I had a son a little older than you Gerbert. The societal and personal things you talk about address things that used to haunt him. I think if he or I had found your channel a year ago, he'd still be around. You're insights are helping thousands of young people, I have no doubt about that.

@XYZCBA50

Жыл бұрын

Sorry for the loss of your son Richard

@zayzaya.8820

Жыл бұрын

I hope you’re doing alright man :(

@adio8824

Жыл бұрын

A lot of young boys will be joining him soon. You’ve failed him, society has failed him and his failed himself. But may he Rest In Peace

@Cub__

Жыл бұрын

May he rest peacefully

@Hixor

Жыл бұрын

@@adio8824 bro☠️☠️

I've been thinking of this for a couple years now but I'm pretty sure that if society keeps going the way it is, Gen-Z will be known as the "self-deletion" generation. I'm seeing too many people my age (27) and younger with no hobbies, no passions and little to no friends. The most important advise that I could possibly give is; Risk it! Risk talking to people! Risk having an awkward interaction, Risk looking like a damn fool, risk trying to make a deep connection with another human being because the only other option is Dy1ng alone. Become the society that you want to live in!

@tree490

Жыл бұрын

yea i cold approach all the time and do dumb shit cause I just dont care anymore. I can't sink any lower anywas lmao. It makes for fun stories to tell the few friends i have.

@vlogcity1111

Жыл бұрын

@@tree490 hows the cold approach working for you brother??

@connorperrett9559

Жыл бұрын

@@tree490 I'll never understand why people "self-delete". If you have stopped caring enough to do that then surely you've stopped caring enough to take other, more productive risks. I'd pack a bag and just hit the road to be a wandering homeless person before I "self-deleted".

@tree490

Жыл бұрын

@@connorperrett9559 im still studying and working out regularly I havent given up completely on life. It's just that I realized I'll never be a high value male or a 'cool' person so i stopped caring about looking dumb. I actually feel like a cooler person for having the balls to do dumb shit. If it wasn't a crime i could be naked in public and not care too much

@tree490

Жыл бұрын

@@vlogcity1111 so far experience hasnt been too bad. Worst they did was simply ignore me and walk away. then i got a couple 'sorry i'm in a relationships'. once a girl straight up said 'I dont have a phone' lmaoo. Then another one laughed and said my pick up line was good and she was kinda fighting with herself abt whether to give me her number or not but I said 'im just kidding' and walked away cause I didnt want to put her on the spot too much. Plus I dont really want a relationship rn so much as I want to feel worthy of girl's attention

Being 31 now I’ve realized that friendships/ relationships is quality over quantity. It’s cliche as hell but it’s reality.

@behnamkeivan4633

Жыл бұрын

Losing childhood friends to your chick. When you don't have many friends. Yh.... Quality

@cazimim3375

Жыл бұрын

@@behnamkeivan4633 You animals do not have the virtues of Love and Friendship that is only something I possess

@kinmyname

Жыл бұрын

@@behnamkeivan4633 they clearly were not quality

@johnisaacfelipe6357

11 ай бұрын

Things are cliche because they are timeless

The moment a 6/10 girl appears in a room full of guys, everyone goes jestermaxx in an attempt to impress the lady. Most cringe shit in the world.

@uncomfortabletruths7990

Жыл бұрын

tbh Iv never seen or had that experience. iv seen dudes act different when new people come into a group I was in. But ik some people who act diff when a girl shows up

@Varrxion

5 ай бұрын

@@DDBT-nk7lq So real bro

@1whospeaks

2 ай бұрын

It's happened too often that I look away It's so hard to watch, and the 3 or 4 guys that don't do that I can sense dislike me, and even if thats not the case I'm so awful to be around, so I'll just stay at home.

@aryanjha3906

Ай бұрын

oh lord this shit so real the jestermaxxers make me wanna kms

@billnye7625

Ай бұрын

All my homies are too scared of women

I feel like this channel is meant for you to be more vulnerable but you are a master at deflecting that feeling with humor.

@sockrabbtt

Жыл бұрын

oy

@clarkcunt

Жыл бұрын

@@sockrabbtt oh hey there ☺️

@robxones109

Жыл бұрын

his mix of speaking truth and going to jokes is perfect

@greendude0420

Жыл бұрын

Same, getting better by the day learning from the Gerb hub

@clarkcunt

Жыл бұрын

@@robxones109 I feel like this was one of the more honest videos. Jokes are great but if you are using them to deflect from confronting your emotions, youre not going to be very insightful.

That stuff about quarantine destroying our social lives and wanting to go back to high school is real. My senior year got cut prematurely by quarantine and I didn't get to say goodbye to most of my friends. I didn't get any last chances with the girls I liked. I didn't get a prom or an actual graduation. It sucked

@quirinoguy8665

Жыл бұрын

True man, goddamn true... Didn't even get to say goodbye properly, didn't get to do prom or do CAT, the fun part of our lives was robbed from us.

@taurus-ug3fp

Жыл бұрын

exactly how I felt, no last chances just gone

@iiCounted-op5jx

Жыл бұрын

I'm currently doing high school online and in my junior year but I'm thinking about going irl next year because I don't wanna miss out on high school and I also want to try and make friends there because it's probably the last chance I'll get, is it worth it? should I go? or will it just be a waste of time?

@intrstn

Жыл бұрын

@@iiCounted-op5jx ABSOLUTELY worth it.

@wricc

Жыл бұрын

@@iiCounted-op5jx go bro lol

I was in the Marine Corps for four years. Literally lived with the same guys day in and day out for four years. Did two deployments with them. Never had friends that close. They were my brothers. We all talked about how we’d stay in touch after we got out. It lasted maybe six months, but then everyone moves on, gets girlfriends (or married/children). Honestly I’m genuinely happy for them, but it’s sad to let go of the only real friends I ever had. I never had a social circle due to growing up in a military family where I was always moving. I’m a bit embarrassed to tell all this like I’m pitying myself ‘cause I’m not. My life could be much worse. I just want to share that I felt everything you said and then some.

@zafiruzoma6234

Жыл бұрын

The only real friends i enjoyed bring around with are living thier own lives it Is though but I've accepted it AND I'm happy for the Time i had bak in the good lo Days with them

@iiCounted-op5jx

Жыл бұрын

do u at least still have contact with them? like do they at least call or text u once every few months?

