When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..

A Narcisist is like a dark empty Room with automátic light sensor, for them it doesn't matter who enters the Room as long as the lights are on, when we leave they are dark from inside & thats why they always want to impress people to enter& switch on the light 👍

@jhoselyng184

Жыл бұрын

Great analogy

@flamingrobin5957

Жыл бұрын

"the devil masquerades as an angel of light and his servants are able to transform themselves into servants of righteousness" the devil and his agents are experts at pretending to be whatever they need to trap you. this is how cults snare people, this is how the narcissist uses flying monkeys to manipulate you into seeing only what they want you to see while ensnaring you. even in the name of "love", even in the name of "god""

@hhsg11

Жыл бұрын

That’s really good Samir. I learned a lot from this ex narc. He had a ‘harem’ of ex girlfriends and wannabes, all women, no male friends. I remember him getting a call on his mobile and said ‘congratulations, you won the prize’, I had no idea what he was talking about, then he said to the woman, ‘I sent a message to everyone to see who would answer first, and it was you’. He was on the phone day and night to women, even off dating sites, all on speakerphone so I would hear them. I had this for 3 months before he got a mortgage to buy my share, we had only moved in 3 months by this time, he thought it would make me jealous, didn’t work, as long as he was occupied like that, he left me alone.

@bijooz

Жыл бұрын

Like black widow, attracts the mate and kills them

@wildrose12.47

Жыл бұрын

Brilliant analogy. I understood it and yet I thought a true friend could make a difference. Nope. I got devoured. Don’t ever think you are the one who might help them evolve. They don’t want to. They are empty and don’t relate. Don’t try again and again. The abuse only escalates.

Finally got out with mine 2 months ago. Horrible horrible experience. Wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Healing is a challenge. I trust no one.

@AlwaysHope2019

Жыл бұрын

Wish you the best Happy your away from that mess!!!!

@sinikkartistry

Жыл бұрын

Trust yourself❤

@drewkwabs

Жыл бұрын

You'll become 10× stronger and better

@AwaiHashiba-Yu-Gi-OhDM-Season6

Жыл бұрын

It will be two months for me after march 8th as well. We can do this!! We will heal and thrive while the narc will rot and fall!

20 years and I got out...20 years on my own...life is beautiful after the healing.

@maustin950

Жыл бұрын

Goals!!!!

@keithcurry1572

Жыл бұрын

Congrats, I have 22 years in. I can't wait until I'm able to say the same. This has truly been a nightmare.

@Zara-pt5xq

3 ай бұрын

21 years for me soon

That's true they want to be part of things because they're left out as a child. Coverts narcissists have a split personality, which is very dangerous.

They have to win at all costs. That's what a covert narcissist told me once. Horrible, nasty, vile individuals who go out of their way to harm others. Shocking!!!!! 🤬

@kimmylovesdisney9793

Жыл бұрын

My X covert was just horrifying! It is like watch a demon form from the angel you met they will destroy you if you don't give them what they want! An adult temportantrum

@fidelmashelton9491

Жыл бұрын

@@kimmylovesdisney9793 absolutely and spot on. Vile creatures that they are and so nice to everyone else. It's a game to them and one they have to win. Put yourself first and limit your time from being around them. Grey rock works brilliantly. Best of luck with your situation. Remember that you are way stronger than they are. They are the weak ones.

@kimmylovesdisney9793

Жыл бұрын

@@fidelmashelton9491 I left mine I met him in 2018 and left him a year and a 1/2 later! I literally thought I was going crazy this man who was not really attractive seems so kind sauce spoken and gentle turned out to be the most evil person I ever met he tried as hard as he could to destroy my life and my business in just knowing him for 18 months. His ex wife has been in therapy for 5 years the stories I could tell would make someone's skin crawl and if you know what I'm talking about you know. It also taught me my father is a huge covert narcissist Stay safe my friend and stay away from them

Hiding money from you while you pay, talking behind your back lying about you and humiliating you as if its an accident.

