UPDATE 8:25 FINAL UPDATE 16:23

@farooqshahzad8272

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah unfortunately i think OP is very small down there for this to cause such an issue. OP is a POS.

@farooqshahzad8272

3 жыл бұрын

Plus all the advice given is bullshit. However one thing to note is in our religion it is stated that marry virgin girls so that there is no comparison. Ever. So yeah ESH.

@SilverKingGary

3 жыл бұрын

@@ConanTheCimmerian I like how this guy is saying a woman sucks if she's not a virgin like that's a good thing. Fuck him and his religion.

@SilverKingGary

3 жыл бұрын

@@ConanTheCimmerian Yeah that's not true and some really fucked up neckbeard logic.

@farooqshahzad8272

3 жыл бұрын

@@ConanTheCimmerian am not saying that you have to marry a virgin. When I grow old and my first wife dies im not marrying a virgin. I will be marrying someone close to my age. What ypu don’t understand in my pov is that why does your first partner not be a virgin. Why dont the women of the world not consider their virginity as something sacred. Something special. Is that too much to ask for.

His fiancee sold him out to her friend for a quick laugh. That's a dealbreaker.

@satisfiedskullservant

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. That's the real problem here. Op fixated on his size way too much and the real problem was that she sold him out.

@J.P_INC.

3 жыл бұрын

Facts.. it's one thing that it's true but to say that the man you want to marry will never measure up is sociopathic as hell.. to get a thrill from lowering someone else By comparing them to someone that hurt them that badly.. I bet it not funny to her now

@asgbrazygocrazy2132

3 жыл бұрын

@@J.P_INC. exactly bro and I bet if he said his ex had a better koochie than his current gf shed be in her feelings

@tardislady9546

3 жыл бұрын

You would not say that if it had been the MAN who had done this. You would support him fully, and call the woman 'entitled', 'oversensitive', 'overreacting' and 'time of the month', if she objected. What a pathetic Malcolm you are.

@piyushsharma3991

3 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 nobody would have said that dude, get out of your head.

She basically said you were a really good meal ticket. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where my best quality is being a meal ticket.

@scottwilliams7535

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, this comment just slapped me in the face. Just made me understand my whole life... Thanks!

@King-iy6xu

3 жыл бұрын

To be really honest. Intimacy is important in a relationship but is not that important if you really love that person and in a relationship it's all about helping helping each other to get better. ;)

@markd9318

3 жыл бұрын

@Jose Diaz someone has been watching better bachelor

@glitter_smack016

3 жыл бұрын

@Jose Diaz lmao are you a "nice guy"?

@rcreynolds6186

3 жыл бұрын

@@glitter_smack016 Are you immature like the woman in this story?

"You're a good provider/safe/good man" are in fact NOT compliments to men. It's equating a man to an object of convenience and safety.

@razakza

2 жыл бұрын

She's too fake to get it though...

@ronhall5395

2 жыл бұрын

He was a nice meal ticket, someone she did not mind sleeping with, but did not really get her off in the bed. Safe guy, she knew he would never cheat on her. The question is, when she is in her late thirties is she going to crave a man like Bill. I would never trust her.

@dennismccoy6798

2 жыл бұрын

women always cheat for the same reasons and that's for her. she wants to be held paid attention to gifts. guys want love respect faithfullness. guys will never make a women happy they want attention and if they are at the bar and some guy gives a smile and buys drinks if the woman seriously thinks she can get away with it they will do it. at that time its her want. shes willing to through away it all for fun then when caught its all about forgiveness and second chances. my dad always says make an ass of me once shame on you make an ass of me twice shame on me.

@kcirtapelyk6060

Жыл бұрын

I think a lot of women view men as nothing more than disposable pawns in their own games, instead of real human beings with actual feelings or desires of their own.

@BrennanCh06

Жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏👏

Young men reading this: your emotions are not a ‘fragile ego’, they are valid, and no one has any right to make you feel disrespected. No one. Not a soul on Earth. Go forward when someone betrays you, head high, never looking back. You deserve better. I hope my dude here gets better and gets some help to work through his fears and self doubt.

@satisfiedskullservant

3 жыл бұрын

Real King talk right here. Respect.

@bornapopovic5494

3 жыл бұрын

This has to be a top coment.take it to the moon boys

@PhdMusic03

3 жыл бұрын

Yup! And there are women who cringe at the notion of a man being self respecting. Respecting yourself doesn’t mean you walk on top of women but rather you walk away and as the ladies like to say “never settle”

@Talizman9

2 жыл бұрын

You’re actually an awesome human being. Thank you for that

@jackchop1576

2 жыл бұрын

It wouldn't be a size thing with me since I'm above average and know that some are bigger and some dudes who are smaller could probably outfuck me. I would be more hung up over her being hung up on the ex and trashing me to her friends.

Her anger after the separation tells me the reality is she settled for him because of his stability, income, etc. She's now angry at the wasted time and not being able to secure support for her future.

@strikeforce1500

3 жыл бұрын

The moment she try to compensate his lack of size with "ah, but you are a great husband and provider" was a big red flag for me. Its just like a someone insult you, but then say "but you pay my bills, so I deal with you"

@martyandy23

3 жыл бұрын

@@strikeforce1500 duuuuuude. I can relate to that SO much!

@notimportant3686

3 жыл бұрын

100%... i basically wrote the same comment, but i think you were more succint

@richardbaker308

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@beep_beep_beep

3 жыл бұрын

Woman moment

"You're a good provider and you will make a good husband" - sounds more like she wants you to be her personal ATM more than anything. Like really, she couldn't say "I love how passionate you are about this or that" or something else? Listening to the rest of the story, she sounds like a major red flag. Like he dodged a major bullet tbh

@KyrieChii

3 жыл бұрын

Seriously, that really caught my attention too. My immediate understanding was that he makes enough money to support a life style she likes, as though that were remotely what he needed to hear. It just told him flat out where her priorities were.

@ava-lc8gd

3 жыл бұрын

honestly, the fact that she said he was a good provider when trying to make up to him for what she said about her ex was a 🚩🚩🚩

@AMANSHARMA-xw8qi

3 жыл бұрын

exactly.........

@marlonmartins82

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, looks like he was her meal ticket and is mostly sad that is now gone, hence the anger.

@NotAGoodSalesman

3 жыл бұрын

@@KyrieChii Bro, I swear. Exactly how I felt. After I heard her say that shit, I just started saying, "Yep, this is over."

She disrespected him to the fullest. I cant imagine still being so focused on an ex that emotionally destroyed me that I hurt the man that helped me put my life back together. Not only did she say those despicable things but she said it to a friend and played like it was nothing.

@husseinfarah6885

3 жыл бұрын

That’s because most ladies don’t respect servants. He saved her... meaning he was a rebound. She didn’t need saving because she wasn’t ready to move on. She still loved the ex... she has dreams of him... especially when they are intimate.

@TheoriginalBacchuscleric

3 жыл бұрын

@@husseinfarah6885 Truth. You can like or even love a doormat, but you'll never respect it. And respect is vital in a relationship.

@nextgenstatus

3 жыл бұрын

Lol my ex did that to me and as much as I hate it, I'm stuck on them to an extent. Put I'm not putting myself in a relationship so

@darkshadowsaver

3 жыл бұрын

She gaslight him as soon as she was confronted

@davidbrown7589

3 жыл бұрын

True story; around 1991 I was new to the area and got a job at a major department store. I met a girl there and we started dating. I worked in maintenance and always had a bunch of tools on my dresser. One night after a round of love making, she grabbed my measuring tape and measured my length. She must have discussed it with her friends because it spread through the store like wild fire. All these women I barely knew were walking up to me and snickering " 7 1/2 inches aye" When I confronted my girlfriend about it she acted like it was no big deal, and told me to stop being insecure. The next time we made love I grabbed the same tape and measured her lady opening top to bottom. The following day at work I mentioned to one of her friends that my girlfriend was 6 1/2 inches. When my girlfriend found out what I had said she angrily broke up with me. All the 7 1/2 jokes stopped and her friends got really quiet around me. I always figured they were just insecure.

