One of the hardest things for me to wrap my head around is that I’ll NEVER have the life of a normal kid. I’ll never experience some of the things my male friends consider normal. That’s really hard for me to accept, and it’s not fun to think about. Another things that bothers me quite a bit is that people won’t ever see me as a boy/man, they’ll only see me as identifying as male, kinda male, or pretending to be male. It sort of breaks me heart to put myself in other peoples’ shoes and not like what I see. Furthermore, I don’t want people to only see a trans male. I want them to just see a male. Ya know? A third thing is my breasts. Now, I know this is kinda odd to talk about, but it’s something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately, and I wanted to share. Anyway, I’m fairly early in my transition (I’ve been out for two years), and so I don’t have top surgery yet, which sucks. Some days I’ll be able to ignore my breasts and kinda just be like “wonder why those are there”, or something like that. But other days it’ll be a focus I can’t keep out of my mind. They’re on my body. They’re there, and they’re gonna be there for a while. Also, wearing a binder messes with me sometimes. This kind of ties in with the last reason. Wearing a binder DOES make me feel confident, and make my chest flatter. However, it’s tight enough to be a constant reminder of what I’m trying to hide. And let me tell you, it sucks. So yeah... I’m not ashamed to be transgender, but it is definitely very hard, and I often wish I wasn’t trans to make my life easier. I’m working on myself, and hopefully that’ll help me. Have a fantastic day! You are loved! Make sure you’re well fed and hydrated! Get some sleep! 🖤🖤🖤

To me the hardest thing is accepting the fact that no matter what, even if you pass 100% of the time, it'll never be the same as having been born that way in the first place. I'm still figuring it all out for myself and every time I get worked up the question of "why can't I just be a GUY?!" comes to me, and the answer of "because you weren't born that way" is just as hard to accept every time.

@BlackTheNerevar

6 жыл бұрын

Rachel I abseloutly agree to that.

@sleepyskorpion

6 жыл бұрын

so you don't have a cis penis, so what? you can get a penis crafted using your arm/leg/stomach meat, it might not be a cis penis, but it's still something, you're lucky that you're living in a time where this surgery even exists, imagine if you were alive 100 years ago, you wouldn't even have that option, so just get yourself a leg/arm/stomach meat penis and stop bitching, be a man, not a bitch

@BlackTheNerevar

6 жыл бұрын

sleepyskorpion you can also get a surgery I saw where they craft the penis using your clitoris, since the actual penis is basically a giant clitoris. Gives a "penis" and let's you keep the vagina. I am waiting for science to advance to get bottom surgery. The one available is cool and all, but it's not worth the money or risk in my case. I rather wait and see in some years what will be available. They are hoping to be able to grow a penis using your own DNA to attach, or even a penis transplant. It's possible for men now, but they are hoping to implement it to trans men :)

@iannogueira1848

4 жыл бұрын

SAME

@SpikeyBagel

3 жыл бұрын

sometimes i get that, and sometimes it's just the opposite. "why can't you just be a girl?" i say to myself. and then there's the doubt. "am i really trans? or am i just a fraud?" woop wooooop... hurrah.. well, at least i'm usually pretty sure of what i am, generally

I'm planning on coming out to my mom tonight! Wish me luck!

@GruzzoMusic

6 жыл бұрын

Good luck!! I'll think about you, tonight. Can you please keep me updated?

@danilaw7139

6 жыл бұрын

Good luck :)

@MatthewArangatta

6 жыл бұрын

Wishing you well! Care to keep us updated?

@didacftm

6 жыл бұрын

Good luck. You will be fine

@jayjaythejetplane5390

6 жыл бұрын

Good luck! Remember that your parents might not be accepting right away and might need some time with it and that’s okay too!

For me the hardest part about being trans is feeling like I am disappointing my family and making people feel uncomfortable. Not only that but constantly feeling self conscious about my chest and what I wear as to not be misgendered.

