This is the ultimate trap of thinking. I always think that if I get a gf I will be happier and it will fix all of my problems. All of my bad relationships began in this way where I thought I wasn't enough and I needed someone to complete me. The truth is that if you stick to your routine and meaningful work (career or symbolical work on the self) then you would feel complete and only find women as beautiful extensions of your happiness and truly learn to love. Because love isn't needing someone. True love is selfless.

@boxkutta

Жыл бұрын

correct. people always chase after things because they assume it’s the cure to their problems. relationships, money, material things ect. filling the holes in women will never fill the hole in your soul, but maybe just maybe loving who you are, what you do, and who you will become just might help it close over.

@randomthingsfallfromthesky7614

Жыл бұрын

"Because love isn't needing someone. True love is selfless." Absolute banger

@wtfimcrying

Жыл бұрын

idk how you people get into this thought process. if you REQUIRE someone else's validation to be happy because your own validation means nothing to you because feel worthless. that is so naturally just an unstable, toxic relationship waiting to happen.

@AdrianskiASMR

Жыл бұрын

@@wtfimcrying I agree, that's what I'm saying. It's still where the mind naturally wanders to though, in my experience. It's a deceitful thought process. I think you could benefit from building some empathy. People struggle with tons of issues like lack of validation and I'm sure you have your own imperfections. We're here to learn and be mindful of these cognitive tricks that our minds play.

@wtfimcrying

Жыл бұрын

@@AdrianskiASMR yup, just wanted to put it out there. i dont know how people fall prey to this.

This happened to me too. Once you first start "winning" in life it feels great, but humans are quick to adapt and soon what you thought was impossible becomes mundane, and so what is your normal state of mind will return. If you have unresolved issues, they won't go be away just because you got a partner. You're still you. Nothing will fix that until you actually aim at that.

@KK001

Жыл бұрын

That's how working out and getting built worked for me. At first i felt like some specimen after had built some decent muscle and strength, but now after a year since i started lifting, i feel just barelly better than when i weighed 135lbs and being about the skinniest person around anywhere id go. Same thing with financials. I was trading the market and at first id be hyped about even making like 5 bucks in a day or so, then that got old so $50 felt amazing, but then after a while even $500 wasnt all that anymore. Similar thing with 9-5 jobs. At your first job youre hyped about making the smallest amount of cash and feel amazing about it. But then suddently youre making like 2,3,4k a month and wanna end it. Overall, i feel like im futher along obviously but still feel like a joke, pretty much. So its obviously worth doing all this shit but i guess it just takes a lot more than one would initially think. That one thing that was supposed to make you happy is now like 10 different things.

@lukethekuya

Жыл бұрын

Yes. Become better, and be content with what God has given you. Make it balanced.

@Engmelli

Жыл бұрын

literally came to the video to comment this thank you for articulating it so well

@Afflictamine

Жыл бұрын

@@KK001 we are in a spiritual war, even if you don't believe in anything 'spiritually' you have blood ties to your ancestors, if we do not honour them then we suffer spiritually, yet none of this can be explained purely in a mental or physical way alone, it all ties together, you just have to work out how

@elijahuteichtal1530

Жыл бұрын

That's what the buddhists define as dukkha. The baseline condition of existence. Look into it.

Good to see gerby still pumping out bangers

@Notorious-AP

Жыл бұрын

Bangers only

@micahwright5901

Жыл бұрын

This is his most technically impressive rap outing yet Edit: never mind, he didn’t come up with it 😂

@TheWhiteCompany-oj1yy

Жыл бұрын

OnG Fr deadass no cap lowkey STG 💀💀💀💀💀

@6incheslong

Жыл бұрын

Pumping out these nice loads

@yaboihero9610

Жыл бұрын

@@6incheslong wait what

Gerby should definitely make an album

@albertoriveramena2897

Жыл бұрын

Enter The Johnson"

@radbrad4678

Жыл бұрын

honestly

@kalmmonke5037

Жыл бұрын

pink season album part 2

@Catthepunk

Жыл бұрын

As long as it's not just about hum beating his weiner..

@100cents5

Жыл бұрын

Hate biggers

I had a girlfriend several years ago when I was 23. I felt like a king. I was on cloud nine and felt the happiest I had ever been. Getting a gf gives you a different kind of happy. But it only lasts for so long once the honeymoon phase rolls over. Then comes the arguments, the nagging, the fights, the crying, the happiness, then the cycle repeats all over. As the guy mentioned in his paragraph, he still felt like he's not at the place he wanted to be at. I was the exact same way. I got into a relationship while I was still in college. No job, no ambition, not much drive. Until wham, reality hit me, and she dumped my ass because I wasn't on my purpose. I wasn't financially stable either. After that whole thing, now wiser, at 28, I've learned to find happiness within myself, within God, nature, my surroundings. I have more hobbies that keep me busier than I can imagine. I have my money right. It was at that point I knew, no one person can make you happy forever. If you're never happy with yourself to begin with, someone else can't fill that happiness for you long term. Gratitude is key to ensure that happiness. Always be thankful for the things you have. Men who are younger than me, continue working on yourselves to the best possible person you can be, and then you will have the ability to weed out women who are not good for you, and attract the ones who value you forever.

@shadow50HD

Жыл бұрын

True shit. It would get to the point where you lie to them just to spend some time alone. I'd see my ex gf like once every week or two. She lived like 5 minutes away. Feel like a scumbag cuz of that tbh. I'm better off alone though.

@ytchannel1682

Жыл бұрын

As a woman, I found that this advice resonated with me as well when it comes to relationships. you're right, no one can make you feel complete but yourself, all of your happiness and self satisfaction has to first come from within. Thank you for the wise words, wishing you the best on your journey ❤

@bironjames9948

Жыл бұрын

No truer words my friend

@mezolite

Жыл бұрын

had a similar relationship and it got to a point where I even lied I got covid on a 15-day vacation just so a could be alone

@mariomaster646

Жыл бұрын

Sucks when you don’t even have a car dude, might as well forget about even trying to date. Uber fees are too much and sometimes you might want to go wherever, whenever. Not to mention if you still live at home. I have a job but I’m supporting a parent so all my money isn’t going where it’ll help me advance. So it’s either I get a new job or find a better way to make money. Until then it just feels like my life is frozen outside of random hook ups.. but those aren’t nearly as fulfilling or worth it than an actual relationship. Just broke up with my girl yesterday and cut all contact, but being alone again makes me remember more what I truly want for myself. I know being alone is something to be comfortable with, but I do like companionship. Just another uppercut from life I’ve learned to dodge next time

That Jordan Peterson impression was spot on, more of that please

@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485

Жыл бұрын

Hilarious

@deagor4578

Жыл бұрын

More impressions but not of that pathetic charlatan

@jacobreed1639

Жыл бұрын

#Salaciously

@pekkalaitinen8769

Жыл бұрын

Lobsteriously good

@chrishansen859

Жыл бұрын

@@pekkalaitinen8769 bloody good *cries*

To me it's not about the pursuit for a level of happiness, it's about contentment and reassurance from having someone who admires and gives a s**t about you. I don't want a girlfriend because I need a girl to solve my problems nor to be a my personal therapist, I want a girlfriend because I simply just want to be with someone who I can share my life with romantically, sexually, loyally, and a sense of companionship/cooperation. Having a girlfriend doesn't make you a winner, having a girlfriend just helps alleviates life's habit of throwing out never ending absurdity and having to go through it alone without any validation.

