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  • @ruriohama
    @ruriohama2 жыл бұрын

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  • @DrJustininJapan

    @DrJustininJapan

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wow, thank you for the recommendation!!

  • @elifgunes7860

    @elifgunes7860

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lütfen Türkçe altyazılı ekleyebilir misin videolarından yararlanmak istiyorum ama maalesef İngilizcem iyi olmadığı için anlamıyorum umarım değerlendirirsin ricamı mutlu güzel yıllar diliyorum

  • @josearangurearteaga3606

    @josearangurearteaga3606

    2 жыл бұрын

    God bless you Ruri. Thank you for all your entertaining and valuable content. Happy new year everybody let's kill it this year 2022! 🥳🥂🎉🎊

  • @jameswilliam5247

    @jameswilliam5247

    2 жыл бұрын

    Great girl

  • @jameswilliam5247

    @jameswilliam5247

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ruri how did you learn such fluent english? Have you been educated in USA? because of your accent

  • @dakinebrah6246
    @dakinebrah62462 жыл бұрын

    "If you fail at something, it doesn't mean you're a failure. The moment you stop trying is when you become a failure"

  • @ibrahimhassaan6188

    @ibrahimhassaan6188

    2 жыл бұрын

    or maybe the moment you stop trying you become wiser, because not everything is winnable and it is smarter to spend your time on something else

  • @MohaMed-pg9dq

    @MohaMed-pg9dq

    2 жыл бұрын

    m.kzread.info/dash/bejne/g5qKl5Z-mdK4ibg.html

  • @joel5644

    @joel5644

    2 жыл бұрын

    Bingo. Nailed it.

  • @gazz01

    @gazz01

    2 жыл бұрын

    Dreams are not those we take during sleep but those which makes us unable to sleep.

  • @DrawingThoughtss

    @DrawingThoughtss

    2 жыл бұрын

    How to make a change kzread.info/dash/bejne/jKynrs1qc8aXY6w.html

  • @MayurParmar-pn4ee
    @MayurParmar-pn4ee22 күн бұрын

    The fact that nobody talks about the book Womens Magic Truths on borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance

  • @ThaxTurner

    @ThaxTurner

    3 күн бұрын

    I don’t qq but q qq q

  • @a810Media
    @a810Media7 ай бұрын

    I am at the lowest point of my life RN and watching this video made me feel that there is still hope

  • @LetsPlay1st

    @LetsPlay1st

    6 ай бұрын

    Same. Good luck, friend.

  • @Sterlingix

    @Sterlingix

    5 ай бұрын

    same. bless you all, guys. let's get through this step by step...

  • @ronakio

    @ronakio

    5 ай бұрын

    You'll be fine. It's just a phase you're going through.

  • @surajlohia

    @surajlohia

    4 ай бұрын

    im at the lowest point of my life rn as well... i just hate myself i don't even know what to do in life lol. everyone around me is doing something in their life im 20yrs old and I'm failing in college and playing games

  • @Sonu-sr9nl

    @Sonu-sr9nl

    3 ай бұрын

    Same wasted 2 years in giving excuses, watching mobile , and enjoying with temporary friends , rather than studying at my most crucial years , i am still doing the same , i know my mistakes i just don't have self control . I know i am capable i am just too lazy to change

  • @Love_Yourself4830
    @Love_Yourself48305 ай бұрын

    I lost my 13-year-old daughter to suicide last June. I often ponder how much of a factor social media played in her death. Thank you for taking the time to make this.

  • @Nowy_hun

    @Nowy_hun

    5 ай бұрын

    Am so sorry ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @TSk-jd2il

    @TSk-jd2il

    5 ай бұрын

    Jesus, may she rest in peace from heaven, Im so sorry.

  • @TSk-jd2il

    @TSk-jd2il

    5 ай бұрын

    @@q_pato_o thats rude man

  • @sevenlonelylies

    @sevenlonelylies

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@q_pato_oyou failed as a human with saying that. you have no idea what they went through. so shut up.

  • @q_pato_o

    @q_pato_o

    5 ай бұрын

    @@sevenlonelylies why? How do you manage to let your !!!13!!!! Years old daughter get so depressed that she commits suicide and dont help her to the point she won't kill herself. A repeat, 13 years. You are just dumb and ignorant.

  • @dorado4526
    @dorado4526 Жыл бұрын

    "Constantly comparing oneself to others is a great way to live a miserable life." Don't self sabotage yourself, don't let failures hold you down instead learn and improve from them. The only time you truly fail is when you stop trying.

  • @darthmaul7220

    @darthmaul7220

    Жыл бұрын

    ''Social'' media is cancer. That's it. Plain and simple.

  • @lemonsundew08g

    @lemonsundew08g

    Жыл бұрын

    It’s not self destruction its self defence from reality

  • @JamieR

    @JamieR

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@lemonsundew08g Self sabotage and destructive behaviour are a defence mechanism to deflect reality. It's how our body tries to protect us from something. The challenging part is until we allow ourselves to sit with it, we won't be able to release it and live full and vibrant lives.

  • @zacharycloutier6291

    @zacharycloutier6291

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes

  • @darthmaul7220

    @darthmaul7220

    Жыл бұрын

    @@JamieR So, the body tries to protect us by destroying itself? That's a nice little quirk there.

  • @golden.lights.twinkle2329
    @golden.lights.twinkle23292 жыл бұрын

    "Success means going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm" - Winston Churchill

  • @BlackSnakeHQ

    @BlackSnakeHQ

    Жыл бұрын

    thanks for that

  • @ismail91210

    @ismail91210

    Жыл бұрын

    sounds like something he would say

  • @lovingmelodies2644

    @lovingmelodies2644

    Жыл бұрын

    Well...that's painful 💔 but ig it makes sense

  • @aimelinhvuong

    @aimelinhvuong

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you I need that today

  • @kizalin

    @kizalin

    Жыл бұрын

    Success seems to be viewed differently to people

  • @travismoore7849
    @travismoore78496 ай бұрын

    I felt like a failure my entire life. But this is way before social media.

  • @alterego157

    @alterego157

    5 ай бұрын

    Well, change it. Change your thoughts. Change your actions. Change your habits.

  • @travismoore7849

    @travismoore7849

    5 ай бұрын

    @@alterego157 Sometimes there are just things beyond our control.

  • @alterego157

    @alterego157

    5 ай бұрын

    @@travismoore7849 I know. Give yourself permission to forget and ignore things that are beyond your control. There's no point in wasting your mental energy on those things. It is what it is. Focus only on things that are in your control.

  • @travismoore7849

    @travismoore7849

    5 ай бұрын

    @@alterego157 Well it does not matter, what ever happens is going to happen.

  • @LivingMindfullyWithEve
    @LivingMindfullyWithEve6 ай бұрын

    Thank you for being honest. Makes me feel so much better with my KZread journey. I was literally just crying an hour ago because Im so frustrated and feel like a failure. I needed this today.

  • @sunsetdreams4921

    @sunsetdreams4921

    Күн бұрын

    Hey you aren’t a failure, just checked out your channel and it looks so interesting !! I’ll check it out ❤

  • @LOL-cringe
    @LOL-cringe9 ай бұрын

    The fact that this appears in my home feed says a lot about my current situation. Age of 26, feeling stucked, with a bachelors which I'm not using, no love relationship, working in a job not related to my studies and still living with my parents. Thanks for the content.

  • @MegaYukti

    @MegaYukti

    9 ай бұрын

    AT 27, same🥲 i thought you described my life.

  • @Mobilegaming_masters

    @Mobilegaming_masters

    9 ай бұрын

    30 yo buddy, almost same situation. Hold on.

  • @kennethrobinson6738

    @kennethrobinson6738

    9 ай бұрын

    Hold on, my friend. Things will turn around. It took me a moment to find my groove (early 30s). Things will get better for you. Just keep grinding.

  • @steez.e

    @steez.e

    9 ай бұрын

    I feel you heavily

  • @m1r__

    @m1r__

    9 ай бұрын

    it's tough out here man. don't ever feel worthless or useless. this is generational struggle. we're all struggling. and we will ALL MAKE IT THROUGH. WAGMI

  • @royzlatanestevez9843
    @royzlatanestevez98432 жыл бұрын

    Comment by an elderly relative: "I am almost 80 years old Japanese-Korean man and started over many times in life. Life is long, and you can start over many times. Many doors close. But each stage completed opens new doors. I appreciate you making these videos and give hope to young people. We are often scared of doing anything during our best years, which is quite sad."

  • @perhaps5095

    @perhaps5095

    2 жыл бұрын

    what is the most important thing life has taught you?

