This talk has got me so pumped! The 4 key points I took away from it are: 1. Don’t Run! Engage the Situation. 2. Ask “Why” & Pay Attention to the Answer. 3. Mirror the Mentality & Confront the Fears of the Rejector. 4. Ask for What You Want Until You Get it! All of life is a numbers game. At some point someone’s going to give you a “yes”! Thank you so much Jia for doing this talk, and TEDx for hosting!

@thisdudesam4332

7 жыл бұрын

Allyssa Lewis - Bam. Been in sales for 15 years. And I am an extreme introvert. I made a decision at 17 I wanted to be successful and ran after rejections!

@elizabethbennet4791

6 жыл бұрын

They LIE when they give you the answer- you know that? They just dont want to hurt your feelings.

@cymbidiumm

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks! This will be very handy to keep in mind on the daily situation :)

@beardedonpoint1366

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Allyssa - so well captured - awesome - saved me from having to write it down. You rock

@tingye326

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome summary, thanks!

I was going to bypass this video...reject him. Then I thought, why? Let me listen for a minute. I'm glad I did. I learned a lot.

@leizdutra9377

7 жыл бұрын

Exactly, the same with me

@samiajre6852

6 жыл бұрын

i click because he is asian LOL i felt he has good story and experience to share

@UniversalMysticsOfChrist

4 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@chezy8148

2 жыл бұрын

I thought the same thing! I’m also glad I stayed and listened

@petsloveonly

Жыл бұрын

So get you!

This is one of the best Ted talks EVER! I have a big fear of rejection. This was insightful and humorous. Well done, sir! I dont know why this doesnt have at least a million views.

This definitely gives new meaning to the phrase "What would you try, if you knew you couldn't fail?" Jia Jiang makes getting rejected actually sound like fun! So bring it on, rejection... I'm not afraid of you any more. I will embrace you when you arrive. Ha!

@jazzmanny02

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, that is true i am so afraid of rejection its the worst feeling for me, but something in me is like i want to say how i feel about people and yet afraid to tell them for fear of rejection its so tough

i was rejected today in a job interview, but it's ok it's not the end of the world :)

@bonolob2596

3 жыл бұрын

Literally me today 🤗

@Single4ever4lovesake

2 жыл бұрын

Wasn't the right job.

@NExUS121212

2 жыл бұрын

Me today

@lynnmazloum3496

2 жыл бұрын

And myself twice in the last month, within my company and track record of outstanding performance. I guess I'm trying to take the time to pause and think about the why and how to do better at interviews, and probably focus on thinking that there probably are good reason I didn't get any of those, and better opportunities will come ahead.

@RiseAboveRoots987

Ай бұрын

And myself more than 10 interviews throughout last two years 😢

“What I offered did not fit what he wanted”

This is probably one of the best decisions of my life; to have clicked on the video. I learned a lot. My biggest fear is rejection. I used to be weird when I was in elementary. My English wasn't too good either. I was too tom boy for most of the girls in my school and ugly for the boys, didn't get along with either genders too well. Even outside of school. With family friends, where you are practically forced to befriend the daughter or son of your parents friend, play with them in the park etc.. Those family friends grew up not to invite me when they had lunches together, or go on a hike etc. It would hurt a lot especially when I see their pictures together on social media. I tried having it not bother me, not think about it, push it aside and continue in my bubbly personality where I was always down to do fun activities and hide my feelings. But it stayed in the back of my head, and every time I get rejected, I remember the past. It kinda does upset me. But in middle school and high school, I was very athletic. Good in every sport. In gym class I was always picked first to be on teams because of my skills and talent. One of the only times I felt I had advantage, I had opportunity over others. It felt good, too good. Cause right when that gym class ended everything was back to normal. In some days I felt superiority over those who were picked last in gym class. But then I would feel really bad because I would remember how it is for me outside of gym class. Later I started making an effort to pick those who were usually picked last, to be picked in the beginning. I realised every time there is a team picking, the weak will end up on both teams regardless. So I wanted to make them feel good. Not rejected. And that is how I started feeling good on the inside too. Because I would always see the sigh of relief when I call their names or their muscles relax when they realise that for the first time they are actually not last.

@thisdudesam4332

7 жыл бұрын

Khadija Chamseddin - Awesome. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing.

@elizabethbennet4791

6 жыл бұрын

i think youre pretty, and very sweet Khadija

@eudyu324

5 жыл бұрын

So inspired by your story !!

@davidwebb5367

4 жыл бұрын

Leyla Kalukoco I was hoping to hear the rest of the story.

@ghazikutbi3206

3 жыл бұрын

Leyla: If you are still there please be close to Kamala Harris, she needs you

I've never felt like I want to be rejected before... until now. I love burger refill and flower planting idea. Thank you.

