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@elizabethf8078

4 ай бұрын

Narcissists occur on a spectrum of severity. It's not an on/off switch. We all have to have a low grade level of narcissism to ensure our needs get met. It is only when an emotional injury happens (or failure to grow) that this drive grows out of proportion. I know many people with varying levels -- myself included--because I was made the family scapegoat. I responded/compensated by becoming more self centered and self protective. Seeing this, I work to grow beyond this coping mechanism. Family members with this trait love me as much as they are capable of, and I've seen growth in them as I maintain healthier boundaries. Seriously.. demonizing people and pointing the finger, calling them demon possessed is extreme. Have I known such individuals? Oh yeah. I also know Jesus loves them too and isn't done with them yet. I'm leaving that type to wrestle with God without my interference. The labeling, though..and finger pointing comes across like someone who doesn't want to take responsibility or accountability. I picked my narcissistic ex. That's on me to figure out why I chose him, what I didn't recognize, and why I waited so long to bail. I don't believe in blaming and pointing the finger.. It gets in the way of maturity..and God wants me to grow up.

@marycrocket5875

3 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@valenciawalker6498

3 ай бұрын

Thank you so very much 🙏🏽✝️🕊️

@vanessaisaacs9445

3 ай бұрын

Thanks you

@scott.594

3 ай бұрын

Yes ,thank you.

In a nut shell Narcissist is a Demonic spirit

@stephenburke8059

Ай бұрын

I 100% agree its an evil without doubt. 😮

@carolyntuttle4731

Ай бұрын

Right On.

@janemulvenna9598

Ай бұрын

Indeed. It’s heartbreaking when it’s your adult child.

@Kelly-hy1wb

Ай бұрын

Yes i agree

@robertolsen4140

Ай бұрын

It is actually called the Juzabell spirit in the bible.

The narcissist do what I call a fake apology. They say, “I’m sorry you feel that way.” They do not accept responsibility of their actions. A real apology is when someone is repentant.

@sarafolkins8231

4 ай бұрын

Experienced that my entire life

@ineveryseason

3 ай бұрын

💯

@erinflores5003

3 ай бұрын

My husband always said, "I'm sorry IF I did something wrong." 🙄

@jannabailey6800

3 ай бұрын

I have been dealing with not only a narcissist but this lady gaslighted me as well.

@Evajiv

3 ай бұрын

@@jannabailey6800 what lady?

They also try to Turn your CHILDREN AGAINST YOU!

@pinapple60

Ай бұрын

This is exactly what one of my sisters tried to for years and she did it with one of my other sisters to.

@TallGlass-fh8qf

Ай бұрын

Or try to directly or indirectly encourage their children to join them in turning against you.

@YouilAushana

Ай бұрын

If you're children were dumb enough to follow the narcissist. You might have an issue with some chromosome

@user-wt3kr1vy3v

Ай бұрын

They sure do! And it's a dirty shame the mental damage they do to their own kids..

@kristyb2190

Ай бұрын

Mine tried but my kids are too smart.

Everything WILL be used against you! 100%

@pradeeshalbert1625

2 ай бұрын

👍

@ShirleyMostert

2 ай бұрын

And that's a hard fact?

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.

@AtreyuArmy

Ай бұрын

Going through this right now with a girlfriend. I almost feel as if I'm a prisoner and if I stand up for myself all my past issues as well as made up ones are held over me. It's exhausting and at this current time miserable and don't know what to do.

@sherri-be5pw

24 күн бұрын

@@andrewbeckman7687 I realized into it that I wasn't happy but it's not easy to get away but once away the peace comes back but not entirely bc they leave a huge mess for me to clean up. Emotionally and financially they left me these problems but luckily I didn't fall in love bc they were just playing me or so They thought

They love the pain they cause. They Love It.

Trusting and believing a narcissist is the same as trusting and believing a snake.

@user-dt4wo1zw2k

3 ай бұрын

Snakes are ok animals. Stop blaming toxic people's behaviors on this innocent animal.

@charlesrivers9509

3 ай бұрын

Facts set many traps for them ,

@pradeeshalbert1625

2 ай бұрын

👍

@chameleonbamboo

2 ай бұрын

Actually snakes are nicer than. Cats as they whimsical just like a narcist

@melissaculpepper7663

2 ай бұрын

Well, a snake is a snake and not an image-bearer of God. Humans know to not “play with snakes, lest you be bitten or killed”. We have knowledge and a conscience. It’s so much worse for human beings who choose to follow satan and do his bidding.

I wish they would teach this in school and Educate people on it. Too many decent people become victims to these predators.

They accuse you of cheating yet they are the ones cheating.

@jayne6825

25 күн бұрын

Absolutely!! Got that too. Mine showed up at our Babysitters house at 3:30am accusing me of having a boyfriend when he was the one out cheating. Sickening

NO second chances. They will do it again! RUN!

@SamanthaChristF10

2 ай бұрын

When they come back it's too destroy you. Trust me, they take more and more time to come back and study how they will destroy you. Never forgive them and forget what they did to you. How they made you feel.

@leaoleary1601

Ай бұрын

One has to forgive for your own sake and relationship with God.. I do agree to NEVER allow them back in..

@Wisdombroughtforthblessing

Ай бұрын

Run for your life Your future depends on it

@Wisdombroughtforthblessing

Ай бұрын

You will never forget after touching the scales of leviathan…

Narcissists want to blame you for everything like it’s all your fault

@doremifasolatido-ro7zs

3 ай бұрын

I agree!

