The Benefits of Rejection | Magna Gopal | TEDxJerseyCity

When we think of Salsa dancing, we think of big smiles, fancy moves, and people having fun. Rejection rarely comes to mind, though it is a very common aspect of a social partner dance. Using her own experience with rejection in dance, Magna will take us through her journey of personal growth and improved relationships.
Magna Gopal is a leading instructor and performer in the international Salsa dance industry and is renowned for her pedagogy, her creativity, and her philosophy. Magna Gopal is a leading instructor and performer in the international Salsa dance industry and is renowned for her pedagogy, her creativity, and her philosophy. She uses the richness of partner dance to provide a deeper understanding into ourselves, our relationships with others, and the dynamics of communication.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @dbassociates9744
    @dbassociates97444 жыл бұрын

    The Longer you spend time with wrong person or wrong activity the less time you have for the right person or the right activity

  • @zakiahart3919

    @zakiahart3919

    4 жыл бұрын

    Good word thanks!!

  • @savedandbeautifulone

    @savedandbeautifulone

    2 жыл бұрын

    I Thank o I Thank iOS so

  • @goldenazucar3726

    @goldenazucar3726

    Жыл бұрын

    That's deep

  • @pogodanaprzygode
    @pogodanaprzygode3 жыл бұрын

    I heard the story of a boy who went to a disco and asked a girl to dance. She replied "no". So he asked another girl ("no") and another girl ("no" again) and a few more, until he finally got to a girl who said yes. And he noticed that she is intelligent and more interesting than the previous girls. They danced all night together and then started dating. The point is... rejection sometimes hurts , but sometimes it also leads us to the right destination. You never know.

  • @surayaiffah4967

    @surayaiffah4967

    2 жыл бұрын

    thanks needed to hear this!

  • @Sway281

    @Sway281

    Жыл бұрын

    :)

  • @Tatiana-qp1gc

    @Tatiana-qp1gc

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for your refreshing perspective. I appreciate it 🙏🏽

  • @saitech007

    @saitech007

    Жыл бұрын

    Sounds like 100% story of mine.... and one day I had pleasure of dancing💃 with Liz Lira who is 25 times world champion in Salsa dancing💃 😉🔥😜😜

  • @williammaldonado6132

    @williammaldonado6132

    11 ай бұрын

    Good 4 U & thanks 😊

  • @steven-zhang
    @steven-zhang6 жыл бұрын

    Summary: 1. Don't take rejection personally. Everyone has a different reason to reject, it could have nothing to do with you. 2. Learn from rejections. Ex: modify own body language to be more open, ask people with more open body language 3. When giving rejection, use the mindset: "I'm just being honest with what I want and what I can give" (better to say no than say yes and not be 100% present) 4. The key when giving rejection is empathy.

  • @popeye9995sp

    @popeye9995sp

    6 жыл бұрын

    thanks didn't want to watch entire video

  • @RedaHaddadRezyserAktorArtysta

    @RedaHaddadRezyserAktorArtysta

    5 жыл бұрын

    you did not loose anything.

  • @nasimak8141

    @nasimak8141

    5 жыл бұрын

    Steven Zhang Thank you for the summation

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    5 жыл бұрын

    Good cliff notes for those not interested in the story. 😉🙏Thanks!

  • @willsommervil6141

    @willsommervil6141

    5 жыл бұрын

    You're absolutely right. Now I will not feel some type of ways about being rejected. I appreciate that.

  • @MrAjpalkow
    @MrAjpalkow5 жыл бұрын

    “Rejection” is good for the soul- it keeps us humble.

  • @mylesanderson2861

    @mylesanderson2861

    4 жыл бұрын

    Most men are humble already in modern day society. And women receive rejection such few times that it has almost no effect.

  • @charlottebruce979

    @charlottebruce979

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@mylesanderson2861 what a joke. We all get rejected, men, women everyone. I have many times. Now I'm training to be a counsellor.

  • @mylesanderson2861

    @mylesanderson2861

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@charlottebruce979 I meant to articulate this better but so many people who talk about rejection have been rejected less than average.

  • @ctto9525

    @ctto9525

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@mylesanderson2861 I'm in door to door sales and man people don't let you down easy😂 I'm currently trying to get comfortable with rejection since ITS LITERALLY IN THE WAY OF DOING MY DOING MY JOB😂

  • @mylesanderson2861

    @mylesanderson2861

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ctto9525 😬

  • @adesolafasoroadewale882
    @adesolafasoroadewale8826 жыл бұрын

    She has such a beautiful speaking voice.