@Sage0016

Жыл бұрын

To much to ask these days but not impossible.

@ICons-tw3en

Жыл бұрын

Don’t give ur gf or anybody else the responsibility for ur happiness, it’s a trap.

@scary5455

Жыл бұрын

Mine

@ididntaskverified3663

10 ай бұрын

You don't deserve one, look into yourself

@ilovejapan717

8 ай бұрын

it will be an experience dont go too deep ab it

This channel is like watching a version of myself a few years younger slowly come to all the conclusions I made growing up in almost the exact same way, keep it up Gerby, only goes up from here man.

@J3RSPACE

Жыл бұрын

hello fellow clancy

@jimmybags6598

Жыл бұрын

Very condescending comment tbh

@JAKE-ng8yr

Жыл бұрын

@@chimpanzeeenjoyer4667 what changed? give me some hopium bro

@MITCHY_B_2003

Жыл бұрын

This is the exact same way I feel when I listen to this kids vids . He seems like the type of kid who just needs a cool older brother figure in his life to help boost up his confidence and help him to not overthink things so much . Listening to his rants really makes me feel like I owe it to my son to give him a brother .

@luisdawnfinder3188

Жыл бұрын

Does it. I related to your comment until the "up from here" part. I don't see how honestly

Dont hold yourself back Gerby. All of these people come to watch because you have a real talent for wording things, pointing things out and connecting them clearly. You made me think about stuff today that I should have got to earlier. Thank you Boss

@trueromani7262

Жыл бұрын

i just come here for the beats

@Poetry4Peace

Жыл бұрын

He's great

@FakeAndTrolled

Жыл бұрын

Gerby has a better understanding of the world than these red-pill grifters twice his age.

@sotiriou616

Жыл бұрын

ΕΥ Βο0ςς

@DrsJacksonn

Жыл бұрын

Agreed, this kid has a gift.

I think having atleast your first proper relationship will make you happy. Not because you need the gf, but rather the validation that you can "pull" someone. Its mostly about confidence, if youre solely sad because you dont feel attractive/loved/respected(in that way) it may help. It really depends on your view and where you are, im still sad at times, especially when im on a streak where i dont feel loved or respected again, but due to my experience its way much less and short lived.

@CQchaos7474

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. The smallest amount of intimacy would do wonders for my mental health.

@turna1216

Жыл бұрын

@@CQchaos7474I’m gonna give my perspective on this. I wake up everyday wanting to level up in business, hit the gym hard and complete some other things like reading and meditating. Having a girl would be nice, but only in the moments where I’m not focused on my personal goals, which is not a lot. This sounds like some Hamza advice, but you should totally be pre occupied by your own goals that only include your succes. If you don’t know what that is, or you only think “I want to be popular and have a girlfriend”, I think you have some more self searching to do. This is just my perspective though. I don’t suffer from the problems of the guy who sent the message, and I don’t even interact with girls a lot tbh. I just genuinely care more about leveling myself up. PS: My self improvement journey started with wanting to be a “cooler guy” with more female attention. Later I found out that I value other things way more. Not cut and dry advice, just a perspective from another guy.

@greeneggsandhamsamiam6154

Жыл бұрын

Having your first relationship in school would also help you figure out what kind of woman you do and don't want better by the time you have to start being an adult

@xxczerxx

Жыл бұрын

If you're seriously trying to prove something to yourself, just get your shit together and do it. Make yourself look nice, and approach girls in the street. The first 10, 20 might be awful and embarrassing but you'll get good, and a girl will give you her number. I'm pretty sure this is the law of averages, but 1 out of every 20 girls will find it incredibly powerful and romantic....guys never do it in 2023. Invite her out for drinks and have fun, let go of whatever bullshit you have going on. Once you realise you can do it you will learn what's most important in life. I literally got into my first proper relationship because I just said "fuck this" thinking someone would just magically fall in love with me and just started talking to random women. I stayed with her for about 5 months after making sure I got to know her well enough to know it wasn't going anywhere.

@MetalGear0987

Жыл бұрын

@@turna1216 Most people who say that tend to say it because it obviously sounds like a good thing. But in reality? Most people who say that either are influencer/youtuber/gurus who say it for attention and provide a positive image(just see the liver king ) but ultimately just do it for fame. Its the same reverse psychology thing. Sure you can have self improvement, but nobody believes you in this monk like lifestyle. This gives me bateman routine vibes.

The damage caused from years of lonliness and isolation can't be undone

@mattycamb2104

Жыл бұрын

Brutal

@someone-ji2zb

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. 35 and the greatest problem I have faced was the huge hit to my motivation to do anything. My goal was always to get married and have kids, but that is slowly fading away as the years roll by. My advice to all younger adults would be to work towards building a strong relationship earlier rather than later. If you wait too long, your mind may not be able to recover (there is a reason to many men under 40 are killing themselves).

@ahmedalgaml991

Жыл бұрын

It can be undone

@someone-ji2zb

Жыл бұрын

@@ahmedalgaml991 No it can't. Lost years wallowing in darkness cannot be recovered. You can simply do things later that you failed to do previously, but the peak years for our learning capabilities are where most men are lonely and isolated right now.

@Aaron-il9dz

Жыл бұрын

Exactly what I fear..😔

To all young lads out there desperate and lonely, getting with a narcissist cute girl will not make you happy, work on yourself and the right one will come

That "just go to the gym, bro" segment hits hard

@f78293

Жыл бұрын

The gym is one of the only things I like doing. I don't even want to deal with anyone else I just want to do my thing and go to the gym on my own schedule, sometimes play a few video games on the weekends with the boys. That's it.

@mikaeltsimbidakis6980

Жыл бұрын

@@f78293 sounds not so bad

@sonder446

Ай бұрын

@@f78293 Yeah problem is that mood wont last forever

I workout everyday, work from home, do skin care, practice nofap (50 day streak at the moment), help my parents with their everyday stuff and all, go out to the park with my friends in the evening. My peers compliment on my physique sometimes but still all of this feels not enough. Never had a connection with any girl throughout my existence of 23 years, never felt like I was loved by the opposite gender. I don't want it to fix anything but to fill the void I have in my life. I am a happy person, I just feel empty.

I think a relationship is completely pointless if you're not happy inwards. People who often depend on other's for their happiness, are often the ones that get's hurt the hardest. If that makes any sense. I guess in this case, the guy just simply doesn't want to put his past in the 'past'. A change of environment, people and mindset is extremely important, especially when you had only bad past experiences in your life. Moving away, meeting new people, and like gerbie mentioned, a positive outlook or mindset can be extremely valuable in this case

@RizZRizZ-

Жыл бұрын

„People who often depend on other's for their happiness, are often the ones that get's hurt the hardest. “ Can confirm, met the love of my life and when she broke up with me it hurt so bad. I never felt love from my mom in my childhood, so I have this insecurity that nobody loves me and when my ex gave me her love I became addicted to her, literally…

@kubasniak

Жыл бұрын

I'm somewhat relationship phobic. I feel constrained by romantic relationships because at the end of the day I feel most comfortable by myself. People are also disappointing most of the time in the end so it feels like a waste of time to even invest myself nor want to.

