Nell lowkey/highkey a big blessings.

As a married Man I truly appreciate y’all for showing this level of communication as an example to others. I admire y’all openness thanks for being y’all

@bambam23406

4 жыл бұрын

Allot of us learn the hard way and some need to learn by going thru it and hopefully realize to correct it

@marcus8085

Жыл бұрын

Most people don’t have what the other one needs

"intense correction cannot happen publicly" great advice for spouses :)

"You wanna act like it's gon' take a huge feat to change your tone of voice, and it don't" *Snaps fingers in Amen

It's refreshing to see my people PROBLEM SOLVE and work through thier issues. It's so easy to stay offended and close minded. It's easy to only want your point to be received, while ignoring all others. I love when we know there is a problem and we STOP AND WORK IT OUT, rather than let it grow to something worst. Lastly, I love how we can disagree, without disrespect. Thank you for sharing. Y'all got this.

BRUH. This is a perfect example of when the Bible says "bad friends corrupt good character". Get you some friends that speak life; That will edify you, and try to correct and unite, in love. Thank you, Tobe, Fat, and Nell.

@TheHappyHummy

3 жыл бұрын

😢I try so hard to find edifying Christian outroverts like me...

I love Nell she don't take sides but Tobe be serious and she helps them and knows them she is a great teacher.

@TheIsha826

4 жыл бұрын

Yes agree

@HelloMsSongbird

3 жыл бұрын

She was translating for both of them

@bellsboi

3 жыл бұрын

I love this observation

@originaleverythingelseisca5977

3 жыл бұрын

Me to🥰

"how many times does God forgive you" 😭😭😭

@irene6109

4 жыл бұрын

A J ouuuuu das good 😭😭😭😭😭

@sheenab.2914

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, could have got up and walked away after that true statement. 😕😞

@unclejimmyray

4 жыл бұрын

As a man, I was like "DAMN Fat... you pulled out the heavy artillery and shut the whole discussion down"...lol! King Tobe took a half a moment and gathered himself. He (and I) got dazed for a second... Can't wait for you guys to hit Nashville Friday night!

@Adelaide_Mackenzie

4 жыл бұрын

Word done de argument

@aaladee

3 жыл бұрын

If you forgive others... X's 7 X's 70X7 so as much as you can forgive so can HE

Bruh definitely needed that man my wife the same way. In her words I ain’t one of ya friends or coworkers 😂man y’all 💯 all day fam thank you for that transparency you helping ya cousins out 4real

No lie this makes marriage look fun and real and obtainable! Salute the King and Queen Fat and Nell for the Stuart Scott Oprah Winfrey adlib

@Misnyc

3 жыл бұрын

Nell is the friend! Did you mean Tobe (King) and Fat (Queen)?

Nell was my teacher in high school! She is so cool, I love her!

Just when I didn't think I would have another reason to love y'all...y'all go & do this. #TrueFriendsCanCorrectYou #OUU

@niqueybangz

4 жыл бұрын

Ava Holloway 💯💯💯💯

Communication, and cheering each other's marital success on is beautiful.Everybody there for tha wedding bells, but times like this it is good to have another similar minded couple to bounce and reflect with.❤🖤💚👌blackLove

Nell is the example of a true friend! “Watch yo mouth when you’re taking to a queen!” lol I’m joking but you guys are amazing💖& God surrounds y’all marriage with prayer. :)

I drooled when Fat said how many times does God forgive you? Sooo good!! In my Tobe voice "praise God"!

@jimmieangrum1364

3 жыл бұрын

She worked him!

@LiveFromTheCollosseum

3 жыл бұрын

That's why he laughed when she said that 😂

@williamwilliams333

Жыл бұрын

That is correct, she came with the word back on him. it is impossible to refute the Word when the Lord said I will give man a helpmate, she helped him see his error.. I learned so much from watch this.

@helenaduncan2310

Жыл бұрын

@@williamwilliams333 yes Lord she did real fast! Lol what's up brother William? I pray your having a blessed day!

@williamwilliams333

Жыл бұрын

@@helenaduncan2310 hello yes im doing well.. Hope you're having the same

YES. YES. YES. Thank you Nell!! Nell and Cory need to go on tour with marriage workshops! I noticed Tobe's "Intense Public Correction" and it worried me. So thankful for REAL, TRUE friends that can get you together! This is encouraging!! This is going to TRANSFORM the Nwigwe MARRIAGE and household!! She works on her submission and he works on his "Loving, Gentle Correction." Praise God!!!

