I learned to walk away when I have nothing calm to say. I no longer argue😉pray pray and pray🤷🏻‍♀️

@violettemitchel6772

3 жыл бұрын

Will copy u

@halimothman2010

3 жыл бұрын

Will copy you too

@beci1994

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. Especially in environments where it is needed

@hefzi-babeula8631

3 жыл бұрын

As time passes by it gets easier and easier and really sends a clear message. I realized if people can not understand by you talking, let alone arguing😉

@laurascroggins1493

3 жыл бұрын

I'm learning to do that now and it's not always easy. Oh how I admire you!!❤

Act - do not react! Reacting is allowing someone else to control you. As simple as that.

@StyleViewStudio

3 жыл бұрын

@Margo Ledbetter Not even than Any response is feeding the perpetrator. Complete stand still-no reaction- silence - another cases. No reaction -no response either. That is a science of not retaliating. Not engaging in the other's game of control.It is harder than we think

@theresachung703

3 жыл бұрын

I cannot say enough how this message has helped me dissolve my reactivity. When I feel myself wanting to lash out, I listen to this message and I return to myself. Thank you.

@bomminification

3 жыл бұрын

You can react with kindness.More than no react.

@theresachung703

3 жыл бұрын

@@bomminification Wow. Yes.

@wiseowl3491

3 жыл бұрын

This could save your life.

I grew up with a toxic mother that used to scream and yell all day long. She was explosive and reacted negatively to a lot of things. I’m trying to correct myself when I slip into her ways. This is a huge struggle for me.

@yamjam0101

Жыл бұрын

Same here. The struggle is real because for a very long time thats all we knew. Is to be reactive and angry and negative. Im trying everyday and i fail all the time but thats ok cox over time, il get there. And you will too!!! Cheering for u Nicole!!

@ChangedandChosen

Жыл бұрын

@@yamjam0101 I'm right there with you.

@TutiFruity7103

Жыл бұрын

same. i’ve been doing so good. she called me last night to yell at me for inviting her out to see chrismas decorations.

@hinasharma1619

Жыл бұрын

Oh poor you. That's sad. Parents should be good examples to their children. Someone you look up too. Xx

@johnconlon2207

Жыл бұрын

You are fighting the good fight.

♥️ “Every time you resist the urge to react, you are gaining more light, and your will power strengthens”

@b.krueger3426

4 ай бұрын

This is exactly what I was searching for. I prayed prior & felt directed to this wise wisdom. I did have to listen to it several times due to his strong accent. I do want to share with two others but fear they will have difficulty understanding his English.

'Do not identify with another person's opinion unless it makes you a better person' I'm going to keep this one close to my heart. thank you.

@RinAsami1

3 жыл бұрын

Such a fantastic thing to remember. I'm going to keep this one too! It may just have saved me from more anxiety.

@tomsheils1096

3 жыл бұрын

I really like this one. Cuz I'm too sensitive about stuff and when someone constantly puts me down, it hurts like hell and then I start being a recluse.

@tomsheils1096

3 жыл бұрын

Ur so right now on that one. I find myself wishing that one a lot so I'm gonna be extra careful from now on. Thanx for the advice.

@Dani-cg9hn

3 жыл бұрын

@@tomsheils1096 there’s a TeDxTalk about ‘Don’t take it personal.’ It is good. We need to learn to DETACH ourselves from others comments. Also there’s a great person here on KZread, young, but with wisdom beyond her life years, who is amazing at teaching us to think about our expectations from others, etc. (Edit: BK Shivani is her name and KZread channel) It is great as a foundation to detach ourselves from others. Only by making a conscious decision for ourselves, we can do this. Though we go into our ‘default’ system, just like a computer, we must make sure we stay with the ‘UPDATES’ on a regular basis.

@valerieirvin249

3 жыл бұрын

This is critical in so many ways.

"Use your words to heal,bless and uplift everyone,do not use your words to divide and destroy others, what you say can never be erased"❤

@randomactsofhugs

3 жыл бұрын

That was so awesome I'm going to listen to this every day I pray. Airhugs of positive energy to you and yours and the world.

@ongbarbara5709

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the wisdom

@irarapp3745

3 жыл бұрын

I understand and repent when I react harshly. But am sad when family “make up lies” w intention to harm/disrespect one. I finally walked away. Pray for them daily... but nothing to apologize for..

@bcllai1862

3 жыл бұрын

Great comment 👍

@janeyd5280

2 жыл бұрын

What you do can cause plenty of hurt forever.

Don't allow anyone to pull you into their negative storm

@choudharyali8472

4 ай бұрын

😢

@choudharyali8472

4 ай бұрын

😢😢

I love being calm and relaxed whenever am in trouble. Because it does make me feel mature and responsible. Training one's mind to see good in every situation in life is paramount.

@jodyelizabethoellerich1405

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for that

@michellepetros8491

Жыл бұрын

This is the apathetic attitude that is a plague right now I bet you wouldn't help someone in need and I bet you wouldn't even be able to see if someone was truly in need.

@swenett1308

Жыл бұрын

Me too

@eighthwonderproject1395

Жыл бұрын

How about when you witness violence, vandalism or theft?

@priyapadgaokar5934

Жыл бұрын

It's easier said than done but NOT when you have a NARCISSIST in your life. It takes a long time to heal from such abuse.

Patient people are more likely to experience enduring happiness than impatient people.

When u control ur mind u control ur reality. That's definitely true there.

@ninalarson9453

3 жыл бұрын

Bullshit, who u are is ONLY... what everyone around u wants you to be. ALL YOU ARE IS THE PERSON THAT THEY THINK YOU ARE . THATS REALITY UNFORTUNATELY. I doesn't matter if I have become a different person, the people around u will only see what they want to see, no matter how high you scream to the rafters in your own defense!! I've lost most respect for life and humanity because of it, SADLY

@tomsheils1096

3 жыл бұрын

@@ninalarson9453 God! U on the rag or something? Ur a bitch!