“She didn’t cheat...” Believe it, she would eventually.

@mikeb3717

3 жыл бұрын

It's telling that their mutual friends automatically assumed she did cheat. And even if she would never cheat, she is still the kind of person who gleefully insults her SO to mutual friends during a high point in the relationship. Imagine how much insulting crap she'd say about him to their friends after an argument.

@kosopaty

3 жыл бұрын

Im not saying i agree with what she did or that they should stay together. But i feel like people are being extremely harsh toward the girl in reactions. They act like she was making fun of him in the middle of the party, while OP described it as private conversation with her close friend. And of course she was angry when his family started to spread rumors about her being cheater. That comment that its ok to call her cheater because she would eventually cheat? No! No! Thats not cool. She didnt do that. Its like hanging a guy for murder, because he stole something. Its not fair judgement, nor support. Its freaking rage boner.

@Vice.88

3 жыл бұрын

@@kosopaty putting an issue with someone you supposedly love out there repeatedly with a friend without ever trying to make that issue known with your fiance is a pretty big betrayal of trust. Even assuming it was an aspect he couldn't change, if she doesn't bring it up out of respect to him she shouldn't bring it up with anyone else for the same reason. However this clearly wasn't the case as the friend was already privy to their intimate life.

@husseinfarah6885

3 жыл бұрын

@@kosopaty She clearly said the ex was “the best”. Also he broke her heart...meaning she really loved him. Also, the fiancé was the hero in this story. Meaning he was the rebound. Then the worst part of it all is, this is a fiancé, she’s going to marry him and most likely spend her life with him. Her telling her friend that is utter disrespect to your life partner. To your number one. What if the friend spreads what she said? Someone you truely love you dont sacrifice their dignity for gossip. Unless they don’t love you. So many red flags... don’t excuse the obvious. He’s the Rebound + she loved the ex + Ex was endowed = huge problem! Fact he HELPED her move on was a BIG mistake. He knew she was settling for him. And the same stick he helped her forget came to slap him across the face, publicly. Being the hero in movies is all beautiful... but in real life these don’t always work out. Because hero’s in real life don’t have super powers... they usually are chasing set standards by someone else. The fiancé was chasing the standards of an ex.

@kandicomarawski1171

3 жыл бұрын

I agree I think she was taking the safe path with this man and eventually she would’ve wanted something on the side something wild and excited since that’s what she seems to be attracted to. Safe was only going to hold her over so long. Eight years from now he might’ve had two kids with her and then found out that she was secretly hooking up with her ex that she had gotten back in touch with on social media and maybe that is on kids weren’t even his.

“Nobody makes a sandwich like you do.” Makes sense

@CunoWiederhold

3 жыл бұрын

My last girlfriend could suck the chrome off a bumper hitch, but nobody can get me a beer from the fridge as you can!

@russellkeeling9712

3 жыл бұрын

@@CunoWiederhold My ex could suck start a Harley but you make the best P&G sandwich I've ever had.

@fluffylittlebear

3 жыл бұрын

@@russellkeeling9712 What's P&G?

@wiggilytaco7570

3 жыл бұрын

@@fluffylittlebear Peanut butter & Garlic

@RelaxAndMeditateChannel

3 жыл бұрын

@@wiggilytaco7570 haha

I'm a man. I'm not worried about my size. No matter what, if I heard this it would be a huge issue. I would leave that girl no matter what. The blatant disrespect is disgusting. I wouldn't be able to trust her at all with anything. I would be thinking she would tell all my secrets and just general conversations to people that don't even matter in the relationship. That's information that they don't need to know.

@leto1178

3 жыл бұрын

The girl was still in love with the ex and didn't respect nor love her fiance. He didn't compare well to her ex, not because of the d-size or technique but because she still loves the ex more. Woman don't philosophise with their girlfriends about technical details, she basically told her she is still hot for her ex and not her fiance. That she behaves as if this level of disrespect and humiliation is no biggie tells what she thinks about her fiance. This is so not about d-size, it's the whole package that is her fiance. She just doesn't love him.

@ShaunHensley

3 жыл бұрын

The truth of the matter is all women tell the most intimate secrets about their man to their friends. They all do it and they all think nothing of it. Never share anything with any woman that you don’t want the world to know

@pdrey100

3 жыл бұрын

@@ShaunHensley So true. They WILL shit talk about you to their friends as some sort of power trip. Sadly, they can't help it. And if you ever catch them doing it they will cry like little girls and say something like: "I didn't mean it. It's just girl talk."

@piyushsharma3991

3 жыл бұрын

@@pdrey100 really hate that shit.

@xavier712

3 жыл бұрын

This is the same type of woman you see in all these other stories crap talking their husbands with the affair partner. He did the right thing. This is the point of the relationship she is supposed to be the most blindly in loooove with the husband to be. IOW, you are seeing her at her BEST, it would have all been downhill from there.

The fact that his family immediately thought she cheated when they had a lack of info tells me a lot.

@ArielGonzalez1

2 жыл бұрын

says a lot about their relationship, like not even his family took shit from her lol

@504gucci4

3 ай бұрын

We don't know what they look like but the ex might be really really attractive & OP might be an average looking dude.

@justcallmeshorty240

2 ай бұрын

@@504gucci4 the fact wasn't that she called him ugly. The fact was she made a comment about her ex that hit him in the gut. And it was not said to his face either, which is the a second deal breaker.

I hate hearing the phase "The Male Ego", because it usually only gets used in two ways. The first is by a guy who is beating himself up because something is legit bothering him, but he feels like the fact that is bothering him is a sign of fragility and weakness. The second is by someone else (usually but not exclusively a woman) trying to downplay the validity a man's feelings of hurt or outrage by saying that it's simply his "fragile male ego". The former is a case of a guy being too hard on himself, the latter is just someone being a condescending jerk. To use their own terminology, wasn't she basically dick-shaming the guy? Would she have blown if off so easily if she'd walked in on him talking about how fat she is compared to his last girlfriend?

@harpiessnow

3 жыл бұрын

Weight is something that can be worked on. If he said something like, "yeah, my last girlfriend had such bigger tits, ass, and a figure to kill than xxx." I can guarantee a girl would go ballistic if she heard that her body could never live up to his ex.

@StardragonEX2

3 жыл бұрын

@@harpiessnow That is a good way to describe it. @Paxchi And I agree with you.

@davidbrown7589

3 жыл бұрын

True Story: Around 1991 I was new to the area and got a job with a major department store. I met a girl there and we started dating. I worked maintenance so I always had my tool belt lying on my dresser. One night after a round of lovemaking she grabbed my measuring tape and measured my length. The next day at work she must have discussed it with her friends because it spread through the store like wildfire. All these women I barely knew were walking up to me and winking "7 1/2 inches aye". When I confronted my girlfriend about it, she acted like it was no big deal, and told me to stop being insecure. The next time we made love I grabbed the same measuring tape and measured her lady opening top to bottom, I mean fair is fair right? When I was at work the following day I mentioned to one of her friends that my girlfriend was 6 1/2 inches. Oh my god did the shit ever hit the fan when she found out what I had said. She angrily broke up with me, and her friends got really nervous around me. I guess they were all insecure.

@skibootdier9488

3 жыл бұрын

@@davidbrown7589 You should have told her, "It's a good thing that your giant sloppy box is able to shrivel back into place after 7 and a half inches of pounding."

@davidbrown7589

3 жыл бұрын

@@skibootdier9488 I got with one of her friends a short while after, and she, being a short slender brunet, measured in at about 3 1/2 inches, way better.

Poor guy is still heartbroken, still self doubting and ended up alone. She never gave him her all and in all honesty it's better he ended up being hurt now instead of later when they were married.

@brutustantheiii8477

3 жыл бұрын

IKR. Just like paralyzingly mechanical problems on a plane. Infinitely better before takeoff than when you’re already in the air.

@thtvh1

3 жыл бұрын

The fact that she criticized the one thing that can destroy every man because they can't change it makes me realize that what Chloe Roma says should be taken more seriously. For ffs sake. As a girl I would hate having my parts criticized because I can't change, to someone from the opposite sex is the same, there's no such thing as "men is stronger" when it comes to this. I hope he find someone who appreciates him the way he are.