Nell was a teacher so she was able to guide that conversation perfectly plus she's on the outside looking in, n also knows both of you personally so when y'all unable to communicate coming from different point of view, Nell is perfect for a mediation.

🌓HEY FAM, THIS IS SO NEEDED, FOR SO MANY OTHERS TO SEE, MY KING AND I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH HAVING REAL AUTHENTIC FRIENDS/FAMILY IN YOUR LIFE THAT CAN CORRECT EACH OTHER IN LOVE WHEN NEEDED. WOW THIS IS SO AMAZING. PRAYING FOR Y’ALL AND THANKS SO MUCH FOR SHARING THESE PRECIOUS MOMENTS WITH ALL OF US. LOVE Y’ALL 🙋🏾‍♀️🦋🌸💫🌟✨🦋🌸✨💫🌟🌸🦋✨💫🌟

Wow!!!, This is what all our cousins need in our life. Communication without arguing. Your wife is in the business, but you can't speak to your wife in public about any disagreement. Take it to the house behind closed doors.

I appreciate Nell’s spirit and presence.

Aye mane, this is the wave... Tobe, Fat, Nell, and the whole crew is helping me transition into the man I wanna be... #WOKE #BLACKLOVE

@Willahbean

3 жыл бұрын

✊🏾💪🏽

Aye when Fat responded to Tobe wit the "How many times does God forgive you" though felt that shit in my SOUL yaaas

This Gentlemen is why you need black women around you, This is Kanye needs lol, The communication is great. Black women will always address.

I’ve been watching this video for 2 YEARS NOW AND USING THE MESSAGES IN MY MARRIAGE.

It is nice to have a peacemaker in your relationship that has a family also to work out misunderstanding to see clearly and keep it moving. That is a blessing from the Lord.

@kadijaesther1808

3 жыл бұрын

ISNT that a blessing?! You're so right. It seems so common to see people speaking negativity to the wife or husband, wanting to be "supportive".... When in actuality it adds nothing constructive or positive to the situation. What's so lovely is that they seem to know what a jewel Nell is and appreciate her deeply ... All in all what a lovely interaction to be able to witness!

Come on COMMUNICATION!!!

Nell is the friend every human needs. 💯❤ Tobe is so blessed by these two sincere souls. His heart must be hella big and pure for him to have attracted these giants to his life. Plus God's Grace of course.

@BL3SSed-Bliss

8 ай бұрын

😔

This is authentic & a lesson learned for all.

That G.R.A.C.E. gets us errtime!! Given Room to Acquire Change Endlessly

@rakgadim.mohlala1324

3 жыл бұрын

❤️

@williamwilliams333

Жыл бұрын

Love this

This is the kind of stuff married couples need to see. Thank You!!!

I feel like this is the most realistic convo i ever heard u handled it well

I dislike public correction. I'm very private with my relationships. Outside snakes slide in and do and say things that begin to change the quality of what is supposed to be between me and her. That is my opinion and you guys are in the public eye with a powerful message and vibe. H Town stand up

You just showed how 2 adults can have an intense disagreement without disrespecting eachother or doing more harm. The best part about it is you came up with a solution. I loved every moment of this!

This is what the bible says about correction - Matthew 18:15-17 If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.

My God! I got mad respect for you Tobe. It is humbling to see your response and communication towards these woman of virtue. You all put your ego and pride to death to garner a loving solution. This is maturity on display. I love yall for this...and it was recorded. God bless yall😇🙏

So great you shared this, and to see that even the couples we look up to as fans, still have disagreements. And I love that Nell is so much a part of the family that she's basically mediating this conversation.

A powerful couple showing an example of what it's like to have God shine thru YOU. So grateful they exist. Give a sista hope in this most deplorable world

@Willahbean

3 жыл бұрын

Stay hopeful sis.#BlackLove

This is why I feel the best marriages have to have a foundation of friendship and true mutual respect. Passion, lust, romance, intensity, it's all going to fade, or at the very least, it'll run through cycles. But when you and a close friend have conflict, you really willing to work that shit out. You WANT to see their point of view, and you want them to see yours...not because you want to win the argument or have things your way but because you value that person so much that understanding is so much more important than being right. You WANT to be better for them just as much as you want better for yourself. My husband and I...it's been eighteen plus years and we've been THROUGH IT...we've struggled in our circumstances and our relationship. But MAN. To call him my husband really feels inadequate to me. He is my best friend and PARTNER in every sense of the word. Being 'right' doesn't feel anywhere near as good as the feeling that we've spoken our truth to each other, listened to each other, and are coming out of the experience knowing we've built something that WORKS. NEVER stop building yourself up, building your partner up, and building your bond and friendship with each other. It might look to the outside like a solid marriage that you put work into is a boring, trudging sort of thing. A chore. Something you settle for. In reality, it's an unequaled blessing, a precious gem that daily increases in value, and gifts you with a humbling sense of gratitude.

