"she's cool with you being moist man, just keep moving forward" 😂 Johnathan you are killing me

@MendedLight

Жыл бұрын

I'm... not normal.

@Overseer2579

Жыл бұрын

@@MendedLight no you are not 😂. As a CT fan I can attest to that

@voyance4elle

Жыл бұрын

@@MendedLight And that's a good thing :D

@callmeraquel

Жыл бұрын

Lmfaooooooo

lmao the "kiss his sweet little mouth" is really the best advice I'd like to give a teenager when they struggle to believe in their feelings, that wording had me dying

the girl I had a crush on at the time and I were talking about life and she was having a difficult day and she thanked me for always being there to talk. I responded "Of course! You know I love you right? I'd do anything for you." It took her 2 months to get back to me then we were together for 4 years. We unfortunately grew apart but I'll still remember our cringy happy moments.

@35yoglenmckenna31

Жыл бұрын

Wow that’s amazing

@Overseer2579

Жыл бұрын

That’s so sweet! That reminds me of a time back in 2021 where I was texting this woman I’d known since high school (she lives in FL, I live in Savannah) and she said to me “I really appreciate your kind heart towards me”. I took a deep breath and was just honest and said “Of course! I like you a lot, and I appreciate your kind heart towards me”, and she sent back three smiling emojis with hearts all over them. Think that sent a clear message lol 😂❤😊. It didn’t work out in the long run, but that was a really sweet and euphoric moment for me, and proved to me that it was possible for me to admit my feelings to someone and for them to like me back.

“I actually have a ton of faith in humanity. I don’t have faith in humanity found online.” Love that. 👏

I high-key wish I could book you as a therapist or relationship counselor; cuz you have that balance of empathy and telling it like it is.

Jono trying to understand Gen Z is such a vibe 😂😂

@MendedLight

Жыл бұрын

I'm trying so hard too!

@Xehanort10

Жыл бұрын

@@MendedLight I'm 30 and some new slang I hear makes me feel like an old man.

She was my best friend and one day I was just thinking... we like to spend time together, we like to do all sorts of different activities and try new things with each other. One day it just kinda dawned on me that I actually like her and I just sent her a text (I know, how romantic) it said something like this "Hey! I really like you and I enjoy spending time with you. What would you think about having a relationship with me?" I wanted to do it by text because I thought it'd be more casual so that we could later have an honest, sincere conversation about how we would both feel about making this commitment to each other. She's been my girlfriend for 15 months now.

@Overseer2579

Жыл бұрын

Nice ❤

I had the same thoughts on that last guy asking to hang out as usual. In college, I had a crush on a guy who was dating someone else. He often asked people to go out to eat after social events because he's just that type of person who likes eating with company. One night, it would have been just the two of us if I'd accepted his invitation, so I gave him some lame excuse because I'm not about to put myself in the situation of being alone with my crush and betraying my friend. I found out later they had broken up 3 weeks before that night he invited me to dinner and it was supposed to have been a date! 15 years later and my husband still teases me about that time I lied to him to get out of a date.

@miriamrobarts

Жыл бұрын

I think it was smart of you to say no, and very respectful of the relationship. I would have done the same thing. (Although, it is best not to lie, so maybe you could have just said, "No, I can't this time.") When he tries to tease you about it, just tell him: if he had said it was a date, you would have said yes! It's great you ended up together.

@banglittlechan

Жыл бұрын

​@@miriamrobarts I think she meant that they ended up getting married, but idk 🙊

@miriamrobarts

Жыл бұрын

@@banglittlechan Yes, she calls him her husband. That's why I said, "It's great you ended up together." She said, "15 years later and my husband still teases me about that time I lied to him to get out of a date." So I was saying she should tease him back about not making it clear it was a date.

@banglittlechan

Жыл бұрын

@@miriamrobarts Oh i get it now, sorry 😅

@DecemberSfy

Жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh, this is so wholesome!

