“Most people who overcome addiction never even go to therapy.” Thank you, I’ve never heard any medical professional actually say this. I quit drugs by moving far away where I knew nobody and had no connections and did it on my own. People think that’s bad but it’s been over 10 yrs 🎃

@grannygoes7882

Жыл бұрын

I've heard ONE medical professional say this. He returned to school and became a psychologist after being a cop for 25 years so he had a different perspective than most. The majority of people who get clean in my experience (I'm a social worker) just wake up one day and quit. Like the saying goes, they are sick and tired of being sick and tired. And of course, many never quit and eventually it overtakes them.

@Angelina6518

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the reminder, I quit smoking with a Novena to St. Raphael and it’s real, your free will is key.

@paulskimina925

Жыл бұрын

Some need more help, some don’t. Glad you found your success. 6 months here

@forallthestupidshit3550

Жыл бұрын

Moving away or changing your group of friends is actually a strategy that I'd highly encouraged in the addiction treatment field. Good for you for overcoming on your own! Congrats on the lengthy sobriety : )

@jonaswhite5842

Жыл бұрын

@@forallthestupidshit3550 Its almost crucial. A rural Montana resident

When I hear stories like this, I’m always amazed by the amount of abuse the human body can take.

@enricomiceli8704

6 ай бұрын

millions of years of evolution

@pujabelgian

6 ай бұрын

No mention of my-ocard-itus from a certain medical intervention.. hmm.

@Evilushka

6 ай бұрын

@@pujabelgian I’m guessing you mean myocarditis from IDU?

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567

6 ай бұрын

I have friends taking Vicodin that refused to believe it was an opioid 😵‍💫😵‍💫

@janetclaireSays

6 ай бұрын

As it turned out, his body wasn't able to take the abuse.

This has a very different feeling one year later. You’ll always be missed, Matthew.

He had abandonment issues with his mother. Never resolved.

“There is no guarantee Matthew will gain any more insight so it’s better to tell his story now” wow Dr Grande called it

@MoonOverYou

Ай бұрын

That blew my mind. I hope other people heard it.

Rest peacefully Mr. Perry.

@SleimanSam

6 ай бұрын

😢

@kiki83doll

6 ай бұрын

​@@SleimanSam so sad.

My father got drunk every night for 40 years until he was arrested for DWI in his late 60’s, and he was ordered to do community service at a location where he feared he would be seen by people he knew. That humiliating experience was the best thing that ever happened to him. He tried AA, but ultimately found he was able to go cold turkey on his own. (His marriage had ended, which also helped. 😏) He’s now 96 and in excellent shape physically and cognitively. I’m so grateful that he was able to make such a radical change. 😊

@Jasmine215100

6 ай бұрын

Your father sounds like one very, very lucky individual! Most people don't end up this way, living to 96!!

@auntielaura5

6 ай бұрын

@@Jasmine215100 I know! He just turned 97 - must be good genes. 😁

@stephaniewilliams168

6 ай бұрын

​@@Jasmine215100well at least he got clean and sober. Addiction is a very hard thing to break

@Labong34

6 ай бұрын

Well I’m 97 and I’ve been drinking since I was 14 and I’m fit as a fiddle

@n0thanku

6 ай бұрын

This is a great story!! Some people never change regardless of the consequences.I’m so happy for you and your dad!! 💗

I’ve been sober for two weeks and counting. Wish me luck 🍀

@Vickie...

6 ай бұрын

That's amazing, keep going, you can do it! 💪❤️

Matthew Perry was incredibly funny on Friends. His line delivery was impeccable. He and Lisa Kudrow were the true standouts of that series.

@cesarincamendozaloyola4407

Жыл бұрын

Yes, indeed.

@420noscopesonlylol6

Жыл бұрын

Crazy. I hate Lisa Kudrow. I don't mind her as a voice actor sometimes.

@pageribe2399

Жыл бұрын

@@420noscopesonlylol6 I had the same reaction to her to the point where I would turn off the show if she was featured. All the rest of them were great!

@tricky92x

Жыл бұрын

Meanwhile, the entire cast well tell you that David Schwimmer was the real star of the show...

@themysterycook7320

6 ай бұрын

I agree totally!!! Perry was a truly gifted actor & HIGHLY intelligent!!! Ditto Kudrow..

I read somewhere that Perry once said, "this is how normal people must feel" after being introduced to alcohol. That was exactly what i told myself after consuming alcohol for the first time. I was a really nervous, anxious teen and a couple of beers would calm me down.

Who came back after hearing of him passing away? 😢

Rest easy, with peace and knowing you were loved - Matthew. What a gift to be able to live the same period of time as he.

And now he’s dead.. When you said, ..”there was no guarantee that Matthew might have any more insight in the future.” I think he knew it too.

To be fair, I’ve never seen Matthew Perry and Batman in the same room at the same time.

@northerngirl1637

Жыл бұрын

😅🤪

Continuously clean and sober over 35 years here. Those who relapse repeatedly do not do the deep, courageously introspective work required to process their childhood trauma, per the research. I'm still working on mine daily. It's not a one and done, folks. You can buy the best rehabs, but you can't buy recovery. That has to be earned.

Wow you posted this almost 12 months to the day before he passed. How scary

I was fine with Matthew Perry. Wasn't really interested in his book, but wished him well and hoped he'd have success with his book. Until he said: "River was a beautiful man, inside and out - too beautiful for this world, it turned out. It always seems to be the really talented guys who go down,” Perry wrote. “Why is it that the original thinkers like River Phoenix and Heath Ledger die, but Keanu Reeves still walks among us?” It's bad enough to make such a tasteless comment, but River Phoenix was Keanu Reeves best friend. Can you imagine some heartless ass saying the it's a shame you lived when you best friend died? That's when I hoped his book would bomb. I mean really...what kind of person does that?

@VenusianLissette

Жыл бұрын

yeah that was super off. I could say much more, but I honestly don’t know what drives someone to say some shit like that. horrible & cringe af…

@peacedove1182

Жыл бұрын

His hatred for Keanu Reeves is totally irrational.

@stardust4225

Жыл бұрын

i heard that it may hv had something to do with keanu introducing someone to substances or something. the person who posted the info on twitter deleted it right away. could hv been a hoax who knows

@bobbyj8044

Жыл бұрын

He really couldnt have named a nicer more tragic guy as well.

@quester09

Жыл бұрын

oof

I named my cat Chandler after Matthew Perry❤

The lesson- you can’t buy sobriety no matter how many millions one has.

