“You ARE an idiot” why does that sound like such a compliment with his voice

@noahmarez

4 жыл бұрын

Because it's not an insult

@adotheginger

3 жыл бұрын

Because you're being told you're an idiot by somebody that is aware he's an idiot as well. And that's okay

@monicaderiv2834

3 жыл бұрын

Because it's the tone that makes the music. :)

@tomato4300

3 жыл бұрын

Cuz we r all Idiots!

@christophdenner8878

2 жыл бұрын

Because it assures us that we all are and we are not alone with our idiocy - which is a relief.

No selfhelp book has ever helped me as much as school of life's videos

@annn1502

4 жыл бұрын

100%!!!

@themacocko6311

4 жыл бұрын

90% of selfhelp is bullshit.

@FizWiz91

4 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way. I owe virtually all of my emotional maturing in the past 3 years to my being a regular consumer of TSOL content

@John-ic6zo

4 жыл бұрын

4 fewer rules than Jordan Peterson and 2 less than the Bible..

@stafverstegen2408

4 жыл бұрын

@@John-ic6zo There might be less of them, but they are of better quality, even though I very much like Mr. Peterson's talks.

“ Compatibility isn’t a prerequisite for love; it is the achievement of love”

@florafauna5883

4 жыл бұрын

@Selenophile Excellent quote, by Alain De Botton.

@artofsigil2335

4 жыл бұрын

the most beautiful one hehe

@user-insight

4 жыл бұрын

arrange marriage then?

@alexjordanofficial1116

4 жыл бұрын

Also came away with that.

@maiajintcharadze7485

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds nice but I really don't believe you could have a serious relationship with just anyone. Why not go and pick a random stranger in the street to love then? I think compatibility is both a prerequisite and the achievement of a relationship. You better not start a relationship with literally anyone but someone with whom it'll be easier (than with some others) to achieve compatibility. And compatibility is not even an all or nothing issue but a continuum. The higher it is in the beginning, probably the better (easier it will be to increase it) the product.

Every time I feel a pang of sadness or of guilt, I come to this channel. It has elevated my mood on countless occasions. Thank you to the entire team that are touching innumerable lives and changing them for the better.

@kenyanmugo5224

3 жыл бұрын

Then you must be dumb asf 😂😂u do realize Alain speaks a lot of nonsense... If you have a problem with the comment dm instagram @kenyan.mugo I tell you why

@thomasandresen8373

2 жыл бұрын

@@kenyanmugo5224 It takes one to know one ...

@BQWETCHIL

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. Same

I find this channel so reassuring in that I am not the only idiot and failure in the world.

@user-dp4bu8jy4b

4 жыл бұрын

Funny...

@Arapaima396

4 жыл бұрын

Failure is an opportunity for an education. 😇😎😈

@themacocko6311

4 жыл бұрын

@Reggie Cyde I outlined your mom.

@noticias6111

4 жыл бұрын

rex harrison 6:13-6:15 Anxious pride. Hmm..

@simonavalyte5161

4 жыл бұрын

Believe me u are not 😁😁😁

Summary: 1. We are imperfect, 2. (True) Friendship, 3. Know your Insanity, 4. Accept your idiocy, 5. Good Enough, 6. Beyond Romanticism, 7. Cheerful despair, 8. Transcend yourself. 9. Greetings from Uganda :)

@tinkageorgewilliam871

4 жыл бұрын

@@top_nigerian_news Cheers! #StaySafe

@paperandpavement

4 жыл бұрын

Cheers from Mexico!

@tinkageorgewilliam871

4 жыл бұрын

@@paperandpavement Thank you and #StaySafe in there.

@yosemitysam4962

4 жыл бұрын

Greetings from the UK 😁

@tinkageorgewilliam871

4 жыл бұрын

@@yosemitysam4962 :D :D Thank you. #StaySafe

4:21 "compatibility isnt a prerequisite for love. it is the achievement of love." So this is where i have been going wrong...

@perlalopez211

4 жыл бұрын

Christine Gitau this stopped me in my tracks too.

@zensoredparagonbytes3985

4 жыл бұрын

There has to be some overlapping common interests so that you at least have the notion of a common direction. But in the end growing together through communal interests is what synthesizes the compatibility. At least what understand from it

@anattasunnata3498

4 жыл бұрын

@kshiftkometh Hi! Do you have any evidence for this idea?