The hardest thing is I identified as a boy, even though I am ftm I have days where I feel feminine and want to wear girly things but still want to be identified as a boy and he him pronouns and I have a hard time dealing with that because people say I’m not trans and all that and I don’t know how to deal with that

@hoingusspoingus2969

6 жыл бұрын

I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes i feel like my normal, trans boyish self but once in a while I'll do and wear stuff that are a bit on the girly side. I honestly treat it like a sort of episode i have to deal with. Sometimes ill do whatever girly urge in my own privacy to get that weird feeling over with. I know that sounds kinda silly but it works for me and the urges are getting more rare as i get older. That's my advice. You can find your own ways to deal with it but i just wanted to give you a little tip ^^

@MooLovesYoutube

6 жыл бұрын

Adler jack It doesn't make you any less trans or less than a dude. Otherwise, feminine cis guys wouldn't be men. We all are men. Honestly, I get how you feel and I feel like you some days. For me, I just had to hammer in that my masculinity or femininity doesn't make me trans.

@alx3296

6 жыл бұрын

I feel the same but this phrase is what helps me -there's no such thing as being trans enough Only you know yourself best. Good luck

@aviezerscop401

4 жыл бұрын

Ignore them?

Oooo jamie looking like a snacc in 2018

@burgerwithcurlyfries

6 жыл бұрын

Remicah/Micah Robertson nah he is a full course meal

@juliawilkinson

6 жыл бұрын

What is a snacc lol?

@helenblakovich1622

6 жыл бұрын

Sexy as all get out. Edible.

I think the hardest thing for me being trans was figuring out how to be trans. Did I want chest surgery? Did I want bottom surgery? Would I identify as trans even though I'm nonbinary? How do others see me? Do I pass enough? What's trans enough? Will I fit into the community? I don't think like the other trans people at uni, so do my opinions count? Eventually I was just like "screw it" and I'm just me. Still figuring out if I can get top surgery/want it but overall I'm just going with the flow. I'm just Matthew and others' opinions don't matter.

@didacftm

6 жыл бұрын

You can only be you Matthew. Look for it and enjoy the trip.

@BlackTheNerevar

6 жыл бұрын

Being transgender isn't a choice, it's a condition we are born with, so you can't really put it into "what is trans enough for others" what matters is how you feel about yourself and what you are comfortable with, all transitions are different and unique. It's all about finding yourself :)

@sleepyskorpion

6 жыл бұрын

not having a dick is hard too, and the fact that being trans means never having a real dick, or even knowing what it feels like to have a real dick, going to the grave not knowing ever what that feels like in actual reality, that sucks too

@MatthewArangatta

6 жыл бұрын

sleepyskorpion Same. I always get a bit sad knowing that even with bottom surgery it wouldn't fully function like a bio penis since I'd need a device to get an erection and the nerves would be wired interestingly.

@tattooedgeekgirl

6 жыл бұрын

Matthew Arangatta this. So much this.

It's sad that relate to these worst thing for me right now is being misgendered and birthnamed

@micadonato6319

6 жыл бұрын

sebastian Michaelis I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I know this seems like it is bullshit, but that will go away far sooner than you expect it to.

@hoingusspoingus2969

6 жыл бұрын

I know right. When im around peers at school i always correct them. Honestly, i think they just do it to annoy me since i have to correct the same people over and over whereas my friends got it after about..3 times :/

@chopping_board

6 жыл бұрын

there is literally no cis people i know other then my pan friend that believe me that I'm agender and always call me a he and call me my deadname and say ''there is only 2 genders, u r male, get over being a special snowflake!'' these are most of my friends.

@tiggeraxton

6 жыл бұрын

Mica Donato it's alright I'm honestly used to it

@rachelr3238

6 жыл бұрын

Rainbow Jam well they aren't true friends then :/ they should accept u for who ever or whatever u are & want to be. Anyone that doesn't accept u needs to go. U sound like ur still in school and trust me u won't talk to anyone from highschool after a few years after graduation. I graduated 8 yrs ago and talk to 1 person from high school

I am trans and I am 14, personally the hardest thing is to tell my parent that I am trans , it’s been a year that I know it and it also been a year that I didn’t tell my parent

@jayjaytetley9289

4 жыл бұрын

My advice is to not waste your life trying to cater for other people.. one of my biggest regrets is not acknowledging who I was sooner, of course, I don't know your situation and it is super stressful and scary to come out, especially to your parents, but I just want to throw it out there that the longer you leave it (as long as you're absolutely certain of who you are) the more regrets you will have.. It may also be worth mentioning that it's a very long process to transition, particularly if you are 'underage' as it is a HUGE life-changing decision to transition, but there are benefits to coming out in your teens and that is the availability of puberty blockers and hormones before puberty causes permanent changes that are difficult to change during transitioning that may trigger or cause more dysphoria (like hips in women, deepening of voice in men etc) In any case whatever you decide to do, if you ever feel the need to talk to anyone, then feel free to message me at any time on Facebook and I'll be there to listen :)

Your hair looks great mate!