One of the best TED talks I've seen. Very inspiring and funny! Well done Jia! I see a lot of myself in your stories!

I've lost a bunch of opportunities because of fear of rejection 😭

Don't run just embrace the rejection and ask why! Rejection has another gift named transition which means a hidden present in life :)

@ktmduke9710

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks

This was really funny and insightful. He told his story really well and turned his vulnerability into a tool. Great story Jia!

Magnetic and immensely profound, God bless this man.

Man; I have been rejected so many times in life ; but each time i take it as something to strive to active/concour, weather it be adulting, work; where I want to go or who I want to be ...its gotten me this far so I guess keep pushing....this gave me life. Thanks for sharing!

This video helps establish that one’s worst enemy is himself and how society puts unnecessary on a person being someone that society expects, instead of what a person expects out of himself. Rejection at many instances is the first step of progress to success.

You talk answered a lot of questions I had piling up for years .. very liberating ... and loved your humor 👍👏✌🏻️

Why does this not have more views? This is gold!

I fell asleep at 2.30am listening to a meditation lesson because I can't get myself going again, I have lost my way, thinking I an to old and awakened at 4:34am to hear this Ted Talk video. What a great young man, the human cycle continues... Thanks Jia Jiang

From the first minute to the last minute Jia fills us with a powerful idea . . . replace your fear with curiosity. Straight from the heart. The best.

Well said man!!, fear of failing or getting rejected will never get you somewhere in life... I learned something over the past few years that in order to be happy or successful in life you have to be able to fail ''BIG'' and it's something that most of us or afraid of doing. The video was so inspirational thanks for sharing.

I have started a business and I too undergo what you were facing, fear of rejection! I tried giving pamphlets in public yesterday, but I failed as I felt doing that is embarrassing. I came back running, ashamed of myself for not doing it. Today I am going to try doing again, hopefully succeed this time!

@leizdutra9377

7 жыл бұрын

How did it go?

@eljorisluypaert

6 жыл бұрын

The solution is giving your own pamflets out with those of some other business. It creates a little mental distance that is beneficial in overcoming your initial fears. As soon as you are also doing something for someone else, personal emotions become less dominant.

@nikhilsukumar23

6 жыл бұрын

Ashwin C did you succeed?

@cgullcharlie

4 жыл бұрын

@@nikhilsukumar23 Maybe a better question isn't to ask if the outcome is tied to success, but instead "Did you learn?" because if its something his own person rejects, it could be telling him that he is doing something he thinks is right for him but actually its not the right direction for him in which case what he learns about himself is the success.

I have been watching youtube videos for over 5yrs now but never commented on any video. I'm happy I'm watching this video now coz I'm learning things I've never learned before, or just hardly taught. This honestly is strengthening my confidence in wanting to do a lot of things that I actually never thought I'd wanna do.

Loved this talk - agreed - one of the BEST!

This makes me want to get out there and overcome my own fear of rejection! Thank you Jia.

Bless you, what a softie you were as kid! well, it's deffo helped to shape you into a wonderfully intelligent, sweet and humorous person as an adult!

This changed my whole life. Thank you so much Jia! ❤️

Wow!! I love TED talks but this is probably the best I've ever seen. Great insight

This is so inspiring. You don't know how much this has changed the way I view things and life. I was crying.

This was wonderful. Makes you realize that a lot of biases we feel on a day to day bases is all in our head. Simply asking why, may really help you get a better understanding. Facing it head on is something myself and a lot of others need to do. Thanks for the great talk!

This talk is one of the best inspiring talks i have ever heard!!!

Saved to my favs. Love this. Just began to homeschool my daughters. Going out and getting rejected will be part of this semester's curriculum.

Wow!! I'm so touched by your story Jia. I have been going through some things, similar to what you talked about, and I had no idea that there were people out there willing to just go out and experiment like this - even at the chance of looking like an idiot or being laughed at. But then again that's the point of this. I want to learn to crush my comfort zone like you have. I can't say I will try your method or these exercises right away, but I will. Mr Jiang, I just want to say you've inspired me. Thanks for sharing something so painstakingly embarrassing, and letting others know it will be alright if we keep moving, even wit the bold 'Nos'.

I saw a short video, and I also rejected it, but then later, I searched the full version. Thank God I got it, and I learned alot

An amazing, self-examining and thought provoking concept. He has a beautiful gift of understanding and an ability to deliver his message in a funny and yet thought provoking way!

this definitely needs more views!

This is really beautiful! Thanks for that.

