I suffer with trauma anniversaries as well. Unfortunately I can't talk to anybody about my feelings. When I try to talk to someone they roll their eyes and say "it's been 6 years, get over it". It's weird because their the same people who tell me if I want to talk their always there for me. What's starting to help for me is to take the a few days off, celebrate my brothers life and try not to think of his death so much. Keeping my trauma events private and and personal are less painful that talking it out. Hope this make sense. Sending love to you all!

I've been in therapy for my c-ptsd for about 4 years now. My mental health is soooo much better. I don't feel like I'm mentally at war with myself so much anymore. However, what remains is the distrust in myself and judging others actions. I'm overly trusting, but also not trusting. I always feel like I'm overthinking everything people say to me. Are they being genuine? Are they manipulative? It's exhausting!

@daviddanielsson3643

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting. This is just what I wanted to hear right now, as I've finally started therapy for C-PTSD a month ago. The part of you feeling so much better gave me some hope, I've been struggling more than ever since right before therapy starting and have been wondering if it ever gets better. I'm in the beginning of the safety and stabilization-part right now.

@kaylaparker5725

2 жыл бұрын

@@daviddanielsson3643 there is definitely hope and there is healing 💜 My best advice is to be patient and compassionate with yourself. Our healing is not always linear and some days we'll have set backs. And this is normal and okay. These become less and less as we heal our trauma. I like to think of myself as if I'm out at sea. Riding the waves of life as it ebbs and flows. Keeping this perspective has saved me many times from falling down the "I should be better" trap. You're stronger than you know. This can be so scary. But from one human to another, I'm proud of you and I send SO much love to you 💜

@daviddanielsson3643

2 жыл бұрын

@@kaylaparker5725 Thank you very much for your beautiful words. They mean a lot to me and I wish you all the best in your treatment and life! :) Being patient and compassionate with myself isn't my strong side, but my therapist is awesome. "This is going to take time, but you're not alone anymore and we're doing this work together", that's what she said to me. And she keeps reminding my that I'm safe in her office, since I have a lot of problems with hypervigilance and feeling unsafe. I also like your out on the sea-metaphor, I'll keep that in mind. Kindly, David

@littlelisa2120

2 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said Kayla , I'm in therapy for CPTSD been going for almost a year now and hearing you say you been in therapy for 4yrs gives me hope because I keep putting pressure on myself to get better more quickly but I'm starting to realise that it'll take as long as it takes and if that means I'm in therapy for years then so be it, wishing you all the best x

Timestamps! 1:30 1. What are some healthy things to do immediately after a traumatic event occurs (hours after, days after) to process the memory and prevent symptoms of PTSD? 6:59 2. Do you have any advice on how to deal with anger and doubting your own emotions as a result of childhood abuse and gaslighting? I grew up walking on eggshells around my sister, who was very impulsive and mean and I also was emotionally abused by my grandmother. I held deep in myself all anger and hurt as my emotions were... 23:08 3. Is it normal to feel very anxious about sexual intimacy if nothing bad happened to you? Ever since I was a child (5 years old) I was very sexual, my earliest memory of sexuality/masturbation is me being alone in my room and role-playing that someone would tie me down and hold me in place while 'tickling me down there'. I always had such weird fantasies/daydreams of someone 'torturing' me, even in a non-sexual way... 35:00 4. Is it normal for me to hate my inner child who prevents me from doing inner child work? If yes, how can we proceed with the inner child work if that is the case? 44:33 5. I have a trauma anniversary coming up soon, and I’m starting to feel myself slide into a dark place of PTSD. I feel like my stomach is constantly turning, and everything reminds me of what happened. It’s been ten years, and I’m frustrated with myself for still feeling... 50:00 6. Is it possible to help yourself remember the details of a traumatic event that has been blocked from your memory? My dad died when I was 5, and I have spent my whole life trying to piece together my memories from that night. I grew up being told he died in a car accident, but recently learned that he actually killed... 58:21 7. I have been diagnosed with cptsd and ptsd (alongside other mental health illnesses). When I have been in therapy it's like my mind goes blank and it's hard to connect to my emotions and even to memories. Is this considered dissociation? 1:02:06 8. My question is can someone accidentally (or purposely I guess) fake PTSD? I have been consistently diagnosed with PTSD for over 10 years, despite constantly denying that I have trauma. I think people are assuming I just forget the “event” or something because I do have a terrible memory, but are there other things that can make it look like I have PTSD... 1:07:37 9. How does one go about sorting through C-PTSD? I’ve tried talk therapy, but I struggle to, we’ll, talk. I just always say “I’m fine,” get super flooded with internal anxiety, and go completely blank. Not super helpful. I’ve looked at alternative therapies, but they make me even MORE nervous (EMDR, Sand Tray, etc). I don’t know where to start...