@blkgranit333

3 жыл бұрын

@@thtvh1 yessss! Words can have life long consequences, a girl once told me this and she was skinny, no butt and no titts, I told her well damn isn't that calling the kettle black! Lol. After that lol. She couldn't stop fooling with me! Ofcourse I told her just how bad she didnt actually measured up with other girls! Turns out her self-esteem was far lower than mine. Guys women have a thousand toys that's bigger than any male tool he can whip up! Don't ever dwell on the size of your Johnson! Just get yours! If she's not happy let her kick rocks, most nowadays want stay even if you've got a huge tool and lots of money! So, there you go!

@thtvh1

3 жыл бұрын

@@blkgranit333 Dude I'm sorry but I'm gonna be honest, I'm not a native english speaker so I really don't understand parts of your comment (it's mostly the expressions you used). Sorry lmao but anyways thanks for taking your time to reply.

@blkgranit333

3 жыл бұрын

@@thtvh1 sorry, I edited it. It should make since now!

She simply has no respect for this man..

@CunoWiederhold

3 жыл бұрын

And thanks to her, nobody else does either.

@akoilngas1215

3 жыл бұрын

@@CunoWiederhold Yep. She opened her mouth to one girl in the circle of friends. It was the same as telling everyone. If your secret isn't important enough to keep your mouth shut, you can trust that it's not important enough for other people to not make it a topic of conversation.

@SnowyWolborg

3 жыл бұрын

Except for perhaps his ability to be a provider.

@delmanpronto9374

3 жыл бұрын

@@SnowyWolborg yeah, what a slap in the face.

@notimportant3686

3 жыл бұрын

she views him as a beta... and she is still hung up on the alpha.... alpha widow, so to speak

Oh, man, just imagine how stupid that girl is: - she humiliates him by talking to her best friend about his physical shortcomings behind her back, then - begs him not to leave her and makes him go to couples therapy with her, only to - double down on her words, it should have been something to the tune of "I am so sorry, that I hurt him. I was just being honest, because I thought honesty is the foundation of a good relationship." Yes, honesty BETWEEN YOU TWO, NOT HONESTY TO YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT HIM BEHIND HIS BACK!

@aikikaname6508

3 жыл бұрын

IN THEIR OWN HOUSE! I mean, I’m not condoning speaking about your like that, but if you’re gonna do that don’t do it when they’re IN THE HOUSE!

@lakelush9742

3 жыл бұрын

He didn't even have shortcomings he was normal size from what he said he was comfortable with himself until little miss size queen spews her demoralizing vitriol. she should be ashamed of herself.

@juntaKhann

2 жыл бұрын

@@lakelush9742 this girl was moving like a skank, poor guy was obviously a rebound dude that she was stringing along until her ex showed any renewed interest. Even subject of her jokes while she sits drinking in his house, unbelievable. kind of annoyed me how little back bone and self awareness he had

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

So it was fine for him to be controlling, and try to dictate who she could or could not, speak to, what she could or could not talk about, then for him to bully her to retract her words? He is weak, and abusive. She has had a lucky escape. He should not be listening in on her private conversations. Only abusive men do that.

@flaviusconstantius9702

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 She was the abuser. Mocked him to her friends, violated his privacy and then lied and gaslit him when he called her out on it. She essentially regarded him as a human wallet and went berserk when he dumped her. More red flags than the Soviet Union. He's lucky he found out what she was before he got lumbered with alimony and child support.

She publicly humiliated him. That isn’t love.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

Yet you have no problem with MEN humiliating female partners.

@thomasthompson7107

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 where in his comment does he say that?

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

@@thomasthompson7107 Men talk about female partners, and humiliate them, comparing breast size, bum size, weight, looks, dress, and bedroom performance. All your mansplaining, feet stamping, pathetic name calling, pathetic sarcasm, patronising comments, and pathetic misogynist abuse, will not change that fact.

@thematrix2661

Жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 You will never hear a man do some shit like this.

@MCADHD-rf5kl

4 ай бұрын

@@tardislady9546 Are you on your period?

That his relatives came to the conclusion that she must have cheated on him also paints a picture of what they think the relationship dynamic between them is like.

@cliffd8380

3 жыл бұрын

Wow. Great point. Like they were expecting it to happen.

@zanizone3617

3 жыл бұрын

Well the fact that he is so apologetic about leaving her and his inability to "get over" the minor detail she metaphorically spat in his face for a laugh, point out to a very unbalanced relationship, where she calls the shots and he just takes orders. Family and friends will see that and make inferences.

@kos2919

3 жыл бұрын

Yeap, dude pretty much a doormat and she treat him as such.

@goawayleavemealone2880

3 жыл бұрын

She may not have been cheating on him, but she definitely would have in the future.

@cflo1386

2 жыл бұрын

So true, they knew what she was capable of.

broken people break people. That's why people say you don't get into a relationship until you have healed from the previous one.

@garyellis9241

2 жыл бұрын

Truth

@maxpawa9282

8 ай бұрын

but broken people doesnt know they are broken

And this is why body counts are important, because you're competing with dozens of previous people and their "talents" in something that is one of the main pillar of a relationship.

@AG-vb6vv

2 жыл бұрын

Very true

@OlfimusPrime

9 ай бұрын

That's something I heard lots of women say. They make a list of all the traits they loved and hated in each one of them and try to find "Mr Perfect" which is basically searching a needle in a haystack.

This reminds me of something that happened to me when I was married. We were having an argument and she says "all my friends (who I dont even know) say I should leave you." I said "And do you know why they say that? They say that because you talk shit about me to them." It really pissed me off to know she was telling all her friends bad things about me. We have been divorced 9 years now.

@user-hk2fc4jv2g

Жыл бұрын

You will have talked s*** about her to your friends. Hypocrite. All your abuse, patronising, and mansplaining, will not change the fact that MEN discuss their partners with their mates.

@user-hk2fc4jv2g

27 күн бұрын

You will have talked about her with your mates. Your denying that does not change that.

Well She messed him up entirely And at the end she would have cheated. I am glad he left her

@piyushsharma3991

3 жыл бұрын

Ngl this type of stuff can really mess up the self esteem in people.

@ava-lc8gd

3 жыл бұрын

@@piyushsharma3991 definitely

@issacblevins42

3 жыл бұрын

@@piyushsharma3991 I don’t like using the ‘society card’ but this is the only time I’ll use it. Society doesn’t give a fuck wether or not men get body shamed, they also don’t care if your self esteem is being ruined

@crowwithinternetservice

3 жыл бұрын

@@issacblevins42 The harsh truth.

@issacblevins42

3 жыл бұрын

@@crowwithinternetservice exactly, hopefully in the future things will get better

She was settling and she only saw him as a meal ticket

@imtoofat4u

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah shes clearly imprinted by her ex and used the OP as her plan b.

@yourlandladysson6395

3 жыл бұрын

@@imtoofat4u n will cheat with her ex if he comes back

The fact after all she was pissed and insulting him and telling him shit, means that breaking up was the right thing to do. No compassion at all.

@gardenappreciation6932

2 жыл бұрын

She was pissed because she was invested, but it doesn't change what she did. She should have accepted her mistake.

@El_Fonzo

Жыл бұрын

@@gardenappreciation6932 she was passed casue she lost her meal ticket

"I just want someone to want me as much as I want them, if that makes sense." Yes sir it makes perfect sense. That's what every sincere human in a relationship wants. There is someone out there for you OP, hold tough and move on.

@davidbrown7589

3 жыл бұрын

So true, it is about love and respect.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe if he had genuinely been willing to learn, and change his sexual behaviour, and focus on her pleasure, not just his ego, she would have wanted him more. No woman wants to be intimate with a selfish man, who thinks he is Casanova, and refuses to learn, or change his behaviour, to make sex good for his partner.

@brutustantheiii8477

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 we all know by now you are nothing but a man hating troll who created so many straw men (to pretend you have a valid point) that you must’ve bankrupted several farms

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

@@brutustantheiii8477 YAWN!!!! Can't you come up with anything original? it's so boring, your pathetic name calling, of any woman who speaks.

