The Impact of Presence In Relationships
Relationships are more than the need, the physical, you must be truly aware and at-one with another's state of presence. You can only truly enjoy yourself if you know yourself as consciousness, the aware... still.. vibrantly alive presence. Eckhart Tolle discusses the impact presence can have in your relationships. Subscribe to find greater presence in life: bit.ly/EckhartYT
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Eckhart Tolle is widely recognized as one of the most original and inspiring spiritual teachers of our time. He travels and teaches throughout the world.
Eckhart is not aligned with any particular religion or tradition, but excludes none. His profound yet simple and practical teachings have helped thousands of people find inner peace, healing and greater fulfillment in their lives. At the core of his teachings lies the transformation of individual and collective human consciousness - a global spiritual awakening.
Eckhart Tolle is the author of The Power of Now, a #1 New York Times Bestseller, which has been translated into 32 languages and become one of the most influential spiritual books of our time.
In his most recent book, A New Earth, he shows how transcending our ego-based state of consciousness is not only essential to personal happiness, but also the key to ending conflict and suffering throughout the world.
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“Let go of the idea of relationships and just relate in the present moment.” ❤️❤️❤️🔥
@thomasdrake3216
4 жыл бұрын
Text him on What'zapp
@thomasdrake3216
4 жыл бұрын
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@veraplevnarovski-ripiloski4063
4 жыл бұрын
@@thomasdrake3216 😂😂😂👌
@Daniel-pr4uk
4 жыл бұрын
"Any kind of mental conclusion cannot serve as a valid basis for your life.."
@sandyboaldin7085
4 жыл бұрын
What time do you get off...if you're interested we could to get her...lol nah I really appreciate your consideration for ur comment or ...
Love is not a relationship, love is a state of being🙏
@dandelion8835
4 жыл бұрын
Don't try to explain the mystery , Please .
@dandelion8835
4 жыл бұрын
smith maybe, maybe can be olso the space between the letters .
@derekhughes5730
4 жыл бұрын
It's much more than an emotion, yes it's a state of being. However at its essence love is a frequency 🙏❤
@Lisa_M_V
4 жыл бұрын
Gurudra - Emotional Health & Peace yes!
@onreact
4 жыл бұрын
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"does this relationship have a future? - of course no, there's no future" This adorable guy cracked me up
@jeldrikkir345
4 жыл бұрын
Laughed so hard hahaha
@Sarah_270
4 жыл бұрын
That made me laugh and it was pleasant to hear others laugh at the same moment!
@prettylee4994
4 жыл бұрын
This was so deep and yet hilarious because we constantly forget this fact
@stonebridgeoxfordhoa2829
4 жыл бұрын
Yes, there is no future, because there is only now, the present moment! I love Tolle's sense of humor too!
@BobiRobbi
2 жыл бұрын
Eckhart ultimate player 😂❤️
Mr. Tolle is such a treasure. What he speaks of sounds simple in the moment, but after a few days of not hearing him speak, some of my old habits of thinking resume. Im glad I can listen over and over again.
@professormurdoc1359
4 жыл бұрын
Eckhart, your teaching is the single most important thing I’ve ever come across in my life. I’m 35 and you have freed me from the prison of self-inflicted suffering that I’ve been habitually inflicting on myself (as well as others) thus far. Finally, it has ceased! I have so much gratitude for the peace within that you’ve made accessible to me. It was instantaneous - the relief I felt! And it has been nearly constant in my life since I first experienced that thoughtless, aware state of presence. Thank you for helping to enlighten humanity to our own nature as well as the many pitfalls that we are likely to encounter in life. Most of all, thank you for your presence, for your being. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
@onreact
4 жыл бұрын
You can address Eckhart directly. He reads comments. Also after enlightenment you can relax and use first names.