“Think of your circumstances as a test of your spiritual character…. “ That was so powerful and resonated with me 🔥

@scottmawhinney6508

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I have blew it quite a few times react bad and then say things I should never say

@LW-wg4ny

Жыл бұрын

This resonated with me too, 😊

@plusbonus1165

5 ай бұрын

And me .❤

@sophietory5597

4 ай бұрын

Me too ❤

“You are no longer the victim of circumstances. Instead, you become the creator of circumstances”

@Evolveyouawakened

Жыл бұрын

My goodness I love this..I'm never ever going to be a victim of circumstances I'm not reactive I am a creator of the circumstances I wish to experience

@MurrDog723NoNeYa-je4bp

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!

"Love makes everything easy, Faith makes everything possible, Hope makes everything work."

@sussanecarr5493

3 жыл бұрын

Love that!

@carolinenorman6141

3 жыл бұрын

Brilliant

@PriyaKumari-og1rt

3 жыл бұрын

These thoughts are nice but really doesn't happen in reality....

@shirleybutler2623

3 жыл бұрын

OMG Linda You just hit the ball out the ballpark with those comments TRUE DA 4SURE!!! LOVED IT😊😊

@LindaHutchings

3 жыл бұрын

While I appreciate all the likes and accolades I need to give credit because this is a quote directly from this brilliant video and I just preserved it because I thought it was so memorable but if you copy it and paste it on your Facebook pages or whatever please credit the author of the video! I wish I'd said it by the way! LOL LET'S KEEP BEING POSITIVE AND THINKING POSITIVE EVERYONE! ❤️

When you control your mind, you control your Reality. 😀😀😀 Every time you don't react, you gain will power over your life. 💪🏿

@marciamorgan5316

Жыл бұрын

Love this one ❤

@excelnnn

Жыл бұрын

You can not control your mind, anything you do , it spoils, just be a watcher of your thoughts and emotions.!!

@ckmodele

Жыл бұрын

So good

@Meralysp-cv6wr

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this one

@cloverhead3803

10 ай бұрын

How am I supposed to do what the video said to when I wouldn’t be allowed enough time to do any of it…? How am I supposed to do this when I have to heavily filter around them so my words don’t make them butt hurt…?

Actions speak louder than words. Cowards don't speak up. They stay silent which is much more underhanded and dishonest.

I find myself reacting to things as they happen. I don’t even wait for the person to finish speaking or situation to play out. Once I think something is happening that I don’t want to deal with… I’m lashing out. My reactions are ruining my relationships and pushing people away.

@kyliemcdermott4538

Жыл бұрын

With you on that, I pray God heals our hearts and gives us more of His compassion, patience, and love.

@swenett1308

Жыл бұрын

I pray that you master being slow to react

@hinasharma1619

Жыл бұрын

Well you can always learn from. Mistakes. At least are accepting where you are going wrong. Just pause and think then reply. It's not hard at all.

@wordup897

Жыл бұрын

Now that you're aware of it, just try to remain conscious of it at all time. Practice silence/non-reaction with every interaction and it will become your natural response. If you are interacting with people who consistently abuse you when you are doing your best to get along, it is probably best to minimize/cease contact as some people are just not going to stop. In time maybe you can deal even with them without being affected, but it's not something I am able to do yet. Peace and love to you.

@kyliemcdermott4538

Жыл бұрын

@@wordup897 Thank you for your wise words. You got this.

As Eckhart Tolle says “Do nothing & see what happens “

@ZinniaLuo

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, the power of letting go!! The energy you give off once you've let go of something actually attractive to the people and things around you

I can't emphasize how absolutely important it is to take time for yourself . I dont mean just to rest and chill with a TV on. I mean seriously silent time. no interruptions at all. On a daily basis . It works wonders

@joysimmons446

2 жыл бұрын

Amen

@africacarey

2 жыл бұрын

You are exactly right if that means staring at a wall or just looking off into who-knows-what space or the air that silence is everything

@jazmineK90

2 жыл бұрын

True

@tnt01

Жыл бұрын

meditation is the best.

@bekind913

Жыл бұрын

Yes before going to bed spend 15 mins alone. Think what good we did today and what went wrong. Assess ourselves.

“As a man thinketh in his heart so is he!” “Out of the mouth, the abundance of the heart speaks!”🥰🙏🏽💯

@manuelcarrillo7607

Жыл бұрын

There are many sins and temptations. Try to have grace and forgiveness for people who sometimes struggle with evil thoughts in their mind and/or heart. There are times I struggle with sinful thoughts and I must pray for help and strength to overcome them and not act on them.🙏

@iamtaliba.divine.love1322

Жыл бұрын

@@manuelcarrillo7607 Amen 💖💝🙏🏽❤️‍🩹💯

@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142

Жыл бұрын

If thad is true my son is really sick ! 4:18

It’s not easy to stop reacting when others put distress into your body with their untreated mental illness, especially if nobody knows how to set healthy boundaries.

With some people, meaning negative people, when you don’t react it makes them angry.

@TereseJames3

3 жыл бұрын

I call it being indifferent. they hate it. but I do use mirroring at times. I will hold a mirror/light back at them, they will think on their own actions, you are helping anyone who really sees their own reflection. its out of love in that I do this because some people MANY you can love them you can do everything and anything for them to empower them but they will shit on you. this is fact so in a way what he is saying is true but one must know its pointless. I will say my truth and then move on. how is someone going to learn if you just go away without knowing why?