@56harshvardhanchand65

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 he can't grow his member

It's pretty sad how men are told to 'stop whining'.. That's some toxic masculinity shit right there

@zanizone3617

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. But apparently the toxic label is given to it only if the person who judges finds your behavior inconvenient. If they profit from it is A-OK.

@DuelTubeChannel

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, but they're men, so Who care

@strikeforce1500

3 жыл бұрын

As someone who was taught to just 'man up everything'. Can confirm. It fricked me up hard

@kos2919

3 жыл бұрын

And the sad part the one who said to "man up" were mostly women. Just like the song "hit the road, Jack" about how a woman treat him like shit when he's not in the best situation

@Ebrulization

3 жыл бұрын

@MR. MIGUEL I don't think it's important who it is coming from.. I mean mothers and dads alike tell that to their sons

the first comment says it all. You never throw your partner down the cliff in front of ppl instead be the biggest defender

@RecklessFire29

3 жыл бұрын

No. I'm not going to pretend my partner is God's gift and does everything right. Tribalism is cancer.

@jay-gf7lm

3 жыл бұрын

@@RecklessFire29 ight thats fine and dandy but don’t mock them behind their back. Especially comparisons with the ex she hadn’t gotten over at the start of the relationship. Woulda made him feel like after all that time you’re still just a rebound

@RecklessFire29

3 жыл бұрын

@@jay-gf7lm ... How was she mocking him? She said everything else was great, but he wasn't as good in bed as her ex. That's it. He does everything else better than the ex except for that one thing, and they were having a conversation amongst themselves without him there. If he doesn't wanna hear the truth, maybe don't listen in on convos. lol

@akshaykumarjha9136

3 жыл бұрын

@@RecklessFire29 he doesn't want to settle for someone who isn't attracted to him as much as he is attracted to her. That's about it. I want my partner in a serious long term relationship to be the best in bed. And I'd expect that they'd want the same from me. If I'm not good for her, then she can either work with me or leave me. But I don't want them settling for my subpar capabilities, not communicating with me and then listing out such extremely private shortcomings to her friend. As for your first comment, no one is Gods' gift to the Earth. But I want my girlfriend to be the best thing that has happened to me. Otherwise why would I take the burden of maintaining a relationship instead of having a simple FWB arrangement. And since I'd consider her the best thing to have happened for me, I'd defend her when someone says something about her in negative light. And I would especially not talk about her supposed "average-ness" to my friends behind her back.

@Asaba32

3 жыл бұрын

I think what RecklessFire is consistently missing is that she didnt just say they were having problems at the moment or anything like that. First, she didn't try to address the issue within their home and in the confines of their relationship first if there was an issue. But even more than that, she didn't just say her ex was better than him. She said he was better than him and he could NEVER compare to him. That's a huge putdown and to do that to your future spouse is super wack. If they're never going to compare, then go back to that great person who is so much better so you don't have to think about them while having sex.

I'm a woman and even I can see how hard of a kick to the balls that was. The fact he's her ATM is all the more insulting. She has a lot of nerve to not only insult him like that but to down play and brush aside what she did.

@sgtwhisker26

2 жыл бұрын

She did a full Nelson on that poor man’s ego

@jwbrooks55

Жыл бұрын

I agree reading between the lines on this one that clearly she married him for his money.

@steveb8269

Жыл бұрын

Alpha Widow

@moik5185

7 ай бұрын

@@steveb8269 What if he was a beta with a huge dong? I know a guy with a 13inch D, and he's a shlubby gaming podcaster.

“I want to be wanted as much as I want to want someone” yes it makes sense ☝️

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

If he had been genuinely willing to learn, and change his sexual behaviour, she would have wanted him. He was not. He thought he was Casanova, and that no woman should ever tell him anything different. No woman wants to be intimate with a selfish man, who thinks he should be worshipped as a sex god, and who is unwilling to listen, to learn, or to improve their sexual behaviour. The fact that the threw a tantrum, and ditched her, makes his claims that he was willing to listen, and to work on technique, lies.

@ArthurRex131

Ай бұрын

@@tardislady9546 Where did you pick any of that up? Did you even watch the video?

There are 5 pillars to a successful relationship/marriage. They are: Lust (the initial "spark") Admiration Sympathy Respect Trust This isn't about size. It's about respect and trust, i.e. lack of both, as indicated in the first set of comments. Lack of respect to keep something like that to herself, and broke his trust that they were on the same team (she cut him down in public to another, undermining the relationship). Engagement was doomed. Her NOT realizing this and being mad at you shows how selfish and unaware she is. OP, you dodged a bullet. You are not the problem, she is. Let her go (mentally), and let your self-doubts go as well. This isn't about you, it's about her and her inadequacies. She's been what some call "alpha-widowed" and still hasn't gotten over her ex - maybe never will. Do not cry over loss of damaged goods.

@carinaadams6797

3 жыл бұрын

I disagree with your pillars but agree with your message.

@CunoWiederhold

3 жыл бұрын

So now she's been dumped twice! That's gotta hurt! lol Even a man with a little weenie can have the last laugh! lol

@friedrichviktorvoneltz9452

3 жыл бұрын

It’s all about respect and thrust

@tardislady9546

3 жыл бұрын

You would not sat that a MAN was 'damaged goods'. You would condone a MAN speaking about his female partner behind her back, comparing her to an ex, criticising her bedroom performance.

@matthewrose8002

3 жыл бұрын

She also shows lack of admiration for her partner. How can you admire someone who you are so easily able to belittle in front of other people?

there are a few tings that are complete relationship killers, almost 100% guaranteed to end it, and thats comparing them, especially physically/sexually to previous partners to others and finding out, it sucks to hear them degrade you on something thats impossible to change. makesyou see them differently and once your perception has been changed, its ridiculously hard to change it back

@caryweight728

3 жыл бұрын

Yup. Every man should know that they're probably not the best but no man wants to hear that especially when a chick is sharing it with friends like a joke.

@ashbee2251

3 жыл бұрын

Thats why im trying to make my current Beau feel special in every way. Knwn him since high school and he's just so wonderful. Im sexually experienced and have a kid, he's a virgin. So i want him to be loved and cherished and just happy

@dmb25108

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly ex-gf compared me to my face to her exs and it hurt and was emasculating, coupled with other issues it ended the relationship. Then when we had a talk and I told her how it made me feel she just passed it off. A good partner will always be concerned about your pleasure in the bedroom, as well as other aspect of your relationship. Bedroom pleasure for most men is easy, while (from my understanding) not as easy for women, but you have to want it as well. The phrase “a gentleman doesn’t kiss and tell” is a very appropriate statement. This statement really should apply to everyone. It is very disrespectful to you partner to reveal details to others or compare your partner to your past lovers to others. Talk to your partner to make the love life better.

@caryweight728

3 жыл бұрын

@@ashbee2251 then you better never discuss your exes.

@caryweight728

3 жыл бұрын

@@dmb25108 once an ex of mine tried that. She told me her ex was bigger. My reply was "you do remember what my ex looked like, right"? That shut her up.

Respect. That means she keeps Bill’s size and prowess to herself. To talk about it and disrespect him like that is a red flag. She’d leave him for Bill if he came back for her. Five years after they got married Bill would hit her up on social media and it would become another Reddit relationship story about her cheating on him.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

Respect has to be earned. He does not deserve respect. He listened in on her private conversation. He then stormed off in a childish temper tantrum because he heard that he was not Casanova. He then bullied her to retract her her words. He later cheated on her. Such a man does not deserve respect. If he were worthy of respect, he would not have listened in on her private conversation. Also, he would have been a man that she could have talked to, and he would have been willing to listen to her, and improve his sexual behaviour. He was none of these things. Cue the usual, BORING, Reddit misogynist abuse. Can't you lot come up with anything original, instead of the standard misogynist c***?