  • @stylie473joker5

    @stylie473joker5

    2 жыл бұрын

    I have to disagree life is short so make the most out of it

  • @Ash081284

    @Ash081284

    2 жыл бұрын

    ​@@stylie473joker5 Hi! I respect your opinion, but I also would partially disagree with you. Do realize that the commenter is an 80-year old. So given the context, that speaks loud enough. Do our grandparents that are still with us live a short life? If you think you're gonna die tomorrow, or someone have died early, then, yeah, sure. But that kind of mindset is also what pressures us, because we feel like we're in a hurry to experience everything coz we think we might die later or tomorrow or anytime. Yeah, I get that, especially in these trying times of the pandemic. I've lost family and friends early too. But it's also how stress, depression and regrets usually start creeping in. But if we still expect that we will live long enough, coz, again, no one knows... naturally, we will make mistakes along the way, so just start over. Rinse, learn and then start over, as long as we could. Many doors close, but new ones open after, until life says "No more." A little bit of something like Schrodinger's Cat theory. Two possibilities that we CANNOT actually answer. We don't know if we'll die early on or live long enough. That's why I respect and partially agree with you. But the possibility and expectancy of living longer is much bigger than dying young, seeing that we still see grandparents everywhere. I mean, we will still die, anyway. So just live. As simple as that. Live your life. You can do anything you want, yes, but just be in the present, stop worrying about tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes, coz when tomorrow comes, it's already the present and you're still alive. (Okay, I'm playing with words now. haha... but still...) If we die, we won't even feel any regret of not making the most out of it or experiencing lots of things anyway, coz... well... we're dead already. We won't feel (or think) a thing. And life of others move on. PS: I'm not an 80-yr old person, but I'm a survivor from a medical illness, back in March 2016, that the doctors were surprised after diagnosing me and even said if i was even one day late from being sent to the ER, I would've died the next day. But because of the doctor's help, tons of prayers and support from family and friends, and my strong will to live, I survived. I once fully believe that life is short as well, and that also caused me depression and stress, trying to do everything I could and sometimes couldn't, but when I thought I was dying, feeling all the pain in my body, I cried so much in my hospital bed and I felt so much regret that I didn't make the most out of it, that eventually led to mooore depression and stress that affected me and delayed my body from healing and so I stayed stuck in the hospital for almost 4 months. But after that experience, I changed my mindset. More like tweaked it a bit. I live each day doing the things that I can do on that day, yes, still making the most out of it, but also investing bit by bit for my future, bcoz I still wanna live... longer. One day at a time. And here I am, typing this and sharing my side about this topic. Apologies if I sound intruding or invalidating your opinion. It's okay if you disagree with mine, I respect that, coz like me, we all have our own opinions and perspective in life and we all experience life differently. And like I said early on, I also partially agree with you. Anyway, have a great day and a great life ahead! ^_^

  • @stylie473joker5

    @stylie473joker5

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Ash081284 what you said is right but there is also that idea that even if you live long you still feel that life is short and that those 80 years passed so fast

  • @Ash081284

    @Ash081284

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@stylie473joker5 yeah, I get what you mean. You're right with that as well. Hmm... I guess we can say that the "life is long" is the physical aspect while the "life is short" is like how we see it or feel it, the speed, in a sense. Figuratively, if that is the right word? Like, I may have lived longer, I have been given more years, but while typing my comment earlier, I also realized that it's already 5 years that have passed since I was hospitalized. Even in this pandemic, it's quite shocking that 2 years have already passed. Time is fast. Yeah, I agree with you on that. Well, let's say it's a combination then, depending on how we perceive life at the moment, if it's within/being in the very moment, present (thus making it physically long) and if it's like outside the "box of life", looking as a whole, looking at from age 1 till our current age, then that's realizing how fast time has passed, if you can picture what I mean So yeah, I agree with you on that perspective :) Man, sometimes life can really make us think, huh? haha

  • @breaddudei
    @breaddudei6 ай бұрын

    Remember kids, when you feel like a failure when someone is more successful than you, realise that some people are built alternatively different and there's stuff planned for you, don't give up before the game is over, and don't ruin the game for other people

  • @Judge_RR

    @Judge_RR

    3 ай бұрын

    I disagree. Other people do not deserve what they have. Some of them did not work for anything. I deserve everything,

  • @jeppy4021

    @jeppy4021

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@Judge_RRthats a narcissistic statement

  • @Dream7773
    @Dream77737 ай бұрын

    I have never felt like a winner in life. I’m now 43 and was slowly dying inside. Thank you. I needed to hear this. Life is truly unfair . That is the beginning of the struggle as a human being.

  • @PhsychoSomatic

    @PhsychoSomatic

    28 күн бұрын

    Im 41 and i have nothing except being jacked natural Thats it yaay

  • @Dream7773

    @Dream7773

    27 күн бұрын

    @@PhsychoSomatic 😅 thank you for laugh !

  • @Naex__
    @Naex__2 жыл бұрын

    Never seen a youtuber talking about the "lower half of the iceberg" of his carreer, mad respect

  • @sriku1000

    @sriku1000

    2 жыл бұрын

    A great watch on how humanity is defined kzread.info/dash/bejne/hWmal9yEo7GXdKg.html..

  • @Jayinjapanese

    @Jayinjapanese

    2 жыл бұрын

    Look up better ideas channel

  • @heidimaxham9661

    @heidimaxham9661

    Жыл бұрын

    Naex, what about all the ppl on this planet that can give the same iceberg example with with next to no results. That iceberg means s*** . Not a very good way to explain things. Bc so many have put in the same effort but to no avail.

  • @hereandthere4751
    @hereandthere47512 жыл бұрын

    "If you compete against others you become bitter, if you compete against yourself you become better" -Conor Mcgregor

  • @mikaeilshah7896

    @mikaeilshah7896

    2 жыл бұрын

    Then y is he bitter after loosing.

  • @hereandthere4751

    @hereandthere4751

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mikaeilshah7896 because he's not the same anymore. He's not hungry like before.

  • @mikaeilshah7896

    @mikaeilshah7896

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@hereandthere4751 hmm.. May b

  • @misstrunchbull3953

    @misstrunchbull3953

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mikaeilshah7896 certainly

  • @leogaming7366

    @leogaming7366

    2 жыл бұрын

    And then Khabib steps in.

  • @AAvfx
    @AAvfx6 ай бұрын

    That's a good story of success. Never give up, mindset wins.

  • @allancobaria8298
    @allancobaria82987 ай бұрын

    Comparing yourself to others is the thief of joy ! Appreciate of what you have cause life is short ❤❤❤

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan2 жыл бұрын

    *Feeling like you are a failure is so common amongst young people like us. If you feel like no one is cheering for you, I am my friend!*

  • @alfredogxr8891

    @alfredogxr8891

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reading this is warming You know? Tnx👌

  • @FreakAboutSims3

    @FreakAboutSims3

    2 жыл бұрын

    It's understandable considering how the baby boomers fucked up the world making the life they once achieved nearly impossible for the generations that came afterward. God also agrees too or else he wouldn't have bestowed us with the coronavirus.

  • @KuniS2

    @KuniS2

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you..

  • @jeppy4021

    @jeppy4021

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@FreakAboutSims3 lmao

  • @DrawingThoughtss

    @DrawingThoughtss

    2 жыл бұрын

    How to make a change kzread.info/dash/bejne/jKynrs1qc8aXY6w.html

  • @artistro08
    @artistro086 ай бұрын

    This is definitely helping me to push and do the things I love. Thank you

  • @whatthehellislife7962
    @whatthehellislife79625 ай бұрын

    I genuinely respect this girl ❤ thanks for the inspiring videos!

  • @fl0wfull
    @fl0wfull2 жыл бұрын

    Life isn't fair in my opinion - too much depends on luck. Of course if you work really hard you can achieve something, but there are some things for some people in this world that just aren't possible. I don't really know how to explain this, but I hope it's somehow understandable. Really nice vid Ruri!

  • @givencci9997

    @givencci9997

    2 жыл бұрын

    seems like you’re excusing yourself

  • @ummulkhair7219

    @ummulkhair7219

    2 жыл бұрын

    Actually everything is possible in my opinion (if you deserve that thing) like you r studying don't look down on yourself that you can't crack this exam (i used to do this) now i understand that you have to have a strong mindset to achieve your goal nothing is easy in this world ...good luck

  • @leviathandiabolo6296

    @leviathandiabolo6296

    2 жыл бұрын

    I believe a lot of it comes down to smart work instead of hard work

  • @TheMelopeus

    @TheMelopeus

    2 жыл бұрын

    There are for more things that are possible than impossible for you and it's pathetic to think of only how you can't be a millionaire at 14. There are so many genuine things that can make you happy (succesfull)

  • @leanajs

    @leanajs

    2 жыл бұрын

    YOU create YOUR luck :) if you don't move, change won't come.