@themadgamer4571
4 жыл бұрын
I agree it's really nice hearing him talk, and being able to go back to earlier videos. It's okay if thinking resumes. I noticed that they will continue to resume. Becoming aware of drifting into thought, we can get better at purposefully being present and when to think and when not to. Like when going to sleep, it was when I thought about things most and usually about problems. But that is time for sleep only, being present helps keep my attention on my body as it is relaxing and I had experienced insomnia for a few years, not anymore. Sleep well 😁
@murugesanvigneshambalakkut4801
4 жыл бұрын
Totally agree
@lorelaigilmore813
4 жыл бұрын
Me too. Got scared when faced with letting go of my ego, Hope I get another chance to trust it. I was afraid to leave my children, but I wouldn't have. I hope this makes sense, hard to put into words.
I've just had one of those moments when something deep inside my inner self 'clicked' Last summer I took myself from away from my toxic environment. I was physically,emotionally and spiritually drained and disconnected, I really dug deep and found my higher consciousness. The experience I had was like a lightbulb switched on in a dark room "amazing" Then I read two Eckhart Tolle books they helped me understand my thinking, how to cope with my ego l!!! I met someone yesterday on Valentine's day, and I like her, I can have a relationship with someone now as I first had to have a relationship with myself. I used to hate myself. But I took my power back , I have love in my heart now... it's a keeper❤ FEED THE LIGHT happy days
@cherylramberger8777
4 жыл бұрын
I went through the same type of thing recently
If you are not immensely happy with yourself, you are not going to be immensely happy with anyone else. LOVE YOURSELF.
@nicolegenerale
3 жыл бұрын
thanks
@devzster
2 жыл бұрын
True🙏
@maryisabel2115
2 жыл бұрын
Powerful words , needed this it helped shine the light
@dovetales3
2 жыл бұрын
@@maryisabel2115 Amen!
“Enjoy relating in the present moment”. So simple and so beautiful.
@m.nunari1963
4 жыл бұрын
that is the essence.
I have stopped thinking about past and future in my life. This is giving me a great peace 🙏😇❤️🙏👍
@shbolormaa9750
2 жыл бұрын
You still can think about the past and the future, but just be aware🙏 that is it.
Not everybody can be famous but everybody can be great, because greatness is determined by service.
@gill426
4 жыл бұрын
Woah! Thank you, I'll write that down!
@bobbyshallot6219
4 жыл бұрын
Ah thanx! This must be true because the greatest I have felt was always when in service and accomplishing that while the worst I have felt has been when being held back from service.
@ingegerdtheresesorrell338
4 жыл бұрын
Wow.... thank you😍
@beautilfuldoveonearth5447
2 жыл бұрын
You touched my heart ty
@mavis3916
2 жыл бұрын
Don't get it?
I find it much harder to stay present in a relationship. When you're so close with someone, you naturally tend to think about them when you aren't together (for better or for worse), taking you away from the present moment. I hope to be able to work on this in my next one
@MichaelDennis1234
4 жыл бұрын
@@joesmith9472 I appreciate the insight!
@bobbyshallot6219
4 жыл бұрын
There have been many times when I was mighty fortunate to have been "awakwned" so to speak out of presence in order to save a life and even a relationshio. Not every momwnt need be of presence at the expense of all else to enjoy Too. Like Most species on this planet, we ARE an interdependent species. I cant help noting swans that mate for life and seem to be EVER in a state of prenence while living almost Every moment "joined at the hip" like Siamese twins, who would Have to experience presence the same way, even if not at all or any of the same moments. Ans THEN there's new parenthood. Anioher challenge to having time to he present alone. Quite unfortunate is the newborn whose parent is too present too much to be presrnt for the infant.... and species survival too. But I "expand" /digress a bit here. I'm still honing presence "skill" If I waa informed one asoect of life I enjoy and otherwise feel I benefit from was exclusionary to enjoying another, I'm quite cwrtain I would deem that to be a limited belief system for someone Else but Not me.
@Lisa_M_V
4 жыл бұрын
Michael Dennis but when you think about them it’s still the present. When you think of the future you make it the present. As the present is the only time.
@onreact
4 жыл бұрын
That's fine. Acknowledge the thoughts and let them go. Return to the present moment.
@LoveLove-ov7xv
4 жыл бұрын
I think that’s a natural feeling and we have to acknowledge it in order to arise from “missing” someone.
Being present means you live in creation, the now is where there is no judgement! And when you love yourself & feel whole you are affluent. You are always in love as your state of being. Then relationships flow.