@TheRubberStudiosASMR

Жыл бұрын

His money probably hindered him

@northerngirl1637

Жыл бұрын

@@TheRubberStudiosASMR a double edged sword

@emmaphilo4049

Жыл бұрын

I hope this will change as science and mental treatment options improve and progress

@stephaniewilliams168

6 ай бұрын

Very true

@kanibalHolokaus

6 ай бұрын

Entering Hollyweird means entering the world of addictions , and everyone knows it, but money is the God of men.

I didn't realize that this video is 1year old. He died while trying to get healthy, never recovering. This is a great example of how money and fame won't bring you happiness. RIP

I have a friend that almost had it all; Tesla, million dollar house, love and RVs to travel on a whim. Then addiction to drugs made him homeless and living in an ally eating trash. I've bailed him out of crappy situations so many times I lost count. Addiction is no joke.

@ltraina3353

Жыл бұрын

So sad, how long did it take? I hope he turns things around

@patriciastapleton2625

Жыл бұрын

Al Anon for family members teaches that until the alcoholic reaches the bottom he will never recover. Sad but true.

@YTStoleMyUsername

Жыл бұрын

This is interesting considering Dr. Grande's recent video on the woman arrested for feeding the homeless and the debate sparked about helping the homeless. I've said before that most homeless people aren't born that way.. sometimes they fall from high places... that's a sad story and I hope he finds his way back. The problem is I think to come back from being homeless you definitely need some support & assistance, whether it's from friends/family or the community & assistance programs. That's good of you to bail him out of bad situations though. Most people would just forget about a person once they have nothing to offer them.

@MrsRitchieBlackmore

Жыл бұрын

Yikes. I am so sorry for your friend. It's scary how some people not only get addicted to a drug, they get ADDICTED, like all caps full blown uncontrollable ruin your life degenerate dependency. And often they don't realize this tendency lurks within until they get a taste of their substance of choice. Many very intelligent and disciplined people get sucked into the addiction vortex and lose everything. It's devastating.

@eunicestone838

Жыл бұрын

@@patriciastapleton2625 I can't just sit down and do nothing and let mine die

I’m 10 years sober this January. Not just sober but ended at least a century of alcoholism in my family line. There’s not enough characters left to tell my story but trust me if I can overcome you can too. Listen to your body, your soul. Take your time to get the right help for you not the first thing offered. I find people fail treatment or relapse because the addict had no say or choice in the treatment. Those who actively participate in the planning process have more success.

@poppytw583

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations! ❤may you be an inspiring many especially youngsters! It’s so important for them to have a mentor and someone to who had gone thru the same and come out in triumph! May god continue to bless you 👏👏👍👍

@angela3524

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for that. I am currently battling this storm. And I really appreciated and took in what you said. So thank you!

@anomalousoddity

Жыл бұрын

As a person who is 7 years sober I completely agree. I couldn't stop drinking and using until I started participating in my own life. In my own recovery. Congrats on 10 years, you are a miracle xx

@angela3524

Жыл бұрын

@@cht2162 well said…. I guess. But I agree. My addiction changes or is added to frequently

@jareya

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations on ending that cycle. And thanks for sharing the advice

I grew up with so many guys like Matthew - 'high functioning' with a massive addiction(s) .. with people I know they started to fall apart in their 30s. It's a ticking time bomb.

I have been sober for 16 years. AA saved my life. I sorry to hear about Matthew’s struggles with addiction. Most addicts have a comorbidity factor. There’s usually an underlining factor that can cause some people to become addicts. I have lived with fear and depression all my life. Alcohol provided my with some relief from my mental health problems. In theory it was a good idea in reality it was very bad. I hope Matthew can find the underlying cause to his addiction.

@susanburns276

Жыл бұрын

Very happy for you and well done 👍. I grew up with an alcoholic Mother and non drinking father and I veered right away, I have always had difficulties in relationships with female friends who have drinking issues and they don't even recognise how different they are when drinking. 👍🙏🇭🇲

@SFVGIRL

Жыл бұрын

I also am a friend of Bill. Glad you're here 🤗

@corinneb9790

Жыл бұрын

I wish Matthew all the best. I think rich and famous have a different problem that those of us who don’t have their resources. They have easy access to the substances and an entourage to cover up for them. Look at Johnny Depp - I am sure he doesn’t want to be passed out addicted. The drugs were there. He took them. Same for so many celebrities. Michael Jackson did not plan to die at 50. Elvis did not plan to OD on the toilet. Addiction is a powerful disease. It effects rich and poor. I pray for us all.

@patriciastapleton2625

Жыл бұрын

Al Anon which caters for family members was a life saver for me. From feeling completely helpless with my father's alcoholism, I was shown how to handle it by people who had walked that walk and knew what worked and what did not. Wonderful association.

@terywetherlow7970

Жыл бұрын

@@imcharming4808 Ohhhh the insult/hope tactic. THAT, never works. Those that disparage AA are usually those that could benefit the most,from my observations. No offense.

RIP Mathew, Thank you for the Laughs and Thank you Dr Grande 🇮🇪

RIP 💔 He had mommy issues. Got into addictions, fear of rejection brought trust issues, possibly had difficulties making meaningful relationships. Spiralled into addictions. Also he wanted to be famous badly, but he wasn’t confident or had anxiety issues that’s where substance dependency increased.

@andrewbowen6875

6 ай бұрын

Absolutely right and I was told at rehab that was my exact make up that attracted nurturing in women and as the source of my addiction problems. Even at 47 I’m a mummy’s boy and when my counsellor asked me to probe my mother about my birt it turned out with her being allergic to opiates she almost died from the painkillers they gave her and I was separate for 48 hours in that crucial bonding phase after birth. I don’t like to use this as an excuse for me making a lifelong bunch of bad decisions but my counsellor believes it absolutely played a par

@Madhuwellness

6 ай бұрын

@@andrewbowen6875 oh please take care. Have faith you can overcome the addiction. Sending prayers & positive energy your way

@andrewbowen6875

6 ай бұрын

@g8india why thanks for that my dear. I’m going to have a hard conversation with my uncle in the morning who knows about my losing my sister to cancer at 42, looking after my dad with Alzheimer’s till his passing in March and my poor mum having to see me like this. Professional help has rather let me down due to me not looking like I live in a gutter and so I’m gonna have to hand over my bank card to him and go through cold turkey for myself and not for my family who are the best in the world to me but don’t fully understand

RIP Matthew. I hope you have found peace.

I was on heroin 5 years ago, I managed to quit with a mixture of personal determination and moving in with my brother 💪 🙂🙂

@flowpoi5864

Жыл бұрын

Good job bro opiates are trash

@valfletcher9285

Жыл бұрын

You are SOOOOOOOOOOOO Fortunate. Be blessed and please stay free from it. Your brother must be an awesome person.

