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  • @PRdude
    @PRdude2 ай бұрын

    I wouldn't introduce a woman as my girlfriend unless she actually IS my girlfriend.

  • @CourtneyRyan

    @CourtneyRyan

    2 ай бұрын

    This makes sense to me 😂👏🏼

  • @JohnM...

    @JohnM...

    2 ай бұрын

    The word 'partner' makes me dry heave...

  • @RobotDad

    @RobotDad

    2 ай бұрын

    @@JohnM... 👆👆👆👆👆👆👆

  • @jasonhurst8599

    @jasonhurst8599

    2 ай бұрын

    An awkward situation would be if you like the woman more than just as a friend (but also like being friends with her at least so you want to keep her as a part of your life), but she only likes you AS A FRIEND, and you think she might be attracted to one of your friends; which would probably make you feel not so good if they began dating if you just introduce her as just a friend. Which yeah sounds selfish, but why do we always have to worry/care about everyone else's feelings, or best interest, but it's okay for no one to worry/care about ours? If we do we're being selfish; but if they do it, they're just looking out for what's best for themselves. Then if you don't introduce her, you'll probably be accused of being ashamed of her or something. Either way you're the jerk, A-hole, whatever.

  • @Jeremy-ql1or

    @Jeremy-ql1or

    2 ай бұрын

    Every time I have introduced my older brother as my "girlfriend" it has just made it awkward for everyone.

  • @chinothepony
    @chinothepony2 ай бұрын

    Men want to know they are appreciated. Compliments are something that men don't hear as much as women. Men treasure the women they are with, and if they get validation and feedback that they are making a woman feel safe, secure, and treasured, the man knows he is doing the right thing.

  • @mgancarzjr

    @mgancarzjr

    2 ай бұрын

    Every guy has that one compliment he hears and holds into for a year or longer.

  • @kc270352

    @kc270352

    2 ай бұрын

    yep appreciated and respected

  • @kristianniss5201

    @kristianniss5201

    2 ай бұрын

    @@mgancarzjr Nah. I can't remember a compliment.

  • @mgancarzjr

    @mgancarzjr

    2 ай бұрын

    @@kristianniss5201 let me fix my comment: guys get compliments so infrequently that, if they do get one, they hold onto it for a long time due to its rarity

  • @Z-Interceptor

    @Z-Interceptor

    2 ай бұрын

    nicely summerized, sir. all definitely true imo

  • @nextghost
    @nextghost2 ай бұрын

    TV has taught us that "we need to talk" means that what's coming next is a breakup.

  • @FrostedSeagull

    @FrostedSeagull

    2 ай бұрын

    As this day on we males: Drizzle . . . Drizzle

  • @dbf1dware

    @dbf1dware

    Ай бұрын

    Not necessarily break up but "major problem." But, yeah, break up. When she says, "we need to talk," just walk out. When she says, "we need to talk," she already has a new boyfriend.

  • @iamhoracio
    @iamhoracio2 ай бұрын

    I discovered Courtney’s channel when she had less than 70k subscribers. Now, her channel is going to hit 1M. Hard work does pay off.

  • @CourtneyRyan

    @CourtneyRyan

    2 ай бұрын

    Wow! Thank you so much for sticking around 🥹 and for being so kind!

  • @minabotieso6944

    @minabotieso6944

    Ай бұрын

    0 men have gotten a gf from watching these videos during that time. These videos are just for dating circlejerking

  • @dbf1dware

    @dbf1dware

    Ай бұрын

    Hard work and being such a kind and wonderful person. I don't agree with all she says, but she is clearly kind and sweet, and wanting to help improve lives... love her so much.

  • @PspTomisi
    @PspTomisi2 ай бұрын

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

  • @juanderuano8969

    @juanderuano8969

    2 ай бұрын

    its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

  • @PspTomisi

    @PspTomisi

    2 ай бұрын

    Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?

  • @juanderuano8969

    @juanderuano8969

    2 ай бұрын

    Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex

  • @PspTomisi

    @PspTomisi

    2 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

  • @bobbiecoldiron9883

    @bobbiecoldiron9883

    2 ай бұрын

    Be careful of people who make promises they themselves can't execute. Your ex is the only one that can decide if she wants back in the relationship. Sounds like you are ruminating on the good times while ignoring the bad. It could be the reason the relationship ended. Work on you, figure out what went wrong so you don't make the same mistake, look at what you want your life to look like with our without your ex, and eventually things will work out.

  • @sdfg-gj9to
    @sdfg-gj9to2 ай бұрын

    Too many people conflate "standards" with "wishes." It's like they are saying you need to have a lambo instead of saying you need to have a safe, reliable, comfortable car. Yes you need to be attracted to your partner, feel safe, feel respected. You don't need someone who spoils you and treats you like a princess so you don't have to lift a finger.

  • @TheThreatenedSwan

    @TheThreatenedSwan

    2 ай бұрын

    Once women get a hold of these terms in social media trends, they rapidly move away from the original definition

  • @user-xs4uj5qb9m

    @user-xs4uj5qb9m

    2 ай бұрын

    I mean gift giving and acts of service is a love language, if you don’t value that in partner don’t look for a girl who those are her top two love languages lol???

  • @supercal333

    @supercal333

    2 ай бұрын

    ​​@@user-xs4uj5qb9mWay to miss the point. Narcissistic entitlement is what he is alluding to. The woman in the video is bordering on it. She's annoying.

  • @lisaaustin4561

    @lisaaustin4561

    2 ай бұрын

    @@user-xs4uj5qb9m yep!

  • @michaelclarke1716

    @michaelclarke1716

    2 ай бұрын

    @@user-xs4uj5qb9m if thats their top two they just want free shit. i feel love when a friend or someone gives me a gift but the expectation isnt that it needs to be a constant thing.

  • @tommygunn6901
    @tommygunn69012 ай бұрын

    My take....first off, if you're in a relationship and still acting like youre single, just stay fricken single. Its not that hard! Secondly, this having a boner for a luxury lifestyle is BS "oh i can't date you cause you're not making 6 figures" those people need to know their role and shut their mouths! Third, people need to stop overly complicating dating! It's a mindset! It's nuances! Stop figuring it out like trying to put cheat codes in a video game! Four, if you have trouble communicating, take yourself out of the dating pool and work on it, so you don't waste people's time! Thanks for coming to my TED talk!

  • @christianrodriguez5346

    @christianrodriguez5346

    2 ай бұрын

    Well said! 👏🫡

  • @nonplussed7181

    @nonplussed7181

    2 ай бұрын

    🫡

  • @jasonhurst8599

    @jasonhurst8599

    2 ай бұрын

    Exactly. Quit trying to find perfection, or make every single little aspect or nuance of your life, relationships, people in your life, etc "perfect". Honestly that would make life BORING AS F*CK!! Life should not be scripted

  • @Nersify

    @Nersify

    2 ай бұрын

    *claps*

  • @KevinNguyen-md5ve

    @KevinNguyen-md5ve

    2 ай бұрын

    What if you have social anxiety but have the best of intentions when it comes to dating?

