on yourself. Look at where you can improve.

Gurl I’m watching and about to be 50! Thank you for being so real and authentic

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

You're welcome!

I’m turning 40 this month yet I just lost everything and have nothing at all 😢

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that lovely but I hope you know that you can gain back all that you lost plus more. Every day is day one ♥️

@darya5293

3 ай бұрын

Happy coming Birthday!!! 😊❤

@Lerato_M

3 ай бұрын

@@darya5293 ❤️❤️❤️

@patriciaramos6655

3 ай бұрын

I'm the same =(

@wildyato3737

2 ай бұрын

Seems like everyone has their harsh life...and I was thinking..30-40 peeps are more mature and enjoying their lives😅

im 27 lost my motivation at 17.No drive to succeed nothing(low self esteem thanks to my toxic ambitious brother), regretted at the age of 24, started making little changes at 25, made a blunder at 26 with my career choice, fell into depression still making mistakes but you know what i told my myself no more im choosing hapiness.Thank you for the wonderful video.

@enniechisha6149

2 ай бұрын

Every mistake, is a chance to learn and be wise. You can do this thing called life and You will be Great.

I am in the last year of my 20s. I've made a lot of mistakes and held myself back at times because I wasn't ready. I too planned to get married in my 20s and have a stable job, but it did not turn out that way at all. I've only recently decided what I want to do with my life. I'm glad to have come across your video, it's uplifting and a good feeling to know that I am not alone. I'm excited to see how your channel grows!!

The clock started clicking for me in my early 20s and this decade just slipped by. It is all a blur to me, a time that I wasted in paralysis and stagnation and self-sabotage. I will become 34 in a few months and I am just recovering from the self-paralysis and darkness of the last decade. I was not truly awake and I wished I have awaken sooner from this stupor. Now, I am rushing to get a lot of things finished. I did finish my master's but I never truly enjoyed it nor I benefited from it, worked temporarily as a teacher but quit. I could have done more. I am just starting to read a lot of my books in my library that I never got to read 10 to 12 years ago. I do not know how I left them untouched, so is my life. It is always I could have done this at that time and never realized I wasted time until now. My ADHD also affected me.

@Ray-gt5zl

Ай бұрын

Continue working! You’re getting better each day.

@jacqueslee2592

Ай бұрын

@UC4uG2t-BO7Hwfq4hBebbJng Thanks for the comment. Have a good day.

@Lalabaster

Ай бұрын

Same here. ❤.

@flam_buoy

21 күн бұрын

Please be kind to yourself! I was diagnosed with raging ADHD at the age of 31 and I felt awful about it. But then I realised for me existing only takes up 3x more resources compared to a „normal” person. When I was younger and didn’t know myself every day was a struggle. We should be proud we made it and remember than not everyone reaches the point we’ve reached and the level of self discovery

39, been around done things but I feel so lost. No job, no close friends to confide in, no place to be. I have my two dogs but not a partner. I feel hopeful but I’m at my parents’ temporarily and I don’t feel easy being here. I want a compatible housemate and move out ASAP.

I am turning 32 very soon, my career is okay but I have very few friends and no relationship. There are a lot of days that I feel like I'm failing at life quietly alone. It is a nice reminder that life can change very quickly, and knowing that I am not the only one going through difficult times in their 30s is comforting.

Well, i have just turn 40, but i don't feel bad because of the things i don't have. I don't care about other people expectations. Enjoy life!

I definitely needed to hear this. We always think “It’s just me. I’m the only one like this.” But there are many other people who feel just as lost and hopeless as you do. I don’t know if that makes it any better, but at least it’s something.

@enniechisha6149

2 ай бұрын

You are so right. And sometimes we forget that while many seem to be progressing and doing way better, we in our state are also better off than somebody else out there. And someone wishes to be where we are too, that's the funny thing.

Here at 32, turning 33…let’s see what I can gather from this…

I’m 33, lost and haven’t accomplished anything I can be proud of (yet). Glad this video found me and everyone else in the same situation

The comments here help me realize that I'm not the only one feeling this way. Thank you

You can't really plan relationsships and not all jobs are stable. The only constant in your life is you. Appreciate what you have, embrace change and be open for new opportunities.