@orthodox_gentleman

3 ай бұрын

It is so weird

@peter8545

3 ай бұрын

That is very true and if they get caught they tell you "tough, live with it"

@courtneyboudreau4284

3 ай бұрын

Yupp they're liars

@patriciaissa7935

3 ай бұрын

Over 20 years of Narcissistic abuse from family AND I AM STILL HERE.....AND EVEN STRONGER FROM HAVING SURVIVED 😊☺️🥰😘🥳😇❤️🌹

THE APOLOGY IS ALWAYS SELF SERVING WITH A NARCISSIST

@NewWaveGirl30

3 ай бұрын

I bet it is if they even bother to apologize at all.

no don't give them another chance. period. You are happier without them, it is a relief when you feel how peaceful your life is without them in it.

@Calirye

2 ай бұрын

I agree and I keep going back idk what’s wrong with me

@bobbydigital5236

Ай бұрын

Yeah, that threw me off at the end when she said she has a video about giving them a second chance.

@kadianbrown4007

Ай бұрын

​@@Caliryeomgosh metoo. I was told it's because we haven't trained our brains to say no and we are trauma bonded to them. We need to break those cycle and tell our brains NO !!!. If we go back, we'll know it will be hard and difficult to get out .

@Calirye

Ай бұрын

@@kadianbrown4007 yes I totally agree I’m done I can’t do it…I’m from Maryland where are you from if you don’t mind me asking

@Calirye

Ай бұрын

@@bobbydigital5236 I’ve given 10 chances and it never changes

You'll pay with your life because they'll make you so sick you won't know yourself anymore.

@tracyannaleclair9320

Күн бұрын

And you feel like you'd rather die than live with them and go through to psychological mental emotional turmoil

@sabrinam3069

9 сағат бұрын

TRUTH!!

"For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places." Ephesians 6:12 They need deliverance just like we did when we were saved and born again

@Lee345Je

3 ай бұрын

Right, and when they are the Pastor? 👀 “leading” folks.

@cookiemama4

3 ай бұрын

Thank you for that reminder that dealing with people who are trying to destroy you (in my case, a co-worker), we are dealing with the hierarchy of the demonic realm and need to address the issues through prayer.. Even so, dealing with this person has completely knocked me down. I'm almost at the point of my prayers consisting of, "Lord, please help me!" Jan 📖🥀🕊

@user-hz5hi3xe7h

3 ай бұрын

Amen❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤

@sharon70418

3 ай бұрын

@@cookiemama4 God bless you. I'm in the same state of mind as you. God please give us strength and wisdom to know how to manuever each day around and away from our enemies. No weapon formed against us shall prosper in Jesus mighty name. Amen. 🙏💞🙏

@cookiemama4

3 ай бұрын

@@sharon70418 Thank you for that, Sharon! That Scripture passage is so full of promise.. We have to believe it! 📖💜🕊

Throwing in "I'm not perfect" while "apologizing", is not an apology.

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.

@Armygirl4Christ

3 күн бұрын

They totally think they are perfect. More self delusions…

@turquoismama33

18 сағат бұрын

@lisaslaughter644 What? So how does one state an apology, while also admitting one still hasn't reached the goal, 100% of the time?

@ruckerbrady8342

8 сағат бұрын

Yup. Got the "I'm not perfect " line alot. But inside they truly think they are

Fake kindness

@doremifasolatido-ro7zs

3 ай бұрын

That is so true. My husband is nice to others but treat me like a trash.

@damienwelch9067

3 ай бұрын

True 👍

@ShirleyMostert

2 ай бұрын

No kindness whatsoever!

1 - blame: manipulation 2 - trigger 3 - coercion: watch for gaslighting 4 - confusion: “62 shades of gray” 😂😂😂😂 5 - words: emotional hook 6 - giving: “self sacrificing” 7 - projection: comes from hatred (changes your focus, to shame you) 8 - humiliation: smear you, look better 9 - manipulation: flattery to gaslighting 10 - mirror: distortion of relationship to gain your trust 11 - apology: vague, blame shifting… repeat!

Silent treatment feels great

@chelceasurgenor598

Ай бұрын

Yes!

@JillCox-mm9un

27 күн бұрын

Yeah, if you don’t care anymore…you love just to be left alone.

@mimifinesse1845

25 күн бұрын

Indeed it does!! 👏🏾👏🏾

This breaks my heart,as I'm only now seeing how damaged I am from my 22 year marriage to a master narcissist.!!!! I lost myself way more than I realized!!! Why did I not get out sooner 😢

@MsMamatube

4 ай бұрын

Jeremiah 29:11 It was my mom's favorite verse.

@ironfist859

4 ай бұрын

I spent 29 years with mine. I forgave cheating, ignored huge red flags, it's humiliating. It's been a year no contact. Hang in there. It gets better if you put it in God's hands.

@melissalopez9607

3 ай бұрын

Don’t blame yourself. You had no idea you you were being manipulated. Happens to the best of us. That’s why people like Kris are here to help us through these hard times. But whatever you do, don’t blame yourself you did the best you could.

@dennyfie

3 ай бұрын

Hang In there 251 I got burned bad but in a much shorter time, I seen it I thought it was some other issues she had, but I was wrong.she was a master manipulater. Hang in there.