  • @alanlee8590
    @alanlee85902 ай бұрын

    Another entitled Tiktoker: it gets me whenever modern women on one hand say they don't need no men, and then on the other also say men are supposed to provide for them. The one and only woman on earth that I feel obliged to provide for is my elderly mom.

  • @EricMoore790
    @EricMoore7902 ай бұрын

    Here is one: All we want is some kindness and we will do anything you want.

  • @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    2 ай бұрын

    As a woman, I WISH it was that easy! Most of the men I've dated push for sex WAY too soon--& accuse me of "playing games" when i'm just not ready for sex! It's all so confusing. And btw, I'm NOT inrterested i ANY kind of "luxury lifestyle"(disgusting!) , I actually try to (mostly) "go Dutch" so money ISN'T an issue!

  • @EricMoore790

    @EricMoore790

    2 ай бұрын

    @@user-cz5lj2vx1f I understand where you are coming from but women are ruthless in the dating game.

  • @mgancarzjr

    @mgancarzjr

    2 ай бұрын

    ​@@user-cz5lj2vx1fthat's a tough one. Each person obviously has a preference for when they want to be intimate be that sex or emotional intimacy.

  • @Andrew--S

    @Andrew--S

    2 ай бұрын

    @@user-cz5lj2vx1f Why do you date men that push for sex way too soon?

  • @Totsy30

    @Totsy30

    2 ай бұрын

    @@user-cz5lj2vx1f If a dude has no sexual discipline and demands sex early, then he just weeded himself out. I’m a dude who has done the deed on a first meetup with one gf and after a month with a different gf. The one where we waited a month was astronomically better and more fulfilling, so it’s a boundary of mine now to really get to know a girl first. Sex without connection straight up feels wrong to me, idk. But I’d still establish exclusivity early cus I’m either her only guy in that connection time or I’m out.

  • @nightknightlegion1273
    @nightknightlegion12732 ай бұрын

    Most woman can't take what we men say seriously. When we say something, we literally mean it. There's no metaphor, or games, and idea behind what we're saying.

  • @jaystevens7092

    @jaystevens7092

    23 күн бұрын

    I agree with you completely. I say what I mean, and I mean what I say. My problem is, is that expect my wife to do the same. It always ends up being a riddle and some secret meaning I don’t get because I have to figure out how she feels and what she means. So, I try not to say anything because I feel so dumb and she gets mad

  • @nightknightlegion1273

    @nightknightlegion1273

    23 күн бұрын

    @jaystevens7092 Yeah, my mantra now is keep it simple, I don't want a headache. I've accepted women are biologically wired this way and there is no way around it. I'd rather do the best that I can, considering it from a third person perspective, bc its at least effort, and I'm doing something about it, whether they like it or not. That way the ball is always in their court. Over react or appreciate it, it's no longer your call.

  • @ratzo77
    @ratzo772 ай бұрын

    i never identify a girl as "Friend" I always just say her name "this is Kelly". Until the relationship has been defined, then its "this is mt girlfriend Kelly"

  • @dylancooper3690
    @dylancooper36902 ай бұрын

    I don't feel insecure because of my low salary. If a woman judges me for it, that's on her, not me.

  • @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    Ай бұрын

    Absolutely! If a woman rejects you due to the amount of your salary, you DODGED A BULLET.I'm a WOMAN saying this: judging men by the size of their wallet is BS.

  • @chinothepony
    @chinothepony2 ай бұрын

    OMG #10! She is so spot on! I don't know how many times the woman expected me to be a mind reader. Think on this: Women are emotional creatures. They change their minds all the time. Consistency can be out the window when they take on different angles and perspectives of the same subject matter based on their mood. How is a man expected to keep up with this without communication?

  • @drip369

    @drip369

    2 ай бұрын

    Emotional creatures that don't understand their emotions, can't handle them, ending up lead towards failure by them, yet use buzzwords like emotional intelligence. If emotional intelligence existed, women wouldn't recognize it nor have it. Yes, they are terrible communicators but it goes back to their vulnerabilities, insecurities, and reputation protection game so it's best to expect condescending games and pisspoor communication. I've dealt with women for so many years that I know what they're trying to say, even if they don't open their mouths

  • @Kdizzledub19
    @Kdizzledub192 ай бұрын

    I’ll just put it this way: If I’m not providing for my spouse, I feel useless. I want to meet the challenge of providing for those I care about. It gives me my sense of utility and direction. If I am not able to provide, I feel like I’m letting the people around me down. I’m certain most men feel the same way.

  • @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    2 ай бұрын

    Some do. Some feel RESENTFUL about it. Some REFUSE to be economically responsible--even for themselves.

  • @snorgonofborkkad

    @snorgonofborkkad

    2 ай бұрын

    You are literally explaining evolutionary psychology. All men are born with this proclivity. It has little to nothing to do with society.

  • @nightknightlegion1273

    @nightknightlegion1273

    2 ай бұрын

    Do you feel like your partner naturally fulfills her roles and duties as well? Or do you have to tell her?

  • @PredatoryTeeth
    @PredatoryTeeth2 ай бұрын

    Things women need to know about men.... 1) It's not always about getting some "trim." 2) Guys have feelings too, and do care about more than sex. 3) Shouldn't necessarily be defined by what he has or what he can provide for her. The list goes on.....

  • @otdreamer193

    @otdreamer193

    2 ай бұрын

    The list definitely goes on but those 3 are some things I dealt with enough times and it costs what could otherwise be a good relationship. Especially 1 & 2 I’ve started a conversation and I get told “sure we can talk until you ask to see my boobs cause I know that’s what you want”. Smh I stopped even explaining myself and drop them immediately the same way I can’t blame every woman for what others have done to me.

  • @master-of-mind5881

    @master-of-mind5881

    Ай бұрын

    Best way to attract women is to just do you. Focus on self love and self development. In fact focus on your spirituality. Women are emotional creatures, as a man you need to tap into your own sense of spirituality. Discover your purpose in this life, get to the core of who you truly are, this will enable you to manifest your desires more easily because you are tapping into the cosmic or divine nature of the universe. Women are in tune with this all the time hence Mother Nature, motherly love, empathy, affection, etc. Once you prioritise yourself, you will begin to notice a change in your reality. The outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Remember women always put themselves first, men must adopt a similar mindset. I’m not saying be antisocial or impersonal or misogynistic, no just don’t bother indulging or pursing these silly little Sexualistic constructs that society puts us in. All this information and emphasis on dating, relationships, sex it’s all nonsense and too distracting. Cut out all that noise just focus on you and see how the results unfold. You have to connect with your core, your soul if you are to succeed with anything in life. What man can believe and conceive, he can achieve. Remember men are natural born leaders. Boys chase women but a man ATTRACTS women. Good luck.

