My intuition always tells me when they’re deciding to quit but try to hide it because they can’t communicate their feelings ! I prefer someone to tell me the ugly truth and break up with me, rather than slowly torturing me,being cold,distant or ghost just to keep me as a back up plan.. that’s the most cruel and coward thing to do , I’m sick of it.

@bryancordero6532

2 ай бұрын

Hey, I hope you're doing ok I'm recovering from something like this We started dating in October, she even took the first step in kissing me and practically love bombing me Starting January things began changing slowly, you know the story: less texts, excuses, cold treatment, and I can swear that I never did something wrong. I started panicking because I also watched how she and another guy started interacting a lot on Facebook. Come Valentine's Day and, fuck, just remembering makes me feel humilliated I planned everything, got her a pair of shoes because that was my real feeling, I like making my partner have a good time Anyways, that night she was so distant including the physical aspect, no kisses, no holding hands, nothing One week later I confront her saying that I've noticed those changes and asked her "what's going on?" and she just replied "hmm I didn't expect this hehe, this is kind of awkward and I'd rather not confront these kinds of situations" My heart was broken: in that moment I realized that she didn't care about my feelings at that moment Luckily that long week and even when I got that text I was not alone I just told her "ok, understandable" She replied "I didn't think that there was any problem and you felt this way, thank you for telling me and hope there isn't any remorse" Fuck that, really fuck that shit. Two days later posts a pic on IG about a movie implying that someone else took her out, and deleted a post from November in which we hanged out and I appeared in one of the pics I went no contact from that day: no messages, every chat hidden, threw away all gifts and photos from her. It has been a really fucking hard process, practically my instinct from January was not wrong after all and it hurts. I've been going to therapy, got into gym and started hanging out more with my friends and also reconnected with my family One of the most hard weeks in my life.

@calebkeegan3023

2 ай бұрын

Yep my ex jezabelle Jayne always hoovering on off diff # s hurts bad to say NO must expect and reject Hoovers

@Fatimazahwa

Ай бұрын

he did that to me at the beginning it was a roller coaster of emotions , he would treat me so poorly and expect me to hush , then seen i wouldn’t leave so left me instead after i terminated :(

He broke up with me,told me I didn't deserve the way he treated me. Now I see that in my mind I had a love story very far from reality. He doesn't love me and does't care what I feel. It's been hard going through this break up but I know some day it wont hurt anymore. I wish you all the best!❤

@faithsmeltingpot8586

2 ай бұрын

🤗🤗

@thematthewhussey

2 ай бұрын

You’re bringing a strong and beautiful mindset to this, and I promise you as a result you will heal from this and move on to something better. ❤

@SarahBogue-je4ky

2 ай бұрын

@@thematthewhussey my boyfriend cheated on me whit his cousin I was hurt I’m don’t konw what to do 😢💔💔💔

@elybalderas8589

2 ай бұрын

@@thematthewhussey thank you very much!🥺

@Talentedtadpole

2 ай бұрын

You dodged a bullet x ​@@SarahBogue-je4ky

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

@andrewvasilyev3540

27 күн бұрын

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

@christopherkraft5553

27 күн бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@andrewvasilyev3540

27 күн бұрын

Her name is Chamani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@christopherkraft5553

27 күн бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@janhabiseth4504

22 күн бұрын

Same. Its easier to let go of him, as he cheated. But, I don't really not love him. there is no off switch to feelings i guess. Hope you find strength to heal from this.

I've always said, you don't miss them. You miss the "idea" of them. And when someone tells you who they are, you need to listen.

@kaderbn1121

Ай бұрын

That's exactly what happend to me, i realised that the person i loved only existed in my mind, i can't believe how blinded i was but now i can see her for what she really is and it's nothing like the person i thaught she was

@glorialynn2242

Ай бұрын

@@kaderbn1121 Exactly! I learned this the hard way too. Not any more...

@CarPlayCar

Ай бұрын

Facts 🙌🏾!

so true matt...in their mind, theyve already moved on weeks/months before they actually let us know it's finished. they usually have someone else lined up!!

@SpyOnDeck

6 күн бұрын

Ugh, so true. Tough pill to swallow.

I felt it two months before he actually said it

I've been healing for the past seven months and counting. I deleted my social media and I'm trying to focus on my health. It sucks how things sometimes get better and sometimes they don't. It's been a truly rollercoaster of feelings, insecurities, and fear, but I look forward to healing completely. To be left by the person you love the most is the incomprehensible pain of all. Anyway, to anyone out there suffering from a breakup, never give up on yourself. May love come to find you and live calmly and truly inside of you

My bf of 5 years was gradually distancing himself from me after I moved back home after being away for 1 year to build my career. I was too blinded by my love for him that it didn't occur to me that I felt insecure and anxious because of his lack of interest when we were together and minimal affection. When he broke up with me, he told me he was losing feeling for A YEAR and no longer saw a future with me. But now I have to thank him for giving me the opportunity to find someone who deserves my love.