@truthseeker3031

3 ай бұрын

You are fortunate that you woke-up now and can begin the process of healing. Some never get out and even eventually die from it. Death is not only physical, but also (and usually from them) mentally/emotionally or your spirit, or can be all of the above. God bless and support you during your healing process. 🙏✝

The most dangerous narcissist are the ones claiming to be Christian! They will do all of these things and says God is to their favor!!!! Bring a lot of confusion!!!!!!!

@tony8570

17 күн бұрын

That's true

@tracyannaleclair9320

Күн бұрын

Oh yeah I don't know how anybody can really believe that God is a just God yet He will stand by and let them lie cheat manipulate cause emotional harm to others and use them for their benefit I do not know how somebody can do all those things and still think that they're a believer I just do not get it

@NevaleeLaidler

9 сағат бұрын

Amen!!

The famous statement is ( WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME?) When they doing something for you.

Please ask God to help deliver and protect me from these evil people thank you

Please pray for me, I see the signs and I know I will be happier by myself, but I don’t know how to escape

@helenacuch9010

2 ай бұрын

Do all things that raise your vibrations Go walking Join a women's circle Join a women's gym Exercise

@strongmom7893

2 ай бұрын

Focus on "you" . Care for yourself & what makes you feel good, you're strong I'm sure of it. Confidde in family or someone you trust, maybe you can find your way with having someone in your corner. Sometimes it makes it easier for us that way. Not as scary, if you will. I'll pray for you to find strength in what ever you decide to do ❤❤🙏

@user-fn8tk6dm7x

2 ай бұрын

I'm finding it hard to walk away too

@Jay-oz5zo

2 ай бұрын

pack and leave overnight / while he's away without telling him and block him on everything. people like this will go berzerk if they know you're leaving - learned this the hard way.

@AprilSeamand-xe8ug

2 ай бұрын

I know your pain.

Just went through this with a Pastor/church that I left. I've learned when you operate in truth, God (not you) will eventually expose.

@simonschneider5913

3 ай бұрын

last year, I prayed for weeks for god to show me the true intentions of my then gf. and boy, he got her to put on a show i will never forget even if i still have feelings for her. the same happened a few months later with my family. this makes me continue. i am not sure where i am going, but he seems to give me some warnings lights here and there. and thats invaluable! 4 years ago, with my exwife, i didnt pray...and i got to the point where i felt id die soon if the marriage continues. i learned from that to always ask god for some hints while i am trying my best. nothing else has worked. feel stupid for not trying earlier. ironically, it was my exgf who got me closer to god while she was still lovebombing me... ;)

@masonwallace6838

3 ай бұрын

How do you not know God is using her to expose Satan...Lord Jesus have mercy

@velveetaslingshot

3 ай бұрын

No one is more evil than the religious zealot narcissist.

@Bonnieward

2 ай бұрын

Was his name Kenneth Copeland 😅

Wow! And God forbid you say “You’re switching up my words…you sound manipulative! Wtf?!” And then…all hell breaks loose

@alemayehuwoldemichael585

10 сағат бұрын

I have lived all this word to word. God, only God's mercy pulled me out of the pit they dug for me, just on time!They used many witchcraft that pop up like confusion, fear, blurred vision... Sadly,many believe them more than me.

For we wrestle not about flesh and blood. Definitely demons 😩

Jesus 👑 Christ is is king of kings and Lord of lords and we won't stop serving the most high or being obedient 👑💜

My Mother and brother are narcs, my Dad has dementia I have been looking after him for 3 years.my dad is very wealthy all of his property was given to my mum and brother.my mum and dad are seperated .I have been given nothing and I'm totally OK with that. I work full time and look after my Dad in the evenings 7 days a week he lives on his own.I have gone no contact from my brother and mother since last September. Looking after my Dad has me burnt out , so I told his health care team I will not be providing care for my Dad much longer as my marriage is suffering due to working full time and looking after my Dad.they told my mum and brother, what did the narcs do???????? They rang the police and told them I was being abusive and violent towards them.even though I haven't spoken to them in 5 mts.they were panicking as they don't care for my Dad and they might have to start doing something to help with his care.the police seen straight through them and told them they will arrest them for social disorder if the called the station again.yesterday evening when I was at my dads house my brother said to me would I like a house???? One of many that my dad gave him, he was trying to buy me, I told him where he could shove it, then he offered me money, I refused it and god knows I could do with it, but if I took anything from them they would make life harder for me.they have destroyed me mentally and physically, and it's killing them that I won't take anything from them. Narcs are the most evil demonic people that you can meet. I can feel God with me evey step of the way guiding me and helping me, thank you heavenly father for looking after me and giving me the strength to remove myself from those evil people Amen

@marilynschmidt6400

3 ай бұрын

That's horrible. Time to take care of yourself now and reinvest quality time back into your marriage ❤️

@deannang455

3 ай бұрын

@@marilynschmidt6400 I agree. Narc gift trap owe forever. PTL the police could see it for what it is. God bless them and give them and you even more wisdom and discernment, bless your marriage.

@maritaallen5148

3 ай бұрын

@@deannang455 ❤

@maritaallen5148

3 ай бұрын

@@marilynschmidt6400 ❤

@truthseeker3031

3 ай бұрын

It sounds as though you truly have the Holy Spirit within and supporting you, giving you much strength to resist their deceptions and manipulations. God bless you in Jesus's name.

Accepting gifts and favors from a narc is like accepting a ride across the Nile from a crocodile. Dont be surprised when he eats you on the other side, if not before.

@benedettadeluca7910

13 күн бұрын

Love this metaphore, the difficult part is to know. Ourselves and the other, at least for me.

