He is absolutely correct. I was gone basically 30 years before I came back to live where I was born, reared, and grew up, and it was "the same old thing." I stayed for nearly 5 years before I had had enough and relocated back to where life was better in every sense: Tennessee.

@yourinnerchildmatters

6 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing your thoughts 💕✨💖

You cannot FORGIVE someone who never changes their BEHAVIOUR

No contact is the correct answer

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

Thank you for pointing that out, sometimes a little distance can bring clarity and peace.

"Forgive them because they don't know"... ❤❤❤

@yourinnerchildmatters

11 ай бұрын

"Thank you so much for watching. Yeah, Forgiveness is a powerful virtue that allows us to let go of negativity and find peace within ourselves. It's true, sometimes people may not fully understand the impact of their words or actions, but by forgiving them, we can choose love over resentment. Let's continue spreading compassion and understanding in this world. Sending you lots of love and gratitude! ❤️❤️❤️ from Your Inner Child Matters

@Fuedez

8 ай бұрын

Bless u ❤️ much love 🎉

@Sky-fw7mk

5 ай бұрын

This is the part that stood out to me the most. They don't know ... :(

@A.S.Harfenklang

20 күн бұрын

Sure they never know? Maybe some sometimes hurt others because it's their own free will. Because beside of our conditionings and genes we probably have a free will.

Nonreactive is right. My now deceased father made a remake which was designed to upset me. It was clear that he hadn't changed and thought I was the same. I looked at him, turned my head, then turned my body, and walked away. As I was boarding my car, I see him peripherally staring and speechless. I entered my car, seat belt, ignition, and drove away. That would be the last time that I would see him in reasonably good health. The next time he was incognizant due to ministrokes. I left his hospital room and never went back. 1.5 years later, I relocated back to Tennessee. About 1 year after that, he passed away. I didn't return to Maryland for the funeral. While he was my father and there is love there for that, our relationship lacked any real quality otherwise.

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

It sounds like you had a complex relationship with your father. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and boundaries.

@jeffreyjackson5229

Ай бұрын

Not complex if I understand your use of the word. In retrospect, it lacked depth ultimately because he did. Excluding ageing, he never changed. And while in some respects he was beginning to awaken, I would say easily 97% was the same. The Buddha puts it this way: "Many will grow old in years and also grow old in vain." That is a perfect example of my father.

Forgive them, for they don't know any better.

@5thlevelweb887

3 ай бұрын

And also know when to get away permanently.

Please dont add music! It takes away from listening, thank you. (People can add their own….)

@bonnitabee903

Ай бұрын

Yes please Eckhart Your voice is perfect The most peaceful vehicle for your messages I too find the music very distracting from - your message 🙏💖

Another lovely attempt from our "Inner child", but clouded by Eckhart's mystical charm. Our "nuclear" families or even rarely assembled "extended" families of origin are mere recent artifacts of our ancestral clan social structures, in which our Hunter-Gatherer ancestors thrived for tens of thousands of years when we were "conditioned" right down to the gene level for success in the natural environment, now long gone. We are fish out of water and our disconnected, alienated nuclear families of the diaspora are the closing chapter in the human experiment. What could go wrong? Everything? Stress R Us

Adding music really spoils this.

@yourinnerchildmatters

2 ай бұрын

I appreciate your input, I'll consider it for future videos.

They don't know that they are trapped in it. As my therapist put it, "it's normal to them."

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing that insight from your therapist. It's always eye-opening to hear different perspectives.

@jeffreyjackson5229

Ай бұрын

Ditto.

Here is an example that just came back regarding their conditioning. Long story short: My surrogate brother said something to me out of surprise regarding my attire. My response was, more or less, that was applicable when I was a child. Later, I thought about it and concluded that, if he still thinks that I think like that (when I was a child), what does that say about the way that he thinks now? So when he says that they are trapped in it, he is absolutely correct.

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

It's interesting how our past experiences shape our perceptions. Thanks for sharing!