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Adesola! 🙏Perhaps that's why my students can sit through my lectures. Lol 😊

  • @bear1more287

    @bear1more287

    5 жыл бұрын

    I just can’t understand how she got rejected being good looking, nice try though..👍🏻

  • @Tochi23

    @Tochi23

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes she does

  • @andypysadee8260

    @andypysadee8260

    4 жыл бұрын

    She is beautiful on the whole

  • @kabhisharma3464

    @kabhisharma3464

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@magnagopal u r beautiful soul too

  • @JohannyM
    @JohannyM3 жыл бұрын

    Rejection is the universe telling us something better is coming along.

  • @kabhisharma3464

    @kabhisharma3464

    3 жыл бұрын

    Well said

  • @Leggs013

    @Leggs013

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank You

  • @dragonflymagictarot1180
    @dragonflymagictarot11803 жыл бұрын

    Everyone gets rejected: it’s part of life 🙏🏻💗 Keep dancing 💃

  • @walkbyfaith2917
    @walkbyfaith29175 жыл бұрын

    Rejection is redirection! Thank God I learned to look deeper into rejection and not be hurt..

  • @Mr_Elusive763

    @Mr_Elusive763

    5 жыл бұрын

    if thats how you deal to cope with it.

  • @laurendilaurentis6467

    @laurendilaurentis6467

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Mr_Elusive763 you sound bitter, hope you find your way!

  • @Mr_Elusive763

    @Mr_Elusive763

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@laurendilaurentis6467 Please explain in what way did I come across as bitter. And What way do I need to find?

  • @laurendilaurentis6467

    @laurendilaurentis6467

    3 жыл бұрын

    Chris harris “if that’s how you cope with it” you sound cynical. like... yeah that IS how she copes with it, why’re you saying that lol

  • @Mr_Elusive763

    @Mr_Elusive763

    3 жыл бұрын

    ​@@laurendilaurentis6467 I have a problem with when people are unable to just accept reality. There always have to be some deeper meaning behind it. For example, if you try out for the basketball team and don't make then its probably because the coaches didn't think you were good enough period. But people will try to flip it and say it was a reason I didnt make the team. Yeah its because you wasnt good enough. Now if you want to use this moment to learn how to deal with failure then you can but to say it happened so you can deal with failure I say no and learn how to put your ego aside and deal with life head on. Did that help you understand my way?

  • @tracisyhong
    @tracisyhong5 жыл бұрын

    Rejection is God’s protection

  • @kristodea8067

    @kristodea8067

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes I believe too

  • @Tochi23

    @Tochi23

    4 жыл бұрын

    Old Man hendo nAH Jesus is the best thing that ever happened to me. I pray you allow him to change your life and eternity as well

  • @blessedbythesun9209

    @blessedbythesun9209

    4 жыл бұрын

    Bullsheeshh

  • @darthvalar4377

    @darthvalar4377

    4 жыл бұрын

    May you be forever prtected ...

  • @kristiannoel4866

    @kristiannoel4866

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@darthvalar4377 I'm protected from romance very well. :-(

  • @Roro-ce3ot
    @Roro-ce3ot6 жыл бұрын

    I was rejected from college twice I felt bad and depressed but I didn’t stop trying and I took it as an advantage to learn a new language now I speak 3 languages...rejection is actually a redirection from god ✨

  • @thebaddest3452

    @thebaddest3452

    5 жыл бұрын

    So what do you do with 3 languaged and no qualification now?

  • @theitdocchannel540

    @theitdocchannel540

    5 жыл бұрын

    Fabulous Chick that is very true.

  • @kai_johnsonn

    @kai_johnsonn

    4 жыл бұрын

    Does that type of rejection really even matter? That type of rejection isn't based on you specifically and personally, the people rejecting you don't know you.

  • @calixtepierre2357

    @calixtepierre2357

    4 жыл бұрын

    Actually it’s my story as well my friends, i thought i was the only one, I am living in Haiti, and thanks to a rejection now i’m able to speak English, it’s very useful and thanks to being able to speak english i may get a scholarship in a foreign country. God’s plan

  • @ahmeddiiriye4624

    @ahmeddiiriye4624

    4 жыл бұрын

    I speak English, German and Hindi so what should i do with them ?