Watching this made me sooo glad I'm not a teenager anymore! 😂 I do miss being in my prime physically. Not in a "I wish I still had the body I did at 18 cause I was so hot" kind of way. Just to be as healthy and strong and full of energy as I was back then. But aside from that, a lot of the time being a kid is awkward, uncomfortable, weird, frustrating, confusing, stessful, etc.(especially the middle school thru high school years). And the whole girls/boys, dating, "does he like me or not?" phase is pure torture. The boys I liked never seemed to like me and the boys who did like me were always the ones I wasn't interested in at all. The dynamic was even more complicated by the fact that I grew up in a small town so I'd known pretty much my entire dating pool since kindergarten (along with all their relatives and their family history going back 3 generations).

Guys with no game are the best.. know why? Cuz they ain't playin' games!!!! Seriously.

@MendedLight

Жыл бұрын

I like that!

@zoemearis3523

Жыл бұрын

@@MendedLight I should’ve taken that into account!!

This video makes me so glad I’m not 17 anymore 🤧

Once I was really heartbroken over a guy, but then I realised that I was actually extremely aromantic and asexual and that it had never been a romantic crush. Didn't make it less hurtful though. He just never valued our friendship as much as I did and I wished for more commitment and appreciation from his side, which is where the heartbreak came from... So I had a really painful platonic heartbreak. It was devastating. Also, he turned out to be an idiot who just pretended to like the things I liked to make me like him. And then he just randomly disappeared and never gave back my favourite books he had borrowed from me, so I'm still mad, but well anyway.... thanks for reading my unnecessary story ✌🏻😉

@preguicadetu

Жыл бұрын

"never gave back my favourite books he had borrowed from me" damn, he committed one of the worst crimes in the world

@merle309

Жыл бұрын

@@preguicadetu yes, right??? It happened 2 years ago and I don't care about him anymore. But I'm still mad because of the books!

@18Hongo

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you need to recruit some quirky but highly competent friends for a comedic heist. Gotta get those books back.

@rebeccateh826

Жыл бұрын

Defo add me in for the heist🤔

@merle309

Жыл бұрын

@@18Hongo I'd love a heist comedy to get my books back... but I'd first have to gather a team of internet stalkers to find out where the fuck he is. He just vanished without a trace and rumours say he is in prison, or gone into hiding abroad, or whatever...

My first boyfriend was clearly oblivious to all my flirting, so I straight up told him when I caught him alone one day. He said I am clearly in the friendzone, and I licked my wounds and moved on. Six months later, he changed his mind and we got together. It was awkward for like a week in between, so I say, go for it!

I so often find myself feeling more scared about what I'd have to lose with a crush than excited about all the magic I might stand to gain.

@daisukesdisappointedpayche3845

10 ай бұрын

Thiss!!! Maybe it's just my commitment issues, but my body just immediately rejects relationships that remotely have a potential of turning into romantic ones. It feels like my fight or flight gets activated, and i sometimes wonder how it would've been if i was actually able to live those cute couple moments or something. It's like a part of me craves that sort of intimacy and being so close to someone and loving them so much you're practically soulmates; but i can just never get to it

Wrong about guys with no game. There’s been a lot of creeps that have game. My boyfriend doesn’t have too much game but his heart is ever expanding it blows my mind. I know it’s real because we worked in the same grocery store for a time and I’d sometimes see him interacting with others without him knowing I was even there. Hearts of gold can definitely win a woman, with little to no game. Just put effort in my brothers and a loyal sweet woman will be yours❤️

I think a lot of us are afraid of just coming out and saying it because once the truth is out, we'll get our answer. We're obviously afraid to get a no because of what we fear it says about us, but I think we're also afraid of the aftermath of a no. While the answer is tbd, our crush is a source of excitement and motivation and good feelings. After a no, we're naturally going to be a little depressed just because the source of that high isn't there anymore. Heck, even a yes just extends that period of excitement by a year or two. What we don't really learn how to manage is the part where we have to come down.

