Girl, I’m approaching 40 and just now getting my life “together”. Settling down, finishing school, planning my career. No kids yet, newly married. Life doesn’t come prepackaged. It’s not the same for everyone.

@miti342

8 ай бұрын

How do you find out what you like to do for a career? Like I like everything so I can’t see myself doing one career for the rest of my life

@mauriceposey5940

8 ай бұрын

Keep trying and pushing: take the next step: walk by faith.

@kimberleighwells4420

6 ай бұрын

I’m sorry but no kids “yet”?😅girrl you’re 40 lol.

@janiegetyourgun

6 ай бұрын

@@kimberleighwells4420 many women are having kids later now

@annajoy2306

5 ай бұрын

@@kimberleighwells4420 I am 36 no kids or man , you cant decide when you meet the right one. its a bad idea to have kids with someone you not sure about.

It's so funny... I'm sitting here watching this because I'm 30. I have the husband, the house, the kids, and I looked through your channel and thought, "wow, I would really enjoy being single and traveling to Italy..." I even wish I had a parent who I could lean on for support like your mom is helping you. Grass is always greener! All we can do is try to live in the moment and enjoy it for what it is. But if I knew how to do that maybe I wouldn't be bringing videos about feeling like a failure at 30 lol

@faitha1075

Жыл бұрын

I learned that as humans we cannot be fully satisfied where we are.I was 29 and told my friend who was pregnant said same.I thought she was content but she wasn’t.She was like girl I envy you …I’m like what

@se7en952

Жыл бұрын

It's very okay to look at others situations but always be appreciative of ur own experience

@lifelessonswithjo

Жыл бұрын

Funny I am 31 and I want the house, husband and kids. 🥲

@dorotheadixon9294

Жыл бұрын

I’m almost 37 and am so yearning for the husband, kids, and career.

@Ffollies

Жыл бұрын

Nobody can have it all. Yeah, you may want to be single and travel to Italy for a month, but in reality I highly doubt you'd trade your life for being single, no kids and no house at your age.

Never feel bad for living at home, it’s a privilege to save and parents won’t live forever so you’ll love those memories with her later.

@9Mountains9

10 ай бұрын

Yes this is true. I lost my father at 17 and I kid you not my highschool graduation meant absolutely nothing to me. I was so hurt I didn’t even go to my graduation and was depressed starting college. I felt lost and no amount of money helped me get over my father. ❤ it’s a privilege just to be able to stop by any parent house and just say hello. 💔

@jenniferfoggs

10 ай бұрын

Agreed. I lost my mum when I was 21 and dad when I was 23. I’m about to turn 26 next month. I was in such a rush to move out and didn’t treasure the time with them enough.

@jacquilinev

9 ай бұрын

Wow, I’m 26 and still living at home, and I feel like the biggest loser 😕. I’ve been rushing to get out since I was in my early 20s but never was able to do so. My parents are in their early 50s and I have a brother who’s on the autistic spectrum. I do sometimes believe that God has kept me here for a reason.. especially for my brother. I’ll treasure my time with them and make better use of the time here 💖

@whome6081

9 ай бұрын

I’m 34 and live at home with my mom, my sister, and my niece. Not the life I pictured lol. I have a career and can move out, but I prefer to not live alone.

@LyssieLysse

9 ай бұрын

I’m 33 and I’m still at home with fam. I had my own apartment, but had to move back home last October due to unpleasant living conditions and I have been looking to move out since. I did get a quote for a mortgage, but everything is so high in my area that the quote is laughable. Plus, these houses are looking like the land before time done got to them. I’d spend more money fixing a house so I’m staying my happy behind where I’m at now.

I’m 31 and finishing my degree. I was married at 26 and we have a son. My husband passed away in March. So I am single and starting again. You never know what life will throw at you but I’ve learned to embrace every step.

@maryk.3468

4 ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss. May God’s Grace be with you everyday🎆

@LovableMe137

4 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry :(

@serinaelizabeth4126

4 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss 😢 You are a strong woman ❤ He’s with you every step of the way, guiding you. Sending you my condolences 💐 & hugs 🫂

@ladylefteye

3 ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers.

My mom had all of those things by 30 and still ended up having to divorce and get her PhD and reinvent herself and her life in her late 40s (she’s thriving now in her 50s). So there’s never any guarantee in life. Life is change. Like the quote “where things are uncertain, everything is possible.”

@sarahleeblanc8274

11 ай бұрын

Couldn’t said it any better. I’m 40 with no kids. Not planning to ever get marry. Planing to start my PhD next year.

@EllHuron

11 ай бұрын

There they are. The "I'm a PhD" woman. Yeah, being a PhD will certainly improve your life. It is the PhD, everybody is thankful right before they die🤦‍♂️ How can you be so delusional?!

@sarahleeblanc8274

11 ай бұрын

@@EllHuron Who hurts you?

@EllHuron

11 ай бұрын

@@sarahleeblanc8274 you are 40 with no kids, you don't plan to get married. It is you who got hurt by life. Your feminine side would want to be loved, married and a mother. You are the one hurt not me. Worst case: buy a dog and die alone😉

@jademccalister6847

11 ай бұрын

Likewise, My mom to me have never been happier and she’s currently in her 50’s. I think she’s proud of how far she’s come and wouldn’t change a thing. Even some people in their 70’s are finally enjoying the joys of life during the quiet times.

thanks for sharing this video sis. I'm 38 and One thing I learnt in life is that no matter how little, no matter the age it's never too late to get started and having the mindset that every day of your life you're evolving. Life becomes unpleasurable when you add too much pressure. I started my path to reinventing myself a year ago, I’m now living healthier, confident, stronger, making 6 figures, having leisure to enjoy family &friends. I feel happier and living my life for myself . This is to encourage someone “you can start anytime to have a reset it’s worth it! I’m striving to continue growing cus it’s a journey 💗

@reinierkouwert936

9 ай бұрын

Congratulations sis! Thanks for encouraging others with your story, I will love to get tips from you too

@keishalewelling849

9 ай бұрын

Change your mindset, read self-help books, expand knowledge, budget and don't spend on impulse, save, take your finances seriously, eat healthy, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope it is useful to you.

@monicapep2474

9 ай бұрын

How did you grow to 6 Figure ? I’m honestly trying to work on my personal finance this year.

@marcosalvatore673

9 ай бұрын

Congratulations to you ma'am that's a great accomplishment keep it going 👍

@keishalewelling849

9 ай бұрын

I learnt to be frugal, minimal on spending, saving and paying myself first through Investing, made Plans, growing passive income, Read a lot of books on finance, followed my plan consistently.

I am 27 and starting off in my career. I was previously unemployed and depressed. My peers have achieved a lot. Many have bought house, cars and are married by now. Even though I have nothing I am grateful for the word of God that has kept me going and has kept me grateful for the current season of my life. I remember when I was unemployed and going through a lot but God gave me power to thank him whilst I was in that season. The key is to lean on God and his promises.

@LilyIglesias

11 ай бұрын

Same here

@erikathomas5801

11 ай бұрын

looking for this comment. i’m 26, 2 kids, no career other than serving the military for 8 years, financially could be way better but even through all that , i have truth, grace and mercy from TMH GOD. I look at my life and thank him everyday because i could be on my way to destruction unknowingly. it’s like all the glitters are not gold, you can be successful in this life from a worldly point of view but what profits a man to be physically successful and your soul is dead, because in the end all that will be tried and burned if your not right with GOD. i’m happy unfortunate things happened in my life bc i would have NEVER seeked God if didn’t. If everything had of went as i dreamed or desired i would be arrogant, self centered, definitely no kids, full of money and on my way straight to hell. Real shit 💯

@bongekamntaka764

11 ай бұрын

@@erikathomas5801 This is so true. Sometimes our blessings lie in our misfortune or rather what we see as being misfortune whereas God has sent that event to redirect us from the 🔥 of hell. Amen sister this is so powerful

@pa811

11 ай бұрын

Am happy for you. This has encouraged me because we are both believers.

@whitleybraja

11 ай бұрын

Needed to see this, ty!

Your life can literally change overnight. Do not put so much pressure on yourself. Enjoy the journey.

@Sam-iy1nt

10 ай бұрын

Amen❤️‍🔥 Say it louder!