I CAN’t HELP BUT SAYING I LOVE 💗 YOU ECKHART! WE ARE SO BLESSED TO HAVE YOU. I have committed to this practice.
After listening to Eckhart talk about bringing Presence to a relationship, it doesn’t take much to see how widespread Presence could transform our world on the basis of relationships alone.
It's so much more enjoyable being in a relationship now. I can witness the emotions & thoughts that arise and choose whether to act or let them pass. Thought patterns that at one time would have caused such distress in my relationship are now simply that - old thought patterns. And I can even discuss them with my partner if it's something that persists but because they don't carry the same mental weight as they once did neither of us see them as something personal. And off they go...
@cedq4957
4 жыл бұрын
That sounds awesome :)
@franchizetheartist
4 жыл бұрын
Just reading this comment was refreshing in the now 🙌🏿
@andreahoyosl
3 жыл бұрын
Wow. Great job
163 beautiful souls who have disliked this conversation, I just wish I could hug them and invite them to the prescnce of experiencing this pure soul called Eckhart.
I trully feel that a conscious relationship means a deep sense of care and healing of the partners'pain-bodies
@trumpetsharps4496
4 жыл бұрын
Well said, thank you.
He is the sweetest man on earth. 3 time I listen this one, and I understand-found new things. Thank you dear Eckhart. 🙏❤
I've read about The Four Agreements, which are wonderful, and one of the things expressed in the book "The Mastery of Love" was about our "needing someone." The Author, Don Miguel Ruiz, says that if we can be complete in ourselves, we don't really "need" anyone. However, if we happen to find someone who we like being with and grow to love, then that is fine as well.
When both the couple start to live-in present moment letting eachother setting free from everything and going with the flow slow and study they can literally feel the same way to one another in the present moment by becoming one in eachother!!♥️ Soulmates or twinflames connection would be really wonderful if they find eachother
Eckhart is our Yoda
sounds great, but with the layers of resentment, thinking of how the other is neglecting or not showing love in the way I want to receive it makes it very difficult to be present. In terms of marriage and raising people together, it is hard to maintain connection, lighthearted humor and really feel the appreciation rather than taking everything for granted consistently.
@rayniqueaustin4708
2 жыл бұрын
Ask yourself why is the resentment their its within you to rise above the resentment and realizing that whatever the reason of the resentment it took place at that time, don't carry it with you that's why it's hard to enjoy relating in the present moment you aren't there you're in the past. Rise above and accept what is as is, you'll be able to enjoy then.
@daveb5145
2 жыл бұрын
Key words in your comment are “thinking, I want, taking” these are mind activities taking away your appreciation for the present moment.
THANK YOU SO SO MUCH FOR THIS, ECKHART!!! You made me realized alot of things and it changed me and the way I see relationships. I have been in and out relationships because of fear. I just realized, in each relationships that I had, I fully enjoyed it in the beginning of it. And it is because I did not have any concept in my mind in the beginning of the relationship. No concept means no fear. So I was always be present in the beginning of the relationship. But once I get to know them, their past, our interactions, comparing with my past relationships, it created fear and it disturbs the now. It disturbs me from enjoying the present. From now on I wont let any info or past created a concept in my current relationship. I will just always enjoy the now, the present, 100% love with no fear. Again, THANK YOU SO MUCH! I cried while writing this. Cuz it is just a big revelation for me and my love life!!!!
Married, engaged, in a relationship, open relationship, friends with benefits, just friends, etc. - these are all man-made concepts which fulfil the mind's desire to label everything and put things into boxes. In reality, you either enjoy someone's company or you don't. Simple as that.
Love to watch this Today on Valentine's and to remember that I am Love
Look, listen, and words will come out of your mouth....great advice...the most natural way to talk to someone..
I love hearing his wise words, and his voice. So soft spoken and present. An awesome author as well.
I WENT THROUGH AN AWAKENING DURING AND AFTER A COMA. I AM STILL GOING THROUGH IT. IT IS AN ENDLESS VERY INTENSE TRANSFORMATION.