@zoriamm5064

Жыл бұрын

I can agree I feel like for me I depend on happiness on other people myself I did was in a relationship but i when that person left I got depressed the same thing over and over and I miss that person but I guess cause I’m not loving myself and probably don’t need any relationship at this moment because I depend happiness on other people

@iiCounted-op5jx

Жыл бұрын

@@kubasniak SAME here dude, I relate to your comment word for word, I'm trying to figure out if this mindset will be toxic for me though

Millennial here, but: Idk, my gf of 4 years was amazing. I was 100% objectively happier than I ever was or have been. Context however is that I already had a decent job, had my own place, my friends, hobbies, worked out, and Ok money. So I was pretty established, but lonely. But once I found my gf, I literally recall what I've been calling the moment where I was the happiest in my life: When we moved in together, and we had coffee together on the balcony of our apartment for the first morning living together. Leaning against the railing, leaning against each other as well, and the 2 cats just sitting by our feet. It was this out of body moment where I realized "this is the happiest day of my life so far". And I was immensely happy to be with her. But shit fell apart in May/June this year. Found out she cheated on me and she wanted to leave. I gave her my world. Bought a house for us, I supported her through her master's degree and her new job, and I couldn't keep my hands off her. But she had a myriad of mental health issues that she struggled to cope with, was an alcoholic, and secretly self loathed. She said I did nothing wrong, and I was too good for her... Even now, we sometimes interact because her damn mail still comes to my house, and I ask her "Are you even happier without me?", and she says "in the short term right now, no". She broke it off with the chucklefuck she cheated with in a matter of weeks, effectively nuking our 4 year committed relationship for some drunk fling that had no potential longterm at all. Something she KNEW had no potential longterm (she told me this). She takes full responsibility, but even still, showed no interest in wanting to fix anything. The rug was pulled out from my feet. From my POV the relationship was amazing for 99% of its duration. She even said things were great until about Feb this year. But she never told me what bothered her, she hid so much. I just hope to find someone like her again, who I can trust.... If I can ever trust. I've been cheated on now by 2 different relationships in the span of less than 6 years. These women man... It's like I'm afraid to even date an attractive girl for fear that she'll "trade up", if even for just a fling.

@Belmont1714

10 ай бұрын

I'm sorry to hear what you've gone through. You seem like a genuine person. It's hard to recover from being stabbed in the back from someone you trusted and loved. But I don't think you should look for a girl like her again. I have saying that keeps me away from women or people like her. It's : I have met you a thousand times before already. It simply means that the girl I meet has the same personality, moral, views and avocations as other people I've met before her. There is nothing different, just looks and body structure. Meeting the right woman, she should be different from all the others you've met - including the recent one. So please, I can't tell you what to do in life but just ask yourself - have you met her before? You'll avoid bad women, just be aware and be wise. I got hurt by a girl that never surprised me by intelligence, sense of humor nor wisdom. I got stabbed in the back by someone whom I could easily replace. I only put up with it because I was lonely. Peace🙏

We are born to survive, not be happy

I honestly feel like being with a woman while still having all these mental issues just makes it worse than being lonesome. Because you have to put up this front that you are okay, knowing as soon as you start talking about your problems and the things you battle with, they’re going to lose interest.

@MovingToUSSA

Жыл бұрын

100% fact! No one need a sensitive guy with problems. Everybody needs "perfect one who's going to solve her problems".

@chimpanzeeenjoyer4667

Жыл бұрын

Not sure if you like hamza but he talked about this, he says you should never be emotion with your girl. Only be emotional with your ‘chosen brother’.

@chimpanzeeenjoyer4667

Жыл бұрын

Also actively practicing stoicism like a religion and reading stuff like Marcus arelius has improved my mental health literally tenfold

@rice_rice_baby

Жыл бұрын

@@chimpanzeeenjoyer4667 I read Meditations earlier this year - probably the most impactful book I've ever read in my entire life (and I read quite a bit). His philosophy completely changed how I see both myself and other people, made me a much more gracious and forgiving person, gave me new thought patterns/exercises to combat depression and anxiety. Glad to see others mentioning him!

@chimpanzeeenjoyer4667

Жыл бұрын

@@rice_rice_baby 100 percent man, it’s a book that I will always keep with me. I’m not even halfway through it but it has already single handedly changed my life more than any self help book or KZread video has. I think that if everyone read it and tried to implement his principles into their lives then the world would be a better place.

When you're an incel and you finally get a girlfriend. You'll constantly feel inadequate...Like an imposter...like at any moment she'll quit you...She makes you so happy and she could take it away...its horrible. Hypergamy will make you feel like you constantly need to be better than who you are. Even though you got your girlfriend, it still feels like you are alone. Just thinking about it makes me sad...

@Cbd_7ohm

Жыл бұрын

The solution(or one of them) is to not give a shit. You have to truly not care. Many aren't capable.

@vrildom

Жыл бұрын

Brutal

@iiCounted-op5jx

Жыл бұрын

so that means no matter how many relationships I have I'm going to be lonely forever?? damnn that's a hard brutal fact to swallow 💯😔

@antonioarmando1938

6 ай бұрын

@@iiCounted-op5jx Or you master yourself. Look up Uberman concept. Start semen retention.

@mateuszsmagacz8332

5 ай бұрын

Real

I have always been someone who felt anxious, uncomfortable and just generally an over-thinker. But lately, I’ve been feeling at peace, I think it’s mainly because I have realised that life shouldn’t be taken that seriously; yes, you should have goals, ambitions, challenge yourself and always strive for better. But always remember, it’s not that deep- if you fail, you ‘don’t make it’ etc it doesn’t really matter because 100 years from now there will be NO TRACE of YOU. Accepting that life is unfair, some have natural advantages and will always be ‘better than us’ but it shouldn’t really matter because at the end everyone has something ‘missing’ within themselves. Maybe I’m just waffling but I guess it has also got to do with the fact that I’m Muslim and I wholeheartedly believe that life is just a little journey with a set of challenges, from God we come and to God we belong, I know that I can always rely on God and that at the end it’s all going to be okay, the world and its external affairs are just an utter chaos that we will all eventually leave behind.

@kubasniak

Жыл бұрын

wow I hope the god cope helps you. I used to believe and was brought up catholic but was black pilled at around 14 when I started asking questions. There is no god. All gods are sad lies and I hate being lied to.

@samreen3881

Жыл бұрын

@@kubasniak try looking into it, you’ll find your answers!

@vonbraunprimarch

Жыл бұрын

Im still battling with the same thing, anxiety and thinking there's no hope, nothing gives me joy anymore.