@kimberlylim4539

2 ай бұрын

Hi there, im going through something very similar as well, ended a 5 year long relationship. Wishing you all the best and happiness ❤️ We shall heal and move on to happier and better things ☺️

@Pandaluvthemusic

2 ай бұрын

@@kimberlylim4539 Thank you so much for your kind words! Yes! We will get through to the other side! Our futures are bright ❤️❤️❤️. Wishing you happiness as well.

@DaisyGyasi-vx9rc

2 ай бұрын

We will get through this, I’m still healing after 5years relationship 🫶🏾

@fairydustmaidenfairydustma3486

2 ай бұрын

I’m also going through something similar. I was about to move to another country to be with him after 5 years of long distance and traveling back and forth. I feel like nothing is real right now.

@Pandaluvthemusic

2 ай бұрын

@@fairydustmaidenfairydustma3486 It's unfortunate how universal this pain and hurt is for so many of us. It's hard to believe that someone you invested so much time and energy into could just part with you and not think of the history you built together. I truly wish you happiness and real love in the future 💖. I believe we can all get through these dark times and come out so much stronger and brighter that we could've imagined.

The second type of grief will soon be a ticket to freedom and a big relief. Finally you can live again and look forward to things again.

10 year relationship, 6 years of marriage ended. it wasnt my choice. he decided and i was never part of the conversation. we have both done things to hurt each other, but how could i help someone who refuses help? i cant. ive been processing and ive been lonely, lost, and hurt for so long. a lot of this video resonated with me. i missed him for so long and i know why now. when the divorce is said and done and i can move back to my home country, i can start to heal. i am not okay now, but i will be.

@Ira.1

4 күн бұрын

It'll be different, but it'll be okay. Hope you're doing better now, sending love and light your way

The month he broke up with me, I also received a rejection letter from my dream school, and the death of a family member. I felt like my life just turned to a dark chapter. I moved to another city, the one that is closer to my home so I could always go back to my family if anything happens. But then deep down, I have to admit that the reason I left (more like fled) was because of him. The day I packed my stuff I cried so hard, every corner of the apartment reminds me of him. It’s been eight months and I am still sad. I don’t know how to be happy again.

@Pillshere31

2 ай бұрын

hey im going through something similiar right now. lost a family member last week, my ex gf broke things off with me 3 days ago. feels like someone pulled away a rug under my feet. i dont know who you are or where you are from but i sincerely hope you will find happiness again soon, hang in there.

@michellebradbury7762

Ай бұрын

I have had the break up where I no longer felt happiness anymore and every waking moment was like someone was extracting my bone marrow… a friend gave me a book called “it’s a break up because it’s broken” and it was the first time I had genuinely laughed in months. Get this book, and Matt’s of course, as it’s a how to guide for finding a tiny slice of happiness again ☺️

@meiyi9013

Ай бұрын

thank you, I am better now. I picked up new hobbies and tried my best to find fun. I hope you are also better now. @@Pillshere31

after over a year together, He led me on thinking he was happy. How do I not feel disgusted knowing now that all of my memories were lies? I kissed him thinking it was reciprocated. I cant help but think that this entire time I spent with a statue of a man I believed to be real. and then he sent a goodbye text and walked away like i meant nothing. no ounce of love left in his eyes.

@relaxandunwind1496

Ай бұрын

That happened to me. He was so sincere, said he loved me, acted like it, so happy to have me in his life, blah blah blah. We never argued, had common hobbies we loved, laughed together all the time, showed affection, etc. Then come home one day and he was gone. People lie and then leave. It's been 7 years since that happened. I'm still single, don't trust anymore. I'm happy and peaceful alone. Screw relationships.

When I look back at it, there were so many red flights that I chose to ignore. And what that got me was a person who ghosted me and when he finally texted me, he told me you are a good woman and you will find the love you deserve. You know what I told him you got that right I will find the love I deserve so f*** off.

@loxofluxe

2 ай бұрын

It’s the ghosting without reason for me; my guy did the same thing. I’m so puzzled but I’m over it.

@jenmascaro4014

2 ай бұрын

I also ignored red flags. I ended up staying too long, and putting up with too much, damagingly. It’s happened to me a few times before. I need to pay more attention to the early red flags for sure. I’m always the one that pays in the end.