@krystinegitau93

4 жыл бұрын

Christine, weirdly enough I've been coming across your comments on videos I've been watching...So many times that I told my friend about it. It's such lovely happenstance esp because we share a name. :-)

@ouitamata

4 жыл бұрын

@@krystinegitau93 🤩😘

"Despair but do so cheerfully" Laughs in depression

@jcjs33

4 жыл бұрын

said by a person who doesn't know what despair is

@gattocat3729

4 жыл бұрын

@@jcjs33 despair can be different for everyone tho

@rudy8409

4 жыл бұрын

@@jcjs33 you dont even know this person so dont assume that

@babauranai

4 жыл бұрын

despair is a state of mind, depression sticks with you and has to be fought on the long term

@joshuanaughton7571

4 жыл бұрын

This comment was hilarious, truly a good joke

I have said it before and I will say it again: "This is one of the Best Channels on KZread."

@gowthamuknown

4 жыл бұрын

What other best channel you know .. I am looking for one...🐶

@DivyanshuChowdharyJi

4 жыл бұрын

@@gowthamuknown Teal Swan is my fav Channel. Do check it out.

@timothykangethe7700

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely On Point. Challenging Conventional Inertia thoughts...Practical genius level Sigma stuff. 🙌🙏

@alwaysdreaming9604

2 жыл бұрын

This is the best example of how good the Internet might be if it's used for good purposes.

"You do not educate a man by telling him what he knew not,” wrote John Ruskin, “but by making him what he was not".. I consider The School of Life videos and materials my true education..I learned with you what matters in life, what is mature love, a proper prespective on history and politics, and the value of an uneventful day..Bless you for everything you did and do

@zwegchen

4 жыл бұрын

This is so true. I have looked to and relied on this channel for a comprehensive guidance not just for my life, but my thoughts, emotions and the perception of my own reality. I am grateful to this for not feeling as lost as I would feel otherwise.

@codacreator6162

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed! But this essential distillation should be the beginning, not the end. Until a student has read the 5 million words behind these ideas, they may carry the Credos around in their mental pockets, ready to roll out at a moment's notice, but never fully understand them, their arguments, or applications. Part of what's wrong with our current education system is that we spend far too much time and effort simplifying things that shouldn't be simplified in the name of expedience. Some things (like education) just cannot be simplified without tremendous loss. Education is not about teaching facts, it's about building intellectual skills powerful enough to navigate this world in a productive manner beneficial to both the individual and his or her world. I love the work of Alain De Botton (especially on social anxiety) and would make a bunch of his work required reading if it were up to me. But we live in a corporately driven consumer society that espouses individualism over all else (for a reason one can only fully comprehend through the study of the arts) and until the people who study the arts can eradicate the notion that education = job, we're stuck with sound bites and prayers. You are miserable not just because your world doesn't revolve around you, but because you believe it should and continue to follow the prescription for success and happiness of those who have no intention of allowing you to actually obtain them because they would both come at a cost to the people in control.

@noticias6111

4 жыл бұрын

Hamza Saleem the value of an uneventful day .. 3:25-3:40 and importance of mindfulness to ‘keep the ordinary coming’ ;| even if we have been thankfully been provided alternative explanations to normalcy throughout the video.

@kenyanmugo5224

3 жыл бұрын

U do realize that this guy speaks a lot of non sense right? 😂.. if you got a problem dm Instagram @kenyan.mugo

@crow1999x

3 жыл бұрын

@@codacreator6162 this is really good! screenshotted it lol

“True love isn’t an admiration for strength, it is patience and compassion for our mutual weaknesses” 🧡

@johndoppleguard

Жыл бұрын

Touche!

Rule number 9: go out there and start implementing it

@Far-cw8sh

4 жыл бұрын

Coronavirus. Ight imma stop you there

@selinashiny6343

4 жыл бұрын

Farhad 1448 HAHA

@crespoherman4684

4 жыл бұрын

@@Far-cw8sh 😄

@hero9402

4 жыл бұрын

you dont apply it. you understand it.

@BROTERS707

4 жыл бұрын

Youre doing it already, but need a reminder every know and then

1. Accept imperfection 2. Friendship 3. Know your insanity 4. Accept your idiocy 5. Good enough 6. Beyond romanticism 7. Cheerful despair 8. Transcend yourself

"We don't count one bit in the grander scheme. That should be a liberation." I love this so much. I've tried to convey this sentiment to several people... for some reason, many find it quite frightening to think that, nothing actually matters. I realized when I was 20 that I'm a nihilist, and was maybe like 20 and 1/2 when I realized what a relief that is. That nothing matters. That I could fuck up monumentally, more than anyone had ever fucked up before in the world, and it wouldn't even matter at all. 100 years from now, no one will even know my name. I'm grateful for that. Still not sure how that terrifies people...