  • @waleedmorsi2948
    @waleedmorsi2948 Жыл бұрын

    The fact that over 2 million people watched this video tells me we have to do something about this sadness and depression

  • @Wopder13

    @Wopder13

    Жыл бұрын

    social standards, trauma, loneliness, not knowing what drives you, expenses getting even more expensive by the second, college being a fucking trap unless you were born wealthy/ lucky to get a free scholarship. the entire concept of school is fucking flawed to the core until you make it to college where the trap is located. simply wanted to eat healthy cost a fortune. having to deal with other people bullshit decisions which then affect you especially if they are relatives. i mean the list goes on buddy, i doubt anything can be done besides enjoying what helps us cope. some ppl just learn to live with their depression and sadness and it affects them much less then it once did, not everyone can get to that point unfortunately

  • @misteriousgamers9290

    @misteriousgamers9290

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Wopder13 the concept off school is not actually flawed they dont try to make you an succesfull man, instead their job is to make an working class person and abuse them till they either die or if youre lucky make it to retirement and THATS the problem that we actually cannot fix bc we NEED an working class in order for humanity to proceed no matter what... so yeah school knows EXACTLY what they are doing they are just pretending that they are good guys.

  • @beans1998

    @beans1998

    Жыл бұрын

    2 million aint that much in the grand scheme of things

  • @asadelfadillah8008

    @asadelfadillah8008

    Жыл бұрын

    @@beans1998 True, it depends on the scale you're seeing it from. For a personal level? 2 mil is a lot for this type of video.

  • @EddyTheLion

    @EddyTheLion

    Жыл бұрын

    4 real 😂

  • @StephieBugs
    @StephieBugs7 ай бұрын

    This video is amazing I’ve felt like a failure for so many reasons in my life thank you so much for this advice❤

  • @SakilAhmed-mc6sv
    @SakilAhmed-mc6sv6 ай бұрын

    Wow....! I needed to watch this video at this point of my life! Thank you so much Ruri Ohama. Please take Love and respect from the bottom of my heart ❤

  • @Lucidriana
    @Lucidriana8 ай бұрын

    To everyone who reads my comment. I hope you are doing ok. Don't compare your success to others. You deserve not to be over thinking.

  • @dhwaniabuwala575

    @dhwaniabuwala575

    7 ай бұрын

    Thanks for saying that :)

  • @Cereallkiller

    @Cereallkiller

    7 ай бұрын

    thanks man hope the same goes for you too

  • @daraenxd8360

    @daraenxd8360

    7 ай бұрын

    thank you for the comment ^^

  • @jessicacorcoran8297

    @jessicacorcoran8297

    6 ай бұрын

    Thankyou ❤

  • @Watchfree907_15years

    @Watchfree907_15years

    6 ай бұрын

    How about kids today that more successful than we are!

  • @Adelbert1309
    @Adelbert1309 Жыл бұрын

    "The sad truth is not everyone will accomplish something great. Some of us may just have to find meaning in the little moments that make up life." - Howard Wolowitz

  • @Janon743

    @Janon743

    Жыл бұрын

    At the end of the day though, what defines what is “great” or good? Society? Cultural norms? I’m not saying that there aren’t worthwhile goals, but saying that truth is sad is odd. What’s he even saying to be sad about? I think everyone in the first world can make progress and be a “better” person than they were yesterday, to hell with what society will label as “greatness”

  • @mateussilva635

    @mateussilva635

    Жыл бұрын

    "Not me though, I went to SPACE!" - Also Howard Wolowitz haha

  • @mateussilva635

    @mateussilva635

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Janon743 Even if you define you own goals, there will never be any guarantee you will achieve them. That's what is "sad" about life, bad things are and will ever be half of it.

  • @damianwojcikiewicz3951

    @damianwojcikiewicz3951

    Жыл бұрын

    Ronald said “money is just only the money. The most important is family”. He is right. I’m a man who earn 1500$ - 2000$ every month and I don’t need anything like gucci or be a celebrity. Important for me is health, people I love spend the time with and precious moments. Every person define success different way

  • @xpellidagoat

    @xpellidagoat

    Жыл бұрын

    says the successful person

  • @aaronbong
    @aaronbong29 күн бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your personal experience for your KZread journey. Been struggling lately and realized that I have just not put enough effort into it after listening to your story. Appreciate it!

  • @UrbanMonkey97
    @UrbanMonkey976 ай бұрын

    Thank you Ruri, you are amazing, beautiful, inspiring and helpful. I ordered the Book right at the spot

  • @TheDarkstar3601
    @TheDarkstar36012 жыл бұрын

    As a kid, my parents always compared me to other kids. I still have their voice in my head with everything I do.

  • @antonscorner

    @antonscorner

    2 жыл бұрын

    oof, you're definitely not alone in that 😥

  • @otakumonkey

    @otakumonkey

    Жыл бұрын

    That's something doesn't let us to do something without hesitation.

  • @lynsequeira5446

    @lynsequeira5446

    Жыл бұрын

    Same 🥺

  • @lucadesanctis563

    @lucadesanctis563

    Жыл бұрын

    They still do it with me and I'm 31... "you're not engaged yet". Fucking boomers

  • @teslatoilet3853

    @teslatoilet3853

    Жыл бұрын

    every parent does that i feel like, kinda hurts

  • @kobz2862
    @kobz2862 Жыл бұрын

    "Pain will leave your body, when it's done teaching you"

  • @dddux

    @dddux

    10 ай бұрын

    I love this! 😉 Who's said that? Marquis de Sade? oh i'll search it... Bruce Lee

  • @bluebottle548

    @bluebottle548

    9 ай бұрын

    And thatz wot u call DEATH😂😂

  • @fireboltaz

    @fireboltaz

    9 ай бұрын

    this girl is such a crybaby.

  • @dddux

    @dddux

    9 ай бұрын

    @@bluebottle548 It's not what this saying is about, but that's a good point, and black humour funny. 😆

  • @ImaRockStarPR

    @ImaRockStarPR

    9 ай бұрын

    @@ddduxi am pretty sure it was said by some dude kicking heroin

  • @kreativexpressions
    @kreativexpressions17 күн бұрын

    Ok! You got my attention, your best work, I love this.😊

  • @isaiahthechristiangamer8716
    @isaiahthechristiangamer87167 ай бұрын

    Thank you for the inspiration!!! You are amazing!!! I always want to learn something new every day.

  • @LOL-cringe
    @LOL-cringe9 ай бұрын

    Unfortunately our childhood has a lot to do with what we feel entitled too have or achieve. I did not settle for my toxic families idea of what I could be, and yet, I still have obstacles created by an absence of love , guidance, or support. You are a good inspiration. Thanks!

  • @AgentZ-1844

    @AgentZ-1844

    9 ай бұрын

    how do you have 6 million subscribers

  • @camilaburgos8383

    @camilaburgos8383

    9 ай бұрын

    ​@@AgentZ-1844Exactly

  • @desensitized

    @desensitized

    9 ай бұрын

    @@AgentZ-1844 Spent his 9-5 earnings on an account

  • @thevaccinator666

    @thevaccinator666

    8 ай бұрын

    ​​@D-jj5dyYes. Much love to you.

  • @rymkatrineboukezzi3984

    @rymkatrineboukezzi3984

    8 ай бұрын

    @@AgentZ-1844 "imagine that you are living peacefully in a house, with your family, food, as any other person in the world. and some day someone knocked on your door and tell that this is his house and told you that you must go out immediately with no reason or justifying, and as any person else who has not any place to go you refused. so that person break into your home and start destroying it and hitting you and he killed your family members. but when you start to defend people come to see whats going on, so this person start to shout and say that you stole his home and you are trying to kill him. they caught you and shut your mouth and they say that they will kill you because they think that you are a "terrorist", you scream but nobody is hearing you, becuse nobody know the truth"..............this is not imagination this is the reality of palestinians, israel is stealing and destroying their houses, their family and their lives and hide the truth and the reality. ......... so please search about the truth because its not a joke its people's life

  • @sandirizkimaulana3695
    @sandirizkimaulana3695 Жыл бұрын

    i'm 30, i'm broke, got no gf, from mid ecnmy family,and still being a burden to ma and pa . but im sure that everything will get better for me on the right time, as long as i try to be better even better version of me,and keep being kind to other. thank you for sharing this video, its a bit lift me up.

