Trauma & Abuse: An Honest Conversation with Boogie2988 | Kati Morton

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  • @Katimorton
    @Katimorton5 жыл бұрын

    Sorry for the funky audio... I am learing how to use new mics and there was cross over /audio bleed between the two... :( but I hope you like what we had to say! Steven's story is so powerful

  • @Ubertrash

    @Ubertrash

    5 жыл бұрын

    Video production is tough. The content is still great though!

  • @werewolfwill7126

    @werewolfwill7126

    5 жыл бұрын

    try using an audio limiter that cuts out everything below a certain volume

  • @kaoticdrew2566

    @kaoticdrew2566

    5 жыл бұрын

    Kati Morton I thought one of my speakers on my phone was going out lol!

  • @nayihm6525

    @nayihm6525

    5 жыл бұрын

    that okay kati i like the video it an amazing video xoxo 💕

  • @fittgaming4271

    @fittgaming4271

    5 жыл бұрын

    Kati Morton please read my comment and email me at javenduzit@icloud.com I really need help some guidance or something Thank you and love you both You and boogie saved me life Knowing he suffers with depersonalization and disassociation makes me feel less alone

  • @boogie2988
    @boogie29885 жыл бұрын

    This was wonderful. I loved working with you on this. I hope to do it again!

  • @PhoenixtheII

    @PhoenixtheII

    5 жыл бұрын

    I cried watching this, this hits close to my own experience. I wish I could hug you a bit.. You're strong struggling through all of this!

  • @tahneemeasday6242

    @tahneemeasday6242

    5 жыл бұрын

    I hope to see another one of these in a year or two and see how far you've come yet again

  • @josephfield6903

    @josephfield6903

    5 жыл бұрын

    hi boogie2988 :) love ya man

  • @dickieOiRed_07

    @dickieOiRed_07

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing your story, mate. Yes! More videos please. All the best.

  • @MetalDeth777

    @MetalDeth777

    5 жыл бұрын

    I'm glad GOW helped you out, Boogie; it did the same for me. At one point, when it got announced back at E3 2016, it slowly became my one reason to live because of the fact that GOW was part of my childhood and that I knew it wouldnt disappoint...needless to say, when it came out, I was an emotional rollarcoaster. I love that game to death and I played it four times in the first four months it came out; trying to go more in depth each time. Looking more into Kratos' psyche to truly understand him gave me life and made me feel something again. I've grown a bit more as a person struggling with my own mental health since the release, but at least I've found an escape when times get too tough: just throw the Axe. Thank you for sharing your story, Boogie.

  • @alexispahlman4203
    @alexispahlman42035 жыл бұрын

    Parental abuse is the worst. The people who are supposed to be there for you, are the ones who are hurting you. It’s a rough situation.

  • @blackswanfromLondon

    @blackswanfromLondon

    5 жыл бұрын

    And when the Moment hits you that you really don't have any "parents" in thet sense, that´s even worse. When you finally realised what they´ve done to you and you can´t talk to them about it.

  • @Whoosh355
    @Whoosh3555 жыл бұрын

    Kati and Boogie together? Never thought I needed this collab. As someone who has dealt with abuse, thank you for choosing to have someone on to talk about this topic with you, instead of making an analysis video by yourself. I feel it’s so important for others to have their stories heard because each case of abuse can be so different. Keep up the great work! 👍👍

  • @thatguyk.5306
    @thatguyk.53065 жыл бұрын

    He's so self aware. Thats a lot of the problem fixed right there.

  • @TraumaTalk

    @TraumaTalk

    5 жыл бұрын

    Self awareness is such a positive thing when it comes to healing. Amazing to hear.

  • @MarkusJunnikkala

    @MarkusJunnikkala

    5 жыл бұрын

    It gives him a proper shot to work on things in a pretty accurate and effective manner. But at the same time he's very sensitive to negative emotion which can magnify a lot of the things he sees, making it overwhelming and hard to tackle them.

  • @fraxinus_ash

    @fraxinus_ash

    5 жыл бұрын

    Sadly that's only half the battle. Knowing/admitting the things that are "wrong" about ourselves, and knowing how to overcome or better cope with/manage/improve those things is often the bit that can elude people.

  • @stunthumb

    @stunthumb

    5 жыл бұрын

    No it isn't. Dealing with a problem is different to accepting you have a problem, accepting that people tell you you have a problem and taking steps to move away from the problem, solve it, or whatever is needed to improve the situation. Boogie is doing nothing, he is acknowledging that he is a victim and saying lots of things that sound like progress. In 3 months time there'll be another video like this - he'll have a meltdown and another period of reflection then a video, then a meltdown, then a video - like a retarded loop of shit on a turntable that skips the needle every 3 months when his views on his increasingly pointless videos start to flag. Boogie sinking, need to grab psychiatric youtuber to council me back to full mental capacity... need mental health sympathy views to make up the shortfall and convince sponsors that I'm still a very important youtube potato.

  • @wutthe8284

    @wutthe8284

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@stunthumb are you his therapist or are you just talking based on nothing?