Denial is the biggest issue I’ve had by far

I got off of T twice to have kids. In fact, I'm currently pregnant with my second child. It's hard for me to know that later down no one will be willing to call me male outside of those who already know me (save for the few I've had to cut from my life who have decided that me going through this means I'm not actually transmale), but it's worth it in the end for me.

@nikoburrows5332

6 жыл бұрын

Pidge Garrett Wow, that is amazing! I have never met anyone who is openly Trans* and pregnant! Do you mind if I ask you some questions?

@YourDad-dh6fj

6 жыл бұрын

For me personally, being pregnant would be too scary and make me a bit dysphoric, but it's your choice, you are not less male because you are pregnant, you are brave and amazing, and inspiration to other transmen who want to go down your path and have children naturally. I'm proud of you and I hope you have an amazing day.

I feel like I'll never truly be accepted and seen as male by others.Yes, even though I may pass or whatever I'll always be sort of male or 'identifies' as male rather than truly be seen as a man.The second is I feel like no one will ever love me. Why would someone want to date me? I can't give them what they want. The third is that people often think I'm some sort of SJW who gets offended by everything and so they'll change their humor around me and walk on eggshells because they think I'm going to get mad at them over nothing. I really hate the assumptions people make so I generally don't say I'm trans.

@MatthewArangatta

6 жыл бұрын

I definitely felt the second more than once in my life and the third a lot. No need to tell people you're trans if you don't want to. There will be people who do see you as truly male regardless of passing, and even people who don't at first can see it over time. There are also definitely people who will want to date you for you and not just what you have. It's hard to find for sure depending on where you live; took me forever and so many a-holes on dating apps. Funny story is that when I joined an all women organisation at my university everyone asked everyone else how to address me because they were scared to ask but I just laughed because it was pretty funny. I personally love answering questions and educating so it can be a bit frustrating when people assume all trans people are going to have a go at them if they say something "wrong." I usually just tell people to ask me instead of assume which has helped.

@insignificantopinions3210

6 жыл бұрын

Although I'm not trans myself, I do somewhat understand it. Just because you're trans, doesn't mean no one will ever have an interest in you. If someone was really worth having a relationship, (of any kind) with you, then they'll accept you, like you, and stay in a relationship because they like you for you. Even if they don't accept you, being understanding towards them is the best thing. Bringing more negativity to an already negative person usually doesn't turn out very well. Gentlely informing them of why you are trans is the best idea. Be understanding and patient with those people. Consider their opinions and give them a response that will make sense to them. If your response doesn't make sense to them, think about your response more and consider if it is reasonable in the situation.

@DCFN94

6 жыл бұрын

Alex Creed You hit the nail right smack on the head brother. I'm %100 in the same boat with you.

@clockworkhearts4085

6 жыл бұрын

There are people out there that see trans men or women as just another category, the same way blonde men or short women are categories. Blonde men aren't somehow less male for being blonde, and you're not less male for being trans. There will always be someone out there who will love you for who you are. You're not second rate, or less than, you're exactly enough. Remember that.

@hbresett283

6 жыл бұрын

i am stell just coming out but i think you need to find people that love you to be you and tell them you feel that way but i am not the best for this just my thought

Oh my gods I just realised you look like my idea of Remus Lupin

@PatriciaPerkowski

6 жыл бұрын

A young Remus Lupin!!!!

@CartoonzInc

6 жыл бұрын

YES!!!!!!!

@bucklikethedollar

6 жыл бұрын

RiverStone1268 with that hair it’s more like sirius

@oldaccount2470

6 жыл бұрын

Do you have insta we have talking to do

@CartoonzInc

6 жыл бұрын

Hugsey 19 who?