  • @dbf1dware

    @dbf1dware

    Ай бұрын

    Women don't care about what men think or feel. As a man, just decide how much of their sh!t you are willing to put up with. If you happen upon a woman who's sh!t aligns well with your sh!t, then consider marrying her after 10-15 years. All I can say is "good f'ing luck, get a dog (oh, and "rent a wife" as needed)."

  • @kurtniznik8116
    @kurtniznik81162 ай бұрын

    LOL at her "I want to hang out see where things go" criticism. Women do the ambiguous, plausibly-deniable thing all the time with their intentions but when a guy gives it back to them they hate it 🤣

  • @Someone-ej6ro

    @Someone-ej6ro

    2 ай бұрын

    yeah the stupid victim mentality. It's getting old.

  • @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    Ай бұрын

    I'd APPRECIATE it if a man said this. It's far better than the usual1st 2nd or (at best) 3rd date exchange of :HIM: Let's Have SEX! Me:: I need to know you better. HIM: So, you're one of those GAMEPLAYERS Women! ME: (proceeds to try to be clear) I dnt know you well enough for intimacy! HIM: based on his esponse I might not go out with him again

  • @2ndTim3_1-6
    @2ndTim3_1-62 ай бұрын

    That womens language about wanting him to change to meet her expectations, thats a big red flag right there.

  • @karuns9500
    @karuns95002 ай бұрын

    The arrogance of the women acting like she knows everything while putting on makeup like she's going to a movie premier speaks volumes about her. Not sure how anyone would want to take any advice from her at all.

  • @Tony.Tony.Chopper24

    @Tony.Tony.Chopper24

    2 ай бұрын

    Yeah, she speaks in a way that doesn't bring her much sympathy.

  • @ericoates4815
    @ericoates48152 ай бұрын

    "if your dog's not barking; it means he's being fed by someone else" where 'barking' means asking/begging for physical intimacy; why does he need to be the one asking and/or begging for this? By this same logic, the guy who is "not barking"; could be assuming that she has somebody else on the side.

  • @vampiro4236
    @vampiro42362 ай бұрын

    Don't ever sprinkle important subjects into an easy going conversation and expect us to listen intently and remember every little detail. Some men are good at that, a lot aren't. If it's something important, speak directly to us. Don't beat around the bush or try to add nuance, tell us exactly what the issue is. We'll recognize the gravity of something if you do it this way, and then do whatever needs to be done.

  • @YTSaintKevin

    @YTSaintKevin

    2 ай бұрын

    For real

  • @bluepunk182

    @bluepunk182

    2 ай бұрын

    This cannot be over-emphasized.

  • @master-of-mind5881

    @master-of-mind5881

    Ай бұрын

    Best way to attract women is to just do you. Focus on self love and self development. In fact focus on your spirituality. Women are emotional creatures, as a man you need to tap into your own sense of spirituality. Discover your purpose in this life, get to the core of who you truly are, this will enable you to manifest your desires more easily because you are tapping into the cosmic or divine nature of the universe. Women are in tune with this all the time hence Mother Nature, motherly love, empathy, affection, etc. Once you prioritise yourself, you will begin to notice a change in your reality. The outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Remember women always put themselves first, men must adopt a similar mindset. I’m not saying be antisocial or impersonal or misogynistic, no just don’t bother indulging or pursing these silly little Sexualistic constructs that society puts us in. All this information and emphasis on dating, relationships, sex it’s all nonsense and too distracting. Cut out all that noise just focus on you and see how the results unfold. You have to connect with your core, your soul if you are to succeed with anything in life. What man can believe and conceive, he can achieve. Remember men are natural born leaders. Boys chase women but a man ATTRACTS women. Good luck.

  • @vampiro4236

    @vampiro4236

    Ай бұрын

    @@master-of-mind5881 Uh huh.... man, your fingers most be sore from all that typing.

  • @dbf1dware

    @dbf1dware

    Ай бұрын

    The men who ARE good at picking up these subtleties are players. That is their greatest skill. That is how they constantly get laid. "Oh, he understands me! He actually HEARD me! What? Oh, and, uh, yeah, I let him bang me."

  • @Sygmus6
    @Sygmus62 ай бұрын

    As a guy with an anxiety problem, NEVER start a conversation with "we need to talk." I will assume the worst every time, probably anticipate a break-up.

  • @jaymose1146

    @jaymose1146

    2 ай бұрын

    I second this, and it's every time that phrase comes up. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

  • @maGnetar333
    @maGnetar3332 ай бұрын

    1] Don't play mind games all the time. Keep it simple as much as possible. 2] I am usually laid back and easy going. That is NOT an invitation for dominance or emotional manipulation. 3] Men and women are wired differently. But, that does not mean that we deserve to tolerate women who have emotional baggage (most do) from their previous experiences. 4] One of the most sought after, but rare traits that us men look for in women : Understated (key word) confidence and most importantly..... Humility.

  • @CookieMonster-we1in

    @CookieMonster-we1in

    2 ай бұрын

    Id switch the confidence with trust humility and patience. A man with a purpose will get things done no matter what

  • @ChrisW1019
    @ChrisW10192 ай бұрын

    As a man, I do feel pressure to be a financial provider in a relationship. I understand the difference between being able to pay bills every month and being able to pay for luxury items at will. I am currently looking for a new home and a new job. At the moment I do not feel qualified to pursue a romantic relationship due to my current uncertain financial situation.

  • @marigengelbrecht7627

    @marigengelbrecht7627

    2 ай бұрын

    Completely understand bro. I'm a broke college student right now, and because of the reasons you mentioned and also alluded to in the video, I don't feel "qualified" to enter the dating scene... Not yet.

  • @supercal333

    @supercal333

    2 ай бұрын

    ​@@marigengelbrecht7627Hit the gym and build yourself up.

  • @willarmendariz7663
    @willarmendariz76632 ай бұрын

    This entire video is basically women assuming that we communicate like they do. Lost is a turbulent sea of emotions and alphabet soup, desperately trying find words that don't bring up negative emotions because they can't deal with difficult conversations. Instead of just taking what we say as what we mean, they have to run it through the filter of their emotions and complicate the ever living shit out of simple communications.

  • @ricardovazquez2221

    @ricardovazquez2221

    2 ай бұрын

    lmao my man went off😂

  • @FromInfinityTV

    @FromInfinityTV

    2 ай бұрын

    take a loooong break from em. Perspective is good

  • @drip369
    @drip3692 ай бұрын

    I certainly want women to know that men are not intimidated by them and they need to quit using that word. Just like people need to quit misusing the word empathy in the place of sympathy. I will say that only men that have never talked to women outside of their immediate family are intimidated by women, the rest of us are either not impressed, annoyed or disgusted. Humility is such a lost virtue

  • @drip369

    @drip369

    2 ай бұрын

    11:15 the word is sympathy. Empathy only exists for people that have experienced the same thing and can understand. If it's something that somebody's going through that you don't understand, listening is not being empathetic, it's being sympathetic. The media has been on a surge that's confusing these words and that includes social media because empathy is now a buzzword and it is being misused. For example, I've never broken my leg before but if somebody comes to me and crutches and I asked them what happened and they tell me they broke their leg, I can only be sympathetic....

