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@areuaware6842

7 күн бұрын

Why do you put you faith in a narcissist? The god of Abraham is the first narcissist.

@mzgodly8272

5 күн бұрын

What? ​@@areuaware6842

A Narcissist will give you a slice of bread and then want you to roof their house for free😅

@jshelley4592

12 күн бұрын

Hilarious but true !!!😂

@mzgodly8272

5 күн бұрын

Omg, I recently realized they don't give for free. Whatever they do, they expect something in return 😮

Anytime a narcissist gives you anything, there are strings attached.

@jshelley4592

12 күн бұрын

Yes, you are right. Everything is transactional.

@areuaware6842

7 күн бұрын

Like god and religion. LOL

@brianadams6628

Күн бұрын

They will give you stuff to excuse their bad behavior. They will use this to remind you that they are good, but they're not- they are truly insidious 👹

@footballph2707

12 сағат бұрын

Exactly. I agree on that. They're the worst kind of individual to live.

It’s allll conditional… be aware, they use all “the gifts” in the end against you!

@BobbiGail

27 күн бұрын

@@martevanderzee7440 Took me yrs to understand my confusion about the "gifts" that come with a contract. Often we dont even know until we dont do what they want about some other random thing. Then it comes out how they gave this or did this, so we OWE them. Wait. Thats not a gift. Its a contract we didn't know we signed.

@jshelley4592

12 күн бұрын

​@@BobbiGailYou said that perfectly.

OMG!!!!!!! This illustration clearly accurately depicits the love bombing narcissist. Wow. what a lesson this relationship has given me!!!!!!! I learned so much

@penelopedyck4217

Ай бұрын

Me too

This explains a lot. I was once with an extremely generous man- extremely is putting it lightly. Turns out, he kept lists and would pull them out when he wasn’t getting what he wanted. He also used gifts to boost his own ego. It was never about me.

@4Mikes4Mindset4

29 күн бұрын

Ulterior motives. Exactly. I don't accept anything unless it makes sense and someone well established and value for value

@closingthedivide1187

19 күн бұрын

He kept lists?!? Wow! 😢😮😮

@theworthyproject

19 күн бұрын

@@4Mikes4Mindset4I thought the fact he was getting thousands of dollars worth of legal advice from me for free would even things out- on top of the many other things I did where I didn’t keep count. These people don’t care anything about that.

@theworthyproject

19 күн бұрын

@@closingthedivide1187Unfortunately. It was a highly unpleasant experience.

@mzgodly8272

5 күн бұрын

😢😢😢 I believe you, I have been with one for just over a year now. He is generous but inconsistent and keeps records. He is buying something for me, but puts his nave on the receipts

They give to everyone but their own family

I hated it when my ex-husband sent me a beautiful necklace that said "MOM" on it with a beautiful bouquet of flowers for Mother's Day, even my BEST friend thought it was so wonderful of him and I was just evil for not appreciating his efforts. TY you for what you do.

My narcissist sister was going in my house stole huge amounts of everything. Giving my stuff away I would see her children wearing my clothes ( my kids) stuff in all their homes. Very dark, confusion, my home felt violated. Cleansed my home she would also burn sage, mirrors me, wants to be me, Psycho. They are thieves pay attention!

@mzgodly8272

5 күн бұрын

He recently stole my house keys, from my bag when I went to visit him, when I text and ask if he saw the keys he asked me where did I leave it, because I am staying in my mom's home, I didn't immediately need it, he then text me to ask me if I wanted him to go by my home to see if he finds the keys, I said if you want to, he said yes, I will go, early next morning he texted he is on his way, then shortly after said he found the keys, but no explanation of where exactly he found them. I know that he took it from my bag, I met my bag pocket open and stuff falling out, I wondered how I left my bag like that, if am so absent minded, only when I missed the keys I realize I didn't leave my bag like that, but he went in and stole my keys

I am always reminded of what they have done for me but anything I've done to benefit them has never been remembered. It's ok. I never mention what I've given nor done. Those gifting are visibly evident but I've done them in the painful labor of love as though I'm doing them unto the Lord but I've reached the end. I cant go another inch. 😢💔

@jshelley4592

12 күн бұрын

I agree.

The giving game... Taking something given from the narcissist is like using a credit card with such a high interest rate, that you will never pay it off...

100%!!! My husband and his family.. I should of figured it out 30 years ago.. He gives away our things to random people to get admiration and the "oh he's so nice" um ya I actually used that blender he gave away. Among many of my things he just gives away.. His mom's a gift buyer.. Then complains if she doesn't get a parade in her honor...