@goawayleavemealone2880

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 - She's a crap sack, if it was possible for her to earn his respect she'd have done it already... but I've seen you round here before, you'll defend women no matter how much of a $hitstain they are.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

@@goawayleavemealone2880 You defend men, no matter what they do, or how abusive, violent, or cruel, they may be. You are a hypocrite, condemning me, when you do exactly the same. You also think that men do not need to earn respect. Sickening double standards, typical of Reddit.

@goawayleavemealone2880

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 - No, I don't. I don't excuse bad behaviour from anybody... I am however less lenient when it comes to women because they're so rarely held to account. Don't make assumptions about people you don't even know, the difference between us is that I know you, not personally obviously, I know how you "think" because I was once part of your cult.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

@@goawayleavemealone2880 So, believing in equality, and women being treated with respect, and not labelled 'slags' if they dare to leave the house, wear a skirt above the ankle, drink anything stronger than tea, walk down the street, go to a party or event, or say 'hi' to a man, is a 'cult'? Women not having to live in fear of rape, sexual assault, and spiking, is a 'cult'? You understand nothing.

This is why having the same core values is a must.

@gelcoliva6314

3 жыл бұрын

true

Imagine how little she cared about the relationship to double down on the statement that started this all... if someone checks out over something like this, you can’t expect them to stick around in the long term

@akoilngas1215

3 жыл бұрын

I'm getting a strong feeling of entitlement here from the woman.

@absolut_dre

3 жыл бұрын

"But it's true! The other guy is bigger! Come on, we're all adults here!"

@kos2919

3 жыл бұрын

She seems to be pretty selfish. Remind me of my brother's ex wife how divorce him because she wants freedom like when she's still single and divorce her husband and left her child.

@AMANSHARMA-xw8qi

3 жыл бұрын

@@absolut_dre nd as adults we all can agree on the fact that it is about time that she cheats on him.

@tardislady9546

3 жыл бұрын

@@kos2919 Yet you would not think badly of a MAN who left a child.

On top of selling him out, she demonstrated she is absolutely capable of weaponizing a mans sexuality which is possibly one of the most abusive things you can do in a relationship. She belongs to the streets

This guy even feeling almost guilty for leaving her over this is so sad. She belongs to the streets if she even talks and thinks about her ex that way.

Reminds me of my ex, always belittling me in front of our mutual friends, so glad those days are behind me I’ll never let someone disrespect me like that again.

Jason is great but he NEVER BE THE LOVER BILL WAS!!! MAN, THAT IS COLD!!! Jill is nice BUT SHE NEVER BE AS HOT AS JANE IS!!! NOW THAT IS COLD!!! Now both statements would be very hurtful especially if it was said by someone you LOVE saying it to someone ELSE!!! Jill you keep the apartment clean and are a good provider. WHAT THE HELL WAS THAT???

The simple fact that she mentioned the ex out of the blue like this is a giant red flag. It just shows she still thinks of him

If the other guy wanted her she would of screwed him in a heart beat. She was trash talking him plain and simple.

I feel awful for this guy. He doesn’t deserve any of this. That was such a slap in the face. Her reasoning is giving me huge “he’s my meal ticket” vibes.

Shes heartbroken because she lost her ATM. When her first response was “you’re a good provider.” It just means you make a lot of money for me to use.

She said he is second best, and always will be no matter what because of physical limitations. She told her friends about it too. She doubled down on it. Destroyed this dude's self-esteem and then got mad at him for ending it. I pity the next poor soul that gets hooked by this female.

@tardislady9546

Жыл бұрын

He will have whined about her bedroom performance to his mates. He was the one who refused to listen, and was unwilling to change his sexual behaviour, despite his claims. I feel sorry for any woman he is with, as she will not be able to tell him if she is unhappy with their sex life, as she will know that he will storm off, cheat, then ditch her, for doing so. He needs to grow up, be less selfish, and learn to focus on his partner, not himself, sexually.

@mr.dantastic5073

Жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 I don’t think you heard the same story, and I’m very sorry for you.

@user-hk2fc4jv2g

Жыл бұрын

@@mr.dantastic5073 You do not have the balls to be civil to a woman, you sad little willy waver.

@mereassassinates550

5 ай бұрын

@@mr.dantastic5073I think she’s the woman from the story 😂😂😂😂

She was settling, even he said "she came around." Based on her tone, she prob thought no one would ever compare. 😢

@rustyreese4006

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. She definitely needs to work on her own flaws, and grow up. Right now she is ugly and damaged. She's not worth a commitment beyond, friends with benefits. And I have to play loosely with the friends part of that.

@grantsmith6052

3 жыл бұрын

JH she was dumped so she was out of her league.

@phillipaaragon6225

3 жыл бұрын

Mom saw me naked working out wife's mom said for short man nice naught me pills an creams now 13 plus her an friend

@phillipaaragon6225

3 жыл бұрын

Who are u K g not sure

@phillipaaragon6225

3 жыл бұрын

@K G sorry

This reminds me of my own experience. My, then at the time, gf and I had thrown a house party. We had something going on in every different room to keep people entertained. There was video games, music, movies, food, alcohol, and even recreational fun. Well, about 2 hours in, my gf was drunk and she was going around to people talking about her ex. How he was a better lover and that I just wasnt as well endowed as him. I made up for it in other ways, but what she missed and wished for, was her exs member. It was so humiliating. It hurt me so much. I went around and apologized to people and they felt so uncomfortable, that people were leaving. I went to my room, closed the door, and laid on my bed. My gf comes in there, talking to me, stumbling around, slurring her words trying to get me to talk to her. She didnt know I had heard her... pretty funny, huh. She left me alone and came back in about 20 minutes and wanted to have sex, but I just pretended to be asleep. It messed with me for a long time. We eventually had a talk about it but the damage was done, and she didnt remember much of it because she was so wasted.

@davidbrown7589

3 жыл бұрын

Did you break it off with her?

@crimsoncaliber8270

3 жыл бұрын

@@davidbrown7589 Yes. We've been broken up for several years now.

@tardislady9546

3 жыл бұрын

Are you aware that people say things they do not mean, or are not true, when they are drunk? Excess alcohol causes loss of control, of words and actions. She may have said things that were completely false, because she was not in control of her words, because she was drunk. Before you scream 'then women should not drink alcohol', how many MEN have said hurtful things when they are drunk?

@davidbrown7589

3 жыл бұрын

@@crimsoncaliber8270 I know how it feels when your girlfriend discusses your size with other people. This actually happened to me years ago (1992) I worked for J C P_____y's my girlfriend at the time discussed my length with her female friends that worked there. It spread through the store like wildfire. All these women I did not even know were walking up to me and winking " 7 1/2 inches aye". I confronted my girlfriend about it and she acted like it was no big deal, and told me stop being insecure. I figured I was going quit that place anyways, so I measured her lady split top to bottom, I said fair is fair. The next day at work I mentioned to one of her friends that my girlfriend was 6 1/2 inches. All the 7 1/2 jokes stopped, and her friends got real quiet around me. She broke it off with me after that, and I quit and went to work for Circuit C__ty. I found a new girlfriend there that actually knew my ex. She was a very short and slender brunet. She measured in at around 3 1/2 inches. (I am ashamed to admit, I got a little fixated for awhile about their length).

@davidbrown7589

3 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 OK we get that you hate men alright, good lord.

Further she has no respect for her fiance. If your spouse or partner publicly humiliates you its time to introspect the relationship and end it. And OP has no self respect and self worth. You don't have to compete with ex. If she continuously compares with ex then it simply means she is not over her ex.

@CunoWiederhold

3 жыл бұрын

She would take her ex back in a second if he wanted her back or worse yet, be her AP!

@akoilngas1215

3 жыл бұрын

I like how he she tries to lie to his face about not saying that to her friend. Any sort of attempt at reconciliation should consider the fact that she would rather lie to her fiance than tell him the truth. This is a horrible situation. The level of disrespect is disgusting. This is not about the guy being a little baby. He was straight up betrayed by his fiancee in public. The idea that he took "responsibility" for the break-up, trying to spare her feelings is ridiculous. He says she is "justifiably" angry at him. He's totally ignoring that she killed the relationship, and she should be angry with herself, not him. She should take the responsibility for her words and actions and shaming her fiance publicly.