@faithsmeltingpot8586

2 ай бұрын

I guess hard lesson learned, those red flags are your intuition, guardian telling you listen,listen, listen! But I'm afraid to say as women we always ignore that gut feeling...

@antriggs4190

2 ай бұрын

I literally got told the same. She told me I was such a good man over and over while crying in my arms and being affectionate with me hours after she had already given her entire break up speech. She had told me she never wanted to see me again and yet she seemed to still be head over heels in love with me. Even when I saw her at her work a month later, she helped me with paperwork but looked like she wanted to cry and stood staring at me as I said thanks, bye, and walked out.

@Suspended24

2 ай бұрын

I am still confused about why I stayed this long and put up with so much crap. I know myrelationship was nice and comfortable and we loved each other but the 'red flags' were there and I kept ignoring them and in the end she decided to go anyway. I need to work on myself to figure out why I chose her over myself, disregarded my needs and kept trying to please her. This video made me cry thinking of the bad stuff@@jenmascaro4014

1 month post-breakup…it’s the worst pain I’ve ever felt. She was my dream girl

@frankgeary7574

Ай бұрын

How are you doing? I’m so hurt and feel like I can’t get over it

@andersspencer

29 күн бұрын

Guys please help I cheated on her a while back It was a one time thing I messed up in that situation and hid it She found out and broke up Idk what to do I can't eat breathe I feel so numb

@frankgeary7574

29 күн бұрын

@@andersspencer I know what you are feeling. I still can’t sleep, eat and have panic attacks. Please pray right now. Try to stay calm. I’m here for you cause I know your pain now

@andersspencer

29 күн бұрын

@@frankgeary7574 I don't know what to do I want her back so badly It's so hurting knowing I broke her heart where she loved me the most I don't know what to do I love her

@frankgeary7574

29 күн бұрын

@@andersspencer I wish I could fix it for you because I’m in the same boat. Are you guys still communicating? Obviously she will have to trust you again. And that takes time and effort. She has to want to forgive you is the biggest thing I have learned. You can help with that by being honest from here forward.

As a man watching Matthew's channel for years, I just want to appreciate his glow up since he got gold ring on his finger. He's living the dream.

The fact that my ex thought about the breakup for a while yet never properly communicated to me-and left because that spark faded 🙄-is something of which I try to remind myself when I'm missing him. What makes me feel better, though, is that he thought he could have me as a friend after the breakup, but I declined. I don't want to be friends with someone who took me for granted. I was still putting in effort when he was withdrawing, and now I've come to realize that the person who is actually deserving of my love is someone who will appreciate it. Thank you, Matt, for opening my eyes ❤️

@VeraSevo1

2 ай бұрын

The fact that he was using you mentally preparing to break up and after the breakup suggested staying friends means his intention was malicious. You don't need a dishonest "friend". A friend does not take advantage of a friend's vulnerability... Do not believe him he cares deeply about you, he just wants to wash off his ego, he wants so much to be proud of himself at your cost. As much as your ego wants to reclaim your worthiness.

@kaidence7580

2 ай бұрын

My situation is about exactly the same

@calebkeegan3023

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely I had to leave the long distance narcissistic gf

@grydon6422

Ай бұрын

@PowerOfQwerty Wtf are you talking about.. stop trying to lie to yourself and make him the worst enemy just to feel better lmao. The reality is, these topics are hard af to confront and deal with. He didn’t break up immediately when that thought came to him because the person his with obviously means something to him, and he was most likely pondering his future and what would be the best decision. Mixed feelings of wanting maybe something else but also knowing there is a lot of good in this person and she might be the ideal partner, but there is just that nagging feeling that something is not right. And then you go back and forth that maybe you can fix your own mindset so the thoughts about break up go away, so you don’t communicate these thoughts to the other. No communication is also because talking openly about those thoughts can lead to the other person breaking down and becoming distanced themselves to ”prepare for the final blow”, not believing your ”feelings” anymore, which the person wants to avoid if they still feel like it could still work. Obviously communicating and working together would be better, but there are risks of ruining the relationship by communicating if the other one is mot mature enough to receive the news. Wanting to stay friends is not malicious at all, jesus.. It’s the fact that again, this person means much to them, and he respects her as a person despite the fact that he can’t see romatic future together, so he would like to keep you in his life as a friend. Especially if they have been together for a while, it makes perfect sense to stay friends in a way if nothing nasty caused the break up; this person has been the most important thing for that time, and to throw that person away completely is just dumb. Of course that is a norm because people like to make ex’s the enemies like you just did, but it makes no sense. This of course needs the knowledge that men and women can be just friends; only all the low IQ people can think ”that is just to use her for pleasure afterwards”… Yes, I’m speaking of experience. Of course million if different situations, and this doesn’t apply to everyone, but that comment about him sutomatically being malicious is ridiculous and crazy

@VeraSevo1

Ай бұрын

@@grydon6422 "WTF" is a bad start for such excessive reply on my comment... I see u invested time typing LMAO, I appreciate it.

