As soon as a woman starts complaining to her bitter and envious friends about problem in the marriage, divorce is coming. Misery and envy loves company

@chelong10

Жыл бұрын

The is fact, living it right now

@stevenphillips3466

11 ай бұрын

No, her Divorced and never married Hoe friends constantly are telling her how crappy her husband is

@SaystheTruth3

10 ай бұрын

Absolutely...

@nootnoot-2

10 ай бұрын

Then you need to listen to her so she doesn't feel the need to talk to other people about her problems.

@cocococop6082

9 ай бұрын

most marriage that fail are interracial. with Asian women and white men. and white women and black men. maybe go look into that? why because they marrying for lust and value reasons. like do they both hate cheating? do they both think when a person is older it's okay because old too. and so on. lust is the problem not love. look it up.

#1 reason: Narcissism. People would rather be egotistical and expect rather than be humble and give. All about the me, me, me and no you, you, you.

@deborahrouse5644

9 ай бұрын

That's called monumental "selfishness", NOT narcissism! Narcissism requires diagnosis by a psychologist or psychiatrist and people use the word willy nilly.

@hoobeydoobey1267

9 ай бұрын

Are you a psychologist? If not who made you an expert to say it wasn't or to disagree? Guess who is? @@deborahrouse5644

@APsGTG

5 ай бұрын

@@deborahrouse5644 It's deeper than selfishness though. We've all been selfish, but we can be led to self reflection. The people he's referring to here have a longggg string of selfishness amongst other relatively terrible traits, i.e narcissism.

Marriage isn’t easy. It takes work and commitment from both sides. The common goal MUST be the focus. People today don’t have realistic expectations, know how to communicate effectively, or understand compromise. Too many people fight for selfish reasons and won’t wholeheartedly commit to their partner.

@nostalgicbliss5547

Жыл бұрын

When you live in a society that promotes individualism above all else, consumerism with a lot of other narcissistic and delusional ideologies it makes sense why relationships have become a joke. Anything that doesn't allow most of these people to do whatever they want without any reasonable consequences is oppressive and evil.

@SmolTerribleTornado

Жыл бұрын

Yes, and most of the time people use "the kids" as an excuse, when in reality they seek to hurt the kids for their own gain, regardless they admit it or nor. It's disgusting.

@CryptoNChill

6 ай бұрын

This is part of the problem. Marriage requires people to work for the sake of the marriage, which inherently detracts from the value of marriage itself. It's much easier, albeit less fulfilling, to be in relationships without a government contract.

And we’re not even talking about the % of unhappily MARRIED people. which is probably more than half of them out there…. THAT is terrifying

@SmolTerribleTornado

Жыл бұрын

The worst part being "happiness" has never been a goal of marriage, it's sacrifice for the other regardless of the emotional state of both parts.

@cocococop6082

9 ай бұрын

most marriage that fail are interracial. with Asian women and white men. and white women and black men. maybe go look into that? why because they marrying for lust and value reasons. like do they both hate cheating? do they both think when a person is older it's okay because old too. and so on. lust is the problem not love. look it up.

@LungaMasilela

17 күн бұрын

What do you mean by unhappy marriages?

The interesting “unknown” is how many of the marriages that DON’T end in divorce are actually happy ones. Everyone is focused on how many end in divorce and I get it because it’s easily quantifiable. But sadly, I think there are far more marriages that stay together because: they’re just resigned to it, know the dating market is a hot mess, stay together for the kids, etc.

@edheldude

Жыл бұрын

Well we have data that at least women are less happy the more previous partners they have had.

@bluebutterfly5062

Жыл бұрын

This is a good point. I'm pretty confident most people have heard of and even witnessed marriages that last, but both parties are still miserable.

@HelloWorld-cq1sq

Жыл бұрын

Yikes, that's a great point. So it's like, rough numbers: 10% chance that the man initiates divorce 40% chance that the woman initiates divorce 30% chance that the marriage is unhappy 20% chance that the marriage is happy That sounds like a horrible deal.

@sarmavlada

Жыл бұрын

I worked with a dude who said "I thought I was in a happiest marriage and than my wife divorced me"

@cocococop6082

9 ай бұрын

most marriage that fail are interracial. with Asian women and white men. and white women and black men. maybe go look into that? why because they marrying for lust and value reasons. like do they both hate cheating? do they both think when a person is older it's okay because old too. and so on. lust is the problem not love. look it up.