@samreen3881

Жыл бұрын

@@vonbraunprimarch have you ever tried looking internally? Asking yourself what YOU truly want? If the answer you get is ‘nothing’ then maybe you should start searching. Starting out with a good run or workout, a cold shower and eating clean would help you get some clarity- then think about a couple of small things you would like to achieve, start working on them and the rest will follow!

@zoriamm5064

Жыл бұрын

@@vonbraunprimarch same here I feel like I have no hope not worthy in this world I’m a young adult and depression is worse than when I was kid unless I didn’t have depression as a kid it just different when I got older

I'm 27 and i've already spent so much time alone over the last 5 or so years that even if i get a girlfriend i can't imagine actually sharing a living space with one.

@DeusEx328

Жыл бұрын

Same

@hugoallard5467

Жыл бұрын

Relationships are not just pleasure but also work, listen to old ass couples say it

@someone-ji2zb

Жыл бұрын

Gets worse at 35. Becomes borderline impossible.

@GONINSANE

Жыл бұрын

Same. 25 and haven't had a gf in 6 years. There's a wanting for it, but i cant imagine actually doing relationship stuff

@Big_talks.

Жыл бұрын

@@GONINSANEthe urge will always be there but if you get one you’ll want to get rid of her 😂

(currently in a 2+ year relationship) i’ve realized that happiness is a feeling, not an atmospheric realm that both parties can “live” in. most of the time, the “noise, chattering or voices” get louder or lower depending on situations, they can be very convincing and sound almost familiar, my gf doesn’t even know that in the darkest reaches of my psyche, im fighting in the longest and most exhausting fight of my life (intrusive thoughts vs. rational thinking and logic) but, if it wasnt for her, ive would’ve lost this fight years ago.

@JAKE-ng8yr

Жыл бұрын

where did u meet her?

Happiness is temporary, if it wasn’t it wouldn’t be worth trying to get.

A relationship with the right person you will be happier it's literally in our genetics humans are social creatures, from my experience though most relationships are temporary you gotta be able to be happy without someone or else you will end up in the most miserable depression you will ever be in.

@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485

Жыл бұрын

Im 41, I’ve had two in my life that I had good times with but ultimately those times became fewer and fewer. If you set strong boundaries that helps but I still don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like long term. Social media (Facebook) and the smartphone. The decline in my marriage and I think female dissatisfaction in general picked up at this time. Everyone comparing each other than being grateful for what you have is just my observation.

@chrishansen7004

Жыл бұрын

@@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485 I agree, social media and media in general has taught us that there's always something or someone better too chase instead of learning to be happy with what we have. I can see alot of my generation being extremely depressed once we get into our 30's just from media brainwashing and the reality of the world kicks in, I've never really been a religious person but I've had a bit of a spiritual awakening and I see the devil's influence everywhere

@corbanjohnson8694

Жыл бұрын

@@chrishansen7004 based.

@ColemanGlascock

Жыл бұрын

@@chrishansen7004 one of my people 🤝

@leveledfeats

Жыл бұрын

Went into many situations with the wrong type of girl for me. Can confirm, the wrong one can make your life an even more living hell

I was girlfriendless for a long time. Wasn’t depressed about it or anything, just wished to have one you know. Felt like I was missing out on some key experiences as a human. Now that I got one, and experienced the important stuff, I can tell you that it is nice, but it doesn’t change much in regards to anything else you got going on. If you’re unhappy with other things in your life you will continue to be unhappy in those things Commented before watching, now that I have I’ve just verbatim said what was said in the video

@JAKE-ng8yr

Жыл бұрын

yeah this. I was always a loner 0 friends gf and anything. I got a gf, had sex, actually went with someone outside etc. been on like 3 parties, once with her friends on some trip. Cool. But now that I experienced those basic things, I am miserable again TBH I would actually be much happier with a group of 3-4 great friends than with a gf without friends unless she was a really great one. I never had IRL friends

@cazimim3375

Жыл бұрын

@@JAKE-ng8yr It's not going to be easy... the average man doesn't have a semblance of the concept of true friendship

The part where you talked about some men today growing so accustomed to being alone that they essentially end up welcoming solitude and finding that they are most comfortable alone, is exactly what I'm going through. The expectations that women [as a collective] in my age group (I'm 22) place on men have created standards that are nigh impossible to meet. At least that's what it feels like these days. If you aren't the cream of the crop, making 100K a year with an instagram gym bro body and Robert Pattinson tier attractiveness to boot, then you'll struggle. I'm not trying to sound like an incel, I know on an individual level there are very lovely, down to earth women out there but I'm at a point now where I'm fairly content being alone and don't feel the need to give myself and my time to someone else when it isn't guaranteed it'll work out. Dating in this day and age is such a mixed bag so rather than throw myself to the wolves, risking damaging my self esteem when it's finally at a point where I don't self deprecate everyday due to genuinely hating myself, I'd rather just stay alone. Focus on my hobbies, getting my life in order academically, financially, mentally, emotionally and physically. Maybe at some point I'll try to date but sometimes ignorance really is bliss. Maybe I'm better off not knowing what it's like to be with someone?

@holeefuk8505

Жыл бұрын

Man it's a struggle at times. Wondering if its best to just leave those stones unturned & just working the cards you're dealt. Im over a decade you're senior & recently i've been having a hard time of it after so many years alone. I find my solitude interrupted more frequently by feelings of loneliness which usually subside, but im not sure if its some deeper yearning from within that needs to be satisfied.

@mitsukami_FM

Жыл бұрын

@Ho Lee Fuk Humans are social creatures after all. It's natural to feel lonely at times even if you typically don't mind being alone and I think that has to do with how _alone_ one truly is. I'm still in college and because of personal circumstances and my life being what it is, I live at home. I don't mind it though. I'm pretty close to my immediate family. I can be alone in my room working on stuff or enjoying my leisure time while knowing I'm not _truly_ alone. But, I'd imagine that if I were like you who I'm guessing lives alone in your own home/apartment, coming back from work everyday to nothing but yourself, being _genuinely_ alone, it would grow to be difficult after a while. I do think that depending on the person some stones are best left unturned but if loneliness truly bothers you, then I guess all you can do is try your best to get out there and find social activities you can immerse yourself in. I dunno anything about dating, but I'd imagine at your age if you've got your life all figured out and you're doing alright for yourself, I feel like, given the differences in maturity between women in my age group and yours, at least you can expect to at some point meet a potential partner that is in the same boat and trying to settle down rather than play games. Idk. I believe in you though, man. Being brothers in solitude is nice and all but who wants to die alone, right?