@jeffreyjackson5229

Ай бұрын

Absolutely correct. And if we don't become aware of that, we will remain in that mode all of our lives. That's not hypothetical. I have seen it with my own eyes. 25 years had past since I last saw this one guy. In those 25 years, I had served in the military, was discharged, earned a B.A., an M.A., would have my doctorate if I had chosen to finish but had a career change, state employee now and when I saw him 25 years later. Have a good and self-sufficient life. What was he doing? The same old thing: leaning on this walk and watching traffic go by. Watching the sun come up and watching the sun go down. True story.

It’s not always the parents who are toxic. The current trend to blame the parents for everything is not a one size fits all.

@stephanieturner6441

Күн бұрын

That’s not what he is saying

I spent a wonderfull time with my unconscious wealthy parents who aged and no longer felt a need to judge, and were just needing my unconditional love and compassion after over 30 years of absence.. ❤

@yourinnerchildmatters

19 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing such a touching experience. Family bonds are truly special.

not reacting was not the solution in our family, it only increased being neglected and disrespected

@yourinnerchildmatters

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

How to know when to leave toxic family?

@MjF809

3 ай бұрын

The fact that you are asking Means pull away slowly.... Use the psychiatric riule of 3 Is a clear way to know when to pause or emd a relationship with anyone.

@rajjo18

Ай бұрын

@MjF809 he says awakening only happens in difficult situations so I am confused if you stay in toxic environment and grow spiritually or leave the toxic environment.

@madhvishukla4332

Ай бұрын

​@@rajjo18 i have the same problem, but also i am unemployed currently and also ill so that is the one more reason for me to not leaving. I just want to say that u are not alone and u will have to face problems wherever you go or whatever you choose to do and u will also grow , but it is up to you what kind of problems you want to face and grow yourself that way. For example family or any other person out side both can be toxic so it is up to you what you want to face , what kind of situation you want to handle both can be a lesson for you🙏

He is absolutely correct regarding presence with parents and why it's required even the more: the past, at least mine, is littered with a lot of painful experiences, painful words and actions that require one to be deeply rooted and grounded in mindfulness, otherwise, unconsciously you will think you are reliving one those events right then there and will react. For me, after I saw that it was still the same old thing, I did the conscious thing and distanced myself, accepting that, parents or not, some people don't and will not change and I must make self-care the priority. Consequently, I distanced myself and eventually relocated back to Tennessee, but with new insight and the fortitude that their presence in my life is not a requirement for my happiness 🙏

@yourinnerchildmatters

Ай бұрын

It's important to prioritize self-care and set boundaries in relationships that may be toxic or damaging. Your well-being should always come first.

@jeffreyjackson5229

Ай бұрын

Amen. Well said. It's better to be healthy and alone than unhealthy with someone. The primary lesson that I left with is this: Just because they are family, it doesn't mean that the relationship is mutually beneficial.

I'm sad to see how these awful people continue to get a pass for their behavior..what about the ones the leave abused and traumatized? who grow up to have kids, and sometimes it just keeps going..its just a cycle, a nasty cycle. That's why a therapist will always have a client list. and..They do know...they don't care.

@yourinnerchildmatters

9 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's important to shed light on these issues and work towards creating a healthier environment for all.

Parents be like... It does make sense or not.... But we're right 🤥

What about CHILDREN, stuck in this loop of PROBLEM PARENTS and their TOXIC parenting????

Is it possible to forgive parent for her continuous harming behaviour? She is manipulative