@shaljailall

10 ай бұрын

But it doesn't💔

@joanatieno3868

10 ай бұрын

Very true Whitney

@OnlyNatalia

9 ай бұрын

Right ❤

@ArielleLeBean

9 ай бұрын

Right, trust the process!

Thank you. Being 31, not married, no job, living at home,no kids, I felt like a failure. I compare myself alot to others but this video has really helped me. Thank you.

@soonsuicidal

11 ай бұрын

That was me a year ago.. Got a job i kinda like it but the pressure is too big. 😢

@jaelahfoster9082

11 ай бұрын

I'm 32. And this popped up on my feed today. I have my boyfriend who's supporting me right now. No kids, left my toxic job a month and a half ago and still looking. This video spoke my thoughts. The many days I felt like "If I could just crack the code" then my life would take off.

@anacatarina8157

11 ай бұрын

I swear to you, You are so worthy. ❤

@chalyndajackson9384

11 ай бұрын

I'm 32 also no kids not married and also living with my parents with no job. Trust me you're not alone.

@RaquelBrown-tk7hd

11 ай бұрын

Some of us have disabilities and don’t get to have things in life.

Sis the moment you let go of life's conditioning, that's the moment you elevate life. Create your own rules, it's your life not societies. Less is actually more. The quiet moments are more precious than the loud events in life x

@evamariesolanges4848

2 жыл бұрын

That last part was a word! I am realizing that life is better when I focus on the smaller things.

@KimmyDTV

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this comment

@lizcreationz8654

Жыл бұрын

Wow thnx for that!

@jasminevault9412

Жыл бұрын

♥️

@lindokuhleshandu4024

Жыл бұрын

Amen Luna! The moment we decide to actually let go of the society's timelines of our own lives, the moment we can start doing things at our own pace and living our lives.

Stop watching social media. It’s not real and people show a smile and then go cry, hate their lives but work hard to show how perfect their life is. Just love ur life and be happy and grateful for where you are, wherever that is.

I'm 33 and literally have nothing!!! I even deleted all my videos on here because I was so ashamed to talk about it. Seeing all these comments makes me feel that I'm not alone. Thank God someone else said it out loud.

@officialnelly8912

10 ай бұрын

You ain't alone.

I am forty, just quit my job my own will. I live in the same flat i moved in to when i was 23, and i have no children or spouse. I enjoy the sun, the chirping of the birds and the fact that i am alive. Have no regrets. Life is a gift

@kunalshah7550

11 ай бұрын

Im turning 35, same as your situation (no spouse, no kids...) how do you pass time, you're pretty much done with life half way?

@jonber9411

11 ай бұрын

@@kunalshah7550 Life is not done, its happening all the time. I write, i go for walks or run, i chat with strangers. Time passes me. Sometimes i am somewhat bored in the evenings, but boredom is a normal feeling. But my biggest trick is to not compare myself to any other persons or lives. When comparisons stop, life becomes more obvious and strikingly unique, as your own experience.

@Faithtooh

11 ай бұрын

@@jonber9411 love your attitude. Thanks for sharing. Will share with anyone who cares to talk about life

@ArielleLeBean

9 ай бұрын

Yes, nature is abundance, animals are always around. We are never alone. Great perspective to share!

@ayaguzel4878

9 ай бұрын

@@jonber9411 wonderful ❤️

literally me at 32. After traveling extensively I felt like I had nothing to show for it and “behind” everyone else. Fast forward to 34, I’m pregnant, married & headed toward buying. Does this feel more fulfilling ? Not necessarily… traveling was extremely fulfilling. I’m also excited about baby and love my partner. I’m also bored at times & don’t feel like compromising. All these feelings are okay! Happiness isn’t defined by what you have or what milestones you’ve reached. Let the joy you find lead you to where you are supposed to be and I think that’s where the success is. Lastly, life comes at you FAST and can change. Don’t rush it girl ❤

@irene_peacewambui6987

11 ай бұрын

I so needed this

@gabrielle5213

11 ай бұрын

I loved this comment ❤ such good advice and comforting I’m loving 30’s so much it feels fresh and new !!!! I have nothing what society tells me I should have but I feel so free and confident I’m running my own race!!! 20’s was all about comparing and competing with society but not anymore!!

@sharonchepkorir3571

11 ай бұрын

Hit home ❤

@Angie_flores

11 ай бұрын

Wise words thank you, im currently 32 and feel it in my heart that things won’t last forever and seasons change, thanks for your comment 😊

@pamelamls

11 ай бұрын

I wish I had what you have. You are younger than me and have it all. I am almost 38 and have no husband, no career, no job, no money for travelling.

It is a privilege to live with (a) parent(s). I'm 35, same boat except mom passed away last week and dad died years earlier. No sibblings or family around. I had a very different vision with my life, being a caregiver both boosts and destroys your esteem. On one had, you feel useful but on the other you've sacrificed yourself (financially, emotionally, professionally, socially) to watch your loved one who passed away inspite of your efforts to care for them. Social media is fake fake fake.

@bri7577

9 ай бұрын

My condolences 😢

@ninosebiskveradze6403

5 ай бұрын

I understand you soooo muchhhhh............you are not alone

I’m 28 and I’ve been struggling with feelings like I’ve totally wasted my 20’s. You have no idea how reassuring this video is to me 😭

@aziza000

10 ай бұрын

I turned 28 this year and feel exactly the same way as you. 😭

@Wanjirugachokah

10 ай бұрын

Me too and can relate

@armeniojunior6106

10 ай бұрын

I felt the same when I was 26 & that led me to depression, Thank God a close friend of mine guided me through prayer & fasting...

@Anna_Helena

10 ай бұрын

Same and I „only“ just turned 25…

@sandramorgan7937

10 ай бұрын

OMG.... Me too

I just turned 30 and I relate to this. I am dealing with huge anxiety 24/7. I developed insomnia because of my worry of being 30 and girls who are younger have it more together. But this week, for some reason I am beginning to learn that God has an astonishing plan for whoever is going through in their 30s.

@ajidigital3191

11 ай бұрын

That's right. I turned 30 January as a man the pressure is more on us to have it all.

@kodakkkkincam

11 ай бұрын

I relate to everything you said here! It’s amazing to think that we feel very alone but a lot of us are going through the same thing- the anxiety, the insomnia, the worrying about the future. Thank you for sharing and agree that sometimes we just have to give it up to God and believe there is a bigger plan for us. Sending love ❤

@Mr.Sance-

11 ай бұрын

​@@kodakkkkincam Very nice of you Megan! I as a man needed this. 💚 Thank you!

@oldol12

11 ай бұрын

I was jealous of those girls, too. But when i look at my friend, 1 year younger than me, 2 kids, single mother, already divorced after 1 year of being married after being cheated on, i kinda enjoy my singlehood for now.( I do not want to make her into the" negative" role model etc. only an example). Actually the opposite, she's a fighter. Problems in life NEVER go away. They only change their forms.

@cruisecontrol7911

11 ай бұрын

YAAAAASSSS ❤🙏🏼

Im turning 32 in 6 weeks, I dont have a husband or kids - I never had age attached to something beyond my control. Im intentional about being happy. When you complain, you will always find something to complain about, when you choose to be content - you will realise that you have so much more to be grateful for

@cristinnemacedo4304

11 ай бұрын

Nossa. Sábias palavras. ♥️

@Gyle.3559

11 ай бұрын

I kinda of girl

@Odii_inyama

11 ай бұрын

God bless you

@teresiamaina9573

11 ай бұрын

Wow great advise... I'm always complaining... I'll learn to be content

@bekind913

11 ай бұрын

So true. I have learnt to stop complaining and try to appreciate the good in every situation

I feel the same way as you too. I’m almost 34, still living with my dad, and I’m single with no kids. I sometimes feel like I’m living like a teenager but this video helps me realize I shouldn’t feel this way because I’m not alone. There are plenty others in their 30s who are in our situation. We’re in this together sis!

