The School of Life

The School of Life

Self-understanding, calm and emotional maturity.

We publish articles about emotional life on our website: www.theschooloflife.com

We offer online psychotherapy: www.theschooloflife.com/therapy

We publish one film a week, on Wednesdays at 14.00hrs GMT.

When Love Isn't Easy

When Love Isn't Easy

Why Nice People Repel Us

Why Nice People Repel Us

Why We Behave As We Do

Why We Behave As We Do

The Conditions of Love

The Conditions of Love

When Love Isn't Easy

When Love Isn't Easy

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  • @xarzu
    @xarzu9 сағат бұрын

    So did THe Founding Fathers and so did Plato. Democracy is a bad idea.

  • @ranjithaganesh6
    @ranjithaganesh69 сағат бұрын

    Id buried up childhood abuse and repressed it so much that it went on for 25years. But a year old a simple touch was enough to bring it all back I had a choice of either to deal with it or repress it again. I took the bold choice of dealing with it and now for a year I’ve been terribly hurt and traumatised. However I truly believe one day the fact that I chose to deal with it will pay off.

  • @truesimplicity
    @truesimplicity9 сағат бұрын

    The perfect example of this thinking has taken hold in today's republican party 🚫🔥📚 educate the Southern and the Midwestern United States

  • @millami.x
    @millami.x10 сағат бұрын

    i’ve always said i stress myself sick and this just proves it 😭 i’ve never been able to stop it either so i’m trying to learn

  • @19-dishakedare48
    @19-dishakedare4810 сағат бұрын

  • @eggiepapaya5376
    @eggiepapaya537610 сағат бұрын

    1:45 he named all of my favourite things

  • @marcellofunhouse1234
    @marcellofunhouse123410 сағат бұрын

    In the words of an inspiring African Proverb, "The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.

  • @ayadali9112
    @ayadali911210 сағат бұрын

    Allahu Akbar.

  • @jjtheblanketyblankblank770
    @jjtheblanketyblankblank77010 сағат бұрын

    Best predictor and explanation of human behavior.

  • @lawfulaverage
    @lawfulaverage10 сағат бұрын

    The language gets super judgmental toward the end

  • @PaulMichael-pp9pt
    @PaulMichael-pp9pt10 сағат бұрын

    Just turned 35 and im single and friendless (wasnt always) in think at age 31 i just gave up. My parents to this day are unloving and not in my life. I wish i wasnt like this

  • @deda_a
    @deda_a11 сағат бұрын

    I predicted the actual question and once he said the exact same question i wanted to cry:(

  • @alexpurdymusic
    @alexpurdymusic11 сағат бұрын

    Why is it the woman tho

  • @AvrilAlvarez
    @AvrilAlvarez12 сағат бұрын

    Controversial take. But I love the look of Le Courbesier's architecture. However I can't stand him as a person. His disdain for classical architecture and his urge to tear down historic places is terrible. I think there is beauty in most architecture wether it be brutalist or classical. He was a great architect but am awful awful urban planner

  • @mubarakomar3201
    @mubarakomar320112 сағат бұрын

    Love is a lie that is directed by our loins to fool our brains to manipulate our hearts...

  • @180thislife
    @180thislife12 сағат бұрын

    recently my life spiraled out of control after i found out i have ASPD. still hesitant to continue therapy but a lot of self-talk made me realize it came from repressed emotions, grudges, unspoken desires, dark thoughts and misunderstandings. wish i wasn't such an insecure pushover all my life. wish i allowed myself to breathe once in a while and enjoy living before turning into whatever this is. i feel like a monster. let this be a lesson to whoever reading this: be kind but also live for yourself and don't exhaust yourself to a breaking point where there's no going back from

  • @fadyNUFC
    @fadyNUFC12 сағат бұрын

    Hes right this is what i think about this sham system …

  • @WeAreBlank18
    @WeAreBlank1813 сағат бұрын

    Fun fact: He was Hitler’s classmate back in elementary or middle school.

  • @arandomstar2123
    @arandomstar212313 сағат бұрын

    my GAD told me i can approve of this message (my parents did not though)

  • @RVanlalruati-wr1mg
    @RVanlalruati-wr1mg13 сағат бұрын

    When i was young, my father sat beside me trying to help with homework but i kept doing it on my own. He hit me saying "Im your dad , respect me!". To this day, i have no respect for him, i cant even fool myself into thinking i love him as a father or even as a person. I hope someday i move away from our family home.

  • @ShinyShilla
    @ShinyShilla13 сағат бұрын

    No no no I hate being self aware it is destroying me and my mental state

  • @Thecinephile5
    @Thecinephile513 сағат бұрын

    I have repressed anger

  • @kezmenflowers8691
    @kezmenflowers869113 сағат бұрын

    It was never in the fact that I cared about how others were living. It was in the fact that I needed others approval in order to validate my existence and to feel a sense of love I lacked all throughout my life.

  • @kimboslice921
    @kimboslice92114 сағат бұрын

    Probably why I have always had a sensitive stomach. It got so bad during the pandemic when I decided to change my careers, go back to education, get a part time job to help myself out and lost my grandad at the same time :/

  • @tanmay1306
    @tanmay130614 сағат бұрын

    This hits home!