  • @artwithmamafairybreadd
    @artwithmamafairybreadd2 жыл бұрын

    My poor father I’m sure was scared of rejection, scared to upset people…he didn’t know how to say NO. He worked non stop, in factories, it helping family every single second…he never stopped…it broke my heart to see him never stop… And my mother was used to seeing him work, she encouraged it instead of telling him to relax….dad ended up having close to a thousand people come to his funeral , he was so humble, but so luved and no-one forgot what he did for them…but he didn’t live his life how he wanted, he never stopped to smell the roses, he never went Italy to see his family like he wanted to so much…he only lived a life pleasing others and helping everyone but himself…..I cry a lot thunking about him, he deserved a different life….and no he’s gone forever and I can never fix it for him….I cry so much for him and I don’t know how to stop….he was the kindest man you could know…

  • @juniorlaing9421

    @juniorlaing9421

    6 ай бұрын

    I see this writer is just like is dad same at your service guy. Nobody tell him that the man so interested in Italy 🇮🇹

  • @Zulu369
    @Zulu3696 жыл бұрын

    Rejection is the very first step towards acceptance. How can you truly enjoy acceptance if you have never experienced rejection? They are two sides of the same experience coin.

  • @pfavayi

    @pfavayi

    4 жыл бұрын

    Rejection is the first step to watch more ejection.... if you get started on the path of being rejected you'll get a long way along that path

  • @othusitseish

    @othusitseish

    4 жыл бұрын

    true that

  • @brentduanefoster

    @brentduanefoster

    2 жыл бұрын

    Not just enjoy acceptance, but also APPRECIATE acceptance.

  • @Barak300
    @Barak3005 жыл бұрын

    You're getting men to say no to you not because they reject you, because they're too intimidated to dance with you. Point is, sometimes it's not you that is the problem, it's the other person actually. Thanks for the talk you have a golden voice respect 👍🏾

  • @Nephibis
    @Nephibis4 жыл бұрын

    I love this because I have dated so many women that weren't interested and honestly dealing with them being apathetic, ignoring you, showing no interest when they go out of their way for another guy, saying they are busy 2 seconds after they said they were bored and had nothing to do on social media, etc. hurts a million times more than if they would have just said, "no." You get your emotions deeply involved just to feel played with.

  • @Jules-dn9jl

    @Jules-dn9jl

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sorry to hear that has happened to you. I find it hard to understand why a woman would do that. I hope you have found one of the genuine and lovely women out there.

  • @Beatyoutoit34
    @Beatyoutoit346 жыл бұрын

    She is flames. How could anyone reject her

  • @kevinoduor9841

    @kevinoduor9841

    6 жыл бұрын

    i think she's lying, she barely gets rejected.

  • @kevins.5472

    @kevins.5472

    6 жыл бұрын

    I was thinking the same thing...

  • @dragonswordmountain2908

    @dragonswordmountain2908

    6 жыл бұрын

    +Kevin Oduor Would she go to Ted and make a huge presentation about dancing Salsa if she wasn't? Pancakes also can be stored in the freezer you know.

  • @gafas_

    @gafas_

    6 жыл бұрын

    Did you listen to her story?

  • @Lucky-df8uz

    @Lucky-df8uz

    6 жыл бұрын

    You lack an ability to think outside yourself. You think she's pretty so she must have no problems and never get rejected, that's actually extremely shallow. Pretty well to do men reject pretty women a lot, a skilled dancer will reject a less skilled dancer, someone with more status will reject someone with less it goes on and on you're very naive.

  • @claudettee.6310
    @claudettee.63102 жыл бұрын

    It's so hurtful to be rejected. Whenever i am, i try as much as possible to involve myself in positive thriving activities. With time it goes away. As humans we cannot control the feelings of human beings towards us but we can control ourselves. We all have to power in us to avoiding taking rejection personally.Thank you for sharing.

  • @michelles2299
    @michelles22993 жыл бұрын

    She is one of the best dancers in the world of salsa now

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! I'm still working at it. =D

  • @Doug5614
    @Doug56144 жыл бұрын

    She's helped me to put rejection that I've recently suffered into perspective. It helps a lot. I think I'll have to listen to this a few more times for it to really sink in.

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    3 жыл бұрын

    Glad to be of assistance! 🙏❤️

  • @tylercooper1551
    @tylercooper15516 жыл бұрын

    She got rejected asking for dates!? I don't know man, she's gorgeous, well spoken and intelligent... The perfect woman for me lol

  • @hardgladiator8378

    @hardgladiator8378

    6 жыл бұрын

    Tyler Cooper ..beauty isn't everything !!