@A.Rose.G

Жыл бұрын

Good brother...

Rest In Peace Matthew 🕊️🤍🕯️

Here from 2023 RIP! Gone before your time.

All my fellow recovered people, just know you are strong and that I'm legit proud of you.

@jessicamillslagle3203

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!... it's always nice to hear confirmation on a silent journey. Ditto to you my friend.

@flowpoi5864

Жыл бұрын

@@jessicamillslagle3203 🙏🙏🙏

@scottricci5063

Жыл бұрын

Reality ìs for ppl who can't handle drugs.

@Toll_Booth_Willie

Жыл бұрын

ODAAT!

@pinktights747

Жыл бұрын

@@scottricci5063 reality sucks, but I deal with it.

R.I.P. Matthew Perry 🙏

Interestingly, Matthew shares his low self-esteem and "never good enough" attitude and how drugs and alcohol helped him feel better. He doesn't share why he felt so terrible about himself and possibly who or what caused those feelings of shame. I guess someone in his past berated, scolded, or never gave him the accolades he deserved as a child. Most people don't become addicted to drugs or alcohol just for the sake of the high. They become addicted because they like the escape from reality or something painful within them. Matthew is sharing he has spent millions of dollars "trying to get sober", instead of sharing what is really going on inside him. Lastly, he comes from a famous family. He will probably not share some of the scars and wounds he carries because of past experiences. As Dr. Grande says, "It's only my opinion of what might be going on".

@SA-lz1vx

10 ай бұрын

This

@bombaybeach208

5 ай бұрын

Read his book, he explains everything.

A colon explosion sounds really bad!

My father was a functioning alcoholic and held down jobs for years when i was a kid in the 1970s thru late 1980s/early 90s. I always felt my father's drinking came about from losing his father to a car accident when he was about 8-9 years old. Back in the 40s there was no such thing as grief counseling. His widowed mother took him and his younger brother from all that they knew in upstate NY and moved into New York City's Little Italy where he stayed til the 60s. It was a very hard life for them. He told me he began drinking then, as a pre teen/teenager, to deal with the pain of losing his father, the uprooting, etc., and he had no male role models, but i believe he had a lifelong deep depression that if he possibly would've had treated with medicines he might've been able to tackle the alcohol. He finally stopped drinking on his own right around the time my mother passed and we finally started to have a relationship in the early 2000s, could really talk, after years of dysfunction/anger/rage/miserable family life. Then he died due to complications from the drinking/smoking 4 packs a day forever. I wish more people would get help now that it is available for mental health issues or addictions. I loved my father; i never hated him, but i did hate the alcoholic he became when he drank. I send blessings and prayers to everyone who is getting help for, or has gotten help for, their addictions and trying to recover their lives here. And also wishes to those still struggling that they may find a way to reach out for help, take that first step.

@MeganVictoriaKearns

Жыл бұрын

I just had to say something here because of the incredible coincidences with your dad and my granddad. He was born in 1934 and in 1943 his dad died at work in a bridge collapse. My grandpa was 9 with 3 sisters about 11, 6 and 4, and his mom was 8 months pregnant with his brother. He lost his beloved father as a young kid, which is just horrible for anyone, but what really caused him the most trauma (imo) was becoming the "man" of the family at NINE YEARS OLD! As you said, there weren't exactly grief counselors. Nobody took him aside for a few months and taught him a crash course in how to financially support your mom and siblings. There weren't truancy laws. He dropped out of school in 4th grade to WORK FULL TIME! Anyway, I wanted to say hey since there were similarities. My grandpa died at just 59, in 1993. He'd been sober for 15 years by then, but he died from health complications associated with working in Kentucky coal mines in the 40s and 50s. Yeah, they let 13 year olds work in coal mines. 🙄 Different world, wow.

😔 I have been sober now for about 3months. The way I came to understand my struggles is: I tend to low moods. Probably my body doesn't produce as many neurotransmitters (or hormones or whatever). I have some emotional disregulation. I feel negative emotions to deeply and I need to numb it. What has helped me this time around is CBT therapy, addictive voice recognition, and joining sober communities. Im also on antidepressants called SSRIs and, from my understanding, they are not addictive such as the stuff they use in the USA. It is still a mystery to me how Mathew Perry was able to do 10 seasons of Friends and lived to tell the tale. Im very glad he didn't pay the ultimate price. For the person who said Mathew should've get more insight before talking about it... "eff them" Mathew Perry is free to talk about his experience and point of view regardless of where he is in his journey. Maybe by opening up in this way he will find a sober community that works for him. Can this comment BE any longer!? 🤭 Thank you Dr Grande for talking about this and sharing your thoughts 🙏

@mikehuff9793

Жыл бұрын

CBT is the only way. Any behavior can be addictive. Nobody has an intervention due to the substance. Think about it. At EVERY intervention it’s the BEHAVIOR (generally seeking behavior) that is criticized. It is the BEHAVIOR surrounding the addict that’s the problem. With 10 years myself, i feel I’ve relapsed if I lose my temper. To me it’s just as bad as shooting up. Because I am relapsing into addict behavior, and the old me. CBT is the answer, and in my opinion the ONLY one that attacked the roots of the issue, and not just standard surface level abstinence training. Keep at it. It gets easier, I promise ❤️

@knittydragon7149

Жыл бұрын

One very small note, SSRIs are prescribed commonly in the USA. They are not addictive but stopping taking them abruptly leads to physical withdrawal, so they need to be stopped slowly, according to the Mayo Clinic. I live in the USA but I am not a medical professional of any kind.

@Janellabelle

Жыл бұрын

@@mikehuff9793 why is it that certain substances have a much higher rate of recovery from than others then if anything can be addicting?

@angela3524

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your comment. I’m looking for that thing that just clicks for me. Cuz I have had MANY bouts of sobriety it just never sticks unfortunately. Congratulations. I know this journey is a very difficult one. So we’ll done!

@dimarks444

Жыл бұрын

SSRIs are used in the USA. Our antidepressants aren’t addictive. I don’t have substance abuse problems but was reading replies in here and wanted to clear that up, in case there was any confusion.

Keith Morrison is one of my favorite narrators. I didn't know he was Perry's stepfather.

@northerngirl1637

Жыл бұрын

That was a big surprise to me!

@pageribe2399

Жыл бұрын

@@northerngirl1637 Ditto

@Jacksbox11

Жыл бұрын

Keith is another great Canadian.🇨🇦

@JW-vd4il

Жыл бұрын

This is the comment I was looking for. I was like, "What?!... Keith Morrison is Matthew Perry's Step-Dad?!" How did we not know that??? 😂 Big fan of both!