What stand out to me the most is that you are right that he probably had this idea of breaking up for weeks, months in his mind. Yet he did not tell me anything about his doubts which proves that at this point he is not able to communicate as openly and with honesty as I would expect my life partner to. This helps me better to stop Idealizing him. Moreover he was willing to hurt me by breaking up out of nowhere, without giving any hints, without any warning. He accepted to hurt me tremendously yet he decided to do it this way. I don‘t believe that MY person would be willing to hurt me this much… it’s a hard truth to accept but I have to shallow this pill. Thank you for your great work Matthew, you help healing hearts all over the world ❤

@magnusVarblomst

2 ай бұрын

Most of the time it is not a communication problem. Often, our minds reach a conclusion swiftly, even before we act upon it in reality. It's not necessarily about harboring doubts, but rather needing time to muster the courage to have a difficult conversation

@mayi4741

2 ай бұрын

Hello this is exactly what I’ve been through now… they would always say there would be warning signs but my ex knew well I’m not the type to catch “hints” easily. I’m still in the phase where I’m feeling really mad and betrayed at how he didn’t even try to fight for our 9 year relationship… I’m processing all these feelings bc I just know one day I’ll get over it. I first begged to fix us but he was adamant there is no getting back to how we used to be and it’s been a week now and I feel very ashamed I begged to stay with a person who deliberately hurt me and doesn’t love me unconditionally… You’re right, for sure they have thought about this for months and decided to just flat out hurt me than trying to communicate first when the problem was developing. Sorry for dumping all that, I’m still processing this terrible heartbreak. Your comment made me feel better and solidified my thoughts to just completely move on, i just want u to know :) Thank you sm

@VeraSevo1

3 күн бұрын

@magnusVarblomst He was "collecting courage," you say, like we should sympatise with him. But i see it differently, like he was mastering manipulation tactic upon her trust. He was just using her body. As soon as smth better came up, he dumped her. Player.

@VeraSevo1

3 күн бұрын

@mayi4741 he didn't try to fight for your 9 years relation because he knew all along he will dump you when smth better will come up. He was keeping you hooked so you wouldn't confront him and dump him first. You should feel ashamed! Shame will keep you from doing same mistake. Your mistake is that you let him disrespect you for too so long...

@magnusVarblomst

3 күн бұрын

@@VeraSevo1 I can only speak from my experience, I cannot read somebody elses intentions. I don’t stay in a relationship if I don’t want to be with that person, simple as that. But in the past, the willpower to be able to break up when your “so” is still excited is tremendous, specially if you respect her. It may appear easier to postpone the conversation, and sometimes you even lie to yourself hoping that you will regain the spark, that you may never have to crush her feelings. Don’t just assume bad intentions from people, you will be happier

wow! the part about 'they moved on months before' is so striking! never saw it from that angle

I hope this heartbreak series continues because sounds like a lot of us need it

I experienced this for the past 6 weeks. He told me he knew but was going back and forth. He was distancing himself emotionally and physically... I was feeling unsafe. I reacted the way an anxious person would. He pulled away more. One day, he just lashed out at me when I was unwell at a spa. I knew then... but I was hoping to still salvage it, but he gave up. I take responsibility that I contributed to its demise

It’s been 3 years and I can’t get over.. It’s the love of my life I sabotaged myself and ruined everything

@Shaersa

Ай бұрын

You really shouldn’t blame yourself. Don’t be too hard on yourself

Dear Mr and Mrs Hussey, this is an extremely healing channel; I’ve been here quietly since years through which, there have been so much loss. All through that and even now where once again, I have lost something so dearly loved, your channel provides me hope and uplifts. I do not merely want to be a taker and therefore, will definitely order your book Mr Hussey. Indeed gratitude for showing up consistently and, giving so much of yourself. Your own maturation and the rise of this channel’s quality (if that could even be possible), has been a beautiful things to have the privilege of observing.

Thank you for this video. Sometimes we need to hear a hard reality in order to accept and learn to heal

I went through the video feeling determined and motivated, finally wanting to actually moved on. I was smiling, agreeing, and everything. Until 11:43 "I'm so sorry that you're in pain right now." made me tear up and I had to pause and take a few deep breaths. I guess I needed to hear that.