@yourinnerchildmatters

11 ай бұрын

Dear TheScapegoatedMiddleDaughter, Thank you for sharing your personal experience and reaching out on this delicate matter. I'm sorry to hear that you're dealing with such a challenging situation. Forgiveness can be a complex and deeply personal process, especially when it comes to forgiving a parent who has consistently displayed harmful and manipulative behavior. I believe that it is important to remember that forgiveness is a journey that varies from person to person. It's not a requirement, and it's okay if you're not ready or able to forgive your parent at this moment. Your emotional well-being should always be your priority, and sometimes establishing boundaries or seeking professional help can be part in dealing with manipulative behavior. And the decision to forgive or not forgive is yours alone. It may be helpful to engage in self-reflection, seeking therapy or counseling, to understand your feelings and explore the opportunities for healing and growth. Remember that forgiveness does not mean forgetting or condoning the harmful behavio, it's about finding peace within yourself. Remeber that you're not alone in this journey. There are support networks and communities available to provide guidance and empathy. Surrounding yourself with understanding and compassionate individuals can make a significant difference in your healing process. I wish you courage, clarity, and a willingness to manage this difficult situation with self-care and resilience. Take Care, Your Inner Child Matters

@MAKEMONEYONLINE-yt6pq

6 ай бұрын

If you dont mind, i want to add how forgiveness works. True forgiveness is when you go beyond the conditioning of your mind and the other person condioned mind and realize that you and that person who wronged you are one and not separate. That means you don't confuse what the other person do with who they truly are. Who they truly are is already inseparable from who you are( you are one). What they did to you is a form of unconsciousness which they couldn't help it themselves and they were completely trapped in their conditioned mind. they couldn't act beyond their level of consciousness. When people talk about forgiveness, they literally approach it on the mind level and i don't personally fault them for that because on the mind level, its a never ending cycle of trying with effort to forgive someone over and over again and it seems impossible. By simply transcending your mind the other person conditioned mind and not confusing who they truly are with their behaviours , you bring peace within yourself and that's true forgiveness and its natural and organic and you dont have to acquire it on the mind level because you are the forgiveness . In other words we can say there is nothing to forgive because forgiveness is what you are in your true nature. The moment you stop believing the narrative in your head about people or situations, thats acceptance and This does not mean you should approve what the other person did to you or continue to like what the other person does, you can allow your conditioned mind to do its own thing without identifying with it. You recognize that whatever is happening, whether good or bad is just part of the whole. Dont even try to force yourself to forgive someone, because that would be your mind. Remember who you really are and you are not your mind. The moment you realize that, forgiveness happens naturally without effort. That brings me to next question, if these toxic people are doing these horrible things to others , are they responsible for this? Whether they are responsible for this or not, this does not mean they dont suffer the consequences of their actions which in this morden age is called karma. They do suffer the consequences of their actions and that suffering will lead to an awakening for them. Hope this helps❤❤✌

@avrilrodriguez3262

4 ай бұрын

As long as you feel hurt you won’t feel like forgiving even if you try to force yourself to a forgive her. Taking care of your wounded self, going through the pian, and acquiring new emotional resources (healthy self esteem) will allow you to have the enough amount of detachment to be able to forgive easily.

@sarebear5207

Ай бұрын

Yes but at a distance. You have to protect youself first. Do not put yourself in positions that are mentally emptionally harming

@xinyuee1860

Ай бұрын

If theres a way to move or change the place with maybe putting limits please do but if no try to learn how to accept to shift the energy inside you so the outside shifts all peace all love

"They are manifesting their conditioning." And ultimately, that's all it is, and you don't change what you think is normal. Why should you?

@yourinnerchildmatters

6 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, it's interesting to see different perspectives on conditioning. bless you

❤ It’s been a long time since I listened to Tolle.) Thank you very much! 😊 〰️➿➰😘

@LisaSmith-yb2uz

11 ай бұрын

Same ☺️👍💓

@yourinnerchildmatters

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching

@yourinnerchildmatters

11 ай бұрын

thank you forwatching

❤️🍀💐

@yourinnerchildmatters

8 ай бұрын

💖 💖💖

Our ancestors had not this much freedom of speech like today. They didn’t have time for awakening.. Religion and politics had many restrictions.

@yourinnerchildmatters

28 күн бұрын

I'm grateful for the opportunities we have today to discuss and debate important topics openly.

Sometimes the real human being is even worse than his/her external conditioning.

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So you just put up with their CRAP. NOT ANYMORE.

The music is intrusive, distracting… as if Tolles words were not good enough. Whose ego is adding this horrible, unnecessary musical accompaniment???!