“substance abuse is a greedy conspirator that frequently demands one final payment.” Thank you Dr. Grande 🍂

@heatherstephens9295

7 ай бұрын

So true - how many times do we see this happen. He tried so valiantly to succeed in sobriety, that just shows you how difficult it can be 😢RIP Matthew ❤

@HGCUPCAKES

7 ай бұрын

One final payment? That means the only ones that pass are users. So, if you don’t use you’re never going to die? Utter nonsense! After he was vaxxed, his heart suffered issues and he said in an interview his heart stopped for 5 mins. This time, he’d been playing sport, then he passed with cardiac arrest. You can research this yourself. Look up his old interview. Hear it from his own words. Not from some bloke just speculating. He’s actually insulting Matthew and you! Matthew hasn’t even been gone for 48hrs and you all are being incredibly insulting. Hopefully the way this creator treats people will also be reflected with his final payment, as others will also be able to speculate about him. Fairs fair.

@HGCUPCAKES

7 ай бұрын

@@heatherstephens9295he didn’t die from a drug overdose. How incredible cruel and insulting can you be?! Hopefully the way you have treated matThew, the same is done to you on his passing. Then saying rip.

@pocho689

7 ай бұрын

@@HGCUPCAKESWOW, how you can misconstrue what was said is insane and sad. Do some research on addiction and you will understand what Dr. Grande is saying.

@marytataryn5144

7 ай бұрын

epic

I’d like to take a moment to appreciate Dr Grande’s work ethic. It’s second to none. Thanks Doc Edit: a shame some people in the comments feel so aggrieved towards the praising of others

@bubbabroad9051

7 ай бұрын

I hope he sees his family enough ❤

@dee2973

7 ай бұрын

My Dad drank everyday and had done so everyday since he was a teenager The last thing I said to Dad was we don't want to find you on the couche. Guess what we found him on the couche. Like Dad I believe that Mathew Perry, his body just shut down. Such sadness really

@ilovemycat___

7 ай бұрын

@@dee2973 I’m so sorry 😞

@kateashby3066

7 ай бұрын

Work ethic? What about the ethics of analyzing a man who hasn’t been dead for 24 hrs just for clicks?

@wanyatelborn

7 ай бұрын

Ok calm down

He not only struggled with addiction but he really battled it. He continued seeking help despite numerous setbacks and did not give up on himself. That must be extremely hard to do. May he find the peace he longed for.

@Amanda.Marie40

7 ай бұрын

He was sober no substances played into his death

@pedrocols

7 ай бұрын

Not battling is also an option.

@jodysanders6445

7 ай бұрын

The “ learn to love your addiction “ option…those who can pull it off are special people (to me)

@dilekavan5796

7 ай бұрын

@@Amanda.Marie40 depression

@redacted9990

7 ай бұрын

@@Amanda.Marie40yes but are you really of the opinion that decades of pain killer addiction and Alcoholism didn’t lead to his early death?

My son in law lost his 20+ year struggle with addiction on 10-13-2023. He had been doing so well for the past few months, after a couple of near misses. This last time, no one got to him in time with Narcan. He leaves behind 3 daughters, the youngest being my 7 year old granddaughter. Take this shit seriously, folks, it can kill you.

@LDiamondz

7 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss, and his family. I've had to give narcan to a loved one twice. Addiction is so insidious. Keeping you all in my prayers. ❤

@josephbishara4791

7 ай бұрын

Wow!! He died just a few days ago after a 20+ year struggle with addiction. Sorry for your loss. I'm sure he fought hard.

@Gothchops

7 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss and pain 💔 Sending you and your family love and prayers xx 🙏🕊💕

@Alfakkin

7 ай бұрын

Such a sad story ❤

@wingnut71

7 ай бұрын

So sorry 😢.

No ads, no long introductions, no fluff. Just gets right to business. As real as it gets! Love this dudes channel

@alec7364

7 ай бұрын

I had an ad right off the bat

@jasonbrady1464

7 ай бұрын

@@alec7364oh. I didn’t hear him advertising other company’s. My bad

@user-eu3qy8uf7f

7 ай бұрын

Exactly! Right to the point. You can tell many of these u tubers are talking in circles to make the videos longer. I guess they get more money that way.

I’m an addict and I know I could never handle being famous , I’ll have 5 years sober in 2 weeks , I’m still dealing with the aftermath of drug and alcohol abuse.. rest in peace Matthew perry you will be missed 😢💔

@kateroth7154

7 ай бұрын

Congratulations on your sobriety! Well done!

@Coffeeinthecourtroom

7 ай бұрын

Amazing. Congrats.

@pamharrison8348

7 ай бұрын

5 Years, that is fantastic. Lot's of hard work there, well done!

@intorainbowzOG

7 ай бұрын

Congrats on your sobriety!!!🎉

@Donnazephyr12

7 ай бұрын

Look after yourself. You have done magnificent work. I wish for you safety and contentment.

I believe that after all of the opiates and alcohol he ingested over his lifetime, his organs were compromised. He could have had a spontaneous heart attack, especially after the physical activity of 2 hours of pickleball and then relaxing in a hot tub. I hope he didn’t succumb to his addiction one more time. I hope he can now find the happiness he sought and rest in peace. 😔

@LDiamondz

7 ай бұрын

I thought the same thing. He also had COPD, which probably played a role, especially after 2 hours of pickleball. So sad.

@MrDpbazan1955

7 ай бұрын

He joins a long list of celebrity and show biz folk who battled demons and addiction. Even Johnny Carson was a freak they say. Fame doesn't eliminate anyone from self destruction.