@DatingWhileMarried

10 ай бұрын

Let God guide you. ❤

@LoveAlways1002

10 ай бұрын

I'm 35 with my mom...tried living alone and didn't like it....I told my mom im not moving out again until im married....I don't want children...I don't have a man...I see no point in leaving 😂😂😂❤❤❤

@joojangmi8702

10 ай бұрын

​@@LoveAlways1002 I don't want kids either but the feeling of wanting to be with a man is killing me slowly ... I know i am pathetic but it's the truth ... I want a man ... Somehow your comment consoled me 😢

@20vannesa

10 ай бұрын

For women is different. We don’t have until 50 to have children. The older we get the harder will be to want to have a child. I think that’s mostly the worry here. I am 33 and not married not kids. I am worried bc of this 😭😭😭

@utamu777

8 ай бұрын

@@20vannesa are you actively going to places where you might meet single men or online dating? If you don't do these things it will be hard to meet a man randomly

Life doesn’t really start til age 35 relax youngsters 😌 I’m age 36 and just got out a 12 year relationship and starting over but I’m excited for this new journey.

Evamarie I'm 54 years old, I just completed an LPN program at the age of 50 so today I've been a nurse for 3 years. I feel as though I'm living my best life in Him(Christ). I'm contemplating on doing a bridge program for the LPN to RN program. When one feels complete is when you are living in the moment, season, or time. Get a relationship with God. He knows who we are and where we are going.

@saphinawest

Жыл бұрын

This comment blessed me! Thank you!

@electricred91

Жыл бұрын

Wow thanks Lisa God bless you 💝

@bongiperez7565

Жыл бұрын

Amen.

@anthoniaxo

Жыл бұрын

"Get a relationship with God" - the only directive we need, I love it!

@renabeliever3628

Жыл бұрын

Amen

You’re not alone, I will be 30 next year and I’m still trying to figure it out…while also living with my mom. Take those social media breaks when you need to. We got this girl!

@evamariesolanges4848

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks girl! We’ll both get there!

@HoneyIYKYK

11 ай бұрын

I turn 30 next year too and sometimes wish I lived with my mom😂. I feel like we all want things we don't currently have but in reality we already have them we just haven't caught up to that reality yet. We just have to enjoy the journey!like Eva said...we can't focus on the long term goals its all about the now✨✨🌷🌸

@erikabright

11 ай бұрын

I am currently 30 and living with my family, I also want the career, husband and kids. This life, I am enjoying the moment...

@Letstalk-zx7jx

11 ай бұрын

Men like women living at home , careful with the lies told by feminism

@user-fh6sm4sb4x

11 ай бұрын

Same! No career, but a passion and a very good man. Debt and not a lot of money and still living with parents😂 Glad I'm not alone. But we can do it! It will be okay. I'm trying to think about it like a marathon: when you fall behind, you don't just stop. You take a deep breath and try your best to reach that finish line.

1994 babies can relate all of this whose felt left behind. We feel you and you are not alone.

@lk4543

4 ай бұрын

I'm a 1994 baby and pretty depressed

@inomwanglorytv

3 ай бұрын

I am 1994 baby jesus helped me come out of depressed state 😢 now getting my life back

@si.3107

3 ай бұрын

I am 1992 and I feel the same thing

I’m 43 and still have no spouse or kids, but honestly I know I can still feel fulfilled even if those things never happen.

@MC-ji7br

9 ай бұрын

With all due respect can you tell me your remedy? I am in my 30’s and feel lost at times. And when I read your comment I got so much admiration for your mindset.

@EBThisThat

9 ай бұрын

@@MC-ji7br Having a strong support group helps, faith will also get you through. Bad days will come and go but God will always be there for you.

@ChristinaUniverse-lq1ex

9 ай бұрын

Same age and situation as me, I'm ok with my situation

@Dannybethea0516

8 ай бұрын

@EBThisThat same! Well, I will be 43 in December, and guess what? I am fine with that.

@sheilabeila744

6 ай бұрын

You’re past the even if stage either it’s now or never

Because of the student debt & economic downturn it is more people living at home during 30. Nobody should feel any type of way! We didn’t have kids we couldn’t afford and didn’t marry someone we didn’t love to say we have it all. Your journey is uniquely perfect to you.

I experienced the same things in my late 20s. I’m almost in my mid 30s now and some of the worries don’t go away even when you achieve the “status quo” life there will always be something else to worry about. So for me it’s all about perspective. I choose to look at things that I have achieved and how far I’ve come, rather than things I’m yet to achieve. I remind myself and thank God for air in my lungs, a roof over my head and having close family and friends. Great video 👍🏾

@evamariesolanges4848

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I agree that changing perspective is important and something I’m working on! Better to be grateful for the things we’ve done and have than to be worried about things we haven’t done or don’t have.

@sararunge1598

11 ай бұрын

This is so true!

@nessa_a6052

10 ай бұрын

Amen. Agreed

I'm 29, will be turning 30 in January. Throughout my teenage years I also imagined all sorts of achievements: graduating university somewhere abroad, I'm from Central Asia and I've always dreamed studying in U.S; finding a good job; moving out of my parent's house at 25; maybe getting married somewhere along the way. But here I am, I've quit university twice due to severe depression; have no job and I still live of off my parents. Sometimes I feel so ashamed and so useless. I understand that I'm being a burden to my parents, and I also know that I'm truly blessed with my family. Right now I'm trying get myself together. I've decided to get back to university and graduate in 3 years. Moreover, I have a very supportive boyfriend and I'm just endlessly grateful to him. Watching this video made me feel a lot better, because even though I try to convince myself that I'm not alone, I haven't seen anyone around me who'd been struggling the same way I did. Thank you for this video))

This is literally what I’ve been going through. I’ve been 30 for almost three months and I live at home with my mom and sisters, I sleep in a twin bed because my sister and I share a room, I’m not married, I have no kids, I work at a job that I don’t like and I can’t tell you how embarrassed and ashamed I feel because I think I’m falling behind in life.

@inna7803

4 ай бұрын

Almost me😢

Something im starting to realise Is that It’s okay to live an ordinary life, without kids or marriage. There’s nothing wrong with not being a millionaire or famous Being ordinary is okay I realised this while watching Master of None season 3

@evamariesolanges4848

2 жыл бұрын

I definitely want to focus more on having a simpler life!

@fcasias7

Жыл бұрын

It doesn't make mathematical sense to push every young person to be the next Hollywood star, the next president, the next ceo of a groundbreaking company or the next einstien. It's less than 1% of people that get those kinds of successes. It's not probably or feasible to expect that.

@raisa_cherry33

Жыл бұрын

👏

@aena5995

11 ай бұрын

​​@@fcasias7 there is a pressure by parents and society especially as the eldest daughter and south Asian 🙃 like idk if AI will take over our jobs by the time we graduate (late cuz I just said YOLO and travelled abroad for a year cuz I kinda made weird decisions also Corona happened lol) like will data analytics data science exist in 4yrs uncertain times worst part it feels like even my cousin's and classmates are living their lives like wtf? 👀😭

@cristinnemacedo4304

11 ай бұрын

Sim. Ser normal também é bom. ♥️

I’m 25, bilingual, have a college degree and worked full-time overseas in a lucrative career for 4 years and I’ve had rich “friends” talk down to me and imply that I’m a loser because I took the last year partly off by working part-time as a teacher and pursuing a psychology degree. The messed up part? I believed them for a hot minute. The point I’m trying to make is it doesn’t matter how “successful” you are; there are always dissatisfied people who will try to pull you down to make themselves feel better. Once you get infected with that mindset, you’ll never see yourself as being enough. What I’ve learned so far? Your happiness is the most important. Live your life how you want.

I am 32 , currently living alone, not financially stable, not a permanent employee, trying to make end meets. I am very grateful that I don't have kids since I will not be able to support them. I am holding on to the fact that I am working hard to have a better life, a house of my own, and savings. That's my ultimate goal.

I am 36 years old, a single parent, and I’ve felt so much pressure being on social media because people are constantly showing off and I’m not where they are yet. I had to deactivate my instagram. I can totally relate!

@dora9411

11 ай бұрын

well done on this sis.

@nemar2125

11 ай бұрын

More power to you.

@nessforbes7400

11 ай бұрын

I stopped posting to family in high school 😂 so the last thing most of them know I graduated from high school. I got my degree. I’m going back to school soon. I’m having my first kid and getting married. Will be buying a house within the next few years. I’m 26…. It’s tough in these streets. Idc what they think… we’re all really not doing the same things. They have no idea who I really am ❤

@skyking6989

10 ай бұрын

They don't show you the bad. Social media is a huge lie.