@user-os4xi3nc7l

9 күн бұрын

Absolutely 💯

@tracyannaleclair9320

Күн бұрын

Oh yeah and then they want to tell you how much it cost them to do whatever it was that they did for you and of course they do this in a very subtle way

Currently healing from a relationship with a narcissist. I have been drained emotionally. Looking foward to healing !

Since I’m not reacting like I used to, he’s now accusing me of infidelities. If I’m not jumping for him, then I’m jumping for someone else. I must not care anymore. It’s exhausting. They only give to get something back. They want you to be unconditional, but they don’t have to.

@JackAnthony-ud8ii

3 ай бұрын

Hello I am so sorry if this sounds weirds but you wrote such a nice and wonderful comment. I can tell your very positive person, if it's . Okay with you l'd love to be friends❤

@brianwoo8877

Күн бұрын

Run Sister! GBY ❤

Everything kris said is absolutely spot on….everything she said is my narc ex husband… the red flags were there from day one… 37 years ago, I just didn’t know about narcissism way back then, I just thought he was a bossy person with a bad temper…I couldn’t see the gaslighting, the manipulation, patronisation, silent treatment, punishments… because I was so in love with him…plus, he was so good at blaming me for everything that went wrong, I would apologise profusely, cry, plead with him to talk to me when he was giving me the silent treatment…little did I know that he was loving every minute of the way he was treating me…getting pleasure from my pain, what evil sadistic, nasty, horrible people they are.

@user-os4xi3nc7l

9 күн бұрын

Absolutely 💯

@user-os4xi3nc7l

9 күн бұрын

Well, I'll tell you the truth! My daughter wants to look like a goody-goody two shoes! She would not be nasty in front of others! Only in front of me! Her mother! So she takes all the younger and all the frustration out of me, and he's going to destroy my life, because I cannot sleep, I'm taking medication for sleeping; even then I cannot sleep horrible, all I do is pray to God, Lord Jesus Christ to help me, please answer my desperate, plea; thank you so much😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

My experience, they are all about Power and Con-troll, usually with lies, Secrecy , threats and intimidation or false charm and love bombing, and Everything that matters to you Will become a weapon in their hands.

5:54 You are spot on 100%! I realized a few years back that narcissists operate in the demonic realm and their deception is witchcraft! This video is heaven sent!

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.

Narcissism cannot be healed !!!

@user-kf3yz7so6q

Ай бұрын

Narcissism is not an illness, it’s who they are, that is their personality… they will not change neither will they be healed… you’re right.

I was best friends with a psychopath. I always admired how calm he was. Cool and calm. He was a nice guy. Former preacher. He always drove as fast as he could. Drove in the left lane. He faked empathy. He future-faked me all the time. He betrayed me in the end. After 12 years of friendship. I now realize that psychopaths want to see you beg. It makes them feel powerful. He did the same thing to his ex wife. He abandoned her when she was pregnant with their baby. He refused to help her. I now understand why she despises him so much. He has no conscience. He lies to everyone. He steals every chance he gets. If you meet someone who shows little emotion, watch out!

From my horrific 6 year experience which I somehow managed thank God to escape, I learnt that they are also the most incredible liars

Thank you JESUS, 4 removing narcissist, wrong people out of my life & sending the right & godly people. Thank you Kris Reece, 4 your powerful counseling. GOD bless you!

My nex used to say things like: 'You think you could find someone better than me'? Making me doubt my decision to leave him. He also said in the beginning : 'You won't find someone more honest than me'. Meanwhile he was a deceiver manipulating demon all along.

@Deus.poderoso.rei.

2 ай бұрын

You are beautiful

@Reader0071

Ай бұрын

My nex used to quote the old Tom Petty song "You got lucky babe, when I found you!" 😂😂😂

Their demons want to reproduce. So they draw out bad behavior in others through interactions. Master manipulation. Trying to heal from growing up with a 'Christian' narc Dad and siblings. So glad to have found this channel. So many narcissists in church.

God said Judge and you will be judged Narcissists are that way always thinking they're better than you. They think they can do anything at all to you. It has happened to me here where I live.

@kaitlynkarol4600

3 ай бұрын

This is not what that means b/c there is more to it than that. We have two types of judgment and the bible is cherry-picked to fit ea person's narrative. "Judge not lest ye be judged'" means that if you can dish it out - you should be able to take back someone else's judgment. It also is teaching how to not be a hypocrite: If I tell you how to work out b/c I am a fitness instructor, then I better be able to be fit too and not obese and sick. I can judge b/c I am living up to my own preaching. So if I am judging properly, I can take any criticisms b/c I know I am strong enough due to being right so I can take it. If we judge RIGHTEOUSLY we are judging in a fair way. If you know them by their fruits as scripture says, we can see who they are. We are not supposed to judge the heart but are supposed to judge the behavior. If you let someone abuse you, you should be able to judge their bad behavior to judge how you need to leave them or strategize a way around them.

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.

All True, the Narcissist will BLAME you for THEIR ENTIRE life. ALTHOUGH THEY MADE THEIR OWN CHOICES BUT CAN'T TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY!

My narc keeps coming back to haunt me me even after he told me time after time what a terrible person I was and that I should stop flattering myself because I’m not that desirable. Hard to understand why he can’t leave me alone if I’m that undesirable.

@lece809

2 ай бұрын

Omg, yes I'm always wondering if he thinks so low of me, why does he keep coming around and trying to be around me?