Ooooo they hate when you confront them with the lies 😂

@samanthamansi1184

Жыл бұрын

Yesss

they want you to emotionally react so that they can rationalize their fifty times overkill reaction to you saying no to them

@samanthamansi1184

Жыл бұрын

For sure it’s pure evil

You’re brilliant as usual. About the long game I can only think they’re running multiple games with other people. They’re masters at splitting their lives into separate compartments. Must be exhausting. My father drove my mother to be committed to a mental institution for five months through gaslighting. She suspected he was having affairs but couldn’t prove it.

@juneelle370

Жыл бұрын

It"s crazy that men were able to just do that in the olden days! This happened to my grandmother... and when she came out, she was then very troubled because of what thwy did to her in there. Sad and sick history in much of medicine--people beware of corrupted systems--systemic abuse is not only in the past!

I am out after spending over a decade with a narcissist in a “marriage”. I was discarded when I began to wake up! Best thing that ever happened to me!!Grateful for this and other videos which enlighten me and help with my healing. I am two years post divorce and feels like the healing will never be over. My God. These people are demonic!

@nessauk2786

Жыл бұрын

It's over my friend x

@dennyfie

6 ай бұрын

They are Demonic.

I married a covert narcissist we were married June 08 2022 and in November 2022 he asked me for a divorce because he was cheating on me with another supply he then put out my belongings and said that I had to leave so he could bring another supply in absolutely no closure

@BrendaBaBoom

Жыл бұрын

Asking for a divorce and putting your possessions out should unequivocally be CLOSURE. Prayers to you 🙏🏽

Their mind is a labyrinth 💯 I became a detective extraordinaire and when I tried to force the truth too hard, I got discarded and heartbroken. Then she would ultimately return. This cycle went on seemingly forever. YOU ARE RIGHT... there is NO POINT to the labyrinth of lies. It will make you crazy. Love yourself, love the truth, walk away 💯 crying is better than feeling like you are going crazy, that is their goal. And the crying will eventually end and the sun will shine again for you!

It was certainly a labyrinth of lies . She drinks alot , so forgets the lies she tells me alot of the time . Changing the stories of her lies of her double life she is living (Me and our kids and spending nights out away from us acting like she's single). I finished the relationship after catching her out for her lies. We Co-Parent now so I unfortunately I can never get her out my life completely. Please do a vid on Co-Parenting with the Narcissist

I got a covert narcissist pregnant in 6 weeks and I separated from her by the time our daughter was 7 months but didn't realize what covert narcissism was back then. She gave me a Valentines card 4 months after separation and abducted 9 days later which forced me to go to court in 2014 to have access to my daughter. She lied in 90% of her court statement and no-one from court believed me except my colleagues since 2007, close friends and family. I always knew she she was secretly disturbed and a huge liar but her behavior to me was so toxic in 2020 (lack of empathy as both my parents died in 2019 - 2020 and she was intentionally contravening countless court orders and there was almost 9 years of physical and emotional neglect my daughter) that I did the research and covert narcissism completely aligned with her. At the end of 2020 I told my covert narcissistic daughters mum on video that I understood her personality disorder wasn't her fault and I forgive her but want 50-50 with no contact anymore. Within 2 weeks she made claims to a lawyer that she'd "observed me hitting my daughter" who was 3 months from being 9. I took her to my GP to verify if I ever had hit my child and of course it was just her covert narcissistic rage. The court failed in March 2021 to tell me there was a hearing at the time I was supposed to attend in person and she got full custody due to my absence. It's been absolute hell since. They knew I'd had 40 pages typed up contravention with 3 court filing failures at the start of 2021. I haven't seen or spoken my daughter yet because of the pathological lying, gaslighting, abducting, blame-shifting, mirroring abuse, scapegoating, emotionally abusive, stonewalling, baiting, triangulating, manipulator her mum truly is. I now know since June 2022 she's poisoned my daughters heart as she's believing her mums lies and she doesn't even understand what her mums doing (extreme parental alienation). I did lodge and coercive control police report and have the possibility of getting full custody eventually. My gut feeling is that I'll never see my daughter alive again as this covert narcissist knows I know about her covert narcissism.

