Love this! Hit home 100% being in between a rift of my parents and my husband. I can’t control any of them but I can accept them for where they stand on the circumstances that caused the rift to begin with. New to SMART and anxiously awaiting the day I see the workbook in the mail!

I think this is excellent and am very glad that you parsed out the difference between acceptance and forgiveness. I would only have added that sometimes it's important to accept people from a distance, eg with abusive people. The video states something along the lines of "there's no, you say you're sorry before I take you back"... we don't have to "take someone back" to accept them, we can (and often should, again especially in the context of abuse) say "there's no, you say you're sorry before I get away from you and find safer, healthier relationships". Accept from a safe distance!

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4 жыл бұрын

laura pottie great point thanks!

@edunlap6594

2 жыл бұрын

That's right. Accept and run! 🏃🏿‍♀️💨

Sorry it took me a year to listen to this. It's really a great way to explain the concept of unconditional other acceptance and the link to our unwanted behavior.

Thanks! Already uploaded the new video to all my SMARTIES! These are such helpful teaching tools!! SMART is smart 😁✌

great tips

Thank you very much,so helpful.please add subtitle

I needed this !!!! Thank you so much

I love this one. Thank you!

dang, this was really good! Thank you.

Thankyou very much :)

Great UOA video!!! xo Lunaa

Forgiveness is hard but you can’t let it eat you up, challenge your beliefs use your teaching tools

A lot of material in this.....would be good to have some follow on videos to this, giving more detailed examples

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2 жыл бұрын

Great idea thanks!

I can't remember the narrator's name but I did meet him at the Chicago conference. In any case, good job with this video!

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4 жыл бұрын

John Balla Ted Perkins

@JohnDavidBalla1927

4 жыл бұрын

@@SmartRecoveryUSA Thanks, Ted. Again, nice job!

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4 жыл бұрын

John Balla It’s an honor

Great video, I rewatched it to clarify my understanding, I'm not sure if I have this right? Unconditional other acceptance happens when we become aware of a negative feeling or intent toward someone (anger, vengeance, hatred) and then we think about whether that feeling is helpful or not for our recovery and well-being. Acceptance happens when we discover why we have that negative feeling, and then process it ("redirect our energy")?

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4 жыл бұрын

ThusIsBrad yes!!

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4 жыл бұрын

ThusIsBrad Call me if you need clarification or to just chat - Ted - 310 508 3902

I think death of a loved works good with this. I lost god after death of my brother at a young age. And have now recently he has since let me back into his life.

"Bad people, really bad people" Really? This is an example of labeling and an irrational belief. People are not bad but choose to do bad things. I like this video series but surprised SMART let this mistake slip through.

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4 жыл бұрын

Vance Heffelfinger thanks for your comment Vance. I was trying to just generally define that some people do bad things (murderers and rapists, etc) and are thus seen as bad. Maybe it didn’t come out right. Your point is well taken. Thank you for your support and I hope our upcoming videos are helpful to you

@vanceheffelfinger3441

4 жыл бұрын

@@SmartRecoveryUSA No worries. I really like this series. Well presented and great tips. Thanks for your help.

Awfulizing!