  • @dinfluence30

    @dinfluence30

    6 жыл бұрын

    SHE,S SOOO CUTE

  • @RKO1988

    @RKO1988

    6 жыл бұрын

    She got rejected by Chad and Tyrone, she got dates with guys she didn't want tho. Hardly an "expert"

  • @bobbymidha3901

    @bobbymidha3901

    6 жыл бұрын

    She is Indian, we get rejected all the time

  • @tylercooper1551

    @tylercooper1551

    6 жыл бұрын

    bobby midha really!? I find Indian women to be the most gorgeous women

  • @2quick2.0
    @2quick2.03 жыл бұрын

    Amen! NO means that there’s a better YES out there! Manifesting and claiming it! I receive it! ❤️🙏🏼✨

  • @VDRO
    @VDRO6 жыл бұрын

    Man, she's incredibly gorgeous :D

  • @smendes2004

    @smendes2004

    4 жыл бұрын

    Her intelligence is even better.

  • @pierricclot6544

    @pierricclot6544

    4 жыл бұрын

    but often rejected?

  • @abdulghanmohammed

    @abdulghanmohammed

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@pierricclot6544 sounds untrue

  • @dalehoward8352

    @dalehoward8352

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@smendes2004 totally agree!

  • @anikadiamond007
    @anikadiamond0074 жыл бұрын

    My life must be one big benefit. I've always been rejected. I have the spirit of rejection over me for as long as I could remember. And I don't know why. Others flow easily through life and always accepted and appreciated. It is very painful.

  • @iknowwhatsup2880

    @iknowwhatsup2880

    4 жыл бұрын

    Your rejecting yourself, accept and love yourself. See what happens. People love people with positive open energy.

  • @joshuakiingati4488

    @joshuakiingati4488

    4 жыл бұрын

    Am ready to accept you

  • @JourneywithKasitti

    @JourneywithKasitti

    4 жыл бұрын

    we are twins

  • @joshuakiingati4488

    @joshuakiingati4488

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@JourneywithKasitti the better for us all

  • @anikadiamond007

    @anikadiamond007

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! You may be right.

  • @Blossom-ne4bk
    @Blossom-ne4bk2 жыл бұрын

    Growing up being rejected from social groups and workplaces hit me hard. The sadness still lives with me today. We have to be so careful with our words when rejecting someone in any kind of way. They carry what we've said to them for life.

  • @davidtrujillo5581
    @davidtrujillo55814 жыл бұрын

    Just got rejected, but it feels good cause it’s finally of my chest. Doing gods work 🙌

  • @conversationswithadrianne
    @conversationswithadrianne4 жыл бұрын

    She’s beautiful. I think that makes this more impactful.

  • @mylesanderson2861

    @mylesanderson2861

    4 жыл бұрын

    How she probably got rejected very little and it was probably in the past.

  • @Alphacentauri819

    @Alphacentauri819

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mylesanderson2861 shows your myopic narrative that rejection is only about looks...or that looks prevent all rejection. Hope you can divorce the meaning thoughts give things...those are often a distorted perspective, born out of conditioning and programming starting in childhood, carried further by society. Free your mind... your thoughts cause you to suffer.

  • @brentduanefoster

    @brentduanefoster

    2 жыл бұрын

    Just goes to show you that physical beauty does not exempt you from rejection.

  • @conversationswithadrianne

    @conversationswithadrianne

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@brentduanefoster exactly. I'm happy you were able to put it into words that were easier to accept.

  • @conversationswithadrianne

    @conversationswithadrianne

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mylesanderson2861 yep. True.

  • @zoltanito
    @zoltanito5 жыл бұрын

    It’s hard to belive that anyone would reject her. She is the most talented salsa dancer in the world!!!

  • @shreenjandutta
    @shreenjandutta4 жыл бұрын

    So bizarre how this video appeared at the right time! Thank You ♥ I recently faced a rejection ☺️

  • @alp2387
    @alp23873 жыл бұрын

    One of the best speeches i ever listened on Ted X 👍

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    3 жыл бұрын

    Much appreciated! Thank you 🙏😊

  • @trudytriad4574
    @trudytriad45744 жыл бұрын

    This is metaphoric of relationships too. I love this talk. Glad she put herself out there and did it.

  • @eileenmacdougall8945
    @eileenmacdougall89455 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Magna. I've been avoiding the acceptance of rejection. I read a comment on a different video and that person said go through it. It's the only way out. You've built upon those words for me to start to see the wisdom in facing the crippling fear I've been living with. Right from my heart I thank you.

  • @TheGlennAllenShow
    @TheGlennAllenShow5 жыл бұрын

    I love her point about how we fear rejecting others because it seems socially acceptable.

  • @QueenQueenly
    @QueenQueenly4 жыл бұрын

    She is stunning 🥰

  • @smendes2004

    @smendes2004

    4 жыл бұрын

    What about her intelligence?