Not feeling good enough because you are trans...So damn relatable

I know that my comment misses the point but your hair is literaly goals 😍 you're one hell of a handsome guy

Thank you for this Video Jamie. I'm currently at the "self acceptance stage" and to hear that you had the same struggles I have now, and to see you being happy today, makes me looking forward to my future.

@MatthewArangatta

6 жыл бұрын

You'll get there for sure (: Just takes time to accept yourself and be happy with it.

@liam6052

6 жыл бұрын

same

I was alone at first, not knowing anyone from the LGBTQ community, and it took a while to finally settle on my gender and sexuality. That was weird and scary. Now that I'm fine with myself and kinda in constant with the community, the hardest thing is probably gender dysphoria and socially transitioning, especially with my family. So, finding KZreadrs to whom I could relate to helped me a lot, even now.

@Lea-dq2uy

6 жыл бұрын

Thats cool👍 I'm still struggeling with everything🙈 (gender and sexuality. But my gender is more important. I never really had a crush on someone cause I'm just so unsure about my identity I cant even think about dating someone. I'm 15) And i just want it to stop. I don't want this weird feelings. The only thing I really want is settle down with my gender and everything... I'm just watching videos on youtube all the time bc i don't know anyone from the LGBT community. My family would never accept me. And I was kinda transphobic before i started questioning. I was like "Why are they so overdramatic...I want to be male too. But accepted that I'm female and so should they!" But now its so hard to look in the mirror after showering and be called "princess"... I'm just so cunfused and all my live is changing and i only want it to stop. Sorry english isn't my mother tongue.

@erichan8382

6 жыл бұрын

It's fine to struggle to find yourself. It took me about 4 years to come to the state I am in, and man... That was a hecking long time. But there's no need to rush. You'll be able to decide it when you're ready. It may fluctuate, and make you feel unsure, or your gender may change altogether depending on how you view yourself. It's just a matter of time and maybe some help.

@Lea-dq2uy

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@MatthewArangatta

6 жыл бұрын

Hope your family accepts you and supports you in the end!

The hardest thing of being trans for me is whether or not I'll be able to go on T, for financial reasons. I'd like to move out of my country (1st obstacle, idk how emigration works and how I get medical support if I emigrate, ), I need to find a job (2nd obstacle, I hate studying and I'm not good at it so I don't even consider university)

@lawli56

6 жыл бұрын

You're more likely to be emigrate to another country if you have a skill or trade that is in short supply there.

in Finland you can’t transition legally (like get a new social security number and stuff) before you get sterilized and that also means you’re not allowed to freeze eggs or anything like that. It’s a dehumanizing, sick law that has no place in the world in 2018 and people have been trying to change it for years but I think this year the new bill may actually go through!

Your hair is really incredible

The kids thing makes me really scared, I definitely want to be a father, but I cannot stand the idea of me being pregnant and I don't trust the egg freezing game. Adoption is a very complicated process where I live. Let's hope it gets better by the time I can have kids.

I'm struggling with the public appearance aspect right now. I'm so subconscious about how I walk, talk, and generally hold myself because I'm almost always still seen as female despite my haircut and my lower voice. I've seemed to regress as I used to get a few correct pronoun used, but once they heard my voice they would (in)correct themselves. Now, even if they hear my voice they still use female pronouns and I'm sitting there like "What the hell?" But I'm too subconscious and anxiety ridden to correct them. It doesn't help that I have now realised I cannot change my gender marker on my records unless I have SRS. I would like to be stealth if I want to be eventually, but anyone who looks at my ID would then know if they noticed the marker. Of course, that seems ages away because despite 5 months on T, my voice has barely begun to drop, so it's been slow and seeming to be so slow and anxiety filled. Initially when I first started realising I wasn't female, I had to go through a long time to accept that I was trans. It was quite a journey because I was taught by conservative parents and raised in a conservative environment that you couldn't be anything else than what you were born as and if you tried to say otherwise, you are a horrible person. I had to steadily work through that and come to the realisation that it didn't make me disgusting or a horrible person in any way. I know there are people who would disagree with me on this point, but they're honestly where I was many years ago. They likely were told what to think and grew up for that to become the deep seated way they view the world. Change will come, slowly but surely.