So timely video 🙌🏼 Low key gaslighting and had to self regulate due to his high functioning anxiety. Had to learn this with therapy. We are no longer together but my growth journey will continue. Thanks for this 🙏

I feel so happy I came across this video/ i feel broken after being broken up with. I felt like I lost my happiness and literally my purpose. I made this person my god and I regret it so much

@calebkeegan3023

2 ай бұрын

Same right there w u but I had to leave hurts left so many x too

@Fatimazahwa

Ай бұрын

i relate to this comment so much it’s because we sacrifice so much for them but we shouldn’t we should fill our own cup now and fill into ourselves !! They don’t deserve us let’s pour into ourselves ❤️❤️🙈

@calebkeegan3023

Ай бұрын

Yep ignored another email hoover cuz # i blocked

@LorenaBerrenbaum

Ай бұрын

I feel you.

Watching the Heartbreak Series made me realize that you’re speaking and asking questions FOR us and ON BEHALF OF us. To help us. Not just for your benefit or making an interesting interview. It may seem obvious now but that honestly didn’t click for me until watching these. Thank you so much.

I understand the heartbreak of divorce. I've been there. After years of dating and doing my inner work, I'm glad my ex wanted a divorce. I'm in a much better place mentally, and I enjoy my own company. I don't need a man in my life to live a full life. If I want to have a relationship with a man, it will be because he adds value to my life as I add to his. It won't be because I need him to survive or to fill some void. Do your healing and continue to become your best self. It will lead you to the right person for you. Thank you, Matthew, for all of the important work you do! You are much appreciated. ❤

When people say love is blind, this must be what they meant. We can become blind to the reality of the love, choosing instead to focus on the love story we wanted and hoped for. It's time to lift that veil from my eyes and see exactly how little effort was being expended on his side, how much his silence and distance gave me anxiety when I'd never had this level of anxiety before, how much I questioned my own worth and value because I wasn't getting the responses I wanted from him. It hasn't been easy to face the truth, but it's such a necessary part of this journey. Much love to all the broken hearts out there! You are not alone, and you are stronger than you feel right now ❤️‍🩹🫶🏻

Matthew you have 100% described my current pain ,,,i broke up with my gf 2 days ago and the pain is so drowning me and i know with people like you ill be okay very soon....thanks man may God bless you more.

This guy gets it. I’m buying this book. I’m buying every book. You are spot on. I’m struggling so hard and you have helped me so much. Thank you so much for making this video for those of us who have no one to go to. Thank you. Truly.

"Different planets even if you're in the same room" Preach!!!! 💜💜💜

There is something about this guy that is just approachable and kind and very non threatening. Like compassionate. Thank you for your work here. These videos have helped me open my eyes in ways other videos haven’t. It’s like I can accept that what has happened to me there was nothing wrong with me. That I do deserve to be happy and it wasn’t something I did or something that was broken in me. I am really breaking by free from my attachment to my soon to be ex spouse and it feels so good. A lot of videos of narcissism or emotionally unavailable apply to my ex spouse. Abandonment betrayal lies and gaslighting, been through a lot but feel stronger now that I have stood for my values and what I deserve in the end even though is stayed at first. I have forgiven myself for staying but I was beaten down from his abuse and lack of care and didn’t know there was a thing called trauma bond. I have been consuming information and glad I stumbled on this.

‘Surviving a breakup’ is the right title. I literally almost didn’t survive the last one and, while I cannot say I’m fully healed, I would never trade the way it transformed me for not feeling that pain. Matthew’s advice was instrumental for this, deeply grateful❤

I haven’t written a book but I’m one of the best “story tellers” I know …time to stop! I’m 65! No more time to waste😮. Looking forward to your book ❤

@thematthewhussey

2 ай бұрын

Love this comment! ❤️‍🩹

Each word of yours is gold!! Like someone pierced my mind and understood what I am feeling or confused about! Thanks Mathew!

I've been having a very hard time, and this video was exactly what I needed to hear. I'm going to save this and come back to it when I need encouragement over the next few weeks. Thank you!

you are so spot on. i felt so insane the last couple months and insecure and had no idea why

Fabulous. Going through a breakup now and this is certainly a game changing thought!! THANK YOU

Matthew you are saving lives you deserve the best ❤

You showed reality Matthew. Sometimes i feel how can you be so real about our experience...reality is far different than our love story in our mind that v build up or thought. Its easy to move on with second grief..much love to you Matthew ❤ .

I've not been in a relationship for years, I didn't even accept any offers because I always knew how it would turn out.. I would give my soul and in return I would be left holding an empty space and then have the impact of seeing them with someone else very quickly so it's easier to stay as I am and I'm so use to it now it doesn't bother me. My channel is more important to me and it gives me hope for my future. Thanks Matthew your a good soul

Another great video! Thank you Matt! I can't wait for a book to arrive in April! ❤

I have poured into him so much. But when I wanted Romantic nights, flowers, hugs and kisses, he told me he’s not Romeo and I should go find what I want. 😮‍💨😔 he told me this 3 months into the relationship. I left and I feel so much peace and safety, and that is something he didn’t provide as well.