@taradean8504

2 ай бұрын

The put downs are to erode your self worth. The returns are because you’re ‘meant’ to be vulnerable and pining for them Truth is, you’re not a terrible person Here’s a mantra I use: ‘Those who misrepresent me do not love me.’ And that included misrepresenting you to YOU. Love and light

@rohithreddy75

Ай бұрын

@@taradean8504 misrepresentation is common thing done by narcissists

The only way these people will change is if they turn and follow Jesus, and take the word of God seriously!

@MsMamatube

4 ай бұрын

Yes! And apply TRUE repentance even if they have to "die" daily to their sinful selves.

@lilybuccigross6688

4 ай бұрын

And look for the “fruit” not only the words.

@LOVEISTRUTH300

4 ай бұрын

Yes. They must learn LOVE💖💖💖 But for most their superficial false ego gets in the way. They need to drop the ego and get to their shame/complex trauma issues. They need to do the hard work. Tim Fletcher is masterful at breaking this down. He has many videos on KZread💖

@tiathompson6674

3 ай бұрын

NOPE.....there are Narcissistic Church Leaders out here. Jesus isn't enough. They will use the Bible to manipulate.

@KH-qd2hq

3 ай бұрын

Amen.🙏

My DIL is just like this! I would go no contact, but I want to see my son and grandchild. It’s all very upsetting. Other people don’t see through her. She acted sweet toward me, until she married my son. Then the mask came off-at least towards me. It’s a terrible situation to be in! Please pray for me! 🙏🙏🙏💜

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.

I'm dealing with narcissists neighbors who are torturing my sleep and peace of mind almost 24/7. I'm exhausted and need to move. Please pray for me as I desperately need them. God bless you all. 🙏💞🙏💞🙏

@carolejackson8357

3 ай бұрын

There are laws against that behavior

@Joulean

3 ай бұрын

@@carolejackson8357 yes, unfortunately high grade narcissists will torture you while exploiting plausible deniability so that nothing can be traced back to them. Heck, they might even manipulate everyone to think they deeply care for your wellbeing and the community before launching another covert attack. Laws just work on lower level narcs

@Opinionsarevalid

3 ай бұрын

Praying God removes you from this situation stay in prayer he hears you.❤️🥰

@DoubleRainbows-fp6ih

3 ай бұрын

Poor you. 🙏 I completely understand I'm pretty much surrounded by them on my floor here & one above me. Thank the Lord that he is my hiding place. + he is destroying them. Psalm 35. One even had a swarm of hornets in her flat. Scareee when someone crosses one of his kids...ie me

@sharon70418

3 ай бұрын

@@Opinionsarevalid thank you.

You hit every torture I went through. The sad thing is that I believed his lies, manipulation, deceit, for awhile. I began to think I was a horrible person and it just about destroyed me. Thank you God he made me get out.

@rozalina531

3 ай бұрын

God bless 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻

It's so sad to know people like this actually exsist

@awesomeexpressionexp

Ай бұрын

There are actually many of them. Once you have been deeply hurt by one, you start spotting others.

@Treestorey79

21 күн бұрын

When i was younger i don't believe poeple can be so evil until i dealt with a few Narcicis , they almost kill me physically & mentally. Now that im healed i've becomes a kinder & stronger person who have boundaries. The journey i went through up to my healing was very long and painful and i dont wish this upon anybody.Those evil are real but it doesn't mean you should stop being a happy & kind human and just be bitter about life & everyone around ,Thats what the Narcicis want!! To break you,so please don't . Heal yourself !! you're stronger than you think.Shine your beautiful light around,it usually scares them in the end 😅❤❤🙏🏼

This is the narcissist. We are instructed in the Bible to avoid these people but to continue to pray for them.

@zackfrost8944

3 ай бұрын

continue to pray for them lol not me

@bailujen8052

3 ай бұрын

Well maybe not my narcissistic mother since she anti Christian and promotes idolatry towards offspring "If another man preaches another gospel, let him be accursed"

@Joulean

3 ай бұрын

Yeah cuz they aren't people

@zackfrost8944

3 ай бұрын

@@Joulean you claim them not me

@zackfrost8944

3 ай бұрын

@@Joulean you must of never been one of there victims. You are free to take them in. We will call you Jesus wannabe

They contradict themselves. We are like, what are you talking about. Unbelievable lies.

My loved one is a narcissist and pathological liar. She had a traumatized childhood. Her father left her when she was an infant with a reason “not mine”. Her classmates call her “the unwanted”. Her mother lived as a mistress to raise her. She witnessed her grandfather tied her grandmother to a tree to beat her up. I tried to help but she teamed up with a demon to break my spirit. But God came to save me and heal her wounds and restore her soul . Since the day I offered my heart for God Almighty, I haven’t lost a battles. God taught me love all and forgive all; just as the sun shines and the rain falls on the grateful and ungrateful hearts. No demons can stand against God’s Glory. No wounds are so deep that God’s Love can’t heal. I am not a Jewish and not a Christian, but in suffering I cried out to God and He came. I leave this sign post here for wandering souls in darkness that God is real and His Love is true. With God’s Love 🙏❤️🔥🪷

I was seeing a woman who would end our dating relationship for not texting her back right away and other minor things. She would break it off then draw me in again with gifts and apologizing. You're info. helped me see that it is not a normal behavior.

Mom my died Monday morning. I'm unable to go to her memorial & funeral because of my sister's narcissistic takeover of my mom's arrangements. I'm in such a terrible place right now. CLINGING to the robes of Jesus!