@KoolAidSquirt

Жыл бұрын

Currently in the Marine Corps. You are right. The friends you make, become super close

@thearmanig98

Жыл бұрын

@@KoolAidSquirt Good on you Cristian, I wasn’t in a good frame of mind when I made that comment. Honestly dude, it is the best experience a young man can have. Save money with the chow hall, get out of the barracks, and use the free gym whenever you can (I say this as someone who was told all these things and only used them like 50% of the time). Plus if you just stay in shape and avoid an adsep you got free college. It’s all about mindset. Good luck and if you’re already a salty two-termer, then my bad. 😂

@jessie6600

Жыл бұрын

@@thearmanig98 Hey dude, good on you! LOADS of respect towards ya! I hope you find your people. As someone who's never been in the military, I can say that I have a HARD time finding friends as well. But life can be crap in a lot of ways. People leave you (voluntarily) or die, and you never know what kind of hell it'll bring you. You probably know that more than a lot of people, being a marine. But I feel for ya man. Anyway, I watch a lot of Jordan Peterson and to me that man is a GENIUS. He really understands life's ups and downs, and I suggest him to anybody. He almost died two years ago and has been thru hell himself, so he knows stuff personally. I hope that helps, but regardless, keep on goin man! And good luck!

Gerbert needs to drop an album

@MarkMightBeBetter

Жыл бұрын

Collab with Kanye

@jamesfrederick.

Жыл бұрын

Agreed

@nickc3856

Жыл бұрын

you mean you don't have his underground joints?

@robxones109

Жыл бұрын

someone needs to make a vid with all his intros

@interesting2491

Жыл бұрын

@@nickc3856 One of few OG’s I see💪

"These friends aren't dependable because they're starving" Explains it well

I saw 2 lifelong friends never talk to each other again over a girl. She dated one guy for 2 years then left him for his best friend. And me and the other guys were friends with both of the 2 dudes. It was a weird akward situation that eventually killed the entire circle of friends. Over one girl. It still blows my mind.

@Henry-rh6gz

Жыл бұрын

seen some similar shit like this happen with my own 2 eyes.

@brianbowen74

Жыл бұрын

lmao exact situation. 4 of us were lifelong friends. one of them tried hitting on another one's GF and now the group is two awkward sub groups

@arrow2380

Жыл бұрын

Women ☕ they needed to know this meme

@cazimim3375

Жыл бұрын

Women and wo(men) are evil demons

@alankuruvilla8939

Жыл бұрын

Wow, that women ruined that beautiful friendship!

I observed alot of the same things as you when I was 18, 26 today. Building community from scratch takes time, especially if you’re not in university (I skipped it personally for a self-taught route). Work wasn’t really a great route for me either, because I was always the youngest person in the office due to entering the workforce at 19. Here’s how I ended up making it work out: 1. I built a handful of close friendships, mostly when I was 18-21. It took four years to make a half dozen of these. These people ended up making their own friends, and we share connections with one another to build a self-growing circle. 2. I went hostel hopping, this didn’t result in many long lasting friendships in itself, but it got me into a groove of seeing social opportunities in places where it’s not even considered typical to chat up a stranger. Learning how to do this made me every single close friendship I have today. 3. Parties, concerts, and meetups around a common interest are good prospecting groups to start new friendships. Most of them won’t last, but 1% of them will, and this is where it’s worthwhile to learn how to upgrade friendships past a surface level. Learning how to do this with some amount of regularity for me involved years of learning, mentorship and therapy. This is much easier to do if you have existing friends to introduce your new friends to, since a group hangout takes the pressure off of both of you to carry the conversation. At 26 it feels like these things are only starting to build on themselves. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, it takes time and concerted investment though. When I was 18 every moment of pain and longing felt like a tiny forever; In hindsight that was just youthful ignorance, insecurity and a poor conception of time talking. By the way, there is such thing as pure, innocent fun driven friendships. Some people will try to beat that sense out of you, projecting their own cynicism, some people will laugh at your supposed naivety but don’t give up on that notion. Both potential friends, and women absolutely love guys who can let loose, have fun and not care if they look stupid. It’s a universally beloved trait, even people that outwardly talk shit about it can’t help but kind of like you for it.

@chimpanzeeenjoyer4667

Жыл бұрын

Everyone is so cynical, I appreciate this take

@joosh634

Жыл бұрын

So where do you work? I am also doing a self taught route and my friends are making fun of me for not going to college.

@dencentbeatz794

Жыл бұрын

great advice

@ccb9225

Жыл бұрын

@@joosh634 Not going to name my specific workplace on a KZread comment thread, but I went the software engineering route. If that's where you're going, it's a worthy goal but I wanna take a minute to spell out the tradeoffs for you. Don't let this dissuade you from where you want to go, but know what you're up against so you can plan accordingly. The self taught path for me was possible because: 1. I've been doing it since I was 11 years old. It was a lifelong passion that I was interested in before money ever crossed my mind. 2. I went on the websites of strong CS programs like Stanford, downloaded the syllabi for the classes, bought the textbooks and did the homework myself. Used MOOC lectures to fill in what I couldn't pick up myself from the textbooks. Self teaching isn't an easy way out of doing work, and you need either extreme patience or extreme interest in the topic at hand. 3. I went to tech meetups, worked past alot of rejection and misunderstandings at first and gradually embedded myself in the local community. From there I found mentorship. It was a combo of social skills self training, academic self teaching, life giving me a crash course on self awareness, gaining independence from parents, learning to manage anxiety, etc etc all in one gulp. The only real reason in hindsight I ended up on that path was because no-one at the time understood me well enough to help me fit the conventional one. I had to become independent early because basically I always developed asymmetrically as a person. I was never able to progress in systems where "You need to show competence in [micromanaged, overly controlled by others] thing, before moving onto [creative thing]." I had to shed my parents, teachers etc because I would've stayed trapped in their low expectations forever. Poor social skills is primarily what made this dynamic extremely hard to navigate, and disadvantaged me on such a ladder system. Don't go down this path for fun. But if it's your only option like it was for me, give it your all.

@joosh634

Жыл бұрын

@@ccb9225 thank you so much for the advice. I’m kind of the same thing but instead of software engineering it’s graphic design for me. I’ve been doing it since I was in sixth grade and have graduated high school last year so that shows how long it’s been. I like all the mediums like animation, video editing, but I particularly love photoshop work. And yes by now I stopped caring (or atleast try not to care) what others think of me because only I know what I am capable of. You don’t even understand how much that advice you gave means to me and I thank you for that.

Community in adult life is fake & forced. Hopefully you can get into a workplace environment with people you like (that's the best that's happened to me. ) Eventually, you'll get married & have a family and that becomes your unit. Don't cold approach, warm approach only.

@diegoc5473

Жыл бұрын

What is a cold/warm approach?

@kalbarrii587

Жыл бұрын

Cold approaching is when you approach someone you have had no prior connections with. In other words, a stranger. Warm approaching would be talking to a co-worker, a collegue-essentially someone that knows who you are :)

@JamFlexx

Жыл бұрын

so only talk to co workers yea no I'm not gonna shit where I eat Is it really that hard to talk to a girl at the gym or bar ?

@RizZRizZ-

Жыл бұрын

Nah, it’s easy af

@dencentbeatz794

Жыл бұрын

@@JamFlexx depends on ur looks i g. Bars are probably a bit easier than gyms since ur their to socialize. So your personality could shine through, but yea its gonna be very looks based still. I mean try it and see what happens. Its alot easier when u r drunk no lie.