  • @Erik-vk4zp
    @Erik-vk4zp5 жыл бұрын

    Your channel deserves more attention

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    5 жыл бұрын

    Awe thanks Erik!! I am working on it :) xoxo

  • @jesschas5003
    @jesschas50035 жыл бұрын

    He seems so open and willingly to discuss his feelings. I pray he finds peace and confidence. 😊

  • @girouxmar
    @girouxmar5 жыл бұрын

    look at that good dog. 10/10

  • @_just_TK

    @_just_TK

    5 жыл бұрын

    Mar G the BESTEST BOY!

  • @TraumaTalk

    @TraumaTalk

    5 жыл бұрын

    Hahaha 100% accurate! 10/10 for puppy!

  • @Limitlesspower98

    @Limitlesspower98

    5 жыл бұрын

    Its boogie's!

  • @parsia1363
    @parsia13635 жыл бұрын

    Dear Kati, I have been trying to find the right words to be able to express my gratitude for the difference you have made in my life through your amazing videos. The fact that I am still here alive and relatively well is directly because I stumbled upon your videos on one of the worst days of my life. Biggest effect of your content on me and what I'm mostly great full to you for is the fact that you took away the stigma, guilt, shame and judgment associated with mental health issues and through your videos gave me the strength to get help instead of taking the easy, cowardly way out. So I can just say Thank you! Thank you from the bottom of my (still beating!) heart, thank you for opening up these difficult topics and making them accessible to people like me who need them badly. God bless you

  • @dianaroyer6467

    @dianaroyer6467

    5 жыл бұрын

    parsia1363 This comment makes me very happy 💓💓💓 I am glad you are here

  • @CrisGarcia6
    @CrisGarcia65 жыл бұрын

    This is so nice to make this video. Boogie is such an awesome guy. It was pleasure to talk to you and commenting you on your content. Keep it up Kati. I hope that you have a wonderful day

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    5 жыл бұрын

    He is an awesome guy!! I hope you enjoy our conversation & thanks for the sweet comment :) xoxo

  • @fanyueyen4862
    @fanyueyen48625 жыл бұрын

    My heart aches for this truly beautiful man. Wishing him nothing but healing and love. Also for what its worth he has a lovely voice and a beautiful air of tenderness and warmth of person. He just seems like someone with so much good to give to himself and others. Its just that some of it is hidden in all of the pain and awful abuse he’s suffered. Sending him soooo much love and soothing energy!!! ❤️

  • @alealejaandraaa4112
    @alealejaandraaa41125 жыл бұрын

    Is the audio weird for anyone else?

  • @XxUcahrixX

    @XxUcahrixX

    5 жыл бұрын

    Alealejaandraaa same with me

  • @punpuniia

    @punpuniia

    5 жыл бұрын

    Alealejaandraaa yeah

  • @radianteclipse

    @radianteclipse

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yes

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    5 жыл бұрын

    We worked on it a lot.. on a desktop it's fine, but there is a bit of an echo on the mobile version. Not sure why! Sorry!! xoxo

  • @radianteclipse

    @radianteclipse

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@Katimorton I'm on pc and it sounds weird through my headphones :(

  • @marq6929
    @marq69295 жыл бұрын

    Yes! Romanticising or embracing the broken version of you is so tempting, but doing the work ultimately feels so much better, and it may get harder at times, but the further we go, the easier it is, because if nothing else we can look back and see how far we've come. Thank you so much for sharing! It's so moving to hear the story of a fellow survivor who's out there climbing up from rock bottom too.

  • @DanceePinkston
    @DanceePinkston5 жыл бұрын

    This is awesome! I have overcome anxiety and can’t wait to share steps on how I finally let it go!

  • @ZZ-jh7im
    @ZZ-jh7im5 жыл бұрын

    I was not familiar w/Boogie (gonna check his channel out now), but I applaud his rawness & vulnerability...& my heart goes out to him w/what he has been through. Awesome, that he is consistently & presently trying to better himself w/his issues & traumatizing past. Kati, I recently found you & just want to tell you what an AMAZING therapist I think you are. Your demeanor is so calm, understanding, genuine & you are VERY knowledgeable...your video's speak to my heart in a way I can really feel, comprehend & use your tools w/my issues in my every day life. I have been watching a lot of them & honestly I have gotten more from you then the last 3 therapist in my real life. I wish you were tangible to me to have sessions w/in person! Anyway, just needed to let you know your helping me (I see along w/a lot of other people)...& TY.❤

  • @GeneTonics

    @GeneTonics

    5 жыл бұрын

    As a Boogie viewer, he is a treasure. He's really hard on himself and he has his vices but imo he's a good man.

  • @crowmigration8245

    @crowmigration8245

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yeah for most people this would be such a brave thing to do, but literally he does this weekly. Been watching for a few years now

  • @NoLegsMcGee
    @NoLegsMcGee5 жыл бұрын

    I can relate to much of the parental abuse Boogie went through and have been a fan of his content for many years, nice to see two of my favourite channels doing a collab!