@slider43000

4 ай бұрын

I experienced the very same thing.

@Snack-well

4 ай бұрын

Your sister would love for you to not be there. Can you try totally ignoring her? If she triggers you just walk away without a word. No reaction at all.

@MsMamatube

4 ай бұрын

@@slider43000 I'm so very sorry

@kurthanke5788

4 ай бұрын

Since your mom passed away, you do not have to see your sister anymore. Well, unless your dad is alive, and you have family get-together's. If you're able to, it sounds like no-contact with your sister would be the best remedy. My sister lives over 800 miles away, and she doesn't come to visit, even with her mother, who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's

@MsMamatube

4 ай бұрын

@@Snack-well My children & I have decided not to attend. She would attempt to manipulate me & my adult kids. We have decided to honor my mom with a celebration of her life away from my sister's spectacle. My father will be at my sister's "show" & we don't want to cause him any more stress or harm. I will go to visit my dad after the Donna show is over. He'll need support then.

I've had to get therapy because of my narcissistic sister. It's been so painful, everything you say about a narcissist behaviour is how she behaves.

@janlaurel7830

3 ай бұрын

same have a brother and sister I tried hiding in the mental ward they knew it was because of her I was in there but she still got in to torment me

@ByHisGrace-

3 ай бұрын

@@janlaurel7830 so sorry this has happened to you. I've decided everything she says is because she's unwell, this has freed me up a bit because I now feel sorry for her but, I'm still keeping away from her!

@arenee118

3 ай бұрын

Hugs. Same here. Went no contact in 2020 with all siblings. The other siblings were her flying monkeys. Best thing I ever did.

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.

It’s really hard when it’s your loved ones who are the narcissist. Very sad.

@rohithreddy75

Ай бұрын

more than 1/3 of people are narcissists easily

You are 1000% correct, between my dad, my ex-wife, and now my kids I have lived this all my life. My ex-wife and her family think they are God's gift to letting you know what God wants you to do. WHAT A JOKE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Unfortunately I am dealing with all of this through my oldest child. Thank you for helping us to recognize the signs.

@cazfreedomnow486

3 ай бұрын

me too..my daughter has moved back in she is a narcissist

@SmidgeofSnow

3 ай бұрын

I am also….. grand children now used as well as weapons. This recent incident as usual came out of left field as they all seem to do. This is exhausting 😢

@courtneyboudreau4284

3 ай бұрын

Sister nephew mother and my daughter

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.

@luminescence7584

2 ай бұрын

@@andrewbeckman7687 it’s not about unloving someone as God always loves his children. It’s about setting boundaries, healthy boundaries for yourself and you can still love them.

The giving game. "Their giving is costing me a way to higher price." So true!

@jennifervierstraete7987

5 сағат бұрын

Everyone has to know the good deeds they do. It is a very high price. They will never help you grow to help yourself. They just cut you off from help and support. It's so covert. You'll appear to be lazy or unteachable and accused of being ungrateful. Its really sad.

They steal things from you,and act as if they're concerned,They will help you look for the missing item,with a sly smile on their evil face knowing they have it and you will never see that item again.

I have a sister who is so much like this. She likes to "give gifts", and I have heard many times when you don't she what she wants, she will say, look at all what I did for you. I have come to a point that I don't want her to do anything for me.She is one who comments about your looks or something about you, and then says "oh it was just a joke". She laughs at what she says.. I find no humor in it. I didn't think of her as a narcissist, but I am convinced she has a lot of these traits. I am so far from perfect and I am sure I have some of these traits because of our parents and how we were raised. It took me too many years to realize what kind of person I was. I have repented and cried many tears and still do, especially in how I treated my own children😢

@melissahall-delmoral8900

3 ай бұрын

I also have a sister exactly like that…throwing digs all the time and then is offended you didn’t find humor in her joke, and we are therefore too serious and looking for a fight…smh! Insanity at its finest

@AshleyPhillips-ms1ov

Ай бұрын

Sounds like mine too

My parents are narcissist. They blame me for my past mistakes and proceed to gaslighting me to make me feel bad i can't communicate with them . They love to use the trigger game they don't listen they do everything that you are saying I already have anxiety. Thank you I don't want to do it anymore.

The saddest of all things -- being raised by a narcissistic mom who as a result made narcissistic children who are my brothers and sisters, I also became narcissistic when I was younger however I escaped that psychotic mindset yet my sister and brother are still in that mind mess which because of this I avoid them both 100%

Eyes wide open NOW IM A SURVIVOR I am so happy I’m able to see through the mask

This is Heart breaking for Me listening to this, Been dealing with a Covert Narcicissist who's my Wife for Five years and It's been life draining...

@Cara96

3 ай бұрын

If you don’t have children my BEST advice is get out now and go “no contact”. 🙏🏻

Wow ! You have explained it so well!! That's exactly what I have experienced with a narcissist....

The narcissist will wait until you're losing weight and you have told them repeatedly I don't want any more sweets if you're going to buy me something buy me a protein bar or a protein drink or something healthy and then they the narcissist will repeatedly buy you sweets

Teach dear sister. You are a great minister❤ much respect

You're really good at calling it like it is and relating it to the Bible, which is very important to me. I haven't found many reliable advisors so far. Thank you for helping me understand that I was stuck in a mud up to my neck, and it was only by God's grace that I didn't end up in a mental hospital.

@clintonnagy1662

2 ай бұрын

Amen. Going through the same right now. I'm not in the mental hospital because I've lost my mind but not my soul. Praise be to the Lord Jesus Christ. King of endless glory.