@wearealive796

Жыл бұрын

We crave to leave a legacy. We yearn to create an everlasting impact

When mr. deButtoin says "return here often" I actually feel like I'm entering a cozy room in my house that only I know about

This channel was what aided in starting my process of recognizing and growing from my mental breakdown last season.

@BQWETCHIL

3 жыл бұрын

Such good news for u that there was this life line. Hope u r doing well.

@mesolithicman164

3 жыл бұрын

It's good that it helped you but believe this. You are not an idiot. You are not insane. You can unlock potential by believing in yourself. By believing you are as equipped as most people to get what you want from life. Crack on. Make some decisions, small ones at first, do them. Make bigger decisions, and so on.

@johndoppleguard

Жыл бұрын

@@mesolithicman164 um.....wow...your solo right. ?

Me: A problem School of life: iT All BeGiNs In ChiLDhoOd

@macusyqur3855

4 жыл бұрын

lmao carl gustav jung disappearing it

@owkee6347

4 жыл бұрын

Adler: ummmm.... I don't think so....

@mrscruff66

4 жыл бұрын

Hilarious 😅....but it's true lmao

@evrensaygn1017

4 жыл бұрын

@Reggie Cyde Everybody is toxic!

@angelicaarisatoabellar157

4 жыл бұрын

LMAO

"The School of Lofe ahs produced 500 films and written 5 Million words..." Heck yes, let's celebrate! "...this is an enormous problem." Oh...

@mesolithicman164

3 жыл бұрын

Shame that all their great messages portray people in such a negative light.

The first rule of this game is that it is not a game. Everyone must play. You must love us. You must go on living. Be yourself, but play a consistent and acceptable role. Control yourself and be natural. Try to be sincere. ~ Alan Watts, from "The Book"

@MrBlakeLee

4 жыл бұрын

He also said to see beyond the game. Also he said that it is the game and not to take it seriously.

@kirwanmactaggart8763

4 жыл бұрын

@Reggie Cyde Sounds like you don't know Alan Watts

@kirwanmactaggart8763

4 жыл бұрын

@Reggie Cyde That's alright. Your loss not mine.

@orphansparrow2

4 жыл бұрын

YES

This channel has deeply helped me in ways unimaginable. Thank you for reminding us that we are just mere human beings in such a weird yet beautiful world 🌟

@BQWETCHIL

3 жыл бұрын

Same.

I think the rules that will really stick with me are: 'we are all imperfect' and 'transcend yourself' because it reassures us that if we trip or fall in life, no one is looking and reminds us that we will mess up but that's okay☺

The funny thing is, we become professional overthinkers, without even having experiences to prove those thoughts. We think we know, because we have feelings and those tend to act as a morning fog, dissipating rather quickly.

@jonathanbowen3640

4 жыл бұрын

Trust me mate you dont overthink. You underthink. Hence your constant spamming comments.

Alain writes so beautifully. I'm grateful for his existence.

This is why i love these guys ,the clarity that brings after listening you is impeccable.

“ Compatibility isn’t a prerequisite for love; it is the achievement of love” - This really Blew my mind. :)

The school of life has always been a huge comfort whenever I was feeling down. The coincidence of seeing in my newsfeed a portion of the london real video featuring Alain de Botton was so timely, that after watching the whole version, I had to revisit your channel and find this. Thank you so much for all the wisdom you are sharing with us. A timely reminder in trying times.

Alain de Botton and The School of Life are such underrated geniuses!! Thank you for the kind and inspiring messages.❤

I've been subscribed to this channel for 4 years and I cannot describe how much it has helped me!!! I was already gaining precious knowledge when I started listening to the videos and then when I did therapy that knowledge was definitely expanded!!! Now I can see so many things under a different perspective regarding me and other people and this makes me feel soooooooo bliss!!!! It has been a very encouraging, engaging and enlightening experience!!! So thank you sooooooo much!!! I may not have mastered the 8 teachings of the schools of life, but I definitely understand them and I definitely try my best to apply them all the time!!! So thank you!!! GRATIDÃO!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

"True love isn't merely an admiration for strength. It is patience and compassion for our mutual weaknesses."

Can’t thank you guys enough. You kept me alive. If it wasn’t for your videos I wouldn’t be here. I’m very lucky

I’ve rewatched this video a lot of times for more than a year. It keeps me on track when I find myself getting lost from time to time

The school of life is so good to their viewers

What I call the "Paradox of School of Life" is that the people who need this advice the most are the ones least likely to watch this and receive it. The channel keeps talking about humility and accepting that you are not that great, when in reality most viewers need the opposite (a self-confidence boost.) You cannot bring people down to earth when they already have the humility to watch TSoL.