A divorce used to be a shameful abomination that married couples tried to avoid at all costs; now it's pretty much a rite of passage. Hardly anyone stays with their first spouse nowadays. That one is considered the trial run. My wife and I are the only people out of everyone we know who got it right the first time.

@choppers9909

Ай бұрын

Still better that it's not seen as a "shameful abomination"

@MattyIcecubes

Ай бұрын

@@choppers9909 I agree, but it's also not good that it's considered a modern rite of passage.

3 of my married friends are NOT happy, miserable and still they stay

@deborahrouse5644

9 ай бұрын

But WHY aren't they happy? If either partner in a marriage selfishly expects EVERYTHING to always be their own way, of course the marriage will fail. Couples go into marriage nowadays with the thought already in their minds that if something goes wrong, I'll just get a divorce. They begin the marriage selfishly with a me, me, me, I, I, I, attitude so when the first disagreement has them thinking they're "incompatible", they run for the door. There was never any commitment to their marriages which is why so many fail.

@aeiou0123

5 ай бұрын

@@CryptoNChillwhat is love?

@Frediam7777

5 ай бұрын

@@deborahrouse5644I like your comment dear. Without commitment the marriage won’t reach anywhere 😊

@jenny-DD

5 ай бұрын

Only 8% of people in marriages are actually happy

@Mattbh119

4 ай бұрын

Same here kids are grown we are unhappy but nervous on what comes next 16 yrs in

Women provide men two unique things that they can’t get anywhere else: 1. Sex and 2. Motherhood. With the advent of the sexual revolution and sexual liberation, men don’t need marriage to get number one. Therefore, the only reason to ever get married is for number two. You don’t marry out of love, in fact one of the worst things you can do to your relationship is get married

@normanlewis2953

Жыл бұрын

How much redpill content have you watched to actually believe men dont need companionship from a woman? If you actually believe this, youre gonna grow up to be a bitter lonely old man. Might as well get a cat now.

@dylanshorrorchannel1378

Жыл бұрын

So you really think the only thing Marriage is truly for is to have kids?

@DatAsianGuy

Жыл бұрын

@@dylanshorrorchannel1378 Yes?? That's the whole point, you nitwit. from its very conception. Marriage facilitates the best conditions for raising children. if you don't want children, you shouldn't even consider marrying imo, because there is literally no point in it. Why do you think "no sex before marriage" existed for so long? Because fucking basically meant having children. and if you fucked random people you would most likely end up raising a child alone. Marriage is the foundation of the family and the family is the buildingblock of society.

@bdgregorybd

Жыл бұрын

@@dylanshorrorchannel1378 Absolutely. You want friendship and camaraderie? Go to your guy friends. You want sex? There's plenty of women on the dating apps for that. You want a loving relationship? You can still co-habitat and not get the government involved and still live a fulfilling live with your partner involved. You don't technically need to get married to have a family, but the structure helps with raising them the right way. Jordan Peterson even said: Marriage isn't for the husband or wife, it's for the children they have. Case in point.

@coobybooby933

Жыл бұрын

@@dylanshorrorchannel1378what else would it be for?

My problem is, I strongly dislike how men are gaslight when they voice their concerns about marriage. Evidently the way laws and our social environment is set up simply doesn’t benefit men or give them any incentive to tie the knot. When men voice those concerns it’s always flipped back on them to make it seem like it’s our fault that things are this way. It’s our fault she initiated a divorce, it’s our fault that we “couldn’t keep her happy” it’s our fault because we didn’t “do enough”, it’s ALWAYS our fault. It’s like, as a man if you don’t prove to women and society how disposable you are to them, you’re a problem. And at any trigger, you can be taken to court and have your way of life jeopardized. Under all these odds, people are still encouraging men to enter suck contracts. Society doesn’t care about us at all, only what we can do for them matter to them. Women and society as a whole don’t necessarily have our best interests at heart, so why should we? Until society and women start EQUALLY catering to us back, they’re on their own. We’re done suffering for the sake of everyone else happiness.🤝💯

@bluebutterfly5062

Жыл бұрын

The reason why the laws are the way they are is because women didn't used to have power. Men made all the laws, voted, owned land. The only leverage women had was sex. So, to get men to commit and not abandon them and their children, they had to basically threaten them by withholding their assets.