@iwonkwanan6443

2 ай бұрын

@@clintonnagy1662 you have to remember who God is, it changes everything. He is always on our side. He is already the winner... the battles we fight are supposed to toughen us up and teach us to fight like God. May God strengthen you every day 🙏❤️.

I have experienced all of this by narcissistic family members. They never listen and they always rage when they are forced to face something they are doing. They all use the same tactics and words, which is why I know the devil is the one motivating them even if they don't know it. Sadly they claim to be Christians but have no fruit of the Spirit.

I care for a family member who is a covert narcissist. As an empathetic person, my needs or his wifes are always subsequent to his. Ive struggled with alcohol issues in order to deal with him. Hes said the most awful, horrible lies about me. Hes always the hero or victim, never the villain. Ive had my mind twisted for the last 2 years. I honestly feel traumatized. I know im weak, bu drinking to get the intestinal fortitude to deal with him on a daily basis. Ive gained weight and feel like ive aged 10 years. I truly feel like hes evil and its now affecting me. Im a Christian and struggling to maintain a relationship with God. I try and empathize, maybe he was traumatized to make him do the horrible things he does...but no, now i feel like its evil.

They hook your emotions like a fish on a line. Once they have you they reel you in emotionally. Your feelings stuck on a line thats controlled by them...being jerked and reeled. You lose moral compass and self control. If you are being reeled, stop. Dont play. Swim away. It will hurt but you are protecting yourself from years of deep, deep, hurt.

KRIS, GOD IS USING YOU SO MUCH IN MY LIFE! My 2 older siblings have made me their scapegoat, smeared me, been triangulating & cruel to me for many years. Many Christians who haven't experienced this will say "love & forgive & sacrifice more like Jesus did". But Jesus love was so much more than that! You help take Scripture and apply it practically in these unique situations. Dont ever stop helping us all like you do!! PLEASE IGNORE ANY NEGATIVE COMMENTS FROM PEOPLE! I was just thanking God yesterday for allowing me to find your videos. I get daily encouragement and have even been able to read my Bible again (reaffirming my identity in Christ) because of your validation as to where the lies and cruelty is coming from and how Satan has always had this pattern in using people. Very few pastor/teachers talk about Bible passages that tell you how to respond (or not respond) to evil people and I thank God that He is using you to truthfully address this and help bring such hope & healing to your viewers! ❤

@sarahdouglas5851

3 ай бұрын

...also some of that advice from fellow Christians, that I spoke of, will lead you down the road of trying to appease & please the narcissists, which God NEVER asks us to do (its a bottomless pit)!! It also made me constantly wonder what Ive done wrong or should have done. I've learned that Satan loves to keep us on that treadmill so we will be stuck and paralyzed. Jesus never wondered how he could make evil people happy! God has so much more in mind for our lives. He's not only love & mercy, He's also truth & He is just. Jesus never let others control him but he was exactly what He needed to be toward each person he came in contact with, according to the condition of their heart and motives. He gave grace to the humble but opposed the proud. An older person once said "You would never send your child out to play with the neighborhood bully, right? So why would we do that to ourselves"?!! That's SO freeing! Jesus wants us to be free to love and trust HIM, not chase after evil doers, trying to obey their selfish whims & demands. Thank you again Kris for naming the issues and exposing what scripture practically says about it. No, the Bible will not describe each of our own particular situations but the wisdom and answers are all there to be applied. Thank you again!

Absolutely spot on in this video. You've met my wife...😢

You just nailed my entire marriage. It's was so confusing in it now out of it for years I can't believe I couldnt see it and get out sooner. I grew up in a Christian hone and had no idea people like this existed. They sure can play the part in the beginning to get their control. So sick

Manipulative inlaw passed earlier this year. I've never felt so free! Literally like a weight off my shoulders. And my family's.

@1timeslime971

3 ай бұрын

Oh man…Mine is still here. She’s 87, and STILL here!

@parinazaz4044

3 ай бұрын

How is your spouse doing now?

@RedRubyStones

Ай бұрын

@@parinazaz4044 He's doing great! With God's blessings, we're moving right along.

@RedRubyStones

Ай бұрын

@@parinazaz4044 He's still doing great! With God's blessings we are moving forward in life.

Had an altercation with my narcissist at work, put him in the hospital, I did five days in county jail. Would not change a thing.

@stevomcsteve9492

Ай бұрын

Violence is never the answer, but sometimes it is..

@tony8570

17 күн бұрын

Hope he is not okay. Sounds delightfully brutal

@smithakv8658

18 сағат бұрын

@@tony8570 haha

The narci that was my husband ,bought me knickers ,When I was walking with him ,I asked him a question ,he got angry and asked me to give him everything ,that he bought me ,I took off knickers ,shoes ,and a hat ,I walked on barefoot until we got home and he was happy to carry the stuff .when we got home ,he demanded sex ,I refuses because I was upset ,again he demanded everything he bought me ,I packed everything and gave him back .we stayed like that for weeks ,no talking ,later on he apologised and said ,you made me do it but I love you so much ,after apology ,the sex was intense ,after that I felt used and dirty ,but I was only in my 20s and new to marriage life .I left him with loads of health issues after 20 years .Its been 4 years now ,I am on the run .

This was so on point for over 20 years I felt it was me. Had me feeling like it was always me!!! Even after the separation and divorce he lied about wanting his family back only to say after so many months he wants to“work” on himself and his long distance relationship with someone he said wasn’t in loved with and soon to be over. I let my guard down but finally realized it’s NOT me and he’ll never change.