@mrasanjani

3 жыл бұрын

@@TereseJames3 Very True... For neg people, if you just walk away without helping them to see the truth, how would they learn to treat people kindly...? But we have to say anything with calm and kind mind as this dr. says...

@lettishasamaroo7032

3 жыл бұрын

its not our responsibility to enlighten a negative person you are and can only be responsible for yourself your own healing and enlightenment. pray for them and hope that your example teaches them something. because if u place yourself in a situation where you try to help a negative person you may intern harm yourself watch out for that. protect your energy and your mental health!

@Jenniferspace

3 жыл бұрын

Hehe vert true

@maro_ma

3 жыл бұрын

Or happy considering you weak

I needed this. I always react in anger. I need to start reacting in understanding and communication because I always end up the one who gets the most hurt because I can’t control my emotions.

@karinam4488

3 жыл бұрын

I can totally relate and am with u on every word. I know we can do this, we just need to keep trying, keep working on ourselves. God speed to u dear

@nycrawgirl

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. I have a short fuse.

@ruthcollins5140

3 жыл бұрын

I tend to get hurt then when it is unfair accusations then I will react.

@D.Lee.W

2 жыл бұрын

I also have a bad habit of reacting rather than Responding. I am trying now to change this. Not easy for those of us who have made this a habit. However, if we practice enough, Responding instead of reacting will become the habit.

@mrs.sarahjackson1666

2 жыл бұрын

Ppl who over indulge their own emotions always think they're the ones getting the most hurt because they don't see how much others have to shut off their emotions just be around them.

That's exactly what I'm doing. Working on my own personal self and building a bigger and stronger relationship with Our Creator of the Whole Universe. I'm not concerned about what everyone else is doing. I'm focusing on making myself a better person and having a closer relationship with Our Creator of the Whole Universe.

@less2worryabout

Жыл бұрын

great but the universe was not created it is eternal be concerned with everyone as we are all together be able to go out and get.

I came looking for this because lately, I've been surrounded by a lot of negativity that's been causing me to react in a very angry way. I feel I need to take a step back and really think about where I want my energy to go and signs have been pointing inward. I need to do the inner work and stop reacting to others when I feel attacked, if I feel their energy is off, or if I notice distance. I need to realize that NONE of it is because of me. I need to listen to this on a loop over and over again and change my behavior. It's time now...

@BS-si6pj

10 ай бұрын

Well think about it, if it was right for you to get angry then why should you feel guilty about it. Sometimes a clear message needs to be sent so they realize the extent of their actions.

This should be thought in schools. Life changing

@niki.ktronsgard8507

3 жыл бұрын

I know right?! I believe that mindfulness could be implemented as a core subject similar to phys-ed right from grade one! It's a Toxic Culture , we are not shown life skills really until we find ourselves so deep in our demons , its either do or die. The individuals behaviors are result of generational trauma. They don't know any thing else...

@tryitmctavishs4216

3 жыл бұрын

I agree

@jmorgan5870

3 жыл бұрын

Taught at home**

@heatherlangley6824

3 жыл бұрын

Taught °

@pinkbottom37

3 жыл бұрын

🙌💗

I wish I had this teaching 50 yrs ago.😭I have ruined relationships that I cared about that would have tripled my joy in life. I have been left with misery. I listened to false voices and feelings in my head and heart.😭It's SO HARD living with these regrets. I still cry over the losses, unforgiveness, anger, misunderstandings, and missed opportunities. The unforgiveness, anger, resentment, and the false reality of a situations that lead me down a dark path of repeated reactions for decades and left misery behind! I carried the anger of my childhood into my adulthood. I didn't realize this until I brought God deeper into my life. I failed to listen too many times. He's the great teacher and comforter in time of regrets. Rely on God's strength and never your own. Self control is not just what comes out of your mouth but, what goes into your mouth, ears, and eyes.🙊🙉🙈 Put on the armor of God's love and be fully protected. You will make mistakes, but fewer and fewer. Accept the peace and forgiveness God offers you. Repentance and forgiveness are a moments prayer away.💗💔💗

@cringe_dats_life3123

2 жыл бұрын

I know what you mean.

@yellowdayz1800

2 жыл бұрын

Amen.

@acer4237

2 жыл бұрын

Let go of regrets,use the clean canvas to start over and create something beautiful from all you’ve learned

@FoodsBudgetRecipes

2 жыл бұрын

I also feeling regret with what I had done to a man I love because of my overactive, everything was destroy by me. Just got to hear this lesson after broken up 1 week. This is a big lesson that I most remember it always and apply it in my life.

@peaceandquiet1983

Жыл бұрын

🙏💗

This just healed me from a potential spiral down after my awakening..thank you so much One thing you said ..DO NOT ACCEPT ANOTHER PERSONS REALITY AS YOUR OWN..that just helped me anchor on being positive and concious thank you this was pure gold

"Never accept another person's reality as your own". I like this phrase, especially combined with being mindful of my attachment to judgement against a narcissist's need for shifting my reality, rather than focusing on my own journey through what I see as reality. It's in how I react that has been holding me back.

@ericprater8335

Жыл бұрын

Yes, so maybe you should stop trying to change my reality and quit bothering me and stalking me you know I'm right prove me wrong please stop you're grossly distracting me from an otherwise peaceful life.

"If you can’t control yourself, you cannot control your reality" wisest quotes I got this year. Thanks you and respect. 🙏🏻👍🏻

I am going to challenge myself by listening to this every day, for 30 days! - I feel if I commit to this, it will positively change my life.

@selaimagucake2622

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely...thats the way to impress our subconscious mind

@chrismorales1618

2 жыл бұрын

Did your 30 day challenge help you????