@bluebutterfly5062

Жыл бұрын

@sarahmarieboulerice3134 uhh, yeah. These things are echoed in the Bible--men owning property, women being faithful and submissive to their husbands, etc.

@cocococop6082

9 ай бұрын

most marriage that fail are interracial. with Asian women and white men. and white women and black men. maybe go look into that? why because they marrying for lust and value reasons. like do they both hate cheating? do they both think when a person is older it's okay because old too. and so on. lust is the problem not love. look it up.

Gotta love this non-confrontational approach of describing what everyone knows the problem to be…and which sex is predominantly causing it. 🌿

@sammyb1651

Жыл бұрын

He's said elsewhere previously...his channel was originally majority female viewer. Basically because they love psych/counselling shyit (it tends to be gynocentric after all). They're way less engaged with the channel now however because the message isn't what they want to hear. The fact that it's the truth isn't enough to persuade them to listen and learn either. `They don't want to so they won't. Lol. Which obviously is the problem in a nutshell. They just do what they feel like.

@reliableandrew

Жыл бұрын

@@sammyb1651 Sure, understood...and yes, real positive, functional change from a woman that would benefit the whole of society as opposed to just herself...will be near to impossible to achieve, unless the sexes can marry within a jurisdiction / system where women aren't able to weaponise their emotions that lead to destruction for everyone involved.

@sammyb1651

Жыл бұрын

@@reliableandrew Yup. To be honest, when you've got no checks and balances to correct for it (and in that sense men have to take some blame as they'll still chase these basket cases regardless of how dysfunctional they are)...it's hard to see where positive change can be effected. It's good that some channels now point out the poor behaviour (that at least is a start), but it's very clear none really have viable solutions.

@reliableandrew

Жыл бұрын

@@sammyb1651 Agreed. The sexes can only (ideally) marry within a jurisdiction where patterns of dysfunctional behaviours have consequences, or aren't tolerated.

@sammyb1651

Жыл бұрын

@@reliableandrew Very deftly summarised my friend!

Marriage is the leading cause of divorce

Marriage works in theory because a man can have his children, a wife to support him and access to sex; while women can have a man to raise her kids, a husband for protection, and access to resources. The problem is, most people marry because they are in love, which is a temporary emotion. Men and women skimp on their ends of the bargain after a while and, due to poor communication and resentment, the marriage breaks down.

@bluebutterfly5062

Жыл бұрын

@@DOA-fg4ze Yes, *people.* Of course women have their own contributions to the problems and don't admit to it. Just like men have their own contributions and don't admit to it. But everyone loves to play the blame game. The same thing you are doing right now.

@sammyb1651

Жыл бұрын

@@DOA-fg4ze Magnificent response! A complete dismantling of a typically weaselly post!

@bluebutterfly5062

Жыл бұрын

@@sammyb1651 weaselly? Lol if you're going to chime in, at least have an actual argument, like the guy you're praising

@sammyb1651

Жыл бұрын

@@bluebutterfly5062 Happy to merely "chime" tbh. I hardly needed to supplement his argument. The dismantling was already complete.

@nostalgicbliss5547

Жыл бұрын

​@@bluebutterfly5062 Don't mind these idiots. You literally broke it down perfectly in a way that was reasonable and logical. The main reasons why marriage could potentially be a mutually beneficial practice if both parties were on the same page and shared the same values.

Between the 50% divorce rate and my own admittedly prickly personality, I see no reason to get married, because the chances of it working for me are almost nil

@Sam-ng3of

Жыл бұрын

That figure is misleading. It includes Re marriages

@JoseDiaz-rd9fh

Жыл бұрын

​@@Sam-ng3of maybe so but I bet over half of people that stay married is not for love but pragmatic reasons. Good people are not born they are made. Culture being an integral part of that which is really where the war is won and lost.

@olgagonzalez3259

6 ай бұрын

@@Sam-ng3of I'm pretty sure that figure only includes first marriages. Once you account for remarriages it's much higher

If both soon-to-be spouses don’t have a genuine strong mutual attraction and desire from the very beginning of the relationship, don’t even think to marry one another. Having solely diverse kind of materialistic interests or “practical” reason (money, lifestyle, status, avoiding out of wedlock unwanted pregnancy, etc) but, excluding the main driving factor i.e. the abolute genuine mutual attraction and romantic desire to share, long term, body mind and soul on true devotional commitment as a first condition, it’s a sure path to failure.