@elizabethpeterson455

6 ай бұрын

Keith Morrison always gave me the creeps and still does. I would try to escape this guy if he was my stepfather...

It’s astonishing how addiction is a sickness for some and a character flaw for others. He had support which is a blessing. Glad he’s in a position to help others.

@jessicamillslagle3203

Жыл бұрын

It's a tricky bitch of a topic. Those who are on the outside see it as a "will power issue". Like "you just got a 4th dwi, stop drinking and driving."... It's not so simple. One alcoholic drinks to blackout every night at home, the other is being very risky and driving in a blackout. The other camp say "alcoholism is a disease."... It's frustrating either way when you have a sibling who is an alcoholic.

@davidbonar5190

Жыл бұрын

i have a couple close relatives who are/were addicts. some addicts use drugs/alcohol as a coping mechanism for their character flaws, or an excuse for their character flaws (switching cause ad effect), or use their addiction as a shield against criticism so they don't have to change/adapt, or even for their emotionally numbed, remorseless, abusive, reckless, damaging behaviors towards others. "i can't help it because my addiction is a sickness! how dare you damage me further with your negative opinion! if you don't support me, YOU are the problem!" of course not every addict is malignant (some could be even considered benign), and mutually detrimental co-dependence often isn't a conscious process and not easilly recognized by the participants. but it does happen, and the extreme examples stand out more, even if they do not represent the whole

@terywetherlow7970

Жыл бұрын

@@davidbonar5190 Great comment. Needs to be read by those who are "stuck". I wish they would move past the imperfections of a.a. And embrace 100% the intention of Bill & submit to recovery. Those w. Hidden Trauma at this stage of our understanding are holding selves back imo. If u get my drift. Nothing worse than an unrecovered, "recoverer". (If this makes sense.)

@trybunt

Жыл бұрын

Well, even if people don't choose to be addicts, they are still responsible for their actions while being addicted. Addiction is a sickness, but that doesn't mean it's an excuse. It's not easy to change. It was certainly one of the hardest things I ever did, but I've been clean for 4 or 5 years now. I didn't just wake up one day and decide to change, it took the right circumstances to stop listening to that part of the brain that told me I couldn't do it for so long. Support from friends and family helped too, but ultimately it took a new perspective, a re-evaluation of what I thought was important in life. At the end of the day, I think holding addiction against someone isn't helpful for anyone. That doesn't mean they aren't responsible for their bad behaviour, it just means that i hate the addiction, not the addict for my own mental health. This just helps me lead with empathy. It's exactly the same way I feel about people with harmful beliefs. They didn't wake up one day and decide to be a bad person. That doesn't stop them being responsible, and sometimes when they can't take responsibility it's not worth continue the relationship, but thinking like this stops me from feeling bitter or hateful. I hate the belief, not the believer. Anyways, hopefully that makes sense. It's just the way I view the world, it's how I deal with my mistakes and others.

@rogerbrimner6836

Жыл бұрын

I call bs! I retired from alcohol 22 years ago because I needed to. I did it because a man takes care of business. A brat does whatever the they think they want to to screw things up. It’s not easy, but it’s also not an option. How many people can’t get pain medication because if junkie brats like this? What a jerk, like most if the “friends” cast…

I don't need a reason to drink.. Once I drink, I don't stop until I end up in hospital. Antabuse saves me every day. Not god, AA or therapy. Took me twenty years to get here, and I'm lucky to be alive and healthy.

@RealmCenter40

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations, that is not an insignificant mountain to climb. My step father passed away from alcoholism, it is not a pretty scene to watch play out.

@kingoreo3642

Жыл бұрын

Glad you found something that works for you.

@InspiredByReason

Жыл бұрын

I mean it's great that you've stopped, but really? No addressing the underlying psychological causes? I wouldn't recommend this approach to anyone.

@RealmCenter40

Жыл бұрын

@@InspiredByReason I entirely understand your sentiment but in some circumstances there is no fix for the underlying condition and you just have to work with what’s available to you. I am glad the OP found something even if it’s not a perfect case scenario.

@charlotteryan6398

Жыл бұрын

​@@RealmCenter40 I couldn't agree more. Sometimes you just need to find what works and go with it... not everyone has some deep undiscovered reason for using.

Looks like his bad behavior finally caught up with him. He was a talented man but you can't abuse your body with years of drug use and not expect some deadly outcome.

He hasnt been sober long enough to be able to give advice, His book is just another ego trip, now that he has "it all fiigured out". Ive been sober thirty years and dont have all the answers !

I’m curious to know your updated analysis since his death. Also, that is interesting how it is true what you said that he had always said that it was his disease and not his choice but yet he could stop taking drugs or alcohol for show purposes or because of his colon surgery. Never noticed that before until you pointed that out. Regardless, may he rest in peace. 😢

@kathrynbaker7529

6 ай бұрын

Me too!

Quite eerie watching this just one year on. Thank you for your thoughtful analysis, Dr. Grande. Hope you rest easy M.P knowing your courage to be fully honest was done just in time and will have ripple effects of hope for those struggling for decades to come.

_"... massive colon failure. He described it as an explosion. ... in a coma for two weeks..."_ Could not imagine that was a real thing!

I've been clean for 18 years. I had to change a lot of things in my life including who I hung out and how I dealt with my emotions. I recently quit smoking cigarettes which was possibly more difficult than the hard drugs I once used. For me, not using drugs means being honest with myself. If I bump into someone from my past who I used drugs with and they want to swap phone numbers and catch up for a coffee I'm not going to lie to myself and pretend catching up with that person is just about nostalgic good times, the truth is it's an opportunity to use drugs and hence I don't catch up or associate with drug users because its a risk to my sobriety. I'd love to have had this guys money and resources to help quit using drugs, but I had none of that except a really good counsellor and the reality of becoming a single mum which motivated me to give up drugs and change my life. Becoming a Christian also helped as I had a community to belong to and a moral compass to help with my decision making. Ultimately staying clean is about chosing not to use drugs and doing everything you need to be able to stay off drugs. It's not easy but ut is possible.

@elliesambrook5929

Жыл бұрын

Hang in there xx

@January.

Жыл бұрын

*who I hung out with *choosing

@juliefisk8066

Жыл бұрын

I have to agree that "reminiscing" about the "good old days," is not how I want to spend my time. I've been sober for 14 1/2 years. Before that, I was sober for 12, fell off the wagon for about 3 or 4 years. Quitting the second time was harder than the first. I have good days and bad. Sitting around talking about it does not help. Focusing on what's good in my life is what keeps me going. Congratulations on your 18 years. That's a wonderful thing. Thanks for sharing your story. I truly appreciate it!