@ailithic5448

4 жыл бұрын

Happiness and confidence are slightly deceptive; if you were to repeat what Tsol says you would want to be taken seriously, and would be anxious to hear what others think about the ideas you bring up. A confidence boost to do something you dread, has as many answers; "but a few questions", "Why don't you go and ask the most beautiful girl you know on a date?"

@joez6235

4 жыл бұрын

Teaching humility isn't just about bringing people down to earth, it's also about convincing the people on earth that earth isn't such a bad place to be. Someone who thinks they're perfect and someone who despairs at the fact that they're not, both suffer from the same problem.

@sebastianelytron8450

4 жыл бұрын

@@joez6235 I fail to see how the same piece of advice could apply to two people with extremely different outlooks on life??

@cleanupinaisle3

4 жыл бұрын

I think you need to dig deeper. Humility, and understanding that indeed, all humans are imperfect, and in a very real, societal as well as cosmic sense, not of it really matters, is critical. However, so is the flipside: the kindness, forgiveness & grace that we should extend to not only others, but ourselves as well. Acceptance is the key to confidence. I think you may view 'confidence' and 'self-esteem' as derivatives of comparison; you're using societal measuring sticks to judge whether or not you should feel good about yourself. This is one way to go about it. I think the School of Life though, encourages us to think of it differently; to treat everyone, ourselves and others, essentially the same. To understand that our yearning for these things is simultaneously understandable as well as foolish. To let go. And to be at peace with that. I think that's where true love (self-love as well as love for others & the world) comes from. Do I think everyone can receive this type of information and take it, on balance, as truth, immediately? no, of course not. But the funny thing is, I couldn't have, even a few short years ago. That doesn't mean these people you talk about who need a self-confidence boost will always need it, or those who could stand to bear some humbling won't understand this later on. Again, hoping for that might be hoping for life to be what you think it should be, rather than as it is. Let things take their course.

@joez6235

4 жыл бұрын

@@sebastianelytron8450 To someone who thinks they are perfect: "accept that you are NOT perfect" To someone who feels bad because they are not perfect: "ACCEPT that you are not perfect" If you let perfection into your life it will become the source of all your troubles. Stop thinking you must be perfect. How are you supposed to ever be confident when your standards are so impossibly high that you will never reach them without deluding yourself? People don't need a confidence boost from a youtube video, they need to learn to stop relying on youtube videos for confidence boosts.

Great list, particularly accepting idiocy. Embracing it is important to learn, grow and develop. As Socrates said "I know that I know nothing"

I've listened to this three times in a row and shared it with everyone I love. This is beautiful!!!

In loneliest nights of self doubts and painful silence, I come to this channel to talk to even if am mostly listening

Public service: 1. 0:36 - Accept imperfection 2. 1:05 - Friendship 3. 1:45 - Know your insanity 4. 2:30 - Accept your idiocy 5. 3:13 - Good enough 6. 3:41 - Beyond romanticism 7. 4:28 - Cheerful despair 8. 5:30 - Transcend yourself

@Jo-ew7lw

2 жыл бұрын

cant forget to subscribe

I love this channel! It's a very good source of self-assurance and revelation, thank you to everyone who is responsible for creating this great channela and all those who contributed to its growth.

I want to just say thank you to everyone who puts time into these videos. You guys help me through so much everytime I see another one. Like it says it the video I'll always need to remind myself and watch regularly but every video I feel closer to being the person I want to become. I appreciate every moment and thought put into these beautiful films. 💛💛

' The next step is to subscribe and return here often" that made me smile.

I love this channel so much!! "We can overcome shame and shyness bc we have already shed so much of our pride."

Thank goodness for this wisdom and that I have the fortune to have it in my life!!

One Of The Best KZread Clips Ever! I took their recommendation and revisit this at least 4 times a year.

If British long suffering got frisky with Buddhist philosophy...I suspect their baby would be something like this gem. There are many people in my life that I think will benefit from this, so I have sent it off to all of them! Thank you for your work to help us all make life a little more livable.

9. Appreciate death, just as light cannot exist without the dark, neither can life without a darkness to compare it to.

In times like these, I always watch videos from your channel. It gives me a sense of calmness, peace, and resilience when I watch your videos. Thank you for continuouly uplifting us with the great lessons you impart ♥️

Oh School of Life what a WONDERFUL gift you are to us!!!

1.Frantic jostling 2. Humourlessness 3. Anxious pride. Wherever you see immediately run! or Laugh! :))

To be a “better” person I was yesterday. Better = less hubris in my self-awareness. Just love AdB philosophy. Goodness. Ruthless Authentic Accountability. Love it! And Thank you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

@cannabisdeathmorbs

4 жыл бұрын

AdB?