@markdraine3571

7 ай бұрын

Agreed. He had played pickleball earlier and was in good place .. A female friend said he was 100% sober the day before. Like you point out, the cumulative effects of 55 Vicodin a day and ton of alcohol, is difficult to measure ..Probably just worked the heart in hot tub too much after pickleball .No drugs found, so far no meth or. Fentanyl initially determined to be in his system. Always possible but sounds somewhat unlikely .

@schrecksekunde2118

6 ай бұрын

opioids don't harm any organs. alcohol is a different poison but you also have to consume vast amounts over decades for a health problem.addicts don't die from the substance but from the conditions they're forced to consume them in. since for example my country has a great needle exchange program and treats people with more respect our rates of HIV are close to zero where before it was a starting health crisis. give them clean tools and clean drugs in the quantities they obviously need them and there's absolutely no reason why anyone would get sick from it. i hope the USA can get to accepting therapy one day so your society doesn't have to watch hundreds of thousands of people suffer. it works everywhere else so it should work there too.

@KaraLey98

5 ай бұрын

OMG he certainly aged-as far as his looks go..

Matty said if he ever had facial hair, you would know he was using. He was very well aware of the demons he was fighting and said he would give up all he had achieved to not be addicted. He had some bitterness towards his parents, the lack of attention and the bad example from his father for behaving as if alcohol was the best part of his day, but he still loved them very much. He had a good life full of interesting experiences and good friends, thank you for the inspiration, Matty!

@maryrankin9869

7 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing that piece about his parents. I always say it starts with foundation and then formation. The root causes always intrigue me. Not to say that it is still chronic,genetic and lifestyle.

My husband used to be a comic. Every comedian we knew was either depressed or deeply troubled in some way. They all said their childhood and life had caused trauma that they coped with humor.

@bnic9471

7 ай бұрын

It is amazing how many comedians have that dark side. The old podcast Mental Illness Happy Hour interviewed hundreds of them.

@SteeleMagnolia

7 ай бұрын

Growing up from a severely dysfunctional family, where alcohol was the major player with my parents, along with our mother's NPD, was a daily hell for my five siblings and I. My own survival technique was using humor to de-escalate the upcoming storms of parental rages. Robin William's death hit me hard, and from his own story I learned that he suffered with a life-long depression as well. The role that some of us had to play, as children, set us up for so many life struggles, but humor got me thru so much of it.

@rachell8661

7 ай бұрын

I was going to say. Funny people tend to battle a lot of inner demons. It’s horribly sad. A lot of them have addiction issues they have to overcome. Most comics tend to be sober. RIP Matthew, you may have passed young but you lived a full life and leave behind a legacy.

@peregrino9154

7 ай бұрын

@@rachell8661Most comics tend to be sober?

@maryrankin9869

7 ай бұрын

Maybe?

Thank you Dr. Grande for this lovely, sympathetic & articulate analysis of Mathew Perry. ❤

@The_other_Jen

7 ай бұрын

Yes, agreed. Thank you ❤

@marksandy2837

7 ай бұрын

Yes, really well said, non judgemental and appreciative of what M Perry brought to a huge audience, laughter and hope xx

@carolynmorris7303

7 ай бұрын

R.I.P. Mathew

@glassonion5474

7 ай бұрын

Sympathetic?? How? Pathetically disrespectful and a lame grab for likes.

@marthadgreen8216

7 ай бұрын

Thank You Dr Grande. For your insight. Mathew was so talented and special Friend. Matthew lived and died in such pain. Life is cruel. e is cruel.

Your evaluation of Matthew Perry was flawless , sensitive and poignant. Thank you doctor for your wonderful tribute to Matthew.

I was halfway through his book and feeling inspired by him, as a person in recovery myself. I found out my friend who took me to my first meeting passed away from an overdose Saturday evening as well. I'm feeling very sad and empty and disappointed today, but it reminded me why I need to stay on the path that I am. Thank you, Matthew, for giving me inspiration and motivation for a life without substances. I know you wanted to be remembered for the people that you helped--I am one of those people, and I will never forget. Thank you.

@Laura-tp8wz

7 ай бұрын

Thank you…you inspired me with your post. Will keep you in my prayers. 🕊️

@hara3435

7 ай бұрын

The very feelings one covers up with substance. It wont kill you to experience those feelings, substances Will.

@LDiamondz

7 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear about your friend. Overdose deaths seem to leave a special kind of hell for the loved ones left behind. Stay strong. ❤

@ItsKrma00

7 ай бұрын

Lovely post, thank-you.

@brittneytrine6325

7 ай бұрын

Prayers! I lost my children’s father to a over dose in march. It suck’s. I have to use the pain to fuel my own sobriety. Stay strong and keep going! We got this

Could I *be* any more sad?? RIP Matthew. You worked through so many obstacles and made us smile so much

@martinsulat697

7 ай бұрын

He was a SELF GRATIFYING RICHIE-RICH ass-hole...

@martinsulat697

7 ай бұрын

Who earned WAY too much money for being a TALENTLESS boob...

@Citizen1910

7 ай бұрын

Did you know him? No. You knew what he portrayed.

@bthomson

7 ай бұрын

And?

@Citizen1910

7 ай бұрын

@@bthomson crying over a fictional character. Stay in reality. An addict is manipulative and not someone you want to be around.

This feels personal because he is like the sweetest little brother you could ever have. The best guy next door. The nicest guy looking for a true love. His family and friends must be be devastated. Condolences to those who enjoyed him as part of their lives.

@annap6992

7 ай бұрын

Agree 100% with your comments 👍 ❤

@MsCaroline68

7 ай бұрын

Completely agree! I’ve had a crush on him for YEARS and I loved the crew from “Friends” but he was my favorite. I honestly feel like I’ve lost a close friend. I’ve watched them every night for almost two decades and don’t think I missed an episode before the show ended. This isn’t just Chandler I’m crazy about, it’s Matty Perry… such a talented actor and comedian and an upfront honest sweet soul. This one hurts… bad. 💔

@jamesdellaneve9005

7 ай бұрын

Isn’t that something? Everyone loved the guy. And he had his demons his entire life.