10/30/22 - Thank you Dr. Grande. A person must really want to change. My 4 siblings and I were raised to fail in life; all of us were provided alcohol, cigarettes and sex by the time we were 12 - 16 . My father needed to be superior so crushing his own kids was very satisfying to him. All of us had alcohol issues and smoked. All of us except the youngest have kicked the bad habits. I did it cold turkey when CoVid 19 hit… I found the event very sobering!❤

@HeatherHolt

6 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine a parent ever wanting their children to suffer. It’s disgusting. My “mother” was an example of how not to be a parent.

His book will definitely take us inside of the mind of an active addict. He hasn't really had any time "looking in the rearview mirror" to give any sobriety wisdom or insights, but he'll definitely give us all a look at the darkness and lies of addiction. Hoping he continues to make progress with his attempts at abstinence. Substance abuse and addiction are terrible for the user and those they are close to.

He was injured someway and was prescribed a painkiller, he said this is what people must feel like normal.

Thank you for your video Dr. Grande. It’s very informative and I learn so much. I was married to my ex husband who for all his life suffered from alcoholism. As a wife, friend, and a mother to his children of a person suffering from substance abuse I led a life I wish upon no one. It has become somewhat easier now that we don’t live under the same roof but having to share children together it’s a constant presence in my life to this day. He’s the same age as Mathew Perry and like him has attended many programs throughout his life but non effective enough to help him quit for good. I think for some people unfortunately it’s a “demon” they will fight till the end.

@angela3524

Жыл бұрын

Very well said!!

@anomalousoddity

Жыл бұрын

From a sober alcoholic, you may like al anon if you haven't already tried it. All the solidarity and love to you x

@moonstruck562

Жыл бұрын

@@anomalousoddity thank you so much, I appreciate it. I did think about attending, when I was still in the marriage but unfortunately never did. I had no support for myself back then, no one really cared or put me first because everyone was always so wrapped up with him and his destructions. I was also negligent of myself because I had to keep my family together while he was in and out of jails, hospitals, programs; lost his job, his DL, etc. I forgot to take care of myself. I think it would have done me a lot of good to connect with ppl who went thru similar situations because it's a very lonely road when you're at the receiving end. My only solace was my faith.

@cheryl6021

Жыл бұрын

CBm be b GB GB JT v gf be be be be be be be be be be be be be be be off feel gf GB hanging g BFFs

It's a tragedy when a life is wasted. He had incredible opportunities that were lost.

@Driftwoodgeorge

Жыл бұрын

Not true, he is very successful and has lots of money and friends throughout his life.

@pamd6532

Жыл бұрын

@@Driftwoodgeorge I meant that he has not been able to beat this addiction

@Mint-kj9kw

6 ай бұрын

@@Driftwoodgeorge You have a warped definition of what success is. He himself said he was lonely. He had no family....no peace....no true joy...he lived a tormented, sad life.

@GameTime-yj6qv

6 ай бұрын

​@@Mint-kj9kwhe was very successful professionally, but no doubt would have reached higher heights with his addictions. He did not have success in personal life, physical, and mental health... that's where the addictions hurt him most.

@Mint-kj9kw

6 ай бұрын

@@GameTime-yj6qv Sure. But who cares if one is successful professionally if you have no true peace, joy, or health?????

I was addicted to friends growing up. All of the actors/actresses played their characters to perfection . Matthew is in my prayers. I screamed at " can this relationship BE anymore over" 😂😂😂😂☠️☠️☠️

Q Addiction demands "one final payment." Someone once said. 😢 Its 1 year later. The news. MATTHEW PERRY DIED. His death is currently under investigation 🔎 as he supposedly drowned in his jacuzzi. Q ❤

55 Vicodin a day? Vicodin has acetaminophen in it, you'd destroy your liver.

@inahandbasket288

Жыл бұрын

Or blow up your colon.

@kaynemccully5266

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! And top that off with alcohol, I find it hard to believe! That would kill your liver! I find that medically impossible! He's saying that to make it look like look what I overcame. Aren't I so great! I'm the poster boy! He would have had a liver transplant, or been dead! I don't buy it! He's a liar!

@Fcreceptor

Жыл бұрын

I took about 15 a day for 7 years. Sometimes more, I’m sure. Also Tylenol 3, Percocet. Whatever I could get. My liver didn’t seem to care but my triglycerides were always over 1,000. My labs are all normal now. It’s been about 17 years.

When I worked in Burbank as a make up artist one of my friends said that she went to one of Matthews meetings where he spoke on his addiction and she said that it helped her immensely and she had been clean and sober ever since❤ I think insight from people that have been through experiences can sometimes provide the tools that are needed. For example here on KZread I’m healing from my codependency with narcissist by watching videos from aware Narcissist, understanding why they do what they do has brought closure to my journey. Thank you for finally doing this video on Matthew I know we have been asking this of you for quite some time🙏

I just decided to get sober and have been clean for a little over 2 months now. My drug of choice is heavy marijuana use and alcohol. I’ve never felt better in my life and finally feel like I’m able to be the person I know I was meant to be. Started with heavy marijuana use at age 15, I am not 32. It’s been 17 years of daily use of marijuana and heavy daily use for the last 7 years. I’m so grateful for the support around me. There is a lot of work and healing to be done. Finally feeling excited for the future though.

@pinkvolo

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations!

@tricky92x

Жыл бұрын

I think it's insulting to equate being sober to being "clean." What the fuck does that even mean?

When people imply that because they and or many others have overcome addiction on their own others should be able as weĺl it really, realy frustrates me. Well people and circumstances are different. I remember a woman who said her husband took a drink his whole life was not an alcoholic(truth) but her siblings who drank a lot were weak. I wonder how it feels to be so judgmental.

10:13 - Truth! he ultimately did pay the ultimate price

Friends aren't like they used to be. I blame Social Media.

I’m sober 14 years through AA and a higher power. I have friends with 50 years of recovery through the program. It often works for people who want it, not necessarily those who need it.

@gabrielleangelica1977

6 ай бұрын

One day at a time...💛

I noticed he was a stepchild though and he gave a CLASSIC alcoholic statement. Never knew if he was quite good enough, or fit in exactly.