Jamie you’re looking amazing and I’m having a kinda bad day, this made me feel better though. hope you’re well ❤️

The hardest part for me would be accepting that as i became more "me" i started losing people who liked the mask i was portraying to be. Having to choose me over the person i was pretending to be, and the concequences that bore is still something i have to deal with daily. ..

@MatthewArangatta

6 жыл бұрын

It's always hard losing people at first, but over time once you gain more people that support you that pain lessens. It does suck though to have people you've known for a long time ditch you just because of who you are.

Some guys even on T get pregnant without going off it. It's definitely a hard thing to wrap head around the possibility of not having biological kids. I understand how it can get to you. Things will definitely work out in that realm (:

@someone-io3yc

6 жыл бұрын

Hey, I just wanted to piggyback on your comment and mention one of the few studies about post-T ftms conceiving/carrying (Light, Obedin-Maliver, Sevelius, & Kerns, (2014). Transgender Men Who Experienced Pregnancy After Female-to-Male Gender Transitioning. Obstetrics & Gynecology, 124(6)). In the really small sample (n=25) of trans men who had used T before getting pregnant, 20 of 25 didn't use assisted reproductive technology, 21/25 used their own eggs (4/25 used sig other's/spouse's eggs), and 80% 20/25 got pregnant within 6 months including 24% 6/25 who had an unplanned pregnancy either while on T or having previously been on T. Obviously difficult to generalize from it based on it being a small study and self-selection bias from the convenience sampling, but it's at least something.

@MonsterHigh11Demi

6 жыл бұрын

For ftm's who have transition with hormones, they have to stop hrt while they're pregnant.

@MatthewArangatta

6 жыл бұрын

Rowen DJ definitely! I was just saying some still get preg accidentally when on T

@MonsterHigh11Demi

6 жыл бұрын

Oh, my bad.

Being trans makes you more human because you have become truly who you are

Thanks to share this with us jammi, it's really nice to see that there is hard things we can live that others pass through it too

I've never related more to one of your videos in my life. Thank you for being amazing and shedding light on stuff like this!

Thank you for this and just your channel in general. You've helped me more than you know and i can't thank you enough :)

I think the hardest things for me are dealing with my family and dysphoria.

@MatthewArangatta

6 жыл бұрын

Same. My family actually doesn't know still even though I've been on testosterone for over two years which is kind of funny. Dysphoria definitely sucks. Hope you'll be able to go through transitions without too much hassle

@noorainnow

6 жыл бұрын

Me too some times I just start crying because of dysphoria and the weirdest part is when ever I go to shower I cover a the mirror with a t shirt just to not look at my body

We're here for ya dooooooodz. To all the MA Tranz Peepz. Love u doodz.

Just seeing you smile no matter what you’re talking about makes me happy for you! I’m always interested in what you care to share ❤️

I can't understand how anyone would know you and think anything other than that you're a truly great person, Jamie. ❤️ Thanks for sharing so much with us.

Awww :( but as you said important to talk about and let others know they are not alone in their struggles. I love how you bring it back to a positive in the end

Thank you so much for this video. I go through phases of doubting myself and my gender and today was definitely like that, but hearing you mention that one of the hardest things for you was self acceptance made me realize that's what it is. I know I'm trans, but even after a year and half maybe two years of knowing that (still in the closet for the most part) I keep questioning whether that's really true. I think I just need to take some time to accept that it's not a bad thing and that it's who I am. This really confirmed that for me. I'm really really glad you made this video. It helped a lot.

Just throwing it out there, I love your hair.

Your biological kid talk hits home, I've been having the same thought spiral! Love your channel, your videos inspire me daily and have guided me from the beginning of this journey. Thanks for putting yourself out there!

Oh jammie, you are handling things beautifully. When you two ever decide to have a kid or kids.. there are plenty of ways to get a child. It will take a little of time, but you two have plenty of faith and love on your side. There a lot of people who is there for you both. Your doing wonderful job. Your truly a special man.

I swear...KZread knows when I need to see the right videos. Thank you for being you and making these videos.

Thank you so much for speaking about these things and normalizing talking about negative thoughts and aspects of being trans/transitioning. i think it is something that is so important-

@sleepyskorpion

6 жыл бұрын

ahahahaha no, just no

Hey thanks for your videos. They are helping a lot. I'm in the very first phase the acceptance... I already came out to my family and close friends. And I'm starting seeing someone to start transitioning. Your videos are a blessing for me.