The fact that he allowed himself to be corrected was just awesome.

I discovered Tobe today and I am already in love with all that he and the whole family stand for and do. God bless y'all. The whole family have become a model to me. I really appreciate all of you for being the people you are and making the music you do. Oh and... This discussion is just Gold standard. I learnt a lot from it. As a single man with my eyes on a gorgeous Queen, I really appreciate learning these before I go in.

Only a lioness can correct a lion. All love

I have watched this like 20 times. Much needed and good for my spirit. True and real. My mantra is “soft and gentle wife correction!” I love the family and friendship!

I love the art of correction displayed here. I love the openness and the ability to come to a respectful disagreement with actual solutions that both spouses are good with and still was able to express both points of views

@Channahisrael1027

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing.

Hey Tobe!.... Be humble... If your friends can't correct you, it's bc your pride or they ain't ya friends. Do more of this. Bc it's really NOT. Big deal to be corrected if you are humble. You can be humble and demand perfection bruh. Glad they are patient with you. May you see it and be the same with them. Good video.

@musiclover2.06

3 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@fefemarks315

2 жыл бұрын

It takes humility to post this.

Wow! I love how you all had this conversation and Nell was there to support and love both of you! This was just BEAUTIFUL!

This Union as friends and family is so beautiful... I can truly see you all walking in one Accord with each other... So beautiful to see..

I love this family dynamic- May the ancestors and Most High Keep y'all tight and flowing with knowledge and communication...this is something that the industry and media will always try to break apart-this Melanated Unit- But I channel the ancestors to keep the energy of this family together and reppin for the Melanated team! Much Love and Respect! 🙌🙌😎

Love the idea of coming up with disarming names 😭

Thank you Tobe for being such a great example of a man , husband, father and artist !

Whooooo....just turned 34, learning this as well. Lmao there was a moment 🤣 Tobe face looked lost in the sauce. How I feel, conquering these PEACEFUL COEXISTING adulting tactics. Nobody wants a relationship for 30 years that was horrible to witness, experience, and adopt bad habits from. That was so beautiful. Thank you for sharing the moment. I can't imagine how hard it is to continue growing yourself, as a couple as a human being mentally, while simultaneously trying to teach what you learn, at the same time migrating into another level of life and dealing with all of the challenges from operating in that new space. I love everything you guys fat, Nell, Tobe, the team, are striving for. The vision is clear. What a wonderful contribution to the African Diaspora.

I got to see yall in Cleveland it was Amazing! Back to the subject at hand . I applaude all of you. Tobe for listening an giving an ear to hear to not just want your way. An Queen Fat for you staying composed an being able to articulating your point calmly. I cannot say the same for myself especially while I was pregnant. I was always up and down emotionally. Maybe if I had allowed Jesus to fill myself to have a relationship sustained by him.... I could have executed like you as well . Bravo for showing a better way to those who haven't seen it.

The most important thing that happened here was not just a resolution of an issue, but a plan going forward so it doesn't happen again. This is the kind of interpersonal problem solving we need to teach in the home and *display* in the home.

I'm so happy that I watched whole video! I appreciate this.

I can understand both-he expects so much because she has the bar so high & likewise she knows how hard she goes and feels hurt when it doesn't go exact(in public). Bottom line is you 2 are killing it out here see you nx wk in Orlando. ✌

Man you are a gentleman and a scholar, not to mention one hell of a musician. I am really looking forward to seeing you December 21.

@niqueybangz

4 жыл бұрын

Joe Whichard me toooo 🤘🏾🤘🏾❤️🙏🏾

It’s tight but it’s right! I love how you all are able to resolve conflict in a loving environment.

I love when people can be raw and transparent...💯🙌🙏

Thank you guys for this level of honesty!!!!