  • @litawi7869
    @litawi78696 жыл бұрын

    Had no idea you were so well spoken and self-aware, Magna! I've seen videos of you dancing your very fun, light hearted, personal style and I've always said "one day I'll learn to be my authentic self on the dance floor like her!" After this talk, (I'm also a self help junkie) I'm inspired by you even more! Keep up the good work!

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Lita! I appreciate that! 🙏🙏❤️

  • @metathynk9400
    @metathynk94004 жыл бұрын

    I've been rejected from posting this message! But I kept on keeping on and here I AM :)

  • @EmmettPChea
    @EmmettPChea6 жыл бұрын

    So many times in my life but I am still stronger.

  • @lovingatlanta
    @lovingatlanta4 жыл бұрын

    👍The first word my parents taught me was “no”. When I grew up, I asked why and they said they wanted me to know how and when to say or receive a “no”. There have been plenty of times in my life when I knowing how and when to say or receive a “no”. 💞

  • @dawnjacobs355
    @dawnjacobs3556 жыл бұрын

    Great talk! About much more than "dancing!" When to say yes and no...and accepting responsibility for how we show up☺

  • @phoenixzhong
    @phoenixzhong5 жыл бұрын

    The speech just hit home. I can’t believe when I found this speech. I am learning to deal with rejection. I recently found out that I love ballroom dancing. I didn’t realize this is connected to dance. I am impressed.

  • @skyejacques
    @skyejacques5 жыл бұрын

    Wow. So much wisdom in this. I've said yes when my entire gut was saying no, and I wasted my time and the other person's. So true. The inner definition of rejection needs to be neutralised instead of demonized! Thank you so much, Magna for this one... Perfect timing for me to listen and absorb this universal truth x

  • @wuchangmaid4832
    @wuchangmaid48322 жыл бұрын

    Magna is such a wonderful and inspiring woman, I feel so grateful to have met her in real life she helped me a lot with my insecurities, we don’t deserve such a woman

  • @AmandaRules4ever
    @AmandaRules4ever5 жыл бұрын

    I needed to hear this video - one of the BEST I've heard!! I am now at the age of 49, able to say NO to negative people & to say YES to properly caring for myself, setting boundaries with compassion & to learn from the pains of my past & turn them into GOLD. I am doing spoken word, creating art, writing & I now facilitate groups sometimes & am returning to SCHOOL in less than 2 months!!

  • @charlottebruce979

    @charlottebruce979

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thats great, I hope you are doing well.😃

  • @therawwarriorwithin6971
    @therawwarriorwithin69714 жыл бұрын

    True words. Direct and straight down the line. My yes is my yes and my no is my no. Once one honours one's emotions and intuition, you truly are alive.

  • @MrSatch007
    @MrSatch0076 жыл бұрын

    I really enjoyed this talk! Many great pearls of wisdom. (The empathy part ❤️👍) I love hearing how people find universal principles in the things they do 😊.

  • @pfavayi

    @pfavayi

    4 жыл бұрын

    If you where a denser you would understand how useless empathy and compassion are when they rejecting your dance proposal

  • @willsommervil6141
    @willsommervil61415 жыл бұрын

    👏👏👏👏 I love this! Makes a lot of sense. Now I will never feel bad about being rejected.

  • @shucoraw
    @shucoraw5 жыл бұрын

    Great points in this speech about learning from rejection and learning to say “No” from an honest place.

  • @TS-rd7oy
    @TS-rd7oy4 жыл бұрын

    Great talk. You are not only a phenomenal dancer, but an engaging and intelligent speaker.

  • @liton31
    @liton313 жыл бұрын

    I fell in love and got rejected and learnt to let her go in these 17 minutes of her speech ❤️ And now I respect her a lot.

  • @bleedart
    @bleedart6 жыл бұрын

    Ha! I’ve never said “No” to a dance :) Nice talk though, cause I’m rejected a lot.

  • @stanjackson6907
    @stanjackson69075 жыл бұрын

    You may never see this...But Magna Gopal!! Thank you for stepping up to share this...AWESOME AND easy on the eyes... :)

  • @cgoddy
    @cgoddy6 жыл бұрын

    Kudos Magna. I miss personally seeing you in the salsa scene. What a great talk. Well delivered and well nailed!

  • @kabhisharma3464

    @kabhisharma3464

    3 жыл бұрын

    True

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks, Charissa! 🙏❤️😘

  • @Bhanoo4UTube

    @Bhanoo4UTube

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@magnagopal agree with Charissa 🙌💖🙏 (left u a link to a dance 💃 clip I found of u 😉)

  • @tenacious1
    @tenacious16 жыл бұрын

    As you described how you reject others kinda made me sad lol as I reflected on how I was rejected by someone I fell for.