This is a very good and honest video, about the first steps and struggles, what transgenders got experienced.

The hardest things for me are the constant self-doubt, my chest and the fear about going to a doctor to be referred. I've known for years that I'm definitely not cis, but it's been 4 years and I'm still too worried about going to ask about T. Your video was very enlightening Jamie :) thank you for being willing to share

this video is awesome. I'm just about to activate myself and it is nice to know that other trans persons also have to go through the same. sorry my english is not really good. i hope you understand it anyway. thank you for this video. Thank you for talking so openly about everything and sharing it with many people. Thank you

What a large hair.

@insignificantopinions3210

6 жыл бұрын

Alex Mallia Yeah his hairstyle is pretty uncommon and large. Not a bad thing though.

@Heathertrelawney

6 жыл бұрын

The rarely sighted Large-Crested Jamie.

To Jamie I really, really adore your videos and content. I am young- and have put off identifying as transgender for years, because it's so scary. Being trans is something that would effect my entire life after coming out, regardless of how I would decide to transition, once it's said it has been said and isn't something I can take back, so for a long time I've been trying to convince myself that I can't be, or if I am just shouldn't acknowledge it. but your videos are so, so helpful, especially when most things about trans people online are either horrible comments, or talking about examining trans suicide rates- so seeing you, a transman who is happy, content and comfortable talking about your experiences is a huge comfort to somebody like me who doesn't have a stable support system beyond the screen. Thank you, so, so much for being who you are and for uploading these videos, they mean the world

You're literally my new favorite youtuber. I'm a young teen, I was born female, but I've always felt VERY masculine.

You & Shaba would be such adorable parents. & thank you for making this video. It’s helped me understand my girlfriend better

You are an awesome person and you’re so brave.

Hey, Jamie! I know this is of topic but... You got a really nice picture or poster on your door in the background, I love it! Where did you get it? And could't you and Shaaba make a tour around the house when it is finished? :) Best regards, Pluto

Your hair looks awesome, man! :)

I 100% agree one of the hardest things about being trans is being accepted. Along with that, I think other hard things include how you know when to take the next step forwards. I have no mentor and I though I do know a few other trans people, I know no one who has had major changes like a pronoun change in all aspects of their life. One of the most terrifying things for me is not knowing how to ask for/carry out those changes.

You are amazing and a fantastic role model for other transgender people. I can't believe in this day and age that people are still stuck in the dark ages. Some people refuse to understand transgender or being gay. You are who you are, which is amazing. My favourite saying is a "a wolf does not concern himself with the opinions of sheep" never be that person who wants to follow the herd. It's your life live it.

Oh um I'm trans

Jamie your hair is goals and I’m jealous

OMG this video hit me so hard, I'm a trans boy and I'm so afraid but so happy , thank you for your words

For me it’s when people call me by the wrong pronouns and “girl” I hate it and my friends do it aswell, I haven’t talked to them about it much tho. I told my parents to stop calling me she/her, they said “what? You want me to call you a boy? That’s crazy!” I said that it really doesn’t feel right and I don’t like it, they still haven’t changed. So I’m just really depressed and I can’t wait to start T and get the surgeries.

Very useful video. Trying to learn about this as a close family member is trans xxx

I completely relate to the whole biological children and wanting them, and the whole argument with adoption. I haven’t started my transition yet, but it is something that I’m weighing in with everything there is that comes along with transitioning.

The hair is absolutely wild, but in a good way! It's totally you and I love the style :) (unless you don't want it of course. do what makes you comfortable :D)

Jamie I can totally relate about bio children. Being a cis hetero woman in a long term relationship, I just assumed it would happen for me and my husband. It hasn't, and now I'm 42 and both he and I are somewhat disabled (I have severe osteoarthritis in my knees). For the most part I am fine with it, but every once in a while that "pang" happens. Sometimes I think I should have been more proactive about the whole thing, but I'm also a believer in what should happen will happen. I hope this makes sense!