@9Mountains9

10 ай бұрын

I deactivated mine too ❤ temporarily til I can get myself to a more balanced life and state of mind

31 years old, I quit my job because of the stress it brought along. Saved some money and next week going to Croatia for a month. Not much of a plan what to exactly do there apart from walking and reading. Feeling constant the pressure I put on myself for missing a lot in my twenties and want to make up with that. I really understand you, I hope we both can find peace and rest in our hearts in the future.

@evamariesolanges4848

2 жыл бұрын

I hope for the same and I hope that some time away in Croatia will let you find some answers that you’re looking for. For what it’s worth, I think walking and reading is as good a plan as any. Sometimes, we need to stop trying to do anything and just let things figure themselves out. At least that’s what I’m trying to do.

@thecherrypopper445

Жыл бұрын

Update me sis, where are you now?

@lockedwiththeword

11 ай бұрын

I have a feeling you probably met your soulmate in Croatia 😊... If not that's still okay, I guess I've just heard way to many stories of it playing out that way. My apologies

@niektenhagen560

11 ай бұрын

* update* No unfortunately still haven't found my soulmate. After Croatia hiked a lot in Norway. Now one year later trying with my jobcoach to find a suitable job. Which maybe is European Tree Worker, totall different field than before (graphic/ print operator).

I’m sitting at the hair dresser crying while watching this video. I’ll be 28 a week from today. I feel like I’m losing my friends that have been there for me my entire life, still live at home, can’t drive, never been in a serious relationship and not making as much money as I want. I feel upset or depressed almost every weekend. I feel like everything is spiraling out of control and being taken away from me. I know all that I’m working towards will all come in time and what’s important is that I’m taking the necessary steps to get there. Thank you for making me feel like I’m not alone. 🙌🏻

@auraoptics

Жыл бұрын

You most definitely aren’t alone . I can relate to alot of this . Life is making room for what’s next for you . Every step of the journey really is a building block for your future siccuess so try to enjoy the moment love . Your feelings are valid , but we all are doing the best we can with our circumstances. I know you will have the happy life that you deserve . I hope things are getting better and you feel seen and heard . Keep going sweetheart 💚💫

@auraoptics

Жыл бұрын

* success lol 🙏🏽✨

@nicolettedicarlo7513

Жыл бұрын

@@auraoptics thank you so much for these helpful words. ❤️. I wish the same for you as well 💕

@vooo1314

Жыл бұрын

Well, you can learn to drive, there are schools out there that teach driving. Turning 28 is a tough age. I remember it well, it is when I ditched everything and moved across the country to start over. You can change your life if you want. Even consider a seasonal job (coolworks is a good website) to just get yourself out of your rut and comfort zone.

@nicolettedicarlo7513

Жыл бұрын

@@vooo1314 Thank you! Currently in the process of learning how to drive but just can’t seem to pass the road test. 😩

I am 29 living with my parents and two sisters, I started nursing school last year and I am graduating soon , single no kids . Don’t loose hope …. U r not alone ❤❤❤

@opokuwaresamuel3437

11 ай бұрын

Are you in Ghana Adwoa ?

@beccamotives

9 ай бұрын

That’s awesome you will feel very accomplished ones you are done ✅ keep going

@karamontoya1814

8 ай бұрын

I am 29 and starting nursing school in the spring. This video is so relatable. I feel an immense amount of pressure

@allthingsnaija7108

6 ай бұрын

I can totally relate to this comment... I finished my first degree and served at 25+ but feeling unfulfilled cos I want to go to school of nursing... Went back to school of nursing immediately after service. I am 27 now, feel late/left behind.

@tuskasylvan7226

4 ай бұрын

Congratulations on nursing school ❤ love the transparency in these comments

I’m 43. No kids, husband, living in poverty and my career is at a standstill cuz of depression & becoming my brother’s caregiver. I feel so behind and embarrassed.

@sterlingjoseph4385

10 ай бұрын

How your feel is so normal. But you can start by going to therapy, mapping out what will make you happy and following that path patiently. Also another family member can care for your brother. The burden doesn't have to be all on you. Good luck, you will make it through. 40s is still young.

@11naa44

10 ай бұрын

You can start a side hustle at home that isnt costly... research!

@alicekonaduyeboah5271

10 ай бұрын

Sorry for that ma'am..no one deserves that

@jae6506

10 ай бұрын

I trust that God’s got you🙏🏽 It’s impossible to be behind in your life bcuz it’s YOURS. Embrace your journey and your future✨🫶🏽

@Jen281

9 ай бұрын

I also struggle with depression. Today I did an at home palates class via streaming. Physical activity is key to lifting depression. Good luck and stay encouraged!

As someone who has gone through (and is still going through) almost the exact same steps as you have (graduated, worked for a bit then lived in Italy, moved back, no career, no family, no house, no idea where I want to live), I completely 100% agree with you on all these points. As 27-35 year-olds, we 're stuck between 2 generations: raised by a generation that defines success as "grow up, graduate, have a stable career and a family" and we're living with a generation that defines success as "grow up, have flexibility, and change as often as possible". I still struggle with feeling like I have fallen behind or failed, sometimes, but the best advice my dad ever gave me was, "No matter how old you get, or how much time has passed, remember that this is your life and no one else's. The right thing will happen for you at the right time, so don't waste time trying to follow someone's else's dream or feeling bad that you haven't met society's expectations. Live your life, enjoy every single second of it, and prepare, and when your time comes, excel at it!"

@evamariesolanges4848

2 жыл бұрын

Your dad gave you some really great advice! It’s so amazing though, that the “enjoying your life” part can be the most difficult, especially since we are between two generations, but it’s the most important. And patience is truly a virtue! ☺️

@theSamandtheMoon

Жыл бұрын

I’m not even a part of this demographic, I’m apparently completely alone.

@Okayme8080

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your dad saying It gives me hope

@TilikaVispute

11 ай бұрын

🥹🥹🥹🥹💗💗💗💗👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@sarahillingworth9257

11 ай бұрын

Your dad sounds like he was awesome xx

Girl I’m 36 and I totally feel you. It’s normal to feel this way but let me telll you. 30 is still young. You have time to go for it. Start today, it’s not too late, but don’t delay

@johnnyBrwn

10 ай бұрын

You're the only person telling her to exercise personal responsibility by actually applying herself to accomplish the things she wants instead of settling for a life of mediocrity.

@ArielleLeBean

9 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing , Im 23 and DEFINITELY needed to hear this. I feel so rushed.

At 26, rapidly approaching 27 I am just now learning to embrace my slow and quiet life. I always imagined that I’d be in a much different place in my life than I am currently. Rather than shaming myself for not being who I imagined I’d be at this age I am just trying everyday to be present & full of gratitude. Life doesn’t end when 30 comes and I’m not behind, just going at my own pace.

I'm 36yrs, no child and not married. Worked as a teacher for the past 12yrs now and I'm behind financially but I have told myself that my dreams, goals, visions and aspirations are not tied to my age. I keep working on myself and building myself without having to compare my life to anyone.

I did not see this by accident ❤️ I’m 3 days from 30 back at home, no kids, bad relationship, no “career” just a job I hate. I’m with you.

@Sunshine-jq9sw

11 ай бұрын

Life will get better as long as you keep making progress towards your goals. You only lose when you give up on yourself.

@Lina_5_

11 ай бұрын

It's a bad week for all of us maybe. Next week will be better. And a year from now will be different.

@monicawanjikumwaura6689

11 ай бұрын

Maaan no one prepared us 90s kids for adulting huh 😢 ill be 30 in December and girl, same.

@monicawanjikumwaura6689

11 ай бұрын

Also, happy birthday! 🎉

@THEDOORIZCLOSED

11 ай бұрын

@@monicawanjikumwaura6689the economy and false american dream failed us. Not to mention toxic workplaces that has alot of us flocking to solo spaces to make our money. Its slow money tho

You're not alone...I'm 35 single no kids still living at home. I've tried tons of dating apps and I'm not a big social butterfly due to social anxiety. I'm so exhausted and just don't have the energy to keep trying.

@imjustsaying281

11 ай бұрын

Any recommendations for social apps?