I always heard that Jezebel gives gifts . I have found this to be 1000% true

Until I saw this video, I forgot about our last Christmas together. The last year before divorce at Christmas, my X decided for US, that we weren’t going to exchange gifts for Christmas. I thought it was a very odd request but went along with it. Needless to say, I bought her a gift and hid it in the tree, unseen, just in case. What does she do on Christmas morning? Give me a gift….. so I reach into the tree and give her my gift to her. She didn’t smile or even look excited.. Her expression was one of “damn, outsmarted by him”. She opened it and just barely got out a “thanks”.

@beaglerescue5281

Ай бұрын

I enjoyed that story.

@mzgodly8272

5 күн бұрын

Wow, I feel you, like him taking me out along with my daughter and a girlfriend of mine and insist that we eat, when I asked what he will eat, he says he is ok, not ok, he wanted me to look bad as if I don't care, I got mad and said you have to eat, how could you feed us and not yourself, huh

Many years ago someone shared a phrase with me, "beware of Romanans bearing gifts". This came from Star Trek, but it means there are strings attached. This gave me insight towards the Narcissist that was out to manipulate and control me. Be careful who you accept $$$ from so you don't buy into their game or prostitute yourself to their evil games. Some have already sold themselves out just for the money they dangle in front of them. Beware!

@mantleofelijah

18 күн бұрын

Bless you. From an actual ancient quote: ‘beware of Greeks bearing gifts’ reference to enemies bearing gifts, re the Trojan horse.

@mzgodly8272

5 күн бұрын

Wow, this is deep! 😢thank you for sharing

With the narcissist, you gain the world(material gifts) but lose your soul.

@4Mikes4Mindset4

29 күн бұрын

Exactly.

@MakTangier

5 күн бұрын

Amen. I've lost many riches, wealth and my health to walk away with my freedom in Jesus. I'm talking wealth forever. No need to work, always being provided for, for a life of poverty, hunger, loneliness just to escape the narcs. God knows and He sustains me in that choice

This is why actually the real kind and giver humanbeings are being mistook by some when the Narcissistic person did the same too 😮

(Cue the trumpets) "I'm generous, I'm not like (daughter's name, me)."

Yes correct 💯

There is no such thing as a narcissist, giving without getting even when it seems like they’re not getting anything Like when they do things for you make them feel like they are a good person, and then they treat you like garbage It’s like they hold onto these mental images of themselves They create when they are giving so that they can see themselves as a good person and then they don’t look at any of their other behaviors. So when it looks like they are giving selflessly , in reality they are giving an image to themselves and giving themselves a sort of narcissistic supply by reinforcing their image of them thinking they are a good and giving person Then they will rage at you and yell, and swear and demean and lie, but that’s not the image they have of themselves They focus on the image they have of themselves that they create when they do “good things out of the kindness of their hearts “ and then they can look at you as unappreciative for the good things they do and have ammo to look at themselves as more of a martyr and a victim I wonder if that is part of the mental gymnastics that they can think that they are the victim and you are the bad guy no matter how badly they treat you

@tamilynedwards8388

23 күн бұрын

@@melissadykstra5921 That was stellar and oh so accurate....talk about validation and knowing it's not just YOU!!

@jshelley4592

12 күн бұрын

Wow, you certainly articulated that well !

You’re making me question my giving? I question all the time if I’m a narcissist after starting to watch all these videos. I’m terrified that I’ve became like everyone else around me, whom also appears to be narcissists. I’m starting to believe I am and everyone else is, but no matter what this is I can only learn to love through one source; that is Jesus Christ. Truth is I don’t know how to love anyone without Jesus, and sometimes my flesh gets in the way of that.

@Kressa1111

27 күн бұрын

@richardclark4692 Thank you. I’ll check him out.

This is so true

Thank you for your powerful teaching very much need it to be teach in every church..... Blessings ❤🎉

You have just described my mom!

100% true.have experienced this so many painful times

My ex would buy me material gifts that I wouldn’t ask for but then afterwards would disrespect me or lose their patience with me.

How true .this their giving games .They know how to take it back in kind and in flattering their ego, displaying generosity,vfor the news!

Used to make you feel obligated and oweing 😢

Amazing

Yes I see it. You're so beautiful sis 🥀🪶

Yes he's definitely going to give you but He's also going to keep a note of it. So he can throw it up in your face later

currently on day 3 of this generosity. I’m gonna enjoy this mask while it lasts😅

So true

❤❤❤❤run they hate us truth head hurts

Givers with strings attached to everything. I still believe in actions over words but be careful out there.