I really appreciate this ❤I'm living abroad, have just come out of a break up and recently went back home where I caught up with some other 30-something year old friends who are now married, renovating their beautiful homes and at the top of their career ladders. I remember sitting there at dinner with them feeling so disconnected like we had nothing in common anymore and so behind in life. I put on a poker face then after dinner all these emotions suddenly came to the surface and I had a full anxious meltdown. The next day I woke up reminding myself we are all on our own paths and everything is in divine timing. Also we all made choices with only what we knew at the time.

Really needed this encouragement, thank you! I'm in my early 30s and feeling lost with my life at the moment. Currently not happy with my job, recently broke up from a long term relationship and still trying to figure out my purpose and meaningful career/business. Taking it one day at a time, although it's very tough when you feel lost and alone.

38 here. God help me...

I’ll be 35 in two months, single with no kids and although the idea of settling down and starting a family sounds normal I don’t think it should define you as a person. I think success is subjective and unless we feel whole and content with where we’re at or unless we’re willing to change some habits to improve ourselves we’ll be continuously chasing external things trying to fill the internal emptiness within.

Im 37, a stay at home home, really want to have a small business. However i have stopped beating on myself and enjoying the quiet life!❤

@snotrohmitabc123

3 ай бұрын

You are smart, wholesome, and based. Your comment deserves more likes. Goals. 💖

You can do it, i am always shocked at how many people are lost...i am 40+ but i am one of the lucky ones...have great familly, great partner, kids, my own company...YES it can be extremely hard, but if you focus on your goals (when you define them) you can accomplish them! You can do it! 💯💪

@zakaria093

3 ай бұрын

waw amazing advice

@lianevoelker9845

2 ай бұрын

I honestly think it has less to do with goals but values. If you are having clear values your goals are automatically more clear too.

I am on the same boat. Despite being a good student and good at my work I am unable to be still in a job still trying to get where I feel I belong. This video is inspiring.

@thelifewithnate

3 ай бұрын

Don't worry, I'm 28 and I can still tell you that I don't feel like I belong at my day job. I get more personal validation and pleasure out of my KZread channel and other creative project that I do and want to do that full-time instead. You will find out where you belong through trial and error. Cheers!

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

I must say in all the jobs I had, there was only one that I felt belong and truly enjoyed. What I realised is we need to accept the difference between job (what pays the bills) and passion (what we enjoy doing), only fair few people will have a job that they truly enjoy. Most of us have to do the job as a mean to get paid and find enjoyment elsewhere like side jobs, side projects, hobbies, etc.

@bandanarathore

3 ай бұрын

@@reinventingpoppy yes you are right. Thanks.

We need more forthcoming and honest women like you! It seems this may be your new career, congrats on hitting 5Ok…I’m celebrating your win!

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

That's so sweet, thanks and I'm so exciting for the future of this channel :)

I really needed this video. I am turning 35 this year and i have nothing. Thank you ❤️

"Everyday is day 1" is the most comforting statement I've ever heard. Thank you ❤

I feel that way after just turning 31..... that my window of opportunity has passed and im now with no hope 😩

Omg thank you for this video! I'm literally at my personal rock bottom and was struggling with wanting to end everything but you changed my perspective! Society makes it seem like there's only one way to live but there's so many paths we can take in life! You've helped me regain hope!! 😊❤️

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

I'm so glad to hear, find your path and go for it!

@marcymallz

3 ай бұрын

@@reinventingpoppy definitely! I'm looking looking forward to it! 😀

Thank you for that video ❤

You’re doing an amazing job!

I'm 34 and I fee you. Had everything planned and figured out but then my wife left me because she wanted a single life in Malta.

Ughh 32 single mom with no village its hard to even afford a babysitter i felt this

Thank you for this!

Thank you needed this.😊

Thank you! I needed this ❤

I needed this. Thank you so much.

well said. thanks for addressing this issue.