  • @ughhh5745

    @ughhh5745

    Жыл бұрын

    hey man, best of luck hope u get everything u've been dreaming of.....take care

  • @rosendotorres3306

    @rosendotorres3306

    Жыл бұрын

    How are things going to get better? What is your next step?

  • @milosilic8639

    @milosilic8639

    Жыл бұрын

    im married have a kid and have to live with my parents again because we cant afford to pay for electricity and heating on our own... im working on making more money and leaving my 9 to 5, its gonna work, for me.. for u... we just need to try, learn and not give up ..giving up is losing if u try and actually fail and try again thats learning eventually u make it doesnt matter what that is.. trading or something else on the internet, a better job, a school, a language... everything

  • @Zephur0s

    @Zephur0s

    Жыл бұрын

    Society and the media really push the notion that adults should be successful while they are in their youth ie. their 20s but this is a reality I had to learn. I am pushing through to get my bachelors and I have anxiety on what is the step forward from there. So in short, I feel you. Hope you are doing ok if you see this 🙂

  • @Maxb0-__-

    @Maxb0-__-

    Жыл бұрын

    well you're a failure, stop leeching of your parents/society and get your grown ass up and look for a job.

  • @Agnibaazz
    @Agnibaazz6 ай бұрын

    I’didn’t felt like failure but I’m here how you will explain to those ppl & yea you’ve shown them a unfair advantages ❤

  • @edwinwamae
    @edwinwamae3 ай бұрын

    No one searched for this, but thanks to KZread for suggesting it to us❤

  • @adityaasneko2204
    @adityaasneko2204 Жыл бұрын

    "If you don’t fight for what you want, then don’t cry for what you lost." -Lord Krishna , Bhagvad Gita These lines do have very different meanings, it depends on perspective. And also we should never think that we are failure, as it depends on our mind " What we think is what we become" another famous quote from "Bhagvad Gita"( book) By the way nice vid

  • @himanshumalik6913

    @himanshumalik6913

    Жыл бұрын

    Exactly man

  • @Vaishnavi__555

    @Vaishnavi__555

    Жыл бұрын

    So nice this is the reason I like our culture!

  • @N1L4RV

    @N1L4RV

    Жыл бұрын

    Empty words. So if I fought hard for what I wanted, I would be deserved to cry for what I lost? Do you really think I tried so hard just to have the right to cry, lol.

  • @doremon20

    @doremon20

    Жыл бұрын

    @@N1L4RV he quoted "If you don’t fight " not "fight hard"

  • @Mario7p

    @Mario7p

    Жыл бұрын

    spanish queen said: cry like a woman for that which you lost as a man (to the last musling king or whatever in the caliphate of Granada)

  • @fcsc7583
    @fcsc7583 Жыл бұрын

    I related a lot with this. I was born poor, no one in my family had ever gone to college. But my parents always valued education over everything else. So, since I had their full support, I chose to study until I was able to get a scholarship in the most renowned University in my country. It took me 4 years, after high school, to get it. I was very young, and I almost didn't go out during those years, I didn't have a girlfriend, I studied all the time I was awake, and I solved the hardest questions the exam for scholarship required. After those 4 years I succeeded, and now I don't just graduate, but I have a master's degree in that University too. I'm married, I have friends to hang out, travel, and I can help my parents that helped me. So, my unfair advantages were: 1) When I was 15~16 I already could read English fluently, so I had access to studying material that most ppl didn't 2) I had the emotional intelligence to set a course and not give up on it 3) I had my family support. They sacrificed their happiness and comfort so they could afford my education. Until college it was far from the best I could have, but their struggle made me really understand me how important education was. Well, I know you won't read all this, but it was good to write it down. Thank you for the wonderful video, it was very valuable to me. You're incredible! As a non-native English speaker, I can tell you one unfair advantage you have: your English is very clear and not accelerated as most native speakers, in particular American ones. I started watching because it was very pleasurable to listen, then I loved the content. Nice to meet you Ruri!

  • @yanushasedhai6210

    @yanushasedhai6210

    Жыл бұрын

  • @nxtnascent

    @nxtnascent

    Жыл бұрын

    Bro i read it completely

  • @fcsc7583

    @fcsc7583

    Жыл бұрын

    54 likes, and I wrote a lot... it was more a write-to-myself text, but ppl really took their time to read it. I'm glad to know this 😍 thank you guys, you've made my day 😉

  • @Hi-vg9zj

    @Hi-vg9zj

    Жыл бұрын

    no you made our day

  • @Nikpie_

    @Nikpie_

    Жыл бұрын

    sure

  • @ts5546
    @ts55467 ай бұрын

    Thanks! Definetly a good reminder!

  • @kingzklein1342
    @kingzklein13425 ай бұрын

    Thank you, Ruri for this video n book. I'm truly glad to come across your video. Felt a huge relief when i listened to everything you said.

  • @valtagez
    @valtagez Жыл бұрын

    Crazy how this was on my home feed. I'm 24 and after spending 8 years gaming and never leaving the house, over a month ago i quit smoking cigarettes and drinking alcohol and stepped away from gaming to work towards what i've been missing in life. Recently i have felt like giving up on my goals to become great but this video has reminded me to keep at it. Thank you for the uplift Ruri. :)

  • @pj561

    @pj561

    Жыл бұрын

    I dream of quitting my job and just playing games all day. Can you tell me what it's like and why you decided to change?

  • @pikachumbo5256

    @pikachumbo5256

    Жыл бұрын

    @@pj561 cuz your view on success/happiness is different than his. Maybe hes grown tired of gaming and decided to experience new things in life

  • @pikachumbo5256

    @pikachumbo5256

    Жыл бұрын

    also, your view on what is success might change throughout your life

  • @AlCatSplat

    @AlCatSplat

    Жыл бұрын

    @@pj561 Trust me, it will get boring after a while.

  • @FredMaverik

    @FredMaverik

    Жыл бұрын

    @@pj561 boring, you just like games because you have your job, makes the play time more enjoyable and actually want to play the actual game instead of having nothing to do all day

  • @motorbright
    @motorbright6 ай бұрын

    For a young person you have blown me away with your wisdom. I found your content very inspiring and helpful. Best wishes.

  • @Gulirano_Mamatsolayeva
    @Gulirano_Mamatsolayeva3 ай бұрын

    Thanks a lot.This video is the best i have ever watched.I can't describe my feelings after watching this while you are depressed.thank youuuuu

  • @potatokaiyote
    @potatokaiyote2 жыл бұрын

    I cried when I realized I knew college wasnt for me after being in school for 5 years, eventually you get over it and you find something new.

  • @CybertroninfiniteOfficial

    @CybertroninfiniteOfficial

    2 жыл бұрын

    what are you doing instead?

  • @potatokaiyote

    @potatokaiyote

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@CybertroninfiniteOfficial worked for the next 2 years in a warehouse, now I got my CDL and I drive buses.

  • @CybertroninfiniteOfficial

    @CybertroninfiniteOfficial

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@potatokaiyote does it treat you well financially and mentally?

  • @potatokaiyote

    @potatokaiyote

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@CybertroninfiniteOfficial when I was working in a warehouse It was ok when I had good hours, but after a while they started putting me from like 7 -2am stocking which was ass. Driving busses is ok, I get weekends off (which I never got at the warehouse) but atm the hours are decent driving short buses. If I get my B license to drive the bigger busses then I get paid I think 23 or 24 /hr and more routes to drive.

  • @CybertroninfiniteOfficial

    @CybertroninfiniteOfficial

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@potatokaiyote neato, would you say you get paid well enough?

  • @heydimitrios
    @heydimitrios Жыл бұрын

    Life is unfair, but people like you make it more enjoyable. Thank you for your content!

  • @Thumblive
    @Thumblive3 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much. I needed this inspiration today!!!

  • @Brick_Foster_life
    @Brick_Foster_life27 күн бұрын

    Dear Ruri! Thank you for your inspiration! It's important for beginner like me.

