Unscripted E35: Reflecting On How We Handle Conflict In Our Marriage
In this heartfelt episode, we discuss our journey of navigating the complexities of our relationship from engagement to marriage. We share personal anecdotes and challenges, highlighting the importance of communication, patience, and understanding. Through reflective storytelling, we reveal how we manage conflicts, the role of mentors, and the significance of creating a safe emotional space within a marriage. Tune in to learn valuable lessons on maintaining a healthy relationship and growing together through life's ups and downs.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Our first big incident before marriage
06:45 How I justified my inability to deal with uncomfortable situations - RK
08:45 I had seen the pattern - a red flag in how my wife handled disagreements - FK
11:56 My conviction for our marriage made me stay when I could have walked away - FK
14:50 I went into marriage more conscious of the cross than the joys of it. - FK
19:43 The way we handle conflict makes us drift apart.
23:40 Why I stayed when I could have reconsidered marriage - FK
26:17 Our conflicts in marriage brought me to the consciousness of men & women - FK
33:07 Our fights led me to prayer for God to help me change - RK
32:25 I learnt not to comment about everything that was going wrong - FK
37:32 Separate your partner from their weakness
40:51 Learn to let go and extend grace
46:41 Pay attention to what the devil or the spirit whispers to you in the moment of offence
49:48 It helps to separate your partner from the incidents that cause conflicts
1:01:17 Understanding women's emotions
1:03:36 The two dimensions of emotions
1:10:02 How differences cause conflict
PODCAST LINKS:
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Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/5uzP82h...
CONNECT WITH US:
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Felix Kitaka- / themutambuze
Rukh-Shana Kitaka - / rukhshana
Instagram:
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ABOUT US:
Rukh-Shana Kitaka has excelled in two careers: as a corporate communications specialist and a celebrated media personality. She received numerous awards as a prime-time news anchor, including the "Best Female TV News Anchor Award."
Felix Kitaka is a self-taught software engineer who dropped out of university in 2009 at nineteen, determined to show the world that one could succeed without a university degree. In 2021, he was hired as a Senior Software Engineer for a San Francisco-based tech company, proving that there are alternative paths to success.
Married in 2021, we now share insights on our podcast 'The Kitakas' and in our book 'The Woman’s Bait.' Based on Christian values, our content seeks to inspire hope in healthy, thriving, purpose-driven marriages.
Пікірлер: 81
Banange those preparing for marriage you need not miss this segment. Mrs & Mrs Kitaka thanks for putting things into perspective. Much appreciated 🙏🙏
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
Thanks for watching 🙏. We are always blessed to share from our experience and journey. -RK
Honesty on both ends is extremely commendable. Also praiseworthy is the fact that Mr. Kitaka fears the Lord so much so that he always enquires from Him of every situation he encounters. One thing I have come to learn is that life is spiritual and ought to be dealt with that way. Your podcast is such a blessing and even though I am not married yet, I know the Lord impressed on me such a strong conviction to listen in to all your episodes. Truly, my pride and culturally celebrated norms of a feminist woman are being destroyed. Am I ever so thankful that you decided to share these insights! Thank you the Kitakas😊
Conflict resolution in marriage is very fundamental. Many have failed because of issues that would rather have been resolved if handled well or appropriately... Extending Grace and Kindness come along way to making lasting relationships and marriage. Thank you The Kitakas...
My father always say be patient with people when they are on their journey
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
Your father is a wise man! It takes a lot to be patient and gracious with others. -RK
The podcast ended while I was still enjoying. You didn't prepare my mind for the ending. Anyways, thanks for sharing your struggles. Ministry is not a church, God has called you to help marriages. Actually, I now believe that you are not married for your own sake, but for the Kingdom of God. From today, I'll call your marriage kingdom marriage
I love how real this talk is....
Cant wait to dive into the word❤
I really needed this....😢
Thank you for sharing. The authenticity in this conversation is top notch.
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
🙏 thank you too for joining us! -RK
So deep! So raw!!! Damn, I love this conversation!!!❤
Thank you. I needed to be reminded of so many things
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
You are so welcome 🙏. -RK
Deep and authentic conversation. May God continue to use you to minister to many.
Thanks for opening up your life fails and achievements to us all the time, continue staying strong, compassionate ,respectful and loving all the time. God above all. The blessed @The Kitakaz.
This is Deep, Thank you 🙏.
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
Thanks for plugging in. -RK
It's always exciting to camp here. So much wisdom and knowledge of the Word of God. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. God Bless you 🙏
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
Thanks for watching!-RK
Thank you for the podcast
God am glad to be here again.