@DuelTubeChannel

3 жыл бұрын

I dont think Is competition, and that It was strictly a case of pure measure. Its most a combination of that, humiliation and disrespect. Deadly cocktail if you Ask me

@ariefraiser140

3 жыл бұрын

It was a private conversation between her and her girlfriend....where in the world did you get publicly humiliate from? You act like she posted this on Facebook or went out in front of a whole gathering of people in the house and made this statement.

@joelbell242

3 жыл бұрын

@@ariefraiser140 she told her friend, which basically means everyone in their circle will know. Women talk, to everyone. If he hadn’t over heard he would’ve been the last to know.

In these Reddit Relationship vignettes a big problem is Wife/GF/Fiance confiding in her BFF, OR takes bad advice from BFF that ruins everything. My comment is that you can't have a Fiance/Fiancee/Wife/Husband AND a confidante. Gotta be the same person. Investing you BFF with sensitive information either about your spouse or something you are keeping from them is a breach of trust. Its a sin of omission. Your either in or your out, no in between.

@lamargordon6017

3 жыл бұрын

Best comment yet

@BriarPatchNyra

3 жыл бұрын

You should always have friends to talk to. Trust me. My parents are each other’s only friends and they’re a mess. They have no support system, it’s led to ugly co depdenceny.

@ShaunHensley

3 жыл бұрын

Relationships cannot be had with modern women.

@peterjeffery8495

3 жыл бұрын

@@BriarPatchNyra Totally agree but friend NOT confidante. I think partners should know each others passwords, pin numbers and secrets.

@KyrieChii

3 жыл бұрын

@@ShaunHensley Perhaps _you_ can't have a relationship with a modern woman.

OP was just her “safe” option. She was going to marry him to have a stable life, but since she wasn’t satisfied with him in the bedroom I think she would’ve eventually had an affair with someone else. To be honest though, since the people in OP’s social circle saw their breakup as “she cheated” and not “he cheated”, I think she was already cheating on him

@TheLonelyOnee

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, 100% this.

@kos2919

3 жыл бұрын

That's actually quite an astute observation. When everyone in his circle immediately took the same conclusion about her it means there's something really wrong with her attitude

@spacetofu5306

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, if people have a sudden collective decision, then there must be some details that were so vivd that it was easy to make such an assumption.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

He claimed he was willing to listen to what she wanted sexually, work on any technique. However, instead of listening to her, and working on technique, he stormed off, and ditched her. He is very immature, and egotistical, thinking he should be seen as the best at everything, instead of being willing to learn. Had he genuinely been willing to listen, work on technique, and learn what was good for her, this could have been resolved. Cue another round of pathetic Reddit abuse towards me.

@Mia-dt3gl

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 Your reply is just a classic modern case of blaming a man for a woman’s faults. She emasculated him and _he’s_ the immature one? There was nothing OP could do to fix this. His ex basically said it in words when she told him that she “loved everything else about him”. She would not back down from the stance that she loved everything but his prowess in bed. If there was anything she felt he could fix, she would have told him so. Instead she admitted that he could never satisfy her sexually but that it “didn’t matter” because she wanted to marry him anyway. She was only looking out for herself.

As someone who left for simpler reasons. I honestly wouldn't have endured for as long as this guy did. When I heard that it was her ex that left her, that is a massive red flag there. I wouldn't have wanted to spend my future with someone who, at the back of my head, would have left me for another guy if there is a chance.

My ex didn’t even know how to kiss properly. Yet I had never told this to anyone because I valued her as a person and it would’ve been extremely disrespectful to humiliate her this way. What an asshole OP’s girlfriend is.

@ShaunHensley

3 жыл бұрын

Women generally betray the confidence of their partners to their friends.

@bonnevillebagger9147

3 жыл бұрын

@@ShaunHensley it’s such a disgusting character trait.

@akoilngas1215

3 жыл бұрын

She can get better at kissing. The dude can't do anything about his junk. It's not going to get any bigger. And even then, you at least respected her enough to shame her with your circle of friends. You don't think that EVERY woman in that circle of friends knew that OP was unsatisfying?

@MrSP1RIDER

3 жыл бұрын

@@akoilngas1215 i don't think it even had all that much to do with size, when it comes to the bedroom women generally love a confident man who takes charge, if op wasn't overly confident, that in itself would be enough to warrant that statement in her eyes.

@MrBmic

3 жыл бұрын

I dated a woman with bad breath. BL:AH!!!!

If I was in OP's shoes, I would've planned an escape route immediately. Not wasting time committing to a woman who's been alpha widowed. Just gonna bring inevitable disloyalty and drama later down the road. Better to rip off the band aid than peel it off, dragging things out as what the man of the story is doing.

It sounds like it would’ve been just a recipe for her to cheat. If size didn’t matter to her then she wouldn’t have said it.

You don't say something like that about a person in their own house, when they're friggin' home!

@rustyreese4006

3 жыл бұрын

Almost right. You don't say something like that about anyone you love, ever. Doesn't matter where you're at.

Sorry but her stating that he is a better provider would not make me happy, that would be more of a reason to break up for me and as the comments said, her saying it that way makes it look like she only settled for him because he has money

@Sephiroth766

3 жыл бұрын

Many have mentioned it but she's a prime candidate to cheat. She mentioned the sizes not for no reason, but it's because she's thought about it. Thus if she finds someone who she feels would satisfy her more, she will jump on it. OP got out before marriage which was good.

@Bleg94

3 жыл бұрын

@@Sephiroth766 exactly, she would cheat on him, if they live in the wrong area he would have to give her alimony etc

If the fiance heard OP talking to his male friends and comparing her to his ex I am sure she would have blown up. You just don't do that. You don't kiss and tell no matter you're a man or woman. It's disrespectful.

@tardislady9546

3 жыл бұрын

Despite your words, you would not condemn a MAN who kissed and told.

@blackknight4152

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 No one is condemning here, its disrespectful, the fact that men and women can do it, doesnt mean it is less disrespectfulm or somehow OP had to deal with it. Its a deal breaker for him and thats it. If you want to find men with self steem low enough to take hits like those then look for them. but if you do this to your average man and he finds out then its over.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

@@blackknight4152 You proved my point. You do not condemn MEN for degrading their female partners to their friends.

@brutustantheiii8477

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 how many straw men have you.l built in the comments sections here? You clearly have a haughty arrogance towards men only made possible by men giving you such a luxurious first world country to live in

@brutustantheiii8477

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 and For heavens sake, pull your head out of your sense of superiority, and ask yourself why would a man bash HIS OWN Girl?saying that would mean admitting that HE is the one that can’t possibly do better or get better.

When she tried to lie about what she said when it was first brought up by OP. Knew right then that she wasn't marriage material. She had the courage to betray her partner, but not the courage to own up to it? She lied because she didn't want her fiance to know her inner most thoughts. Big ass red flag. Obvious serious character flaw when you can't even be honest with yourself and your soon to be husband. If Bill was the one who got away, she should try to track him down. But my guess is that he broke up with her because he had an inkling of how she was and noped straight out of there. She needs to do alot of work on herself before she tries to involve anyone else in her life And it was also a subtle but equally huge red flag that in the absence of an explanation on why they are splitting up, everyone immediately assumed and could believe that she cheated on him. Maybe more people than OP realized knows about her thoughts on his size. In which case, leaving her was absolutely the right thing to do as she would have betrayed his trust and dispariged him on multiple occasions.

The fact that his family assumes she cheated on him and that she lashed out at him proves that he made the right decision in dumping her.

IT'S (NOT) THAT (WHAT'S HIS NAME) IS (BIGGER); IT'S THAT HE'S (THE BEST) AND YOU WILL (NEVER) BE AS (GOOD) AS HIM!! 🤨

If a woman asks "Does this make me look fat?" Your answer is dependent on time and place. Be sensitive, while not telling a pure lie. This woman is the type of person who would have called the one asking a whale behind her back, then going with a shame tactic once it was out.