@traceymcghee7174

2 жыл бұрын

I've been listening to this almost everyday for 5months, and everytime it's a blessing, a beautiful reminder and I always walk away with a different message, I feel more present, I will continue to listen to this everyday to be a better human being. 💖

@PinkMoonDreams

2 жыл бұрын

I like this idea

@rachelduckett3408

2 жыл бұрын

30 days?

love makes everything easy, faih makes everything possible, hope makes everything work...

When my father passed away, I was the only sibling that was on speaking terms with him. I also did not speak with most of my relatives because of trouble with them through the years. When he died, I was left his property and his money. My relatives came at me with all kinds of disgusting phone calls and harassed through text messages. All the while, I decided to just ignore them and do what needed done through court. I went against the urge to get down right evil because it wasn't really needed...As it turned out, the harassment stopped when they saw it had no effect...I got through it by not giving them the satisfaction or ability to control my decision making.....Sometimes, silence is the better path.....I knew their words were used by them to hurt me....I didn't take the bait...I maintained control by not responding....

@GK-ji3pm

Жыл бұрын

@Jules playing it smart, huh? You are a cynical demented fool! You have no idea what the situation was! By your ignorant statements, I can tell what type of nutty relative you would be in this type of situation? What happened, did mom or daddy leave you out of their will? If so, did you ever stop to think that maybe you were the problem? No! That can't be! You come across as a self serving and entitled idiot! I never tried to come across as an amazing person. I was simply stating how I got through a sad situation and had mentally ill relatives making it worse...If my father's wish were to split his estate " equally", he would have done that in his will...You have no idea what you are talking about!

@thedividexxi

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this

It’s not about not reacting, it’s about reacting properly Sometimes we need to react, such as ridding ourselves of the darkness in our lives..

@deenasayed2333

3 жыл бұрын

Respond, not react. There is a difference.

@deeariisafra4

3 жыл бұрын

@@deenasayed2333 whatttt

@teal1010

3 жыл бұрын

Deena Sayed Whenever I've reacted, I went from 0-100! When I respond, I'm calm, clear and straight to the point!

@GentlemenJack109

3 жыл бұрын

If someone talks shit let them talk shit, when you comeback at them your feeding them more shit to give to you.

@TereseJames3

3 жыл бұрын

so agree by all non violent means necessary. Mirroring is sometimes a must. showing someone a mirror is a light. it plants seeds

"Remember, love makes everything easy, faith makes everything possible and hope makes everything happen!"

@marykamau7327

2 жыл бұрын

Light is the principle of perfection

@mmommo-hx4dx

2 жыл бұрын

love that a lot....only hope got me out of a bad marriage of 35 years

@fire942edits8

2 жыл бұрын

love is never always good as soon as dead depression comes

@j.k8673

Жыл бұрын

And the greatest is love

@JolieUTU

Жыл бұрын

Those are nice platitudes, but unfortunately none are actually true. So much better to face reality, than desperately holding on to false promises. Face reality head on, make a plan, & move on to the next level.

not reacting has helped me to have peace of mind and to think carefully on what to do and think, i normally do not get hurt anymore when i am triggered. i have learned that no giving in is power despite of what people may say against me, i believe i am a very powerful person with powerful characters.

Stay calm....every moment....I WON the battle!! Thank you for sharing....love and peace!!

Remember: Not reacting doesn’t necessarily mean you’re playing victim!☺️🔥 Edit: Don’t react, instead respond. Very powerful!

@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807

3 жыл бұрын

True, you are not giving power to those who insult you

@adriamaral300

3 жыл бұрын

You learn a lot about people when you don’t react. All the pettiness and how they view you. In the end, you come to realize that they don’t really know you and their attacks are just the lens from how they see the world from their own past experiences. It’s not the same lens you are looking out at them from. For the person that was cheated on, everyone is a potential cheater. For the person who was robbed, everyone is a potential thief. Reacting doesn’t solve anything. Waiting and discussing in a calm matter might help, but if a relationship is destroyed, ask God to give the person peace and love and remove yourself from further harm.

@jolaola1987

3 жыл бұрын

I sense that in many cases its the opposite of that. Reacting is being a victim of circumstances and conditioning. Responding is powerful.

@Just1Independent1

3 жыл бұрын

@@jolaola1987 Don’t react, instead respond ?

@dirose6689

3 жыл бұрын

@@Just1Independent1 what really does this mean? Instead Respond ? How?

"When you are more conscious, your character starts to change!"

Allowing situations in life can make or break you but try not to react and keeping your eyes on Jesus through it all ...no matter how difficult - God’s Will prevails❣️

The best way to deal with negative people when you can't ignore them is, only answer questions, have no comment, don't bother talking to them when you are in a good mood it will only put you in a bad mood, this is good advice in this video.

@bencrouch9704

Жыл бұрын

There is no law against provacation, so people use provacation as a tool, if you do not react, you collect good karma as the Universe and sometimes even Heaven or God will feel sorry for you and then bless your life, (this my advice), I will be watching this video as guidance as I now realise I am not alone from being provoked by those who are in envy of who I am and my life.

"If we choose to go through our challenges with a smile on our face, then our challenges will never have a chance to "cling" to us like mud!"

@julialungu619

3 жыл бұрын

True.Its better to face it . You become stronger than before

@CDRXITHSM

2 жыл бұрын

Get vaccinated. UNITY go to soul CIRCUS . # Life well CVS Life.

I'm getting a new job I'm fed up with being abused every day

@ioanatupita6199

3 жыл бұрын

You are abused at work you mean ?