@juneelle370

Жыл бұрын

Be totally unlike her and never involve your child in the details of this mesz unless she asks direct questions.. and give short, honest answers... wait until she asks for more detailed answers when she's in her 30"s... right now she just needs to know you love her and miss her so much... I recommend the book Conscious Parenting bc her mom is totally unconscious, sadly for all involved. Dads are so important for both daughters and sons... right now you can be saving money for her college too bc no doubt her mom will want to sabotage her future. If she knows you really love her and want her im your life and if you learn/ know how to love and communicate healthily, she's going to be ok. Im sorry youre having to deal with this. At least as a guy youre probably not hearing "choose better." This stuff needs to be taught in schools because you cant protect yourself from these lost people until you understand how they think. Best to you and your family. Focus on silver linings--you can transcend this, sir.

@christopherflanagan3516

Жыл бұрын

​@@juneelle370 Thanks for your supportive comment and advice June. I previously had 6 years of court orders 3 nights a week video, 3 nights a fortnight, 50-50 holidays special days (Xmas, Easter, Father’s Day, birthday time) since 2014. As a respondent now the court didn't care or read my amended response now (255 pages worth of evidence physical and emotional neglect, several key pieces of evidence of the narcissistic conflict 2020 etc). When she was the respondent 2014, she had no evidence whatsoever. The same with now. It’s blatantly obvious this is was a narcissistic hit job I would have been violent to my daughter not after having a conversation about her covert narcissism (which is reiterated in all my mental health records since 2020). The mother knows I’m a anti war pacifist who is against violence in all forms as well as being for women’s rights more than most men are. It’s all about power and control making her own reality but doing this in court should be considered criminal and defamatory. The mother knows the year I figured the covert narcissism (2020) that I looked up what her crime intentional lying in court (perjury) is 14 years here in Australia. I told her I knew she'd lied that much in 2014 there was at least 100 intentional perjury statements she'd be in prison for over 1000 years. She heard that and went back to the same criminal strategy. There has never been any court or judge even considering the possibility that she might be lying in court. The covert narcissists are the worst because they never ever admit the truth about what they're thinking when they act. After losing my parents in 2020 that year was the worst year as my daughter and her mum know and it's been worse every year since. This year (2022) I find out my 10 year old daughters been told scary lies about me and is scared of me and her heart and mind has been poisoned - proof of extreme parental alienation. From June 2022 I've also given the court proof about something huge that her mum chose to lie to our Child Expert and daughter about. The CE and the ICL had my proof of the mother intentionally lying as she's now criminally claiming "I'd grabbed her by the throat and tried to choke her" in her original DV 2013. It was for touching her forearm when she was already moving house and I had a more serious DV charge on her step-dad in 2013 as well for assaulting me. Her DV says absolutely nothing about being "choked" which are lies I now know my daughter is being told not just a Child Expert and ICL. The ICL didn't want me to talk about it before the October hearing even though this the irrefutable evidence as her DV from 2013 was for not even a bruise (1 on the scale of 5 most violent). I was the one who called the police and ran upstairs. The court also didn't care about my mental health reports from 2021 which say I'm drug and alcohol free and capable of spending time with my daughter which would improve my mental health. It's now 20 months since we spoke or I could contact her. I'm her narcissistic family scapegoat and her brother killed himself in 2017 and she lied in court about him and herself being suicidal. I had this officially investigated to the federal police and they didn't think it was enough evidence. Scapegoats are the ones who challenge the narcissistic family leaders with the truth. I'm the other family scapegoat and the narcissistic abusers will never admit it. The mothers mother is the one she's protecting. It's so serious and I'm so sick of being lied about in court by these people. At least my daughters only 10 so I'll have to hope the coercive control report comes good. The final trial is June 2023 but I bet the judges don't order her into my care at all or back to Brisbane as my original final orders did. I'm going to get this judge removed and see if the CE, ICL and all responsible parties are held accountable for their failure to see the parent with the evidence is the safe parent. If anything happens to my daughter I'll sue all of them including the original judges. My daughter might want to sue her mum one day for her mum kidnapping and lying to her about me when she's 18 as I've heard there are. I'm just so scared for her. I've heard stories about narcissistic parentally alienating parents killing their children in an extreme form of revenge.