@ssjwes

3 жыл бұрын

If the girl thats asking is fat then don't lie. 250 pound girl asking if something made her look fat? How do you answer the question in a sensitive way? Don't just say "be sensitive" give us an example... and no, being evasive in your answer is not the answer... "You look good in anything!" Really? Like she'd be happy with that?

@GreenMetalicDevil

3 жыл бұрын

@@ssjwes It depends on your relation, as well as your personalities. So that makes it hard to give an exact example. Some can take it, others really can’t, same goes with men. Most people have a sore spot concerning looks, fat is just usually something that can be worked off, unless you have special circumstances. I would probably answer to your 250 pound woman what I think about the dress or clothes, whether they look nice or not. The important part is how she would respond is blame the victim after she called her a hippo or whale, because the victim shuold know that she still likes her and be ashamed for not understanding that she has a right to talk about them behind their back and call them whatever or talk about private things.

This is why I hate it when in fiction writings the writer made "leftover lovers" falling for each other after their love for the main characters was rejected. This is very prominent in for teen and young adult fictions like novels, TV series, anime, cartoon etc etc. In fiction it seems to be happily ever after but in reality it felt like rebound sex or relationship and it can be painful if their old flame is still around and they obviously still not over them yet.

@dannystelly4838

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah especially in anime every time the mc gets girlfriend it’s happily ever after, except if your guts from berserk and your pregnant girlfriend gets defiled by your best friend but that’s rare in anime especially these days.

As a woman I couldn't get over something like that at all.. Even bigger though, I don't talk to my best friends about my husband or my marriage.. Nobody even knows when we have an argument and not speaking, that is between us...

If you SO compares you to another person they were intimate with, then they are not into you.They never were. Someone who is into you, loves you, does not compare you to other people, not even in their thoughts.

Kudos to this guy for standing up for himself.

I'm not gonna lie, my immediate reaction was "Get over it." But putting myself in his shoes, I cannot imagine how terribly I'd feel if my husband inadvertently criticized my body or our intimate life to one of his guy friends. Like even if it wasn't an outright insult to OP, it's just incredibly violating to discuss that with someone else. If she had an issue with anything, that's a private conversation to be had between the two of them only. My husband said he doesn't even talk about me in a positive way to his friends when it comes to bedroom stuff cause to him that's disrespectful and something only he needs to know.

@blickluke

2 жыл бұрын

The last thing you said is actually the norm for, so far, almost all guys I've ever talked with, very few have ever talked at all about their sex life or their partners body at all with their guy friends especially the more serious the relationship is, despite guys having the complete opposite stereotype.

@thanhdohuu9473

Жыл бұрын

The disrespect was only a part of it. Another major issue that led to them breaking up was that he then knew that he wasn't her first choice, that she wasn't fully committed to him, she settled for him and she would cheat on/ leave him for the ex as soon as the ex is back. From then on, he will always feel inadequate and insecure and wouldn't be able to devote his time, energy and resources to her thinking that she will leave him for her ex or someone similar if the opportunity arises. In other words, if she told him the same thing in private, the result would have very likely been the same. As long as he has doubts that she is with him only due to lack of better options and as long as the ex keep being a threat, the marriage can't survive. It was also why whatever she said about his other qualities didn't help because she failed to eliminate the ex as a potential threat to their relationship and that she still has a reason to leave him for the ex if the ex wants her. Can't get married to someone who you don't believe is 100% committed to you.

Really hit a chord with me. When I was at university when I was in my early 20’s I over heard two ladies talking and comparing a current boyfriend with her previous. I was so shocked by it that it’s scarred me for life. After explaining what a great lover John was she followed it up with “But Tony is really nice, isn’t he”. I’ve always seen myself as the “nice” guy in relationships since. That means second best. Not good enough.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

@Drew Taylor Yet you would have demanded that she accept it, without question, when YOU had brought out pictures of your exes. Sickening, but typical, Reddit double standards.

@planguy9575

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 Would he have? I don't even know why a guy would have pictures of his exes around.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

@@planguy9575 Of course he would. He's a Redditor, and an American, therefore he thinks he has no responsibilities, and need make no effort, in relationships.

@bad1173

2 жыл бұрын

The best part is almost every guy I’ve ever met never compared their current women to their past in any way besides the “she was just crazy” that’s the only thing said about exs that I’ve heard. It blows my mind how openly women talk about sex life or just personal stuff that wouldn’t cross a dudes mind. Even my FWB rn openly talks about me being great in bed and like shows my junk to her friends in like a bragging sense? Imagine I showed her in that way, just so freaking weird. Then she wonders why I won’t ever date her like damn you can’t even keep stuff quiet when we aren’t together how could I trust you now?

@mauriceprice3651

11 ай бұрын

I was sitting at a café a few weeks back and overheard two older women talking. One was telling the other that her husband was having some problems. He thought it was stress, but she thought it was that he was getting older. I felt bad for the guy to know that his wife was discussing his problem with another woman, and in public within earshot of others around them. To be fair, she didn’t sound as if she was making fun or belittling. It was matter of fact. She could have been discussing him catching a cold based on the tone. I could only think of how he might feel looking in the face of his wife’s friend knowing that she is aware he is experiencing some ‘problems’ down there. Some topics should stay within the relationship or with professionals.

Yeah OP got gutted. It’s disrespect

WHY must women share intimate details about their man with their friends? Men don't share intimate details about the women they care about.

@shadezsalvatrucha7179

3 жыл бұрын

It's natural for women to look for drama no matter who they hurt

@shadezsalvatrucha7179

3 жыл бұрын

@@ConanTheCimmerian true you just gotta find one with self control and some humility

@Nina-cd6uw

3 жыл бұрын

It was her best friend and only one apparently, could still be that she seeked some council what to do with their sex life when he interrupted. ALL of my male friends do the same - they have one, or even several best friends from which they seek guidance on these topics and in a group it's a red flag but one friend you can tell EVERYTHING is something everybody needs. It's a shit situation though.

@shadezsalvatrucha7179

3 жыл бұрын

@@Nina-cd6uw lmaooo "when he INTERRUPTED" did you even look listen to the whole thing

@Nina-cd6uw

3 жыл бұрын

@@ConanTheCimmerian You could say the same for men - "always on the hunt for younger, prettier, better." You seem bitter and oversimplify things. Both genders have their toxic representatives. You'll either grow out of your misogynistic phase or stay single/a toxic partner forever with that mindset.

Dude this is not petty, you were a fortunate man to be able to get real insight into your partner. Her real thoughts. Get out of that relationship, run. This is a feeling, an emotion that will fester like an infection. This is how women sometimes as old as fifty step out on their marriage after 20, 25 years of marriage.

This gentleman might not realise how blessed he is that The Universe made him walk in on that horrendous conversation in order to protect and save him from something much more dangerous and damaging than just that conversation.

Her Checklist-Top Tier: Money Job Family Education. Her Checklist - Bottom Tier: Intelligence Temperament Looks Sex Appeal Chemistry Sense Of Humor. A typical checklist for girls evaluating potential spouses. However at, near or beyond a certain age, the Bottom Tier factors don't count for much much at all. She settled. He was the best of what's left after Johnny Wadd dumped her. She is callous and calculating and "Buyers Remorse" would have surfaced at some point in a nasty way. Good Riddance to his slack old Fiancee.

@tardislady9546

3 жыл бұрын

You are talking crap.

@peterjeffery8495

3 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 Of course...her motives and her heart were pure, is that what your saying? She settled...he was the "he'll do" choice, nothing more.

@tardislady9546

3 жыл бұрын

@@peterjeffery8495 I cannot be bothered trying to reason with a Redditor, as you are not capable of civilised discussion with a woman. No, that does not mean I know nothing, nor does it mean I am talking 'bs', I simply cannot be bothered. By the way, sarcasm is the LOWEST form of wit. Let me know if you ever mature, and become capable of civilised discussion. I doubt that will ever happen, given Redditors preference for infantile willy waving, instead of civilised, mature, debate.

@Jojo_D_Northstar

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 i literally see your comment on every video of this kind and it’s always this toxic men bad shit

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

@@Jojo_D_Northstar READ my last reply, that sums up Reddit men completely, you included.