If you have this level of perspective on things at 19, I can't imagine how insightful you are going to be at 30 or 40.

@zillobeast5257

Жыл бұрын

Im always curious how rare people like this actually are and if theres really any value in it cause we all seem to be lonely at the end of the anyway

@pod9363

Жыл бұрын

@Aiman Maraidi im jelly

@botezsimp5808

Жыл бұрын

I was like this guy at his age sorta. I'm 30 now. Being so introspective is both a blessing and a curse. Having good intuition without purpose sucks.

@TheMemin247

Жыл бұрын

@@botezsimp5808 same here, I'm almost 26 now and I don't enjoy being that introspective anymore, it used to be addictive being alone thinking things, but nowadays I don't wanna think I wanna experience life

@dencentbeatz794

Жыл бұрын

he reminds me of sneako a bit. He used to talk about similar stuff, albeit not blackpilled. He ended up... well u guys know. Sad to see

I don't have any friends because I'm homeschooled. Even when I go out to the gym, I still don't interact with people. I just want to get the day over with, go back home, and continue being terminally online.

@mikeoxlong3113

Жыл бұрын

at least you exercise 🤷‍♂

@marianomoraless

Жыл бұрын

Holy shit

@YukonV

Жыл бұрын

this is why im never homeschooling my kids

@praisekek181

Жыл бұрын

@@YukonV so their teachers can cut of their dick?

@cumpops5080

Жыл бұрын

@@YukonV better than raising them in an environment where they'd be exposed to degenerate Jeffrey NPCs.

While being forced around others in school really helped build a social circle, hobbies can help fill this void as an adult. Hobbies are the only way to find community imo

@chimpanzeeenjoyer4667

Жыл бұрын

What hobbies do you have that you do with other people

@JamFlexx

Жыл бұрын

@@chimpanzeeenjoyer4667 skateboarding, creating music, running marathons, doing yoga, rock climbing, making art, the possibilities are limitless. There is a community for any hobby you can think of, and you all are passionate about the same thing which only helps bond.

@chimpanzeeenjoyer4667

Жыл бұрын

@@JamFlexx I guess my problem is not being able to find a community around hobbies that isn't online.

@algorithmgeneratedanimegir1286

Жыл бұрын

@@JamFlexx Yoga is cringe.

@jssjsjbskskd9290

Жыл бұрын

@@algorithmgeneratedanimegir1286 you’re cringe

i feel u gerb, I actually lost all my friends during the pandemic, funny to think what would be different if none of that shit happened. Suddenly I’m 20 and feel like I was robbed of my adolescence, I don’t wanna be in high school but sometimes it was the only place to find friends, I went to college for a few months but no one really gave you the time of day. I don’t wanna meet people online either, I just want genuine connection but fear the time for that has already passed. Btw nice bod;)

@Bokosuka-yl7eq

Жыл бұрын

This. This right here. This entire comment section. Makes me happy I’m not the only one in the world who feels this way

@iiCounted-op5jx

Жыл бұрын

I'm only 17 but yeah I was robbed of my adolescence as well, I've been doing school online since the pandemic ever started and forgot to create a social life for myself outside of it, it's too late for me

@deathkorpsguard

Жыл бұрын

@@iiCounted-op5jx Try to keep a positive view. I'm in a similar boat, I spent my late elementary school and all of middle school stuck in SpEd classes (Not the ones for learning disabilities, I had severe anger issues when I was little. I got over them quickly but couldn't get out of the programs) and it really stunted my social development. I can't say it's the right thing for you, but I signed up for the Marines and it has helped me so much. Technically I'm not even in the Corps yet, still just in the delayed entry program waiting to graduate high school, but the people I met in my RSS and all the random Marines and Vets I've talked to treated me like family. If not military find some kind of fraternal organization. Best of luck to you man.

@stormtrumper7634

Жыл бұрын

@@deathkorpsguardYour comment is pretty similar to my experience (even down to your love for the Death Korp lol). I don’t have many friends that I talk to on a regular basis, online school messed that up a bit. But now I’m halfway through my junior year, and I’m already counting the days until I graduate since I’m hoping to join the Marine Corp as well. I feel terrible but I believe the military will get me out of this rut and give me the life I’m missing out on. I hope you do well in the Marines, you got this.

@kevinhansen9258

Жыл бұрын

From my experience you have to find real connection by accident. Go to places to enjoy yourself and talk to people, the majority of people there you won't come close to connecting with but a couple will give you the time of day. These 'places' being bars and festivals etc, basically find people who're already alone and speak to them.

My friend group are all the most intelligent people at my school. So it’s like American Psycho but with SAT scores instead of Business cards.

@Hectorogents

Жыл бұрын

SAT scores have nothing to do with intellect. You might find this out when you are older.

@zafiruzoma6234

Жыл бұрын

Listen kid you can't qua tify intelligence it wont matter what special test Days or what big number you can pull out of your ass real intelligence isn't saying you have an IQ of 2000 it's bring able to ascertain AND learn things by yourself analyze AND adapt through crítical thinking

@tds7078

Жыл бұрын

SAT/ACT scores don’t matter in life. Thank God.

@jeff-hd9og

Жыл бұрын

I have my friends are all very academically smart but we’re all dumbasses

@marteumar8429

11 ай бұрын

@@Hectorogents‘intellect’ is a woke word. SAT tests have everything to do with intelligence, SAT is a IQ test.

go out with a friend group -> meet cool people at a party/birthday/whatever -> exchange contacts and say that we are going meet up some time and hang out -> never meet these people ever again every single time.

@Fleischgewordener_Sterbehelfer

Жыл бұрын

Thats literally every single time.

Im glad I had a lot of friends growing up. Male and female. But covid really fucked that, and now I dont even have half as many friends as I had before. I miss elementary.

@zoriamm5064

Жыл бұрын

Same I miss it too

@struggler8532

Жыл бұрын

The wording makes it sound like you're a freshman. If so, just be s good listener to start. People find people who listen to them interesting.

@zoriamm5064

Жыл бұрын

@@struggler8532 bro I am quiet I don’t even talk to people I listen to people

@thatguydiego4333

Жыл бұрын

L

@iiCounted-op5jx

Жыл бұрын

bro at least u have more than 1

I feel you bro. If it wasn’t for my family, two friends from college, and two good buddies from high school, I would be completely alone. I’m grateful for having those connections.