@beautifulfaith52

11 ай бұрын

Girllll I feel you on feeling like you have no energy to keep on trying. I’m 25 years old and just got a masters and now feel like I’m tossed in adulting. And it’s so overwhelming and scary. Like I thought I was a confident person, but I’ve been experiencing so much social anxiety, performance anxiety, and depression. I feel like I’m living 2 different lives. One that people see and my actually thoughts and feelings, that no one really sees. But I’m learning that community helps. Not shutting people out and slowly letting people in to see the realer and truer you. We can do hard things!! So Holly Chen I see you and hear you❤

@M4XV1LL41N

10 ай бұрын

You are not alone

@tessy28

9 ай бұрын

Try badoo. I had 2000 likes there and met my fiance on there.

I turned 30 3 weeks ago I still feel like I'm 22 I don't have kids nor married or even dating 😫 And my career has been all over the place constantly getting laid off.

@lucyirungu1598

8 ай бұрын

Same girl

@jonniekiv1688

6 ай бұрын

That’s yu will make it through

@melissaholcombe3958

3 ай бұрын

SAME!!!!!!

I’m 29 and I’ll be 30 in December and I feel this exact same way! I cried on my birthday because I was grieving the fact that I did not reach certain milestones before this age. I don’t have a degree, I’m not married nor do I have kids yet. My family has been asking when will I find love and have children, and I can’t tell them when because I literally don’t know. Then I see all of my peers (classmates) living what looks like their best life on social media. They’re traveling, they have their own families and they good careers. And yet I’m still single, living on housing assistance for an apartment. I feel completely left behind. I finally started therapy this year and it definitely helped but I would still love to see certain things come to pass in my life. I would love to travel and find my person. It’s a lot to mentally take in and cope with daily but seeing transparent vids like these let’s me know I’m not alone and things will change when it’s the right time.

I feel so much comfort reading you guys comments. Makes me literally feel like I'm not alone. Thank God for this video I truly needed it.

@lockedwiththeword

11 ай бұрын

Same here Sis. Been having countless of breakdowns over the past few months until I came across this video, which wasn't a coincidence I believe. And reading the comments just lifted so much off of my shoulders...

I AM 43 and resonate with allllllllll of this! I spent my 20s and 30s chasing dreams and saying NO to what everyone else was doing…chasing dreams with no plans of not achieving them…at 43, I wish I was way more rational/logical…at 43 I have not a clue of what I AM doing day to day, just took my 2nd leap of faith, this time with nothing to cover me, but I asked for guidance and I did as I was guided to do! I continue to tap in and ask for guidance daily…and for continuous faith 🙏🏽

@cozyhobbies_

11 ай бұрын

Hey ! I just want to let you know that sometimes it is still better to try follow a dream and say you tried ! I know that may sound cheesy or cliche ! But it shows your sense of motivation and character ! And imagine you chose the logical and rational life ! I 100% guarantee you would probably have been unfulfilled and commented here that you wish you would have at least tried following your dreams ! Regret of not doing something is always bigger ! I am nearly 29 and trust me I am still seeing just how youthful your 40s is ! Do not give up please !! You have this ! Today is a new day I am rooting for you !!! ❤

@MaishMajor

11 ай бұрын

It is like we are all ants and must follow the line to feed the queen 🐜.. Life sucks sometimes

@relaxcalmly1742

11 ай бұрын

I’m 33 and resonated with EVERY point you mentioned.. saying NO to what everyone was doing because I wanted my dreams… sigh 😔

@cozyhobbies_

10 ай бұрын

@@relaxcalmly1742 but it shows your amazing character that you wanted something more 🌷 that you wanted to try your best in life 😄🎊

I'm 35,single ,no kids and now graduating from Medical School. My siblings will always tell me to stop chasing my big dreams ( because I quit my job as a nurse and started all over again at 30) , and settle down and have kids.Although I'm sometimes moved by what they say, and wanting to be in a relationship or get married, a huge part of me is satisfied with my present state and I keep telling myself that ,this life I have is about me to live and not about society's standards.I'm happy with my choices and I'm content now.That's all that matters . Worrying about what will be has never yielded any fruit in anyones life.I've learnt to take one day at a time ,and enjoy the moment as it present itself .

@imane5819

11 ай бұрын

Wow that s so cool. What country? Good luck for your next steps 1🎉

@lizkim1546

11 ай бұрын

Cheers to you and your success!!

@marionlabsch1502

11 ай бұрын

Amazing 🎉

@masebabatsoramapepe8593

10 ай бұрын

I am a 29 year old nurse and this really resonates with me and thank you 🙏.

I can completely identify with what you are saying. When I was in my early 20's I was hell bent on getting my BA, Masters degree, marriage, a career, a home and all the things people told me I needed to do. And you know what - I did all those things. I was miserable, and lost everything. I am now 43, divorced, no children, got laid off my corporate career and had to rebuild my life all over again. Now I am living on my own terms and creating a new version of my life. It took time, but I had to give up feeling like I was so behind or not doing enough. I had to surrender to peace and realize my journey is my own and I am living the life I was meant to have. I hope you know you are doing exactly what you need to do right now to find your own way and your own path. Live life on your terms in a way that brings you joy and peace. 💛

May God comfort all of the 30s in the comments section feeling this way too. I'm way younger(Only 23) but I realise that there is no reason to put unnecessary pressure on myself and I can use all of you as my point of reference. Hold on to the fact that when the time is right, God will make it happen for you. Life is not linear and you can never know when what is going to happen, just live in the moment and be grateful for every moment in life. Love Thato Olga ❣

@Mimi-zk8rq

11 ай бұрын

Thank you. I wish I was this wise when I was 23.

@thatoolga

11 ай бұрын

@@Mimi-zk8rq 😢❤❤

@shaynolene470

10 ай бұрын

I'm 24 and i also feel pressured. I have a job, a car and a supportive mother but some of those who went to varsity with me are getting married/engaged/buying houses/having babies And I've never felt so behind in life. And social media makes it worse.

@Sam-iy1nt

10 ай бұрын

That's a very positive way to put it, considering the gap it represents. This is the way to go about ourselves. We're only so young, God's timing is the best❤️‍🔥

@DatingWhileMarried

10 ай бұрын

Well said😊 . God is good and let God lead. All things work in time.

I’m 33 and this does cross my mind ALOT cause society do put pressure on you but I learned a lot of people barely making it to be 30 so I found the blessing in appreciating getting old and just living figuring things out as I go and not compare myself to others we got this girl keep pushing

@almightyg9211

9 ай бұрын

Big facts

I can completely relate to the message of this video. I’m turning 30 in 52 days and I feel sometime like a failure. As an African man, I was expected from my family to have my own family house and stability in my late 20s as my dad and uncle did. Getting that pressure every time, especially from family members and comparing me to my friends who have got engaged or married and had kids recently. In my case, I had to start everything from scratch when I moved to the US, and I have the feeling it’s so complicated to get into a stable and long term relationship in this country. All those feelings make me just avoid celebrating my birthdays every year, or not attend events or celebrations with my community (from my country) here in my town because they tend to compare people’s accomplishments, check on your life in an intrusive way. Thank you for sharing this with us, you just got a new follower .

@Datb2

10 ай бұрын

I’m sorry but I read this and I would suggest stop putting so much weight on their opinion. It’s not that serious that you stop celebrating your bday please

@Zillionaireiwuji

10 ай бұрын

Are you Nigerian? That community sounds like a Nigerian community to me

@gwaabejustine5575

4 ай бұрын

Timing is everything, when the right time comes and we work, pray and stick to the goals, we will surely get there and achieve it more better and greater. Don't give up now. God has a way of turning things around

@inna7803

4 ай бұрын

I didn't know that even men at 30 are pressured like women 😢 sorry, An African woman here in the same situation

I was there! 30 starting out in a new career renting a house. Then I went through a divorce at 34. Thankfully no kids involved but to pay for everything I had to move in with my parents and go back to square one! I never gave up! Bought my own house found a new girlfriend who is now my fiancée. I just landed a job as a director. Just a few years ago it felt like I was a failure even older than 30! Now I’m 38 and my life is much better. Circumstances change but just keep the drive to move forward and things will get better

“We can’t be so focused on the goals we have in our life that we forget to live the moments in between.”- Stay present.

Thank you for this. I recently quit my job and I’m moving to Italy in 3 days. I have no plan, no friends, and no job. I’m so scared but also so excited to finally have a chance to reset abs get away from the hustle culture in the U.S.