The most underrated channel ever!

Yes. We were all lied to. Go to college, meet a girl, fall in love, get married, start a family, live happily ever after. Life is not a fucn Disney movie. When you figure this all out, it is much too late. She is gone, you are on your own, and now you have to rebuild your life.

Marriage fail: 90% due to female narcissism and hypergamy, 10% due to male poligamy

@HelloWorld-cq1sq

Жыл бұрын

Something like that. It seems like people who have endless sexual options tend to become narcissistic. And so most women and that 10% of top men tend to behave pretty poorly, including having a tendency to dump their partner and try to "trade up." Women endlessly point to bad behavior of the top-10% men of course, not realizing that the non-top-10% men are by and large behaving in fine ways. But then again non-top-10% men are invisible for women, so shrug.

@annemarielaluna9350

11 ай бұрын

Blaming women is not the solution of this problem. If you want to be the leader of the house, blaming people that you lead is not the solution. If you want to admit it that you need woman to help you and show your needs, maybe they will get motivated to help. You are perfect? Then you don't need anyone.

@carlessola343

11 ай бұрын

@@annemarielaluna9350 I'm not blaming, just stating facts that shows women are responsable for the majority of marriage failing

@FadeHook23

10 ай бұрын

@@annemarielaluna9350for any men, all you have to do is wait until you get hit with those divorce papers and you’ll be singing a different tune.

@khalidhassan9423

5 ай бұрын

@@annemarielaluna9350truth hurts kid, most of the time women cause divorce because men aren’t giving in to their entitlement

Infidelity and abandonment... and emotional abuse killed my first marriage. My ex was already trying to leave before I discovered the adultery etc. 😅 Marriage is a God-created institution that people have perverted. I'm grateful to be remarried and my husband actually treats me with love and kindness.

Dr. I really have gotten alot out of this, keep up the good work.

I never thought about it like that... thank you for the new perspective

This should be terrifying to everyone.

Thank-you. This articulates the context of marriage perfectly.

VALUE. IT IS NOT VALUED AS IT ONCE WAS. We live in a throw away society.

My quote there is divorce because people get married 😅. I'm not against marriage but if love, respect, duties and responsibility, pleasures , fun and committment are not being serve then never marry. Nowadays it's scary to get married 😊

No God no peace. Know God know peace. How many marriages are actually based on biblical principles?

marriage in a world of the costco return policy is the reason for the commonality of divorce.

I know of a couple on my mothers side of the family that married and discussed they didn't want children. As far as I know, they're still married. Marriage is, however, you and your partner make it to be.

@ObiAmajoyiSrMD

Жыл бұрын

The question then becomes why did they get married? They can completely be together and live the same life without getting a piece of paper from the government or courthouse declaring their marriage

@chadcadsonvii5258

Жыл бұрын

Why do women like to argue the exception?

@maylin1986

Жыл бұрын

@@ObiAmajoyiSrMD That, I haven't a clue. I don't know the family enough to be able to ask them myself. They're distant relation to me. 🤷‍♀️

@deborahrouse5644

9 ай бұрын

​@@ObiAmajoyiSrMDOH, MY GOSH. That pesky "piece of paper"! Only fools blame marriage failure on the marriage license. RIDICULOUS

@ObiAmajoyiSrMD

9 ай бұрын

@@deborahrouse5644 did you have a point to make that was related to the topic being discussed?

The thing about marriage is it takes commitment from both sides. That commitment has to be a partnership that both parties put the work in to make things work. If either one stops putting the work into the relationship then it will fail. The reason the divorce rate is so high in the USA is because 1st we don't teach people how to communicate. 2nd we are horrible with mental health & often stigmatize it, stopping people from getting therapy to work on their issues. 3rd a lot of people aren't willing to put the work into being marriage & thinks they can just get with someone else never addressing the issues that caused the divorce in the first place so they bring their issues to the next relationship & the cycle continues. 4th people get married for the wrong reasons.

@deborahrouse5644

9 ай бұрын

What wrong reasons?

As an Arab man married to an Arab woman and living in a Western society, I feel pain and sadness for my kind neighbors. Most of them live alone after divorce, especially the elderly who are in desperate need of the warmth of their families. This has made me appreciate and respect Middle Eastern culture even more.