The hardest things for me being trans is at first, accepting the fact that i am trans. The second was that i was worried if my friends and family would take me seriously. That worked out after some time (thank god) But my absolute number 1 negative thing is the slow changes on T. You see those update videos from other guys, passing perfectly at 3-6 months, getting deep voices, beards, all that good stuff. And here i am, working my ass off to lose weight around the thighs, building muscle, trying to speak with a low voice, being 6 months on T, being a pretty masculine and competitive person in general, but still seeing that feminine person in the mirror, still getting misgendered wherever i go and meet new people. I feel like i have nothing to be proud of. Im not even hyped for top surgery in two weeks anymore, since i will look like a flat chested girl anyway

I want to pat your hair So fluffyyyy

@assassinscreedreallifepran1080

6 жыл бұрын

Girls...

IM READY FOR UR VIDEO ILYSM

For me the hardest thing is other people's expectations. I wish I could just be.

I love your hair!!!!!!!!!!!

Im not outed at all i knew it for years but couldn't even say it aloud until a few weeks ago so acceptance is fucking hard

I really liked the video and I know people will always judge... But still you have to care about the people who you love and who loves you so the last thing is to accept ourselves as we are. And pay no attention to people who clearly don't understand what you have gone through.

Oh my I can relate to this so much. You’re sharing same things that what I’m struggling currently It taken me years to self-acceptance and understand difference between sex, gender and sexuality. Currently I struggle with my relatives that are very unwilling to use my preferred name. The only close family member who I haven’t come out yet is my mom but I’m too afraid because how homophobic she is and because culture where she was raised. If she find out that I’m trans AND gay, I’ll be kicked out immediately. I hope to get on T in this year or 2019 but I’m worried about my mom for now

I'm too scared to come out. My friends are religious and very rude about things they don't understand, so I'm scared they will reject me or fully me or even hurt me. I have anxiety and it makes everything about being transgender so much more harder.

I love your Marvel poster in the back! Don't let the thought of biological kids get to you. I can never have them myself due to hysterectomy 2 1/2yrs ago. Can't wait to start my transition this year. ☺

Ahhh, thank you for sharing dude. I feel you on the biological children thing. I also didn't freeze my eggs but when I think about the fact that I'm (very likely) sterile now, I feel really sad. But I remind myself that a.) I had issues with my reproductive organs anyway and always knew my fertility wasn't great and b.) I have a lot of genetic diseases/disorders that would probably be mean to pass down to anyone new anyway. But I get you, I think there's just some instinctive biological part of us that makes us feel sad about it. But as a whole, I think the hardest part for me was accepting myself, and then telling my parents. I was so scared how much it would hurt them. I felt like I was stealing their only daughter from them and I was afraid of the criticism THEY would receive because of me. I graduated college with an education degree but didn't get my license because the education field was too difficult to navigate being transgender (parents don't like it), and since both my parents are also teachers, I was so worried it would harm them and their jobs, too.

I feel like you would be a really good parent if you do have children. :) thanks for your videos! They have helped me a lot.

Was it weird for you to be called he in the beginning? Like it didnt belong to you but it did.

@decemberstragedy6807

6 жыл бұрын

? Yeemos are everywhere Geesus

@Endzji

6 жыл бұрын

Alex Hall yess😂

@jacek189

6 жыл бұрын

? YEE

@Endzji

6 жыл бұрын

Yee Yeeemo yee

@stinkylittleman709

6 жыл бұрын

Ikr

Wow your hair has gotten really long

You are a wonderful person and you look great!

The hardest bit, at least for me, is trying to tell myself that it’s okay to still enjoy “feminine” things. I love to paint my nails, I love sparkly/bright things, I love flowers, and love songs, and pretty jewelry. I struggle greatly with presenting myself as male (as I look identical to my mom when she was my age, so very girlish), and my likes don’t make it any easier. And I don’t have the money to do any medical things like hormones or surgeries, so I’m stuck with what I have

@daftquotation1723

5 жыл бұрын

Elliot, there are all sorts of men. don't let others define your maleness. be the man you are, feminine things and all.

Even if you are not trans, some people can’t have any biological child. Borne this way, we adopted a child and she is as same as biological child to us.