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    5 жыл бұрын

    I am so sorry you had to go through abuse as well.. I hope my videos on the topic are helpful. xoxo

  • @methylatedlysine
    @methylatedlysine5 жыл бұрын

    "even on your deathbed you can get a more comfortable pillow" legendary

  • @KayGirl216
    @KayGirl2165 жыл бұрын

    Kati I love that you’re doing more collabs it’s really great to see you in action helping others. 💗

  • @_just_TK
    @_just_TK5 жыл бұрын

    I haven’t gotten a chance to watch it all the way through yet, does the puppers 🐶 make an appearance!?! Edit: Watched it, loved it, and was NOT disappointed w/ the amount of 🐶!!!!! (And those fluffy ears!!!)

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    5 жыл бұрын

    He pretty much just chills on my lap through it.. until the school bus pulls up.. hahah!!! Then he has to protect!!! lol!!

  • @kyraaborkman
    @kyraaborkman5 жыл бұрын

    Had my first therapy appointment this week and Kati you definitely impacted my decision to go out and seek help and that it’s not a weak thing to do, so thank you!

  • @insookbang
    @insookbang5 жыл бұрын

    I was just talking to my friend yesterday who is also a survivor of child abuse about how it’s not talked about enough especially when it comes to the adults who survive and break the cycle and the daily struggles we go through.

  • @Joy-xz2fx
    @Joy-xz2fx5 жыл бұрын

    Such a powerful session and video. I feel for your guest because of his upbringing that I relate with so much. This video just shows me how deeply you care for your patients and people who come into your life. I just adore how kind you are and how you are able to kindly suggest or share thoughtful techniques to help someone. I'm so grateful I found your channel. I'm trying to come back into my body and heal past traumas. I grew up with lots of verbal and physical abuse from both my mom and dad and was the 2nd to the oldest of 9 and always trying to keep the peace and save my siblings and even my mom from being hit so I took the brunt of my dads abuse. Then when I went out into the world on my own and to college I was raped on a shameful amount ofoccasions. I drank and put myself in situations where men forced themselves on me. I always blamed myself but now I'm starting to see that saying no and asking them to stop should have been enough. It's not my fault. I have whole chunks of my childhood that I cannot remember. It's so tough because it hasn't gotten better in my adult life I seem to attract toxic relationships that cause me so much harm and I've been such a people pleaser. I'm learning to set boundaries and to find my worth. I'm scared to fully recall sexual abuse and I feel like I was malested as a small child. I have these feelings that come over me that I haven't been able to explain and I have started to have some flashbacks and its caused me to hate sex and not being able to be touched. I just need to remember so that I can heal. How do I help myself remember? I haven't been getting the care I need (I've been in therapy on and off since 2006) but I really want to get well and am still trying to find a great psychiatrist and therapist. I have spoken to 2 new providers over the last 3 weeks and am being seen again tomorrow but it hasn't been going well. There are just so many things that are bothering me. For me yoga is one thing that helps me get out of my head and back into my body. When I used to go to a local studio several times a week I was happier and a better me. Now that my practice is alone at home it's not as fulfilling but I still value it.

  • @princessbunny2837
    @princessbunny28375 жыл бұрын

    I can totally relate to this video on so many levels. I was almost in tears in some parts and I do not cry often. Thanks for this..that is all .. for now

  • @Indigo_newness
    @Indigo_newness5 жыл бұрын

    He’s a beautiful man and I get what he’s saying emotional abuse is worse sometimes....I’m still healing at 47 I’m finally getting strength to be me and to get toxic people out of my life but I still freeze when people are horrible to me...but I’m working on that....

  • @emmett68377
    @emmett683775 жыл бұрын

    Can I suggest that you do a video with Drew Monson? I think he’s a wonderful soul and it would be nice to see him talk about his feelings. Thank you Kati and Boogie for this inspiring video xx

  • @kaitiemarie9572
    @kaitiemarie95725 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing Boogie! I have always heard parts of your story and had always been interested to hear more. Thanks for inspiring other people with difficult childhoods to heal and work through it.

  • @maddyfoster6082
    @maddyfoster60825 жыл бұрын

    The captions on this video are wonderful and entirely accurate which is so awesome to see for such a long video! Huge thank you to the person or people who put the time in to do this

  • @kaitlynfan
    @kaitlynfan5 жыл бұрын

    I love him so much. It is always so helpful for me to hear from someone that has also been through severe trauma because I feel less alone.

  • @swansong900
    @swansong9005 жыл бұрын

    These videos give me some more strength to one day reach out about it. Also the dog omg!! 😍 instantly made the video that much better Thanks for the video Kati 💛

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    5 жыл бұрын

    Awe yay!!! So glad you are enjoying the videos and finding them motivating!! xoxo

  • @TraumaTalk

    @TraumaTalk

    5 жыл бұрын

    Every video talking about rough stuff needs puppies!!