  • @kittrellgaskins3339
    @kittrellgaskins33394 жыл бұрын

    That speech announcer is beautiful

  • @wickedicey1000
    @wickedicey10005 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this positive message and understanding of rejection. I have never dealt with rejection in a good way and I am going to take what you have provided and apply to my new soon to be dating life. Thank you for having the courage and passion to share this information.

  • @veearya562
    @veearya5623 жыл бұрын

    It is great to see that rejection is not biased so all kinds of people get rejected and have to deal with it.

  • @wuyingren
    @wuyingren4 жыл бұрын

    This is a very important video that everyone should watch!

  • @hazaeleduardorojas9177
    @hazaeleduardorojas91776 жыл бұрын

    I Love this woman. I'm so happy you made this, it helps our community of Salsa Dance Lovers. I have to say no a lot more often. I'm in Miami now, we have lots of dancers with different styles. I am afraid of getting hurt or Cross Body Leading someone into danger. Love You Magna.

  • @sgreen9088
    @sgreen90884 жыл бұрын

    The title alone caught my attention. Her message echos loud and clear the divine sentiments of the book James. We are reminded to count it/the experience all joy when we fall into diverse trials for it gives us endurance and completeness in all respects. Solid truthful reminder.

  • @backk2895
    @backk28956 жыл бұрын

    first time I ever comment a Ted talk. two words: amazing speech !

  • @susanjones4470
    @susanjones44705 жыл бұрын

    Very deep topic;rejection...rejection very helpful video for a lifetime.brilliant personality.

  • @gokkojohn
    @gokkojohn4 жыл бұрын

    This could be one of the most powerful and most important speeches ever, to show to the sosial media generation growing up today!!!!

  • @irenee800
    @irenee8006 жыл бұрын

    I wouldn't say no a salsa dance with you ! Please come to south Africa 🙂.. But in general being rejected sucks in the moment, but more often than not .. It's a blessing in disguise.. I often look at the girls that rejected my proposal to date and I think " thank the Lord you said no !"

  • @pfavayi

    @pfavayi

    4 жыл бұрын

    She never gets rejected and she never asks guys for dance - they come to her just like happens with every other girl who dances

  • @monicanicole738
    @monicanicole7385 жыл бұрын

    I love everything about her analogies and examples because they force you to recognize the root of why people say yes = because we don’t want to hurt others. It’s a natural human response to something because we do not ever intend to hurt someone, despite our genuine lack of interest. However this speech helped me understand my problem, once I rejected myself. I genuinely like being liked. My whole life I went about my day with most people liking me, my energy, my effort, the way I spoke. It was a serious wake up call to me when I was rejected by someone who ONCE liked me, I dismissed and he KEPT chasing me. I ended up dating him out of pity, I had IRRATIONAL anger around him, I was never amused by what he said to me but he was SUCH a nice, genuine guy that I couldn’t say no. The worst of it all, I knew he wasn’t for me but I couldn’t bring myself to understand I wasn’t good for HIM. He lifted my ego, praised me, showed me undivided attention but I, being the selfish egotistical girl I was back then, just rolled my eyes and bathed in his affection. Until one day, he decided he deserved..better. I was appalled. Better? Than ME? Everybody likes ME though, how could YOU not? My serious, embarrassing issue was that I had never been rejected before. Never been shown that someone wasn’t interested. But that day my outlook changed. Suddenly I liked him more, couldn’t move on from him when he found someone who GENUINELY loved him. After all the time we spent together - I no longer meant anything to him. That’s what brought me here. The reflection of being rejected. Because it helped me realize that understanding someone can most certainly CHOOSE not to say yes to you/dance with you/anything you wanna compare it to, they have the RIGHT to say no. And for whatever reason they want to - NOT taking it personal is key. They are telling you that they’d rather not waste their time and although they don’t wanna hurt your feelings, they aren’t obliged to participate if they themselves wouldn’t be enjoying their time. I said yes to second dates with men I barely remembered the names of and I felt entitled to their attention. But this video (and some therapy) helped me understand that this is..toxic. I thought I was being nice but the opposite of nice isn’t pity. It’s fairness. Respect yourself enough to learn that rejection for both parties isn’t personal, it just means they/you don’t wanna waste their time when their entire heart/head isn’t into it.

  • @srinutulluri
    @srinutulluri6 жыл бұрын

    Always a pleasure! Love this speech and always enjoyed your salsa classes. Thank you Magna!