你是一个又幽默又诚实的人，太谢谢你！

@soloman9448

2 жыл бұрын

这哥们儿让华人、西人都有共鸣了，准备去买他的书看了，叫Rejection Proof好像

thank you for your insights on rejection and how to go about dealing it. Don't run! Engage the situation is what i really got from this...facing your fears head-on. Thank you once again

You really struck a nerve with me. And I also think you do that all of the time to everybody you share this with. Bless you for opening my eyes. Bless you and thank you for helping millions facing their demons too and then overcoming them.

*_potential Comedian_*

The most dynamic TedX ever made. Well Done!

Jia Jiang, you are genuinely a good person and this reflects through your talk. Like you said- The reaction after the rejection defines you, I completely agree with you. I feel inspired.

Absolutely one of the best Ted Talks I’ve ever seen. Thank you for making me giggle and embrace rejection- you are a game changer.

What inspirational talk!!! Thank you for the valuable information.

This is absolute gold. Bravo, sir.

You're amazing! You have changed my life too! Tks Jia Jiang!

OMG One of the best Tedx videos I've gone through I'm gonna try this as well and see what good can this bring for me Cheers man for making this video.

KEBENARAN DI BALIK LUKA PENGABAIAN Pengabaian menggores luka dengan pelbagai macam nama: tidak diterima, tidak disambut, merasa terancam, merasa tidak berharga. Diabaikan membuat kau bertanya, “Kenapa harus aku?” Pertanyaan itu tak pernah terjawab, tapi yang pasti pengabaian membuat korban mengisolasi diri jauh-jauh dari dunia, melarikan diri dari semua hal. Korban pengabaian bisa merasa bahwa semua orang tidak peduli kepadanya, lantas, kenapa pula aku harus peduli pada diri sendiri? Berkenalan dengan orang baru, dengan sebanyak-banyaknya orang baru, hanya solusi premature. Pada akhirnya, kesepian akan datang, kesepian yang bisa datang meskipun kita punya banyak teman. Kesepian itu datang dari satu hal sederhana, ketika kau kehilangan koneksi intim dengan seseorang. Berkenala, mengembara, merantau, memarani dari satu negeri ke negeri lain juga bukan jawaban. Berkelana, atau sering disebut “healing”, diakui atau tidak, sering menjadi upaya melarikan diri dari masalah. Sayang sekali itu keliru Kita tidak pernah melarikan diri dari masalah ketiba tiba di Prancis, atau Turki, atau Rusia, masalah itu selalu bersama kau kemanapun kau pergi. Masalah itu, pengabaian itu, tidak akan raib secara ajaib. Pendapat Victor Frank barangkali bisa meredakan sedikit luka penolakan: “Kemerdekaan terakhir manusia adalah kemampuan kita untuk memberi makna terhadap apa yang terjadi pada kita.” Kebenaran di balik penolakan bukanlah pertanyaan “kenapa harus aku?”, melainkan pernyataan “memang aku”. Kau bukan satu-satunya korban penolakan, aku pun begitu, orang asing di luar sana pun mengalami luka serupa, setiap hari, dan itu sama sekali tidak apa-apa. @tyologi

Thank you so much for sharing this video ! It was just mind blowing 😳✨💕

No is a powerful word. Thank you for taking some of that power away.

Love your presentation. Very helpful!

Embrace rejection, stay engaged, ask why these are awesome advices. Loved the humor and life lessons! Blessings.

One of the best Ted Talks I've ever listened to. So practical.

Thank you Jia. This is important information. Thank you for your bravery, and sharing it with us.

rejection hurt but it is a blessing. very nice speech to hear

Awesome! Thanks Jia, I know your a humble man.

This guy is a legend

Just got rejected from a job Interview, and watching this

This is so funny and also beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing this. I feel like I learnt a lot in these 15 minutes.

My new friend Kristin recommended this and it was as great as she said it would be. Wonderful TED Talk. Go Jia Jiang! Keep on crushing your fear of rejection!

Brilliant! Thank you for sharing Jia Jiang.

His book changed my life

I love this talk so much! I love especially that all the requests that you picked were so innocent. I was sort of prepared for a 'pick up artist' style series of social experiments. But all of the requests that you chose were just a bit weird! Very nice presentation. See, we're all writing you some compliments now.

I don't really like the topic, but was engaged through the entire video. Great presentation; in a second language, no less.

Thank you for this inspiration, Jia Jiang!

This video changed my life ! I am grateful for this message this has helped me thank you !

I’m Crying that was beautiful thanx man

hats off to Jia Jiang! I am a fan!!! You are so inspiring!

WOW. JUST WHAT I NEEDED TODAY.

Excellent...one of the best one I have seen......After graduation when I had many interviews with rejection I was really very upset ..and to say I was just married with my fiancé ...you can imagine my situation...and Finally I got a Job at Mitsubishi ... Thanks to Company for giving me an opportunity at the time of need..