I am a psychologist and addiction is my area of work. I have been doing it for around 3 or 4 years now. In my experience, addiction starts often as a choice but later it DISGUISES as a choice. Some addicts can see it's not a choice and recognize that they can't stop taking the substance but most others, mainly those that still haven't experienced an overdose or other hard consequences, can't see it. They start creating an impressive structure of explanations and beliefs that justify their "choice" to keep taking the drug. But I think that's the drug getting inside their mind, and taking control. Long term addicts dedicate their entire life to the substance they are addicts to. They take dozens of hours weekly to prepare the consume and to think the ways they are gonna save it, planning future doses, etc, it's a slow process to get there but as the drug takes control they lose their power almost completely. They lose the ability to choose. They can't. They think they can, often, but they can't do it. "The drug chooses", so to say. That's why to keep them in check we have to create plans that completely suppress the drug, not from taking but from their minds. And that's hard and arguably impossible. That doesn't mean that it's impossible to rehabilitate a drug addict, far from that, they can regain a lot of control over their lives... as long as you can keep them far enough from the substance of addiction. But what I mean is that even if they don't consume the drug again in all their lives, they will be very weakened against it, it will be forever a huge danger. They (probably) will never go back to be the same they used to be, the drug is waiting. It's a fight for their entire lives. That's why I say that nobody, NOBODY can defeat the drug alone. Everybody needs as much support as possible from friends, or family. If there are none of them, I don't know. My prognostic would be very, very negative. I am talking about the so called "hard drugs" in my country, like cocaine, but beware because my opinion of drugs like tobacco or alcohol is not much better. Even if society accepts them. A life without drugs may be unrealistic (we have been smoking longer than history), but we should teach our youth how to remain in control instead of pretending that there are good and bad drugs. Drugs aren't good or bad, they are dangerous, and the best way to win against danger is getting to understand it.

@laynecurry7960

Жыл бұрын

Thank you

I started listening to his story (audiobook) and the longer his narrating went on, I saw A LOT of similarities to one of my exes, who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder and alcohol and drug abuse. He, too was in hospital, b/c of pancreatitis from drinking way too much. I'm pretty happy, we ended the relationship - it was a constant drama.

You only need to look at him to see the damage it has done to him

@kaynemccully5266

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I know he's older now but he looks like s***!

You know you've got an addiction when you go to open houses to score.

@pageribe2399

6 ай бұрын

Really!

@ChrisBarnette-zk8iy

6 ай бұрын

@@pageribe2399 i think so? Let me check , you hold your breath I'll be back soon.

Every substance user I've ever known also has a mental health issue. Some hide it better than others.

"Recovery " is about more than just discontinuing the use of substances.

@sandybowers5085

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely!!!!

I had absolutely no idea that he is a fellow Canadian or that that legend Keith Morrison is his step dad

Matthew's book comes out on November 1st, which is, Dia de los Muertos, [Day of the Dead] in Mexico.

what happened to MP ? He grew up with no discipline or guidance, no father

I think the “disease” of addiction is nonlinear. During times of sobriety, addictive behavior can manifest through things like spending, sex and food.

@rebeccagreen2310

Жыл бұрын

Not a "disease", addiction is a Choice.

@stitchgrimly6167

Жыл бұрын

@@rebeccagreen2310 That is just a blatantly false and damaging thing to say. I think there's a few million people in the US alone that would strongly disagree with that sentiment.

@Mint-kj9kw

6 ай бұрын

@@stitchgrimly6167 Nope....not false or damaging. I found this in a medical journal: Addiction does not meet the criteria specified for a core disease entity, namely the presence of a primary measurable deviation from physiologic or anatomical norm.2 Addiction is self-acquired and is not transmissible, contagious, autoimmune, hereditary, degenerative or traumatic. Treatment consists of little more than stopping a given behaviour. True diseases worsen if left untreated. Addiction is NOT a disease.

There are a few that simply can’t quit whatever it is they are addicted to. Unfortunately it catches up with them eventually-looks fade, ability to function decreases, love interests do not last, friends leave, etc. (My opinion only.).

Wow, I had no idea he had an ostomy! Sounds like he had a very scary medical event w his colon and I feel awful he went thru so much trauma and pain. 😔 Having a colostomy is a very challenging adjustment and often viewed as a negative thing. However, It's an amazing life saving surgery, and it's incredible the body can thrive without several feet of organ. I have an ileostomy and I'm grateful everyday for it, even though I have my share of complications with it. I hope he's doing ok.

@annarose4828

Жыл бұрын

I had colorectal cancer l have a bag for life. I'm grateful 2 be alive with my bag and all my problems with it. Thank you for sharing.

People use alcohol,cocaine etc for filling a hole in their sole.They just want to be happy and freed from the misery lifes throws at you.And life doesn't care if you are rich,poor or having a high Intelect or big talent.Getting rid of a adiction takes courage,hardship and losing friends sometimes. Stay strong fellow travellers .

@lilly5157

6 ай бұрын

Soul. Unless you meant worn out shoes.

I just saw you did do another video on Matthew Perry. Thanks! I'm going to watch that now.

My first sons name is Alex because I saw Mathew’s movie with Salma. I love that name ever since I heard it.

Great analysis, as always! The insight about people just clicking with certain drugs but not others is super interesting. It makes me wonder if the drug one really "clicks" with is actually treating some underlying brain software glitch, albeit at a disproportionate expense to the body as a whole.

@YourPartnerInCrime

Жыл бұрын

This is a really interesting idea! Thank you for sharing.

@heatherlouise814

Жыл бұрын

that is often the case!

@sosa9754

Жыл бұрын

I honestly feel like that's exactly right. I was addicted to opiods for years, then managed to get about 18 months sober before relapsing for a few years. Eventually I got onto suboxone, and as soon as I came out of the withdrawal phase, it was like something clicked in my brain. I've been on it for 4 years now and haven't even had a single thought of using any drug. I used to think I wouldn't make it through the day when I was sober but not on suboxone. It really saved me and allowed me to live a normal life.

@kandi2047

Жыл бұрын

When a teen, I clicked w/ a certain "solution" that made me feel "normal" but had enough self control to know when to stop the child's play. I was later diagnosed with narcolepsy, which made it all make sense. I've now been on a prescribed similar "solution" for 20yrs and no addiction problems causing me to want excess. However, I do suffer addiction symptoms if I don't have refills on time, but that rarely happens.

@agostinodublino1387

Жыл бұрын

"treating" or "triggering"? because then some are able to live good without that substance

I recall the media announcing circa 1999 that he was in treatment for Vicodin and alcohol addiction. I did in fact notice Matthew Perry appeared intoxicated on the tv show in the late 90's so that announcement simply confirmed it. Some even say he looked intoxicated in the promo for the reunion show in the last year. It's a blessing for him he has the money to battle this disease. My sincere prayers go out to him and members of his support group.

What you said about ppl taking a single drug and it altering their life is very sobering (no pun intended). I didn’t realize it was that easy to become addicted

I read once that the personality types that seek fame, and want fame really bad, are also, often, usually the personality types that, if or when they get fame, don't handle it very well.