  • @tinyjamaican

    @tinyjamaican

    2 ай бұрын

    I feel that there is also another perspective of women who make more money in a relationship. Which is some women need to learn humility when it comes to being the breadwinner, not shaming or belittling men for making less money.

  • @NivMizzet13

    @NivMizzet13

    2 ай бұрын

    "I'm intimidated by a puddle on the road, I'd just rather no get my shoes wet." is a pretty good summation of it :)

  • @christianrodriguez5346

    @christianrodriguez5346

    2 ай бұрын

    ⁠@@tinyjamaicanmy mom is the breadwinner in my family not once she treated my dad awfully for making less. He did his best and always helped around the house. Both shared responsibilities. Minor arguments but nothing huge.

  • @tinyjamaican

    @tinyjamaican

    2 ай бұрын

    @@christianrodriguez5346 your mom is one of the wiser ones.

  • @therealstunbmun
    @therealstunbmun2 ай бұрын

    "Hey. We need to talk" It does make Men defensive. Women tend to take "things going well" for granted and really generally never go out of their way to praise or call attention to good behavior. Men are supposed to be "good"! So yeah. "We need to talk" means "somethings broken and I need you to fix it" to a man. So when

  • @dbf1dware

    @dbf1dware

    Ай бұрын

    Yeah, "we need to talk" means a major problem. Major problem means impending break up. Most likely means "I'm already seeing your replacement." Never forget that, unless you are Chad, she has a couple of dudes waiting in the wings.

  • @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    Ай бұрын

    @@dbf1dware "We need to talk" could actually mean what it says on its face/.Yes, there's some sort of problem, that perhaps, SHE has been trying to ignore, downplay or fix--but, realizes she HAS to bring up with you. Your jump to "she's already got my replacement" is nonsense MOST of the time. Try seeing a relationship takes effort

  • @Specoups

    @Specoups

    Ай бұрын

    If you wants things to improve, then you have to let women express themselves honestly. You can't blame them for alledgedly being liars if you don't let them speak freely and thus force them to circumvent issues with word salad.

  • @dbf1dware

    @dbf1dware

    Ай бұрын

    @@Specoups Oh, I didn't suggest she was lying. Quite the contrary. She already knows what she wants to say and I'm not going to like it. But that's OK. Moving on.

  • @dbf1dware

    @dbf1dware

    Ай бұрын

    @@user-cz5lj2vx1f Interesting thought. I have never had a girl/woman approach me with "we have to talk" and have her follow that with anything remotely like "I made a mistake and I want to fix what I did and hope you will forgive me." Shyeah, right. Yep, a relationship takes effort, a whole lot of effort on my part until she gets bored with my efforts.

  • @airynod
    @airynod2 ай бұрын

    1) You are not always blame-free if your partner cheats. That depends on someone's history and relationship dynamic. I know a father who stayed in the relationship for his son but eventually cheated on her girl-boss wife. I am not endorsing cheating, but I understand why that might happen if I take the daily interaction with her wife into account. 2) The tone of "We need to talk" reminds me of my mother. The moment that I am in trouble(at least she thinks I am), it is probably a one-way conversation coming up. I wouldn't want an intervention-like conversation that is one-sided. Some of the others are really spot on too.

  • @starryskies6510
    @starryskies65102 ай бұрын

    When i say "Let's hangout" I just wanna see if I vibe with them or not. I feel you don't really get to know someone. Until you spend time with them in person

  • @thattrickydude

    @thattrickydude

    Ай бұрын

    But it does mean you want to get in their pants. Women just say it in a derogatory way, like he "just" wants to get in your pants, but you're actually looking for a relationship.

  • @ediblecactus5703
    @ediblecactus57032 ай бұрын

    I tell people that my girlfriend is either my partner or my girlfriend depending on the social situation l am currently in. Real relationships are supposed to be exclusive if you are actually looking for a real, healthy, and long lasting relationship with someone. You should make sure that your values are in line with eachothers by having honest and open communication with one another.

  • @HolyBaldWonder
    @HolyBaldWonder2 ай бұрын

    "It doesn't matter if he's rich or poor, so he may as well be rich."

  • @MoshJunkie426
    @MoshJunkie4262 ай бұрын

    Dont let these chronically online narcissists on tiktok project their own experiences to you and yours. You know if a man is good or bad after the first few dates its not hard to figure people out. After that point if you decide to carry on with a guy whos a pos thats on you

  • @Trifler500
    @Trifler5002 ай бұрын

    2:37 - As a man with a disability that has prevented me from having a career, I definitely have no problems with a woman making more money than I do. The only thing that would make me feel emasculated is if she rejected me for not earning enough, which seems to be a common attitude in women.

  • @davidchambers44
    @davidchambers442 ай бұрын

    Many of the problems in relationships could be solved with good communication. Even just being direct with what you want and regularly letting your partner know they're loved and appreciated goes a long way.

  • @Jotaro5181
    @Jotaro51812 ай бұрын

    I don't base my worth on an income. I really think women care about how charismatic a guy is and how he makes her feel.

  • @CourtneyRyan

    @CourtneyRyan

    2 ай бұрын

    This is good to hear! Thanks for sharing!

  • @treesoul00

    @treesoul00

    2 ай бұрын

    Definitely true.

  • @kc270352

    @kc270352

    2 ай бұрын

    but they still want a guy who is somewhat financially stable

  • @edwardbrito4010

    @edwardbrito4010

    2 ай бұрын

    Yeah as a friend only I understand beauty is men survival check box some is needed but more values can be added.

  • @supercal333

    @supercal333

    2 ай бұрын

    Charisma can help you make money and that's a big part in why women find it attractive. Ultimately women need a provider if they want to have children. It's biologically programmed over millions of years.

  • @jdhlstd
    @jdhlstd2 ай бұрын

    Your videos are the best I ever see on KZread. You are so well spoken and you clearly take the time needed to put together your message. It comes across so well articulated and easy to understand. Thank you for all the great advice! Keep it up!!

  • @TenseSituation
    @TenseSituation2 ай бұрын

    >Asked out a girl i thought was cute >she tells me I’m broke >accept the plain-face fact that I don’t earn enough to benefit her >been avoiding girls for 2 years now >doubled my income thru merit based raises and part-time work >40K to 80K, still have a long way to go Initially the goal was to prove this chick wrong, but along the way its become supporting a family i can be proud of

  • @anomalyraven
    @anomalyraven2 ай бұрын

    "Being in survivor mode", that one hit spot on. Been like that for the past 7 years for me, because I didn't know how things would work out for me after school, with job and a place to live. But luckily I landed a job pretty soon after school and I've been looking for a place of my own since then. Everything here is just so expensive, taking care of anyone but myself hasn't even been a consideration, so I haven't been dating at all. But I'm going to a viewing of an apartment soon, so I still got my hopes up. I just want to be my best version before I put myself out there.