I am a big fan of all of them but the lord needs to humble Tobe! If you watch all there videos he is always crossing the line while speaking to her and about her. He needs to grow like everyone else! The lord really gives us the right partner, that cares his grace in our weaknesses!

@musiclover2.06

3 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@musiclover2.06

3 жыл бұрын

I thought I was the only one who noticed this pattern as well. They’re artistry and music is amazing...but watching and observing how he engages with her is a little cringe-worthy at times.

Amen! Communication is so important and is imperative that you communicate with your wife in a way that she can receive!

I enjoyed watching them work through it respectfully... I need this type of vibes for my conversation/disagreements or correction lol

You guys are such great examples and are breaking generational curses, cycles etc Teaching the masses how to communicate without violence, yelling,screaming etc. Thank you. I'm still learning. 💗

She got you with how many times does God forgive you. It's over tobe

Such a blessing to witness the level of communication between our people ❤️✊🏾

The sister having her back means everything to me. Thats women supporting women

I truly love and appreciate the fact that you ALL are REAL! You are speaking truth in love. Dang, some pastors don't come clear like y'all! I love this. Thank you man.

Thank y'all for showing us this conflict resolution!

Seeing this after seeing part 1-5 of how you all met. "How many time does God forgive you." Purpose. 😊 Love you Fat.

Awwww! Thank y'all for being so real and raw and open I am learning so much from you all!!!

🤣❤️❤️❤️"soft and gentle wife correction"🤣👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 And I love sis the mediator/clarifier

Communication is key! You really have to talk, give each other their time, you need to Receive what’s being said and not only listen. I’m going through this with my husband. We’re young, but we’re teaching each other. I love this! Talk about it be about it😍

Good stuff !! That road life can be intense . Don’t let to take y’all down . And Nell is the best friend . Everyone needs a Nell

Love this lesson in correction, so inspiring, if we can do this with all our loved ones.....MAN 🙏🏾🙌🏾

We see your heart. Good to have a conversation and not to be talked at. Thanks for sharing!

Wow!! I love how they were able to work through that disagreement without raising voices or being hostile. Awesome communication👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Progression. Praise Godt 🙌🏾

All praises to TMH Yah! Yall go hard!

Y’all so powerful! Thank you for sharing this so we can learn and grow in grace toward our loved ones.✌🏾💜

All I can say is The three of y'all are EXCELLENT! Bravo! God is good! It really does take a village!

Amazing. People talking to each other like Adults with respect and empathy. Take note y'all

This was human relationship perfection … 😏🖤 … Nell be dropping 💎 💎 The issue at hand was understood, ended with a resolution - love - & smiles.

I so appreciate the transparency! Love what yal are doing for the generation(s).

Thank you so much for posting this particular situation because its SUPER RELEVANT! This is something my wife and i talk about a lot but struggle to make progress with because its a tough one to communicate clearly. Thank you for this tobe nell n fat!! Peace love n soul~

This is important to see! I love this!! Please continue the transparency that comes from love and is still direct. ❤️ Met y’all through ET at MSU and appreciate how raw y’all are. Y’all have my attention! Thank you.

Wow, thank y'all for this! Another powerful message I'll use in my marriage.

Love it, Communication!!! 🖤👑🤎

If all married couples had friends like Nell and her Hubby, they wouldn't need any counseling 🙌🏾💪🏾💖

Great strategy. Gonna discuss with my love to see how we can make public disagreements graceful.

Y'all dope for this whole communication,reciprocation and understanding break down publically..I love it..melanin love💜‼️

Facts indeed! I always say that the only one above correction is the one above!

Thanks for sharing this🙌🏾

💖💖💖 Love ya'll! Young, Black & Absolutely Blessed!🤗

This is so good! I sent this to my love right away.

Love the way y'all hear each other and work things out.

LMAO Mad love and respect for y’all sharing this. This is definitely a golden nugget for the culture💪🏾🧠

Gosh, this is so so healthy 😍😍 I pray God gives your families more grace and peace and ya'lls music all the success it deserves and more ijn. People need to see more of this in the mainstream media for real ❤️

This is so important! Thank y'all for sharing 🙏🏾

I love this. Thanks for sharing this.

Tobe your a Levite! Holy priest hood bro. Have mercy and grace on your mate, Bros, Sis's and so on....if you want it in return 👍🏽

Really appreciate you putting this out here.