@madhatter909

3 жыл бұрын

@@ioanatupita6199 yes. they all got FIRED I'm trying not to gloat. It's hard. KARMA

@madhatter909

3 жыл бұрын

@jonny Begood better, they all got fired, i'm the only one left for now. KARMA

@angelaandromedas3206

3 жыл бұрын

you go for it follow yoUR SOULS VOICE

@reg8297

3 жыл бұрын

God bless u I pray Lord jesus will open a door for u where u will experience nothing but love 💖

Listening for a third time. I need to listen to this everyday. Incredibly powerful stuff in here. “When you control your mind, you control your reality.” Basically every line is amazing

@ericprater8335

Жыл бұрын

To bad the narrator chooses not to subscribe to his own philosophy.

Some great advice on here and positivity, I myself have found by not reacting you grow ,feel happier, feel more mature, and realise that silence is so powerful, so never react and walk away with peace let them live with the hurtful words just set yourself free .❤

This video literally broke the “Negative Spell” that was controlling my internal dialogue and thought processes. I’ve been playing this on repeat all day, and will continue to listen to this everyday to reprogram my mind pattern! ☺️😊🙂😇

@nirmalarawat9194

3 жыл бұрын

Hmmm negative spell is the right word.

@kelleysullivan5084

3 жыл бұрын

That’s exactly what I’m doing. Each word he speaks is perfect. His message is uplifting and powerful. We all know he speaks the truth.

@katrand5357

2 жыл бұрын

I see that you posted this a year ago. How are you doing now?

@mister_oj_zen7345

Жыл бұрын

I Endorse This Understanding.

Appreciate the fact we all come from a different experience in life BUT we basically all have the same need.. the need to love and to be loved to be acknowledged to be seen

@tpmash

3 жыл бұрын

To be acknowledged! To be Seen👌🏽

@SepTeena

3 жыл бұрын

No lie, I say this ALL OF THE TIME, except I add in "The need to be heard" as well.

Amazing ! I react in different circumstances because I can’t control my anger not realising I get the same cycle back as I’m creating it by reacting , now I’m just cool calm and collected and don’t rise to the bait and get back all positivity in return♥️

Oh my god this was truly amazing! I have a huge issue with reacting in anger bc that’s all I grew up around and I absolutely hate it! Trying to break the generational curse and this video really helped me thank you so much!! Blessed be 🙏❤️

Love this: “Our perception of life creates our reality. By choosing to direct our thoughts, our feelings, our words, our actions and our attitude consciously and positively, we can transform and improve everything around us.”

@lorraine9097

3 жыл бұрын

That's the Secret! You found it!

@ninalarson9453

3 жыл бұрын

I so wish that was true, it's just mostly garbage you decide to buy into, meanwhile none of the UGLY HATEFULNESS around you seems to get any better

@debraseddonbloch

3 жыл бұрын

@Sunflowerlovely P narcissist projection...ugh it's ruined me. Trying now to escape that now that I too have realized his projection of how he views me was directing me to ruin. Seek God is right. Jesus Jesus Jesus

@believer2010ful

3 жыл бұрын

@@ninalarson9453 so what is the way foward ? Die of depression? Surely,we need to change our mind set

@believer2010ful

3 жыл бұрын

@@ninalarson9453 The ugliness around you will not end but how we perceive and react.I will learn to be non reactive

Saying nothing is powerful.dont feed other people’s snide comments .

@KTB77777

3 жыл бұрын

Amen. Satan’s bait is the act of “offense”. We can’t be easy targets. I had a professor that would tell me to pretend like you are a duck when someone offends. The offense will slide down your back and away. Usually, nasty people are nasty because of themselves not you. Xxoo silence is powerful.

@tomsheils1096

3 жыл бұрын

I look into ppls eyes when I talk to them and it usually shows me the truth. U can see who's rotting on the inside.

@tomsheils1096

3 жыл бұрын

Beat the royal fuck out of who's bothering u cuz it feels GREAT and they will leave u alone☺️😁🤣 lots and lots of love 🌷🌺💖💕☠️

@tomsheils1096

3 жыл бұрын

My dad used to tell me silence is golden!

@elpsicologotv4354

3 жыл бұрын

It really is, but at the time it's a mistreat...

THE FIRST MINUTE AND A HALF OF THIS MESSAGE LITERALLY MADE A CHANGE IN HOW MY MIND WILL WORK FROM TODAY ON! I NOT ONLY NEEDED TO HEAR THIS DESPERATELY BUT THIS IS LIFE CHANGING!

So true I was told that many yrs ago never speak to anyone in a negative way cause the damage can cause pain through out life this is good to listen to.

was a super reactive person, until I started practicing meditation and with prayer and the daily practice of mindfulness I began to notice changes, I no longer reacted or took anything personal.

I tend to get so frustrated or stressed. I just feel like things upset me that shouldn’t. I need to remain more calm and not get so angry or upset over dumb stuff...😫

3 жыл бұрын

Jasmin, I had a brother we used to taunt (when we were kids) just to see how angry we could make him. One day my mother told him the story of the BERSERKER. The berserker was a fictional story about a man the townspeople put in a cage in the middle of town square. The townspeople would taunt him mercilessly until he went berserk and this was their sick form of entertainment. After my mother told my brother that story, he changed. We could no longer get a rise out of him, so we stopped trying.

@santinapierre7873

3 жыл бұрын

I feel sometime not get upset little things want to grow more spirituality this video helps me to not get anger because of their narrow minds it's not god who watching us want to learn to be like jesus

@santinapierre7873

3 жыл бұрын

God watches good we do try not react i feel most People don't understand where my spiritual gifts

@tomsheils1096

3 жыл бұрын

I know someone like that and it's because she had been abused all her life from everyone. It left her in such a bad state that she is literally rotting from the inside. From her health to her spiritual state. She has only but a short time to live and she is my wife of 9 yrs.