  • @kabhisharma3464

    @kabhisharma3464

    3 жыл бұрын

    Have u attended

  • @dancinglatino3967
    @dancinglatino39672 жыл бұрын

    Magna, thank you for sharing your insight on rejection. Honesty is the best defense.

  • @rainyDaze96
    @rainyDaze965 жыл бұрын

    This was so well written!! And she did a great job speaking. I agree with everything

  • @archnaverma9105

    @archnaverma9105

    5 жыл бұрын

    Arria me too.....

  • @gabrielafonseca4034
    @gabrielafonseca40342 жыл бұрын

    Girl, being rejected by people you love and you thought cared about you is very different than being denied dances by strangers

  • @Randomhumaan

    @Randomhumaan

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed. Being rejected by strangers is less painful because they don’t actually KNOW you

  • @guygranger7894
    @guygranger78942 жыл бұрын

    Great talk.... I guess ive been very fortunate to have lived my life despising being anywhere Im not wanted. I have been rejected many times but it had very little effect because of that.

  • @kristinkavanaugh8630
    @kristinkavanaugh86305 жыл бұрын

    Magna, so been there! ( As a Salsa Dancer) It took a while but I had to learn how to say no as well. I have practiced my no delivery many times. I have had to learn to respect my own boundries and my feelings in a situations as well. I had to learn to stand up for myself. I always try to say no gracefully & with empathy as well. Thanks for sharing!

  • @Pursuepeace0715
    @Pursuepeace07154 жыл бұрын

    this was very good explanation of rejection and it is ok to receive and give rejection as well. At the end it is about respect to yourself and others. that is so true about salsa dancing especially in the beginning until I got better. she is right the concept of it, the rejection made me want go improve until i got better, instead of sulking to the back of the room I went to class 3x a week and going back to beginners class in 3 months I improved 6 months I could read the guys leading and I grew comfortable and confident..salsa dancing is a life lesson. practice makes perfect. Glad I clicked on this. everything she said is true!!

  • @DeanRendar
    @DeanRendar3 жыл бұрын

    This is how we all should have been raised to interpret rejection, the other way makes us so polarizing in how we want to try again that to think of it this way is like discovering life after death. Also I think you have to know what it is to lose, to truly appreciate and realize when you win.

  • @nailpolishinhale
    @nailpolishinhale3 жыл бұрын

    I need to reject someone but I'm having so much trouble sending the text/call. I needed to watch this

  • @prsphinx23
    @prsphinx236 жыл бұрын

    great analysis on rejection and salsa parallels

  • @pfavayi

    @pfavayi

    4 жыл бұрын

    The only problem is the salsa is not true. They would be true to some extent if she were a guy.

  • @JohnDoe-pt7ru

    @JohnDoe-pt7ru

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@pfavayi if you're referring to her claiming she was being rejected, you're correct. I grew up around salsa clubs and groups, being Puerto Rican, and pretty girls never sat on the sidelines.

  • @wizipitz9161
    @wizipitz91616 жыл бұрын

    Rejection is a part of life especially in the dancing community. You can't PLEASE everybody. If you get rejected MOVE ON and try again. It's NOT the end of the world if one rejected you. Why would i waste my time to those people who doesn't want to dance with me?? Of course there's always someone out there who really WANTS to dance with me :-) Peace!!

  • @Vickiluv

    @Vickiluv

    4 жыл бұрын

    WIZIPITZ I think she already gave this speech

  • @DJRainbowBeatz
    @DJRainbowBeatz3 жыл бұрын

    Look, my home town! Looking this up because I was jus rejected for a position that I was certain I had in the bag. The interview and follow-up went so well but no dice. These TED talks have really been helping to me to own why I'm rejected and not let it rip me apart.

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    3 жыл бұрын

    Glad to hear this could be of some help! 😊🙏

  • @laurenkeyes1677
    @laurenkeyes16775 жыл бұрын

    This is a VERY good jewel. Thank you 💖

  • @travel_addict1111
    @travel_addict11116 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful person inside and out

  • @Rapture749
    @Rapture7492 жыл бұрын

    I've never experienced as much rejection as when started salsa dancing. It's difficult as a guy, especially a new dancer. I try to not take it personally, I'm still working on it.

  • @kennethcarvalho3684
    @kennethcarvalho36844 жыл бұрын

    She looks stunning ...what a presence..

  • @SChaperon1
    @SChaperon13 жыл бұрын

    This was so impactful. Loved all of it. Thank you for this!