@flyingfrogperson9200

7 ай бұрын

@velvetbees I guess you missed that moment he trashed fellow actors and wished Keanu Reeves was dead for no reason at all. You People should stop deffending drug addicts and narcissists.

@MelisJoy

7 ай бұрын

Love this 💔😞🙏

People must realize that addiction or substance abuse is not the problem but is only a symptom of an underlying problem.

Dr. Grande, I've commented a few times about how brilliant I think you are and how much I enjoy your spot-on analyses of different cases. On this one, I want to say how much I appreciated your compassion towards Perry. Without saying so outright, you made it clear that you're quite familiar with the characters on "Friends" and that Chandler is your favorite. Given your dry, witty and sometimes-sarcastic sense of humor, it's obvious why. Thank you for handling this case with so much empathy and such great insight into why so many of us loved Matthew Perry and thought of him as a friend despite not knowing him personally.

@LizCowanSC

7 ай бұрын

I loved his description of each of the characters and how he highlighted both their good and bad traits. Except Rachel. Ouch. 😅

Mathew Perry was also a playwright. He wrote and starred in “The End of Longing” a play about addiction and recovery. He was an amazing talent and a decent human being. He was an addict in recovery and was very open about it. RIP dear soul.

"The one where we all lost a Friend" 💔 Matthew was an incredibly talented actor, it's sad he couldn't find peace in his life. Thanks Dr. Grande for the graceful analysis.

@bthomson

7 ай бұрын

" Graceful" good word.

@ambivalist

7 ай бұрын

😭

As someone who has suffered with substance abuse for years, Dr. Grande just terrified me beyond words. Wow, that was a brutal analysis on the fate of former (and present day) substance abusers...absolutely brutal, unfortunately not incorrect. Lovely 😞 edit: wow, really impressed with the empathy and respect expressed by Dr. Grande, good job (and highly educational video as well).

@paisleydreamzz

7 ай бұрын

every sunrise is a new beginning.

@valleygirl2530

7 ай бұрын

I remember the “puzzling” mantra given me years ago by my therapist: “You’ll keep doing what you’re doing until you don’t need to do it anymore.” She refused to elaborate and told me “One of these days you’ll get it “. I had relationship addiction problems. I GOT IT.

@annjepsen1621

7 ай бұрын

​@@valleygirl2530 Timing has a lot to do with it, you have to be ready to get better. Forcing that process never helps.

@halasipipacs

7 ай бұрын

The man was an only child. His parents divorced when he was one. Already two adverse affects. Got rich and famous and had no family of his own, nothing he did later compared to the success of Friends. Rich with no purpose in life. Recipe for early death. None of those Friends actors really did anything of consequence after the show and none of them seem happy. I don't think this is unusual. I think this is typical of most successful tv shows.

We all feel like we lost a friend. Thank you so much for the kind overview of his life

A tortured soul who gave the world joy and laughter. RIP Matthew. Soar with the angels.

@tonib.3016

7 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤ lovely beautiful comment

I think it’s even more remarkable that Matthew was able to act in such an incredible way and touch our hearts whilst battling addictions.

@karenneill9109

7 ай бұрын

So many great comedians are tortured souls.

@AmariMarvelous

7 ай бұрын

​@@karenneill9109 Robin Williams come to mind.

@karenneill9109

7 ай бұрын

@@AmariMarvelous Yes, absolutely.

@valleygirl2530

7 ай бұрын

Drugs and alcohol will mask the psychological problems and magnify the sociability of people thus allowing them to be more expressive. The entertainment industry is replete with addicts.

@maryrankin9869

7 ай бұрын

He also had a major mental illness.@@AmariMarvelous

I've been moderately poor my whole life, having maybe 1 friend. I don't have many things that make people happy, career, car, home. But I've always woke up happy and looking for what little positive I can find in the day. Matt's life shows me fame and fortune can never make you complete.

This is so terribly sad. Nobody struggled harder against addiction than Matt Perry. He tried so hard and had so much to give, so much talent. It's just so sad.

@eddiemunster8634

7 ай бұрын

The guy is nothing more than a drug addict and a drunk, why do you make him out to be some sort of hero? People struggle against cancer, they indulge in drug abuse and alcohol abuse

@bfyrth

7 ай бұрын

Lots of people ha e struggled harder

@nowayoutbutup3122

7 ай бұрын

One of the key elements in a healthy recovery for me is learning to relax , take it easy . I made huge progress when I stopped struggling to 'fix' me . I don't have that kind of power . Step 1 work .

@Whatintheworld259

7 ай бұрын

yesh he struggled hard but honestly imagine doing that without money

@MrDpbazan1955

7 ай бұрын

So much to give? Uh, he was well paid. Not quite giving

Wow! The one thing we can’t say about Mathew Perry is that he didn’t fight to live. That’s a massive amount of therapy and rehab stints. Poor soul!😟

@wintercame

7 ай бұрын

Incredible. I found the summation astonishing. It tells us we don't have a magic bullet.

@roseaduke8835

7 ай бұрын

Wish he'd added Christ to his list. Oh well.

@IWillHaveThePastaThanks

7 ай бұрын

@@roseaduke8835 Regrettably, one of the least Christ-like comments I’ve read, especially the “Oh well.” Regrettable, but not surprising, providing my assumption about your beliefs is true. (I stand corrected if they are not.)