  • @carly-violette5699
    @carly-violette56995 жыл бұрын

    i love you so so much kati!!! i love what you stand for and how you help others. thank you for being so amazing and helping me understand all things mental health 💞💞💞

  • @candykkhorsesngp925
    @candykkhorsesngp9255 жыл бұрын

    I love Boogies honesty and openness. Over the years I’ve become much more open and willing to talk about the things I feel and have felt and the things that I feel have shaped my view of the world and it’s helped a lot. Everyone needs to be able to discuss their feelings like this

  • @leahfletcher2720
    @leahfletcher2720 Жыл бұрын

    This man is such a warm and sincere person, he has so many wonderful qualities and seems really easy to talk to. It’s refreshing to come across individuals who are so honest and caring. The fact he is still friends with his previous partner speaks volumes, what a wonderful person

  • @oscar1987zp
    @oscar1987zp5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this video, Steven is someone that I really admire and respect.

  • @charisleighmusic
    @charisleighmusic5 жыл бұрын

    This is powerful. His story is so beautiful and he’s worked so hard.

  • @6aith
    @6aith5 жыл бұрын

    This was so important... so INCREDIBLY important. It struck me how openly Boogie talked about this because I often talk about my issues with the same factuality and people think that It's strange. "How can you be so accepting of your past?" Well there is NOTHING I can do to change it now is there? It's amazing to see it being discussed so freely.

  • @danielallen3996
    @danielallen39965 жыл бұрын

    Kati, you're such an inspiration to me! Your empathic nature is similar to mine and it is so refreshing to see someone using such a power for good! Your compassion and insight has helped and will continue to inspire so so many ♡ in a world where so much evil and hatred is omnipotent, you demonstrate the fact there is still hope!

  • @lelandsdad13
    @lelandsdad135 жыл бұрын

    Boogie has such a big heart. To a fault at times. He apologizes too much for just having an opinion, which isnt the healthiest thing to do. Found your channel because of the collab, look forward to the content.

  • @beck3498
    @beck34985 жыл бұрын

    This was so nice to watch and see someone struggling just as much as me. It helps to see I’m not alone. I know there’s a lot of resources nowadays for PTSD, but deep talks like this are really relatable and comforting to watch. Thank you, Boogie for sharing and being vulnerable

  • @lying.on.floors
    @lying.on.floors5 жыл бұрын

    Hi, I just found your channel about a month ago and your channel and advice has really helped me

  • @MetalMattie
    @MetalMattie5 жыл бұрын

    I'm loving these collabs! I'm just kind of bummed that the audio seems to be really quiet even with my volume up all the way :( I struggled to hear a lot of it.

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    5 жыл бұрын

    I am so sorry.. Sean worked on it all day... it's good on a desktop, just not on mobile. It has this annoying echo for some reason. Sorry!! xoxo

  • @MetalMattie

    @MetalMattie

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@Katimorton No worries. I'm still gonna watch! Might just have to switch to a desktop or headphones, thanks for that heads up. 😊

  • @arklowrockz
    @arklowrockz5 жыл бұрын

    When I was experiencing anxiety disorder and depression 18 years ago it was the feelings of derealization that were the absolute worst. So disturbing when it first happened to me, I really thought I was going absolutely insane. And so hard to get control of yourself as that wave of derealization takes hold of you. For me it was like 20 foot thick glass descending over me and the whole world around me was just this hazy illusion. I mean you would be doing something as innocuous as talking to one of your friends or a work colleague and without warning this elemental feeling of "I'm not really here, none of this exists" would just descend. Sometimes I'd just have to walk away to try get under control (it must have looked so weird to whoever I was talking to....)

  • @lizzbeelove
    @lizzbeelove5 жыл бұрын

    The positivity in this video is remarkable. Thank you both for putting this out there and being so down to earth. Topics like this are rarely discussed transparently but I could (and I bet statisitics say 95% of us) relate to alot of these internal struggles. Also! Love your videos Kati, Im in my junior year for a b.s. in psychology and your videos always help me remember what I'm working for.

  • @brookelamb6246
    @brookelamb62465 жыл бұрын

    I was brought to tears by this. Thank you for being so open.

  • @fittgaming4271
    @fittgaming42715 жыл бұрын

    My mom and I live with my grandmother She is the most toxic negative person I have ever known She’s nice and sweet one minute then the next screaming about bills and money and telling us we’re lazy and to move out when we’re both trying She is so obsessed with my mom and I when we leave she calls non stop when we are getting ready she asks us 20.000 questions She complains about every single thing She tries to catch us in lies so she has excuses to start fights The other day I was sitting at the table she comes in and asks me where I’m going I say didn’t mom tell you and she calls me disrespectful 10 minutes later the microwave she coffee pot are thrown on the table she’s screaming at us calling us lazy and white trash my moms crying I’m shaking and disassociating I’m so sick of my so called grandmother Some days I just stare off into space hoping for the day we move out and I can put this behind me but I know the anxiety will always stick with me I’ll always feel like I’m less than I’ll always feel like I’m walking on egg shells Because my own grandma made me feel like it I’m tired of going to bed wondering what she’s going to be like the next morning Those are usually the days I wake up to her yelling and I’m laying cod shaking Worrying I don’t know what to do I just turned 18 and I feel so stuck so useless

  • @_just_TK

    @_just_TK

    5 жыл бұрын

    FiTT Gaming that sounds like a really rough situation. I’m sorry that you’re going through that right now and I hope it gets better soon. Kati has a video on dealing w/ toxic parents that may also have some helpful tips on deal w/ your grandmother. Hope this helps! kzread.info/dash/bejne/epqJldilmdrFYJs.html