Riding his skateboard is the equivalent of borrowing his sweatshirt or something. Pretty kewt 🥰

I think I was in 8th grade, and I had a big crush on a boy the same age. He was pretty dang smart (it was a private school and academic excellence was important), played multiple sports, but most important to me is that he had fiery red hair that I envied. One day I found a note from him in my locker (I don't think cell phones were yet common in junior high in 1985) and I went into a tizzy because (gasp!) he liked me! I talked to a select few friends about how I felt about it, asked their opinions, etc. It took several days before I realized that it was a big joke and most of my peers were in on it, but I never really stopped crushing on him. At ou 10-year reunion, I saw that he really hasn't changed a lot; looks great, fiery red hair that I wish I had, important job, a trophy wife that he's not too thoughtful of, so I'm glad it never went beyond a teen crush and a disappointing joke.

@Overseer2579

Жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that. But good thing you were able to move on. Hopefully you found someone who was actually worth your time, and who was respectful to you

I was unable to ask girl out for most of my life and mostly I still am (I think it's part of social phobia) but lately I managed it using philosophy that it's better to be rejected straight away than thinking about what could have happened for next few years like I usually do :-D

This is adorable and sweet. But it's a funny feeling, bc I was in a toxic "relationship" for years since I was 18 and it's just all very recent (cause we stopped talking to each other only this year) and now I'm 26 and feeling exactly like those teenagers... But I guess I always did, I've always been very dreamy or whatever, yet, their feelings are so relatable to me right now... Def a funny feeling about it. Btw I'm getting better and trying to stay out of relationships for now. Maybe for some time. I need time to love myself a bit now.

@nothingnowhere2358

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that :( But yesss, please do give yourself time to heal and grieve. It's perfectly natural to feel that loss. I know you said that you're getting better and that makes me incredibly happy! You'll experience dips of course but despite how it might in those moments, you'll probably become stronger for it ♥

@Cla_Winchester

Жыл бұрын

@@nothingnowhere2358 Thank you so much! It's definitely a process, but I was already in therapy for some time when we broke up and I still am. It really helped me so much. Yes, I'm healing, and I know it's not gonna be easy, but I'm much better now and I know that. Thank you again for such kind words ❤

Jonathan correcting his state for faith in humanity is the sweetest thing. I was just thinking "Aw no, how sad", but good thing it's there.

Had a really good friends that I worked with after college. We've been friends since high school and have grown closer since working together. One day it just clicked and I saw him in a whole new light. I had a huge crush on him and we started texting basically everyday and hang out outside of work more often. That was about 10 years ago... We celebrate our 6th wedding anniversary this year. Comment sections are not long enough for the funny details😂

Guys with no game are… often stalkers and predators. 😅 duly noted

@noctilucera7585

Жыл бұрын

not true though I mean, sometimes but also it's the ones who aren't players and having 4 other girls

Oh My God you were born in 1981?? My boyfriend was born in the same year. I keep showing him your videos like "look at this responsible grown up" and apparently we are on your age scale😰🤣🤦‍♀️

@MendedLight

Жыл бұрын

If I can do it, he can do it, lol

@ayagodes5618

Жыл бұрын

@@MendedLight xD Well, at least you believe in him

I just paused the video and ran out to my partner who was on the toilet, and told him the spotify pickup line! Took him a couple of seconds to understand and then he laughed very "disappointingly" at me haha! Success! Being from the 90'ies growing up on the internet in the 2000's i also picked up a lot of slang words, but, i do not write like that any more, at all... It feels very teenage haha :P

I love and hate how much this hits with where I am right now

@crazyunitatoe9363

Жыл бұрын

Jup. Same

Ohhhhh man is this one going to be good. Me being in college these kinds of things happen all around me. It can be quite discouraging and just plain depressing for those that don't experience these kinds of things all the time (I'm one of them)