  • @darrenskjoelsvold
    @darrenskjoelsvold2 ай бұрын

    1:20 I agree that it depends on what kind of a man he is when it comes to cheating. My ex-wife who ironically cheated on me would basically brag that I could be in a room surrounded by nude women who were all receptive and into me, and I wouldn't stray. She was right, though, seeing how our marriage ended, it seems really cruel of her, but I digress. Men are not all cheaters. Monogamy is on a scale, and some of us pin the needle. There are faithful men, and there are unfaithful men. However, I would say that while yes, this doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it's still a character fault, and you shouldn't tolerate it. Cheating is ingrained, but it's also a choice. Being with a cheater is always going to bring someone who is monogamous pain and you shouldn't tolerate it, no matter how much they love you.

  • @thirdtime
    @thirdtime2 ай бұрын

    “I don’t have a girlfriend, I just know a girl who would get really mad if she heard me say that.” ~Mitch Hedberg

  • @bluepunk182

    @bluepunk182

    2 ай бұрын

    Man, I got to see him live a year before he passed away. He was amazing....

  • @guybenson3528
    @guybenson35282 ай бұрын

    Re: Men being the bread winner. I know many men feel this way. Can't speak for other men, but it has never bothered me that my wife drew down a great paycheck alongside me (sometimes more than me). I was always like, "You go, Babe!" Re: Men showing emotion/being a robot. Again, l can't speak for other men, but not showing your emotions [in a safe way] is NOT healthy - emotionally, physically, or spiritually. Not saying men should be a sobbing mess. However, they should feel safe to express their emotions (yes, including crying) with their lady.

  • @chinothepony
    @chinothepony2 ай бұрын

    Contrary to how much people believe there is such a biological tie with a man and his penis, not all men are "wired" for the pursuit of sex. For me, I actually like to put off sex in search of a meaningful connection with a woman, because sex complicates things. Once you pass that gate, the relationship changes along with the expectations. Also, since it's mostly on the man to be functional to perform, comfort goes a long way, and waiting for the right time makes the act more pleasurable and powerful.

  • @Someone-ej6ro

    @Someone-ej6ro

    2 ай бұрын

    Exactly well said. I am the same preferred long, fulfilling moments that are worthwhile.

  • @Totsy30

    @Totsy30

    2 ай бұрын

    Big agree. Sex on a first date is like hitting the baseball and walking straight to third base. The team at bat(the brain in your pants) is ecstatic, but everyone else(your emotions) is just confused.

  • @chinothepony

    @chinothepony

    2 ай бұрын

    @@Totsy30 Wow, love this baseball reference! This isn't one I've heard before.

  • @donwoodward7944

    @donwoodward7944

    2 ай бұрын

    Sex is only good if your woman wants it as much (or more) than you do. I don't get the point otherwise. I want her to want me, full stop. I want to make her crazy. Hold off until it is really fun for both of you!

  • @JadeousTenerim
    @JadeousTenerim2 ай бұрын

    Love this video overall because you do a great job of trying to make sure there's room for nuance with a Tiktok video of someone who is super specific.

  • @littlezimty
    @littlezimty2 ай бұрын

    Never cheated, but when I did consider it was with someone who I wasn't getting the physical intimacy I needed and was having no success communicating with them about it. Eventually I had to tell them that I wanted it to be with them but if it wasn't them it would be with someone else.

  • @Michaelpalmer4k
    @Michaelpalmer4k2 ай бұрын

    One thing I'd like women to know if men aren't a utility to be exploited. And they aren't "less of a man" just cause they don't have a 100k yearly salary like I've heard my sister and other women I worked with say.

  • @benjaminboock5376
    @benjaminboock53762 ай бұрын

    My ex, who when I met was actually going through a never-ending divorce, would frequently give me a hard time because I didn't talk about marriage. This puzzled me, knowing this when it was brought up. After only a year, this began. This made her doubt my commitment to her when nothing else I did would have made her feel that way. If someone isn't ready, they aren't ready. This didn't mean I didn't love her and didn't see myself in her future. For me, I enjoy taking smaller steps whereas the world now makes us feel like we have to walk on everyone elses timeline. I know now it was actually her negative self-talk that made her feel this way. I do agree with talking about goals and dreams. Not only does it help you bond, but it just shows you care about their dreams and allows you ways to aid and support them in their venture, building your love. I think a lot of this is from inexperience and the will to want to relearn from the old ways. Make these mistakes and learn. Or fail and continue to fail. It's all up to you.

  • @cakedupkevin
    @cakedupkevin2 ай бұрын

    My biggest personal struggle has been my career/income. It definitely affects my self-esteem and my ability to date. Why would I date someone knowing that I cannot provide for them in the future? It's tough.

  • @Strive1324L

    @Strive1324L

    2 ай бұрын

    I've always been a hard worker, but not a big wage earner. I often feel that's why I've always been passed up, because of the Benjamin's 💵💶

  • @nightknightlegion1273

    @nightknightlegion1273

    2 ай бұрын

    There's a saying, most people quit before even starting. What ever is going on in your head and on social media is not reality.

  • @dh9224

    @dh9224

    17 күн бұрын

    I also think you can work on your income and how you spend money The goal isn't to be a millionaire but to be financially stable or comfortable You want to be able to buy a house one day etc College is one route but think about doing a trade Or maybe you do have a good job but youre not getting paid your worth... do research into what you're doing and change positions if you have to Move to a location that is better on your pocket or gets you a better job I spoke to my brother recently about why he doesn't use his certificate and he said he's afraid of failure I think that's a big thing to try to overcome so you don't regret not trying It only gets harder as you get older and more comfortable with where you work/live and don't want to "start all over again"

  • @JDoomhauer87
    @JDoomhauer872 ай бұрын

    #2 - we don’t want women who want to battle with us about what is good enough. Either trust us or kick rocks. Not all men are worthy of being trusted, it comes down to the individual; But atleast consider that we deserve a chance to be trusted. Women, Be a man’s peace and not his pain and see how much he can do for you!

  • @jeremiahmorris1852
    @jeremiahmorris18522 ай бұрын

    I was treated like a walking ATM by two women. I'm done with that

  • @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    2 ай бұрын

    I'm a woman who wishes we could negotiate new norms of dating. #1 Go Dutch. Each erso pays for themselves!!!! (Especially early on!!!)

  • @joelcampos8795
    @joelcampos87952 ай бұрын

    As a man the first one is BS lol if you really love someone you’re not gonna cheat on them.

  • @banthatracks_gaffisticks
    @banthatracks_gaffisticks2 ай бұрын

    Starting out in a relationship ease into conversations. After time it should be expected and understood.

  • @ponokunishima1
    @ponokunishima12 ай бұрын

    I admit that the one thing I lacked in my previous relationship was communication and my ex would always tell me, especially in the bedroom, that she wasn’t a mind reader. I just thought she would know what I wanted whenever I took off my pants and underwear and sat down on the bed. Great content, one to watch again for us men to know what we need to work on and improve for our next relationship or current relationship.