So beautifully explained. It resonates so deeply. Just listening to Eckhart puts you in the presence. Allowing the life to unfold and being present is all that is there without putting mental constraints. We are so grateful to have you. Hope I’ll have the opportunity to meet you one day.
Eckhart knows being in the present moment works effortlessly...LOVE THAT !
I don't care about the romantic stuff, he is not trying to help us with that. Love as a relationship is simply an agreement, you will never find it if you want Eckhart's joy and seeking it there. Two different things. Thank you Echart, I wish you were a priest so you could pray for us struggling. Anyways, keep on helping us stop the struggle, God bless you.
I knew that he was going to say: of course not. There is no future. Really laughed in this moment :D I love you Eckhart!
@sawyerrice3244
4 жыл бұрын
Hilarious!
@iamamillionaireiamamillion4205
4 жыл бұрын
if there is no future, why are we planning long term? Why are we going to school become Doctor. pilot. Etc
@tobiaskoehler96
4 жыл бұрын
@@iamamillionaireiamamillion4205 of course there is a future in some way but what he means is that there is only the present moment, also in the “future“, when the future arises then there is only the present moment too :)
@stephj9378
4 жыл бұрын
What a wonderful man.Just saw him for the first time.
The relationship we have with ourselves and with our faith is all that is ever truly needed ♥️
@Michelle-bv1ko
4 ай бұрын
"Faith" is really our capacity to stay present & aware, making better-informed, "conscious" choices in every aspect of our Life - ET is not about ordinary religions which do not claim that we yourselves are God, a very revolutionary truth indeed - for too many- who prefer to dominate & exploit or benefit from tge bondage of others. Tgey are held pridoner by tge illusion of hierarchies & separateness from others, tye demonisation of others based on religious & cultural "differences" - all fskse. Tgake away those labels & we are all ewual on every level We all seek inner peace, but we dont find it in possessions or in religion or cultural & economic 'advantages'. God is the Light, the Universe experiencing Life through you - you are a beam emanating from the "mainframe" so to speak, the ripple on the surface of the ocean, thus a part of the Ocean, the ocean being a metaphor for God. Once you realise that & understand "Presence" & how the ego within can undermine your power, "faith" becomes something different altogether & you see yourself co-creating with the Higher Power by being a lot more aware of how you experience Life & people. You work to unify & not divide, you see what "division" is, how divisions are created, by whom & what the aims & tge results are - the wirld in its current war-like state, communities suffering & in lack; too few with wealth & too many denied access. All deliberate.
Such a good response. Eckhart is so gifted answering the real underlying question that these people are asking.
Love is the foundation of who you are and being able to share that with another being is one of the reasons why we are here. Love the insights on this one Eckhart. 🙏🙏🙏
You are a ray of sunshine Mr. Tolle at the present moment ; ) Merci beaucoup.
Enjoy relating = InJoy Relating = Relating in a state of Joy
this video just kinda saved me from the understanding if i am in a relationship with the guy i am seeing, i enjoy the presence and i enjoy the love and the moment .... peace by peace we learn. no attachment
Yes I have worked with couples for years now and I share the most important thing is self awareness and love...most couples come in fighting for their "right" or "blame" and as soon as they turn that around whala! relationship is beautiful!! xo
@elgranmich6060
4 жыл бұрын
Echart tolly es mi gran amigo así como yo mismo qué forma parte del universo admiro a este hombre de su gran saber
@john.mcsharry5741
4 жыл бұрын
The physical act of being cheated on .vrs the act of cheating others leaves one in a state of yesterday and the ability to deal with past events then projecting it on to the partner who presently is cheating or the mixed message confusion am i making up scenarious in my mind .feel as if im in 4 different places at the one time
@TheRoseyLife
4 жыл бұрын
@@john.mcsharry5741 The way to healing, and having a beautiful relationship is releasing the unwanted past..this can be done in many ways depending on the person and situation...forgiveness, reimagining the past using revision to name just two..looking at the past is preserving it in your present moment...but desiring for something different at the same time. It won't work. hope that helps :)
Heppy Birthday Eckhart!!! Funny that I decide to see when you were born , exactly on your b day :-)
@LoveLove-ov7xv
4 жыл бұрын
Nice
To summarize every answer of Eckhart to every question ever : Know Thyself . Once you do , there's a flow of life without anyone asking how/where/why should I go/do . It's what every other advaita teacher ever taught , be it Nisargadatta ,Ramana etc .