  • @lovecore3828
    @lovecore382814 сағат бұрын

    Wow I had to realize this. My biological dad was a dentist, so think yacht clubs, country clubs.. “affluence” and yet he neglected me. For a long time I couldn’t figure it out. I mean, we are supposed to learn about the world, self worth, and love from our parents.. and coming from a divorced parent arraignment, I was also forced to go see him every summer until I got older and he stopped caring at all. I think it really affected me. But I realized that it wasn’t me who did something wrong or needed to overcompensate-it was I who truly was done wrong to and learning that that treatment, just cuz he was my dad was not okay

  • @calvinjames7032
    @calvinjames703214 сағат бұрын

    It is mental and emotional torture

  • @chaosfr3959
    @chaosfr395915 сағат бұрын

    WHY AM I STILL A VIRGIN THENNNN ?????????????

  • @tonycordero6105
    @tonycordero610515 сағат бұрын

    Guess that’s why my cancer started, and probably will return.

  • @Uncommonsenses
    @Uncommonsenses15 сағат бұрын

    I find putting on my best British accent and calmly informing the argumentative person that I have ‘far more important things to do’ always de-escalates the situation nicely.

  • @user-cz1yu1tc8e
    @user-cz1yu1tc8e15 сағат бұрын

    Democracy could only be for everyone. Solution is to improve education, not to limit democracy. That's what communists were going for - true democracy. Famous V.Lenin's thesis about every cook being educated to manage a state.

  • @pattycake1939
    @pattycake193915 сағат бұрын

    Am I wrong.. to prefer to be with myself.

  • @jacemenezes6155
    @jacemenezes615515 сағат бұрын

    Everyone around me seems to have way more fun. I miss having fun. I just want to take a long nap and never wake up. But I will keep crawling through the darkness.

  • @valhalla1240
    @valhalla124015 сағат бұрын

    Maybe we need to stop with this myth that perfect parents exist anywhere in the world. Parents can never and will never live up to their children‘s expectations and will never meet their needs perfectly. Growing up imperfect IS what growing up is about. There is no other option to life. Life wasn‘t particularly unfair to you, and you aren‘t the exception for having been neglected here and there. Every child is neglected in some way. That‘s just what happens. Learn to be happy of course. But also: stop phantizising about this magical place where perfect parenting exists. It doesn‘t.

  • @lainiwakura3741
    @lainiwakura374116 сағат бұрын

    hey look, that's me

  • @alesblatnik9973
    @alesblatnik997316 сағат бұрын

    I'm open to new ideas and I do believe our body bears the consequences, but what's the science here? There's zero evidence for any of this presented in this video. Would be great to see that.

  • @codybertram6122
    @codybertram612216 сағат бұрын

    Everyone bitches about millennials but most of us were raised by boomers that were drug addicts, selfish, grown ass children themselves. It’s ripped me apart psychologically and I don’t want to live especially with how hard the economy has gotten lately….

  • @ericray7173
    @ericray717316 сағат бұрын

    I grew up with awful bullying, low self esteem, anxiety, depression - real tough times…. And I thank God for each and every one of those challenges. They are a large part of what finally forged me into a man in the truly magical 50th decade of life (otherwise known as the 40’s). What makes this decade so great? The gives a f*** gene turns OFF and you are finally free from giving 2 shits about what anyone thinks or says whatsoever. You’ve seen it all, you’ve been through most of it. You go to the grocery store in your dirtiest clothes and your shades on slick…You’re finally ready. So stick it out with your training young Padawans! It’s worth it.

  • @kezmenflowers8691
    @kezmenflowers869116 сағат бұрын

    The need for approval from others as well as overextending myself to maintain relationships is what left me empty and alone.

  • @SerV689
    @SerV68916 сағат бұрын

    This whole line of thought is entirely flawed at it’s core because it suggests that we lie to people to spare their feelings and thus it’s somehow morally ambiguous. It doesn’t matter how painful a truth can be, it will never imply that to be deceitful can be a moral good regardless of what pain you think you’re sparing the individual. The most brutal reality will always be kinder than the best lie

  • @memurtimur
    @memurtimur17 сағат бұрын

    Mind-broadening… I really related… Up until now I even couldn’t grasp the fact that I actually see the world as a dread-filled place… This short gives meaning to my struggles… I also wrote it down word by word to share it with friends. Many thanks to everybody who contributed 🎉❤

  • @jermany8019
    @jermany801917 сағат бұрын

    That was very undemocratic of you. ⬆️➡️⬇️⬇️⬇️

  • @kelzangphuntsho1071
    @kelzangphuntsho107117 сағат бұрын

    is Inflation Scam?

  • @nemanjat1096
    @nemanjat109617 сағат бұрын

    Importance of talking loudly in person

  • @sandramedina9482
    @sandramedina948217 сағат бұрын

    Mind and body are one. Of course emotional pain will show up in the body

  • @MrSzoSs
    @MrSzoSs17 сағат бұрын

    Funny how by writing of nature is killing the nature

  • @keefkanaesque
    @keefkanaesque17 сағат бұрын

    HOW DID YOU KNOW

  • @AnnaMariaLampropoulou-wj8bx
    @AnnaMariaLampropoulou-wj8bx18 сағат бұрын

    This is not a christian video he talks about bulsits for me