  • @User-qw1j4lk14

    @User-qw1j4lk14

    5 жыл бұрын

    *im not a therapist, just someone with similar experience* I’m 26 and I lived with my abusive family for years, they drove me crazy, made me feel like I was the bad guy, put me through things my mind just blocks out I can’t even remember. My advice to you in the here and now is try to meditate for a minute, try to find your peace and center in the chaos. Watch more of this wonderful woman’s videos, reach out to friends, and if you can, try to find a job. Talk about your options with your mom, are you guys willing to save and move out? Try to find some options for you two. It gets better, but it’s going to take a long time. I had to distance myself from my abusers to begin to heal. I moved out at 21, have been trying to heal for 5 years, and I still feel the ringing in my ears from the chaos at home, but not every day. It gets better, baby steps, feel better, love, forgive, you got this ❤️

  • @fittgaming4271

    @fittgaming4271

    5 жыл бұрын

    TK thank you !!!! So so sorry for the delay

  • @fittgaming4271

    @fittgaming4271

    5 жыл бұрын

    Melissa Jean yes I’ve been slacking in looking for a job but I am as of now my moms looking to I’m hoping we are moved out by spring I’m just afraid it’ll damage me so much I’ll grow up to be like her and like my family My moms a amazing mom but she keeps putting of working and it’s mainly because of her depression I try to stay at my dads but I feel unwelcome there because of my step mom I just always keep in my mind that in 10 years 5 years even a year I’ll look back and be glad I’m not in this situation anymore

  • @fittgaming4271

    @fittgaming4271

    5 жыл бұрын

    Melissa Jean if you see my reply feel free to contact me javenduzit on Instagram and javenduzit@icloud on email

  • @felizsol
    @felizsol5 жыл бұрын

    Wow im trying to be social worker and this video will help me to study, listen other people's experience. Thank you so much !!!!

  • @fajeraljarallah7256
    @fajeraljarallah72565 жыл бұрын

    Hello Kati, I saw that you linked in your description box a video for translation but when I clicked on it it took me to your channel.

  • @sumdude2999
    @sumdude29995 жыл бұрын

    Kati you are so sweet. We really need more people like you in this world.

  • @RamonesFan201

    @RamonesFan201

    5 жыл бұрын

    sum dude yeah, a reeeeeal sociopath 😂

  • @AlmostLover18
    @AlmostLover185 жыл бұрын

    It was wonderful have this video up here today. It caught me at the right moment because I have been struggling. I would love to see more of these videos with interviews!

  • @MissNebulosity
    @MissNebulosity5 жыл бұрын

    Wow, Kati, two videos in a row you're interviewing my favorite people!

  • @maggiemartin2775
    @maggiemartin27755 жыл бұрын

    Hey I got question.... My friend says she's been cutting herself and I've seen them on her arm. I've tried talking to her about it and my friend went to the school counselor. She was really mad at my friend after the counselor called her in. She said she curs herself when she's bored. So I told her to call me whenever she thought of cutting, but she hasn't called me even though she is still cutting. Anyway, I don't know what to do. What should I do?

  • @raemills3089

    @raemills3089

    5 жыл бұрын

    Cutting /self harm can be a marker of a lot of things. Truth be told, based on your comment I am guessing you're in high school. You have notifed an adult, who now has eyes on the situation. From an education stand point, most high school guidance counselors are both teachers AND educationally qualified pyschotherapist. So, you, a minor, have notified a qualifed adult. So, really, you've done what you can. I hate to say this, so please read the whole comment before reacting. Your friend may not trust you. No one cuts because they're board. Cutting can be about pain, redirecting, believing they need to be punished, a cry for attention, shutting complex emotion down ect. It could be situational, it could be a chemical imbalance or a personality disorder. It is about them, however, not you. You have done nothing wrong. You should offer support "I'm here if you want to talk" "I care about you" "can I help you look into councillors ?" "What can I do to help you help yourself?" The truth is, they need to seek help for themself. They will only make changes when they're ready. You can support and love but you cannot put the ownership on you, because this is not your ball. You did the right thing. You need to hear that. you did the right thing by telling someone. Whatever happens, you did the right thing.

  • @maggiemartin2775

    @maggiemartin2775

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@raemills3089 thank you so much. I will do my best to do what I can do .

  • @charli.ward.
    @charli.ward.5 жыл бұрын

    It really stood out to me the bit where he talked about jumping out of a moving vehicle in an attempt to escape an abuser who has you cornered in a car, because I also have had to do that before in my past, and nobody I know personally has ever resorted to that risky of a flight response. I didn’t even care if jumping could have killed or seriously hurt me at that point, nothing would have been as painful as what I was going through.

  • @TanyerLamb
    @TanyerLamb5 жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful story! I am so glad this was filmed. I can imagine that there's a fine line where you have to be mindful yourself, to not therapetize during what's meant to be a conversation. This provides great insight for what a therapist does in a "civilian" space, and thank you!

  • @juliaj9029
    @juliaj90295 жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful discussion about the resiliency of the human spirit. Amazing man. I know he is helping so many with his story.