@laurieellis3946

4 жыл бұрын

cannabisdeathmorbs Alain de Botton

@laurieellis3946

4 жыл бұрын

☺️☺️

Thanks for putting this summary together. You have seen me through the worst time of my life, getting divorced, and you are still helping me to navigate my post divorce life. Your channel saved me from insane thoughts and anxiety on many occasions. To begin with, you helped me to feel less alone since you made me realise that my issues and my story are not unique. At the same time you helped me to understand my weaknesses and to work on them while remaining kind to myself. The concept of good enough in certain situations has prevented me from being too hard on myself, but still enabled me to extract the lessons. You also helped me to understand the importance of being single for an extended period of time to give myself a chance at feeling whole while I am alone (not lonely!). I now realize that this is a key component to a healthy future relationship. Lastly, you helped me to differentiate between people who are worthy of my love, energy and effort and people who are not. I have become more selective and that has been so empowering for me. I am a lot closer now and more appreciative of the people in my life that count. And I am sure I am not alone in any of this. I am sure your channel has helped countless people in countless ways. So from the bottom of my heart, thank you!

@Candeekissez

Жыл бұрын

I don't know about you but, for me, learning to be okay with being alone (not lonely), and not settling has made it impossible to find someone to have a long-term relationship with.

I can't remember how I came across this channel, but I'm very thankful that I checked it out. I've learned so much since then. Thank you! 😄

Once again, School of Life, you have nailed it‼️ Brilliant and RIGHT ON‼️ Outstandingly said‼️ I did the cheerful melancholy today❗️ And sometimes, not so cheerful melancholy. Kind of got up on the wrong side of the bed, and continued my entire day on that track. However, it was a big plus for me and my consciousness, that I am now aware of accepting myself in this condition, instead of wishing it away or blaming myself for putting friends, coworkers through my trials and tribulations. Now at home, 10 PM getting ready for bed and having just listened to Tara Brach, another spiritual teacher, I say to myself, it really wasn't that bad. You didn't yell at anyone..... I was aware all day that I should be careful with others because I could feel the vulnerability of being in that position, and I was uncomfortable but sane. Come on in melancholy and park for a day, and let's see if I can keep calm and loving to myself, and others. AND GUESS WHAT, I mostly did. It's just me and my mind which constantly is putting me down, and that's the main party to whom I need to observe and care for, it's all right little darling, I will be there for you, (MYSELF)❗️☮️☯️💟

I love this channel; it is special and distinguished to me. The speaker's voice is deep, warm. Finally, the content is wise, and educative. Thank you.

We are perfect in our imperfections. They make us unique and give us an advantage over others that only you have. Learn to embrace your imperfections so that they work for you and not against you.

@kc-um6qd

4 жыл бұрын

sounds american.....a win where noone is speaking of loss?....what drivel, perfect in our imperfections?!....well then let the paedophile, killer, drugged momma -killer free, to imperfectly be perfect again...point numb 9- the shit that comes out of our mouths usually isnt ours....

I’d just like to say thank you. I’ve been following your videos for several months now, and I feel the have had a beneficial impact on my outlook on life and love. I look forward to your future videos.

I just finished reading the School of Life book The Great Thinkers (loved it!), and throughout I heard it, in my mind, in this voice.

Here after a break up. I still love her. But, I’m feeling a little better now!!