@danielaspitz3052

Жыл бұрын

My mother is a covert Narc, she said I lied when I told her my stepfather sexually abused me at the age of 12, she tried to gaslight me and told me I was lying. No excuse when he admitted it after nothing could have legally happened to him, any longer. I do believe Mia Farrow is a covert and what she did, is the other way around- she gaslight her daughter into having been abused by Woody Allen. They do whatever they have to, to gain whatever from it. My two much younger (Narc) sisters were golden children, they have told my adult children lies about me which my mother told them. My kids believe them although they know me better and ended contact with me, so in the end my mother got what she wanted for me- because I never loved her and ended contact at 42, ( 8 years ago ) she was wishing the same for me. I know several men who have been abused by women like her. They are capable of influencing their children who live with them and have known their fathers for ten or even 15 years from one day to another that their fathers are bad, so these kids end contact with them. The humiliation victims and survivors of Narcissists have to endure, is unimaginable

@dianelopez8344

Жыл бұрын

Christopher if you are able to you really need to find an Attorney to help you get the Justice for you and your daughter!! The Attorney will be able to go to Court with/ or without you to attend all hearings and fight for you and your rights I know, I’ve been there in the past a long time ago and will be fighting for myself decades later with the Narc/Husband of 33+years of Hell!! I had no Attorney back in the day and was where you are court proceedings after proceedings and I got no where and the Justice system was a joke!! I lost ( I had no money to afford an attorney!?) had to go back with Narc/Husband in order to keep/stay with our 2-children at the time. Well I got pregnant 3rd time when I went back to Narc/Husband and after 20+years here I am again with The Covert Narcissist/The Devil himself and the discard, ghosting everything evil and Abuse is full on for 7years of this Abuse it’s been Hell😢 I have an Attorney set up but for past 3yrs or longer did not have the retainer fee for the Attorney ( it’s been saved as I really do not get money) I need an Attorney as well or I will never get the Justice I deserve or My Divorce, etc. With a Narcissist they love the court system and will drag and turn an individual inside out!! Seek an Attorney this will give you peace of mind!! Good luck with everything 🙏🏼

My god how are these people so cruel and evil. I have watched a few of Anoushka's videos and i recognise everything she says. I was in a relationship for over 3 years. He destroyed me and my mental health. I'm on the road to recovery now but I do not trust anyone. Evil, sick people. Edited to say that i'm no longer in the relationship, Ive moved house and never looking back.

The strangest one I had was a 'friend' who told me that I was a wonderful friend and that she wanted us to remain friends 'forever'. I have to admit that I was taken aback, because I do not usually make these kind of statements to my friends. They will go on as long as we both are happy and can support each other. But I did not really think much about it. It was when I was getting into the discard/devaluation phase that I started getting confused - and when we talked she became very cold. I thought that since it was only a 'friendship' it would not be too bad - as we are not quite as close - but the fact is that you feel scammed and taken advantage. You realise that all the 'help' they needed was just a scam (and also that your perception was played). The thing about the 'discard' is that it gave me time to discover about the personality type and what I was dealing with - and gave me the time and energy to cut them off. The one thing they tend to hate (being discarded/abandoned) was actually provoked by their own actions.

@artbygilik

13 күн бұрын

I had a friend ghost and discard me after 4+ years of friendship. We went on vacation together and never spoke again. It’s been 2 years now and so much more peaceful without him around. He drained me and I ignored all the red flags. All this time with him gone made me put together all the manipulation

My covert narcissist partner would always make things up and blame me for the way she was feeling,this went on for years always felt trapped and couldn't leave her because she always made out she was in pain,then the big disgard and found out she had everything in her name house,savings everything now I see what she is still a bit confused on how I didn't see it coming, if that's love then I don't want it anymore,learning every day anoushka another genuine nice person thanks 🌹

@bennicholas4178

Жыл бұрын

In the same boat always a diffrent mystery illness

@nessauk2786

Жыл бұрын

I always dont see the audacity of these randoms until its too late...

@Crackrocksteady

Жыл бұрын

Everything was in my exes name too

Want to part of something,yes. Our biggest fear as humans is to be deprived....

I needed to hear this today. I've been feeling down due to him jumping ship to the new supply.

His abuse and mind games were ill disguised as sattire.