  • @vasilysidorenko8821
    @vasilysidorenko8821Ай бұрын

    I provided for my wife, she didn’t need to work but it would have been helpful to have a little bit coming in. She left saying it wasn’t enough. What really got to me was that in the end she said that I hadn’t done a single thing for her and that she could do it better and if that’s the case what the hell does she need me for. Needless to say, that was one of the most painful things to hear especially after pouring so much effort trying to provide.

  • @adamant5906
    @adamant59062 ай бұрын

    Can we talk about how unfair it is to shame a man for watching pornography or masturbating when he isn't allowed to have sex with a woman? Imagine being forbidden service at a restaurant and then being told you're a piece of garbage for trying to make your own food. So starve?

  • @strimlul1135

    @strimlul1135

    2 ай бұрын

    That's crazy, even if you're in a relationship it's understandable if the woman isn't in the mood or has other kinds of problem that makes her not want to have sex, but going further and prohibiting someone from watching porn is another level. I don't think a lot of women are even aware that there are guys out there whose balls start to hurt if they don't "alleviate" themselves from time to time.

  • @adamant5906

    @adamant5906

    2 ай бұрын

    @@strimlul1135 Here's what's indisputable: Women can get sex whenever they want. Therefore they don't appreciate the difficulty involved in securing a sexual encounter. But if a man cannot have sex because no woman wants to have sex with him, he's a pervert, he's unhealthy for relying on pornography. Oh yes. And he's "undisciplined". No woman has any right to talk about sexual discipline because even an ugly woman has an easier time getting laid than most average men.

  • @austinmcnair612
    @austinmcnair6122 ай бұрын

    The financial pressure on men is felt in one of two ways: 1) You are greatly appreciated by others you provide for and it motivates you to do your best. Superman. 2) You feel defeated, unappreciated, not good enough, a failure, behind compared to other guys, like there is something inherently wrong with your character. I think this is just one aspect of why men avoid relationships until they feel "ready," because the emotional weight of feeling not good enough sticks with your for days, weeks, or months at a time if you aren't checking your mindset. Focusing on myself has helped me improve my finances and overall wellbeing without being worried of someone leaving me. Just my two cents 🤷🏻‍♂

  • @selfdefenseacademy
    @selfdefenseacademy2 ай бұрын

    Men will only chase so much. If a man doesn't show intimacy, think about how much attention you are giving him instead of giving to you. It doesn't necessarily mean he is cheating. If you are using the dog "barking" analogy, maybe the dog is just tired of barking with no reaction on the dog owner's part.

  • @timhill1196
    @timhill11962 ай бұрын

    Saying hey we need to talk reminds me of my parents getting ready to ream me for sumn. Definitely triggers some anxiety. I think its mostly due to phrasing. Saying we need to talk is very different from coming right out and saying hey i was thinking… or hey what do you think about… so on and so forth

  • @hummerchine
    @hummerchine2 ай бұрын

    You are so wonderful Courtney! Love your channel!

  • @Jae_Garcia
    @Jae_Garcia2 ай бұрын

    Oh my God, out of all the people on TikTok and out of all the TikTok videos that you reacted to this one was beyond accurate. She is actually right spot on on everything. It’s really scary. It’s like she read my mind.

  • @Yosef_Maharat
    @Yosef_Maharat2 ай бұрын

    Courtney, I loved the picture of Biscuit falling asleep with its tongue sticking out. Funny s***.

  • @CourtneyRyan

    @CourtneyRyan

    2 ай бұрын

    LOL she’s rotten 😂

  • @lawrence31415
    @lawrence314152 ай бұрын

    Hey Courtney! Do you think you could make a video for people who are planning to re-enter the dating scene? I would like to hear your input and advice on this topic.

  • @nonplussed7181
    @nonplussed71812 ай бұрын

    1. Disagree - people cheat for all kinds of reasons. I don't think its ever permissible/justified, but I do think there's a reason why it happens and it's typically not "just because they can", but due to some issue in the relationship or something missing altogether. 2. Agree - there are loads of reasons why this is, but the biggest is societal expectations placed on us throughout our lives. Being a robo-ATM, as you said, is not a desirable station to hold and that expectation causes many men to turn and walk away from pursuing women altogether. I'd say to those who want to do something about this - examine your own expectations and requests you place on the men in your lives currently and in your past. Is it fair for them to perfectly meet them, as flawed, fragile human beings like any others? If no, try to modify your thinking and how you act towards them. You can rest assured that men do want to take care of the people in their life - so try to begin with gratitude instead of ceaseless expectations. 3. Depends - I don't think I would describe a woman I was interested in as a friend to others, but like you said, I might if she seemed avoidant or like she could spook easy by describing her as "my girl". I'd have a conversation with her first about exclusivity before calling her that to my friends, but I probably wouldn't call her a friend either. I'd just introduce her as her name (ex: this is Isa, meet ___). If he does introduce you as a friend after talking exclusivity - yikes. I'd recommend moving on. 4. Disagree - She's flat out wrong. I've said that to women with the exclusive purpose of not spooking them. I've met quite a few avoidant women in the past couple of years and I've learned you have to be really careful about sending a message of commitment too soon. There's no way to know exactly what sends this message to each individual woman, so it's better to play it safe. Some guys may very well only want to sleep with you - but that should be clear in a myriad of ways. Saying you want to take it slow and get to know someone is perfectly fine, and at least in my case, I meant exactly what I said. Side note: I've found pursuing avoidant women to be totally not worth it. Not even interested anymore. Get your stuff together, please. 5. Agree - no one wants to be talked to like this. It's parental, foreboding and comes off as an ultimatum. Just change the wording - "Hey, can we talk?" Pick the moment strategically. Don't ask this before he's going out to hang out with his friends or in the middle of the work day. Pick a time when you both have a little bit of bandwidth for the conversation. Both men and women should do it this way. 6. Disagree - Good God. What's up with all the cheating assumptions here? It certainly could be that way, but it's not a hard and fast rule. If it's a concern in your mind, communicate. If you aren't being intimate, why? Are you pursuing intimacy? If not, why? Because It is extremely important to most men to have it in a relationship. I think you nailed the remaining four so no need to add anything. Also this video and my response took a lot longer than I expected lol so I'm ready to stop here. It sounds like this girl dates fuckboys and then makes general assumptions about all men on tiktok to vent. Yawn. You are the common denominator in every situation you find yourself in. Look for men elsewhere, improve your own life and view of yourself and things will change. Stay the same and things almost assuredly won't.

  • @chrismoore9997
    @chrismoore99972 ай бұрын

    "We need to talk" is code for, I am about to tell you something that is really going to make you mad, like she already cheated on you or she wants to break up with you. Never start a conversation with that phrase unless you want it to go badly.

  • @DarkDodgers
    @DarkDodgers2 ай бұрын

    Most of my friends if they have a girl they're interested in (myself included,): My boys already know. They've also been made aware that I would greatly prefer if they didn't try to make any moves on this person. Anyone who violates this law isn't a homie, but they're also not in my circle anymore.