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
Bless you. You are consistent! -RK
Thank you so much for sharing with us
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
You are welcome🙏. -RK
It's Shan's deep breath for me😁. But thank you Mr&Mrs Kitaka for always opening up. I'm learning. I've been like Shan before in my relationship but God has worked on me
Thanks for sharing...am learning alot...Your marriage is a big blessing
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
Glad to hear that and glory to God! -RK
48:10 What a podcast worth watching!!
So impactfull
Wow very inspiring very encouraging
Indeed you were destined to be together.God ,bless your chn in their marriage journey. Lots of lessons. .
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
Amen 🙏! -RK
These episodes are transforming lives . . . keep on walking #TheKitakas #Mutambuze
@ollieTrades111
25 күн бұрын
True, they are preparing me for marriage 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thanks to God that He created us differently. I imagine if we were all the same. I love the reality in what you say. May God continue to use you.
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
🙏 Amen! -RK
Thanks for sharing🙌
@thekitakas
25 күн бұрын
It’s always a pleasure and thank you for the giving of your time to watch. We hope you are as blessed as we are! -RK
Separating the person from the conflict or their weakness is really difficult. I pray for more grace in this area. Regards
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
His Grace is sufficient for you! It starts with yourself. Are you able to separate/ see yourself separate from your weakness or do you think it’s one with you? -RK
@ninsiimajosephine5881
Ай бұрын
@thekitakas I actually see them as one with me. This is definitely a good start.
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
How do you reconcile seeing your weakness as one with you in light of who God says you are 🤔? -RK
@ninsiimajosephine5881
Ай бұрын
@thekitakas I would call it a journey to deliverance. Like all other things we struggle with when the Holy spirit reveals them, eventually the time of deliverance comes. Awareness is the first step to victory.
Seeing Ruk Shana the celebrity speaking from the point of her weakness Damn,it's so authentic and real. Am sure it touches many souls. Hope u had stayed anchoring the news on weekend. The ka English 😅😅
Naye mwaami Kitaka is soo wise....
every husband needs the patience and calmness of Mr kitaka to be able to handle and manage the changing and unpredictable needs of a woman, wow Mrs Rukhshana u are blessed, don't take it for granted.
@thekitakas
29 күн бұрын
True story! -RK
@karamagiaugustine8593
23 күн бұрын
I would like to say also that Mr.Kitaka is equally blessed to have woman like Mrs.Rukhshana
@thekitakas
18 күн бұрын
Mwami Kitaka and I both agree 😃.
maizing podcast
@thekitakas
29 күн бұрын
Thank you 🙏! -RK
Thank you sharing this blessed me may God perfect that which concerns you Psalms 138:8
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
🙏 Amen & You are so welcome! -RK
Naye mwe these people are deep.
@ndooliallen7735
Ай бұрын
Okitegela????I am not even married but the things they have taught me🫡We are lucky ya'll got married❤❤
My first podcast to watch but I feel like "calmness" also rubs on others. Not sure whether Ruhk has always sounded this calm.
@thekitakas
19 күн бұрын
Nope, I did not always sound like this. -RK
There's safety in the way of God. "Because u dnt want them to feel unloved" woow, now this is true love. Thanks Rk thanks Fk for all ministering to our souls mukama akibabaliremu okuba omukisa gyemuli🙏
@thekitakas
29 күн бұрын
Amiina! -RK
For sure lack of self control can break up marriage, holy spirit help us
I always look forward to listening to your episodes, as a single lady I am learning a lot. Thank you for this.
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
So glad to be a part of your journey of learning. -RK
Woooo....
This is amazing. need more of these. Mrs Kitaka. How do i reach you for a mentorship session
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
Hi Margaret, please DM me through X @rukhshana and we can take it on from there.
Bambi sounds like Mr Kitaka endured quite a bit
Thank you for sharing your experiences with us i feel this was timely for me. I will forever be grateful to God for Kitakas.
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
We bless the Lord for He is always just on/in time. -RK
This story it's same to mine ehhhh God have mercy on me
I completely understand were Rukh-shana is coming from as alpha female it takes a great guy with character to let your guard down and walk in your feminity. The kind who is consistent with their love inspite of , is my prayer. Shana we need more practical things you have done to change into your now but love changes us ladies truely
People let us subscribe to these people ❤
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Ohhhhh wowest. 1. Self-control self-control self-control. Let's train our children to be self-controlled from an early age. Otherwise emotional stagnation/ immaturity follows us into our adult lives & it can be very costly. 2. Reaction vs response, so help me God.
There is safety in the way of God
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
Indeed we can surely do all things through Christ Who gives us strength. -RK
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Thank you sharing this blessed me may God perfect that which concerns you Psalms 138:8
@thekitakas
Ай бұрын
Amen and thank you! -RK