  • @pernilleklemetsen3894
    @pernilleklemetsen38945 жыл бұрын

    Idk how I feel about this video. Thank you for making it! I have never met anyone who has gone through mental abuse and knew that it happened. I don't know who to talk to, but listening to this is like talking about it. I feel like I finally got to have a conversation about it.

  • @truecrimelover2022
    @truecrimelover20225 жыл бұрын

    I love this video. I love you and Boogie's content so was glad to see a collab and watching it am not disappointed.

  • @aherrmann8434
    @aherrmann84345 жыл бұрын

    I've been struggling lately and watching videos like this helps me out. I would love to have a conversation with her and pick her brain about things.

  • @nayihm6525
    @nayihm65255 жыл бұрын

    hey kati thank u so much for this video it is an amazing video i love and something that he talk about never new and he is an amazing guys i love the way u put your time in to all the videos that u make i love all your videos xoxo 💕💖💗

  • @singx1million
    @singx1million5 жыл бұрын

    I love the explanation of DPDR! I have been struggling with derealization for years and it's always been such a difficult phenomenon to explain to those who haven't personally experienced it. Kati, thank you so much for spreading the word on disorders like this and destigmatizing mental illness. Much love to you and Boogie

  • @Night-Shade.
    @Night-Shade.5 жыл бұрын

    The subtitles were very helpful especially because of the funky audio. It kept me engaged in the conversation. Thank you

  • @GB-sh9st
    @GB-sh9st5 жыл бұрын

    Alternate title: (Perhaps) The Two most Lovable People KZread

  • @robertbogat3480
    @robertbogat34805 жыл бұрын

    Wow. Great video. Learned a few things about myself and boogie. Watched him off and on and it’s great to see him make all the progress he has made. Thank you for sharing.

  • @WeberMovieProduction
    @WeberMovieProduction5 жыл бұрын

    I really liked this video, Steven is one of my favourite KZreadrs and I really admire his calmness and rationality! In my home country (Luxembourg) mental health is still very taboo and therapy isn‘t even covered by our state insurance (which is really outrageous considering that health care in general is free). I personally try to open that dialogue over here and I really take you as an inspiration to do that, Kati! Keep up the great content, you‘re really doing amazing work 🤗

  • @shereah
    @shereah5 жыл бұрын

    This helped me understand my own experiences better and put terms to feelings. I am currently seeking out a therapist. It has been a difficult process so far. I just wanted to let you know that I AM SO THANKFUL for this video.

  • @gabbiefulton8604
    @gabbiefulton86045 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Kati for creating this wonderful video and giving me some tools to use.

  • @andie9842
    @andie98425 жыл бұрын

    Great video guys...I’m trying to get myself to think bout seeing a therapist after yrs of denying that I need it..this kinda thing helps & I love listening to the interaction. Much love to ya both💕😘❤️✌🏼✌🏼

  • @LLSniper
    @LLSniper5 жыл бұрын

    I enjoyed this video. Makes me reconsider how I treat others when I can get angry about stuff that I don't really care that much about. It's weird because I was never abused from what I remember, but I completely understand the disassociation. I just like to combat people's ideas, and sometimes get a bit too into it.

  • @conniedavis3807
    @conniedavis38075 жыл бұрын

    What can I do about mixing up my appointments? I am so stressed but I mix it up as soon as I write them down. I’ve missed my meds appointment and a check in appointment when I have needed them the most. Now I have to wait 3 months before someone can finally help with my suicidal thoughts and my meds not working.

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    5 жыл бұрын

    Maybe ask if they will put it into your phone for you.. or call and double check right after you leave and have put it in your schedule :) xoxo

  • @_just_TK

    @_just_TK

    5 жыл бұрын

    Connie Davis contact the office of your mental health professional and ask if you can be contacted if there is a last minute cancellation. Some physician offices have staff that will do this, especially if your nice about it. Hope this helps!

  • @Pastulio1215

    @Pastulio1215

    5 жыл бұрын

    I do a 24 hour reminder on my phone and I got a white board from Target that I hang on my door that I'm forced to look at every morning when I get up so I can always remind myself what I have going on. Each one by themselves didn't do much but together has helped me a lot

  • @LizRehermAnn
    @LizRehermAnn5 жыл бұрын

    It's so wonderful to see boogie working to improve his life. ❤ This was such a great collaboration.

  • @daniiiakasha1436
    @daniiiakasha14365 жыл бұрын

    I found Bougie when I was suicidal. His suicide video was one of the first one comes up. Bougie saying, “Reincarnation is a bitch!” Has stuck with me for 4 years. I also loves the Mountain Dew stew.

  • @ellal.5433
    @ellal.54335 жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad that you're collaborating with these amazing KZreadrs, these videos are so good!

  • @Joel1998_
    @Joel1998_5 жыл бұрын

    This was such a great video. It’s really nice to see someone talk openly and truly about they’re mental health struggles. I’ve suffered bad with my mental health, for a good number of years now and I know how difficult it can be to talk about it. I have nothing but Respect to Boogie for talking about his life and his struggles. I really enjoy your videos generally! Their very informative and help me to understand my personal mental conditions better. And know you help many others, as well so thank you.