Maybe "60 to 70 mishaps" are "only" to Matthew because there was a time when he used drugs every day, as would be common for an addiction to narcotics. When compared to using every single day, what would be 365 times a year, or 7300 times in 20 years, 60-70 times in a period of 20 years appears not much. Not my opinion, I just try to figure what he may have meant with that statement.

It’s insane to think how many painkillers he would pop before each excellent acting performance. Sooo highly functional

Thank you for your insight into addiction, it is difficult to understand for outsiders

Addicts get so much attention and are catered to, but people in chronic pain aren't even acknowledged. Why is that?

@Fcreceptor

Жыл бұрын

How are addicts catered to? I worked in psychiatry for 10 years and hardly any of them have anything. They’d lost their jobs, family, and were often homeless. They received Subutex or Ativan for opioid or alcohol withdrawal, respectively, then discharged after a few days. We sent them to detox facilities that were inhabited by other addicts who had no desire to quit, often using at the facility. I don’t think people in chronic pain are ignored. The problem is that many chronic pain patients expect to have access to medications that truly reduce their pain. Opioids actually result in allodynia and hyperalgesia, which is an opposing action the drug originally meant to treat. Opioids are short-term treatments for moderate to severe pain. Of the category of medications we have for pain, gabapentinoids, anticonvulsants, tricyclic antidepressants, NSAIDs, muscle relaxants and even THC, all have potential deleterious effects. Even when someone with chronic pain finds a decent treatment, tachyphylaxis ensues and the effectiveness starts to wane. I think it’s a misnomer to assume they are polar opposite in terms of medical or society recognition.

@VideoSaySo

Жыл бұрын

@@Fcreceptor Your experience with chronic pain is one from the outside. Your books tell you one thing but when you have to endure the suffering of crushed nerves... and the only thing that allows you to bathe or take care of yourself is by prescription. When you know this first hand and a bunch of indoctrinated assholes with zero experience keep pushing that narrative of the evil opiates. I knew people personally that opted for a bullet because the guidelines established didn't put one iota of consideration towards people in permanent agony. Addicts are catered to because they are handed treatment options. People in pain get their lifeline yanked with no taper and no alternatives. The media constantly yammers on about addiction. Nobody touches the plight of people who could even get off of disability if allowed proper treatment.

@Fcreceptor

Жыл бұрын

@@VideoSaySo Here’s where the experience and knowledge exceeds boundaries the lay person can’t grasp. I was addicted to opioids for 7 years. I had and do have chronic pain. I was originally addicted to Fioricet, then a myriad of depressants for pain management. Then I decided it wasn’t working for me. Having no motivation or energy to work and become successful or overly productive got a little old. I cleaned up and finished school. My first field was psychiatric care. Between experience and academia, I was able to understand why most exogenous chemicals can be harmful. When you work in medicine, especially an ER or psychiatric field, you see tons of med-seeking. It gets old. Are doctors “indoctrinated” to avoid prescribing addictive medications? Absolutely. They are trained to see benzodiazepines, stimulants, opioids, and certain abused drugs as taboo. Are there doctors who think this thinking is ridiculous? Absolutely. Carlat had a July 17th podcast referring to the attitudes toward BZDs, admitting it’s ludicrous to avoid them. However, opioids have many adverse consequences on hormones, dopamine levels, and other aspects of life that can be deadly. Someone with sleep apnea, which is highly common, is very susceptible to dying on opioids. I can see both sides. I was an addict and now hand these meds out in the hospital. I have chronic pain. I also recognized how opioids were making me feel worse and exacerbating pain. If someone is that fixated on opioids, go to a addictionologist and tell them you have a fentanyl habit. You’ll get a good fix of Methadone or Suboxone to manage your pain. I also worked with an NP who specialized in pain management. Most of her patients were dirty (+UDS for meth, THC, et cetera), which was a contractual violation between their management program. She’d been assaulted three times for refusing to continue a non-compliant regimen. Kinda hard to feel sorry for chronic pain patients who just choose the junkie lifestyle.

@honey-feeney9800

Жыл бұрын

@@Fcreceptor you’ve come a long way. I’m in pan management . I avoided opioids for 28 years by using NSAIDS and topical ointments , CBD cream, etc. But, I developed a peptic ulcer , most likely from too much NSAIDS . I had a BILLIROTH 1 surgery . But, then developed a huge ventral hernia . I had the hernia repaired but then developed a small bowel obstruction . I have a disabled back, going back to 1990 which is when I began daily NSAIDS . I also have some renal damage, too. NSAIDS are no longer a choice for me . in my case I’m grateful I’m in pain management . I’m given other meds that are not NSAIDS. What I’m trying to say is that some people in pain must resort to a legally prescribed opioid , see the doctor every month , etc. The old fashioned black and white line of thinking doesn’t work for everyone . Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts on the subject .

I don’t know about working to make Friends, but if one was forced to watch Friends I’m sure they would turn to all sorts of substances to escape the torture.

@bthomson

Жыл бұрын

Sorry but I agree. Did not like that show. I was a "Seinfeld" fan.

@BrisLS1

Жыл бұрын

Hated it. I was that age when it was on, and it was all just too Three’s Company for me. Young men do no work, drown in beautiful women, struggle with petty pitiful drama. No thanks.

@Omar_E11

Жыл бұрын

It's a great show. Especially the first few seasons.

@chynnadoll3277

Жыл бұрын

Same here. I never found most sitcoms funny, except for Bob Newhart’s shows.

@AlexAvey-yk5mw

6 ай бұрын

I couldn’t stand Friends. Loved Fraser and The Nanny when it was on and still do. Also quite enjoyed Three’s Company back in the day.

I am a recovering alcoholic, sober 4 months and never looking back. I am so thankful for CBT and treatment, which let me see that I was using to cover and numb my emotions. I knew that was what I was doing, but having to confront life and reality was scary and it got easier to opt out. Even what should have been and would have been good things, the need to use as a motivator got worse. I have met many addicts of all sorts, and they tend to be the most sensitive and emotional people who struggle with dealing with emotional pain. Help is out there and your life will be so so much better ❤

I have so many thoughts... I became addicted to a substance when I was 19. I lost a year of my life. I quit cold turkey. That was 18 1/2 years ago. I have had 3 slips. Each time just reinforced that I am addicted and a junky. I will always be. I had used many things that just were fun. Then I used "the thing". Something in my brain clicked, that was the thing. I hate the actual drug, it's absolutely awful. I like being able to reach other addicts and give hope. Getting off junk can and will happen if you want to do it. You have to be ok with the boredom of sobriety and then you will find happiness in life.

@pfeifferjd

Жыл бұрын

Powerful statement.