Feeling so much of myself in this. Thank you. ❤️

@austinjackson8426

2 жыл бұрын

I suggest listening to Vernon Howard or Dr. Joe Dispenza “There is an energy that can continue to operate in eternity as long as we make a firm connection with it now here in the human body” - Think on that 😉

@TheFryedIScream

2 жыл бұрын

Just came from your recent video where you mention this video, thank you for the recommendation 💞

@rosegomez6591

2 жыл бұрын

Now i realize what a non conteolled maniac i ha e been. Anger is such pointless foolishness

@vacaspen5038

2 жыл бұрын

I don't think this person who's spewing poor began to watch it to be like It's using false labels and perhaps the truth comes out and you should have your last word and leave that person. No reason into Brian washing herself and staying in an unhealthy situation

@GhostWriter_369

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you..🥰💜

I am so thankful for this video. I listen to this message almost everyday. Some days twice. This is one of my weak areas I will conquer and get control of.

@amilaperera1

Жыл бұрын

Go ahead. All the best

When my life abruptly changed it was because I reacted instead of thinking logically about all of my options. Most importantly I didn't think about my future😕

@nanadlamini4054

3 жыл бұрын

Mistakes are not definite. They're lessons on what you need to within yourself to respond better next. They grow for the better. I can relate to how you're feeling. Once you find out what the lesson is, you improve. That's also the best lesson I learned from art. You send your work for criticism so that you can improve. Then you keep records of your mistakes, to show you how much you have improved. 🤩

@janeyd5280

3 жыл бұрын

Ksy B I am in same position.

"The mind follows the breath."

Not reacting/stop overreacting = resistance of what is. The more you resist reacting/overreacting the more it persists. Resistance of what is is the root cause of pain and suffering. If reacting/overreacting is what happening right now then all you have to do is simply allow as it is, All is well!

@LMc1177

Жыл бұрын

I respect your view, mine is similar but with a twist. As you aptly stated, "Resistance of what IS is the root cause of pain and suffering" -- for me, resistance can MANIFEST in the form of reaction/overreaction (a learned response), and I can choose neutrality instead as it leads to a clearer mind and inner peace. It's a more active choice for me. Blessings

@nicolajames5037

Жыл бұрын

Reacting is reacting there is no overreacting

There’s a time to react and a time to not react. The key is that your reaction impacts you in a positive way.

@loriann7117

Жыл бұрын

Very well said

@BS-si6pj

10 ай бұрын

Bullies will keep bullying you until you stand up to them

@francojordan1511

9 ай бұрын

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I can attest, that 9 times out of 10, any big time reactions to things (hyped up arguing and outbursts), never worked out in my favor......so that is why for the last twenty years I do the best I can to regain composure and rethink things before confronting etc. its not easy. but at the same time you have to weed out what your programming is (and who you modeled it from) to get the insights you need.

@rejynseraspi

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. I thought I was the only one. I am really struggling now.. 😭

@hunnyb1308

3 жыл бұрын

FACTS!!!👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

@tomsheils1096

3 жыл бұрын

Yaaasssss! True there.

@tpmash

3 жыл бұрын

Oh wow! It’s not easy but it must be done

@paularejas1887

3 жыл бұрын

Only with practice can we internalize a behavior we want to portray. When we react we are reacting subconsciously, we are on autopilot behavior, it is autopilot bcuz it is what we have been doing for years. In order to change, we have to be present in the moment and choose not to react, choose to change. Eventually what seems like hard work will feel more natural as the brain rewires to the new behavior. Don't give up, it only takes practice, repetition and time for the brain to rewire.

At 52 i have sadly lived my reactions unconciously causing much pain, this is an amazing video & i am so grateful "better late than never" as hard as it is to change a lifetime of limiting beliefs & behaviours due to obvious childhood damage imbeded, i am determined to implement what i now know to heal & listen to this beautiful video everyday, especially within this troubled world we face right now, Thankyou so much again, this needs to be posted to the world right now!! ❤🙏

@sunnylittlejoshine

3 жыл бұрын

🙏🏼👏🥰

@jklfds85

3 жыл бұрын

♥️ I hope you find the healing you deserve. I know what it's like battling childhood trauma and trying to heal. God bless!

@gracedavies1776

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with all you say.....it’s taken me till 60 to undo the damage that I have embedded in me from childhood & to try to make myself a kinder more loving person to live with, ALL of the time!.......like so many comments I have just read: this video will become my daily meditation. Life is too short to hold onto the hurts and anger that I am still processing when meeting challenging people that I have no choice but to try to get along with (relatives). I’m not a religious person, but I love the meditation at the end. Anything that can help to diffuse my reaction when I am taunted by bullies in my family and to try to see that there is a kinder, more positive way through a disagreement than to destroy all the love and positivity that I have built over the years, by exploding.....Please ‘let there be light’ at the end of a very difficult tunnel!

@pure-pisces9470

3 жыл бұрын

@@gracedavies1776 Much Love, Peace & Happiness to you Grace 🙏❤

@pure-pisces9470

3 жыл бұрын

@@sunnylittlejoshine 🙏❤

I know what is is to REACT. IT AIN'T PRETTY!! This one of the BEST presentations that I have ever heard on "NOT REACTING".

I've been listening to this for over 6 months straight. It's part of my daily routine. I was in a bad relationship where it became toxic and I started reacting. This changed my life. I'm so calm now. And if I feel myself being triggered. I follow these instructions

Nice, I accidentally came across this but maybe it wasn't an accident.

@livt.7102

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. I agree, it was meant to be, for understanding at a deeper level. Wisdom. Thank you.