  • @PACEKOMPUTER
    @PACEKOMPUTER2 жыл бұрын

    This Is My First Time Hearing About Unfair Advantage, And I Really Thank You For Your Explanation.. I'll Definitely Spend This Entire Day To Breakdown All My Possible Unfair Advantage And Use It As My New Weapon.. Thank You Once Again Dear Ruri.. And Congratulation On Your 300K Subs 😇

  • @ruriohama

    @ruriohama

    2 жыл бұрын

    thank you🖤

  • @MekanikNgetroll

    @MekanikNgetroll

    2 жыл бұрын

    Bedehhh semangat slurrr

  • @dinamakan

    @dinamakan

    2 жыл бұрын

    lhoo ada pace toh di sini

  • @var9301

    @var9301

    2 жыл бұрын

    MANGTAP PACE HEKEL

  • @muhamadmiftahurrizqi5909

    @muhamadmiftahurrizqi5909

    2 жыл бұрын

    Do neng kene jebule

  • @rvluvi8337
    @rvluvi8337 Жыл бұрын

    Life is just unfair in so many ways. It starts by the fact the you can’t choose which you’re going to be born as, who will be your parents and your family.. but the best advice I’ve been going by lately is “face it till you make it” because 10 out 10 times.. you just have to. No matter what life throws at you, you just face it and regret or celebrate later. I hope everyone who sees this have a lovely day. Stay safe and stay strong because no matter how it may seems like it.. you’re not alone 🫡✨

  • @tebhernandez

    @tebhernandez

    Жыл бұрын

    You want to choose who your parents are? What do you mean which youre going to be born as? Are you talking about gender?

  • @NarukuSenpai

    @NarukuSenpai

    Жыл бұрын

    @@tebhernandez He's not wrong,we can't chose those but we can appreciate and be better with our own strength and mentality

  • @lynx873

    @lynx873

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm born with disease life is so unfair for me life is like he throws me everything bad 😭

  • @Santiago-5107

    @Santiago-5107

    Жыл бұрын

    @@tebhernandez Just curious, who would you choose as your parents? And what is wrong with your gender?

  • @unpatientes1562
    @unpatientes15627 ай бұрын

    thank you, from the bottom of my heart, you have no idea how much better this made me feel.

  • @ItsBearOfficial
    @ItsBearOfficial6 ай бұрын

    Thank you Ruri from 2 years ago, I needed this

  • @randomfornow
    @randomfornow2 жыл бұрын

    Some personalities have a way harder time with not giving up than others. Their brains are wired to compare themselves to others, they see themselves as wortheless by default, as pathetic as it seems to other personality types. I wish people would recognize this more.

  • @mikelisteral7863

    @mikelisteral7863

    2 жыл бұрын

    neuroplasticity

  • @Hema115

    @Hema115

    2 жыл бұрын

    oh yeah welcome to the i identify myself as jealous and worthless generation

  • @randomfornow

    @randomfornow

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Hema115 ah yea i get you😉To that I like to say "truth lie, lie truth, when you get enough people to repeat the truth, the truth becomes a lie". The internet has developed the other half of humanity's powers and now nobody can say anything without being outsmarted. can't be fake but can't be real either🤔

  • @randomfornow

    @randomfornow

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Xiu Ying Cai well they want to be successful because they want to feel good about themselves and failing will make them feel bad about themselves, so it kind of makes sense.

  • @sriku1000

    @sriku1000

    2 жыл бұрын

    A great watch on how humanity is defined kzread.info/dash/bejne/hWmal9yEo7GXdKg.html..

  • @iankinzel
    @iankinzel Жыл бұрын

    I don't need to go on social media to feel like a failure. Tbh I just feel happy that there's people in the world who are able to do something with their lives - it tells me that there's some sense of justice *somewhere*. Myself, all I need to do to feel like a failure is to wake up in the morning.

  • @iankinzel

    @iankinzel

    Жыл бұрын

    @Chrome Book I'd sooner die

  • @iankinzel

    @iankinzel

    Жыл бұрын

    @Julia Karlsson exactly, i'm an ant on a rock. i don't matter.

  • @johbugaming265

    @johbugaming265

    Жыл бұрын

    i feel you, not being pessimistic but the reality is, few are winners and the rest are losers. all this positive crap doesnt apply to all, you we can do is we take what we can get.

  • @CCoreOW

    @CCoreOW

    Жыл бұрын

    I think it's more a mindset thing. I'll be graduating from university in 4 months time, yet, I still feel like a failure since all my friends from uni are getting jobs, while I'm sitting on my ass doing nothing. Granted, I am trying to learn to drive before I get a job, and I have my test next week, but even still I'm not convinced I'll have the motivation to apply anywhere. If anything, I'm scared. I live with just my mum since my brother moved out and lives with his girlfriend. My mum works part time in a minimum wage job and has just been made redundant, which will take effect at the end of this month. Most her life since she had kids she didn't even have a job. Always worrying about money. I don't want to be like that. But at the same time, I can't help but think I will. I don't have any connections, no work experience, no money to fall back on if things go south. I'm not particularly attractive, I'm terrible with people. About the only thing I've got going for me is that I'm friendly, but that's not special. At the end of the day, most of us are just extraordinarily ordinary. But, I think what really matters is that you're special to at least someone. That you at least give some meaning to someone else's life as someone else gives meaning to yours. That can be anyone, a friend, a co-worker, a partner, a family member, anyone. For me, that's where what little motivation I have comes from. It's what managed to push me through 3 years of university when I told myself I couldn't do it. Thought I wasn't smart enough for it, and if it weren't for the people who believed in me, I probably would've quit. I can only hope that as I go through the rest of my life that I have people to do that still. But at the moment, it's extremely daunting. It's sort of all up to me now to decide where I go. And I'm struggling to decide.

  • @kiasia3219

    @kiasia3219

    Жыл бұрын

    @@iankinzel but i think you should try to make the most of life while you can. life is so brief and there's so much to be inspired by when you pay close attention to things and enjoy the mystery and wonder of the world. and you're always still an important part of the universe no matter how small you think you are

  • @maneldehokuto
    @maneldehokuto5 ай бұрын

    Yeah... I think I was needing to hear that, thanks !

  • @Nowy_hun
    @Nowy_hun14 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much Ruri,this video has changed the way I look at myself and life,thank you so much ❤am starting to work on myself like right now, I'll be back here when I become a doctor

  • @Zack-tx7oz
    @Zack-tx7oz2 жыл бұрын

    “Don’t aim at success-the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue…as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.” ~ Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

  • @sriku1000

    @sriku1000

    2 жыл бұрын

    A great watch on how humanity is defined kzread.info/dash/bejne/hWmal9yEo7GXdKg.html..

  • @djelalhassan7631

    @djelalhassan7631

    2 жыл бұрын

    TRUE

  • @wiosna4

    @wiosna4

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reminds me of good ol' Griffith

  • @federicovillagran7823

    @federicovillagran7823

    2 жыл бұрын

    So true

  • @Charlie-bz9re

    @Charlie-bz9re

    2 жыл бұрын

    What a Quote.

  • @introvertdude99
    @introvertdude992 жыл бұрын

    Shouldn’t view failure in a negative way. We all have them. It just shows what works and what doesn’t. Never compare what you have with others. Just focus on what you have to do.

  • @mikelisteral7863

    @mikelisteral7863

    2 жыл бұрын

    task failed successfully

  • @sriku1000

    @sriku1000

    2 жыл бұрын

    A great watch on how humanity is defined kzread.info/dash/bejne/hWmal9yEo7GXdKg.html..

  • @Shouko91

    @Shouko91

    2 жыл бұрын

    Tbf, I believe sometimes failure is necessary for growth. You just never aim at failure.

  • @fr33kSh0w2012

    @fr33kSh0w2012

    2 жыл бұрын

    Unless you end up in hospital for it!

  • @FaresX2023

    @FaresX2023

    2 жыл бұрын

    failures are actually good, when you fail you just discovered one or many ways to not achieve your goals and through eliminations you will have better clarity. actually failing is better than succeeding by pure lack or because you are born in a good envirement.

  • @Tomasz_T
    @Tomasz_T21 күн бұрын

    Thank you for sharing, great story, inspirational.

  • @MarufKh4n
    @MarufKh4n6 ай бұрын

    life will never be fair but you gotta keep your head up & have the courage to do right thing !

  • @j.sicilia6258
    @j.sicilia62582 жыл бұрын

    Im 29 and Ive been studing diferent carreers without complete them, now im in the last year of architecture, but feels like im not good in anything... watching beautiful videos like this trying to comprehend how to succed... so thank you... this is the best video Ive ever seen... you're doing it so good! Blessings!

  • @thunderpopzzz

    @thunderpopzzz

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm 26 and I'm stuck in the same phase. Hope we will make it out of it and find the things we are passionate about good luck!

  • @donmiller2908

    @donmiller2908

    2 жыл бұрын

    "but feels like im not good in anything... watching beautiful videos like this trying to comprehend how to succed" That depends on your definition of success. Success doesn't always mean a thick wallet. You have one life, do you want to spend it chasing dollars? We're only here for a little while.