The problem around male friendship is they're too centered around common interests/hobbies, and once you lose interest in said hobby, the friendship often fades or disappears also. Females don't really have this problem

@mert_058

Жыл бұрын

That is so true. That's why lot of men changing friends when they grow old

@AbbysalWarrior72756

11 ай бұрын

That’s so damn true i had dudes backstab me when i lose interest in something

@AbbysalWarrior72756

11 ай бұрын

No wonder why I didn’t have that much friends anyway

@ottomanpapyrus9365

11 ай бұрын

naturally so

@ducknwater3016

7 ай бұрын

I’m thankful that I have had 3 friends for the past 10 Years now. With two of them, I just have fun and don’t have to think that much. We just do whatever, and whatever it is we have fun doing it. The last friend I have is also on self improvement, so me and him always talk business, career, health and etc. It’s a nice balance and I don’t really want more than that. I hope I remain friends with these people for a long time

About having friends... even though it's hopeless, try not to lose hope. Also, you are right about the difficulty of getting friendships in adulthood past college. I feel like it just comes down to mutual interests. So figure out what you care about and find who else does.

@Tschoii90

Жыл бұрын

Bless

I was depressed and had very few close friends. The ones I did were pretty fake and shallow (sophomore year of college). I decided to try to be the friend to others that I really wanted in return. You would be shocked at how many people start opening up when you make the first step. Most guys are looking for that chance to relax and lower the facade but when they have in the past some psychopath takes advantage of them. Some people will hurt us when we let our guard down but it is 100% worth the connections you make.

@millevenon5853

Жыл бұрын

Very true. Its better to risk it. You end up making memories that way.

@satioOeinas

Жыл бұрын

Great point

Had a similar experience at uni, struggled with social anxiety and forced myself to go to events and club trips to try and meet people while the ratios you talked about where good - but it never felt right so I turned to alcohol in those situations to try to feel normal and talk to randoms. Despite meeting some people and sleeping with a handful of women, I was lonely, felt terrible about myself, had serious anxiety about talking with people which all culminated in me going down a road of dependence on drugs and alcohol. From 15 or so, I pretty much had a feeling that I was weird because I wasn't doing all the things/had a social circle like what we are shown in media. Any group I was in I was only on the periphery. Random hookups were the main interaction with women, but nothing meaningful. As I got later into my 20s though I started to find that although the number people you interact with narrows, you start to be around the people who actually mean something to you. After nearly a decade of empty interactions, when you stop trying to find the person you connect with and let life happen things slowly start to fall in place (if you keep working on who you are and acquiring valuable skills etc.). I relate to the vast majority of your experiences, but for most men with the exception of socialite chads, the early 20s aren't everything society tells you it will be. As men, we become more attractive with age - the type of women I tried to pursue in my early 20s now give me way more attention and are much more forward, I've had women give me their numbers when on a run and on the train which I could've only dreamt of at 18-23. But you then realise it's all about the value you bring, you start to acquire wealth and maturity, you become more grounded and less concerned with the perception of others and have more to talk about. With regard to uni, I did the pre-med track too completing a bachelor of physiology and master of biotechnology, but decided to switch to computer science (despite the fact that I hate social media etc.). The science of computing is an amazing field that has both the creativity and lateral thinking involved with research combined with the ability to apply your ideas utilising a skillset that is widely applicable to essentially every business today. Plus, you can acquire lots of skills in it without going to uni and it pays pretty well. You seem to like to delve into research and have an aptitude for thinking creatively, maybe check it out and see if it interests you. Long response which is probably too long , but you're on a good path and have some great insight into yourself and the world around you which I can tell you is a pretty rare thing. Appreciate your content man, keep it up :)

@karimjalali7970

Жыл бұрын

So what's your advice in general to create new meaning relaionship after our teenage years? Is it a problem that such an important numbers of girl participate in the hook up culture (I am a religious person and think of only pursuing mariage)? Lastly, I am 18 years old, I wanted like you to pursue an IT/CompSCI major but I am thinking of pursuing the CPA route. There is a lot of shortage in this field and it seems the perfect business major that combine a lot of finance, tax and law knowledge. I wanted firstly to do Investment Banking but it seems too much competitive so maybe I am combine to combine a cpa with data analytics skill (to automate and analyse better financial statements).

@rightcliquegod7653

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing! And What do you think about chat GPT?

@flowstatefloatmate7803

Жыл бұрын

​@@karimjalali7970 These are only my experiences so take my words with a grain of salt. The main things I've found that allow you to meet people after your teenage years are being involved in the things that you enjoy. If you're interested in something pursue it and you'll find others doing the same who you'll already have something in common with to provide a basis to interact further (excluding online communities, these don't allow you to build up social skills). Get really good at a skill that solves difficult problems and you'll be highly valued at work, people will also naturally gravitate towards you as a result. Finally just be an easy going person, kindness goes a long way and having a genuine interest in others is an endearing quality. Personally I think tinder etc. have simply found a way to leverage a human desire and behaviour that has always existed to a certain degree, however it's created a generation with a warped sense of what sex and relationships are (Gerby has a good video on this too). They seem to create a vastly amplified version of the natural dynamic between male and female attraction, to an unhealthy degree, men being in competition with one another while women select the highest bidder. From a neurological health standpoint, I see that as a problem especially in the sense that it is all based on apperance. What is in our control is whether we participate in it or not, you won't be missing out on much by not doing so. Both of the long-term relationships I've been in started from face-to-face interactions, not tinder. You said you are a man of faith, that's great - you already have a community with which you share common values and beliefs about life and purpose. That's huge, this alone can provide you with more that any of these apps could. Whatever your place of worship is be it a mosque or church, get involved in community events and be a regular face. Be known for having a strong sense of self and character, and you might be suprised with how quickly things can fall into place. Sounds like you've got a good idea of what you want to do, pick the thing you enjoy most and pursue it relentlessly. Don't be discouraged by competition, embrace it as it makes you better. At the same time, understand that work is mostly work, it's mundane most of the time and can be frustrating, but learn to love solving difficult problems. Best of luck!

@flowstatefloatmate7803

Жыл бұрын

@@rightcliquegod7653 The age of automation is here! I'm amazed at how good the natural language processing is. It's a bit scary as well as this can flip numerous industries on their head. Ultimately though I think it'll be an amazing tool to reduce the everyday mundane tasks, to allow us to think creatively about higher level concepts/designs which is the ultimate strength of the human mind, we aren't great at grunt repetitive work but there's no computer that can dream and like abstractly like our minds. I can only imagine what google has in the works, I assume they have big plans in this field because it will pose a real challenge to their business. The race is on.

@flowstatefloatmate7803

Жыл бұрын

@@rightcliquegod7653 Have you been using it much? Where do you think this will all lead?

Avoided the opposite sex through college just to avoid the hungry wolves situation with a bunch of guys, it’s gross and weird

@MakaylaHatesYou

Жыл бұрын

Really? I think it's sad. They're really suffering, you know? I guess I can relate to them wanting relationships and being unable to get them, as a woman.