@kaa6734

3 жыл бұрын

I too fell upon it don't believe in accidents or coincidence this is just what I needed to hear thank you

God bless everyone! We are positive humans!

@NKiani

3 жыл бұрын

🙏💐

@tcbcmoto4895

3 жыл бұрын

God bless you to 🙏

My emotional development goal for April is to be less reactive and respond with purpose and clarity. Thank you for posting

Wow this was EVERYTHING I needed ! I challenge myself to listen to this daily & intake all, to uplift me spiritually & mentally . 🙏🏾

I am on a 21 days mental clean up of , weeding out my reactivity. Practicing QuiGong every morning aligning my mind, body so that I can manage to see through the clouds that hold me back. I am addictive, codependent to reactivity and fear; so working on my cleaning process and this video comes as a light and support to this process. THANK YOU!!!

@snehaeranna5796

3 жыл бұрын

Hope it helps me too

@ashleynm2296

Жыл бұрын

This was great! How's it going?

@louisianaeu828

Жыл бұрын

@@ashleynm2296 Ashley is the best gift I have given to myself , looking inward is the greatest investment we can do. Is never late or too old to change , to improve yourself. I am surprised how when you are able to see yourself you can be ahead of your emotions and manage any potential reactiveness. Is a blessing, if anyone wants to do the fasting take 40 days exactly and either pray for the awakening as I did through the psalms or meditate. I did both, is a life time exercise to transform ourselves . Love 💝🙏👏

@louisianaeu828

Жыл бұрын

@@ashleynm2296 one more thing, my “enemies” do not defeat me anymore by steering my emotions. They are shocked am battling them with no reaction; you become more intelligent I must say without any pretension but I see that I am more creative 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have outbursts occasionally and I always try to control it but sometimes it doesn't just work. But I've been praying to God to help me with my emotions so that I can be able to relate well with my siblings, parents and others.

@lindarancourt1465

3 жыл бұрын

I learned that it takes practice and.when i lose my power and get upset and I just tell myself that I'll do better next time. When I manage to control myself and realize that people show you who they are and you have to show them who you are.....strong, calm confident, unafected

@melindaapron3716

3 жыл бұрын

With God nothing is impossibe, He can change us to be a good person. Read the Bible and find wisdom!

@PH7018c

3 жыл бұрын

You can practice the silence.. try to be silent for 30 minutes in the morning and 30 minutes at night.. eventually you will manage to enter in that state at any time you need it or want it. 💖

@niki.ktronsgard8507

3 жыл бұрын

Try to identify your emotions when they come, I promise you one thing, all emotions pass♡ its ok to feel, its what we do, when I'm mad, i will announce "I'm F'ING MAAAAAD, LET ME BE MAAAAAD. SO IM NOT GUNNA MAKE SENSE TO ANYONE THAT GETS IN MY WAY RT NOW" if others choose to engage with an angry person that's on them, I think if we warn others of where we are at, and they choose to engage and it blows up, we can at least allow ourselves the forgiveness that we did make an attempt to have some accountability, by being open about our emotional status, that is in its own way keeping our side of the road clean, we are never wrong about how we feel..

@niki.ktronsgard8507

3 жыл бұрын

@@PH7018c this is brilliant! Thanks Sunshine, I screen shot this advice, to write it out and put it next to my bed to implement this habit, I hope you don't mind. Again thank you, this is a new one I've never heard of this one. ♡

I reacted to something. And even if it felt right, I regret the way that I did it (it appeared agressive in the message). But I am learning how to manage my emotions. Thanks for the video!

I suffer with BPD and this is something I’ve never been able to do.... finally someone explained this in a way that is validating as well as clear. Sometimes my emotions are so severe that I can’t even use my calm voice

@e.wilson9613

3 жыл бұрын

Understood. I'm glad you're coming to an understanding on how to do it.☺️

@blackdigitalnomad.

3 жыл бұрын

same. I'm using DBT to regulate my BPD

@twinklearlington

3 жыл бұрын

Dear Lee, so many of us "fit the profile" of BPD at times in our lives, but what I've come to believe is that BPD is just unresolved trauma habits from our childhood. I used to not be able to control my emotions/reactions either, but when I realized THAT WAS NORMAL given my life experiences, it soothed me so, so much. And since that realization, the tangle of old habits has come undone to a large degree, and I'm much less reactive. HOWEVER--I am still healing and still have so much practice to do in my new habits. I've recently realized one of my residual trauma-habits is thinking, when I don't get a response from someone, that they hate me. It's completely unhelpful and useless to think that, and it's definitely a reactive thought habit that I need to continue working on. Anyway, just wanted to share my experience with you. I abhorr the stigma around BPD because it's not fair to those of us who have struggled so much due to psychological trauma during our youth. Also, I do believe BPD can be overcome. And I think the label of BPD is often just a cop-out for a biased/lazy/uninformed psychiatrist!!

@bridgetfuller3434

3 жыл бұрын

BBC vu

@rachelwyatt6030

2 жыл бұрын

My mom had BPD. She said it gets easier with age and I assume experience. Even though she couldn’t control her emotions at times, she was the most amazing compassionate person because she understood pain. I wish you the best and I hope you surround yourself with people who can understand who you truly are.

Dr. Levry, without knowing my future, I came upon this video and listened to the material about 10 times in the past months. You literally saved my life. In my darkest hour, you saved me. I am truly in great gratitude for your existence. Thank you.

@Gosia-zv5fi

3 жыл бұрын

👍🤞❤

@christiancastro5437

3 жыл бұрын

Happy you’re still here Gibbie ❤️ I know you’re so much stronger now!

@stephaniern33

3 жыл бұрын

Same!!

