Key takeaways from the videos: - if you learn in order to teach someone else, you learn better than you learn in order to take a test - when you are socially motivated to learn, and it can do better than you typically activate when you try to memorize - getting more social is the secret to making us a smarter, happier, and more productive, - social skill is the multiplier - my time with them (social, family, friends) can`t be replaced by the money - social connection is one of the best predictors of happiness and well-being, and in contrast, increasing wealth is not a very good predictor. Meanwhile, what we do in reality... spending more time at the office, and away from family and friends.

@Bunnyandfriends2

Жыл бұрын

Thankyou.

What I said in the talk applies equally to introverts and extraverts, IMO. We are all motived to connect whether its really closely with 2 people or loosely with 500. It takes different forms but the motivation is there for almost all. Also, mindreading is critical whether you try to get along with 2 people or 500. I do not think "more social = extraverted". I think "more social = more connected" and that connection could be with 1 or 2 people. Thanks for your interest!

@m.rosariomartinez9492

3 жыл бұрын

That's so lovely! Yes. I'm a huuuuge introvert (and I really understood and saw that this year. Here in Argentina, we've been pretty much in lockdown since March 2020), but I'm also a Highly Sensitive Person, so empathy, kindness, acceptance, humour, even, and overall human connection, are some of the things that light me up and move me the most. Amazing talk, Matthew! I hope you and all your loved ones are safe! Best wishes! 🍀

This very powerful and enlightening talk got only 267K views , such a surprise. The speaker's content is very impactful and thought provoking.

Fantastic! Well described and passionately communicated! Thank you!

I loved the talk, thanks for the awesome research you just shared

Very thoughtful talk with lots of real-life applications. Thank you so much Dr. Lieberman!

This talk hit me on so many levels. Fascinating. And the presentation is excellent.

One of the great talks I've heard in a while. I really wish I'd have thought about becoming a neuroscientist when I was younger. These people are so incredibly intelligent

Also Matthew, this talk was brilliant, I hope this video gets millions of views.

Thanks, Matthew! Very inspiring message indeed.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Best professor I've ever had

Fascinante.parabens pelas descobertas Matthew Lieberman.e obrigado por compartilhar conosco seu conhecimento

Listening to these while I have basically been in isolation for over a year now. Like yes I have a car, license & been building up my confidence to driving alone 🤗. Cuz I don’t want to rely on others. I want to start doing things

Yes! No one should be treating themselves with Tylenol. This study was done as a scientific demonstration that something we thought would only help phys pain similarly affects soc pain. High doses of Tylenol are incredibly toxic - deadly. When I get more than 18 min to speak I explain this.

The cutting edge of discovery slices both ways.When u announce a breakthrough,ur also announcing urself as the sole source of authority until further notice.Ur talk is amazing.I imagine it will generate much discussion & questions in the coming weeks.I get the cost/benefit evaluation 4 ur time,but dont discount the value of an interested public.Maybe fan the flame by consolidating ur efforts & announce a Q&A where u will address laymen like myself in the interest of fostering social connections.

excelent talk.... I'm surprised it got only 732 likes.... Thanks for the powerful sharing anyway!!

This is a great lecture.

Amazing, thank you. Going to buy the book, really resonates with my values. Tara, Ireland

Gorgeous! Very Thanks For Sharing and For The Work Done! :)

"Family, the real roots of happiness." Nicely done Dr. Lieberman. God bless you, Rob Kee

@LorraineGrant

4 жыл бұрын

If there were more parents like him the world would be a better place. Children are so much more precious than excess money.

@neralodinson5881

2 жыл бұрын

it depends on what kind of family you have, not everyone enjoy being with family, like me , i fell way better alone than with my family. They restrain me from being creative and i'm an artist...So its a matter of luck i imagine...

Great video, I enjoyed watching it!

Incredible!! Watching this while I'm watching my almost 7 year old at gymnastics. The sacrifice for your family vs wealth is a great lesson.

This guy is a great speaker

love this thank you

. thanks for these mind opening words. i would also like to point out that this lecture have persuaded me even more that infant circumcsion , when not done for immediate/necessary medical reasons , is (basically social) wrong performed on infants..,, since it isolates them (brutally) out of the first social support (=their motherly/parental continuous uninterrupted tender loving nurturing), they will ever get , in their most vulnerable/100%dependent stage of life, and when they dont even have verbal capacity .,

This was fascinating!

Great speech. Thanks.

It's good to hear someone exposing the weakness of Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs...

Awesome. Learn to teach others. Social skills is a multiplier. Not knowing the value of social is our kryptonite

Briiliant! Thank you! Why so few organizations understand this?

