The Real Cause of Procrastination Explained
In order to overcome procrastination (or the passive putting off of important work even though you know it’s hurting your life) we need to understand why it happens. If you understand this, I promise that you’re about 90% there in terms of overcoming it. The other 10% is just a little tweaking and implementing of practical techniques.
So, here’s the first big piece of information I’m going to give you. The reason we procrastinate is because we have low self-esteem. I want you to remember this. It really is fundamentally important to keep in mind. Now, this low self-esteem is a problem because it leads to all sorts of dysfunctional behaviour, designed to further reinforce feelings of worthlessness and inferiority. And procrastination is simply one of the ways this is achieved. The real problem is that there’s so much bad advice out there in terms of what to do about the underlying low self-esteem. Very few people understand how it originates and how it is perpetuated. You may even be thinking that it’s practically impossible to fix it. I assure you it is entirely possible to fix it. When we do, the issue with procrastination becomes very easily understood and solved.
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Thanks for watching. If you're short on time, skip to the 22:00 minute mark where the underlying cause is outlined. The earlier parts of the video talk about things to avoid when overcoming procrastination. If you found the video helpful, please leave a like and subscribe. Thanks, David
i consider myself one of the lucky few people who have watched this video. very enlightening and illuminating.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome 🙏
I cannot thank you enough for your channel. I've just signed up for your membership and can't wait to do the Procrastination course. I have been paralyzed and suffering from this beast of procrastination and experiencing the horrible feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. A terrible spiral. And the worse it gets the more i punish myself by depriving myself of time for fun and rest. Thank you, thank you for offering this work to the world.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Diane. You are very welcome 🙏
I noticed lately when I'm wasting time procrastinating, it's not like I even want to do the things that I'm doing.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
3 жыл бұрын
100%. Its that little guilt voice that seems to taint it. We also stay in these things longer than we typically would when in avoidance mode. You're not alone my friend. Don't beat yourself up for this.
This video just blew my mind. I have been sitting for more than 20 minutes after watching it, as I am mentally digesting what I already knew very deep inside of me. Other videos I have seen have been eye opening, but yours has been eye, mind and heart opening...so much that I am in awe at how peaceful I feel now by just understanding the real underlying cause. So many things make sense about my life now. I am so glad an algorithm took me here, ironically while procrastinating, in search for a reason for my persistent procrastination. Thank you!!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the great feedback. Delighted this video spoke to you. Keep working on the mindset shift and great things will happen!
@nensi1972
Жыл бұрын
...❤
I wish I came to this before. Unfortunately self-declared masters of productivity and time management are somehow more popular and famous than the professionals with degrees in the field ,who can actually help us become better individuals. What I have learned from this video is that the underlying cause of procrastination is guilt,fear and old limiting beliefs that form themselves to due to procrastination,paradoxically.
@gj1695
Ай бұрын
Yes. 💯
its amazing how after decades of using will power and hard work, this all eventually fails,.. eventually u feel hopeless and like life isnt worth living.... u feel numb and like u just want to get drunk on the couch... lol.. eventually u feel so exhausted, u cant do anything.. its amazing how ur mind can make ur body feel extremely exhausted, like ur dying...like each cell has a heavy weight on it... like each limb is so heavy....ur blood feels heavy... ur bones feel heavy.... everything is heavy... each step is a struggle ... like u have a 200 lbs on ur back
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
9 ай бұрын
Yes, will power is typically not a sustainable long term solution I feel. Balance and compassion are very often overlooked in our conditioning. It leads to an exhaustion or psychological weariness.
What the fuck this is crazy... 🤯 This is truly mind blowing. Rarely does a KZread video leave me speechless, but this one of them. Especially the point about the guilt. That's crazy.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
2 жыл бұрын
Glad this helped 🙏
Well done! Very helpful! Thank you!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
27 күн бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
Having said that, I've never heard such a lucid and exact discourse on why I procrastinate. Bravo!
Thank you so much.
Very good explanations with a very nice drawing! I love it 💡
Amazingly simple and massively empowering video. THANK YOU!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
2 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
Thank you for this.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
Ай бұрын
My pleasure!
This video is so eye-opening. Thanks!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
2 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
Very cool. Thank you
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Hamoun 👍
literally cry , thank you so much for such a brightfull explanation
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
Жыл бұрын
Very welcome indeed!
A consequence of procrastination (guilt) is not the same as a payoff. Guilt, which is self blame, is a desparate way of trying to motivate someone to take action.
I wasn’t always a procrastinator with a certain skillset that I achieved but once I quit drinking I lost the desire…what the hell is that all about? Now I’ve committed to a project and I’ve turned into a major procrastinator…Ill learn what I can from you and KZread..your information is giving me some hope and insights I had not considered so far…Thank You Dr…🧐
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
2 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear this. Hope the videos help you understand the issue a little more.
@waris4thewealthy549
2 жыл бұрын
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Thank You Dr..people really need your book…I really appreciate the comment back to me! 😁
It leads me to a feeling of loser, failure and trapped, so my basic self identity. So procrastination promotes my self image.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I think procrastination reinforces this self-perception. When we learn to stop it, we then go back to the root to address the misperception 🙏
Thanks for this. It really hit hard. A true revelation.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
10 ай бұрын
Most welcome!
Well Explained!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
3 жыл бұрын
👍
This was really insightful and I think will help me immeasurably. Procrastination blights my life I’ve always known from past trauma that I had low self esteem but never saw the correlation between the two before. I absolutely crucify myself with guilt and berate myself for being a failure for not doing stuff I know I can do but just can’t at times. Can you do a video on techniques to overcome low self esteem and negative self talk? Anyway just wanted to say thank you, this was an excellent video.
That hit home so hard. Great video!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
...i have lost years and years in my way of procrastination, ...i am 51 , now...and unfortunately, havent yet overcome it by now,...praying for breakthrough...🌹❤️🙏🏻...
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
Жыл бұрын
Hope you found something insightful here my friend. I've been there too.
How 40 hours a month converts to 55 days in a year? 40 * 12 = 480 Hours / 24 = 20 days
Thank you for this beautifully calm and genuinely insightful video.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
11 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
Great breakdown , thank you !
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@bluesslider76
Жыл бұрын
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy I’ve live that wheel since I was a kid (46 now). What helped you break it ?
Hi David, Thanks for your analysis; a lot to work on. Are your familiar with Badre`s "On Task"? Great book; but, funny thing, if you search the pdf file, you'll see that the words procrastinate/procrastination are not used once. Neurologically, the PFC (his acronym) is responsible for initiating and sustaining action. It's malfunction is the reason for self destructive behavior and though you won't find the word, procrastination. Would love to get your take on this.
Amazing video🎉
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
Ай бұрын
Thanks so much!
I have been procrastinating whole week and i dont know what the reason is I have studies those topics before but when now i want to study because its my exams i cant even read a word Its really is stressing me out because even if I have studies the whole year If i dont study now it will all be a waste I am frustrated with my self, i dont even like waking up and bringing my self to just read even a line. What am i supposed to do
Thanks for digging deeply into the root causes, I'm a typical procrastinator, I'm absolutely investing in your course, however, do you offer any discount coupons? not to underestimate the value, but due to my circumstance.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Hosamo. Contact me through the site and I'll help with this.
Hi Dr, please fix your audio in all of your videos. You have best advise but hard to hear you. Thank you
23:24 What do we get from procrastination
man i wanna hug you so bad.
This is perhaps random, but is your MBTI type INFP?
It seems to me that you procrastinate getting to the point.