You always end up paying them back for something they bought .. and it’s always more than what it was..

It makes my heart SOAR! hearing how You put these characters ID's in their TRUE 'Perspectives' of the Evil they are & hail from. Once realized, i dont believe Anyone misses a beat again. Lord GOD bless & keep Us 1 & all.

I have been going through this with my sister, who is also a church pastor 😢, for decades but this past year I finally went no contact. Very sad, hurtful, etc., but I’m beyond tired and exhausted of dealing with the hurtful, insensitive games so I finally gave it/her to God and I’m trusting Him to help me heal.

@arenee118

3 ай бұрын

Hugs. My slightly older sister is also a narcissist. It is hard when they grow up with you and know all your secrets that they can use against you.

@Mel-ou2jg

3 ай бұрын

And ps 91 says He will repay (do something about it).

@BoomFootShot1

3 ай бұрын

You should leave that church too. Women pastors?! That’s a big nope.

@zx900steve

3 ай бұрын

God's WORD forbids women to be Pastors -Elders- "Apostles" - etc. This is plain and evident and inarguable to a true person of the faith......

@mateba5647

2 ай бұрын

those are the worst

Yep, the "giving" really got me! He gave me gifts so that he could call me "ungrateful" in situations that had nothing to do with the gift he gave me. He expected me to throw myself at him & worship him for working and buying me things (yet he did nothing over & above a 9-5pm job & I'm sooo not a materialistic person!!!) AND don't even mention the engagement ring he gave me 11 years ago...he used that as a reason I am so disrespectful because the diamond fell out of it one day! Apparently it was totally my fault and he couldnt get past how disrespectful it was for me to lose the diamond. Obviously it was not a gift and came with a range of caveats that I had no idea about waaay back when it was given yo me🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ Needless to say, this was only the tip of the iceberg and after years of his control, abuse, manipulation, neglect & addiction, I've biblical grounds for filing divorce. There is so much freedom in walking away & leaning on God🙌🏻🙏🏻

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.

God bless u my friend... I feel like crying, this is my mother, and I live with her!!! I can't get away as I'm her carer. Please pray for the demons to leave her. God bless u

Omg 😢 the truth hurts so bad hearing, my mom is a narcissist and I’ve been trying so hard praying for so long for her deliverance. I’ve gone non contact ❤

Let me say, this is SO very true

I have endured endless suffering and pain in my mind and body for Years; 25 to be exact ,because I have had a TERRIBLE life experience with the Church and my narcissistic marriage!!! I was NEVER able to DO or BE ENOUGH to see my husband change & Give a flying fig about ME !!!

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.

This is by far the best ive ever heard narcissim described!!

The most dangerous is the covert narcissist.

Thank you so much for this Kris, This was absolutely tremendous and the most high is guiding me, Thanks to stoicism, I don't give chances anymore, My Peace, Self respect, Dignity comes first, Peace, love, Respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to the universe, The most high, God is great 🦄😇😍🐉☘✌🕊🐶🌹🌈🌌💚❤😃💙🌲🐎🦁

@klbwashere

3 ай бұрын

wooooo!!!!!!!!🔥🔥🔥

@TheeyeOftruth-yx2np

3 ай бұрын

@@klbwashere Whooooo 😃🌌🌈✌🦁🕊 Thank you, Peace, love, Respect to you 😃🌌🌈✌🦁🕊💛💙💜💚❤😃

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.

@TheeyeOftruth-yx2np

2 ай бұрын

@@andrewbeckman7687 Thank you for your kindness and encouraging words, Peace, love, Respect to you 😃🌈🌌💛💙💚💜❤😃

❤ this is all the truth. Been there done that. Thank you for your work! When I heard go and die already and poor little Beth, always a victim. And all think he's so good. Behind closed doors, I know who he isn't. I lived this for 20+ years. Thank You Jesus for Your healing Word!!!

This video is exactly what I needed!!! Everything you pointed out is what I'm dealing with and let me tell you it is taxing on your mind and soul and unless you get an understanding of it and confront it head on you will be a shell of a human being! Trust me!!

You described it perfectly!

The perpetrator plays the victim....AGAIN!!!!

Sometimes you have to know when to do less.

All I can say for now is: I bless GOD for finding you. I struggled in a a narcissist relationship for 33 years..... I realize now that I had my ups and downs. I love to read the bible and I do believe now there was a purpose. I intend to keep following you to allow myself the love God has always bestowed upon me. Thanks from the bottom of my heart.

So hard when it’s majority of my family and grown adult children- I’m the scapegoat- Thankyou Kris - Besides God you have been a huge help for my healing journey

@maidmarion2976

Ай бұрын

Mine too. Also some of my neighbours. It is hard

Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge with us. I have learned so much. Alot of what you are saying is talking about my husband. Thanks again,Nina

@JackAnthony-ud8ii

3 ай бұрын

Hello I am so sorry if this sounds weirds but you wrote such a nice and wonderful comment. I can tell your very positive person, if it's . Okay with you l'd love to be friends❤

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.

Narcissists always say that they’re NICE too. Which the acronym for nice is: N - Narcissistic I - Incompetent C - Creatures (of) E - Earth

@mimifinesse1845

25 күн бұрын

The acronym fits very well!!

My God! You hit every point, the confusion game is a major red flag #8 I won't allow to happen to me again it all stops here