@arrow2380

Жыл бұрын

Same. Simps can be really annoying

@M_CFV

Жыл бұрын

​​​@@MakaylaHatesYou women aren't suffering if they're alone in college lmao, they can literally always hop on dating apps and get good men that don't just want to fuck (if you think there isnt an ocean of men like that, you are delusional). And after college, if they haven't found someone, they can just live a pampered lifestyle with infinite safety nets until they do (and they will). It's not even remotely comparable to the situation young men are in.

@imarilucifer

Жыл бұрын

Everybody wants love.

@LDT2001

Жыл бұрын

Damn even in college? I'm in military so I didn't go that route, but damn I would have thought that shit would end in high school, guess people are pretty pathetic

This channel is such a gem. A young man trying to make sense of the world around him. I WISH I could've known this stuff before I went to university.

@blackelton7127

Жыл бұрын

Surely your dad can hook you up with a chick from the Bada Bing? Madonnnnee

@anthonysoprano6087

Жыл бұрын

@@blackelton7127 😂 it ain't the same bro 😪

@blackelton7127

Жыл бұрын

@@anthonysoprano6087 As long as you’re not hanging out with that Rhiannon broad. She’s a spy for New York!

@shotgunbae

Жыл бұрын

@@blackelton7127 I’m glad I can understand this joke because I recently started watching the sopranos 🗿

Your comments on fantasizing about redoing high-school with your current self hit close to home. I didn't fully bloom until after high-school with my first job. I went from being a little chubby to having a 6 pack with some serious muscle on my frame, got a nice haircut and got a hell of a lot more confident. People now often say in public I look like a model. Even being weird I pulled a girl my Jr year but civid fucked that relationship. If I could start again with who I am now I could have been great. I still have opportunity so all isn't for not but it hurts. Gerbert if your reading this I have faith you'll make it far in life. My dumb ass still pulled a serious relationship for a time and it was good, I know you can too and unlike me you'll keep it going for a long time. To anyone and everyone else I believe we can all make it if we grind. Hit the gym, hit the library, stay on the grind!!!!

@multiversalman4270

Жыл бұрын

how'd you get the six pack?

@Kaizuka-eg9fd

Жыл бұрын

@Multiversal Man 3 months into working at a diner I got a gym membership and started seriously dieting. Took about 8 months but I got visible core muscles

@multiversalman4270

Жыл бұрын

@@Kaizuka-eg9fd ahhh i diet well, i don't work out/know whether to bulk/cut tho

@TwistedLullabies

Жыл бұрын

Highschool maybe college is still ideal

@multiversalman4270

Жыл бұрын

i do work out nvm

As a female, I really appreciated your views on this. I think that this may be how most guys around this age feel, but they don’t articulate it because of some sort of illusion created society. It was very candid and well articulated. Helped me understand a lot about my life even though I’m not a male. Keep sharing stuff like this :) And your not in ugly IMO lol. I understand ppl perceived you that way and that makes me sad.

@badbeachindustry1615

Жыл бұрын

I had the same realisations as a adult woman. After school. Not the male points of views but the fact there's no community in the adult world and the only places you meet people is at the pub or club (not a good way to meet people. They're there coz they're addicts usually from personal experience)

@worztbeats8189

Жыл бұрын

of course he's not ugly, the only reason he grew out of it was because he's a late bloomer and glowed up, as he said, he used to be short and ugly. one segment of the blackpill community doesn't really like him because the way he looks now don't really give him the right to talk about these problems, since, now, despite what he says, he's pretty much a chad, personally im ok with it because he did suffer from these things even if now he's not a victim anymore.

@n1a316

Жыл бұрын

he's literally so hot and I like how he doesn't just talk shit about women. usually guys who talk about similar topics just hate women and blame them for all their problems

@themarathoncontinues4211

Жыл бұрын

@@worztbeats8189 idk if his personality is making y’all see things I’m not seeing, or if it’s just a race thing. But how is he a Chad? Where I’m at he’s he a high tier normie, good looking guy but nothing crazy/Chad level.

@worztbeats8189

Жыл бұрын

@@themarathoncontinues4211 Good jawline, pomules, angles and face features in general, good lips, Green-blue eyes with almond shape, Good hair, decently deep voice, Silk-Like clear skin, Slightly above average height, he's not that skinny and has a bit of muscle, he must be pretty funny in person, etc. pretty much his only flaws are that he's still kinda skinny, though i can't really picture his frame, and that his eyebrows are thin because of his blonde hair. he lacks that height and frame, to be a chad but still he's WAY above average, for me the most shocking is his skin personally, but might be because i struggled a lot with acne and i still do with the scars.

Most relateble man on KZread. Everything here was just facts. My only thing is I have no friends period. Not even childhood friends. Everytime I try I just feel so unwanted by the people there. Online friends I have but they are all older and have jobs. Still in highschool but kinda screwed lol. At least I know I'm not alone in my feelings here.

@Bokosuka-yl7eq

Жыл бұрын

I get you brother. Sometimes you just want a friend. And not some stupid mf you randomly met over discord or on tinder

@twdjames7792

Жыл бұрын

@@Bokosuka-yl7eq Facts you can't win with stuff like this to because people say become successful and people will want to be around you. Now the problem is people are only around you for the wrong reasons you can't win man. Thanks for replying though. Even that text made me feel better lmao

@lardusbirmingham7020

Жыл бұрын

If you're still in high-school I don't care what you have to do, use it. Trust me I wish I did, if you fuck up it really won't matter the second you're out those doors with your diploma. It was honestly depressing when I looked back one last time and realized I really wasn't going to see these people ever again and that I never tried everything I possibly could of to just meet the few decent people there and connect more with them. Seriously don't waste this, you have no idea how much more isolated you can feel when you lose that place full of peers, even if like me, you had no real friends there, you still miss it once you realize you won't get that again without a mountain of debt.

@twdjames7792

Жыл бұрын

@@lardusbirmingham7020 Trust me when I tell you I tried many many times. Pretty sure gerby said it before bring invisible is better than being bullied. Which I have been unfortunately. After a while focusing on yourself is the best thing to do for your future.

@rareGUNDAM_

Жыл бұрын

@@twdjames7792 i feel u. i moved a lot and have always been very socially anxious. the last time i had a real friend was when i was fourteen and i’m twenty now. the best thing that’s come out of it has been my relationship with my brother. not everyone is built to be a social butterfly. just have to try find things that make you happy and take opportunities the best you can as they come

We used to be such good bros, Talking about putting ourselves first before hoes. Never too greedy; Never too needy. But now whenever a girl gets on the radar of the nose, We drop down to our knees and suck on their toes.

@pod9363

Жыл бұрын

*beatboxes*

@maryss8767

Жыл бұрын

whats ? . you must learn self control and choose whats you value the most.

@marteumar8429

11 ай бұрын

Better suck on their cnt 😂😏

Im in high school right now and honestly as much as I don’t like school, im dreading leaving it and being in the middle of nowhere in an apartment alone. It’s such a common scenario yet it sucks so much.

this is your community bro don’t forget the massive potential the internet has. don’t let it get to your head

@cyanideinmycereal1077

Жыл бұрын

Categorically different.