@TheSeekeroftruth1

Жыл бұрын

Yep, but don't like it when the 'joke' is played on them, totally humourless. I'd try saying something to them in a similar vain to how they speak to you and all hell breaks loose. Talk about mountains out of mole hills.

Those games were so exhausting

Thank you for this video on covert; that is what I was dealing with. They are so sweet at first and love comes so easy. Then it begins; they are so evasive, never communicating enough info, using everything you do against you, consummate liars and cheaters, they play in the dark, everything is designed to keep you guessing and trapped in a mind cage. They are never willing to help you with mental struggles, they actually create them and love watching you drown. So glad I got out, it took 8 years. I may not be over it all yet but at least I know I am sane, where true north is, who I really am, and the evil I was entangled by. Never again, God help me.

3 years not a word from her sat morning the phone rings thought it was a mate calling guess who couldn't believe it infact i was shocked so they do come back

Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 Anoushka !! I wish I had known about you're KZread videos and channel 3.5 years ago 😔 I was targeted by a covert malignant somatic Aquarius ♒️ female narcissist in 2019 and she has made my life a living hell , so many lies and mind games !! Truly mind blowing 🤯 that people like her exist !! Thanks for sharing you're knowledge of narcissistic personality disorders 👍✌️🙌✨️🙆‍♂️

Narcissist don't have a life.... they try to live your life!!! They lie and try make you the problem! I'm dealing whit 3 of them, and it's all about money. In 4 days I go thailand for 30 days,they go crazy and I travel the world for 25 years. Jealousy is sick!!!

Sooooo true, I’m away from the narc 4 weeks and so many lightbulb moments every day. You are correct, he had it to a tee, he’s been doing it for 40+ years and I think only me and his 3rd ex wife, who he detests, really saw it in the end. I’m the 3rd ex girlfriend in 7 years he bought a house with only for us all to leave him, twice he kept the house including ours, we had only moved in 3 months before he played the endgame. He had my replacement within a day and putting all conversations on speakerphone I heard it all. He fed her the same lies and lines, I even had it word for word in texts he sent me a year earlier. He upset her and she wanted 2 weeks time out (really that was the end of her then, but she sort of came back) he had 3 new ones on the phone from a dating site within 2 days, I heard his chat up lines…same as he fed me and even the replacement. He planted the seed in my replacement’s brain to either her move into our house (‘when SHE is gone, I heard) or sell both houses and consolidate, he was already planning her demise. Before I moved out he told me I had lost and I was a sad bitter loser, I said obviously it was all a game then. What he didn’t know was I had been recording him for 5 months because of the wicked things he was doing, the Police have them and called him in for a voluntary interview as there’s a case now against him for harassment, they haven’t yet got the last 50 where he banned me from rooms in a house I owned 25% of, ruined all my food when he switched off his stand alone freezer, took his kettle away so I couldn’t use it and banned me from using the cooker to make food. I ended up having to buy a cool bag, fill it with ice and keep some food and milk in it and get takeaway meals for dinner and buy paper plates as he banned me from using any of his dishes and he switched off the radiator in my room so there was no heating, He would constantly barge in without knocking so he could mouth off and I had to get a camera installed to film him, he stopped coming in 2 days later. That’s the evil that man was.

@BrendaBaBoom

Жыл бұрын

Sadly, he’s an old Machiavellian player still at it apparently. 🥺

@hhsg11

Жыл бұрын

@@BrendaBaBoom yes indeed, I’m hoping I will be the last, this guy really needs help, I believe he’s mentally unstable. He came back from work a few days before I moved out and actually really scared me. He went into the kitchen and started shouting ‘Yeehaw’ like cowboys do and then all the way up the stairs to the toilet which was 2 doors down from where I was in my bedroom, shouting Yeehaw and clapping his hands. I had my iPad beside me every minute of the day and night hidden by cushions as I never knew what he would do or say next, as soon as I heard him close I hit the record button. I knew he wouldn’t use violence as that leaves a bruise, he did the emotional and mental abuse instead.