If not grounded in the presence, it's not love, it's possession.
@osse1n
4 жыл бұрын
@@joesmith9472 I agree. Although, men and women different understandings of that "commercialised love".
@m.nunari1963
4 жыл бұрын
these words are very clear.
If you enjoy being with yourself then you'll enjoy being with someone else..... dont label the relationship, just enjoy the adventure of discovery....Love this!! ❤❤ Always feel home when I hear you speak Eckhart!😁 And you always inspire me to keep creating! Thank you kindly!!❤❤🙏
@LoveLove-ov7xv
4 жыл бұрын
That’s what most people do nowadays. No “label”, thus it creates confusion. Often times, women get accused of being assuming
ECKHART YOU ARE AMAZING! Love IS a state of being. I love applying your teachings to my life and have started to share my experience with people through KZread Videos. Thank You!
@jessicalowens2059
4 жыл бұрын
Keep going! I subscribed :)
@georgefallon6495
4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful brother, 🙏
@jtbrady197
4 жыл бұрын
Yes eckhart has inspired me so much 2 :)
@itismichaelangelo
4 жыл бұрын
@Anthony Lebowitz thank you so much!!
@itismichaelangelo
4 жыл бұрын
@@jessicalowens2059 thank you 🙏🙏
❤️”does this relationship have a future? .. of course not, there is no future”
Dear Eckhart, you are sooo loveable the way you make people laugh and your teachings are so relatable and easily understood. Picked up your book a New Earth and I’m glad I started listening to your chats. Such a bright light 😄
Love live and laughter be here now and live fully into a new light peace love and kindness to all just what i needed have a good Valentine's day ladies
it is nice the "flowness" of the Now and enjoying it, without any judgments and preplannings. What a relief! Thank you eckhart🌺🙏🏻
Eckhart thank you for your candor🙏💜🙏
I feel that what ekhart was pointing to was that our minds needs to define everything. " love is this or relationships are that" whereas these limitations only serve as an obstacle to truly relating to the world.
Thank you for the question, very helpful. And of course the beautiful answer from Eckhart. I feel so blessed living right now at the same time as this wonderful teacher. 🙏🏽✨
Since he's basically saying to just pay attention to relationships and make the best of them, which is advice no one should ever really need, this proves what he said about spiritual teachers only being able to point someone in the direction of the truth, rather than hand it to them. Rather than memorizing formulas of how to "succeed", the best teacher enlightens the student to discover their own potential, so they can manifest their own conscience to live the moment as they enjoy.
Happy Self Love Day 💞 today and beyond, Namaste! 💞
Elkhart you are a gift from the universe and beyond.
I love you Eckhart. I wish I could be freed from the need of a partner, but I feel that especially women have this need very strong within them.
@birdiebee5977
4 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you are going through a difficult time. But it is definitely possible to no longer "need" a partner! Once you connect with your true Self, a Divine being, there is no longer the "need" for a partner. You enjoy life and will start attracting people who are also resonating on this level. Not on a needy level but a healthy level. I am a single woman and am living this reality. The power is within you. All the best!
@DeirdresRebornsandlupuslife
4 жыл бұрын
mnyama ashiki yes I fully agree with you and especially if your ill
@TheSoteriologist
4 жыл бұрын
_"I feel that especially women have this need very strong within them"_ Especially if they want someone to do all the heavy lifting for them.
@rayo3117
4 жыл бұрын
@@TheSoteriologist No, I am talking about the need for someone to give you love and attention. The longing for the partner's body and intimacy. I am basically talking about loneliness and how to break free from missing another person when he is not around you. The ultimate goal is to love your partner but not to be hurt or sad when your partner may not have time for you or when your beloved one may want to spend more time with his friends than with you. Which is obviously completly OK, but I am talking about how to be freed from the longing, the missing. It's all about learning to be confident and blissfull even alone. I think the only way to that is meditation and letting go of the ego that needs love and attention. Realising that your existence alone is pure love and that your partner does not need to be with you or that you dont even need someone to feel this love.