I recently figured out I was trans, and came out to best friend and family. It's more complicated in my case bc I'm married to a man and have young 2 kids. My dad said he wouldn't call me by my new name, and then I said I would really appreciate it if he did. He called back later and has been calling me by my new preferred name. My sister has been super supportive and has changed the pronouns and calls me by my new nickname. My husband is having a hard time coming to terms. My kids are too young to really understand. My mom isn't really supportive and keeps saying it's going to affect my kids negatively and takes me husband's side, should he choose to separate. I told my best friend, and well, our friendship is now over. She can't agree with the "mutilation of your (my) body". There's way more she said too, but I'm sure you can imagine. She's very religious.

I love your story is beautiful

Can u link me the video in which you are talking about you changing from injections to gel? I can not find it now and I have some questions about gel maybe I will find answers in the video. Thank you, all the best for u!!!

Coming out to my strict Christian mum tonight. Wish me luck and anyone got any advice?

Being so open and vulnerable to people who disagree with the trans "lifestyle" is really difficult for me because it's so hard to defend myself from their harrassment.

@sleepyskorpion

6 жыл бұрын

justshove a sausage in your vaj and make them eat it, ur welcome

Hey friend your mustacheo is a little longer on the left side...just letting you know. Happy New Year to you jammi :)

You are so amazing ❤❤❤

I just came out to my family they weir confused I came out late I feel reason I came out late because my bestfriend died protecting me after I became depressed didn't care about anything was destroying my life now I have my life together now I came out every one excepted me except my mom.

His hair is awesome

The hardest thing about being trans for me, right now, is waiting for a letter. I’m on the waiting list for the GIC, and have been for 12 months, and I’m just waiting rn

Heyy :) I spoke to the specialist gynaecologist at my gender clinic about the fertility thing, and they said there is currently zero medical evidence that T impacts your fertility negatively. Doesn't mean it's not the case, but it made me feel a lot calmer about starting T (which I decided not to for other reasons). So if at some point you'd still like to have biological kiddos, you could consider trying to extract an egg still :)

I related completely at the start My experience: I'm currently at the stage where I'm having trouble accepting it. I'm am a bit embarrass too, but the term honestly fits me very well. At first after a switch clicked knowing I was trans, I began to doubt myself, and was always in too minds, because I still like feminine things and aren't fully masculine but I'm just overall not happy with myself being presented as a girl, and dressing like one, but then once looking into the term more I realised "Hey! There's no such thing as being not trans enough" And that's true! I came out to my friends immediately because they are the best people in the world who I love the most. I've been dressing more masculine and in my dads shirts and stuff, I think my dads realised somethings up and my mum she's completely oblivious to this. Next time i go shopping or out in public, I'm going to stuff my hair in a _hat so it looks like I have short hair and if I manage to be not too much questioned by family, or treated too badly, saying like I can't do that, I might come out to them later that day. Thanks for reading. I'm 11 btw

I am agender, and Trixic, my parents think I’m lesbian and my dad says I’m too young to be lesbian, and my mom seems not happy with it, they don’t know I’m agender, what do I do?

Waw that hair suits you so well !!

I am at step 1. For 3 month I have been. But I came out to my mom, she supports me but she doesn't understand my worrying

@MatthewArangatta

6 жыл бұрын

I'm glad your mum supports you! It'll take time for her to understand how you may feel and any worries you have.

I think I’m trans but there are a couple of factors that make me doubt it sometimes.

Happy new year btw

I was the same Jamie! I didn't know I was trans & I didn't know anyone that was trans & I wasn't tought about trans & know I know I'm trans ftm & I expect it

Yeah, your talk on reproductive dysphoria has been hitting me a lot lately too. It's hard to express the kind of pain that feels. I don't regret transitioning, I don't regret starting get, but not being able to have kids is fucking with my primal being... the part of the unevovlved biology thst just wants kids is screaming at me

You can use bone marrow as a replacement sperm so you can have a kid that is biology both of yours if Shaaba wants to carry Like so Jamie can see this!

@sleepyskorpion

6 жыл бұрын

ahahahhahahaha omg that's supreme trolling right there bone marrow as replacement sperm!!! AAHAHAHAHHAHA

@elir3986

6 жыл бұрын

no its true scientists are on it, look it up

@billtr3446

5 жыл бұрын

Elijah Rawlinson if it’s true then why is no one talking about it?

how long is the process asking for a "friend"