Best talk on social

I would call the Social mind as Interpretation mind (patternalization of the received neurosignal - saving the pattern with help of cerebellum - saving the outcome from other different minds in response to such a pattern) then the analytical mind can get access to these data and make expectation to the end (outcome) of each possible pattern around it. Sociality or experience (collecting the maximal of pattern-outcome coupling) plays a big role in developing the Interpretation mind. Though the social mind (superego or conscious/G) is the memory-mind that saves the full data needed for expectation and judging according to the original repetitive saved groups of Pattern-Outcome chains from the interpretation mind. which i think can be in the limbic system.

Social pain in my opinion is much more painful It can make you stop interacting with friends

@monicajustinedevera5851

2 жыл бұрын

gosh yes. such a sour topic for me and have been burned socially. Add trauma to the mix

Excelente charla!

This is great!

Great talk. Social kryptonite is all we need that we don't even know we really need it.

@True38

2 жыл бұрын

It's important to take care of your social needs while pursuing valuable goals. Personally, I think finding the kind of job that you want and the kind of partner you want cover's the most of your social needs. Some of us are introverts and highly productive and ambitious, and see too much social interaction as a "waste of time". If we're not going to be together or make money together, then this little chit-chat will result in nothing. But hey, I'm a Civic Economist so maybe I just think differently than most people ;-)

Excellent 👌🏾

In the meantime, I have heeded your advice and bought the book. Perhaps the secret to slaying the Hydra of my questions is between the covers, but for some reason every bone in my body would prefer to have the immediacy of human interaction... it almost like I was built to prefer it... it would be so cool if there was someone I could talk to who could explain why that is...

WOW. For someone who seems to know more about the consequences of social rejection than anyone else on the planet you sure did ignore my question with reckless abandon! Here I was truly impressed to see an academic mosey down from the ivory tower to rub elbows with us common folk. I suppose it is possible that my question was dumb enough not to warrant a response, next time I'll comment on OTC disclaimers 4 tylenol! That'll teach me to show genuine interest in a truly fascinating subject.

Great talk and great book ;)

Even introverts need to be social, just not as much, and for different reasons and in a different way.

It is easy to isolate in modern society as a means of avoiding social pain, particularly if early social experiences have lead us to fear each other. This is a grave issue which we should address directly by consciously building social experiences in which our social needs can be met and our nature flourish.

Yeah, I would totally do a Q&A if I knew how to do that and thought it would generate interest. I have no idea how to do that or announce that. Anyway, thanks for your interest in the talk and the book.

this is a perspective of what is nurturing for our being as evolution has programmed and wired us. Holding this view against the non-dual perspective, with although gratitude towards the foundation and conscious awareness of our being and so as to be seeing the world for what it truly is, is the exact letting go of the worldly attachments that is the result. Like the Buddhist view as all suffering being because of holding on, because of being rooted in desire. Self realization is self liberation. Carefully observe the self and see the assumptions that we hold as truth because of easily conditioned nature of our (basal or animal) being.

amazing video!

I was speaking in all honesty beforehand, nothing states I was not. Your motivations, however, remain rather enigmatic to me. It could be trolling, self-handicapping, calumniation, or even a malevolent will; unsure, but it is not pleasant. I can't imagine it being pleasant to live with, either.

how Lovely!!!

Interesting video!

A lot of people satisfy their social needs at their job. There might even be a strong motivation for people who are not able or willing to win a friend or start a relationship based on equality to seek an environment of hierarchies in order to gain attractiveness by success - this might explain the findings about the weak correlation between social skills and leadership. Ultimately, any strive for money or success might be grounded in the need to be a member of a group of higher status.

Also, what distinguishes rather or not the language used was a conduit/insulator is dependent upon the context(KZread;500-char limit), assumptions(following up with a personal message to have broader discussions, for example), and a self-fulfilling projection -- If you already presume, like you state, that we view the world through a particular lens, then it follows we inhibit creative discourse. I hope you understand what I am getting at, because the derisive comments were uncalled for.

I think when Matthew is talking about social learning he has in mind the experiential learning, or letting the subconscious take the lead instead of the analytical mind.

The amount of social connection we need depends on our personality (introvert/extrovert). Nevertheless, social connection is a basic need in humans. Great talk!

@FireflyOnTheMoon

2 жыл бұрын

no it doesn't

@daniellacy8978

Жыл бұрын

@@FireflyOnTheMoon i agree introversion/extroversions seems to me to be pseudoscience. It offers socially anxious people an excuse so that they don't have to confront the possiblity that they are flawed

That was really inspiring! But the sad thing about that is that only a few amount of people think like that or understand that. He made the choice to put money 2nd and family first. Even for myself, i don't know a lot of people that would do that. Be humble in life, love what you do, have faith and be patient, everything else is secondary.

It wasn't with reckless abandon, Adrian. I didn't have anything intelligent to say. The tylenol thing is important because people could die if they misinterpret our findings. I don't think the lack of empathy is causing psychopaths pain, but its not my area of study. I don't think I can respond to most of the comments on here, but the tylenol one needed a reply.