  • @federicovillagran7823

    @federicovillagran7823

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@thunderpopzzz I'm in the same position as well

  • @fabiolaramos5326

    @fabiolaramos5326

    2 жыл бұрын

    me too :/ I´m 21 years old and I´m feeling lost

  • @MAY-bm3lh

    @MAY-bm3lh

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same, I'm 18 though but I've been doing all I could since I was what 13?? Whatever I do ends up nowhere

  • @Nilaloma
    @Nilaloma Жыл бұрын

    This video popped up in my recommendations at the right time. I am at a depressing point, devaluing everything i've done and seeing no results. But you reminded me that the value we have has always been in us, we have to find our authencity, or unfair advantages, which is a clue to realizing many things. Thank you for making me question some things. I don't believe in signs, but im gonna consider it one.

  • @Nilaloma

    @Nilaloma

    Жыл бұрын

    @@worldExplorer__ hi, yeah, I guess we can, if it's me ur asking 😁

  • @Finn_Chicken4Life

    @Finn_Chicken4Life

    Жыл бұрын

    S OMEGALUL BAD

  • @Nilaloma

    @Nilaloma

    Жыл бұрын

    @@worldExplorer__ I think KZread deleted my previous comment with my nicknames on other platforms 😅 maybe you could try to share yours somehow?

  • @blending_in

    @blending_in

    Жыл бұрын

    Same here

  • @Finn_Chicken4Life

    @Finn_Chicken4Life

    Жыл бұрын

    @@blending_in CRINGE L LIFE NOBODY CARES BOUT U

  • @leylashams8492
    @leylashams84922 ай бұрын

    This video really changed my mindset. Perfect. Thank you❤

  • @predingstonemmarak7566
    @predingstonemmarak75665 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for motivating to push me up. Love you 😘

  • @adelinajohnes2078
    @adelinajohnes2078 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much Ruri! I'm 21 and I noticed that I got really jealous and chaotic, and it scares me. whenever I see any success from my friends or acquaintances which is bigger than mine I feel really down. Even today when my friend told me she's working as a system analyst and makes good money it was enough to ruin the rest of the day for me (and maybe not only this one). Because we're the same age and from the same university, so i constantly COMPARE my peers with me and destruct myself. I understand that I have some unfair advantages, that my life is better than it is in my head, that many would probably like to own some aspects of my life, but I'm suffering from something I don't have nevertheless. and I believe that what contributes to such mindset significantly is the fact that I DON'T KNOW what to do with my life. There is no particular dream I would like to fulfill or it is way too abstract so that I wouldn't be able to tell what it is really. This makes me feel miserable, I get angry at myself and at my relatives because of my own problems, and right now I feel lost and depressed. Any small misfortune upsets me, and I don't see the solution yet but I will try to do something like studying more in magistracy, maybe watching some courses for enhancing general knowledge, reading, establishing relationships, working with psychologist (hopefully). I've tried some of these activities already but I believe there must be more consistency and more efforts. I wish I would start to realise fully that the worst thing is to sit and do nothing which is one of my favorite occupations (cause what would I do? I'm questioning myself and don't seem to find the answer yet). But I will be trying. I appreciate it very much if anyone has read about my current experience with my life. If you're going through somewhat similar thing, please know that you're not alone. We might be lost right now but we'll get there. The main thing is to keep going and trying further without fear even if we don't succeed. Failing is MUCH better than not even trying. If needed, get professional help (I'll try too!) and take care of yourself. You'll cope. Sending love and support to everyone.

  • @RS-zl4vs

    @RS-zl4vs

    Жыл бұрын

    im 21 and im just considering majoring cs... i spent 3 years doing basically nothing and i feel like i still have a chance and kinda sad and depressed abt it but u its better late than never ig :( so if go in i'll graduate at 25 do u think thats alright :,)

  • @cazz1627

    @cazz1627

    Жыл бұрын

    @@RS-zl4vs its never too late bro. theres 50 year olds in courses chase ur dreams

  • @erdemkose8994

    @erdemkose8994

    Жыл бұрын

    I have the same problem. I am also 21. The other day my friend said he made tons of money from his job and now he is planning to move in to his new apartment. I don't know why but that made me hate myself and feel like a failure I was keep asking myself ''what am i doing wrong?''. I'm in college (architecture major) .It was already too tough to find internship because I don't know anyone. When i found out some of my classmates already found a job i just wanted to kill myself. Feels like no matter how hard i try it's all futile. ''I get angry at myself and at my relatives because of my own problems, and right now I feel lost and depressed.'' I can relate to this sentence. When my parents call me I just yell at them because I'm just looking for someone to blame. (I hate myself for this)

  • @lilpotato3114

    @lilpotato3114

    Жыл бұрын

    @@RS-zl4vs bruh we have the same life FR

  • @roysoncrypto

    @roysoncrypto

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm 29 now and dropped out of high school from a panic attack I had on the first day of school in my first class. I had to move out to my best friends house at 17 because I didn't know if my parents would let me leave school so I just packed my car and left. The only advice I can honestly give is that it will get better and as you get older you start to notice the wisdom you gain over time. Some random thing can happen that can change your life, whether its meeting someone and hearing about a job they do, or hearing an idea that sounds really exciting to you, or a business idea for making a side income. TRY ALL OF THE THINGS you're interested in. You will learn from each one and then at some point all of your best talent will be put together on top of your hard work and you will have something of value whether its financial or not. However financial value is very thin, even the richest people have some sad lives, because its unironically not about having a ton of money that makes a good life, however making about 70-80k a year is an important pillar of having enough to not worry in the US.

  • @Rishitha20
    @Rishitha20 Жыл бұрын

    Girl u changed my mindset I m 19 yrs old , I failed in medical entrance exam in my country I really felt like failure, I see people of my age already getting into 2nd yr of university ,here me haven't even enter into university, yes life seems unfair but when u started to get over those situations u 'll feel better. Be Confident, do good whatever u do, rely on ur dreams 💜

  • @mili8605

    @mili8605

    Жыл бұрын

    Is it neet cuz I'm also preparing for it .let's have hope

  • @mohammedayan4058

    @mohammedayan4058

    Жыл бұрын

    Bro same here. Are you from India?

  • @mili8605

    @mili8605

    Жыл бұрын

    @@mohammedayan4058 Yeah

  • @mohammedayan4058

    @mohammedayan4058

    Жыл бұрын

    @@mili8605 same here. I’m gonna go for engineering in the upcoming weeks

  • @Rishitha20

    @Rishitha20

    Жыл бұрын

    @@mohammedayan4058 I m also going to study engineering let's have hope 🙌

  • @rupindersingh3915
    @rupindersingh39154 ай бұрын

    OMG, howcome this came into my feed, the exact same thoughts came to my mind just a few hours ago, thanks Sis for this video, will work wonders for my confidence currrently going through this Mid life crisis, More Power to You!!!!!😍

  • @Chaos007X
    @Chaos007X3 ай бұрын

    I needed to hear this. Thank you.

  • @lemondishonor7736
    @lemondishonor7736 Жыл бұрын

    I grew up poor, ran the streets, and work to pay bills. My son is a teacher and recently started his career. I can’t consider myself a failure though. I feel like if my child didn’t succeed, I would be a failure. I basically taught him to be better than me and taught him a lot from my experiences.

  • @prajjwaltiwari8644

    @prajjwaltiwari8644

    Жыл бұрын

    From my perception, you are successful. ❤️

  • @resh7521

    @resh7521

    Жыл бұрын

    your a winner

  • @YedhuKrizz

    @YedhuKrizz

    Жыл бұрын

    A winner right here.. 💖

  • @lemondishonor7736

    @lemondishonor7736

    Жыл бұрын

    @@prajjwaltiwari8644 thank you.

  • @lemondishonor7736

    @lemondishonor7736

    Жыл бұрын

    @@resh7521 I appreciate your words.

  • @danielchase9583
    @danielchase95832 жыл бұрын

    This is probably the most honest video I have ever seen and even though my time for dreams and such have past I would LOVE you to do a video on unfair advantages because I know that anyone who takes it to heart it WILL help them. Thank you for doing this video and I wish you all the best in 2022. 😊 Happy New Year. 🎆🎇

  • @DrJustininJapan

    @DrJustininJapan

    2 жыл бұрын

    great comment!!