  • @TheLordNikon
    @TheLordNikon2 ай бұрын

    1. When they cheat its not because they don't love you / depends on the man. 1a. Usually the men with issues from the past or "bad boys". A good man only has eyes for one. 2. Men put emphasis on their self worth based on how much they make or can provide. 2a. Usually men in higher paying roles or those with more traditional values. Some modern men will go 50/50 or take turns. 3. If a man actually likes you and sees something with you they won't introduce you to their friends as a friend. 3a. I will have told my friends about "her" before they even meet her to avoid this awkward label situation. 4. I want to hang out with you and get to know you to see where this goes. 4a. Some men might mean "get in pants" others speak plainly and really just want to spend more time with a girl to get a better understanding of how they feel about them. 5. the "We need to talk" statement 5a. I can agree that phrase instantly sets me into "what did I do?" mode or a slight panic of "about what?" the phrase comes of as serious and not easy going. 6. If he's not asking for it, he's getting it somewhere else. 6a. Or.... hear me out, he's (like a gentleman) patiently waiting for you to bring it up or waiting for a strong signal from you. 7. They will only treat you as good as you treat yourself. 7a. Men are logical, if you don't give them instructions clearly they will make assumptions or ask questions, be patient with men. A good man will try to help you make improvements. 8. Feels like standards are too high, will move on. 8a. not exactly, more ambitious men will shoot for the stars. Sometimes really high standards drive men away because men don't want a challenge from women, they don't want difficult women. 9. If hes not asking you about long term goals or future plans he's not into you. 9a. depends on the length of the relationship, short term... he's note sure YET, long term. Perhaps he's become comfortable with you and just is not thinking about it. Other/Bad outcome, in this case, yes he's probably distracted by something or someone. 10. Men are not mind readers, hints fly over our heads. 10a. Correct. just tell us what you are thinking/feeling. We are great listeners! We can follow instructions if they are provided!

  • @snapcracklepop360
    @snapcracklepop3602 ай бұрын

    I think that point about not bringing up the future to your girl is fairly spot on but I do think there are a lot of guys that don’t know what they want for their own future and live very day-to-day. My ex brought up the future often and I was hesitant to provide a real answer because I hand no clue what I really wanted for myself but also because subconsciously I wasn’t sure if we were going to be with each other forever. I loved her a lot but there was just something that felt off that I couldn’t explain. I was afraid to be honest because I thought she would leave me but that ended up happening anyway. So, it was a mix of insecurity and being unsure of our long term relationship. Girls should make their guy think about that kind of thing and if he never provides you with an answer then you need to express your displeasure, give them a little bit of time, and then move on if they still don’t give you any real feedback.

  • @solidhalon
    @solidhalon2 ай бұрын

    @3:55 Thank you! Yes, it is. Being reduced to money printing machines I like to call it.

  • @vonq9831
    @vonq98312 ай бұрын

    Good Video , Mrs. Ryan.... Stay True..

  • @brianburris
    @brianburris2 ай бұрын

    Idc who makes more money, we are a team , we are doing it together.

  • @cRIPp1e_J
    @cRIPp1e_J2 ай бұрын

    the "I want to get to know you and see where things go" does typically originate from sexual interest, however this inevitably leads to them liking you more as a person at the same time. it usually starts with sexual intent at first, blossoming into something more serious if the chemistry is there.

  • @snOags
    @snOags2 ай бұрын

    3:04 yes... unfortunately so. I feel so much pressure to have everything solved. I will sit there an listen trying not to solve it but i still get this pressure from her. I can feel accused of not doing enough to show i care when i dont offer to solve it.

  • @cbeardad
    @cbeardad2 ай бұрын

    I’m a very young 70 year old returning to dating. What “rules” also apply to seniors when it comes to women’s tests, games, and friend zones? I’m just a traditional gentleman looking for that one special lady for a long term relationship. I don’t play hard to get and have never been a player. I like to think that boy meets girl is just that. Is dating really that different today? Thank you.

  • @raulgarza2517
    @raulgarza25172 ай бұрын

    On her first point, she has is a bit clueless regarding her saying that it has nothing to do with the woman. That is false. She is basically saying that even if a woman is a terrible partner and offers no emotional support, that it's not her fault. I take issue with this. Cheating is NEVER the answer to any relationship problems, but this double standard of how when a woman cheats, it's the man's fault for not being there for her, which is a huge problem.

  • @kloassie
    @kloassie2 ай бұрын

    In my opinion these things are probably true for the guys *_she_* chooses to hang out with. But definitely not for 'men' in general. And #10 is the exception that confirms this comment

  • @retro_crasher
    @retro_crasher2 ай бұрын

    One thing to know, is that things in this world are not absolute. Great tip Courtney! Yea, things are definitely not mutually exclusive, things are often corelated, but does not mean causation. But I guess things don't mean that these patterns are meaningless. Be careful when going down the road of investigating more, but I think alot of times people are treating boy vs girl dating as if its the other side's fault, when its often both; both being bad because of assumptions that the other side is worse.

  • @terrancegallemore6864
    @terrancegallemore68642 ай бұрын

    She is right we need to talk it depends on how it’s said. It could be something good, something bad , something we did or said. His mind is going to be racing and he curious to what we need to talk about.

  • @davidduff9871
    @davidduff98712 ай бұрын

    Guys are team builders. They like sports and being part of groups that challenges the environment or wins a contest. When the choose a GF, they are building a very personal team and they take pride in the success of the team. For them to cheat is for them to say my team is broken, messed up. They are admitting defeat. It’s a big personal loss they really want to avoid. At all costs.

  • @elektrovert
    @elektrovert2 ай бұрын

    I think a lot of men and women go into defense mode when they hear "We need to talk".

  • @user-rd6px7cj4d

    @user-rd6px7cj4d

    2 ай бұрын

    I just say "Dam right we do"

  • @DmGray
    @DmGray2 ай бұрын

    The problem with women "paying their own way" is that they make it an issue. I'm willing to pay on dates, bc I do the asking. I've never experienced the opposite, exception POSSIBLY a pseudo date at an all inclusive resort, where I was asked to meet her, and had a thoroughly amazing time. I've MOSTLY experienced women getting kinda offended by it. Like I'm paying bc I expect something, and they have to demonstrate they don't need me by telling me off and paying half. I do see women who exploit men for stuff though (it's just never happened to me. Likely bc I'm "poor"... I'm not, I just don't spend money bc I grew up poor) Basically, the issue is that women emasculate men. That's it. We're ALSO well aware that (by and large) a woman's money is hers, whereas the expectation is that OUR money will be shared. I know most relationships operate more healthily than this... but I ALSO know that women are responsibly for a HUGE majority of consumer spending.

  • @darrenskjoelsvold
    @darrenskjoelsvold2 ай бұрын

    19:58 or he knows that no plan survives first contact and your goals as an individual changes when you get into a relationship. People change over time and their goals change over time but their core values don't change so if he's asking about your core values I wouldn't worry about this too much.