Amen. That’s the only reason it exists. For kids. That’s it.

This is a wonderful news. Less man will be destroyed.

Saying that “50% of marriages end in divorce” makes a lot of sense until you think about it. 🤔 Be careful using the stat “More than half of marriages end in divorce” It is at best a misleading statistic if not an outright deliberate lie. There are too many divorces but we shouldn’t unintentionally spread this erroneous statement because it has the intended effect of lessening the enthusiasm for marriage. In a particular year a number of divorces take place. They consist of people who have been married one day, one year, 10 years, 50 years etc. The pool of potential candidates for divorce is huge. Just because the number of divorces equals 50% of the number of marriages in a particular year does not mean that 50% of all marriages end in divorce. It just isn’t true. It means that in the particular year this “statistic” was calculated the number of divorces from marriages over many decades happened to equal 50 % of the marriages that took place that year. The anti-family crowd made the statement and everyone took it as a startling truth and ran with it without thinking. Even pastors repeat this statement as truth. If 50% of all marriages were ending in divorce the number of divorces each year would have to be multiple times the number of marriages taking place in THAT year. The lie has been told at least since the 70s when I first heard it in a marriage and family class in college. There was a gasp from the class. It had its intended effect. It’s a tremendous psyop!! Once again we’ve take the lie hook, line, and sinker.

What is the actual point of this shirt? Marriage is to raise children, yes. And to combine and maximize resources, and to keep ppl from being lonely, and to provide the constant low key critique of an alternate perspective so we grow intellectually, and to provide support for one another through the guaranteed tragedy that life will throw at you, and, and, and. I don’t understand why only emphasizing kids would be good. It’s so much more when it’s good.

In a society that worships pleasure and hedonism is a mistake to think a life of sacrifice and dedication will bring emotional happiness and joy, it's false image of marriage, it was never meant to make men and women happy but this idea that the only objective of marriage is 'happiness' is also a reason of why marriages fail.

Marriage, I feel, should only be done when people have their shit together.

@blackinthemiddlerecords

Жыл бұрын

The problem is that means a vastly different thing for some people.

@chadcadsonvii5258

Жыл бұрын

So when you're infertile and unable to have healthy children. Do you even see what is going on around you?

@nostalgicbliss5547

Жыл бұрын

So when you're done having a hoe phase and can trick some sucker/simp to marrying a 35 year old woman who is about to lose all her eggs? Most women will never have all their shit together lol. Especially emotionally and spiritually. Let's just accept that a lot of males and females in this society will never be good as marriage material and people should just move on. Honestly I feel a lot of people should not be allowed to have kids. There needs to be psychological evaluation and tests for family history of certain diseases and illnesses before people are allowed to have children. You will have a strong record of responsibility and accountability before given that privilege.

@jkw6196

4 ай бұрын

For a man yes, but not for a woman.She needs to get married before 28 the latest and the giant wall is waiting for her. 😂

At the exact half way point of our marriage in February 2004, my ex-wife basically cursed at me in the car as I drove her to work due to her exhaustion. I had told her there was sometning really wrong with her eyes, and I begged her to let me take he home. Later that day as I approached work myself, my ex-mother-in-law told me my wife was in the hospital. Turns out she died 3 times in the paramedic van, and had to be brought back after massive Grand Mal Seizures. She dislocated her lower jaw, and was knocked out of student teaching for a while. Never spoke to me at dinner on our anniversaries, never went out at all, because now that she had her Masters I was dead meat. Never apologized once in 30 years, was a Dark Tetrad Narcissist if there ever was one, and financially destroyed me. I ate it for the last 15 years in order that our two wondeful, brilliant daughters would know their father. Best part, at 69 I look 52, and my body looks 32, she's 250LBS, limps, is a drunk, has no taste in clothing, and no one would ever look at her postively. Karma Baby. Best part, after 40 years in Digital Color/Pre-Photoshop no one can touch me. The weirdest part, she took the name of her dead first husband who refused to father children with her, who cheated on her repeatedly, after our divorce. Can You Say Sick Freak. But You, Your Great At What You Do!

@HelloWorld-cq1sq

Жыл бұрын

Sucks she treated you poorly. And yeah, if seems like an easy way to get women to love you forever is to treat them like dirt. Which is very messed up. It's also weird how often I see women go for drug users.