Thank you for sharing 💛💛

I was my mother's caregiver for 5 years because she had dementia. I couldn't afford a caretaker so she went to work with me for 15 months straight. She died 14 months ago and the stress and guilt made me have a nervous breakdown. Without her income, I couldn't afford rent anymore and ended up living in my car for 37 days. My brother and I now have an apartment but he's a chronic alcoholic and I never know what I'm coming home to ..Life sucks and I have actively prepared to end my life. Things get worse without even trying and they usually do.

@alicea5

3 ай бұрын

I wish you are alright and let go of ending your life. Life is hard but it is only a moment. Maybe eventually you’ll get somewhere and it’ll be better. Have you consider moving to another area where rent are more affordable?

@JustChristianThings

3 ай бұрын

Reading your comment breaks my heart. I’m so sorry what you have been going through. I know the feeling, I have been suicidal, I was an alcoholic for 14 years and was trying to kill myself on my 29th birthday. Please don’t lose hope… it’s always right before we feel like giving up a miracle happens. Cry out to God he will save you!! Like he saved me in the mental hospital. Please seek help, the mental hospital is where i experienced God for the first time, before I didn’t believe, God can get you on the right path and turn your life around like he did for me. I will keep you in my prayers. I understand how you feel but Please don’t give up on life. Pray!!! Ask JESUS to show you the reason to keep living. He will do it, like he did it for me and so many others. ❤

@TheCoralie87

3 ай бұрын

So sorry you're in such a bad place. You should have good karma for being your mother's caretaker.

@hannahhoffmann36

3 ай бұрын

It sounds like you have been through so much, I can see why you’d feel so hopeless. Please don’t give up. If you really think there’s no hope, please consider calling the suicide & crisis lifeline by dialing 988. It’s free and confidential and they are there to support you 24/7. ❤

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through and admire you for being selfless and looking after your mother. You shouldn't feel guilty as you did what you could the only way you could. At the time she needed someone, you were the only person who showed up for her. I'm sending love and I hope things do get better very soon, hang in there ❤

Im 39 and having to find myself kinda for the first time. I talked about this in a similar video, i spent my younger years living my life for other people.

@reinventingpoppy

3 ай бұрын

Isn't it weird how so many of us went through exact same experience? I hope you're enjoying the journey of self-discovery.

Thank you Poppy!

Thank you for this video.

Well your accomplishment is looking 20 when you are actually 40.

Im 31, single, no kids and my 20s is just a trial and error. Im super ready now to do things Ive been wanting to doooooooo!

@zakaria093

3 ай бұрын

less goooo hhhh🎉

I am 31, have no soaring career, no kids, no husband, and live in a box room at my mums. I messed up the whole of my 20's and I'm still so lost and confused about what to do. This video made me feel not so alone. Thank you for the advice

Thank you for sharing your story and advice ❤

@ReinventingPoppy KZread's technical algorithm has recommended your video to me and great timing too. I thought I was the only one in my 30's now going through being lost and not achieving things that I was supposed to do in my 20's. I'm very happy that people are talking openly about their experiences too. 😊

I feel so miserable and useless.I just lay around to kill the time . Unemployment has really shaken my inner strength to do anything with my life.I was looking for some motivation.Glad I heard you.I am feeling much better and hopeful.Thank you❤❤

Thanks. Needed this!

Got this in my recommendations, thank u 🙏🏻

Dear, keep posting you have a beautiful content❤ wish you all success on your life❤

What a Beautiful Infinite being you are ❤

Thankyou for sharing. A lot of us need to hear from others going through the same thing

Thanks for sharing this, especially the top performer in class part. So glad that you are somewhere new and better now!

It’s ok you are not a lone. I have been same as you. Life takes time. Keep going ❤

Dear Poppy, that was a great video. I enjoyed listening to yiu every min. I liked your calmness throughout. And the messages were quite inspirational. Thank you for creating this video🌻🤍

I needed this. Thanks!

Wisdom comes from your interior Girl! Thanks for this 🙏