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! 🙏You might find some more useful & insightful videos on my channel. Look forward to reading your comments 😊

  • @user-ju1qd3ok2g
    @user-ju1qd3ok2g3 жыл бұрын

    A wonderful and impressive lady and a short and spear pointed presentation I learned from, and which I will remember and hopefully be able to practice on and live by.

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    3 жыл бұрын

    I am so happy to hear it had a positive impact on you. Thank you for sharing!

  • @user-ju1qd3ok2g

    @user-ju1qd3ok2g

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@magnagopal I'm 57 years old now...wish I had learned to say "no" when I was younger. And receiving rejections & moving on with a smile...is what life is all about.. ( easy to say...difficult to practise) thank you for answering & being such a wonderful person.

  • @archnaverma9105
    @archnaverma91055 жыл бұрын

    A must watch for people who find it hard to say no.....

  • @22tango79
    @22tango793 жыл бұрын

    I just asked my date if she wanted to watch this TED Talk with me, she said, “Get out of here Billy!” and beat me with a large pillow from the sofa. And now here we are.

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    3 жыл бұрын

    Lol

  • @pascalmadiri7398
    @pascalmadiri73983 жыл бұрын

    Have listened to this a couple of times now. The delivery is just on point...

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! :)

  • @geriatricward
    @geriatricward6 жыл бұрын

    She's beautiful and intelligent. Those rejecting her are fools!

  • @charlottebruce979

    @charlottebruce979

    3 жыл бұрын

    What if you're not beautiful, or very intelligent, does that mean you deserve to be rejected? Because someone has the accidental misfortune of not having those assets, it still means they have value and have a right to be loved and respected.

  • @kizombacentro9923
    @kizombacentro99236 жыл бұрын

    I was so impressed with Magna. Met her a couple of times in my life and she always inspires me. Some situation recently distress me a little but this talk helps me. Thank you Magna. Karen Chau

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    6 жыл бұрын

    Always glad to be at your service Karen :)

  • @AMal-up4hz
    @AMal-up4hz4 жыл бұрын

    She actually came to my school as a speaker! ✨

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    3 жыл бұрын

    That was a great experience! :) Thanks for being there and participating!😊

  • @kabhisharma3464

    @kabhisharma3464

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@magnagopal which school

  • @raylim5521
    @raylim55214 жыл бұрын

    This talk brings me on a journey like a roller coaster up and down. HUUUu

  • @cyantulip
    @cyantulip4 жыл бұрын

    Wow. She is just stunning.

  • @lzzohCanDance
    @lzzohCanDance2 жыл бұрын

    So inspiring from one of the best dancers in the world

  • @sunvavachi
    @sunvavachi5 жыл бұрын

    Totally can relate to this. This was a really good talk.

  • @kabhisharma3464

    @kabhisharma3464

    3 жыл бұрын

    Can u share urs own experience

  • @mirnanrodriguez6430
    @mirnanrodriguez64305 жыл бұрын

    She is a great speaker!

  • @andypysadee8260
    @andypysadee82604 жыл бұрын

    I watched this whole video because of her and it was informational💓😍

  • @rossfromsa
    @rossfromsa6 жыл бұрын

    She strongly reminds me of the equally beautiful Gugu Mbatha-Raw. Good talk.

  • @king-nick2023
    @king-nick20234 жыл бұрын

    She’s breathtaking

  • @ronaldwilliams9635
    @ronaldwilliams96354 жыл бұрын

    I don't believe she been turned down on dates💯

  • @maximusprime1318
    @maximusprime13185 жыл бұрын

    I am so going to use this in my book :)

  • @newtoninspired
    @newtoninspired5 жыл бұрын

    Magna Gopal, this is really like a next level of feeling rejection from a different professional life that stands so resonating with any general rejection faced in life. Thanks to TEDx to bring you on the global platform of sharing. Your talk makes me see the purpose of TEDx justified. Really, great talk. Nice to know a little bit of living in the dance industry too.

  • @magnagopal

    @magnagopal

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for taking the time to listen and I'm glad to hear the content of this talk resonated with you. I'm trying to post more content related to these issues that we all deal with. Have a look at my channel. You might enjoy some of the videos. 😊

  • @Bhanoo4UTube

    @Bhanoo4UTube

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@magnagopal 🙌💖🙏

  • @ganeshkumar8746
    @ganeshkumar87465 жыл бұрын

    The speech is so beautiful & speaker too

  • @JDayFitness
    @JDayFitness6 жыл бұрын

    So powerful. Thank you from New York

  • @rukiaakerman5523
    @rukiaakerman55235 жыл бұрын

    I really need it ...thank you so mich it cheers me up 😊 and remember me about what is important

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