Very good point! There's always a feeling that something is wrong. It is impossible to explain how it works, but this is real.

This video is so freaking wise and helpful. It’s saving my life. Thank you Matthew.

So true. Breakups don't happen out of the blue.

Matt is truly the best! ❤ I listened to him for 5 years on You Tube. Sorry Matt, I have healed mentally, spiritually and emotionally. ❤ I am sure those who buys his program will heal much faster than listening You Tube videos. Get them today!

Perfect timing I needed to hear this 🙏🏽

You just hit the nail on the head. I always felt anxious and insecure and like he was gonna cheat on me or leave me. I would have nightmares that he would leave all the time. And I’d share my anxieties and fears with him and he’d always reassure me that he wasn’t going anywhere, that he was gonna marry me. 5 years later, he was gone in 2 weeks. Out of no where. I’ve never felt such pain. But you’re so right, there is peace in knowing it wasn’t me that was insecure.

Now I realize he def had a different experience in the relationship than me because I was trying so hard to make it work without realizing he was over it and moving on long before it needed. The bridge between two perspectives is communication and honesty. Sadly, I was not offered this but this realization will do wonders for me. Hope you heal soon xoxo

I'm just so hurt, and this is the only thing that helps

I absolutely loved it. I'm currently going through a relationship, and I must say that I had a very abdominable feeling and insecurity when he wasn't opening up. After some days, he told me about his cheating, and everything was finished soon. I'm trying to learn from my past, and practice self love to be better next time.

I broke my own ❤, i created a fantasy on my head that was far from reality 😢.

Thank you. I'm a man and I really appreciate your videos. I pre-ordered your book. I've been single for a long time and I struggle in dating. But I know I'll find someone to build a wonderful relationship with.

I broke up with 6yers old relationship.i felt always my guilty because i was rude to her and toxic. I thought like that but after i watched these type videos i feel different. Yes i was bad and have to make my mistakes right way but there was no resone to balme me because i did so many good things. I gave my full effort to love her and protect her. Thank u make like this videos. This is so help full to understand worthy of our self.now I'm trying to just let them go and expose my self to the world. ❤

I hope everyone starts feeling better.

After 5 years he just ghosted me. It broke my heart. Thanks for this helpful video!

This helped so much. I ended it but because I was going crazy with the insecurity and feeling unsafe going down the rabbit hole of my old triggers. But needed to hear this. Thank you

This has helped me alot. My boyfriend of 10 months broke up with me. I was devastated, but I now remember feeling like he was very disconnected in our relationship and I now know why. He didn't have the same feelings for me as I had for him all along and it wasn't as great as I tried to make myself believe!

You made me cry. But, it was something I needed to hear...

Hello Matthew Therese here writing to you I have just bought your audiobook from Amazon I will buy the paperback soon your a brilliant very kind understanding coach that's what I need right now look forward to hearing your book soon big crafty hugs Matthew

You are so right about feeling insicure while my partner is already having doubts about out relationship...

Your videos are like vitamin D for my soul. Warmth and love in your aura radiates to your audience. You are a huge part of stage 1 to my healing. 12 and 1/2 year relationship Ended suddenly. Trying to fall apart and rebuild. Because only new seeds grow when buried! When I bloom, my beauty will make another smile.😢😊 Blessings.

@MyFav77

2 ай бұрын

Hello. 10 year relationship ended in November of last year. Im really trying to move forward. My emotions are all over the place, some days okay, other days Im angry, sad and confused.

Thank you for what you do. It’s been more than 3 months since my bf broke up with me. I didn’t see it coming, but I knew all along he didn’t know how to put emotions into words or have conversations about difficult subjects. Why I keep ending up with passive, people-pleasing men is the pattern I need to fix. Ugh

My somewhat of a relationship (a month in duration)was an unshared beautiful reality. It was initially beautiful to the both of us but somewhere along the lines, his feelings changed but the enjoyment of the reality still felt great to me. Unfortunately, the last weekend I saw him, I felt a coldness and the fire in the relationship was reduced to smoke. It felt like I was physically going through the motions but the once beautiful reality was null. My Achilles heel, is that I love too hard, and too strong, too early. I know I will get over this rather quickly, because self-reflection has allowed me to get the lessons I need(ed) to learn in order to heal, grow, and learn how to love at a different pace. I’m not angry or bitter; I’m rather grateful ❤️

@loxofluxe

2 ай бұрын

Last but not least, thank you, for this amazing video❤

Thanks a lot for sharing, you did a really great job! 👍🥰👏

@thematthewhussey

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 🤗

@giannishen

2 ай бұрын

@@thematthewhussey It is my honor, thanks to you too! Welcome to Taiwan any time! 👍🥰👌

BEST breakup advice ever given. Period. Thank you Matthew Hussey.