@fire942edits8

2 жыл бұрын

Thank u

I'm here at this point in my life; correcting my path (to my specifications), and, yes, clearing Blood Karma. Yes, releasing the Akashik Records. Thank you, Mom, for sharing this information so I could take a more proper path. I am using the information at 57. I know that you did the best that you could. And, all is in Divine Order. I am grateful for every grain of salt and sand.

Even so, there are times we must act quickly in order to protect both ourselves and others.

Ps I followed your meditation from a Christian perspective and ask that the light of God is within me, above me, beside me etc “Where there is light, darkness must flee”

Quick to hear slow to speak slow to react in 1st Thessalonians

Wish someone taught me this 25 years ago.... They need to make these kinds of teachings mandatory in high schools.

"Where there are people there is a problem and you are one of them" Luiz Gasparetto.... Now let's all cut off the toxic people.

This might be the best video I have ever seen on KZread-thank you!

@DrLevry

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kind message. We invite you to read the newsletter and learn more at: bit.ly/donotreactrootlight

@paolamonnihenderson

3 жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree. I just found it and it's already changed my life.

@lidahazara9444

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@TheDndemon

3 жыл бұрын

You might be right!!!

@polly1030

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrLevry so difficult in a marriage

"By taking time for ourselves, we allow divine intelligence to work on a subconscious level in ourselves and in others, so that we may be shown what to do next". This said it all..

That is why Christ wisely said: love your enemies, pray for those who persecute you. If someone takes your cloak, do not deny him your tunic either. Blessings to Dr Levry 🙏

Your words are basic to the person who had had to go through unfortunate events to reach the understanding. I hope it can be easily understood by people who yet do not need to experience downs to understand this. 🙏🏽

I’m trying to become a better person. My friend often states I overreact, and I have justified it by saying that he has stated incorrect information. But I’m tired of fighting this way. I want to become better, regardless of who it affects in the end. And I hope this video will help.

@truthtruth3717

3 жыл бұрын

It already has❤️

@TheGoodWitch1111

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@fire942edits8

2 жыл бұрын

💞💕💗💗💟💝💖💗💗💖💖💖💖

👑 JESUS has taught me that when I react as opposed to 🙏 , I give away my power. Thank You 👑 JESUS!!!

Every opportunity to react is an opportunity to accumulate more light

I am the overreactive queen! I needed to hear this.

To be tolerant is the key to success

@mmommo-hx4dx

2 жыл бұрын

I tolerated a cheating husband for 35 years

I wish life had an undo button

@tomsheils1096

3 жыл бұрын

Same here cuz if I could I would undo almost my whole life.

@SaifulIslam-xs9fx

3 жыл бұрын

I wish, I was never born honestly. Toxic family ruins you. It’s to late for me now.

@ladysouljah8437

3 жыл бұрын

Don't allow others to defeat you! Every one lives and learns how to do better and handle situations better in the future so you CAN too🤗 Pray to God and trust that he will see you through your problems just as he's done before.❤

@MsHannahHT

3 жыл бұрын

We can choose to be better, as of today

@MsHannahHT

3 жыл бұрын

@@SaifulIslam-xs9fx its never too late. You can chose to be unlike them. Be a better person, despite your experience

Thank you Dr. Levry. I have just started a new job role and in the last few months I have been negative and reactive. Unnecessarily so. I have a lot of work to do, so I prayer that God's light will guide me. Amen.

Listening to this message never gets old. Real, timeless wisdom. 🙌🏾✨

I'm not going to argue with this lecture, a person who is pressed against the wall under certain circumstances needs to respond not react; and basically get things off his chest; OTHERWISE he's going to suffocate himself/herself.

@charluvstrue

3 жыл бұрын

We can grow from being pressed against that wall or resent it...

@beatricerweyemamu5540

3 жыл бұрын

For sure but still we learnt something to respond with, when and how to minimize the the collateral pain damage and scars

I wish I knew not to react when my mother would constantly harass and push my buttons my whole life.

@hlengiwemasondo2858

3 жыл бұрын

Me too i ended up cutting her out of my life, the smear campaign started. I don't care i will create my family

@studywithcamille1380

3 жыл бұрын

@@hlengiwemasondo2858 Your mental health comes first.

I'm glad to find this video❤️ yesterday I overacted when a driver was being agressive, we exchanged unkind words. Honestly, I felt bad when I got home because I could have just left and say nothing to her. She could have hurt me physically as we see more happen with road rage drivers these days. From now on, I will keep my calmness.

This message is definitely the greatest help for my breakthrough of becoming my truest self!🙌❤

My Goodness that’s unbelievable! I’ve been dealing with a tough situation the past couple of days, I would have reacted negatively soon or later and regret it right the way, then I came across this POWERFUL MESSAGE! that’s what I needed to hear 👂🏽 to diffuse the situation by not reacting. I thank God and I thank you sir for this superb work 👍🏾🙏🏾😊

@tbrowntracyj

2 жыл бұрын

Wow I will share a .. heaaaallll yeahhhh! That makes me feel connected to your positive thoughts

@amilaperera1

Жыл бұрын

👍

Most of the people are sad and depressed here of there own life lets hope for love and peace to everyone .

This video reflects exactly what my religion, Islam teaches me. Be forgiving of others, don't react without collecting your facts and avoid assumptions.

Be tolerant and act with Grace and it will help others. You don’t have to point their flaws but how you show up and show them love and help heal them During challenges/trails- show what you learn during the challenges/trails. True love removes suffering Remember love makes everything easy. Faith makes everything possible

This video was so moving. It begs you to ask yourself the question, how am I living my life? Do we spend our precious time on earth reacting and getting upset? It made me realize that when one does not react to every person and event in our lives, that we can actually connect with a higher state of consciousness and have the ability to see our reality on a much deeper level. What a blessing!