I think the beginning where he talks about social pain and social thinking in the brain is interesting as fuck, I bet if you look into how logical and social thinking are regulated it's tied to the difficulty people on the autism spectrum have with socializing. At the same time though, he acts as though the social area of the brain spontaneously activates itself and that compels you to "mind read" or share information with other people, instead of having a motivation that activates that area. I would also guess that because socializing is generally a natural, internalized thought process you have to learn things much more comprehensively to teach a concept, as opposed to being tested on it. Its equivalent to sampling a signal at a rate that's "good enough" to get the gist of the information as opposed to getting an essentially continuous analog signal ALSO, I'm pretty sure the word face primes people to see a face because your visual association cortex literally connects words with an image or archetype (i.e. a face has certain features like lips, nose, chin, etc.), not because of how eager we are to interact with others. Also ALSO, having to choose between a lot of money and experiencing the 7th year in particular of your child's life is a poor ethos argument in assuming everyone would be weighing those specific priorities, but I still think he has a point, including discussing the importance of socialization with children. I don't have much interaction with school age children to say this with any certainty, but I like to think that replacing social interactions face-to-face with online social media has a detrimental impact on children's social intelligence/maturity/health/whatever. Overall I'd still say it's probably one of my favorite TED talks though xD 8/10

it’s crazy how he’s my professor now 💀

I read his book Social, so I know that what he's saying is really significant, but the way he portrays it in this speech is not as effective as his writing. Read his book.

@felipemoreira8308

8 жыл бұрын

+arande3 where can I get this book from? I live in Brazil and couldn't find it even though I've got a kindle device. I wanna read it so much :( help me please.

@arande3

8 жыл бұрын

I don't knowl. If you didn't find it through those avenues I'm not sure what to tell you.

@felipemoreira8308

8 жыл бұрын

arande3 thank you ):

@richl9268

8 жыл бұрын

+TheBrainTrust Dr. Lieberman, is that you?

@gets0me626

8 жыл бұрын

+TheBrainTrust I agree, his book was definitely more compelling. This speech was hard to watch.

to Citi L, I read about an experiment that suggested just the opposite: an infant deprived of human touch died despite being fed, quite quickly if I remember.

@richl9268

8 жыл бұрын

+Joe Jowers Nah.

liked this

If you like the talk, check out the book its based on. "Social: Why our brains are wired to connect"

You really have just said that the social world, is controlled by survival, which is what causes a separation from common sense, as that basic physical understanding. This means that the social constructs, economically, are limiting in themselves. We are ruled/word driven by fear instead of being really creative. Being creative means problem solving in practical means. This is much more stable in developing real practical steps that actually get things done, and the words are probably a part of the vocabulary to match. Connection means effective communication. Our social well being is thus determined by our vocabulary development, because it allows us to get the things we need to be a well rounded effectively in the limiting economic construct we allow socially on this earth. Thus our words, when they call out the pain, is our fear of loss in a system that limits through being a construct of survival before life.

@johndemeritt3460

5 жыл бұрын

Reb Dalmas, I think you've missed something here. Something sociologists understand is that the social world doesn't separate us from common sense: being social creates common sense. The processes of social construction -- or as I prefer to say it, mutual construction of social reality -- is what imbues us with those notions we call "commonsense" or "everyday" knowledge. We don't really "read" others' minds -- we infer what they're thinking from what we observe in their behavior. That ability to make such inferences is based on what society has taught us about what particular behaviors mean, and it's that meaning we react to -- not to the actions themselves. And that's why it's so hard to communicate deeply with people from different cultures or different socio-cultural backgrounds: we don't share their mutually constructed social realities. So what we take for granted is something completely foreign to them, and vice versa. Far from social constructs being limiting economically, social constructs make economic existence possible, for without a common framework of meaning, economic interactions have no meaning. Without the social constructs about what economies are and how they behave, trust would be out of the question, and trust is essential to any economic transaction. Moreover, mutually constructed social reality enhances creativity by propagating a shared set of symbols and meanings that allow us to share and communicate our internal understandings. That means two things: first, that when you have an idea others might benefit from, you can communicate it to others, spreading the idea until it finds someone who can use it. Second, when you encounter a new idea, the act of translating it from the written, visual or spoken symbols you encounter actually re-invents the idea: you translate the idea in terms of your shared social reality, which may be different from that of the inventor. So you may end up taking that idea and using it in ways the inventor never thought of. For more on this latter idea, see Rogers' Diffusion of Innovation, where he clearly states that invention and diffusion of innovations is a social process tightly entwined with mutually constructed social reality.

*The Social Brain and it's superpowers* on TEDx

Great, now i gotta go buy social skills.