@thematthewhussey

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much. ❤

I absolutely didn’t know why I was feeling so insecure and taking things so personal when I could fee he was creating distance. I am the one who started the conversation that ultimately lead to our breakup by asking “ I feel like there is a distance between us, what is going on for you?” I am so proud I was brave enough to connect with him even though I knew it would be a hard conversation.

Thank you so much Matt 😢😢😢

Can’t wait for your book!

I watched one of your videos about when he won’t commit and isn’t sure. I used the “I think you need to go away and find what you want.” It helped take the pressure off. He didn’t say anything. I handed him things and drove away.

4:49 wow you are literally describing my situation in detail! I overlooked many things thinking that they happened because the honey moon phase was over when the other person was probably already going through the break up in their mind. I didn't pay attention to the moments when I felt hurt and not appreciated. However, I'm wondering what's the lesson for my next relationship? I think so far, that I should compassionately bring it up and see what they say, without making strong demands and see what comes up. Because on the one hand, I don't want to suffocate the other person with my anxious attachment style but, on the other hand, I also should value my needs and check how important the other person thinks those needs are for them. You opened my eyes to see that the relationship that I thought I had, never actually existed. That we were having completely different experiences. And that I didn't lose nearly as much as I thought I did. Thank you for this video!

@thematthewhussey

2 ай бұрын

You’re so welcome

@user-rb7qo2vz8v

2 ай бұрын

I am married not happy he is just using me and put me down now I am involved with other guy but he lives away right we are talking to be together soon. Please help me.

@user-ot7px3ew4x

Ай бұрын

My relationship of yrs just ended It hurts so much 😭😭😭 Sending ❤❤ from Nigeria 🇳🇬

I absolutely love your videos and you hit home on so many real emotions for me and I love and appreciate your guidance so much!!!!

Thank you for such an encouraging video.

Man these videos resonate with me a lot... I really felt like I had lost my perfect person when she broke up with me, but I can see a little better now that she was already moving on long before I even knew it was over. The signs were there, she wasn't very interested, kind or present to me even though she is generally a lovely person to be around, because she was working up the courage to break up. I will still take time to grieve, but I know that the right thing to do for myself is to keep her at a distance. Now she wants us to be friends in the future when I've 'gotten over her' after a decent period of no contact, but I realise that she just feels bad about herself and wants me around to lean on whilst simultaneously moving in and being happy/seeing other people. She even says 'I still have a lot of love for you but I no longer am in love with you' which just makes me feel more confused. I'm no longer going to reply to her messages or let her string me along; I'm going to leave her behind.

Thank you so much, Matt.

I meet a girl 4 months ago and everything went perfect. I thought that I’m gonna marry her and care for her even if our time was short. Last week she told me that she meet another guy three days before and he will be the right one for her. Im feeling betrayed and never thought this kind of pain exists. I hope I can heal from this, look at this text in the future and be proud that I could get out of this. Blessings for everyone reading this

Wow. Yes! I felt insecure all the time and people kept telling me how lucky I am. It turns out, my feelings were very much correct and I did not even know it.

Thank you Mattew for your video, extremely useful for me now. My boyfriend broke up to me very out of the blue and didn't give me chance to improve or last our relationship longer. But you were right, when I look back his impatience, unpredictable anger and desire for too much personal space are red flags and I can get rid of them now. Indeed, when you feel insecure for no reason, it is more likely a hint to the end.

@suziandchopstix

Ай бұрын

Literally going through the same thing. Was in denial that I should let go but watching videos like this bring me back to reality bc I catch myself hoping … it’s the fear of actually letting go and giving ourselves the respect we deserve

So true.. I felt something is off when everything was alright, then it happena way after

Yours a brilliant kind coach carry on your good work of really helping so many people feel much better I’m not ready to yet

I love this video so so much as it gave me some peace and love the truth that you say, thank you! Wish it came out a year ago when I was heavily blaming myself for "anxious attachment lashing out" and thus speeding up the break-up. But I'm grateful to find this bit of peace now.. Yet I do wonder what should those who feel like they are grieving the lost love of their lives do? As I'm one of them.. I'm not telling myself a story, that would be different to what he experienced. In fact, I know that things were bad. But the thing is that I was making it bad with my own actions, and the knowledge of anxious attachment came too late..