@holeefuk8505

Жыл бұрын

@@mitsukami_FM $ wise im doing great technically working from home, best shape physically in life & have decent amount of things to fill my days with & been living the MGTOW lifestyle for better part of a decade but this year something in me changed & i cant quite put my finger on it. As for partners, not sure if you got it right that looking within my age group will work, considering all the mental & emotional baggage that comes with women still "Available" my age. Technically im right at my midlife, so even if i found a partner tomorrow i will still have been alone longer than i wouldn't. Some of my friends have been with their high school sweethearts since 15, so @ 35 they've been with someone for longer than they haven't which means its all they know really, which also skews their perceptions. How do you even deal with being alone if one is conditioned in that way? A divorce would likely drive these men to checking out if their identity is tied up with being coupled. You're still in college living with the parents so you're still fresh outta HS/forced to interact with others in college & have family around you. You may have alot to figure out once you're out & a decade into you're working life. Either way hope it works out for you & you find a way to live with solitude if that's the path you choose. Dying alone isnt really the problem, as much as dying peacefully after living a peaceful life (Preferable to living a tumultuous life with a terrible partner to the end lol)

@jitkab.5949

Жыл бұрын

It is really not true that women only want 'the cream of the crop'! If you are a kind human being, happy and fulfilled with your life as it is it will show through (I am also 22 but a woman)! You don't need money, if I see that you have (some) ambitions, goals (not even monetary) or hobbies in life then I am not worried about that. I dont think money or having a gym bro body is on anyone's mind in my friend group of women. Also, when you are dating isn't it also about learning about people & yourself? Every person I dated has taught me new perspectives in life (for which I am grateful even if we didn't work out). If I can learn new things about myself through learning about the lives of others (on dates but also in general) then the getting into a relationship is not even the primary goal anymore. I think viewing dating like this also takes some pressure off. Rejection is not about you not being good enough but rather that you two are not a good fit, and that's okay. I am sure there are some genuinely shitty people out there, so if you realise that it is actually a kind of shitty person then I don't think there's a reason to take it personally what they say (and why would you even want to be with them in the first place?). Wishing you the best!

@mitsukami_FM

Жыл бұрын

@Jitka B. Thank you for your reply. Like I said in my original post it just _feels_ like I need to be top of the line in order to compete but honestly, that may just be my own insecurities speaking. I am (unfortunately) working retail to save up money while living at home as I attend college in hopes of achieving of a Bachelors in my desired field of study. Maybe beyond that but I dunno. I don't have my own place yet obviously and due to personal circumstances I've not yet learned to drive and so on. I do have goals, ambitions for the future and am doing my best to work toward achieve them. I feel like I have fairly decent hobbies (imo) that I indulge in, but it just feels like where I am at now in life would be very unappealing to a potential partner and I wouldn't blame them for thinking so. I'm not necessarily discontent with my life as it is. I help my ma out as much as I can, I'm focused on my studies and work while still trying to make sure I've got time for my mental/emotional and physical health, but I feel like if I were trying to get into a relationship I'd be punching above my weight class due to what I can currently offer. However, the part in which you spoke about not taking rejection as an issue of "not being enough" but rather being incompatible with someone, helps me a lot as I honestly don't take rejection well at all. Not in the sense of becoming some edgy, brooding mess but I internalize it, blaming myself alone for the reason I was rejected. I've never asked a woman out, but even when I've split up with friends I always took it to heart and closed myself off that much more, thinking I was the reason it didn't work out. But, in a romantic sense, I realize now that just because we can ask someone out/confess our feelings for them doesn't mean it's automatically going to work out. Sometimes people are like building blocks. A circular structure isn't going to fit into a square shaped hole, and that's okay. Just gotta find where I fit, when I'm ready of course. Thanks again for your reply :,)

I'll keep this short: the only 2 things I've found to move my emotional state in a way that isn't completely short-term is 1. Exercising and being in excellent physical shape 2. Music. Playing, transcribing, learning, listening. All of it. Everything else in life is supplementary and just kinda lives on the fringe of those two things. The former is maybe a bit narcissistic, but there is something inmate biologically that feels great about your body being in a good state. I feel like you could replace no. 2 with something you specifically like, but it probably should be something reciprocal and discipline-based, and not purely hedonistic like videogames, drugs, alcohol (which I all like).

These recent freestyles have gotten surprisingly good! Favorite so far was last videos: "The Reaper's comin', Living in this world, and you ain't doing nothing?" 🔥🔥🔥🔥

"It's a Nietzschien archetype to saliciously bust a load" 😂😂😂 comedy gold. As a guy who was never anything special back in school, I got together with a girl at the end of high school and have been in a relationship for about 10 years, and I also have a close-knit tight friend group. There's a lot to unpack, but to summarise my perspective on this topic, these things can enhance your life, I feel happy and secure in my relationships, however, they don't fix your problems, ultimately you still have to face your demons. Being happy and secure in your relationships doesn't make you happy and secure in yourself, so whether you're in a relationship or not, the best thing you can do for yourself is try to get your sh¡t in order. How? Idk, still working on that myself, that's for you to figure out. Peace ✌️

I like to think that once I'm happy, I'll get a girlfriend, not the other way around.

@NotFine

2 ай бұрын

Yeah, I can't handle another person while vehemently hating myself

I like the fact that Gerby is quite thoughtful for his age and he doesn't make content for some cheap views, but rather talks about the real problems in society.

@ben9262

Жыл бұрын

How old is he

@musclemommyenjoyer

Жыл бұрын

@@ben9262 18 I think, at least he said it in a video before but maybe he could be 19 by now idk

@chlorine--17

Жыл бұрын

@@musclemommyenjoyer i think he turned 20 this year (said on main channel he was born in 2003)

@musclemommyenjoyer

Жыл бұрын

@@chlorine--17 cool thx

Thanks for covering this , makes me feel like I’m not the only one struggling with these same problems

Right on. I was literally just thinking about this topic a couple minutes ago. Thank you Gerby. 🙏

I thought that the thing I was missing in my life was a girlfriend. I got one, she was amazing. Pretty much all I ever could've wished for. I ended things because I was still missing something in my life and it wasn't her. It gave me a new perspective on being "lonely". I wasn't actually missing anything in my life. The experience gave me exactly what I needed to be contempt with my current situation in life. I couldn't be happier right now :)

@PedroHenrique-ki7oe

Жыл бұрын

damn... that's amazing, may you stay happy forever man, life has it's ups and downs but that won't be a problem

You will be happier and a lot more confident, but it obviously won't solve most of the problems you had before.

I’m glad to have found this channel. These are conversations that I need to have with myself. At this point I don’t feel like it’s worth getting into a relationship because I don’t feel like I add anything, it’s even hard for me to keep a friendship let alone a relationship. It’s also very frustrating knowing that my time for change is numbered and will soon remain alone and unable to create relationships of any kind. I’m not even completely sure how to facilitate change, every time I try and create friendships I feel a lot lonelier than I am without friends.

@JAKE-ng8yr

Жыл бұрын

@kotik _ legit same

Squatting 300 kg will make me happy

@hogan4670

Жыл бұрын

Doing BJJ will make you happy

Gerby, even though you said that giving advice feels cringe to you, it helps man. Listening to someone who I feel is like minded and went through the trials and tribulations of life. All these other self improvement KZreadrs feel artificial, but you seem like a genuine young man just trying to find their way. Idk what my point is anymore but I just want to say that I truly think you are the best person on this site when it comes to self improvement because you’re still learning and you’re not pretending like you have all the answers. Thank you gerby for making this channel, I’m glad I stumbled upon your videos.