Great video thanks The traduction in Arabic: *تقبّل غياب الكمال* نحن بطبيعتنا كائنات مغلوطة ومعطوبة. الكمال شيء بعيد عنّا.على الرغم من ذكائنا وعلومنا ,نحن جميعاً, عن قرب, خائفون, قلقون, مليئون بالندم, التوق واللغط .لا أحد طبيعي: الأشخاص الوحيدون الذين بالإمكان أن نعتبرهم طبيعيين هم أولئك الذين لا نعرفهم عن قرب بعد *الصداقة* الانتباه إلى أنّ كل واحد منّا ضعيف, غير منطقي و مخطئ هو شيء يدعو للتعاطف مع أنفسنا والسخاء مع الآخرين. معرفة كيف نظهر نقاط حساسيتنا وما هو معطوب بنا هو حجر الأساس للصداقة الحقيقية, والتي نتوق لها جميعاً دون استثناء ، إنّ حصول الأشخاص على الحياة التّي يستحقونها ليس بالأمر اليقين . يجب أن نتقبل مفهموم التراجيديا: الأشياء المروعة الاعتباطية التي من الممكن لها أن تسبب انهيار حياة معظم الناس, وهي بالفعل تقوم بذلك. من الممكن أن نفشل ونبقى بحال جيدة ولذلك علينا أن نأخذ وقتاً أكثر في الحكم ونسرع في التفهم,لذا كن لطيفاً *أدرك جنونك* ليس بإمكاننا أن نكون عاقلين تماماً, ولكنّه شرط أساسي للنضج أن نفهم مواضع جنوننا, نستطيع تحذير الأشخاص الذين نهتم لأمرهم بما يمكن لجننونا أن يجعلنا نفعل, في وقت مناسب ومبكر قبل أن نسبب ضرراً كبيراً، يجب أن نكون مستعدين لأن تكون لدينا إجابة جاهزة و ان لا نشعر بالإهانة إذا سألنا أحدهم (وهو ما يجدر به فعله) : 'ما هي مواضع جنونك؟’ معظم جنوننا يأتي من الطفولة , والتي بطريقة تختلف حسب وضعنا جعلتنا غير متزنين. لم يسبق لأحد أن حظي بطفولة "طبيعية"; هذه ليست بأي شكل إهانة لجهود العائلات. لا تهرب من احتمال كونك أحمق وكأنّه شيء مروّع وغير مسبوق، تقبّل اليقين بكل فضيلة, وبدون خجل. أنت أحمق ولكن ليس لديك أي خيار آخر ككائن بشري. نحنا على كوكب السبعة مليارات أحمق مختلف. تقبُّل حماقتنا يجب أن يعطينا الثقة أمام التحديات, لأن الخطأ متوقع فهذا يجعلنا مرتاحين مع أنفسنا, ومستعدين لمد يد الصداقة لجيراننا المعطوبين والمعتوهين بشكل مشابه. يجب أن نتغلب على العار والخجل لأننا وبالفعل تخلينا عن جزء كبير من كبريائنا *جيد بما فيه الكفاية* إنّ عكس الكمال ليس الفشل, بل هو تصالحنا مع فكرة أن, كلّ واحد منا, 'جيد بما فيه الكفاية’. جيدون بما فيه الكفاية كأهل, إخوة , عمّال وبشر. 'الاعتيادية' ليست مرادفاً للفشل. إذا فهمناها بدّقة, ونظرنا لها نظرة سخيّة ومتقبلة, فهي تتضمن أفضل ما في الحياة. الحياة ليست في أي مكان آخر; الحياة, بشكل كامل ومناسب, هنا والآن *بعيداّ عن الشاعرية* 'الشخص الصحيح' هو ابتكار قاسي. لا أحد بشكل تام 'صحيح' أو بشكل تام 'خاطئ’. الحبّ الحقيقي ليس مجرد تقدير للقوة, بل هو صبر وتعاطف بين نقاط ضعفنا المشتركة. الحبّ هو القدرة على استخدام المخيّلة لتحمّل اللحظات الأقل جاذبية للشخص ومنح درجة مستمرة من التسامح لهشاشتنا الطبيعية. ليس من المقبول أن نتوقع من أحد أن يحبّنا 'كما نحن تماماّ’ الحبّ الصادق يتضمن شخصين يساعد كلّ منهما الآخر على الوصول إلى أفضل نسخة ممكنة من نفسه. التوافق ليس شرطاً للحبّ; بل هو من نتائج الحبّ *اليأس المفرح* نحن تحت ضغط غير عادل وغير مبررلأن نبتسم. ولكن تقريباً لا شيء سيجري بشكل جيد تماماً: نستطيع توقّع الانزعاج, سوء التفاهم, غياب الحظ, والرفض. يجب أن يكون مسموحاً لنا بالسوداوية. السوداوية ليست غضباً أو مرارة, إنّها صنف نبيل من الحزن يظهر لنا عندما نتقبل أنّ خيبة الأمل تقع في قلب التجربة البشرية. بحالتنا السوداوية, نستطيع دون أي حنق أو حساسية أن نفهم أن لا أحد يفهم الآخر بشكل كامل, أنّه لا يستثنى أحد من الشعور بالوحدة وأنّ لكل حياة حصتها الكاملة من الألم. ولكن على الرغم من وجود الكثير ممّا يدعو للشعور بالحزن, لسنا ملعونين بشكل فردي أو خاص, وأمام هذه الخلفية من الظلام العديد من الأشياء الحلوة يمكنها أن تظهر بوضوح: يوم مشمس, سحابة عابرة; الفجر والغسق, نظرة حنونة. يمكن لك أن تيئس ولكن افعل ذلك بفرح, آمن باليأس المفرح *تخطى أهمية نفسك* لسنا مركز أي شيء, لحسن الحظ. نحن صرر ضئيلة من مادة متلاشية في زاوية متناهية الصغر من كون غير محدود ليس لنا أي وزن في المخطط الأكبر للوجود, هذا يجب أن يكون أمراً محررّاً لنا. يجب أن نكسب الراحة من الفكرة اللطيفة لعدم الأهمية التي يمنحها الاتساع اللانهائي : سرمدية لن يلاحظ فيها أحد, حيث الرياح تحت الصخور في الفضاء بين النجوم. التواضع الكوني الذي علّمتنا إيّاه الطبيعة, التاريخ و السماء فوقنا هو نعمة وبديل ثابت لحياة من الصراع المحمموم, غياب الهزل, والكبرياء و القلق المفرط ** نقطة أخيرة نظرياَ نعلم كلّ هذا. ولكن عملياً هذا النوع من الأفكار يشتهر بضعف قدرته على التأثير بسلوكنا ومشاعرنا. أفضل معارفنا مرسخة فينا وبنفس الوقت غير فعّالة بالنسبة لنا. ننسى تقريباً كلّ شيء. حماسنا وأهدافنا تتلاشى كما النجوم عند الفجر. لا شيء يبقى. لهذا السبب, علينا أن نذكّر أنفسنا ببعض الأشياء, ربما مرّة في اليوم, وحتماً مرّة في الأسبوع. 'المدرسة' الجيدة فعلاً لا تخبرنا فقط بأشياء لم يسبق لنا سماعها; يجب أن تهتم بعمق بتمريننا على أشياء معروفة نظرياً لكن منسيّة عملياً. لهذا يجب أن نبقي هذه القواعد في بالنا دوما