You are the very best Matthew! Brings it to the point! So true! Pst! I am 73.... the man 57... a womaniser, butterfly going from one to the other woman..... it was somehow wonderful.....a present.... but i can tell you the heartbreak very painful!!!! Red flags i saw.... did not hear to them..... Young woman: better think twice.... before you open the door!

Thank you Matthew for your kindness I just feel so lost and to make me feel more sad more lost more numb I had to have my older beautiful dog put to sleep he was 19 years old last week so right now I don’t want to feel nothing maybe in time I will begin to feel bit better

@emilys2064

2 ай бұрын

Im very sorry for the loss of your loved dog ❤ sending you love and wish you the best for these painful times

@astrid8433

2 ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss. I hope you get through this ❤

this is exact what I was looking for at 12 am after 2 days of breakup

I think that we never lose anybody, it is just an illusion that we think we do, as we often count on the other person to fulfill our own happiness. We can only lose ourselves in our grief, yet to find our life purpose again.

Many people around me have said the same thing to me, but I wasn't convinced. And now I see your video, and you're saying the same words. It seems like I don't want to be convinced or I need more time to comprehend. Inside me, there's a strong desire to plead with you, just to be at least friends who know each other's news. I want to observe him and know what he's doing and how he feels.

@drewbarry7

2 ай бұрын

You'll only be hurting yourself by keeping in touch. You need to move on.

@obiblooze5902

2 ай бұрын

@@drewbarry7 you have to go no contact, its the only way to start to heal

@priyankav9792

2 ай бұрын

Yes please move on..go no contact that's only the solution to be happy again

Thanks Matt ...❤

When my counselor kept asking every week "How long can you keep doing this?"when I finally told him "I'm done..and I'm sorry". 3 days later I was served with divorce papers. He already had a lawyer. Already had divorce papers ready. I was shocked. But it was "my fault". I'm the one that said it out loud. But he was gone months (maybe years) before. And that's really what lead to the divorce.

I felt it, his energy change 2 months before I ended the relationship, 12 months together and 6 months living together. I felt so insecure, and lost he wouldn’t tell me why he pulled away. He moved out a week ago saying we will start over, new chapter, it made my insecurity worse. The pain I felt, and fear, I had given all of myself to him. I needed to end the relationship for my own mental heath. No contact to be able for me to move forward and yes as much as I’m hurting I feel peace with my decision

He broke up with me after nearly 7 years. He fell into depression, and around three monthes in he broke up with me. For those three months he said that he doesn't really feel the love, cause he doesn't really feel anything, but he knows that he loves me and sometimes its there and other times he just doesn't feel. Then after three months of this, which were so hard on me (and him as well) he broke with me saying that for the past week or two he stopped loving me entirely. I broke down but then relaxed and told him that i still think I'm the love of his life, and he said "i know". And he decided to break up. My friends say that he will wake up and realize he messed up. But i don't think so. He truly lost all feeling to me. I hope he's ok. And I'll find someone who will love me through everything.

He was not a great boyfriend, but he was a really good friend. I just wish we never started dating and could be friends now

Thank you so much for this vedio Mathew... it's give me so much clarity and helped me to understand my thoughts and separate them from reality as I am going through a hard time of my life. Thank you so much.❤

@thematthewhussey

2 ай бұрын

You're so welcome

@mariaazmi2318

2 ай бұрын

@@thematthewhussey ❤️❤️

It hurts to realise it was only an illusion 😢 And I'm the only one who loved You're right, unfortunately it takes time Thanks, it helps 🙏

My relationship of 4 years ended a week ago. It was out of blue, I'm sad and heartbroken. But hopefully the pain goes away soon...

Just had the breakup message this morning. Absolutely heartbroken 💔

If they actually let you know that they're leaving you consider yourself lucky, some people just leave and do so at your most elated about the relationship and discard you without hesitation or an explanation in a masterfully narcissistic way, so getting closure can be quite difficult. You must do it on your own, and Matthew does give some good tips on how to do it in this video. Some of these things took me years to figure out, Matthew provides a good shortcut and i wish this video was out there years ago lol, oh well 🤷‍♂

I hope everyone watching this video finds closure and peace. Know that we're all going through the same pain. Stay strong friends, and trust in God 🙏

Thank you for this video desperately trying to find peace. My girlfriend just broke up with me for days before my surgery all over a fight over the silliest thing and things were said feels were hurt. Now I'm stuck at home for 6 weeks, I can't get out and do any of the usual coping mechanisms. I just have to sit in this pain it's the worst and I'm only 2 weeks in 😭.