@evamariesolanges4848

2 жыл бұрын

Aww I hope you enjoy your time in Italy! It can be an adjustment but with patience it’s really such a wonderful place to live. It helped me learn to slow down a bit more.

@puritybenson5008

Жыл бұрын

Stay away if you're black, I live here and it's hell

@aena5995

11 ай бұрын

Update?

@touriagasmi3525

11 ай бұрын

What are you going to do in Italy 😊

@se2664

11 ай бұрын

So life update?

Thank you for making this video, it was recommended to me randomly by the algorithm. I'm 31, soon to be 32 living at home with my parents, no job, no relationship, no children and I feel like an enormous failure. I never thought this would happen to me either, but here I am. Thank you for sharing your story, I needed this 🙏🏼❤

@si.3107

3 ай бұрын

Same

People who give up in life are people who lose in life, my first experience happens to be a failure but I never gave up cause I knew it was going to work out for me trying continuously, fortunately I'm smiling today by getting involved in investment.. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life too 🙏🙏🙏

@terrisewell4729

10 ай бұрын

Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth, investing remains a priority. I learnt from my last year's experience, i am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time.

@johnalex4006

10 ай бұрын

I urge everyone to start somewhere now no matter how small, this is literally the time for that, forget material things, don't get tempted,i became more better the moment i realized this.

@Soboj-oy8me

10 ай бұрын

yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate Investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to a great loss too

@nengsolavillasorda8519

10 ай бұрын

exactly! That's my major concern and what kind of profitable business or investment can someone do with the current rise in economic downturn

@mebbellaforden8091

10 ай бұрын

Hello nice comments here, please what exactly kind of investment are you talking about here, I'm really interested too

I feel you on this so much! I’m 31, I thought I’d be done having kids by now but a baby is still not even close. Career wise, I’m jumping from job to job because I struggle to find my path(I can’t afford to have kids). It’s a very sad feeling and sometimes I feel like giving up on everything but I have faith there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. I pray we all achieve our dreams and find true happiness x

@9188jenni

Жыл бұрын

Its a different time from when our parents were 30! They were older than us millennials. For a lot of us kids don't make sense until about 30 so youre on time. Thank God you have options.

@TEWMUCH

Жыл бұрын

Same!

@adewoyinelizabeth3173

11 ай бұрын

Amen in Jesus' Name

@EllHuron

11 ай бұрын

​@@9188jennihaving options? Getting pregnant on a natural way above the age of 30 is getting harder and harder. And you know, being 30, no partner, getting pregnant with a person you fully trust takes at least 3 years. Then you are 33 at that point at best. You ladies live your lifes differently than your mothers, but your biological clock ticks at the same speed. Please don't forget that.

@krixttysimon2705

11 ай бұрын

Amen

I'm 25 years old now, couple months ago I was going through something like a quarter-life crisis. I was feeling so behind in life, but work on myself has helped me. I know that everything what's going to meant to be it's gonna happen at the right time, I don't need to rush. It's much beautiful when you enjoy your life journey without the fear to "have it together" already.

@Traumatised311

11 ай бұрын

U won't live till 100 So that's not quarter life

@Traumatised311

11 ай бұрын

@@sabrinaresurrected no what Who said Quarter of a an hour is not 25 Quarter of a year is not 25

I’m 24 and already feel this pressure. I have so many goals, I want to accomplish by the time I’m 30.

I'm 38 and don't check the traditional boxes. Just live your life and stop stressing out.

I feel the same way. I’m 35 no kids not married I just lost my dad. I’m in a relationship that is not the best. I am working on my peace and joy. So I isolate myself a lot. I just want time to my self

Girl, do things differently and go your own way. You're a college-educated woman who has lived in Italy for a substantial amount of time (and speak the language). Apply and enroll in a PhD program at a top school in Italian Studies and specialize in 'Black Italian Studies'. It will give you an excuse to go back and forth between the U.S. and Italy. Think out of the box. I did the same thing with regard to France and the French language (and I've been lost for a while as well). Today I am a college professor of Black French Studies. You don't have to follow this plan, but use all of your talents to forge your career path. My very best wishes!

@renabeliever3628

Жыл бұрын

Oh bravo ! En quoi consistent les études noires en France ? Je suis curieuse 😄

@aae7583

11 ай бұрын

This is great advice. Plus, as a student there is availability only afforded to students, such as internships. A lot of top companies will bring her on as an intern because of her program and , most importantly, because she is a student.

@lu-themadpillow2985

11 ай бұрын

But do you enjoy academia? It’s super hard, I’m doing my PhD and it’s… hard.

@Elizabeth-mf3dn

11 ай бұрын

That is SO cool!! I need an excuse to go to Europe, just traveling would bore me, I need a goal or mission like becoming a better artist

@josephmburu9337

11 ай бұрын

But she talked about "curating your own life" , it's funny how we always have ideas about how people should live their lives but none when it comes to ours, 😂

I'm 31 and still living at home. It wasn't till I was 29 did I start a career for myself and I remember being so happy because I finally felt like I was "catching up" to my peers. It took time for me to realize that everyone's life is different and like you said "social media isn't real". I had to shift my perspective and realize that yes, I might still live with my parents but i'm saving money and when it's time for me to leave i'll be financially secure. Every now and then I still feel the societal pressure to be further ahead in life, and that's okay as long as I don't allow myself to sit in those feelings for to long. Thank you for sharing this video :)

Please never feel embarrassed about living with your parents, My mum died when I was 23 and my dad isn't in my life either if I can give you one piece of advice is that your a beautiful young woman and you will get where you want to be in your life cherish the time you have with your mom because life goes so quicky all the best to you x

@nicolekanaan4801

6 ай бұрын

I'm sorry for your loss 😢 I went through the same thing. I lost my mum at 23, my dad isn't in my life either. I agree people should feel blessed to have parents in their life and even the option to move back in with family until they get themselves back together.

OMG - this is like watching myself like 5-6 years ago (I´m 36 now). I didn´t meet my boyfriend until I was 30. I though I´d have children by 24 years old. My first child was born when I was 32. My career is still a rollercoaster it feels. I wish more people would share their actual stories so it would´nt feel like such a failure when we don´t reach the certain milestones by a certain age. Everyone´s journey is unique - I just wish we saw the uniqueness in social media! Thank you for sharing your reflections and story

@anacatarina8157

11 ай бұрын

Thank you. 🌷

@monicawanjikumwaura6689

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story! ❤

@theonlymisskeen

10 ай бұрын

Yes! Agreed!

@20vannesa

10 ай бұрын

Yeah but at least you have a child! women are different. We don’t have until 50 to have children. The older we get the harder will be to want to have a child. I think that’s mostly the worry here. I am 33 and not married not kids. I am worried bc of this 😭😭😭 I want a child soooo bad

@strawberryorange3755

Ай бұрын

​@20vannesa what about adoption?

I'm 33 i sometimes feel that same way i work in retail and still live with my mom. But then again some people i know married got kids have it all together still complain they are not happy. I mean yeah i do get lonely sometimes since alot of people my age are married. But I'll say I'm lucky i have a job and a roof over my head and a few friends to talk to. And you never know a person that may have it all could have it gone as well.

You are saying exactly what im feeling! I turned 30 yesterday and the night before, I broke down crying because I hadnt accomplished enough. I rent a room, and work a high school diploma level job, after earning a masters degree that hasnt done much for my career without relevant experience, plus I'm single. I am working toward better but these student loans make me feel like I'm drowning! May our 30s and beyond be much better in Jesus name. This is temporary!

I’m in my mid 30’s now. I just got myself a great job that I love and looking into building a house. All by myself. Still haven’t done the whole husband and kids thing yet. I’m focussing on myself first. 😊

@20vannesa

10 ай бұрын

Yeah but for women is different. We don’t have until 50 to have children. The older we get the harder will be to want to have a child. I think that’s mostly the worry here. I am 33 and not married not kids. I am worried bc of this 😭😭😭 I want a child soooo bad

@ew4645

9 ай бұрын

This is the dream 😩 you are an inspiration!

@kp361

9 ай бұрын

@@20vannesa That's true. But most men who 'wait until 50' - we're talking 99.9% - aren't going to have a kid either. If you want a baby, there are other routes besides marrying someone you don't actually love (or who doesn't love you) just for the sake of having a kid.