This is reminding me of how silly and open I was about crushes usually when I was a kid. I often wasn't trying to open but I'm terrible at hiding those feelings XD It usually worked out in my favour. I've been with my current partner for almost 6 years and we got together when I was nearing the end of highschool and I think we got together because I couldn't stop staring at him and asking about songs and for hugs. I was open about what's up with me mentally and he was okay with it and apparently he had a less than great past with relationships so I think he just liked that I was nice but looked kinda punk. I still have a lowkey crush on my best friend of 17 years. He knew I liked him when we were kids and hung out everyday and he apparently liked me too but he didn't tell me until last year. The child in me was so upset hahaha. He's also currently in a good relationship and I'm very happy for him but again the child in me is almost jealous XD

@notmydidea

Жыл бұрын

aww "asking about songs and for hugs" you're sympathic :)

Love your content!

It was really hard for me to tell my fiancè that I had feelings for him back in the day because I was already in a relationship with someone else. My ex was neglectful and distant and I told him about my feelings as well, and he broke up with me. So it worked out in the end, but it wasn't easy.

Nice and wholesome vid, thanks :))

I was born in 94' and I have a difficult time understanding text language too. I generally only text actual words.

This is so cute... And all of a sudden I feel sooo old 😅

hey Jonathan! Ive been a huge fan of this channel and Cinema therapy for a long time. Thank you for doing all that you do. I wanted to recommend (if you want of course) to react to some clips from the show ‘Shameless’. The characters of Fiona, Lip and Ian Gallagher each have complex trauma and deal with different mental health struggles in quite dysfunctional ways. I’ve been looking everywhere for someone to talk about these characters with a psychological perspective for forever but no one has. Just putting this out there if it would be something you’re interested in. peace & love, Beck

Lmao I hit up this girl. And she was super excited to hear from me. Until, I overshared. Turns out she just wanted to hook up... Story of my life. 😅😅😅😅

first! love your videos ❤️

Jono, asking the real questions up front, "How old are you?" That's what I appreciates about you, Jono. 0:59

I told my crush I like her not too long ago - She rejected it, saying she doesn't want a relationship right now, which was such a relief, because I don't want one either, I just had to tell her what I feel. We still talk and although we don't hang out as much, with sleepovers and stuff, like we did before, that might change, since she's seriously really busy. The whole thing doesn't stop me from fanboying though, she's like-- so cute??? Like omg ;-;

Letting someone ride your skateboard is like letting them drive your car or wear your shoes, its a trust thing especially if its your only one

2:45 You call that "no game"?

I like your approach very much. Because I'm quite fast knowing if my feelings are there or not there (empath perks) and I..... unfortunately also tend to know when feelings are there towards me (empath curse) that I cannot reciprocate. And it absolutely sucks to go ahead and clarify if I'm sensing that correctly and to let them know where I'm at. Because I can't wait till they're ready as that can take very long and all the while I'm in that terrible place of wondering if there's anything I can do to soften the fall. Because as you said, I can often sense ahead to what degree it'll trigger insecurities and self-deprecation. I want to tell them that's not how it works and want to ask them not to hurt themselves over something beyond our control. But that's also not how it works. :'3 I've lost friendships. And by now I've learned that too many men (statistically speaking) appear to struggle with interpreting kindness as anything BUT "romantic/sexual interest". So at the very least if I'm going to lose friends I'd like to clarify that as soon as possible, before either of us is too invested emotionally. I prefer considerate and honest communication. If we can't work through it, it won't get any better by not communicating.

Johnathan saying "kiss his sweet little mouth" this guy is such a shipper and I'm here for it!

It takes a little bit for me to feel it a situation and decide if I'm into a guy but then when it starts getting flirty, I'll be open and say I'm into him. And it has yet to go in my favor. What I end up with is guys who let me down nicely and say they want to be friends but can't date me for this or that reason but then get mad at me when I move on.

1:51 This made me mad in a “I don’t care because that’s how all teens are but it pisses me off how dumb that logic is and had it happened to me I’d definitely be pissed” kinda way.