@roseaduke8835

7 ай бұрын

@@IWillHaveThePastaThanks You've made an assumption & jumped to a conclusion, yet made no point, since your ability to regret & lack of surprise are entirely your own, having no bearing on the trueness of my statement. To you, I'd have sounded more like the christ of your imagination if I'd said "RIP Matthew Perry", I suppose. Maybe you should go & learn about the usages of the phrase "Oh well" &, study the biblical scriptures to know about who is Christ &, thereby, what is Christ-like or not.

@IWillHaveThePastaThanks

7 ай бұрын

​@roseaduke8835 You didn’t get my point? Oh well.

Mathew was a huge part of the success of "Friends." He and Schwimmer were my favorite actors on the show, because I identified most closely with their characters of Ross and Chandler. But like you say, ONLY Perry could've played Chandler Bing. RIP, Mathew; I hope you've found peace, my friend. 💐

@sheilagravely5621

7 ай бұрын

Oh no no no no!!!! I can't believe Matthew is gone😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤

@beckiehubley5798

7 ай бұрын

Could he have BEEN more perfect for the role? I think not.

@MrEgofreak

7 ай бұрын

RIP Chandler.

@inelhuayocan_aci

7 ай бұрын

Oh, you too. That's funny because I've had the different people and even the same individuals tell me I remind them of one or both of those two characters myself; one or the other, never Joey or anyone else. Perhaps, that's part of the reason we're meeting like this . . . on the channel of a therapist. 😝

@beckiehubley5798

7 ай бұрын

@sheilagravely5621 I know...I came home from shopping and my teen greeted me with the news. Yeah, I cried. She asked why I was that upset...I was an og friends fan. In my 20's I'd arrange my dating life around watching it...although most of the time I had the vcr programmed to record it just in case. I almost never missed a new episode, and of course I've watched them all many times now. Chandler was my favourite. Matthew Perry was perfect for the role. I was really rooting for him to be free of drugs forever.

A+++ work here, Dr. Grande, with the most thoughtful and insightful look at Matthew Perry’s life and death. You put mainstream media attempts at this to shame. Your ending to this video was particularly well done. I always enjoy your bits of humor in your videos, but this one struck a particularly poignant note that I so appreciated given the subject. Thank you!

You brought tears to my eyes, Dr. Grande! Matthew was amazing, handsome, personable...to witness his decline due to substance abuse was really sad and made me angry... I hate drugs! RIP wonderful Matthew, you will truly be remembered and missed! Gone way too soon!

@dannymullins4356

7 ай бұрын

His main problem was drink.

Matthew Perry delivered some of the best lines in that show. I'm sorry to see him go and sorry about his struggles.

@buttercxpdraws8101

7 ай бұрын

The best lines in that show are so lame it should never have seen the light of day imho.

@Omar_E11

7 ай бұрын

@@buttercxpdraws8101 Nobody fucking asked.

@MK-cc5ve

7 ай бұрын

@@buttercxpdraws8101How did you get the idea that this was a good time to belittle Mr Perry?

@parthsavyasachi9348

7 ай бұрын

​@@buttercxpdraws8101could never like friends.

@parthsavyasachi9348

7 ай бұрын

​@@MK-cc5vewell perry was wondering why the people like keanu reeves are still alive so i am sure he would not mind we discussing him.

Addiction is not your friend. Thank you Dr. Grande for giving voice to Matthew’s depression and anxiety, which can haunt you longer than the use of any substances.

@janeoleary8454

7 ай бұрын

Tyler's ???

@stantheman4964

7 ай бұрын

​@@janeoleary8454lol😅

Before Matthew reached the age of one, his parents divorced. Assuming people don't just get divorced on a whim, problems must have been bubbling underneath the surface for a while. Babies soak up stress both inside and outside the womb and they cannot feel secure in a tense environment with a stressed mother and father, no matter how loving or well-intentioned the parents are. The neural circuitry being laid down during this most crucial time of growth is without a doubt compromised. Clearly not much had gotten better if Matthew felt compelled to ease his pain with alcohol when he was just 14. Childhood trauma can seriously mess you up for life... Psychotherapy twice a week for 30 years, 6,000 Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, detoxed 65 times, rehab 15 times. Nobody can accuse him of not trying.

@maryrankin9869

7 ай бұрын

I fully agree. It does start in the womb and society won't go there! Too emotional. Pain is temporary,healing is forever. (I heard that today.)

I loved his book. It was so moving. I hope that he is at peace now and happy that he was able to share his story and voice with the world. Rest in peace, Matthew. ❤️

Totally heartbroken when I heard the news of his passing. His character Chandler was my favorite on Friends. It seemed like he was getting his life turned around after years substance abuse. Rest in peace Matthew. Gone way too soon at 54. Thank you for covering this Doc 😢

@seaglasscolor

7 ай бұрын

But Matthew sure kept trying, didn’t he? God bless him.

A fitting eulogy for an actor you obviously admired. Nice work.

Thank you for handling this with such a sensitive nature. He had problems but he was such a tortured soul. He was never good enough for himself.

I couldn't believe I was seeing a Mathew Perry spot by Dr. Grande already ! Unbelievable how the good Doctor is able to articulate such a touching commentary within hours of Mathews death. Thank You so much....I'm touched by your ability to deliver with compassion.

@AJ-ee2te

7 ай бұрын

i too had the same thought, the same awe. 👍🏽

@dannyhernandez2203

7 ай бұрын

The social dr gets his subject matter from the Google algorithm. He'll have somethingb to say about whatever Google searches is hot

Thank you for ending with what Perry himself said he wanted to be remembered as. I would like to quote his words in full: “I would like to be remembered as somebody who lived well, loved well, was a seeker. And his paramount thing is that he wants to help people. That’s what I want.”

I work in substance use disorder treatment in California. It's devastating.