Alpha ducks, beta bucks - 101.

I feel bad for OP. I had something similar happen with me, but in a way, much colder. My ex-fiancé basically said the same type of thing, except directly to me, even laughed at, uh, what I had. She said it always felt good, but still laughed. Needless to say, we are not together anymore.

Why was she frustrated? Cos in her head, she is entitled to forgiveness and it not coming frustrated her. She actually thinks she is doing him a favour by being with him

I don't appreciate the people saying she "settled". She didn't settle, she was never on the level of the ex who dumped her. He had his fun with her and threw her back to her level. So she thinks she was actually higher than he.

That comment at around 8:00 was gold. I was literally thinking the same thing. Just imagine for the ladies a mandating to his best friend Jill is my best friend. I love her as our connection is so great, but unfortunately her kitty is just so loose. I mean it is like a tunnel, and I can never get off. I really miss Amy's tight kitty.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

He would be congratulated by the men around him, and they would laugh with him about it.

@Penguins95268771

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 Some men might, but compared to women regarding genitalia. Not even in the same atmosphere.

@ravenID429

11 ай бұрын

@@tardislady9546LOL so you really are pathetic enough to try this in every comment thread! There’s some videos over at buzzfeed I think would REALLY speak to you, you seem to have the same fictional ideas about how men act as they do.

Crazy how one sentence can convey so much information, and destroy a relationship.

I could only imagine how much the ex will go on and on about "toxic masculinity" how women deserve better, etc etc etc, and use this poor guy as an example because he wouldn't bend the knee and bow down before her. The guy definitely dodged a bullet, and will be way better off in the future.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

She will be the one who is better off. She can now find a mature adult, who will listen to her, engage, and be willing to improve his sexual behaviour. He ex was not.

@draco51683

2 жыл бұрын

@@tardislady9546 Yeah... your either a troll or your typical misandrist feminist to think that the ex is anywhere near the one in the right in this story. I also laugh at the fact that you think that the ex is a mature adult, despite her acting like she peaked in high school and hasn't matured since. Lmao, she never once listened to him, or took him seriously, or engaged him at all, and according to her the only "problem" she had with him was the size of his penis, so I say that she is pretty shallow. OP will definitely find somebody better, while the ex can go off do what she wants, probably never find a real relationship.

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

@@draco51683 Let me know if you ever grow up, and stop blaming women for this man's failure to wish to improve his sexual behaviour. Had this man been truly willing to listen to her, to learn what pleased her, and improve his sexual behaviour, this would not have happed. He was not. She knew she could not talk to him about this, as he would not listen, or take her seriously. He proved her right, when he stormed off, and ditched her. He was also abusive, seeking to control who she spoke to, and what she said.However, as a Reddit male, you are too dense to see that women are EQUAL to men, and have the right to express views. You also think that men have no responsibilities in, and need contribute nothing to, relationships. You will bore me with your pathetic abuse now. YAWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Calls every name in the book. That may be true and I may never measure up to him but you know this is now two relationships where the common denominator in their failure was you. Meanwhile I will hurt, but get over it and find someone better. Have a good life. Mic drop.

I'm a girl and i just wanna know HOW the hell do you just say that to your friend? Just how? about your FIANCE!!! Not a guy you just started dating... That's TOTAL LACK OF RESPECT in my eyes. The person you're going to marry should be your partner and you should want to defend them against the whole world... how does one just say something like that ON THEIR OWN. It's not like the friend said it and she just agreed... she was the one to throw it out there....

@innocentbystander72

2 жыл бұрын

This is how someone says that, some people never grow up out of having a middle school mentality.

The one question he never got answered (or at least didn't tell reddit the answer) is why was saying this in the first place. Why was it important for her to tell her friend that her new man didn't measure up. That doesn't sound like something that needed to be made public, unless she was preparing an exit plan with her friend and justifying the reason.

Its scary to think only one sentence could ruin the relationship that built over the years.

@innocentbystander72

3 жыл бұрын

It was way more than one sentence. It was her not respecting him. She should have never talked down her fiancee like that to others.

The first girl literally body shamed him and didn’t see what the problem was makes me mad.

As it stands now OP's ex--fiance has been officially dumped by two men. We never will know why her previous ex dumped her but it is not beyond the range of possibility that it was over similar character flaws. I can guarantee that if she doesn't make the effort to work on herself she will definitely have a divorce in her future. OP really dodged a bullet here. It's a cliche but in this case I think the saying "Everything happens for a reason" holds true. OP was in the right place at the right time to witness his ex-fiance's true nature, straight no chaser.

Her rage after him leaving her is the rage of the loss of who she thought was her simp, pushover ATM.

It pissed me off so much when the guy finds out or hears something they always say "I wanted to confront her but acted like nothing happened instead" then start acting distant until the girl makes him say what's wrong. Confront them in the act or at the time...

The fact that he had to feel ashamed about how he felt shows how damaging modern liberal western ideology is to men

I hope this guy gets therapy and learns to have love for himself and pride as a man.

Overhearing that convo would have signalled the end and to get out as soon as possible for me. And should do to any guy with any self respect and dignity. Never settle for being second best to a partner! It means it’s doomed to failure at some point anyway. Probably by an affair some point down the line. Don’t wast your time and life with anyone like this. She one of those people who is a completely selfish individual who uses people!

She was alpha widowed

When you eaves drop. You never hear anything good.

OP, you're fortunate. At least you found out how she felt about you before marriage. I found out some extremely awful things my spouse was saying to his friends and I was totally humiliated. He had told me before we married that he had been in relationships that treated him like trash, so you'd think that he would treat me better? Nope.

This won't be the first person who ruined their relationship by not knowing you don't insult your significant other in any manor ever to other people . Respect is paramount in any relationship and if you lose the respect of your partner you're done! What she said is disrespectful as hell and she is finding out the gravity of her irresponsible statement .

My ex wife said something similar to me while we were still married and she may as well have physically stabbed me with a knife. It was even worse that she was comparing me to someone who molested her son it felt like someone ripped my heart out it's not as easy to get over as one who has never experienced it might think.

@sean6775

2 жыл бұрын

Dude, what the fuck? "Yeah, you're not bad but you don't quite measure up to the guy that graped my son" lol, this can't be real

He dodged a bullet here, she had so much disrespect for him she didnt even notice it as a problem, my ex got pissy cause I stopped trying to initiate sex, however that only occurred after she turned me down like 10 times enough times to not feel sexy and unwanted when I over heard her discuss this with a guy friend I lost it, and left like how dare you set me up to fail then eine about it to another guy she claimed to not realize but through our last convo she realised shes been saying no and I was waiting for when she wanted it

@jimmiedmc1

3 жыл бұрын

@BLACK PILL GOD OF MGTOW long story but I font think so later found out she was cheating

@tardislady9546

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe if you had done your share of housework and childcare, treated her well, made time for her, listened to her, took her seriously, supported her dreams and ambitions, made her feel like a sexy women, and had made the effort to make sex good for her, she would have wanted to have sex with you more. Cue your tirade of whining, abuse, and your claiming to be a saint.

It is likely her ex was her "the one" and she was just settling with the OP if she's willing to tell others how she feels. It's unfortunate for both parties but it's better to find out now vs later. If she is this indiscreet about you to her friends, she probably is better left for someone else to discover.

After watching all these numerous videos I think a person's better off being alone

the “physically gifted” is only the second part of the sentence, the first and most important is when she said “Op will never be the lover (ex name) was” and i think thats what the op is complaining about, and in my opinion, its not whinny

This is a good reason to advocate for abstinence if you plan on getting married. Sex is a bonding agent and having that bond with people outside of your current spouse makes for a heck of a mess.

@user-hk2fc4jv2g

Жыл бұрын

Funny how you think that women should abstain, but MEN can sleep around. Sickening.

She makes a better sandwich than Jill! Makes sense to me!🤣🤣🤣

I could never imagine talking about my significant other like that to my friends. My recent ex and I always discussed with each other only when things weren't working in the bedroom, never with anyone else. It is so disrespectful and immature to go behind his back and just bad mouth something about him, especially something he has no control over