  • @TheGoldenDuckies

    @TheGoldenDuckies

    2 жыл бұрын

    ruri exposed as p3do kzread.info/dash/bejne/eoZ12ZqRe9qfe7Q.html

  • 2 жыл бұрын

    I'm such a really good singer 🥰🙉 kzread.info/dash/bejne/fq5p2pivdtSsfpM.html

  • @natedawggaming2868
    @natedawggaming28687 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for this. I really needed it right now

  • @user-or5sz2qk1g
    @user-or5sz2qk1gАй бұрын

    Love your video..... Inspired. Just wanted to say thank you! 😊

  • @renatasoares6739
    @renatasoares67392 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video. I developed depression since I was 10 years old because my father was a narcissist, something I only understood now at the age of 24, I always blamed myself a lot for not getting anywhere near where I would like, because I had a good education, but I never had a family base. My grandparents who were the people who defended me and did everything for me were murdered, I had to move from town at 13 and go to live with an aunt, but after 2 years, I started living alone, at 15, to be able to study in a good school, because my parents had moved to a very small town. I ended up meeting someone i had an abusive relationship of 7 years, which ended with betrayals and other very bad matters, all this joined me and made me think every night of suicide, i wondered why to continue living since i didn't feel anything else, since no one really cared about me. And I was having these thoughts at the time, and I watched this video and another one about you're going to drop out of medical school, and somehow, it gave me a light inside me. I thought I was a dumb person, ungrateful and not dear in this world, but on second thought, every story of what happened to me, something unfair in life, made me develop a very good skill, I'm very good at talking to people, listening to them, understanding them, maybe this is my unfair ability that I've developed, that's what I like to do, and somehow, I'm going to run after it. I was very frustrated in the area of architecture and now I want to be a psychologist, thank you again, your videos are definitely a light for many people. :)

  • @thehunt1568

    @thehunt1568

    2 жыл бұрын

    WOW Just reading this made me feel so grateful for my life. I am so sorry for what happened to you and I really hope that you will succeed and and be happy in your life!! good luck and take care!! :)

  • @ruriohama

    @ruriohama

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I hope I could inspire you somehow. ❤️

  • @tiago7063

    @tiago7063

    2 жыл бұрын

    "I developed depression since I was 10 years old because my father was a narcissist, something I only understood now at the age of 24" 20 years, i started to realize this a year ago, my today goal is to be able to live alone, thanks for sharing your experience, it gave me some hope.

  • @fcku2345

    @fcku2345

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@tiago7063 I'm sure you'll be able to achieve that so don't lose hope! I live in a very bad family environment and the thought of one day being able to live a peaceful life in my own home with my pets and my sister is what keeps me going sometimes.

  • @fcku2345

    @fcku2345

    2 жыл бұрын

    I hope youre doing better now Renata, youre really strong, you kept going even if things were really difficult, I also sometimes think about being a psychologist for the same reasons you mentioned, sometimes going through really difficult situations makes us have more compassion and empathy for other people because we don't want them to feel how we felt.

  • @NTSA-ox6fg
    @NTSA-ox6fg6 ай бұрын

    Ngl this video came in the right time, i can't even believe this was made 2 years ago! Thank you for making this video!

  • @GetBizzyLLC
    @GetBizzyLLC2 ай бұрын

    Great job young lady. You inspire this old man to keep at this KZread thing!

  • @nataliasspotify2598
    @nataliasspotify25982 жыл бұрын

    I was having a mental breakdown as usually but this video found me and I couldn´t be more grateful

  • @JoostEurovisionFans

    @JoostEurovisionFans

    2 жыл бұрын

    This video has no conscience. Are you sure it was not God? The same happend to me today. I did not even searched, it just popped up in my recommend box. Nothing is a coincidence.

  • @nataliasspotify2598

    @nataliasspotify2598

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@JoostEurovisionFans idk maybe it is

  • @marcossantibanez4177
    @marcossantibanez4177 Жыл бұрын

    I amost cried after seeing how many years of effort it took you to get to the place you are now, it makes me really happy seeing that you are doing great after everything you went trough, I really hope you are doing fine

  • @sicshop
    @sicshopАй бұрын

    Good video. I have to use what I got and I can keep at it. Thanks young person.

  • @stogi9287
    @stogi9287Күн бұрын

    Dear Ruri, Thank you very much for this amazing video and reminder. I was really feeling down today. After seeing others my age(16) achieving so much in their lives living the dream life. I was very sad, I was feeling like a failure. But after watching this amazing video of yours, I woke up. Now I know what I have to do become successful. I hope I will remember you after I become successful, I will definitely pay you back. Thank you. May God bless you.

  • @Taytaypotayto
    @Taytaypotayto7 ай бұрын

    thank you for this, i have been feeling really down about starting college so late in comparison to my peers. I'm in my second term and I'm 22, I have a brain tumor and it wasn't safe for me to start during peak COVID because my immune system is so weak. I'm from a very poor family and I've worked so hard for this opportunity to go to college. I'm not sure what i want to be but I know i want to be someone who is kind no matter what i go through.

  • @maylin1986

    @maylin1986

    6 ай бұрын

    I'm so sorry you have a medical concern. I hope your tumor doesn't grow or maybe is operable? There's a woman on here that's pretty popular who also had a brain tumor. Her specific tumor couldn't be operated on, and because of that, there was no other treatment options. She went on some kind of diet that helped shrink her tumor. I don't know if she's ever posted a video on what kind of diet she was on that helped her miraculously shrink her tumor, but if she doesn't have such a video yet, you could always reach out to her in the comments. I forget her name. She's most likely in her later 20's to early 30's now. A white girl with dark brown hair. Everyone is running their own race. Take care of you and go at a pace that works best for you. I'm in my late 30's and been to a vocational school 3 times, for 3 different career paths. I've considered college, because that's the last thing I've been able to do. You're still very young to start your life off in any way you want to go. 🙂 Don't let societal expectations make you feel otherwise. I hope this helps. ✨️

  • @angella735

    @angella735

    4 ай бұрын

    all the best!!!!

  • @user-hx6xi4zl8r

    @user-hx6xi4zl8r

    2 ай бұрын

    You're so freaking strong and brave!!!! I really wish I had a bit of that. Life is a game and you have been one of the best players out there. You'll clear all your obstacles. 🤍

  • @Cypik
    @Cypik Жыл бұрын

    the algorithm is trying to tell me something...

  • @coolymanman7
    @coolymanman73 ай бұрын

    This video was the perfect thing I could've experienced during this uncertain phase of my life. Thank you so much.

  • @the_inspired_coach
    @the_inspired_coachАй бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video! I found it really insightful and quite inspiring. As a 47-year-old who’s about to start a KZread channel, beginning to see my unfair advantages I’m excited to begin thank you!

  • @CobyIsThinking
    @CobyIsThinking2 жыл бұрын

    Life really isn’t fair… and I’ll tell you how I’ve struggled in life. I work super hard to climb out of retail and the toxicity of these people I have to work with, is beyond repair. I never went to college because I don’t want to be in debt but I’m glad that there’s certificate courses you can take right now without going to college. I’m working towards my IT support certification through googles program and I’m learning so much! I refuse to think that the only way to survive is to just accept that I’m a failure and that retail is as good as it’s gonna get for me but I’ll tell you that it is not! (I’m not belittling anyone who likes retail if it’s for you more power to you) Working at retail is the worst thing I’ve ever done in my entire life! and because of it I rarely find work. I have a learning disability and multiple health issues and mental struggles that I will not share on here but despite it all, I will not allow anyone or anything push me down anymore. Just know who ever you are and if you’re still working at retail and you notice that you’re not being treated the best or getting payed enough know that if it isn’t for you, you don’t have to stick to retail there’s plenty of other jobs you can get you’ll just have to find the right resources to help you get where you want to be in life. I tried American job center in my town and I’m so thankful that I contacted them and they were able to help me figure out a plan for my future. My passion has always been music! I like making beats and would love to write lyrics but because of my learning disability it’s super hard to do all of that kind of work on my own. I hope that someday I’ll find a kind soul that I can work with because I’m talented and I wanna share my story and help make the world a little better with my art I have a lot to say and I’d love someday to share it through music.

  • @brigc7755

    @brigc7755

    2 жыл бұрын

    I wanna see you writing for a big artist one day, good luck on life and hopefully we'll both achieve our dreams

  • @joy_esinam

    @joy_esinam

    2 жыл бұрын

    I can write the music for you to put the sound on it. I sing a lot and write music too…. Buh no where to record or no one to add the sound…I have two albums

  • @great_cl8697

    @great_cl8697

    2 жыл бұрын

    ! My passion is to do music, animation, singing, and KZread! My parents say I'll be a failure doing that? But how would they know? They can't see the future?

  • @oo8962

    @oo8962

    2 жыл бұрын

    i have things I'm interested in but I'm not determined enough to pursue them. it's like i don't really have anything that excites me. the world and everything in it is just a grey blob of disappointment

  • @CobyIsThinking

    @CobyIsThinking

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@brigc7755 thank you! Likewise!