@joonjonjew

Жыл бұрын

Nigga fr

Gerby's vids are so timely man. I was just contemplating about this earlier

Gerby should look into the digital Anima. This was a theory created by MemeAnalysis on YT merging the internet’s affect on young men and the Anima developing in young men. Basically, when men are young and online, playing games, watching shows, they form the perfect ideal feminine image based on fictional realities and characters instead of what used to be “the girl next door” or who you grew up around. This means their new ideals and desires become almost impossible. Even when a younger guy gets lucky with how in favor online dating is for women because of essentially modern polygamy (all polygamous societies are like this, top 80% women go for top 10% men etc.), most will probably find themselves still yearning and desiring an ideal female type that will never exist and won’t ever be satisfied.

I honestly don’t know how I found your channel, but I’m grateful that I did! I appreciate being able to see the unique struggles for zoomers from a guy’s perspective. You really seem to have mastered the art of being simultaneously entertaining and informative. Keep up the good work!

Spitting straight facts. Personally I'm gonna give some hope and say that getting a group of close boys like the clàssic brotherhood would solve more problems then a girl. My father said girls come and go. Boys can last forever then again in this period of history finding even that can be very hard. I haven't found that brotherhood yet but I know from some experiences in the past those memories last a long time.

@micahwright5901

Жыл бұрын

Don’t rely on others, even a strong group of guys. Relationships are about love and love is about giving without losing yourself in the process. Don’t seek community for you. Seek those who need you.

@wtfimcrying

Жыл бұрын

just find people you fuck with and stick to them. but just remember relationships are meant to be mutual. your boys wont solve anything for you like a quarter you put in the machine and solutions come out.

@JAKE-ng8yr

Жыл бұрын

but where to find them

@JAKE-ng8yr

Жыл бұрын

@@wtfimcrying i dont vibe with anyone :( everyone is a braindead normie (yeah i know how it sounds, makes me edgy etc. but im for real), where to find people like me?

@wtfimcrying

Жыл бұрын

@@JAKE-ng8yr if you feel the need to call everyone you meet a braindead normie, its probably a personal issue. You should sort yourself out and find out why you are so bitter towards other people (which likely arent very different from you) before looking for relations.

Gerbert you have no idea what these videos mean to me. I know these arent the best times right now and I know you're just saying what's on your mind, but reassurance like this really does help bulid the future I feel like. Idk I'm addy'd out right now

@buddha508

Жыл бұрын

2023 our year brah

@RizZRizZ-

Жыл бұрын

Ayy fellow Chad is here

@joonjonjew

Жыл бұрын

Fr nigga

@shadow50HD

Жыл бұрын

lmao bro. But yeah. Very few spots in life or on the internet where you can find true things that aren't blatant "career politician" lies, or Joe Rogan grifts. Seek truth, not conformity through fear.

Honestly getting in a long-term relationship made all the weird intrusive thoughts go away. I'm not saying my life is perfect, but it definitely filled the void that was making me go schizo.

Each time gerbet uploads my day get a lil better

It's alright that you don't have the answers. I've always liked your channel because I had the feeling you were genuinely searching for the answers. You shouldn't feel like you need to know everything, nobody has it all right to begin with, and you don't need to pretend like you do. Merely listening and giving your opinion is enough. If it's an educated opinion even better, but really, it doesn't have to be as long as it's aimed towards helping. Maybe you feel obligated because of your reach, but man, it's perfectly normal to not feel qualified to answer. From what you said, sounds like you don't want to be a charlatan, pretending you have all the answers, selling courses and all that. You're humble enough to know you might not be right. I respect it. I'm very much the same. Keep on truckin' Gerby.

Best thing to find on KZread upon waking in the morning. Great job, Gerby! 💯💪🏼

@joonjonjew

Жыл бұрын

Nigga best

Gerbito always on time! Been thoughted of such question!

Don’t know if you‘ll see this Gerby but I’ve been binge watching your channel’s and this is probably the first time I’ve found someone that has the same mentality as me and I’m sure similar to many others as well. I hope both of your channel’s keep growing and help to inspire many other people

You’re a decent guy out of Generation Broccoli hair.

You're amazing man! Learned so much from you!

DONT.OVERTHINK.THINGS. thats my, almost-30 wisdom for you. dont think too hard. it feels right to dig in and find out WHY things arent great in life, but dont. Theres a bunch of much wiser men who died long ago and can still tell you the same thing, dont overthink. Put it away, then forget about it. Then once you realise you forgot, thats probably the right time to actually address the issue. Give your head the space it needs to decompress.

I think whats great about these videos is that whilst they can be relatable to various levels in part, they are more like a social commentary on the bleak outlook of the future for young people and it's nice to know other people can see through it

I have a girlfriend. Sometimes I think I’d be happier single. Not bc she’s not a supportive and wonderful woman, but because I think I’d focus on my self development, be more independent emotionally, and foster my interests more during my free time. See, a woman can never make you happy. You must find what makes you happy yourself

@vlogcity1111

Жыл бұрын

Connection is what is being human is all about

@turna1216

Жыл бұрын

I agree. I’m single, but everything I do on a daily basis aids in my self improvement journey, or just makes me feel at peace. I actually want to interact with girls more, but the hunger for my own journey is far greater.

@joonjonjew

Жыл бұрын

Breakup with her and youll be sad actually

@opencase9903

Жыл бұрын

@@joonjonjew No, I would be fine. I’m comfortable being single.

@Sage0016

Жыл бұрын

@@opencase9903 you will be sad bruh, if you have a genuinely good relationship not shallow ones then, grow with it. Be wise not cold. The idea of sigma will lead to downfall.

Gerbert your like a big brother man thanks for sharing your thougth on this topic really a eye opener.

Never stop making content king!

It’s weird because I spent all of last year in high school trying to get one and failing. But now girls are talking to me and I just don’t seem to care at all it feels so strange

@Dusterdimmu81

Жыл бұрын

When things become “normal” then nothing feels “special” or unique anymore.

I'm 22 and a virgin but It is mostly my fault, not women's. I have basically decided to not really bother with a girl, until I have my shite more in order. I agree with everything you said here, Gerby. Good video.

@joonjonjew

Жыл бұрын

Nigga

@bluelightmoon777

Жыл бұрын

Being a virgin in todays time is something to be proud of imo

@fjallaxd7355

Жыл бұрын

@@bluelightmoon777 TY king

@badchinchila9799

Жыл бұрын

Literally me, also think the same way. We have the full lust control Stat maxed out. Cheers mate, bet we would be pals 🍻

@fjallaxd7355

Жыл бұрын

@@badchinchila9799 Possibly yeah.

This cured my depression and feeling down. NEVER STOP DOING THIS.

ive been in like 7 relationships over the past 5-6 years. some for a few months one for a year and one for 3. i always get incredibly depressed in relationships, and now that I have been single for a few months, I do not plan on getting back into a relationship for a good long while. Gents, relationships can be wonderful, but please learn to enjoy being single

@stevencamacho6474

Жыл бұрын

I might add, my point is not that women suck. My point is that my crippling porn addiction has been the cause of my past two relationships to fail, one of which was with a truly wonderful girl who had the same values as I, and was incredibly hot. My point is that until you become the best man you can possibly be, a girl will not fix you.