@scottricci5063

Жыл бұрын

Boredom of sobriety? Sounds excruciating. I guess if you got to be sober, there's always sex. That will kill boredom.

@mikehuff9793

Жыл бұрын

@@scottricci5063 seeking to replace one behavior with another is typical addict-brain thinking

@gabriellevautour23

Жыл бұрын

Don't call yourself a junky!!! That's such an unnecessary shameful concept to put on yourself. You're doing great and you were able to fight this horrible thing that took a hold of you.

@gailaz10

Жыл бұрын

“Boredom of sobriety” is such an accurate statement. I struggle with that daily but the boredom is so much better than the uncontrollable chaos of addiction

It's amazing he's still alive 😯

@Mint-kj9kw

6 ай бұрын

Not anymore...

I had a similar situation as him. Although I grew up poor. The one thing that saved me was that I have a son to live for. Been clean for four years now.

Thank you for the second video today, Dr. Grande!💕 Substance addition is a prison that deeply affects not only the person with the addition but also family and friends. I hope he can get the help he needs to stay sober. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Dr. Grande!❤

I can relate to the clicking with a certain drug so well. For me it was ecstasy. The first time I did e I felt like a part of me that had been missing was finally found. I felt like I finally knew what complete and total happiness was when I took that drug. Perhaps because I felt depressed most of my life this is why it felt so right. I did it a lot of times after the first time but it was never quite the same. Still good but never as great. Luckily I moved a couple years later and didn't really have access to it anymore, likely stopping a full-blown addiction to the drug.

@Laggu

Жыл бұрын

Never heard of a drug clicking before. It had to have been an incredible feeling finding your lost self like that but that's what makes it so scary. Glad you're not fully under its control.

@StrangeArrangements

Жыл бұрын

I never trusted happiness from a pill.

@DennisNeijmeijer

Жыл бұрын

@@StrangeArrangements All happieness is chemistry. It doesnt matter where it comes from. Humans are complicated machines and theres nothing special about bodily produced identital molecules.

@MrsRitchieBlackmore

Жыл бұрын

Wow. I have always been scared to try X for that exact reason. I'm glad you managed to escape from it! The drugs I instantly CLICKED with were Adderall/coke. OMG. Just absolute 💯. I would probably be a meth head if I continued down that path. For some reason, opioids do NOT click AT ALL. I hate the way they make me feel. Obviously this is not at all the case for a great many people, and I wonder what their brain responds to that mine doesn't. It's all super interesting to think about.

That open house method seems like so much work. That's not unusual for an addict, but I imagine wealthy addicts likely do things a bit differently.

Your commentary on this case highlights how complex addiction truly is! After years of study and experimentation, even the "experts" are divided on the causes and the treatments. I think there is no "one size fits all" answer. My brother became addicted to alcohol as a teenager. He was able to function in stealth mode for most of his adult life, fooling even family members. It all caught up with him as the poison shortened his life, and he died at age 48. Reading some of his journals later, we found actual "love notes" he wrote to alcohol. He could not imagine living without it. Even bad consequences, like losing his license, losing his job, and finally losing his health, could not convince him to give it up and seek help. He was an incredibly talented, sweet, educated and intelligent man, and it broke our hearts to lose him so prematurely. Obviously, alcohol provided him with something that the rest of his life could not. I hope further study can help us finally get the answers we need to fight addiction successfully. The collateral damage done when a person is an addict, and the cost to society as well as to the individual, is so high. Thanks for your insights- again!❤

TY Dr Grande. I'm sure you already know about the arrest last Friday, in the Delphi Murders case. I'll be waiting for your thoughts on it.

@bbe3034

Жыл бұрын

Yes. I just googled it. The guy lived 5 minutes from the trail. Was married, and had a daughter. He worked at CVS as a Pharmacy technician. News conference at 10am tomorrow. The police were at his home last week digging up his fire pit. I’m assuming they were looking for evidence, possibly the girls clothes and belongings. Just so heartbreaking! Prayers for their families. 🙏✝️

@rullmourn1142

Жыл бұрын

@@bbe3034 ..Yarp, I knew all that, except about the fire pit. I've followed the case from the very beginning. I told Grande about it because about 2 years ago he said this case would probably never be solved. The technology we have to solve crimes these days is amazing, and I'm waiting on the press conference today. Greetings from Texas, stay safe,

Very good video, even more informative than the one made a few days ago in the wake of Matthew Perry's death.

Dr. Grande, You truly shine on this topic and presented it with great sensitivity towards both subjects: Matt Perry and addiction. Nice work💯

Good evening again, Dr. Grande😊

RIP💕

Interesting analysis, Dr. Grande. And I agree that a person with so many relapses can hardly be classified as an expert or authority on drug abuse. And, since he compares himself to "Batman," how many live has he really saved? His own, perhaps?

@bufordhighwater9872

Жыл бұрын

Relapse is part of recovery and isn't a factor in determining whether or not he's an authority on drug addiction. However, most addicts, recovering or actively using, have enough first-hand experience to be qualified as experts in their own life and what it is/was like for them to go through addiction and recovery. Judging Perry and what he has to say about addiction for his relapses minimizes his experiences, his story, and his recovery. It shows a lack of insight into addiction and recovery and a lack of empathy for someone who is doing what he can to get better.

I wonder if he had gotten some bad news or experienced some health issues he didn’t want to tell anyone about and that’s why he did the reunion show and wrote the book and talking about how he wanted to be remembered. I feel like he knew his time was closer than we realized. The way his dad had just come to visit him and the look on his face in the picture. I haven’t cried like that about a celebrity death since Princess Diana. He truly was “our” friend and forever loved💜

Im still watching your speculations on 'Friends The Reunion' and 'The Grinch' over and over again, because they're the rare occasions where we can listen to Dr.Grande's analyses on funny, happy events! Matthew Perry suffered a lot, I wish only the best and healthy life style for him. And may I suggest a case real quick?? I really want to hear your take on 'Rudolf the Reindeer', it's been bothering me ever since I was 4yo, I don't think Santa and others apologized to him property, for making fun of him. Could you plz consider doing the video someday, I know it's silly but I also think it's important to some people. Thank you Dr.Grande for for reading this!☺️💙❤️

@moonstruck562

Жыл бұрын

The Grinch video is my All-Time favorite of all Dr. Grande’s videos. It’ll be the first thing I re-watch on Christmas.

@amla88

Жыл бұрын

Never watched the Grinch analysis! I will watch it now :-) thanks

@MikeSmith-cn6ub

Жыл бұрын

You my grind are the one that should be on the poster for please don't turn out like.

@bthomson

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Moon Struck Absolutely! The Grinch video is PRICELESS!

@angela3524

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I love that idea! ❤