@ADiab-mm9hn

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Salma. We desperately need this in Arabic. I submitted Arabic subtitles long ago for another great video (a country you can be proud of) but it never got published. I think many are willing to do this for free if they only let them.

@valn_ilyo

3 жыл бұрын

I don't know Arabic but good work!

I always try to remember your advice when I’m in doubt, but I always struggle because you say so much details and I really can’t keep up. Making this video was a great idea

Cheerful despair! Fake it till you feel it. I like to wear a serene expression on my face and I've come to really feel it, as walking, especially in nature, lifts my depression

0:37 Imperfection 1:04 Friendship 1:45 Know your insanity 2:31 Accept your idiocy 3:13 Good enough 3:43 Beyond romanticism 4:29 Cheerful despair 5:29 Transcend yourself

Wise words, thank you 🙏

The brilliance of this video is in the simplicity , making it profound. Great job!

I can't describe how thankful I am to the school of life.. I owe you a lot.. If I had enough money I would immediately donate it to you.. Thank you so much for your amazing work!!

Haven't watched it yet but I approve

@JohnVKaravitis

4 жыл бұрын

Dickhead post. At least you can do ONE thing right!

@rodolphemouradian4982

4 жыл бұрын

@@JohnVKaravitis Haha no clue what you're on about but have a good day

@cherrieang318

4 жыл бұрын

It means you have so much trust to TSOL or you've watched most of its 500 videos. haha

Wouldn't it be wonderful if these were shared and taught at school

after watching alot of school of lifes videos, my mood didn’t get better. I might have understood my self better. But never became happier

I'm trying to live with those rules recently, it has been a good help against anxiety and love disappointments I'm facing!

Definitely one of the most valuable videos ever! Thanks for all the wisdom you've shared with us. I'm so grateful for finding your channel.

I love how the whole point of the video was, that I should subscribe to your channel😂😂😂

Thank you School of Life and thank you Alain de Bouton! for the calm and resolute kind leading towards much more sain inner-life for each and every one!

Thankfully to live in a world where "The school of life" exist, free and easily available, thanks!!

I absolutely love this and replay it often. It's a wonderful reminder that we all struggle ☺️💖

Can you do a video on painful memories? I constantly have flash backs to dumb things I’ve done or said or mistakes I’ve made and they can feel physically paralysing

@maartendoclo8963

4 жыл бұрын

One of their videos with the seemingly harsh title 'don't worry, no one cares', might touch this topic a little

Thank you for taking time into all of this, and learning what you've learnt of life to teach. Thanks, infinitely.

Dropped few tears by the end , big thank you for this relief i just had

Disagree with 5 pretty fundamentally. Telling yourself you're good enough is only really a prescription when you are in the depths of vicious self criticism. Good enough doesn't really inspire an endeavour to improve. 'doing my best' is a term off the top of my head that although is relatively soothing and blunts despair, also holds yourself to an honest and intrinsic yardstick. Although that being said, I am an idiot. 😉

@user-qb4id8zn3h

4 жыл бұрын

This is the comment I've been looking for.