@dara3345

7 ай бұрын

God bless you! ❤

This is especially heartbreaking because Matthew Perry had been sober for the past few years. My thoughts and prayers are with his family and loved ones. Rest in peace Matthew. 🙌🏽

@gracielamrad

7 ай бұрын

I don't believe so

@MrDpbazan1955

7 ай бұрын

Pickleball said it all

This breaks my heart. I loved him so much as Chandler but even more so, I loved him as himself. As a fellow recovering addict, I rooted for him and respected how public he made his struggle. He helped me more than he'll ever know. I love and miss you Matthew. RIP MATTHEW PERRY ❤

A strong reminder to everyone substance abuse often starts from just having one drink of alcohol. Sad that Matthew Perry was fighting his hidden demons for his entire adult life. His audio book that he spoke on is an incredible witness to his battle. Yet another lesson that fame and money can often bring you no happiness and in fact can contribute to a very early death

@puturro

7 ай бұрын

Didn't he start using painkillers due to a ski accident?

@crustyfapkin4349

7 ай бұрын

or just one blinkerton

@leokimvideo

7 ай бұрын

@@puturro No it started from drinking wine when he was a teen

@user-ur3cl2pq5i

7 ай бұрын

He started Young not adult life only he suffered his entire life man so sad!

@chandracox6814

7 ай бұрын

Nothing hidden about it, except in the 90's. He's been very open about it. I'm sure it played a role in his death. People don't just drown in their hot tub for no reason.

Mr. Perry was in so much pain, he was a baby who was given phenobarbital because he had colic-doctors prescribed a very dangerous medication. He dealt with a lot of identity issues, but the one he said affected him the most and was a huge source of the pain he medicated was his mother “not noticing him”. Thank you doctor Grande for your wonderful analysis.

Sounds like his body finally just gave out. None of us are here forever. He made and will continue to make many laugh and smile. His story and openness of his struggles with addiction will help many also.

@kaynemccully5266

7 ай бұрын

Yes that's what I think happened to

@LDiamondz

7 ай бұрын

Yeah, 2 hours of playing pickleball with COPD could definitely put a strain on your heart, especially someone not in great health.

I just finished reading his book, which was incredibly moving and insightful. I am praying for all those who loved him. ❤

@lilyjane1011

7 ай бұрын

I often wondered what trauma, hurt, he tried to numb with addiction. I suppose I just need to read his Book ..

Some people with a gift to comedy have terrible substance abuse problems. His timming, expresions, the way he said his lines, was always on point.

@LeslieSunshine17

7 ай бұрын

So true. Look at all the fantastic comedians who passed far too young, from John Belushi to Robin Williams😢

@jackedkerouac4414

7 ай бұрын

It's wild to me that he was able to remember his lines and hit his mark being drunk and on pills but he said seasons 3 - 6 was a blur. I think his comedic gift was bordering on genius because those were some of the best seasons. Time to rewatch Friends.

Thank you for you kind review and analysis, Doc. It’s tragic that Matthew died so young and apparently, alone. We can all pray the cause that led to the drowning was not substance related or a relapse. After trying so hard to fight the battle of addiction, his death would be even more devastating if he lost his battle.

@sonyamoon9114

7 ай бұрын

Even if it was a relapse, it doesn't make him less of the amazing person he was. Just saying.

Perfect Analysis, Dr. Grande! You hit this one out of the park. I devoured Matthew's book when it was released last year. I have been sober since 2012. I also am a retired counselor. In my opinion, you checked every box in your analysis of the life and death of a true Hollywood Star.

I really appreciate your video, Dr. Grande. I can't find the right words at this time, but your kindness in spotlighting Matthew Perry's many positive aspects is comforting. RIP Matthew Perry. Thank you, Dr. Grande. 🙏🏾

@crocadoodle7101

7 ай бұрын

Very well said.

@stephjohnson5217

7 ай бұрын

I too thought it was a really balanced and respectful review of his life and work.

@Dr.Pancho.Tortilla

7 ай бұрын

​@@stephjohnson5217what "work" exactly? He probably never worked a day in his entire life

@JCHaywire

7 ай бұрын

Where was this kind generosity in the case of Paul Reubens? With him, you seemed to be settling a score of some kind. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's puzzled.

@IWillHaveThePastaThanks

7 ай бұрын

@@Dr.Pancho.Tortilla Jealousy is a disease. Get well soon.

Dr. Grande I very much appreciated your kind, thought out words on Matthew Perry. It was a beautiful video! Thank you for all of us who are grieving his loss. You brought tears to my eyes. Truly compassionate! 😢

Really enjoyed this tribute. Very respectful and sensitive. I particularly liked 'substance use is a greedy conspirator who frequently demands one final payment'. Incredibly sad that his life ended this way. He was such a talented and generous human being.

Since I didn't know about Matthew Perry's passing, I so appreciate you, Dr. Grande! With just the right amount of discretion, compassion and very few jokes, the news was received in bite - sized doses, very palatable and your kind words were much appreciated!!!! Again, you rock, Dr. Grande!!!

This was a fine tribute. I especially appreciate the connection made between Matthew Perry himself and the special dimension he brought to his role.

He was such a good actor, SO FUNNY. Bless his heart, it’s hard to live with anxiety and loneliness.