I love terrible puns and dad jokes 😂

I had crushes as a teenager but I was too shy to ask any of the girls I liked out. That's on me ha ha.

I know this isn't quite what you're asking about, but I remember going out with some female shipmates back when I was in the Navy. We were hanging out on some holiday (New Years, St. Pat's, I don't remember which holiday anymore), and we noticed this guy who was by himself at the bar. He was cute, and my shipmates wanted to ask him to come over, but felt shy and awkward about it. I asked, "You wanna ask him over?" They said yes. So I stood up and started walking over to ask him. As I went, I heard one of them say about me in astonishment, "Fearless." I asked if the guy was interested in some company and wanted to join us. He wasn't interested, so I just told him, "Cool, have a happy St. Patrick's Day," and turned to shrug to my friends as I walked back to join them. No dice with the guy, but I did get to hear my shipmate call me "Fearless" which made me feel like I was strutting around in spurs for the rest of the night. 😉

14:30 It was 2020, the year of rubbishness. It was on the direct(?) messages on instagram. So kind of like a text on principle 🤷🏻‍♀️ I told him inamessagelikethis. We're friends, but I still told him cos I felt like I backed myself into a corner. Looking back, no I didn't. 4:04 kinda made me feel sad. Didn't work out 😔 11:19 also made me feel sad 😅 Story of 2020 was "I'm not good enough." This was another thing that equalled "I'm not good enough." As I said, the year of rubbishness 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think the hardest thing is that he's such an all round decent guy.

Idk why this is so funny to me

I don't hate on these kids for the way they talk, but I do find it difficult to pay attention. Even as a teenager myself, I found a lot of "adolescent jargon" somewhat annoying. I remember being in an online chat with a friend and someone said send me Picts! I said are you sure you want to go to war with Medieval tribes - they can be brave and brutal warriors? I got a confused, wth? and then silence. Perhaps I was too quick on that at the time.

I have a question. When you said in 8:32 that he wasn’t setting boundaries, what would have been a right approach? I’m a girl and I’ve wondered about what a good course of action would be to take if I start dating someone and I still text my online guy friends

am i the only one who really liked that dad joke with Spotify?

I had a crush on my now husband for 11 years. I finally confessed how I felt in 2019. He kissed me in 2020, and we started dating. We got married in 2021. I'm so glad I finally told him how I felt even if he did give me crap about it for 2 weeks afterward 😅

It’s better to know earlier that someone doesn’t like you back I think. It seems like teens to let their feelings fester until the crush is such a big deal before knowing how the other person feels.

Also I need Johnathan's skin routine. How dare you be born two years before me and look so much younger?

10:30 I CACKLEDDD

To those who get confessed to, give a clear yes or no! Any gray area will not end well 💀

His face at 1:54 was the exact same face I made

So me and my crush are 26. We have been good friends since we were 12. Ironically we became friends because he had a crush on me. I handwrote a letter to him recently. I was not going to send it it was mainly just for myself to know my true thoughts. I dont know his address so one day when i was feeling bold i took a picture of it and sent it through messenger. I was so nervous. He let me down easy and said that it wont affect our friendship ( said I was worried about that in the letter). So far that has been true. I am a bit worried though because I cant seem to get over him. I love him too much. I know he cares about me but I think he sees me as more of a sister. Idk. I think I am still hoping one day it will happen. Ive almost given up hope. My family bugs me about being unmarried saying "anyone who is 24 (and over) who is unmarried is a nuisance to society" part of the issue is i cant find anyone with my values who wants to date me. Anyway Sorry for the rant at the end.

@olukoya44

Жыл бұрын

i'm sorry but your family sucks if they would say that to you! Take your time, there's no rush. I know people that didn't find love until their 40s or 50s.

TikToks are pretty short, though. If she spent an hour on a 15-second video, proportionally, I'd agree, that's a pretty long time.