I'm in the same situation. 29 about to be 30 in a few weeks. No career, not married, no kids, I feel like there's no point in even trying to do anything anymore. I'm feeling more and more hopeless the closer I get to turning 30. I've spent my 20s struggling with depression and anxiety, eating my problems. I really wish I could change how I've lived my life.

@ajidigital3191

11 ай бұрын

Change is coming your way. People now a days always tell me "get a wife for yourself" sometimes I just laugh

@KatyPopplewell

11 ай бұрын

I am the same way. Career, and wanting to be married with kids.

@KatyPopplewell

11 ай бұрын

The good news is you change your mindset and the path of your future.

@jewelthompson4210

11 ай бұрын

29 is so YOUNG! There is no way you should give into that feeling of not trying anymore. Pls keep going after your goals so you don't look back at 40 in regret.

@ajidigital3191

11 ай бұрын

@@KatyPopplewell wish you the best sis

Just stumbled across your video and can relate at 37, as I‘m working on a second degree and don’t have much going on. The only balance I have is working out,otherwise I‘d break down. There aren’t many friends around (all married etc.), I often feel like a lonesome Cowboy riding through the savannah, am often procrastinating and feel the outside pressure daily. It really gets lonely for me so often. But I know,things will get easier once I graduated, as hard as it gets. Thanks for the uplifting words,Miss Solanges:) Will return to this video for a while

@sonimo290

Жыл бұрын

I feel you bro

@mylene_b

11 ай бұрын

I'm 27 and am also doing a second degree to change careers. Good luck, you got this!

I'm 27 and like this: no home (of my own), no husband, no kids, no career... (I'm almost hitting the wall - the 3.0), but I don't feel happy for not being the only one, bc I wish everyone was fulfilled in life. I hope everyone here feeling empty, stuck and lost find their way and be happy. God bless you all 🙏🏻❤️

@judeichudi85

10 ай бұрын

And you're from which country?

@LilyIglesias

10 ай бұрын

@@judeichudi85 Brazil.

@indiasupportsthereturnofth1475

6 күн бұрын

@@LilyIglesias are you red-pilled by any chance?

@LilyIglesias

5 күн бұрын

@@indiasupportsthereturnofth1475 yes, kinda. I'm Catholic.

Social media just sucks the joy out of people enjoying the journey to hitting their milestones. The pace varies from person to person. I honestly feel for you. Comparison makes it hard to be content and happy with your current position in your life.

I'm in the same boat. Had to move back home after a failed engagement and find it difficult at times not to look in the mirror and see failure. I have no kids, no home of my own, no significant other, and a job that pays somewhat decent but not enough to live on my own. I will be 35 in 3 months and I most definitely have nothing together...but I've learned that this is exactly where I needed to be in life, unfortunately. I wasn't ready for marriage and kids. The universe knew. I can change my situation but first I have some things to work on within myself. I don't allow people to tell me where I should be in life anymore due to my age. I now make my own rules and feel so much better mentally/emotionally. I just remind myself that timing is everything. What I desire I will receive ✨️

You’re totally not alone. I’m 35, no kids, I’m a solo entrepreneur and realtor and still figuring things out as I go. I definitely have thoughts at times that I’m further behind than I should be, but guess what? I travel, have fallen in love and gone to several music festivals across the country and am finding more and more things to be grateful about. I’ve found that when I decided to make my own rules and not fit myself into a box created by societal standards, I’ve been more happy and take on life one day at a time.

@user-io3ru9tc1d

11 ай бұрын

I am 18 and already terfied from hiting 30 😐 what should I do

@ultraozy4085

11 ай бұрын

​​@@user-io3ru9tc1dappreciate everyday of life you're alive and healthy appreciate loved ones around you dont live in fear do things you're passionate about

@poppyblue1512

11 ай бұрын

@@user-io3ru9tc1d You haven't given a reason for why you're scared of hitting 30, so quit your ageism, because it seems like you terrified of hitting 30 just because you'll be older, not because something will go awfully wrong at 30. You don't know how your life is going to be like at 30 yet, you're only 18, so why would you be terrified of hitting 30 specifically? Your 20s are closer, why aren't you terrified of it? What about turning 25? It just sounds like plain ageism to me.

This is great. As a 30 year old man, I have struggled with this, as well. Thankfully, I’m in a better mental space. Thank you for this!

@KVI580

6 ай бұрын

same as you, but its tormenting when others have a life and i dont

I was feeling like this at 22-24 lol I lost my mom 2019 & it knocked me heavily into spirituality.. I learned how to sit in peace & appreciate who I am.

@elin_

10 ай бұрын

I'm sorry for your loss.. I lost my mom 2018..

@parnaerue

10 ай бұрын

@@elin_ 💙💙💙💙💙

❤ We live in hard times tbh economically, with the cost of living rising I'm grateful to be living with my parents!

I’m 33 not married no house or kids, worked different jobs but no career and what helps me is knowing not everyone’s journey is the same.

@drumstars757

11 ай бұрын

Same here

NO cap...just before i turned 30, i literally had your exact same circumstances. No job, no dates, no money. In addition to feeling like a failure, the 2009 housing market depression happened around the world and half my friends lost their jobs. It was sort of like 2020 pandemic. Anyway, i celebrated my 30th birthday, found a job, then an apartment and moved out of my parents home. by 33 I was married and doing great. I'm 45 and still doing great. Trust me. Life can turn in your favor in a heartbeat. Keep grinding. What is for you and WHO is for you is out there right now seeking you just as hard as you are seeking it. You got this.

Oh sweet summer child 😜 Exactly how I felt at 25, 30, 35, & now 40 😂 The feeling doesn’t go away, even though at 25 I had an art degree & was having a blast with my friends, at 30 I’d written a novel & met my future husband, at 35 I’d won writing awards & got married, and now at 40 I finally realized that being an author is my calling & career goal. Now we travel the country in a converted cabin-van and I’m about to publish 3 more books. Sure, no house yet (ha!) but we travel. No kids but don’t want em. No cat, but want one. Am I happy? Most days 😉 You never know where life will lead, but if you have a passion, joy, or focus (even if it’s just a seed) then you’ll point yourself in that direction without even realizing.

So raw and honest. You are so brave, powerful and inspiring! Everyone struggles with this. You can be 46, 52, 67 and still feel this way. You are absolutely correct about social media creating this pressure. This video blessed me. ✨🙌🏾

@evamariesolanges4848

2 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you! ☺️ I’m so glad you liked the video. And about feeling this way at any age, I’m seeing more and more that this is true. I think life is a process of constantly figuring out what you want and adjusting.

We're all this thing together. It's a journey, not a race. Times aren't what they used to be compared to our parents' generation. They'll be bad days but we keep moving forward. 💛

@angelicaknows

2 жыл бұрын

Btw love that piece of art behind you in frame

@evamariesolanges4848

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, that's definitely something I'm trying to remind myself of. ❤

@evamariesolanges4848

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! The artist is Reyna Noriega.

@angelicaknows

2 жыл бұрын

@@evamariesolanges4848 thanks! I'll have to look them up

@futureofhealthforlife

2 жыл бұрын

@@evamariesolanges4848 sending you an email about working together

I feel like you should make a group of all of us in the comments so we can check in and make sure everyone is ok. You aren’t behind. I got diagnosed with adhd after school, still figured that out and realised the 30% rule. Of age with adhd is true for me. So my actual age is 21.7 currently and that’s how I’m counting now. I have a new respect for myself and realised the major 2nd chance I just got at life. I’m grateful. You should be too. Realisation is the first step.

Love this! I’m 32, I thought I was going to get engaged this year after a 2.5 year relationship. Didn’t happen. I thought I was going to be a successful business owner in home staging didn’t happen. My life has turned a different direction for the good. I am now moving back home to atlanta, to build generational wealth and travel around the world until my heart desire. Things don’t always go as planned but that’s the beauty of the journey.

Well, I'm 30 and I have an MBA degree, a great job, great apartment but still feel empty because the pressure about marriage makes me feel unaccomplished.i coincidentally bumped into this video and somehow I feel uplifted. Thanks

@se2664

11 ай бұрын

The fact you can finance your life by yourself is a huge accomplishment rather than marriage!