  • @mudassarnadeem1778
    @mudassarnadeem1778 Жыл бұрын

    We all need a friend like her, who can explain the hard realities of this world in such a wholesome and genuine way.

  • @Ren-jx6bk

    @Ren-jx6bk

    10 ай бұрын

    Isn't that what a friend is tho?

  • @halimmusthofa4709
    @halimmusthofa470922 күн бұрын

    Thank you for the advice... Those are so benefit

  • @Xiao-qj9ez
    @Xiao-qj9ez5 ай бұрын

    This video is really good. I feel this girl is very honest person. I can’t say it’s best video for me of the year but definitely one of the best video I see this year.

  • @Variety_editz8537
    @Variety_editz8537 Жыл бұрын

    I can really relate to this In high-school and grade school I put in a lot of effort to prepare for my tests but never got the desired mark My parents ridiculed me and said I wasn't serious when I did the best I could Thanks for the motivation

  • @anujtiwari9234

    @anujtiwari9234

    Жыл бұрын

    U indian?

  • @d.na_dy.a5521

    @d.na_dy.a5521

    Жыл бұрын

    Me too... but we need to try again and give our self another chance

  • @zeus-yz6gs

    @zeus-yz6gs

    Жыл бұрын

    @@anujtiwari9234 🤣

  • @zeus-yz6gs

    @zeus-yz6gs

    Жыл бұрын

    dont mind them, keep pushing hard , for your sake. you got this! . hope your efforts pay off for you : )

  • @7colorsarchana70

    @7colorsarchana70

    Жыл бұрын

    Same...

  • @dianabochko7248
    @dianabochko72482 жыл бұрын

    I have watched your channel almost the half year. During this time you have gave me a bunch of advices connected not only with studying but with the bulding own personality and identifying yourself as woker, student, and human in socity. I appreciate it. New podcast is an incredible project as well. Thank you. I wish you happy 2022!

  • 2 жыл бұрын

    I'm such a really good singer 🥰🙉 kzread.info/dash/bejne/fq5p2pivdtSsfpM.html

  • @indecline06
    @indecline066 ай бұрын

    Wow, this was really well put together!

  • @Lele756
    @Lele7567 ай бұрын

    Right video at the right time. Thank you

  • @byancacharles3103
    @byancacharles3103 Жыл бұрын

    The fact that you talked about your failure and crying about it touch me 💙 I’m actually trying to motivate myself to get better grades because I’m failing most of them right now and you just gave me the speech that I needed to go further to finish my semester 💙💙 thank you

  • @Maxb0-__-

    @Maxb0-__-

    Жыл бұрын

    You're a failure, do somthing with your life.

  • @ShuToshio
    @ShuToshio Жыл бұрын

    2 books I would like to recommend: - Clarity by Jamie Smart - The Little Book of Ikigai by Ken Mogi

  • @mrsaif4135

    @mrsaif4135

    Жыл бұрын

    Read QURAN TOO

  • @BrandonTorres7529

    @BrandonTorres7529

    Жыл бұрын

    @@mrsaif4135 the Bible is the better choice, sir

  • @manavalan6754

    @manavalan6754

    Жыл бұрын

    @@BrandonTorres7529 all holy books has different stories but with same morals

  • @yusufakhtar2209

    @yusufakhtar2209

    Жыл бұрын

    @@BrandonTorres7529 Best of all, most inspiring, motivational and marvelous is *drumroll* ABC for kids

  • @MineCraft-nz9pg

    @MineCraft-nz9pg

    Жыл бұрын

    Read the Bible especially those that King Solomon have written

  • @KLCheng-xu9np
    @KLCheng-xu9np7 ай бұрын

    It is very thoughtful, to count “The success” from which point of time. I get from your video.

  • @obertinsky
    @obertinsky7 ай бұрын

    Thanks for your labor.

  • @rupeshranjan3008
    @rupeshranjan3008 Жыл бұрын

    Today is one of those days when I have cried a lot feeling lost. Stumbled upon this video and felt good. Thanks I promised myself I will succeed.

  • @TheJovie92

    @TheJovie92

    Жыл бұрын

    sucks kus i feel like dying everyday i feel lost depress feel disgusted to myself no luck in life

  • @miwky406
    @miwky406 Жыл бұрын

    Still watching this video, but paused to comment when asked my opinion: I feel fairness is relative, just like with anything else. Not everyone finds value in the traditional sense of wealth, fame, or otherwise success, even and especially those fortunate enough to be born into it/given it-- they often grow up in an environment that is hard to impress, compounded by the illusion that they already have everything which matters, they struggle to find purpose, and can't feel useful to their family as a result-- not being able to please those family-members is especially damning, because since success is prized as a constant achievement, and money -thought of as a key to happiness- these people often grow up unloved, alone, isolated from family and potential friends who could understand alike, starved for any real connection, because everyone looks on with awe from the outside. Truth is, humans, are just human. These people who achieve big things have many or all the same problems that the person reading this comment does. We all want love, we all want to matter, and we all want to do something that fulfills us, but there is no objective answer to solve these problems for every person. Happiness is subjective, and thus fairness is relative. I grew up practically homeless, then just as I was reaching my teens, my family suddenly started making a lot more money. Our finances grew, but our way of life did not; we lived like we were poor, accustomed to moving, constantly, never making friends, never building connections, never laying down roots, and spending every dime the moment it came in. The friends I did try and make saw me as privileged, and it dug a wedge between us, and helped me stop trusting people. My parents are trauma victims that were terrified of not having money, and they past their traumas on to me; I long since saw money as the devil that took my life away, and now I live chained in fetters of gold, conditioned to rely on money to keep me "safe"-- I'm a lonely bird that stares out of the bars on a gilded-cage, desperate for motivation, and envys the freedom others have to be themselves, consequences be damned.

  • @an.august.sunflower2110

    @an.august.sunflower2110

    Жыл бұрын

    wow. thank you for sharing that.

  • @_.359

    @_.359

    Жыл бұрын

    I would agree with your first paragraph, but disagree completely with your second paragraph

  • @miwky406

    @miwky406

    Жыл бұрын

    @@_.359 I mean, you're free to disagree, of course, but.. I mean I don't understand how someone can disagree with a personal recounting of your own life experiences XD

  • @_.359

    @_.359

    Жыл бұрын

    @@miwky406 the poetic part

  • @miwky406

    @miwky406

    Жыл бұрын

    @@_.359 So.. you disagree with my subjective feelings? Lol.. that was the whole point of my original comment-- to point out that there is no right answer for everyone :p But! Given that these are my *feelings*, they aren't wrong just 'cause you disagree, you would just feel differently if you were in my situation, ergo fairness is relative :p

  • @Ancient-Voices
    @Ancient-Voices2 ай бұрын

    Really good video!!! Touched me 😊

  • @boma1983
    @boma19837 ай бұрын

    thank you for the motivation Ruri :D

  • @oxyzzmoron
    @oxyzzmoron Жыл бұрын

    As I got older, I stopped giving a shit. As long as you're happy with what you have, then you're all good.

  • @croissantlover1

    @croissantlover1

    Жыл бұрын

    this.

  • @valentinvas6454

    @valentinvas6454

    Жыл бұрын

    What if I'm not happy? I don't feel like a failure because of the reasons listed in this video, I feel like that because it looks like I'm often too stupid to do the most basic things in life. I seem to suck at most things I try like several kinds of sports like mountain biking, volleyball, waterball, bowling. I was always at the bottom of the barrel. I tried to become an oil engineer in university and it was a horrible fail. Okay I clearly needed to try something different. I tried to become a translator. I was doing better there but still failed even after years of trying to learn shit. After that I tried to learn programming and I felt more lost than ever. I felt so freaking embarassed in front of the other students. I literally couldn't imagine it was possible to be this bad at something. Even a friend of mine tried to help who was good at programming but even as he was explaining very basic stuff it sounded like advanced quantum physics to me. I also tried playing the guitar but still failed very badly on the most beginner stuff. Apparently I'm not retarded because my IQ is around 120 so what the hell is wrong with me?? I feel like my mental health is degrading due to this as time goes on and it creates a vicious cycle where I have even harder time on focusing anything due to his.

  • @skrunklycreationz

    @skrunklycreationz

    Жыл бұрын

    @@valentinvas6454 you are underestimating yourself, you just havent found the hobby/job/person that will help you feel you have a purpose.

  • @lashtal
    @lashtal Жыл бұрын

    You succeeded, because you failed to give up. Hearing your thought process, of how you analyzed each video, makes it perfectly clear your dedication, and level of seriousness to your craft.