@joonjonjew

Жыл бұрын

Nigga steven

@someone-ji2zb

Жыл бұрын

Well getting to 35 and never even so much as hugged a woman will destroy a man's mind. I can attest to that. Learning to be content single only goes so far when the goal was to raise a family... well that goal is fading.

@stevencamacho6474

Жыл бұрын

@someone667 i feel for you. i would also recommend to not lose hope. my uncle was like 45 when he got his first girlfriend and now they are married with 2 beautiful children. hes autistic and not very attractive but he still made it happen.

@Ronin.97

Жыл бұрын

@@stevencamacho6474 if you don't mind me asking how exactly did the porn addiction effect the relationships

I'm currently in secondary school, or what Americans call high school, and even at our age things are getting bleak. You know what a relationship in secondary school is? Snapchat. You message someone for several hours a day, feel a warm fuzzy feeling in your soul and can barely exchange a few words with them when (or if) you do meet up in person. Of course having a genuine relationship is WAY different to a high school one, where the only redeeming quality of having a GF is to brag about having a GF to your peers, but since we're growing up in a generation where online dating is the new norm even for children and teenagers we wont know any other way to date or to love. Good luck and have fun having a stable family unit after such a youth. TLDR: Love is becoming more and more unattainable for pretty much all age groups

@matty_daddy

Жыл бұрын

Yeah. A huge amount of girls I know for some reason spend most of their time texting guys on Snapchat, for validation. There’s a girl I talk to at school and she’s nice, but shy, she’s funny but I always have to initiate the conversation. Turns out she’s one of those Snapchat girls, and is scared to talk to guys in real life. Why would I waste time texting someone on Snapchat just for them to act weird in person

@Grow333

Жыл бұрын

@@matty_daddy That's exactly it! I expected myself to be pretty shy around whatever girl i happen to like at the time, but it turns out it was the opposite: she wouldnt breathe a word to me and I'd be the one starting and trying (poorly enough) to continue the conversation. What a world

@matty_daddy

Жыл бұрын

@@Grow333 it’s unfortunate. I think because I’m in high school a lot of girls my age are insecure so they prefer to hide behind their phone. That way they can take pretty photos and spend their time doing their hair and makeup, and even add a filter. In real life they won’t look as good as online and they realise they need to put effort to make the conversation flow. So they just go back to Snapchat. It’s unfortunate because this girl is really pretty and cool, but because of her insecure self she prefers to talk on Snapchat even if theirs no connection. I deleted Snapchat years ago because of how many girls are like her. They make it their whole personality to get a high score on it

@Grow333

Жыл бұрын

@@matty_daddy In a depressing way it makes sense. Why should you put in more effort into a proper conversation if you can just speak your mind on Snapchat? And yet it sucks because social media has sped everything up; I know girls and guys at my school that change partners monthly. Can you even call it love at that point? Just text 7 different guys on Snapchat, ones of thems gonna reply. Why even bother?

@tylerprudhomme

Жыл бұрын

you're very articulate and perceptive for your age. that can be isolating and alienating in itself

your jordan Peterson impressions are hilarious 😂 I hope you do more in the future.

Being alone is definitely my natural state at this point

Cope - getting a gf will literally fix all my issues

@TwistedLullabies

Жыл бұрын

How do you know if you've never had one

@WivernFX

Жыл бұрын

@@TwistedLullabies I had a girlfriend in Animal Crossing when I was 13. It was the best time of my life.

@ACrownofFlowers

Жыл бұрын

@@WivernFX based

I feel like people who say a gf won't make others happy is like billionaires saying money isn't everything or players saying sex isn't that great: It's only people who got to experience it that can say that, but they seem to forget what true loneliness is actually like. Sure, a gf won't make your life perfect but it's a hell of a lot better than being lonely all the time, at least that's what I think

@ACrownofFlowers

Жыл бұрын

I think I'm actually one of those people who has had sex and actually doesn't think that way. Like yeah, it probably won't make you happy in the long run unless you can weather the challenges that come with it.

@Big_talks.

Жыл бұрын

Money won’t make you happy if you living in a mental hell but sure it will enhance you’re life and sex won’t make you happy just getting the nut off and done

@Big_talks.

Жыл бұрын

Girlfriend damn sure won’t make you happy if you can’t enjoy you’re own company because they are boring as hell

@ACrownofFlowers

Жыл бұрын

@@Big_talks. Facts.

@TheJackhunt

Жыл бұрын

I used to think this too, especially when I was scared of talking to women.Then I got a gf, got broken up, pulled a couple of women, had a hook-up - it all felt great. But once it all passes it's back to square one. Life doesn't feel any different, I am the same. I had a low wage, got a promotion, felt great. But that passed now and i feel the same once again. I've come to realise that life really is all about finding comfort in your current situation and working to better your position in life. If you want a gf, then work on it. But a gf is not going to make you happy unless you continuously work on yourself.

Gerbert, you make me want to do better in life man. You piss me off with how good you are and thats good!. Thanks man.

That Jordan Peterson impression was too spot on😂👌🏾 Big ups Gerb🤙🏾

gerby on some detroit beats is something i'd never expect

Before I even start watching this, I have to say that relying on someone else for your happiness will not work in your favor in the long run. It leads to vulnerability, and people are unpredictable. I have to say that it also depends on the chic, some girls will change your life and some will ruin it. Find it yourself before you link up with a girl. I feel this applies both ways.

love your vids bro

While you may not, I enjoy every part of your videos. Especially the raps, I really get a few chuckles out of them. I think it's because you're straight-up authentic with what you say.

before i had a gf i was thinking i was missing out, i began to get alot of attention from girls recently and i got a gf, while i was in the gym one day i realised that she nor any other girl make me happy, and realisticly it slowed down my productivity and self improvement, i decided to leave her to focus on myself, my mentallity is now to catch not chase, i wont chase any girl but if one good one comes to me i will catch

@bobbybero7452

Жыл бұрын

The only reason to marry is to have kids. The romance stuff is hormones that fade fast

Making a gf can make you happy. But if you are unhappy and fill that void with a girlfriend than your an idiot

As a 19 year old man, these videos are really helpful. I love the authenticity. Keep it up, bro👍🏾

Just found ur channels dude they're hella dope. Its like having a conversation with a close friend, ur a fuckin funny guy

From my experience, it was basically like a drug, just brought my attention away from what I was going through, and ultimately I suffered a lot because of my toxic relationship. I think maybe if you find someone supportive of your goals it might be worth it but still there's downsides of having to focus on someone other than yourself.

SIX MILLION..???

This opening and endings are crazy. Feels like your subconscious starts to speak. But please continue put them into vides.