Thank you for not making sarcastic remarks about Matthew Perry’s addiction problems and death. What you said was really sensitive and profound. He was such a complex but ultimately good person who wanted to help others. I feel like no other cast members on Friends cared about him and this was apparent when he was asked who had kept in touch with him and he said no one. I hope he’s in his happy place now, making everyone in heaven laugh and helping those in need up there. ❤

Thank you Dr Grande for this beautiful compassionate non-judgemetal description of a troubled and brilliant soul. I always felt drawn to Matthew Perry whenever I watched him, either in Friends or in one of his movies. I always felt that I wanted to put my arms around him, hug him tight. Even though I've been fortunate in never having addictions of any kind, I somehow had an affinity with him re his struggles. I loved that his optimism kept him fighting to overcome his demons. May he now rest in the arms of the angels, and find the peace he was looking for so desperately here on earth. 😢 RIP Chandler Bing, my favourite friend ❤ you will be missed. 😢

He worked so hard to be healthy and well..... he really kept trying and trying, never giving up!!! Matthew Perry, you will always be "Mattman" to your grateful fans!!! Rest in Peace!!! You will be missed!!! 😢❤🙏

I don't know how you manage to get your content out so quickly. My theory is that you have an identical twin. Thank you for discussing the issue of substance use and depression. Having worked at a very high-end drug rehab center, I was shocked at how many people in the entertainment industry struggle with these issues. I've come to believe that substance use is really about not feeling the agony of emotional pain.

@vladchan

7 ай бұрын

I gather that he died alone in his fancy Hollywood home. A sad ending. Lots of big stars are miserable because they deal with crap people. Gold diggers hangers on agents trying to steal from them.

@miriamllamas224

7 ай бұрын

People think that money is the secret to happiness. Although poverty is a bitch and needs have to be met, happiness is a feeling of contentment that comes from within.

@MM-gd1dw

7 ай бұрын

Well said.Peace from within are what bring us true joy.

@lizfinkelstein1323

7 ай бұрын

Yes, and more, fame acts as a type of trauma, especially when it's at the world wide level.

@vkngwmn6636

7 ай бұрын

Emotional pain is absolutely impossible to avoid

That was sensitively done thank you. As both a huge Friends fan and the sister of a wonderful brother who we lost to substance abuse, I think this was really well done

Thank you for your sensitivity in discussing Mr Perry’s life and tragic death. I didn’t watch the show that much but was familiar with the show. I have close family members who fought substance abuse and the two most important ones (to me) were successful in overcoming their addictions and for that I am hugely grateful. To me, Mr Perry’s death is tragic and saddening, regardless of what happened and I believe that his struggles and death have definitely served to help others who are fighting substance abuse. Rest in Peace Matthew…..you are a shining star in the Heavens above us all. 💔💫💔

Thank you for covering this. I was shocked and saddened to hear of Mathew Perry's sudden passing. I know what it's like to struggle with substance abuse, it took me 15 plus years and almost died from overdosing. We always lose great, talented people way too soon, as they say "only the good die young" and 54 is too young to leave the world. I hope that Matthew's family and friends can heal from this. I know the sadness will never go away, but let's remember how much he made so many people laugh. R.I.P. Matthew.

@iconsnart

7 ай бұрын

❤ to you! So strong 🎉 Matthew, memory eternal 🙏

@acdcmiami

7 ай бұрын

I dont drink or take substances of any kind so i cant relate to how ppl would not stop their addictions. Im do know however that drunks and user are selfish and disrupt and destroy the homes and lives of ever around them.

@iconsnart

7 ай бұрын

@@acdcmiami self medication against hardship, fear, anxiety, abuse victims, shame, sorrow, endless emptiness, and becoming a slave under something that takes control over this tormented soul. Nobody does it out of spite to harm those around them. I have lost friends. They were sensitive, beautiful souls. May they rest in peace. Empathy? Enlightment? Compassion? Edit: seems important to add Im not a user either

@essennagerry

7 ай бұрын

​@@acdcmiami I don't drink or take substances either but tbh I stayed away from them bcs I had the feeling it would be extea difficult for me to stop. I think one part of the issue is that they make you feel a certain way but they also change how you feel when you're not under their influence. So when you don't consume them your state is still altered. Also people use them to cope with various difficulties and oftentimes without even realizing that they even have those difficulties or that they're that bad or that that's the reason why they keep going back to the substances. It sounds silly but it does seem many people go through this. It's true that this abuse is disruptive to their lives and the lives of the people around them. But it's difficult to understand how these substances really influence people. The more they use it and the less they understand what's going on in their psyché... the weaker their willpower is. That's why they really need a lot of external help because in many cases they themselves don't know what is going on and how to succesfully quit, heal and prevent relapses. I don't consume any substances either but I'm interested in the topic. I hope this was useful insight to you.

@iconsnart

7 ай бұрын

@@essennagerry another important aspect is the money being made on the one addicted, by doctor or dealer, is the huge income that is being made for medical industry or syndicate - they dont care about lifes of victims or their families, its about money. And its sad and terrible!

It's amazing he made it this long. R.I.P. Matthew.

I'm old enough to remember when Friends was starting as a brand new show. It came on the same night and on the same channel as Seinfeld and Frasier. Chandler was definitely my favorite character and I knew about his struggles with addiction but I didn't know it was that severe. I had a problem with opiods and benzos for about 10 years. Lot of relationships, school, and jobs lost. I've held a lot of respect for Matthew for a long time and to suffer as he did and die so young is truly tragic. Ngl this "celebrity death" really hurts my heart

Thank you so much for speaking about Matthew Perry with such sensitivity. Your grace is especially appreciated when talking about someone most of us never met, but considered a friend.

A very touching reflection of the life and experiences of an actor who had an impact on millions of people across the world. Amazingly articulated Dr. Grande, thank you.

Dr. Grande: That’s a beautiful description of Matthew Perry’s work on Friends. He did take the character and make it better. Additionally, his comedic timing was brilliant. Rest In Peace Matthew. Your talent touched a lot of people. 🙏❤️🕯

I battled opiate addiction for many years. Your opinion on the subject was spot on. Thankfully I've been clean for a lot longer than I was using but it will always be an option for me to return. He did post some strange stuff on Instagram in the week prior to his death. Some of his followers were asking him if he was ok? It might be nothing but the final post was him soaking in his hot tub by the look of it. The whole thing is very sad. A very respectful analysis. ❤

@annaf3915

7 ай бұрын

He also posted a video of some berries that looked like night shade and wrote "that's all I ate today". All his last posts sound like cries for help. It's so sad that noone realized it in time

@bogrot69

7 ай бұрын

@@annaf3915 I saw that as well but wasn't sure what they were.