@shreya3645

4 жыл бұрын

It is basically.. nobody is good enough... everyone is broken, healing, imperfect and an idiot.

@XaviOvf

4 жыл бұрын

This "good enough" thing can be interpreted in many ways. It basically means that there is nothing wrong with you and, from there, you can move forward: improve yourself not because you are flawed, but because you want to grow and learn.

@user-qb4id8zn3h

4 жыл бұрын

@@XaviOvf Yes, but sometimes there IS something wrong and you should recognize it and change it - both for you and for those around you - not accept it and feeling as if what you're like is entirely uncontrollable and set in stone. Being at peace with who you are is only beneficial if you're an anxiety-ridden overthinker. Unfortunately, most people who are at peace with who they are aren't the ones that should be.

@kevinring4111

4 жыл бұрын

@@user-qb4id8zn3h I couldn't have said it better. 👍

The Credo of the School of Life (1) Accept imperfection (2) Friendship (3) Know your insanity (4) Accept your idiocy (5) Good enough (6) Beyond romanticism (7) Cheerful despair (8) Transcend yourself

I am so grateful to your insight and this channel. We are all lifelong learners.

Hard to put into words just how much this channel has helped me. May we all find encouragement in discovering how to best manage this thing called life.

1:38 - "Slower to judge, and quicker to understand." Too bad most of the world doesn't do that.

I’d replace the “idiot” part with an acceptance that we are all ignorant about something. Or just add it in.

@rohitranjan78

4 жыл бұрын

True

@nicolabrittain3101

3 жыл бұрын

The idiot part is the best bit

“Despair, but do so cheerfully”: with hope and gratitude for everything life offers. ❤😊

Of this video, the thing that I remember the most is that repetition is the way to live by these concept. Every morning just after I woke up and every night before I go to bed, I read 2 little textes to remember what is important in my life.

Which of our eight rules appeals most to you? Let us know in the comments. Be sure to subscribe to the channel and turn on notifications to ensure you don't miss our next film.

@cgtsang

4 жыл бұрын

Love the last one :)

@geoleo965

4 жыл бұрын

To never, ever follow life & health advices from anonymous and dubious people on the Internet, unless they are professionally certified for such matter.

@MrMisanthrope_

4 жыл бұрын

@@geoleo965 Well, that is a fallacy. Certification is a shortcut but doesn't ultimately prove legitimacy rather their argument and evidence to support it. Hence, Bankers during the 2008 financial cash and rule 1 imperfection and 4 idiocy. - From anonymous

@bolivar1789

4 жыл бұрын

Friendship, cheerful despair and cosmic humility. Thanks a lot for all the clarity and consolation!

@geoleo965

4 жыл бұрын

@@MrMisanthrope_ With that logic, then we shouldn't trust doctors.

The way of the future!

Thanks Alan and team! You're always spot on!

I've never fallen in love more than I have fallen for your channel 💛 Keep up the good work! Your team is the best :)

If you really want to be brief you can summarise these eight rules into just three words: Lower your expectations! 😉

Nice Animations

Thank you! A lot of these things I knew or suspected deep down. But hearing it from another, with a sense of Realism rather than pessimism (how I usually think), really helped me come to acceptance.

You've filled my brain with wisdom and thanks for enlightening me on the way of truth.

These so-called rules all focus on the “negative” aspects of the human psyche. It’s almost as if it’s trying say what Buddhism has said for eons. All life is suffering. It’s what we do to transcend suffering that makes life meaningful. Or words to that effect.

I won't hate the idea of this being turned in to a poster. just saying you know.

@joaquinpipinich2042

4 жыл бұрын

Yea let's consume merchandise

I’m so grateful for the existence of the school of life making the world a better place

I love this channel each video more and more! Thank you for giving us such valuable insights so often!

This video truly challenges my vocabulary

1. (0:38) Accept Imperfection, 2. (1:03) Friendship, 3. (1:45) Know your Insanity, 4. (2:31) Accept your idiocy, 5. (3:13) Good Enough, 6. (3:42) Beyond Romanticism, 7.(4:28) Cheerful despair, 8. (5:29) Transcend yourself..

PERFECT! THANK YOU, The School of Life!

I love this, before I decided to work on my emotional maturity I decided to work on my philosophical knowledge and that led me to always start looking up and thinking of the endless stars and the point of it all again. It brings me down to earth when I lose track. Unfortunately I live in New York and the stars I see I can count on my fingers. But it does help for me still.