@BrendaBaBoom

Жыл бұрын

@@hhsg11 The guy is sickening. Glad you moved out because he’s beyond eerie. His long game is an endgame for everyone he encounters. Stay No Contact. Blessings 🌸

@hhsg11

Жыл бұрын

@@BrendaBaBoom thanks Brenda, I blocked his number the minute I left the keys on the table and walked out. He insisted I move out on the Friday as that is his day off and he wanted to be there to make sure I didn’t damage anything…NO, he wanted to be there to gloat and be lovely to the movers into thinking he was the good guy, just like the ones who moved us in, he made them tea, got hot food from the local shop and gave each £30 tip. I moved out the day before when he was at work. A tip to anyone going to do that….take the movers into every room with you, take photos and save them or email to yourself for proof. I left a note saying I did that, I bet he was mad as hell as he couldn’t then say I broke something or stole anything. 👍

@BrendaBaBoom

Жыл бұрын

@@hhsg11 He’s accomplished with stressing the MOVE out but you dodged him early and got out …. smart move! I’d never encounter him ever again so No Contact is your superpower. Look forward to a better New Year ☀️

Playing mind games and stringing me along is literally all she would do. I still don’t believe it could fully be for nefarious reasons. Idk

@caitlynw.2524

Жыл бұрын

Tonyg5132 yeah these narcissists are notorious for the mind games and stringing on all of they’re Narc Supply as the experts refer to them they just collect people and treat them like objects for they’re enjoyment and for the attention and when Narc’s get bored they shelve some people and pull others off the shelf and start feeding them to get attention from its a cycle with these Narcissists they can never have too much supply

He remembered something private I told him 15 years ago that I had forgotten about then used it against me emotionally 😢 So creepy…talk about a Long game…never ending with them 😒😂

@AlwaysHope2019

Жыл бұрын

SO DID MINE I WAS SHOCKED not that he remembered it, but he used that against me and it was very personal😢

@ronniesamaroo1775

Жыл бұрын

You dumb broads know full well you reveal things about yourself deliberately because you know the destructive and vengeful nature of men. This is the sleight of hand insurance policy you use that plays to men’s hunger for power. Your counting on those men to become so embittered that they will retaliate in whatever way(smear campaign with sensitive information you supplied him with) they can just so they can loop back around and supply you with attention and recognition of your existence. You women are afraid to be forgotten and cannot untether , that’s your main fear.

@yellowhibiscus-ll2gx

Жыл бұрын

@@ronniesamaroo1775 Please don’t insult my intelligence. 🧐I am not against Men. I hate all Narcissists irrespective of Gender. If you seriously believe women reveal things about themselves ‘deliberately’ and are afraid to be ‘forgotten’ by the Men in their lives then perhaps you’re the one that requires some deep introspection.

@ronniesamaroo1775

Жыл бұрын

@@yellowhibiscus-ll2gx what intelligence? emotional swindling? Lol your the creep baby girl, but I still have compassion for those in your shoes. I don’t know what it feels like to be inferior but I sympathize and truly feel compassion for your situation. I secretly still love my high school ex that I discarded even thought she revealed her stint of prostituting and her true character to me about 18 years into knowing her, having sexual escapades with her all though it.

Its been over a year. I doubt she will be back. This is good.

@gailarnold6446

Жыл бұрын

Remember we dont want them back

@castieldiallo2945

Жыл бұрын

@@gailarnold6446 indeed.

Was in one which lasted for four months. Took me a year to heal after intensive work on myself. Meditating, many hours at the gym, therapy with a clinical psychologist, reconnecting with my friends and family. Eventually you will heal quickly if you decide to put in the work and effort to heal. 2years later I get hoovered multiple times and I receive a text from her asking whether I had gone to therapy for healing. These demonic creatures are in for a long game, they know the outcome of their manipulation and Gaslighting on you. Stay safe.

She told me I can never win with you . Wow now I know the whole time it was just a freaking game

Entirely makes sense 🙂 totally 🙂

It was almost 18 years of marriage till I started waking up hopefully I can get out soon. It definitely helps knowing what I’m dealing with.

Mine revealed it I just didn’t understand it. I saw it but turned a blind eye. Never again!!!

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO EVEVERYONE AND HAPPY NEW YEAR 2023.DONT LET DOES EVIL 😈 NARCISiSt be your life . Take your time knowing people be aware 😉

Merry Christmas Anouska. Thank you for all your video support 👍getting me thru this break up. Amen

Such a great channel. This is spot on. And all the comments are so helpful.