Father's day triggers me, the other day I read a sign that said Father's day, and honestly I basically just froze just felt very triggered, I also try to forget about it block it out, Valentines day triggers me to because my parents broke up around then.

I kind of never had anger or feelings of injustice until few years ago. Usually when I submit, emotions go away, and I just get very intense and hypervigilant for days, with really intense constant overthinking. I still feel like it’s a mother bear of sorts, but the anger isn’t so there. If some untrue, alienating and judgemental statement was said I used to panic write and ‘over-think’ the intense panic instead of feeling anger, which was unhealthy, but I managed to change city and those don’t get as intense now, and I obsessively made me stop thinking about my brain for years to stop. Otherwise if more hurt or vulnerable parts slightly peak up and show their needs around people I might go punish myself instead and idk if that’s just feeling stuck in some ordeal or if that part would just maybe need to feel anger, like a more sensitive one would need attention. But basically I just feel like my brain found other directions to see or deal with mistreatment sometimes. I am rather agreeable for that matter. Few years ago I managed to start being angry at few people or situations rarely, but I’ve not really been able to feel wronged or similar, or I’ll feel hurt by the general situation (never people which is an issue often) and my mind blanks. And yeah the family member I had might’ve been similar to all this. I kind of want to comment on the 3rd one and maybe others, but might wait a little to listen rn, 3rd made me panic a bit, but ty

Concerning question 8 about not remembering a trauma and being diagnosed with ptsd. I can relate to this, but in my case it turned out I actually did remember the event(s), I just didn't understand that it had been traumatic. I guess I repressed or dissociated from the feelings connected to it all, and I didn't know that it was actually illegal even. I thought it was completely normal, and felt embarrassed by my reactions to it. So I think that, especially if the traumatic events may have happened when the patient was a child or teen, and may not have known what was ok and not, it's not enough to ask if they've experienced something traumatic, because they may not know what that means. I was 14 when I was abused, and it took me around 16-17 years to realise, and in the mean time I got damn good at avoiding those memories. I knew that what happened was illegal because I was underage, but in my mind that was just a random rule set by adults, and didn't mean anything. I didn't know what consent was, or that stopping fighting back wasn't consent. I didn't know that violence is more than hitting and kicking. You might think that a 14 year old would understand those things (and if someone back then told me I wasn't mature enough to understand the consequences of what I got into I'm sure I would have got angry as hell), but I didn't. Now I don't know if any of this is relevant to the person who asked the question, but I think it's important that more people realise this.

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Thank you so much Kati for your thoughtful response to my question. I really appreciate your advice and thoughts on the situation with my dad and working through the grief and trauma. Everything you said was spot-on, and definitely gives me some great starting points for working through this in therapy. Thank you for everything you do ❤

I am really looking forward to the inner child work workshop you're working on. ❤❤

Thanks for answering my question. I don't blame myself for the lack of memory. I just vascillate with the idea of taking them to court and when I am going through the therapy I can't get it out of my head the idea that all these gaps would be used to invalidate me on the record. For some reason I feel I need that validation even though I know the events happened whether I get legal validation or not and if I don't get the validation (or either way) I worry that the process of going to court could harm me more, cause more harm to the abuser than warranted for their likely future risk to the public with the knowledge that court won't change the past, and it would all be for self-liberation/closure/healing I may never get from the court rulings or process (even if the rulings were consistent with the truth).

@_maia_m

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate a lot to this.. 💔❤️

@natalieedelstein

2 жыл бұрын

@@_maia_m virtual, warm hugs to you

@_maia_m

2 жыл бұрын

@@natalieedelstein aww, thank you, the same back to you! 🌻🌞

@natalieedelstein

2 жыл бұрын

@@_maia_m thank you 😊 🌞🌻

Good morning Kati good list of questions as always ready to feel calm and relaxed again with just listening to your voice and seeing your smile and your answers to everyone s questions are always interesting 💟

This particular episode is extremely helpful for me. I felt some relief while listening to it. I would like to see an episode devoted to what a patient should do if they are receiving very bad and harmful psychiatric care. This happened to me in the late 80’s and early 90’s. I have PTSD as a result. It was no joke. I have had really helpful and constructive psychiatric care since then so I know there ARE excellent mental health providers out there. It took a lot for me to extricate myself from a very harmful situation because I trusted my psychiatrist and therapists to help me. It felt like they had all the power in that situation. I finally listened to my gut and broke away even though I was counseled not to. Kati, I would love to hear you speak to that scenario.

My parents were helicopters and your answer speaks to me. Not being allowed to explore different things

Trauma jokes/ jokes about mental health problems are the best kinds of jokes. Fight me XD

@nikkimckay860

2 жыл бұрын

Natasha jaromir. definitely hope your doing ok how's things just watching AKA podcast now catching up it's good if you can make jokes about Trauma and mental health problems x

Hello everyone good morning Nikki here from uk only just watching and listening to AKA podcast missed the live podcast yesterday so just catching up now just want to say how's everyone doing what things have you been doing to mange and cope with your struggles with mental health?💟

I relate to question n3 100%. Have never heard about anyone like this other than me. I guess We really never Are just the only one!