If it is possible to verify such a thing socio/psychopathy may be diagnosable through observing hyperactivity in the anterior cingulate cortex in the absence of external stimuli that would trigger a pain response. If it turns out that antisocial behavior is simply a response to a chronic social pain syndrome, it would be a great win for proponents of restorative justice. Im simply overwhelmed with all of the implications 4 mental illness, drug addiction, autism and other socially debilitating CI

Amazing! Thanks! ,,learning for teaching,, teach leaders the social skills,, teach kidsoh oh oh...,,

What does it mean when you see the faces and the vase at the same time?????

Well, that was a low-blow; in all honesty, my motivations were to correct some initial assumptions and help make the discussion less oppositional/diametric. My expectation of human nature may be less than satisfactory, but not my aspirations :P

I saw the vase first.... (And had to try to see the faces. Note: I don't really use Facebook.)

It was an assumption, because it was never stated that I saw the world within that dichotomy which you explicitly state, "Or rather you two have difficult accepting the ideas because you've divided the world into two groups: introvert/extrovert". The initial claim is also an assumption, in the very least because I never made a statement not in acceptance of the video's material. In fact, it was quite interesting; hence my initial "like". The rest noted your aggressive conduct towards phantasms.

It's presumptuous to say that it is inherent in all humans, many breeds were not as domesticated as the europoids

Isn't it presumptuous to use canine domestic metaphors to describe humans?

sir can i send u mcq which my students solve last days can u check them n tell me the marks they got thanku

am i the only one who genuinely saw the vase first?

Imagine all the people who got sad or embarrassed start taking painkillers every time

Can someone help Explain the main aspects of M. Leiberman’s research

@loveshell007

4 жыл бұрын

* Social connection is a basic need in humans. As important as food. * Connecting with people makes us smarter, happier, and more productive. * Children should be taught the value of social well-being, because it's more important than being rich.

true that Maslow's "The hierarchy of need" is wrong, as the first thing we really need is social connections! this was mentioned in Quraan 1500 years ago, when Prophet Ibrhim left Hager and her son Ismael in Mecca and he asked God the following: our Lord, I have settled some of my descendants in an uncultivated valley near your sacred house. so, make hearts among people incline toward them and provide for them fruits that they might be grateful. Quraan, Surah 14, verse 37. hence, this is a proof that we human are needing people around us to survive. if you feel different, for sure you have a problem!

He would make a great grandfather. such a gifted storyteller :) Just kidding. His students are fortunate.

Ja.

Your friends and family are your most valuable assets yet most Americans have few stable long term relationships.

Does anybody out there think Dissonance creates pain the same way? Which may explain why we do so much dissonance reduction and can fall into cognitive dissonance?

@toomuchinformation

8 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. Great point. I would also say that denial also comes from a place of avoiding pain too.

I am just thinking about how I can incorporate this into sport.

@m.rosariomartinez9492

3 жыл бұрын

Did you come up with something? 🌻

Is it possible that the inability to empathize, sympathize and connect socially with other people is a constant source of pain for socio/psychopaths and that a large part of their behavior could be motivated by a perverted reward system where victimizing other people is in fact a form of self medicating, i.e. stabbing X leads to endorphins rush= dulling of social pain? Is it possible that ur quantification of social pain is the "indescribable urge" that these people feel the need to quell?

12:57

Only in America!

Fair enough. Apologies for pulling you in to such an unproductive exchange(and for being an ass about it). Literally the exact opposite of my original intention. Best of luck with it all.

did anyone just see the vase and not see the two faces on it until after he said face again?

@m.rosariomartinez9492

3 жыл бұрын

Ja, yep! 🙋‍♀️

So because his son will turn 7 while he's away so he decided no to take a very highly paid job for only 4 month? well, I can't understand why he had to give up Russia because he was probably around for other birthdays and when he gets the money they can have amazing times together. this my thoughts

Next time, off to Russia WITH wife and kids. Nice talk. Thanks.

I survived infancy because I had to play helldivers 2

He reminds me of Brad Pitt

@seagecko

7 жыл бұрын

Across between Brad Pitt and George Clooney :) I like what he's saying too

@jillianajean-charles1658

4 жыл бұрын

andersspam lmao!

@liron5698

3 жыл бұрын

its the jaw

SOWK 647

I do not want to build a rocket ship

If you enjoy, follow me on twitter @social_brains or get the book "Social: Why our brains are wired to connect".

As snarky as you are confused, how quaint. The point is that extra/introvert do not belong in this conversation period.

Oh yeah, arguments should be public. Publicly sanctioned arguments are just named debates.

He is so darn cute.

You weren't speaking in all honesty before?

This is fascinating. But these 'Tylenol cures grief' stories make me worry people are going to start self medicating. Isn't Tylenol very dangerous and easy to overdose?

I'm having fun, I hope you're not finding it pleasant to live with ;)