I really like to the idea you talk about of how it's unnatural to approach strangers. We've totally been brainwashed into thinking its okay. You do a good job connecting that idea to how we have lost our sense of community.

@gee9422

4 ай бұрын

I think this idea came from people loosing that core person and then entering into the world where everyone is guarded, so you ve got to use specialized relational and manipulative skills to get what you want. Damnright Fuickwit

My first work experience opened my eyes to this shit, early back in 2006. Even in that era guys' energy completely shifted when a new girl showed up. They went from "bros" to a gang of strays fighting over the last crumb. Was my first real exposure to how adults behave and this was before dating went fully online.

I'm 35 and single and my heart goes out to you young cats going through the same struggle. I've struggled my whole life to break out of my shell and if I can give any advice, it's to break out of your shell and speak, open yourselves up to people and women. Your bit about how men can't be friends when they compete resonates with me. I have a bandmate who just separated from his wife and I can hardly stand to be around him in public anymore because it's like a starving animal, he goes after the same women I do.

@ajaywurie1012

11 ай бұрын

Are you also like a starving animal?

Outside the military, I always had trouble making friends. Now all I have is my wife and her friends, but unlike my bros from the past, they won't fuck me.

@shahrozkhan3610

Жыл бұрын

Well that was unexpected.

@Cub__

Жыл бұрын

Well damn

@whalisten

Жыл бұрын

Is this a slang?

@charliecovington320

Жыл бұрын

They had me in the first half, not gonna lie.

@dabocousin

Жыл бұрын

What

Thankyou Gerbert for blessing us with this revolutionary piece of art

I found brotherhood through jiu jitsu on the mats. Something about training and beating each other up makes you close

@anthonywe2878

Жыл бұрын

@@AdamBorseti no them nigga gay as shii

Damn this video got me. So many moments that were all too relatable. Thank you for just sharing your raw thoughts and making the loneliness feel less lonely knowing that I’m not the only one going through it

I'm glad you make these videos. They remind me I'm not alone in this modern world of insanity.

@Dusterdimmu81

Жыл бұрын

This kid is wise beyond his years. I’m 34 and I love listening to him come to conclusions that took me a decade to figure out.

I had a friend who I thought of as a brother, but he found a girl and I haven't heard from him in years.

I had a breakdown right near my graduation of uni due to social isolation. I was able to rebuild myself mentally through pursuing martial arts training and firearms training. As for your discussion about dating strangers I totally agree. The only reason I ever even found my eventual fiance on the dating apps was because I happened to already know her from the firearms class I went to years prior. Besides her, any strictly online connection I made went absolutely nowhere. Im sorry that you have yet to experience a true healthy relationship. It is truly a blessing to have someone you understand deeply and they understand you, and you both tolerate eachothers weaknesses and help eachother when you are down. Your content is fantastic and you are wise for your age. Press on and dont give up.

From my experience, real male friendships are still alive and well. I have just started my first year of uni, and of course there are the slimey pricks who you can't trust but they are so easy to identify. There will be people that you click with and who you can form a natural mutual respect. I see what you're saying, but in my opinion the male brotherhood is one thing that we can still be grateful for despite all the other mess

@abe8966

Жыл бұрын

@@flyaway6671 thats true, but isn't he at college? which im pretty sure is the US equivalent. Your're right though, at uni most people are mature enough to understand the value in male friendship. I've also lost a couple mates from main school, whilst some i would consider actual family. I probably got lucky, but the key thing is to find your tribe. You can be friends with people who don't share your interests, but as long as they make you feel welcome, appreciated and respected, there should be nothing else a man needs.

@skinnysnorlax1876

Жыл бұрын

Iirc, statistically most lifelong friendship are made at college. It might have been around the age, rather than *at* college, but I remember a teacher of mine referencing that. When I was an ra, I strongly encouraged the guys, especially younguns on my floor to take advantage of the college lifestyle to make real lasting friendships. You'll never really get an environment like that again

@millevenon5853

Жыл бұрын

@Awoke Awoke you will find good ones too. Ignore the creeps. Focus on the good people

This is the most relatable channel I’ve ever found and it’s scaring me

These issues are something that I have been really struggling with coming to terms with as I get older and farther away from my teenage years. It's good of you to bring these sort of thoughts to light.

I have had so many of these thoughts, thanks for making these videos.

I appreciate how genuine you are. It's like a breath of fresh air these days.

It’s funny how many friends I’ve let go because they had women enter their lives, it doesn’t even phase me I’m so numb now.

@thedarkestknight8381

Жыл бұрын

I hate men who get women

The fact that I knew what this video was going to be about just from the title alone, speaks volumes about how much of a shared experience gen-z/millennial men have, and how the introspective/observant ones (e.g., myself) are just able to process all of these social phenomena to a really accurate extent. I took my time with watching this video because I knew you were going to talk about the shallow/flimsy nature of male friendship and how once a guy gets a girl, they're set and just go M.I.A. unless, as you mentioned, they're not starved of female attention. This kind of thing literally happened in my friend group where a friend told me he's distancing himself because he feels like his connection has diminished over the years, and I'm just over here thinking how he would not be doing this if he did not just recently get back together with his first and only girlfriend. Not to mention how I knew you were going to verbatim say the word "propinquity", a term not often used unless someone really wants to get into the workings of human interaction and how it can flourish. You make really great content, and you're just so pragmatic with these things. Always love watching your stuff about this social epidemic we're all going through, and I hope more people can use your stuff as a sort of catalyst for contemplating the patterns that are so common in modern social interaction, or at least just begin to recognize them.

dude i am 19 and everything you said about your experience is completely similar to what i am currently going through, it felt so relieving to hear someone else feel my pain and understand the exact predicament i am in. i am so thankful i found your channel, you have great advice for guys our age and provide insight to genuine self improvement for men today. keep up the good work

I like Gerbert cuz hes observing complicated shit happening in a laymen's perspective

@pod9363

Жыл бұрын

Gerby is not a man who lays men. He gets good gash all dat long 😡

@boiledforeskin5594

Жыл бұрын

@@pod9363 don’t get in here rappin I’m makin it happen

its refreshing to see a young man analyze current society with humility. keep it up kid! We are rare out here

Gerby back at it again with another certified hood classic

Got that industrial society and it's consecuences drip

keep dropping them fire beats boi

I love the chill, no editing, loose script, rant nature of this video. Great content to have on the side.

Guess I'm a sociopath

@jaodasilva7993

3 ай бұрын

a lot of inkwells really are... it is what it is

Depends on the college, if you need to live at home to cover expenses then I wish you the best of luck. In the dorms your situation may be different, most people going to my local college are commuting from work or leaving right after class. There isn't much to do unless your immersed in the environment some way, usually that's through a friend living on campus. I Couldn't afford to live on campus while focusing on studying plus work. It is what it is, situations not hopeless and I will try to escape. Decided on completely giving up if I've not found community in 5 years by the age of 30.