  • @FrankLuver96
    @FrankLuver965 жыл бұрын

    not only do i love listening to you talk, kati, but i love listening to boogie talk!! so, this was the coolest collab for me :3 boogie is such a great guy & sammy is so cute jumping on your lap periodically :b love ya!

  • @mrmaherani7077
    @mrmaherani70773 жыл бұрын

    The best pieces of advice I'd ever been given from his last of words shed a light on my concept that a really emotionally injured person walking on the right track can potentially play a part just like a real therapist to other people at the end.

  • @andreaholden452
    @andreaholden4525 жыл бұрын

    So this video was great! But I really wanted to comment that your hair is really pretty Kati!! I love the length!

  • @nekam.2817
    @nekam.28175 жыл бұрын

    What a sweet and dear person. I wish he would have so much more compassion with himself. Bless his heart ❤️

  • @jankalunden7045
    @jankalunden70454 жыл бұрын

    Grrrrreat video u guys!!! So helpful, uplifting, relateable, thanks🤩🤩🤩

  • @ashleyf7555
    @ashleyf75555 жыл бұрын

    I pre ordered your book i cant wait to read it. im so glad i stumbled across your channel. you are Amazing i just want to say thank you. Your videos make my day 😊😊 have a great day.

  • @Heideberry
    @Heideberry5 жыл бұрын

    I'm sorry for what you have gone through. I have depression and anxiety and my Mum has Bipolar disorder, my Dad has depression and had two nervous breakdowns and is a recovering alcoholic so the have both taken out thier stress and anger out on me. They favour my sister over me and in their eye's she never does wrong, so when she did something wrong, she would lie and say that I did it and they would believe her every time and even though I wasn't even in the room at all then and they knew where I was if she broke something or whatever they still punished me every time. Whatever she did or said wrong and she would deliberately get me in trouble for something I didn't do, I got blamed and punished every time. My parents would shout loudly at me in public telling me off, (they still do that) I have never seen them punish my sister like that or at all. Even though my Dad has depression he doesn't understand my depression and he will shout louder and louder at me even though I have told him that stresses me out, causes me to have panic attacks, Stomach problem flare ups (my stomach problem has calmed down as I found something that helps it so I have less flare ups now) sometimes and when I have told him I can't cope when he stresses me out like that he has told me I don't care if it stresses you out. I care about them but he doesn't care about the impact his anger has on my mental health. I am in my 30 now and have been made redundant twice so I can't afford to rent and live with them. Things have improved a bit, but Dad has never done anything to deal with his anger.

  • @MugsyMakes
    @MugsyMakes5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this! We love Boogie, he is someone my husband and we keep up with online and care about. ( hi Boogie! ) I agree with Kati, gosh we really like you! Thank you for the honesty and the updates. You both help so much and it is appreciated. Much Love.

  • @jeilenramos7339
    @jeilenramos73395 жыл бұрын

    #katifaq Hi Kati, I just wanted to ask if you can really get help if you are dissociating and you sincerely believe that you are exagerating and what you say is all in your head? I have bpd and did and I dissociated into my childhood and it is all happening again, the things I thougth were not real are happening again and I react the same way I used to when I was little, I invalidate myself and feel helpless. Before this I had control over things and I was able to recognize one thing from the other but now im sooo emotionally vulnerable that I end up invalidating myself. What can I do? #katifaq #katifaq

  • @rasmachris94
    @rasmachris944 жыл бұрын

    5 things that make me happy is hard man. 1 - Making my family happy 2 - My cat 3 -

  • @katiebwheeler
    @katiebwheeler5 жыл бұрын

    What a nice guy, can relate to much of what he said as far as emotional abuse being far worse than physical, and having no confidence after abuse... Ten years of an abusive marriage and there's nothing left of me...

  • @Bornman86
    @Bornman865 жыл бұрын

    #KatiFAQ can you perhaps help? I had the following experience. Started to shake and so bad I could not write. Dizziness followed. Phoned my hubby to pick me up as I don’t feel well. The pins and needles started in my hands and my legs got cold. Breathing difficulties and the pins now moved up my arms and into my face so bad that I could not speak or move a muscle in arms or hands. They clenched together. My blood pressure went through the roof. I only remember bits here and there till they stabilized met in ER. I was scared out of my pants. What and why does this happen?

  • @Ikine557

    @Ikine557

    5 жыл бұрын

    I was going to say that sounds like a panic attack until I read the part about the blood pressure and the ER. You should talk to your doctor about what happened to you, there could be a really simple answer.

  • @0Flow0
    @0Flow05 жыл бұрын

    I think he's charismatic and kind. Confidence isn't just about looks. It's difficult for many different kinds of people.

  • @blackmyth
    @blackmyth5 жыл бұрын

    It's so interesting I'm seeing this now, I just spoke at a university today about my experiences with DID, it's great to see more people are open about dissociation and trying to remove the stigma.