  • @MH15501
    @MH155012 ай бұрын

    I definitely do not feel intimidated by women who earn more/are higher educated. But I do tend to avoid them since many of them seem to look down on me for the reasons stated above. Or they won't even notice/consider you. It's just unpleasent to be around most of these women.

  • @ryanmills892
    @ryanmills8922 ай бұрын

    this expectation of men being high-earners and always having money has hurt my own self-value as of late, I lost two jobs to redundancy in the past twelve months (one being my job for eight years and the other being bad luck as I'd been hired two months before the business closed down) and with that expectation makes me feel worthless.

  • @rsethc
    @rsethc12 күн бұрын

    The "we need to talk" thing isn't scary because of whatever the subject matter might be, it's scary because it tells me the other person is now entering "soap opera" mode. As you said, a normal person would just talk about whatever the thing actually is.

  • @Adam_Le-Roi_Davis.
    @Adam_Le-Roi_Davis.2 ай бұрын

    The thing about men wanting to provide and if they can't they feel emasculated, the reason why men might feel this way is the expectation that his partner places on him, men know that they are expected to provide we're told this every day of our lives by women, as many women seem to be mainly motivated by the man's ability to make money or to have money. What men really want is to be valued as more than just a ATM, perhaps even to be loved for his other qualities, but this is rare in today's world, sadly. A man will only feel emasculated if he's made to feel that way by his partner, by having his inability to make more money thrown in his face, which seems to be commonplace, once upon a time women used to get with a man and build with him, the man would happily give as much financial support as he could and naturally look for ways to increase that, many women these days just seem to want to wait at the finish line. I'm 64 so, I've seen this change happen, it's a sad situation.

  • @javy-81
    @javy-812 ай бұрын

    "We need to talk" that goes both ways

  • @smferreiro2610
    @smferreiro26102 ай бұрын

    When we are not sure we just introduce her as "Isa" and let our friends assume what they want. We can always have a chat later.

  • @epsteinsnecktie8690
    @epsteinsnecktie86902 ай бұрын

    I personally don't care about a man providing for me as long as he can provide for himself. If we're not dating dont introduce me as your girlfriend! To me that's not respecting my boundaries. I'd love to see more videos like this.

  • @j.m.9047
    @j.m.90472 ай бұрын

    @CourtneyRyan Since you requested our perspective about pressure to be the financial provider/breadwinner, I can definitely say that yes, there is a significant societal pressure for men to be able to be the breadwinner today despite so many societal changes in gender roles, etc. Which rubs me the wrong way when that woman says that “Men put a lot of pressure and value on how much money they make and how much they can provide for you.” While yes, men play a part in that, she makes it sound as though it is PURELY men when it is society as a whole, including women. I’m not saying all women, but generally speaking, women do put that pressure on as well, whether it’s through pursuing men who are on their financial level or above it and ignoring the men below them socio-economically speaking, or there being plenty of instances of them emasculating their partner for not providing as much in the relationship, it needs to be said that women also play a part in this issue as well. Not all women, by any means, but in general.

  • @Snake369
    @Snake3692 ай бұрын

    I think you're pretty spot on for a lot of things. However, I'd say she's totally right about approaching heavy discussion with "we need to talk" as that phrase is hugely ominous and often "im breaking up with you" kind of language. Wanting to discuss difficult topics itself is not bad, but yeah starting the conversation off like that is threatening.

  • @darrenskjoelsvold
    @darrenskjoelsvold2 ай бұрын

    6:23 she's wrong. She's just wrong. Men are not a monolith and everyone is different. If I say I just want to see where things go, it's because I am on the fence and not entirely sure about her.

  • @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    @user-cz5lj2vx1f

    2 ай бұрын

    Or mayube, you just DON'T KNOW HER WELL ENOUGH to know if she's someone you culd be with seriously. That's REASONABLE!!! For men & women

  • @Whisperskyhawke
    @Whisperskyhawke2 ай бұрын

    8:53 There is something to be said to phrasing but sprinkling it in leads to much passive aggressive style and to many hints that are most likely going to be missed.

  • @CookieMonster-we1in
    @CookieMonster-we1in2 ай бұрын

    Side note that chick put pounds of make up and thinks its just a casual day? Women who wear that much makeup are incredibly insecure.

  • @baccable
    @baccable2 ай бұрын

    Direct conversation is better for most men. Hiding it in the conversation is not a good idea. Choice of words do matter. History also matters. If you regularly start a conversation directly and it typically turns out to be an attack, jumping to defensive state is expected.

  • @johnvale295
    @johnvale2952 ай бұрын

    She: "We need to talk." He: "Run away. Run away."

  • @robtraughber1628
    @robtraughber16282 ай бұрын

    Here is something that happened to me recently. I'd like to know your opinion. I'm having my birthday party with a group of friends. A woman new to our group of friends has invited herself to my party. 2 months prior to the party. The day before the party she lets it be known to my best guy friend she is dating a guy 20 yrs her senior! My friend calls me and says she is planning to bring this person to my party as her date!!! He tells her don't do that! She should talk to me first. The lady and I are in our 50's we are not teens! I had been on 3, five hour long dates with her and thought she was into me alone. I found this very immature and strange of her. Am I wrong?

  • @Someone-ej6ro
    @Someone-ej6ro2 ай бұрын

    If we are not BF/GF yet, then I just introduce them by their name with no labels attached. I would not introduce girls as friends either just because I do not play the friend zone crap.

  • @ishqedastaan8452
    @ishqedastaan84522 ай бұрын

    Country, Is mutual attraction between men and women is very rare??? I mean "A man is attracted to a woman and woman is also attracted to man"- is it very rare???

  • @guybenson3528
    @guybenson35282 ай бұрын

    Courtney you are spot on re: cheating. Cheating is NEVER justified. If you're not going to be monogamous then don't bother having a true relationship, let alone get married. I've known my wife for 39 years, been married for 38. No other woman exists for me. My lady is awesome.

  • @BALHAM69
    @BALHAM692 ай бұрын

    Happy Wednesday Courtney.❤ Today i brought some jewellery; trying to buy some stylish pieces.😅

  • @CourtneyRyan

    @CourtneyRyan

    2 ай бұрын

    What did you get? 👏🏼

  • @BALHAM69

    @BALHAM69

    2 ай бұрын

    @@CourtneyRyana stainless steel necklace

  • @dylancooper3690
    @dylancooper36902 ай бұрын

    I've never had a girlfriend let alone a situation where a second woman would be simultaneously romantically interested in me.

  • @Firesword534
    @Firesword5342 ай бұрын

    So a TikToker who spends however long going through that huge make-up routine for a, "casual" look for, "ladies night," is supposed to be able to decode men to her fellow women? Yeah, that's kind of hard to swallow. The TikToker had a few decent points, like men aren't mind readers, but the whole vibe while presenting those points felt very "look at me, look at me, look at me." I much rather prefer Courtney's way of presenting and thinking about things. Trying to explore more and add in the fact that there's rarely black and white. Also that not every man is the same and so one general statement won't apply to every single man.

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