What a legend! xD Awesome video and very encouraging!

Brilliant man! Learned a lot listening to him and I felt better.

Thanks Jia-your talk was so good, helpful and funny!! Thanks for sharing your story with the world!!

This guy is a great speaker, learned a lot too, great video!

Thank you so much for this

Brilliant talk ... and loved the book 'Rejection Proof' 👍🏻

Wow! Amazing! Thank you so much for sharing your story sir. I needed to hear this. I love how you turned a challenge into a victory. My car just stopped working all of a sudden as o pull up to buy gas at a gas station day before yesterday. Needless to say that I was more embarrassed than I was worried about what was wrong with my car. No, it’s not that I ran out of gas, it was because my battery just went to sleep on me. Because it was back working as soon as my husband arrived and helped me to jump start it. However, there were many form of rejections that I was feeling before my husband arrived. Not quite up to a minute that my car stopped as I was pulling towards the first gas pump out of the three pumps on the row that I was in, a lady jumped in front of me, and was asking me to back up. To whom I was shocked by her lack of patience and concern as to why it is taking me a minute to get my car to where she was trying to force herself. As if that was not bad enough, the lady on the other side of the gas pump that I was trying to get to start yelling at me. She felt that it was her moment to show her loyalty to African American woman like her, since to them I am an African in America: I m the one who came by plane. Anyway, both of them came charging at me, screaming, yelling, cursing, calling me a liar, and every other name in a book. All eyes at Cosco’s gigantic gas station was on me. I felt so embarrassed and rejected. No one cares to ask what exactly was going on, not even the gas station attendant as he paces up and down to talk to other drivers, leaving me at the mercy of these two between 30 and 50 year old bullies. Already battling low self esteem, depression, and suicide, I could not say one word to defend myself from these women as I felt the WHOLE UNIVERSE STARING AT ME. I finally managed to say, “I’m going to pray for you,”, to the woman that I was directly involved with. When the woman on the other side of the gas pump responded, “how can you pray for her when you are the one lying.” There, she calls me a liar again. I woke up yesterday couldn’t go out to work. I felt like the world rejected me yesterday, so why even bother go out today? But watching this video, I see how I could have asked them, why they chose to attack me, rather than ask how they could have helped.

Best Ted Talk ever. Humorous approach to rejection is the best option. How wrong I was. Humour wins any pain. Any!

I understand exactly what he is talking about as I have tried 2000 doors a day as a salesman, and his experiments and he as a person are truly admirable. However, none of you is brave and strong enough - if not crazy enough - to keep doing this if you ever started it. And there is a good reason: You would just get so stressed out. People tell you things and you will be reduced to a nonhuman. Just be a human, brush up your skills and do what you are good at.

I love this TEDtalk!

Best video of how overcoming rejection so far. Well done|!

I absolutely love this TED Talk I even subscribe to his channel. Thank you for uploading this

Wise man, great message.

I love the Olympic donut story! He turns his fear of rejection into a fun game and the results lead to surprising moments of connection. Great talk :)

In other word, is to believe that you deserve to take up space ♥️. Wonderful speech, especially for an introverted and shy person like me. Used to be, I was so scared to take up space. So I rarely ever asked.

Awesome man!

This is so funny. One of the funniest TED Talks I have listened to. Thank you for presenting this talk.

Loved this guy. Thank you. 😊

Jia you are awesome! You're very funny, and a good story teller. I feel like I'm filled up with cheers and flowers, and you helped me! I'll follow you! Thank you Jia.

oh my! What a great great talk!!!!

Just what I needed

Amazing amazing amazing talk Jia. What an inspiration and example to many of us, you got out of your comfort zone and at the end got comfortable with it, and it paid off. Congrats and thanks for this!

@JiaJiang

8 жыл бұрын

Dennis Leyton Thank you, Dennis! Go destroy your comfort zone yourself!

This video is really amazing .. And so entertaining all the way through. Powerful, thought provoking, you will be moved in some way! Thank you for sharing this with all of us! Love from Sydney x

excellent talk. they teach a similar way to men who fear getting rejected by women. basically challenge them to get rejected by as many women as possible until they get desensitized and learn social interactions along the way. one thing i didnt understand was why his challenges had no real investment. like, he didnt really care if he got a olympic donut. so the rejection is so minimal.. yet it worked for him..

That was a Wonderful speech, Thankyou for sharing about Rejection. What a Great way to show a person. It's amazing what you can do if you don't allow fear to hold you back. Be Safe, Have a Wonderful day.

Super TED-TALK. Charmingly said...

Telling stories is a great sales technique!

Great inspiring talk.. Actually never noticed how much rejection bothered me.. Thanks a lot for this funny and awesome talk..

You are amazing man 👍

I love this guy!! Awesome 💗