This is why I do not understand marriages that do not want children. Why are you marrying? Just be together

@billcipher3946

9 ай бұрын

As a male I knew since i was 12 years old, that marriage and having kids is not for me personally.

In countries where most marriages are arranged by parents, the divorce rate is under 4%.

While it is true that the overall number is high if you start to breakdown the statistics it isn’t as bleak as it seems on the surface. First take out people that artificially bolster the numbers by getting divorced multiple times. That drops the rate by more than a third alone. Then you divide the stats further by demographics. Looking at marriages where it’s the first time getting married for both parties, white couple the statistic is 16 percent of marriages end in divorce. Look up your demographics to find your typical stats. Bottom line the actual divorce stats can be very different than the overall number. Not so bad really…

Women are encouraged to break the marriage contract as it benefits them money wise with taking up to 50% of her partners money and assets plus up to 18 years of child support and spousal support. The man loses 99% of the time. Unless one is religious the only reason to get married is for inheritance purposes.

It's simple, men at one point use to be the top priority, over time with work, friends, kids and so on, men have come last on the list of priorities. Not to mention if she found a side piece. So men has made themselves the priority, you can't go wrong.

"We're monkeys filled with snakes." Jordan Peterson. Human beings are complicated, and relationships are difficult. I think what's lacking is commitment because it requires self assessment and change.. The grass always looks greener on the other side, until the dog shits on the neighbors lawn. Just saying.

I like this explanation 😊 thanks

Wife gets Board ...

Marriage is not all the same. A Vegas wedding is weighed the same in these studies/stats as marriages in the Orthodox Christian church for example. Very different with WIDELY different dates of divorce.

The real reason is because no one is afraid of God anymore, fear of God is the begining of wisedom

In Muslim countries following the ways of the West, the divorce rate has followed that of the West. In countries and places where Islāmic values are actually applied the divorce rates are incredibly low, the families are happy, the people are functional and not medicated, traumatized, overweight and struggling with everyday life and with relationships. Modern Western so called values (modernism, progressivism, feminism, and whatever the new norm is called for gender dysphoria) have all destroyed the family and anything resembling normalcy. Islām is a stable foundation and a rock upon which you can build a healthy and normal life.

God created marriage. If you don't know. You better you better find out.

We need to get rid of no fault divorce law and ammend chold custody and alimony law and THEN maybe we can get back to normal. Anyone who thinks otherwise is on the wrong side of history by this point by at least a good 25 years now. Thats the definition of ignorance btw.

Marriage was invented to get in-laws.

When couples who are living together say, "It's like being married", no matter how many times I've heard it, I cannot stop myself from laughing out loud. There ain't nothin' like being married. As one comedian put it, "You know, if you had murdered your spouse on your wedding night, you would be out of prison by now." This is a brilliant insight by PsycHacks (as usual). So, if marriage is about raising children, "What's Love Got to Do With It?". So, Punk, you gotta ask yourself, "Do you want a wife or just a girlfriend?". And "Do you want a girlfriend or just a few good (or maybe bad) women?". So, Do Ya ... Punk?

Modern women want to be happy like kids. They think marriage will and should make them happy 😂😂😂😂. Nobody taught them it's about duty

@nostalgicbliss5547

Жыл бұрын

Duty and responsibilities

No pair bonding skills as the result of riding cc

Yes… I can see that, but people who don’t plan on having kids together get married all the time. Marriages are also failing because people are giving themselves an easy out. Both men and women are probably not vetting their partners correctly, and even if vetted correctly it still doesn’t mean the marriage is going to last. A man with assets needs to protect himself with a good prenup and if the woman doesn’t want to sign it then don’t marry her. But if the intention is not to stay married for life, then just don’t propose to begin with. It’s pretty simple.

I have cancer a whole lot of golf war ships 🚢 3 ships

Marriage is a practice a promise to God to learn and figure out unconditional love. Marriage vows does not have the word "happy" in it.