I want Therapist Reacts Raw to God of War Kratos and Arteus.

Watching this while eating some bomb ass cheese is releasing some major endorphins right now (it's mainly the cheese)

I confessed to the guy from work after like 6 months of us connecting. We've talked about the stuff I never told anyone and before the confession I have imagined everything from "yes, I like you too" to "it's not mutual" or smth like that, but I didn't think that he would actually say that he isn't looking for a relationship. And in the next second he said that he 100% open to staying friends. That hurt and made me think that I am not good enough, not beautiful enough and all that. I am learning to interact with him as a friend and it's hard, but I am trying to enjoy the connection while I can

@HouseMDaddict

Жыл бұрын

Did he open up to you as well or was it just you opening up? Sometimes guys are weird about "not wanting a relationship" which basically means they're not wanting commitment and just want to party and sleep with whomever, etc. I mean, I guess it's respectable that he doesn't see you as one of random hookup options, which is good. Just don't get caught up in your own feelings for him or let him try to use when he's lonely in the future.

I want to fix your collar so bad 😂

I have never been in a relationship mostly because I have been scared of all the really scared of all the bad things that can happen. Also the majority of my social group are girls, ( I like boys) and I don’t want to start a friendship with a boy purely because we might date someday. So it’s a hard thing. But maybe I’ll figure it out someday lol!

a guy I liked in high school we were all partying and had some liquid and smoked courage so I told him and he said if I was not so big (fat) he might be interested. I got totally wasted after that and things after that were awkward. on a good note, Good Lord willing and the creek doesn't rise February 16th I will be 16 years clean and sober!!

I just think we have to be careful about making judgements concerning something as massive as "online culture" from a limited sample, especially when there is a purposeful filter in place concerning a topic. I see some podcasters (not you!) making generalizations about women/men/boys/girls today that they claim to be mainstream conclusions but at least in my experience are more like outlier examples. So I would expect a video to be sweeter than one about breakups (because if people are still 'in touch' despite one having a crush, it means there is a least a modicum of chemistry between them that could lead to positive outcomes for a future relationship). Similarly, I would expect a video about breakup texts to contain more toxicity. But what we may never see online (because there's no tension/drama?) are many videos about people who get together seamlessly or have an amicable breakup. It's simply not 'news'....

@MendedLight

Жыл бұрын

Great points.

Just from the title I am a little scared to watch lol.

Therapist who doesn’t know the current meaning of hanging out.

'moist' xDD

Could you please do a video with regard to Meghan and Harry, I'd be interested to know your views on something so polarising 🙂🙏🏻

She DEF looks like TS 😃

We just ignoring the 22 year old thing then?

I told em by kissing em😝

😂😂 get lit and join a soccer mums spin class!! Yes!! That’s the type of intensity that ain’t for sissies.

6:47 Is it only me that was bothered by the "it's so dope that you drive / I'm def a better driver though" bit? Apparently she didn't mind, but that reads as really condescending and maybe sexist to me.

Hey Jono. This hit me hard. I recently developed a crush on a work colleague, and we've been flirting for a while, subtly at work and also over text. (Or at least I thought were both flirting; now I think maybe he was only ever responding and never instigating) After several weeks I finally told him that I was into him and asked whether or not it was mutual. His response was that he is attracted to me and would totally date me if we didn't work together, but either way he's not looking to get into a relationship right now. He actually said "I hope this doesn't mean we can't be friends." I took it hard for a week or two, but as of this last week I tried to go back to normal with my interactions with him (at work and over text). He only comes into the office 1 day a week and on those days I can't seem to stay away from him. He doesn't start any interactions himself but is always down to chat if I stop by his office or if the team goes on a coffee break. I just want to be near him and talk to him, I pretend it's back to platonic but honestly I keep fantasizing he'll say he's changed his mind and that he does want to try dating. I feel like I'm torturing myself by instigating (even platonic) conversations. Any advice on how to break the habit? 🥲