Thank you for covering this and the way you covered it. He really battled addiction, and the whole time, entertained millions of people with his acting. This is very sad. You covered his life and career beautifully.

He lived in my hometown of Ottawa, Ontario, and my friends went to high school with him at Lisgar Collegiate. So this is sad for me on a more personal level - RIP Mathew 😢

@sandrazed6089

7 ай бұрын

Ottawa here as well. I thought he also went to Ashbury with Trudeau as well? Ah, Lisgar! Such a rich history at that school. Matthew never forgot Ottawa. Last year, he was here with his Sens Jersey.

His autobiography is incredible, I never saw friends or any if his movies, just checked it out of curiosity and what an unbelievable story his life journey. Blessings to him and his family. May he rest in peace

@maureenmartini5094

7 ай бұрын

If you can, watch Friends, even just one episode. It's hilarious and Matthew's character is brilliant, especially the dynamic between him and Matt LeBlanc's character (Joey).

@DianeLake-sw3ym

7 ай бұрын

I've read in the tributes and hear on the news that his book was very very good. I wish he would have checked into writing more. I feel he would have found something of what he felt missing in his life with another talent being freed up

I interviewed Perry last year when his book was published. A very sweet, kind and soft-spoken guy, and of course very funny. He had me laughing so hard at one point, I almost spit my coffee on him (without missing a beat, he told me in a mock serious tone: "Whoah, there, Rob -- have you got a drinking problem you didn't warn me about?" I remember thinking that his comedic timing was still pitch perfect.) But I also recall being struck by that sadness and melancholy Dr. Grande discussed. He would take these long, reflective pauses when talking about his past, especially when it came to his time on "Friends", and when he laughed, it often seemed forced, like there was an overwhelming feeling of regret or mournfulness that he was trying to hide, but couldn't quite pull off. It's often the sweetest, most and sensitive and thoughtful among those with substance abuse disorder who have the hardest time getting clean. I suspect it's because they're so caring, helpful and considerate that they don't want to "bother" anyone with their problems. The sad irony is that those are the ones whose friends and family WANT to help the most -- they don't ever think of it as a bother at all. I hope he has found the peace in death that seemed to allude him so much of the time in life.

As someone who struggles with addiction also, the fact he was able to get through that hell..But to pass away in the way that he did, it just is horrible. He should've had more years of life, enjoying sober life, not to be taken away like this. Just shows how fragile our lives can be, and it can be over in a moment. Really brings my view of my morality into perspective. Rest easy Matthew, thank you for giving us such a wonderful soul in Chandler! Helped me through some of my darkest days with laughs!

This is the first time I've seen Dr Grande get emotional, understandable as how sad and devastating this case is

@janeoleary8454

7 ай бұрын

Emotional. Didn't see that

Your statement should be read out to every 12-step recovery group. I'm an addict with 8+ years clean and yes, some of the consequences are lifelong. The devil will have his due and the piper expects to be paid. Again and again. My drug use lasted about 4 years, but I did 10 years worth of damage. I lost my first husband, my house, my occupation as a nurse, and many friends and family. Nothing I can do will ever bring things back to the way they were, and there's some relationships that cannot ever be restored. Trust and respect are everything. If I did that much damage in 4 years, I can't imagine what decades would do. Rest in peace to Matthew Perry and I hope he finds the peace he sought in life in the hereafter.

@kimlarso

7 ай бұрын

What was ur drug choice if u don’t mind me asking?

@cassiemontgomery45

7 ай бұрын

@@kimlarso Not at all. I was addicted to prescription painkillers.

This was a touching tribute, handled with impeccable sensitivity. I admire how many times Matthew kept trying to recover. I lost my Mum two years ago after an almost 40 year span of abusing alcohol and painkillers. There were many times when I have been sat besides her in intensive care before then. Addiction has a grip like no other and it doesn't discriminate. Rest in peace xx 🙏🕊

One of the wisest, emotionally resonant and poetic videos you have ever done. Thank you, teacher. That touched my soul❤️🫶

Oh wow, had no idea Keith Morrison was his stepdad!!

@sonjaheck3156

7 ай бұрын

yes, for like over 25+ years. I remember learning this. Really interesting, for sure. RIP

I find the most understandable part of this tribute to be that always seeking laughter from an unknown audience was what caused his greatest pain and suffering. Life is rarely full of humor, and seeking acceptance for something so foreign would be nearly impossible. Substances often give us the sense that we’re winning, when reality is the opposite. People who have never taken a pill, or a drink, and felt for the first time that they are not a failure, can’t comprehend why someone doesn’t just not take the pill when their lives are crumbling around them. Feeling for once that you are not a burden or a failure is a powerful emotion. Admitting one’s vulnerability is not as simple for many. If you’ve never struggled with that level of physical or emotional pressure, be thankful and humble, not hateful. Compassion is a powerful gift for all living beings.

Truly an empathetic analysis!! - Always love hearing you Doc!! - We love your impartial approach using facts only to analyse the situation❣

Very sad about Matthew. Every living person needs to consider where he/she will spend eternity. We are a heartbeat away from it.

Thank you for such a lovely and insightful tribute, Dr. Grande. May Matthew finally find the peace he so desperately wanted.

@katec5105

7 ай бұрын

Very well said. Agree!

Touching tribute, doc. I wasn't a fan of "Friends", and I didn't really follow Matthew Perry's career, but he seemed like a pretty good, though troubled, guy. Rest in peace, Mr. Perry.