Merry Christmas beautiful diamond blessed Queen

Such a great message today 🙌🏻👍🏻✨

He told me that the way he treated me was a mistake. He called what he did to me a mistake. Wow. Good riddance I am healing this people are sick mentally

Merry Christmas Anouska

@anoushkamarcin

Жыл бұрын

Merry Christmas 🎄 to you too

My respect 🙏

I always felt like he was competing with me especially trying to parent our 2 boys he would have my oldest and him gang up on me so weird

Girlllll I am loving your editing skills !!!

They are horrible people. over 4 months free from the Demonic creature, the worse thing I have ever went thru. Pure evil.

IN OLDER AGE COVERT NARCISSISTS STAYS IN THE RELATIONSHIP !So the relationship dosen't end cos they can't find another victim!!

Excellent videos

This is very helpful. Thanks

This Video Explains So so much!! This is exactly what I’ve been dealing/going through with Narc/Husband of 29yrs of marriage and 33+years together. All throughout / When dating back in the time of our relationship, I always knew something was off, (as well as seeing/hearing about attacks on other co-workers he was doing.) I did not know about Narcissism and we didn’t have the technology as of today as well as All the topics and KZread Videos along side of this.. This Topic was very eye opening as well as The Knowing the Covert Narcissist . If only there was a PILL that a Narcissist could take and they can become Human and feel/have Emotions, love,etc.. You get where I’m going 😊 Then we can give them a taste of Reality and have it be done to them so they know exactly how their sickness effects and destroys good hearted people 🤞🙏🏼

This is my story. Thanks this helped me ❤

Thank you. This vid is really helpful for me

When I figured him out after 18 mons together oh it was on he wanted nothing more than to destroy me because I spoke loud and clear that was 4yr ago and what an eye opening experience and how many narcissist were in my life

It’s all the lying that hurt the most. She spent most of our 23 years planning things behind my back. Panned 3 discards. Moved us to Florida dam well knowing that if I didn’t go the boys would not have gone. And she knew after her suicide attempt I would jump into place fast. And she also knew once the youngest left she was sending me to the dump again. And now, I have nothing and she has her Dr. Of psychology degree. I will never understand how someone can do this.

Yes they never commit it’s control Game x

Alltogether 4 years to finish the puzzle

He keeps coming back with a Hi….

Thank you so much for beeing you

Yes truth they love mind games

Thank you

My problem is that I know it’s a game it’s a lie but still can’t pass it all the time thinking about her. It’s killing me

@chitownbob9714

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@hassan Elhassan. You poor fool. You are trauma bound. (I was once too). Block her on all social media. Get therapy. Preferably from a man. Move away. Force yourself to think about what is happening NOW, if your mind drifts to her. This strengthens your neocortex. Hit the gym regularly, or calisthenics at home. Take half an hour a day to journal about crappy things she has done to you. Our memories tend to forget these first, leaving behind good memories. NEVER FORGET. IF they contact you, stick to your boundaries, greyrock them, and control frame. When you get there, find a way to forgive them so you can forget them. That does NOT mean allowing them back into your life.

@hassanelhassan8539

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@@chitownbob9714 thank you 🙏🙏🙏

Merry Christmas 🎉anoushka and family

I have a question. I started NC 2 months ago with no intention talking to him ever again. My dad called him today (Christmas) and the narc said " i do not call her because she is bad, judging etc.." so his ego was obviously not triggered and damaged by me ignoring him. Why?

@BrendaBaBoom

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He thinks you had your dad Christmas call him and he thinks this is just a time-out; therefore not triggered by you ‘ignoring’ him and in no way serious. Stay the course and stay N🚫 Contact …. let that be your long/end game.

@magdadrague

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@@BrendaBaBoom Thank you for your answer, Brenda!

Oh my God! I misspelled Anoushkas name on the live feed today!!!!!! 12/27/22 😖😊

I wobder if the fact that they constantly play different games with different people and have many love affairs ongong simultaniously is the reason why they go " crazy"?