  • @stacey7637
    @stacey76375 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Katie for all that you do from a victim of attempted murder & PTSD survivor. I love your videos. Really helpful. ❤

  • @fraxinus_ash
    @fraxinus_ash5 жыл бұрын

    I had a bit of an epiphany about one of my own brain squirrels (what I call my specific "crazies " or mental health issues). Not sure I can put into words but here goes: unless I am indoors by myself and not at a window where I could be seen, I always feel like I am being observed and judged by other people. Not specific people as such, but just this ongoing feeling that people are looking at me and thinking badly of me. I suppose I have just accepted that I'm paranoid. But I think perhaps to some extent I am actually depersonalising - viewing myself from ths third person - and it's actually me looking at and judging myself negatively 🙃 not really sure how to overcome it but I can at least manage it and for the most part challenge the thoughts.

  • @preciouspsycho8362
    @preciouspsycho83625 жыл бұрын

    Sometimes I feel like my traumatic experience was not enough for me to develop ptsd and my eating disorder...Is it only me?

  • @radianteclipse

    @radianteclipse

    5 жыл бұрын

    I feel the same way!

  • @ashconnors8460

    @ashconnors8460

    5 жыл бұрын

    Isabelle Larsen I agree, sometimes hearing stories like these make my past experiences seem so invalid by what they produced, idk how to feel about this.

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    5 жыл бұрын

    No it's not just you... a lot of people think like that and assume what happened really wasn't bad enough. But trust me.. if you ever feared for your life or that of someone you know and love.. that's enough to have PTSD. xoxo

  • @preciouspsycho8362

    @preciouspsycho8362

    5 жыл бұрын

    Kati Morton hearing people say its ok feels so good like my feelings are valid 🙈😅 I was seeing a therapist and even if he knew I was sexually abused he abused me himself and I don’t know If I will ever be able to trust someone again ... Tomorrow I’m seeing a new therapist a girl this time I hope it will get better Meanwhile your videos help me a lot to keep going and feel better thanks for that Kati I hope you knew the impact you are making on the society where living in 💜💯

  • @amynicole_3331

    @amynicole_3331

    5 жыл бұрын

    Isabelle Larsen I’m so sorry love, you deserved better than that. Blessings to you❤️

  • @PracticalInspiration
    @PracticalInspiration5 жыл бұрын

    This was a really informative discussion. I've watched some of Boogie's content on his previous challenges with mental health issues and appreciate the raw and honest discussion here.

  • @atlaslennan5592
    @atlaslennan55925 жыл бұрын

    Hey Kati I was wondering something... What is the difference between Clinical Depression and MDD? thanks you!

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    5 жыл бұрын

    There isn't difference between the two when it comes to the DSM and how we diagnose and treat it here in the US. I do know that other countries have their own diagnosis and terms they use.. so that may be why you are hearing both :) xox

  • @atlaslennan5592

    @atlaslennan5592

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@Katimorton Oh okay thank you so much! :)

  • @wowandrss
    @wowandrss5 жыл бұрын

    Very interesting talk, glad to hear his story. Wish him the best. Is there any way "back" for people that have gone through traumatic things like this? Or will it stay there and you have to learn to live with it and control it?

  • @yessitscece
    @yessitscece5 жыл бұрын

    such a devastating life but such a positive man! I cannot ever understand these kinds of people who keep smiling even through the shittiest of times. I commend you, this is a great video!

  • @GlenHunt
    @GlenHunt5 жыл бұрын

    I love and appreciate when people put themselves out there, warts and all, in order to raise awareness and incite change. I'm 50 now and was diagnosed with the cPTSD ensemble 6 1/2 years ago. The more I incessantly learn, the more I compulsively ponder, the more I come to believe that the only real chance I have at a normal life is speaking (and getting a service dog!). Perhaps getting it out there, pushing beyond the disbelievers and "omnipotent" self-help purveyors and trying to find groups of parents and youngsters who unfortunately understand chronic CSA and need to know more. Maybe in that role, and downing a lot of Ativan, I will somehow achieve some kind of prosocial, productive version of fulfilling "normal".

  • @GabriallScott
    @GabriallScott5 жыл бұрын

    I really like this video, I have struggled with very similar things as him and its good to know that I'm not alone and that I can heal as well. Thank you, Kati and Boogie :)

  • @Finjer
    @Finjer5 жыл бұрын

    Did you use an ASMR microphone to record the audio?

  • @berpray6559
    @berpray65595 жыл бұрын

    Kati, not only are you an excellent counselor, but you also seem like you’d be a terrific friend!

  • @candicemariebeadco
    @candicemariebeadco5 жыл бұрын

    Kati, thank you! I really enjoy your videos, as well as hearing the guests you bring on. 💙

  • @zidapplip
    @zidapplip5 жыл бұрын

    Thank both of you so much for this. I have never watched boogie, and never known his story, but I am amazed how openly he talks about his issues. I am grateful to both of you for this conversation, I have learned many things about myself.

  • @merrillheidrick5269
    @merrillheidrick52695 жыл бұрын

    I’m so depressed. And than I watch ur videos it brings me up

  • @bethanyrose8956
    @bethanyrose89565 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing your story boogie. And thanks for another video Kati. My 13 year old sister is going through a hard time at the moment and your videos are helping her too xx