I was never much of a TV fan myself, however once I started watching FRIENDS, I immediately fell in love with both the show and the character of Chandler Bing, because I could relate to him so much and I still do till this very day. As for Matthew Perry himself, I also do believe that his portrayal of Chandler was not simply just a work of memorized script. In a way he was being himself - maybe because it was his first big role? Like with Jim Carrey and his iconic performances as Stanley Ipkiss or Ace Ventura. In Jim's case all of his characters have a unique piece of his own self that no one else could ever replicate and when I look at some of Matthew's other roles I can always notice a bit of Chandler in all of them - not because it's the same likeable face, but rather because all of these roles were brought to life by one and the same amazing actor who spent so so so much time working with them, bonded with them and finally left a piece of himself within each one of them. All of his roles represent his own soul in a way and thanks to them he will live forever in our memory as well as our hearts ❤ Chandler may be the most similar to how the real Mathew Perry felt, to how deep and complicated he was, to how truly all he ever wanted was to make everyone happy while he himself could not find fulfillment in his seemingly successful life, no matter how much he tried. He must've felt truly lonely... Which ironically reminds me of that one episode where Chandler became paranoid over his future after their elderly neighbour passed away alone in his apartment. Chandler feared he might end up the same way one day - luckily he didn't, because he found Monica and along with her a new purpose in his life. Maybe, just maybe, if Matthew was an ordinary guy like his character from the show, he'd also find his happiness eventually, but unfortunately the world of Golden Globes and money is usually filled with loneliness... Rest In Peace, my guy and may you find what you've been looking for in your afterlife [*] ❤[*] Once I get there myself, I'll ask you for your autograph XD

Beautifully crafted. For those of us in our 50's, we HAVE lost a "friend" for sure.

Omg I had no idea he'd died, I don't watch the news. I shouted "omg" when I saw the title of this video. I adored Matthew Perry and thought he was so hysterical and talented, and I also deeply related to him as a recovering addict. Opioids were my primary DOC too and ironically I also started with Vicodin for pain. I have been sober now for years and would never go back and I deeply respect his continued efforts to achieve sobriety throughout his life. I can only imagine how much more difficult it would be in his industry and w/ his level of fame. It would make it so much harder than for the average person but he never gave up trying & from what I understand had considerable periods of sobriety. I feel heartbroken that he's gone & can only imagine how his castmates are feeling. He will definitely be remembered as a legend as Dr. G said & I pray he's at peace now with no more struggling & no more pain. But he will be deeply missed by people all over the world, myself included, and will never be forgotten. R.i.p. always Matthew Perry ❤🙏🕊

This could have been another Whitney Houston situation but without illicit drugs. If you have medical problems, such as your heart, you have to be extra careful in hot tubs and saunas. I've been on BP medications for 30+ years and have always been extra careful in my hot tub. He was exercisng heavily earlier. His heart probably gave out. Sad.🙏🏻❤😢

@acdcmiami

7 ай бұрын

This is what i think as well.

@carltheflpatriot69

7 ай бұрын

@@acdcmiami 👍🏼 Miami? I'm in Cape Coral. ✌🏼💗

@seanmackey8552

7 ай бұрын

That's what I'm thinking. Heart attack, sinks in sauna, dies. Autopsy will tell.

@ahill4642

7 ай бұрын

Good points. And sad ones.

"Substance use is a greedy conspirator, who frequently demands one final payment". Wow... Powerful.

Thank you for your analysis 🌼 None of us really know what others are truly dealing with 😢

Addiction is so horrible! This poor guy tried so hard to get clean. Hope he is in peace and happy now.

Such a great looking young man. So sad. RIP Matthew Perry

@lisabradford8180

7 ай бұрын

he was handsome and seemed like an all around good guy. may he rest in peace 🙏🏽

It's my sincere wish that if you ever come across the possibility of experimenting with these substances, that you may find the strength to walk away. Nothing but suffering comes out of substance abuse. Thank you Dr. Grande and rest easy Matthew Perry.

Dr. grande I really appreciate your excellent analysis of Matthew Perry. I also enjoy your soft voice, as most KZread channels lack a host with a soothing voice, which is so much easier to listen to. Thank you! Blessings

Bravo Doctor Grande. You explained the evils of drug addiction so well. It's sad that M. Perry has passed. He was a beautiful Man, talented, but he was a fragile Man. RIP Mathew Perry.

The end was sweet. A friend for many❤ i never watched the show nor know about them but i appreciate learning about him. May his soul Rest In TOTAL Peace 🙏 🕊 💐

"Substance use is a greedy conspirator who frequently demands one final payment". Great video, only Dr. Grande knows how to deliver.

“I’m not great at advice. Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?” Chandler Bing In the end, Mathew Perry did want to give advice and find meaning in his struggles. Great tribute Dr. G. I love how you expressed appreciation for his creation of Chandler. I know that his sarcastic Witt made him a character after my heart

@caramelfrappuccino234

7 ай бұрын

Agreed ❤

Thank you Dr Grande for your empathetic and compassionate analysis of Matthew Perry. He was my favorite on the show as I identified with him most. It’s heartbreaking he died so young.

Well done Dr. Grande! What an excellent tribute to Matthew and Chandler. ❤️

That was very sweet. He did appear to have a kind soul. At least a very kind smile.

I was shocked when I read the news on instagram. Chandler was my favorite character from Friends, he was the funniest and most likable one. Friends is my comfort show, when I'm feeling down I watch an episode and I feel better. I didnt know him personally, but I felt this loss like he was a close friend of mine. Rest in Peace, Mattie ❤

I was in shock when I heard the sad news last night. Matthew Perry, you will always remembered as Chandler Muriel Bing. RIP😢💔

@mrazik131

7 ай бұрын

i like when he answered a phone Chandler Bing, ......and the person said ...wow short message