@dungbeater4264

Жыл бұрын

hope you find one my lad 👍

Gerby I’ve had a lot of stress around these exact subjects you’ve made things vary clear for me thank you

The stuff gerby talks about is the type of stuff thats on my mind but can never find anyone who relates. I'm a senior in highschool with shitty grades and I can't say I have great friends. I missed the last quarter of freshman year and all of sophomore year but 90% of kids at my school stayed at school. Throughout that year at home I did shit in school and talked less and less with my friends, by the time I returned my friends lives had changed and they had matured, but i felt more socially inept then before. It felt like I was a freshman in junior year. The whole year felt like a massive catchup my grades started slipping and I stopped talking or caring about people. It's senior year and I feel like I failed at it all, most of the people I know took tons of AP classes and dual enrolled and will head off to college at the end of next summer, and don't know if I even want to go to college regardless of my status as a student. I've really reflected on my highschool experience and overall it feels like a low, I don't have grades, never had a relationship, never really had a best friend, never went to parties or gatherings, etc. I feel like I've been falling and never realized it but now I've decended below the clouds and all I can see is the ground and I'm scared to hit it. I don't know that's probably a shitty analogy but it's the best I got, oh and gerby bring out that luscious green tele more. I miss it😏

This is probably one of the reasons I miss my friend, Josh, so much. I'm mainly friends with my coworkers (army) so I have a lot of male friends, but if I'm with them and there's a girl there, no matter how "available" she is, I get insanely competitive for no reason. I'm not pulling out a sword or something, but I am gonna try my hardest to be the funniest and most interesting male in the room. It's fucking stupid. At least now that I'm older I'm not as blatant with it, when I was younger my entire personality would literally change when a girl entered the room. Anyways, reason I miss Josh is because he's one of the few male friends I've ever had that I genuinely loved. If him and I was in a room with a girl I'd either be trying to wingman him or we just wouldn't even have cared about the girl. Instead of two peasants fighting over scrabs like most male "friendships" are, me and Josh were like two kings sitting on our thrones, too busy philosophizing about something dorky to care about a girl in the room. I really miss that guy, but yeah, I guess I just blew it.

@millevenon5853

Жыл бұрын

You should meet up. There is no reason to abandon good friends

@perplexednihilist

Жыл бұрын

Which Josh

I met the best friends i ever had at 26 years old in city far from my hometown, its still there, you will attract that fraternal love, it is wild i say to youngns get ready to see your friends change, die, get pregnant, get stagnant, and addicted. Its sad as fuck im proud of you my brother

@rumenok

Жыл бұрын

is it your photo? you're so handsome i just can't

Dude everything you said speaks so strongly to what I'm experiencing. Thank you for making this video

Real friendship exist but you have to find people that WANT deep relation

Lost two “friends”that at one point I would’ve consider my brothers but had a confrontation and now we are split apart. Reasoning of the falling out was it was a mix of me finding a girlfriend and being more invested into my own passion of motor sports which that didn’t align with their own passion of being red-pilled, bar hopping, strip club goblin activities. But in the end I was better off cutting off that relationship off and notice signs of a toxic friendship, they never saw me as an equal and belittled me for not doing the things they want to do but they wouldn’t do the things that I want to do. I’m 25 now and im tired of having that mindset of always the need to try to get bitches on your dick, a true friendship shouldn’t be one-sided but grow and adapt together as we get older. So pursue what you are passionate about, and if some want to hop the boat rather than support your pursuits than it’s okay new friends will be found as you explore your interest and desires

@bottledit5379

Жыл бұрын

What motorsports are you interested in?

@carlosdelsol76

11 ай бұрын

You were destined to rise, they probably think you are in the fault because you abandoned them to live your geneticly superior lifestyle

@meat.

3 ай бұрын

this could’ve been a life long friendship but bro never replied. F

My family historically were farmers, the people they married they all knew and grew up around each other. You are right about how unatural it is. Also no one rode the cock carousel let alone dated a bunch of different people. My mom had one other boyfriend before my dad. My dad never had anyone else besides my mom.

@visvirtutis8441

Жыл бұрын

Where I'm from the people in small farming communities would actually walk around in the weekends into other villages, play games of soccer there or watch some, or they would visit village partys where the whole village community would come together and people from the neighbouring villages would join. That way marriages came into being.

Bro you're a G, I can relate to your way of thinking a lot. Keep going man!

Im excited to learn and grow along side you man I've had a similar time line to yours, thanks for the most relatable content on this plat form.

Reading all the emotional comments while gerb is rapping the most degenerate shit at the start ia pure gold

TRUST NO ONE...... try to enjoy life. lower your expectations everyone will betray you. nice guys finish last. desire to create a brotherhood will fail you.

This is the best video I have ever listened to, thank you

U honestly answered so many questions I didn’t even know. Great intro to ur channel for me.

I lost all of my friends even before the pandemic, at 2017 and the following years. It's been a lengthy process where I started branching off into a direction others just wouldn't follow. It went from me being absolutely oblivious to one's feelings to being so good at it I was overwhelmed by the sudden lack of a filter. I was a late bloomer through and through, having had this experience at 26. My mom has in fact told me about it, over and over. "Everything happens in due time, be it finding friends or losing them after walking a good portion of your lifes together" and she was right on point with that. It seems that's a part of growing up we all have to get through - the one that commonly know as losing your innocence - when we realize that we as people are fundamentally flawed and need to accept ourselves as we are. Blaming the pandemic for this may be convenient but I'm afraid the root cause is an internal one. Now, on to the positive message. It's nowhere near over for you to find genuine friendship in this world. After high school and college, it's up to you and what you wanna be doing to leave an impact in this world. As I would say, be impressive and you will impress others. Accepting yourself and acting upon it has the major advantage of attracting the people who are compatible to you while also repelling those who aren't. It's like the moths flying towards the light. Don't wait for others to become that light source. Instead, be that light yourself. After losing my entire circle of friends due to my interests shifting greatly, new people came. They came and went, howver some of them never left and made an effort to value that connection we found. It inspired me to do the same and give back as much as I would take if not more. When you get past those superficialities the connections you will find can be oh so fulfilling, even transformative. After having walked this path alone for 5 years, I thought I would never have that blissful feeling again but these new friends showed me I still got it in me. Don't be sad it's over, be happy that it happened and look forward to what's yet to come.