🎉1. Financial issues. 2. Baggage from past relationships. 3. Lack of Genuine Love!! Lastly 4. Infidelity(Huge) pretty much sums it up…

Each person needs to be honest with him or herself if s/he wants to get married. They also need to know themselves if they have what it takes to withstand the vigor of being married. Those that want to get married need to take off the Cinderella and Disney glasses and embrace values conducive of a successful marriage. It is NOT easy. It is a lifetime of commitment, love, and hard work. There will be times your significant other will piss you off and there will be times you will question your marriage. Men and women need to be selective of who they chose as a partner. Society also needs to stop shaming men and women that choose not to get married. Somehow single people are thought of as selfish and "not a whole person." I have seen enough bad marriages. My great uncle was a good example. My great uncle and my great aunt were married for over 40 years, but it was a miserable one. My great uncle remarked in Chinese, that his marriage was like wearing a wet soaked jacket. (A jacket is supposed to keep you warm, but it can't when it is wet.) He and my great aunt fought and were very critical of each other. Every morning, he left the house before my great aunt woke up and did not return home until the late night because he couldn't stand my great aunt. Make sure it is YOU that want to get married and not because family and friends are shaming you into getting married. When you want to get married, embrace the values conducive to a successful marriage.

Single women, love keeping other women single.

@primeobjective5469

9 ай бұрын

@SippinPretty -- It's single-women that advise married women to divorce, not other married women.

Not correct, the number of marriages reflects the marriages on a given year however the cohort of the number of divorces that year reflects all the marriages in previous decades.

@Nuhopoclik1

Жыл бұрын

This is why he talked about "divorce rates," and specifically about how "more than half of marriages end in divorce."

@logicaltoafault6310

Жыл бұрын

The methodology may not be correct but is the dating market getting better or worse? Do you think that will lead to more successful marriage or less? If you are correct I would expect things to get worse.

@annsheridan12

Жыл бұрын

@@logicaltoafault6310 obviously dating far worse, feminism,carousel , social media, family law the culprits. Morgan Stanley has predicted that within a few years the majority of marriage age women will be single and living alone ,very bad for the society.

My parents divorced after 38 years

He makes a good point

I agree with that. Men were the head of the household many years ago and it made them happy to support and guide their family. Women looked after their home and children by staying at home. He went out and worked to provide for them. These rolls worked very well where the men were the decision makers and leaders. I loved being a housewife and mom in the 1990s. My husband was a senior manger for a huge paper mill company and the money he was on was fantastic. He was a good man. My daughter and I lost him ten years ago to a heart attack. He was a brilliant man.

it's a spiritual problem. If people believe in God, seek Him and read His "instructions for living" (Bible)....start with 1 Cor.chap.13 ..... only 10 short verses can build a lifelong marriage. .... free advice from one who knows.

@Frediam7777

5 ай бұрын

Hello Catherine how are you doing. I like your comment because you have written so well. I’m Fred from Minnesota nice to meet you here 😊

Alr so I’m never getting married then because I don’t want children and I can’t see myself in a serious relationship

Single man?

Men realise marriage is wealth transfer from rich to poor and all women marry intending to divorce.

@choppers9909

Ай бұрын

lncel behaviour

We need to mandate ironclad prenups before marriage

@JakeC-xx8zq

5 ай бұрын

Not a bad idea, especially for men.

Why is it “terrifying”?? This is a good thing

Every woman fails the cost benefit math.

The main reason is because of Women rights

The reality in but not so much, there s a lot o bad apple re marring and divorcing twice, and some a few more. If we take them out after the first divorce the rate improves eniugh to dont get so scary.

It's all betrayal for all use man kind

Congratulations on the marriage...

PREACH

"Marriage is just not designed to support more than it is supposed to do.." So in conclusion...marriage is like a chair. And a chair is only designed to support so much weight. A morbidly obese woman can break the chair, because the chair cannot support her when she is that overweight. And so like that chair, I will not support my wife becoming that fat. Because I won't let her break all of our chairs. And that's how she became my ex-wife.

Two human beings so different contracting themselves for life is obviously doomed.

Making in Captivity by Esther Perel

most marriage that fail are interracial. with Asian women and white men. and white women and black men. maybe go look into that? why because they marrying for lust and value reasons. like do they both hate cheating? do they both think when a person is older it's okay because old too. and so on. lust is the problem not love. look it up.

I don’t get it 😅

I'm right with you 💫Boss💫. Indeed, marriage is an institution designed suited only for humble folks--not for arrogant, contrived, immature, temperamental, materialistic, or unrealistic folks...Get off the emotional rollercoaster, carrosel, monkey branch, hookup culture, and rat race if you truly value marriage itself... One must prepare for marriage and know what it actually serves and entails--traditional values.

Bad advices for opinion gains didnt take account the neuro physio difference of genders outcome