Deep inside, do they feel sorry for themselves?

My "NOTher's long game is to slowly see me die of internal repetitive injuries that will allow me to be in her hell in our afterlifes

My covert Narc ex always knew that women never stay with him by experience. He's 41 and apart from me he's never had a long term relationship. We knew before we got together, from afar, we were in the same political Organisation . So on the first evening we met and talked, we had some beers ( I never drink much and I never lose it ). He stared at me like a snake staring at a rabbit and when he told me about one woman accusing him of sexual harassment a long time ago for staring at her, I told him he was lucky he didn't try to have Sex with me so he said due to Women never staying for more than an ONS, he hopes they would initiate having Sex with him. So he was hoping I would, as well......

he cut ties with his own soul. empty trying to feel anything.

You have beautiful eyes :)

What’s that soyndteack

Merry Christmas! The music is still irritating as soon as you start talking. FYI

Their losers and they have nothing but time to figure out how to screw you over

If someone is not behaving the way we want them to behave we call them narcissist😋. Are we keeping our expectations high or are we evil haters who lost the capacity to love and see humans as it is? Seeing only the bad side of humans and naming them narcissists without proper professional diagnosis is very cruel to that human. Even Jesus Christ was nailed because evil haters did not see his loving and good side of him.

@HippieZippy

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I would completely disagree with you. I always give people the benefit of the doubt and I'm very careful as to not label people narcissists. But the repetitive cycles these people partake in cannot be ignored. They have a darkness about them. They get a thrill out of making people's lives a misery. Surely that's not good? It can effect a person in the most horrific way because it goes against normal behaviour. It can also have an impact on an individual not just emotionally, physically etc but also spiritually. Excuses can't be given to these individuals who create so much chaos and destruction to the lives of others.

@De-tw7by

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@@HippieZippy No1: How do you calibrate yourself to be the reference of good and judge someone as narcissist. No2: Are you a mental health professional to tag someone as narcissistic. Your purpose of birth has to be to do something good to the world not to hate people and end up in crime. Fake therapist and youtube blogger are propagating hatred and commercialising on it, so stop propagating hatred instead love people and nourish the good in them.

@HippieZippy

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@@De-tw7by De, I'm struggling to follow your train of thought and logic? Are you saying that narcissists are good people? I'm talking of those who have been clinically diagnosed with NPD? Are you saying that we should overlook their actions and what exactly? I'm not being facetious here , I'm trying to understand your point of view.

@HippieZippy

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@@De-tw7by Also, I'm not the judge of anyone. I believe God is the ultimate judge we are just human beings with a plethora and a myriad of flaws. However, I do recognise good and bad behaviour when I see it. All I'm saying is, yes, it's good to forgive others but there has to be a recognition and an accountability on their part that they've actually wronged you. Narcissists do not take accountability at all! That's the problem. Also, hate is a very 'strong ' word. I don't hate them per se, however, I dislike the actions. It's not good to intentionally prey on vulnerable people with the sole intention to manipulate them. Also, with all due respect De, your argument is somewhat fallacious. You stated intially " That if someone does not behave in the way we want them to behave then we call them a narcissist" which would imply that the target of a narcissistic individual wants to control the narrative when in reality they're all about ' control' de facto. You also stated " are we keeping our expectations high". What does that mean exactly? I think it's very unfair of you not to acknowledge the harm and pain these people have inflicted on others with impunity they have a complete disregard for the well being of others. You mention spreading love and not negativity. I agree with you! But these people are the antithesis of love and peace. Also, I think it's very unfair to label people as 'fake therapists' the work she is doing is invaluable. She is speaking from experience and spreading an awareness to the insidious and nefarious nature of NPD. How is that a bad thing? There are lessons to be learnt in what others have experienced and gone through and these experiences are becoming more common which indicates a huge problem. We all go through similar things, it's part of the human condition. However, the trauma and pain caused to victims of NPD should and needs to be understood.

@BrendaBaBoom

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You nailed it here …. you’re a Narc bruh.

Everyone here in the comment section including the video narrator is a narcissist. The irony is off the charts!😮

Damn stop w the music. Immediately turn it off, like a bug

Melisandra from Game of Thrones?

Thank you