Gerbert I was feeling really down about these things. It absolutely sucks that these are the things that are happening in the world today But I think it's important to realise that no matter the circumstance, we always have the choice and the free will to respond in a certain way. Everybody does whether they know it or not so it's okay to feel bad about the fact that you and so many other people are lonely but we all can choose how to respond to that fact if we are lonely.

bruh I know these talks are primarily for comedic purposes but this shit almost had me in tears. hits too close to home. the two things I value most in life is my relationship with my parents and my "bros". the thing you mentioned about one of your friends getting a girlfriend and then booming a ghost is sadly so true. lost a few good friends that way

please put these on streaming services as a podcast. They are such good videos

Hey man. I'm 36 and a fan of your channel. Every time I watch one of your videos I thank my lucky stars I grew up in the 90s and the first decade of the 2000s when technology was a useful tool for socializing and not an omnipresent self-imposed prison.

Man this video hits home especially the part about how our friendships when we younger were so innocent and fun cuz we didn’t care as much about girls. My first two years of college it was 6-7 of us guys that hung out every day. To this day it was the best friend group I’ve ever had. The friend group broke up tho cuz one day we all took LSD together and my friend said he realized he should be putting more effort into getting girls cuz we in college and he had only ever had sex once… fast forward to several weeks later my ex makes a move on him after we break up while I’m away and sure enough he fell for it. The group was never the same after that and it slowly fell apart afterwards

You are on point yet again. What ive found is hobbys and clubs are the best place to make friends. You need a common goal or interest and regular meetings.

I’m still really close w my high school buddies now that we’re in college and come to think of it we never had any girl related conflicts so that def helped a ton in building our fundamental trust

Gerby lowkey like a reincarnation of the unabomber

@YuvrajSingh-vi9yc

Жыл бұрын

What the fuck?

@vlogcity1111

Жыл бұрын

Uncle Ted hype!!!

I’ve been lonely my whole life, and it’s to the point where I’ve become apathetic. I’ve lost all hope, and k’ing myself becomes more probable every night. I’m 18 but feel like an 80 year old, on the verge of death, all alone

@basedbimbo2

Жыл бұрын

Please don’t, give yourself some time. I was in this situation myself not too long ago, but when I started taking care of myself and admitting I needed help I was able to get better a little bit every day. You’ll look back in a couple years and thank yourself for sticking it through. I’m so sorry that you’ve had to go through this though, it’s tough but please get through this. I promise it gets better. If you need someone to talk to, you can hit me up

@XYZCBA50

Жыл бұрын

Don’t kill yourself bro. I’ve been there takes time but gets better

@axtweamauto9422

Жыл бұрын

Where you live hoss?

@roadrunne255

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Idk your life at all, but personally I try to enjoy the few little things in my life when I feel the strong despair. Even if I’m feeling quite depressed, there’s those few things that get you through like a good meal or good music. Taking baby steps helps a lot.

@moommoom6915

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I feel the same pls hang in there

Thanks for the content cuh

Gerby gotta be the most relatable dude on YT fasho

It’s always the opening raps for me 😂✨

Hi Gerbert this video really resonated with me because being around the same age as you I also missed my last 2 years of high school and felt I missed out greatly because I was just finally figuring myself out and gaining confidence. I also understand the feeling of finding it hard to make new real friends because of social hierarchy bullshit. A way I was able to find some of my closest friends is through going to events for my passions. Its nerdy but I have met so many great people through going to pokemon and super smash brothers tournaments. From an outside perspective it seems cringe but who really cares because I have met better people who I have a blast with. If you have something your passionate about going to an event with like minded people is a great way to make true friends and avoid the social hierarchy and fighting over girls nonsense.

A long video by the god gerby himself. Needed and yeah bro frfr you hit those heavy hitters on male loneliness. Lucky me i enjoyed my highschool experience. I have homies who tell me all the time they wish they was out there more.

Gerbys Uploads give me so much Dopamine

Me and my friend formed a really close bond which I treasure to this day, I know myself how it is to be circled with fake people who don’t care about you. So I made sure that every guy I meet feels comfortable around me and my group, we accept everyone because we know what it’s like to be left out. Even with that, we leave out anyone who has bad intentions for us. Same with new people, I make sure they don’t feel lost and have someone guiding them. A guide for me would’ve been extremely helpful so I try to be that same thing.

Yo. Dude I've been watching ur shit for a while now, and I really like your content and I like a lot of the topics that you discuss. I relate to you in many ways and it's dope to see people like you jus speaking facts. I've even shared ur vids with my friends bcuz I think more people should hear about what u talk about. But yea 💪

My man Gerb, I am genuinely expecting an album with your music as many other subs.

Gerbert, you have great wit to go along with such a genuine perspective. I was initially hesitant, but I have become a fan and I thank you for your content. Liked and subscribed.

same stuff with female friendship I just realised that i was hanging out with guys more, because girls get very competitive and get distant when they get a bf. Some used me as a background bff to shine in front of a guy. Seeking platonic relationship with an opposite sex also didn't end well either as you probably know why Now I'm questioning if friendship is a myth, as the only friends I have are old friends who hang out with me only because of nostalgia

@kriszenn1125

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friendship and community is dying

i completely understand as a female tbh, im 19 and going to college for one semester made me rlly see that shit. truth be told i stay to myself and my best friend is a rare species thats been a ride or die for like 6 years, long distance, short distance, etc. saw this shit with my male friends who would cut us off for months and then saw my roommate try to tear me down in a sense to impress mfs i didnt even want, anything for attention. my college friends and roommates would push my boundaries with their hookups and disrespect me in the process, when ive been solid throughout. me and my roommate had a good relationship but the way she acted for these boys bro it really irritated the fuck out of me because she would consistently turn on me, disrespect me, my space, and time, or energy, really this put a major strain in our relationship and i couldnt deal. When i came home from college i felt a relief seeing the people i used to see because the fact that i grew up with them completely changed the way i viewed our friendships and relationships, i dont know how to explain it. those people are people i feel more vulnerable around because they have seen me in every phase idk. EVERYONES down bad tbh its a epidemic in our generation istg. Im pretty much in the same situation as you, went to college, had to leave, cant find a community. tbh i dont even know where to start. I dont even need the romantic attachments i need the sense of brotherhood and sisterhood i felt back as a kid. its crazy. hs sucked tbh and college was worse imo, partly self made tho but without my current best friend im really alone for real its weird i dont know.

One of the realest talks I’ve heard in awhile. We was Kangs but are still blessed beyond belief.

Gerby with the heat as always

Im glad to finally see someone who is also introspective and analytical. I feel like people nowadays are doughy and blindly follow along what society tells us. Some people arent this opinionated. They dont care enough to talk about topics like this.

that whole "highschool pill" thing is so real it hurts, i got through most of my highschool years being a loner and feeling tired and anxious, i wouldnt call myself "depressed" because it wasnt actually diagnosed with that, it wasnt until very early this year til i decided to hit the gym and become confident. I wonder how things wouldve turned out if i had this same mindset back in the day, because hookups with girls i barely know can get really boring tbh

Chilling with Gerby

You just dropped a serious banger in that first minute