My anger is very repressed and often take it out on a video game, that sudden sense of entertainment to yell scream and swear, I always think in that moment well my parents and caregivers used to yell and swear and name call threten and etc, without any consequence so I think in that moment if there allowed to do that why can't I, so I do it and my neighbors complain something I got to learn it's not OK, and stop parents yelling at each other yelling at there kids it's got to stop its teaching them horrible examples there messing there kids up, deep down I do know its wrong to yell and swear and whatever, but have those sudden moments that it I OK because well the ones I was supposed to follow by did it.

It's 5:26am uk time

Katie, could you possibly do a video on EMDR trauma therapy?

@OTDM

2 жыл бұрын

Hey! Follow this link: kzread.infosearch?query=emdr

In reference to Question 8: would this.... mental dissociation (?) fall under depersonalization or derealization/ what would you call this since there is still awareness of self and the world doesn't seem false? Sorry if this doesn't make sense

when did she sneeze please ?

Bless you Kati

@tiromaty2735

2 жыл бұрын

when pls ?

@dukefan2413

2 жыл бұрын

@@tiromaty2735 when what ?

@chelseaisgoated4102

2 жыл бұрын

@@dukefan2413 when did she sneeze

@dukefan2413

2 жыл бұрын

@@chelseaisgoated4102 I think when her nose tickled

@dukefan2413

2 жыл бұрын

@@chelseaisgoated4102 lol just kidding. Skip to like 59:20

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Really good info but oh my God, that opening song? WTF?

You liked my question so I thought you were gonna answer it but I edited it after you liked it and then it disappeared and you didn’t get to answer it maybe next week?

Is dissociation the same thing as an out of body experience? And why do some people develop PTSD from a traumatic experience and some don't even though they went through the same experience?

@WastedPo

Жыл бұрын

I'm not Kati (obviously). But in my opinion, people rarely have the same experiences, even though on the surface-level it may seem that way. (For example, two separate couples might each experience a divorce. But that doesn't mean their divorces were remotely alike. One divorce could be amicable, and the other could be cutthroat.) And I know from personal experience that there can be highly abusive households in which the kids do not have the same experiences. One child can be greatly favored, while the other child is the prime target of the abuse and used as the scapegoat for all the family's issues.

Hey Kati. You used the term wheelchair-bound, and some people aren't bothered by the term, but I wanted to make you aware if you weren't on the controversy around this term. It is not accurate that anyone is "bound" to their wheelchair (there may be safety belts/the person may use it full time) or that wheelchairs are a disability, so while some people do benefit from wheelchairs as a mobility aid and there may not be a current replacement for every single full-time user, they are a wonderful mobility aid--that is a tool/resource that enables/supports someone to access and navigate their world and it is important to recognize that the wheelchair is not the disability, but a mobility aid and tool/resource that benefits the person, rather than something individuals are at the mercy of, if you will. Totally not telling you how to think or that any word is a bad word, just wanted to make you aware in case you were not to give you something to consider and neither position is right or wrong as long as we all treat one another with dignity, justice, and respect. 🥰

@anniekate76

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I think “people who use wheelchairs” is preferred in general

@timtreefrog9646

2 жыл бұрын

I must confess I was unaware too. I am so happy that you made this comment. Please what would you prefer as an alternative? I will make sure to use this in the future ☀️

@timtreefrog9646

2 жыл бұрын

@@minooluna23 I watch these. I am in my 40s. They help (non teenage) me at least. 🤷‍♀️

@natalieedelstein

2 жыл бұрын

@@timtreefrog9646 Thank you. I am only a part-time wheelchair user (like 98% of the time I don't use one, and I don't own one although that has been suggested to me to get, but they're hard to get covered) so I certainly can't speak to the entire population (granted, nobody can, but I feel especially not me because I rarely use them) but I use the phrasing of part-time or intermittent wheelchair user for myself and if I were full-time I would likely again likely call myself a wheelchair user in everyday speech and come up with some clever lingo to replace that term at some point because I like to be artful with the titles I give myself as a general rule when it comes to both my disabilities and the assistive/rehabilitation technologies used. Everyone is different though. Thank you for engaging with the community! I'd certainly seek out opinions from other wheelchair users, especially, where possible, those who spend more than 2% of their lives with them. :)

@timtreefrog9646

2 жыл бұрын

@@minooluna23 I have asked (and thankfully had answers to) both things about childhood and adulthood. Sadly some adults weren't able to get help (because there was not much understanding of mental health conditions 20 years ago) at least in my country. Like me, they are realising things, coming to terms with the past, asking the 'teenage questions' you mention. With that said, it would be interesting to see a poll of audience ages. 😊

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