@rayo3117
4 жыл бұрын
@@birdiebee5977 That's exactly what I am looking for. I know that every women feels initially this way. It feels awkward for us imagining a life alone, without having someone to cuddle with, a strong arm around us, someone to look in the eyes and share deep moments of love. I have to learn that I don't need another partner for those moments of deep love, I can share them with myself. I just have to figure out how to. I am very happy that you managed to become a free happy single woman!! I really really hope I will go there as well sometime... right now all I know is the feeling of loneliness and the absence of love.
You changed my life. Thank you 🙏
I needed this on valentines day. It brought my focus from overthinking about my date and the future and back to the present.
Thank you Mr. Tolle. Your book helped so much in stripping away what was only fleeting…I’m aware that you say you don’t help people but the teaching helps people Become themselves. The Pointing. Well sir, you’re one heck of a pointer. LOL 🙏✌️ #Peace
That’s my explanation now for every relationship entering my life. Thought about it long before, but now I really aligned with it.
Eckhart is awesome 😊 Infinite love and appreciation 🌟💖🌟
Thankyou!!
The profound wisdom of Eckhart is pure Source Consciousness! I so love him!
This is so so soooo good!!! Omg. It is my hope and wish that as many fortunate beings as possible stumble across Eckharts teachings. Forever grateful for your wisdom, insights, humor and above all presence ❤❤❤
Hi Eckhart! Happy Valentine’s Day. Hope you are well. Thank you 🙏
Thank you so much Eckhart ❤️🙏
We are born in this life not suitable for anyone, when we love someone we will change ourselves to fit them! Jenny Trinh
Eckhart, you are my primary Guru
Thank you for this gift in exploring presence within and with those around us!
Thank you Mr Tolle…….. instead of looking for a relationship,just relate-- listen and be totally present-- I love this …… it’s an eye opener. Thank you. Just live in that moment- nor past or future- going to work on this. Love you 👍🙏🏻
I love this; laughter and tears shows love.
Just finished his Power Of Now book a week ago🙏👌👌😉I read it a couple of years ago but if im being honest I wasn't ready,this time now when reading it I took a little pocket notebook and wrote down an extract out of every chapter and for past 6 days it's in my pocket for quick reference if needed🙏 between him and Alan Watts my spiritual journey now has a purpose that I understand 👌reading and absorbing The Power Of Now this time I claimed my power to choose to fix and release all the resentment that I had been holding within me against my mother since childhood🙏 Eckhart Your book is a very powerful book...1❤
NEEDED THISSSSSSSSS. ECKHART UR A KING
Expressed clearly, simply and with presence
Thank you for your hard work and have a profitable day Eckhart, Observation, Gratitude 💗🙏💓
Define relationship. Any exchange of energy between life forms.
anyone watching Eckart Tolle i just love as we one family and human dna
Focus on the relate part of the relationship...I love it!
There are relationships we are born with like parent- children relationship, or worker-co-worker relationship. There is need for one another in the present moment.
Love you Eckhart.. Thanks for sharing.. God bless..
Thank you, Eckhart.
Amazing! Thank you Eckhart!
Love the Power of Now~
Needed to hear this, so goodly 😅 will be programming the tone of my day daily with this tool 🐸 thank you ❣️
Wow Mr Tolle .u brought it home.thank u .I needed to hear that Tonite.
Thanks so much - really needed to hear this (as always!!!) 😊💯🙏
Such good advice! I love this one. Thanks yet again Eckhart. "ENJOY RELATING IN THE MOMENT. 👍💖😊🙏
enlightening as always THANKS
just beautiful.
well said Eckhart, well said!
Beautiful
Thank you Eckhart sir 🙏🏼
Thank you ❤️
Loved this!
Thank you!
I like this man.
Thank you.
Love you! Eckhart tolle ❤ thank you 🙏
Always a pleasure 💖🙏🏼
Amazing! Thank you 😊
Beautiful way of spreading consciousness with a laugh...😀🙏🙏🙏🙏thank youuuuu you always inspire me ⭐️
What a wonderful person ☺️