Love this channel

I think that relationships are very rife with opportunity to either grow, or stagnate. People need to be honest about what they want out of life, and understand why in a deep way. The decisions you make will frame the way your future plays out, it is within your control. If you are truly honest with another person, and they are someone who will hold you accountable to your true self, and push you towards your ideal self, then that is a treasure. They will help you grow and you will do the same for them. On the other hand, if you are with someone who is only with you for superficial reasons, or vice versa, they will only say what you want to hear. They would never tell you a hard truth that you need to hear, because likely you will respond negatively and they don't want to lose their support. In a relationship like this I think it is inevitable that you will slip away from the ideal self that you should be striving towards. They will stay until it no longer benefits them enough to be worth the trouble, and they will leave you so much worse than they found you.

@bubbleboy821

Жыл бұрын

Also, most people don't want to hear the truth. So it's not so simple. You can try to tell them truth but almost no one will like it, especially women. Women detest truth because they are raised in fantasies.

I thought about it for a long time tbh. I realized I want a gf, but I don't want all the real shit that comes with it. I don't want to argue with her about stuff and fuck up sometimes. I want that honeymoon phase all the time. I just want someone to share positive experiences with

@chepesantacruz777

Жыл бұрын

You are dangerously delusional. Stop scrolling instagram, watching netflix and adjust your expectation according to REAL LIFE.

@ctrlf7382

Жыл бұрын

@@shabushabu5319 dude wtf? see a therapist or smth, what u said is srsly deranged. women aren't objects for u to just fuck and kill (?!), what makes u think its ok to talk abt ppl like that?

@shabushabu5319

Жыл бұрын

@@ctrlf7382 TL;DR? 🥺

@leveledfeats

Жыл бұрын

Same. I wish it was so true. I wish women would just be angelic beings and give us support through any type of bs and be kind throughout. But unfortunately they're human beings just like us and will bring their craziness into our lives

@someone-ji2zb

Жыл бұрын

Yea, that is impossible. Love is hard work and you have to have a giving mentality at all times (as does your partner). If you don't want to put in the work constantly, then don't get in a relationship. Not everyone is cut out for it.

what we really want from gerbert is a mixtape

I love your honesty and sharp mind

No desires will bring happiness, only momentary pleasures, true happines is freedom of desire

@duckman2480

Жыл бұрын

But the only thing that frees desire is acting and completing desires making it that desires do bring happiness

@iliekass8763

Жыл бұрын

@@duckman2480 Happiness from desire is momentary, when you desire you become bound, freedom means not being bound by nothing, desire is coming and going, if one seeks true happiness find that which doesn't come and go.

after doing everything my parents/friends/society expected from me, being a hungry ghost too , i moved on to my next goal of getting a gf but soon realised the best way learn thing is to goo out blastin and learn life changing lessons, u can only rely on urself for respect and love

Damn my boi you should drop an album, Pink Guy style. 👌 great as always

i love this channel, i think because i relate to u so much

I agree that a majority of men do most likely get less attention than the majority of women, but I've recently started to realize that there's a lot of overlap between the sexes. There's communities with guys like here that are lonely, blackpilled/redpilled, etc. but there's a large group of women in the same boat. If you go on forums like crystal cafe, you'll see that women say the exact same things about guys as we guys say about them. It also turns out there's a lot of women on self improvement and even no fap, but we don't see those communities because we're in the ones with males. Similarly, girls don't see communities like these, unless a figure in them gets big like Andrew Tate. I've started to use what I realized to my one benefit: I took a look at all the girls in my class. There's the hot and popular ones that everyone sees, but then there's also the less popular and I realized those are just like the less popular guys. That's why I've started talking with those that have never been in any relationships because I know they wanna be in one and I've been pretty successful with them. I realized we always look at the successful girls, but are never fully aware of those with little to no friends or attention. There's a lot of them out there, you just have to keep an eye out for them.

@guimblon

11 ай бұрын

Bruh, haven't you seen Gerbs videos about dating apps? As much as I wished we were in the same boat with women, we aren't.

I feel my money doesn't mean anything if I don't have someone to spend it "with" and I mean with because it is different than spending money on someone. Like going out places and paying for experiences mutually with each other. Like I'm not at the point where I can make a big bag of cash, but I know 50 or 60-year-old men that have no wife or never have been with someone that makes 60-100k a year but what is the point really bc ur gonna just hoard that cash or spend it on materialistic stuff. I have guy friends that kind of feel that hole but it's not the same, not the same as having a relationship with someone that reciprocates and contributes. Idk probably just some dumb thoughts from me.

@aidey8mph605

Жыл бұрын

Yeah like I don’t have great motivation to put myself through the ringer to make a good salary if I don’t have a partner to share it with. If I just put my head down and get the good paying job then my social ability with women will be shit and plus I would be older so there is a chance I just wouldn’t find someone.

@FakeAndTrolled

Жыл бұрын

My only motivation for making a lot of money is to aggressively invest it so I’ll have the option to either retire early, or do something I truly enjoy that doesn’t pay that much. Money doesn’t make me that happy but NOT having money would make me miserable.

@CQchaos7474

Жыл бұрын

Fr. What am I gonna spend it on? A ps5? Cool that's one weeks worth of work but wtf is the point of keeping pushing it?

@robertesparza7821

Жыл бұрын

I’ll say my motivation to make more money is that an increasing number of women will be more attractive to me. Thus have a larger pool of ‘quality’ women to choose from and settle with. That’s my way of thinking for now at least as someone that’s already in my mid 20s

@someone-ji2zb

Жыл бұрын

@@robertesparza7821 Quality women don't care about more than security. Yea, more income will get you sex easier, but if you want to settle down with a woman for life, the money isn't going to help you as much as you'd hope.

i agree with what you said ab being glad to be alone. i hope someone sees this and can relate. but due to the common types of people i actually don’t want to be with people and avoid relationships. i’ve had some girls interested but i know what comes of it so i ignore them. but sometimes they call me ugly so it’s a 2 for 2 that makes me completely uninterested in any relationship. plus friend relationships due to being backstabbed many times. it’s tough

I feel you on the courses, I’ve been thinking about getting into the self improvement, rant about philosophy space for awhile. But I don’t think I could do the courses, just feels so greedy and phony

Gerby my beloved

I had the same question when I got a gf. For 5 years I just thought it would make me happy. I was right

@jcng7819

Жыл бұрын

Fr? Good luck and strength, you'll need it when she dumps you

@jamelbruu2482

Жыл бұрын

@@jcng7819 Idk man 5 years is pretty solid, why pray on his down fall?

@ibrahimismail7881

Жыл бұрын

That's great man

@KovertCorteX

Жыл бұрын

@@jcng7819 let a mf be happy

@someone2084

Жыл бұрын

@@jcng7819 dude, there is no need man

Gerby actually gettin better at rappin💯🔥

Beat goes crazy

That Jordan Peterson impressions was hilarious😂

17:01 6 million, eh Gerbie? Didn't think you were an actual full-blown fellow wrongthinker. Cheers, man.

@bbbruh8809

Жыл бұрын

Hehe wrongthinker I learnt more about this world from pol, then any other form of media

favorite yt channel rn

i love your videos man

Loneliness usually leads to mental disorders so the part where you said lonely men will be so used to being alone that being around people will be foreign to them has truth to it. A good example is schizoid personality disorder, which fears social events and is very avoidant of them usually and ghosts people unintentionally, etc. The next generation of men may be screwed.