@monsminos7766

11 ай бұрын

Where are you sir! Am single. can we mingle?😊

@DrSpheh

11 ай бұрын

This is my life. I’m 28 and it doesn’t matter what I achieve, there’ll always be people who say, “Congratulations, you just need to get married now or ohh great the next thing should be marriage” it makes me sad that I have a life other people envy but I wish I’m wishing for something

@moh_jay

8 ай бұрын

​@@DrSphehcan we mingle ? I'm 27 almost 28 😊

@AR-vd8xs

8 ай бұрын

I have a MBA trying to recover but at this time I need some extra help to review my resume and give me an honest advice. I had great things but I lose it, I’m sure I can make it again. Would you be able to review my resume? For me everything starts with my professional life, work money, after that I can think about love.

I'm 34 and have everything I've always dreamed of and I'm very happy. But I didn't have a traditional 20s, I did all the "wrong" things. I became a mom at 20, dropped out of college got divorced young etc. All the things that my friends feared, avoided and often used me as an example of a cautionary tale 😏. Despite things not working out for me 100% of the time, they did work out for me by the time I was 30. I know it's not the path most people would like to have for their lives but I didn't choose misfortune, I chose to keep going and keep building. Good luck.

It's essential for women to break free from societal expectations and embrace their unique paths. Your life is extraordinary and doesn't have to mirror anyone else's journey. Instead, focus on discovering what brings you joy and fulfillment. Prioritize self-acceptance, find satisfaction in your career, and cultivate a deep love for the life you lead. Let go of comparisons and dare to defy the conventional narrative. I find it uninteresting how people often follow the same predictable storyline: seeking a job, finding a husband, buying a house, and starting a family. Embrace your individuality and create a narrative that resonates with your true desires and aspirations. Stop making yourself feel sad, go out there and enjoy life. If I could go back in time, I wish I would have allowed myself to be happy in my mid-twenties. I can't be in my 20s again. Now, I'm 34, I choose happiness, and understand that we all have unique paths.

Thank you for this! I turn 27 in a few weeks and that’s how I feel about it. It’s a weird thing getting older and you don’t think you’re where you should be. We put so much pressure on ourselves

You’re definitely not alone. I’m 26 and when I was 18 I was sure that by now I’d be a veterinarian and starting my career. I never really cared about getting a husband or getting married but I just wanted to start my life. But I’m still in undergrad, no savings, no degree, no house, no new car. I feel so far behind.

@pinkrose372

11 ай бұрын

I am 29 gonna be 30 soon I have none of those things either but I am getting a degree this year so I am happy

@gailainsley6939

11 ай бұрын

It’s crazy. I’ve never had that ‘husband and kids’ dream either 😅

@cynthiaakaninyene5978

11 ай бұрын

The pressure about getting married from relatives is just insane

@haileyt857

10 ай бұрын

!!! I'm 27, about to be 28, and I am still in undergrad too! Little savings, no degree, no house (living at mom's) and my car is not new. I really don't care for a husband or relationship (though I'm open to casual dating VERY sparsely here and there, though it isn't a priority). You aren't alone. I really think all of us in the comments section are just a part of the new normal.

This is why I don’t use most social media and am careful with what I follow. This is so sad that ppl are having mental breakdowns over not having kids or being married at 30. Start with yourself and work on the stuff you can accomplish. Start with self care and financial growth. It’ll give you confidence for the next challenge on your journey!

@tequilachanel7312

Жыл бұрын

This!

@just_shaeee

11 ай бұрын

That’s right. I teach my patients this exact thing in my therapy sessions. Fasting from social media, detaching from toxic people, and getting closer to God/ Jesus are the top coping skills that my patients use that work.

@forwhat587

11 ай бұрын

@@just_shaeee Well done and your patients are lucky to have such a conscientious health care provider! 💜

@Minney-Me

9 ай бұрын

​@@just_shaeeeAMEN JESUS is the ONLY way to salvation ❤️🙏🏾

I’m not so far off from being 30 and I now understand the pressure of having it all by 30. I don’t have it all, I’m not married, no kid and I recently lost my job. But what gets me by is the fact that I’ve learnt that your 20s are the years of building your CHARACTER, FINDING YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE, FINDING GOD and FINDING LOVE IN ALL YOU DO. It’s sad that we live in a fast paced society, buying houses in your 20s seems to be the in thing now, people attach a sense of accomplishment to material things, yes it’s good to build wealth in your 20s but the truth is Money and Wealth are always around us, your life can change in 6 months - 1 year when you live in your PURPOSE. You can always make the money you want but it takes years to build CHARACTER and find your PURPOSE. Your 20s should be used to build your CHARACTER & find your PURPOSE, also FINDING GOD.

At 60 , but I was reminded through a biblical teaching that God used people in the latter years. Thank God for His mercy

@MrBoLT__

9 ай бұрын

God is good God is all we need 🙏 Satan has blinded the world which is his greatest deception to pretend he doesn't exist now people are blindly walking into hell because of a lack of knowledge. By the mercy and grace of God he pulled me out of this evil corrupt world and showed me the truth I pray now that everyone here comes to repentance and comes back to Jesus Christ because sin seperstes us from God and the wages of sin is death and if you do not repent you will surely perish

@nnatalie50nn

9 ай бұрын

@@MrBoLT__ amen 🙏🏿

You have a pure soul, and your voice is calming. I just turned 30 3 weeks ago. I always feel like everyone else is "doing better". Especially, financially. I keep telling myself this is going to pass, and I WILL persue my passion and dreams. Ever since I was young I wanted a house, a wife, and kids. Here I am working like crazy at a Job i'm not passionate about.

@mmaya772

Жыл бұрын

You will get the desires of your heart. We all will! Try not to stress out about it cause I’m trying my best not to.*

I’m about to be 37 and I’ve felt this way a long time. People tell me to get out there but they don’t realize I already have and I’m exhausted. I feel so alone and I dread every day. I try to hope but can’t deny my utter disappointment. I haven’t been in a serious relationship and feel like I’ll be alone forever and I’m getting too tired to fight for what I want. My mom passed last year and so I have gotten hugged but I honestly don’t feel anything but alone.

@Jaymackn89

Жыл бұрын

Praying for you🤍🙏🏾

@byrabia

11 ай бұрын

I feel you

@ethelolaotse8920

11 ай бұрын

When it seems like nothing is going your way and it never will go your way, it may be best to stop focusing inwardly and look outwardly. Shift from what you can do for yourself and focus on what you can do for others. Being in the service of others just might be the thing to breathe new life into you.

@niaspark

10 ай бұрын

I believe, we need to be grateful for all that we have first, and start to believe in the unseen things we hope for daily.

Ma’am, you are winning❤ Having a house and a family is the standard for MEN. We live in a patriarchal society. As a beautiful woman with family and freedom, YOU ARE WINNING at life❤

@VAIO294

4 ай бұрын

🤣🤣😆😆😂😂

I am 40 years old ,no money,no job, not married,no house of my own, living in my father's house,my sister feeds me.Sometimes i just wonder.God I thank you for greater days ahead.

I turned 30 at the beginning of this year, but I've felt lost since 2020, which coincides with the pandemic. My biggest problem is that I never wanted to get married, have kids, or have a home. All I wanted was to live with uncertainty, travel, and enjoy not knowing what awaits me tomorrow. But even that kind of a path takes having money, which I never did. Plus, I quickly realized that although many do that, traveling as a woman is never as safe as when you're a man. Then I fell in love and got married. However, I'm not happy. I achieved that big milestone that society wanted me, and I love my husband, but I'm miserable. So, the goal is to be true to yourself. Do what makes you happy, not what you think would make others approve of your decisions and lifestyle. And be sure you know what you genuinely want in this life and what our society and its expectations convinced you that you should wish to.

I just turned 29 and felt this HEAVY. Especially with being financially insecure and not knowing where to find peace. I am grateful to have a partner that helps keep me motivated to move forward but it's very hard.

I'm 28 years old, soon to be divorced, have no kids, have no career, kinda feel stuck, have lost my confidence, have no support or guidance in life, and I feel quite lost. This video makes me feel like I'm not alone, and it's okay to still be trying to figure it out. So thank you for that.

I rarely comment on KZread videos but I wanted to do it here just to thank you. I’ve been struggling for months with these negative thoughts and that constant feeling of falling behind, seriously losing my sleep over it. This video helped me so much. Especially when you talked about the journey. Thank you !