Yes, it's about them feeling good, then saying .....I, did all this for you, or bought you, or brang you flowers..... it's a head game....lovebombing trap.🤢

@mzgodly8272

5 күн бұрын

He said that to me early in the relationship after buying some fruits and snacks, and I said hey stop that this sounds like manipulation to me, if you buy something for me, you don't need to bring it to my attention of how much you care

This is my husbands father! its infuriating bc he doesn’t see it but I can clearly see through it like windex! Makes me sad for my husband 😢

Remember also when someone in your family gives food but talks bad about you then makes fun of you and discriminate you behind your back, they really are the narcissist.

It’s how they control also. Be a good girl and we will buy you what we think you need. That was my childhood.

Although there are such things as agreements to get something.. like paying for insurance and/or car payment to get a car.

Absolutely true!

The giving triggers me because it's a pattern... Usually means they are feeling guilty about something they've done for themselves.

They will give you the shirt off their back, as long as everyone is watching.

@mzgodly8272

5 күн бұрын

Yes like at home he doesn't open the car door for me, nor help me out the door with the heavy bags, but when we get out, he is running to open and close the car door for me, where ensuring can see, smh😢

My narc stepmom only gave at holidays when everyone was watching (for maximum accolades), never spontaneously or privately. Always in front of many others and would get hurt if we didn’t appear appropriately grateful (even when we were very young).

My narc stepmom only gave at holidays when everyone was watching (for maximum accolades), never spontaneously or privately. Always in front of many others and would get hurt if we didn’t appear appropriately grateful (even when we were ve

Yes ma’am. It is NOT Consistent. Ugh. Stuck here in N-Land. Oh well!😩🤦🏻‍♀️🙏💪

My ex G.F would buy me Xmas gifts, then take them back for a refund, if I hadn't got her the same money value gifts, she was totally crazy, I got you that I bought you them 😢😢😢

Amen

I'm going with Jesus, not the devil rules❤❤❤❤

Unfortunately true.....

Narcissistic personality promises the moon and stars and delivers Nothing

@mzgodly8272

5 күн бұрын

Truth

It's like from a book I read one time. (side note. I believe in God, not greek mythology, but this line sums it up for me pretty well.) "You can not eat from hades garden, without being trapped there forever.."

No they will give you a half slices of bread nothing they give you misarey nothing stanking else

Im guilty of this

Yep. "I bought u tires, I showed up at the hospital for u, I help by being present. U owe me gratefulness, worship and glory!" Um, did you not give freely? Do I not drive you back and forth to work? I was assaulted for the 3rd time in my life, u get no cookies for doing what Im assuming a godly wife of 16yrs should do. Everything they do is calculated. It's not giving. Its me taking!

Okay I think you are referring to not only giving to church but when when giving to each other !!!????

Yup, that’s the ex wife.

What about when narcissists receive gifts? How do they respond and what do they do with the gift(s)?

SMOKE SCREENS. SIZLE BUT NO STEAK. THIEVES N LIARS

What if I had some of those signs but I didn’t mean to manipulate and hurt people? What if I was a broken soul hurting others. Will I find redemption

@kellygirls

5 күн бұрын

@@AndresLeonRangel Hi Andres! Yes, you’ll find abundant redemption in the Lord Jesus Christ, the Son of God. He paid for all of those sins on the cross when He died. If you trust in Jesus Christ, believe on Him, have faith in Him that your sins are forgiven and that He is Lord, you will be saved!✝️🕊️

@AndresLeonRangel

5 күн бұрын

@@kellygirls amen

So my question is do these people KNOW they are Narcissistic? When do these behaviors start ? So again are these learned behaviors? Are they physically chemically imbalanced? YES I am a newby , I do not live with a Narcissist, but I am wondering about someone I’ve known for decades and wondered why they are exactly the way your describing so the person they live with has brought this word “ Narcissistic “ to my attention and up to me. I never heard about this when they were younger and now wonder if they could have been helped ( lots of prayer went up) or if it is an imbalance in their brain…so if it doesn’t come from hell then where?

@andrewrees8749

3 сағат бұрын

That's what I don't understand, do they know how evil they are behaving ? 10 yrs I've wasted , of my life .😊

TOTAL CRAPPERS

Without God and ….narcissists I would not be able to build my first level of Christ self. Love your enemy ….